Series 9: The Wall and the Wonderland: When They Don’t Want to Meet You There
Episode 153: The Painted Smile: When They Only Show Up for Appearances
Welcome back to Wonderland Unlocked — today, we’re peeling back the gloss and glitter of the people who only show up when there’s a spotlight.
In this episode, we explore what it feels like when family, friends, or loved ones only step into your life for the photo ops, the holidays, or the moments that look good — but vanish when things get real. We’ll wander through the Wonderland of performance, expectations, and the ache of being treated like a prop in someone else’s perfect picture.
You’ll hear reflections on:
- Emotional invisibility behind the camera-ready smile
- The difference between being supported and being used for show
- How performative connection can mess with your sense of worth
- Reclaiming your story when others only show up for the image, not the impact
So if you’ve ever felt like you were part of someone’s highlight reel but never their real life—this one’s for you. Let’s wipe off the paint and talk about what’s underneath.
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