Episode 10: Betrayed and Overstepped - Reddit Stories About Broken Boundaries - Yapping Schnauzers

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Intro (00:00):
Yapping!

Erika (00:02):
Hello. This is Erika.

Edgar (00:04):
Edgar.

Darielys (00:05):
And Dave.

Erika (00:06):
And we are the Yapping Snousers.
We entertain you with the appworthy stories we find around
the web. Today's stories is justtough stories in Reddit and also
advice ones. So the first oneis, am I the asshole for now
wanting to drop charges on a 10year old kid that beat up my 9
year old daughter at school?Some background. My kids go to a

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school where over 90% of thestudent population are refugees
and immigrants.
We live in a neighborhood thatis the same circumstances as my
kid's school. Cut to yesterday.My 9 year old girl was out to
recess. She was playingbasketball with friends. This
bully walked behind her, pushedher to the ground, and then she
was getting up and the kidkicked her in the head like a

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soccer ball.
My wife went down to check mygirl out of school. She'll be
okay, I hope. But she hasscratches on the side of her
face, a black eye, and it'sswollen. School principal said
he'll handle it. Later on, hecalled my wife and I separately
and asked us to drop the chargesbecause the student doesn't

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understand what they did waswrong.
I told the principal that if theschool isn't going to discipline
the bully, I will call thepolice department and file
charges. Am I the asshole fornot wanting to drop the charges
on a 10 year old kid?

Darielys (01:26):
Not an asshole.

Edgar (01:29):
I feel like, yeah, that age, they understand, like, what
they're doing. And even thoughthey don't think about the
consequences, they're they couldthey are still, like, conscious
of, like, what they're actuallydoing at the moment. And at the
moment that yeah. At thatmoment, that that kid was just
kicking the child just because,like, for whatever enjoyment
that they wanted from that.

Darielys (01:48):
In the head?

Edgar (01:49):
Yeah. Until she was, like, swollen.

Darielys (01:50):
No. That's abs. No. They knew exactly what they were
doing. Mhmm.

Erika (01:54):
Like, they were even she wasn't doing anything. She was
playing basketball, went behindher, pushed her, and then kicked
her in the face.

Darielys (02:00):
That's absolutely insane. Mhmm.

Erika (02:02):
There's no way he did not know what he did was wrong.

Darielys (02:05):
There's just no way. Yeah. No. He definitely
understood.

Edgar (02:07):
And regardless of, like, the immigration status of him,
of the the child, I imagine it'sjust, like, it's from the
parents, you know? Like, theparents aren't raising the kid
right. Like, at this point,they're raising, like, a a
felon.

Erika (02:20):
Yeah. I mean, I mean

Edgar (02:21):
An up and coming felon.

Erika (02:22):
Exactly. They must have he must see it somewhere that he
thinks it's okay to do that, andthat's why he doesn't think it's
wrong. Mm-mm. There's only 9.Yeah.
Well.

Edgar (02:32):
Yeah. No. Well, the child is 9 that got kicked in the
face.

Erika (02:35):
I know. Exactly. Like, she's she's little. And little
kid is and the kid is older than10. Yeah.
No. I mean, I think after whatis it? 5? You think kids are a
little bit more aware? I feellike they should be aware of,
like, right and wrong.
Like, if they poop on theirdiaper or they you know, there's
something wrong. They know theydid wrong. Yeah. They try to

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hide it or they try to, like,oh, cry. So and they get in
trouble.
Yeah. They like, if you reallylook at child development,
little kids are verymanipulative. Probably abusive

Darielys (03:04):
in his house or something. Yeah.

Erika (03:06):
Or Something's going on. Maybe Or

Edgar (03:07):
the kid is the abusive. Anyways, like, I think, yeah,
police should be involvedbecause, like, there's
definitely neglect or, like,some mistreatment or, like,
teaching the kids the wronglesson coming from the other
kid's household.

Darielys (03:18):
Yeah. Exactly. Yeah.

Edgar (03:19):
Like, that has to be, like, investigated.

Erika (03:22):
Yeah. I agree. I honestly think, I was reading the
comments, and it's it's reallytrue. Like, I honestly think
that this kid's probably justneglected, and he's maybe wants
doing stuff like that to getattention, or the parents are
not parenting. Something'swrong.

Edgar (03:37):
Yeah. Because I might be, like, one time, my family and I
went to 6 Flags, and, we had,like, a wagon to, like, to carry
all our stuff, like, all linenstuff, all of, like, all our
like, just everything that wehad. Mhmm. And then it was just
my mom and, the wagon becauseeveryone went to use the
bathroom. And my mom said, like,these, like, Spanish little
kids, like, went up to the wagonand, like, was digging for it.

Darielys (03:57):
Oh my god.

Edgar (03:58):
So my mom, like, shooed them away, and then, like, their
parents the the the kids'parents went nearby, and
they're, like they justshrugged, and they're, like, oh,
just whatever. But then thenthey all left.

Darielys (04:07):
That's great.

Edgar (04:09):
So, like, this is this is all, like, pretty, like I feel
like whenever I see, like, asituation where, like, a kid is
doing, like, wrong, I know it's,like, they're being taught that
for whatever reason. Mhmm.They're being taught that's okay
or they're being taught to dothat for to and to instantly,
like, execute on it.

Darielys (04:24):
That's that. What are you trying to find?

Edgar (04:27):
I don't know.

Erika (04:28):
No. That's

Darielys (04:28):
not me.

Erika (04:29):
The fact that the parents didn't say that's not okay, not
the behavior is not okay, itmeans that they're just gonna
keep doing that.

Darielys (04:36):
You probably told them to do it.

Edgar (04:37):
Exactly. And my mom was in there. Yeah. They definitely
would take something.

Darielys (04:40):
Yeah. That's crazy.

Erika (04:42):
Or the

Darielys (04:42):
whole wagon. Just run off with the wagon. Yeah.

Edgar (04:46):
They're lucky I wasn't there.

Darielys (04:47):
Girl, what are you gonna do? You're not gonna do
anything.

Edgar (04:49):
I'll grab the kids and be like

Darielys (04:52):
Yeah. The kid's gonna grab you.

Erika (04:53):
They grab you?

Edgar (04:55):
Yeah. They're gonna be a fair fight. You get what you
were saying.

Darielys (04:59):
The only one.

Edgar (05:01):
No. That is crazy.

Erika (05:05):
Right. Yeah. I mean, one of the top comments I really
liked was a 100%. A child'sstatus as a refugee is
absolutely absolutely no reasonto drop charges. I'll definitely
take that above the principal'shead.
If the refugee child has been sotraumatized at his and her own
past, then they still don't needto be in the school system. They

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need intense therapy and closesupervision in a controlled
environment at the absoluteminimum. Posters should
absolutely proceed with chargesand not involved local media. No
way should something thisdangerous be swept under the
carpet.

Edgar (05:41):
Yeah. I mean, it's even ridiculous for the principal to,
like, to, like, beg them not to,like, press any charges. Like,
that's a good that's a personalmatter between, like, the
families, not, like, something,like, the school should, like,
get involved in.

Erika (05:54):
Yeah. I don't understand why they went to the principal.
They were they wait. Were theyoh, they were at recess, so they
were in school grounds. Yeah.

Edgar (06:01):
That makes sense. Yeah.

Erika (06:02):
I thought they were in a playground, but, no, they were
at recess.

Edgar (06:04):
The only reason why I imagined they would be doing
that, it's like, that wouldprobably be, like, a record on
that school's ground, and he

Erika (06:12):
probably doesn't want that. That's always the the case
is they don't wanna have, like,a bad reputation, and bad
reputation means less. You know.

Edgar (06:19):
Well, it's even worse reputation if you're, like,
you're known to sweep thingsunder the carpet.

Erika (06:23):
But they have no proof, and there's no charges. So it
doesn't matter if people talk.

Edgar (06:28):
Well, kids talk still. But yeah.

Erika (06:30):
Yeah. But it doesn't matter. It it would just affect
them if social media,everything, or there's charges
actual charges into theirproperty or, like, reputation.
That's when it actually matters.

Edgar (06:40):
I doubt it. Or

Erika (06:41):
well, yeah. There's no if there's no actual

Edgar (06:43):
I think of, like, when remember when you were growing
up, when you heard about theother schools in your, like, in
your surrounding towns? Did youhear about, like, the the other
school's reputation from, like,the principal or from, like, the
government? No. You heard itfrom, like, other kids that you
were friends with?

Erika (06:59):
Not really. I don't know. I guess it depends. Well, for
little kids let's say, forexample, if you're trying to get
into middle not middle school,like, kindergarten and all that.
Mhmm.
The parents has to be it's morein charge of them going into
that school. So they they arethe ones that get the
information, talk to people. Butonce you get older, then you

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make friends and you, you know,there's gossip and whatever. But
not little kids, like, inespecially in that age, what? Is
that still is that middleschool?
10 years old, 9 years old?

Edgar (07:29):
That's elementary.

Darielys (07:30):
That's elementary. That's elementary?

