October 29, 2024 • 18 mins
Facing life's inevitable struggles is not just about survival but about choosing growth and transformation. Inspired by John Maxwell's philosophy, we explore how to turn challenges into stepping stones for personal development.
I'll share how an unexpected heart scare in 2023 became a catalyst for transformative lifestyle changes. Despite a disciplined approach to health, the incident reminded me of life's unpredictability and the importance of continuous personal growth. Drawing from Charles Killering's insights on the value of setbacks, we'll discuss how adversity can spark creativity and propel us toward positive change. Join me on this journey to embrace change, nurture a positive mindset, and harness the potential of life's adversities.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Well, hello.
Words for Change podcast.
It's Lionel man.
It's so excited to have youhere on this Tuesday morning.
It's October 29th and, boy, dowe have an episode for you today
.
We're going to talk about it,but I want to first say, once
again, thank you for yourcontinued support of the Words
for Change podcast.
Man, god has allowed us to doso much and we're looking
forward to do so many morethings as we move toward the end
(00:21):
of the year, into 2025.
And today, boy, we're going tocover a wonderful topic that I
believe is going to help you.
So I'll start off by asking youthis question Are you learning
from the problems you'reexperiencing?
John Maxwell said this we willall experience problems.
Problems are inevitable, butgrowth is optional.
(00:43):
Do you believe that problemsare inevitable but growth is
optional?
Do you believe that problemsare inevitable but growth is
optional?
But I have a question for youtoday.
What day is it y'all?
Yes, here, on October 29th,right before Halloween.
Good morning, vietnam.
(01:03):
Well, if you didn't know it, ourfamous, one of the famous
theologians, hustok Gaterez, whobegan the liberationist
theological conversation many,many years ago, died at the age
of 96.
He came up with the slogan thepreferential options for the
(01:24):
poor, god's preferential optionsfor the poor, god's
preferential options for thepoor.
So Hustogutrez was a Catholictheologian who argued for that
perspective to the gospel ofJesus Christ, particularly the
working out of theology.
Hustogutrez was also a Peruvianpriest who I had the privilege
(01:44):
of reading and studying him ingraduate school, and so his
contributions are have been made, and God rest him and his soul
during this time.
What a wonderful movie that'scoming on.
I don't know if you guys haveheard about it, matter of fact,
it's already out in theaters.
Called Conclave, it talks aboutthe papacy power and takes it
(02:05):
very, very seriously.
So the political theater wasstudied tremendously and the
Conclave is directed by EdwardBurgers, based on a novel
written by Robert Harris.
Ok, so you guys have got tocheck this out.
It talks about the power in theCatholic Church, and I don't
(02:28):
I'm not making any statement foror against, I just think it is
a wonderful movie that you guyscan check out.
Matter of fact, me and my wifeare going to spend time watching
as well.
I love those movies like that.
Church is history and how wecome up with the things in our
current Christian faith andreligion, in the United States
in particular, where they derive, from how they impact us, from
(02:50):
history itself.
You guys should check that out.
Also, you guys know that it isvoting season, so make sure you
exercise your right to vote.
It is the obligation to ourAmerican society and man.
I'm always excited about votingand talking to my daughters, my
(03:10):
family, my son, about votingand its important contribution,
how we participate in ourdemocratic idea in society.
I'm not telling you who to votefor, but I'll tell you one
thing we will always keep Godfirst.
As I've always said, goddoesn't ride on the backs of
what elephants or donkeys and soI want you to.
(03:35):
I don't care where you are,have friends all over the map,
just please make sure youexercise your right to vote and
always keep your Christianidentity when you walk into that
voting booth.
Y'all Speaking of stayingfocused, you know one of the
very, very important mentalhealth issues we're having today
is people being diagnosed withADHD, and some research says
(04:00):
that ADHD is causing a largepercentage of children, as well
as adults, with new diagnoses.
Children 10.5% of children, or6.1 million, have currently have
been diagnosed with ADHD.
6% of adults, that's about 15.5million, have been diagnosed
(04:22):
and some of the symptoms thatcome along with children and
adults is absolutely staggering.
The median age of diagnosis formild ADHD is seven years old.
For boys, it's higher,somewhere between 15 and 8%.
African-americans or blacks,whites and Native American
(04:42):
children are more likely to bediagnosed with ADHD.
Non-hispanic children are morelikely to be diagnosed as well.
Adults with ADHD are morelikely to be under 50 years of
age, and those in lowerhousehold incomes are also more
likely to be diagnosed with ADHD.
