"Disappointment Is The Price We Pay For Trying To Control What We Can’t."

In this episode of WORDS MATTER, Deanna Ley, The Catalytic Coach, shares one of the most transformative tools she teaches: The 3 Buckets. Inspired by Doug Lennick’s powerful framework, this life-changing concept helps listeners reclaim their peace, presence, and personal power.

With her original quote - "Disappointment is the price we pay for trying to control what we can't." - Deanna breaks down how we lose ourselves trying to carry what was never ours to hold. She unpacks each bucket—what we can control, what we can influence, and what’s completely out of our hands—and how staying aligned with our own bucket is the key to emotional freedom.

What Listeners Will Learn:
• What The 3 Buckets are and why they matter
• How to identify which bucket you’re in at any moment
• Why trying to control the uncontrollable leads to disappointment
• How to hold your Bucket One and protect your peace
• How perfectionism, people-pleasing, and over-functioning steal your power
• How to implement this tool in real-time situations

Memorable Quotes:
• "Disappointment is the price we pay for trying to control what we can't." — Deanna Ley
• "You don’t need to hold the world, friends. You just need to hold your own bucket."
• "You give up control over what’s yours every time you try to control what’s not."
• "Bucket Three is where our peace goes to die."
• "You can't hold your own power and chase control at the same time."
• "That’s what disappointment really is. It’s the bill that shows up after we’ve emotionally invested in an outcome we never had the power to guarantee."
• "Because when we try to control the uncontrollables, we don't just lose peace. We lose presence. We lose clarity. We lose our power. We lose who we are."

This episode calls listeners to stop chasing control and start living from their place of power. Because the only bucket you're responsible for is your own—and holding it well can change everything.

Your WORDS MATTER, because YOU MATTER.

Want to go deeper into the original source of this concept? Listen to Doug Lennick’s episode on The Three Bucket Theory at https://www.think2perform.com/the-three-bucket-theory/

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