Wild & Sublime

Wild & Sublime

A podcast about sex for everyone, no matter your preferences, orientation, or relationship style — based on the popular live Chicago talk show, hosted by sex educator Karen Yates. Panelists, interviews, stories, Q and A, and more reflect a dynamic and all-encompassing view of sexuality. Join the juicy party!

Episodes

August 11, 2022 34 min

Can you get beyond religious guilt in your sex life? Can you be a religious person and also kinky, queer, polyamorous? This deep conversation explores themes of faith, the damage restrictive religions can do to our erotic spirit, and how to work toward getting free.

In this episode:

  • Jera Brown - Sex and relationship columnist & fetish provider. Their podcast Left-handed Journeys explores role sexuality has played in people's ...
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    Karen interviews sexologist Cyndi Darnell about her new book that helps you connect to your authentic desires and work with mismatched libidos within partnership.

    In this episode:

  • Cyndi Darnell - Sex & relationship therapist, clinical & somatic sexologist
  • Buy Sex When You Don't Feel Like It: The Truth about Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire on Bookshop – support independent booksellers and Wild & Sublime when ...
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    July 14, 2022 43 min

    Do you talk to your therapist about your sex life? How can you find a sex-positive provider who works for you? Three professionals discuss what to look for and how to start the conversation.

    In this episode:

  • Blake Mackie, Hannah Schwartz & Tom Doctor of Best Therapies
  • Kink and Polyamory-Aware Professionals Directory
  • Additional resource for therapists: 

  • Kink Clinical Practice Guidelines Project
  • Plus Karen’s interview with clinician Ca...

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    Karen can’t come to the phone now… She’s all tied up. A raucous live recording of Wild & Sublime’s Chicago stage show, featuring a rope tutorial, music, storytelling, tantra interview, and more. Recorded April 16, 2022, at the Hungry Brain.

    In this episode:

  • Clara and the Great Goddamn - Singer/songwriter
  • Tony Holmes/The Love Warrior - Kintsugi Coach & Tantric Bodywork Practitioner
  • Goddess Erica - Storyteller, Sexual Empowerment...
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    When is the right time to start a polyamory convo with a long-term partner? Panelists respond to a listener who’s on the fence about opening up a monogamous relationship.

    In this episode:

  • Tazima Parris - Sex Coach
  • Matthew Amador - Psychotherapist for love, sex & gender rebels
  • Brandon Hunter-Haydon - Surrogate Partner and Intimacy Coach
  • Further Listening:

  • S2E43: Polyamory Q&A
  • S2E6: What Open Relationships Can Teach Everyone
  • Looking ...

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    Filmmakers Alex Liu and Leo Neri speak with Karen about “A Sexplanation,” their lively and smart new documentary on sex education in the US, told through the lens of Liu’s own upbringing.

    In this episode:

  • A Sexplanation - Available on iTunes!
  • Nan Wise’s work on sexuality and the brain
  • Planned Parenthood - What’s the State of Sex Education In the U.S.?
  • Further Listening:

  • S2E7: The Sex-Positive Parent
  • S2E8: Better Sex Ed with Heather Corinn...
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    What happens in the world if we accept that all of us are a little bit different? Karen interviews Shauna Farabaugh, a somatic sex educator working with people who have temporary and permanent disabilities, and with organizations that serve people with disabilities.

    In this episode:

  • Shauna Farabaugh - Sexuality in Transition
  • Karen’s interview with Caffyn Jesse
  • Find Pelvic Pain Clinic, Supporting Disabled People with Their Sexual Lives ...
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    What do male-identified people hold in their bodies that keeps them from greater pleasure? Karen interviews JoJo Bear, a somatic sex and intimacy guide, about what he’s learned from years of working with men.

    In this episode:

  • JoJo Bear - Somatic sex & intimacy guide
  • Betty Martin - Wheel of Consent
  • Karen’s interview with Betty Martin
  • Need a good read on sexuality or relationships? Check out our recs on Bookshop!

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    April 21, 2022 36 min

    Do you want to know more about playing in groups and the nitty-gritty details? Organizers from several play parties, a dungeon and a bathhouse talk about their respective scenes. Recorded live at Constellation Chicago in October 2019.

    In this episode:

  • LRA Chicago
  • Galleria Domain 2
  • Steamworks
  • Midwest FemDomme Group (find them on FetLife too)
  • Find Girl Bang Chicago (and Girl Bang Madison) on FetLife
  • GoFundMe for Jerith of GD2
  • Need a good rea...

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    April 14, 2022 13 min

    Do you laugh during sex? Or are you very serious when things get steamy? Panelists respond to a listener question about different attitudes toward humor in the bedroom.

    In this episode:

  • Cassie Porter - Somatic sex educator, sexological bodyworker and body-centered counselor
  • Clark Hazel - Individual and Couples therapist at Best Therapies 
  • Heather Shannon - Certified Sex Therapist
  • April 16 live show tickets
  • Want to rev up your relationshi...