Erika (07:32):
Yeah. So, like, you know, I guess you could hear, you
know, kids talking, but I don'tknow. It's just different. I
think it's more adults in thattype of, like, range of kids.
Mhmm.
I don't know. Do you know whatI'm saying or no?

Edgar (07:46):
Yeah. I guess so.

Erika (07:47):
Yeah. Because as you get older, you're the one, you know,
like, which school you wanna goto, especially when you're in
high school.

Darielys (07:52):
Yeah. You decide.

Erika (07:53):
Yeah. But when you're little, your parents decide,
regardless of what people youknow, little kids are like, oh,
don't go to that school. I'mlike, yeah.

Darielys (07:59):
Yeah. That's why I'm not sure.

Edgar (07:59):
I wanna go to school. Like, they have a a bully. Yeah.
They kick you going to bed.

Erika (08:04):
Yeah. But at the

Edgar (08:05):
end of

Erika (08:05):
the day, it's your parents, you know, decision.

Edgar (08:08):
So, ultimately, it's OP the asshole for pressing charges
on this 10 year old.

Erika (08:12):
For wanting? Yeah. Absolutely not. He needs to.
Mhmm.

Edgar (08:15):
Yeah. Deserve it. That's Send them to juvie. It's a

Darielys (08:18):
head. Like, it's a Yeah. That's sensitive. And then
to brain damage. Imagine.

Edgar (08:23):
If you would die, like, pretty easily from, like It's

Darielys (08:25):
a 9 year old son of a baby.

Erika (08:27):
Yeah. No. And then also, like

Edgar (08:29):
Like, even yeah. Imagine your own child too. Like, if
your own child gets, like,injured like this.

Darielys (08:33):
No. That's somebody. You

Edgar (08:34):
get a one.

Erika (08:35):
Yeah. Somebody is going to jail. Somebody really is.
Somebody's gonna get something,but something's gonna happen.
Yeah.
The that's just crazy. And then,like, if he did that now, he's
probably done it before. It'sprobably not his first defense.
Mhmm. I guarantee you.
And it won't his last either. Soand something needs to be done.
But if he has brothers orsisters, I feel bad for them.

Edgar (08:54):
Yeah. In the long run, I think start, like, catching
something like like this andputting them to JOB, like, early
on. At least, like, you have,like, a record and, like,
hopefully, you can, like,reconcile that with them within
them.

Erika (09:07):
Like behaviors. Yeah. Okay. Yeah.

Edgar (09:08):
So it can, like, really at least, like, grow up to be a
little bit more, like,controlled and not, like, so
impulsive of their violence.But, yeah, we're gonna go to the
next story, which is titled MITasshole for losing my shit and
screaming at my girlfriend toget out of my house after what
her stepbrother did. Girlfriendwas over at my place 2 days ago.

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We're both 20. She has astepbrother who's 23.
Before this, I'd only met him afew times, and he seemed like a
regular dude. She asked if itwas okay for him to come over to
for a couple hours. I said, whynot? He said he would get booze
and pizza, and my parents wereaway visiting relatives for the
weekend. So I figured we canshoot the shit.

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I have a little sister who's 15.They came over, and she stayed
up in her room the entire time.We were all a bit tipsy, and my
girlfriend's stepbrother askedif we could use the washroom. I
pointed him to the one down thehall. My girlfriend and I were
preoccupied and didn't evenrealize how much time he was
taking until we heard a raisedvoice upstairs.

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We immediately went up to checkwhat was going on and found my
sister crying. Dude had gone upinstead of using the washroom.
My sister's door had been ajar,so he apparently walked into her
room. All details I managed towrangle for my crying sister, by
the way. And she was taken byshock and was trying to stay
calm, but he wasn't leaving.
He was trying to chat her up.She'd hold him to get the fuck

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off, and he closed the doorbehind him instead, which is why
she started freaking out. Shetried to get past him to open
the door, and he grabbed her,but she managed to open it
anyway. I'd reached the landingby then, so he backed off.
Obviously, I was super fuckingpissed.
There was a lot of screaminggoing on. Lots of accusations.

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We were all drunk except for mysister. After getting a story
from her, girlfriend'sstepbrother was stuttering and
deflecting. I'm pretty sure Ithreatened violence at some
point.
My girlfriend was trying to getit to be the mediator. She said
I had to calm down and couldn'tfly off the handle based off of
word-of-mouth. But I was there.I saw my sister crying in panic.

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I know what she's like, and Iknow she wouldn't lie about
something like this.
Why would she? I told herstepbrother to get out of my
house. My girlfriend kept sayingwe could sort this out and have
a proper conversation, but Ididn't see what conversation was
there to be had. Eventually, shesaid, what if my sister was
lying in front of my sister'sface? I asked her what on earth

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would make her think that, andshe said she's a kid and could
be making it up for attention.
Like the title said, I lost myshit. I told her to get the fuck
out, and afterwards, she keptcalling me, but I ignored
everything. The dust has settleda bit. I went over everything
again with my little sister. Shepromised me it had happened the
way she was telling me, and shetold me she was scared he was

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going to SA her.
My girlfriend texted me thismorning saying I shouldn't have
raised my voice like that, and Iscared her. I thought of
apologizing then, but she stillhadn't said a word about
apologizing to my sister oraddressing the issue with her
stepbrother. I only replied thatwe had to talk, and she said

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there's nothing to talk about.There's no hard proof in her
words, and the stepbrother endedup doing nothing. So she told me
she would deal with him and Iwould should drop it.
I don't know if I'm the assholefor the way I handled this.
Maybe if cooler heads prevailed,the silent treatment wouldn't
have happened, and we could havediscussed everything. I don't

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know what to do from now oneither. I love that girl. I
don't want us to be over, so Iwant some advice on where to go
from here too.
So, yeah, OP is in the ass over,like, how the way he handled
this. And I feel like, yeah,even though, like, the
stepbrother didn't do anything,he still, like it was, like,
implied that, like, if any noone came up, no one, like,

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helped the sister, like,something, like, terrible would
have happened.

Darielys (13:09):
So why would she lie about something like that?

Edgar (13:10):
Exactly.

Erika (13:11):
Like, you wouldn't lie about that.

Edgar (13:12):
And, like, it's also, like, pretty sus to you, like,
this, the stepbrother who's,like, 8 years older than, like
Yeah. She was, like,

Erika (13:19):
15. He was 20.

Edgar (13:20):
And somehow in the same room together, you know, when
he's, like, drunk.

Darielys (13:23):
Why was he even there?

Edgar (13:24):
My god. Like, like, even, like, circumstantially, like, he
shouldn't even be there.

Erika (13:28):
No. That's enough proof. That's literally the proof that
the brother wanted to dosomething and literally went
inside to her room when he wassupposed to.

Edgar (13:36):
Yeah.

Erika (13:36):
That's the proof. What proof does she else what else
does she want? Exactly.

Edgar (13:40):
I know. Yeah. I think that's just like, weird things
are just

Darielys (13:43):
If they were too busy to notice that he was gone for
that long, dude, they

Erika (13:47):
were you know?

Darielys (13:48):
Exactly. Yeah. Honestly, yeah,

Edgar (13:49):
they were distracted. But, honestly, I mean, I Obi Obi
is fine with being angry withthis entire situation. But
stepbrother, yeah, it'sdefinitely, like, sus behavior.
And then since the thegirlfriend yeah. The girlfriend,
like, I don't know why she's,like, protecting him at the
moment.
Like, obviously, like I I guesshe's scared about or she's,

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like, worried about him havingcharges pressed against him.
But, like, that's, like, theleast of his of her worries.

Erika (14:16):
Feel like this is not his first rodeo.

Edgar (14:19):
Probably not.

Erika (14:20):
I really don't think it's the first time he's done this,
and the sisters keep covering.The sister keeps covering it up.

Darielys (14:26):
Mhmm. She probably knows something. Yeah.

Erika (14:28):
So that's why she freaked out. She's like, oh, but you
have no proof. Like Yeah. Showthat.

Edgar (14:32):
That's like that's not a normal response.

Erika (14:34):
Exactly. She

Darielys (14:35):
would have been mad at him too. Like, why are you doing
that?

Erika (14:38):
The normal response. I would be pissed off with my
brother too if he did that.

Darielys (14:43):
She's 15. Oh my god.

Erika (14:44):
She's a little she's a baby.

Darielys (14:47):
And she was literally minding her own business.

Erika (14:48):
She wasn't doing anything.

Edgar (14:49):
I know. Yeah. She was

Darielys (14:50):
in her room.

Edgar (14:51):
Yeah. I was away from everything. I think everyone
there understood that, like,like like, the OP, the
girlfriend, and stepbrothershould have understood that
they're just gonna be just damndrinking and just, like,
chilling. Yeah.

Erika (15:03):
In away from his sister, like, nothing else. Yeah. He's
definitely in the wrong. Sowhat's her verdict?

Edgar (15:09):
Oh, you don't wanna read a comment?

