July 7, 2025 • 35 mins
Aidan breaks a 200-year-old window trying to be romantic, and somehow, that sets the tone for everything that follows: emotional cracks, bad communication, and a man spiraling while a woman tries to hold it all together. Again.
This week, we unpack the guilt women carry for wanting more than caretaking roles, the emotional labor they’re expected to perform without recognition, and how female friendships continue to be the most stable, honest, and life-saving relationships on this show.
Charlotte’s quietly falling apart as she keeps Harry’s diagnosis a secret, and when she finally breaks—in the middle of Duane Reade, no less. This episode calls back to one of our favorite Sex and the City scenes: the Shabbos dinner. It was a turning point for Charlotte, and this week’s breakdown feels like another. Her fear, her silence, her invisible labor—it all crashes through the surface.
Also: Lisa’s grieving (again), Miranda’s redecorating her life for someone she barely knows, and Carrie’s still emotionally editing herself to keep the peace.
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⏱️ AJLT Recap – Core Episode Moments
00:00 – Aidan breaks the window, foreshadowing the cracks in their relationship.
01:45 – He confesses to sleeping with his ex; Carrie absorbs it without reaction.
05:10 – Neither of them discussed monogamy—because women are expected to just know.
09:20 – Aidan’s jealousy flares the moment Carrie gets attention elsewhere.
17:45 – Charlotte collapses under the weight of Harry’s health secret in Duane Reade.
20:30 – The Shabbos dinner callback marks another shift in Charlotte’s emotional arc.
24:50 – Lisa’s father dies (again), and she’s buried in guilt for missing the call.
27:00 – Carrie shows up for Charlotte—the realest relationship in the show.
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(00:10):
Worth the Wait podcast and just like that recap, before we get
into anything, I want to say major spoilers in this episode.
So Aiden is planning to come up to Carrie's.
I'm sorry, their apartment. Sorry about that.
And he's coming up because Wyattis going to a camp for wayward
(00:30):
boys for a week. And so he's got time off and
they're all excited and can't wait, can't wait, can't wait.
So he gets there and he does that little thing that he used
to do when Carrie lived on 3rd Street where he'd take a Pebble
and, you know, throw it up at her window, but this time,
because her house is 200 years old, legit, like literally the
(00:52):
pane on the window shatters. And so, you know, right there,
right? Because I'm always looking for
those little signs. That's how you know, that's a,
that's a precursor. That is a sign of things to
come. Something shatters, something
breaks. And don't forget there was a
window break 2 weeks ago in two episodes as well.
(01:12):
So he breaks the window and he is just very, very upset about
as he should be, but he's too upset about it.
And I'm going to replace this and it's going to be good as
new. And Carrie is saying, well, I
don't think you're going to be able to replace it.
These are 200 year old windows. And I could, they had like this
little rainbow in them. No, no, no, no.
(01:34):
I'm going to get the rainbow back for you.
So she senses he's pacing around.
He's doing like she's saying, stop, you know, stay in one
place, come here, everything's fine.
And later that night, he's on the on the Internet trying to
find the perfect window to replace it.
And she's saying come to bed, come to bed.
And he wouldn't come to bed. He wanted to find this window.
So now you just know something'swrong, right?
(01:56):
You just know something wrong. So when he was replacing the
window, because he goes to Scranton, PA, and he comes back
and he's replacing it and she comes in and he says, you know,
I don't. I don't think I'm going to be
able to give you your rainbow. I don't think I can fix it.
I don't think I can, you know, make it what it was basically.
So now you see you kind of get asense of where this is going and
(02:19):
she's going, what's what's goingon with you?
And he tells her that when they took Wyatt to the airport, he
had a meltdown and he didn't want to go.
And I don't know if he ended up getting on the plane.
I think maybe he did. Well, Aiden is there, so I
assume he got on the plane. Right so he and the ex-wife I
I'm still trying to figure out how this happened.
(02:40):
The ex-wife and him were both just so upset and asking
themselves what did we do? Where did we go wrong?
How much time do you have? Because I can we can tell you
what you did wrong in and somehow, someway, they ended up
sleeping together. Totally makes sense to me, Aunt
Carrie. It turns out she's not very
upset about it. At all.
She's much more excited about her window.
(03:00):
Which, sure, right, that's our girl.
Right. But I think that's also
indicative of how she's feeling about this relationship.
I mean, don't you think some part of her was like, oh thank
God, now we're even? Now we're even, now we're even.
But it, it also brought up the fact her reaction was so sort of
I, I, I can understand that because he said, you know, I
(03:21):
think we were just, it was just,you know, we were both looking
for comfort. You know how how you were just
driving him to the fucking airport?
She just really wasn't. She sort of shrugs.
And she's like, I can understandthat.
Yeah. And you do.
Well, yeah. And he goes, you're not mad that
we weren't supposed to be sleeping with.
(03:42):
She's like, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, Hold on.
When did I agree to that? And she's saying like my head is
racing because how are we just having this conversation now?
Which was a really great. I liked the Carrie had that,
that kind of self-awareness. Yeah, to say I can't believe we
haven't talked about this. Why haven't we talked about
(04:03):
this? Because Aiden truly thought,
truly thought Carrie was like hewas going away to war and Carrie
was just going to wait for him. I mean, so did I.
Is that not the impression you got?
No. Oh, because we didn't see her
like dating, you know? Right.
Well, no, we didn't. We didn't, but I didn't know.
(04:24):
Like, I didn't know if that was like, I don't know what that was
going on. I don't know why that was so.
I still don't even know. What did they agree on?
Did they agree on being exclusive monogamous?
Did they? I feel like it went unresolved
again, right? Which I think is symptomatic of
any relationship where there's no true resolution.
It's the poor communication between two people, almost as if
(04:47):
they don't really want to have this discussion because it's
going to lead to an. Issue realizing they're
incompatible, right? It's going to lead to us
realizing this is not good. Yeah, well, sure, they got swept
up in the romance of seeing eachother again, you know.
Right. Exactly.
And I think Carrie is getting that.
(05:08):
See Aiden, Aiden's Mr. Stressed.And Aiden is doing what so many
men do. He's using Carrie for emotional
labor and free therapy and emotional support.
Yeah. Right, because and.
Kathy, it turns out, and. Kathy and Kathy, right?
Like whoever, whatever warm bodyis next to him and I don't know
why. I just so wish that they had
(05:31):
talked more about well wait a minute, I did this and boy did
you make me feel like shit for it would.
Be a real, honest conversation. They don't have those.
Well, I really, they really don't though, right?
And I think that's the problem. These two really don't have the
tough conversation. Not at all, right?
The toughest conversation they ever had was an argument about.
(05:54):
Speed. Sticks and having too many half
empty speed sticks. Well, that and, and when they're
at the the fountain, when they call off the engagement and you
realize he does not trust her. Speaking of that fight scene
though, where it has all the half empty speed sticks, did you
notice him putting on Rogaine? No.
Elle's my favorite call back, God damn.
(06:16):
It see, now I like this, like the this and it.
They're doing this on purpose tokeep people watching through the
little tiny callbacks. This episode callback again.
One of my favorite scenes in theentire series where Charlotte
has is making her first Shabbat dinner Harry, because he's done
this over and over. He's a, he's an adult Jewish
(06:39):
male who's done this over and over and over.
But this is her first time. So it's all new to her and he's
not acknowledging that. We'll get to that.
But they had almost a recreationof that scene to us a little bit
in this episode. So Carrie and Aidan don't really
resolve the whole monogamy thingbecause they don't want to
again, the the flags they are waving in front of you 2 and
(07:02):
you're just ignoring them. Later that day or the next
morning, Aiden's in the kitchen and the hot, hot author neighbor
who lives downstairs comes upstairs.
He knocks on the door and he gives Aiden the chapter of his
book that Carrie said he was going to read.
Is he? Hot.
Or is he just age appropriate and British?
