April 14, 2021 • 28 mins
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Michelle Remington (00:00):
If you enjoy worth it, consider joining the
(00:02):
worth it squad Facebook group.
Imagine finding a community ofbelievers where you can
experience genuine humanconnection and true fellowship.
We unashamedly focus on God andHis Word. We pray together,
celebrate each other. Andthrough all the things that are
going on in your life, you aresurrounded by friends who
understand you, and remind youof your value. This is the
(00:25):
essence of the word that squadFacebook group. So take a moment
look up the word that squat onfacebook and join your squad
today.
Dishwashers washing, clothes aredrying, kiddo is having some
chill out time. And I am feelingpretty fancy today because I
(00:47):
even made my bed. Oh, yeah,pretty fancy. And as I sit down
here for just a moment of quiettime for myself, I really wanted
to have a conversation with youabout priorities. So let's just
take a minute for you, me tohave a conversation about you,
(01:12):
and how to prioritize you sothat you can be the healthiest
you that you can be. grab a cupof whatever it is that keeps you
going, my friend. And let's havea talk.
Worth It! Intro (01:25):
Welcome to Worth It! The podcast where we
answer anxiety, deflate fear andshut down shame, because ain't
no woman got time for that youwere made to thrive. My mission
is to help you get deeply rootedwith God and reclaim your weapon
that the enemy of God has beenusing against you. After going
to battle for my own mind threeyears ago, I realized that there
(01:48):
is a war going on for our minds.
A battle that begins with how wethink says you have much more
control than you realize. Witheach episode, you'll learn how
to fight back and become moreconfident and the truth that God
already knows you are worth it.
I'm Michelle Remington,Christian mindset coach, thought
(02:08):
strategist, and warrior Mama.
Grab your sword daughter of TheKing, it's time to unleash your
inner warrior princess.
Mental Health Disclaimer (02:24):
Before we dive in, I do want to say
that I am not a mental healthprofessional. I'm simply sharing
from my experience withdepression, the strategies and
steps that helped me. So firstand foremost, I want you to know
that you are not alone. Reachout to friends and family, tell
them how you're feeling. Don'tbe afraid to ask for help. The
(02:48):
world is so much better with youin it. If you need help, or
resources or just moreinformation for yourself or for
someone else, I encourage you toreach out to the National
Suicide Prevention hotline.
their phone number is1-800-273-8255. That's
1-800-273-8255
Michelle Remington (03:16):
Welcome back you beautiful, absolutely
gorgeous creation of God whodoes not make any mistakes? Yes,
I just went there. Whether youbelieve it or not. It is the
truth, my dear. So I sit herereally actually starting to get
(03:37):
excited about this conversationwe're about to have about
prioritizing you. And just FYI,this episode is really just like
all about giving everything thatI have to give to you to
hopefully set you up the verybest that we can, in spite of
(04:00):
anything that could happen.
These are things that it doesn'tmatter what's going on in the
world around you. You are incomplete control of sounds
pretty crazy. But Praise Jesus,it is true. I got my cup of
coffee here.
So let's go ahead and dive in. Iwant to share with you today
five priorities for a healthieryou. And this is all about
(04:26):
prioritizing you and yourhealth. Because this doesn't
just cover mental health, itcovers everything. Because I
think it's safe to say that youand I know that if our mental
health is not there, nothingelse is really going to fall
into place. And we're going tostruggle in those areas if that
(04:49):
is not there. So the firstpriority that I would urge you
and encourage you to make isyour internal conversation
yourself. Talk, whether audiblyor in your mind, the
conversation that you have withyourself is so important. And so
(05:09):
telling.
So, if your conversation withyourself tends to be negative,
cynical, there may be somethings that you need to deal
with. Generally, there's atleast one and usually more main
thoughts that you have aboutyourself. Now, you could be in
(05:33):
the thick of it, I have been inthe thick of it myself, and you
could just kind of really listento what those thoughts are, and
let those sink in. Or you couldjust take a step back and be
patient with yourself as youmove into this new area of
awareness for yourself and prayabout it as well. Because this
(05:56):
is all going to work so muchbetter as you're gonna see
lasting transformation, when youinclude your God and Creator in
this conversation. And in thistransformation, people can
transform themselves bythemselves. But lasting
(06:18):
transformation comes from God.
