February 3, 2025 • 49 mins
Wedding meltdowns, part two!
Erika and Edgar are back with another round of wedding disasters, because one episode just wasn’t enough to capture the chaos. This time, we’re diving into even more Reddit drama: From 1000 cookies requests to a bride who dared to start her wedding (gasp) on time, and a stepmom who took petty to new heights, these wedding stories are messier than saying the wrong person's name in your ceremony.
So grab your popcorn (or wedding favors you stole from an ex-friend’s reception), because we’re breaking down these Am I The A**hole? posts with all the snark and side-eyes they deserve.
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Links to threads read:
- AITA for refusing to make a cookie table for my son's wedding?
- AITA for starting my wedding on time?
- AITA for not going to my friend's "wedding" after what she said to me?
- AITA for apparently making the wedding all about me by being difficult and not taking off work to go dress shopping?
- AITA for telling my stepdaughter she can have her dead dad pay for the wedding?
- AITA for taking back a family heirloom from my DIL before the wedding?
- AITA for refusing to wear the wedding dress my SIL gave to me as a "wedding gift"?
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Intro (00:00):
Yappings!
Erika (00:02):
Hello. This is Erika.
Edgar (00:04):
and Edgar.
Erika (00:05):
And we are the Yappings Schnauzers. We entertain you
with Yapp worthy stories we findaround the web. This week will
be a continuation of last week'stheme, which is disaster
weddings. Mhmm. The first titleis Am I The Asshole for Refusing
to Make a Cookie Table for MySon's Wedding.
My son is marrying Wendy, andthe wedding is in the summer.
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She is not close to her ownmother for multiple reasons and
is pushing hard to have me fillin the gap. I'm not comfortable
with it at all at all,especially with how hard she is
pushing. She has multiple timesoverstep boundaries, such as
inviting herself along,discussing very personal issues,
very touchy, etcetera. Due tothese issues, we are not close,
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and my own daughter are not ahuge fan of her.
She asked me this week if wewould make cookie table for the
wedding. It is something thebride's own mother would do with
other female relatives. This isthe first time hearing about
these traditions, and I did someresearch. I would have to make
over a thousand cookies fromscratch to feed the wedding
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guests. I asked my daughters ifthey wanted to do it, and it was
a strong no.
I informed her that I cannot doit, and it was too much work,
and I don't have the time. Shetold me, okay, and I thought
that was it. My son called meand told me I am a huge jerk,
that Wendy has been crying aboutit, and I should step up. I am
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still refusing to do it. Am Ithe asshole?
Edgar (01:36):
That seems like, overblown response for not
having a bunch of cookies bakedfor your wedding. Like, you can
just go to any bakery or you cango to Walmart and get, like, 20
cookies for, like, $5 orsomething like that.
Erika (01:49):
Well, according to her research so she did she had a
little update here that saysOkay. The most, common
questions. Did thedaughter-in-law tell me the
number? She said 0000 to 200.What about family helping?
She isn't close to her family,so her side is out. My parents
are in a home. I am an onlychild. My husband has a sister,
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and I doubt she wants to help.My daughters don't wish to, so
it would be basically me.
So, I mean so you think she'sasshole, though?
Edgar (02:21):
Like, the OP for not making the cookies?
Erika (02:23):
Yeah. I
Edgar (02:24):
wouldn't say so. Like, I have never heard of this
tradition before.
Erika (02:28):
Well, supposedly, it is a thing, but I still I think she
just, like, being I don't thinkshe likes a daughter-in-law.
Edgar (02:36):
Yeah. I mean, overall, I don't think, like, anyone's a
fan of the daughter-in-law.
Erika (02:39):
Yeah. I can
Edgar (02:40):
see why.
Erika (02:40):
Because I mean, apparently, she's too touchy.
She shares too much, and shelikes to she has no boundaries.
Edgar (02:53):
Mhmm.
Erika (02:54):
And, like, I feel like she looks at everything she's
trying to do in a bad way. Like,what if she's just trying to get
close to them, trying to get,you know, trying to get to know
them, And they're just like, whyis she talking to us? Or why is
she saying that stuff? Why isshe oversharing? Yeah.
I feel like when you don't likesomeone, you see everything they
do as annoying or as like, oh,why can't she do this and
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criticize everything she does?
Edgar (03:17):
Mhmm.
Erika (03:18):
So I think if she should like, if sure. She don't like
her, but at least try to, like,help her out. Maybe not make it,
like, from scratch. Just buysome cookies like you mentioned.
Mhmm.
Like, I think she's just being,like, making this a problem when
it doesn't have to be a problem.Yeah.
Edgar (03:36):
I guess that's, like, another way to look at it. Like,
how is, the bride or, like,yeah, the daughter-in-law gonna
tell what cookies come from atthe end of the day?
Erika (03:45):
Yeah. Like, who cares? Or be like, you know, it was
allowed for me. I made some, butthen I bought some.
Edgar (03:51):
I wouldn't even say that. I would just say, it's all made
by me.
Erika (03:55):
Whatever. You know? She could've just done that. Why she
has to make it a difficultthing, like Mhmm. Criticizing
her and annoying annoyed by hersaying that she doesn't wanna
she can't do it at all.
Like, she doesn't have the timeto.
Edgar (04:07):
Yeah.
Erika (04:07):
And if she didn't have the time for it, then fine. Just
buy all the cookies.
Edgar (04:11):
Mhmm.
Erika (04:11):
Like, I don't know. I just feel like she really
doesn't like herdaughter-in-law, and she's just
making this a huge issue.Because I feel like if she did
like her, she will at least tryand be like, alright. You know,
I don't feel comfortable withit, but I'll try.
Edgar (04:23):
Mhmm.
Erika (04:23):
And she could just buy the cookies if she at the end of
the day, she couldn't make them.
Edgar (04:27):
Yeah. Like compromising. Let's say, listen to like, I'll
make you a hundred or 200cookies, but not a thousand.
Erika (04:33):
Yeah. And then I could invite the rest or whatever. I
don't know. Just try to, like,help her out. I mean, she
already knows that she her momis not, you know, not there for
her.
Yeah.
Edgar (04:42):
And she's
Erika (04:42):
gonna be part of the family, and she's not only doing
it for her, but for her son aswell.
Edgar (04:46):
Mhmm. And her son seems to be upset as well.
Erika (04:48):
Yeah. But, like, I don't think she wants to do that. I
think she's just not she'smaking an issue of nothing.
Edgar (04:54):
I mean, yeah. I mean, it's not the hugest issue, but I
feel like yeah. I mean, evengoing, like, a little bit little
bit in a way of, like, helpinghowever she could could have,
like, gone around this issuewith the with not only a son,
but, like, the daughter-in-law.
Erika (05:08):
Yeah. I mean What
Edgar (05:09):
did other people say?
Erika (05:11):
They actually, she was voted not the asshole.
Edgar (05:13):
Really? Oh, so you're gonna be rude to me.
Erika (05:15):
I don't agree with that. No. I just think she doesn't
like the sis thedaughter-in-law, and the sister
in laws don't like her either.Mhmm. And she just doesn't wanna
take the time to, like, help herout.
Yeah. So I just I think thatshe's a asshole. She just buy
cookies. That's it. Simple asthat.
Yeah. I I know a lot of peopleprobably well, obviously, a lot
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of people don't agree with me,but I don't care. I really think
that she she's being theasshole.
Edgar (05:43):
Okay. So, final verdict on this story? No.
Erika (05:46):
I don't think she's an asshole.
Edgar (05:48):
And I
Erika (05:50):
I mean, she is asshole. Okay.
Edgar (05:52):
Yeah. I was off to you, but I'm pretty sure I think she
is not the asshole. But I
Erika (05:57):
think she is. Okay.
Edgar (05:58):
So the next story is titled, Am I the Asshole for
Starting My Wedding on Time? So,yeah, being so, chat, is it
being an asshole to be punctual?
Erika (06:10):
You should you are that punctual person
Edgar (06:12):
No.
Erika (06:12):
No. At all, and it drives me crazy.
Edgar (06:14):
I I worked my own time. But yeah. So going into the
story, my parents are late foreverything. They were late for
everything while I grew up, andthey refused to care about being
late. They do not care howdisrespectful it is to everyone
else.
My older siblings have adjustedto this by planting all kinds of
slack into the schedules. Ourparents showed up late to both
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of their weddings, but that hadbeen accounted for, so they were
able to participate in theweddings as planned. The same
goes for family get togethersthat are hosted by anyone other
than my parents. My siblingsplanned for them to be late. I
went the other way.
When my parents were late frommy high school graduation, I
told them that I would neverwait for them for any event that
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I had power over, and I haveheld to that. When my wife and I
hosted our first Thanksgivingafter we bought our home, we
started eating on time. Myparents showed up late after
visiting with another family andwere surprised to see us all
laying around and in comas foodcomas. My wife and I got married
last weekend in the ceremonywhen we need one perfectly.
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Other than my mother not beinginvolved in the candle
lightning, my older sister wasmy backup.
My parents showed up threefourth of the way through the
ceremony and ended up sitting atthe back of the church. They
kept everything in during thereceiving line and the foremost,
but they let me have itafterwards and before the
reception. They were verydisappointed that they did not
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get to participate in theceremony and that they missed
out on so much of it. I wasready for this. I had one of my
friends waiting, and he took thepictures when they were entering
the church and sitting down atthe back.
He sent me the pictures as atext and as an email. I asked my
friends to show me theirinvitations. They did not have
it with them, so I pulled outthe one I had ready for this. I
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showed them the time on theinvitation. I asked them what
time did they show up, and theysaid that they were only five
minutes late and that I wasbeing an asshole for not
waiting.
I put up my text messages and myemail. Both provided a time
stamp of when they showed up,which was thirty five minutes
late. They said that if I knewthey were going to be late, I
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should have planned for it likemy siblings. I told them I had
not put up with their bullshitsince I graduated from high
school, and why did they think Iwould start now, almost fifteen
years later? I told them that mysiblings could cuddle them all
they wanted, but to enjoy theirtime with me, they had better
learn to be punctual.
They said I was disrespectful,and if I did not like their
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behavior, that this was entirelymy problem. I agreed and said I
would be handling all my timewith them the exact same way. So
a mighty asshole.
Erika (08:59):
Absolutely not. I think she was a little petty, but I
think Yeah. I hope you guys
Edgar (09:03):
are definitely very petty in the past she did. Like, she
had a friend, like, scope outfor her parents. She had him she
had the friend both text andemailed the photo, which is a
little bit
Erika (09:14):
more of a photo. Yeah.
Edgar (09:15):
And time stamps it.
Erika (09:16):
And she had a extra wedding invitation to see what
time the wedding was. I know.
Edgar (09:21):
I mean, if I was the parents, I just I would be
pissed off as well, but notbecause, like, I was copying
late, but because it just seems,like, very prissy and very
petty, yeah, on the entiresetup.
Erika (09:31):
I don't know. I think she's it's her response was
resentment.
Edgar (09:35):
Yeah. She's, like, very resentful, very angry at
Erika (09:38):
I think they must have done something to her, like,
obviously, be late. Shementioned the graduation. I'm
assuming that they were late toher graduation too, and they
probably missed the ceremony. Ifeel like she's just sick of
them and being late, and she'stired of people accommodating
them.
Edgar (09:51):
I feel like if you you know, you have one day that it's
gonna be a wedding for a friendor family or whatever, you're,
like, basically
Erika (09:57):
Your own daughter. That's ridiculous.
Edgar (09:59):
Entire day and have have have everything you're gonna do
that day be surrounded for thatevent.