(05:03):
Stagnant statistic and whatthis tells me, what this helps
us to understand, is true.
As we think about our topictoday, we have these diagnoses
and different mental healthstruggles.
This helps us to think about avery important question how are
we learning from the strugglesand problems that we go through?
(05:24):
Jesus says in the gospels that,except the seed falls into the
(05:56):
ground and dies, it can notproduce fruit.
I want to ask you a questionthat I asked at the very
beginning.
What is it we can learn fromthe experiences that we go
through?
This is best important becausehow we posture ourselves to
learn from the experiences thatwe go through will give us the
(06:18):
best possible option to managethe negative things that we
experience in our lives.
Okay, so I want you to thinkabout whatever you're going
through right now that's causingdiscomfort, pain, that's
causing you headaches,frustrations and confusion.
I want you to think about thatthing right now and I want to
ask you what are you learningfrom that?
Well, how?
(06:39):
Maybe a better question is, howcan we learn from these
negative experiences?
And what I promise you is thatthese three things I'm going to
recommend to you are what I liketo consider life hacks, because
we're all going through pain.
We're all going through someform of discomfort or change in
our lives.
With change and discomfort, wehave one or two options.
(07:00):
John Maxwell says we can eithergrow back from those
experiences or we can learn fromthose experiences, and what my
goal is today, here, on this29th of October, is to help you
(07:20):
to understand, or at least toconsider a different way to look
at your circumstances.
So the first thing we need to dois that we need to have a
positive posture.
Is that we need to have apositive posture.
Having a positive posture meansthat we put ourselves in the
best possible position to managenegativity in our lives.
Okay, and the way we putourselves in a positive posture
is we first check our attitude.
We can check our assumptionsand expectations, because that's
(07:41):
important.
Are you a negative versuspessimistic person?
Which one are you?
How are you looking at thecurrent circumstance that you
are experiencing?
Are you looking at it from anegative point of view or from a
positive point of view?
Okay, your money, yourrelationships, everything that
(08:01):
you're going through right now,what is your mental disposition?
In other words, are youconstantly in a negative state
or negative flow of mind becauseof what you're going through?
And so it doesn't.
To have a positive posturedoesn't suggest that you ignore
the reality of your experience.
(08:22):
That would be superficial and,quite honestly, you and I could
be lying about that.
But a better way to think abouthow you deal with negative
experiences is you deciding tohave a positive mindset, and
deciding to have a positivemindset is simply you saying to
(08:44):
yourself I am going to find thegood out of the bad that I'm
experiencing.
I'm going to find the good outof the bad that I'm experiencing
.
I'm going to find the good outof the bad that I'm experiencing
.
I thought about this in my ownexperiences that I've gone
through and grown through,something that happened,
(09:05):
unfortunately, to me veryrecently.
Sometimes I get complaints andpeople complain about me and
literally, I think, some peopletrying to get me in trouble,
right Because of what I do andbecause I I help a lot of people
and I come at a lot of theissues that we experience in our
(09:28):
world and in media on the news.
From a biblical perspective, Igive an example.
I suggested that, instead ofChristians really focusing on
the issue of abortion and I knowthat my listeners are very on
this topic you have differentperspectives.
You're on either side of thepolitical aisle.
(09:49):
For some of you, it's a medicalissue, for some of you it's a
moral issue, for some of youit's a spiritual issue, for some
of you it's simply a medicalissue, and so my goal is not to
take a stance but, more so, togive an alternative perspective,
and an alternative perspectiveis how can we help by
(10:10):
participating in taking care ornurturing parents or young women
who are having to make thesekinds of decisions?
Now, that's an alternativeviewpoint.
Some people don't like it.
So I said to myself instead ofyou complaining about this, is
there any truth to what peopleare saying or how can you adjust
this, your position, not tochange what you believe, but
(10:34):
what can you learn about it?
How can you make sure you'remore down the middle of the road
, that you're not taking sides?
Okay, that's turning a negativeexperience into an opportunity
to learn and grow from it.
John McDonald said this everyproblem introduces a person to
him or herself.
Every problem introduces aperson to him or herself, right?
(10:58):
So you can either be stopped inyour tracks by the negative
experience you're going throughor you can learn from the
negative experience.
Here's the second thing we needto let negativity make us more
creative.
That's what I've learned.
Instead of complaining aboutthe experiences that I've gone
through, instead of complainingabout people complaining about
(11:19):
me right, how could I can becomemore creative.