So I encourage you, if you don'talready have a relationship with
God, or maybe you've it's kindof been on the rocks, maybe this
year has kind of made it, youknow, not as good as it could
possibly be. It This is not theend, you can restart this, you
(06:43):
can return to God. Now, let'sreally dive into this self talk.
So as I said, before younormally have about one to 10,
let's be honest, one to 10thoughts about yourself, that
(07:08):
run through your mind, some ofus may have 20. I mean, it
really just depends on where youare. But I can tell you today
that you have a choice, you havethe choice to first either
listen to all of those thoughts,and beat yourself down with it.
(07:30):
Or you have the choice to stepback. And really analyze these
thoughts and where they camefrom.
And I'm going to encourage youto write these things down,
whether it's a journal on yourphone, where however it is that
is most comfortable for you tojust have a free flow of
(07:51):
thoughts and ideas, is where Iwant you to put this stuff down
so that you can see it. And it'sgoing to help you work it out
better. So take those thoughts,those main thoughts that usually
come to your mind in the courseof a week, and start writing
(08:13):
them down. And then you canreally look at those, analyze
those, pray about those. Andwhen you pray about those have
an active conversation with God.
Like when I was doing this, Iwas like God, I feel like I am
worthless. And what is yourword, say? Am I really
worthless, and I just get intoGod's word. And really get into
(08:36):
it and find out what God's wordsays about me who I am, who I
was created to be. And justreally let God open my heart,
open my mind every single chasm,open it all up, and let God
begin his healing.
(08:58):
Now the next priority that Iwant you to focus on is how you
talk about yourself. This iswhen those mental internal
conversations that you have withyourself start to start to pour
out into real life. And this iswhere things can really start to
(09:20):
get damaging. Because it's onething to think these things
about yourself. But then whenyou start to say these things
about yourself, it's coming outof your mouth is being spoken.
And then you are then hearingyour own voice speak these
things. That's extremelydamaging. And it's deteriorating
(09:42):
to your self worth to who it isGod created you to be. So how
you talk about yourself not onlyaffects you It affects how
people treat you and how peoplethink Think about you.
Now you don't have to go on thecomplete other end of this
(10:05):
spectrum and be like, I am sogreat, I am awesome, I am so
much better than you know, wenever, ever, ever want to put
anybody down. But always seek tospeak the truth about yourself
to yourself. Number three, andas you're gonna see, this is
(10:26):
kind of a progression of whathappens. So number three is how
you treat yourself. So first youhave your internal conversation,
then you have how you talk aboutyourself, that's something that
you hear, and the rest of theworld hears the people in your
circle here, and then it startsto degrade more. And then it
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falls over into how you treatyourself. And that gets into
like, because there's so manypeople seeking like self care,
how do I take care of myselfmore. And partially, it's just
the busyness of life.
And then, especially for womenwere just like, you know what,
(11:10):
I'm just gonna take other, takecare of others, before I take
care of myself, you know, I'lljust take care of that later. I
don't need that right now. Andwe really don't pay attention to
those kind of warning signs thatwe're getting from our body. And
we just continue to push andpush and push ourselves. But
(11:30):
then also, how you treatyourself is sending a signal to
you mentally and emotionally.
That it's, it's like thisvicious circle, you're sending
this signal mentally andemotionally, in how you're
treating yourself. And thenthat's only feeding into that
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negative self talk.
Number four, how you allowothers to treat you. As I said,
this is all a vicious cycle, youcan see the circle turning and
how this all comes back to tobasically destroying yourself.
(12:14):
So how you allow others to treatyou comes partially from how you
treat yourself, and then how youtalk about yourself. Now, this
also, on a side note gets intohow you allow others, not only
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like to physically treat you butalso to talk to you. So when we
talk treatment, it is speakingto you, and how they are
physically, like treating you inconversations in everyday life.
If they're like abusing afriendship, or if they're being
abusive in general, verbally orphysically. This is very big,
(12:59):
because I mean, the signal justgets bigger and bigger and
bigger to your mental andemotional self.
When you continue to allow thesethings and you allow people to
treat you badly to speak to youbadly negatively to abuse you to
(13:20):
to just be a rug under people'sfeet. God never intended that.
