October 12, 2023 • 22 mins
Do you ever wonder why progress seems elusive despite your best efforts to lose those extra pounds? We're exploring the less discussed issues of self-sabotage and excuses that could derail your weight-loss journey on this episode of the WHY to Fitness Podcast. Join your host, Aaron O'Connell, as he nimbly navigates the complexities of the physical and psychological factors hindering your progress. Aaron unearths the profound insights on human emotional needs as expounded by Tony Robbins and explains how these could subtly influence our actions and decisions.
Certainty can be a critical ally in the quest for successful weight loss. Aaron illuminates how having a definitive plan, confidence in your ability to execute it, and a deep understanding of the reasons behind your fitness journey can profoundly impact your success rate. Tune in as he takes a spiritual turn, advocating for a fitness journey connected to God for an additional layer of motivation and focus. Taking inspiration from billionaire HL Hunt, Aaron breaks down the three key components that spell success and how these can be harnessed for your weight loss journey. For those struggling with weight loss, this episode is a treasure trove of enlightening insights designed to help overcome self-sabotage and maintain unwavering consistency.
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Speaker 1 (00:04):
For anyone to be 100% motivated 100% motivated to
achieve their goals three thingsmust happen.
If there's any doubt in yourmind that you won't be able to
follow through with the planthat you're going after, the
likelihood that you're going tofollow through is slim to the
(00:27):
eye.
Welcome to the Y2 FitnessPodcast.
I'm your host, aaron O'Connell,and today I am talking about
self-sabotage, excuses and whyyou're not losing weight.
There's many physicalpossibilities you're not losing
weight.
If you just do a Google search,you'll find a huge amount of
(00:51):
reasons why you're not losingweight.
There certainly is no shortageof information out there.
But then why do people stillstruggle to reach their goals If
there is countless proven waysto lose weight through different
diet and exercise programs?
Why are people struggling somuch to lose weight?
For my observation over thepast decade as a trainer, people
(01:15):
aren't struggling to loseweight or achieve their goals
because they don't know how.
Rather, they struggle to stayconsistent with their plan to
ever lose weight in the firstplace.
Consistent sabotage and excusesare the leading culprit on why
you're not losing weight.
(01:36):
What if I told you that you'renot following through and
consistently sabotaging andmaking excuses is because you're
subconsciously trying to fillyour emotional needs.
Not your physical needs likefood or shelter, but the
emotional needs that driveeverything you do.
(01:56):
But first let's quickly exploresome physical reasons why you're
not losing weight, because ifany of these apply to you, then
the answer is straightforward.
Number one you're eating toomany calories.
If you're consuming morecalories than you're burning
each day, you're not going tolose weight.
Or, on the flip side, if you'vebeen eating too little calories
(02:18):
for too long, your metabolismwill lower to adapt and you'll
really not lose weight becauseyou're shutting down your body.
Your thyroid will be going down, your hormone production will
be going down.
You'll be starting to eatmuscle.
Third reason could be you're notdrinking enough water.
(02:39):
Every function in the bodyhappens in a mean of water.
This water is crucial to loseweight.
Peeing is actually one of thethree ways you lose fat.
Your only way you can get ridof fat is by peeing, breathing
and sweating.
Next reason is you're noteating enough protein, because
(03:02):
protein raises your metabolismand keeps you full.
It also is the building blockof muscles.
Or you could be drinking toomuch alcohol, because alcohol is
extremely harmful on weightloss Anytime alcohol is in the
presence of the body.
All other energy, food,calories goes and gets pushed
(03:23):
off to the side because it needsto process that poison.
Another reason is your foodquality is just extremely low.
If you're constantly eatingjunk food, your body is going to
start storing it as fat.
You may have an underlyingmedical condition which is
working against you.
(03:43):
That's quite a bit ofpossibility.
Or you could be on medicationthat could be interfering with
your weight loss.
Certain medications, likedepression medications, can make
it really hard to lose weight.
Maybe you're just going off onthe weekend and going wild and
making horrible decisions onthat weekend, which actually
would be part of thatself-sabotage.
(04:05):
Maybe you're not evenspecifically trying to
self-sabotage, you're just goingoff on the weekend having fun.
Or maybe you're not gettingenough fiber, as fiber helps you
move food through your body andkeep your metabolism regular.