How can you become morecreative?
Have you ever had someone tocriticize you unfairly?
And there's two ways you canrespond to that.
Number one you can decide tosee if there's any truth in that
experience, to either let itroll off your back like water
(11:42):
off a duck's back, or you candecide to turn that negative
experience to gain somethingthat you can learn.
For Now you can feel bad aboutthe experience.
You can accept the emotion,whether you were rejected,
whether you made bad choices,whether you tried something a
career or an opportunity thatdidn't quite work out in your
(12:04):
favor.
You can either respondcreatively or you can respond
with creativity.
Dennis Woolley said expectingthe world to treat you fairly
just because you are a goodperson is like expecting the
bull not to charge you becauseyou are a vegetarian.
(12:25):
So, you and I, we cannot expectthe world to always be the way
we want it to go.
We can't always expect theworld to answer us on our terms
because, truthfully, the worlddoesn't owe us anything.
What we do, however, is we oweit to ourselves to accept the
full brunt and the fullness oflife, both its goods and bads,
(12:51):
and we can become creativebecause of it.
There's one thing about nothaving much that causes people
to become more creative.
I remember years ago when I wasin college and I could not
afford food and I had to eatramen noodles.
Well, I had to make peanutbutter and jelly sandwiches.
Well, I had to go to.
Instead of me spending money ona pack of chicken, for instance
(13:14):
, I had to go maybe get someNathan hot dogs and maybe, if
not Nathan, I had to go get thecheaper ones and I had to mix
those into my noodles, my ramen,and get some vegetables and mix
that into my ramen.
Hey, basically, I just had tobecome creative in order to have
a decent meal.
Ok, it was Friday night, man.
What else do you expect from me?
(13:35):
So there's something abouthaving to become creative when
you, when your metal, is tested.
Success in life comes not fromholding a good hand, but paying
a play.
But playing a poor hand, a poorhand well, success in life
(13:57):
comes not from holding a goodhand, but in playing a poor hand
.
Well, when you have a badexperience, john Maxwell said
you can either become better orbitter, and so this is what we
need to learn about letting ournegative experiences prompt
creativity.
And then here's the third thingI'll share with you before we
get out of here, we have toembrace the value of negative
experiences.
Dr King says where there is nogrowth, there is no struggle.
(14:19):
What happened during the civilrights movement whether you
believe it or not, is irrelevant, but the principle and
application is the same.
In order for people to havevoting rights in the United
States African-American women isthat there was struggle.
Women for having voting rightsand those who are opposed to 64
Voting Rights Act right, you hadto have people on the opposite
(14:41):
side who said no, it is my right.
No, segregation is wrong,integration is right.
The value what negativeexperiences do.
If we embrace negativeexperiences, we can learn from
them.
The pain of disappointment,conflict, change right.
Being in the military, I haveto move.
Often that's pain and conflict.
(15:02):
My children grow up.
I have to move when me andsomeone in my, my, one of my
children don't get along, or wehave an argument, or I made a
bad financial decision or arelationship is lost because
somebody broke my heart.
Or the pain of, you know,having to be away on deployments
and all of these things.
All of these are examples ofdifferent painful experiences I
(15:26):
have gone through, and if you'veexperienced a painful
experience, you know what itfeels like to not even want to
get out of the bed in themorning.
Have you ever had thatexperience?
I have, but how do we turn ourpain into gain?
Experience isn't really thebest teacher, but it sure does
serve as the best excuse for nottrying to do the same silly
(15:49):
thing again.
Frank Hughes says OK, so we haveto choose to have a positive
stance.
Right.
Life is not the way it'ssupposed to be.
It is what it is.
It is what it is, and so whatwe're saying here is that
difficulties can becomeopportunities.
Pain can help us to makechanges.
(16:12):
When I had my heart scare backin 2023, I realized that I had
to make changes.
I didn't expect a heart scare.
It caught me off guard.
I'm a pretty healthy person forthe most part.
I work out regularly.
I try my best to eat well.
But listen, it caught me offguard In that experience, though
(16:35):
painful, taught me that Ineeded to make change.
Charles Killering said this youwill never stub your toe
standing still.
The faster you go, the morechance there is of stubbing your
toe, but the more chance youhave getting somewhere.
Okay, this is the value ofnegative experiences.
