November 21, 2025 • 9 mins
💋 Women Are Not Okay Collective
Real talk. Midlife. Mental health. Relationships. Mindfulness.
Because we’re not fixing it all today — we’re just not pretending anymore.
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SPEAKER_00 (00:03):
Welcome to Women Are Not Okay, the self-help podcast
where we talk all things mentalhealth, relationships, and
mindfulness.
Can you admit that you're notokay?
Let's be real.
Things are shifting.
Our bodies, our identities, ourmentality, and our
relationships.
(00:23):
Girl, it's time for us toreclaim our sense of peace,
sanity, and well-being.
I'm Crystal, and no, I'm notokay.
See, that was easy.
Let's get into it.
Hi, I'm Crystal.
Welcome to episode six of theWomen Are Not Okay podcast.
(00:46):
Today's episode is the sequelyou didn't know you needed, Myth
vs.
Fact, Midlife Women Edition,Round 2.
The first round I posted on myInstagram profile at Women Are
Not Okay for those of you whoare not following me.
So if you missed it, go aheadand check it out on my profile.
(01:08):
Apparently, society has thoughtsabout who we're supposed to be
at this age.
Spoiler alert, those thoughtsare so wrong.
Let's debunk a few more myths,shall we?
Here are ten we will tackletoday.
Myth number one midlife meanssettling down.
(01:30):
Fact midlife means finallyrealizing you were never the
problem.
The expectations were you're notsettling down, you're leveling
up with stronger boundaries andcomfier pants.
You've traded chaos for calm,drama for DoorDash, and people
(01:50):
pleasing for peace.
Settling girl please.
Myth number two.
Midlife women stop being sexy.
Fact Oh girl, we've justupgraded the software.
The self-awareness, theconfidence, and the I don't give
a damn energy, that's peakattraction.
(02:12):
We're not trying to be sexy.
We are sexy.
It's called emotionalintelligence, moisturized skin
and not chasing anyone'svalidation.
We've got more body acceptanceand less tolerance for nonsense,
and that's so hot.
Myth number three Midlife womendon't start over.
(02:36):
Fact Midlife women starteverything over careers,
marriages, hobbies, hair color,and coping mechanisms.
It's not a midlife crisis, it'sa rebrand.
We're out here updating our biosand deleting what no longer
serves us emotionally,spiritually, and digitally.
(03:01):
Myth number four midlife meansyou've had it all figured out.
Fact, laugh my ass off.
We're still Googling why my backhurts when I breathe and how to
be less tired without quittinglife.
We've learned that confusion isjust wisdom and activewear.
(03:24):
The difference now?
We laugh, we meme, we hydrate,we drink, and we move on.
No spiraling is required.
Number five.
Girlfriend, we are the fun.
(03:45):
We just traded clubbing forcomfy brunches and tequila shots
for therapy breakthroughs.
We don't need bottle service.
We need peace, snacks, dateline,and people who make us laugh
until our bladder reminds uswe're 40 plus.
Fun looks so different now, andthank God for that.
(04:07):
Myth number six midlife womenare past their prime.
I'm sure a man came up with thisone.
Fact, we are the prime, likeaged wine, except we pair better
with boundaries than Brie.
This is the era of knowing whatyou want and having zero
(04:30):
problems saying it.
The prime isn't a time, it's amindset.
And if anyone disagrees, tellthem to Google menopause glow up
and mine their vitamins.
Myth number seven midlife womencan't keep up with trends.
(04:51):
Fact.
We invented the trends.
We're just highly selective now.
We were there for scrunchies andleg warmers the first time
around.
Thank you very much.
We use TikTok not because we'retrying to be influencers, but
because the algorithm thinkswe're stressed and need golden
retriever videos.
(05:13):
We adapt, we evolve, we stilllook good doing it.
With our readers on, of course.
Myth number eight, midlife meansgiving up on dreams.
Oh, fact, midlife is the dream,thank you very much, because now
we finally have the nerve tochase it.
(05:35):
We've survived heartbreaks,layoffs, PTA meetings, Girl
Scout troops, Boy Scout troops,an identity crisis.
The audacity to reinventourselves?
That's not a midlife crisis.
That's main character energy.
The dream has just gotten bettershoes and stronger coffee.
