September 2, 2025 • 56 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Let me get into place .
Ooh, buckle up.
We in the parking garage today,parked up at the warehouse.
We didn't learn our lesson lastweek, I guess, with the shit
show, but you know what?
Speaker 2 (00:11):
That's the way we roll, but you better hope this
thing don't click off this time,because if it does, I'm kicking
it through that window.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
It's time for another episode of who's Driving.
Welcome to who's Driving.
I'm Wesley Turner.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
And I'm Stephen Merck .
We're two best friends andentrepreneurs.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Who's Driving is an entertaining look into the
behind the scenes of our lives,friendship and business.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
These are the stories we share and topics we discuss,
as two best friends would on along road trip.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
Along the way, we'll check in with friends and offer
a wide range of informativetopics centered around running
small businesses, social mediaand all things home and garden.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
Buckle up and enjoy the ride.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
You never know who's driving or where we're headed.
All we know is it's always afun ride.
So, welcome to September.
Yes, it's Labor Day.
We're coming to you from theNasty Fig Warehouse.
We're coming to you from theNasty Fig Warehouse In case
you're watching and wonderingwhat the hell we're doing,
because we waited to the lastminute to record.
But you know what?
(01:11):
It's September Labor Day.
We got a lot of stuff going on.
It's our.
You know this starts our crazybusy season.
I mean, it's already startedfor fall holiday, all the fun
things.
Small business welcome to theworld.
(01:32):
Yeah, I mean, it was literally.
We've been over there workingdoing our own projects, just the
way it is.
It's the way we roll.
So you got anything to talkabout?
You just want to sit here andlook at them.
Sit here and look at them.
Hey y'all, I got something tostart off right out of the gate,
because you know what, like Imentioned a few times, now it is
September, it is time for apumpkin PSA, it's our annual
(02:01):
reminder Are we going to have apumpkin bath?
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Bubble bath?
Are we going to have a pumpkinbath?
Are we going to have a bubblebath?
Are we going to wash ourpumpkins in the bubble bath?
Speaker 1 (02:10):
It is your reminder that you don't need to wash your
pumpkins in your sink, youdon't need to give them a bubble
bath in your bathtub.
You don't need to do nothing.
Speaker 2 (02:23):
If you do anything, use Clorox wipes.
Use some kind of antibacterialwipe on it.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
Don't wash them, don't spray them, don't spray
water, do just.
You know what I do.
No, it'll be showing up onInstagram.
I haven't seen one yet.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
If I want them real pretty.
If they're outside they're justfine they don fine.
Yeah, I don't do nothing tothem, but when I've had them
inside I've taken like oil andpolished them, but what you do
is like we've done all of ourlike.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
All y'all know, All y'all.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
All y'all.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
You didn't ever do anything with the pumpkin.
You got it from the roadsidestand and you threw it out there
and that is what it was.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
And these people I washed my teeth in the bubble
bath.
The idiot just gets on her.
I mean, oh gosh, where that?
Where, what is that?
Where you cut it?
What am I trying to say?
The stalk, yeah, once that getswet, that's something.
(03:31):
It's like a wick, yeah, it'sjust.
And it just starts rottingimmediately and then the bottom
butt part water goes in there.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
I call that the belly button, but you can call it the
butt if you want to.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
The butthole, whatever, belly button, butthole
, whatever, but water goes inthere.
I mean it's very logical.
Yeah, I mean it has a pumpkinand a gourd.
They have that waxy outer layer.
Right, you don't want moisturein there.
You're going to get thebacteria and nothing smells any
(04:08):
worse than that.
It's true.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
This is also a good time to own a different soapbox.
No, just a reminder, because itis getting the time where
you're going to see well, youshould already be seeing them,
mums at the garden centers, atyour box stores.
They usually get them earlierthan your local garden center.
But when it comes to moms, wewon't go into a full
(04:33):
horticulture lesson here, butevery bud you see on a mom,
that's all the buds that thatmom is going to have this year
Ever.
So if you get one that it justlooks gorgeous and no buds, it's
going to be done blooming forthe year in about two weeks.
So if you are having a party,say next weekend, and you're
(04:57):
like, oh, my summer stuff's dead, I need some moms and you want
it to look good specifically fora party, then get the one that
has all the open blooms.
If you are getting one now,thinking you're going to have it
till you know Halloween orsomething, then you want it to
be green.
If you're buying it now Becauseit's going to, once those buds
(05:18):
start opening up and you'reseeing big flowers, I would say
once more than three-fourths ofit is bloomed out, you probably
have about two to three weeks,depending on light, water and
temperature.
You know, if you're up northand it's a little cooler you
might get a little longer, butabout two to three weeks there's
no deadheading and re-blooming.
(05:40):
Yeah, and that means it's goingto be done in two to three weeks
blooming.
It will still be green and,depending on the variety, you
can plant it for next year.
Oh hell no I try to remindpeople.
No, I try to remind.
In your garden, I try to remindpeople to cut them back around
4th of July and they'll bloom inthe fall.
(06:01):
It depends on what you want todo.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
You know, if you have a good perennial garden, it
makes me angry when I seesomebody plant one, don't it's
like saving a poinsettia, butwe'll touch on that.
Yeah, we'll touch on that later.
And the other thing with yourmoms is water from the bottom,
(06:24):
like water at the base of theplant, or let it wick up from
the bottom like water at thebase of the plant, or let it
wick up from the bottom, mm-hmm,because the leaves are not
going to absorb any water andall you're going to do is
let—they're going to get reallywet and they will break, they
will pop and you will ruin yourmom.
Yeah, and people do that allthe time At the old garden
(06:45):
center, people that didn't knowhow to water a mom would, always
they would and then you gotbroken moms in there.
They're fragile when they'rewith wet water and stuff and if
they come with a cage underthere, leave it.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
Yeah, if they come with a plastic support cage,
you're going to leave that Samething with a poinsettia, because
they've been bred to be full ofblooms but the plant's actually
weaker, so you want to leavethat in there if it does come
with like a support cage orsomething like that.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
And the southernism for today.
Oh, we're getting right into it.
Yeah, we got to talk aboutSouthernism.
If you're relocating to theSouth and you're going to live
in the country, like out whereyou live, where I grew up, where
you grew up in Anywhere in thecountry, like that, people are
(07:47):
going to ask you it doesn'tmatter if you're Catholic, if
you're Jewish, it doesn't matterwhat you are.
They are going to classify youby what church you go to Go to.
And that's the question what?
Speaker 1 (08:04):
church are you going to?
Speaker 2 (08:05):
Yeah, that's a very Southern, it's a very Southern
thing and they will judge youbased on that, you know.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
If you're watching and see that I'm scrolling
through, I'm scrolling throughour live phone, our podcast
phone, our podcast phone, ourhotline here.
So we're going to get to someof these, but keep going with
your thing, you know.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
So it's very comical to me.
So my mother's side of thefamily was Methodist and you
didn't think with my grandmother, you didn't think about going
to a Baptist church or any otherchurch.
You went to the Methodist.
(08:51):
And you know I mean it's nosecret on here I'm a big queer
and my ex and my ex Are you?
Yes, we'll talk about thatlater.
My ex was Jewish.
He was Jewish.
So you know I kind of hearyou've got the gay.
(09:14):
I brought in my Jewish partnerand then my cousin I'll never
forget this was marrying for thesecond time, oh yeah, and his
now wife is Catholic and I canremember my grandmother.
(09:35):
My grandmother was hysterical.
Speaker 1 (09:37):
She did the cousin that robbed you.
Speaker 2 (09:39):
Yeah, okay, my grandmother was hysterical, but
did not try at all.
Yeah, like she made me laughconstantly.
I laughed constantly and shewould say why are you laughing,
mm-hmm, but I'm like it just—.
Is this the one that wouldpinch you and say are you sure,
do you need that piece of cake?
(10:00):
Mm-hmm.
And then she would whisper doyou need that?
Do you need that?
I should have said I don't know.
Do you need your teeth?
No, I wouldn't have done that,but it was hysterical.
When my cousin was marryingthis girl, she was sitting at
the dining table Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
She said well we have the worst angle.
I can't look at myself thisweek, we are slouched down on a
sofa.
I keep getting distracted.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
It's like a dog bed.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
And I got rolls and tits and I don't know what's
going on here.
I can't look at myself and thenmy back hurts from lifting
everything.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
You turn one way, it's a roll.
You turn another, it's a tit.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
I'm so distracted I don't even know what you're
talking about.
I look up and I'm like damn,where did that roll come from?
Where did that tit come?
Speaker 2 (10:56):
from.
They're not that big.
Evidently they are.
Oh gosh, yeah.
So my grandmother said well, wehave everything else in this
family, so why not bring aCatholic in too?
So it's funny.
No offense to any Catholics.
I have Catholic people in myfamily too.
So no offense to anybody, itwas just my grandmother.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
And I just can remember dying laughing yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
But it was.
You know, that's just the wayit is.
But I think that's not, I mean,that's not abnormal, like, for
you know, with my ex, with hisfamily, I mean, jewish families
want you to marry Jewish.
Yeah, and why would they?
(11:43):
Yeah, it's a culture thing.
Yeah, I like that.
Listen, if I could have foundme another one, I would have
Dylan to this day, oh my gosh.
No, I know what I'm saying isironically.
I meshed well with the wholedynamic, which is very odd
(12:04):
because I'm very Southern, butit worked.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
Do you want me to dive into some of these, because
I don't even know where you'regoing?
Speaker 2 (12:11):
with that story, did you?
Speaker 1 (12:12):
have more Southernisms, uh-uh.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
No, I'm just talking about you know, you got to be
careful where you go to church,Don't be judged on it.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
Okay, so I'm going to go through a few of these and
if you have anything else totalk about, just jump in at any
point.
But it's been a while sincewe've come through the hotline.
But this person said you know,a few weeks ago I made the
comment about customer serviceand how people email in and it's
the end of the world, I'm sodisappointed.
(12:43):
And I was like I'm lesssympathetic.
If you start out like that, Ikind of make you wait, not on
purpose.
I want to clarify before I getthere.
Subconsciously it's I decidedbecause I kind of felt bad after
I said that, as if I wasn'tproviding the customer service
part of it.
It's not that we will makeanything right.
(13:05):
The reason why, if I comeacross one that is oh, I'm so
disappointed and you ruinedeverything and blah, blah, blah,
the reason why that one doesn'tget handled as quickly and put
on the back burner is becausethere's the emotion already
involved that then takes anemotional, feel-good reply to it
(13:29):
to support them, versus if it'sjust hey, I wanted to let you
know I got the wrong item orthis item came broken.
Here's a picture.
You know, send a replacement ifyou have one, and that's you
and that's you and that's you.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
And there's a reason I don't get in that email.
I won't tell you right nowBecause I will cuss you out.
Yeah, I'm not putting up withthat.
Speaker 1 (13:52):
I mean, but like okay , for example, we had a new
customer the other day and Ilove customers.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
I'm very good.
I'm very friendly, verycustomer focused, but I'm not
tolerating abuse.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
Very friendly, very customer-focused, but I'm not
tolerating abuse.
Yeah, but we had—Lisa was outof town a couple of weeks or so
ago and I was trying to check asmany emails as I could, because
what a lot of people also don'trealize when it comes to, well,
the stores, but also theNesbitt Warehouse and our online
.