(07:24):
OK, I think that's fair. I think that's fair.
I think he's a handsome guy, maybe because I'm older than you
so. Ugly, but I guess it just seems
to me like he was. He was chosen specifically to
make Aiden insecure. Maybe, maybe which is?
Fine, I mean, we need some attention in the show.
We do. And he, he gives Aiden the the
chapter and Aiden's kind of looking him up and down and all
(07:49):
of us just. Bananas, by the way.
Sir, do you? What did you just admit to less
than 24 hours ago? Well, not only.
That but like we don't all live in rural Virginia like most of
us are around other humans. Right, right.
And he, you can tell now he's guarded and I, I do, I think
we're going here. This is what we're going to see.
(08:10):
We're going to see his old insecurities come up, right?
Even though he just fucking admitted to cheating on Carrie,
not even cheating in his mind, he cheated in her mind, she was
like, meh, I don't care. But now all that stuff's going
to come up again for sure. Watch.
So Carrie and the downstairs neighbor agree to read each
other's first chapters. And she loves his and she has
(08:32):
dinner in his apartment. And she looked very
uncomfortable in this apartment.Again, Carrie is such a snob
that you know you're you're eating something someone made
dinner and it's something sort of customary or from their
country and you're looking down your nose at it.
Have you ever had button? Well, that's not the point.
(08:53):
It's not the fucking. Point right And you know, even
the way she was sitting in the chair, to me, she just looked so
uncomfortable because that apartment really is it's it's
very outdated it's not fancy it's not where you would see
her. She just didn't look comfortable
there and. That's that's the the scene in
itself was a callback to when she's having dinner with the
Russian. Remember when she turns her nose
(09:14):
up at the aspect? Which again, fair, but she's
like, oh, a meat jello, right? Right, but this is this is
Carrie and and this is someone who really she's she's very
she's. Counting she's.
Kunti about this, like people seem to think that growing up in
New York is is some kind of badge of honor.
And I'm not saying it's not cool, but if you she doesn't
(09:36):
seem to understand or experienceanything outside of New York,
she has no understanding of it. She really she didn't.
Grow up there, right? She is one of those, oh, New
York is just the center of the world.
It's not. And I definitely used to think
that, too. It's not, especially in these
times. We should know that.
So she's just being her regular kind of cunty self and they, you
(09:58):
can tell, you know, they're going to try and put them
together. Fine, whatever.
I don't care. I just don't care.
I wish they wouldn't, but I. Wish they wouldn't only because
he showed her who he was immediately, which was I only
care about me. That's correct, right?
I only care about me. And you should take your shoes
off. And I need quiet here in New
York City. Known further.
(10:19):
Its quietness obviously clearly.Excuse me while I light up my
pipe. Right.
He doesn't care about anybody himself.
She doesn't care about anybody himself.
Once he reads her terrible chapter like he's not going to
respect her either. Like as as a writer, do you?
Do you think it's going to be terrible?
Yep. No, I.
Mean, you're hearing the excerpts, aren't you?
Right, but. I mean, I don't think we're
supposed to think it's terrible.Well.
(10:40):
We're not supposed to think it'sterrible, but objectively it is
terrible. OK.
All right. We actually wait next next week
for that that. But he's kind of like a Ron
Chernow kind of guy. Like, he's writing pretty
seriously, research historical biographies, right?
So for her to be dabbling in historical fiction, he's just
going to be like, oh, that's cute.
(11:01):
And he's going to tell her all the things that are wrong.
And yeah, I mean, he'll be correct, right?
But she won't receive it well, So they don't belong together.
But I digress. I.
Digress. So then we move on to Miranda,
Miranda and Joy. Miranda's looking for an
apartment and still, still. And here's Seema and she's
basically doing Miranda a favor.She finds this great apartment
(11:24):
that Miranda loves and Seema says, OK, you have to ask
150,000 over the asking price. And Miranda's like, I'm not
doing that, that I'll be part ofthe problem if I do that.
And Seema says, well, that's what you do.
And Miranda says, well, you know, you're just going to have
to find me something else. Seema finds her something else
and it's a it's a no pet building.
(11:44):
And Miranda is, well, oh, I don't know this person, This
person. Literally is like wait, this
woman I've been on two days withhis dogs, right?
Rearranged my whole life. Right, so now she doesn't want
that apartment. She's going to take the other
apartment because I think, I think there's more joy there
(12:04):
because that's the name, you know, there's more joy there.
OK, whatever. Miranda can't.
Decide if Miranda's refusal to offer over asking is classic
Miranda or anti Miranda. I I can't decide if that movie
is perfectly in character or not.
I feel like the old Miranda would have would have been like
oh sucks I'm part of the problembut also I'm already here right?
(12:27):
But this is the place. And this, yeah, this is how you
get the real estate you want. I think this is Cynthia Nixon's
influence. If you know anything about
Cynthia Nixon, she tried I thinkran for governor or mayor.
She's very anti. She's very involved in issues
like this in New York City. So I think that might have been
(12:48):
her influence saying that let's that out there.
That's my that's my read on the situation.
And what do you think in terms of like, is this in line with
her character or not? I.
Think it's in line with who she is now because of what she was.
Remember she was taking trying to be a lawyer for human rights,
(13:08):
I think now. She is right.
So it's more in line with who she is now, I think.
So she's introducing Joy to her son.
And Joy tells her, listen, just so you know, you know, I've
never really dated anybody with kids that Joy.
Is acting like Brady is 5 right?Like, he's a grown man.
What? Why are you so nervous?
And Brady shows up and he's justcool right away.
(13:32):
And she, Joyce says to Miranda, because she said, you know, I've
always been on the fence about kids.
And she meets Brady and she's like, I'm off the fence.
And, you know, Miranda really liked that.
And I like that for Miranda. And for once, Brady wasn't a
douche. And it worked.
It's a cute scene. It was fine.
I guess my question is why wouldyou invite Brady to come meet
(13:52):
you and not have a seat for him?Didn't.
They I. Think they were at a table for
two, but these are the things you're not supposed to notice.
That's. Right.
But I did notice a little greyhounds and I love them.
Oh I love. Them a little Tina.
He's in Sappho, yeah. They're.
Stealing every scene they're in,they.
Absolutely are. So that goes, that's her scene.
Now we get to Charlotte and Harry.
(14:13):
Charlotte is about to walk into Sloan Kettering.
Obviously for Harry, because Harry's getting his.
I think he's getting his. I don't know what what they call
it like these are your options. You can do this amount of
radiation or you can get surgery.
And who does she run into but Bitsy von Muffy Bitsy.
I just love this character. Love what this actress has has
how she has taken this characterthat probably was only intended
(14:37):
to have like 10 lines and she's made it a character that not
only became or showed up multiple times in sex in the
city, but also has showed up multiple times in and just like
that. I love that they've fleshed out
this character. You know, she married Bobby and
you know how I feel about that episode.
It's my absolute favorite. And so she sees Charlotte going
(14:57):
into the building and she's oh, do you know someone with the big
C too? And Charlotte is still still
still still keeping the secret. Oh no, I'm visiting a friend so
her and she's. Volunteering, volunteering.
Thank you. Thank you.
So her and Harry come out of theappointment and you know, the
prognosis is great. It's 98%.
They caught it really early. You could do radiation or you
(15:19):
could do surgery and whatnot. And the doctor said he's in such
great health. But then, and so Charlotte's
feeling a little optimistic. But then Lisa's father suddenly
passes away very, very suddenly.And apparently he had already
passed away in Season 1. He had already she had already
told Charlotte, Oh, when my father passed away, you know, I
(15:39):
was so I was shaking. Had something to do with big and
bigs funeral. She had said in season 1 that
her father had already passed away and people have been
playing that clip. So I don't know, right.
That's just that's just bad writing.
I'm sorry and I don't it's just bad writing that you that you,
you fucked up a continuity issuelike that.