Yeah, you may not need fiber ifyou're on a carnivore diet or a
low carb diet, you won't reallyneed much, but most people
(04:27):
aren't on those diets or don'tsustain those diets for long
anyways.
Or maybe you're not exercisingenough, not moving enough,
you're just sitting there,you're a couch potato.
Or maybe you're not sleepingenough, as sleep is vital for
repair, vital to keep your bodyin check your hormones regularly
(04:48):
and everything.
These are just possiblephysical reasons why you're not
losing weight.
But, as I stated earlier, thereal reason most people aren't
losing weight is because theynever say consistent enough.
They self-sabotage and theymake excuses why they didn't
follow through on what they saidthey wanted to do.
So what gives?
(05:09):
Why do so many say they wantsomething yet never follow
through?
There is a reason why you doeverything you do.
You may not consciously knowwhy, but there is a reason you
cheated on your diet.
There's a reason you worked out.
There's a reason you didn'twork out.
(05:30):
There's a reason.
The good news is is there'sonly about six reasons why you
do what you do.
According to Tony Robbins, who'smet tens of millions of people
from all over the world, hefigured out that there are six
emotional needs that, combined,are the reason you do everything
, both good and bad.
(05:51):
There are many stories,blueprints, beliefs or rules
that people hold that may holdyou back, but those revolve
around the six emotional needs,and those needs are number one,
the need for certainty.
Number two, the need forvariety.
Three, the need to feelsignificant or special,
important or needed.
(06:11):
Number four, the need forconnection and love.
Five, the need for growth.
And six, the need forcontribution.
Everyone has these same sixneeds, but we don't value them
equally.
The goal is to figure out whichtwo needs are your top two
(06:32):
needs.
These top two needs determinethe direction of your life,
which, ultimately, we determinewhere you will end up.
If you do need more informationon the six emotional needs,
just go Google it right Sixemotional needs, tony Robbins
you'll be able to dive deep intothat.
But what do these six emotionalneeds have to do with not being
(06:53):
able to lose weight?
As I said, these six emotionalneeds explain why you do what
you do.
But the first need, the needfor certainty, is a survival
need and is why you're notlosing weight.
Certainty, like I said, is asurvival need.
(07:13):
You need to feel certain thatyou can avoid pain and
discomfort and ultimately findsome joy and comfort.
Why?
Because continuously feelingpain or discomfort leads to
continuous damage.
With continuous damage comesdeath and we are wired to
survive.
Hence why certainty is asurvival need.
(07:35):
For anyone to be 100% motivated100% motivated to achieve their
goals, three things must happen.
One, you must be certain theplan or the strategy you're
doing will achieve weight loss.
Two, you must be certain youcan follow through with the plan
or the strategy.
(07:56):
And three, you must be certainwhy you want to lose weight in
the first place.
The billionaire HL Hunt put itlike this there are only three
requirements for success First,decide exactly what it is you
want in life.
Second, determine the price youare going to have to pay to get
(08:16):
things you want.
And third, and this is the mostimportant, resolve to pay that,
to pay that price.
So let's break those down.
Number one you're not certainthat the plan or strategy you're
going to do will ever achievethe weight loss.
If you aren't certain that theplan you're following is the
best plan, you'll always find anexcuse to waver and you'll
(08:39):
sabotage your results.
Because, as I said before,there's countless ways to lose
weight, from the numerous typesof diets to the plethora of
workout programs.
With this information overload,it's easy to get lost in a sea
of information.
If you don't ask and explorewhy a certain plan is the best
to achieve your desired weightloss, you'll just be following
(09:00):
blindly.
Then, when any undesirablething comes up in your life
which it will, because it'scalled life the chance you stick
with it.
When you don't know why theplan is even the best plan in
the first place is unlikely.
Also, the fact that there aremany other options promising an
easier, newer, quicker way tolose weight.
(09:21):
Boom, zero consistency, and anyresults that were shown get
reset as you jump from diet todiet, from workout plan to
workout plan.
So what's the solution?
You need to start by askingquestions why you believe the
current plan will be the bestfit for you.
If you can answer why and itmakes sense, then begin it.
(09:45):
Then, as time goes on, stayvigilant to figure out what
patterns and aspects of the planwork and which ones don't.
If you're always screwing up onthe goal, the exact same way
for the same reasons, justacknowledge it and remove that
pattern and replace it with anew one or new plan until you
find the plan that works for you, your life and your
(10:07):
surroundings.