We are a small business, wehave—for online.
(14:24):
We have one office person, lisa.
We have a person, a receivingperson, that gets everything on
the shelves and located andpulls all the orders, and then
we have packers, whichfluctuates how many we have.
There's not, I think, peoplebecause we do so much and
present ourselves.
(14:45):
They think we have 24-houremail call respond.
No, our prices would be so muchmore Right and we try to keep
it, but anyway.
So I had, I was doing Lisa, Iwas checking the emails.
We normally that's Lisa andback to back.
We had the same problem withtwo customers, which was our
(15:07):
fault but was also the vendor'sfault.
But it was for conditioner hairconditioner.
We had a conditioner and therewas a set and the vendor mixed
it up with a leave-inconditioner versus a washout
conditioner and we didn't catchit on our side because the way
(15:29):
that vendors sent it to us asthe conditioner, the appropriate
so we sent to the customer thewrong conditioner and I had two
emails back to back.
One has been our customer, onewas a new customer.
The one who's been our customermay have was a new customer.
The one who's been our customermay have listened to the
podcast, I don't know and waslike hey, just want to let you
(15:51):
know I ordered this conditioner.
I got this one.
Can I get the correct one?
Respond immediately hey, I willget this out on Monday for you.
Thank you, sorry, that gotmixed up.
The next customer, who was thenew customer, was like oh my
gosh, I don't think I can everorder from you again.
(16:12):
This is my first order and ittook a long time to get to me.
I know you said pre-order.
Well, first of all, we toldthem six weeks and it got there
in three, so it was within thetime and I got the wrong item
and it was just like howhorrible we were and how we
didn't get them the right itemand I hope you said please do
(16:33):
not shop.
Speaker 2 (16:34):
I did not.
Speaker 1 (16:36):
I'm saying, if you're listening, please, that is why
you're not in the emails.
But see, that was a wholedifferent.
The first question took me 30seconds to respond.
I got up, printed her order.
And we were wrong.
I went and pulled it and put iton the thing for her to go out.
The next one, I had to read it,process it, cool the hell down,
(16:58):
then respond, and it was awhole process.
So that's my point of reasoningand in the end we did sin the
wrong and in the end wecorrected it.
We did For both.
Yes.
Speaker 2 (17:13):
But at the same time, you know, and it's neither here
nor there for the customers,the customers don't give a shit.
Whose fault it was?
But it wasn't our fault, we didRight.
Speaker 1 (17:23):
But we're going to make it, but it doesn't matter,
because they want the rightthing and that's the thing.
It's how you approach it.
And this I'm not saying withjust the nested fig and us, I'm
saying anytime you're wantingsomething from someone, you got
to understand they do that joball day long.
They have seen every problempossible because that's their
job.
So, like, if you're at a hotel,if you are at a restaurant, you
(17:45):
are not the first person thatthis issue has ever happened to.
Chances are 99.9999.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
And you know my saying has always been and still
is I can't wait till my lifegets so perfect that my biggest
issue is a pickle on mycheeseburger and it's kind of
the same.
I'm very conscientious now whenI get stuff is a pickle on my
cheeseburger Right and it's kindof the same.
Speaker 1 (18:05):
Yeah, I'm very conscientious now when I get
stuff.
If something's messed up andyou really want to get your way
is, don't put the emotion behindit and make it like, hey, I
know this wasn't you that didthis, but this happened, what
can we do about it?
You'll get a much better resultthan how you ruined your life.
Speaker 2 (18:26):
A good example is I ordered some glasses for a
friend for Christmas and thenthey came in shattered,
shattered I mean.
I picked the box up it was like, and I just was like, hey, I
love these, but they came inshattered and I really want them
, so can you send me some?
Speaker 1 (18:46):
more pictures and that's how you get your soft,
just like that, because theydon't have to explain.
You're not asking for next week, I'm not bashing them.
Speaker 2 (18:56):
I know it wasn't the owner's fault.
Speaker 1 (18:58):
But this person said that they agreed so much with
what we were talking about howto approach customer service.
She worked in payroll for 30years.
We've had this happen too andknow how important everyone's
money is to them.
But when I picked up the phoneand heard someone screaming at
me, I was far less sympatheticthan about their problem.
(19:20):
You know we've had that in thepast before.
It's been a while.
I don't know if you and I have.
I know I have at the gardenstore, I did at McDonald's.
All the time they act like youpurposefully.
You're robbing them, Cheatedthem.
You're gonna Like you don'thave to work with them and see
them every day.
It wasn't like you fired themand cheated them.
(19:43):
I mean, it's just a regular andI have Mine is wrong.
Speaker 2 (19:47):
How could this have happened?
You probably don't even knowthis.
Now, in our terms of employmentfor us, I have in there that
any errors, any payroll errors,will be corrected on the
following payroll.
But when I do their orientationand paperwork, I say this says
this.
But if I were to make a mistakeand your paycheck is missing,
(20:13):
I'm going to find you and writeyou a check.
Right, if I shorted you $20,you're going to get it corrected
on the next paper.
Yeah, it's, you know, it'swhatever's most reasonable.
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1 (20:28):
This person also said and previously we talked about
blaming things on your spousewhich I do not, I never do.
I don't do that Like like howcustomers will say like, oh, I
got to check with my husband orthis or whatever she said.
She used to do it all the time.
(20:49):
She used it as an excuse.
When I worked, my coworkersused that excuse all the time
when we planned an office outing.
Maybe she didn't do it, maybeher coworkers did it.
I thought that was funny.
I got to check with the husband.
Speaker 2 (21:10):
That drops me crazy, I mean certain things, though,
certain things you just don'tcheck, Like certain things, I
tell Dylan I'm like we have todo this, we're doing this.
I know you don't want to, butwe have to.
And then if it's something wedon't, I say you don't have to
do this.
Mm-hmm but I'm not going tolike certain things I have to do
(21:34):
with him.
I don't want to.
Yeah, I might not want to do,but I do it.
Speaker 1 (21:38):
Yeah, but I don't like it when— you use it as an
excuse.
Excuse in public, like notgetting out of a plan, but like—
.
Speaker 2 (21:47):
Well, I would never put it on him.
That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (21:50):
I would just say I don't want to go to your shit,
that's my point.
Or Say I don't want to go toyour shit, that's my point.
Or even shopping, whencustomers come in and like oh, I
got to get my husband and bringhim back before.
No, you're not, you're not.
Just say you don't like it,it's not what you're looking for
, I'm not doing it.
Yeah, see, but we're tooindependent.
Speaker 2 (22:07):
I'm just like no, I don't give a reason I just say
no, I'm not doing that.
Or if they would say I reallywant that, but if I spend that
much money, my husband will killme.
I could appreciate that.
Don't act like you got to go.
He cares what pillows you'regetting, because he doesn't.
Speaker 1 (22:27):
People do that all the time he doesn't.
Speaker 2 (22:30):
He doesn't care what pillows you're getting, he
doesn't.
And if he does care whatpillows you're getting, he
doesn't.
And if he does care whatpillows if he cares what pillows
you're getting, then he'spicking out pillows with his
(22:51):
boyfriend.
Speaker 1 (22:52):
I'm kidding.
I just listened to what youwere saying.
I'm kidding.
So this person said this wasfrom a while ago.
But good evening, stephen andWesley.
I think she had a bone to pickwith you it really is.
I have listened to your podcastsince the beginning and I'm a
little behind, so I have beenlistening to several this week
(23:12):
trying to get caught up, severalthis week trying to get caught
up.
I thoroughly enjoy them.
But I was just listening to apodcast from May and you were on
the Southerners segmentdiscussing whether people use
the word pop or soda etc.
And all of a sudden you startedripping on Pepsi.
(23:34):
Like I said, I love listeningto you guys.
I feel like I'm hanging outwith friends and you can call us
northerners or breeders orwhatever you want.
But I realized as soon as youstarted ripping on Pepsi I was a
thin Laugh out loud.
Pepsi, I was a thin Laugh outloud.
(23:54):
I want to still like you guys.
So I literally had to fastforward through that segment.
I was getting so annoyed at thePepsi shaming.
I'm sorry you guys like todrink straight acid because
that's what Coke tastes like.
Here in Northwest Illinois wecall it pop and we love our
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Pepsi.
I don't know if Culver'srestaurant chain has made its
way to the South which it has,south Carolina but it's very
popular here and about a yearand a half ago they quit serving
Pepsi and my family has notbeen back since.
That's how big of a Pepsi loverwe are.
(24:37):
I love that comment.
Sorry, steven, and I love you,whoever you are.
I can just see Wesley cringingright now.
I'm just giving you guys a hardtime.
I will still be a huge fan, butthis is strike one.
We'll see.
Culver's got smart because theyknew everyone wanted Coke.
Speaker 2 (24:57):
I loved it.
Pam, what's her name?
Pam?
Pam, I love you and I love thatyou sent that in, because that
is truly that is the bestexample of how it is in this
country anyway, with Coke andPepsi.
(25:18):
Yeah, it is.
You are either a Coke person ora Pepsi, and I have believe it
or not.
I have both in my family.
Speaker 1 (25:28):
I have Coke people and Pepsi people oh those Pepsi
people are.
I know which ones they are.
Yeah and Pepsi, oh those Pepsipeople are.
Speaker 2 (25:35):
I know which ones they are and yeah.
Speaker 1 (25:39):
I know which ones are the Pepsi ones.
Speaker 2 (25:41):
You know they are.
That is a real camp, thoughYou're either in Pepsi or you're
in Coke, but it's okay, pam, Istill like you and I like the
fact.
I like the fact that you standby your Pepsi.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
You stand by it.
I think it's too sweet, flatshit.
Speaker 2 (26:02):
She says it's like Diet Coke's, like straight acid.
It is stronger.
Speaker 1 (26:08):
Yeah, they are stronger, but I don't drink any
sodas anymore.
I don't.
Speaker 2 (26:14):
Soft drinks.
I don't buy them.
I have maybe.
I have maybe one every one ortwo weeks.
I have been drinking.
Speaker 1 (26:24):
A brand sent me um like a PR box, but they didn't
pay me anything so I didn't talkabout it or whatever.
But it is really good.
I'll have to look up.
I can't remember the name ofthem now so it doesn't even
matter, but it's.
I'll bring one and tell youabout it, because it's natural
things with fizz, but it's notgross like LaCroix.
Speaker 2 (26:47):
Well I bet it's what we have at home.
Dylan's been buying them andthey're like probiotic.
Yeah, yeah, they are, is it?
Speaker 1 (26:58):
bubbly.
It's not the bubbly.
I think that is one.
Speaker 2 (27:01):
But there's another one too, I think this is what I
just happened to look in the barfridge and I was like, oh,
they're good, they are good,they give you the fizz.
Speaker 1 (27:11):
Yeah, because I do miss the fizz occasionally.
Yeah, give me the fizz.
Yeah, because I do miss thefizz occasionally, and not that
I won't ever drink a soda, but Idon't.
Sometimes we do at marketMarket.
Speaker 2 (27:24):
Mainly for the caffeine.
Speaker 1 (27:25):
And I feel like when we do like floor resets, like
Christmas or something at thestores always do, because I
think moving everything is likedusty and I feel like it like—
Eats the dust out, clears out ofmy throat, yeah, but in a pinch
, pam— I will never drink Pepsi,not even in a pinch.
