Next Generation Leadership: Nurturing Through Mentorship

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A mentor's commitment is like a foot race, where you teach your mentee, help them grow, and strive to stay ahead to guide them - it's a remarkable journey of learning and progress. #MentorshipCommitment #LifeLongLearning

Establishing a positive and trusting relationship is crucial. It's about building trust, effective communication, and actively listening to your mentee. #TrustBasedMentorship #EffectiveCommunication


Embrace the push to constantly grow and learn from your mentee, acknowledging that mentoring is a two-way street - a journey of mutual enlightenment and enrichment. #PersonalGrowth #MentorshipProgress

Mentorship is not about using your mentee to build yourself. Instead, it's about preparing them to surpass you - nurturing them to become the best they can be. #NurtureFutureLeaders #EmpowerOthers

Clarify your motivations for becoming a mentor and be willing to let your mentee go when they're ready to spread their wings and become all that they were meant to be. #MentorshipMotivation #LettingGo

Mentorship is not about achieving personal fame or building a big church. Instead, it's about how well your mentee learns to walk with Jesus, love their family, and contribute to their community. #PurposefulMentorship #ImpactfulLeaders

Learn how to handle it when your mentee doesn't take your advice - it's part of the mentorship journey and the process of letting go for them to find their own way. #AdviceandGrowth #LettingGo

Measure success by how well your mentee learns and grows rather than personal gain. It's about nurturing their spiritual and personal development. #SuccessInMentorship #NurturingFutureLeaders

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Mentoring is life on life, investing in others and helping them grow into leaders.

Availability is key. Determine how much time you're willing to invest in mentoring.

Building a positive and trusting relationship is vital for effective mentoring.

Actively listen and communicate with your mentee to ensure they understand what you're teaching

Recognize your limitations and be prepared to help your mentee seek a

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You know, I started out lastweek with a podcast about

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mentoring, which I consider tobe one of the most important
ministries that any pastor, anymissionary or even a businessman
has your opportunity to affectother lives.
Over the years, people havealways asked me or said to me I
want to know more about how todo what you do.

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I want to know how to mentorother people, how to do what you
do.
I want to know how to mentorother people, and I, you know
I've taught lessons on it, butI've tried to break it down more
into some more practical stepsabout how for you to begin
mentoring other people and trulystart developing future leaders

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.
It's not that important that weare leaders, though it is
important.
I'm not trying to diminish thatat all, but the key is to be a
leader of leaders, someone whotrains others, who trains others
.
It's the 2 Timothy, 2 and verse2 teaching or training that
we're following as we go aboutdoing this.

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So I thought I'd start todaywith how to prepare to be a
mentor.
You know, like, if you'rethinking about mentoring Now let
me just say I think that mostpeople don't understand the
concept.
It's not discipleship, becausediscipleship can be, honestly,
basic lessons or newcomersclasses, and lots of times we

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brag about having a discipleshipministry.
Well, what we mean is newconvert lessons, and they did
that when I was a little boy 60years ago.
I took those classes and sowe've developed it.
Many churches have it set upwhere it's what you do with new
believers.
But then the question comeswhat do we do to take it on

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further and to help more peoplebecome leaders, that they can
become pastors or missionariesthemselves, or they can become
leaders in your industry?
How do we go beyond that?
So I call this life on life.
I've been calling it that for40 years probably.
So it is you investing yourlife.

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It's what Jesus did with otherpeople.
So I wanted to kind of gothrough about eight steps, if I
can, today, about what I thinkyou want to have as you prepare.
What do you want to think about?
So number one is what do youhave to offer?
What do you have to offer?
Now, here we're not talkingabout.

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Can you teach me how to live abasic Christian life?
Of course you can and youshould.
That ought to be a part of whoyou are and what you do.
Can you teach the basicmechanics of how it works in
your industry, in your business?
Of course you can, but can you,will you, do you have what it
takes to show me how to doeverything you do and to do it

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better?
Do you have in your ability?
Do you have in your ability theability to do it even more so?
So a mentor needs to sit downand think I'm not doing this
because I can teach them thebasics.
I'm doing this because I canteach them the most important
parts and I can help them go onto do all the things that have

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to be done.
So the first thing I want tosay to you is sit down and think
about what you have to offerand what you're willing to give,
what you're willing to give,what you're willing to share, to
give what you're willing togive, what you're willing to
share.
And you know you'll not ever.
If you're a mentor, you'regoing to put yourself into a
foot race, and that foot race isgoing to be as you train a