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    What’s your go-to for getting into a sexy or kinky mood? The audience tells us! Act 2 of our first live show since 2020 brings an interview on orgasmic birth, music, Q&A, and Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound. Recorded live in Feb. 2022 at the Hungry Brain in Chicago.

    In this episode:

  • Goddess Erica - Orgasmic birth doula
  • Tazima Parris - Sex Coach & Pleasure Mentor for Women
  • Mksthingshappin - kink and relationship coach
  • Matthew A...
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    Let’s bring sexy back in 2022. But how? Host Karen Yates and panelists discuss changes in sex and dating during the pandemic, plus music, and a storyteller shares a tale of an afternoon hookup gone wrong in our first stage show since 2020, recorded live at Hungry Brain in Chicago.

    In this episode:

  • Tazima Parris - Sex Coach & Pleasure Mentor for Women
  • Matthew Amador - Sex-positive psychotherapist
  • Mksthingshappin - kink and relations...
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    March 17, 2022 16 min

    Panelists respond to a listener who feels shame after gaining weight and doesn’t want to be touched by a long-term partner.

    In this episode:

  • Cassie Porter - Somatic sex educator & sexological bodyworker
  • Jason Best - Kink-aware therapist & founder of Best Therapies
  • Peter Navarro - Sex-positive and somatic-oriented therapist
  • Need a good read? Check our our recs on Bookshop!
  • Want to rev up your relationship and bust out of limiting ...

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    March 10, 2022 45 min

    Asexuality - it's not what you think. Storyteller Lily Be shares how pegging, a bunch of unfulfilling relationships, and a late-night Reddit deep-dive helped her realize she’s asexual — which also brought her closer to her mother.

    In this episode:

  • S2E55: Best Erotic Story
  • S2E4: Your True Sexual Self (Sarah Sloane discusses asexuality)
  • Stoop Style Stories
  • Need a good read? Check our our recs on Bookshop!

  • Want to rev up your relationsh...

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    Karen interviews Erica Scott and Marcia Baczynski, authors of “Creating Consent Culture: A Handbook for Educators” about the expansive possibilities of collaborative consent.

    In this episode:

  • Creating Consent Culture 
  • Marcia Baczynski: Asking for What You Want
  • Get their book on Bookshop!
  • Cuddle Party
  • Want to rev up your relationship and bust out of limiting patterns? Host Karen Yates is a somatic sex educator who works in-person with cou...

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    February 17, 2022 17 min

    In this sneak peek from the Patreon member feed, panelists answer a listener question about communicating and having better sex in a hookup setting.

    In this episode:

  • Clark Hazel - Individual & couples therapist at Best Therapies 
  • Cassie Porter - Somatic sex educator & sexological bodyworker
  • Heather Shannon - Certified sex therapist
  • S2E25 - Betty Martin interview

  • Want to rev up your relationship and bust out of limiting patterns? ...

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    February 10, 2022 40 min

    In a new Eavesdropping conversation, sex coach Tazima Parris asks Karen about misconceptions of beginning kinksters, and the ways kink can be used to reframe and heal from negative life experiences.


    In this episode:

  • Tazima Parris - Sex coach
  • S1E10 - Carrie Jameson on developing kink-positive guidelines for therapists
  • Find more about kink and relationships on our Bookshop reading list!

  • Want to rev up your relationship and bust out of lim...

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    January 27, 2022 48 min

    We’re back with a new season! Karen talks with somatic sex educator and prolific author Caffyn Jesse about somatic sex therapy as a way to heal from trauma and expand your pleasure capacity in all parts of life.

    In this episode:

  • Caffyn Jesse - Somatic Sex Educator
  • Ethics for Outlaws
  • Institute for the Study of Somatic Sex Education
  • Somatic Sex Educators Association
  • Association for Sexological Bodyworkers
  • Find Caffyn’s books on our Bookshop...
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    January 6, 2022 42 min

    We’re kicking off the new year with a sampler of segments you may have missed from past episodes. Guests discuss common medications with sexual side effects; nonbinary identities; and techniques for climbing out of a sex rut – plus, Karen’s Sermon on reminders to self for moving through relationship anxiety. We’re taking two weeks off and coming back with a whole new season!

    In this episode:

  • Ren Grabert - S2E22: Are Your Meds Messing...
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    December 30, 2021 18 min

     "Kink helped me find who I am." Storyteller Lily Be shares how becoming a Domme helped her get over a bad breakup and discover her own sexual identity in a powerful story from one of our live shows.

    In this episode:

  • Lily Be - Storyteller
  • S2E4 - Your True Sexual Self
  • Are you a sex-positive patron? The Afterglow brings you regular bonus content and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch!

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