This week on WORDS MATTER, Deanna Ley, The Catalytic Coach, shares a raw, real-time moment that began in a massage room and led to the unexpected uncovering of anger, grief, and a deep disconnection from her body.
At the center of it all is a quote from Tiffany Aliche: “Shame shields solutions.”
What follows is a deeply personal reflection on body betrayal, the lies shame whispers, and the truth-telling that begins to set us free. This episode isn’t about fixing or figuring it all out — it’s about choosing to stay present in the ache, name what hurts, and remember what’s still true.
What Listeners Will Learn:
• Why shame often disguises itself as accountability — and how to recognize the difference
• How pain and disconnection can distort your progress and make you forget how far you’ve come
• The impact of unspoken grief on your thoughts, choices, and trust in your body
• How to stay with yourself when healing gets hard and messy
• Why honesty isn’t weakness — it’s the beginning of real healing
• A reminder that this part counts, too — even when it’s still unfolding
Memorable Quotes:
• “Shame shields solutions.” – Tiffany Aliche
• “Every time you tell the truth about what hurts, you reclaim a part of yourself that shame has tried to erase.”
• “Shame sounded like truth. But I now see it as regret, weaponized against my own healing.”
• “Grieving what you lost doesn’t cancel out what you’ve gained.”
• “You haven’t lost your healing. You haven’t erased your progress. You are still on your way.”
• “You're not broken even if you feel like it. You're not failing even if you feel like it. You're unfolding.”
• “The only way to it — to the solutions we seek — is through the thick of it.”
This episode is for anyone who feels like they’ve lost their footing, their progress, or their peace. It’s not a bow-tied lesson — it’s an invitation to stay, feel, and keep going. Because this part matters just as much as the rest.
Your WORDS MATTER, because YOU MATTER.
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