March 11, 2025 • 61 mins
Nothing reveals the gap between rural and urban childhoods quite like our latest conversation about the bizarre, sometimes painful, and always character-building experiences of growing up in the country. From fighting territorial roosters to discovering chiggers in uncomfortable places, these formative encounters shaped us in ways that today's iPad-equipped, safety-helmeted children might never understand.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
We're back for another episode of who's Driving
, and someone was late.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
I was a little bit, I mean.
I just wanted to point that out.
Well, I knew you had thingsgoing on and my things were
going on too.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
Welcome to who's Driving.
I'm Wesley Turner and I'mStephen Merck.
We're two best friends andentrepreneurs.
Who's Driving is anentertaining look into the
behind the scenes of our lives,friendship and businesses.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
These are the stories we share and topics we discuss,
as two best friends would on along road trip.
Speaker 1 (00:31):
Along the way, we'll check in with friends and offer
a wide range of informativetopics centered around running
small businesses, social mediaand all things home and garden.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
Buckle up and enjoy the ride.
You never know who's driving orwhere we're headed.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
All we know is it's always a fun ride.
I haven't seen you all weekendeither.
You were out just gallivantingaround.
I was busy.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
I was showing houses.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Oh, good, good, I wanted to pick up at some point
from last week.
I have a couple more thingsfrom our inbox or hotline that
people messaged me about.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
Oh, and I got a message today from one of our
favorite customers.
Oh, I consider her a friend atthis point.
But, she texts me to terrorizeme with something.
What kind of something?
Well, it wasn't a nudie oranything Cause that would have
(01:27):
terrorized you.
She knows that I'm not a bigpersonally, a big bow person.
Uh huh, she sent me this pillow.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
Is this something I can put in the?
Oh, you need that.
I can see that right in yourloft.
It is so bad I'll have to putit in our members only community
.
You'll have to send me that.
See what?
Speaker 2 (01:52):
Steven does.
My response was oh my God, thatis disgusting.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
Oh my gosh, those are a thing.
Oh my gosh, bows are a thing.
I mean, we went to the Atlantamarket last week, since we've
done a podcast and we did a livesale From there.
We did three, but I meant topoint out or maybe I did there
were several more bow thingsalong the way.
Everything has a damn bow on itand you know what the new thing
(02:21):
is.
So this will be in mark my word, mark my word.
You're going to start seeing itin home decor, just like the
bows.
But the new things you see over, newer things you see over in
the apparel or accessory thingis cherries.
Oh oh God, cherries are, Idon't know what the cherry trend
(02:42):
is.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
Oh God, I didn't have on my headset.
I'm sitting here like Can youhear me?
Speaker 1 (02:47):
I feel like I'm driving without a seatbelt you
are, and I didn't even notice.
Cherries are everywhere in theaccessories, keychains on
sweatshirts, just cherries, andnow it's two cherries.
I feel like there has to besome kind of like, some kind of
message behind it and I feellike I know it's something
(03:11):
naughty and I don't know why,like 20 years ago, it was
naughty, it was yeah Okay,because people were doing those
big latex cutout cherries ontheir cars.
What Like stickers?
Yeah, what did that mean I?
(03:33):
don't know, but it was somethingnodding.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Yeah, I think I had an employee that had cherries on
a car and it said somethinglike luscious.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
Oh's what I think, like, yeah, like, yeah, yeah,
stripper.
Yeah, there's something behindthe chair.
Yeah, we got to figure it outthough.
So, if you know, maybe you havea teenager, because I feel like
it's in a younger, you have ateenager.
Uh, that's into cherries.
Let us know on our hotlinehopefully.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
What's the?
Speaker 1 (04:05):
what the new?
Maybe they just think it's cute.
Eight six.
Our hotline number is eight six, four nine.
Eight two, five zero two nine.
Or if you're in our membersonly community, scroll down to
the bottom.
You can leave a comment.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
I'd like to know, like I hope it's something a
little more wholesome, becausethey're everywhere probably not,
but watch, they'll be on stuffin home decor probably by july.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
Canisters, canisters.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
Yeah, there are little trays, little trays, I'm
not I'm don't say you're notbecause they're gonna sell and
we're no, I will sell them.
You will not see them in myhome, I mean, but you, you know,
you don't see bows either.
But I'll sell a bow, that'sright.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
Yeah, I mean, everyone has their own look, so
that's fine.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
And and honestly, I think bows are cute.
If you're a teenage girl orlittle girl or whatever, bows
are cute.
I think if you, if you come tomy home and you saw a bow, it's
just going to look stupid, itwould.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Yeah, Especially if anybody knows you.
Yeah, it would be like what thehell?
Who left that?
Speaker 2 (05:09):
here Are you babysitting now, Like it
wouldn't fit.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Oh my gosh.
So last week we mentionedbriefly, you know, someone had
recommended that we besubstitute teachers.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
Just for two weeks.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
And I got so many people responding to that they
were like oh my gosh, I cannotimagine.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
like Stephen going and being a substitute teacher.
You know I would be like shutthe blank.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
Yeah, it would not be .
And then they were like then Ihad people, several.
They were like I was a teacherand I wouldn't even substitute
teach.
Nowadays I'm like, no, Icouldn't do that week to get to.
(06:00):
It kind of goes back to youknow your weirdness and
obscenities and all that sort ofthing about using the bathroom
in a litter box, sort of thing.
Speaker 2 (06:14):
Well, that wasn't me.
That was a crazy person onInstagram.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
Some things you just don't talk about, you just
pretend they don't exist in theworld and you move on.
But this person wrote in andsaid that a furries convention
came to Pittsburgh and some ofthem asked the hotels to provide
litter boxes.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
Funny, you bring that up because, probably 10 years
ago-ish, and you know, listen,about 10 years ago-ish.
And you know, listen, ifthere's something weird out
there, you know, and y'all knowme at this point, I'm going to
know about it.
I have read about it orsomething.
Yeah, so about 10 years ago,wesley and I were at Market in
(07:01):
Atlanta.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
We had gone.
I think it was in between majormarkets.
It was a small market, or itwas at the end of a market, I
can't remember it was Market.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
There were not a lot of Market people there.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
There were none left by the time we were there.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
And so we go strolling through the lobby and
I remember where we were at theHyatt Regency and these people
walked by in a group and theyhad ears and tails.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
And Wesley said what in the world?
And I said, oh my gosh, I knowwhat this is.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
I know I think I said what in the hell is going on?
Speaker 2 (07:42):
here and I said I think I know what this is.
I'm going to talk to them.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
Yes, oh my gosh, that is when we needed the
microphone.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
So I, we should look it up and I didn't know the
details of it.
I had a former God I've had avery interesting life.
God, I've had a veryinteresting life.
I had a former roommate wayback college days that was kind
of into the furry roommate thingStraight, straight roommate,
(08:15):
okay, kind of into the furrything before it was a thing and
I just was like, oh okay, youknow, like bunny costumes and
stuff, it's his girlfriend.
Seriously, I'm not making it up.
So I knew a little bit aboutthat.
But then I had read about this.
(08:36):
I went and talked to them.
Speaker 1 (08:38):
Oh, he went strolling right up.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
I was like I need to know all about this, yeah, and
so they're into different thingsand, like some people, are into
having a tail not having a tail.
They're attracted to peoplewith tails, full costume, and
now I think it has gotten to thepoint to where they're using
(09:04):
litter box.
Speaker 1 (09:06):
It goes the whole spectrum so it can be, I think,
sort of innocent-ish.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
Like bedroom play.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
You just like dressing up, but then it goes
all the way to the bedroomLitter box.
And then beyond.
So we haven't run into that.
I wonder if they have thatevery year.
Speaker 2 (09:30):
You know, I am really really good if I never run into
that again but it would be.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
We ran into the cause to the cot.
Speaker 2 (09:39):
What was it?
Speaker 1 (09:40):
cosplay which is kind of a comic yeah, dress up,
comic dress up, and that too cango from just more innocent to
well, that was pretty, that wasway more out there.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
The cosplay convention.
So when we're at markets,especially in atlanta, but even
in dallas, it wouldn't surpriseme if we ran into anywhere.
They have big.
They have big conventions.
You never know what you'regoing to roll up in the middle
of.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
Yeah, every time we're at even in July at the
market or January, the bigmarkets there's usually some
other conventions going on atthe hotel that we stay at, Like
when we're at the Marriott andthat sort of thing, and like
this last time when we werethere in January, it ended up
being the national championshipfootball game, national
(10:29):
championship, so all thefootball players.
You just never know what you'regoing to run into.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
And Dylan and I took my nephew to.
He wanted to go to New YorkCity for his high school
graduation gift.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
Yeah, y'all did that last summer.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
Last summer gift.
Yeah, y'all did that lastsummer.
Last summer and we rolled up,there was like we had like a two
and a half week window betweenmy schedule and his schedule
that we could go, so it reallywe had to go, yeah and um.
So I booked it and after Ibooked it I realized, oh my gosh
, it's gay pride in new yorkcity well and I don't have a
(11:05):
problem with you, do you dowhatever but I had never been in
New York during a gay pride,and here I am taking my innocent
little nephew, small town, toNew York City for gay pride New
York City for gay pride.
So, needless to say, he sawmore ass and breast than you can
(11:29):
possibly imagine and it wasquite comical.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
But you know he was graduating, he needed to see
some of the real world.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
Yeah, he did.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
It was I'm like.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
He's going to be seeing a lot more than that.
I'm like this is it, buddy,this is it, you know, and he we
laughed a lot, you know.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
Yeah, but it's the world we live in.
But going back to the furries,can you imagine working at a
hotel and then getting asked toprovide litter boxes?
Speaker 2 (12:00):
I would have said hell, no, because who's going to
clean that up?
Speaker 1 (12:03):
That is something you bring on your own and take it
with you.
Yeah, that's true.
So I had someone write in and Iprinted it off, because this is
kind of funny.
Okay, randomly enough, I don'twant to out this person, but
this is the same person thatwrote you about the dirty diaper
(12:26):
in the freezer.
So she said I have more.
This is something different,though, so she said here's a
good one.
When I was in college, I likethis person.
Speaker 2 (12:43):
I really like you.
I want you to know that youhave the stories like I do, and
I like it.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
Right and see, we need to get some of you who have
these stories and we need tocall you, like we did with the
hitchhiking stories.
We need to wrap back around andget on a schedule and call some
of our it's circle back, circleback, wrap back around,
whatever.
Circle back, start over, circleback around and call some
(13:18):
people, cause we got lots of youlistening and I know there's
lots of good stories.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
Well, we should have known there was some we should
have known there was some peopleon here with some real whacked
up histories behind them, ifthey're listening to this all
the time.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
Right, you know, if they relate to us, yeah, they're
a little messed up too, right,exactly.
So when I was in college, thisis what the person wrote in, not
me, this person.
When I was in college, this iswhat the person wrote in, not me
, this person.
When I was in college, unnamedfraternity members stole a
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cadaver from the science lab andmoved it down to Potter's Pond,
placed it on a beach towel witha hat and sunglasses.
Morning walkers found the body.
Exclamation point Funny whenyou're a kid, but not funny if
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you are the university.
Who wants to donate a body tothe school for educational
purposes.
If you might end up stolen outof the building, you should have
seen the police activity oncampus that day.
Oh my God, like nowadays.
You would be kicked out ofschool.
You would be arrested and seeback.
Then they probably didn't havethe cameras that they do
(14:35):
nowadays.
They would have found out whodid it.
That's a great story, but thenyou kind of feel bad for the
cadaver.
Speaker 2 (14:43):
I mean, if you're donating it, you're good yeah.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
That person.
Speaker 2 (14:49):
The personality of that person would be like hell,
yeah, that was a good ride.
I mean, that was a good lastride.
Yeah, that's true.
I mean I might donate my bodyif I knew I was going to end up
like on the beach, you know, ina hat and sunglasses or
something.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
So this listener said you should ask your podcast
listeners for the funnieststories they can remember from
college.
I bet there are some good ones,so tell us your funny college
stories.
You can remain anonymous, wewon't tell on you.
You can text us or call us onour hotline 864-982-5029.
(15:29):
It's down in the show notes orif you're in the members only
community you can contact, youcan email me through there as
well or put it in the commentsthere.
If you don't mind, We'll talkabout it.
Speaker 2 (15:40):
We may even call you because it would be good, that's
a good one.
That is a good one.
And I, you know I don't havethat many great college stories,
but I do from high school.
Like one of the senior prankswhen I was in high school I mean
, this would be, I, this wouldthere's.
I don't even know what they doto you nowadays, but the uh,
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some people that will remainnameless took a Playboy magazine
and cut the faces out and gluedteachers' faces.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
Now you could Photoshop it.