Number two you must be certainyou can follow through with the
plan.
If there's any doubt in yourmind that you won't be able to
follow through with the planthat you're going after, the
likelihood that you're going tofollow through is slim to none.
Why would you do something thatyou believe won't work?
You won't, so the solution isfinding one that you know you
(10:35):
can consistently follow.
That's easy and most fun.
You want it to be easy and funbecause easy and fun is
sustainable.
Keep a list of all the thingsyou like about a plan and
aspects that you don't like ofit.
And as time goes on, you startto try different plans and
strategies.
You'll begin to figure out whatyou like and what you dislike.
(10:56):
Begin through the course oftrial and error.
You'll end up finding a plan orstrategy or mixture of them
that works for you and yourgoals.
This is also another reason whyso many people struggle is
because they're not certain theycan follow through, because
they keep doing the same plansover and over again.
(11:17):
It worked for them this time orthat time in the past, but they
know they always end up endingit.
They don't like it, they can'tstick to it.
They self-sabotage, they makeexcuses, but they keep doing it
anyways, almost to makethemselves feel good.
But that's that certainty ofcomfort that I am talking about.
(11:39):
And number three you're notcertain why you want to lose
weight in the first place.
As Jim Rohn says, the biggerthe why, the easier the how.
You need to desire to loseweight and have compelling
reasons why you want to lose theweight in the first place.
Also, jim Rohn stated reasoncome first, answers come second.
(12:01):
Your why is the reason you wantto lose weight in the first
place?
The more reasons you come upwith to lose weight, the
likelier it will be for you todo so.
When reasons become so powerful, they can almost be interpreted
as needs.
Unfortunately, the extremelycrucial first step gets
overlooked way too often and isone of the biggest reasons why
(12:23):
you're not losing weight.
As a Christian, we need to havethese goals.
Point to God.
If they are for selfish reasons, if they are for vanity reasons
, if they are for reasons tomake you feel good, these are
not strong enough.
Wise, because it goes directlyagainst the Christian principles
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of dying to self, picking upyour cross daily, doing
everything for God, making himthe leader of your life, keeping
him at the first to love himwith all your mind, soul.
It's all that you have, havingno false idol before him.
I've seen and heard too manypeople set out with a goal of
(13:07):
losing weight and the reason whythey want to lose weight aren't
compelling or, worse, havenothing to do with losing weight
.
So let me show you some.
Let's just put together somescenarios that you may fall into
.
I'll just say Annie is married,yet her husband doesn't give
her the attention she desires.
She believes her weight is thereason why her husband isn't
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giving her the love she wants.
Annie decides to hire a personaltrainer to help her diet and
exercise.
Things are going great for thefirst two weeks and she loses 10
pounds of the 30 that she setout to do.
Unfortunately, her husbanddoesn't even acknowledge her
efforts, let alone the results.
She then works out and diets alittle harder and loses five
(13:53):
more pounds.
Yet no change with her husband.
So what does she do?
She sabotages her diet and thedepressed state ends up gaining
10 pounds back.
Then either two things happenshe completely gives up and
gains everything back and admitsdefeat, or she dies back in and
goes even harder, only to findherself sabotaging her efforts
(14:14):
again with a pint of ice creamand a sleeve of Oreos, and then
continues on this cycle over andover.
So why is she sabotaging herself?
Sure, it could be the plan wasfaulty, but she was losing the
weight, so that couldn't be it.
So I'm willing to bet and I'mcertain that she is sabotaging
herself because she isn'treceiving the result.
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The reason she truly desired tolose the weight, because what
she didn't desire to lose weight, that wasn't really what she
wanted.
She wanted her husband to giveher attention, attention.
So why does she keep doing thesame thing repeatedly, despite
her not getting results?
That's the definition ofinsanity, isn't it?
(14:57):
And the reason is certainty.
The cycle of effort andsabotage, resulting a little to
no change, repeatedly fulfillsthe emotional need of certainty.
She is certain that losing theweight that 30 pounds will
result in the attention shewants for her husband, but she's
also certain that the strategyof a higher hiring a personal
(15:18):
trainer and Following therecommendations will result in
the weight loss and give herthat love that she wants.
She's also certain that sheisn't achieving her weight loss
because she is self sabotaging.
The cycle of certainty is whyshe can't lose weight, but also
provides her comfort.