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person.
They start getting better andbetter at what they do and as
they get better and better atwhat they do, you got to stay
ahead of them so you can helpthem.
So it's a great thing for you.
You teach them and then you runto stay ahead.
You teach them and then you runto stay ahead and you just keep
going and learning and you keepthem going and learning, and

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that's the great idea Now.
So step number one is what doyou have to offer?
Step number two is that you'regoing to need to understand the
background of the person you'redealing with, the goals they
have, the challenges that theyhave.
You see, it's going to be anindividualistic approach.
Now you know, if their goal inlife is to be a Sunday school

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teacher, you know that's not whoI would specifically invest my
life in.
I think basic discipleship andchurch services and all of the
other things that go on in anormal church setting will
probably be enough.
But this person I want to knowwhat do you want to be?
Where are you headed?

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What is your goal in life?
Are you headed towards, with me, full-time ministry?
Would you like to be amissionary?
Do you want to learn a language?
Do you want to raise yoursupport?
Do you want to know how tostart a church?
Do you want to know how to leadyour home?
I want to know all those basicquestions about the person.
I want to sit down with themand get to know them a little

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bit and find out, and so I'mgoing to spend my time investing
in them in the areas that areextremely important to them, and
that's what you want to bear inmind, what is extremely
important to them.
And so then you've got todecide well, do I have what they
need and do I want to invest inwhat they need and what they

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want?
Because you can't be the mentorfor everybody.
There are people that mentoringthem would not be in your best
interest, and so you would justsay, no, that's not exactly what
I want to do, not who I am.
Third question See number one wewant to make sure what we have
to offer.
Number two we want tounderstand the person that we're
going to mentor.

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But, number three, we're goingto have to determine the
availability that we have andare willing to give.
It's a fun study in the Bibleand I will go through that as we
go through these mentoringlessons.
It's a fun study in the Bibleto watch.
When Jesus said he would bealone, he was alone with the 12.
And when they were alone, hewas alone with the twelve, and

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when they were alone, the twelveof them it's actually kind of a
funny way of stating it, isn'tit?
When they were alone?
And it's not your wife, not youand your children, it's you and
the disciples you are sharinglife with, that you are doing
life-on-life discipleship with,and so you want to determine
your availability.
How much time are you willingto provide?

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How much?
See, jesus lived with thosefellows for three years.
That was far superior to anyBible college education possible
.
You know, I always challengeyoung missionaries when they're
going to the field and I say tothem the most important thing
you can do is find some peoplethat you will personally invest

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in and personally mentor,because if starting a Bible
college and I have a Biblecollege in Peru that I started,
it's not mine anymore, obviously, and I had a Bible college I
started in the States and I'veleft with other people.
However, all I'm saying isJesus could have started a Bible
college.
I believe in Bible colleges,but instead of that, jesus said
no, I'm going to invest myentire life and my entire

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ministry in Jesus mentoring men.
You should get a hold of MasterPlan of Evangelism by Robert
Coleman.
You should get severaldifferent books and I will try
to list a couple of three ofthem, maybe in the show notes
that you can look at, becauseyou need to understand Jesus
didn't have a backup plan.
If those 12 men failed, theentire ministry failed.

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So how available will you be Now?
When you're a pastor, you candescend from the heavenlies and
preach the message and ascendback up into the heavenlies.
When you're a Sunday schoolteacher, you can do the same
thing, and you can do the samething when you're a college
professor.
But when they have the abilityto walk into your room and walk

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into your office almostunannounced and you are
available.
So the kind of mentoring I'mtalking about is something
you're going to limit the numberof people you're mentoring at
one time and you're going toinvest in them everything you
possibly can.
So it's a big time investment.
You're going to have to decideam I really willing to do that?

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Am I willing to be thatavailable?
Because if you're not, maybeyou don't want to do this and I
know a lot of guys have said tome over the years man, I wish I
could do what you're doing, butthey're not willing to invest
the time that it requires.
You know, basically you'regoing to say, if I'm mentoring
you, I'm not going to doanything alone.
I make a hospital visit, you go.

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I make a marriage counseling,you go, if it's at all possible.
I don't do things alone becauseI want you to learn.
I take you to the deacon'smeeting, I take you to the
business meeting, I take youeverywhere so you can learn.
Okay, so let's go to questionnumber four.
Question number four is thatyou will work on a positive and

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trusting relationship.
So that means you know you havegot to gain their trust.
You can't be a mentor withoutgaining their trust, and it
means that you have to haveeffective communication.
Now I'd like to stop just asecond in the middle of
discussing that and say thatmeans actively listening.