Speaker 2 (27:46):
You know, though I got—.
Speaker 1 (27:49):
I drink 7-Up.
Is that Pepsi product?
I think it is.
Speaker 2 (27:54):
I think it's its own.
Every now and then there's afew restaurants we go to that
serves Pepsi.
I'll still go to the restaurantif they don't serve, but I
usually get water.
Speaker 1 (28:06):
But okay, I've been with him.
When he goes to somewhere thatserves Pepsi and he's in the
mood for a Diet Coke, he willlet the ugh.
How Pepsi.
Yeah, okay, pam, you can comeback and fast forward in there.
This is a different, anotherone Listening to the Memphis
(28:29):
episode.
This was from 2024, she saidStephen, you are not.
If you have not already been toGraceland, I would highly
recommend it.
Speaker 2 (28:40):
He tells me not to go .
Speaker 1 (28:41):
Memphis is a really rough area.
Wesley is not exaggeratingCapital, not.
We stayed at the GracelandGuest House oh good Lord, I'm so
glad you survived which isowned by Elvis' granddaughter.
It is gated and patrolled.
(29:02):
Even if you don't stay thewhole time, at least stay there
one night.
They have an Elvis Theater,restaurant, bar and coffee shop.
Speaker 2 (29:12):
But it is really in a bad area.
Speaker 1 (29:14):
Yes, they also serve peanut butter and jelly
sandwiches at night.
The sandwiches were not verygood, but the little old lady
who attended high school withElvis Presley was serving them
and she was a joy to me.
I would recommend getting upearly, grabbing coffee
downstairs and walking to themansion.
(29:35):
Around six or seven they willopen the gates and let anyone
walk up to the meditation gardenwhere Elvis is buried.
If you visit the mansion, makesure to buy the whole package.
You are safely shuttled aroundthe grounds and you don't miss a
thing.
I would not recommend shoppingor getting gas slash groceries
(29:59):
in Memphis.
We drove out of Memphis to doany eating or shopping.
If you visit Beale Street,don't, but go during the day and
on a weekday.
Let me know how it goes.
I want you to go.
I'm going with you.
I want you to go.
Speaker 2 (30:16):
I ain't going with you.
I've always wanted to go toGraceland and Wesley's from
there, and he will not go withme, let's get a group together,
but there ain't nothing to see.
Speaker 1 (30:30):
There ain't nothing to see.
Why are you going to go to?
Speaker 2 (30:34):
Graceland, there's something to see.
A little gonna go to Graceland.
There's something to see.
Speaker 1 (30:36):
A little old house that's from 1950s.
It ain't even big compared tonowadays houses.
Speaker 2 (30:43):
No, it's not big.
Speaker 1 (30:45):
I mean, my house is like bigger than that, I don't
know.
Speaker 2 (30:51):
Anyway, Well, you just are a music person and you
don't really like Elvis yeah.
But like I don't know, likewhere That'd be, like me saying
I don't even know, but your momsaid like when she was in high
(31:12):
school it was really nice yeah.
Speaker 1 (31:14):
It was a really nice area.
I know it was like when she wasin high school it was really
nice.
Yeah, it was a really nice area.
Speaker 2 (31:17):
I know, it was like 80 years ago.
Speaker 1 (31:21):
Not that long, but it was a long time ago yeah.
Memphis used to be really nice.
Speaker 2 (31:28):
Well, it's such a historic city.
Speaker 1 (31:31):
Yeah, Anyway, city.
Yeah Anyway, this was I wantedto say that it is a very common.
Speaker 2 (31:43):
It is very common in rural Alabama to eat milk and
gravy on, milk gravy oncantaloupe we eat cantaloupe at
breakfast with gravy made withbacon, grease, flour and milk,
not sausage gravy Makes me wantto throw up and it's really good
like chicken, chicken gravy,Sausage gravy would be fine with
(32:04):
me as long as it was milk.
Speaker 1 (32:06):
So, yes, yes, this is a different person.
Yes, all the meals in my househad cantaloupe and milk gravy.
If cantaloupe was out of season, it got replaced with pear
salad.
Have you ever had pear salad?
Yes, for sure, a staple.
Half of a pear with a teaspoonof Duke's Anything else was a
(32:27):
staple and cheddar cheese,cheddar cheese and a cherry and
a paraschino cherry.
It's actually good.
I've seen that too.
But here's a great Southernism.
I ain't got a pot to piss inand a window to throw it out.
That's true.
Speaker 2 (32:46):
Yeah, but that came from in the days when they used
chamber pots.
You would pee in the chamberpot.
Oh dear Lord, can you imagine?
Okay, I have a question.
I guess if you back then Inever used a chamber pot, but if
you had to go doo-doo, I guessyou had to use it in a little
(33:08):
chamber, right?
Oh no, I ain't thought about it.
Speaker 1 (33:12):
They have a lid Gross .
But here goes maybe that's whenyou don't want to run out, I
guess, if you woke up in themiddle of the night and had to
go, number two, yeah, oh my God,if you got it, if you got it,
if you got it.
I won't tell it, I won'tembarrass you today.
Speaker 2 (33:34):
That's pretty bad.
Speaker 1 (33:39):
I won't embarrass you today.
That's pretty bad.
I won't embarrass you today.
That's pretty bad.
There was an incident one timewith Stephen and a and a trash
can and a trash can.
It didn't go so well so youwouldn't have done great in the
chamber pot.
I wouldn't.
Oh, my God, what else I likehearing names Some Southernisms
for Stephen Over yonder I thinkwe talked about that.
Don't let your mouth write acheck.
(33:59):
Your ass can't cash.
That's a good one.
That is a good one.
She doesn't have a pot to peein, that's true.
She's got more nerve than along-tail cat in a room full of
rocking chairs.
Yeah, I've heard that one.
That's funny.
Oh my gosh, I know you can'tuse these on the air, but I've
(34:22):
heard my husband's family saythese Well, why can't we Higher
than a horse cock when referringto an exorbitant price of an
item?
I haven't heard that, but I loveit Slicker than owl shit.
Yeah, I've heard that whenreferring to a slippery floor
yeah.
(34:42):
I've heard that Higher than ahorse cock.
I'm going to start using thatone.
Speaker 2 (34:46):
It's higher than a horse cock.
Now we grew up saying that'sslicker than owl shit, yeah, or
owl's grease too, that's if youwere trying to clean it up.
Speaker 1 (35:02):
I got a lot of like spam texts on here.
I haven't pre-read this one soI don't know.
Let me just read it.
And I don't know what it isbecause it's a long thing.
But I worked in the recoveryroom at the hospital when I was
in nursing school and went to anolder gynecologist Well,
50-something was older for avisit.
(35:24):
So I worked in a recovery roomat the hospital when I was in
nursing school, went to an oldergynecologist for a visit.
I knew him from the hospitaland you go to talk to them in
their office.
After your visit he turned redand got embarrassed.
When doing my exam I said tomyself why is he red, slash,
(35:45):
blushing.
He just saw my lady parts.
It's not like I saw his penis.
I was done.
After that he also talked to meabout my weight.
I wished I'd I was that small.
Now I switched doctors and toldhim first thing, please don't
talk about my weight Not herefor that and please don't turn
(36:07):
red.
We work together and I'm justlooking at your junk.
So, okay, all good.
Now I don't know.
That would be weird If theyturned red.
Speaker 2 (36:18):
Well, I mean so when I had my colonoscopy one of the
sweet I had the best nurses.
I mean, if you live inGreenville, you need to go.
I don't know where it was, I'llhave to think, I'll think of
the name, but they're great.
They are with Prisma Health,yeah, and they were great.
(36:40):
And the nurse was young andcute and she had symptoms and
needed a colonoscopy.
And she was talking to me aboutit because I was a complete
psychopath.
And she said you know, I workwith these people all day, the
(37:00):
nurses and the doctors so shewent somewhere else.
She did.
She was like they don't need tosee.
Speaker 1 (37:09):
You don't want to walk around knowing they saw
You're an asshole.
But you would think, becauseshe does that, that she would
know it's not really a thing.
But I guess when it comes toyou, they took a picture they
took.
Speaker 2 (37:24):
and he told me this because I said I have to have 10
minutes with him before, 10minutes after.
I have to.
I don't care if that's the waythey did things.
He was great.
And he told me you knowspecifically everything he was
going to do.
And he said and I take apicture of the outside before he
(37:47):
said it's just my standardpractice to do that.
And, sure enough, I opened upmy chart and right there was my
butthole.
I said, well, hello, that'sfunny.
I said well, hello, that'sfunny.
I said well, hello.
Speaker 1 (38:03):
That is funny.
Yeah, it was just there.
Speaker 2 (38:06):
I guess he was just making sure he didn't wreck it
or something.
I don't know what he was doing.
I mean he had a great bedsidemanner, yeah, I said.
He came in and he was like hi,I'm Dr Lizardo, and he was great
.
I was very impressed.
I said oh, are you the onethat's going to be violating me?
And he laughed.
(38:28):
He said but the good news is, Ihave small hands.
Speaker 1 (38:32):
Yeah, that's funny.
He had a great personality.
That is funny.
Yeah, this one turns from funnyand this one is from May.
We should have answered.
I should have looked at it butI didn't see it.
So if you're listening, becauseshe says she listens to our
podcast, but this could be foranyone, but she wants to know,
(38:53):
loves the podcast.
I look forward to listening.
But question about businessKnowing everything you know now
about retail and e-commerce, ifyou yourself was going to start
a business today, would youchoose to open a physical store
or would you focus on sellingonline?
Curious of any advice you mighthave for someone who's
(39:15):
interested in selling interiordecor in the ever-changing world
of retail.
Both, yeah, I would do both.
They go hand in hand and Ithink the question is where to
start and it could be differentfor each.
They go hand in hand.
I would do both and here's theway I would present it.
(39:36):
If you already have some peoplethat you know or social media
presence, anybody you can marketto, I would start small online,
but at the same time, I wouldbe trying to open a physical
retail location.
You need both because peoplewant to come in and see things,
(39:57):
but people want to shop 24-7 aswell.
And one thing that we talk aboutin our own business here,
because we started in retail andthen got heavy into e-commerce
both of them are every changing.
That's just business and smallbusiness.
You're always going to be ebband flow and trying to change
(40:19):
with whatever time it is.
The benefits of, say, a retailstore is you can build that as a
person, like we've built ourretail stores and we have
employees.
Those employees show up to workevery day, do a great job If
everything's going right, oursdo and do a great job and they
sell for you.
(40:39):
So our retail stores are open,selling, productive and
successful, independent of us.
Independent of us On aday-to-day On a day-to-day
sales-wise.
And then online, though, ismore about us, because if you're
(41:00):
watching or listening or doinga live sale, it's heavier on us.
Am I designing something at myhouse?
Am I unboxing something onInstagram?
Are we doing a live sale?
That sort of thing is whatdrives the sales.
Not that we don't get—you alsoget sales that just come in as
(41:21):
well but we're the biggestgenerator.
Yeah, the biggest generator forthe business is us doing the
live sales redecorating,unboxing something, showing
stuff on Instagram.
Speaker 2 (41:35):
I would also tag on to that.
I would do both, but I wouldprobably if I were giving you
advice, I would say do both, butstart out smaller on both ends
and have it in one building.
Speaker 1 (41:55):
Yeah, yeah, and you could do like how we started
online.