It provides her comfort becauseshe still believes she's doing
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the right thing to get herhusband to pay more attention.
And, as Tony Robbins states,remember, as long as you believe
something, your brain operateson automatic pilot, filtering
out any input from theenvironment and searching for
references to validate yourbelief, regardless of what it is
.
This is why this is a littleside note, but this is why you
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can't get through to people thatare so against Christianity,
that are so against why a mancan't become a woman, because
it's their brains are onautopilot.
That's the same thing that'shappening within your weight
loss journey.
She continues to work out anddiet and sabotage, never seen
(16:25):
results, and it's because she ishas a faulty why.
So here's scenario to Fred isdepressed and unhappy with his
life.
He sees all these social mediainfluencers that are fit and
believes that if he loses weightand gets a six pack, he'll be
happy and fulfilled.
He has convinced himself thatall these people are happy and
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have relationships because theyaren't fat or whatever it is.
I hear it all the time oh man,if I just lost this last little
bit of weight, I'd be good newsflash.
I've been there and it's notthat way.
But let's continue with thestory.
So Fred starts dieting andexercising rigorously and he
loses 5% body fat, his goal ofgetting a six packs in sight.
(17:12):
Despite getting to this point,he just got blown off by a
so-called friend and, worse yet,hasn't gotten a match on Tinder
for a month.
The feelings of depression andhappiness rush over him and he
sabotages himself and eats twopizzas and a box of brownies.
He wakes up feeling worse thanever.
He vows never to do it againand gets, gets right after that
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six pack again, only to get towhere he before was before and,
boom, sabotages again Becausesome, somebody, said something
nasty to him.
He then continues thisrepetitive cycle or just gives
up.
But why would he continuetrying if it doesn't work?
Yep, you guessed it.
Certainty.
He's certain.
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If he gets a six pack, peoplewill like him and he'll be happy
.
Every time he gets close,though, he finds himself just as
unhappy as before.
He purposely sabotages himselfto stay comforted that he's
certain that he's doing theright thing, but he's also
certain he's not getting itbecause he sabotages himself.
Does any of this sound familiar?
(18:16):
The problem with both scenariosis the reason why they wanted
to lose the weight had nothingto do with losing weight, rather
a feeling.
Feelings can come and go andaren't dictated by the
situations we're in.
We have the power to respond toevery situation any way we
choose.
In scenario one, annie wastrying to fix a problem with her
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husband by losing weight, notrelated.
Scenario two Fred wanted tolose weight to be happy.
But happy is a decision, not aresult.
Fred could have just chosen tobe happy despite any physical
challenges.
There are plenty of jolly fatpeople out there Just look at
Santa Claus.
So what's the solution?
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Before embarking on your weightloss, we need to write down
compelling reasons why you wantto achieve the goal and make
sure they're relevant.
As Christians, we need to makesure they're celebrating God,
they're glorifying God, and notjust our selfish selves.
We can't be expecting a workoutplan, a diet, our physical
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flesh be the reason why we havejoy.
No, the joy of the Lord is ourstrengths.
The Bible says we need to bederiving our joy off of God and
all the things that he has givenus.
We need to start with gratitude.
Praise and thanksgiving puts usin the court of God.
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God is the ultimate healer.
God is the ultimate physician.
The Holy Spirit resides in you,your body, its temple.
These are reasons why youshould be not a fat tub of art,
why you should be taking care ofyourself, why you shouldn't be
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constantly putting all thisendless junk in your body just
because it makes you feel good.
We need to be ready and capablefor anything God, the devil or
life throws our way, because thedevil is after us.
Just look at the world aroundus.
We're not struggling with fleshand blood, but principalities
(20:35):
of this world.
Israel is at war right now andyet we're concerned about
ourselves.
Our main focus is our happiness.
Our main focus is our bodies,our workout plans.
We put more focus on ourworkout plans than we do on God.
(20:56):
We're only here for a temporaryamount of time, but that
doesn't mean neglect our bodies.
No, it means that we shouldkeep them in tip-top shape to
glorify God, so we can speakwith authority, so we can have
the energy to be able to go outand witness, so we can have the
energy and the brain capacitybecause when you're more fit,
(21:17):
when you're working out hard,you're going to have a more
sound mental ability to go, beable to think straight, to be
able to go and talk to people ina way that they want to hear it
, and not just all around.