Can you hear me again, God neverintended that. God never
intended for his people, hisfollowers to be doormats. And
(13:41):
this is a sensitive area toapproach. That is why I highly
suggest that before you approachthis subject of how other people
treat you, what you first wantto do is start with number one,
yourself mental talk, and thengo to number two, go to number
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three. You want to address thosefirst because there's going to
be a healing that occurs. And asyou read God's Word in how you
treat yourself, you're gonna getinto familiar scriptures like
the fruits of the Spirit. Loveis patient love is kind. You're
(14:26):
going to get into those familiarscriptures. And remember that
that note only applies to howyou treat others. It also
applies to how you treatyourself.
So then once you've got thathealing going on, then you can
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really address that situation.
But above all, pray over thesesituations and rather than
confrontation, if at allpossible, just remove yourself,
or just kind of back off backaway from those that treat you
badly, which On a side note,with all of the quarantines and
(15:12):
everything like that is kind ofmake it a lot easier.
Okay? Number five, keeping yourpromises to yourself. And this
one really applies to justeveryday life, things that you
(15:32):
tell yourself, you're going todo, whether it's a to do list,
or whether it's new year'sresolutions, or just saying, You
know what, I am finally going tolose that weight, or you know
what I am, finally, I'm going togo back to school, or I'm going
to really get into God's wordmore, and then life gets crazy,
and it doesn't happen. But letme tell you, you are sending a
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humungous signal to your mind toyour emotions, when you do not
keep your promises to yourself.
Because it's basically tellingyourself that, you know, I made
a promise to myself, but itdoesn't matter, you know. And
then it's really saddening beingvery blunt here, a signal that
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says you're not worth it, you'renot worth keeping that promise
to. And as you can probablytell, that's quite damaging.
So that's why being veryintentional with setting goals,
even even if it's a to do list.
That's why it's very importantto be intentional with this.
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Now, I'm not saying don't make ato do list because I make to do
lists. But give yourself grace,and mercy when you are making
that to do list. So if you'regoing to make a to do list that
spans like, two or three pages,don't expect yourself to get
(17:01):
that all done in one day, andthen try to beat yourself up
about it. But then, also, makesure that you write down the
things that you've done already,the things that you would
normally already do, in takingcare of yourself, your family,
your house, like I can say, mademy bed, check, do laundry,
(17:25):
check, do dishes check. And thatway you actually have a real
picture of the things thatyou've accomplished. And then
it's also training yourself,like better time expectations on
yourself.
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Because I think a lot of timeswhen we make those goals, those
to do lists, we think if wedon't get this done in a certain
amount of time, then we havefailed those with low self
esteem. That's a reality. Thatit that's something that they
battle with, because theyhaven't set those boundaries for
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themselves, they and theyhaven't given themselves grace,
and mercy. But then they alsohave not dealt with those
negative thoughts and emotionsthat are just breaking them
down, internally. So as I said,this is going to be just kind of
like a summary of all of thesefive priorities that you can
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make to help yourself gethealthy this year. And this can
span into not only mental andemotional health, but also your
physical health as well.
Maybe this is something as youpace yourself and you give
yourself grace and mercy. Maybeyou're finally going to achieve
(18:53):
your fitness goals. Maybe you'refinally going to achieve your
business goals, your familygoals, your personal goals.
This is a building block to helpyou succeed in whatever you set
your mind to wherever you are inlife, whatever goals, whatever
dreams that you have are yours,and they are yours because they
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are given to you by the AlmightyGod that has given you these
talents and abilities that havefueled your passion to create
those dreams.
As you know, like we usually do,we're going to go ahead and end
this out in prayer because anylasting transformation that you
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want in your life is notpossible without God. So, Lord
Jesus, we thank you so much forthe just the ability to the
mind, Lord to talk about thesethings, the work that you are
doing in us to bring us closerto you to break down all of the
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stuff that has piled on over theyears from the world into really
be able to break that down,strip all that extra off, and
just really get to you, Lord.
And I just pray, Lord, that withthe information shared today
that this would be a blessing towhoever hears it, that they
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would be able to, in the bestway possible, really learn how
to take care of themselves. Andtaking care of yourself isn't
just a physical thing. It's,it's the mental, it's the
physical is the emotional, andit's the spiritual.