We had our retail store and wewere literally shipping product
off of our floor and from ourback room and we had like a what
an eight by eight room that weboxed and packed stuff in and we
were very selective on what weput online.
(42:15):
We didn't have our huge andeverything that was in our store
online we did like items thatwe had enough.
You know like, oh, we got 12 ofthis.
We can put six online, have sixin the store and we changed our
inventory often and we'reshipping that way.
But you can generate money thatway.
I mean you can generate foryour retail store extra.
(42:38):
You know, a lot of money.
That's the way I would startout.
So I would have it like Stephenis saying under one roof and
just have things listed onlineand not get overwhelmed, yeah,
and then you can grow it and seewhat part you enjoy, what's
taking off too.
Enjoy best and what's takingoff, yeah.
Speaker 2 (42:59):
Because the store's busier.
Speaker 1 (43:08):
If it's taking off more than the e-commerce, you
can focus more on that or youknow whatever.
But having the physical store,there's still benefits of being
able to have.
You know, open houses, you cando workshops, depending on what
it is.
You can have a lot of thingsthat draw in physical people
versus, like online, build yourbrand, yeah, but to me they
(43:30):
definitely go hand in hand.
I think, whether you're evenjust a small business, you
should sell online, even if youjust offer local pickup, because
you never know when yourcustomer from your physical
store is laying in bed at nightand like, oh, I need some
candles, let me go ahead andorder them and then I'll just go
(43:51):
by there and pick it up.
Like you can sell online andnot do the shipping.
You're not going to have asbroad of an audience.
The benefit of doing e-commerce, you know, is reaching beyond
your audience or your customerbase that you would have just
with your physical store as well.
That's a huge benefit, but itdoesn't have to be.
(44:11):
But I would definitely haveboth as options and then control
how you do it and which areayou grow in.
So that's my info from there Ihave.
I'm done looking through thosebecause I feel like I'm
distracted, but I have somethingI saw on social media that I
think we need to.
I should have shown you some soyou could picture it, but I
(44:34):
have been scrolling through andI don't know how these started
showing up.
I lost it.
I'm probably sitting on it onthis sofa or something, but this
was on TikTok.
I saw, and I guess I clicked onone and then you know it feeds
you more and more of it, butneither one of us have kids.
So we are going to talk aboutthis from an outside standpoint.
(44:57):
But there's people you knowgender reveals are a big thing.
Now you have a gender revealparty.
I mean for some people, noteverybody.
Speaker 2 (45:07):
I mean it used to be the gender reveal, used to be
the date of birth.
Speaker 1 (45:10):
Yeah, you announced it's a boy or a girl with a
cigar or a candy cigar orsomething that's here and there.
But people are posting thesegender reveals and they're being
videoed and they're like crazy,disappointed at what the sex is
(45:31):
.
That's terrible, isn't it?
Because I'm like now, the waythings stick around, like your
kid could see it.
Yeah, like I have videos.
Well, I mean, I've had myiPhone since 2008.
So I have videos and stuff onmy phone from 2008,.
Which is it's nothing for avideo to stick around 10 years.
(45:55):
And then your kid's like Idon't know.
And then everyone's there like,looking at you, I think that's
I'll have to show you something.
Then everyone's there like,looking at you.
I think that's I'll have toshow you something.
That's bothersome to me.
It is, and people were sayingin the comments that gender
doesn't mean like, but that thegender disappointment is a real
thing, doesn't mean like youdon't want the baby or you're
(46:17):
not going to love it.
Want the baby or you're notgonna love it.
But I just feel like if youwere doing, if you felt so
strong about wanting one or theother, why would you do a gender
reveal like, why would you setyourself up for that?
Speaker 2 (46:38):
disappointment.
You know what I'm saying.
That's where I don't like yeahand get a dog.
Well, I mean, if you're that.
Speaker 1 (46:42):
I'm sorry, I don't know.
No see, that's where we can'tput ourselves in their shoes
because we don't have kids.
But I just feel like if you aresitting at home and you feel
like if I'm not having a boy,I'm going to be crazy
disappointed, then don't do agender reveal and don't video
(47:06):
and don't post it.
Speaker 2 (47:07):
Well, and I kind of will put it like this too, I
have a friend, have a friendMcDonald's owners and she got
pregnant with their third child.
Yeah, and it was an oopssurprise, yeah, and she called
(47:30):
me.
I mean, and this is a greatmother, great wife, great mother
, great friend.
She called me and she could notget out of bed for like a week.
She was hysterical.
I couldn't say anything,anything.
(47:51):
I said it would just be awailing crying, like if I was
like well, maybe it's going tobe a good thing, maybe you'll
have, maybe this one will be aboy.
She was just inconsolable.
But her thing was is now aftera week.
She was excited and happy andshe adores her child now.
(48:14):
But her thing was it wasallegedly.
Now he does drive her crazy, soshe may still say she had
planned on just two children.
You know they had bought aMcDonald's, moved to a new city.
Speaker 1 (48:35):
So was it?
Was she hysterical because itwas an oops and she got pregnant
?
Or because it was a boy Oopsand got pregnant, she didn.
Or because it was a boy Oopsand got pregnant, she didn't?
Speaker 2 (48:43):
know it was a boy then oh, but see that's
different yeah but I'm saying,maybe it's like that.
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (48:50):
No, I mean, that's like, oh God, all my plans have
just gone down the shitterbecause I'm starting over.
You know you're in a differentmindset.
That's different.
Speaker 2 (49:00):
Now I can see from a practical standpoint.
If you've had two or three ofthe same sex and maybe you won't
maybe you have two boys andyou're like God, life would just
be easier if it was another boy.
Half clothes, you know.
Speaker 1 (49:18):
I know, but if you feel so strongly about it, why
are you doing a gender reveal?
You find that out in privateand have a meltdown and process
it.
Yeah.
Yeah, I'm not saying that, justyour disappointment.
I haven't seen any of it.
I'll send them to you.
You'll get on the.
It's a lot of them.
I mean, and like just meltdownor throw fits, or, and I'm like,
(49:42):
and sometimes it's the womanthat does it and sometimes it's
the man that does it, you know,I'm like I mean, there's always
a preference.
I mean, I'm sure you get yourhopes up.
If it's one or the other, Idon't know what do y'all think.
Tell us and text us on ourhotline.
I'll have it down in thecomments because I don't know
what do y'all think.
Tell us and text us on ourhotline.
(50:03):
I'll have it down in thecomments because I can't
remember the phone number.
Speaker 2 (50:05):
I mean I just love all kids, but I will say if I
were having I mean that used tobe my number one disappointment
was not having children.
Now it is not.
I consider it a blessingbecause it's just harder now,
right, raising kids, and I havemy nephews that are like my kids
(50:25):
, I know.
Speaker 1 (50:26):
I can't imagine.
You know, I wanted kids too fora long time, and now I'm like I
can't imagine raising kids Inthis in 2025.
Speaker 2 (50:36):
Yeah, it's got, but I guess you also do it.
Speaker 1 (50:39):
You do what you got to do and you navigate it.
So it's one of the—, but it'sjust harder.
I mean, parents have a—, butwith cell phones and AI and
just—.
Speaker 2 (50:50):
And drugs and everything so expensive I mean,
and it's the most important jobin the world.
So props to all you parents outthere.
I don't know how you do it andI sure as hell don't know how
you do it with more than one.
I mean I would just sink.
But I can say if I'd had achild, I would.
(51:15):
I mean I don't know because Iwould be like, well, having a
girl would be fun, having a boywould be fun.
I wouldn't have cared eitherway.
I wouldn't have cared eitherway.
I don't think.
Yeah, no, I wouldn't have caredeither way, but I can see how
you won't.
If you already have two girlsor two boys, you might want
(51:38):
opposite sex.
Speaker 1 (51:39):
I can see.
I can relate to people wantingone or the other.
I can't relate to publiclydoing the reveal, if you feel so
strong about it Now.
Speaker 2 (51:48):
I always think it's weird and y'all can tell me
because I haven't had children.
I always think it's weird whenpeople are like well, we have
three, but we're going to keeptrying until we get a girl and
I'm like that could be a longbody time, expensive and you
(52:09):
have to do.
I mean go buy one, like adopt agirl or something Like then I
wouldn't keep doing it.
I've had people say that andI'm like I don't know.
But whatever, you know, I alsoI have friends that have five,
six kids, you gotta love being aparent.
I know McDonald's owners thathave like six kids and y'all.
(52:33):
I could barely manage my lifewith no kids owning McDonald's.
Speaker 1 (52:39):
That's what I don't get.
How do you do it?
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (52:43):
And the people in McDonald's.
I know that I'm thinking ofright now in my head.
The mom is the original owner.
Yeah, and let me tell you, I'mnot knocking any dads out there
who do not attack me, but themothers.
(53:04):
I do not care how good yourfather is, there's great dads
out there.
The mom carries the weight.
I feel like they catch all theballs Right, because they're
catching the balls for thehusbands.
I mean not literally, well,that might be, but you know the
(53:26):
moms, they deal with the dentistappointments, the doctors, the
shots, the school.
You know, I feel like theyreally carry the weight.
And how do you do that with two, three, four, five, six kids
and operate amultimillion-dollar company?
I don't know how they do it.
I don't know either.
(53:48):
Women just debate Y'all womenout there.
I was telling a friend of minetoday.
She was talking to me and shewas talking about hormone
therapy and you know all thestuff women are going through at
our age now.
And I said damn.
I said y'all need some kind oflike, y'all need to be carried
(54:13):
around on a pedestal.
I said y'all.
I said if everything that wasdumped on women were dumped on
men, we would be extinct.
That's true.
Wouldn't be no babies, we'd bein the bed every month for a
week with periods, wouldn't beable to do nothing, that's funny
, Just sick.
Speaker 1 (54:34):
Oh well, it's time to pull this baby over.
That wraps it up.
Speaker 2 (54:38):
Oh, you're just ready to get the hell home, aren't
you?
Speaker 1 (54:41):
I am.
I got to go home now and editthis and it's already 9 pm.
This puts me in bed about 2 30by the time I get home have a
little dinner.
There's no edit, but it's noteven the edits.
I have to upload it.
Then I have to do this.
I have to do the front and thebeginning, cut it off where we
(55:02):
start.
Then I have to download it tomy computer.
Then I have to upload it to thehosting website and because
it's so long, each one of thosetakes like 45 minutes.
Then I have to do it for justthe podcast without the video.
Speaker 2 (55:18):
Y'all better be glad he's a tech-oriented, because
none of this shit would be fun.
Speaker 1 (55:22):
Even with no edits like I don't have to cut
anything out.
It takes three to four hoursJust because of download upload,
download upload.
Is this the?
Speaker 2 (55:32):
best use of this time .
Speaker 1 (55:33):
I don't think so, but I love it, so we're still doing
it.
That's why we're here.
So, yeah, we're pulling thisbaby over and I'm going home.
Speaker 2 (55:42):
Finish off my Labor Day night.
I know I've got a busy week too.
You do too.
Speaker 1 (55:48):
Fall time.
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Speaker 2 (56:05):
Bye and drink your Coca-Cola Pam.
Speaker 1 (56:07):
Yeah, Pam, loosen up and drink a Coke.
Bye.
Let me get into place .
Ooh, buckle up.
We in the parking garage today,parked up at the warehouse.