(06:05):
Myth number nine midlife womenare bitter.
Fact, we're not bitter, we'reseasoned.
Like a cast iron skillet or wellwritten clapback.
We've earned our edge, and wewield it with grace, grit, and a
dash a petty when necessary.
Myth number ten women areinvisible.
(06:28):
Fact, we are so not invisible.
We're just done performing.
If you can't see us, that's yourdamn problem.
We're out here busy being themain character in our own damn
stories.
Why is it so important to fightagainst the myths?
(06:49):
If you Google midlife, the firstthing that displays this midlife
crisis.
I get it.
It's a crisis.
Blah blah blah.
But no, it's much more thanthat.
The real crisis isn't that womenhit their forties and start
questioning everything.
The crisis is what we were toldnot to.
(07:10):
That we were supposed to quietlyfade into the background,
smiling through burnout andbeige cardigans while pretending
everything is just fine.
We fight against the mythsbecause they shrink us.
They make midlife sound like adecline instead of a debut.
Every time a woman is told she'stoo old, too emotional, or too
(07:34):
late, another spark dims.
But when we start calling outthe myths for what they are,
outdated, sexist, nonsensicalbullshit, we get that spark
back.
We remember that growth,reinvention, and joy don't have
an expiration date.
Fighting these myths isn't justabout clapping back with clever
(07:58):
captions, although we totallylove that.
It's about rewriting thenarrative for every woman who's
ever felt invisible, exhausted,or gaslit by society's
expectations.
When we bust these myths wideopen, we make space for truth.
(08:18):
Messy, glorious, liberatingtruth.
We show younger women what'spossible, and we remind
ourselves that we're not broken,but we're breaking free.
So yeah, maybe it's a crisis ofsort, but it's also a
revolution.
And midlife women, we're leadingit in comfy stretch pants with
(08:42):
receipts and zero tolerance fornonsense.
If this episode resonated withyou, share along with a friend,
follow, and like.
And until next time, thanks forlistening.
Just so we're clear, I'm not alicensed medical health
(09:04):
professional.
I just pay really good ones whohelp me unpack all this chaos so
I can come here and share itwith you.
Think of this as a pay itforward kind of thing.
So until next time, protect yourpeace, set your boundaries, and
remember, it's okay to not beokay.
Welcome to Women Are Not Okay, the self-help podcast
where we talk all things mentalhealth, relationships, and
mindfulness.
Can you admit that you're notokay?
Let's be real.
Things are shifting.
Our bodies, our identities, ourmentality, and our
relationships.
(00:23):
Girl, it's time for us toreclaim our sense of peace,
sanity, and well-being.
I'm Crystal, and no, I'm notokay.
See, that was easy.
Let's get into it.
Hi, I'm Crystal.
Welcome to episode six of theWomen Are Not Okay podcast.
(00:46):
Today's episode is the sequelyou didn't know you needed, Myth
vs.
Fact, Midlife Women Edition,Round 2.
The first round I posted on myInstagram profile at Women Are
Not Okay for those of you whoare not following me.
So if you missed it, go aheadand check it out on my profile.
(01:08):
Apparently, society has thoughtsabout who we're supposed to be
at this age.
Spoiler alert, those thoughtsare so wrong.
Let's debunk a few more myths,shall we?
Here are ten we will tackletoday.
Myth number one midlife meanssettling down.
(01:30):
Fact midlife means finallyrealizing you were never the
problem.
The expectations were you're notsettling down, you're leveling
up with stronger boundaries andcomfier pants.
You've traded chaos for calm,drama for DoorDash, and people
(01:50):
pleasing for peace.
Settling girl please.
Myth number two.
Midlife women stop being sexy.
Fact Oh girl, we've justupgraded the software.
The self-awareness, theconfidence, and the I don't give
a damn energy, that's peakattraction.
(02:12):
We're not trying to be sexy.
We are sexy.
It's called emotionalintelligence, moisturized skin
and not chasing anyone'svalidation.
We've got more body acceptanceand less tolerance for nonsense,
and that's so hot.
Myth number three Midlife womendon't start over.
(02:36):
Fact Midlife women starteverything over careers,
marriages, hobbies, hair color,and coping mechanisms.
It's not a midlife crisis, it'sa rebrand.
