February 4, 2025 • 19 mins
Do you struggle with people-pleasing?
Feel guilty when you say “no”?
Overwhelmed by always putting others first?
In this episode, we’re diving deep into how to set boundaries without feeling guilty—so you can protect your energy, prioritize your needs, and build healthier relationships.
You'll learn:
✅ Why setting boundaries feels so hard (and how to overcome guilt)
✅ The connection between boundaries, burnout, and self-worth
✅ Practical strategies to say “no” with confidence—without fear of rejection
✅ How to stop overgiving and start honoring your needs
If you’ve ever thought:
💭 “If I say no, they’ll be upset with me.”
💭 “I feel responsible for their happiness.”
💭 “I don’t want to seem selfish or ungrateful.”
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Speaker 1 (00:04):
hey, hey.
Have you ever said yes when youreally wanted to say no?
Have you ever felt responsiblefor other people's emotions,
even at the cost of your ownwell-being?
If so, you are not alone.
You see, setting boundaries canbe challenging, especially when
guilt tries to creep in, and itdoes.
(00:25):
Remember Angela I shared partof her journey last episode.
And why do I feel stuck?
How can I break free from myemotional blocks?
I hope you tuned into that,because if you didn't, that's
your next episode.
Okay, you see, angela was agiver people pleasing, always
(00:46):
putting others first, alwayssaying yes even when her heart
was screaming no.
She felt like she felt like shewas stuck in a toxic cycle of
overgiving and feelingunderappreciated.
(01:11):
Every time she tried to say no,guilt would creep in,
whispering you're being selfish.
Instead of feeling empowered,she felt like she was failing.
Instead of feeling empowered,she felt like she was failing.
Instead of feeling empowered,she felt like she was failing
the people around her.
Even though she was doing thebest that she could do for the
(01:34):
capacity that she had, she stillfelt like she was failing.
Does that sound familiar?
Maybe for yourself, for someoneelse?
So take this moment to sharethis episode to that first
person that crossed your mind orthat group chat that y'all are
(01:57):
in.
Put it in there.
Let's build healthy boundarieswithout feeling guilty.
You see, in today's episode,we're going to break down why
setting boundaries feels so hard, how guilt plays a role and,
most importantly, how you canestablish healthy boundaries
(02:17):
with confidence and self-respect.
So why do we feel guilty forsetting boundaries?
So why do we feel guilty forsetting boundaries?
Hey, hey, welcome to who Am IWith Me, crystal J where we
(02:45):
really go deep into discoveringwho you are, overcoming barriers
and elevating your life withsuccess and fulfillment.
This is how can I build healthyboundaries without feeling
guilty.
You see, this is a topic that alot of people run for.
Try to do everything elseexcept for establish healthy
boundaries.
But as you're going to learn inthis episode that it is
essential to have healthyboundaries, for us to have them
(03:06):
and for us to also respectothers boundaries, so enjoy.
Who am I with crystal j.
Many of us struggle withboundaries because of unresolved
emotional wounds.
Maybe you've been taught thatyour worth is tied to knowing
how much you give or how muchyou sacrifice for others.
(03:27):
You might think, if I say no,they'll leave, or if I set
boundaries, I'll hurt someone Icare about.
These emotional blocks can keepyou stuck in patterns of
overgiving and resentment.
You see, from a young age wewere conditioned to prioritize
others over ourselves.
We learned that sharing iscaring and being nice often
(03:51):
means self-sacrificing, evenwhen it harmed us.
You see, some cultural andfamily expectations reinforce
the idea that setting boundariesis rejection rather than an act
of self-care.
And when past experiences havetaught us that standing up for
ourselves leads to rejection orleads to some type of abuse,
(04:15):
then our nervous system mightrespond with fear, even if
setting boundaries is thehealthy choice.
Think about that.
Yeah, so you see, saying yesbecomes a way to avoid conflict
or maintain a sense of control.
Have you said yes to somethingor to someone just because you
(04:41):
didn't want to deal with theaftermath?
You didn't want to deal withthe aftermath.
You didn't want to deal withthe arguing or the cussing, or
maybe that person throwstantrums or whatever it is.
Have you said, do you say yesjust so you don't have to deal
with what's next?
Think about it.
Even when we know that it'sgood and it's right for us to
(05:03):
say no, we still say yes becauseof that reason.
Often, when people hearboundaries, their minds go to
walls or they say I haveboundaries, when in reality they
really have walls up and notboundaries.