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So I pray, Lord, that You wouldhelp each person that begins to
practice these five priorities,that you would help them through
that journey. Because there arethings that we're not going to
be able to deal with on our own.
And to truly have that lastingtransformation. God, we need
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you, Jesus. So I pray, Lord,that You would help each person
through this process, help eachperson as they're beginning to
think, on these things, Lord,and I know that you're going to
continue to work mightily andeach heart that hears this Lord,
I thank you for that, there'sgoing to be hard times, and
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there's going to be good timesthere's going to be just bland,
mediocre times. But the greatthing is, is that you have
promised that you will neverleave us nor forsake us, we've
got to go through these timesfor growth.
And I just pray that growth, anddrawing near to you God for each
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person that hears this, you areso amazing, and so wonderful God
to continue to work in us andgive us the opportunity and open
our eyes and our ears and ourminds, our hearts, to the
possibility that we are morethan just what we see in this
world. But we are more than whatthe world says we are there is a
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truth that cannot be shaken. Andthat truth is you got that truth
is who you say we are. And Ipray, Lord, that You would help
us to just come back to thatfoundation, God, build it up and
work up from there. We can'tlevel out with that, or we can't
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level up without you. We can'thave that lasting
transformation. without you.
We're never going to reach ourfull potential unless we come to
the one who created us and knowsexactly what our full potential
is. So I thank you for thatopportunity. God, I pray that
you would just bless each heart,each mind that hears this, and
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begins to put these things intopractice. I just thank you God
for the amazing work that you'recontinuing to do. It's in your
name Jesus, we pray. Amen. AndAmen.
You probably heard me say in anAmen. She's been such a good
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girl right now we are quietright now. Mommy records, a
podcast, encouraging otherwomen. And you know what, that's
the other thing that I've reallyhad on my mind lately is, you
know, it's my responsibility toraise my daughter, to be a godly
(23:38):
woman, and to know God to knowwho he is. And I feel so blessed
that she wants to evangelizeeverywhere she goes, she wants
to witness to people everywhereshe goes, tell them all about
who Jesus is, and that they needJesus, that Jesus died for them.
It just touches my heart. And Ihave to remember those things in
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the times when I get frustratedwith the whole parenting
process.
And then I also want to rememberthat as I'm going through this
process of life, and I'm goingthrough this process of healing,
and transformation myself, Ineed her to see that I can't do
(24:27):
it alone, that it's with Godthat this transformation is
taking place. And I am. I am oneof her closest earthly examples
of how to live for God, and howto live in this world. Be a
decent person in this world.
Just how to be a human ingeneral. And if you're a mom
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there's little eyes. Littlelittle eyes that are watching us
little ears that are hearing Asthey see what it is we're going
through.
So you not only owe it toyourself to go through this
(25:09):
process of healing andrestoration with God, but you
also owe it to the upcominggenerations that God has
entrusted to you not to put anypressure on you at all, there's,
there's no pressure in this. Butjust to kind of give you that
(25:32):
sense of you know what it'stime, it's it's time to let that
healing take place, it's time topursue God deeper, it's time to
pursue the healing that God hasfor me, and then pursue the
possibilities, the potentialthat God has for me so that I
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can not only reach it myself andreach that full potential of
what God created me for, but Ican show those that God has put
in my circle put in my path,that it's possible. that's meant
to encourage you today. And Ijust pray that it just infuses
you with hope and with just asurety that it's possible for
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you as possible for them aspossible for you. And we just
need to continue to persevereand pursue.
So I have a little surprise foryou, I made you something. Now
you may or may not know that Iam a former Christian radio DJ
(26:44):
and quite honestly, I justabsolutely love playlists and I
know that it is so helpful tohave a good playlist to help you
throughout the day and get yourmindset right get your mood
right and so I made you twoplaylists on Spotify. The first
(27:06):
is called worth it praise I'vegot all kinds of awesome songs
on here to get you praise in getyou feeling encouraged we got
like Danny Gokey on here has aKyle Walker I won't go into the
whole list because it is aproper playlist and I am quite
sure you're gonna love it beencouraged with it and then the
(27:29):
other one is worth it worshipbecause I mean, you know, we all
need some praise and worship inour lives. So both of these
playlists are public on Spotify.