You wouldn't even have to cutit out.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
And then they photocopied it and then they put
quotes in.
They put what teacher it wasand put quotes in, and my
spanish teacher.
I'll never forget hers.
I have this somewhere.
Um, and one of my teachers madecopies for me and we're friends
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on facebook.
That's funny.
She was young at the time.
I need to message her about thatum so like my spanish teacher
said her said yo soy picante,which means I'm spicy.
So in spanish class that day wewere having to make sentences
up for homework.
And of course you know me, yeah, it gets to steven to make
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sentences up for homework.
And of course you know me, yeah, it gets to Steven to make up,
you know.
And she's writing the sentenceon the board.
So we can.
Everybody has to translate itto Spanish.
And I said I made spicy breadand the whole class just bust
out laughing and she just saidI'll see you after class.
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I was like, okay, I didn't getin trouble.
Everybody, they really liked me, so I really didn't get in
trouble.
Speaker 1 (17:35):
I can see you talking your way out of.
Speaker 2 (17:37):
I was like what?
What are you talking about?
Spicy bread like Mexican bread?
What?
Speaker 1 (17:45):
She was like mm-hmm oh my goodness.
Speaker 2 (17:51):
But you know, and it's funny, you're talking about
way back when and how you getaway with things.
I was watching a video onInstagram.
It made me think, do youremember?
And this is what it was talkingabout kids.
You used to see kids and Allthe time Like there was always.
(18:11):
I still see kids when you werein grammar school, elementary
school, there was alwaysmultiple kids with broken arms,
broken legs, all kinds of littleinjuries.
Yeah, you don't really see thatthat much anymore because we've
made everybody so soft now.
Speaker 1 (18:27):
Oh, you know, think about it, you know, when I was
growing up we rode in the backof pickup trucks, I mean didn't
think anything On yourfour-wheeler, which was
three-wheelers back then.
Speaker 2 (18:39):
Didn't think anything about it.
I mean we drank water out of agarden hose.
Speaker 1 (18:45):
Yeah, I know we did that and see, we grew up in the
country, so definitely in ourschool.
I mean my brother, I think hebroke, I don't know, I'd have to
ask my mom.
Like his arm, my middle brother.
(19:10):
He was notorious for like wewould get out for the summer
break and within 48 hours hewould do something that he would
be out of commission the whole.
Something like break acollarbone, break a arm, break a
something, and like all summerhe was laid up.
He was laid up about the timehe'd get repaired.
It was time to go back toschool, isn't that funny?
Speaker 2 (19:29):
oh my gosh.
But you know now everybody's.
So you know in those rememberthe monkey bars at recess and
all that you knocked the hellout of yourself oh my gosh.
You know, people knocked outteeth and broke arms and fell,
and that's what I personallythink.
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That's why everybody's so softnow.
Speaker 1 (19:54):
So we made everything a little too protected, a
little too, you know used to.
We had the metal toys like dumptrucks that you'd pinch your
finger in.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
Or cut it off, yeah.
Speaker 1 (20:10):
I can remember.
And now they're like you know,plastic and everything's
protected.
But also things I mean okay, indefense of I don't know who,
I'm defending no one but it'salso the way the culture and
society and the world hasshifted, whereas everything now
is more technology based, likekids are playing with iPads and
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not that we made them, you know,we didn't.
You know what I'm saying Likethat just became the next thing?
Speaker 2 (20:40):
It's ruining them.
Speaker 1 (20:41):
I'm not saying it hasn't.
I'm just saying that things aremore technology based now,
instead of being out and playingand you know, climbing from a
tree, fall down, break your armon the monkey bars.
Break your arm.
Speaker 2 (20:55):
I had tree houses.
I played in the woods.
Oh, we did.
In the creek All day, every day, yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
We did too.
I think I was talking, I don'tknow, with my mom or something,
but like we didn't have a lot ofstuff Like toys, like how kids
like you'll go to someone'shouse and it is just like toys
stacked everywhere, like wedidn't have that.
I mean we had toys and itwasn't like, but not like that,
but we were outside all the time.
I was always trying to find,you know, a turtle or a frog, or
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go to the easter egg hunt so Icould get a free chick or duck,
something like that.
We were talking about that theother night in a live sale.
How I used to love going toEaster egg hunts when I was a
kid, like certain churches woulddo it and you could win like a
baby chick or a baby duck.
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Little Wesley was hunting.
That day I was going to comehome with a chick or a baby duck
.
Little Wesley was hunting.
That day I was going to comehome with it.
Speaker 2 (21:56):
I mean I kept chiggers on my genitals all
summer long.
Speaker 1 (22:01):
I mean I mean what?
From playing in the woods andevery, I mean I kept you know,
all the time with something saythat it doesn't help, but you
would paint fingernail polish onthere, yes, on it, and I mean
it would be all like mom, I needsome fingernail polish.
(22:24):
I got chiggers and you.
You look down there and it'd bepink and red, whatever color
she had everything just paintedall over it.
Speaker 2 (22:33):
Yeah, kids need that.
I mean, I'm sorry if you do nothave a little nail polish on
your scrotum, you've missed out.
You've missed out.
Your childhood was not complete, it's true.
Speaker 1 (23:01):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (23:03):
It is true.
Speaker 1 (23:03):
Okay, well, first of all, you're going to have to
tell some of our listeners whatchiggers are, because not
everyone evidently has them.
Because I've talked about whenwe've been in Hilton Head.
Like you don't want to collectthe Spanish moss, chiggers grow
in there Because there'schiggers in the moss, and then
so many people were like what isa chigger?
Speaker 2 (23:24):
You know, I don't really, I don't know exactly.
Is it?
Speaker 1 (23:28):
a mite.
It's a small mite yes.
Growing up I always learnedthat they like buried in your
skin and I think that's why youwould paint the fingernail
polish on.
That was the thought to paintit because it smothered them out
.
But I think I've heard as anadult they don't actually bury
in your skin.
I think it's just a bite thatitches really bad.
Speaker 2 (23:50):
So it itches so chiggers are just— oh yeah,
they're red.
I remember that.
Speaker 1 (23:53):
They're just red little mites.
They're tiny like, tiny like apin dot size and they grow
typically in very like grassyareas.
Speaker 2 (24:05):
And certain I can't remember.
Is it milkweed?
There's something they grow onlike that that were in like
ditches along the side of theroad.
Yeah, so if you ran throughthere, there's some common weeds
that they grow it is not aninsect.
It is an arachnid, like aspider or a tick, and they are
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parasites?
Speaker 1 (24:29):
yeah, but they don't do that, does it say?
Do they actually bury underyour skin or is it just a bite?
Because that's what I can'tremember.
Speaker 2 (24:36):
Oh, you know where I bet we got them from.
They're on rabbits a lot andyou know we had rabbits.
Speaker 1 (24:43):
But any grass, like tall grass, like a meadow type
place, they're going to be there.
And your Spanish moss.
So if you ever visit, say,charleston, south Carolina or
Hilton Head, somewhere that hasthe gorgeous Spanish moss
growing from the tree, don'tjust walk up and grab that,
because it can have chiggers init and they will bite you and
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you will be itchy.
Speaker 2 (25:06):
They'll be in your crotch.
Speaker 1 (25:08):
They do, and so, if you don't know, they like to go.
I wonder why they are.
I wonder if it's dark areas,warm and moist?
No, but they also get around,like your ankle, where your
socks are.
Speaker 2 (25:21):
It says oh God.
Oh my gosh, that is that is tooWaist, ankles and warm skin
folds.
Yes.
Well, I think they prefer thewarm skin folds the most if you
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know what I'm talking about, andI have very sensitive skin.
No, and I am like mosquitoesand chiggers.
Speaker 1 (25:53):
It was just like they just ate me up and you're so
pale.
Speaker 2 (25:57):
I bet they were just big red, but you know I was not
pale as a child because I wasoutside all the time, so I was
dark.
Speaker 1 (26:05):
So you're saying we've made kids too soft with
these things.
They haven't experiencedAbsolutely the things that you
have an experience, absolutelythe things that you have,
Absolutely, and you know I mean.
Speaker 2 (26:16):
They need to drink some rat juice out of a whale.
They need chiggers on theirgenitals, they need to.
Speaker 1 (26:28):
That word grosses me out by the way Genitals yes.
I feel like cringey.
I would rather you say likepecker.
Yes balls or pecker orsomething I don't know.
Speaker 2 (26:39):
I'm trying, I'm trying to be a little classy, I
guess that's supposed to be theclassy way, but I don't know.
Speaker 1 (26:45):
That doesn't do it for me.
Speaker 2 (26:46):
I don't know, but it is.
I mean, I do think kids, youknow, and we didn't have
seatbelts back in the day, is it?
Speaker 1 (26:53):
too late to warn you that this is a not safe for work
episode Podcast.
Why Can you imagine sitting?
Speaker 2 (27:01):
in your desk.
This is a PSA.
I mean, this is serious stuff.
Listen, if you don't think it'sserious, I am happy to ship you
a box of Spanish moss and youjust roll around in it to let me
know how it goes.
Speaker 1 (27:18):
It's true, that's funny.
Speaker 2 (27:21):
But I used to pick the Spanish.
Well, I kept chiggers, so whoknows where I got it?
Speaker 1 (27:25):
Yeah, I mean that's true?
Oh my goodness, I was about tosay you know, Daniel doesn't
ever get chiggers, but see, hisis.
It's like mowed, and so it'snot tall grass to be walking
through.
No, it's more like woods yeahit's always woods or meadows or,
like you said, ditches.
Speaker 2 (27:44):
Yeah, if you cut through or if you're gathering
like blackberries.
Speaker 1 (27:50):
Something else You're going to end up with the
chiggers.
They haven't done either.
Speaker 2 (27:55):
You something else you're gonna end up with the
chiggers.
You're gonna end up with thechiggers and I don't know why
you keep.
I don't think you can keep fromgetting them I don't think
there's anything you can do likeI don't know it says soap and
water, but I that don't work.
Speaker 1 (28:07):
You better get you some nail polish well, this kind
of leads into something superfunny that I just saw and I
don't know.
This could kind of go alongwith making people or the world
soft.
I don't know.
I don't know how to feel aboutit.
I really don't.
You grew up in the country.
I grew up in the country.
We've been around a lot ofanimals and chickens and that
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sort of thing.
Do you know what the hell I sawon TikTok last night and this
isn't I know it's true becauseit was from a vet, not like
someone making this up, it was avet in their TikTok stories.
Do you know someone had broughtin their rooster and was
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getting it neutered?
Did you know?
I didn't even know that was anoption.
Speaker 2 (29:08):
I want to kill that person.
Okay, that brings out homicidalfeelings in me.
Speaker 1 (29:18):
So they were saying you know, if you've never grown
up or had chickens and you get arooster sometimes not all
roosters, but some roosters canbe aggressive towards you
Because they're going to protecttheir, their ladies, uh.
And then sometimes it can beseasonal where they're more
aggressive and then not, like wehad one a few years ago when I
(29:41):
had.
Every time I would just walkinto the chicken coop to even
feed them, it would just comecharging towards me trying to.
I would kick that thing one day.
Speaker 2 (29:50):
It made me, so mad I was like I'm going to kill you,
we had, my grandparents had oneactually, and it was satan, yeah
, and I would.
Grandma would give me scraps togo like pour out in the edge of
the woods and that damn thingwould see me and come charging
(30:11):
at me and I would be screamingbecause I, when I was really
little, I called my grandmotherma, yeah and I would scream I'm
gonna tell ma on you, I wastalking to this rooster and it
was so and everybody would laugh, because they were laughing at
me screaming at the rooster.
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I'm'm going to tell Ma on you,and I would try to run, but then
I would have to turn around andkick at it.
Speaker 1 (30:37):
Yeah, because when you turn your back and run,
that's when they charge more andthey hurt, and so you got about
the time they catch up with you.
You got to turn around realquick and they'll kind of stop
and then you kind of kick atthem and cuss at them, yeah.
So funny story.
I had one when I was a kid.
That was just a holy terror tooand my mamaw would bring scraps
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like that that's a countrything, I guess.
From the table Scraps Uh-huhOut to the chickens, like it
might be old lettuce or whatever, and she'd bring scraps to the
dogs whatever.
And she was outside bringingscraps one time in this rooster,
I mean it just like you'retalking about, would just tear
you up.
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Well, my mom was out there,like you know, talking to her,
and then she's like, oh, I'mgonna go give the scraps.
So she went and did that andcame back and my mom had started
like weeding the um flower bedor something, and that rooster
came up and was just attackingmy mom because she was been over
or about to attack her, I don'tknow and my mom took she had
(31:45):
the frying pan but the cast ironskillet and just hit the
rooster I would have loved everybit of that.