We didn't learn our lesson lastweek, I guess, with the shit
show, but you know what?
Speaker 2 (00:11):
That's the way we roll, but you better hope this
thing don't click off this time,because if it does, I'm kicking
it through that window.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
It's time for another episode of who's Driving.
Welcome to who's Driving.
I'm Wesley Turner.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
And I'm Stephen Merck .
We're two best friends andentrepreneurs.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Who's Driving is an entertaining look into the
behind the scenes of our lives,friendship and business.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
These are the stories we share and topics we discuss,
as two best friends would on along road trip.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
Along the way, we'll check in with friends and offer
a wide range of informativetopics centered around running
small businesses, social mediaand all things home and garden.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
Buckle up and enjoy the ride.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
You never know who's driving or where we're headed.
All we know is it's always afun ride.
So, welcome to September.
Yes, it's Labor Day.
We're coming to you from theNasty Fig Warehouse.
We're coming to you from theNasty Fig Warehouse In case
you're watching and wonderingwhat the hell we're doing,
because we waited to the lastminute to record.
But you know what?
(01:11):
It's September Labor Day.
We got a lot of stuff going on.
It's our.
You know this starts our crazybusy season.
I mean, it's already startedfor fall holiday, all the fun
things.
Small business welcome to theworld.
(01:32):
Yeah, I mean, it was literally.
We've been over there workingdoing our own projects, just the
way it is.
It's the way we roll.
So you got anything to talkabout?
You just want to sit here andlook at them.
Sit here and look at them.
Hey y'all, I got something tostart off right out of the gate,
because you know what, like Imentioned a few times, now it is
September, it is time for apumpkin PSA, it's our annual
(02:01):
reminder Are we going to have apumpkin bath?
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Bubble bath?
Are we going to have a pumpkinbath?
Are we going to have a bubblebath?
Are we going to wash ourpumpkins in the bubble bath?
Speaker 1 (02:10):
It is your reminder that you don't need to wash your
pumpkins in your sink, youdon't need to give them a bubble
bath in your bathtub.
You don't need to do nothing.
Speaker 2 (02:23):
If you do anything, use Clorox wipes.
Use some kind of antibacterialwipe on it.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
Don't wash them, don't spray them, don't spray
water, do just.
You know what I do.
No, it'll be showing up onInstagram.
I haven't seen one yet.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
If I want them real pretty.
If they're outside they're justfine they don fine.
Yeah, I don't do nothing tothem, but when I've had them
inside I've taken like oil andpolished them, but what you do
is like we've done all of ourlike.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
All y'all know, All y'all.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
All y'all.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
You didn't ever do anything with the pumpkin.
You got it from the roadsidestand and you threw it out there
and that is what it was.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
And these people I washed my teeth in the bubble
bath.
The idiot just gets on her.
I mean, oh gosh, where that?
Where, what is that?
Where you cut it?
What am I trying to say?
The stalk, yeah, once that getswet, that's something.
(03:31):
It's like a wick, yeah, it'sjust.
And it just starts rottingimmediately and then the bottom
butt part water goes in there.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
I call that the belly button, but you can call it the
butt if you want to.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
The butthole, whatever, belly button, butthole
, whatever, but water goes inthere.
I mean it's very logical.
Yeah, I mean it has a pumpkinand a gourd.
They have that waxy outer layer.
Right, you don't want moisturein there.
You're going to get thebacteria and nothing smells any
(04:08):
worse than that.
It's true.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
This is also a good time to own a different soapbox.
No, just a reminder, because itis getting the time where
you're going to see well, youshould already be seeing them,
mums at the garden centers, atyour box stores.
They usually get them earlierthan your local garden center.
But when it comes to moms, wewon't go into a full
(04:33):
horticulture lesson here, butevery bud you see on a mom,
that's all the buds that thatmom is going to have this year
Ever.
So if you get one that it justlooks gorgeous and no buds, it's
going to be done blooming forthe year in about two weeks.
So if you are having a party,say next weekend, and you're
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like, oh, my summer stuff's dead, I need some moms and you want
it to look good specifically fora party, then get the one that
has all the open blooms.
If you are getting one now,thinking you're going to have it
till you know Halloween orsomething, then you want it to
be green.
If you're buying it now Becauseit's going to, once those buds
(05:18):
start opening up and you'reseeing big flowers, I would say
once more than three-fourths ofit is bloomed out, you probably
have about two to three weeks,depending on light, water and
temperature.
You know, if you're up northand it's a little cooler you
might get a little longer, butabout two to three weeks there's
no deadheading and re-blooming.
(05:40):
Yeah, and that means it's goingto be done in two to three weeks
blooming.
It will still be green and,depending on the variety, you
can plant it for next year.
Oh hell no I try to remindpeople.
No, I try to remind.
In your garden, I try to remindpeople to cut them back around
4th of July and they'll bloom inthe fall.
(06:01):
It depends on what you want todo.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
You know, if you have a good perennial garden, it
makes me angry when I seesomebody plant one, don't it's
like saving a poinsettia, butwe'll touch on that.
Yeah, we'll touch on that later.
And the other thing with yourmoms is water from the bottom,
(06:24):
like water at the base of theplant, or let it wick up from
the bottom like water at thebase of the plant, or let it
wick up from the bottom, mm-hmm,because the leaves are not
going to absorb any water andall you're going to do is
let—they're going to get reallywet and they will break, they
will pop and you will ruin yourmom.
Yeah, and people do that allthe time At the old garden
(06:45):
center, people that didn't knowhow to water a mom would, always
they would and then you gotbroken moms in there.
They're fragile when they'rewith wet water and stuff and if
they come with a cage underthere, leave it.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
Yeah, if they come with a plastic support cage,
you're going to leave that Samething with a poinsettia, because
they've been bred to be full ofblooms but the plant's actually
weaker, so you want to leavethat in there if it does come
with like a support cage orsomething like that.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
And the southernism for today.
Oh, we're getting right into it.
Yeah, we got to talk aboutSouthernism.
If you're relocating to theSouth and you're going to live
in the country, like out whereyou live, where I grew up, where
you grew up in Anywhere in thecountry, like that, people are
(07:47):
going to ask you it doesn'tmatter if you're Catholic, if
you're Jewish, it doesn't matterwhat you are.
They are going to classify youby what church you go to Go to.
And that's the question what?
Speaker 1 (08:04):
church are you going to?
Speaker 2 (08:05):
Yeah, that's a very Southern, it's a very Southern
thing and they will judge youbased on that, you know.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
If you're watching and see that I'm scrolling
through, I'm scrolling throughour live phone, our podcast
phone, our podcast phone, ourhotline here.
So we're going to get to someof these, but keep going with
your thing, you know.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
So it's very comical to me.
So my mother's side of thefamily was Methodist and you
didn't think with my grandmother, you didn't think about going
to a Baptist church or any otherchurch.
You went to the Methodist.
(08:51):
And you know I mean it's nosecret on here I'm a big queer
and my ex and my ex Are you?
Yes, we'll talk about thatlater.
My ex was Jewish.
He was Jewish.
So you know I kind of hearyou've got the gay.
(09:14):
I brought in my Jewish partnerand then my cousin I'll never
forget this was marrying for thesecond time, oh yeah, and his
now wife is Catholic and I canremember my grandmother.
(09:35):
My grandmother was hysterical.
Speaker 1 (09:37):
She did the cousin that robbed you.
Speaker 2 (09:39):
Yeah, okay, my grandmother was hysterical, but
did not try at all.
Yeah, like she made me laughconstantly.
I laughed constantly and shewould say why are you laughing,
mm-hmm, but I'm like it just—.
Is this the one that wouldpinch you and say are you sure,
do you need that piece of cake?
(10:00):
Mm-hmm.
And then she would whisper doyou need that?
Do you need that?
I should have said I don't know.
Do you need your teeth?
No, I wouldn't have done that,but it was hysterical.
When my cousin was marryingthis girl, she was sitting at
the dining table Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
She said well we have the worst angle.
I can't look at myself thisweek, we are slouched down on a
sofa.
I keep getting distracted.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
It's like a dog bed.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
And I got rolls and tits and I don't know what's
going on here.
I can't look at myself and thenmy back hurts from lifting
everything.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
You turn one way, it's a roll.
You turn another, it's a tit.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
I'm so distracted I don't even know what you're
talking about.
I look up and I'm like damn,where did that roll come from?
Where did that tit come?
Speaker 2 (10:56):
from.
They're not that big.
Evidently they are.
Oh gosh, yeah.
So my grandmother said well, wehave everything else in this
family, so why not bring aCatholic in too?
So it's funny.
No offense to any Catholics.
I have Catholic people in myfamily too.
So no offense to anybody, itwas just my grandmother.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
And I just can remember dying laughing yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
But it was.
You know, that's just the wayit is.
But I think that's not, I mean,that's not abnormal, like, for
you know, with my ex, with hisfamily, I mean, jewish families
want you to marry Jewish.
Yeah, and why would they?
(11:43):
Yeah, it's a culture thing.
Yeah, I like that.
Listen, if I could have foundme another one, I would have
Dylan to this day, oh my gosh.
No, I know what I'm saying isironically.
I meshed well with the wholedynamic, which is very odd
(12:04):
because I'm very Southern, butit worked.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
Do you want me to dive into some of these, because
I don't even know where you'regoing?
Speaker 2 (12:11):
with that story, did you?
Speaker 1 (12:12):
have more Southernisms, uh-uh.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
No, I'm just talking about you know, you got to be
careful where you go to church,Don't be judged on it.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
Okay, so I'm going to go through a few of these and
if you have anything else totalk about, just jump in at any
point.
But it's been a while sincewe've come through the hotline.
But this person said you know,a few weeks ago I made the
comment about customer serviceand how people email in and it's
the end of the world, I'm sodisappointed.
(12:43):
And I was like I'm lesssympathetic.
If you start out like that, Ikind of make you wait, not on
purpose.
I want to clarify before I getthere.
Subconsciously it's I decidedbecause I kind of felt bad after
I said that, as if I wasn'tproviding the customer service
part of it.
It's not that we will makeanything right.
(13:05):
The reason why, if I comeacross one that is oh, I'm so
disappointed and you ruinedeverything and blah, blah, blah,
the reason why that one doesn'tget handled as quickly and put
on the back burner is becausethere's the emotion already
involved that then takes anemotional, feel-good reply to it
(13:29):
to support them, versus if it'sjust hey, I wanted to let you
know I got the wrong item orthis item came broken.
Here's a picture.
You know, send a replacement ifyou have one, and that's you
and that's you and that's you.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
And there's a reason I don't get in that email.
I won't tell you right nowBecause I will cuss you out.
Yeah, I'm not putting up withthat.
Speaker 1 (13:52):
I mean, but like okay , for example, we had a new
customer the other day and Ilove customers.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
I'm very good.
I'm very friendly, verycustomer focused, but I'm not
tolerating abuse.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
Very friendly, very customer-focused, but I'm not
tolerating abuse.
Yeah, but we had—Lisa was outof town a couple of weeks or so
ago and I was trying to check asmany emails as I could, because
what a lot of people also don'trealize when it comes to, well,
the stores, but also theNesbitt Warehouse and our online
.
We are a small business, wehave—for online.
(14:24):
We have one office person, lisa.