Because there is a difference.
Because there is a difference.
(05:24):
You see, boundaries are morelike the boundary lines on the
football field, soccer field,basketball court right, the team
can cross the line physically,but they don't because they know
where the boundary lies.
Right, they know where they'regoing to get penalized at, so
they don't cross those lines.
A wall is literally just that awall.
(05:46):
If you're closed in a room andthere's nothing but walls, no
doors, you're legit stuck.
That's a wall.
We're not having walls, we'rehaving boundaries.
Right, because we can still seewhat's across the field.
We can still see.
If this room was no walls butjust boundary lines, I could
(06:09):
still see the next rooms next tome.
You can still see the vision.
But when you're stuck you'rejust bouncing back off.
But when you have just aboundary, you can still see.
Sometimes boundary lines shiftand they change depending on
where you're at in life and therelationships that you have with
people.
(06:29):
From my clients I have oftenheard and to be honest, I have
believed at one point in timesome of these following
statements as well.
Like I say yes because it'seasier than dealing with the
fallout of saying no, I feelanxious just thinking about
(06:51):
setting boundaries.
If I say no, they'll be upsetwith me.
I don't want to let people down.
I feel responsible for theirhappiness.
In my family, we always putothers first.
I was taught that saying no isrude or selfish.
I feel like I'm always giving,but no one ever gives back.
(07:17):
What do you mean?
Good people don't haveboundaries.
We suck it up and do what needsto be done.
I know I need to set boundaries, but I feel guilty, like I'm
doing something wrong.
If I say no, they'll think Idon't care.
(07:38):
If I don't do it, who will?
I don't want to seem selfish orungrateful.
I'm afraid that they'll stoptalking to me if I try to
enforce boundaries.
You see, fear plays a huge rolein why we avoid setting
(07:59):
boundaries.
We worry that saying no willmake us seem unlovable or push
people away.
No will make us seem unlovableor push people away.
That fear can.
This fear takes over our livesat that moment and then we sit
with this fear that originatedfrom the past and we begin
(08:21):
experiencing anxiousness, maybesadness, maybe confusion,
loneliness, a sense of theydon't understand me.
This fear also comes from thepath, from our past experiences.
Right, we get scared they'regoing to lead to conflict,
rejection or even abandonment.
(08:44):
But you see, we also strugglewith boundaries in our career,
which leads to overworking andburnout and compassion fatigue.
In our career, those situationsmay show up as you're always
the one staying late, taking onextra tasks or saying yes to
every request when it's not yourresponsibility.
(09:05):
You don't want to disappointyour boss or co -workers, but
inside you're exhausted.
You think things like if Idon't do it, my team will fall
apart, or I'm afraid, if domatter.
But they also give us a senseof self-respect and authentic
(09:36):
relationships.
So I want you to ask yourselfwhat are my beliefs about saying
no?
Where do those beliefsoriginate from?
How is the pattern showing upin my life?
Because boundaries are notbarriers.
(09:58):
They are for guidelines andtherefore healthy relationships.
They protect your energy, yourtime and your emotional
well-being.
So saying no to others, it issaying yes to yourself and, to
be honest, in a lot of differentsituations you saying no to
(10:20):
them is you also saying Ibelieve in you, because
sometimes people ask us to dosome things when they believe
that they are not capable orthat they wouldn't have the
support if they do.
But sometimes, being like Iwould love to support you in
that endeavor, it's still sayingyes.
(10:42):
So you're saying no, thatyou're not going to do it, but
you you're also saying yes, Isupport you and I have your back
.
Isn't that wonderful.
That was just a boundary rightthere.
So I want you to take time toidentify your needs, your
(11:03):
limitation, what drains you?
What energizes you?
Where do you feel resentment?
Because resentment is often asign of a weak or missing
boundaries.
So I want you to be honestabout how you feel, where you
feel it you know.
(11:23):
Be honest about your need tofeel safe, to feel respected and
to feel value.
So when you're working onestablishing boundaries and
implementing them and sharingthem with the others in your
life, start small and practicesaying no.
(11:43):
Practice saying no.
If saying no feels way too hard, start with softer statements
like I don't have the capacityfor that right now.
I appreciate you thinking of me, but I can't commit to that.
The more you practice, theeasier it becomes.
So, yes, expect discomfort.
So, yes, expect discomfort, butdon't let it stop you.