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I think most of us are realgood at declarative sentences,
but we're not real good atasking questions.
I had a friend who's in heavennow.
A great friend came to visit menine times in Peru.
He was one of the best friendsI've ever had in my life and he
used to tell people askquestions, don't make statements

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.
Ask questions, don't makestatements.
And so I would just say to youyou need to listen.
Let the mentee talk to you, letthe person you're training talk
to you.
Find out what they're saying.
Don't just be a one-way street.
When you teach something, youneed to stop and say now did you
get that?
What questions do you have?

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Let's discuss it.
If you don't understand, let'stalk about it.
If you do understand, but yougot questions, let's talk about
them.
If you don't believe me, let'stalk about it.
And as long as they've acceptedthat the Bible will be the only
rule of faith and practice,then you're pretty good shape.
But you're going to have towork at having a positive
relationship.
That just because they don'tagree with you doesn't mean that

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you have rejected them oryou're no longer willing to talk
to them.
That's not going to be theattitude that you take in things
, and so I just want to say toyou that you got to make up your
mind about what you want to doand what you want to accomplish,
and so build a positive andtrusting relationship, and when

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you say something, ask them torepeat what you said or to
explain what they've heard.
So you got a back and forthdialogue.
Let me say this Preaching is akind of a one-way street, but
mentoring is kind of a two-waystreet.
I give, they respond, and thebest way to study this is to
watch how Jesus did.

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Go, look at what Jesus did.
He would teach a whole classand then he would come back and
say guys, you got any questionsIn Matthew 13,?
He taught all that time andthen when he gets back, the guys
are like you know, we don'tunderstand a thing you said.
And he said well, let meexplain it to you, let's go over
it.
And so Jesus did.

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So it is actively listening andit's communicating in a way
that you find out that theyheard what you're saying.
Now another number five be opento learning from and
understanding the perspective ofthe person you're discipling,
training, mentoring.
You know, the beautiful thingabout mentoring is you will

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constantly grow.
They will come at you withquestions you've never heard or
never had.
They will come at you anddecide things and say things and
you'll have to look at it andsay, well, you know, I need to
look at that, I need to thinkabout that, and they will push
you against the wall.
It's uncomfortable sometimes,but if you want to mentor people

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, you've got to be willing tolisten to them and learn from
them.
I would say over all the yearsI've been doing this, I've
learned as much from the guys Ihave worked with as I have been
able to teach them, because theyknow stuff I don't know.
They see things from adifferent perspective.
When you're born in 1954,you're raised in the culture I

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was raised in you see things oneway, but when you're born in
1995, or you're born in 2005 orlater even, you have a whole
different mindset, and so you'regoing to have to change a
little bit of what you'rethinking and saying, because you

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tend to have the attitude oftenwell, they're just wrong.
Well, they may be, but you needto listen and if you can't help
them see where they're wrong,maybe you're wrong.
Now, question number six that Ihave for you today is evaluate
your readiness and willingness.
So you've established that youhave looked into them and

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decided that you have what ittakes to teach them and you've
understood a little bit aboutwho they are, and you've decided
that you'll be available andyou're going to listen to them
and you're learning from them.
You decided I'll listen andI'll learn.
I won't just be the purveyor ofinformation.
But now you've got to decide.

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Are you really ready?
Are you ready for such a strongcommitment and are you willing
to do it?
It can sound romantic.
I used to walk into meetings andI'd come in with 10 or 12 guys
with me and pastors would beimpressed.
They'd be like, wow, there'sGardner with his gang and you

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know that was always interestingto them.
But are you really willing togo, even to the Preacher's
Fellowship or wherever it is andyou're not alone?
Are you willing to share allyour secrets about how you study
the Bible?
Are you willing to share yourfailties and your failures so
that they can grow?
You'll have to decide.
Am I really willing to give somuch?

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To be blunt, honest, it's a lotlike raising children.
And can you be honest and saythat raising children has great
challenges?
Would you be willing to admitthat?
Would you be willing to saythat, as a parent, I deal with a
lot of junk raising kids?
Of course you do.
Now you may not deal with toomuch if they're six years old,
but when they hit teenage yearsand other places, drama and

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excitement and all the junk thatcomes with it.
But you know what You'recommitted to them.
So make sure you are willing todo that and you're ready.
Now, number seven you're goingto need to recognize your
limitations.
You know John the Baptist tookpeople as far as he could and
then he took them to Jesus.