(16:56):
So just to recap one positiveexperiences, having a positive
stance, is important as we dealwith hardship, letting
creativity, let negativeexperiences spark or prompt
creativity, and learning thatnegative experiences have value
because they can help us to makethe needed changes that we have
(17:19):
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seeing you on NoVertMetaphorPeace.
Well, hello.
Words for Change podcast.
It's Lionel man.
It's so excited to have youhere on this Tuesday morning.
It's October 29th and, boy, dowe have an episode for you today
.
We're going to talk about it,but I want to first say, once
again, thank you for yourcontinued support of the Words
for Change podcast.
Man, god has allowed us to doso much and we're looking
forward to do so many morethings as we move toward the end
(00:21):
of the year, into 2025.
And today, boy, we're going tocover a wonderful topic that I
believe is going to help you.
So I'll start off by asking youthis question Are you learning
from the problems you'reexperiencing?
John Maxwell said this we willall experience problems.
Problems are inevitable, butgrowth is optional.
(00:43):
Do you believe that problemsare inevitable but growth is
optional?
Do you believe that problemsare inevitable but growth is
optional?
But I have a question for youtoday.
What day is it y'all?
Yes, here, on October 29th,right before Halloween.
Good morning, vietnam.
(01:03):
Well, if you didn't know it, ourfamous, one of the famous
theologians, hustok Gaterez, whobegan the liberationist
theological conversation many,many years ago, died at the age
of 96.
He came up with the slogan thepreferential options for the
(01:24):
poor, god's preferential optionsfor the poor, god's
preferential options for thepoor.
So Hustogutrez was a Catholictheologian who argued for that
perspective to the gospel ofJesus Christ, particularly the
working out of theology.
Hustogutrez was also a Peruvianpriest who I had the privilege
(01:44):
of reading and studying him ingraduate school, and so his
contributions are have been made, and God rest him and his soul
during this time.
What a wonderful movie that'scoming on.
I don't know if you guys haveheard about it, matter of fact,
it's already out in theaters.
Called Conclave, it talks aboutthe papacy power and takes it
(02:05):
very, very seriously.
So the political theater wasstudied tremendously and the
Conclave is directed by EdwardBurgers, based on a novel
written by Robert Harris.
Ok, so you guys have got tocheck this out.
It talks about the power in theCatholic Church, and I don't
(02:28):
I'm not making any statement foror against, I just think it is
a wonderful movie that you guyscan check out.
Matter of fact, me and my wifeare going to spend time watching
as well.
I love those movies like that.
Church is history and how wecome up with the things in our
current Christian faith andreligion, in the United States
in particular, where they derive, from how they impact us, from
(02:50):
history itself.
You guys should check that out.
Also, you guys know that it isvoting season, so make sure you
exercise your right to vote.
It is the obligation to ourAmerican society and man.
I'm always excited about votingand talking to my daughters, my
(03:10):
family, my son, about votingand its important contribution,
how we participate in ourdemocratic idea in society.
I'm not telling you who to votefor, but I'll tell you one
thing we will always keep Godfirst.
As I've always said, goddoesn't ride on the backs of
what elephants or donkeys and soI want you to.
(03:35):
I don't care where you are,have friends all over the map,
just please make sure youexercise your right to vote and
always keep your Christianidentity when you walk into that
voting booth.
Y'all Speaking of stayingfocused, you know one of the
very, very important mentalhealth issues we're having today
is people being diagnosed withADHD, and some research says
(04:00):
that ADHD is causing a largepercentage of children, as well
as adults, with new diagnoses.
Children 10.5% of children, or6.1 million, have currently have
been diagnosed with ADHD.
6% of adults, that's about 15.5million, have been diagnosed
(04:22):
and some of the symptoms thatcome along with children and
adults is absolutely staggering.
The median age of diagnosis formild ADHD is seven years old.
For boys, it's higher,somewhere between 15 and 8%.
African-americans or blacks,whites and Native American
(04:42):
children are more likely to bediagnosed with ADHD.
Non-hispanic children are morelikely to be diagnosed as well.
Adults with ADHD are morelikely to be under 50 years of
age, and those in lowerhousehold incomes are also more
likely to be diagnosed with ADHD.
(05:03):
Stagnant statistic and whatthis tells me, what this helps
us to understand, is true.
As we think about our topictoday, we have these diagnoses
and different mental healthstruggles.
This helps us to think about avery important question how are
we learning from the strugglesand problems that we go through?
(05:24):
Jesus says in the gospels that,except the seed falls into the
(05:56):
ground and dies, it can notproduce fruit.
I want to ask you a questionthat I asked at the very
beginning.