(12:08):
We often get confused when webelieve that guilt means that
we're doing something wrong.
That's not always true.
You can feel guilt or fear canshow up when your nervous system
is in that heightened state offight, flight freeze.
Heightened state of fight,flight freeze.
(12:31):
So when you get to that place,to where guilt or shame is
coming up or fear is presentingitself, I want you to try
different grounding techniques,like breath work or mindfulness,
which can help you stay calmand centered as you navigate
your boundary setting.
It's a sign you are unlearning,and you are unlearning old
patterns as well.
So give yourself grace as youstep into a more empowered
(12:54):
version of you, because if yourkids was trying something new,
you're not going to be mad atthem the first couple of times,
right, you're going to encouragethem to keep going and keep
trying.
This is new for you as well.
Keep going and keep trying,stay firm and follow through.
If you set a boundary but don'tenforce it, people will assume
(13:16):
that you didn't mean it, and Iwant you to think about it.
Did you mean it?
The boundaries that you set, Iwant you to meet to me.
I want you to be like this isyes, I need this, this is just
for me, and implement and sharethem with people.
When you share them, make sureyou communicate clearly and
(13:36):
calmly.
If there's questions, be open toanswering them to where people
can understand, or at least tryto understand why those
boundaries are in place.
So know why you're settingthose boundaries.
How does it make you feel?
Is it going to give you moreenergy?
Is it going to allow you torest?
(13:57):
Is it going to help clear yourmind?
Is it going to help you moveforward?
Know those things, because onething it is I don't want you to
get me mistaken for when I saybe prepared to answer questions,
because I don't want you to belike see, that's why I don't do
(14:21):
boundaries, because everybodywant to ask me a whole bunch of
questions and I don't know theanswers.
I just know this.
It well, that's fine, becauseyou can simply just say look,
this is a boundary, because thisis what makes me feel good and
I would love if you can respectthat for me.
Boom, there you go, okay.
(14:42):
So you do not need to overexplain or justify your choices
or your boundaries.
When you set the boundaries, beclear and compassionate.
Use I statements to expressyour needs without blaming or
shaming the other person.
So, instead of saying you'realways asking too much of me, I
(15:03):
want you to try.
I need some time for myself torecharge, so I won't be able to
help you with this right now.
Isn't that great, because Iwill be more than willing to
accept the I need some time formyself to recharge, so I won't
be able to help you with thatthis time.
(15:25):
I'll feel better about hearingthat than hearing.
You're always asking me toomany questions.
Are you always asking me to dotoo much?
Right?
So we're changing that and I'llsay it one more time I need
some time for myself to recharge, so I won't be able to help you
(15:48):
with this right now.
So I want you to remember thatyour needs matter too.
Building boundaries is a skillthat takes practice.
Celebrate small wins and bekind to yourself when it feels
hard.
Remember progress is moreimportant than perfection, and I
(16:15):
also want you to remember that,when you're setting boundaries,
show other people how they canset boundaries too, because that
helps build healthierrelationships, healthier
communications and an overallhealthier sense of well-being
for all of us.
Right?
This isn't a secret.
So remember setting healthyboundaries is an act of
self-love and not selfishness.
(16:36):
You are not responsible formanaging other people's emotions
at the expense of your ownwell-being, and it's vice versa
Other people are not responsiblefor managing your emotions at
the expense of their well-beingeither.
(16:56):
So by honoring your needs, youalso teach others how to respect
you and you create a space forhealthy relationships that are
truly supportive.
So, if this episode resonatedwith you, take a moment, a quick
moment, a small moment toreflect.
(17:17):
Where in your life do you needstronger boundaries?
What's one small step that youcan take today?
And if you're saying, huh, letme think about it.
What small step can I take?
I have one step for you, so Iinvite you to join my
(17:41):
Breakthrough to Authenticityprogram.
We get started immediately inmodule one.
We'll dive into overcomingbarriers and learn how to honor
your needs without guilt.
You can start with a freetwo-week trial of module one, or
you can jump straight into thefull program for lasting
(18:03):
transformations.
I want to remind you you areworthy of love, you are worthy
of respect, you are worthy ofjoy, and that starts with how
you treat yourself.
So let today be the day youchoose healthy relationships, a
happy career, healthycommunication, a better life and
(18:27):
a fulfilled you.
Just go to wwwcrystaljcomforward slash breakthrough to
join in on the full, six-month,all-inclusive Break to
authenticity program, where, sixmonths from now, you will be
(18:49):
living a better life.