Erika (15:11):
Oh, the comment? Okay. So the top comment is she said you
scared her by yelling, but heradult brother was drunkenly in a
15 year old girl's bedroom, andshe doesn't think the child was
scared. Peru. You need to breakup with this girl.
There is no conversation to behad. She saw him in your
sister's room. There is noexplanation needed for that,

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period. There's nothing he couldhave done in the situation that
would have been innocent.Exactly.
I agree with that. Not theasshole. You would be an asshole
if you stayed with this girl.You should be asking yourself if
she set this whole thing

Darielys (15:49):
up. That'd be even messy.

Edgar (15:51):
Oh my yeah. I didn't think about that. But, yeah,
that would have been even, like,worse. Like, what I don't know.
Yeah.
That was, like, a realpossibility.

Darielys (15:58):
That actually makes sense, though.

Edgar (16:00):
Like, how did I

Erika (16:00):
was thinking that when I was when he was reading it, I
when I read the story too.Because, like,

Darielys (16:04):
they were busy and they were

Edgar (16:07):
And then how did, god.

Darielys (16:09):
How did

Edgar (16:10):
a stepbrother know that he had a sister hiding away,
like, upstairs?

Erika (16:14):
Yeah. That's that's creepy.

Darielys (16:15):
And that girl kept him busy so he could no. It makes
sense.

Edgar (16:20):
How long have they been together?

Darielys (16:21):
Like, the

Edgar (16:22):
girlfriend and OP. That's, like, crucial,
information. But, yeah, that's,like,

Erika (16:26):
another insane.

Edgar (16:27):
Win against, like, the stepbrother and the girlfriend.

Erika (16:32):
And then also, like, what do you mean? Like and it only
happens if she sees it. Like,just because she didn't see
nothing happened. Like, really?I know.
Yeah. It's ridiculous. It makesno sense. I think he should
definitely break up with her.

Edgar (16:45):
Yeah. They're, like, enough circumstantial evidence
against him already. And, like,there's just too much such
things. What was that?

Erika (16:52):
Dave pointed out a comment. For sure. I'm sorry,
but your girlfriend is just astrashy as her pedal bro pedal
brother.

Edgar (16:59):
Pedal bro.

Darielys (17:00):
Please. Yeah.

Erika (17:02):
They they need to go.

Darielys (17:03):
Yeah. I feel

Edgar (17:04):
like it was

Darielys (17:04):
planned. That seems like I don't know.

Edgar (17:06):
I don't think it's planned, but it's, like, it's a
possibility. It's a realpossibility.

Darielys (17:10):
She, like, went along with it. Like, she didn't care.
Yeah.

Erika (17:13):
Like, I never said, like the first rodeo.

Darielys (17:14):
Mhmm. Yeah. Dude, that's just so gross. It is.

Edgar (17:18):
That's crazy. Yeah. Fairway the entire family. The
other family. No people.

Darielys (17:22):
Where were the parents?

Erika (17:23):
They're they're out. Oh, they were out? Yeah. They Oh,
okay. Yeah.
There was just them.

Edgar (17:28):
There's so much manipulation going on. Oh my
god. And the stepbrother musthave planned this because, like,
there's no way he he like,before he went to the house that
he didn't know.

Darielys (17:38):
Yeah. They had to know. There's no way.

Erika (17:39):
Yeah. And then especially with his girlfriend, imagine
that he knew. Like, there's noway. Yeah. He def they
definitely planned it.
I don't know. It feelssuspicious. Yeah.

Edgar (17:48):
So final verdict on the way that OP responded to the
entire situation?

Erika (17:52):
He was on the right. Honestly, I would've I would've
beat him up. If I was like, I'mgonna get the hell. I was so
you're not invited to yourhusband. Yeah.
Oh my god. Okay. So next storyis Emma the asshole for asking
my coworker to label his foodafter he kept eating mine and
accidentally making him sick. I,29 female, work in a office

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where we have shared kitchen. Ibring my lunch from home every
day.
For the for the past few months,I noticed my food would randomly
go missing. At first, I thoughtmaybe I forgot to pack it or
left it at home, but eventually,I realized someone was eating
it. After a little observation,I started to suspect one
coworker. Let's call him d. He'sin the mid thirties.

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He's always in the kitchenaround the time my lunch goes
missing, and I've been I've seenhim casually snack on things
that don't look like somethinghe'd bring. And then I want to
jump to conclusions, so Ibrought it up generally in the
office. I said something like,hey. Someone's been eating my
lunch. Can we please berespectful and not take other

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people's food?
Everyone just nodded along, butDee didn't say a word. Despite
this, my food kept disappearing.I tried leaving it with my name
and even hid it in the back ofthe fridge. It still went
missing. I was beyondfrustrated.
This week, I decided to bring insomething new Deac wouldn't

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like. I made spicy pasta dishwith extra chili. I love spicy
food, but I know it's not foreveryone. I also labeled it
labeled it clearly with veryspicy, so there would be no
confusion. Well, guess what?
My lunch disappeared again. Afew hours later, Dick started

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complaining about his stomachand how he wasn't feeling well.
He had to leave work early.Later, I found out from another
coworker that Dee admitted hetook my lunch, thinking I was
exaggerating about how spicy itwas.

Edgar (19:54):
Oh my gosh. What an idiot.

Erika (19:57):
Now a few coworker is saying I went too far by
bringing in somethingintentionally dangerous. Bro.

Edgar (20:04):
Yeah.

Erika (20:04):
This is frustrating. I know. But I never forced anyone
to take my food. He knew itwasn't his and he took it
anyway. I feel bad he got sick,but honestly, he should have
been stealing my lunch in thefirst place.
So, Reddit, am I the asshole forasking Dee to label his food
after repeatedly stealing Maifor bringing in a spicy dish
that made him sick?

Edgar (20:25):
No. No. He doesn't No way at all. Like, spicy food, like,
that's, like, not dangerous atall. If it was, like, poison,
maybe

Erika (20:32):
allergic or something. Yeah.

Edgar (20:34):
Allergies? I don't know.

Darielys (20:34):
Did he not read?

Edgar (20:36):
He said no. He read it. He said it can't be that spicy.
He thought, like, that OP wasjust, like, messing with it.

Darielys (20:41):
Is. They're so stupid.

Edgar (20:43):
I know. Do you not have your own food?

Erika (20:45):
Oh my god. I'm so frustrated with the coworker in
the book. All coworkers thatagreed with, saying that she
went overboard.

Darielys (20:52):
Excuse me. Is your

Erika (20:54):
you're like that because he's stealing your food.

Edgar (20:56):
Exactly. Maybe

Darielys (20:56):
they can bring him food instead.

Edgar (20:58):
They're like, we can't protect him. They're like, that
it was potentially dangerous,

Darielys (21:02):
but Girl, please.

Erika (21:04):
They're he's fine. You don't He just probably was in
the bathroom for a few hours.

Darielys (21:08):
But the fact that she hid it behind the fridge, and he
still managed to grab it iskinda he was digging. He was

Edgar (21:14):
like, where is it? And then

Erika (21:16):
why is

Darielys (21:16):
he going

Edgar (21:17):
after her food?

Erika (21:18):
I'm just like, She probably looks good, but damn.
Bring your own food. Bring yourown food. At least not her.
Though.
Yeah. That's not okay. Befriend

Edgar (21:28):
her first. Get have her cook food for you by being
friends or something like that.Or pay her. Yeah. That's who I
like.

Erika (21:34):
Pay her to make you food if you like it so much. Yeah.

Edgar (21:37):
Just be like, I really like your food, please.

Erika (21:39):
Yeah. Like, I'll pay you. Yeah. There you go. I'll buy it

Edgar (21:42):
every time.

Darielys (21:43):
He should just not bring food one day and see,
like, Adio, where's my food?

Erika (21:47):
He'll starve.

Darielys (21:48):
Yeah. He'll

Edgar (21:49):
he'll probably sell someone else's food, and then
it'll be a bigger problem.

Erika (21:52):
I know. Yeah. It's just unfair. That. Yeah.
So then she he could steal otherpeople's food, and then there
would be more than one personwho's doing it too.

Edgar (21:59):
Yeah. Because it's only if it's only one person that's,
like, getting, like, screwedover this in the office, like,
no one's gonna, like, really,like, bother with it. But if,
like, everyone else is havingthe same issue, they probably
would

Erika (22:09):
It was

Edgar (22:10):
one of the same issues. Yeah.

Darielys (22:11):
Yeah. Exactly. Money, though.

Erika (22:13):
The top comment on, like, it says, not the asshole, but
you should notify HR about this.And those coworkers tell them to
feel free to feed the afterthis. Your food your food, not
their problem. If they want tosupport thieves, go on, but not
you. 100%.
I love that comment.

Edgar (22:31):
Like I said, feed Dee themselves. Like like Dee is
like a a pet. D, the office pet.

Erika (22:37):
Well, clearly, he clearly

Edgar (22:38):
stealing food.

Darielys (22:39):
D, it's not me. I don't be stealing food.

Edgar (22:42):
I don't know.

Darielys (22:43):
Wait. Who whoever made d?

Erika (22:44):
Is it is that Chelsea? Hey. Hey. Hey.

