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Krystal Jae (00:04):
I, too, allowed
trauma to rule my life for the
longest, and I, too, wanted toknow how do I let go of past
trauma so that way I can gain mylife back.
I felt like I was in thismental struggle, in this mental
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struggle, and I would literallysit there and tell people,
sometimes, when I did talk topeople, that I was mentally
drained, that I was past tiredand that I was exhausted.
Go of your past trauma and giveyou the secret to gaining your
life back to where you're nolonger feeling like God let you
down or is punishing you, orfeeling like church is not a
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safe space, especially thepeople in it.
Don't let me get started on howChristians can be the people in
it don't let me get started onhow Christians can be.
Or you're feeling judged byeveryone around you when you
really just want to be accepted,so that, now that you're
wanting to be accepted andyou're feeling judged, instead
you're over here, peoplepleasing them, making sure that
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they are happy, doing everythingthey want you to do, putting
the things that you want behindyou so you can show up for
others.
So, therefore, they willhopefully show up for you.
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You spend time having sleeplessnights hiding the anxiety
attacks that you areexperiencing, the chest pressure
, the difficulty breathing, thesweating palms.
Maybe you're a picker.
Maybe you're a picker.
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Maybe you're overeating orreally not eating.
You may be experiencingheadaches, high blood pressure,
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mental anguish, depression,sadness, living life overwhelmed
, not feeling safe ever, whetheryou're with others or whether
you're alone.
Because now you're not evensure if life is worth living,
because you're tired of thethings that you have experienced
, the traumas that have happenedto you and maybe some of the
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things that you have doneyourself, because shame and
guilt, those are limitations oftrauma as well.
And now you're like man.
Life has to be better than this.
But if it is, how do I getthere?
How do I find myself?
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Again?
I want to know who I am.
I want to know my purpose.
I want to excel in my career.
I want to be a good leader.
I want, I want, I want.
So how do I even start?
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Is how one of my clientsstarted her testimonial.
She said how do I even start?
Crystal J is absolutely amazing.
I never thought anyone wouldunderstand me.
She has been such an amazinginspiration and teacher.
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I look up to her so much.
I was in a very down placeThought.
Life just didn't make sense andI wasn't thinking my life was
worth anything.
Does that sound familiar?
She goes on to say I'm stillworking hard each week, but she
has given me hope, has shown mehow far I've come, and I am so
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proud of myself.
Aren't you ready to be proud ofyourself?
Because you should be.
Then she goes on saying thankyou, crystal J.
I don't know where I would bewithout you.
If you ever felt like giving up, which we know that you
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probably have.
I highly recommend her traumacourse and all other sessions.
A plus, plus, plus.
What do you think about that?
Wasn't that an awesometestimonial?
So I have a question for youwhat do you want for your life
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that you don't have now?
Are you saying I don't want tomess up again, I don't want to
get in the wrong relationship,have the wrong friendships, I
don't want to be lonely.
I don't, I don't, I don't.
I didn't ask you for your Idon'ts.
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I asked what do you want?
So can you switch those Idon'ts to something like I make
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the best decisions for myself,using the skills, techniques and
knowledge available to me?
Or how about I have the bestrelationships with people who
love and support me and I returnthe same love and support.
Here's another one I enjoyhaving quality time with myself
while elevating my mind, my bodyand my spirit.
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You see, our unconsciousnessmind is going to focus on
producing the things that wetell it.
It's going to focus on makingthose things happen right,
because we want results.
But what results do you want?
Do you want the I don'ts or doyou want the things like?
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I have the best relationshipswith people who love and support
me and I return the same loveand support.
So it's essential that we focuson the wants and not the I
don'ts.
Empowerment is a huge part ofour healing journey, the healing
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journey that you begin with meby your side.
Empowerment is essential.
You see, I begin to teach andshow you how to bring positivity
into your life.
This includes your career, yourrelationships and with yourself
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, especially the relationshipwith yourself, with yourself.
You see this one client.
She said she is absolutelyamazing so far.
This is what she said while shewas in the program, while she
was working with me, and she wasasked and she said she is
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absolutely amazing so far.
Willing to listen to meing tolisten to me, wanting to
seriously help me.
Her energy is empowering.
I truly felt stuck until Ispoke with her, along with her
willingness to help me.
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Did you notice the phrase herenergy is empowering?
What I share is not fluff y'all, it's real stuff.
You see, adding empowerment andpositivity into your life will
elevate your career, make you abetter leader, a better parent.
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Your relationships will bebetter and your overall health
guess what Better.
The next thing is transformation.
I begin telling you that I willshare with you how you can let
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go of trauma and gain your lifeback.
Well, it includes you embracingthe transformation that's
coming, that you're goingthrough, being willing to
transform and honestly do thework.
Will it always be easy?
No, but with me as your guide,your coach, it's a whole lot
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easier.
Like when this other clientsays my marriage, my empowerment
.
I would have been divorced ayear or two, but if I, before
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everything, had I not spoken toyou, I wouldn't have found
myself and been the awesome wifeand mom had it not been for the
circle and the encouragement tobetter myself.
So I got a question for you Areyou ready for the secret to let
go of the past traumas and gainyour life back?
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Are you ready?
Hey, hey, welcome.
To Overcome Suffering inSilence, it's time for you to
stop people pleasing and createyour better life.
I am Crystal J, the EmpowermentGoddess and your Somatic,
trauma-informed Life Coach.
This season has already startedin a way I couldn't even
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imagine.
