Ep. 50 Safe, Seen, and Supported for Parents: Silent Struggles: How to Hear What Kids Can't Say

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Is your child struggling with anxiety, low confidence, or acting out at home or school? Do you wish your child felt truly safe, seen, and supported, so they could thrive emotionally, socially, and academically?

In this video, somatic trauma-informed coach Krystal Jae (The Empowerment Goddess) shares proven strategies to help parents create a nurturing environment where children feel secure, understood, and empowered to be their authentic selves. Whether your child is battling stress, emotional outbursts, trouble making friends, or low self-esteem, you’ll learn practical tools to support their growth and well-being.

What you’ll discover:

How to help your child feel safe and heard, even during meltdowns or big emotions
Simple ways to boost your child’s confidence and self-worth at home
Tips for handling anxiety, school stress, or behavioral challenges without shame or punishment
How to foster open communication and trust, so your child feels comfortable sharing with you
Proven methods to build resilience, emotional intelligence, and healthy boundaries in kids
Results parents want (and what you’ll see):

Calmer, happier children who express their feelings in healthy ways
Improved behavior and stronger family connections
Kids who are more confident, independent, and emotionally resilient
Less stress and guilt for parents, gaining more peace and joy at home
If you want to stop the cycle of yelling, shutdowns, or misunderstandings and start seeing positive changes in your child’s behavior and well-being, this video is for you.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:05):
Hey, hey, I'm Crystal J, and if you ever looked at
your child and thoughtsomething's wrong but I don't
know what to do, you're notalone.
With all the dangers that kidsface today, especially online
parenting can feel like we'rewalking through a minefield,

(00:26):
right, you've probably heardabout sextortion and digital
predators, and it's terrifying,but awareness isn't enough.
We need tools, we need languageand, most of all, we need
connection.
We need language and, most ofall, we need connection.

(00:48):
Let's talk about how torecognize when your child might
be silently struggling and whatyou can do to make sure that
they feel safe, seen andsupported, even when they can't
say the words.
Sometimes kids don't say they'rehurting.
They show us, watch for suddenmood changes, pulling away,

(01:10):
trouble sleeping, droppinggrades or getting oddly attached
or totally avoidant with theirphone or iPad or computer or
whatever device, or even anobject.
These aren't just behaviors.
They're actually signals, andwhen you understand what's

(01:34):
happening in your child's brainand body, you'll start to
respond with calm and notconfusion.
You see, when a child feelsunsafe, whether from an online
thread or overwhelming emotion,their brain flips into survival

(01:55):
mode.
The amygdala takes over,triggering fight, flight or
freeze their decision-makingbrain.
It goes offline.
They can't make the bestdecisions that they can make,
and this isn't defiance, it'sbiology, it's science.

(02:19):
And when you understand this,you can break the cycle.
You can be the calm in theirstorm.
And here are some things thatyou can do to start.
Stay calm, put your hand onyour chest, take a deep breath

(02:43):
and say I am calm, I am here, Iam calm, I am here, I am calm, I
am here.
You can validate their feelingsInstead of you're fine, try, I

(03:11):
can see, this is hard, I'm herewhen you're ready.
Another thing is ask openquestions.
That way, you're not receivingthat yes, that no, a bruh, right
, you're hearing.
You're asking them what's beenon your mind lately.
So then, that way, they cangive you some feedback on what's

(03:35):
truly on their mind, instead ofjust saying are you okay?
And they're like Like, yeah,I'm fine, right.
These small shifts make a bigimpact and show your child that
their emotions are safe with you, because sometimes our kids
can't talk.

(03:56):
That's where somatic tools comein, and these are even good for
you, as a parent, to use.
And these are even good for youas a parent to use, because
there are times to where we justdon't have the words right, so
grounding right.
One exercise I love to do ishave them press their feet down

(04:21):
right.
Have they press their feet downon the ground and imagine roots
going from their feet into theground, grounding them, having
them being anchored, rooted.
And then, while they're doingthat, they grab their hands and

(04:42):
some do like this, some with thepraying hand, some interlock
their fingers.
But either way, or you can justput them together and just push
your hands together to wherethey can feel the strength of
their souls and feel that theyare present, that they are in

(05:07):
the present, now, the Havening'sTouch teach them to gently
stroke their arms and say I amsafe, I am okay, I am safe, I am
okay, I am safe, I am okay, Iam safe, I am okay, I am safe, I
am okay, I am safe, I am okay.