So her father passes and her father was in great health and
(16:02):
she was telling Charlotte how my, you know, the doctor said he
was in great health and I don't understand and whatever now
Jennifer Lewis and I don't know if anybody ever watched
Blackish. Jennifer Lewis was Dre's Anthony
Anderson's mother who used to bemarried to Larry Fishburne.
She's just fucking brilliant in everything she's in.
And again, she steals everythingshe's in.
(16:24):
And even in this, she she stealsit.
We'll get to Lisa's in a second.So when Lisa's father dies, now
Charlotte's like, we'll wait. He was in great health, too, and
he died. Yeah.
So now she's back to really, really being terrified for
Harry. So Harry's watching the Mets,
you know, didn't have a care in the world.
And Charlotte comes in and she is nervous.
(16:48):
She wants to talk about. She wants to talk.
I think about the does she want to talk about the surgery?
What is it she wanted to talk about?
I mean she. Kind of just wanted to come and
talk about everything, right? My take on it, yeah.
Didn't she open with like, do you realize how much I love you?
Yes. She.
Was just very, very much floodedwith emotion in that moment and.
Harry did what he did the last time, which was completely
(17:11):
ignore Charlotte's feelings because of the Mets, once again
showing that Charlotte, Charlotte thinks as usual, it's
it really is the woman. The woman is the one who's
always thinking about the relationship and keeping it up
and keeping the maintenance of all this relationship.
And the guy just sort of goes with it and trying so hard to
get his attention. Oh, babe, babe, babe.
(17:31):
Oh, I missed this. And she finally, you know, kind
of like the original scene, but not as nasty.
She says, you know, stop. Like Lisa's father was in great
hell, too. And he says her father was 90.
Yeah, right. You know, Hun, I'm going to be
fine. You know, I felt again, I felt
bad for her because in these situations, the caretaker, they
(17:53):
take on so much. You know, we talk about the end
of life that I do for these dogs.
And when I tell you there's a lot of similarities between that
and human end of life caretakers, there's so much
going on with you that you're internalizing and that you're,
you're just carrying, right? Asking her to keep.
This, as a secret, is like an additional burden.
(18:14):
It's an. Additional burden and she's
she's looking for comfort, right?
She's looking for comfort and she can't get it anywhere
because he doesn't want to fucking talk about it and she
can't tell her friends. So who does she have?
Nobody. So she goes downtown to get
Harry Depends. And I don't even this was
stupid, but it kind of. Was because again, I don't, I
(18:36):
don't know am I to believe Charlotte goes to the drug
store, right? I don't feel like.
She she door dashes it right. You know, no, someone would see
me. Girl, this is so stupid.
You all you had to do was lie. But I think obviously they
needed it for the scene. And she runs into Carrie, who
apparently billionaire carriers and Duane Reade, too.
OK, the two of them and she's getting depends.
(18:59):
And Carrie's like what's going on?
And Carrie and Charlotte finallytells her and she just lets
loose. And I felt I got the same chills
in that scene because she just breaks the sobbing.
It's all coming out now. And Carrie's like, you tell me
whatever for however long, whatever you want.
Finally, you know, Carrie being a good friend and Charlotte just
(19:21):
breaks. I don't know why I'm getting
emotional about this but it reminded me of that scene in 1st
movie where Big has stood up Carrie and Carrie goes to the
car and says you humiliated me. And they they get her back and
she's hugging Carrie and Biggs walking towards I can't believe
I'm on the verge of tears. Biggs walking towards them and
(19:42):
Charlotte she's got her arm around Carrie but with her other
arm she she pointed at him and she says no like this ferocious
Mama bear, don't you fucking come another step.
That fierce loyalty, that love, that bond that they have.
You know, it did. It brought me to tears and it
brought me to tears yesterday because it really does kind of
(20:04):
cement that this show really is about these friendships.
It's not about the men. It's not about the romantic
relationships, about the friendships.
So my heart just broke for Charlotte because finally it's
just everything comes out. Everything she's been holding in
comes out in the middle of DuaneReade or Walgreens or wherever.
What else was there I mean? Basically all Sima was doing was
showing Miranda apartments right?
(20:25):
Oh she had to fire her driver. This was the weirdest scene in
this episode. She had to fire her driver and
this dude said not a word. What?
I know very strange. Well, I think that's typically
his job when he I think that's their job or maybe that's just
how it is. The drivers we don't engage.
You know he's not Raul who was Biggs driver, right?
(20:46):
It was OK, now I see where you're going.
OK, I can see it. After years and years and years,
you would think Seema and him had established a relationship.
You would think or that. He would acknowledge that she
was speaking to him right? In some way, right?
Right, right, right. But.
He did not so. Did not.
Yeah. There was really nothing there.
(21:08):
Nothing there. I want to go back to that
episode from Sex and the City with Charlotte and Harry.
So if people remember, Charlottehas now converted to Judaism and
she's making her first because that's she just loves Harry that
much. And and keep in mind, like being
Protestant was kind of part of her identity, right?
(21:29):
She's being a WASP was sort of part of her identity.
And she completely leaves that behind because she loves this
man and wants to marry him. And she makes this Shabbat
dinner and gets to, you know, brings it to the table, and
she's doing her first prayer andHarry's watching the game.
And she's like, honey, can we please turn that off?
And he wouldn't. He turns the volume down.
(21:52):
And so she's asked him to turn it off.
He turns the volume down. Just such a fucking childish
thing to do. And she's trying to talk to him.
And she sees that he's looking past her and looking past her
and she sees the TV on and she just loses it, right, Because
I've been doing all these thingsand remember, he, he, she says,
I gave up. I gave up Christ for you.
(22:14):
And he goes, oh, if you're goingto keep doing that, this is
going to be a it's going to be alot, you know, are you going to
be? I don't even know how he said
it. It's going to be a long feel.
It's going to be a long like time.
Whatever, you know, this is life.
It's going to be a long life ahead of us.
Be a long. Life ahead of us if you keep
bringing that up. Take out the trash.
I gave up Christ for you. Yeah.
(22:36):
And Charlotte is finally like, just set the date.
Set the date. And he's like, what are you
talking about? She goes set the date.
You, you, you know we're going to get and get set the date.
You said once You said once. You know you can only said you
couldn't marry. Me, if I wasn't Jewish, now I'm
Jewish and. You know, oh God, you realize
(22:57):
what people think. If that was such a but see this
moment and the reason why I likeit and each one, I think each
one of them has their own momentwhere they are become more
humanized. They become more 3 dimensional
because up to that point, really, Charlotte was just so
shallow and such a snob. And I wanted Harry to put his
shirt on and and he's not attractive.
(23:19):
And and she says, do you realizewhat people think when they see
us walking down the street? He goes, yeah, I just didn't
think you were one of of them. And I think that's that's really
when I feel Harry did something to Charlotte.
Harry changed that character, I feel, and made her so much more
likable. Yeah, that's.
Why I was Stan Harry generally right?
Generally, it's a perfect. Man, right?
(23:41):
But the other frustrating part of that scene was, girl, do you
remember the last time you were like super desperate to get
married and you just wanted to get married and kind of focused
on the merit on the wedding? Remember that?
How'd that work out? Right?
And I think that that moment made Charlotte realize, I'm so
focused on the wrong thing. I'm so focused on the wrong
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thing. And she just wanted the wedding.
And then she got the wedding andthere was like a bunch of a
bunch of like mistakes, but she just wanted the wedding.
She really wasn't focused on themarriage, right?
And that's that's why I love that scene, because it's a
tipping point for Charlotte. And it humanizes her a little
(24:23):
bit. And it makes her see really.
Like, God, you're such a snob and you're so caught up in what
things look like. She did the same thing with
Trey. Yeah.
She, he looked the part. Well, Trey looked the part.
And he on paper, Trey was great.In real life, he was a mess.
He was a walking red flag. Whereas Harry's scene this week.