(21:37):
We need to live our lives forGod, but unfortunately, most
people are living their lives bymeeting their needs just in the
moment and not that long term.
They're not eternal focused.
They end up feeling good for ashort time, like a sugar high,
but then they drop.
(21:58):
Let's avoid this contradictionby becoming certain that our
plan will work, certain that youcan carry out the plan and
certain why you want to loseweight in the first place.
If you're struggling with anyof those, if you're struggling
to carry out the plan, it's notworking, then If you're not
(22:23):
believing you can carry out theplan, or you don't know why you
want to lose weight, or can'tfigure out how to connect it to
God or whatever it is, contactme.
Go on Y2fitnesscom today andfill out a contact form and I
(22:43):
will help you.
For anyone to be 100% motivated 100% motivated to
achieve their goals three thingsmust happen.
If there's any doubt in yourmind that you won't be able to
follow through with the planthat you're going after, the
likelihood that you're going tofollow through is slim to the
(00:27):
eye.
Welcome to the Y2 FitnessPodcast.
I'm your host, aaron O'Connell,and today I am talking about
self-sabotage, excuses and whyyou're not losing weight.
There's many physicalpossibilities you're not losing
weight.
If you just do a Google search,you'll find a huge amount of
(00:51):
reasons why you're not losingweight.
There certainly is no shortageof information out there.
But then why do people stillstruggle to reach their goals If
there is countless proven waysto lose weight through different
diet and exercise programs?
Why are people struggling somuch to lose weight?
For my observation over thepast decade as a trainer, people
(01:15):
aren't struggling to loseweight or achieve their goals
because they don't know how.
Rather, they struggle to stayconsistent with their plan to
ever lose weight in the firstplace.
Consistent sabotage and excusesare the leading culprit on why
you're not losing weight.
(01:36):
What if I told you that you'renot following through and
consistently sabotaging andmaking excuses is because you're
subconsciously trying to fillyour emotional needs.
Not your physical needs likefood or shelter, but the
emotional needs that driveeverything you do.
(01:56):
But first let's quickly exploresome physical reasons why you're
not losing weight, because ifany of these apply to you, then
the answer is straightforward.
Number one you're eating toomany calories.
If you're consuming morecalories than you're burning
each day, you're not going tolose weight.
Or, on the flip side, if you'vebeen eating too little calories
(02:18):
for too long, your metabolismwill lower to adapt and you'll
really not lose weight becauseyou're shutting down your body.
Your thyroid will be going down, your hormone production will
be going down.
You'll be starting to eatmuscle.
Third reason could be you're notdrinking enough water.
(02:39):
Every function in the bodyhappens in a mean of water.
This water is crucial to loseweight.
Peeing is actually one of thethree ways you lose fat.
Your only way you can get ridof fat is by peeing, breathing
and sweating.
Next reason is you're noteating enough protein, because
(03:02):
protein raises your metabolismand keeps you full.
It also is the building blockof muscles.
Or you could be drinking toomuch alcohol, because alcohol is
extremely harmful on weightloss Anytime alcohol is in the
presence of the body.
All other energy, food,calories goes and gets pushed
(03:23):
off to the side because it needsto process that poison.
Another reason is your foodquality is just extremely low.
If you're constantly eatingjunk food, your body is going to
start storing it as fat.
You may have an underlyingmedical condition which is
working against you.
(03:43):
That's quite a bit ofpossibility.
Or you could be on medicationthat could be interfering with
your weight loss.
Certain medications, likedepression medications, can make
it really hard to lose weight.
Maybe you're just going off onthe weekend and going wild and
making horrible decisions onthat weekend, which actually
would be part of thatself-sabotage.
(04:05):
Maybe you're not evenspecifically trying to
self-sabotage, you're just goingoff on the weekend having fun.
Or maybe you're not gettingenough fiber, as fiber helps you
move food through your body andkeep your metabolism regular.
Yeah, you may not need fiber ifyou're on a carnivore diet or a
low carb diet, you won't reallyneed much, but most people
(04:27):
aren't on those diets or don'tsustain those diets for long
anyways.
Or maybe you're not exercisingenough, not moving enough,
you're just sitting there,you're a couch potato.
Or maybe you're not sleepingenough, as sleep is vital for
repair, vital to keep your bodyin check your hormones regularly
(04:48):
and everything.
These are just possiblephysical reasons why you're not
losing weight.
