Wisdom & Chocolate with Bets Danko

Drop the mask. Who you are as an individual is important. You are not like anybody else in your circle. You're not like anybody else in the world. Every single life experience you have has made you different from everyone else, and every one of those things allowed you the opportunity to express courage in order to move forward. 

Wisdom and Chocolate is a common sense approach to Mindset Development, Self Empowerment, and Happi...

If you're afraid of the becoming, you're going to stifle yourself. You're going to stop yourself from becoming who you are supposed to be. If you're afraid of the becoming, you'll never know what you're capable of. Ouch. It's time for you to stop resisting change. It's time for you to understand and to trust who you are. It's time for you to let go of the fear and allow the cell memory t...

So sometimes, when your conflict comes up, it may have to do with time or or whether or not you should even consider doing it. And in those moments, go back, like sort of lean on who you are, why you are, and what your mission is in this life.  So what is your mission? What is it that you're trying to accomplish in life? Are the things that you're choosing creating more conflict, or are they helping you to accomplish the ...

The choice is yours.  Are you going to stick to your tasks? It's totally up to you. You can be the person you can always trust, or you can be the person who drops the ball. It's totally up to you. How motivated will you be when you get the first thing done? How motivated you will be when you realize that doing tasks for you holds more value than just getting things done? It’s time… do what it takes to prove you can trust ...

When we talk about patience, what comes to mind is, waiting-annoyance-not getting what you want. In fact, it almost always comes with that frustrating phrase, ‘be patient.’ That's not always what you want to hear. Sometimes you want what you want right now at this minute and you do not want to wait. But you are in control of your patience.  You are in control of how you use patience to create ultimate outcomes…and perfect endi...

In the moments when you're excited about a new opportunity, are you talking yourself out of it, or are you acting like your own cheerleader? Motivation defines the value you have for yourself. So if you're not feeling motivated,and it's something that you can't pull yourself out of, start by listening to the internal dialog. It's all up to you. Motivation comes from your own mind. You have the power to sati...

The purpose of Imposter syndrome is to stop you in your tracks so that you don't succeed. Whoa, right? That's not something we want in our lives. We don't need it. 
You can control Imposter Syndrome.  It's time to understand the root of your fears and override all the negative words you are using to keep you from your dreams.  So right now today, start listening to what is going on in your brain, start liste...

Stuckness and fear can hold you back in various aspects of life. It’s important to understand why you are stuck and shift your mindset to overcome fear and move forward. Try stirring some things up!  It’s time to step out of your comfort zones and embrace new experiences to  improve your well-being and get grounded. And if you’re feeling stuck because fear is holding you back, let’s reframe failure as an opportunity for growth!

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When you tap into your strength deliberately, it makes you unstoppable. 

You can stare your challenges down and take charge of them. In order to face those bigger challenges, we actually have to work on the smaller ones. Sort of build up the muscle, so that we can cope with and handle some of the bigger things which are at hand. To do this we need to look at patterns, things that we actually do all the time. We’re hardwired to creat...

Grief is experienced when you lose someone or something that means a lot to you. You can go through a grief process when you lose your job, when a friendship ends, and even when that car you have been mothering all of these years is no longer roadworthy. Your life is unique so your grief and the way you express that grief are also unique. One thing is true for everyone…there is a lot of strength to be gained as you work through gri...

Yes, you are enough.  You are more than enough.  You have purpose, and you have value. But all of us seem to get into spirals of self doubt and self loathing.  Why? We forget.  We forget the value of our dreams, morals, and value.  Well that all needs to change.  Never forget again.  Sure… you can react to disappointments or even notice things about yourself you’d like to improve.  But do it with the understanding that above all el...

If you feel that you're misunderstood, figure out how to change the communication so that others can understand you. Sometimes it’s a simple tweet and your communication is rockin.  Try new angles, new approaches.  Timing is important. Your emotions are important. How you phrase things…super important. All of these things combined, help you to communicate with other people and increase your confidence.

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It's important that we take action in moments when we're feeling overwhelmed, when we're feeling stressed. Sure, the new norm, okay...yeah, everybody seems to be stressed. But should we settle for that? Just because people call it the new norm, should we allow it to be normal? No. It's time to actively taking charge of your reactions. You're the one who makes a choice to follow your impulses. So why not mak...

All Things change, so why not create the change before it creates challenge. Allow it to be part of your mindset. If you don't want those challenges to push you into arenas you never wanted, then be in charge of the change. You need to be the one who dictates your mindset and how your life will move forward. Believe that what you want is what you were meant to experience. Believe it, and believe it now.

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When you surround yourself with people of high quality, your quality of life goes up. So surround yourself with honest people, people who are strong in their integrity, people who are compassionate. Doing so will encourage you to engage in a more meaningful way with others. If you're trying to achieve your goals, or get to places that you have been working toward for a good long time, surrounding yourself with quality people c...

You need to feel as though your life matters. You need to feel as though you are contributing something, that you have significance, that you being here on the earth means something. Your purpose is directly tied to your actions. This is something that you have a great deal of control over. What it is that you do, and how you are in service to yourself and to others, helps to dictate what your purpose is and how significant you fee...

Today we take a shallow dive into The Power of Three.  There is power in words. The words you choose hold meaning. If you're not progressing and you're not moving forward, think of the words that you are using. Think of the moments when you're using them. If they're not supporting you, flip them around, choose more positive words. Do you feel like you’re stagnating? Maybe it’s because you’re procrastinating. Why...

The very thing that holds you back gives you opportunity. And the things that you feel should be pushing you forward also give you opportunity. It's called life. Life equals opportunity. Every moment of your life becomes an opportunity to do things differently.

Wisdom and Chocolate is a common sense approach to Mindset Development, Self Empowerment, and Happiness. The real transformation in life begins with Celebration….so grab...

It’s time to recognize and reframe negative thoughts.  Why dishonor the special nature of your life and break away from integrity?  You are in control of what you think and how you react.  Honor that precious life of yours, embrace self reflection, and be the reason people believe in humanity. 

Wisdom and Chocolate is a common sense approach to Mindset Development, Self Empowerment, and Happiness. The real transformation in life beg...