Episode 16.6 The Hidden Cost of Doing It All Yourself: Why Coaches Burn Out with Tam Luc

Summary

In this episode, Tam Luc discusses the unseen emotional, physical, and financial toll women face when trying to handle everything themselves — from business to home life. Drawing from her personal experiences and observations while living in Asia, she contrasts Western perceptions of independence with Asian cultures’ normalization of help and delegation. She emphasizes that seeking support is not weakness but a strength that enables sustainability, creativity, and business growth.

Tam explains that burnout, loss of creativity, and poor financial decisions often stem from trying to “do it all.” She advocates for women entrepreneurs to delegate, use virtual assistants, and focus on their “zone of genius” to scale their businesses while maintaining well-being.

Takeaways

• Women are capable and strong, but trying to handle everything alone often leads to burnout and exhaustion.

• In many Asian cultures, hiring help is normal and accepted, while in Western cultures, women often feel judged for doing so.

• Accepting support and assistance is a sign of strength, not weakness.

• Doing everything yourself has hidden costs such as burnout, stress, health issues, lost creativity, and financial inefficiency.

• When women take on too much, they lose valuable time and energy that could be spent on creative or income-generating activities.

• Delegating tasks allows women to focus on their strengths and stay in their zone of genius.

• It is important to let go of the need for control and allow others, including partners or assistants, to help even if they do things differently.

• Traditional gender roles have conditioned many women to take on supportive roles, making it harder to delegate or share responsibilities.

• Paying for help should be viewed as an investment in productivity, balance, and well-being, rather than an unnecessary expense.

• Sustainable success comes from teamwork, effective delegation, and focusing on what truly matters.

• Burnout should never be seen as the price of success; instead, seeking support leads to growth, freedom, and fulfillment.

• The smartest thing entrepreneurs can do is to get help, delegate effectively, and collaborate with others in their own areas of expertise.