Erika (10:05):
I don't know. I feel
Edgar (10:06):
Like, how why would they leave? Like, was there any
reason they gave her being,like, more than three fourths
away late before, the weddingceremony? Like, it just seems
like, what could they havepossibly done? Like, all their
friends and all their familywere probably busy, like,
getting to their wedding on timeand preparing. So what they when
were they doing?
Erika (10:23):
I don't get it. Like, I mean, are they late to their
doctor's appointments too?Because a certain amount of time
you're late, you're you're nottaking your appointment. You
have to reschedule, and you haveto probably pay a fee.
Edgar (10:33):
This becomes a problem for being charged and stuff. I
find it, like, funny that, like,both the parents are always
late. So it's, like, they'rekinda like a package deal. I
don't know, like, who startedthe lateness, whether it was a
mother or father. But yeah.
Erika (10:45):
No. It's annoying because they literally said we were just
five minutes late. Like, thirtyfive minutes thirty five minutes
late. Come on, people. I don'tknow.
I just I'm get frustrated whenpeople are late because I think
everybody's time is valuable.And if you so they tell you a
certain time and you're there acertain time and they're not
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ready, literally, they'rediscarding your time and wasting
your time. Mhmm. And I thinkthat's very disrespectful. And I
think at least for Hispanicculture, a lot of people are
late.
Oh my goodness. But I hate it. Iam I hate it. I really don't
like that because, you know, youserve a certain amount of time.
You you make your day andschedule your things around it
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so you could pay on time.
There's just no excuse.
Edgar (11:32):
Mhmm.
Erika (11:33):
Especially if you say or you know ahead of time, weeks
ahead.
Edgar (11:36):
Yeah. Yeah. Exactly.
Erika (11:37):
I'm assuming they told them, what, months ahead, a year
ahead. I don't know. But, like,you know, you should be there on
time, especially for yourdaughter's wedding.
Edgar (11:47):
Mhmm.
Erika (11:48):
And it's annoying, though, because I feel like the
all the all his sister all theirsisters always be like, yeah.
It's okay. You know, we madetime for them to come late.
Like, no.
Edgar (11:58):
And I
Erika (11:58):
feel like they encouraged that behavior, which is, like,
impossible for them toliterally, like, stop doing that
because people accommodate them.
Edgar (12:07):
Yeah. And because the other siblings, like, coddle
their parents' lateness, nowthat this like, OP is, like,
making the stand and saying, no.It's not okay to be late. Like,
she's, like, the one the odd oneout and, like, the one that's
gonna get, like, the fall foreverything. You know?
If I win and out of the wheels,she's, like, not gonna be, like,
the parents' favorite at allanymore.
Erika (12:27):
I just don't think that they're gonna ever get this
moment back unless she getsdivorced and get married again.
Like, they literally missed outon something that happens once.
Edgar (12:43):
Maybe twice.
Erika (12:44):
Three times. But, you know, it's just one of those
things where, you know, theyreally they really messed up in
this one. And the top comment ishard not the asshole. If they
want to be late for a play ordoctor's appointment or
whatever, that's on them. Ifthey were going to be on time
for even one thing, you think itwas their child's wedding.
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This is on them. I agree.Because it's just frustrating
that people just their parentsespecially your parent, like,
you want them to be part of yourwedding. Like, I would be really
upset if my parents came late. Iwould be like, literally, I
would look at them differently.
And I think there's theirrelationship was already
strained. I feel like this alsomade their relationship a lot
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more difficult to really patchup.
Edgar (13:32):
Yeah. Yeah. So final verdict?
Erika (13:36):
She's not the asshole.
Edgar (13:37):
I wouldn't say she's the asshole, but I think, like, her
execution is pettiness, vergingon assholelessness. But she did
it for a reason, a good reasonat least.
Erika (13:46):
I think this one, it's okay to be the asshole. Yeah. I
don't I don't think she didanything wrong.
Edgar (13:53):
Mhmm.
Erika (13:55):
And then the second story I mean, third story is I'm at
the asshole for not going to myold friend's weddings after she
said what she said to me. A fewmonths ago, a friend of mine
told me she was getting married.It wasn't meant to be a regular
wedding, but more of a elopementkind of thing. We were supposed
to be her groom, me as the maidof honor, and a best man, plus a
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few close members, about 10people in total, and it was
planned for I say wedding likeit in in the title because there
would be no invites. No save thedate, no ceremony, no walk down
the aisle, just courthouse anddinner.
That comes from the brideherself, not guessing anything.
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A week ago, I got the news thatI had gotten a permanent job. I
don't know how to explain itbecause this is a very typical
thing from the country. Spainwhere every so often, the
government will hireprofessionals to work either in
the administration or in publicinstitutions, education, high
school. This is usually a greatopportunity because these are
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positions are for life, well,until you retire.
And they can never fire you.And, obviously, it depends on
the conduct too.
Edgar (15:08):
Mhmm.
Erika (15:09):
In order to apply for these positions, you have to
take an exam. And then dependingon, oh, your years of service to
the institution and the scoreyou get on the exam, you could
get one of those jobs. Longstory short, I took the exam
last year, and last week, I gottold that I got one of the jobs.
But I still will be moving citycities for that. When I told my
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friends this, the only thing shesaid was, when are you leaving?
Can you still come to mywedding? No congratulations. No.
I'm happy for you. Nothing.
I must add, two weeks ago, Italked to her to know where we
were having dinner for herwedding, and she said she didn't
have anything planned yet, letalone booked. Had she told me
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she had everything booked andthat she really needed my
reservation, I would haveunderstood her answer. But in
that context, I've decided thatif the only thing she cares
about is her and her wedding andshe can't even be happy for me,
I'm not going to the wedding atall. Am I the asshole?
Edgar (16:09):
No. She ain't the asshole for that.
Erika (16:13):
Like, I understand getting a job is a huge deal.
And but, like, she knows thather friend is getting married.
Edgar (16:22):
Yeah.
Erika (16:22):
Like, why why don't you think that would be the first
thing she would ask? I don'tknow. Like, if you were like,
for example, if my friend I wasgetting married, she she told me
about the job. Sure. I will saycongratulations, but then I'm
like, would you be able to cometo the wedding, though?
Edgar (16:38):
I
Erika (16:38):
don't know. I don't think she's an asshole.
Edgar (16:40):
Yeah. I wanna say so too. And, like, also, her getting a
job and stuff, like, I feel likethat's, like, a valid like, one
of the few valid reasons to misson a wedding and, like, you
know, because it's something forthe livelihood and all of that.
And I don't know about Spain,but I imagine the interview
times for that are, like, alittle bit more stringent. So,
like, this is, like they have,like, a deadline or they have
something that'll make it so,like, the friend can't move it
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around freely.
Erika (17:03):
She has to move, she said.
Edgar (17:05):
So like, scheduling the actual interviews?
Erika (17:07):
Well, she did it a year ago.
Edgar (17:09):
Oh, okay.
Erika (17:10):
And she got accepted.
Edgar (17:11):
Oh, okay.
Erika (17:12):
So she was really happy about it, obviously, because
it's a good opportunity for her.Mhmm. But instead of the friend
saying congratulations, she justsaid, why will you be able to
come to the wedding? I don't Imean, like, right now, she's
also making an important, youknow, step for her life. And
since you are, you know, one ofher friends, I would suspect
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that you would also wanna tellher, hey.
I will make it or I won't. Mhmm.I I don't know.
Edgar (17:39):
I feel like yeah. I mean, I don't think I would be mad if
any of my friends ever missed mywedding, but I feel like there's
some people who are, like, veryoffensive about that.
Erika (17:47):
A guy.
Edgar (17:48):
Oh, yeah. That's true too. But I don't know. I feel
like it's something very pettyto be upset over.
Erika (17:56):
You wanna know the verdict?
Edgar (17:57):
What?
Erika (17:58):
They said that she's actually the asshole.
Edgar (18:00):
Alright. Very.
Erika (18:02):
We're like, so I'm the opposite. You're actually this
word disagreement. Mhmm. I don'tknow I feel like she it was
important for her to be thereand the fact that she didn't say
right off the batcongratulations like she
shouldn't hold it against her. Ibet if she was to go to the
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wedding, she would have saidcongratulations, and I'm sorry,
you know, for not, you know,saying that back to you or
whatever.
I think just right now,everything is, like, really just
about her wedding right now.
Edgar (18:34):
Well, not for everybody. Like, not for Opie. Opie has,
like, better things to do in herlife.
Erika (18:40):
Well, I mean, obviously, because she's not marrying
anybody, so she doesn't know thefeeling
Edgar (18:44):
Mhmm.
Erika (18:45):
Of, like, oh, I mean, sure. It's not, like, a huge
thing. I feel like all this postis about her justifying not
going to the wedding. The topcomment was deleted. However, so
signing some papers and a dinnerfor ten, that wedding planning
and what stress still seems likea pretty solid question.
Most people find embarking on alifelong commitment very
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stressful.
Edgar (19:07):
Mhmm.
Erika (19:08):
So, like, I I get where the friend that's getting
married is coming from. Like, Ithink everything she's thinking
about is just, like, everythingfor the, you know, the dinner.
Sure. It's not a huge thing, andit's not, like, caters and
everything like that. But Mhmm.
Edgar (19:24):
I feel like I mean, I understand LP's point of view
because, like, from how the funwas, like, talking about the
wedding, they're saying, oh,it's gonna be courthouse
wedding. I don't even have,like, the the dining place
afterwards, like, all figuredout yet. I would think that she
wasn't taking the weddingseriously or, like, maybe that
she didn't feel like the weddingwas, like, wouldn't would make
her so angry.
Erika (19:44):
I mean, it's still important though regardless if
it's, like, a huge wedding ornot. She's still making a huge
decision. And if she invited herfriend, it's because she wants
her to be there, especially ifit's such a, like, small wedding
or whatever.
Edgar (19:59):
But, so final verdict on this?
Erika (20:03):
How about you? You go first.
Edgar (20:04):
Yeah. Let's just say OP wasn't the asshole for missing
the wedding.
Erika (20:11):
I think she he she is.
Edgar (20:15):
Okay. And then now for the next story. And Mariaso for
apparently making the weddingall about me by being difficult
and not taking off work to godress shopping. My son told me
to come over. I'm on my phone.
Background, I have to travel formy job. Monday through Friday,
I've been getting on a planeevery Monday and getting back on
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Friday due to a project needingto be supervised. My future
daughter-in-law works four daysa week, Wednesday to Saturday,
ten hour shifts. She wants tomet up to get a dress for the
wedding. These people can'tspell over it.
Erika (20:57):
But, yeah, again fed up?
Edgar (20:59):
Yeah. I mean, I've been trying to fix the the spelling
errors, but, yeah, she wants tobe there when they get a dress.
Originally, I was just going towear the same dress I wear for
all the weddings, a long bluedress, but she wanted me to wear
something else since I willmatch her bridesmaids. She looks
at our schedule. Sunday would bethe best day to do this.
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We are both off. She told me nosince that is her rest day. She
asked for Monday. I told her Ican't, and I have to work. Then
I suggested Friday or Saturdayafter work.
Those got shot down. She wantsme to take off work. I then
suggested she send me examplesof what she wants, and I'll shop
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by myself and buy something likethe examples also shot down.
After much back and forth, Itold her the blue dress is what
I'm going to wear. This startedan argument, and she called me a
jerk.
My son is mad, making thewedding about me and not taking
off work. I don't think I'm evenbeing unreasonable, but he told
me to post there. So you knowwhat the asshole?
Erika (22:05):
No. Absolutely not.