Darielys (22:46):
We don't mention that here. What are you talking
about? Y'all didn't hear that.

Edgar (22:52):
That's recorded forever.

Darielys (22:53):
No. So Yeah. That's embarrassing. Oh my god.

Edgar (22:57):
So final verdict about Big D getting, what's it called
again? His her systemic Why didyou say

Darielys (23:04):
Big you're done.

Erika (23:07):
No. She should definitely go to or he or she should go to
the HR, and get sorted outbecause that's not okay.

Edgar (23:14):
Mhmm. Yeah. OP is in the right, and it's a she.

Erika (23:16):
Yeah. Oh, it's a she. I wouldn't

Darielys (23:17):
record him, but, like, put a camera in, like, the in
the staff lounge and be just,like, to have proof that he's
stealing it or something.

Edgar (23:25):
That's, like, some states where, like, doing that is
illegal however.

Erika (23:28):
Yeah. It depends where you live.

Edgar (23:29):
Yeah.

Darielys (23:30):
But food is food. What do you do? I'd be

Erika (23:32):
so mad because then I'll be hungry. Like, when am I gonna
eat? Or even, like, her. Like,you'd like, oh,

Darielys (23:37):
he takes his break at this turn and we just be, like,
in the corner, like, recordinghim. I do that. For proof? I do
that.

Erika (23:45):
I would maybe I like, if she has, like, it's the same
temple where she uses change itby new one and then play with
somebody else's name on it. Butit's so much work just for you
to bring food. Like, it's socrazy.

Edgar (23:58):
I say just next time, just put, like, rat poison in
there and just, like, finish itup.

Darielys (24:02):
You're so crazy.

Edgar (24:03):
Absolutely not. No.

Darielys (24:04):
Let's not do that.

Edgar (24:05):
It's a little bit spicy, guys, by the way.

Erika (24:08):
Yeah. Okay.

Darielys (24:09):
Please. He's gonna send to a hospital.

Edgar (24:11):
I know. That's not okay.

Erika (24:12):
Spicy food is not dangerous. That is.

Edgar (24:14):
Yeah. But spicy food is definitely not dangerous. Poor
bathroom.

Darielys (24:18):
That poor bathroom.

Edgar (24:19):
I know.

Erika (24:21):
It's called

Edgar (24:21):
a d.

Darielys (24:24):
Oh my god. No. Very good. Next story. Yeah.

Edgar (24:29):
The next story is titled, am I the asshole for threatening
legal action against my mom,brother, and future
sister-in-law for stealing theonly inheritance I have from my
grandmother. I've been receivingmessages nonstop from my
maternal family and my siblings,and ahead of me second guessing
if what I'm doing is going toofar. This past Christmas, I saw

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on social media that my brotherproposed to my future
sister-in-law, who we'll callAmy. I was initially happy for
them until I saw the ring, whichAmy posted photos of. I
immediately recognized it as mygrandmother's engagement ring
and phoned my mom to ask if shehad given my brother the ring as
a placeholder.

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She brushed me off, saying thatno, she gave him the ring on
purpose because I hate Christmasand Amy loves it. Context, I had
always been closer to myfraternal side of my family,
especially my grandma. Mygrandmother passed away last
year, and the only inheritance Igot is her engagement ring. I
was not meant to receive thisring until I'm 30. My

(25:34):
grandmother loved Christmas, andit showed in her engagement
ring.
It's an emerald cut diamond withtiny circle rubies and oval
emeralds to look like Holly.Also, I didn't always hate
Christmas. 2 years back, I lostmy boyfriend of 10 years, my
childhood bff, and my sororitysister in a car accident coming

(25:55):
home from a Christmas party thatwe all intended. I have been in
therapy struggling with somefibrous guilt, but am doing
better now. I told my mom thatthe ring technically was meant
to be mine and that she couldn'ttake it.
She told me that she had a boxof my grandmother's jewelry and
I could just pick up somethingelse. I was stewing away for a
few days before contacting mypaternal uncle, who is the

(26:17):
executor. He was furious andtold me that my mom had said she
was going to give me the ring asa Christmas gift. He then said
he could be in touch with alawyer if I wanted to press
charges. We'll we talked for abit before hanging up.
Under this information, I textedmy mom, brother, and future
sister-in-law saying that I hadbeen in touch with my uncle and

(26:40):
that I would press charges ifthe ring was not returned to
either me or my uncle. Mybrother tried to say he really
wanted to use the ring, butsince I hated Christmas, that I
didn't deserve it. Bro. I letthem text me using their threats
as future evidence. I told themthey had a week to return the
ring or I'd follow through withthe police.

(27:02):
Now my mother's side of thefamily, as well as my other
siblings, are hounding me. Theyall think I'm blowing things up.
I'm not. I know I'm not, butwith how everybody is acting, I
feel like I'm going crazy. Am Ithe asshole for threatening
legal action against my mom,brother, and sister-in-law for
stealing my only inheritance?

(27:24):
So, yeah, that story was prettymessed up in terms of, like
yeah. Like, she's a so survivorof a, like, a terrible car
accident. And then all her allher brother and, like, her that
side of the family can think ofis like, oh, she doesn't deserve
the ring anymore. She doesn'teven like Christmas anymore.
Like, this is, like, such aridiculous reason in very, like

(27:45):
What?
There's so many things

Darielys (27:46):
with her.

Erika (27:46):
It's so twisted, honestly.

Edgar (27:48):
Yeah. So I know. Yeah. It's, like, really messed up.

Erika (27:51):
Like, who cares if Amy loves it? It's not her ring.

Edgar (27:53):
Mhmm. Yeah.

Darielys (27:54):
Exactly.

Edgar (27:55):
If if anything, she's, like, talk to her first. Be
like, is this okay? Like, theythey just took it from her.

Darielys (28:00):
That's not fair. I'd be mad.

Edgar (28:02):
Mhmm.

Erika (28:03):
Yeah. I would file a report. I'll sue them.

Edgar (28:07):
Would you give them a week or would you not? No. No?
You just instantly?

Darielys (28:11):
On that day. Yes.

Edgar (28:12):
Absolutely. Even the sister-in-law?

Erika (28:16):
I don't know if the sister-in-law is in full for
this because he gave it to her.It's not like she asked for it.

Edgar (28:21):
Yeah. She probably didn't know anything. She probably saw
it. I was like, oh, it's cute.It's just like a kissing ring.
That's true.

Erika (28:25):
Yeah. So I don't think the sister-in-law has any well,
it depends how much she knows.But I know

Edgar (28:31):
if she knows that much. She probably knows after the
fact.

Erika (28:34):
Yeah. I mean yeah. Well, now she probably knows because
she's saying to give the ringback.

Edgar (28:38):
Mhmm.

Erika (28:39):
But, yeah, I I really think she should because it is
not right. And then the factthat they said that she does the
brother said he doesn't deservethe ring is so hurtful. Like

Edgar (28:47):
I know. Yeah.

Erika (28:48):
She's already tried to survive it with the, you know,
survivor's guilt, and then hecomes saying you don't deserve
it. Like, what what do you mean?That's so sad. It is really sad.
I mean, I could completelyunderstand why she hates
Christmas.

Darielys (29:02):
Oh my god.

Edgar (29:02):
Yeah. Oh, if he has a story that would make the Grinch
cry.

Erika (29:06):
Oh my god. Something else. So basically, the top
comment says what we just said.Not the asshole. That's your
ring.
Your mom, bro, and sister-in-lawhave no claim to it. Filed that
report. Mhmm. I still don'tunderstand about the
sister-in-law, though. We needit would we need a little bit
more information to really,like, say that she's also, like,
a part of it.

(29:27):
Because, I mean, she's she's notthe one that said I want that
ring and

Edgar (29:31):
Her ending is just, like, kind of just to put the pressure
on all of them, like, everyonewho is, like, involved even if
it's just, like, promos leavingthe ring. Because, like, if the
sister-in-law has, like, nostake in it, like, you just,
like, got a ring and found outit was stolen, then, she
probably would be more stressedout and wanna, like Yeah. Push
them towards, like, a a adecision fast as possible.

Erika (29:52):
Exactly.

Edgar (29:52):
Mhmm.

Erika (29:53):
So, yeah, I don't think she's asshole at all. Right? No.
No. File that.
The, lawsuit, girl. Get thatring back. Alright. So the next
story is Emma the asshole forcalling off my wedding after
discovering my fiance has asecret child. Oh.

(30:15):
I have been with my fiance,Hiszenberg.

Edgar (30:20):
Hiszenberg. You mean Heisenberg?

Erika (30:21):
I'm sorry. Heisenberg? Heisenberg?

Darielys (30:26):
What a name.

Edgar (30:27):
Eastover?

Erika (30:30):
Wait. Say it one more time.

Edgar (30:31):
Heisenberg. Okay.

Erika (30:33):
I don't like That's

Darielys (30:34):
like a name from Frozen.

Edgar (30:35):
It sounds like, have you watched Breaking Bad? Oh, yeah.
He's a Breaking Bad fan.