What is it we can learn fromthe experiences that we go
through?
This is best important becausehow we posture ourselves to
learn from the experiences thatwe go through will give us the
(06:18):
best possible option to managethe negative things that we
experience in our lives.
Okay, so I want you to thinkabout whatever you're going
through right now that's causingdiscomfort, pain, that's
causing you headaches,frustrations and confusion.
I want you to think about thatthing right now and I want to
ask you what are you learningfrom that?
Well, how?
(06:39):
Maybe a better question is, howcan we learn from these
negative experiences?
And what I promise you is thatthese three things I'm going to
recommend to you are what I liketo consider life hacks, because
we're all going through pain.
We're all going through someform of discomfort or change in
our lives.
With change and discomfort, wehave one or two options.
(07:00):
John Maxwell says we can eithergrow back from those
experiences or we can learn fromthose experiences, and what my
goal is today, here, on this29th of October, is to help you
(07:20):
to understand, or at least toconsider a different way to look
at your circumstances.
So the first thing we need to dois that we need to have a
positive posture.
Is that we need to have apositive posture.
Having a positive posture meansthat we put ourselves in the
best possible position to managenegativity in our lives.
Okay, and the way we putourselves in a positive posture
is we first check our attitude.
We can check our assumptionsand expectations, because that's
(07:41):
important.
Are you a negative versuspessimistic person?
Which one are you?
How are you looking at thecurrent circumstance that you
are experiencing?
Are you looking at it from anegative point of view or from a
positive point of view?
Okay, your money, yourrelationships, everything that
(08:01):
you're going through right now,what is your mental disposition?
In other words, are youconstantly in a negative state
or negative flow of mind becauseof what you're going through?
And so it doesn't.
To have a positive posturedoesn't suggest that you ignore
the reality of your experience.
(08:22):
That would be superficial and,quite honestly, you and I could
be lying about that.
But a better way to think abouthow you deal with negative
experiences is you deciding tohave a positive mindset, and
deciding to have a positivemindset is simply you saying to
(08:44):
yourself I am going to find thegood out of the bad that I'm
experiencing.
I'm going to find the good outof the bad that I'm experiencing
.
I'm going to find the good outof the bad that I'm experiencing
.
I thought about this in my ownexperiences that I've gone
through and grown through,something that happened,
(09:05):
unfortunately, to me veryrecently.
Sometimes I get complaints andpeople complain about me and
literally, I think, some peopletrying to get me in trouble,
right Because of what I do andbecause I I help a lot of people
and I come at a lot of theissues that we experience in our
(09:28):
world and in media on the news.
From a biblical perspective, Igive an example.
I suggested that, instead ofChristians really focusing on
the issue of abortion and I knowthat my listeners are very on
this topic you have differentperspectives.
You're on either side of thepolitical aisle.
(09:49):
For some of you, it's a medicalissue, for some of you it's a
moral issue, for some of youit's a spiritual issue, for some
of you it's simply a medicalissue, and so my goal is not to
take a stance but, more so, togive an alternative perspective,
and an alternative perspectiveis how can we help by
(10:10):
participating in taking care ornurturing parents or young women
who are having to make thesekinds of decisions?
Now, that's an alternativeviewpoint.
Some people don't like it.
So I said to myself instead ofyou complaining about this, is
there any truth to what peopleare saying or how can you adjust
this, your position, not tochange what you believe, but
(10:34):
what can you learn about it?
How can you make sure you'remore down the middle of the road
, that you're not taking sides?
Okay, that's turning a negativeexperience into an opportunity
to learn and grow from it.
John McDonald said this everyproblem introduces a person to
him or herself.
Every problem introduces aperson to him or herself, right?
(10:58):
So you can either be stopped inyour tracks by the negative
experience you're going throughor you can learn from the
negative experience.
Here's the second thing we needto let negativity make us more
creative.
That's what I've learned.
Instead of complaining aboutthe experiences that I've gone
through, instead of complainingabout people complaining about
(11:19):
me right, how could I can becomemore creative.
How can you become morecreative?
Have you ever had someone tocriticize you unfairly?
And there's two ways you canrespond to that.
Number one you can decide tosee if there's any truth in that
experience, to either let itroll off your back like water
(11:42):
off a duck's back, or you candecide to turn that negative
experience to gain somethingthat you can learn.
For Now you can feel bad aboutthe experience.
You can accept the emotion,whether you were rejected,
whether you made bad choices,whether you tried something a
career or an opportunity thatdidn't quite work out in your
(12:04):
favor.