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And so what you're going towant to do is you're going to
want to teach everything youknow and everything you
understand and you want to keepgrowing so you can teach them
more every day.
But then what you want to do ishelp them find other people
that know more stuff about howto do things than you do.
So you know they're going tokeep you young and they're going

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to keep you challenged.
But if you're honest, you'regoing to say you know, that's
not my area of expertise, Ican't help you as much there,
but I have some friends and letme share my friends with you so
they can help you.
So recognize your limitationsand then you're going to have to
be emotionally and mentallyprepared, because being a

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discipler, being a mentor, hurts, because they know too much.
They know you well and ifthere's a, I heard a pastor say
30, 40 years ago if a man is notstrong enough to hurt you.
If he will, he is not strongenough to help you.
And so you know, some of thepeople you train are going to be

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like Judas and they're going toturn on you.
Paul had those that turned onhim and attacked him and were
detractors, and you're going tohave that.
So you've got to be emotionallyprepared for it.
It's not a bed of roses.
You have to be willing to bethere whenever they're hurting
or whenever things are happening.
So that leads you to somequestions I want you to ask

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yourself so are you ready?
What's your motivation forbeing a mentor?
What is your motivation forbeing a mentor?
Is it so you can look good?
Then that won't work.
Is it so you can build yourchurch?
Well, that won't really work.
If they know they're being used, it won't take them long to
figure out.
I don't really want to be hereand they're going to leave you

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anyway.
So you need to find out.
What are your motivations?
What are?
What's the reason you'reconsidering being a mentor?
So ask yourself now the truth ofmatter is, unless you're
willing to make them a greatersuccess than you I know leaders
they're fearful and jealous.
They don't want anybody to passthem up.

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They don't want anybody to dobetter than they do.
But Jesus actually told theguys he was training y'all are
going to do more than I've everdone.
I'm going to take you further,and so check your motivations,
then check your skill levels.
You know, if you've only builta church to 50, then that's

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about the level of your skill.
If you've only built a churchto 50, then that's about the
level of your skill.
If you've only built a churchto 200, if you've never started
a church, if you've never helpedothers start a church, if
you're struggling in your ownfamily, so check your skill
level and your expertise.
Make sure what you have tooffer the person is enough.
Now let me just say this A guypastoring a church of 50 could

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definitely be a mentor and takethem as far as he could and then
help them go to the next stage.
But don't be jealous.
John the Baptist said I mustdecrease, and that's what a
mentor does.
A mentor is what you do whenyou raise kids.
If you ever notice that that'swhat a mentor does, a mentor is
what you do when you raise kids.
Have you ever noticed that?
You know, betty and I have fourchildren and 20 grandchildren

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and you know what I've had todecrease, because what ends up
happening is your kids grow upand they move off and they don't
need you and it actually hurts.
It actually hurts.
They call you when they wantmoney and when they want a
little bit of, maybe someexpertise, because they're in
trouble.
But that's the normal way oflife and I know some pastors and

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some mentors when they train aguy and then he wants to leave
and go do his own thing, they'reupset about that.
Well, that's what I did with myparents and that's what you did
with your parents and that'swhat our children did with us
and that's what ourgrandchildren are going to do
with our children.
That's just life.
So just make sure that you bewilling to take what you know

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and take them as far as you cango and always be growing, always
be growing, and then let themgo.
Let them go and let them becomeall that they were meant to
become.
So you know you want toquestion your motives and you
want to look and see what skillsyou have and then you want to
decide how much time do Iactually have?

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We discussed that earlieravailability.
We discussed emotionally, beingemotionally prepared, because
it can just be a life-consumingthing.
But I want you to know thatmentoring, there were times that
Jesus had to just say guys,I've got to get alone because he
was human.
Yes, he was God in human flesh,but he experienced everything

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as much as we do.
And so how available are youwilling to be?
We've said it before, but itbears repeating how available
are you willing to be?
We've said it before, but itbears repeating how available
are you willing to be?
How accessible are you?
What are the boundaries?
I have literally had guys climbacross the wall and get into my

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house.
I've had guys walk in when Iwas sick, just walk straight
into my bedroom, and they didn'teven knock and it was
embarrassing.
But then that's the relationshipyou kind of open yourself up
for.
It just depends.
You've got to set your ownboundaries.
You've got to decide how faryou're willing to let people go.
Then I want to know what areyour expectations?