Darielys (30:39):
Yeah. Breaking yeah. It's right there. Mhmm. Makes
sense.
Yeah.

Erika (30:43):
So for 5 years, and we spent the whole 2024 planning
our wedding. Things wereperfect, or so I thought. After
the new year, while helping himclean out his office, I stumbled
upon a stack of old lettersaddressed to him. I was so
curious, so I opened them oneand discovered they were from a
woman claiming he was a fatherof her 7 year old son. At first,

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I thought it had to be amistake.
Come on. Like, when I confrontedhim, he admitted everything that
he'd had a brief relationshipwith this woman before we met,
and this and the child is his.He confessed that he's known
about his son for years, butchose not to tell me because he
didn't wanna complicate ourrelationship.

Darielys (31:28):
You don't believe me. Mhmm.

Erika (31:30):
I'm talking about lies. He also claimed he occasionally
provides financial support, buthas no active involvement in the
child's life. I was devastated.Not only did he keep such a
massive secret, but his lack ofinvolvement in his child's life
made me question his character.I couldn't stop imagining what

(31:52):
else he might be hiding.
Despite love him loving himdeeply, I decided to call off
the wedding. I feel betrayed andcan't imagine building a life
with someone who would keepsomething so significant for me.
He's begging me to reconsider,saying he's ready to be open
about everything and involve hischild in our lives. Still, I

(32:13):
can't shake the feeling that thetrust is broken beyond repair.
Am I the asshole for calling offthe wedding, or should I give
him another chance?
This one's complicated. I

Darielys (32:23):
Oh. God.

Edgar (32:24):
I understand why she called off the wedding, but,
also, I think this is, like, avery touchy subject anyway
because, like, I can understandwhy he didn't wanna, like, bring
up the child to her. But, Imean, he could've, like, said
something because it does, likeit it makes it complicated, the
relationship. But, if theirrelationship was strong enough,
I think they could've gonethrough it. But now he she has

(32:46):
to, like, face all of this,like, situation and this
complication, 7 years or howeverlong the child was with, was in
the picture

Erika (32:55):
How so long?

Edgar (32:55):
All at once.

Erika (32:56):
7 years, he never said anything.

Edgar (32:58):
Mhmm.

Erika (32:59):
And well, they were together for 5 years.

Edgar (33:01):
Yeah. And then also I mean, OP also makes some point.
Like, if, if his if her now exhusband or ex fiance, is able to
keep this part of his life asecret and, like, not take care
of a child, that's his for solong. Like, what does that say
about him going forward?

Erika (33:18):
I know. 100%. I think she's in the right I honestly
think because he still eventhough he didn't tell her, he
had a child is still lying toher because he didn't tell her.
Yeah. So he hid the truth, whichstill makes him a liar.

Edgar (33:36):
I mean, it's it's yeah. I understand both their, like,
point of views, but yeah. Ophirisn't an asshole for, like,
breaking up up the

Erika (33:42):
I think she did the right thing.

Edgar (33:43):
Yeah. Yeah. The right thing for her. I think he

Darielys (33:45):
was mad at the fact that he had a kid. It's just the
fact that he lied to her.

Erika (33:49):
Exactly. Yeah.

Edgar (33:49):
I think it more than that.

Erika (33:50):
You didn't say it.

Edgar (33:52):
And, like, how how, like, he treated the child, I guess.

Erika (33:54):
Yeah. Like, how can he be a parent and not be a part of
the child's life?

Edgar (33:57):
Yeah. I mean, he could have been, like, been open with
this about this from thebeginning and be like, hey. I do
have a child. Like, there's alot of people who are like the
single mothers or singlefathers. You know?

Darielys (34:07):
Mhmm. I would say that in the beginning. Because, like,
what?

Edgar (34:10):
Yeah.

Erika (34:11):
That's such a big like, such a huge news about you.
Like, that that literally speaksvolumes of you. And you're gonna
just not say it. That's crazy. Iwas telling Edgar, would you
break up with me if I had asecret child?
And he said, yeah.

Edgar (34:26):
That's not my

Darielys (34:28):
child. Edgar. Oh my god. He's probably embarrassed
to tell her.

Erika (34:33):
Yeah. I

Darielys (34:34):
guess. Because I'm embarrassed. Well, why would he
not tell her?

Erika (34:38):
Yeah. Like, yeah. I mean

Darielys (34:39):
Like, if he would if he didn't care, he would tell
her. He's like, no.

Edgar (34:42):
Wait. When does this happen though? Like, how long
were they dating?

Erika (34:44):
5 years. 5. Yeah.

Edgar (34:46):
Oh, okay.

Darielys (34:46):
Okay. So the kid was already, like, 2.

Edgar (34:49):
I see. I see. So

Darielys (34:49):
I'd probably like, oh, let me not tell her to, like,
you know, to make her not, like,go away or something or scare
her or I don't

Erika (34:55):
know. I mean, I don't know. That's sad.

Edgar (34:57):
I feel like most parents, though, like, parents that are
dating again after, like, theirrelationship, like, they usually
are pretty upfront. Or at leastthe good ones are upfront about,
like, oh, I have a child, by theway. The good ones. Yeah.

Darielys (35:07):
Exactly. Girl.

Erika (35:08):
He's not a good one.

Edgar (35:09):
Yeah. Sorry. Yeah.

Erika (35:10):
Bye. Say bye, girl.

Edgar (35:11):
Mhmm. Like, again, yeah. I I think he was more he didn't
handle this situation, like,properly. I think I think No.
Like, in his, like, anxiety or,like, in his desperation or,
like, anything, he just didn'twanna, like, be upfront, which,
like Yeah.
I see. Ended up wasting both ofthe times.

Erika (35:25):
Exactly. And I think that her finding that letter is a
godsend because imagine herbeing already married to him and
then

Edgar (35:33):
And even worse, like, pregnant by him.

Erika (35:35):
Exactly. And if I get out that he has a stepbrother, oh my
god. That would actually beworse. Mhmm. It

Darielys (35:40):
just kept getting messier.

Erika (35:41):
Yeah. So I think that her finding that letter was, like,
the best thing that could'vehappened to her.

Edgar (35:47):
Mhmm. Yeah. Definitely saved her, like, a lot of, like,
heartbreak and issues, andshe's, like, a lot of, like,
just things that make your lifevery, like, hard.

Erika (35:55):
Yeah. So I honestly think that she should count her
blessings. It is

Edgar (36:00):
that situation though because, like, they've been
together for, like,

Erika (36:02):
years or so.

Darielys (36:03):
Long time.

Erika (36:04):
That is a long time.

Edgar (36:05):
Mhmm.

Erika (36:05):
A long, long time. Yeah. The top comment is you're not an
asshole. Discovering a secretchild is a huge deal, and it's
okay to prioritize your need forhonesty and trust in a
relationship. Mhmm.
Exactly. And then Obi actuallyresponded to that. Said I have I
have been cheated in the past,so rebuilding my trust to him is
quite difficult for me. Oh mygod. Yeah.

(36:27):
That really sucks.

Edgar (36:28):
I mean, then I guess he she kinda implied that she would
be kinda willing to rebuild hertrust with him. But, I mean,
that's gonna take forever. Like,I mean, calling out the wedding
is one thing. Like, yeah, it's,like, something she should do.
But, like, you you guys believeshe should, like, keep dating
him with this information andjust, like, try to see if, like,
they can salvage anything.

(36:49):
Because, like, they've beentogether for 5 years, and they
seem to be to have been happyenough.

Erika (36:54):
I don't know. I think if somebody lies to me like that, I
don't think I would wanna bewith them just because it would
be extremely hard for me totrust the person again,
regardless of how made how hardhe tries. I think I'll still in
the back of my mind, I'd belike, but he hid this from me.
What else he's hiding?

Darielys (37:11):
Exactly. Yeah. I do the same thing. I'd be, like,
overthinking every little thing.Be like, wait.
Is he hiding something else? Ishe lying? Is he, like, not
telling me that

Erika (37:18):
he's coming in? Hello. And plus, if a relationship
starts in the lies and andmistrust, it's not going
anywhere. It's gonna stay likethat, and it's gonna end that
way too. So Yeah.
I'd rather not go into arelationship like that and just,
like, be like, bye. I'd ratherstart with somebody new that
doesn't lie to me. Yeah. The onethat actually deserves me and
then being with somebody justbecause you've been them for so

(37:40):
long. Like, you have to knowyour worth.
And I'm glad she broke up thewedding.

Edgar (37:46):
Mhmm. So final critique on the last story.

Erika (37:49):
Oh.

Edgar (37:50):
So if he what do we feel about her, calling off to
wedding because of the

Darielys (37:55):
She did the right thing.

Erika (37:57):
100%. She did the right thing.