Speaker 2 (31:54):
I'm like, oh my God.
Speaker 1 (31:56):
Did it kill the rooster?
You can't kill those things.
Speaker 2 (31:59):
The mean ones.
I'm telling you.
They are the spawn of Satan.
Speaker 1 (32:04):
No, but a few days later that rooster was missing
and then we had chicken.
No, I'm just kidding, it wasmissing.
But what she would do?
There would be this otherlittle country house and it was
next to a church and they alwayshad chickens in their yard just
free-ranging.
So she got that in her car andthen drove up to the church and
then just tossed the rooster out.
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So it would go right next doorto all those and for the longest
time we would drive by becauseit was on the way from our house
to town and there'd be ourrooster out there in the yard
just protecting them.
Speaker 2 (32:36):
I was terrified of that rooster.
Speaker 1 (32:39):
Yeah, I mean terrified.
So back to getting themneutered.
So not all roosters, but someof them will become aggressive
like that and very protective,and usually I feel like it's if
you have multiple ones it's likewhatever the dominant one and
I'm sure it's per breed and thatsort of thing too.
So someone had taken theirs tothe vet because they love this
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rooster but he was a little tooaggressive so they were going to
.
I had no idea that was even apossibility, that that's
ridiculous.
Speaker 2 (33:20):
If you've got a problem that if the rooster is
that big of a problem, youneeded to have him for Sunday
dinner.
It was time for some friedchicken.
Speaker 1 (33:32):
I'm just like, oh my gosh.
Speaker 2 (33:36):
It's crazy, and you know, geese can be just like
that.
Speaker 1 (33:42):
A mean goose.
Geese are naturally moreprotective too.
They're good watchdogs.
Speaker 2 (33:49):
But I've had them where they would almost just.
It looked like they werespinning wheels up from like the
pond to attack.
Speaker 1 (33:57):
Don't talk too bad about them.
I want to get geese, and thenDaniel will be like I'm scared
of the geese.
These are sweet.
We have wild geese and they'resweet.
They're like pets.
It's the same ones come backevery year.
They just showed up a few weeksago, maybe like a month ago,
and they'll be here.
They'll usually have babies andleave, I think around june or
something, and then we won't seethem again until next year.
Speaker 2 (34:19):
well, every time I get out of my car you know if
it's not cold, if it's pretty ornot raining I go down and I say
, oh, hey, babies, and all theanimals come up so I can pet
them.
And the geese even come, thedamn wild geese.
Speaker 1 (34:35):
They do.
And I know it's the same twothat come back every year
because they immediately likewhen I go out there, they'll
come up.
Or when I go out there to feedthe other animals, they'll come
up and they'll snack some oftheir food too.
If it was different ones, itwould take them a while to like.
Speaker 2 (34:54):
Oh, no, it's like they immediately.
They're always friendly, andhow long can a goose?
Speaker 1 (35:01):
how long do geese live, though, I wonder?
Let's look that up, cause I'mlike we've been here, I don't
know, almost nine years, andit's been like the same geese
and you know, finally, we'verealized the emus that I gave
you.
Speaker 2 (35:15):
They are elmer and elvira.
Right it is.
There is an elvira, yeah, whichis good to know, um, and she's
not as friendly as elmer I mustsay the well she's not mean, so
let's not give her she she's notmean no, no, no, no, no, no,
but Elmer comes up Immediately,Immediately, for you to pet and
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love her.
Speaker 1 (35:37):
She's a little more standoffish, but she doesn't
attack.
She's not mean, but if you goin the fence you can pet her too
.
I've never, you just have tolike reach out to her and for us
.
Speaker 2 (35:50):
you know my cousins on the farm the meanest and
they're wild.
You know they're wild, but themeanest they are are just we'll
peck you.
Speaker 1 (36:02):
But it doesn't hurt.
Yeah Well, you know, you seethe ones on social media and
people you know they play thatup and that sort of thing and
kind of give them a.
Is that one still on socialmedia?
What was that?
Oh my God, geese can live up to20 years.
Oh well, good, who knew?
I never had any that old.
(36:23):
They all get eaten uh, there aresome species that can live um
up to 30 years dang, I'm gonnabe sad when those stop showing
up one day, though every yearI'm like I wonder if they'll
come back.
Like wouldn't you like to havea tracker on those geese and see
where they go?
Speaker 2 (36:41):
we used to have a.
I think I told you this we hada homing pigeon.
Um, funny story.
We had a neighbor lived acrossthe street from my grandparents,
miss Huckins, and she was fromNew York, so she kind of didn't
understand all this country shit, you know.
And she was in the yard doingher flower she had beautiful
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flower beds and the pigeonlanded on her head.
You can't make this up.
She reached up and grabbed itand called my grandfather to
come get it.
We, we tagged that pigeon.
Yeah, this was my entertainment, this is how sad we were in the
country, but I loved it.
We tagged that pigeon and wewould drive everywhere you know
(37:30):
you can imagine hours away andlet the pigeon out, and you, you
know, sometimes it would beatus home that is crazy Pigeons
Like don't you wonder, like howdo they know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (37:43):
there has to be some kind of they have a natural GPS
in there.
I know.
But like, is it magnetic?
Like what is it that draws?
They have to know like it's not, like a pigeon can just ride in
a car.
It's not looking out the windowand going oh, we went left, we
went right, we went left.
You know what I'm saying?
It's how do they instinctivelyknow?
Speaker 2 (38:05):
It says, homing pigeons navigate their way back
home using a combination ofvisual landmarks, a map, sense
of their surrounding area and aninternal compass believed to be
linked to the Earth's magneticfield, allowing them to orient
themselves in the rightdirection when released in
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unfamiliar locations.
Speaker 1 (38:29):
Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
It'd have to be something likethat.
Speaker 2 (38:32):
Locations yeah, that's what I'm saying.
It'd have to be something likethat.
Essentially, they imprint ontheir future home loft during
their early development,creating a strong instinct to
return to that specific place.
Isn't that random?
I wouldn't believe it if Ididn't do it myself.
Speaker 1 (38:46):
Yeah, but that was entertainment, that would have
been my kind of entertainment, Iwould have had that pigeon
everywhere.
Speaker 2 (38:54):
Well, and at first Stephen was not down for it
because I didn't want my pigeongone.
Oh yeah, I should get somepigeons.
Pigeons are fun.
That's what I could put outthere in the chicken coop I love
.
And the fantails are beautiful,they are beautiful, I love
those, I love those.
The fantails are beautiful,they are beautiful, I love those
(39:16):
, I love those.
So we used to say I need thaton my porch.
We would buy and sell those atthe flea market.
Speaker 1 (39:21):
Let's go to, let's take a trip to the flea market.
I've been wanting to.
We gotta wait to a nice springday.
We're gonna load up onsomething, I don't know what
it's gonna be.
Speaker 2 (39:34):
We're gonna load up on something.
I don't know what it's gonna be.
We're gonna load up onsomething to terrorize daniel.
Uh-huh, be like honey, we need.
We need like a goose that'sgonna chase him around the field
.
Speaker 1 (39:41):
Right, beat the shit out of him that's why I was like
you can't talk about geesebecause he'll be like uh-uh,
don't bring those near me well,I I'm going to tell you it took
a while Now with the emus he'sfine.
He'll go in the pasture withthem, but he is like if those
(40:01):
things get out, don't call me tocome get them.
He's like I ain't going to havenothing to do with them.
Okay, funny story about littleDaniel.
He grew up in the suburbs ofCharlotte and in a neighborhood.
Speaker 2 (40:20):
This boy.
He's not really soft, thoughyou have to give it to him
because he's a hard workeroutside and he works on the farm
.
He's not soft like that.
Speaker 1 (40:28):
But he was not exposed to a lot of things.
One time before we moved to thefarm he had never been around
cats at all A cat.
I guess his dad was allergicand he says he's allergic.
I know, Daniel, you're saying Iam allergic, but anyway, it's
to be determined, Although hehad an allergy test 25 years ago
(40:50):
and he said he was allergic.
It said he was allergic, butanyway I digress.
Any whoosie.
I got a little 25 years ago andhe said he was allergic.
It said he was allergic, butanyway I digress.
Any whoosie.
I got a little kitten at ourold house and he was terrified
of this little kitten.
Speaker 2 (41:04):
Oh, I remember that.
Speaker 1 (41:05):
And then when it got, you know, we had it I don't
know, maybe a week, two weeks orsomething, and it came running
through the house and it climbedup our curtains.
He's like, ah, cats got to go,cats got to go.
It wasn't the fact that it wasgoing to like damage the
curtains or anything like that,it freaked him out that it could
climb like that.
He was like cats got to go.
(41:27):
So I had to get give the cat toa new home and then we moved to
the farm, you know, and he gotmore used.
It came with cats and then hegot used to them and we've had
several kittens since then andhe's fine.
But it's funny how not beingexposed to even a cat, but and I
guess I take all that forgranted because you grew up with
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it, so it was second natureyeah, I mean it was just there.
so that's why, with like theemus and stuff he's like and I
could see him with geese beinglike they're going to attack but
they really not all of them do.
Speaker 2 (42:00):
And like you talk about not having toys and stuff,
and I mean I had toys.
Let's face it, I was an onlychild.
I had rights.
I had stuff, but that is notwhat I loved.
Speaker 1 (42:13):
I know that wasn't, that didn't entertain me as much
.
No, Like I enjoy unless it wassomething that did something
with animals.
Speaker 2 (42:23):
Like.
I remember how, in the spring,I love to take a rabbit gum.
I had a rabbit gum at mygrandparents.
What is that A trap?
It's called a rabbit gum.
I had a rabbit gum at mygrandparents.
What is that A trap, it'scalled a rabbit gum you should
know that we called them arabbit gum and I would take that
(42:43):
down to.
We had a huge garden, probablythree acres.
You're going to catch you arabbit, and I did.
I would catch one every time,it was just so fun.
Just what did you do with it?
It was just so fun, just let itgo, put it in a cage and play
with it a while and then turn itloose.
Just you know, after you'vedone it caught it.
I mean that was the fun.
(43:04):
It was the fun catching it.
Yeah, you know, it's not like Iwas eating them or anything
like that, but yeah it's.
I think it's really sad, likekids that don't experience stuff
like that.
The nature part I rememberbeing in New York city one time.
Speaker 1 (43:23):
Can you imagine growing up just in the city and
never being exposed?
Speaker 2 (43:27):
This was probably 30 years ago I was in New York.
You are old, now I am old and Iwas in going.
You are old now I am old and Iwas walking through Central Park
.
Speaker 1 (43:37):
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2 (43:38):
And it said that they were having a petting zoo.
They had a petting zoo broughtin in New York and I was like,
how cool is that?
You know, I wanted to go to thepetting zoo.
Speaker 1 (43:51):
Right.
Speaker 2 (43:52):
So I go to the petting zoo, uh-huh, mm-mm-mm,
it was like goats and cows.
It was like basic and cows, itwas like basic ass stuff.
And I was so mad because I'mlike what in the hell You're
advertising petting zoo?
(44:13):
But I had never thought.
Those kids in New York City donot, unless they drive out to
the country.
You know they can drive northin New York and they're in the
country.
Speaker 1 (44:26):
But that's like I mean for them, that's a trip.
Speaker 2 (44:29):
That's a vacation, yeah.
Speaker 1 (44:31):
Going out but they don't get to see that, I know.
Isn't it crazy?
Because for us a goat, a cow,that's like seeing a dog, you
know, like that's just oh yeah.
That is crazy.
It is funny when you thinkabout think back about it.
(44:51):
Okay, we have a little bit moretime, so I think we need to do
a little.
I was thinking about this today.
I meant to mention this to you,so you might not be down to
discuss this, but we're going todiscuss it.
No, it's a little PSA.
I think we need to do a littlePSA because you just got your
will updated and Daniel and Ijust got a will done as well, we
(45:14):
got to sign it.
So, something happens betweennow and then, the will is legit
or whatever, and it kind of goesback to my stepmom, your aunt,
what happened to us, and wewon't get into all the details,
but if you haven't got, danieland I had never done a wheel.
And what made me think aboutthis is tomorrow is the
(45:35):
anniversary of when my dadpassed away, and so I was like
God, is it?
Speaker 2 (45:41):
And do you always remember that?
Because you've never pointedthat out?
Yeah, so it was the month ofyour birthday.
Speaker 1 (45:48):
Yeah, march 10 is when he passed away.
Speaker 2 (45:51):
That is a date drilled in your head.
Yes, we've never discussed this.
Speaker 1 (45:57):
We haven't.
Never, you've never brought up,and it's funny my oldest
brother's birthday is March 8th,and I'm sure I remember more
than because it was in mybirthday month, maybe I don't
know, it just stuck in my head Iguess.