Now, are you ready for somerealness, raw healing and a
glimpse into what it feels liketo walk in peace, clarity and
purpose, while truly knowing whoyou are?
If your answer is yes, thenyou've come to the right place.
For the past two decades, I'vebeen blessed to share my journey
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with countless women and a fewmen, empowering them to overcome
the lingering shadows ofphysical, emotional,
psychological and sexual abuse.
Together, we confront thelimitations that hold us back,
like self-doubt, guilt, fear,shame and that pervasive sense
of unworthiness.
Dig deep to uncover the root ofthese feelings.
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Break free from the inner painof suffering and silence.
Find faith, grow in that faithand embrace the life that is
meant for you.
Enjoy the real stories andpractical advice, life-enhancing
skills and spiritual wisdom toguide you from pain to purpose,
self-doubt to confidence andconfusion to clarity.
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So let's leave the struggle busbehind and embark on this
journey to discover the freedom,beauty and strength that lies
within you.
Remember you are not alone andyou are enough.
When times get tough, pray,listen and follow through,
because God loves you and trustme when I say he is not your
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trauma.
Welcome to Overcome Suffering inSilence with Crystal J.
You have to choose you, and Ireally mean choose you, and I
really mean choose you.
You see, when you choose you,you're choosing empowerment and
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transformation and you'rechoosing yourself and doing
these things, you will trulybegin seeing your life evolve.
You will have a empoweredtransformational healing journey
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and the healing is, of course,for you.
But let me tell you anothersecret it will also be
empowering for those that youlove.
You see, I've seen it in myloved ones while I've been on my
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own empowered transformationalhealing journey.
I've seen it in my children, myhusband, sister, brother, mom,
aunt, grandparents, family,friends of family, family
friends, associates, my socialmedia friends and now, hopefully
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, you join that.
I often receive messages frompeople telling me how they are
being inspired or empowered oruplifted through my story and
the things.
What I want, I want you to haveyour best life, because I also
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lived in mental English andliving know how awesome life can
be, how it really feels totruly love myself, what it means
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to have peace, grace, self-love, self-respect, things for you,
because I witness the empowered,transformational healing that
all these other people take thatare around me, including my
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clients.
And now I want it for you, andI hope you want it for yourself
as well, because I'm not done.
Would you like to know moreabout the secret of choosing you
and one of the program pathsthat many of my clients take?
I'm gonna let you in on thesecret.
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Okay, it's about beingChrist-centered, building an
intimate relationship with God,recovering from the letdowns of
being a Christian, learningGod's grace, living by faith and
not by sight, embracecontentment and find true
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fulfillment.
The power of surrender.
Embrace contentment and findtrue fulfillment.
The power of surrender, lettinggo and letting God lead the
battle.
Answering the question of isyour hope anchored?
Overcoming suffering andsilence, establishing a healthy
support system, determining yourpurpose and empowerment journey
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.
What does that look like?
And all this you discover whoyou are.
We will use trauma-informed care.
You will learn what trauma isand how it affects our
neurological system byincorporating therapeutic art
techniques and learning thebenefits that that brings.
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You will learn how to overcomethe limitations of trauma, what
it means to give yourself timeto heal and how to set healthy
boundaries and how to live yourlife intentionally.
If you don't know, I just gaveyou the whole thing.
I gave it to you.
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That list will definitely helpyou let go of your past traumas
and gain your life back.
I've seen it over and over andover and over again.
So what do you think about thatpeak?
And if you're someone who'ssaying, well, you know what I
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don't really do, like, yeah,like I believe in God, but I
really don't do the God thing,and guess what?
You can start with leavingthose things out, you will have
a transformation.
But there's nothing like thetransformation of having God in
it.
And I'm going to be honest withyou with something else A few
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of my clients.
They actually start the programleaving the modules of God and
Christianity out, right, andtheir spirituality.
But, to be honest, later onthey end up coming to me and
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bringing those things back inand we add those modules.
But, like I said before previoustimes, your journey is your
journey and working with me isone-on-one, is personal and is
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personalized to you.
It's about real steps, realaction, real empowerment, real
transformation so you can showup as your authentic self while
living your best life, like thisclient who says meeting with
Crystal has been awesome.
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She has helped me take mytrauma and triggers into
something manageable.
She has had resources galore.
I can't thank her enough forturning my life around.
You see, each and every one ofthese clients that I shared
today has had their ownexperience with trauma, the
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limitations of trauma, anddealing with it for years.
They each were at a differentplace in their journey, yet at
the same time, I am sure thatthey could have related to being
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all in for themselves so theycould experience empowered,
transformational healing.
Are you ready, are you all in,to let go of the traumas that
are inhibiting you from movingforward?
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Are you ready to gain your lifeback?
If that's a yes or a maybe, orI don't know, if you do say, or
if you are ready to say, yes,you can receive 30% off services
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until Christmas.
That's Christmas 2024.
Now y'all Okay, use codeCHRISTMAS24 when you go to
wwwcrystaljcom.
Forward slash book dash online.
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Again, you can go towwwcrystaljcom, go over to the
book online tab, choose theservice that you want the one on
one or the program.
Okay, and I want you to know.
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This is your turn, it is yourtime and now it's your turn to
say yes to being all in andovercoming the limitations of
past traumas so you can gainyour life back.
As always, remember that youhave power inside you that is
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greater than any obstacle, sonow let's ignite it.
See you on the next episode ofOvercome Suffering in Silence
with Crystal J.