But, as I stated earlier, thereal reason most people aren't
losing weight is because theynever say consistent enough.
They self-sabotage and theymake excuses why they didn't
follow through on what they saidthey wanted to do.
So what gives?
(05:09):
Why do so many say they wantsomething yet never follow
through?
There is a reason why you doeverything you do.
You may not consciously knowwhy, but there is a reason you
cheated on your diet.
There's a reason you worked out.
There's a reason you didn'twork out.
(05:30):
There's a reason.
The good news is is there'sonly about six reasons why you
do what you do.
According to Tony Robbins, who'smet tens of millions of people
from all over the world, hefigured out that there are six
emotional needs that, combined,are the reason you do everything
, both good and bad.
(05:51):
There are many stories,blueprints, beliefs or rules
that people hold that may holdyou back, but those revolve
around the six emotional needs,and those needs are number one,
the need for certainty.
Number two, the need forvariety.
Three, the need to feelsignificant or special,
important or needed.
(06:11):
Number four, the need forconnection and love.
Five, the need for growth.
And six, the need forcontribution.
Everyone has these same sixneeds, but we don't value them
equally.
The goal is to figure out whichtwo needs are your top two
(06:32):
needs.
These top two needs determinethe direction of your life,
which, ultimately, we determinewhere you will end up.
If you do need more informationon the six emotional needs,
just go Google it right Sixemotional needs, tony Robbins
you'll be able to dive deep intothat.
But what do these six emotionalneeds have to do with not being
(06:53):
able to lose weight?
As I said, these six emotionalneeds explain why you do what
you do.
But the first need, the needfor certainty, is a survival
need and is why you're notlosing weight.
Certainty, like I said, is asurvival need.
(07:13):
You need to feel certain thatyou can avoid pain and
discomfort and ultimately findsome joy and comfort.
Why?
Because continuously feelingpain or discomfort leads to
continuous damage.
With continuous damage comesdeath and we are wired to
survive.
Hence why certainty is asurvival need.
(07:35):
For anyone to be 100% motivated100% motivated to achieve their
goals, three things must happen.
One, you must be certain theplan or the strategy you're
doing will achieve weight loss.
Two, you must be certain youcan follow through with the plan
or the strategy.
(07:56):
And three, you must be certainwhy you want to lose weight in
the first place.
The billionaire HL Hunt put itlike this there are only three
requirements for success First,decide exactly what it is you
want in life.
Second, determine the price youare going to have to pay to get
(08:16):
things you want.
And third, and this is the mostimportant, resolve to pay that,
to pay that price.
So let's break those down.
Number one you're not certainthat the plan or strategy you're
going to do will ever achievethe weight loss.
If you aren't certain that theplan you're following is the
best plan, you'll always find anexcuse to waver and you'll
(08:39):
sabotage your results.
Because, as I said before,there's countless ways to lose
weight, from the numerous typesof diets to the plethora of
workout programs.
With this information overload,it's easy to get lost in a sea
of information.
If you don't ask and explorewhy a certain plan is the best
to achieve your desired weightloss, you'll just be following
(09:00):
blindly.
Then, when any undesirablething comes up in your life
which it will, because it'scalled life the chance you stick
with it.
When you don't know why theplan is even the best plan in
the first place is unlikely.
Also, the fact that there aremany other options promising an
easier, newer, quicker way tolose weight.
(09:21):
Boom, zero consistency, and anyresults that were shown get
reset as you jump from diet todiet, from workout plan to
workout plan.
So what's the solution?
You need to start by askingquestions why you believe the
current plan will be the bestfit for you.
If you can answer why and itmakes sense, then begin it.
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Then, as time goes on, stayvigilant to figure out what
patterns and aspects of the planwork and which ones don't.
If you're always screwing up onthe goal, the exact same way
for the same reasons, justacknowledge it and remove that
pattern and replace it with anew one or new plan until you
find the plan that works for you, your life and your
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surroundings.
Number two you must be certainyou can follow through with the
plan.
If there's any doubt in yourmind that you won't be able to
follow through with the planthat you're going after, the
likelihood that you're going tofollow through is slim to none.
Why would you do something thatyou believe won't work?
You won't, so the solution isfinding one that you know you
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can consistently follow.
That's easy and most fun.
You want it to be easy and funbecause easy and fun is
sustainable.