So just look up worth it praiseand or worship. I hope you enjoy
them and I am also going to belinking them on my website as
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well. You can always check outMichelle Remington calm So go
on, get your praise and worshipon thank you for joining me on
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time, remember you are worth it.
If you enjoy worth it, consider joining the
(00:02):
worth it squad Facebook group.
Imagine finding a community ofbelievers where you can
experience genuine humanconnection and true fellowship.
We unashamedly focus on God andHis Word. We pray together,
celebrate each other. Andthrough all the things that are
going on in your life, you aresurrounded by friends who
understand you, and remind youof your value. This is the
(00:25):
essence of the word that squadFacebook group. So take a moment
look up the word that squat onfacebook and join your squad
today.
Dishwashers washing, clothes aredrying, kiddo is having some
chill out time. And I am feelingpretty fancy today because I
(00:47):
even made my bed. Oh, yeah,pretty fancy. And as I sit down
here for just a moment of quiettime for myself, I really wanted
to have a conversation with youabout priorities. So let's just
take a minute for you, me tohave a conversation about you,
(01:12):
and how to prioritize you sothat you can be the healthiest
you that you can be. grab a cupof whatever it is that keeps you
going, my friend. And let's havea talk.
Worth It! Intro (01:25):
Welcome to Worth It! The podcast where we
answer anxiety, deflate fear andshut down shame, because ain't
no woman got time for that youwere made to thrive. My mission
is to help you get deeply rootedwith God and reclaim your weapon
that the enemy of God has beenusing against you. After going
to battle for my own mind threeyears ago, I realized that there
(01:48):
is a war going on for our minds.
A battle that begins with how wethink says you have much more
control than you realize. Witheach episode, you'll learn how
to fight back and become moreconfident and the truth that God
already knows you are worth it.
I'm Michelle Remington,Christian mindset coach, thought
(02:08):
strategist, and warrior Mama.
Grab your sword daughter of TheKing, it's time to unleash your
inner warrior princess.
Mental Health Disclaimer (02:24):
Before we dive in, I do want to say
that I am not a mental healthprofessional. I'm simply sharing
from my experience withdepression, the strategies and
steps that helped me. So firstand foremost, I want you to know
that you are not alone. Reachout to friends and family, tell
them how you're feeling. Don'tbe afraid to ask for help. The
(02:48):
world is so much better with youin it. If you need help, or
resources or just moreinformation for yourself or for
someone else, I encourage you toreach out to the National
Suicide Prevention hotline.
their phone number is1-800-273-8255. That's
1-800-273-8255
Michelle Remington (03:16):
Welcome back you beautiful, absolutely
gorgeous creation of God whodoes not make any mistakes? Yes,
I just went there. Whether youbelieve it or not. It is the
truth, my dear. So I sit herereally actually starting to get
(03:37):
excited about this conversationwe're about to have about
prioritizing you. And just FYI,this episode is really just like
all about giving everything thatI have to give to you to
hopefully set you up the verybest that we can, in spite of
(04:00):
anything that could happen.
These are things that it doesn'tmatter what's going on in the
world around you. You are incomplete control of sounds
pretty crazy. But Praise Jesus,it is true. I got my cup of
coffee here.
So let's go ahead and dive in. Iwant to share with you today
five priorities for a healthieryou. And this is all about
(04:26):
prioritizing you and yourhealth. Because this doesn't
just cover mental health, itcovers everything. Because I
think it's safe to say that youand I know that if our mental
health is not there, nothingelse is really going to fall
into place. And we're going tostruggle in those areas if that
(04:49):
is not there. So the firstpriority that I would urge you
and encourage you to make isyour internal conversation
yourself. Talk, whether audiblyor in your mind, the
conversation that you have withyourself is so important. And so
(05:09):
telling.
So, if your conversation withyourself tends to be negative,
cynical, there may be somethings that you need to deal
with. Generally, there's atleast one and usually more main
thoughts that you have aboutyourself. Now, you could be in
(05:33):
the thick of it, I have been inthe thick of it myself, and you
could just kind of really listento what those thoughts are, and
let those sink in. Or you couldjust take a step back and be
patient with yourself as youmove into this new area of
awareness for yourself and prayabout it as well. Because this
(05:56):
is all going to work so muchbetter as you're gonna see
lasting transformation, when youinclude your God and Creator in
this conversation. And in thistransformation, people can
transform themselves bythemselves. But lasting
(06:18):
transformation comes from God.