Well, it's kind of a big event,yeah, march 8th.
And then my dad passed away onMarch 10th and my birthday is
(46:17):
March 30th or whatever.
So I don't know why Some yearsI don't think about it until
after.
I'm like, oh, you know, it'spassed or whatever, um sort of
thing.
Uh, but I was thinking aboutthat somehow.
I looked at the date, was like,oh, tomorrow's the day my dad
passed away and, um, theimportance because we've made
(46:38):
fun or laughed or joked about mystepmom and your aunt, the
importance of having your wheeldone and things the way you want
it, you want it, and Daniel andI have never done one until now
.
It's been something we, I'msure like if you don't have one
have probably thought about.
And you're like, oh, every yearwe say, oh, we're going to do
(46:59):
that.
And then we're like, well,let's wait till January, when
things are slow, and then we'lldo it.
And then January passes, it'sanother year.
Da, da, da da.
But we did it and it was supersimple, like I just thought it
was going to be more.
It can be as complicated as youwant it, that's true.
Speaker 2 (47:17):
And it can be extremely simple.
Speaker 1 (47:20):
But at least do one extremely simple, because it's
better than nothing.
Because, going back to mystepmom, my dad had some things
set up through his work thatwere supposed to go to his kids,
you and your brother.
Yes, with our names on it, butthen he didn't have a wheel, so
my stepmom found a loophole.
(47:41):
I guess you would say Withinthe state.
Yeah, and we never got, youknow, any of our inheritance or
anything like that.
And my you know my dad worked atDuPont and he was.
He had good like insurance andstuff because he was on the
hazmat team.
So she took it.
So now is the time.
(48:02):
Just a little PSA, if youhaven't done it, because I was
surprised at how simple it wasand another thing every state is
different and state laws andregulations override federal
Right.
Speaker 2 (48:18):
So don't ever assume and you have to be very careful
with the verbiage in your wheelthat varies state to state.
So if you google certainverbiage at a, at a federal
level, it's different than at astate.
Yeah, so that that came intoplay with my aunt.
(48:41):
Yeah, and, and basically what?
What it all comes down to isshe manipulated and did not.
It was very clear and obvious.
My grandparents wishes Rightand she manipulated it and
basically stole my mother's part, and I do consider it stealing
(49:04):
Right, like legally.
No, and basically stole mymother's part and I do consider
it stealing Right, like legallyno, Well, and what's crazy.
Speaker 1 (49:10):
so your mom passed away very shortly before your
grandmother passed away.
Speaker 2 (49:18):
Was it Three months?
Three months.
Speaker 1 (49:20):
So if your mom had passed away three months later,
like if your grandmother hadpassed away first, it would have
been completely different.
Oh yeah, is the thing.
So there was a technicality.
And if she had died.
Speaker 2 (49:34):
If they, she died they died just over a hundred
days apart, but if it had beenwithin the hundred days it would
have been different.
But in South Carolina the lawschanged.
So what changed was when mygrandparents did their will in
(49:54):
like 1970.
Right, so in 1970, the will inSouth Carolina, your will
overrode banks.
Well, and they changed the lawin 1987.
The bank's documentationoverrides your will.
(50:16):
So that's very important to knowand that can be a good thing
because, like in every state,your inheritance tax is
different.
For South Carolina I think it's$5 million.
So if you know, if you're astate and listen, you might go
$5 million.
Listen, when you start addingup your assets, you will be
(50:40):
surprised what you come up withLike property, cars, money,
jewelry you'll be surprised whatyou come up with like property,
cars, money, jewelry You'll besurprised.
But the good thing about thatlaw change is you can set
beneficiaries on money, likeyour bank accounts, so that that
is just automatic and it'sseparate from the estate Right.
That that is just automatic andit's separate from the estate
(51:04):
Right.
So, like when my mother passed,we had my name was on all of
the bank accounts and investmentaccounts that did not go
through probate at all.
Yeah, so the only thing thatwent through probate was the
house and car.
That was it.
Speaker 1 (51:22):
Yeah, and made it very simple.
Speaker 2 (51:24):
It made it very simple and it was very simple
anyway because I'm an, was it,yeah, and made it very simple.
It made it very simple and itwas very simple anyway because
I'm an only child, yeah, but youknow it, it's so important and
my will is not very complicated.
But I was very specific withwith things and, and you can, if
you've got a family family likeI do unfortunately not one side
(51:49):
of my family, you know myattorney felt the need to not
only leave them out but also doan intentional disinheritance
clause.
So if, if, well, I meanobviously I'm going to die at
some point, but when I do, it'sin black and white.
Speaker 1 (52:10):
Like you, left them out intentionally, so they
cannot contest it.
Speaker 2 (52:14):
No, Because it's in there.
They can contest it, but theywon't get anything.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (52:18):
So just a little PSA.
Maybe it's time to do your willit.
So just a little PSA.
Maybe it's time to do your will.
Speaker 2 (52:24):
It's not as weird as I thought it would be either,
and you need a health caredirective.
Speaker 1 (52:27):
And you know, or maybe you need to update your
will.
And if you are like veryrelaxed about it, then go ahead,
like, if you are doing a will,go ahead when you're doing it
and line it out for several LikeOK, if we pass away, I want it
to go to so and so, but go aheadand name the next step.
(52:48):
Well, if they've passed away,then I want it to go to their
kids or I want it to go to.
However, go ahead and lay itout, so it just helps out.
Speaker 2 (52:59):
And it's important in my opinion, you can do a will
on your own, you know, onlineand get it notarized.
I personally think it'simportant to have an attorney in
your state.
Look at it, because that whatyou're speaking of.
Right, there is where it canget really, really convoluted,
(53:21):
depending on what state you'rein.
Convoluted, depending on whatstate you're in.
If it's the verbiage, the legaljargon is not correct.
Speaker 1 (53:28):
It doesn't match your state.
Yeah, so you need to go tosomeone that knows in your state
and it's not that expensive.
Speaker 2 (53:34):
It is not To do it at all, it is not.
And you need, you need adorablepower of attorney, yeah.
And so a friend of mine we weretalking about this and you know
she expressed concern becauseher, their investments are all
in his name, yeah.
(53:55):
And I said, well, you know, youreally don't have to worry
about it.
You're in South Carolina, 50%of it is yours.
It's really not a big deal.
And she said, yeah, but what ifwe were on a trip and he went
missing and I couldn't get adeath certificate?
For five years I wouldn't haveaccess to anything.
(54:17):
And I was like, oh shit, you'reright.
And I said, well, that's when,if you have a durable power of
attorney problem solved, onepiece of paper you can sign
anything.
You can do anything.
So you know that's what I hadwith my mother, that's what you
know I have with my godmother.
You know, just have thatdurable power of attorney and
(54:39):
you can take care of whateverneeds to be taken care of.
Planning on the front side is alot better than hiring
attorneys and figuring it on thebackside.
Speaker 1 (54:48):
Yeah, cause that ties up a lot.
Speaker 2 (54:50):
And keeping it updated.
When you have major lifechanges, you know whether you
bought property, sold property,you've lost a spouse.
Just update it, keep it updated.
Speaker 1 (55:03):
I might take you out at some point.
Take you out of mine.
Speaker 2 (55:07):
I'll probably take myself out because I'm probably
going to kick Well.
Speaker 1 (55:13):
I know that's not the most fun topic to talk about,
but if it's something youhaven't done, you need to do it
and I'm glad, like I said, we'vebeen meaning to do ours for
like 10, 12 years at least, Idon't know and it took us this
long to get it done.
Yeah, I've nagged you for like12 years.
Yeah, it's just been so.
It was so much simpler than Ithought and it wasn't as weird
(55:34):
as I thought it would be to doit it weirded me out the first
time it did.
Speaker 2 (55:38):
It depressed me the first time.
It didn't mean, I was just likenow.
Speaker 1 (55:41):
Now it doesn't, I'm like, yeah, take them out, add
them in to me it was more justlike business, like I don't know
, like, yeah, do this, do that,I don't care no, and I mean, you
know if you have time, you knowwhen you're before you pass,
like my mother did.
Speaker 2 (56:02):
You know she had a little bit of time so she could
have given things, she couldhave made decisions, but we all
don't have that time.
You know, I could kill overwith a heart attack or die in a
car, we don't know, right.
So I think it's really good tohave it yeah.
Speaker 1 (56:20):
It's true?
All right.
Well, we're going to leave youon that note, so call up someone
and get your will done.
Speaker 2 (56:27):
I guess what a great way to Happy.
Speaker 1 (56:28):
Tuesday what a great way to leave you off.
But no, it is important.
It's important to talk about,and you never know, and you
think here's the thing, youthink your family is going to do
the right thing, but you neverknow what the situation is going
to be at the time.
And you never know who is goingto be.
(56:50):
Step up and be the greedy one.
Or you know, you just neverknow.
You never know how people aregoing to respond.
Speaker 2 (56:59):
Money brings out the worst in people and you know,
sometimes you can pinpoint whoit's going to be.
And the one thing is, is mywhole family, my entire extended
family, even people not in ourfamily, literally came up to me
(57:19):
and said I hope you have a goodattorney because she is going to
screw you over?
Yeah, and I'm the fool.
No, she wouldn't do that.
Yeah, no, she loves me too muchto do something like that.
Let me tell you what she lovesthe dollar.
Speaker 1 (57:42):
Yeah, she loved the dollar a little more.
She loves the dollar.
Speaker 2 (57:45):
Yeah, she loved the dollar a little more than you,
the dollar.
Speaker 1 (57:47):
She loved you a little bit, but she loved that
money a lot more she loved me alittle bit, but she loved that
money a lot of it.
Speaker 2 (57:54):
Yeah, and you know what?
Listen, I was brought up.
I just want everybody to know,stephen did not fight anybody
for any money, nor did Wesley.
We were both of us were not.
We were brought up make yourown way, make your own money, do
your own thing and you don'tfight over dead people's money.
(58:16):
And Wesley and I, wesley well,wesley's mother he didn't, he
was a minor at the time, but youknow, walked away and that's
what I did.
You know I, I walked away.
It's not worth it.
You said that.
You said if I had been 18 itwould have been a different.
Speaker 1 (58:38):
I wouldn't have walked away today because I have
a different.
I'm not going to fight overyour money, but I'm going to
fight you because you're doingwrong.
Speaker 2 (58:48):
Well, that's what you said about my aunt.
You said don't fight her forthe money, but tie it up and
just let just spend all of it inattorney's fees.
Yeah, that's mine, that's myfamily that had that perspective
, but then at some point you'relike, I'm not dealing with that.
Speaker 1 (59:09):
I'm not harboring the anxiety and the hate and the
negativity and at the end of theday, my love and respect for my
grandparents and my mother.
Speaker 2 (59:20):
You know they worked so hard to acquire that money.
I mean, they worked hard.
They had a lot of money, butthey worked.
I mean sweeping floors in themail.
I don't even know how theyaccumulated what they had and I
couldn't disrespect that.
Yeah, it was better for me towalk away.
(59:40):
Wow, I mean, I still would.
Every now and then I want toslap a bitch.
It's true.
Me to walk away, well, I mean,I still would love.
Every now and then I'm going toslap a bitch, but it's true.
But you know.
Speaker 1 (59:49):
Okay, all right, we're going to wrap this baby up
.
That's all the time we have fortoday.
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You can leave comments.
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I put in the little clips.
I'll put in your little bowpillow you talked about.
I sent it.
You'll have to send me that.
I did.
Oh good, I'll have that.
Speaker 2 (01:00:29):
And if you guys have a wheel story, tell us about it.
Speaker 1 (01:00:33):
Oh yeah, Because you know there's some good story.
Speaker 2 (01:00:39):
You know, some people do some quirky ass things in
their wheels and I may throwsomething in there real bizarre
too.
You should Just something weirdas hell, I know.
But if you have any of thosestories, tell us about it.
Yeah, because there's somepeople that do some weird things
Like you have to do this orthis, yeah, or if you do this,
(01:01:02):
this happens, yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:01:05):
You know what that is A controlling person?
Speaker 2 (01:01:08):
Well, my attorney put something in mind that I liked
and I had nothing to do with it.
Yeah, I did not ask.
But then they did it and I said, huh, I kind of like that.
It was in my first will andit's in my second will and
basically he put in there if youcan test, if anyone can test my
(01:01:29):
wheel, whatever you were inthere to get, you get nothing.
Speaker 1 (01:01:35):
That's a good.
That, to me, is Act right.
This is what you get.
Speaker 2 (01:01:41):
This is the way I wanted it.
You're going to get what you'regoing to get and shut up yeah,
that act.
Right.
This is what you get.
This is the way I wanted it.