We're out here updating our biosand deleting what no longer
serves us emotionally,spiritually, and digitally.
(03:01):
Myth number four midlife meansyou've had it all figured out.
Fact, laugh my ass off.
We're still Googling why my backhurts when I breathe and how to
be less tired without quittinglife.
We've learned that confusion isjust wisdom and activewear.
(03:24):
The difference now?
We laugh, we meme, we hydrate,we drink, and we move on.
No spiraling is required.
Number five.
Girlfriend, we are the fun.
(03:45):
We just traded clubbing forcomfy brunches and tequila shots
for therapy breakthroughs.
We don't need bottle service.
We need peace, snacks, dateline,and people who make us laugh
until our bladder reminds uswe're 40 plus.
Fun looks so different now, andthank God for that.
(04:07):
Myth number six midlife womenare past their prime.
I'm sure a man came up with thisone.
Fact, we are the prime, likeaged wine, except we pair better
with boundaries than Brie.
This is the era of knowing whatyou want and having zero
(04:30):
problems saying it.
The prime isn't a time, it's amindset.
And if anyone disagrees, tellthem to Google menopause glow up
and mine their vitamins.
Myth number seven midlife womencan't keep up with trends.
(04:51):
Fact.
We invented the trends.
We're just highly selective now.
We were there for scrunchies andleg warmers the first time
around.
Thank you very much.
We use TikTok not because we'retrying to be influencers, but
because the algorithm thinkswe're stressed and need golden
retriever videos.
(05:13):
We adapt, we evolve, we stilllook good doing it.
With our readers on, of course.
Myth number eight, midlife meansgiving up on dreams.
Oh, fact, midlife is the dream,thank you very much, because now
we finally have the nerve tochase it.
(05:35):
We've survived heartbreaks,layoffs, PTA meetings, Girl
Scout troops, Boy Scout troops,an identity crisis.
The audacity to reinventourselves?
That's not a midlife crisis.
That's main character energy.
The dream has just gotten bettershoes and stronger coffee.
(06:05):
Myth number nine midlife womenare bitter.
Fact, we're not bitter, we'reseasoned.
Like a cast iron skillet or wellwritten clapback.
We've earned our edge, and wewield it with grace, grit, and a
dash a petty when necessary.
Myth number ten women areinvisible.
(06:28):
Fact, we are so not invisible.
We're just done performing.
If you can't see us, that's yourdamn problem.
We're out here busy being themain character in our own damn
stories.
Why is it so important to fightagainst the myths?
(06:49):
If you Google midlife, the firstthing that displays this midlife
crisis.
I get it.
It's a crisis.
Blah blah blah.
But no, it's much more thanthat.
The real crisis isn't that womenhit their forties and start
questioning everything.
The crisis is what we were toldnot to.
(07:10):
That we were supposed to quietlyfade into the background,
smiling through burnout andbeige cardigans while pretending
everything is just fine.
We fight against the mythsbecause they shrink us.
They make midlife sound like adecline instead of a debut.
Every time a woman is told she'stoo old, too emotional, or too
(07:34):
late, another spark dims.
But when we start calling outthe myths for what they are,
outdated, sexist, nonsensicalbullshit, we get that spark
back.
We remember that growth,reinvention, and joy don't have
an expiration date.
Fighting these myths isn't justabout clapping back with clever
(07:58):
captions, although we totallylove that.
It's about rewriting thenarrative for every woman who's
ever felt invisible, exhausted,or gaslit by society's
expectations.
When we bust these myths wideopen, we make space for truth.
(08:18):
Messy, glorious, liberatingtruth.
We show younger women what'spossible, and we remind
ourselves that we're not broken,but we're breaking free.
So yeah, maybe it's a crisis ofsort, but it's also a
revolution.
And midlife women, we're leadingit in comfy stretch pants with
(08:42):
receipts and zero tolerance fornonsense.
If this episode resonated withyou, share along with a friend,
follow, and like.
And until next time, thanks forlistening.
Just so we're clear, I'm not alicensed medical health
(09:04):
professional.
I just pay really good ones whohelp me unpack all this chaos so
I can come here and share itwith you.
Think of this as a pay itforward kind of thing.
So until next time, protect yourpeace, set your boundaries, and
remember, it's okay to not beokay.
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