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What do you hope to achieve?
Now, this is kind of a repeat,but I'm doing it on purpose.
You see, if you're trying tobuild a bigger church, I don't
think that's real mentoring.
That's almost manipulation.
I want to use you to build me,so I'll give to you, so you can
give to me.

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So you're going to have todecide.
You know, what do you want?
Because when you mentor a guy,you mentor him so he can leave
you, not help you.
I need you to hear that youmentor him so he can leave you,
not help you.
He'll help you for a while, buthe's on the way out.

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I raised two wonderful sons andtwo wonderful daughters and I'll
give you a hint they are themost wonderful people in the
world.
I have no way to explain to youthe love I feel for them, but
let me tell you something.
They were on their way out andthey have become successful
individuals on their own andthey do what they believe is

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right and we just talk.
Sometimes I don't even agreewith them and I'm like come on,
guys.
And they look at me and theysay come on, dad, and that's
where you're headed with this.
So what are your expectations?
Well, I think you ought to begrateful to me.
Well, he might be, but he mightnot express it.
I know that's not what you wantto hear.

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Now the next question is are youreally willing to give honest
and constructive feedback,because you know you can't just
say good boy, attaboy, attaboy,attaboy.
You're going to have to bewilling to say this is what
you're doing wrong.
Now you've got to gainpermission to do that.
You've got to know they wantyou to do that.
There's got to be some kind ofagreement verbal or written

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where they know that you can saythis is not the way you should
have done that sermon, this isnot the way you should have
handled that situation.
And so you have that possibleway of sharing with them, giving
them honest and constructivefeedback, and drop all the

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negative, critical comments.
That's not what you do.
You don't do that with yourkids.
You don't do that with peopleyou love.
Now we've discussed beingwilling to learn from your
mentee.
That's all I'm going to saythere.
But are you?
Because some of us, when we geta little bit older and I'm 69,

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we get a little older we're likeI don't need to learn from
anybody.
Be careful.
Then I want you to be preparedfor it and ask yourself this
question Are you ready to dealwith possible conflict,
potential conflicts andchallenges?
Because you're dealing withpeople.
You know you're a dad andyou're a mom and you're raising

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kids and you and I both knowthere's conflict and there's
challenges and there'sdisagreements.
Now we put on a pretty face atthe church.
You know, and they're your kids, so you don't quit on them.
I hope you don't.
I hope you don't.
I did know a pastor one time andwe were and I asked him how
many children he had and he saidthree, and I later found out he

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had four, but he didn't want toeven talk about the other one.
That's not what you're going todo.
If you're going to be a mentor,you're going to take them in as
yours.
So now you're going to have toask yourself this question Can I
deal with the personal biases?
You see, when you're older youcame up with a different culture

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and a different time, and soyou have certain ideas.
They may not even be biblical,they may be cultural, but you
don't know they're culturalbecause you've never been in a
talk with anybody thatchallenged you and you think
they're in the Bible.
But when you're forced to lookfor Bible verses, you may not
find them.
I don't know how many timesI've told people as I trained

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them if it's not in the Bible,you call my hand on it, I need
to change Whoa, if it's not inthe Bible.
You call my hand on it and Ineed to change.
And that's a hard thing to say,because a lot of stuff that I
have been taught all my life andpreachers have taught me all my
life and my parents andteachers have taught me all my
life they're not necessarily inthe Bible.

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So be willing to handle that,be willing to deal with that.
So ask yourself that questionand then ask yourself what
you're going to do whenconfidentiality is betrayed,
when they are in your life andthey talk to you in private and
then they take it all public.

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You've got to be willing todeal with that.
Another question you askyourself is how do you handle
any power dynamics when youfirst start?
You know, when you start with amissionary and he's never been
on deputation, he's scared.
He'll listen to anything yousay.
But once he's traveled for acouple of years, the pastors
have told him he's God's gift tothe human race.
He doesn't listen very well.

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Then when he gets to languageschool, he drops right back down
into the I need to learn stage.
But then, as soon as he getsthe language I don't need to
learn anymore.
How are you going to handlethat?
That's a major question.
How are you going to handlethat?
Next question how are you goingto measure the success?
Only a few more questions andI'll be done.
But how are you going tomeasure success?

