Why Does No One Tell You

Trafenia and Jess continue to chat with Paola who has experienced the taboo subject of miscarriages. Her story is about the hardships, the emotions, and the redemption offered to us. This is part 2 of a 3 part series. 

Key Takeaways:

• Our husbands are here to support us, even if they have a different perspective of pregnancy

• Sometimes the only thing there is to say is “I’m sorry for your loss”

• Community is important....

Grab your tissues and join Trafenia and Jess as they chat with Paola who has experienced the taboo subject of miscarriage. Her story is about the hardships, the emotions, and the redemption offered to us.

This is part 1 of a 3 part series. 

Key Takeaways:

• Miscarriages are more common than we think

• Family conversations surrounded death but also the hope of life after death

• Grieving never stops

Resources:

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Join us as we wrap up our talk with Esther Spence, PT about the importance of pelvic floor care and how to do it. We can prevent a lot of the things that “come with the territory” of becoming a mom. Just because it’s common doesn’t mean it’s normal.

Key Takeaways:

• You can fix the mom belly, the pee sneezes, and other things with pelvic floor care

• It’s important to ask to be referred to a pelvic floor PT if you think yo...

Join us as we talk with Esther Spence, PT about the importance of pelvic floor care and how to do it. We can prevent a lot of the things that “come with the territory” of becoming a mom. Just because it’s common doesn’t mean it’s normal.

Key Takeaways:

• We need to start looking at the body as a unit instead of separate parts

• As your core muscles stretch during pregnancy, they become less productive

• The brain with onl...

Are bedtime routines really that important? Join Jess and Trafenia as they talk through what works and what doesn’t. 

Key Takeaways:

• Make a conscious decision to not fret about it

• The point of bedtime is to wind down

• Find one thing that is non-negotiable that you can do for your child at bedtime

Resources:

Taking Cara Babies

https://takingcarababies.com/babys-bedtime-routine#content

https://takingcarabab...

Join Jess and Trafenia as they chat about consistency. As mothers it is easy to be hard on ourselves for lack of consistency but the reality is life ebbs and flows.

Key Takeaways:

• We are raising kids not a house.

• Women reset every 28 days and men reset every 24 hours

• Give yourself grace

Resources:

- In the FLO

https://www.amazon.com/FLO-Unlock-Hormonal-Advantage-Revolutionize/dp/0062870483

- How to Hack y...

Last week, we started the baby sleep conversation by focusing on night sleep. This week, we address naps!

Key Takeaways:

• Find a routine/schedule that works for you

• Be confident in your sleep choices as a parent

• Make sure everyone who cares for your baby is aware of the sleep routines you've chosen so your baby can get consistent sleep

Resources:

- https://www.healthline.com/health/pregnancy/safe-sleep-7#s...

No one talks about the complications of sleep, and who would have thought that sleep is complicated! When you have a baby there are so many things to consider, including how to sleep. There seems to be so many different options such as co-sleeping, sleeping in a bassinet, or sleeping in a crib. Join Jess and Trafenia as they talk about what they did for their babies's sleep.

Key Takeaways:

• Your opinion is the only on...

Join Jess and Trafenia as they talk about pregnancy side effects. Apparently you can have any or all of them! Jess and Trafenia share their experiences as they go through a list of possible side effects.

Key Takeaways:

• Everyone has a different pregnancy experience; No two pregnancies are the same
• You can experience side effects to varying degrees.
• The first trimester is generally when you feel the most of the effects
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*Episode Disclaimer: This episode could be triggering for some of our listeners. It involves inappropriate touching from a doctor and some language is used. Listener discretion is advised.

 

As we wrap up season 2, Trafenia's friend shares the remainder of her birthing experience. She shares how, though she doubted her instincts in the moment, they stuck with her past her delivery and she eventually acts on these instincts.

*Episode Disclaimer: This episode could be triggering for some of our listeners. It involves inappropriate touching from a doctor and some language is used. Listener discretion is advised.

As we wrap up season 2, Jess and Trafenia speak with one of Trafenia’s dear friends about her birthing experience. She shares how it wasn’t what she thought it would be and how she doubted her instincts, despite it being her third labor.

Join Jess and Trafenia as they continue to talk about baby registries. What do you put on the baby registry and how do you know you will use it? Jess and Trafenia review a baby registry list and give their two cents on if you need it or not. 

Key Takeaways:

• Ask other moms what they thought was useful vs. unnecessary

• Consider the functionality of items and how they pertain to your lifestyle to determine their usefulness

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Join Jess and Trafenia as they talk about baby registries. What do you put on the baby registry and how do you know you will use it? Jess and Trafenia review a baby registry list and give their two cents on if you need it or not. Tune in next week for Part 2!

Key Takeaways:

• First time moms typically put between 100-120 items on their registry

• Get the stuff for when they get sick ahead of time

• It’s okay if you don’t ...

In this episode, Jess and Trafenia ask why no one tells you how relationships change when you become a parent. They talk about how relationships change with your spouse, your friends, and your parents. Things will change, and it is about navigating those changes with intentionality.

Key Takeaways:

• Boundaries are based on values, limits are based on safety

• Partners go through a lot of changes as well and sometimes can f...

This week’s episode was very healing for us as we addressed snapback culture and the difficulties of getting your ish back together post-birth. Through our conversation we found what it really means to “get your ish together.” Key Takeaways: - It takes time  - Figure out who you want to be - It’s not about snapping back but leaping forward Resources: - Fly Lady Plus app - Sweepy App Connect with us!  Instagram: @whydoesnoonetell...

What does it take to start a baby on solids? Jess and Trafenia talk about their experience when introducing solids to their babies and how to navigate allergens. Jess also shares her experience with getting her son tested for allergies.

Key Takeaways:

• Trust yourself and your instincts, but most of all trust your baby to know what to do

• Know the difference between gagging and choking as well as what requirements your ba...

In this week's episode, we discuss our own difficulties with weaning our babies from breastfeeding, but we also reveal the beauties to be found in doing so.

Key Takeaways:

• Expect changes in your mood when weaning

• How you go about weaning is your choice

• Ultimately, though it may be hard, weaning is beneficial for both you and the child

Resources:

- https://www.who.int/health-topics/breastfeeding#tab=t...

This week, we talk about our own experiences acclimating our pets to our babies, and we also look into what trainers have said about how to go about the acclimating process.

Key Takeaways:

• Have a plan

• Be patient

• Overall, your baby’s safety comes first

Resources:

- https://www.cesarsway.com/introduce-your-dog-to-your-baby/

- https://www.humanesociety.org/resources/introducing-your-cat-your-new-baby

 

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This week we talk about cradle cap and baby eczema, how to know if your baby has either, and how to care for both conditions.

- Cradle cap can appear on your baby's head at any point within the first year

- Baby eczema is generally related to gut issues, often caused by dairy

- Be sure to stay away from fragranced products for your baby before 6 months, and be cautious of them after 6 months.

Resources:

- Cradle cap: ...