Keep a list of all the thingsyou like about a plan and
aspects that you don't like ofit.
And as time goes on, you startto try different plans and
strategies.
You'll begin to figure out whatyou like and what you dislike.
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Begin through the course oftrial and error.
You'll end up finding a plan orstrategy or mixture of them
that works for you and yourgoals.
This is also another reason whyso many people struggle is
because they're not certain theycan follow through, because
they keep doing the same plansover and over again.
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It worked for them this time orthat time in the past, but they
know they always end up endingit.
They don't like it, they can'tstick to it.
They self-sabotage, they makeexcuses, but they keep doing it
anyways, almost to makethemselves feel good.
But that's that certainty ofcomfort that I am talking about.
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And number three you're notcertain why you want to lose
weight in the first place.
As Jim Rohn says, the biggerthe why, the easier the how.
You need to desire to loseweight and have compelling
reasons why you want to lose theweight in the first place.
Also, jim Rohn stated reasoncome first, answers come second.
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Your why is the reason you wantto lose weight in the first
place?
The more reasons you come upwith to lose weight, the
likelier it will be for you todo so.
When reasons become so powerful, they can almost be interpreted
as needs.
Unfortunately, the extremelycrucial first step gets
overlooked way too often and isone of the biggest reasons why
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you're not losing weight.
As a Christian, we need to havethese goals.
Point to God.
If they are for selfish reasons, if they are for vanity reasons
, if they are for reasons tomake you feel good, these are
not strong enough.
Wise, because it goes directlyagainst the Christian principles
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of dying to self, picking upyour cross daily, doing
everything for God, making himthe leader of your life, keeping
him at the first to love himwith all your mind, soul.
It's all that you have, havingno false idol before him.
I've seen and heard too manypeople set out with a goal of
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losing weight and the reason whythey want to lose weight aren't
compelling or, worse, havenothing to do with losing weight
.
So let me show you some.
Let's just put together somescenarios that you may fall into
.
I'll just say Annie is married,yet her husband doesn't give
her the attention she desires.
She believes her weight is thereason why her husband isn't
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giving her the love she wants.
Annie decides to hire a personaltrainer to help her diet and
exercise.
Things are going great for thefirst two weeks and she loses 10
pounds of the 30 that she setout to do.
Unfortunately, her husbanddoesn't even acknowledge her
efforts, let alone the results.
She then works out and diets alittle harder and loses five
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more pounds.
Yet no change with her husband.
So what does she do?
She sabotages her diet and thedepressed state ends up gaining
10 pounds back.
Then either two things happenshe completely gives up and
gains everything back and admitsdefeat, or she dies back in and
goes even harder, only to findherself sabotaging her efforts
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again with a pint of ice creamand a sleeve of Oreos, and then
continues on this cycle over andover.
So why is she sabotaging herself?
Sure, it could be the plan wasfaulty, but she was losing the
weight, so that couldn't be it.
So I'm willing to bet and I'mcertain that she is sabotaging
herself because she isn'treceiving the result.
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The reason she truly desired tolose the weight, because what
she didn't desire to lose weight, that wasn't really what she
wanted.
She wanted her husband to giveher attention, attention.
So why does she keep doing thesame thing repeatedly, despite
her not getting results?
That's the definition ofinsanity, isn't it?
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And the reason is certainty.
The cycle of effort andsabotage, resulting a little to
no change, repeatedly fulfillsthe emotional need of certainty.
She is certain that losing theweight that 30 pounds will
result in the attention shewants for her husband, but she's
also certain that the strategyof a higher hiring a personal
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trainer and Following therecommendations will result in
the weight loss and give herthat love that she wants.
She's also certain that sheisn't achieving her weight loss
because she is self sabotaging.
The cycle of certainty is whyshe can't lose weight, but also
provides her comfort.
It provides her comfort becauseshe still believes she's doing
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the right thing to get herhusband to pay more attention.
And, as Tony Robbins states,remember, as long as you believe
something, your brain operateson automatic pilot, filtering
out any input from theenvironment and searching for
references to validate yourbelief, regardless of what it is
.
This is why this is a littleside note, but this is why you
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can't get through to people thatare so against Christianity,
that are so against why a mancan't become a woman, because
it's their brains are onautopilot.
That's the same thing that'shappening within your weight
loss journey.
She continues to work out anddiet and sabotage, never seen
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results, and it's because she ishas a faulty why.
