Series 9: The Wall and the Wonderland: When They Don’t Want to Meet You There
Episode 157: Uninvited to Wonderland: When Your Identity Is the Problem
You didn’t break the rules—you just existed. But somehow, that was too much.
In this episode, we unlock the painful truth of being excluded, rejected, or sidelined not for something you did—but simply for who you are. Whether it's queerness, neurodivergence, disability, race, gender identity, or anything else that doesn’t fit their version of the script, there are spaces where Wonderland was never truly open to you.
Together, we’ll explore what it feels like when your identity becomes the unspoken reason for silence, distance, or cruelty—and what it means to reclaim your place anyway.
🌀 Inside this episode:
• The quiet violence of conditional acceptance
• The difference between misunderstanding and erasure
• Why “fitting in” isn’t the same as belonging
• Navigating grief, anger, and pride when your truth isn’t welcome
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