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You see, your mentoringrelationship is not going to be
about your church growth or howmuch they love you or how much
they thank you or how many giftsthey get you, but how well they
learn to walk with Jesus, lovetheir wife and do a ministry.
But you have to figure that outfor yourself.
You're going to figure out.
How do I know if what I'm doingis worth it?
That's just really going to besomething you have to work on.

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Then you've got to ask thequestion am I willing to be
patient?
You know, when you startdealing with somebody from a
different culture or somebodyfrom a different background and
you start trying to help themcome along and do things in
their life, they don't move asfast as you want, they don't
change as much as you want.
They get on your nerves andaggravate you.
They have challenges and it's agrowth, progress and a growth

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process, and so are you going tobe patient enough?
Then there's culturaldifferences, especially if
you're a missionary, you have tolearn that what's right in
America is not necessarily rightin another country.
Simply because it's not abiblical truth, that doesn't
mean that I'm telling you thatAmerica is wrong and they're

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right, or any of that.
It just means this you know,when you go to South America and
Argentina, men kiss, men on thecheek.
You just lay your cheektogether and that really freaks
out Americans.
But yet, if you were honest,jesus said, or the Bible says
Paul said, greet each other witha holy kiss, probably very much
similar to that, even moreintimate than the Argentine kiss

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.
And so you're going to have todecide that there are cultural
differences, and I'll acceptthem.
Americans tend to be moreclosed and we don't touch.
But if you go to Latin America,there's going to be quite a bit
of touching going on.
And then here comes the biggie.
Are you ready, boy?
These are getting worse.
Are you ready?

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How do you handle it when hedoesn't take your advice?
How do you handle it when hedoesn't take your advice, when
he goes in a different direction?
Oh, my goodness, that's goingto happen to you over and over
and over, and you're going tofeel threatened by it and you're
not going to like it and you'regoing to wish it didn't happen
that way and you're going towant to argue about it and

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you're going to fight about itand you're going to say good
night, you don't appreciate me.
You made an agreement with me.
You're supposed to obey me.
But if you've raised childrenwith me, you're supposed to obey
me.
But if you've raised children,you know that things don't
always work out exactly like youthought they would or wanted
them to.
You know that's true and I needyou to understand that they
have the right to go in adifferent direction.

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That doesn't mean that's whatyou want to do.
It doesn't mean what you plan.
But you can't get upset.
You just got to back up and sayyou know what?
I helped them grow to wherethey are so they could become
who they are to do what they'regoing to do.
And they're God's man, not myman.
That's a very vitalconsideration.
They're God's man and not myman.

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That's an important thing foryou to consider and think about
as you work on this.
So what are you going to dowhen they don't take your advice
?
And I just want to tell youright now they won't take your
advice.
I once told a missionary many,many times I didn't believe in
camps and children's homesunless you could put somebody
else to running it, not you.

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And then he came to me and saidI'm going to start a children's
home and I said, okay, I'll bewith you, I'll support you.
He didn't do what I thought heought to do, but that's okay.
You know, he's not my man, he'sGod's man, and we all serve God
.
We're not serving you, don'tserve me, you serve the Lord
Jesus, and so I just want to askyou to think about that and put
that into practice.

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And then the last question whatabout when are you willing to
receive feedback?
Because they'll say some uglythings to you and you just
better be hoping they'll do itin private, but they'll come at
you and they'll say some thingsthat will hurt your feelings and
they'll tell you you're notdoing it right.
You know your children may havedone that to you at some time,
sometime when they were angryand they told you something, and

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so are you willing to handlefeedback?
So I've tried today to gothrough what it takes, maybe to
prepare to be a mentor and thequestions you'd ask yourself if
you're going to be mentoring.
And I'm going to come back toyou on another mentoring lesson
in the near future and when Icome back to you I think next

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week I'm going to talk to youabout the fears you might have.
I hope that this is helping you.
I am really doing it to helpyou.
I'm not trying to make money,not trying to get fame, trying
to help others accomplish what Iknow God could use to enhance
their longevity and theirministry.
So if this is at all a blessing, would you please share it on

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social media?
Would you give it a like?
Would you give it a rating, adecent rating, if you feel like
it's worth it?
And I just want to thank youfor listening to the World
Evangelism Podcast.
I am honored that you wouldtake the time and I hope that
you'll share it.
I look forward to talking toyou again soon.
God bless every one of you.
This is Austin Gardner from theWorld Evangelism Podcast.