We have a person, a receivingperson, that gets everything on
the shelves and located andpulls all the orders, and then
we have packers, whichfluctuates how many we have.
There's not, I think, peoplebecause we do so much and
present ourselves.
(14:45):
They think we have 24-houremail call respond.
No, our prices would be so muchmore Right and we try to keep
it, but anyway.
So I had, I was doing Lisa, Iwas checking the emails.
We normally that's Lisa andback to back.
We had the same problem withtwo customers, which was our
(15:07):
fault but was also the vendor'sfault.
But it was for conditioner hairconditioner.
We had a conditioner and therewas a set and the vendor mixed
it up with a leave-inconditioner versus a washout
conditioner and we didn't catchit on our side because the way
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that vendors sent it to us asthe conditioner, the appropriate
so we sent to the customer thewrong conditioner and I had two
emails back to back.
One has been our customer, onewas a new customer.
The one who's been our customermay have was a new customer.
The one who's been our customermay have listened to the
podcast, I don't know and waslike hey, just want to let you
(15:51):
know I ordered this conditioner.
I got this one.
Can I get the correct one?
Respond immediately hey, I willget this out on Monday for you.
Thank you, sorry, that gotmixed up.
The next customer, who was thenew customer, was like oh my
gosh, I don't think I can everorder from you again.
(16:12):
This is my first order and ittook a long time to get to me.
I know you said pre-order.
Well, first of all, we toldthem six weeks and it got there
in three, so it was within thetime and I got the wrong item
and it was just like howhorrible we were and how we
didn't get them the right itemand I hope you said please do
(16:33):
not shop.
Speaker 2 (16:34):
I did not.
Speaker 1 (16:36):
I'm saying, if you're listening, please, that is why
you're not in the emails.
But see, that was a wholedifferent.
The first question took me 30seconds to respond.
I got up, printed her order.
And we were wrong.
I went and pulled it and put iton the thing for her to go out.
The next one, I had to read it,process it, cool the hell down,
(16:58):
then respond, and it was awhole process.
So that's my point of reasoningand in the end we did sin the
wrong and in the end wecorrected it.
We did For both.
Yes.
Speaker 2 (17:13):
But at the same time, you know, and it's neither here
nor there for the customers,the customers don't give a shit.
Whose fault it was?
But it wasn't our fault, we didRight.
Speaker 1 (17:23):
But we're going to make it, but it doesn't matter,
because they want the rightthing and that's the thing.
It's how you approach it.
And this I'm not saying withjust the nested fig and us, I'm
saying anytime you're wantingsomething from someone, you got
to understand they do that joball day long.
They have seen every problempossible because that's their
job.
So, like, if you're at a hotel,if you are at a restaurant, you
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are not the first person thatthis issue has ever happened to.
Chances are 99.9999.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
And you know my saying has always been and still
is I can't wait till my lifegets so perfect that my biggest
issue is a pickle on mycheeseburger and it's kind of
the same.
I'm very conscientious now whenI get stuff is a pickle on my
cheeseburger Right and it's kindof the same.
Speaker 1 (18:05):
Yeah, I'm very conscientious now when I get
stuff.
If something's messed up andyou really want to get your way
is, don't put the emotion behindit and make it like, hey, I
know this wasn't you that didthis, but this happened, what
can we do about it?
You'll get a much better resultthan how you ruined your life.
Speaker 2 (18:26):
A good example is I ordered some glasses for a
friend for Christmas and thenthey came in shattered,
shattered I mean.
I picked the box up it was like, and I just was like, hey, I
love these, but they came inshattered and I really want them
, so can you send me some?
Speaker 1 (18:46):
more pictures and that's how you get your soft,
just like that, because theydon't have to explain.
You're not asking for next week, I'm not bashing them.
Speaker 2 (18:56):
I know it wasn't the owner's fault.
Speaker 1 (18:58):
But this person said that they agreed so much with
what we were talking about howto approach customer service.
She worked in payroll for 30years.
We've had this happen too andknow how important everyone's
money is to them.
But when I picked up the phoneand heard someone screaming at
me, I was far less sympatheticthan about their problem.
(19:20):
You know we've had that in thepast before.
It's been a while.
I don't know if you and I have.
I know I have at the gardenstore, I did at McDonald's.
All the time they act like youpurposefully.
You're robbing them, Cheatedthem.
You're gonna Like you don'thave to work with them and see
them every day.
It wasn't like you fired themand cheated them.
(19:43):
I mean, it's just a regular andI have Mine is wrong.
Speaker 2 (19:47):
How could this have happened?
You probably don't even knowthis.
Now, in our terms of employmentfor us, I have in there that
any errors, any payroll errors,will be corrected on the
following payroll.
But when I do their orientationand paperwork, I say this says
this.
But if I were to make a mistakeand your paycheck is missing,
(20:13):
I'm going to find you and writeyou a check.
Right, if I shorted you $20,you're going to get it corrected
on the next paper.
Yeah, it's, you know, it'swhatever's most reasonable.
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1 (20:28):
This person also said and previously we talked about
blaming things on your spousewhich I do not, I never do.
I don't do that Like like howcustomers will say like, oh, I
got to check with my husband orthis or whatever she said.
She used to do it all the time.
(20:49):
She used it as an excuse.
When I worked, my coworkersused that excuse all the time
when we planned an office outing.
Maybe she didn't do it, maybeher coworkers did it.
I thought that was funny.
I got to check with the husband.
Speaker 2 (21:10):
That drops me crazy, I mean certain things, though,
certain things you just don'tcheck, Like certain things, I
tell Dylan I'm like we have todo this, we're doing this.
I know you don't want to, butwe have to.
And then if it's something wedon't, I say you don't have to
do this.
Mm-hmm but I'm not going tolike certain things I have to do
(21:34):
with him.
I don't want to.
Yeah, I might not want to do,but I do it.
Speaker 1 (21:38):
Yeah, but I don't like it when— you use it as an
excuse.
Excuse in public, like notgetting out of a plan, but like—
.
Speaker 2 (21:47):
Well, I would never put it on him.
That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (21:50):
I would just say I don't want to go to your shit,
that's my point.
Or Say I don't want to go toyour shit, that's my point.
Or even shopping, whencustomers come in and like oh, I
got to get my husband and bringhim back before.
No, you're not, you're not.
Just say you don't like it,it's not what you're looking for
, I'm not doing it.
Yeah, see, but we're tooindependent.
Speaker 2 (22:07):
I'm just like no, I don't give a reason I just say
no, I'm not doing that.
Or if they would say I reallywant that, but if I spend that
much money, my husband will killme.
I could appreciate that.
Don't act like you got to go.
He cares what pillows you'regetting, because he doesn't.
Speaker 1 (22:27):
People do that all the time he doesn't.
Speaker 2 (22:30):
He doesn't care what pillows you're getting, he
doesn't.
And if he does care whatpillows you're getting, he
doesn't.
And if he does care whatpillows if he cares what pillows
you're getting, then he'spicking out pillows with his
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boyfriend.
Speaker 1 (22:52):
I'm kidding.
I just listened to what youwere saying.
I'm kidding.
So this person said this wasfrom a while ago.
But good evening, stephen andWesley.
I think she had a bone to pickwith you it really is.
I have listened to your podcastsince the beginning and I'm a
little behind, so I have beenlistening to several this week
(23:12):
trying to get caught up, severalthis week trying to get caught
up.
I thoroughly enjoy them.
But I was just listening to apodcast from May and you were on
the Southerners segmentdiscussing whether people use
the word pop or soda etc.
And all of a sudden you startedripping on Pepsi.
(23:34):
Like I said, I love listeningto you guys.
I feel like I'm hanging outwith friends and you can call us
northerners or breeders orwhatever you want.
But I realized as soon as youstarted ripping on Pepsi I was a
thin Laugh out loud.
Pepsi, I was a thin Laugh outloud.
(23:54):
I want to still like you guys.
So I literally had to fastforward through that segment.
I was getting so annoyed at thePepsi shaming.
I'm sorry you guys like todrink straight acid because
that's what Coke tastes like.
Here in Northwest Illinois wecall it pop and we love our
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Pepsi.
I don't know if Culver'srestaurant chain has made its
way to the South which it has,south Carolina but it's very
popular here and about a yearand a half ago they quit serving
Pepsi and my family has notbeen back since.
That's how big of a Pepsi loverwe are.
(24:37):
I love that comment.
Sorry, steven, and I love you,whoever you are.
I can just see Wesley cringingright now.
I'm just giving you guys a hardtime.
I will still be a huge fan, butthis is strike one.
We'll see.
Culver's got smart because theyknew everyone wanted Coke.
Speaker 2 (24:57):
I loved it.
Pam, what's her name?
Pam?
Pam, I love you and I love thatyou sent that in, because that
is truly that is the bestexample of how it is in this
country anyway, with Coke andPepsi.
(25:18):
Yeah, it is.
You are either a Coke person ora Pepsi, and I have believe it
or not.
I have both in my family.
Speaker 1 (25:28):
I have Coke people and Pepsi people oh those Pepsi
people are.
I know which ones they are.
Yeah and Pepsi, oh those Pepsipeople are.
Speaker 2 (25:35):
I know which ones they are and yeah.
Speaker 1 (25:39):
I know which ones are the Pepsi ones.
Speaker 2 (25:41):
You know they are.
That is a real camp, thoughYou're either in Pepsi or you're
in Coke, but it's okay, pam, Istill like you and I like the
fact.
I like the fact that you standby your Pepsi.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
You stand by it.
I think it's too sweet, flatshit.
Speaker 2 (26:02):
She says it's like Diet Coke's, like straight acid.
It is stronger.
Speaker 1 (26:08):
Yeah, they are stronger, but I don't drink any
sodas anymore.
I don't.
Speaker 2 (26:14):
Soft drinks.
I don't buy them.
I have maybe.
I have maybe one every one ortwo weeks.
I have been drinking.
Speaker 1 (26:24):
A brand sent me um like a PR box, but they didn't
pay me anything so I didn't talkabout it or whatever.
But it is really good.
I'll have to look up.
I can't remember the name ofthem now so it doesn't even
matter, but it's.
I'll bring one and tell youabout it, because it's natural
things with fizz, but it's notgross like LaCroix.
Speaker 2 (26:47):
Well I bet it's what we have at home.
Dylan's been buying them andthey're like probiotic.
Yeah, yeah, they are, is it?
Speaker 1 (26:58):
bubbly.
It's not the bubbly.
I think that is one.
Speaker 2 (27:01):
But there's another one too, I think this is what I
just happened to look in the barfridge and I was like, oh,
they're good, they are good,they give you the fizz.
Speaker 1 (27:11):
Yeah, because I do miss the fizz occasionally.
Yeah, give me the fizz.
Yeah, because I do miss thefizz occasionally, and not that
I won't ever drink a soda, but Idon't.
Sometimes we do at marketMarket.
Speaker 2 (27:24):
Mainly for the caffeine.
Speaker 1 (27:25):
And I feel like when we do like floor resets, like
Christmas or something at thestores always do, because I
think moving everything is likedusty and I feel like it like—
Eats the dust out, clears out ofmy throat, yeah, but in a pinch
, pam— I will never drink Pepsi,not even in a pinch.
Speaker 2 (27:46):
You know, though I got—.
Speaker 1 (27:49):
I drink 7-Up.
Is that Pepsi product?
I think it is.