You're going to get what you'regoing to get and shut up yeah,
that's right.
Speaker 1 (01:01:47):
All right, We'll see you next week.
Thanks y'all, Bye y'all.
We're back for another episode of who's Driving
, and someone was late.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
I was a little bit, I mean.
I just wanted to point that out.
Well, I knew you had thingsgoing on and my things were
going on too.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
Welcome to who's Driving.
I'm Wesley Turner and I'mStephen Merck.
We're two best friends andentrepreneurs.
Who's Driving is anentertaining look into the
behind the scenes of our lives,friendship and businesses.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
These are the stories we share and topics we discuss,
as two best friends would on along road trip.
Speaker 1 (00:31):
Along the way, we'll check in with friends and offer
a wide range of informativetopics centered around running
small businesses, social mediaand all things home and garden.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
Buckle up and enjoy the ride.
You never know who's driving orwhere we're headed.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
All we know is it's always a fun ride.
I haven't seen you all weekendeither.
You were out just gallivantingaround.
I was busy.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
I was showing houses.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Oh, good, good, I wanted to pick up at some point
from last week.
I have a couple more thingsfrom our inbox or hotline that
people messaged me about.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
Oh, and I got a message today from one of our
favorite customers.
Oh, I consider her a friend atthis point.
But, she texts me to terrorizeme with something.
What kind of something?
Well, it wasn't a nudie oranything Cause that would have
(01:27):
terrorized you.
She knows that I'm not a bigpersonally, a big bow person.
Uh huh, she sent me this pillow.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
Is this something I can put in the?
Oh, you need that.
I can see that right in yourloft.
It is so bad I'll have to putit in our members only community
.
You'll have to send me that.
See what?
Speaker 2 (01:52):
Steven does.
My response was oh my God, thatis disgusting.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
Oh my gosh, those are a thing.
Oh my gosh, bows are a thing.
I mean, we went to the Atlantamarket last week, since we've
done a podcast and we did a livesale From there.
We did three, but I meant topoint out or maybe I did there
were several more bow thingsalong the way.
Everything has a damn bow on itand you know what the new thing
(02:21):
is.
So this will be in mark my word, mark my word.
You're going to start seeing itin home decor, just like the
bows.
But the new things you see over, newer things you see over in
the apparel or accessory thingis cherries.
Oh oh God, cherries are, Idon't know what the cherry trend
(02:42):
is.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
Oh God, I didn't have on my headset.
I'm sitting here like Can youhear me?
Speaker 1 (02:47):
I feel like I'm driving without a seatbelt you
are, and I didn't even notice.
Cherries are everywhere in theaccessories, keychains on
sweatshirts, just cherries, andnow it's two cherries.
I feel like there has to besome kind of like, some kind of
message behind it and I feellike I know it's something
(03:11):
naughty and I don't know why,like 20 years ago, it was
naughty, it was yeah Okay,because people were doing those
big latex cutout cherries ontheir cars.
What Like stickers?
Yeah, what did that mean I?
(03:33):
don't know, but it was somethingnodding.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Yeah, I think I had an employee that had cherries on
a car and it said somethinglike luscious.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
Oh's what I think, like, yeah, like, yeah, yeah,
stripper.
Yeah, there's something behindthe chair.
Yeah, we got to figure it outthough.
So, if you know, maybe you havea teenager, because I feel like
it's in a younger, you have ateenager.
Uh, that's into cherries.
Let us know on our hotlinehopefully.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
What's the?
Speaker 1 (04:05):
what the new?
Maybe they just think it's cute.
Eight six.
Our hotline number is eight six, four nine.
Eight two, five zero two nine.
Or if you're in our membersonly community, scroll down to
the bottom.
You can leave a comment.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
I'd like to know, like I hope it's something a
little more wholesome, becausethey're everywhere probably not,
but watch, they'll be on stuffin home decor probably by july.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
Canisters, canisters.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
Yeah, there are little trays, little trays, I'm
not I'm don't say you're notbecause they're gonna sell and
we're no, I will sell them.
You will not see them in myhome, I mean, but you, you know,
you don't see bows either.
But I'll sell a bow, that'sright.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
Yeah, I mean, everyone has their own look, so
that's fine.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
And and honestly, I think bows are cute.
If you're a teenage girl orlittle girl or whatever, bows
are cute.
I think if you, if you come tomy home and you saw a bow, it's
just going to look stupid, itwould.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Yeah, Especially if anybody knows you.
Yeah, it would be like what thehell?
Who left that?
Speaker 2 (05:09):
here Are you babysitting now, Like it
wouldn't fit.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Oh my gosh.
So last week we mentionedbriefly, you know, someone had
recommended that we besubstitute teachers.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
Just for two weeks.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
And I got so many people responding to that they
were like oh my gosh, I cannotimagine.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
like Stephen going and being a substitute teacher.
You know I would be like shutthe blank.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
Yeah, it would not be .
And then they were like then Ihad people, several.
They were like I was a teacherand I wouldn't even substitute
teach.
Nowadays I'm like, no, Icouldn't do that week to get to.
(06:00):
It kind of goes back to youknow your weirdness and
obscenities and all that sort ofthing about using the bathroom
in a litter box, sort of thing.
Speaker 2 (06:14):
Well, that wasn't me.
That was a crazy person onInstagram.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
Some things you just don't talk about, you just
pretend they don't exist in theworld and you move on.
But this person wrote in andsaid that a furries convention
came to Pittsburgh and some ofthem asked the hotels to provide
litter boxes.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
Funny, you bring that up because, probably 10 years
ago-ish, and you know, listen,about 10 years ago-ish.
And you know, listen, ifthere's something weird out
there, you know, and y'all knowme at this point, I'm going to
know about it.
I have read about it orsomething.
Yeah, so about 10 years ago,wesley and I were at Market in
(07:01):
Atlanta.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
We had gone.
I think it was in between majormarkets.
It was a small market, or itwas at the end of a market, I
can't remember it was Market.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
There were not a lot of Market people there.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
There were none left by the time we were there.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
And so we go strolling through the lobby and
I remember where we were at theHyatt Regency and these people
walked by in a group and theyhad ears and tails.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
And Wesley said what in the world?
And I said, oh my gosh, I knowwhat this is.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
I know I think I said what in the hell is going on?
Speaker 2 (07:42):
here and I said I think I know what this is.
I'm going to talk to them.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
Yes, oh my gosh, that is when we needed the
microphone.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
So I, we should look it up and I didn't know the
details of it.
I had a former God I've had avery interesting life.
God, I've had a veryinteresting life.
I had a former roommate wayback college days that was kind
of into the furry roommate thingStraight, straight roommate,
(08:15):
okay, kind of into the furrything before it was a thing and
I just was like, oh okay, youknow, like bunny costumes and
stuff, it's his girlfriend.
Seriously, I'm not making it up.
So I knew a little bit aboutthat.
But then I had read about this.
(08:36):
I went and talked to them.
Speaker 1 (08:38):
Oh, he went strolling right up.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
I was like I need to know all about this, yeah, and
so they're into different thingsand, like some people, are into
having a tail not having a tail.
They're attracted to peoplewith tails, full costume, and
now I think it has gotten to thepoint to where they're using
(09:04):
litter box.
Speaker 1 (09:06):
It goes the whole spectrum so it can be, I think,
sort of innocent-ish.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
Like bedroom play.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
You just like dressing up, but then it goes
all the way to the bedroomLitter box.
And then beyond.
So we haven't run into that.
I wonder if they have thatevery year.
Speaker 2 (09:30):
You know, I am really really good if I never run into
that again but it would be.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
We ran into the cause to the cot.
Speaker 2 (09:39):
What was it?
Speaker 1 (09:40):
cosplay which is kind of a comic yeah, dress up,
comic dress up, and that too cango from just more innocent to
well, that was pretty, that wasway more out there.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
The cosplay convention.
So when we're at markets,especially in atlanta, but even
in dallas, it wouldn't surpriseme if we ran into anywhere.
They have big.
They have big conventions.
You never know what you'regoing to roll up in the middle
of.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
Yeah, every time we're at even in July at the
market or January, the bigmarkets there's usually some
other conventions going on atthe hotel that we stay at, Like
when we're at the Marriott andthat sort of thing, and like
this last time when we werethere in January, it ended up
being the national championshipfootball game, national
(10:29):
championship, so all thefootball players.
You just never know what you'regoing to run into.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
And Dylan and I took my nephew to.
He wanted to go to New YorkCity for his high school
graduation gift.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
Yeah, y'all did that last summer.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
Last summer gift.
Yeah, y'all did that lastsummer.
Last summer and we rolled up,there was like we had like a two
and a half week window betweenmy schedule and his schedule
that we could go, so it reallywe had to go, yeah and um.
So I booked it and after Ibooked it I realized, oh my gosh
, it's gay pride in new yorkcity well and I don't have a
(11:05):
problem with you, do you dowhatever but I had never been in
New York during a gay pride,and here I am taking my innocent
little nephew, small town, toNew York City for gay pride New
York City for gay pride.
So, needless to say, he sawmore ass and breast than you can
(11:29):
possibly imagine and it wasquite comical.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
But you know he was graduating, he needed to see
some of the real world.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
Yeah, he did.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
It was I'm like.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
He's going to be seeing a lot more than that.
I'm like this is it, buddy,this is it, you know, and he we
laughed a lot, you know.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
Yeah, but it's the world we live in.
But going back to the furries,can you imagine working at a
hotel and then getting asked toprovide litter boxes?
Speaker 2 (12:00):
I would have said hell, no, because who's going to
clean that up?
Speaker 1 (12:03):
That is something you bring on your own and take it
with you.
Yeah, that's true.
So I had someone write in and Iprinted it off, because this is
kind of funny.
Okay, randomly enough, I don'twant to out this person, but
this is the same person thatwrote you about the dirty diaper
(12:26):
in the freezer.
So she said I have more.
This is something different,though, so she said here's a
good one.
When I was in college, I likethis person.
Speaker 2 (12:43):
I really like you.
I want you to know that youhave the stories like I do, and
I like it.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
Right and see, we need to get some of you who have
these stories and we need tocall you, like we did with the
hitchhiking stories.
We need to wrap back around andget on a schedule and call some
of our it's circle back, circleback, wrap back around,
whatever.
Circle back, start over, circleback around and call some
(13:18):
people, cause we got lots of youlistening and I know there's
lots of good stories.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
Well, we should have known there was some we should
have known there was some peopleon here with some real whacked
up histories behind them, ifthey're listening to this all
the time.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
Right, you know, if they relate to us, yeah, they're
a little messed up too, right,exactly.
So when I was in college, thisis what the person wrote in, not
me, this person.
When I was in college, this iswhat the person wrote in, not me
, this person.
When I was in college, unnamedfraternity members stole a
(13:53):
cadaver from the science lab andmoved it down to Potter's Pond,
placed it on a beach towel witha hat and sunglasses.
Morning walkers found the body.
Exclamation point Funny whenyou're a kid, but not funny if
(14:14):
you are the university.
Who wants to donate a body tothe school for educational
purposes.
If you might end up stolen outof the building, you should have
seen the police activity oncampus that day.
Oh my God, like nowadays.
You would be kicked out ofschool.
You would be arrested and seeback.
Then they probably didn't havethe cameras that they do
(14:35):
nowadays.
They would have found out whodid it.
That's a great story, but thenyou kind of feel bad for the
cadaver.
Speaker 2 (14:43):
I mean, if you're donating it, you're good yeah.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
That person.
Speaker 2 (14:49):
The personality of that person would be like hell,
yeah, that was a good ride.
I mean, that was a good lastride.
Yeah, that's true.
I mean I might donate my bodyif I knew I was going to end up
like on the beach, you know, ina hat and sunglasses or
something.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
So this listener said you should ask your podcast
listeners for the funnieststories they can remember from
college.
I bet there are some good ones,so tell us your funny college
stories.
You can remain anonymous, wewon't tell on you.
You can text us or call us onour hotline 864-982-5029.
(15:29):
It's down in the show notes orif you're in the members only
community you can contact, youcan email me through there as
well or put it in the commentsthere.
If you don't mind, We'll talkabout it.
Speaker 2 (15:40):
We may even call you because it would be good, that's
a good one.
That is a good one.
And I, you know I don't havethat many great college stories,
but I do from high school.
Like one of the senior prankswhen I was in high school I mean
, this would be, I, this wouldthere's.
I don't even know what they doto you nowadays, but the uh,
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some people that will remainnameless took a Playboy magazine
and cut the faces out and gluedteachers' faces.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
Now you could Photoshop it.
You wouldn't even have to cutit out.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
And then they photocopied it and then they put
quotes in.
They put what teacher it wasand put quotes in, and my
spanish teacher.