Edgar (37:59):
Yeah. Agreed. So, the next story is titled, anybody
asked for telling my parents Iwon't pay for their retirement
after they paid for my brother'swedding. I, 29 male, have always
been responsible with my money,while my brother, 32 male, has
not. A few years ago, he gotmarried, and my parents spent

(38:20):
nearly all their savings payingfor his extravagant wedding.
Now they're nearing retirementand have asked me to help
support them financially becausethey don't have enough saved. I
told them I wasn't willing tohelp because they chose to
prioritize my brother's weddingover their future. They argued
that I don't understand becauseI'm single and don't have major

(38:40):
expenses like a family. I toldthem their choices aren't my
responsibility and they calledme selfish. My brother thinks
I'm being cruel and says I'mpunishing our parents for
favoring him.
I feel bad for saying no, but Ialso don't think it's fair for
me to bear the burden of theirbad financial decisions. You
know what the asshole?

Erika (39:00):
My god. That's so frustrating. I hate all the
family.

Darielys (39:03):
I know.

Edgar (39:04):
Yeah. I

Erika (39:05):
mean I dislike all the family right now.

Edgar (39:07):
There shouldn't be like a like a requirement to, like,
support your parentsfinancially, but, like, it's
like something that's nice to doif you guys are able to. But,
like, this, like She

Erika (39:18):
has no risk, like, what is it? She doesn't have to do
it. Yeah.

Edgar (39:25):
Like, if it's nice to do boys. Yeah.

Darielys (39:28):
That's their parents' fault. Why did they spend all
their money knowing they'regonna go broke?

Edgar (39:32):
Yeah. Now they have no money for, like, retirement?

Darielys (39:34):
That's their fault.

Edgar (39:35):
Like and, obviously, like, the brother, since he's,
like, not good with money orwhatever, like, he doesn't
deserve a shopping in writing.Go, like, if he can't pay for
it, then, yeah, he doesn't hecan't even afford it. So, like,
why bring the rest of hisfamily, like, now in this case,
his parents down for, like, hisdecision?

Darielys (39:51):
Just because he's single, he has to help? Hell,
no.

Edgar (39:55):
No. He should he should enjoy his freedom. He should
enjoy his, like, financial

Erika (39:59):
stability. Yeah. No. I and, plus, he said that he's
financially, you know,responsible. Mhmm.
But his brother has never beenthat way. Mhmm. So he relies on
his parents and the fact thathis parents know that he's not
responsible. Why are you wastingso much money on his wedding?
And then expecting your otherchild that is responsible pay
for the consequences of that.

Darielys (40:20):
Yeah. That makes no sense.

Erika (40:22):
Yeah. And then I just this is ridiculous. And,
supposedly, the brother waslike, oh, you're punishing them.
Like, really?

Edgar (40:30):
And the brother's a dick.

Erika (40:33):
Yeah. He yeah. They they're all assholes. Mhmm.

Edgar (40:39):
Yeah. The hopefully, definitely shouldn't be No.

Erika (40:41):
He shouldn't feel guilty at all.

Edgar (40:43):
Or guilty. He shouldn't be feeling guilty.

Erika (40:44):
I feel so I feel bad, but then I'm like, yeah. That's not
her respond his responsibilityregardless anyways.

Edgar (40:51):
Mhmm.

Darielys (40:52):
So, like, it's like your parents. Like, obviously,
you wanna help them. But, like

Edgar (40:55):
If they call something, that makes, like, their lives
much harder. That they know theyshouldn't have done then. Yeah.
It's, like, a little bit harderto, like, justify Mhmm. Wanting
to help them.

Erika (41:03):
I feel like it's sad. I feel like I would help them, but
I wouldn't give them the exactlike, like, the whole money that
I would have given them if theyhaven't spent it irresponsibly.
You know what I mean?

Edgar (41:14):
Yeah. Yeah.

Erika (41:14):
Because I don't want them to be struggling either because
they're still my parents. Mhmm.Like, I know, but a lot of
people be like, oh, forget it.Just don't give them money. I
just I can't.
My my heart I just can't.

Edgar (41:24):
Yeah. I think yeah.

Erika (41:25):
So support them. Still my parents. Mhmm. So the top
comment is not the asshole.Their poor financial decisions
are not your problems orresponsibility.
Why aren't they asking yourbrother to pay? Here's the
reason why they didn't havetheir retirement. They funded
your brother's wedding thinkingyou would take care of them.
Wrong. Don't be guilty orbullied into picking up the

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slack in their retirement.
Yeah.

Edgar (41:53):
Yeah. And then their brother should be the one, like,
who has to pay them back orYeah. But he doesn't have money.

Erika (41:58):
He has the money. He's not responsible. He'd be like, I
don't have the money right now.

Edgar (42:02):
Am I gonna get married to someone who, who can't afford
his own wedding?

Erika (42:08):
That's great. Well, in some cultures, I know that the
parents of, like, the theparents of the husband pays or
of the bride pays for thewedding

Edgar (42:18):
Mhmm.

Erika (42:18):
In some cultures. But, I mean, I I don't know. It
depends. Yeah.

Edgar (42:22):
So final verdict. Sophie, is he in the right or wrong for
not wanting to pay for hisparents' retirement?

Erika (42:30):
He's in

Darielys (42:30):
the right. He's in the right.

Edgar (42:31):
Yeah. So the next story is titled, am I the asshole for
reporting an ER doctor foroffering me $10,000 not to
terminate my pregnancy? I hadalready planned on having an
abortion, but before I couldeven take the pills, I started
bleeding naturally. I went tothe ER to be sure I was okay,

(42:52):
and I was. And when asked whatlocal OBGYN I wanted to be
referred to, I told the doctorthat I didn't need a referral.
She asked me why, and I told herthat I wasn't continuing the
pregnancy. The doctor looked atme and said, what if I gave you
$10,000 and you gave the baby tome? She chuckled after she saw

(43:13):
my face drop, and I said, sure.Find a way to transplant this
fetus into your uterus and growit yourself then it's all yours.
More awful laughter.
Should I repur should I reporther? LOL. I'm imagining her
saying that to someone youngerand less strong willed than me,
and it just seems so wildlyinappropriate. Yeah. It's like a

(43:34):
it's a weird ask to have a newdoctor.
I mean, it's like a doc it'slike none of the doctor's
business. And, like, I like toimagine that this was like a
joke at the at the very like,most that this was a joke, but I
feel like there's there's sometruth to the doctor being
serious about, about adoptingthis this, pregnant lady's baby

(43:55):
for $10,000.

Darielys (43:56):
$10,000 isn't enough. Mhmm. Well how much a baby cost?

Edgar (44:00):
It is a lot. Like, I don't know exactly, like,
numbers, but, yeah, it does costa lot kinda

Erika (44:04):
weird.

Edgar (44:05):
To have the baby, like, labored through and No.

Erika (44:08):
No. No. No. No. Let me adopt what?
Mhmm.

Darielys (44:11):
That's that's

Erika (44:12):
I don't know. I don't know.

Darielys (44:13):
That's weird.

Erika (44:13):
I don't know what how to how to feel about it. I don't
know if she was a 100% joking.Mhmm. But even if you're joking,
as a doctor, you have certain,you know, what guidelines, but

Edgar (44:25):
You have to be, like yeah. As a doctor, especially

Darielys (44:27):
Morals?

Edgar (44:27):
Morals? You have, like, a certain level of
professionalism. Yeah. Because,like, this this situation
caused, like, awkwardness foreverybody in, like, I don't
know.

Erika (44:35):
And it's not funny. Like, how are you gonna yeah.

Edgar (44:37):
What did I say?

Darielys (44:38):
It was kind of funny.

Edgar (44:39):
What?

Darielys (44:40):
What she said.

Edgar (44:41):
Mhmm.

Darielys (44:42):
Oh, like, wait. What?

Erika (44:43):
I would be weird. I would be, like, con I would be scared.

Edgar (44:47):
You'd be scared?

Erika (44:48):
Yeah. Because why is she asking me to buy my baby off me?
Like, it's just weird.

Edgar (44:52):
I don't know. Like, does he like my jeans or something?
Like, I don't know.

Erika (44:55):
I know. I know. And then, like, give you I think I was
reading something that peoplewere saying that, you know,
doctors have usually have rings,like, for black market, like,
for kids and stuff. I'm like,what? Doctors are the ones that
usually run those.

Edgar (45:08):
I've heard about those because I've never, like, dug
deep into those kinda seriously.

Erika (45:12):
I heard those too, but, yeah, same. It's scary. Like,
you really don't know.

Edgar (45:16):
Mhmm. Yeah. Definitely report her just because, like,
you you need to know, like, ifthis was a joke or, like, what
what's going on actually? Like

Erika (45:23):
But then if you really think about it, what if you
report her and it was just ajoke? But it was like a like a
dark humor joke.

Edgar (45:29):
Well, I imagine, like, the board will will will settle
this, and then they'll be like,okay. It was a joke. Like, a bad
joke. Just don't do it again.You know?

Darielys (45:36):
The onboard laughing is kinda weird. Yeah. Mhmm. It
was creepy. I know.

Erika (45:44):
Okay. So the top comment is, I'm imagining her saying
that's someone younger and lessstrong willed than me, and it
just seems so wildlyinappropriate. Incredibly
inappropriate. Yes. I'll reporther, not the asshole.
Mhmm.