So I encourage you, if you don'talready have a relationship with
God, or maybe you've it's kindof been on the rocks, maybe this
year has kind of made it, youknow, not as good as it could
possibly be. It This is not theend, you can restart this, you
(06:43):
can return to God. Now, let'sreally dive into this self talk.
So as I said, before younormally have about one to 10,
let's be honest, one to 10thoughts about yourself, that
(07:08):
run through your mind, some ofus may have 20. I mean, it
really just depends on where youare. But I can tell you today
that you have a choice, you havethe choice to first either
listen to all of those thoughts,and beat yourself down with it.
(07:30):
Or you have the choice to stepback. And really analyze these
thoughts and where they camefrom.
And I'm going to encourage youto write these things down,
whether it's a journal on yourphone, where however it is that
is most comfortable for you tojust have a free flow of
(07:51):
thoughts and ideas, is where Iwant you to put this stuff down
so that you can see it. And it'sgoing to help you work it out
better. So take those thoughts,those main thoughts that usually
come to your mind in the courseof a week, and start writing
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them down. And then you canreally look at those, analyze
those, pray about those. Andwhen you pray about those have
an active conversation with God.
Like when I was doing this, Iwas like God, I feel like I am
worthless. And what is yourword, say? Am I really
worthless, and I just get intoGod's word. And really get into
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it and find out what God's wordsays about me who I am, who I
was created to be. And justreally let God open my heart,
open my mind every single chasm,open it all up, and let God
begin his healing.
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Now the next priority that Iwant you to focus on is how you
talk about yourself. This iswhen those mental internal
conversations that you have withyourself start to start to pour
out into real life. And this iswhere things can really start to
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get damaging. Because it's onething to think these things
about yourself. But then whenyou start to say these things
about yourself, it's coming outof your mouth is being spoken.
And then you are then hearingyour own voice speak these
things. That's extremelydamaging. And it's deteriorating
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to your self worth to who it isGod created you to be. So how
you talk about yourself not onlyaffects you It affects how
people treat you and how peoplethink Think about you.
Now you don't have to go on thecomplete other end of this
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spectrum and be like, I am sogreat, I am awesome, I am so
much better than you know, wenever, ever, ever want to put
anybody down. But always seek tospeak the truth about yourself
to yourself. Number three, andas you're gonna see, this is
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kind of a progression of whathappens. So number three is how
you treat yourself. So first youhave your internal conversation,
then you have how you talk aboutyourself, that's something that
you hear, and the rest of theworld hears the people in your
circle here, and then it startsto degrade more. And then it
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falls over into how you treatyourself. And that gets into
like, because there's so manypeople seeking like self care,
how do I take care of myselfmore. And partially, it's just
the busyness of life.
And then, especially for womenwere just like, you know what,
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I'm just gonna take other, takecare of others, before I take
care of myself, you know, I'lljust take care of that later. I
don't need that right now. Andwe really don't pay attention to
those kind of warning signs thatwe're getting from our body. And
we just continue to push andpush and push ourselves. But
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then also, how you treatyourself is sending a signal to
you mentally and emotionally.
That it's, it's like thisvicious circle, you're sending
this signal mentally andemotionally, in how you're
treating yourself. And thenthat's only feeding into that
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negative self talk.
Number four, how you allowothers to treat you. As I said,
this is all a vicious cycle, youcan see the circle turning and
how this all comes back to tobasically destroying yourself.
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So how you allow others to treatyou comes partially from how you
treat yourself, and then how youtalk about yourself. Now, this
also, on a side note gets intohow you allow others, not only
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like to physically treat you butalso to talk to you. So when we
talk treatment, it is speakingto you, and how they are
physically, like treating you inconversations in everyday life.
If they're like abusing afriendship, or if they're being
abusive in general, verbally orphysically. This is very big,
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because I mean, the signal justgets bigger and bigger and
bigger to your mental andemotional self.
When you continue to allow thesethings and you allow people to
treat you badly to speak to youbadly negatively to abuse you to
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to just be a rug under people'sfeet. God never intended that.