And if you're just like oh, Idon't know yet I have something
for you to claim your freeaccess to module one.
You just get module one.
You don't get the weekly, theweekly one-on-one sessions with
me, and you get there by goingto wwwcrystaljcom.
(19:11):
Forward slash sneak peek.
That's wwwcrystaljcom.
Forward slash sneak peek orforward slash breakthrough.
Remember, today is your day totake empowered action, so make
(19:36):
your first move.
hey, hey.
Have you ever said yes when youreally wanted to say no?
Have you ever felt responsiblefor other people's emotions,
even at the cost of your ownwell-being?
If so, you are not alone.
You see, setting boundaries canbe challenging, especially when
guilt tries to creep in, and itdoes.
(00:25):
Remember Angela I shared partof her journey last episode.
And why do I feel stuck?
How can I break free from myemotional blocks?
I hope you tuned into that,because if you didn't, that's
your next episode.
Okay, you see, angela was agiver people pleasing, always
(00:46):
putting others first, alwayssaying yes even when her heart
was screaming no.
She felt like she felt like shewas stuck in a toxic cycle of
overgiving and feelingunderappreciated.
(01:11):
Every time she tried to say no,guilt would creep in,
whispering you're being selfish.
Instead of feeling empowered,she felt like she was failing.
Instead of feeling empowered,she felt like she was failing.
Instead of feeling empowered,she felt like she was failing
the people around her.
Even though she was doing thebest that she could do for the
(01:34):
capacity that she had, she stillfelt like she was failing.
Does that sound familiar?
Maybe for yourself, for someoneelse?
So take this moment to sharethis episode to that first
person that crossed your mind orthat group chat that y'all are
(01:57):
in.
Put it in there.
Let's build healthy boundarieswithout feeling guilty.
You see, in today's episode,we're going to break down why
setting boundaries feels so hard, how guilt plays a role and,
most importantly, how you canestablish healthy boundaries
(02:17):
with confidence and self-respect.
So why do we feel guilty forsetting boundaries?
So why do we feel guilty forsetting boundaries?
Hey, hey, welcome to who Am IWith Me, crystal J where we
(02:45):
really go deep into discoveringwho you are, overcoming barriers
and elevating your life withsuccess and fulfillment.
This is how can I build healthyboundaries without feeling
guilty.
You see, this is a topic that alot of people run for.
Try to do everything elseexcept for establish healthy
boundaries.
But as you're going to learn inthis episode that it is
essential to have healthyboundaries, for us to have them
(03:06):
and for us to also respectothers boundaries, so enjoy.
Who am I with crystal j.
Many of us struggle withboundaries because of unresolved
emotional wounds.
Maybe you've been taught thatyour worth is tied to knowing
how much you give or how muchyou sacrifice for others.
(03:27):
You might think, if I say no,they'll leave, or if I set
boundaries, I'll hurt someone Icare about.
These emotional blocks can keepyou stuck in patterns of
overgiving and resentment.
You see, from a young age wewere conditioned to prioritize
others over ourselves.
We learned that sharing iscaring and being nice often
(03:51):
means self-sacrificing, evenwhen it harmed us.
You see, some cultural andfamily expectations reinforce
the idea that setting boundariesis rejection rather than an act
of self-care.
And when past experiences havetaught us that standing up for
ourselves leads to rejection orleads to some type of abuse,
(04:15):
then our nervous system mightrespond with fear, even if
setting boundaries is thehealthy choice.
Think about that.
Yeah, so you see, saying yesbecomes a way to avoid conflict
or maintain a sense of control.
Have you said yes to somethingor to someone just because you
(04:41):
didn't want to deal with theaftermath?
You didn't want to deal withthe aftermath.
You didn't want to deal withthe arguing or the cussing, or
maybe that person throwstantrums or whatever it is.
Have you said, do you say yesjust so you don't have to deal
with what's next?
Think about it.
Even when we know that it'sgood and it's right for us to
(05:03):
say no, we still say yes becauseof that reason.
Often, when people hearboundaries, their minds go to
walls or they say I haveboundaries, when in reality they
really have walls up and notboundaries.
Because there is a difference.
Because there is a difference.
(05:24):
You see, boundaries are morelike the boundary lines on the
football field, soccer field,basketball court right, the team
can cross the line physically,but they don't because they know
where the boundary lies.
Right, they know where they'regoing to get penalized at, so
they don't cross those lines.