I'll never forget hers.
I have this somewhere.
Um, and one of my teachers madecopies for me and we're friends
(16:43):
on facebook.
That's funny.
She was young at the time.
I need to message her about thatum so like my spanish teacher
said her said yo soy picante,which means I'm spicy.
So in spanish class that day wewere having to make sentences
up for homework.
And of course you know me, yeah, it gets to steven to make
(17:04):
sentences up for homework.
And of course you know me, yeah, it gets to Steven to make up,
you know.
And she's writing the sentenceon the board.
So we can.
Everybody has to translate itto Spanish.
And I said I made spicy breadand the whole class just bust
out laughing and she just saidI'll see you after class.
(17:26):
I was like, okay, I didn't getin trouble.
Everybody, they really liked me, so I really didn't get in
trouble.
Speaker 1 (17:35):
I can see you talking your way out of.
Speaker 2 (17:37):
I was like what?
What are you talking about?
Spicy bread like Mexican bread?
What?
Speaker 1 (17:45):
She was like mm-hmm oh my goodness.
Speaker 2 (17:51):
But you know, and it's funny, you're talking about
way back when and how you getaway with things.
I was watching a video onInstagram.
It made me think, do youremember?
And this is what it was talkingabout kids.
You used to see kids and Allthe time Like there was always.
(18:11):
I still see kids when you werein grammar school, elementary
school, there was alwaysmultiple kids with broken arms,
broken legs, all kinds of littleinjuries.
Yeah, you don't really see thatthat much anymore because we've
made everybody so soft now.
Speaker 1 (18:27):
Oh, you know, think about it, you know, when I was
growing up we rode in the backof pickup trucks, I mean didn't
think anything On yourfour-wheeler, which was
three-wheelers back then.
Speaker 2 (18:39):
Didn't think anything about it.
I mean we drank water out of agarden hose.
Speaker 1 (18:45):
Yeah, I know we did that and see, we grew up in the
country, so definitely in ourschool.
I mean my brother, I think hebroke, I don't know, I'd have to
ask my mom.
Like his arm, my middle brother.
(19:10):
He was notorious for like wewould get out for the summer
break and within 48 hours hewould do something that he would
be out of commission the whole.
Something like break acollarbone, break a arm, break a
something, and like all summerhe was laid up.
He was laid up about the timehe'd get repaired.
It was time to go back toschool, isn't that funny?
Speaker 2 (19:29):
oh my gosh.
But you know now everybody's.
So you know in those rememberthe monkey bars at recess and
all that you knocked the hellout of yourself oh my gosh.
You know, people knocked outteeth and broke arms and fell,
and that's what I personallythink.
(19:52):
That's why everybody's so softnow.
Speaker 1 (19:54):
So we made everything a little too protected, a
little too, you know used to.
We had the metal toys like dumptrucks that you'd pinch your
finger in.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
Or cut it off, yeah.
Speaker 1 (20:10):
I can remember.
And now they're like you know,plastic and everything's
protected.
But also things I mean okay, indefense of I don't know who,
I'm defending no one but it'salso the way the culture and
society and the world hasshifted, whereas everything now
is more technology based, likekids are playing with iPads and
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not that we made them, you know,we didn't.
You know what I'm saying Likethat just became the next thing?
Speaker 2 (20:40):
It's ruining them.
Speaker 1 (20:41):
I'm not saying it hasn't.
I'm just saying that things aremore technology based now,
instead of being out and playingand you know, climbing from a
tree, fall down, break your armon the monkey bars.
Break your arm.
Speaker 2 (20:55):
I had tree houses.
I played in the woods.
Oh, we did.
In the creek All day, every day, yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
We did too.
I think I was talking, I don'tknow, with my mom or something,
but like we didn't have a lot ofstuff Like toys, like how kids
like you'll go to someone'shouse and it is just like toys
stacked everywhere, like wedidn't have that.
I mean we had toys and itwasn't like, but not like that,
but we were outside all the time.
I was always trying to find,you know, a turtle or a frog, or
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go to the easter egg hunt so Icould get a free chick or duck,
something like that.
We were talking about that theother night in a live sale.
How I used to love going toEaster egg hunts when I was a
kid, like certain churches woulddo it and you could win like a
baby chick or a baby duck.
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Little Wesley was hunting.
That day I was going to comehome with a chick or a baby duck
.
Little Wesley was hunting.
That day I was going to comehome with it.
Speaker 2 (21:56):
I mean I kept chiggers on my genitals all
summer long.
Speaker 1 (22:01):
I mean I mean what?
From playing in the woods andevery, I mean I kept you know,
all the time with something saythat it doesn't help, but you
would paint fingernail polish onthere, yes, on it, and I mean
it would be all like mom, I needsome fingernail polish.
(22:24):
I got chiggers and you.
You look down there and it'd bepink and red, whatever color
she had everything just paintedall over it.
Speaker 2 (22:33):
Yeah, kids need that.
I mean, I'm sorry if you do nothave a little nail polish on
your scrotum, you've missed out.
You've missed out.
Your childhood was not complete, it's true.
Speaker 1 (23:01):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (23:03):
It is true.
Speaker 1 (23:03):
Okay, well, first of all, you're going to have to
tell some of our listeners whatchiggers are, because not
everyone evidently has them.
Because I've talked about whenwe've been in Hilton Head.
Like you don't want to collectthe Spanish moss, chiggers grow
in there Because there'schiggers in the moss, and then
so many people were like what isa chigger?
Speaker 2 (23:24):
You know, I don't really, I don't know exactly.
Is it?
Speaker 1 (23:28):
a mite.
It's a small mite yes.
Growing up I always learnedthat they like buried in your
skin and I think that's why youwould paint the fingernail
polish on.
That was the thought to paintit because it smothered them out
.
But I think I've heard as anadult they don't actually bury
in your skin.
I think it's just a bite thatitches really bad.
Speaker 2 (23:50):
So it itches so chiggers are just— oh yeah,
they're red.
I remember that.
Speaker 1 (23:53):
They're just red little mites.
They're tiny like, tiny like apin dot size and they grow
typically in very like grassyareas.
Speaker 2 (24:05):
And certain I can't remember.
Is it milkweed?
There's something they grow onlike that that were in like
ditches along the side of theroad.
Yeah, so if you ran throughthere, there's some common weeds
that they grow it is not aninsect.
It is an arachnid, like aspider or a tick, and they are
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parasites?
Speaker 1 (24:29):
yeah, but they don't do that, does it say?
Do they actually bury underyour skin or is it just a bite?
Because that's what I can'tremember.
Speaker 2 (24:36):
Oh, you know where I bet we got them from.
They're on rabbits a lot andyou know we had rabbits.
Speaker 1 (24:43):
But any grass, like tall grass, like a meadow type
place, they're going to be there.
And your Spanish moss.
So if you ever visit, say,charleston, south Carolina or
Hilton Head, somewhere that hasthe gorgeous Spanish moss
growing from the tree, don'tjust walk up and grab that,
because it can have chiggers init and they will bite you and
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you will be itchy.
Speaker 2 (25:06):
They'll be in your crotch.
Speaker 1 (25:08):
They do, and so, if you don't know, they like to go.
I wonder why they are.
I wonder if it's dark areas,warm and moist?
No, but they also get around,like your ankle, where your
socks are.
Speaker 2 (25:21):
It says oh God.
Oh my gosh, that is that is tooWaist, ankles and warm skin
folds.
Yes.
Well, I think they prefer thewarm skin folds the most if you
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know what I'm talking about, andI have very sensitive skin.
No, and I am like mosquitoesand chiggers.
Speaker 1 (25:53):
It was just like they just ate me up and you're so
pale.
Speaker 2 (25:57):
I bet they were just big red, but you know I was not
pale as a child because I wasoutside all the time, so I was
dark.
Speaker 1 (26:05):
So you're saying we've made kids too soft with
these things.
They haven't experiencedAbsolutely the things that you
have an experience, absolutelythe things that you have,
Absolutely, and you know I mean.
Speaker 2 (26:16):
They need to drink some rat juice out of a whale.
They need chiggers on theirgenitals, they need to.
Speaker 1 (26:28):
That word grosses me out by the way Genitals yes.
I feel like cringey.
I would rather you say likepecker.
Yes balls or pecker orsomething I don't know.
Speaker 2 (26:39):
I'm trying, I'm trying to be a little classy, I
guess that's supposed to be theclassy way, but I don't know.
Speaker 1 (26:45):
That doesn't do it for me.
Speaker 2 (26:46):
I don't know, but it is.
I mean, I do think kids, youknow, and we didn't have
seatbelts back in the day, is it?
Speaker 1 (26:53):
too late to warn you that this is a not safe for work
episode Podcast.
Why Can you imagine sitting?
Speaker 2 (27:01):
in your desk.
This is a PSA.
I mean, this is serious stuff.
Listen, if you don't think it'sserious, I am happy to ship you
a box of Spanish moss and youjust roll around in it to let me
know how it goes.
Speaker 1 (27:18):
It's true, that's funny.
Speaker 2 (27:21):
But I used to pick the Spanish.
Well, I kept chiggers, so whoknows where I got it?
Speaker 1 (27:25):
Yeah, I mean that's true?
Oh my goodness, I was about tosay you know, Daniel doesn't
ever get chiggers, but see, hisis.
It's like mowed, and so it'snot tall grass to be walking
through.
No, it's more like woods yeahit's always woods or meadows or,
like you said, ditches.
Speaker 2 (27:44):
Yeah, if you cut through or if you're gathering
like blackberries.
Speaker 1 (27:50):
Something else You're going to end up with the
chiggers.
They haven't done either.
Speaker 2 (27:55):
You something else you're gonna end up with the
chiggers.
You're gonna end up with thechiggers and I don't know why
you keep.
I don't think you can keep fromgetting them I don't think
there's anything you can do likeI don't know it says soap and
water, but I that don't work.
Speaker 1 (28:07):
You better get you some nail polish well, this kind
of leads into something superfunny that I just saw and I
don't know.
This could kind of go alongwith making people or the world
soft.
I don't know.
I don't know how to feel aboutit.
I really don't.
You grew up in the country.
I grew up in the country.
We've been around a lot ofanimals and chickens and that
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sort of thing.
Do you know what the hell I sawon TikTok last night and this
isn't I know it's true becauseit was from a vet, not like
someone making this up, it was avet in their TikTok stories.
Do you know someone had broughtin their rooster and was
(28:54):
getting it neutered?
Did you know?
I didn't even know that was anoption.
Speaker 2 (29:08):
I want to kill that person.
Okay, that brings out homicidalfeelings in me.
Speaker 1 (29:18):
So they were saying you know, if you've never grown
up or had chickens and you get arooster sometimes not all
roosters, but some roosters canbe aggressive towards you
Because they're going to protecttheir, their ladies, uh.
And then sometimes it can beseasonal where they're more
aggressive and then not, like wehad one a few years ago when I
(29:41):
had.
Every time I would just walkinto the chicken coop to even
feed them, it would just comecharging towards me trying to.
I would kick that thing one day.
Speaker 2 (29:50):
It made me, so mad I was like I'm going to kill you,
we had, my grandparents had oneactually, and it was satan, yeah
, and I would.
Grandma would give me scraps togo like pour out in the edge of
the woods and that damn thingwould see me and come charging
(30:11):
at me and I would be screamingbecause I, when I was really
little, I called my grandmotherma, yeah and I would scream I'm
gonna tell ma on you, I wastalking to this rooster and it
was so and everybody would laugh, because they were laughing at
me screaming at the rooster.
(30:32):
I'm'm going to tell Ma on you,and I would try to run, but then
I would have to turn around andkick at it.
Speaker 1 (30:37):
Yeah, because when you turn your back and run,
that's when they charge more andthey hurt, and so you got about
the time they catch up with you.
You got to turn around realquick and they'll kind of stop
and then you kind of kick atthem and cuss at them, yeah.
So funny story.
I had one when I was a kid.
That was just a holy terror tooand my mamaw would bring scraps
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like that that's a countrything, I guess.
From the table Scraps Uh-huhOut to the chickens, like it
might be old lettuce or whatever, and she'd bring scraps to the
dogs whatever.
And she was outside bringingscraps one time in this rooster,
I mean it just like you'retalking about, would just tear
you up.
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Well, my mom was out there,like you know, talking to her,
and then she's like, oh, I'mgonna go give the scraps.
So she went and did that andcame back and my mom had started
like weeding the um flower bedor something, and that rooster
came up and was just attackingmy mom because she was been over
or about to attack her, I don'tknow and my mom took she had
(31:45):
the frying pan but the cast ironskillet and just hit the
rooster I would have loved everybit of that.
Speaker 2 (31:54):
I'm like, oh my God.