Speaker 2 (27:54):
I think it's its own.
Every now and then there's afew restaurants we go to that
serves Pepsi.
I'll still go to the restaurantif they don't serve, but I
usually get water.
Speaker 1 (28:06):
But okay, I've been with him.
When he goes to somewhere thatserves Pepsi and he's in the
mood for a Diet Coke, he willlet the ugh.
How Pepsi.
Yeah, okay, pam, you can comeback and fast forward in there.
This is a different, anotherone Listening to the Memphis
(28:29):
episode.
This was from 2024, she saidStephen, you are not.
If you have not already been toGraceland, I would highly
recommend it.
Speaker 2 (28:40):
He tells me not to go .
Speaker 1 (28:41):
Memphis is a really rough area.
Wesley is not exaggeratingCapital, not.
We stayed at the GracelandGuest House oh good Lord, I'm so
glad you survived which isowned by Elvis' granddaughter.
It is gated and patrolled.
(29:02):
Even if you don't stay thewhole time, at least stay there
one night.
They have an Elvis Theater,restaurant, bar and coffee shop.
Speaker 2 (29:12):
But it is really in a bad area.
Speaker 1 (29:14):
Yes, they also serve peanut butter and jelly
sandwiches at night.
The sandwiches were not verygood, but the little old lady
who attended high school withElvis Presley was serving them
and she was a joy to me.
I would recommend getting upearly, grabbing coffee
downstairs and walking to themansion.
(29:35):
Around six or seven they willopen the gates and let anyone
walk up to the meditation gardenwhere Elvis is buried.
If you visit the mansion, makesure to buy the whole package.
You are safely shuttled aroundthe grounds and you don't miss a
thing.
I would not recommend shoppingor getting gas slash groceries
(29:59):
in Memphis.
We drove out of Memphis to doany eating or shopping.
If you visit Beale Street,don't, but go during the day and
on a weekday.
Let me know how it goes.
I want you to go.
I'm going with you.
I want you to go.
Speaker 2 (30:16):
I ain't going with you.
I've always wanted to go toGraceland and Wesley's from
there, and he will not go withme, let's get a group together,
but there ain't nothing to see.
Speaker 1 (30:30):
There ain't nothing to see.
Why are you going to go to?
Speaker 2 (30:34):
Graceland, there's something to see.
A little gonna go to Graceland.
There's something to see.
Speaker 1 (30:36):
A little old house that's from 1950s.
It ain't even big compared tonowadays houses.
Speaker 2 (30:43):
No, it's not big.
Speaker 1 (30:45):
I mean, my house is like bigger than that, I don't
know.
Speaker 2 (30:51):
Anyway, Well, you just are a music person and you
don't really like Elvis yeah.
But like I don't know, likewhere That'd be, like me saying
I don't even know, but your momsaid like when she was in high
(31:12):
school it was really nice yeah.
Speaker 1 (31:14):
It was a really nice area.
I know it was like when she wasin high school it was really
nice.
Yeah, it was a really nice area.
Speaker 2 (31:17):
I know, it was like 80 years ago.
Speaker 1 (31:21):
Not that long, but it was a long time ago yeah.
Memphis used to be really nice.
Speaker 2 (31:28):
Well, it's such a historic city.
Speaker 1 (31:31):
Yeah, Anyway, city.
Yeah Anyway, this was I wantedto say that it is a very common.
Speaker 2 (31:43):
It is very common in rural Alabama to eat milk and
gravy on, milk gravy oncantaloupe we eat cantaloupe at
breakfast with gravy made withbacon, grease, flour and milk,
not sausage gravy Makes me wantto throw up and it's really good
like chicken, chicken gravy,Sausage gravy would be fine with
(32:04):
me as long as it was milk.
Speaker 1 (32:06):
So, yes, yes, this is a different person.
Yes, all the meals in my househad cantaloupe and milk gravy.
If cantaloupe was out of season, it got replaced with pear
salad.
Have you ever had pear salad?
Yes, for sure, a staple.
Half of a pear with a teaspoonof Duke's Anything else was a
(32:27):
staple and cheddar cheese,cheddar cheese and a cherry and
a paraschino cherry.
It's actually good.
I've seen that too.
But here's a great Southernism.
I ain't got a pot to piss inand a window to throw it out.
That's true.
Speaker 2 (32:46):
Yeah, but that came from in the days when they used
chamber pots.
You would pee in the chamberpot.
Oh dear Lord, can you imagine?
Okay, I have a question.
I guess if you back then Inever used a chamber pot, but if
you had to go doo-doo, I guessyou had to use it in a little
(33:08):
chamber, right?
Oh no, I ain't thought about it.
Speaker 1 (33:12):
They have a lid Gross .
But here goes maybe that's whenyou don't want to run out, I
guess, if you woke up in themiddle of the night and had to
go, number two, yeah, oh my God,if you got it, if you got it,
if you got it.
I won't tell it, I won'tembarrass you today.
Speaker 2 (33:34):
That's pretty bad.
Speaker 1 (33:39):
I won't embarrass you today.
That's pretty bad.
I won't embarrass you today.
That's pretty bad.
There was an incident one timewith Stephen and a and a trash
can and a trash can.
It didn't go so well so youwouldn't have done great in the
chamber pot.
I wouldn't.
Oh, my God, what else I likehearing names Some Southernisms
for Stephen Over yonder I thinkwe talked about that.
Don't let your mouth write acheck.
(33:59):
Your ass can't cash.
That's a good one.
That is a good one.
She doesn't have a pot to peein, that's true.
She's got more nerve than along-tail cat in a room full of
rocking chairs.
Yeah, I've heard that one.
That's funny.
Oh my gosh, I know you can'tuse these on the air, but I've
(34:22):
heard my husband's family saythese Well, why can't we Higher
than a horse cock when referringto an exorbitant price of an
item?
I haven't heard that, but I loveit Slicker than owl shit.
Yeah, I've heard that whenreferring to a slippery floor
yeah.
(34:42):
I've heard that Higher than ahorse cock.
I'm going to start using thatone.
Speaker 2 (34:46):
It's higher than a horse cock.
Now we grew up saying that'sslicker than owl shit, yeah, or
owl's grease too, that's if youwere trying to clean it up.
Speaker 1 (35:02):
I got a lot of like spam texts on here.
I haven't pre-read this one soI don't know.
Let me just read it.
And I don't know what it isbecause it's a long thing.
But I worked in the recoveryroom at the hospital when I was
in nursing school and went to anolder gynecologist Well,
50-something was older for avisit.
(35:24):
So I worked in a recovery roomat the hospital when I was in
nursing school, went to an oldergynecologist for a visit.
I knew him from the hospitaland you go to talk to them in
their office.
After your visit he turned redand got embarrassed.
When doing my exam I said tomyself why is he red, slash,
(35:45):
blushing.
He just saw my lady parts.
It's not like I saw his penis.
I was done.
After that he also talked to meabout my weight.
I wished I'd I was that small.
Now I switched doctors and toldhim first thing, please don't
talk about my weight Not herefor that and please don't turn
(36:07):
red.
We work together and I'm justlooking at your junk.
So, okay, all good.
Now I don't know.
That would be weird If theyturned red.
Speaker 2 (36:18):
Well, I mean so when I had my colonoscopy one of the
sweet I had the best nurses.
I mean, if you live inGreenville, you need to go.
I don't know where it was, I'llhave to think, I'll think of
the name, but they're great.
They are with Prisma Health,yeah, and they were great.
(36:40):
And the nurse was young andcute and she had symptoms and
needed a colonoscopy.
And she was talking to me aboutit because I was a complete
psychopath.
And she said you know, I workwith these people all day, the
(37:00):
nurses and the doctors so shewent somewhere else.
She did.
She was like they don't need tosee.
Speaker 1 (37:09):
You don't want to walk around knowing they saw
You're an asshole.
But you would think, becauseshe does that, that she would
know it's not really a thing.
But I guess when it comes toyou, they took a picture they
took.
Speaker 2 (37:24):
and he told me this because I said I have to have 10
minutes with him before, 10minutes after.
I have to.
I don't care if that's the waythey did things.
He was great.
And he told me you knowspecifically everything he was
going to do.
And he said and I take apicture of the outside before he
(37:47):
said it's just my standardpractice to do that.
And, sure enough, I opened upmy chart and right there was my
butthole.
I said, well, hello, that'sfunny.
I said well, hello, that'sfunny.
I said well, hello.
Speaker 1 (38:03):
That is funny.
Yeah, it was just there.
Speaker 2 (38:06):
I guess he was just making sure he didn't wreck it
or something.
I don't know what he was doing.
I mean he had a great bedsidemanner, yeah, I said.
He came in and he was like hi,I'm Dr Lizardo, and he was great
.
I was very impressed.
I said oh, are you the onethat's going to be violating me?
And he laughed.
(38:28):
He said but the good news is, Ihave small hands.
Speaker 1 (38:32):
Yeah, that's funny.
He had a great personality.
That is funny.
Yeah, this one turns from funnyand this one is from May.
We should have answered.
I should have looked at it butI didn't see it.
So if you're listening, becauseshe says she listens to our
podcast, but this could be foranyone, but she wants to know,
(38:53):
loves the podcast.
I look forward to listening.
But question about businessKnowing everything you know now
about retail and e-commerce, ifyou yourself was going to start
a business today, would youchoose to open a physical store
or would you focus on sellingonline?
Curious of any advice you mighthave for someone who's
(39:15):
interested in selling interiordecor in the ever-changing world
of retail.
Both, yeah, I would do both.
They go hand in hand and Ithink the question is where to
start and it could be differentfor each.
They go hand in hand.
I would do both and here's theway I would present it.
(39:36):
If you already have some peoplethat you know or social media
presence, anybody you can marketto, I would start small online,
but at the same time, I wouldbe trying to open a physical
retail location.
You need both because peoplewant to come in and see things,
(39:57):
but people want to shop 24-7 aswell.
And one thing that we talk aboutin our own business here,
because we started in retail andthen got heavy into e-commerce
both of them are every changing.
That's just business and smallbusiness.
You're always going to be ebband flow and trying to change
(40:19):
with whatever time it is.
The benefits of, say, a retailstore is you can build that as a
person, like we've built ourretail stores and we have
employees.
Those employees show up to workevery day, do a great job If
everything's going right, oursdo and do a great job and they
sell for you.
(40:39):
So our retail stores are open,selling, productive and
successful, independent of us.
Independent of us On aday-to-day On a day-to-day
sales-wise.
And then online, though, ismore about us, because if you're
(41:00):
watching or listening or doinga live sale, it's heavier on us.
Am I designing something at myhouse?
Am I unboxing something onInstagram?
Are we doing a live sale?
That sort of thing is whatdrives the sales.
Not that we don't get—you alsoget sales that just come in as
(41:21):
well but we're the biggestgenerator.
Yeah, the biggest generator forthe business is us doing the
live sales redecorating,unboxing something, showing
stuff on Instagram.
Speaker 2 (41:35):
I would also tag on to that.
I would do both, but I wouldprobably if I were giving you
advice, I would say do both, butstart out smaller on both ends
and have it in one building.
Speaker 1 (41:55):
Yeah, yeah, and you could do like how we started
online.
We had our retail store and wewere literally shipping product
off of our floor and from ourback room and we had like a what
an eight by eight room that weboxed and packed stuff in and we
were very selective on what weput online.
