EP5 | 5 Signs You've Officially Had Enough of People's BS

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In this episode of the Women Are Not Okay podcast, Crystal discusses the moment when individuals reach their limit with others' nonsense. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing personal boundaries and the signs that indicate one has had enough. The conversation highlights the significance of self-care, prioritizing mental health, and the empowerment that comes from choosing oneself over people-pleasing behaviors.

Keywords: boundaries, self-care, mental health, personal growth, self-awareness, toxic relationships, emotional well-being, self-empowerment, personal limits, women empowerment 

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Episode Transcript

SPEAKER_00 (00:03):
Welcome to Women Are Not Okay, the self-help podcast
where we talk all things mentalhealth, relationships, and
mindfulness.
Can you admit that you're notokay?
Let's be real.
Things are shifting.
Our bodies, our identities, ourmentality, and our
relationships.

(00:23):
Girl, it's time for us toreclaim our sense of peace,
sanity, and well-being.
I'm Crystal, and no, I'm notokay.
See, that was easy.
Let's get into it.
Hi, I'm Crystal.
Welcome to episode 5 of theWomen Are Not Okay podcast.

(00:46):
Today we're talking aboutsomething near and dear to my
soul.
The moment you just hit yourdamn limit.
You know, when the filter fallsoff, the fuse burns out, and
suddenly you're allergic toother people's nonsense.
We're calling this one fivesigns you've officially had
enough of people's bullshit.

(01:07):
Because let's be honest, we'veall reached that point where you
stop caring about being nice andstart caring about being okay.
So let's start off with the doneera.
There comes a time when you aredone.
Finished, over it, done.

(01:28):
I mean officially done.
Whether it's with a friend, afamily member, a coworker, or
that tramp at Marshall's whograbbed the last sand and fog
candle you were reaching for.
May her house smell like regret.
Oh, and let's not forget theperson in the 15 items or less

(01:49):
line with 23 items and no shame,who suddenly decides now is the
perfect time to sign up forrewards.
There's a moment in everywoman's life, usually around the
time your iced coffee turns.
There's a moment in everywoman's life, usually around the

(02:09):
time your coffee turns cold whenyou realize you're done.
You're done with the drama,you're done with the guilt, done
with people who treat yourboundaries like clearance items.
Boundaries aren't about shuttingpeople out, they're about
keeping your peace in.
You can love people and stilldecide that they don't get

(02:30):
unlimited access to your mentalhealth.
Next, the signs.
If someone's vibe is off, theirtexts stay unanswered, and your

(02:54):
energy stays intact.
Period.
We live in a world thatglorifies instant replies, but
honey, you're not Amazon Prime.
Silence doesn't mean disrespect.
Sometimes it'sself-preservation.
Sign number two.
You started saying no without aPowerPoint presentation.

(03:17):
You used to overexplain everyno.
Now it's just no.
And for those who are reallybrave, it's oh hell no.
One word, two letters, the wholesentence.
If people only respect yourboundaries when you explain it
to them or it suits them, thenthey don't actually respect

(03:38):
them.
You're not being rude, you'rebeing clear.
Sign number three.
You've unfollowed, blocked, ormuted without warning.
You're not announcing it.
You're not writing a breakupparagraph.
You're just gone.
Because the block button isn'tpretty.

(04:00):
It's preventative medicine.
Curating your feed isn'tdramatic.
It's detoxing your digitalenvironment.
Protecting your mental space isjust as important as protecting
your physical space.
Sign number four.
You recognize gaslighting inrecord time.

(04:22):
What used to leave you spiralingfor days now barely registers.
You can spot manipulation in 0.2seconds and respond with
silence, sass, or strategicdistance.
Growth looks like recognizingbullshit a little faster and
wasting less time debating it.

(04:43):
You don't owe anybody areaction.
Girl, sometimes the bestresponse is no response at all.
Sign number five.
You don't feel bad for choosingyourself.
You've been the fixer, you'vebeen the caretaker.
You've been the workaholic.
You've been the mom.
You've been the daughter.

(05:04):
The nice one.
The it's fine, I'll handle it,girl.
But now you're choosing you.
And if that makes you cold ordifficult or a beatch, so be it.
Choosing yourself doesn't makeyou selfish, it makes you sane.
And self-care isn't spotties andbath bombs.

(05:26):
It's protecting your mentalenergy like it's the last coke
in the fridge.
Segment three.
Enough is a damn enough.
Here's the thing.
Recognizing when you've hadenough isn't weakness, it's
awareness.
It's the moment you realize yourpeace matters more than your

(05:50):
people pleasing.
Because let's be honest, we'vebeen conditioned to keep the
peace, even when it's costing usour own.
We've been trained to smile,stay quiet, smooth things over,
and swallow our discomfort so noone else feels it.
But that's not peace, that'sperformance.

(06:10):
And I can tell you for a factthat after doing that for almost
40 years, yeah, that shitcatches up with you real fast.
And at some point, you have toask yourself, why in the hell am
I tolerating this?
Why do we bend ourselves intopretzels to make everybody else
comfortable when inside we'rebarely breathing?

(06:35):
It's not selflessness, it'sself-abandonment with a side of
guilt.
You don't need anyone'spermission to say enough.
You don't need to wait for thebreakdown or the burnout to
reclaim your boundaries.
You just need to decide thatprotecting your peace isn't up
for negotiation anymore.

(06:56):
So if you're in that era, theI'm tired of my own tolerance
era, welcome.
You're not cold, you're nottraumatic, you're not mean,
you're just finally prioritizingyourself.
And girl, that's growth.
So yeah, this is your officialpermission slip to stop

(07:17):
tolerating what drains you.
You can love people and stillblock them.
You can be kind and still sayno.
And you can protect your peacewithout apologizing for it.
Because here's the truth.
The people who benefit from yourlack of boundaries will always
call you difficult when youstart enforcing them.

(07:41):
You're not being difficult,you're just done.
What was your last personal laststraw moment?
What was your last personal laststraw moment?
The one that made you say, Yep,I'm done.
Let's talk about the BS we're nolonger tolerating.

(08:03):
And remember, it's okay not tobe okay.
Until next time, my friend.
Thanks for listening.
Just so we're clear, I'm not alicensed medical health
professional.
I just pay really good ones whohelp me unpack all this chaos so
I can come here and share itwith you.

(08:25):
Think of this as a pay andforward kind of thing.
So until next time, protect yourpeace, set your boundaries, and
remember it's okay to not beokay.