Speaker 1 (31:56):
Did it kill the rooster?
You can't kill those things.
Speaker 2 (31:59):
The mean ones.
I'm telling you.
They are the spawn of Satan.
Speaker 1 (32:04):
No, but a few days later that rooster was missing
and then we had chicken.
No, I'm just kidding, it wasmissing.
But what she would do?
There would be this otherlittle country house and it was
next to a church and they alwayshad chickens in their yard just
free-ranging.
So she got that in her car andthen drove up to the church and
then just tossed the rooster out.
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So it would go right next doorto all those and for the longest
time we would drive by becauseit was on the way from our house
to town and there'd be ourrooster out there in the yard
just protecting them.
Speaker 2 (32:36):
I was terrified of that rooster.
Speaker 1 (32:39):
Yeah, I mean terrified.
So back to getting themneutered.
So not all roosters, but someof them will become aggressive
like that and very protective,and usually I feel like it's if
you have multiple ones it's likewhatever the dominant one and
I'm sure it's per breed and thatsort of thing too.
So someone had taken theirs tothe vet because they love this
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rooster but he was a little tooaggressive so they were going to
.
I had no idea that was even apossibility, that that's
ridiculous.
Speaker 2 (33:20):
If you've got a problem that if the rooster is
that big of a problem, youneeded to have him for Sunday
dinner.
It was time for some friedchicken.
Speaker 1 (33:32):
I'm just like, oh my gosh.
Speaker 2 (33:36):
It's crazy, and you know, geese can be just like
that.
Speaker 1 (33:42):
A mean goose.
Geese are naturally moreprotective too.
They're good watchdogs.
Speaker 2 (33:49):
But I've had them where they would almost just.
It looked like they werespinning wheels up from like the
pond to attack.
Speaker 1 (33:57):
Don't talk too bad about them.
I want to get geese, and thenDaniel will be like I'm scared
of the geese.
These are sweet.
We have wild geese and they'resweet.
They're like pets.
It's the same ones come backevery year.
They just showed up a few weeksago, maybe like a month ago,
and they'll be here.
They'll usually have babies andleave, I think around june or
something, and then we won't seethem again until next year.
Speaker 2 (34:19):
well, every time I get out of my car you know if
it's not cold, if it's pretty ornot raining I go down and I say
, oh, hey, babies, and all theanimals come up so I can pet
them.
And the geese even come, thedamn wild geese.
Speaker 1 (34:35):
They do.
And I know it's the same twothat come back every year
because they immediately likewhen I go out there, they'll
come up.
Or when I go out there to feedthe other animals, they'll come
up and they'll snack some oftheir food too.
If it was different ones, itwould take them a while to like.
Speaker 2 (34:54):
Oh, no, it's like they immediately.
They're always friendly, andhow long can a goose?
Speaker 1 (35:01):
how long do geese live, though, I wonder?
Let's look that up, cause I'mlike we've been here, I don't
know, almost nine years, andit's been like the same geese
and you know, finally, we'verealized the emus that I gave
you.
Speaker 2 (35:15):
They are elmer and elvira.
Right it is.
There is an elvira, yeah, whichis good to know, um, and she's
not as friendly as elmer I mustsay the well she's not mean, so
let's not give her she she's notmean no, no, no, no, no, no,
but Elmer comes up Immediately,Immediately, for you to pet and
(35:36):
love her.
Speaker 1 (35:37):
She's a little more standoffish, but she doesn't
attack.
She's not mean, but if you goin the fence you can pet her too
.
I've never, you just have tolike reach out to her and for us
.
Speaker 2 (35:50):
you know my cousins on the farm the meanest and
they're wild.
You know they're wild, but themeanest they are are just we'll
peck you.
Speaker 1 (36:02):
But it doesn't hurt.
Yeah Well, you know, you seethe ones on social media and
people you know they play thatup and that sort of thing and
kind of give them a.
Is that one still on socialmedia?
What was that?
Oh my God, geese can live up to20 years.
Oh well, good, who knew?
I never had any that old.
(36:23):
They all get eaten uh, there aresome species that can live um
up to 30 years dang, I'm gonnabe sad when those stop showing
up one day, though every yearI'm like I wonder if they'll
come back.
Like wouldn't you like to havea tracker on those geese and see
where they go?
Speaker 2 (36:41):
we used to have a.
I think I told you this we hada homing pigeon.
Um, funny story.
We had a neighbor lived acrossthe street from my grandparents,
miss Huckins, and she was fromNew York, so she kind of didn't
understand all this country shit, you know.
And she was in the yard doingher flower she had beautiful
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flower beds and the pigeonlanded on her head.
You can't make this up.
She reached up and grabbed itand called my grandfather to
come get it.
We, we tagged that pigeon.
Yeah, this was my entertainment, this is how sad we were in the
country, but I loved it.
We tagged that pigeon and wewould drive everywhere you know
(37:30):
you can imagine hours away andlet the pigeon out, and you, you
know, sometimes it would beatus home that is crazy Pigeons
Like don't you wonder, like howdo they know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (37:43):
there has to be some kind of they have a natural GPS
in there.
I know.
But like, is it magnetic?
Like what is it that draws?
They have to know like it's not, like a pigeon can just ride in
a car.
It's not looking out the windowand going oh, we went left, we
went right, we went left.
You know what I'm saying?
It's how do they instinctivelyknow?
Speaker 2 (38:05):
It says, homing pigeons navigate their way back
home using a combination ofvisual landmarks, a map, sense
of their surrounding area and aninternal compass believed to be
linked to the Earth's magneticfield, allowing them to orient
themselves in the rightdirection when released in
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unfamiliar locations.
Speaker 1 (38:29):
Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
It'd have to be something likethat.
Speaker 2 (38:32):
Locations yeah, that's what I'm saying.
It'd have to be something likethat.
Essentially, they imprint ontheir future home loft during
their early development,creating a strong instinct to
return to that specific place.
Isn't that random?
I wouldn't believe it if Ididn't do it myself.
Speaker 1 (38:46):
Yeah, but that was entertainment, that would have
been my kind of entertainment, Iwould have had that pigeon
everywhere.
Speaker 2 (38:54):
Well, and at first Stephen was not down for it
because I didn't want my pigeongone.
Oh yeah, I should get somepigeons.
Pigeons are fun.
That's what I could put outthere in the chicken coop I love
.
And the fantails are beautiful,they are beautiful, I love
those, I love those.
The fantails are beautiful,they are beautiful, I love those
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, I love those.
So we used to say I need thaton my porch.
We would buy and sell those atthe flea market.
Speaker 1 (39:21):
Let's go to, let's take a trip to the flea market.
I've been wanting to.
We gotta wait to a nice springday.
We're gonna load up onsomething, I don't know what
it's gonna be.
Speaker 2 (39:34):
We're gonna load up on something.
I don't know what it's gonna be.
We're gonna load up onsomething to terrorize daniel.
Uh-huh, be like honey, we need.
We need like a goose that'sgonna chase him around the field
.
Speaker 1 (39:41):
Right, beat the shit out of him that's why I was like
you can't talk about geesebecause he'll be like uh-uh,
don't bring those near me well,I I'm going to tell you it took
a while Now with the emus he'sfine.
He'll go in the pasture withthem, but he is like if those
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things get out, don't call me tocome get them.
He's like I ain't going to havenothing to do with them.
Okay, funny story about littleDaniel.
He grew up in the suburbs ofCharlotte and in a neighborhood.
Speaker 2 (40:20):
This boy.
He's not really soft, thoughyou have to give it to him
because he's a hard workeroutside and he works on the farm
.
He's not soft like that.
Speaker 1 (40:28):
But he was not exposed to a lot of things.
One time before we moved to thefarm he had never been around
cats at all A cat.
I guess his dad was allergicand he says he's allergic.
I know, Daniel, you're saying Iam allergic, but anyway, it's
to be determined, Although hehad an allergy test 25 years ago
(40:50):
and he said he was allergic.
It said he was allergic, butanyway I digress.
Any whoosie.
I got a little 25 years ago andhe said he was allergic.
It said he was allergic, butanyway I digress.
Any whoosie.
I got a little kitten at ourold house and he was terrified
of this little kitten.
Speaker 2 (41:04):
Oh, I remember that.
Speaker 1 (41:05):
And then when it got, you know, we had it I don't
know, maybe a week, two weeks orsomething, and it came running
through the house and it climbedup our curtains.
He's like, ah, cats got to go,cats got to go.
It wasn't the fact that it wasgoing to like damage the
curtains or anything like that,it freaked him out that it could
climb like that.
He was like cats got to go.
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So I had to get give the cat toa new home and then we moved to
the farm, you know, and he gotmore used.
It came with cats and then hegot used to them and we've had
several kittens since then andhe's fine.
But it's funny how not beingexposed to even a cat, but and I
guess I take all that forgranted because you grew up with
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it, so it was second natureyeah, I mean it was just there.
so that's why, with like theemus and stuff he's like and I
could see him with geese beinglike they're going to attack but
they really not all of them do.
Speaker 2 (42:00):
And like you talk about not having toys and stuff,
and I mean I had toys.
Let's face it, I was an onlychild.
I had rights.
I had stuff, but that is notwhat I loved.
Speaker 1 (42:13):
I know that wasn't, that didn't entertain me as much
.
No, Like I enjoy unless it wassomething that did something
with animals.
Speaker 2 (42:23):
Like.
I remember how, in the spring,I love to take a rabbit gum.
I had a rabbit gum at mygrandparents.
What is that A trap?
It's called a rabbit gum.
I had a rabbit gum at mygrandparents.
What is that A trap, it'scalled a rabbit gum you should
know that we called them arabbit gum and I would take that
(42:43):
down to.
We had a huge garden, probablythree acres.
You're going to catch you arabbit, and I did.
I would catch one every time,it was just so fun.
Just what did you do with it?
It was just so fun, just let itgo, put it in a cage and play
with it a while and then turn itloose.
Just you know, after you'vedone it caught it.
I mean that was the fun.
(43:04):
It was the fun catching it.
Yeah, you know, it's not like Iwas eating them or anything
like that, but yeah it's.
I think it's really sad, likekids that don't experience stuff
like that.
The nature part I rememberbeing in New York city one time.
Speaker 1 (43:23):
Can you imagine growing up just in the city and
never being exposed?
Speaker 2 (43:27):
This was probably 30 years ago I was in New York.
You are old, now I am old and Iwas in going.
You are old now I am old and Iwas walking through Central Park
.
Speaker 1 (43:37):
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2 (43:38):
And it said that they were having a petting zoo.
They had a petting zoo broughtin in New York and I was like,
how cool is that?
You know, I wanted to go to thepetting zoo.
Speaker 1 (43:51):
Right.
Speaker 2 (43:52):
So I go to the petting zoo, uh-huh, mm-mm-mm,
it was like goats and cows.
It was like basic and cows, itwas like basic ass stuff.
And I was so mad because I'mlike what in the hell You're
advertising petting zoo?
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But I had never thought.
Those kids in New York City donot, unless they drive out to
the country.
You know they can drive northin New York and they're in the
country.
Speaker 1 (44:26):
But that's like I mean for them, that's a trip.
Speaker 2 (44:29):
That's a vacation, yeah.
Speaker 1 (44:31):
Going out but they don't get to see that, I know.
Isn't it crazy?
Because for us a goat, a cow,that's like seeing a dog, you
know, like that's just oh yeah.
That is crazy.
It is funny when you thinkabout think back about it.
(44:51):
Okay, we have a little bit moretime, so I think we need to do
a little.
I was thinking about this today.
I meant to mention this to you,so you might not be down to
discuss this, but we're going todiscuss it.
No, it's a little PSA.
I think we need to do a littlePSA because you just got your
will updated and Daniel and Ijust got a will done as well, we
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got to sign it.
So, something happens betweennow and then, the will is legit
or whatever, and it kind of goesback to my stepmom, your aunt,
what happened to us, and wewon't get into all the details,
but if you haven't got, danieland I had never done a wheel.
And what made me think aboutthis is tomorrow is the
(45:35):
anniversary of when my dadpassed away, and so I was like
God, is it?
Speaker 2 (45:41):
And do you always remember that?
Because you've never pointedthat out?
Yeah, so it was the month ofyour birthday.
Speaker 1 (45:48):
Yeah, march 10 is when he passed away.
Speaker 2 (45:51):
That is a date drilled in your head.
Yes, we've never discussed this.
Speaker 1 (45:57):
We haven't.
Never, you've never brought up,and it's funny my oldest
brother's birthday is March 8th,and I'm sure I remember more
than because it was in mybirthday month, maybe I don't
know, it just stuck in my head Iguess.
Well, it's kind of a big event,yeah, march 8th.