So here's scenario to Fred isdepressed and unhappy with his
life.
He sees all these social mediainfluencers that are fit and
believes that if he loses weightand gets a six pack, he'll be
happy and fulfilled.
He has convinced himself thatall these people are happy and
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have relationships because theyaren't fat or whatever it is.
I hear it all the time oh man,if I just lost this last little
bit of weight, I'd be good newsflash.
I've been there and it's notthat way.
But let's continue with thestory.
So Fred starts dieting andexercising rigorously and he
loses 5% body fat, his goal ofgetting a six packs in sight.
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Despite getting to this point,he just got blown off by a
so-called friend and, worse yet,hasn't gotten a match on Tinder
for a month.
The feelings of depression andhappiness rush over him and he
sabotages himself and eats twopizzas and a box of brownies.
He wakes up feeling worse thanever.
He vows never to do it againand gets, gets right after that
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six pack again, only to get towhere he before was before and,
boom, sabotages again Becausesome, somebody, said something
nasty to him.
He then continues thisrepetitive cycle or just gives
up.
But why would he continuetrying if it doesn't work?
Yep, you guessed it.
Certainty.
He's certain.
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If he gets a six pack, peoplewill like him and he'll be happy
.
Every time he gets close,though, he finds himself just as
unhappy as before.
He purposely sabotages himselfto stay comforted that he's
certain that he's doing theright thing, but he's also
certain he's not getting itbecause he sabotages himself.
Does any of this sound familiar?
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The problem with both scenariosis the reason why they wanted
to lose the weight had nothingto do with losing weight, rather
a feeling.
Feelings can come and go andaren't dictated by the
situations we're in.
We have the power to respond toevery situation any way we
choose.
In scenario one, annie wastrying to fix a problem with her
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husband by losing weight, notrelated.
Scenario two Fred wanted tolose weight to be happy.
But happy is a decision, not aresult.
Fred could have just chosen tobe happy despite any physical
challenges.
There are plenty of jolly fatpeople out there Just look at
Santa Claus.
So what's the solution?
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Before embarking on your weightloss, we need to write down
compelling reasons why you wantto achieve the goal and make
sure they're relevant.
As Christians, we need to makesure they're celebrating God,
they're glorifying God, and notjust our selfish selves.
We can't be expecting a workoutplan, a diet, our physical
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flesh be the reason why we havejoy.
No, the joy of the Lord is ourstrengths.
The Bible says we need to bederiving our joy off of God and
all the things that he has givenus.
We need to start with gratitude.
Praise and thanksgiving puts usin the court of God.
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God is the ultimate healer.
God is the ultimate physician.
The Holy Spirit resides in you,your body, its temple.
These are reasons why youshould be not a fat tub of art,
why you should be taking care ofyourself, why you shouldn't be
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constantly putting all thisendless junk in your body just
because it makes you feel good.
We need to be ready and capablefor anything God, the devil or
life throws our way, because thedevil is after us.
Just look at the world aroundus.
We're not struggling with fleshand blood, but principalities
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of this world.
Israel is at war right now andyet we're concerned about
ourselves.
Our main focus is our happiness.
Our main focus is our bodies,our workout plans.
We put more focus on ourworkout plans than we do on God.
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We're only here for a temporaryamount of time, but that
doesn't mean neglect our bodies.
No, it means that we shouldkeep them in tip-top shape to
glorify God, so we can speakwith authority, so we can have
the energy to be able to go outand witness, so we can have the
energy and the brain capacitybecause when you're more fit,
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when you're working out hard,you're going to have a more
sound mental ability to go, beable to think straight, to be
able to go and talk to people ina way that they want to hear it
, and not just all around.
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We need to live our lives forGod, but unfortunately, most
people are living their lives bymeeting their needs just in the
moment and not that long term.
They're not eternal focused.
They end up feeling good for ashort time, like a sugar high,
but then they drop.
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Let's avoid this contradictionby becoming certain that our
plan will work, certain that youcan carry out the plan and
certain why you want to loseweight in the first place.
If you're struggling with anyof those, if you're struggling
to carry out the plan, it's notworking, then If you're not
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believing you can carry out theplan, or you don't know why you
want to lose weight, or can'tfigure out how to connect it to
God or whatever it is, contactme.
Go on Y2fitnesscom today andfill out a contact form and I
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will help you.
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