Edgar (22:07):
I think yeah. I mean, she gave she yeah. She tried. She
gave, like, a bunch of, like,these small things that, like or
that were convenient for both ofthem, OP and the
daughter-in-law. Like, theSunday thing, like, if if this
is like a well, this is a very,like, important, like, day for
the daughter in law's life.
So, like, I think taking onerest day off to do, like,
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something for a wedding is,like, reasonable enough to do.
But instead, she's like, no. I Idon't wanna do that. I need a
rest. But can you take a day offfrom work?
Erika (22:37):
No. It's not only that. It's just that she tried, like,
three or four times toaccommodate her and say, okay.
I'm working. I'm in a project.
I can't take it off. Let's dothis, this, this, and she denied
all of them.
Edgar (22:49):
Mhmm.
Erika (22:50):
That's ridiculous. People's lives don't stop
because it's your wedding.
Edgar (22:55):
Exactly.
Erika (22:56):
So I think she is not the asshole at all. And the the fact
that the son is being it's like,you you you posted on Reddit.
Edgar (23:06):
I know. That's how he's like he he thinks that he was
gonna be on the side.
Erika (23:10):
Yeah. And it turns out and then the verdict is not the
asshole.
Edgar (23:13):
Yeah. Yeah.
Erika (23:14):
Everyone So shove that up here. Yeah.
Edgar (23:17):
That son feels pretty foolish right now.
Erika (23:20):
Yes. Because, obviously, everybody thinks she's the wife
is well, the daughter-in-law isasshole. Mhmm. The top comment
is not the asshole. You'veoffered reasonable suggestions
to make this work, and she shutdown each of them.
That's not your fault. Why isshe so invested in being there
with you? Surely, you can pickout a dress in a fit in a style
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that would be appropriate and aand suitable. So, yeah, I I
don't get that. And then OPIshould respond into this.
I have no idea why she's soinvested in this. I also don't
get why she doesn't want me towear my blue dress. The hotter I
am, the same color as thebridesmaids. Like, it's a dress.
The wedding is in five months.
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Yeah. So I definitely agree. Imean, it's she has five months.
Like
Edgar (24:09):
Mhmm.
Erika (24:09):
Why is she being so difficult? I'm sure in those
five months, she has time toaccommodate her schedule or both
of them to compromise. I I don'tunderstand what's so difficult
about it. What do you think, Bo?
Edgar (24:23):
Mhmm. Yeah. I agree.
Erika (24:24):
Not the asshole. Right?
Edgar (24:25):
Yeah. I know. There was, like, a final update for the
story, and, he's she says, okay.My son has this link. Anyways,
he told me that I can wear theblue dress, and, it won't be an
issue.
No response from futuredaughter-in-law.
Erika (24:42):
Because she knows she got burned.
Edgar (24:44):
Yeah. She got ratioed back for her her career.
Erika (24:48):
She got what?
Edgar (24:48):
Ratioed.
Erika (24:49):
Oh. She
Edgar (24:51):
got ratioed.
Erika (24:52):
Something to know. So it's like Yeah.
Edgar (24:53):
Keep keep hearing things. But, yeah, final verdict then.
Erika (24:58):
Not the asshole.
Edgar (24:59):
Yeah. Definitely the asshole. And the son is
definitely the asshole for we'retrying to, like, have her post
this and, like, think she shouldbe humiliated online, but no.
Erika (25:09):
He was the one and the daughter-in-law was the
humiliated one.
Edgar (25:13):
Yeah. I'm right back at them. Okay. The next story is
titled, Am I the asshole fortelling my stepdaughter she can
have her dead dad pay for thewedding? So as an edit, she is
27 right now, which I don't knowwhat the context of that is, but
so I may have gone too far.
My now wife divorced her ex whenher three kids were young. He
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was an addict. She met me a fewyears later, and we dated for
two years before she introducedme to her kids. Two kids really
hit it off and Kylie did notlike me. Just passive aggressive
stuff, but it did become muchworse when her dad passed away.
She did not take it well, whichresulted in a lot of outbursts
even though I wasn't living withthem at this time. She went into
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therapy, but overall, it didn'tseem like it helped. She
frightened me she frightens torun away if I marry their mom.
So I stayed away, but continuedto date their mom. Bro.
Over time, the two other kidsstarted to stay at my place in
order to get away from thedrama. It was a rough time for
them, and we bonded even more.When Kelly was 18, the two of us
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decided to stop pulling ourlives on hold and getting
married, and Kelly hated this.The other kids were happy,
though. Every interaction I havehad with her has been
unpleasant, and I don't see heras one of my own kids.
I eventually adopted hersiblings when they were 16 and
17 since they asked me. Andduring the time, she destroyed a
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lot of her sibling stuff forbetraying their dad. Now I
rarely see her, and I prefer itthat way, actually. The two kids
have an on and off,relationship. I paid for my two
kids' weddings.
I got a call from her asking meto pay for her wedding since I
paid for the other two. I toldher no. This started an argument
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about how it's unfair. I hadenough and told her to have her
dad pay for the wedding. Shehung up after some lovely names.
I may have gone too far, whichmakes me a jerk, but am I the
asshole? So I think the yeah.She's an asshole for saying that
because, like, it's prettyuncalled before. Oh, he oh,
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yeah. Yeah.
He think it's a she, but not ahe. But, yeah, I think it's,
like, pretty uncalled for to saythat, especially to, like, a a
child, basically.
Erika (27:32):
She's not a child.
Edgar (27:33):
How old is she?
Erika (27:34):
She's 27.
Edgar (27:35):
Why she act like that?
Erika (27:37):
She didn't grow up.
Edgar (27:38):
Yeah. I guess so. I guess after the death of her dad, she
kinda, like, never grew out ofit. But, yeah, I think yeah. So
I don't think I think it's alittle bit asshole to say that.
Like, it's pretty messed up,but, I mean, she's not really
obligated to pay for
Erika (27:52):
He is not.
Edgar (27:53):
The daughter's wedding. But he, yeah, he's not
Erika (27:59):
went a little bit too far for saying that. Yeah.
Edgar (28:01):
But he's not obligated and, like, this is, like, a
daughter that, like, doesn'teven, like, like him.
Erika (28:06):
She's not even adopted by him. Mhmm. I don't know. I felt
like he tried to beaccommodating to her and tried
to be a parent to her, but theyrefused. I mean, her two
siblings agreed on being adoptedby him because
Edgar (28:23):
Mhmm.
Erika (28:24):
I mean, he he can't be doing that bad of a job. They
decided to be adopted by him. Ithink it's just her problem. I
think she was waiting for herher, real dad to come back and
stay with his mom.
Edgar (28:38):
Mhmm. Yeah. I think yeah. It's probably just, like, the
the, like, OP and the thedaughter. She's just, like,
never really jelled.
Erika (28:50):
Yeah. I don't think they ever connected, which is sad
because, I mean, it looks likehe really tried. They even they
said that they stopped datingor, you know, paused their
relationship because, you know,it was so difficult for her.
Edgar (29:01):
Yeah. To process everything. Right. That that
shows, like, on OP's part that,like, he actually cares for,
like, the children, you know.Now a lot of stuff parents,
like, kind of care for theirkids.
Erika (29:09):
They definitely don't.
Edgar (29:10):
Some of them, like, sees them as, like, a like a nuisance
or, like, something, like, extrabaggage in the relationship.
But, like, have, like, a aparent or a separate parent that
does all this for you.
Erika (29:19):
You keep that parent with you because that means they
care.
Edgar (29:22):
Yeah. Exactly. Well, like, at least treat them with,
like, a little bit more respect.Like, even if you, like, you
can't hang out with thembecause, like, you just don't
have the personalities thatmatch, that you should at least
be appreciative. I don't know.
Erika (29:33):
I feel like this could also have, the mother didn't put
her foot down when she was achild. I felt like they
accommodated her so much andbecause they feel bad for her
and her dad or whatever
Edgar (29:44):
Mhmm.
Erika (29:45):
That they give her a lot of legroom and that this made
her think that this thisbehavior is okay. And since she
was a child and since theydidn't stop this, you know, she
kept going.
Edgar (29:56):
Yeah.
Erika (29:56):
Yeah. She's 27 years old, and she's acting like a child
still.
Edgar (30:00):
I know. Yeah.
Erika (30:00):
I don't
Edgar (30:01):
think she was little old.
Erika (30:02):
I know. You thought she was little. No. 27 years old.
Edgar (30:05):
I think she was 19, but, yeah, 27.
Erika (30:07):
20 seven. I'm like, hello.
Edgar (30:09):
That's crazy.
Erika (30:11):
So, yeah, I don't think and then destroying her sibling
stuff because they wanted to getadopted by this poor man
Edgar (30:17):
Mhmm.
Erika (30:18):
That wanted to be a dad to them, that's insane. I think,
sure, maybe at that age, she wasyoung, but it's just shows you
how her personality is.
Edgar (30:28):
Mhmm.
Erika (30:29):
It's clearly not his fault. I think he kinda push she
pushed him so far that he saidthis.
Edgar (30:36):
Yeah.
Erika (30:37):
For years of years of resentment and rejection because
Edgar (30:41):
she may think about it. Yeah. I mean, the daughter
should have been surprised thatshe was gonna get, like,
punched. Like, basically, like,punched her this, like, comment
after all of what she did. Idon't think she should have
expected her wedding to be paidoff after, like, that that's
done with the the sibling stuff.
Erika (30:59):
Yeah. I don't understand the like, the entitlement is
crazy to me Mhmm. Thinking, oh,because you're married to my
mom, now you have to pay for mywedding. Like
Edgar (31:08):
Hey. You already know she's gonna get, like, the most
expensive wedding too.
Erika (31:11):
Yeah. I don't I don't I don't get the entitlement.
Edgar (31:13):
Like unlimited drinks, all night bar, sushi bar,
unlimited food.
Erika (31:18):
That's what you want.
Edgar (31:19):
I want a taco truck, but
Erika (31:21):
You know. Yes.
Edgar (31:23):
Talk with Chuck to the wedding.
Erika (31:24):
No. Talk with Fort Worth. No. But, yes, I I think she's
just I I think he went a littlebit too far, but she deserved
it.
Edgar (31:34):
Mhmm.
Erika (31:35):
She honestly deserved it. And then the top comment is,
yes. It was a stupid, hurtful,and immature thing to say, but I
get it. I understand that thiswas the oldest girl and probably
closest to her father. And, ofcourse, she probably resented
the divorce, but that'ssomething you should grow out
of.
Once her father died, you thinkit might have opened up her
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heart a little, but, apparently,that was not to be. And, you
know, so be it. It's her life.It's her choice. But it takes a
lot of balls to then comeskipping back and waiting for
you to pay for her wedding.
I don't blame you for refusing,but I'm curious as to what your
wife thinks. A big not theasshole on not paying the
wedding. And then OP responded,yeah. It was petty. Thinking
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about it, it was a resentresentment building up of how
many times I just took heranger.
It was like finally standing upto a bully. After so many years
of taking it, for sure feltgreat to give it back no matter
how petty it was. So, yeah,definitely, that was crazy to
me. Mhmm. I think it was just abuildup.
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I think he just exploded, and hehad to, like, just let it out.
Yeah. And I get it, but, I mean,as an adult, I think more adult,
I I would say. He should'veknown a little better to say
such harsh words. However, Ithink I get it, honestly.
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I think he said what he said.She deserves it.
Edgar (33:08):
So final verdict?
Erika (33:11):
Not the asshole. And everybody voted not the asshole
either.
Edgar (33:14):
Yeah. Yeah. I don't think he was, like, the asshole for
you. What he said wasn't okay,but, yeah, you can we can all
Understand make their mistakes.