And then my dad passed away onMarch 10th and my birthday is
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March 30th or whatever.
So I don't know why Some yearsI don't think about it until
after.
I'm like, oh, you know, it'spassed or whatever, um sort of
thing.
Uh, but I was thinking aboutthat somehow.
I looked at the date, was like,oh, tomorrow's the day my dad
passed away and, um, theimportance because we've made
(46:38):
fun or laughed or joked about mystepmom and your aunt, the
importance of having your wheeldone and things the way you want
it, you want it, and Daniel andI have never done one until now
.
It's been something we, I'msure like if you don't have one
have probably thought about.
And you're like, oh, every yearwe say, oh, we're going to do
(46:59):
that.
And then we're like, well,let's wait till January, when
things are slow, and then we'lldo it.
And then January passes, it'sanother year.
Da, da, da da.
But we did it and it was supersimple, like I just thought it
was going to be more.
It can be as complicated as youwant it, that's true.
Speaker 2 (47:17):
And it can be extremely simple.
Speaker 1 (47:20):
But at least do one extremely simple, because it's
better than nothing.
Because, going back to mystepmom, my dad had some things
set up through his work thatwere supposed to go to his kids,
you and your brother.
Yes, with our names on it, butthen he didn't have a wheel, so
my stepmom found a loophole.
(47:41):
I guess you would say Withinthe state.
Yeah, and we never got, youknow, any of our inheritance or
anything like that.
And my you know my dad worked atDuPont and he was.
He had good like insurance andstuff because he was on the
hazmat team.
So she took it.
So now is the time.
(48:02):
Just a little PSA, if youhaven't done it, because I was
surprised at how simple it wasand another thing every state is
different and state laws andregulations override federal
Right.
Speaker 2 (48:18):
So don't ever assume and you have to be very careful
with the verbiage in your wheelthat varies state to state.
So if you google certainverbiage at a, at a federal
level, it's different than at astate.
Yeah, so that that came intoplay with my aunt.
(48:41):
Yeah, and, and basically what?
What it all comes down to isshe manipulated and did not.
It was very clear and obvious.
My grandparents wishes Rightand she manipulated it and
basically stole my mother's part, and I do consider it stealing
(49:04):
Right, like legally.
No, and basically stole mymother's part and I do consider
it stealing Right, like legallyno, Well, and what's crazy.
Speaker 1 (49:10):
so your mom passed away very shortly before your
grandmother passed away.
Speaker 2 (49:18):
Was it Three months?
Three months.
Speaker 1 (49:20):
So if your mom had passed away three months later,
like if your grandmother hadpassed away first, it would have
been completely different.
Oh yeah, is the thing.
So there was a technicality.
And if she had died.
Speaker 2 (49:34):
If they, she died they died just over a hundred
days apart, but if it had beenwithin the hundred days it would
have been different.
But in South Carolina the lawschanged.
So what changed was when mygrandparents did their will in
(49:54):
like 1970.
Right, so in 1970, the will inSouth Carolina, your will
overrode banks.
Well, and they changed the lawin 1987.
The bank's documentationoverrides your will.
(50:16):
So that's very important to knowand that can be a good thing
because, like in every state,your inheritance tax is
different.
For South Carolina I think it's$5 million.
So if you know, if you're astate and listen, you might go
$5 million.
Listen, when you start addingup your assets, you will be
(50:40):
surprised what you come up withLike property, cars, money,
jewelry you'll be surprised whatyou come up with like property,
cars, money, jewelry You'll besurprised.
But the good thing about thatlaw change is you can set
beneficiaries on money, likeyour bank accounts, so that that
is just automatic and it'sseparate from the estate Right.
That that is just automatic andit's separate from the estate
(51:04):
Right.
So, like when my mother passed,we had my name was on all of
the bank accounts and investmentaccounts that did not go
through probate at all.
Yeah, so the only thing thatwent through probate was the
house and car.
That was it.
Speaker 1 (51:22):
Yeah, and made it very simple.
Speaker 2 (51:24):
It made it very simple and it was very simple
anyway because I'm an, was it,yeah, and made it very simple.
It made it very simple and itwas very simple anyway because
I'm an only child, yeah, but youknow it, it's so important and
my will is not very complicated.
But I was very specific withwith things and, and you can, if
you've got a family family likeI do unfortunately not one side
(51:49):
of my family, you know myattorney felt the need to not
only leave them out but also doan intentional disinheritance
clause.
So if, if, well, I meanobviously I'm going to die at
some point, but when I do, it'sin black and white.
Speaker 1 (52:10):
Like you, left them out intentionally, so they
cannot contest it.
Speaker 2 (52:14):
No, Because it's in there.
They can contest it, but theywon't get anything.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (52:18):
So just a little PSA.
Maybe it's time to do your willit.
So just a little PSA.
Maybe it's time to do your will.
Speaker 2 (52:24):
It's not as weird as I thought it would be either,
and you need a health caredirective.
Speaker 1 (52:27):
And you know, or maybe you need to update your
will.
And if you are like veryrelaxed about it, then go ahead,
like, if you are doing a will,go ahead when you're doing it
and line it out for several LikeOK, if we pass away, I want it
to go to so and so, but go aheadand name the next step.
(52:48):
Well, if they've passed away,then I want it to go to their
kids or I want it to go to.
However, go ahead and lay itout, so it just helps out.
Speaker 2 (52:59):
And it's important in my opinion, you can do a will
on your own, you know, onlineand get it notarized.
I personally think it'simportant to have an attorney in
your state.
Look at it, because that whatyou're speaking of.
Right, there is where it canget really, really convoluted,
(53:21):
depending on what state you'rein.
Convoluted, depending on whatstate you're in.
If it's the verbiage, the legaljargon is not correct.
Speaker 1 (53:28):
It doesn't match your state.
Yeah, so you need to go tosomeone that knows in your state
and it's not that expensive.
Speaker 2 (53:34):
It is not To do it at all, it is not.
And you need, you need adorablepower of attorney, yeah.
And so a friend of mine we weretalking about this and you know
she expressed concern becauseher, their investments are all
in his name, yeah.
(53:55):
And I said, well, you know, youreally don't have to worry
about it.
You're in South Carolina, 50%of it is yours.
It's really not a big deal.
And she said, yeah, but what ifwe were on a trip and he went
missing and I couldn't get adeath certificate?
For five years I wouldn't haveaccess to anything.
(54:17):
And I was like, oh shit, you'reright.
And I said, well, that's when,if you have a durable power of
attorney problem solved, onepiece of paper you can sign
anything.
You can do anything.
So you know that's what I hadwith my mother, that's what you
know I have with my godmother.
You know, just have thatdurable power of attorney and
(54:39):
you can take care of whateverneeds to be taken care of.
Planning on the front side is alot better than hiring
attorneys and figuring it on thebackside.
Speaker 1 (54:48):
Yeah, cause that ties up a lot.
Speaker 2 (54:50):
And keeping it updated.
When you have major lifechanges, you know whether you
bought property, sold property,you've lost a spouse.
Just update it, keep it updated.
Speaker 1 (55:03):
I might take you out at some point.
Take you out of mine.
Speaker 2 (55:07):
I'll probably take myself out because I'm probably
going to kick Well.
Speaker 1 (55:13):
I know that's not the most fun topic to talk about,
but if it's something youhaven't done, you need to do it
and I'm glad, like I said, we'vebeen meaning to do ours for
like 10, 12 years at least, Idon't know and it took us this
long to get it done.
Yeah, I've nagged you for like12 years.
Yeah, it's just been so.
It was so much simpler than Ithought and it wasn't as weird
(55:34):
as I thought it would be to doit it weirded me out the first
time it did.
Speaker 2 (55:38):
It depressed me the first time.
It didn't mean, I was just likenow.
Speaker 1 (55:41):
Now it doesn't, I'm like, yeah, take them out, add
them in to me it was more justlike business, like I don't know
, like, yeah, do this, do that,I don't care no, and I mean, you
know if you have time, you knowwhen you're before you pass,
like my mother did.
Speaker 2 (56:02):
You know she had a little bit of time so she could
have given things, she couldhave made decisions, but we all
don't have that time.
You know, I could kill overwith a heart attack or die in a
car, we don't know, right.
So I think it's really good tohave it yeah.
Speaker 1 (56:20):
It's true?
All right.
Well, we're going to leave youon that note, so call up someone
and get your will done.
Speaker 2 (56:27):
I guess what a great way to Happy.
Speaker 1 (56:28):
Tuesday what a great way to leave you off.
But no, it is important.
It's important to talk about,and you never know, and you
think here's the thing, youthink your family is going to do
the right thing, but you neverknow what the situation is going
to be at the time.
And you never know who is goingto be.
(56:50):
Step up and be the greedy one.
Or you know, you just neverknow.
You never know how people aregoing to respond.
Speaker 2 (56:59):
Money brings out the worst in people and you know,
sometimes you can pinpoint whoit's going to be.
And the one thing is, is mywhole family, my entire extended
family, even people not in ourfamily, literally came up to me
(57:19):
and said I hope you have a goodattorney because she is going to
screw you over?
Yeah, and I'm the fool.
No, she wouldn't do that.
Yeah, no, she loves me too muchto do something like that.
Let me tell you what she lovesthe dollar.
Speaker 1 (57:42):
Yeah, she loved the dollar a little more.
She loves the dollar.
Speaker 2 (57:45):
Yeah, she loved the dollar a little more than you,
the dollar.
Speaker 1 (57:47):
She loved you a little bit, but she loved that
money a lot more she loved me alittle bit, but she loved that
money a lot of it.
Speaker 2 (57:54):
Yeah, and you know what?
Listen, I was brought up.
I just want everybody to know,stephen did not fight anybody
for any money, nor did Wesley.
We were both of us were not.
We were brought up make yourown way, make your own money, do
your own thing and you don'tfight over dead people's money.
(58:16):
And Wesley and I, wesley well,wesley's mother he didn't, he
was a minor at the time, but youknow, walked away and that's
what I did.
You know I, I walked away.
It's not worth it.
You said that.
You said if I had been 18 itwould have been a different.
Speaker 1 (58:38):
I wouldn't have walked away today because I have
a different.
I'm not going to fight overyour money, but I'm going to
fight you because you're doingwrong.
Speaker 2 (58:48):
Well, that's what you said about my aunt.
You said don't fight her forthe money, but tie it up and
just let just spend all of it inattorney's fees.
Yeah, that's mine, that's myfamily that had that perspective
, but then at some point you'relike, I'm not dealing with that.
Speaker 1 (59:09):
I'm not harboring the anxiety and the hate and the
negativity and at the end of theday, my love and respect for my
grandparents and my mother.
Speaker 2 (59:20):
You know they worked so hard to acquire that money.
I mean, they worked hard.
They had a lot of money, butthey worked.
I mean sweeping floors in themail.
I don't even know how theyaccumulated what they had and I
couldn't disrespect that.
Yeah, it was better for me towalk away.
(59:40):
Wow, I mean, I still would.
Every now and then I want toslap a bitch.
It's true.
Me to walk away, well, I mean,I still would love.
Every now and then I'm going toslap a bitch, but it's true.
But you know.
Speaker 1 (59:49):
Okay, all right, we're going to wrap this baby up
.
That's all the time we have fortoday.
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I put in the little clips.
I'll put in your little bowpillow you talked about.
I sent it.
You'll have to send me that.
I did.
Oh good, I'll have that.
Speaker 2 (01:00:29):
And if you guys have a wheel story, tell us about it.
Speaker 1 (01:00:33):
Oh yeah, Because you know there's some good story.
Speaker 2 (01:00:39):
You know, some people do some quirky ass things in
their wheels and I may throwsomething in there real bizarre
too.
You should Just something weirdas hell, I know.
But if you have any of thosestories, tell us about it.
Yeah, because there's somepeople that do some weird things
Like you have to do this orthis, yeah, or if you do this,
(01:01:02):
this happens, yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:01:05):
You know what that is A controlling person?
Speaker 2 (01:01:08):
Well, my attorney put something in mind that I liked
and I had nothing to do with it.
Yeah, I did not ask.
But then they did it and I said, huh, I kind of like that.
It was in my first will andit's in my second will and
basically he put in there if youcan test, if anyone can test my
(01:01:29):
wheel, whatever you were inthere to get, you get nothing.
Speaker 1 (01:01:35):
That's a good.
That, to me, is Act right.
This is what you get.
Speaker 2 (01:01:41):
This is the way I wanted it.
You're going to get what you'regoing to get and shut up yeah,
that act.
Right.
This is what you get.
This is the way I wanted it.
You're going to get what you'regoing to get and shut up yeah,
that's right.
Speaker 1 (01:01:47):
All right, We'll see you next week.
Thanks y'all, Bye y'all.
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