(24:45):
Where we're, you know, we're calling back to the the infamous
Shabbos dinner scene. I, I, you know, you're, I think
your point is right about that was a turning point in
Charlotte's development. And that is why for me, this
week's scene with the Mets game was a little bit frustrating
because it's like, first of all,what did Harry learn from that
experience? Harry hasn't yet learned that
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some things are more important than the Mets.
Second of all. Am I to believe that these folks
have been married for nearly 20 years at this point?
And Charlotte's not going to useher words and just be like,
look, man, this. I'm trying to keep your secret.
I'm trying to be respectful of your wishes.
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I don't want to handle, you know, I don't want to handle
this in a way that makes more ofa fuss than you want.
But it's first of all, getting difficult for me to keep the
secret, right? And second of all, it's putting
this additional burden on me because I have no way of
processing these emotions because you want to act like
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it's not a big deal. Am I to believe?
I know I didn't have that conversation.
I mean, I, you know, I guess notbecause again, the the point is
to push her back toward Carrie, right?
In terms of like, very similar to like, they just would have
talked about it, but also. I think Charlotte has always
been that character of don't burden him when he comes home
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from work. She, she's always been that
character, right where she, she's, she's, she's just right.
But these? People have two kids, like
they've been married a long, long time.
Like at this point, the the tradwife veil is slipping.
You know what I'm saying? Like, right.
And especially when Charlotte went back to work like it just
is so clear that she's now, you know, more on team marriage of
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equals. Yes, it.
Didn't it? Didn't.
Strike me as well. I mean, I've already said my
feeling about it, right? The point is they have to push
her back toward Carrie. OK, but right, right.
I. Thought it was kind of.
I don't know, they weren't doingHarry as a character any favors
in that scene, but again. What does this point out really?
I will continue to write it wellno what it points.
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Out. Is the intimacy of female
friendships is unmatched. You're not going to, I don't
care if he's your husband. You're just not going to get the
kind of empathy from a female friend.
You're not going to get that without with a guy.
I'm sorry you won't. I stand my ground.
I said what I said and I feel like it really that that's what
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that scene really was about, that ultimately who's going to
be there for you in the end. Right.
Who's going to? Be there for you.
It's going to be your fucking friends over some guy.
I don't know why I'm about to cry.
Like, I don't know what's going on with me, but it's the Lisa's.
Father story arc would have sentyou this week but right we
didn't talk. About that.
So Lisa was at work and she turns her phone on do not
(27:44):
disturb and she misses a bunch of calls and her husband shows
up at work to say, honey, your you know, your father died, your
dad died again, your dad died again.
So she's of course feeling guilty because I'm like, I, I
put my work first, OK, which is probably exactly what your
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father would have wanted. Well, and that's.
That's kind of, I mean, that's what Charlotte says, and that's
what Herbert says too, right? That's exactly.
What your father would have wanted.
She goes to meet this woman who was her father's theater manager
because she ends up, she gets ane-mail from this theater manager
about inviting her to her father's funeral.
And she's pissed, right? She's pissed, but really she's
(28:29):
mad at herself and she's taking it out on this woman because she
felt like that was my responsibility.
Oh my God, I failed him again, men.
And she meets this woman who I fucking Jennifer Lewis.
I just love her. You're saying she's taking?
It out on her. I think she's rightly do you.
Because when she explains it, when she explains it and says he
always used to tell me not to bother you with stuff, so I
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thought I was doing the right thing.
No, you didn't. You just wanted to take control,
OK? I mean, maybe.
Maybe I I can see that because once they once they had the
funeral, she really was like thecenter of attention, bless her
heart. But you know, they he came to a
little bit of an understanding. She put on the funeral.
She was having such a heart. Lisa was having this really hard
time again, a woman being made to feel guilty for working, for
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having a career, for not puttingher family first.
Yeah. And this you know at this.
Point I think we're all wondering what's is this
documentary ever coming out or what Well, I'm.
Hopefully it hopefully it will. Good to see Marion for a couple,
see a couple of moments. Yeah, but.
And we find out he's angry. Right.
I hope that closes the door because I really was not open to
(29:40):
an infidelity storyline with Yeah.
Let's let's do that, please close that door, but it opened
that conversation of women are always feeling guilty because
they were working. I miss my kids first step,
remember, remember Miranda Miranda quit her fucking job.
Oh, I miss everything. I miss everything right.
She she just felt guilty. Do you think Herbert feels
(30:02):
guilty about anything, that he misses anything?
No, but women do because we're made to feel like you should
always put your family and your children 1st and nothing should
have. And listen, when they're
infants, it's a little different, but when your kids
are 12/14/16 years old, you knowshe's still being that, that
internalized guilt that a lot ofwomen feel for wanting more than
(30:30):
just motherhood, right? And wanting to have an identity
that is more layered and is morecomplex than just, I'm a mom.
And women are so often shamed and guilted for that.
And so I don't like that. But I.
Thought, you know, even more notably, in this scene, we're
introducing class consciousness.OK, tell me more.
(30:52):
Yeah, the diner. Well, this whole business with
the Michael Kors, right? Now explain that because I I
mean, I kind of got it. I'm not AI don't understand
labels. I don't but her go ahead, you
explain this. So, Michael?
Kors was an interesting choice because he's been part of the
the zeitgeist in recent years ofpeople talking online about how
(31:14):
not to run a brand, basically because he used to have a luxury
brand and now he doesn't. Right now he's in TJ Maxx, and I
don't know, he kind of did what?I mean, Halston did, yeah.
Yeah, exactly. Which I mean on, on the one
hand, like everybody knows that's how you get your bag,
right, Right, right. Because Marc Jacobs did it too.
But on the other hand, right, you've, you've you've given up
(31:37):
the prestige, right, of, of having this, you know, running a
luxury brand that's supposed to be harder to get, you know,
harder to pay for, etcetera. Right.
And so I forget the theatre manager's name.
Do you remember her character's name?
I don't. OK.
Well. TM, then theatre manager, she
shows up right and she's she's giving Lisa all this shit about
like, oh, my dad, you know, yourdad said you were too busy.
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He said never bother you becauseyou're so fancy.
I don't I don't want to take youout of your fancy apartment.
You know me. I'm just here with my Michael
Kors got all the time to waste in the world because my time is
not valuable. OK, That was the conversation.
That's what you took. From that scene, Yeah, I see.
I thought she brought up the Michael Kors to be almost like,
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look at me have. I have something like that too,
You know, I have a label too. I'm fancy too.
Well, I. Mean if she is, it's possible
she's incorrect. Like I can't, I don't know.
I can't imagine living anywhere in New York and not and like not
knowing whether you have a luxury good or not.
(32:43):
But on the other hand, you just told me you didn't know either,
so I don't know. No, I knew.
I knew that it didn't know the whole story for I I knew Michael
Kors was he he was like a famousdynamic deal that used.
To be a big deal now. He's not.
I knew that. I knew that.
I thought you. I thought you were telling me
you didn't. Yeah.
I thought you were telling me no, I think.
I understand, like I understand what you're saying.
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I felt more like she was trying to prove she was just as good as
Lisa. She's just or she's just.
It was almost like a race and a competition to see who was
closest to your father, to her father.
Well, that's it. Yeah.
That's interesting. And that, I think is a testament
to how well that character was played in that scene because we
got two different takes here, right?
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Right. Again, Jennifer Lewis, follow
her on Instagram because she's fantastic.
I just love her. I just love her.
But how about when Lisa was coming out of her apartment to
get into the cars for the funeral and I was like, why are
I didn't? I wasn't sure at first what was
going on, where they were comingout of.
I thought they were coming out of like a church or a Funeral
Home. No, it was her apartment.
I'm like, what's going on here? It was like a procession.
(33:46):
Yeah. And I didn't didn't really get
it. Not that it really matters, but
that was a good. I really wish.
That the writers would pivot a little more towards Seema,
right? She's really.
Getting the short end of the stick this season and I it's.