Erika (33:23):
Yeah. Alright. So next, is Emma the asshole for taking
back a family heirloom for mydaughter-in-law before the
wedding? My family has twoheirlooms that we give to a
bride or groom when they marry.For the man, it's a set of
cufflinks, and for the woman,it's a bracelet.
My oldest son and my oldestsister are married, and their
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spouses wore the bracelet orcufflinks at their wedding. This
tradition is essentially for ourfamily's way of saying we are
accepting you to the family.When my future daughter-in-law
got engaged, I gave her thebracelet and explained that it's
a family heirloom, expressinghow many meaningful it would be
if she were it at the wedding. Imentioned that she could wear it
during the reception if shepreferred not to wear it in the
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ceremony. It's a white jadebracelet, and I shared its
significance with her.
Now in the wedding only a fewmonths away, there's a problem.
My daughter has been getting toknow my future daughter-in-law,
and she recently came to mesaying that my future
daughter-in-law thinks thebracelet is ugly and has been
complaining about it. She evenshowed me texts where my future
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daughter-in-law said somehurtful things about me, calling
me controlling ass, forgivingher the bracelet. This was hurt,
and it feels like a completerejection, especially since she
knows why it's important. When Iasked my son, she said she
didn't he didn't know anythingabout her feelings on this.
Since she clearly doesn't wantto want or respect the bracelet,
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I asked for it back. That's whenthings got messy. She made a big
deal about how I was excludingher from the family by taking it
back. Now she's pissed andcalling me a jerk. My son also
thinks I'm a jerk for taking itback even after I show him what
she said.
People are divided over thissaying that by taking it back,
it implies I don't see her as afamily or trust her with a
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heirloom. What do you think?
Edgar (35:12):
Yeah. I don't think she's the asshole for, like, taking it
back. Like, I think it doesimply that, like, she doesn't
accept the daughter. Like,symbolically, she doesn't accept
the the daughter-in-law into thewedding, but, also, like, it's,
like, reasonable because was,like, not liking the the, the
bracelet and was, like, kindabeing an ass over it.
Erika (35:32):
Yeah. I I think it was just very disrespectful. Yeah.
Like, if your mom was to give mesomething like this, I would be
very grateful. Like, even if Imaybe didn't agree with the
design or whatever, I would sayit's still beautiful.
Why? Because you have to berespectful, and she's trying to
give you something that's passeddown. Yeah. And either or.
Edgar (35:53):
If anything, that means a lot to, like Yeah. To everybody.
Yeah.
Erika (35:55):
So why are why she being an asshole? Mhmm. So, yeah, I
think she was verydisrespectful, and she didn't
care about the meaning behindthe bracelet.
Edgar (36:05):
Yeah. You'd think that, like, the the sun would would
consider that, like, a kind ofred flag. You know?
Erika (36:10):
Yeah. I don't wanna wanna marry somebody like that. Like,
if I were you, I'd be like,that's kinda a red flag a %.
Yeah.
Edgar (36:17):
I mean, I just wanna be, like, annoyed. I'd be like,
yeah. Yeah. I mean, it's just,like, inappropriate to say. And
I feel like yeah.
Yeah. I I would I would feelhurt if I heard that.
Erika (36:26):
I don't know. I feel like this could have been avoided if
the sister-in-law didn't sayanything.
Edgar (36:31):
Yeah.
Erika (36:32):
Because the mom didn't know. Like, I think she said to
the sister-in-law in confidencethat she didn't like it and she
didn't wanna wear it. But, Imean, I think it's just
disrespectful. Yeah. Youshouldn't be saying that
because, you know, this isliterally what it means.
It means that you're part ofwelcoming to the family. And,
like, why are you just, like,taking that for granted? It's
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crazy to me.
Edgar (36:56):
Yeah.
Erika (36:57):
So the top comment is, if she has simply come to you and
said, hey. I appreciate thesentiment so much, but this
isn't really my style, and Idon't want to wear it at the
wedding. How would you havereacted? And OP stated, that
would have been fine. My ownmother didn't wear it.
But had it on the family table,I probably would have worn it or
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asked if my son wanted to wearit.
Edgar (37:21):
So yeah. I mean, like, it looks like there's a like,
there's probably, like, a reallyugly looking bracelet. Like, if
even, like, the the grandmotherand, like, past ancestors didn't
like it. But, like, they have,like, something, like, they are
they still respected it. Youknow?
They didn't, like, oh, I don'twant this at all. They didn't
say, like
Erika (37:36):
Yeah. Just I think if she would've talked to her, like,
offer and be like, hey. Youknow, this is I appreciate you
welcoming into your family, butI it's just not really the style
of the wedding and the dress.
Edgar (37:47):
Yeah. Yeah.
Erika (37:47):
Oh, keep it there or keep it in my for my future, you
know, for my daughters orwhatever.
Edgar (37:53):
Yeah. Keep it. Just keep it somewhere that, like, it's
respectful, respectful in theplace, but, like, not ruining,
like, whatever, weddingaesthetic she was going for.
Erika (38:00):
I think this could have been avoided if the, bride to be
was just honest.
Edgar (38:07):
Yeah.
Erika (38:07):
And, like, respectful, honestly. Mhmm.
Edgar (38:10):
Not It does take, like, a level of, like like, respect and
then, like, some comfortabilitywith the numb with OP, like,
from daughter-in-law to to amother in law. Like, to they
have to, like, have that levelof comfort with each other to,
like, until you have thatconversation. But I guess they
don't at that point.
Erika (38:27):
They probably don't. Yeah. That's why they, you know,
she decided to say it. Mhmm.
Edgar (38:30):
And
Erika (38:31):
she said I I think she honestly, I felt like she said
in confidence with thesister-in-law.
Edgar (38:35):
Basically.
Erika (38:35):
But obviously, the sister-in-law was like, I'm a
talk behind your back and said,why you said to my mother about
the bracelet?
Edgar (38:41):
Yes. The sis yeah. The other sister, one of them. Yeah.
Definitely asshole material.
I think she, like, it'sperfectly sabotage the entire
wedding. Is she gonna keep herher mouth shut?
Erika (38:52):
Yeah. I mean, honestly, if I was to say that I mean,
obviously, if Brianna would,like because who else? Is it
only Brianna? My other. She'sthe only sister-in-law.
Right?
Edgar (39:02):
Yeah. I think so. Yeah.
Erika (39:03):
Yeah. Yeah. Because yeah. Like, if she was told to tell me
something like that, I wouldhave kept it shut. I would have
said my mom to anything, like,hello.
Like, why are you trying to ruintheir relationship? Mhmm. Like,
you know, like, I feel like thesister-in-law is also an
asshole.
Edgar (39:17):
Yeah. So
Erika (39:19):
The bird the and the verdict for the, Reddit was
actually not the asshole.
Edgar (39:24):
So final verdict?
Erika (39:25):
Not the asshole.
Edgar (39:27):
Yeah. Definitely. I don't I like even, like, the the
daughter-in-law, I wouldn'treally consider her an asshole
as well. I just think she didn'tgo about, like, this entire
situation the best way. Ifanything, the yeah.
The sister was the asshole for,like, basically instigating
this, like, whole fight in thewedding. The last story is, am I
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the asshole for refusing to wearthe wedding dress my
sister-in-law gave to me as awedding gift? I, female twenty
seven, met my fiance, Jacob,male thirty one, when I was 21.
We've been together for sixyears and engaged for almost a
year out of those. My mother'swedding dress has been passed
down for generations, and Iremember being a little girl
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dreaming of walking down theaisle in it.
We have recently been weddingplanning, and we were invited to
a dinner hosted by my fiance'sfamily, and that was on Sunday.
When we arrived, we greetedeveryone and sat at the table to
eat. Sister-in-law stood up andtapped her spoon against her
glass and said that she had tomake a toast. She then said she
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would be right back before goinginto another room and returning
with large plastic bags.Everyone seemed to be excited,
but I just felt confused.
I awkwardly smiled as I askedsister-in-law what was inside
the bag. She opened it up toreveal her wedding dress from
her wedding, which was two yearsago. Everyone began clapping as
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sister-in-law announced thatthis was her official wedding
gift to us, and she wanted forme to wear her dress at the
wedding. I tried a small, but Iguess I didn't do a good job of
hiding my disappointment, andeveryone began asking me what
was wrong. I tried to explainhow I wanted to wear my mother's
dress and that it was nothingpersonal, but that I refused to
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wear my sister in law's dress.
My sister-in-law began cryingand as my in laws began tearing
into me and comforting her. Ijust burst into tears and ran
outside. My fiance didn't evencome after me. And after crying
my eyes out on the steps forwhat felt like hours, he finally
came outside and yelled at me toget into the car. No comfort for
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her.
No mercy. I was so confused, butI got into the car just to hear
him berate me on how I had madesuch a big scene and embarrassed
him in front of his family. Hesounded so mad, and he even said
he couldn't believe he chose tomarry such a bitchy cunt, his
exact words. My fiance also saidour sister-in-law was just
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trying to be nice and that herdress was more modern compared
to my mother's dress, whichlooked like an old rag, also his
exact words. I tried to tell himhow much my mother's wedding
dress meant to me because Ipromised her that I would wear
it.
I felt like my fiance's familyplanned this and put me on the
spot thinking I wouldn't standup for myself and just agreed to
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wear sister in law's dress. Idon't think I did anything
wrong, but a part of me thinks Ishould have just gone along with
it and then told sister-in-lawin private that I wouldn't be
wearing the dress. Anybodyasshole? Definitely no.
Erika (42:29):
Throw them all away. Throw them all away. Don't even
get married, girl. This isliterally red flag a hun like,
1000.
Edgar (42:36):
The entire family, like, they just basically ambushed her
to wear this, like, dress thatshe didn't want. I I I I am just
surprised that they were, like,so, like, angry at the the
response.
Erika (42:47):
I think it was just an it it was so unfair for her. Mhmm.
They just decided to just go belike, hey. We want you to wear
this because that's what ourfamily wants to do. And since
you're gonna be part of thefamily, you have no choice.
Edgar (43:02):
I know.
Erika (43:03):
That's ridiculous. Like, nobody decided to, you know, ask
her if she, you know, alreadyhas something and or she's
already planning on wearingsomething. It's crazy to me. And
the the fact okay. Fine.
Let's say she offered, and she,you know, said, no. You know, I
can't wear it because I'malready wearing my my mother's
dress. Okay. That should havebeen alright. There's no reason
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for for them to basically lookat her or make her feel bad for
making her own decisions in herwedding.
Edgar (43:33):
Yeah. I think yeah. Exactly. Like, they should they
should have been, like, aprivate conversation first
between, the sister-in-law andOP. And they should just talk
about, hey.
What are you wearing for youryour wedding dress or for the
wedding and all that stuff? Andthey should have, like they
should have agreed upon thisbeforehand before I try to make
this into a big deal. Because,like, realistically, the
sister-in-law should haveexpected a yes or no at the at
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this event. I wish you a view ofthat. Oh, I want you to take my
wedding gift.
Like like My
Erika (44:04):
wedding dress.
Edgar (44:05):
Yeah.
Erika (44:06):
I don't know. I felt like it was all planned, and it was
just really staged, so shewouldn't be able to say no.
Edgar (44:12):
Yeah. And I mean, like, what reason was was it to, like,
offer up this dress in the firstplace? Like, I feel like a lot
of people offered a weddingdress as a gift to someone else.
Yeah. It's just like I feel likeit's pretty strange.
Erika (44:24):
I think she just didn't wanna buy them anything. And she
just wanted to give them theold, old wedding dress.