Can you hear me again, God neverintended that. God never
intended for his people, hisfollowers to be doormats. And
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this is a sensitive area toapproach. That is why I highly
suggest that before you approachthis subject of how other people
treat you, what you first wantto do is start with number one,
yourself mental talk, and thengo to number two, go to number
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three. You want to address thosefirst because there's going to
be a healing that occurs. And asyou read God's Word in how you
treat yourself, you're gonna getinto familiar scriptures like
the fruits of the Spirit. Loveis patient love is kind. You're
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going to get into those familiarscriptures. And remember that
that note only applies to howyou treat others. It also
applies to how you treatyourself.
So then once you've got thathealing going on, then you can
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really address that situation.
But above all, pray over thesesituations and rather than
confrontation, if at allpossible, just remove yourself,
or just kind of back off backaway from those that treat you
badly, which On a side note,with all of the quarantines and
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everything like that is kind ofmake it a lot easier.
Okay? Number five, keeping yourpromises to yourself. And this
one really applies to justeveryday life, things that you
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tell yourself, you're going todo, whether it's a to do list,
or whether it's new year'sresolutions, or just saying, You
know what, I am finally going tolose that weight, or you know
what I am, finally, I'm going togo back to school, or I'm going
to really get into God's wordmore, and then life gets crazy,
and it doesn't happen. But letme tell you, you are sending a
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humungous signal to your mind toyour emotions, when you do not
keep your promises to yourself.
Because it's basically tellingyourself that, you know, I made
a promise to myself, but itdoesn't matter, you know. And
then it's really saddening beingvery blunt here, a signal that
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says you're not worth it, you'renot worth keeping that promise
to. And as you can probablytell, that's quite damaging.
So that's why being veryintentional with setting goals,
even even if it's a to do list.
That's why it's very importantto be intentional with this.
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Now, I'm not saying don't make ato do list because I make to do
lists. But give yourself grace,and mercy when you are making
that to do list. So if you'regoing to make a to do list that
spans like, two or three pages,don't expect yourself to get
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that all done in one day, andthen try to beat yourself up
about it. But then, also, makesure that you write down the
things that you've done already,the things that you would
normally already do, in takingcare of yourself, your family,
your house, like I can say, mademy bed, check, do laundry,
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check, do dishes check. And thatway you actually have a real
picture of the things thatyou've accomplished. And then
it's also training yourself,like better time expectations on
yourself.
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Because I think a lot of timeswhen we make those goals, those
to do lists, we think if wedon't get this done in a certain
amount of time, then we havefailed those with low self
esteem. That's a reality. Thatit that's something that they
battle with, because theyhaven't set those boundaries for
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themselves, they and theyhaven't given themselves grace,
and mercy. But then they alsohave not dealt with those
negative thoughts and emotionsthat are just breaking them
down, internally. So as I said,this is going to be just kind of
like a summary of all of thesefive priorities that you can
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make to help yourself gethealthy this year. And this can
span into not only mental andemotional health, but also your
physical health as well.
Maybe this is something as youpace yourself and you give
yourself grace and mercy. Maybeyou're finally going to achieve
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your fitness goals. Maybe you'refinally going to achieve your
business goals, your familygoals, your personal goals.
This is a building block to helpyou succeed in whatever you set
your mind to wherever you are inlife, whatever goals, whatever
dreams that you have are yours,and they are yours because they
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are given to you by the AlmightyGod that has given you these
talents and abilities that havefueled your passion to create
those dreams.
As you know, like we usually do,we're going to go ahead and end
this out in prayer because anylasting transformation that you
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want in your life is notpossible without God. So, Lord
Jesus, we thank you so much forthe just the ability to the
mind, Lord to talk about thesethings, the work that you are
doing in us to bring us closerto you to break down all of the
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stuff that has piled on over theyears from the world into really
be able to break that down,strip all that extra off, and
just really get to you, Lord.
And I just pray, Lord, that withthe information shared today
that this would be a blessing towhoever hears it, that they
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would be able to, in the bestway possible, really learn how
to take care of themselves. Andtaking care of yourself isn't
just a physical thing. It's,it's the mental, it's the
physical is the emotional, andit's the spiritual.
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So I pray, Lord, that You wouldhelp each person that begins to
practice these five priorities,that you would help them through
that journey. Because there arethings that we're not going to
be able to deal with on our own.