Not that I necessarily want to see less of Lisa, it's just that
they weren't like her storylinesnot advancing, No not.
At all. But you know what I see coming
(34:08):
for Seema? I see Smith and Samantha right
because in the teaser for next week she's flirting with the
gardener. Wouldn't it be wild though?
If we actually brought the Smithactor back and those two hooked
up, I know, right? That would be that would be a
little wink, but I do I think they're I think that's where
they're where they're going withthat and I'm not mad at it.
(34:28):
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Worth the Wait podcast and just like that recap, before we get
into anything, I want to say major spoilers in this episode.
So Aiden is planning to come up to Carrie's.
I'm sorry, their apartment. Sorry about that.
And he's coming up because Wyattis going to a camp for wayward
(00:30):
boys for a week. And so he's got time off and
they're all excited and can't wait, can't wait, can't wait.
So he gets there and he does that little thing that he used
to do when Carrie lived on 3rd Street where he'd take a Pebble
and, you know, throw it up at her window, but this time,
because her house is 200 years old, legit, like literally the
(00:52):
pane on the window shatters. And so, you know, right there,
right? Because I'm always looking for
those little signs. That's how you know, that's a,
that's a precursor. That is a sign of things to
come. Something shatters, something
breaks. And don't forget there was a
window break 2 weeks ago in two episodes as well.
(01:12):
So he breaks the window and he is just very, very upset about
as he should be, but he's too upset about it.
And I'm going to replace this and it's going to be good as
new. And Carrie is saying, well, I
don't think you're going to be able to replace it.
These are 200 year old windows. And I could, they had like this
little rainbow in them. No, no, no, no.
(01:34):
I'm going to get the rainbow back for you.
So she senses he's pacing around.
He's doing like she's saying, stop, you know, stay in one
place, come here, everything's fine.
And later that night, he's on the on the Internet trying to
find the perfect window to replace it.
And she's saying come to bed, come to bed.
And he wouldn't come to bed. He wanted to find this window.
So now you just know something'swrong, right?
(01:56):
You just know something wrong. So when he was replacing the
window, because he goes to Scranton, PA, and he comes back
and he's replacing it and she comes in and he says, you know,
I don't. I don't think I'm going to be
able to give you your rainbow. I don't think I can fix it.
I don't think I can, you know, make it what it was basically.
So now you see you kind of get asense of where this is going and
(02:19):
she's going, what's what's goingon with you?
And he tells her that when they took Wyatt to the airport, he
had a meltdown and he didn't want to go.
And I don't know if he ended up getting on the plane.
I think maybe he did. Well, Aiden is there, so I
assume he got on the plane. Right so he and the ex-wife I
I'm still trying to figure out how this happened.
(02:40):
The ex-wife and him were both just so upset and asking
themselves what did we do? Where did we go wrong?
How much time do you have? Because I can we can tell you
what you did wrong in and somehow, someway, they ended up
sleeping together. Totally makes sense to me, Aunt
Carrie. It turns out she's not very
upset about it. At all.
She's much more excited about her window.
(03:00):
Which, sure, right, that's our girl.
Right. But I think that's also
indicative of how she's feeling about this relationship.
I mean, don't you think some part of her was like, oh thank
God, now we're even? Now we're even, now we're even.
But it, it also brought up the fact her reaction was so sort of
I, I, I can understand that because he said, you know, I
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think we were just, it was just,you know, we were both looking
for comfort. You know how how you were just
driving him to the fucking airport?
She just really wasn't. She sort of shrugs.
And she's like, I can understandthat.
Yeah. And you do.
Well, yeah. And he goes, you're not mad that
we weren't supposed to be sleeping with.
(03:42):
She's like, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, Hold on.
When did I agree to that? And she's saying like my head is
racing because how are we just having this conversation now?
Which was a really great. I liked the Carrie had that,
that kind of self-awareness. Yeah, to say I can't believe we
haven't talked about this. Why haven't we talked about
(04:03):
this? Because Aiden truly thought,
truly thought Carrie was like hewas going away to war and Carrie
was just going to wait for him. I mean, so did I.
Is that not the impression you got?
No. Oh, because we didn't see her
like dating, you know? Right.
Well, no, we didn't. We didn't, but I didn't know.
(04:24):
Like, I didn't know if that was like, I don't know what that was
going on. I don't know why that was so.
I still don't even know. What did they agree on?
Did they agree on being exclusive monogamous?
Did they? I feel like it went unresolved
again, right? Which I think is symptomatic of
any relationship where there's no true resolution.
It's the poor communication between two people, almost as if
(04:47):
they don't really want to have this discussion because it's
going to lead to an. Issue realizing they're
incompatible, right? It's going to lead to us
realizing this is not good. Yeah, well, sure, they got swept
up in the romance of seeing eachother again, you know.
Right. Exactly.
And I think Carrie is getting that.
(05:08):
See Aiden, Aiden's Mr. Stressed.And Aiden is doing what so many
men do. He's using Carrie for emotional
labor and free therapy and emotional support.
Yeah. Right, because and.
Kathy, it turns out, and. Kathy and Kathy, right?
Like whoever, whatever warm bodyis next to him and I don't know
why. I just so wish that they had
(05:31):
talked more about well wait a minute, I did this and boy did
you make me feel like shit for it would.
Be a real, honest conversation. They don't have those.
Well, I really, they really don't though, right?
And I think that's the problem. These two really don't have the
tough conversation. Not at all, right?
The toughest conversation they ever had was an argument about.
(05:54):
Speed. Sticks and having too many half
empty speed sticks. Well, that and, and when they're
at the the fountain, when they call off the engagement and you
realize he does not trust her. Speaking of that fight scene
though, where it has all the half empty speed sticks, did you
notice him putting on Rogaine? No.
Elle's my favorite call back, God damn.
(06:16):
It see, now I like this, like the this and it.
They're doing this on purpose tokeep people watching through the
little tiny callbacks. This episode callback again.
One of my favorite scenes in theentire series where Charlotte
has is making her first Shabbat dinner Harry, because he's done
this over and over. He's a, he's an adult Jewish
(06:39):
male who's done this over and over and over.
But this is her first time. So it's all new to her and he's
not acknowledging that. We'll get to that.
But they had almost a recreationof that scene to us a little bit
in this episode. So Carrie and Aidan don't really
resolve the whole monogamy thingbecause they don't want to
again, the the flags they are waving in front of you 2 and
(07:02):
you're just ignoring them. Later that day or the next
morning, Aiden's in the kitchen and the hot, hot author neighbor
who lives downstairs comes upstairs.
He knocks on the door and he gives Aiden the chapter of his
book that Carrie said he was going to read.
Is he? Hot.
Or is he just age appropriate and British?
(07:24):
OK, I think that's fair. I think that's fair.
I think he's a handsome guy, maybe because I'm older than you
so. Ugly, but I guess it just seems
to me like he was. He was chosen specifically to
make Aiden insecure. Maybe, maybe which is?
Fine, I mean, we need some attention in the show.
We do. And he, he gives Aiden the the
chapter and Aiden's kind of looking him up and down and all
(07:49):
of us just. Bananas, by the way.
Sir, do you? What did you just admit to less
than 24 hours ago? Well, not only.
That but like we don't all live in rural Virginia like most of
us are around other humans. Right, right.
And he, you can tell now he's guarded and I, I do, I think
we're going here. This is what we're going to see.
(08:10):
We're going to see his old insecurities come up, right?
Even though he just fucking admitted to cheating on Carrie,
not even cheating in his mind, he cheated in her mind, she was
like, meh, I don't care. But now all that stuff's going
to come up again for sure. Watch.
So Carrie and the downstairs neighbor agree to read each
other's first chapters. And she loves his and she has
(08:32):
dinner in his apartment. And she looked very
uncomfortable in this apartment.Again, Carrie is such a snob
that you know you're you're eating something someone made
dinner and it's something sort of customary or from their
country and you're looking down your nose at it.