Edgar (44:29):
Was it like a nice wedding? Well No. You did say it
was modern. More more modernthan
Erika (44:33):
But it doesn't matter. It's about the sentiment and
what the bride wants to do.Mhmm. Like, just because she
doesn't wear your dress doesn'tmean that she doesn't wanna be
part of your family or Yeah. Iunderstand.
Everybody should literally lookdown on her or be mad at her for
not winning the dress. Uh-huh. Imean, she has something in mind,
and it was her mom's weddingdress. People should respect
that.
Edgar (44:52):
Exactly. I I
Erika (44:53):
think it's ridiculous for them to be like, no. You have to
wear it because she offered it.And then the biggest problem
here is honestly the, fianceshowed his true color saying
that she was a, terrible namesand basically calling her, like,
such a yeah. It was he he was hewas just A
Edgar (45:14):
lot of colorful names?
Erika (45:15):
Yeah. Very colorful names, and it was just
ridiculous. I think she shouldreally think about if she really
wants to be part of this family
Edgar (45:23):
Mhmm.
Erika (45:24):
Because this is how all her life is gonna be if she
decides to be with them.
Edgar (45:30):
Yeah. Like yeah. In this family, she has, like, no one in
this like, on her side.
Erika (45:34):
No. Yeah. And that's the scary part. And on top of that,
to not have your, you know, yourfiancee not on your side either,
like, what are you gonna do? Whoare you gonna go to?
You're gonna be it's gonna be alonely road for her if she
decides to marry this man. Andhe shouldn't because any man
that causes somebody people likethat does not respect you, and
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you shouldn't be with a man likethat. The top comment is, ma'am,
you need to leave that wholefamily behind you, including
your fiance, not the asshole.You just had a peek into your
future if you carry on with thisrelationship. And then o p, do
not waste your mama's weddingdress on this man.
He doesn't deserve it.
Edgar (46:15):
That's crazy. And and this also this the top comment
has 21000 upvotes. There's 21000people who have not blessed this
wedding. So she she's gottaleave.
Erika (46:26):
Yeah. I hope so. I mean, there's no up there or anything.
This was posted two hundred andseven days ago. So, hopefully,
she never married that man.
Edgar (46:34):
I wonder if there's a follow-up, but
Erika (46:36):
There isn't. There's no update, unfortunately.
Edgar (46:38):
Alright, Katie. But it's okay. Hopefully, the best for
her. I hope she at least got thehusband on her side.
Erika (46:45):
Wait. There is an update, and I just literally found it.
Oh my god. Okay.
Edgar (46:55):
What is the update?
Erika (46:56):
Says update. Yes. I am leaving him for sure now. I
really don't appreciate the callcomments calling me bad names
for staying. I never intended tostay, and the only reason I
thought we needed a conversationwas because his this behavior
was recent, and I wanted tounderstand what was going on.
I haven't told him that it'sover officially, though it
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should be obvious. Yeah. Mainlybecause I'm scared he might do
something violent as manycomments said. I need a I need a
few days to figure out things,and I'm gonna tell my brother to
pick up to pick me up so I canstay there for a few days. I'm
logging off now, and I'll updateif anything happens.
Edgar (47:38):
So I guess yeah. There there are happy endings.
Erika (47:42):
Oh my god. I'm so glad she didn't marry him.
Edgar (47:45):
I know.
Erika (47:46):
That would have been such a
Edgar (47:51):
Yeah. So we got on her for for, figuring out the true
colors before signing all thepaperwork and going through the
ceremony. Yeah.
Erika (47:59):
Marrying the asshole family. Oh my god. Thank god.
Edgar (48:02):
That would have been a nightmare for her.
Erika (48:04):
It would have. I think she was lucky enough to realize
that that man was no good.Mm-mm. So yeah.
Edgar (48:13):
Kind of verdict?
Erika (48:13):
It is she's not the asshole, obviously. How about
you?
Edgar (48:17):
Yeah. Definitely not the asshole at all in this
situation. The entire family,though. Yeah.
Erika (48:22):
Yeah. All the family.
Edgar (48:24):
They gotta put a big a in their forehead.
Erika (48:27):
You mean l?
Edgar (48:28):
A. Or asshole.
Erika (48:29):
As in losers. Yeah. Yeah. Well, I'm glad. At least that
was a happy ending.
I was, like, wondering.
Edgar (48:37):
Mhmm.
Erika (48:39):
But, yes, I hope you guys enjoyed the stories. Thank you
for joining us on the part two.
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Erika (00:02):
Hello. This is Erika.
Edgar (00:04):
and Edgar.
Erika (00:05):
And we are the Yappings Schnauzers. We entertain you
with Yapp worthy stories we findaround the web. This week will
be a continuation of last week'stheme, which is disaster
weddings. Mhmm. The first titleis Am I The Asshole for Refusing
to Make a Cookie Table for MySon's Wedding.
My son is marrying Wendy, andthe wedding is in the summer.
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She is not close to her ownmother for multiple reasons and
is pushing hard to have me fillin the gap. I'm not comfortable
with it at all at all,especially with how hard she is
pushing. She has multiple timesoverstep boundaries, such as
inviting herself along,discussing very personal issues,
very touchy, etcetera. Due tothese issues, we are not close,
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and my own daughter are not ahuge fan of her.
She asked me this week if wewould make cookie table for the
wedding. It is something thebride's own mother would do with
other female relatives. This isthe first time hearing about
these traditions, and I did someresearch. I would have to make
over a thousand cookies fromscratch to feed the wedding
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guests. I asked my daughters ifthey wanted to do it, and it was
a strong no.
I informed her that I cannot doit, and it was too much work,
and I don't have the time. Shetold me, okay, and I thought
that was it. My son called meand told me I am a huge jerk,
that Wendy has been crying aboutit, and I should step up. I am
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still refusing to do it. Am Ithe asshole?
Edgar (01:36):
That seems like, overblown response for not
having a bunch of cookies bakedfor your wedding. Like, you can
just go to any bakery or you cango to Walmart and get, like, 20
cookies for, like, $5 orsomething like that.
Erika (01:49):
Well, according to her research so she did she had a
little update here that saysOkay. The most, common
questions. Did thedaughter-in-law tell me the
number? She said 0000 to 200.What about family helping?
She isn't close to her family,so her side is out. My parents
are in a home. I am an onlychild. My husband has a sister,
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and I doubt she wants to help.My daughters don't wish to, so
it would be basically me.
So, I mean so you think she'sasshole, though?
Edgar (02:21):
Like, the OP for not making the cookies?
Erika (02:23):
Yeah. I
Edgar (02:24):
wouldn't say so. Like, I have never heard of this
tradition before.
Erika (02:28):
Well, supposedly, it is a thing, but I still I think she
just, like, being I don't thinkshe likes a daughter-in-law.
Edgar (02:36):
Yeah. I mean, overall, I don't think, like, anyone's a
fan of the daughter-in-law.
Erika (02:39):
Yeah. I can
Edgar (02:40):
see why.
Erika (02:40):
Because I mean, apparently, she's too touchy.
She shares too much, and shelikes to she has no boundaries.
Edgar (02:53):
Mhmm.
Erika (02:54):
And, like, I feel like she looks at everything she's
trying to do in a bad way. Like,what if she's just trying to get
close to them, trying to get,you know, trying to get to know
them, And they're just like, whyis she talking to us? Or why is
she saying that stuff? Why isshe oversharing? Yeah.
I feel like when you don't likesomeone, you see everything they
do as annoying or as like, oh,why can't she do this and
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criticize everything she does?
Edgar (03:17):
Mhmm.
Erika (03:18):
So I think if she should like, if sure. She don't like
her, but at least try to, like,help her out. Maybe not make it,
like, from scratch. Just buysome cookies like you mentioned.
Mhmm.
Like, I think she's just being,like, making this a problem when
it doesn't have to be a problem.Yeah.
Edgar (03:36):
I guess that's, like, another way to look at it. Like,
how is, the bride or, like,yeah, the daughter-in-law gonna
tell what cookies come from atthe end of the day?
Erika (03:45):
Yeah. Like, who cares? Or be like, you know, it was
allowed for me. I made some, butthen I bought some.
Edgar (03:51):
I wouldn't even say that. I would just say, it's all made
by me.
Erika (03:55):
Whatever. You know? She could've just done that. Why she
has to make it a difficultthing, like Mhmm. Criticizing
her and annoying annoyed by hersaying that she doesn't wanna
she can't do it at all.
Like, she doesn't have the timeto.
Edgar (04:07):
Yeah.
Erika (04:07):
And if she didn't have the time for it, then fine. Just
buy all the cookies.
Edgar (04:11):
Mhmm.
Erika (04:11):
Like, I don't know. I just feel like she really
doesn't like herdaughter-in-law, and she's just
making this a huge issue.Because I feel like if she did
like her, she will at least tryand be like, alright. You know,
I don't feel comfortable withit, but I'll try.
Edgar (04:23):
Mhmm.
Erika (04:23):
And she could just buy the cookies if she at the end of
the day, she couldn't make them.
Edgar (04:27):
Yeah. Like compromising. Let's say, listen to like, I'll
make you a hundred or 200cookies, but not a thousand.
Erika (04:33):
Yeah. And then I could invite the rest or whatever. I
don't know. Just try to, like,help her out. I mean, she
already knows that she her momis not, you know, not there for
her.
Yeah.
Edgar (04:42):
And she's
Erika (04:42):
gonna be part of the family, and she's not only doing
it for her, but for her son aswell.
Edgar (04:46):
Mhmm. And her son seems to be upset as well.
Erika (04:48):
Yeah. But, like, I don't think she wants to do that. I
think she's just not she'smaking an issue of nothing.
Edgar (04:54):
I mean, yeah. I mean, it's not the hugest issue, but I
feel like yeah. I mean, evengoing, like, a little bit little
bit in a way of, like, helpinghowever she could could have,
like, gone around this issuewith the with not only a son,
but, like, the daughter-in-law.
Erika (05:08):
Yeah. I mean What
Edgar (05:09):
did other people say?
Erika (05:11):
They actually, she was voted not the asshole.
Edgar (05:13):
Really? Oh, so you're gonna be rude to me.
Erika (05:15):
I don't agree with that. No. I just think she doesn't
like the sis thedaughter-in-law, and the sister
in laws don't like her either.Mhmm. And she just doesn't wanna
take the time to, like, help herout.
Yeah. So I just I think thatshe's a asshole. She just buy
cookies. That's it. Simple asthat.
Yeah. I I know a lot of peopleprobably well, obviously, a lot
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of people don't agree with me,but I don't care. I really think
that she she's being theasshole.
Edgar (05:43):
Okay. So, final verdict on this story? No.
Erika (05:46):
I don't think she's an asshole.
Edgar (05:48):
And I
Erika (05:50):
I mean, she is asshole. Okay.
Edgar (05:52):
Yeah. I was off to you, but I'm pretty sure I think she
is not the asshole. But I
Erika (05:57):
think she is. Okay.
Edgar (05:58):
So the next story is titled, Am I the Asshole for
Starting My Wedding on Time? So,yeah, being so, chat, is it
being an asshole to be punctual?
Erika (06:10):
You should you are that punctual person
Edgar (06:12):
No.
Erika (06:12):
No. At all, and it drives me crazy.
Edgar (06:14):
I I worked my own time. But yeah. So going into the
story, my parents are late foreverything. They were late for
everything while I grew up, andthey refused to care about being
late. They do not care howdisrespectful it is to everyone
else.
My older siblings have adjustedto this by planting all kinds of
slack into the schedules. Ourparents showed up late to both
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of their weddings, but that hadbeen accounted for, so they were
able to participate in theweddings as planned. The same
goes for family get togethersthat are hosted by anyone other
than my parents. My siblingsplanned for them to be late. I
went the other way.