(05:31):
Then there's shake it out, thelittle ones.
They really love this one right, because they get to move.
Teens.
They kind of feel like, oh mygosh, I'm just being silly, but
wiggle and put your shoulders upand down and dance around, just
release the tension.
At first they're going to belike, oh my gosh, I don't want
to do this, especially the teens.

(05:51):
But then, when you get themmoving and relax and just let
them be there, just shake outall the anxieties and the fears
and the I don't knows.
And then there's the empowering,our path.
I like this one because this isa thing that you can do
together and you just make asimple path where you are,

(06:15):
whether you want to make it funand make it a path of pillows or
a path of blankets, or gooutside with some chalk and
write a, draw a path in thedriveway or on the sidewalk, and
what you and what they're, whaty'all are doing together, is
you're walking the path.
You start on one end and you goto the other.
While you're on this path,you're naming what you want to

(06:40):
let go of, or the things thatyou've been scaring to, been
scared to say, or the thingsthat are holding you back.
And then they're thinking, andwhile you're doing this, you're
also saying the things that youwant into your life.
So if they're like oh, I'm sotired that this teacher keeps

(07:05):
getting on me every time that Iask a question, I just don't
understand why, but I want tomake good grades in the class.
Or I'm frustrated Okay Is whatthey're throwing away, but
they're picking up.
I want to be happy.
It doesn't even have to be longsentences, or it could be just

(07:29):
a single word Frustration, anger.
I'm grabbing happiness,understanding.
Listen to me, let them gothrough that path and throw away
.
Even if they're throwing away,like literally, like I throw

(07:49):
away frustration, or I throwaway that you don't listen to me
, and I wish you could just hearme without fussing at me,
because a lot of times that'swhat teens feel.
They feel that if they come tous, we're going to fuss at them
instead of actually listen tothem, and so they might want to

(08:10):
throw away that reaction thatthey're thinking that we're
going to have and when we canreally come in with listening
ears.
Now, these practices helpregulate the nervous system,
restoring safety without needingwords.
You don't need to have all theanswers.
Your calm presence, yourwillingness to listen, your

(08:35):
ability to respond instead ofreact those are the gifts that
help our children feel safe, andwhen you combine that with
tools like these, you're notjust parenting, you're breaking
generational cycles.

(08:55):
You're teaching them tools togo on, even as they grow into
young men and young women, intoyoung men and young women, that
they can then pass thosepositive tools to their children
, to their great-grandchildren.
Right, we're about break thecycle, build the vision, be the

(09:15):
change.
And if you've been longing tofeel more confident as a parent,
to finally understand what yourchild's behavior is really
telling you and to create a homewhere everyone feels safe, seen
and supported, this is yournext step.

(09:36):
My three-hour trauma-informedparenting workshop is more than
a class it's a transformation.
You'll learn how trauma impactsyour child's emotions and
behavior, how to recognizehidden stress signals and how to
respond in a way that helpsthem feel safe, even in the

(09:59):
moments of meltdown or silence.
We'll cover practical tools youcan use immediately, like
somatic grounding techniques andhealing language that opens
doors when words are hard tofind.
You'll also walk away withstrategies to foster emotional

(10:22):
resilience, strengthen yourfamily bonds and advocate for
your child in school, at homeand beyond.
And if you've ever askedyourself am I doing enough?
Why is my child shutting down?
How can I stop repeatingpatterns from my own childhood?

(10:48):
Oh, I felt that.
Have you felt that?
How can I stop repeatingpatterns from my own childhood?
Then this workshop is theanswer you've been waiting for,
and the best thing that I reallylove about it is that this

(11:09):
workshop is CPD and CEaccredited.
So you get credit hours for youactually get a certificate for
you actually get a certificate.
And once 10 parents have joinedthe wait list, I'll open the

(11:31):
next live session and you'll bethe first to receive your invite
.
This keeps the space intimate,impactful and deeply supportive
Just the way real change happens.
This is how we break the cycle.
Build the vision, be the change.

(11:54):
So let's create the kind ofhome your child and you deserve
and you deserve Again.
This is how we break the cycle.
Build the vision, be the change.