(42:15):
We didn't have our huge andeverything that was in our store
online we did like items thatwe had enough.
You know like, oh, we got 12 ofthis.
We can put six online, have sixin the store and we changed our
inventory often and we'reshipping that way.
But you can generate money thatway.
I mean you can generate foryour retail store extra.
(42:38):
You know, a lot of money.
That's the way I would startout.
So I would have it like Stephenis saying under one roof and
just have things listed onlineand not get overwhelmed, yeah,
and then you can grow it and seewhat part you enjoy, what's
taking off too.
Enjoy best and what's takingoff, yeah.
Speaker 2 (42:59):
Because the store's busier.
Speaker 1 (43:08):
If it's taking off more than the e-commerce, you
can focus more on that or youknow whatever.
But having the physical store,there's still benefits of being
able to have.
You know, open houses, you cando workshops, depending on what
it is.
You can have a lot of thingsthat draw in physical people
versus, like online, build yourbrand, yeah, but to me they
(43:30):
definitely go hand in hand.
I think, whether you're evenjust a small business, you
should sell online, even if youjust offer local pickup, because
you never know when yourcustomer from your physical
store is laying in bed at nightand like, oh, I need some
candles, let me go ahead andorder them and then I'll just go
(43:51):
by there and pick it up.
Like you can sell online andnot do the shipping.
You're not going to have asbroad of an audience.
The benefit of doing e-commerce, you know, is reaching beyond
your audience or your customerbase that you would have just
with your physical store as well.
That's a huge benefit, but itdoesn't have to be.
(44:11):
But I would definitely haveboth as options and then control
how you do it and which areayou grow in.
So that's my info from there Ihave.
I'm done looking through thosebecause I feel like I'm
distracted, but I have somethingI saw on social media that I
think we need to.
I should have shown you some soyou could picture it, but I
(44:34):
have been scrolling through andI don't know how these started
showing up.
I lost it.
I'm probably sitting on it onthis sofa or something, but this
was on TikTok.
I saw, and I guess I clicked onone and then you know it feeds
you more and more of it, butneither one of us have kids.
So we are going to talk aboutthis from an outside standpoint.
(44:57):
But there's people you knowgender reveals are a big thing.
Now you have a gender revealparty.
I mean for some people, noteverybody.
Speaker 2 (45:07):
I mean it used to be the gender reveal, used to be
the date of birth.
Speaker 1 (45:10):
Yeah, you announced it's a boy or a girl with a
cigar or a candy cigar orsomething that's here and there.
But people are posting thesegender reveals and they're being
videoed and they're like crazy,disappointed at what the sex is
(45:31):
.
That's terrible, isn't it?
Because I'm like now, the waythings stick around, like your
kid could see it.
Yeah, like I have videos.
Well, I mean, I've had myiPhone since 2008.
So I have videos and stuff onmy phone from 2008,.
Which is it's nothing for avideo to stick around 10 years.
(45:55):
And then your kid's like Idon't know.
And then everyone's there like,looking at you, I think that's
I'll have to show you something.
Then everyone's there like,looking at you.
I think that's I'll have toshow you something.
That's bothersome to me.
It is, and people were sayingin the comments that gender
doesn't mean like, but that thegender disappointment is a real
thing, doesn't mean like youdon't want the baby or you're
(46:17):
not going to love it.
Want the baby or you're notgonna love it.
But I just feel like if youwere doing, if you felt so
strong about wanting one or theother, why would you do a gender
reveal like, why would you setyourself up for that?
Speaker 2 (46:38):
disappointment.
You know what I'm saying.
That's where I don't like yeahand get a dog.
Well, I mean, if you're that.
Speaker 1 (46:42):
I'm sorry, I don't know.
No see, that's where we can'tput ourselves in their shoes
because we don't have kids.
But I just feel like if you aresitting at home and you feel
like if I'm not having a boy,I'm going to be crazy
disappointed, then don't do agender reveal and don't video
(47:06):
and don't post it.
Speaker 2 (47:07):
Well, and I kind of will put it like this too, I
have a friend, have a friendMcDonald's owners and she got
pregnant with their third child.
Yeah, and it was an oopssurprise, yeah, and she called
(47:30):
me.
I mean, and this is a greatmother, great wife, great mother
, great friend.
She called me and she could notget out of bed for like a week.
She was hysterical.
I couldn't say anything,anything.
(47:51):
I said it would just be awailing crying, like if I was
like well, maybe it's going tobe a good thing, maybe you'll
have, maybe this one will be aboy.
She was just inconsolable.
But her thing was is now aftera week.
She was excited and happy andshe adores her child now.
(48:14):
But her thing was it wasallegedly.
Now he does drive her crazy, soshe may still say she had
planned on just two children.
You know they had bought aMcDonald's, moved to a new city.
Speaker 1 (48:35):
So was it?
Was she hysterical because itwas an oops and she got pregnant
?
Or because it was a boy Oopsand got pregnant, she didn.
Or because it was a boy Oopsand got pregnant, she didn't?
Speaker 2 (48:43):
know it was a boy then oh, but see that's
different yeah but I'm saying,maybe it's like that.
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (48:50):
No, I mean, that's like, oh God, all my plans have
just gone down the shitterbecause I'm starting over.
You know you're in a differentmindset.
That's different.
Speaker 2 (49:00):
Now I can see from a practical standpoint.
If you've had two or three ofthe same sex and maybe you won't
maybe you have two boys andyou're like God, life would just
be easier if it was another boy.
Half clothes, you know.
Speaker 1 (49:18):
I know, but if you feel so strongly about it, why
are you doing a gender reveal?
You find that out in privateand have a meltdown and process
it.
Yeah.
Yeah, I'm not saying that, justyour disappointment.
I haven't seen any of it.
I'll send them to you.
You'll get on the.
It's a lot of them.
I mean, and like just meltdownor throw fits, or, and I'm like,
(49:42):
and sometimes it's the womanthat does it and sometimes it's
the man that does it, you know,I'm like I mean, there's always
a preference.
I mean, I'm sure you get yourhopes up.
If it's one or the other, Idon't know what do y'all think.
Tell us and text us on ourhotline.
I'll have it down in thecomments because I don't know
what do y'all think.
Tell us and text us on ourhotline.
(50:03):
I'll have it down in thecomments because I can't
remember the phone number.
Speaker 2 (50:05):
I mean I just love all kids, but I will say if I
were having I mean that used tobe my number one disappointment
was not having children.
Now it is not.
I consider it a blessingbecause it's just harder now,
right, raising kids, and I havemy nephews that are like my kids
(50:25):
, I know.
Speaker 1 (50:26):
I can't imagine.
You know, I wanted kids too fora long time, and now I'm like I
can't imagine raising kids Inthis in 2025.
Speaker 2 (50:36):
Yeah, it's got, but I guess you also do it.
Speaker 1 (50:39):
You do what you got to do and you navigate it.
So it's one of the—, but it'sjust harder.
I mean, parents have a—, butwith cell phones and AI and
just—.
Speaker 2 (50:50):
And drugs and everything so expensive I mean,
and it's the most important jobin the world.
So props to all you parents outthere.
I don't know how you do it andI sure as hell don't know how
you do it with more than one.
I mean I would just sink.
But I can say if I'd had achild, I would.
(51:15):
I mean I don't know because Iwould be like, well, having a
girl would be fun, having a boywould be fun.
I wouldn't have cared eitherway.
I wouldn't have cared eitherway.
I don't think.
Yeah, no, I wouldn't have caredeither way, but I can see how
you won't.
If you already have two girlsor two boys, you might want
(51:38):
opposite sex.
Speaker 1 (51:39):
I can see.
I can relate to people wantingone or the other.
I can't relate to publiclydoing the reveal, if you feel so
strong about it Now.
Speaker 2 (51:48):
I always think it's weird and y'all can tell me
because I haven't had children.
I always think it's weird whenpeople are like well, we have
three, but we're going to keeptrying until we get a girl and
I'm like that could be a longbody time, expensive and you
(52:09):
have to do.
I mean go buy one, like adopt agirl or something Like then I
wouldn't keep doing it.
I've had people say that andI'm like I don't know.
But whatever, you know, I alsoI have friends that have five,
six kids, you gotta love being aparent.
I know McDonald's owners thathave like six kids and y'all.
(52:33):
I could barely manage my lifewith no kids owning McDonald's.
Speaker 1 (52:39):
That's what I don't get.
How do you do it?
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (52:43):
And the people in McDonald's.
I know that I'm thinking ofright now in my head.
The mom is the original owner.
Yeah, and let me tell you, I'mnot knocking any dads out there
who do not attack me, but themothers.
(53:04):
I do not care how good yourfather is, there's great dads
out there.
The mom carries the weight.
I feel like they catch all theballs Right, because they're
catching the balls for thehusbands.
I mean not literally, well,that might be, but you know the
(53:26):
moms, they deal with the dentistappointments, the doctors, the
shots, the school.
You know, I feel like theyreally carry the weight.
And how do you do that with two, three, four, five, six kids
and operate amultimillion-dollar company?
I don't know how they do it.
I don't know either.
(53:48):
Women just debate Y'all womenout there.
I was telling a friend of minetoday.
She was talking to me and shewas talking about hormone
therapy and you know all thestuff women are going through at
our age now.
And I said damn.
I said y'all need some kind oflike, y'all need to be carried
(54:13):
around on a pedestal.
I said y'all.
I said if everything that wasdumped on women were dumped on
men, we would be extinct.
That's true.
Wouldn't be no babies, we'd bein the bed every month for a
week with periods, wouldn't beable to do nothing, that's funny
, Just sick.
Speaker 1 (54:34):
Oh well, it's time to pull this baby over.
That wraps it up.
Speaker 2 (54:38):
Oh, you're just ready to get the hell home, aren't
you?
Speaker 1 (54:41):
I am.
I got to go home now and editthis and it's already 9 pm.
This puts me in bed about 2 30by the time I get home have a
little dinner.
There's no edit, but it's noteven the edits.
I have to upload it.
Then I have to do this.
I have to do the front and thebeginning, cut it off where we
(55:02):
start.
Then I have to download it tomy computer.
Then I have to upload it to thehosting website and because
it's so long, each one of thosetakes like 45 minutes.
Then I have to do it for justthe podcast without the video.
Speaker 2 (55:18):
Y'all better be glad he's a tech-oriented, because
none of this shit would be fun.
Speaker 1 (55:22):
Even with no edits like I don't have to cut
anything out.
It takes three to four hoursJust because of download upload,
download upload.
Is this the?
Speaker 2 (55:32):
best use of this time .
Speaker 1 (55:33):
I don't think so, but I love it, so we're still doing
it.
That's why we're here.
So, yeah, we're pulling thisbaby over and I'm going home.
Speaker 2 (55:42):
Finish off my Labor Day night.
I know I've got a busy week too.
You do too.
Speaker 1 (55:48):
Fall time.
Alright, thanks for being here.
Remember to leave us a reviewwherever you're listening.
Share us with your friends.
That's the biggest complimentyou can give us for the podcast.
And remember you can join ouronline community where you can
watch the shit show if you wantto, at whosetrivingpodcastcom.
Speaker 2 (56:05):
Bye and drink your Coca-Cola Pam.
Speaker 1 (56:07):
Yeah, Pam, loosen up and drink a Coke.
Bye.
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