When my parents were late frommy high school graduation, I
told them that I would neverwait for them for any event that
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I had power over, and I haveheld to that. When my wife and I
hosted our first Thanksgivingafter we bought our home, we
started eating on time. Myparents showed up late after
visiting with another family andwere surprised to see us all
laying around and in comas foodcomas. My wife and I got married
last weekend in the ceremonywhen we need one perfectly.
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Other than my mother not beinginvolved in the candle
lightning, my older sister wasmy backup.
My parents showed up threefourth of the way through the
ceremony and ended up sitting atthe back of the church. They
kept everything in during thereceiving line and the foremost,
but they let me have itafterwards and before the
reception. They were verydisappointed that they did not
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get to participate in theceremony and that they missed
out on so much of it. I wasready for this. I had one of my
friends waiting, and he took thepictures when they were entering
the church and sitting down atthe back.
He sent me the pictures as atext and as an email. I asked my
friends to show me theirinvitations. They did not have
it with them, so I pulled outthe one I had ready for this. I
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showed them the time on theinvitation. I asked them what
time did they show up, and theysaid that they were only five
minutes late and that I wasbeing an asshole for not
waiting.
I put up my text messages and myemail. Both provided a time
stamp of when they showed up,which was thirty five minutes
late. They said that if I knewthey were going to be late, I
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should have planned for it likemy siblings. I told them I had
not put up with their bullshitsince I graduated from high
school, and why did they think Iwould start now, almost fifteen
years later? I told them that mysiblings could cuddle them all
they wanted, but to enjoy theirtime with me, they had better
learn to be punctual.
They said I was disrespectful,and if I did not like their
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behavior, that this was entirelymy problem. I agreed and said I
would be handling all my timewith them the exact same way. So
a mighty asshole.
Erika (08:59):
Absolutely not. I think she was a little petty, but I
think Yeah. I hope you guys
Edgar (09:03):
are definitely very petty in the past she did. Like, she
had a friend, like, scope outfor her parents. She had him she
had the friend both text andemailed the photo, which is a
little bit
Erika (09:14):
more of a photo. Yeah.
Edgar (09:15):
And time stamps it.
Erika (09:16):
And she had a extra wedding invitation to see what
time the wedding was. I know.
Edgar (09:21):
I mean, if I was the parents, I just I would be
pissed off as well, but notbecause, like, I was copying
late, but because it just seems,like, very prissy and very
petty, yeah, on the entiresetup.
Erika (09:31):
I don't know. I think she's it's her response was
resentment.
Edgar (09:35):
Yeah. She's, like, very resentful, very angry at
Erika (09:38):
I think they must have done something to her, like,
obviously, be late. Shementioned the graduation. I'm
assuming that they were late toher graduation too, and they
probably missed the ceremony. Ifeel like she's just sick of
them and being late, and she'stired of people accommodating
them.
Edgar (09:51):
I feel like if you you know, you have one day that it's
gonna be a wedding for a friendor family or whatever, you're,
like, basically
Erika (09:57):
Your own daughter. That's ridiculous.
Edgar (09:59):
Entire day and have have have everything you're gonna do
that day be surrounded for thatevent.
Erika (10:05):
I don't know. I feel
Edgar (10:06):
Like, how why would they leave? Like, was there any
reason they gave her being,like, more than three fourths
away late before, the weddingceremony? Like, it just seems
like, what could they havepossibly done? Like, all their
friends and all their familywere probably busy, like,
getting to their wedding on timeand preparing. So what they when
were they doing?
Erika (10:23):
I don't get it. Like, I mean, are they late to their
doctor's appointments too?Because a certain amount of time
you're late, you're you're nottaking your appointment. You
have to reschedule, and you haveto probably pay a fee.
Edgar (10:33):
This becomes a problem for being charged and stuff. I
find it, like, funny that, like,both the parents are always
late. So it's, like, they'rekinda like a package deal. I
don't know, like, who startedthe lateness, whether it was a
mother or father. But yeah.
Erika (10:45):
No. It's annoying because they literally said we were just
five minutes late. Like, thirtyfive minutes thirty five minutes
late. Come on, people. I don'tknow.
I just I'm get frustrated whenpeople are late because I think
everybody's time is valuable.And if you so they tell you a
certain time and you're there acertain time and they're not
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ready, literally, they'rediscarding your time and wasting
your time. Mhmm. And I thinkthat's very disrespectful. And I
think at least for Hispanicculture, a lot of people are
late.
Oh my goodness. But I hate it. Iam I hate it. I really don't
like that because, you know, youserve a certain amount of time.
You you make your day andschedule your things around it
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so you could pay on time.
There's just no excuse.
Edgar (11:32):
Mhmm.
Erika (11:33):
Especially if you say or you know ahead of time, weeks
ahead.
Edgar (11:36):
Yeah. Yeah. Exactly.
Erika (11:37):
I'm assuming they told them, what, months ahead, a year
ahead. I don't know. But, like,you know, you should be there on
time, especially for yourdaughter's wedding.
Edgar (11:47):
Mhmm.
Erika (11:48):
And it's annoying, though, because I feel like the
all the all his sister all theirsisters always be like, yeah.
It's okay. You know, we madetime for them to come late.
Like, no.
Edgar (11:58):
And I
Erika (11:58):
feel like they encouraged that behavior, which is, like,
impossible for them toliterally, like, stop doing that
because people accommodate them.
Edgar (12:07):
Yeah. And because the other siblings, like, coddle
their parents' lateness, nowthat this like, OP is, like,
making the stand and saying, no.It's not okay to be late. Like,
she's, like, the one the odd oneout and, like, the one that's
gonna get, like, the fall foreverything. You know?
If I win and out of the wheels,she's, like, not gonna be, like,
the parents' favorite at allanymore.
Erika (12:27):
I just don't think that they're gonna ever get this
moment back unless she getsdivorced and get married again.
Like, they literally missed outon something that happens once.
Edgar (12:43):
Maybe twice.
Erika (12:44):
Three times. But, you know, it's just one of those
things where, you know, theyreally they really messed up in
this one. And the top comment ishard not the asshole. If they
want to be late for a play ordoctor's appointment or
whatever, that's on them. Ifthey were going to be on time
for even one thing, you think itwas their child's wedding.
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This is on them. I agree.Because it's just frustrating
that people just their parentsespecially your parent, like,
you want them to be part of yourwedding. Like, I would be really
upset if my parents came late. Iwould be like, literally, I
would look at them differently.
And I think there's theirrelationship was already
strained. I feel like this alsomade their relationship a lot
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more difficult to really patchup.
Edgar (13:32):
Yeah. Yeah. So final verdict?
Erika (13:36):
She's not the asshole.
Edgar (13:37):
I wouldn't say she's the asshole, but I think, like, her
execution is pettiness, vergingon assholelessness. But she did
it for a reason, a good reasonat least.
Erika (13:46):
I think this one, it's okay to be the asshole. Yeah. I
don't I don't think she didanything wrong.
Edgar (13:53):
Mhmm.
Erika (13:55):
And then the second story I mean, third story is I'm at
the asshole for not going to myold friend's weddings after she
said what she said to me. A fewmonths ago, a friend of mine
told me she was getting married.It wasn't meant to be a regular
wedding, but more of a elopementkind of thing. We were supposed
to be her groom, me as the maidof honor, and a best man, plus a
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few close members, about 10people in total, and it was
planned for I say wedding likeit in in the title because there
would be no invites. No save thedate, no ceremony, no walk down
the aisle, just courthouse anddinner.
That comes from the brideherself, not guessing anything.
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A week ago, I got the news thatI had gotten a permanent job. I
don't know how to explain itbecause this is a very typical
thing from the country. Spainwhere every so often, the
government will hireprofessionals to work either in
the administration or in publicinstitutions, education, high
school. This is usually a greatopportunity because these are
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positions are for life, well,until you retire.
And they can never fire you.And, obviously, it depends on
the conduct too.
Edgar (15:08):
Mhmm.
Erika (15:09):
In order to apply for these positions, you have to
take an exam. And then dependingon, oh, your years of service to
the institution and the scoreyou get on the exam, you could
get one of those jobs. Longstory short, I took the exam
last year, and last week, I gottold that I got one of the jobs.
But I still will be moving citycities for that. When I told my
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friends this, the only thing shesaid was, when are you leaving?
Can you still come to mywedding? No congratulations. No.
I'm happy for you. Nothing.
I must add, two weeks ago, Italked to her to know where we
were having dinner for herwedding, and she said she didn't
have anything planned yet, letalone booked. Had she told me
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she had everything booked andthat she really needed my
reservation, I would haveunderstood her answer. But in
that context, I've decided thatif the only thing she cares
about is her and her wedding andshe can't even be happy for me,
I'm not going to the wedding atall. Am I the asshole?
Edgar (16:09):
No. She ain't the asshole for that.
Erika (16:13):
Like, I understand getting a job is a huge deal.
And but, like, she knows thather friend is getting married.
Edgar (16:22):
Yeah.
Erika (16:22):
Like, why why don't you think that would be the first
thing she would ask? I don'tknow. Like, if you were like,
for example, if my friend I wasgetting married, she she told me
about the job. Sure. I will saycongratulations, but then I'm
like, would you be able to cometo the wedding, though?
Edgar (16:38):
I
Erika (16:38):
don't know. I don't think she's an asshole.
Edgar (16:40):
Yeah. I wanna say so too. And, like, also, her getting a
job and stuff, like, I feel likethat's, like, a valid like, one
of the few valid reasons to misson a wedding and, like, you
know, because it's something forthe livelihood and all of that.
And I don't know about Spain,but I imagine the interview
times for that are, like, alittle bit more stringent. So,
like, this is, like they have,like, a deadline or they have
something that'll make it so,like, the friend can't move it
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around freely.
Erika (17:03):
She has to move, she said.
Edgar (17:05):
So like, scheduling the actual interviews?
Erika (17:07):
Well, she did it a year ago.
Edgar (17:09):
Oh, okay.
Erika (17:10):
And she got accepted.
Edgar (17:11):
Oh, okay.
Erika (17:12):
So she was really happy about it, obviously, because
it's a good opportunity for her.Mhmm. But instead of the friend
saying congratulations, she justsaid, why will you be able to
come to the wedding? I don't Imean, like, right now, she's
also making an important, youknow, step for her life. And
since you are, you know, one ofher friends, I would suspect
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that you would also wanna tellher, hey.
I will make it or I won't. Mhmm.I I don't know.
Edgar (17:39):
I feel like yeah. I mean, I don't think I would be mad if
any of my friends ever missed mywedding, but I feel like there's
some people who are, like, veryoffensive about that.
Erika (17:47):
A guy.
Edgar (17:48):
Oh, yeah. That's true too. But I don't know. I feel
like it's something very pettyto be upset over.
Erika (17:56):
You wanna know the verdict?
Edgar (17:57):
What?
Erika (17:58):
They said that she's actually the asshole.
Edgar (18:00):
Alright. Very.
Erika (18:02):
We're like, so I'm the opposite. You're actually this
word disagreement. Mhmm. I don'tknow I feel like she it was
important for her to be thereand the fact that she didn't say
right off the batcongratulations like she
shouldn't hold it against her. Ibet if she was to go to the
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wedding, she would have saidcongratulations, and I'm sorry,
you know, for not, you know,saying that back to you or
whatever.
I think just right now,everything is, like, really just
about her wedding right now.
Edgar (18:34):
Well, not for everybody. Like, not for Opie. Opie has,
like, better things to do in herlife.