Have you ever had button? Well, that's not the point.
(08:53):
It's not the fucking. Point right And you know, even
the way she was sitting in the chair, to me, she just looked so
uncomfortable because that apartment really is it's it's
very outdated it's not fancy it's not where you would see
her. She just didn't look comfortable
there and. That's that's the the scene in
itself was a callback to when she's having dinner with the
Russian. Remember when she turns her nose
(09:14):
up at the aspect? Which again, fair, but she's
like, oh, a meat jello, right? Right, but this is this is
Carrie and and this is someone who really she's she's very
she's. Counting she's.
Kunti about this, like people seem to think that growing up in
New York is is some kind of badge of honor.
And I'm not saying it's not cool, but if you she doesn't
(09:36):
seem to understand or experienceanything outside of New York,
she has no understanding of it. She really she didn't.
Grow up there, right? She is one of those, oh, New
York is just the center of the world.
It's not. And I definitely used to think
that, too. It's not, especially in these
times. We should know that.
So she's just being her regular kind of cunty self and they, you
(09:58):
can tell, you know, they're going to try and put them
together. Fine, whatever.
I don't care. I just don't care.
I wish they wouldn't, but I. Wish they wouldn't only because
he showed her who he was immediately, which was I only
care about me. That's correct, right?
I only care about me. And you should take your shoes
off. And I need quiet here in New
York City. Known further.
(10:19):
Its quietness obviously clearly.Excuse me while I light up my
pipe. Right.
He doesn't care about anybody himself.
She doesn't care about anybody himself.
Once he reads her terrible chapter like he's not going to
respect her either. Like as as a writer, do you?
Do you think it's going to be terrible?
Yep. No, I.
Mean, you're hearing the excerpts, aren't you?
Right, but. I mean, I don't think we're
supposed to think it's terrible.Well.
(10:40):
We're not supposed to think it'sterrible, but objectively it is
terrible. OK.
All right. We actually wait next next week
for that that. But he's kind of like a Ron
Chernow kind of guy. Like, he's writing pretty
seriously, research historical biographies, right?
So for her to be dabbling in historical fiction, he's just
going to be like, oh, that's cute.
(11:01):
And he's going to tell her all the things that are wrong.
And yeah, I mean, he'll be correct, right?
But she won't receive it well, So they don't belong together.
But I digress. I.
Digress. So then we move on to Miranda,
Miranda and Joy. Miranda's looking for an
apartment and still, still. And here's Seema and she's
basically doing Miranda a favor.She finds this great apartment
(11:24):
that Miranda loves and Seema says, OK, you have to ask
150,000 over the asking price. And Miranda's like, I'm not
doing that, that I'll be part ofthe problem if I do that.
And Seema says, well, that's what you do.
And Miranda says, well, you know, you're just going to have
to find me something else. Seema finds her something else
and it's a it's a no pet building.
(11:44):
And Miranda is, well, oh, I don't know this person, This
person. Literally is like wait, this
woman I've been on two days withhis dogs, right?
Rearranged my whole life. Right, so now she doesn't want
that apartment. She's going to take the other
apartment because I think, I think there's more joy there
(12:04):
because that's the name, you know, there's more joy there.
OK, whatever. Miranda can't.
Decide if Miranda's refusal to offer over asking is classic
Miranda or anti Miranda. I I can't decide if that movie
is perfectly in character or not.
I feel like the old Miranda would have would have been like
oh sucks I'm part of the problembut also I'm already here right?
(12:27):
But this is the place. And this, yeah, this is how you
get the real estate you want. I think this is Cynthia Nixon's
influence. If you know anything about
Cynthia Nixon, she tried I thinkran for governor or mayor.
She's very anti. She's very involved in issues
like this in New York City. So I think that might have been
(12:48):
her influence saying that let's that out there.
That's my that's my read on the situation.
And what do you think in terms of like, is this in line with
her character or not? I.
Think it's in line with who she is now because of what she was.
Remember she was taking trying to be a lawyer for human rights,
(13:08):
I think now. She is right.
So it's more in line with who she is now, I think.
So she's introducing Joy to her son.
And Joy tells her, listen, just so you know, you know, I've
never really dated anybody with kids that Joy.
Is acting like Brady is 5 right?Like, he's a grown man.
What? Why are you so nervous?
And Brady shows up and he's justcool right away.
(13:32):
And she, Joyce says to Miranda, because she said, you know, I've
always been on the fence about kids.
And she meets Brady and she's like, I'm off the fence.
And, you know, Miranda really liked that.
And I like that for Miranda. And for once, Brady wasn't a
douche. And it worked.
It's a cute scene. It was fine.
I guess my question is why wouldyou invite Brady to come meet
(13:52):
you and not have a seat for him?Didn't.
They I. Think they were at a table for
two, but these are the things you're not supposed to notice.
That's. Right.
But I did notice a little greyhounds and I love them.
Oh I love. Them a little Tina.
He's in Sappho, yeah. They're.
Stealing every scene they're in,they.
Absolutely are. So that goes, that's her scene.
Now we get to Charlotte and Harry.
(14:13):
Charlotte is about to walk into Sloan Kettering.
Obviously for Harry, because Harry's getting his.
I think he's getting his. I don't know what what they call
it like these are your options. You can do this amount of
radiation or you can get surgery.
And who does she run into but Bitsy von Muffy Bitsy.
I just love this character. Love what this actress has has
how she has taken this characterthat probably was only intended
(14:37):
to have like 10 lines and she's made it a character that not
only became or showed up multiple times in sex in the
city, but also has showed up multiple times in and just like
that. I love that they've fleshed out
this character. You know, she married Bobby and
you know how I feel about that episode.
It's my absolute favorite. And so she sees Charlotte going
(14:57):
into the building and she's oh, do you know someone with the big
C too? And Charlotte is still still
still still keeping the secret. Oh no, I'm visiting a friend so
her and she's. Volunteering, volunteering.
Thank you. Thank you.
So her and Harry come out of theappointment and you know, the
prognosis is great. It's 98%.
They caught it really early. You could do radiation or you
(15:19):
could do surgery and whatnot. And the doctor said he's in such
great health. But then, and so Charlotte's
feeling a little optimistic. But then Lisa's father suddenly
passes away very, very suddenly.And apparently he had already
passed away in Season 1. He had already she had already
told Charlotte, Oh, when my father passed away, you know, I
(15:39):
was so I was shaking. Had something to do with big and
bigs funeral. She had said in season 1 that
her father had already passed away and people have been
playing that clip. So I don't know, right.
That's just that's just bad writing.
I'm sorry and I don't it's just bad writing that you that you,
you fucked up a continuity issuelike that.
So her father passes and her father was in great health and
(16:02):
she was telling Charlotte how my, you know, the doctor said he
was in great health and I don't understand and whatever now
Jennifer Lewis and I don't know if anybody ever watched
Blackish. Jennifer Lewis was Dre's Anthony
Anderson's mother who used to bemarried to Larry Fishburne.
She's just fucking brilliant in everything she's in.
And again, she steals everythingshe's in.
(16:24):
And even in this, she she stealsit.
We'll get to Lisa's in a second.So when Lisa's father dies, now
Charlotte's like, we'll wait. He was in great health, too, and
he died. Yeah.
So now she's back to really, really being terrified for
Harry. So Harry's watching the Mets,
you know, didn't have a care in the world.
And Charlotte comes in and she is nervous.
(16:48):
She wants to talk about. She wants to talk.
I think about the does she want to talk about the surgery?
What is it she wanted to talk about?
I mean she. Kind of just wanted to come and
talk about everything, right? My take on it, yeah.
Didn't she open with like, do you realize how much I love you?
Yes. She.
Was just very, very much floodedwith emotion in that moment and.