A wall is literally just that awall.
(05:46):
If you're closed in a room andthere's nothing but walls, no
doors, you're legit stuck.
That's a wall.
We're not having walls, we'rehaving boundaries.
Right, because we can still seewhat's across the field.
We can still see.
If this room was no walls butjust boundary lines, I could
(06:09):
still see the next rooms next tome.
You can still see the vision.
But when you're stuck you'rejust bouncing back off.
But when you have just aboundary, you can still see.
Sometimes boundary lines shiftand they change depending on
where you're at in life and therelationships that you have with
people.
(06:29):
From my clients I have oftenheard and to be honest, I have
believed at one point in timesome of these following
statements as well.
Like I say yes because it'seasier than dealing with the
fallout of saying no, I feelanxious just thinking about
(06:51):
setting boundaries.
If I say no, they'll be upsetwith me.
I don't want to let people down.
I feel responsible for theirhappiness.
In my family, we always putothers first.
I was taught that saying no isrude or selfish.
I feel like I'm always giving,but no one ever gives back.
(07:17):
What do you mean?
Good people don't haveboundaries.
We suck it up and do what needsto be done.
I know I need to set boundaries, but I feel guilty, like I'm
doing something wrong.
If I say no, they'll think Idon't care.
(07:38):
If I don't do it, who will?
I don't want to seem selfish orungrateful.
I'm afraid that they'll stoptalking to me if I try to
enforce boundaries.
You see, fear plays a huge rolein why we avoid setting
(07:59):
boundaries.
We worry that saying no willmake us seem unlovable or push
people away.
No will make us seem unlovableor push people away.
That fear can.
This fear takes over our livesat that moment and then we sit
with this fear that originatedfrom the past and we begin
(08:21):
experiencing anxiousness, maybesadness, maybe confusion,
loneliness, a sense of theydon't understand me.
This fear also comes from thepath, from our past experiences.
Right, we get scared they'regoing to lead to conflict,
rejection or even abandonment.
(08:44):
But you see, we also strugglewith boundaries in our career,
which leads to overworking andburnout and compassion fatigue.
In our career, those situationsmay show up as you're always
the one staying late, taking onextra tasks or saying yes to
every request when it's not yourresponsibility.
(09:05):
You don't want to disappointyour boss or co -workers, but
inside you're exhausted.
You think things like if Idon't do it, my team will fall
apart, or I'm afraid, if domatter.
But they also give us a senseof self-respect and authentic
(09:36):
relationships.
So I want you to ask yourselfwhat are my beliefs about saying
no?
Where do those beliefsoriginate from?
How is the pattern showing upin my life?
Because boundaries are notbarriers.
(09:58):
They are for guidelines andtherefore healthy relationships.
They protect your energy, yourtime and your emotional
well-being.
So saying no to others, it issaying yes to yourself and, to
be honest, in a lot of differentsituations you saying no to
(10:20):
them is you also saying Ibelieve in you, because
sometimes people ask us to dosome things when they believe
that they are not capable orthat they wouldn't have the
support if they do.
But sometimes, being like Iwould love to support you in
that endeavor, it's still sayingyes.
(10:42):
So you're saying no, thatyou're not going to do it, but
you you're also saying yes, Isupport you and I have your back
.
Isn't that wonderful.
That was just a boundary rightthere.
So I want you to take time toidentify your needs, your
(11:03):
limitation, what drains you?
What energizes you?
Where do you feel resentment?
Because resentment is often asign of a weak or missing
boundaries.
So I want you to be honestabout how you feel, where you
feel it you know.
(11:23):
Be honest about your need tofeel safe, to feel respected and
to feel value.
So when you're working onestablishing boundaries and
implementing them and sharingthem with the others in your
life, start small and practicesaying no.
(11:43):
Practice saying no.
If saying no feels way too hard, start with softer statements
like I don't have the capacityfor that right now.
I appreciate you thinking of me, but I can't commit to that.
The more you practice, theeasier it becomes.
So, yes, expect discomfort.
So, yes, expect discomfort, butdon't let it stop you.
(12:08):
We often get confused when webelieve that guilt means that
we're doing something wrong.
That's not always true.
You can feel guilt or fear canshow up when your nervous system
is in that heightened state offight, flight freeze.
Heightened state of fight,flight freeze.