Erika (18:40):
Well, I mean, obviously, because she's not marrying
anybody, so she doesn't know thefeeling
Edgar (18:44):
Mhmm.
Erika (18:45):
Of, like, oh, I mean, sure. It's not, like, a huge
thing. I feel like all this postis about her justifying not
going to the wedding. The topcomment was deleted. However, so
signing some papers and a dinnerfor ten, that wedding planning
and what stress still seems likea pretty solid question.
Most people find embarking on alifelong commitment very
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stressful.
Edgar (19:07):
Mhmm.
Erika (19:08):
So, like, I I get where the friend that's getting
married is coming from. Like, Ithink everything she's thinking
about is just, like, everythingfor the, you know, the dinner.
Sure. It's not a huge thing, andit's not, like, caters and
everything like that. But Mhmm.
Edgar (19:24):
I feel like I mean, I understand LP's point of view
because, like, from how the funwas, like, talking about the
wedding, they're saying, oh,it's gonna be courthouse
wedding. I don't even have,like, the the dining place
afterwards, like, all figuredout yet. I would think that she
wasn't taking the weddingseriously or, like, maybe that
she didn't feel like the weddingwas, like, wouldn't would make
her so angry.
Erika (19:44):
I mean, it's still important though regardless if
it's, like, a huge wedding ornot. She's still making a huge
decision. And if she invited herfriend, it's because she wants
her to be there, especially ifit's such a, like, small wedding
or whatever.
Edgar (19:59):
But, so final verdict on this?
Erika (20:03):
How about you? You go first.
Edgar (20:04):
Yeah. Let's just say OP wasn't the asshole for missing
the wedding.
Erika (20:11):
I think she he she is.
Edgar (20:15):
Okay. And then now for the next story. And Mariaso for
apparently making the weddingall about me by being difficult
and not taking off work to godress shopping. My son told me
to come over. I'm on my phone.
Background, I have to travel formy job. Monday through Friday,
I've been getting on a planeevery Monday and getting back on
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Friday due to a project needingto be supervised. My future
daughter-in-law works four daysa week, Wednesday to Saturday,
ten hour shifts. She wants tomet up to get a dress for the
wedding. These people can'tspell over it.
Erika (20:57):
But, yeah, again fed up?
Edgar (20:59):
Yeah. I mean, I've been trying to fix the the spelling
errors, but, yeah, she wants tobe there when they get a dress.
Originally, I was just going towear the same dress I wear for
all the weddings, a long bluedress, but she wanted me to wear
something else since I willmatch her bridesmaids. She looks
at our schedule. Sunday would bethe best day to do this.
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We are both off. She told me nosince that is her rest day. She
asked for Monday. I told her Ican't, and I have to work. Then
I suggested Friday or Saturdayafter work.
Those got shot down. She wantsme to take off work. I then
suggested she send me examplesof what she wants, and I'll shop
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by myself and buy something likethe examples also shot down.
After much back and forth, Itold her the blue dress is what
I'm going to wear. This startedan argument, and she called me a
jerk.
My son is mad, making thewedding about me and not taking
off work. I don't think I'm evenbeing unreasonable, but he told
me to post there. So you knowwhat the asshole?
Erika (22:05):
No. Absolutely not.
Edgar (22:07):
I think yeah. I mean, she gave she yeah. She tried. She
gave, like, a bunch of, like,these small things that, like or
that were convenient for both ofthem, OP and the
daughter-in-law. Like, theSunday thing, like, if if this
is like a well, this is a very,like, important, like, day for
the daughter in law's life.
So, like, I think taking onerest day off to do, like,
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something for a wedding is,like, reasonable enough to do.
But instead, she's like, no. I Idon't wanna do that. I need a
rest. But can you take a day offfrom work?
Erika (22:37):
No. It's not only that. It's just that she tried, like,
three or four times toaccommodate her and say, okay.
I'm working. I'm in a project.
I can't take it off. Let's dothis, this, this, and she denied
all of them.
Edgar (22:49):
Mhmm.
Erika (22:50):
That's ridiculous. People's lives don't stop
because it's your wedding.
Edgar (22:55):
Exactly.
Erika (22:56):
So I think she is not the asshole at all. And the the fact
that the son is being it's like,you you you posted on Reddit.
Edgar (23:06):
I know. That's how he's like he he thinks that he was
gonna be on the side.
Erika (23:10):
Yeah. And it turns out and then the verdict is not the
asshole.
Edgar (23:13):
Yeah. Yeah.
Erika (23:14):
Everyone So shove that up here. Yeah.
Edgar (23:17):
That son feels pretty foolish right now.
Erika (23:20):
Yes. Because, obviously, everybody thinks she's the wife
is well, the daughter-in-law isasshole. Mhmm. The top comment
is not the asshole. You'veoffered reasonable suggestions
to make this work, and she shutdown each of them.
That's not your fault. Why isshe so invested in being there
with you? Surely, you can pickout a dress in a fit in a style
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that would be appropriate and aand suitable. So, yeah, I I
don't get that. And then OPIshould respond into this.
I have no idea why she's soinvested in this. I also don't
get why she doesn't want me towear my blue dress. The hotter I
am, the same color as thebridesmaids. Like, it's a dress.
The wedding is in five months.
(24:02):
Yeah. So I definitely agree. Imean, it's she has five months.
Like
Edgar (24:09):
Mhmm.
Erika (24:09):
Why is she being so difficult? I'm sure in those
five months, she has time toaccommodate her schedule or both
of them to compromise. I I don'tunderstand what's so difficult
about it. What do you think, Bo?
Edgar (24:23):
Mhmm. Yeah. I agree.
Erika (24:24):
Not the asshole. Right?
Edgar (24:25):
Yeah. I know. There was, like, a final update for the
story, and, he's she says, okay.My son has this link. Anyways,
he told me that I can wear theblue dress, and, it won't be an
issue.
No response from futuredaughter-in-law.
Erika (24:42):
Because she knows she got burned.
Edgar (24:44):
Yeah. She got ratioed back for her her career.
Erika (24:48):
She got what?
Edgar (24:48):
Ratioed.
Erika (24:49):
Oh. She
Edgar (24:51):
got ratioed.
Erika (24:52):
Something to know. So it's like Yeah.
Edgar (24:53):
Keep keep hearing things. But, yeah, final verdict then.
Erika (24:58):
Not the asshole.
Edgar (24:59):
Yeah. Definitely the asshole. And the son is
definitely the asshole for we'retrying to, like, have her post
this and, like, think she shouldbe humiliated online, but no.
Erika (25:09):
He was the one and the daughter-in-law was the
humiliated one.
Edgar (25:13):
Yeah. I'm right back at them. Okay. The next story is
titled, Am I the asshole fortelling my stepdaughter she can
have her dead dad pay for thewedding? So as an edit, she is
27 right now, which I don't knowwhat the context of that is, but
so I may have gone too far.
My now wife divorced her ex whenher three kids were young. He
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was an addict. She met me a fewyears later, and we dated for
two years before she introducedme to her kids. Two kids really
hit it off and Kylie did notlike me. Just passive aggressive
stuff, but it did become muchworse when her dad passed away.
She did not take it well, whichresulted in a lot of outbursts
even though I wasn't living withthem at this time. She went into
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therapy, but overall, it didn'tseem like it helped. She
frightened me she frightens torun away if I marry their mom.
So I stayed away, but continuedto date their mom. Bro.
Over time, the two other kidsstarted to stay at my place in
order to get away from thedrama. It was a rough time for
them, and we bonded even more.When Kelly was 18, the two of us
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decided to stop pulling ourlives on hold and getting
married, and Kelly hated this.The other kids were happy,
though. Every interaction I havehad with her has been
unpleasant, and I don't see heras one of my own kids.
I eventually adopted hersiblings when they were 16 and
17 since they asked me. Andduring the time, she destroyed a
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lot of her sibling stuff forbetraying their dad. Now I
rarely see her, and I prefer itthat way, actually. The two kids
have an on and off,relationship. I paid for my two
kids' weddings.
I got a call from her asking meto pay for her wedding since I
paid for the other two. I toldher no. This started an argument
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about how it's unfair. I hadenough and told her to have her
dad pay for the wedding. Shehung up after some lovely names.
I may have gone too far, whichmakes me a jerk, but am I the
asshole? So I think the yeah.She's an asshole for saying that
because, like, it's prettyuncalled before. Oh, he oh,
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yeah. Yeah.
He think it's a she, but not ahe. But, yeah, I think it's,
like, pretty uncalled for to saythat, especially to, like, a a
child, basically.
Erika (27:32):
She's not a child.
Edgar (27:33):
How old is she?
Erika (27:34):
She's 27.
Edgar (27:35):
Why she act like that?
Erika (27:37):
She didn't grow up.
Edgar (27:38):
Yeah. I guess so. I guess after the death of her dad, she
kinda, like, never grew out ofit. But, yeah, I think yeah. So
I don't think I think it's alittle bit asshole to say that.
Like, it's pretty messed up,but, I mean, she's not really
obligated to pay for
Erika (27:52):
He is not.
Edgar (27:53):
The daughter's wedding. But he, yeah, he's not
Erika (27:59):
went a little bit too far for saying that. Yeah.
Edgar (28:01):
But he's not obligated and, like, this is, like, a
daughter that, like, doesn'teven, like, like him.
Erika (28:06):
She's not even adopted by him. Mhmm. I don't know. I felt
like he tried to beaccommodating to her and tried
to be a parent to her, but theyrefused. I mean, her two
siblings agreed on being adoptedby him because
Edgar (28:23):
Mhmm.
Erika (28:24):
I mean, he he can't be doing that bad of a job. They
decided to be adopted by him. Ithink it's just her problem. I
think she was waiting for herher, real dad to come back and
stay with his mom.
Edgar (28:38):
Mhmm. Yeah. I think yeah. It's probably just, like, the
the, like, OP and the thedaughter. She's just, like,
never really jelled.
Erika (28:50):
Yeah. I don't think they ever connected, which is sad
because, I mean, it looks likehe really tried. They even they
said that they stopped datingor, you know, paused their
relationship because, you know,it was so difficult for her.
Edgar (29:01):
Yeah. To process everything. Right. That that
shows, like, on OP's part that,like, he actually cares for,
like, the children, you know.Now a lot of stuff parents,
like, kind of care for theirkids.
Erika (29:09):
They definitely don't.
Edgar (29:10):
Some of them, like, sees them as, like, a like a nuisance
or, like, something, like, extrabaggage in the relationship.
But, like, have, like, a aparent or a separate parent that
does all this for you.
Erika (29:19):
You keep that parent with you because that means they
care.
Edgar (29:22):
Yeah. Exactly. Well, like, at least treat them with,
like, a little bit more respect.Like, even if you, like, you
can't hang out with thembecause, like, you just don't
have the personalities thatmatch, that you should at least
be appreciative. I don't know.
Erika (29:33):
I feel like this could also have, the mother didn't put
her foot down when she was achild. I felt like they
accommodated her so much andbecause they feel bad for her
and her dad or whatever
Edgar (29:44):
Mhmm.
Erika (29:45):
That they give her a lot of legroom and that this made
her think that this thisbehavior is okay. And since she
was a child and since theydidn't stop this, you know, she
kept going.
Edgar (29:56):
Yeah.
Erika (29:56):
Yeah. She's 27 years old, and she's acting like a child
still.
Edgar (30:00):
I know. Yeah.
Erika (30:00):
I don't
Edgar (30:01):
think she was little old.
Erika (30:02):
I know. You thought she was little. No. 27 years old.
Edgar (30:05):
I think she was 19, but, yeah, 27.