Harry did what he did the last time, which was completely
(17:11):
ignore Charlotte's feelings because of the Mets, once again
showing that Charlotte, Charlotte thinks as usual, it's
it really is the woman. The woman is the one who's
always thinking about the relationship and keeping it up
and keeping the maintenance of all this relationship.
And the guy just sort of goes with it and trying so hard to
get his attention. Oh, babe, babe, babe.
(17:31):
Oh, I missed this. And she finally, you know, kind
of like the original scene, but not as nasty.
She says, you know, stop. Like Lisa's father was in great
hell, too. And he says her father was 90.
Yeah, right. You know, Hun, I'm going to be
fine. You know, I felt again, I felt
bad for her because in these situations, the caretaker, they
(17:53):
take on so much. You know, we talk about the end
of life that I do for these dogs.
And when I tell you there's a lot of similarities between that
and human end of life caretakers, there's so much
going on with you that you're internalizing and that you're,
you're just carrying, right? Asking her to keep.
This, as a secret, is like an additional burden.
(18:14):
It's an. Additional burden and she's
she's looking for comfort, right?
She's looking for comfort and she can't get it anywhere
because he doesn't want to fucking talk about it and she
can't tell her friends. So who does she have?
Nobody. So she goes downtown to get
Harry Depends. And I don't even this was
stupid, but it kind of. Was because again, I don't, I
(18:36):
don't know am I to believe Charlotte goes to the drug
store, right? I don't feel like.
She she door dashes it right. You know, no, someone would see
me. Girl, this is so stupid.
You all you had to do was lie. But I think obviously they
needed it for the scene. And she runs into Carrie, who
apparently billionaire carriers and Duane Reade, too.
OK, the two of them and she's getting depends.
(18:59):
And Carrie's like what's going on?
And Carrie and Charlotte finallytells her and she just lets
loose. And I felt I got the same chills
in that scene because she just breaks the sobbing.
It's all coming out now. And Carrie's like, you tell me
whatever for however long, whatever you want.
Finally, you know, Carrie being a good friend and Charlotte just
(19:21):
breaks. I don't know why I'm getting
emotional about this but it reminded me of that scene in 1st
movie where Big has stood up Carrie and Carrie goes to the
car and says you humiliated me. And they they get her back and
she's hugging Carrie and Biggs walking towards I can't believe
I'm on the verge of tears. Biggs walking towards them and
(19:42):
Charlotte she's got her arm around Carrie but with her other
arm she she pointed at him and she says no like this ferocious
Mama bear, don't you fucking come another step.
That fierce loyalty, that love, that bond that they have.
You know, it did. It brought me to tears and it
brought me to tears yesterday because it really does kind of
(20:04):
cement that this show really is about these friendships.
It's not about the men. It's not about the romantic
relationships, about the friendships.
So my heart just broke for Charlotte because finally it's
just everything comes out. Everything she's been holding in
comes out in the middle of DuaneReade or Walgreens or wherever.
What else was there I mean? Basically all Sima was doing was
showing Miranda apartments right?
(20:25):
Oh she had to fire her driver. This was the weirdest scene in
this episode. She had to fire her driver and
this dude said not a word. What?
I know very strange. Well, I think that's typically
his job when he I think that's their job or maybe that's just
how it is. The drivers we don't engage.
You know he's not Raul who was Biggs driver, right?
(20:46):
It was OK, now I see where you're going.
OK, I can see it. After years and years and years,
you would think Seema and him had established a relationship.
You would think or that. He would acknowledge that she
was speaking to him right? In some way, right?
Right, right, right. But.
He did not so. Did not.
Yeah. There was really nothing there.
(21:08):
Nothing there. I want to go back to that
episode from Sex and the City with Charlotte and Harry.
So if people remember, Charlottehas now converted to Judaism and
she's making her first because that's she just loves Harry that
much. And and keep in mind, like being
Protestant was kind of part of her identity, right?
(21:29):
She's being a WASP was sort of part of her identity.
And she completely leaves that behind because she loves this
man and wants to marry him. And she makes this Shabbat
dinner and gets to, you know, brings it to the table, and
she's doing her first prayer andHarry's watching the game.
And she's like, honey, can we please turn that off?
And he wouldn't. He turns the volume down.
(21:52):
And so she's asked him to turn it off.
He turns the volume down. Just such a fucking childish
thing to do. And she's trying to talk to him.
And she sees that he's looking past her and looking past her
and she sees the TV on and she just loses it, right, Because
I've been doing all these thingsand remember, he, he, she says,
I gave up. I gave up Christ for you.
(22:14):
And he goes, oh, if you're goingto keep doing that, this is
going to be a it's going to be alot, you know, are you going to
be? I don't even know how he said
it. It's going to be a long feel.
It's going to be a long like time.
Whatever, you know, this is life.
It's going to be a long life ahead of us.
Be a long. Life ahead of us if you keep
bringing that up. Take out the trash.
I gave up Christ for you. Yeah.
(22:36):
And Charlotte is finally like, just set the date.
Set the date. And he's like, what are you
talking about? She goes set the date.
You, you, you know we're going to get and get set the date.
You said once You said once. You know you can only said you
couldn't marry. Me, if I wasn't Jewish, now I'm
Jewish and. You know, oh God, you realize
(22:57):
what people think. If that was such a but see this
moment and the reason why I likeit and each one, I think each
one of them has their own momentwhere they are become more
humanized. They become more 3 dimensional
because up to that point, really, Charlotte was just so
shallow and such a snob. And I wanted Harry to put his
shirt on and and he's not attractive.
(23:19):
And and she says, do you realizewhat people think when they see
us walking down the street? He goes, yeah, I just didn't
think you were one of of them. And I think that's that's really
when I feel Harry did something to Charlotte.
Harry changed that character, I feel, and made her so much more
likable. Yeah, that's.
Why I was Stan Harry generally right?
Generally, it's a perfect. Man, right?
(23:41):
But the other frustrating part of that scene was, girl, do you
remember the last time you were like super desperate to get
married and you just wanted to get married and kind of focused
on the merit on the wedding? Remember that?
How'd that work out? Right?
And I think that that moment made Charlotte realize, I'm so
focused on the wrong thing. I'm so focused on the wrong
(24:02):
thing. And she just wanted the wedding.
And then she got the wedding andthere was like a bunch of a
bunch of like mistakes, but she just wanted the wedding.
She really wasn't focused on themarriage, right?
And that's that's why I love that scene, because it's a
tipping point for Charlotte. And it humanizes her a little
(24:23):
bit. And it makes her see really.
Like, God, you're such a snob and you're so caught up in what
things look like. She did the same thing with
Trey. Yeah.
She, he looked the part. Well, Trey looked the part.
And he on paper, Trey was great.In real life, he was a mess.
He was a walking red flag. Whereas Harry's scene this week.
(24:45):
Where we're, you know, we're calling back to the the infamous
Shabbos dinner scene. I, I, you know, you're, I think
your point is right about that was a turning point in
Charlotte's development. And that is why for me, this
week's scene with the Mets game was a little bit frustrating
because it's like, first of all,what did Harry learn from that
experience? Harry hasn't yet learned that
(25:08):
some things are more important than the Mets.
Second of all. Am I to believe that these folks
have been married for nearly 20 years at this point?
And Charlotte's not going to useher words and just be like,
look, man, this. I'm trying to keep your secret.
I'm trying to be respectful of your wishes.
(25:28):
I don't want to handle, you know, I don't want to handle
this in a way that makes more ofa fuss than you want.
But it's first of all, getting difficult for me to keep the
secret, right? And second of all, it's putting
this additional burden on me because I have no way of
processing these emotions because you want to act like
(25:50):
it's not a big deal. Am I to believe?
I know I didn't have that conversation.
I mean, I, you know, I guess notbecause again, the the point is
to push her back toward Carrie, right?
In terms of like, very similar to like, they just would have
talked about it, but also. I think Charlotte has always
been that character of don't burden him when he comes home
(26:12):
from work. She, she's always been that
character, right where she, she's, she's, she's just right.