And to truly have that lastingtransformation. God, we need
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you, Jesus. So I pray, Lord,that You would help each person
through this process, help eachperson as they're beginning to
think, on these things, Lord,and I know that you're going to
continue to work mightily andeach heart that hears this Lord,
I thank you for that, there'sgoing to be hard times, and
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there's going to be good timesthere's going to be just bland,
mediocre times. But the greatthing is, is that you have
promised that you will neverleave us nor forsake us, we've
got to go through these timesfor growth.
And I just pray that growth, anddrawing near to you God for each
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person that hears this, you areso amazing, and so wonderful God
to continue to work in us andgive us the opportunity and open
our eyes and our ears and ourminds, our hearts, to the
possibility that we are morethan just what we see in this
world. But we are more than whatthe world says we are there is a
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truth that cannot be shaken. Andthat truth is you got that truth
is who you say we are. And Ipray, Lord, that You would help
us to just come back to thatfoundation, God, build it up and
work up from there. We can'tlevel out with that, or we can't
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level up without you. We can'thave that lasting
transformation. without you.
We're never going to reach ourfull potential unless we come to
the one who created us and knowsexactly what our full potential
is. So I thank you for thatopportunity. God, I pray that
you would just bless each heart,each mind that hears this, and
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begins to put these things intopractice. I just thank you God
for the amazing work that you'recontinuing to do. It's in your
name Jesus, we pray. Amen. AndAmen.
You probably heard me say in anAmen. She's been such a good
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girl right now we are quietright now. Mommy records, a
podcast, encouraging otherwomen. And you know what, that's
the other thing that I've reallyhad on my mind lately is, you
know, it's my responsibility toraise my daughter, to be a godly
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woman, and to know God to knowwho he is. And I feel so blessed
that she wants to evangelizeeverywhere she goes, she wants
to witness to people everywhereshe goes, tell them all about
who Jesus is, and that they needJesus, that Jesus died for them.
It just touches my heart. And Ihave to remember those things in
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the times when I get frustratedwith the whole parenting
process.
And then I also want to rememberthat as I'm going through this
process of life, and I'm goingthrough this process of healing,
and transformation myself, Ineed her to see that I can't do
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it alone, that it's with Godthat this transformation is
taking place. And I am. I am oneof her closest earthly examples
of how to live for God, and howto live in this world. Be a
decent person in this world.
Just how to be a human ingeneral. And if you're a mom
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there's little eyes. Littlelittle eyes that are watching us
little ears that are hearing Asthey see what it is we're going
through.
So you not only owe it toyourself to go through this
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process of healing andrestoration with God, but you
also owe it to the upcominggenerations that God has
entrusted to you not to put anypressure on you at all, there's,
there's no pressure in this. Butjust to kind of give you that
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sense of you know what it'stime, it's it's time to let that
healing take place, it's time topursue God deeper, it's time to
pursue the healing that God hasfor me, and then pursue the
possibilities, the potentialthat God has for me so that I
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can not only reach it myself andreach that full potential of
what God created me for, but Ican show those that God has put
in my circle put in my path,that it's possible. that's meant
to encourage you today. And Ijust pray that it just infuses
you with hope and with just asurety that it's possible for
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you as possible for them aspossible for you. And we just
need to continue to persevereand pursue.
So I have a little surprise foryou, I made you something. Now
you may or may not know that Iam a former Christian radio DJ
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and quite honestly, I justabsolutely love playlists and I
know that it is so helpful tohave a good playlist to help you
throughout the day and get yourmindset right get your mood
right and so I made you twoplaylists on Spotify. The first
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is called worth it praise I'vegot all kinds of awesome songs
on here to get you praise in getyou feeling encouraged we got
like Danny Gokey on here has aKyle Walker I won't go into the
whole list because it is aproper playlist and I am quite
sure you're gonna love it beencouraged with it and then the
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other one is worth it worshipbecause I mean, you know, we all
need some praise and worship inour lives. So both of these
playlists are public on Spotify.
So just look up worth it praiseand or worship. I hope you enjoy
them and I am also going to belinking them on my website as
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well. You can always check outMichelle Remington calm So go
on, get your praise and worshipon thank you for joining me on
this episode of worth it. Ifthis episode has blessed you, I
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time, remember you are worth it.
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