Darielys (46:01):
Yeah. Like

Edgar (46:02):
Yeah. Especially that like, that's a, like, a really
strong point for OP that, like,if the doctor said this to
someone, like, younger than whenthey needed the money, then,
yeah, it it would have been,like, something that would be
more seriously taken as anoffer.

Erika (46:18):
Mhmm. Yeah. So I don't think she's an asshole. No.

Edgar (46:21):
Yeah. Hopefully, yeah. Hope he's an asshole.

Erika (46:24):
Alright. So the last story is Emma the asshole for
reconsidering my relationshipbecause my partner left their
eggs at the altar. So my partnerand I have been together for a
while, and while we are notofficially engaged yet, we both
agreed that we would want to getmarried eventually. Now now I

(46:45):
was aware they were engagedbefore, but I never really asked
for details. I recently foundout we were when we were out
with our family.
It was pretty big get together,and I overheard some someone
talk about me and my partner. Iheard something along the lines,
I really like my name.Hopefully, my partner doesn't
have been in this one. I didn'tsay anything at the time, but

(47:08):
when we got back home, I talkedto my partner about this. They
got a pretty shocked look.
They tried to play it off, but Ipressed on. Eventually, they
admitted they abandoned their exat the altar. I asked why, and
they said it was just panic.They didn't realize just how
heavy marriage can be and bailedout. I asked them if they regret

(47:30):
it, and they said, I didn'twanna hurt them, but it was
something I needed to do.
And, obviously, we talk aboutour future. My partner insists
that they'll never do that tome, but I don't know. I can't
believe them. My view on this isthat living someone at the altar
might be one of the worst thingsto do to someone. The sheer hurt

(47:52):
and humiliation on front of yourfriends and family.
And, also, it wasn't that longago. Our relationship is a year
old, and this happened about 3years ago. And I

Edgar (48:04):
don't know.

Erika (48:04):
I told him I need some time to think about all of this,
partially why I posted on here.So what do you think? What
advice would you give her? Idon't know. It's high.
I

Edgar (48:13):
wouldn't even

Darielys (48:14):
know what to say.

Edgar (48:16):
I feel like being left at the altar is, like, it's not not
not uncommon. Waiting. It's likeI say it's like I would imagine
it's rare, but it's, like,never, like, an an something
that won't happen. So it's,like, something you just have
to, like, you think behind inthe back of your head or, like,
you have to, like, trust theother person you're in a
relationship with to not leaveyou at the altar.

Darielys (48:37):
That's so scary.

Edgar (48:38):
Like, it's like it's like a another thing you have to
think about when and during thatday. But, so I like, already at
this moment, I imagine OPdoesn't trust, his fiancee or
her fiance because he's alreadyhaving all these questions and
stuff.

Darielys (48:51):
I have a new fear unlocked.

Edgar (48:53):
A new fear unlocked.

Darielys (48:54):
Getting more of that. That's so That's

Edgar (48:56):
so embarrassing.

Darielys (48:57):
No. I would hate that. Can you

Edgar (48:58):
imagine everyone's like, what happened? He's like, the
the husband loved.

Darielys (49:01):
I wouldn't even wanna talk to anybody that's there.
I'll be like, okay. I'm done.

Edgar (49:04):
You just leave in the back?

Darielys (49:05):
Yes. I would literally just leave because why would I
wanna stay there and be like,every it's okay. It's okay.
Girl, no. It's not okay.
You weren't the one that wasjust left there

Edgar (49:13):
at the altar. I know. What do you

Darielys (49:15):
even say to your family? Right? Like, dude, no.
I'm literally walking away.

Edgar (49:17):
I'm leaving. How how many weeks until you talk to your
parents again?

Darielys (49:20):
I don't even know. I wouldn't even wanna look at
everybody that's was there.That's so embarrassing because,
like, he's

Erika (49:27):
like, oh my god.

Darielys (49:27):
And I know if you're gonna start talking because he
was like, oh my god. Gosh.

Edgar (49:32):
I don't think like like all the juicy terrors are gonna
be told about you.

Erika (49:34):
Yeah. No. No.

Darielys (49:37):
Like, yeah.

Erika (49:37):
No. It's I I

Edgar (49:38):
Because that's your reputation now, like, within the
family and within the community.

Erika (49:42):
Yeah. I I really think it takes a special kind of person
to do that because, honestly,like, there has to be doubts you
had since the beginning of theengagement and the process of
the of getting married. Thatthat means the catering, the
picking of the dress, the suits,the the who sits everywhere.
Like, this is such a longprocess, and you didn't say

(50:05):
anything. You couldn't say, hey,I have doubts, or maybe we
shouldn't book it yet, or weshouldn't book the venue, or we
shouldn't get a priest.
Like, you there's so he had somany chances to say, hey, let's
not go with this, or let's notgo through it. But he waited for
the, for the actual wedding dayand left her there in the altar.

(50:26):
That's just messed up.

Darielys (50:28):
And the relationship is kinda new.

Edgar (50:30):
Yeah. 1

Darielys (50:31):
It's just a year old.

Edgar (50:32):
Yeah. Yeah. They shouldn't be married.

Darielys (50:33):
Like, it's, like, kinda kinda too early to be
thinking, like,

Erika (50:36):
oh, we should get married. Well You barely know

Darielys (50:38):
I don't know. I feel like that's too soon.

Edgar (50:41):
Yeah. Yeah. I mean, people mature, but, there's,
like, another thing you have to,like, trust.

Erika (50:45):
It was 3 years ago. That's not even that long ago
either. Like Oh,

Edgar (50:48):
that happens in 3, 4 years.

Erika (50:50):
I don't know. But yeah. Yeah. And I think

Edgar (50:53):
it's I think it's up to you. So, yeah, what advice would
you give to this person?

Erika (50:56):
This one's hard because

Darielys (50:58):
I wouldn't even know.

Erika (50:59):
I would just say

Edgar (51:01):
I feel like they're already, like, like, this is
already, like, a crack in arelationship. And, like, I feel
like OP is, like, not fullyspiraling, but she's, like, very
like, she has, like, strongdoubts now. And, like, that's,
like doesn't they always feelblame her? Yeah. I

Erika (51:14):
don't blame her.

Edgar (51:14):
How would

Erika (51:14):
you feel if I said that I almost got married and then
walked out the day of mywedding? Yeah.

Darielys (51:19):
Because you're gonna think that she's gonna walk on
on you. Yeah. That's what Iwould think. Like, if if that
happened, be like, oh my god.They're gonna walk out.

Erika (51:27):
Girls or women are a little bit different view. Like,
he said he doesn't care.

Darielys (51:31):
I would I would But because

Edgar (51:32):
I imagine. Yeah, I wouldn't care.

Erika (51:35):
Yeah. But, like, imagine like, for us, it's more I don't
know. Because we are moreemotional. It's such a

Darielys (51:39):
big like, a big moment.

Erika (51:41):
Yeah. Like I yeah. I I really think that she should
just really get to know themmore if she still wants to
continue being in therelationship, or she should just
end it. Because if she feels shecan't trust it or because that
type of person did that, if shefeels afraid that if she's gonna
be, you know, be done the same,then she shouldn't be with them

(52:01):
at all or be the person at all.Mhmm.
Because, I mean, part of thebeing with somebody is being be
able to trust them. If she can'ttrust them, then she gotta go.

Darielys (52:09):
Yeah. She's gonna be mad paranoid even if they, like,
stay together and everything andthey go through with, like, the
wedding. On the wedding day,she's gonna be mad paranoid.
Yeah. Like, just knowing that,oh my god.
He can walk out on me, like, anysecond.

Erika (52:21):
Mhmm. Yeah. I think she's just I don't know. It she's
just, like, really think itthrough if it's worth it.

Edgar (52:28):
Yeah. I think I'm trending towards her just, like,
breaking up because, like, ifshe's already making a whole
post about it, she's, like,she's already, like, half the
halfway out the door.

Darielys (52:36):
Yeah. She's thinking about it. Mhmm. Or just don't
even have, like, a whole weddingwhen it's, like, everybody
there. Just do it privately.
Yes.

Edgar (52:42):
You know what I mean?

Darielys (52:43):
Exactly. Because, like

Edgar (52:45):
because you ain't gonna you ain't gonna ruin another
wedding. No. If you're on text

Darielys (52:49):
out out of the court, it's just you and him and the
person will.

Edgar (52:52):
And the judge, and they're like You don't

Erika (52:54):
know. You don't

Edgar (52:54):
know. It's

Erika (52:55):
not like

Darielys (52:55):
your whole family and friends are gonna be watching
you. That's more humiliatingthan anything. Yeah. That's so
embarrassing.

Edgar (53:01):
I know. That is how your picture is. I never thought
about it, like, being left atthe, like, the altar like that.
Like, you know, like, all yourfamily, maybe a few friends. Oh
my god.
That's so scary. See that happento you?

Erika (53:11):
Like, it's happened

Darielys (53:12):
to you. Happening. You, like, booking everything,
like you make plans, you bookthe place, this and that.