You can either respondcreatively or you can respond
with creativity.
Dennis Woolley said expectingthe world to treat you fairly
just because you are a goodperson is like expecting the
bull not to charge you becauseyou are a vegetarian.
(12:25):
So, you and I, we cannot expectthe world to always be the way
we want it to go.
We can't always expect theworld to answer us on our terms
because, truthfully, the worlddoesn't owe us anything.
What we do, however, is we oweit to ourselves to accept the
full brunt and the fullness oflife, both its goods and bads,
(12:51):
and we can become creativebecause of it.
There's one thing about nothaving much that causes people
to become more creative.
I remember years ago when I wasin college and I could not
afford food and I had to eatramen noodles.
Well, I had to make peanutbutter and jelly sandwiches.
Well, I had to go to.
Instead of me spending money ona pack of chicken, for instance
(13:14):
, I had to go maybe get someNathan hot dogs and maybe, if
not Nathan, I had to go get thecheaper ones and I had to mix
those into my noodles, my ramen,and get some vegetables and mix
that into my ramen.
Hey, basically, I just had tobecome creative in order to have
a decent meal.
Ok, it was Friday night, man.
What else do you expect from me?
(13:35):
So there's something abouthaving to become creative when
you, when your metal, is tested.
Success in life comes not fromholding a good hand, but paying
a play.
But playing a poor hand, a poorhand well, success in life
(13:57):
comes not from holding a goodhand, but in playing a poor hand
.
Well, when you have a badexperience, john Maxwell said
you can either become better orbitter, and so this is what we
need to learn about letting ournegative experiences prompt
creativity.
And then here's the third thingI'll share with you before we
get out of here, we have toembrace the value of negative
experiences.
Dr King says where there is nogrowth, there is no struggle.
(14:19):
What happened during the civilrights movement whether you
believe it or not, is irrelevant, but the principle and
application is the same.
In order for people to havevoting rights in the United
States African-American women isthat there was struggle.
Women for having voting rightsand those who are opposed to 64
Voting Rights Act right, you hadto have people on the opposite
(14:41):
side who said no, it is my right.
No, segregation is wrong,integration is right.
The value what negativeexperiences do.
If we embrace negativeexperiences, we can learn from
them.
The pain of disappointment,conflict, change right.
Being in the military, I haveto move.
Often that's pain and conflict.
(15:02):
My children grow up.
I have to move when me andsomeone in my, my, one of my
children don't get along, or wehave an argument, or I made a
bad financial decision or arelationship is lost because
somebody broke my heart.
Or the pain of, you know,having to be away on deployments
and all of these things.
All of these are examples ofdifferent painful experiences I
(15:26):
have gone through, and if you'veexperienced a painful
experience, you know what itfeels like to not even want to
get out of the bed in themorning.
Have you ever had thatexperience?
I have, but how do we turn ourpain into gain?
Experience isn't really thebest teacher, but it sure does
serve as the best excuse for nottrying to do the same silly
(15:49):
thing again.
Frank Hughes says OK, so we haveto choose to have a positive
stance.
Right.
Life is not the way it'ssupposed to be.
It is what it is.
It is what it is, and so whatwe're saying here is that
difficulties can becomeopportunities.
Pain can help us to makechanges.
(16:12):
When I had my heart scare backin 2023, I realized that I had
to make changes.
I didn't expect a heart scare.
It caught me off guard.
I'm a pretty healthy person forthe most part.
I work out regularly.
I try my best to eat well.
But listen, it caught me offguard In that experience, though
(16:35):
painful, taught me that Ineeded to make change.
Charles Killering said this youwill never stub your toe
standing still.
The faster you go, the morechance there is of stubbing your
toe, but the more chance youhave getting somewhere.
Okay, this is the value ofnegative experiences.
(16:56):
So just to recap one positiveexperiences, having a positive
stance, is important as we dealwith hardship, letting
creativity, let negativeexperiences spark or prompt
creativity, and learning thatnegative experiences have value
because they can help us to makethe needed changes that we have
(17:19):
OK.
So listen, I I want to encourageyou to continue to follow the
Words for Change podcast andshare this with someone who can
benefit from it.
You can also go and check usout on YouTube from it.
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(17:40):
five-star review rating on Applepodcast.
We really, really wouldappreciate that.
Okay, and so, as always, Ireally thank you for your
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seeing you on NoVertMetaphorPeace.
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