Straight-Passing Bi Anxiety & Opening Up (Or Not)

Happy Season Two, sweet beans! By popular request, we’re launching the season with more chats about bisexuality and non-monogamy. Hooray!

 

The topics we cover in this episode:

• Chatting through common fears for bisexual/pansexuals such as:
  • The possibility of ‘uncontrollable desire’ in a straight-passing relationship
  • Lack of experience anxiety
  • Internalised biphobia
• The tricky dance of one partner wanting to be polyamorous, and the other partner feeling uncertain about opening up the relationship.

 

Creators mentioned in this episode:

 

Book Recommendation: Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good 

• Written by by Adrienne Maree Brown
• A book exploring the power of pleasure in our lives, as a tool for self love and healing, social justice and so much more.

 

A few choice quotes:

“Your no makes the way for your yes. Boundaries create the container within which your yes is authentic. Being able to say no makes yes a choice.”

“Ultimately, love for the self is the deepest pleasure we deny ourselves. I work daily to be courageous enough to indulge in the purest pleasure of self-love.”

“We have been raised to fear the yes within ourselves, our deepest cravings. But, once recognized, those which do not enhance our future lose their power and can be altered. The fear of our desires keeps them suspect and indiscriminately powerful, for to suppress any truth is to give it strength beyond endurance. The fear that we cannot grow beyond whatever distortions we may find within ourselves keeps us docile and loyal and obedient, externally defined, and leads us to accept many facets of our oppression as women.”

 

Book Recommendation: Opening Up - A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships

• Written by Tristan Taormino
• Explores the real-life benefits and challenges of many styles of open relationships. Includes tips on dealing with jealousy, negotiating boundaries, communication etc.

 

Book Recommendation: The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities

• Written by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
• Despite the first edition hitting the world in 1997, this book remains a go-to for those wanting to learn more about the world of open relationships with ourselves and others

Lots of love, Lauren and Vix