Edgar (53:18):
It's like at least a $1,000. Out. Yeah.

Darielys (53:20):
Oh, I'd be mad. I'd be so mad.

Edgar (53:23):
I know. Dave's gonna be purple.

Darielys (53:25):
Oh, I'm a be red. I'm a be Not purple. I'm a go chase
him. I'm like, where are yougoing?

Edgar (53:30):
And I she's like, I'm already in Puerto Rico. I'm
going

Darielys (53:35):
to He's on a plane, baby. Yeah.

Erika (53:38):
Dude, I'm

Edgar (53:39):
And then you hear and then you hear a woman's laughter
in the back. Right?

Darielys (53:46):
Oh my god.

Erika (53:47):
No. That's that's scary.

Darielys (53:48):
I'm gonna be inside it's gonna come out. Yeah. Yeah.
Oh my god. I'm gonna go off.

Erika (53:54):
That's scary. Crazy. I didn't even yeah. I never
thought about that. But No.

Edgar (53:59):
Yeah. Yeah. That's, like, such a horrible situation.

Erika (54:01):
Scary. Yeah.

Edgar (54:02):
Mhmm. I

Erika (54:02):
don't know. I would definitely look at the person.
Like, for example, let's say Ihad a a friend, and they became
my best friend. And then I findout that she left her her ex
husband or ex boyfriend fiancein the altar. I would look at
her differently.

Edgar (54:17):
Really? Would you? Why?

Erika (54:18):
Yeah. Because Like, how dare you? Like, no. It's just
like it's the character. Like,if she had the guts and and the
way to just do that, unless shehas, like, a really, really good
reason, like, he cheated orsomething, and she found out the
same day or whatever.
Something

Darielys (54:32):
crazy.

Erika (54:32):
Drastic, then I'll be like, okay. I get it. But, like,
if she did it just because shejust changed her mind of bearing
him, that just shows, like, sucha red flag in character wise.

Darielys (54:42):
And on that day Yeah.

Erika (54:44):
Like, you had so many chances, like, before that.

Edgar (54:46):
Wait. He left on the altar? Like, that's the end of
the relationship. Right?

Darielys (54:49):
Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. Oh my god. Dead. He's gone.

Edgar (54:53):
He's gone.

Darielys (54:54):
I wanna see him. Yes. He's

Erika (54:55):
blocked. Everything. He's blacklisted.

Edgar (54:59):
Everything. He's gone for your life?

Erika (55:01):
Yeah. Yeah. Who is he? What's his name? What?

Edgar (55:03):
The past 10 years didn't happen. You're 10 years younger
than me.

Darielys (55:07):
If that ever happens to me, like, the first time and,
like, let's say, I meet somebodyafter, I'm a be paranoid still.
Mhmm. Because I'm like, oh mygod. What if this person also
walks out of art?

Edgar (55:16):
Or if

Darielys (55:17):
they change their mind or something? You know, anything
could happen. So it's, like,kinda scary. Oh my god.

Edgar (55:21):
I feel like this one's a psychological harm.

Erika (55:23):
Yeah. Yeah. You need time to heal. So I think, especially
with something, like, traumaticas this, you need time to heal
and be by yourself and, youknow, find yourself again and
and try to trust yourself try totrust yourself in somebody else
again. You can't just go afterthat, go to a relationship right
after because it's not gonnawork out.
Yeah.

Edgar (55:41):
I remember reading online, after, like, a
relationship, you it takes youabout half the time of that
relationship to get over it. Soif you were with someone for 1
year, it take it would take you6 months to get over it.

Darielys (55:54):
That's crazy.

Edgar (55:55):
So imagine, like, you're with someone for 10 years. It's
gonna be, like, 5 years beforeyou're over it. Yeah. Because 10
years is a lot. I know.
I got

Darielys (56:00):
a lot.

Edgar (56:01):
And I gotta

Darielys (56:01):
memories of everything.

Erika (56:02):
Much ting you're tangled so much with that person. And so
detangling is gonna be extremelyhard and hurtful.

Edgar (56:08):
Yeah. I know.

Erika (56:09):
You need those 5 years.

Edgar (56:11):
Yeah. 5 years to just do your own thing.

Erika (56:14):
Yeah. That's hard. Because you get used to that
person. Like Mhmm.

Darielys (56:17):
They got It's the worst.

Erika (56:18):
Yeah. No. And then you you know what they like. You you
know you this way a certain wayand, like Mhmm. Yeah.
It's

Darielys (56:25):
sad. Mad, but, like, sad at the same time.

Erika (56:27):
Yeah. It's really, really sad. I I don't know. I it's
hard. I think she's just, youknow, follow what her gut says
and then just let it, you know,let it go from there.

Edgar (56:38):
Yeah. But how would you guys wanna be treated? Like, how
how what would calm you downafter that if this would happen
to you guys?

Erika (56:47):
He, he went to earn my trust.

Edgar (56:49):
No. Not, like, in like, from the from the person. Like,
if you were left in the altar,what would you want your family
or your friends to do?

Darielys (56:56):
Leave me alone.

Edgar (56:57):
Just leave you alone?

Erika (56:58):
I would need some comfort. Like, I just would
wanna hug or, like, comfort. Andthen Yeah. I would just, like
then I'll be like, alright. Ineed some time to Yeah.
For myself to, like, you know,get better and just I'd be

Darielys (57:10):
like, Erica, where are we going? Yes. Yeah.

Edgar (57:13):
Erica, let's go to South Korea.

Darielys (57:15):
South Korea. Yeah.

Erika (57:16):
And then, again, it's just I would need time for
myself and just be with 1person, you know, just, like,
support or something.

Darielys (57:22):
Yeah. Mhmm.

Erika (57:22):
But I wouldn't want to be, like, you know, wouldn't
want anybody coming to me. Like,all my family and friends would
be like, oh, are you okay? Areyou okay?

Edgar (57:30):
Like, all at once. Yeah.

Erika (57:31):
That's so suffocating. I know. Mhmm.

Edgar (57:33):
Like,

Darielys (57:34):
go away, please. I just want peace by myself.

Erika (57:37):
Yeah. You think you you should be able to leave that
person alone for them to processtheir grief because you
literally lost somebody thatday. Yeah. Like, it's crazy
because you lost a life, andthen you lost what you thought
would be after that, you know,after getting married, like,
your future, basically. You losteverything.

(57:57):
So That's

Darielys (57:58):
tough. Yeah. No. Mhmm. Yeah.
I feel like I would never getover that. It'll take me a
while, yo. Yeah. Yeah.

Edgar (58:04):
She's gonna go

Darielys (58:04):
to And then my trust is gonna be gone, like,
literally gone.

Edgar (58:06):
Mhmm. Yeah. It's a yeah. It's a a very deep, like, cut to
get. Mhmm.

Erika (58:13):
Yeah. I

Edgar (58:14):
agree. Which is very unfortunate for, I guess, OP
OP's ex fiancee's, I guess,fiance. The ex fiance's ex
fiance. I because, like, OP OP,none of this happened to her
yet. No.
Right now, she just has thisthis guy that he that she knows,
he left someone at the altarbefore.

Darielys (58:35):
I've had the same reaction that if I were her.
Mhmm. I'd be paranoid

Edgar (58:38):
Yeah.

Darielys (58:39):
The whole time. I'd be like, oh my god. Oh my god.

Erika (58:41):
And then the response for them saying, I didn't want to
hurt them, but it was somethingI needed to do. That that's what
they said that they left them inthe altar. Like, what do you
mean?

Darielys (58:51):
That's But

Edgar (58:51):
it's, like, more of an immature response. Yeah. Yeah.
So, hopefully, he matured in the3 years, but, I mean, hopefully,
more than anyone probably knowshow mature he is at this point
or has had an idea.

Erika (59:03):
She no. I'm sorry. You can't know some something about
a person for a year. Like, Icannot say I knew you for a
year. Like, I knew what how youwere afraid.
There's no way. I know you it'sbeen 5 years like basically
almost 5 years and I can say Iknow you better now but 1 year
people can hide so much and theycan oh my god no I think she

(59:27):
needs to do a lot of, like, soulsearching.

Darielys (59:32):
Yeah. That's so true. Mhmm.

Erika (59:34):
Yeah. I agree with that. Okay. And then the top comment
is not the asshole. That's amajor red flag for real.
Can't blame you for beingcautious, getting left in the
altar. Take your time. You gottamake sure it's legit before you
fully commit. Trust is earned. Ithink that's really

Edgar (59:49):
good. Yeah.

Erika (59:50):
He needs to earn that trust.

Darielys (59:52):
He does.

Erika (59:52):
If she still wants to be with him because I don't know.

Edgar (59:54):
Yeah. So final verdict?

Darielys (59:57):
OP.

Erika (59:58):
Not the asshole.

Edgar (59:59):
Yeah. OP's not the asshole for reconsidering
everything.

Erika (01:00:02):
Yeah. I know. Mhmm. Alright. So that was the last
story.
Thank you for joining us. We'llsee you next week. Bye.

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