But these? People have two kids, like
they've been married a long, long time.
Like at this point, the the tradwife veil is slipping.
You know what I'm saying? Like, right.
And especially when Charlotte went back to work like it just
is so clear that she's now, you know, more on team marriage of
(26:37):
equals. Yes, it.
Didn't it? Didn't.
Strike me as well. I mean, I've already said my
feeling about it, right? The point is they have to push
her back toward Carrie. OK, but right, right.
I. Thought it was kind of.
I don't know, they weren't doingHarry as a character any favors
in that scene, but again. What does this point out really?
I will continue to write it wellno what it points.
(26:59):
Out. Is the intimacy of female
friendships is unmatched. You're not going to, I don't
care if he's your husband. You're just not going to get the
kind of empathy from a female friend.
You're not going to get that without with a guy.
I'm sorry you won't. I stand my ground.
I said what I said and I feel like it really that that's what
(27:20):
that scene really was about, that ultimately who's going to
be there for you in the end. Right.
Who's going to? Be there for you.
It's going to be your fucking friends over some guy.
I don't know why I'm about to cry.
Like, I don't know what's going on with me, but it's the Lisa's.
Father story arc would have sentyou this week but right we
didn't talk. About that.
So Lisa was at work and she turns her phone on do not
(27:44):
disturb and she misses a bunch of calls and her husband shows
up at work to say, honey, your you know, your father died, your
dad died again, your dad died again.
So she's of course feeling guilty because I'm like, I, I
put my work first, OK, which is probably exactly what your
(28:06):
father would have wanted. Well, and that's.
That's kind of, I mean, that's what Charlotte says, and that's
what Herbert says too, right? That's exactly.
What your father would have wanted.
She goes to meet this woman who was her father's theater manager
because she ends up, she gets ane-mail from this theater manager
about inviting her to her father's funeral.
And she's pissed, right? She's pissed, but really she's
(28:29):
mad at herself and she's taking it out on this woman because she
felt like that was my responsibility.
Oh my God, I failed him again, men.
And she meets this woman who I fucking Jennifer Lewis.
I just love her. You're saying she's taking?
It out on her. I think she's rightly do you.
Because when she explains it, when she explains it and says he
always used to tell me not to bother you with stuff, so I
(28:52):
thought I was doing the right thing.
No, you didn't. You just wanted to take control,
OK? I mean, maybe.
Maybe I I can see that because once they once they had the
funeral, she really was like thecenter of attention, bless her
heart. But you know, they he came to a
little bit of an understanding. She put on the funeral.
She was having such a heart. Lisa was having this really hard
time again, a woman being made to feel guilty for working, for
(29:17):
having a career, for not puttingher family first.
Yeah. And this you know at this.
Point I think we're all wondering what's is this
documentary ever coming out or what Well, I'm.
Hopefully it hopefully it will. Good to see Marion for a couple,
see a couple of moments. Yeah, but.
And we find out he's angry. Right.
I hope that closes the door because I really was not open to
(29:40):
an infidelity storyline with Yeah.
Let's let's do that, please close that door, but it opened
that conversation of women are always feeling guilty because
they were working. I miss my kids first step,
remember, remember Miranda Miranda quit her fucking job.
Oh, I miss everything. I miss everything right.
She she just felt guilty. Do you think Herbert feels
(30:02):
guilty about anything, that he misses anything?
No, but women do because we're made to feel like you should
always put your family and your children 1st and nothing should
have. And listen, when they're
infants, it's a little different, but when your kids
are 12/14/16 years old, you knowshe's still being that, that
internalized guilt that a lot ofwomen feel for wanting more than
(30:30):
just motherhood, right? And wanting to have an identity
that is more layered and is morecomplex than just, I'm a mom.
And women are so often shamed and guilted for that.
And so I don't like that. But I.
Thought, you know, even more notably, in this scene, we're
introducing class consciousness.OK, tell me more.
(30:52):
Yeah, the diner. Well, this whole business with
the Michael Kors, right? Now explain that because I I
mean, I kind of got it. I'm not AI don't understand
labels. I don't but her go ahead, you
explain this. So, Michael?
Kors was an interesting choice because he's been part of the
the zeitgeist in recent years ofpeople talking online about how
(31:14):
not to run a brand, basically because he used to have a luxury
brand and now he doesn't. Right now he's in TJ Maxx, and I
don't know, he kind of did what?I mean, Halston did, yeah.
Yeah, exactly. Which I mean on, on the one
hand, like everybody knows that's how you get your bag,
right, Right, right. Because Marc Jacobs did it too.
But on the other hand, right, you've, you've you've given up
(31:37):
the prestige, right, of, of having this, you know, running a
luxury brand that's supposed to be harder to get, you know,
harder to pay for, etcetera. Right.
And so I forget the theatre manager's name.
Do you remember her character's name?
I don't. OK.
Well. TM, then theatre manager, she
shows up right and she's she's giving Lisa all this shit about
like, oh, my dad, you know, yourdad said you were too busy.
(32:00):
He said never bother you becauseyou're so fancy.
I don't I don't want to take youout of your fancy apartment.
You know me. I'm just here with my Michael
Kors got all the time to waste in the world because my time is
not valuable. OK, That was the conversation.
That's what you took. From that scene, Yeah, I see.
I thought she brought up the Michael Kors to be almost like,
(32:23):
look at me have. I have something like that too,
You know, I have a label too. I'm fancy too.
Well, I. Mean if she is, it's possible
she's incorrect. Like I can't, I don't know.
I can't imagine living anywhere in New York and not and like not
knowing whether you have a luxury good or not.
(32:43):
But on the other hand, you just told me you didn't know either,
so I don't know. No, I knew.
I knew that it didn't know the whole story for I I knew Michael
Kors was he he was like a famousdynamic deal that used.
To be a big deal now. He's not.
I knew that. I knew that.
I thought you. I thought you were telling me
you didn't. Yeah.
I thought you were telling me no, I think.
I understand, like I understand what you're saying.
(33:04):
I felt more like she was trying to prove she was just as good as
Lisa. She's just or she's just.
It was almost like a race and a competition to see who was
closest to your father, to her father.
Well, that's it. Yeah.
That's interesting. And that, I think is a testament
to how well that character was played in that scene because we
got two different takes here, right?
(33:25):
Right. Again, Jennifer Lewis, follow
her on Instagram because she's fantastic.
I just love her. I just love her.
But how about when Lisa was coming out of her apartment to
get into the cars for the funeral and I was like, why are
I didn't? I wasn't sure at first what was
going on, where they were comingout of.
I thought they were coming out of like a church or a Funeral
Home. No, it was her apartment.
I'm like, what's going on here? It was like a procession.
(33:46):
Yeah. And I didn't didn't really get
it. Not that it really matters, but
that was a good. I really wish.
That the writers would pivot a little more towards Seema,
right? She's really.
Getting the short end of the stick this season and I it's.
Not that I necessarily want to see less of Lisa, it's just that
they weren't like her storylinesnot advancing, No not.
At all. But you know what I see coming
(34:08):
for Seema? I see Smith and Samantha right
because in the teaser for next week she's flirting with the
gardener. Wouldn't it be wild though?
If we actually brought the Smithactor back and those two hooked
up, I know, right? That would be that would be a
little wink, but I do I think they're I think that's where
they're where they're going withthat and I'm not mad at it.
(34:28):
I'm OK with it. All right, make sure you're
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(34:49):
Tuesday episode, but we did wantto make sure to get it get this
Monday recap up. So we will resume regular
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So in other words. See you not Tuesday, all right?
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(35:12):
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Oh yes, I forgot. I forgot to mention the most
important thing about this episode, which is the door store
in Pennsylvania is real. I've been Oh, really?
It's real firm have been they also didn't have what I needed.
(35:35):
Okay, well what a great. Review for the door store.
Yeah, okay people, we will see you next week.
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