(12:31):
So when you get to that place,to where guilt or shame is
coming up or fear is presentingitself, I want you to try
different grounding techniques,like breath work or mindfulness,
which can help you stay calmand centered as you navigate
your boundary setting.
It's a sign you are unlearning,and you are unlearning old
patterns as well.
So give yourself grace as youstep into a more empowered
(12:54):
version of you, because if yourkids was trying something new,
you're not going to be mad atthem the first couple of times,
right, you're going to encouragethem to keep going and keep
trying.
This is new for you as well.
Keep going and keep trying,stay firm and follow through.
If you set a boundary but don'tenforce it, people will assume
(13:16):
that you didn't mean it, and Iwant you to think about it.
Did you mean it?
The boundaries that you set, Iwant you to meet to me.
I want you to be like this isyes, I need this, this is just
for me, and implement and sharethem with people.
When you share them, make sureyou communicate clearly and
(13:36):
calmly.
If there's questions, be open toanswering them to where people
can understand, or at least tryto understand why those
boundaries are in place.
So know why you're settingthose boundaries.
How does it make you feel?
Is it going to give you moreenergy?
Is it going to allow you torest?
(13:57):
Is it going to help clear yourmind?
Is it going to help you moveforward?
Know those things, because onething it is I don't want you to
get me mistaken for when I saybe prepared to answer questions,
because I don't want you to belike see, that's why I don't do
(14:21):
boundaries, because everybodywant to ask me a whole bunch of
questions and I don't know theanswers.
I just know this.
It well, that's fine, becauseyou can simply just say look,
this is a boundary, because thisis what makes me feel good and
I would love if you can respectthat for me.
Boom, there you go, okay.
(14:42):
So you do not need to overexplain or justify your choices
or your boundaries.
When you set the boundaries, beclear and compassionate.
Use I statements to expressyour needs without blaming or
shaming the other person.
So, instead of saying you'realways asking too much of me, I
(15:03):
want you to try.
I need some time for myself torecharge, so I won't be able to
help you with this right now.
Isn't that great, because Iwill be more than willing to
accept the I need some time formyself to recharge, so I won't
be able to help you with thatthis time.
(15:25):
I'll feel better about hearingthat than hearing.
You're always asking me toomany questions.
Are you always asking me to dotoo much?
Right?
So we're changing that and I'llsay it one more time I need
some time for myself to recharge, so I won't be able to help you
(15:48):
with this right now.
So I want you to remember thatyour needs matter too.
Building boundaries is a skillthat takes practice.
Celebrate small wins and bekind to yourself when it feels
hard.
Remember progress is moreimportant than perfection, and I
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also want you to remember that,when you're setting boundaries,
show other people how they canset boundaries too, because that
helps build healthierrelationships, healthier
communications and an overallhealthier sense of well-being
for all of us.
Right?
This isn't a secret.
So remember setting healthyboundaries is an act of
self-love and not selfishness.
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You are not responsible formanaging other people's emotions
at the expense of your ownwell-being, and it's vice versa
Other people are not responsiblefor managing your emotions at
the expense of their well-beingeither.
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So by honoring your needs, youalso teach others how to respect
you and you create a space forhealthy relationships that are
truly supportive.
So, if this episode resonatedwith you, take a moment, a quick
moment, a small moment toreflect.
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Where in your life do you needstronger boundaries?
What's one small step that youcan take today?
And if you're saying, huh, letme think about it.
What small step can I take?
I have one step for you, so Iinvite you to join my
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We get started immediately inmodule one.
We'll dive into overcomingbarriers and learn how to honor
your needs without guilt.
You can start with a freetwo-week trial of module one, or
you can jump straight into thefull program for lasting
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transformations.
I want to remind you you areworthy of love, you are worthy
of respect, you are worthy ofjoy, and that starts with how
you treat yourself.
So let today be the day youchoose healthy relationships, a
happy career, healthycommunication, a better life and
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a fulfilled you.
Just go to wwwcrystaljcomforward slash breakthrough to
join in on the full, six-month,all-inclusive Break to
authenticity program, where, sixmonths from now, you will be
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living a better life.
And if you're just like oh, Idon't know yet I have something
for you to claim your freeaccess to module one.
You just get module one.
You don't get the weekly, theweekly one-on-one sessions with
me, and you get there by goingto wwwcrystaljcom.
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Forward slash sneak peek.
That's wwwcrystaljcom.
Forward slash sneak peek orforward slash breakthrough.
Remember, today is your day totake empowered action, so make
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your first move.
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