Erika (30:07):
20 seven. I'm like, hello.
Edgar (30:09):
That's crazy.
Erika (30:11):
So, yeah, I don't think and then destroying her sibling
stuff because they wanted to getadopted by this poor man
Edgar (30:17):
Mhmm.
Erika (30:18):
That wanted to be a dad to them, that's insane. I think,
sure, maybe at that age, she wasyoung, but it's just shows you
how her personality is.
Edgar (30:28):
Mhmm.
Erika (30:29):
It's clearly not his fault. I think he kinda push she
pushed him so far that he saidthis.
Edgar (30:36):
Yeah.
Erika (30:37):
For years of years of resentment and rejection because
Edgar (30:41):
she may think about it. Yeah. I mean, the daughter
should have been surprised thatshe was gonna get, like,
punched. Like, basically, like,punched her this, like, comment
after all of what she did. Idon't think she should have
expected her wedding to be paidoff after, like, that that's
done with the the sibling stuff.
Erika (30:59):
Yeah. I don't understand the like, the entitlement is
crazy to me Mhmm. Thinking, oh,because you're married to my
mom, now you have to pay for mywedding. Like
Edgar (31:08):
Hey. You already know she's gonna get, like, the most
expensive wedding too.
Erika (31:11):
Yeah. I don't I don't I don't get the entitlement.
Edgar (31:13):
Like unlimited drinks, all night bar, sushi bar,
unlimited food.
Erika (31:18):
That's what you want.
Edgar (31:19):
I want a taco truck, but
Erika (31:21):
You know. Yes.
Edgar (31:23):
Talk with Chuck to the wedding.
Erika (31:24):
No. Talk with Fort Worth. No. But, yes, I I think she's
just I I think he went a littlebit too far, but she deserved
it.
Edgar (31:34):
Mhmm.
Erika (31:35):
She honestly deserved it. And then the top comment is,
yes. It was a stupid, hurtful,and immature thing to say, but I
get it. I understand that thiswas the oldest girl and probably
closest to her father. And, ofcourse, she probably resented
the divorce, but that'ssomething you should grow out
of.
Once her father died, you thinkit might have opened up her
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heart a little, but, apparently,that was not to be. And, you
know, so be it. It's her life.It's her choice. But it takes a
lot of balls to then comeskipping back and waiting for
you to pay for her wedding.
I don't blame you for refusing,but I'm curious as to what your
wife thinks. A big not theasshole on not paying the
wedding. And then OP responded,yeah. It was petty. Thinking
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about it, it was a resentresentment building up of how
many times I just took heranger.
It was like finally standing upto a bully. After so many years
of taking it, for sure feltgreat to give it back no matter
how petty it was. So, yeah,definitely, that was crazy to
me. Mhmm. I think it was just abuildup.
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I think he just exploded, and hehad to, like, just let it out.
Yeah. And I get it, but, I mean,as an adult, I think more adult,
I I would say. He should'veknown a little better to say
such harsh words. However, Ithink I get it, honestly.
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I think he said what he said.She deserves it.
Edgar (33:08):
So final verdict?
Erika (33:11):
Not the asshole. And everybody voted not the asshole
either.
Edgar (33:14):
Yeah. Yeah. I don't think he was, like, the asshole for
you. What he said wasn't okay,but, yeah, you can we can all
Understand make their mistakes.
Erika (33:23):
Yeah. Alright. So next, is Emma the asshole for taking
back a family heirloom for mydaughter-in-law before the
wedding? My family has twoheirlooms that we give to a
bride or groom when they marry.For the man, it's a set of
cufflinks, and for the woman,it's a bracelet.
My oldest son and my oldestsister are married, and their
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spouses wore the bracelet orcufflinks at their wedding. This
tradition is essentially for ourfamily's way of saying we are
accepting you to the family.When my future daughter-in-law
got engaged, I gave her thebracelet and explained that it's
a family heirloom, expressinghow many meaningful it would be
if she were it at the wedding. Imentioned that she could wear it
during the reception if shepreferred not to wear it in the
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ceremony. It's a white jadebracelet, and I shared its
significance with her.
Now in the wedding only a fewmonths away, there's a problem.
My daughter has been getting toknow my future daughter-in-law,
and she recently came to mesaying that my future
daughter-in-law thinks thebracelet is ugly and has been
complaining about it. She evenshowed me texts where my future
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daughter-in-law said somehurtful things about me, calling
me controlling ass, forgivingher the bracelet. This was hurt,
and it feels like a completerejection, especially since she
knows why it's important. When Iasked my son, she said she
didn't he didn't know anythingabout her feelings on this.
Since she clearly doesn't wantto want or respect the bracelet,
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I asked for it back. That's whenthings got messy. She made a big
deal about how I was excludingher from the family by taking it
back. Now she's pissed andcalling me a jerk. My son also
thinks I'm a jerk for taking itback even after I show him what
she said.
People are divided over thissaying that by taking it back,
it implies I don't see her as afamily or trust her with a
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heirloom. What do you think?
Edgar (35:12):
Yeah. I don't think she's the asshole for, like, taking it
back. Like, I think it doesimply that, like, she doesn't
accept the daughter. Like,symbolically, she doesn't accept
the the daughter-in-law into thewedding, but, also, like, it's,
like, reasonable because was,like, not liking the the, the
bracelet and was, like, kindabeing an ass over it.
Erika (35:32):
Yeah. I I think it was just very disrespectful. Yeah.
Like, if your mom was to give mesomething like this, I would be
very grateful. Like, even if Imaybe didn't agree with the
design or whatever, I would sayit's still beautiful.
Why? Because you have to berespectful, and she's trying to
give you something that's passeddown. Yeah. And either or.
Edgar (35:53):
If anything, that means a lot to, like Yeah. To everybody.
Yeah.
Erika (35:55):
So why are why she being an asshole? Mhmm. So, yeah, I
think she was verydisrespectful, and she didn't
care about the meaning behindthe bracelet.
Edgar (36:05):
Yeah. You'd think that, like, the the sun would would
consider that, like, a kind ofred flag. You know?
Erika (36:10):
Yeah. I don't wanna wanna marry somebody like that. Like,
if I were you, I'd be like,that's kinda a red flag a %.
Yeah.
Edgar (36:17):
I mean, I just wanna be, like, annoyed. I'd be like,
yeah. Yeah. I mean, it's just,like, inappropriate to say. And
I feel like yeah.
Yeah. I I would I would feelhurt if I heard that.
Erika (36:26):
I don't know. I feel like this could have been avoided if
the sister-in-law didn't sayanything.
Edgar (36:31):
Yeah.
Erika (36:32):
Because the mom didn't know. Like, I think she said to
the sister-in-law in confidencethat she didn't like it and she
didn't wanna wear it. But, Imean, I think it's just
disrespectful. Yeah. Youshouldn't be saying that
because, you know, this isliterally what it means.
It means that you're part ofwelcoming to the family. And,
like, why are you just, like,taking that for granted? It's
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crazy to me.
Edgar (36:56):
Yeah.
Erika (36:57):
So the top comment is, if she has simply come to you and
said, hey. I appreciate thesentiment so much, but this
isn't really my style, and Idon't want to wear it at the
wedding. How would you havereacted? And OP stated, that
would have been fine. My ownmother didn't wear it.
But had it on the family table,I probably would have worn it or
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asked if my son wanted to wearit.
Edgar (37:21):
So yeah. I mean, like, it looks like there's a like,
there's probably, like, a reallyugly looking bracelet. Like, if
even, like, the the grandmotherand, like, past ancestors didn't
like it. But, like, they have,like, something, like, they are
they still respected it. Youknow?
They didn't, like, oh, I don'twant this at all. They didn't
say, like
Erika (37:36):
Yeah. Just I think if she would've talked to her, like,
offer and be like, hey. Youknow, this is I appreciate you
welcoming into your family, butI it's just not really the style
of the wedding and the dress.
Edgar (37:47):
Yeah. Yeah.
Erika (37:47):
Oh, keep it there or keep it in my for my future, you
know, for my daughters orwhatever.
Edgar (37:53):
Yeah. Keep it. Just keep it somewhere that, like, it's
respectful, respectful in theplace, but, like, not ruining,
like, whatever, weddingaesthetic she was going for.
Erika (38:00):
I think this could have been avoided if the, bride to be
was just honest.
Edgar (38:07):
Yeah.
Erika (38:07):
And, like, respectful, honestly. Mhmm.
Edgar (38:10):
Not It does take, like, a level of, like like, respect and
then, like, some comfortabilitywith the numb with OP, like,
from daughter-in-law to to amother in law. Like, to they
have to, like, have that levelof comfort with each other to,
like, until you have thatconversation. But I guess they
don't at that point.
Erika (38:27):
They probably don't. Yeah. That's why they, you know,
she decided to say it. Mhmm.
Edgar (38:30):
And
Erika (38:31):
she said I I think she honestly, I felt like she said
in confidence with thesister-in-law.
Edgar (38:35):
Basically.
Erika (38:35):
But obviously, the sister-in-law was like, I'm a
talk behind your back and said,why you said to my mother about
the bracelet?
Edgar (38:41):
Yes. The sis yeah. The other sister, one of them. Yeah.
Definitely asshole material.
I think she, like, it'sperfectly sabotage the entire
wedding. Is she gonna keep herher mouth shut?
Erika (38:52):
Yeah. I mean, honestly, if I was to say that I mean,
obviously, if Brianna would,like because who else? Is it
only Brianna? My other. She'sthe only sister-in-law.
Right?
Edgar (39:02):
Yeah. I think so. Yeah.
Erika (39:03):
Yeah. Yeah. Because yeah. Like, if she was told to tell me
something like that, I wouldhave kept it shut. I would have
said my mom to anything, like,hello.
Like, why are you trying to ruintheir relationship? Mhmm. Like,
you know, like, I feel like thesister-in-law is also an
asshole.
Edgar (39:17):
Yeah. So
Erika (39:19):
The bird the and the verdict for the, Reddit was
actually not the asshole.
Edgar (39:24):
So final verdict?
Erika (39:25):
Not the asshole.
Edgar (39:27):
Yeah. Definitely. I don't I like even, like, the the
daughter-in-law, I wouldn'treally consider her an asshole
as well. I just think she didn'tgo about, like, this entire
situation the best way. Ifanything, the yeah.
The sister was the asshole for,like, basically instigating
this, like, whole fight in thewedding. The last story is, am I
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the asshole for refusing to wearthe wedding dress my
sister-in-law gave to me as awedding gift? I, female twenty
seven, met my fiance, Jacob,male thirty one, when I was 21.
We've been together for sixyears and engaged for almost a
year out of those. My mother'swedding dress has been passed
down for generations, and Iremember being a little girl
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dreaming of walking down theaisle in it.
We have recently been weddingplanning, and we were invited to
a dinner hosted by my fiance'sfamily, and that was on Sunday.
When we arrived, we greetedeveryone and sat at the table to
eat. Sister-in-law stood up andtapped her spoon against her
glass and said that she had tomake a toast. She then said she
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would be right back before goinginto another room and returning
with large plastic bags.Everyone seemed to be excited,
but I just felt confused.
I awkwardly smiled as I askedsister-in-law what was inside
the bag. She opened it up toreveal her wedding dress from
her wedding, which was two yearsago. Everyone began clapping as
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sister-in-law announced thatthis was her official wedding
gift to us, and she wanted forme to wear her dress at the
wedding. I tried a small, but Iguess I didn't do a good job of
hiding my disappointment, andeveryone began asking me what
was wrong. I tried to explainhow I wanted to wear my mother's
dress and that it was nothingpersonal, but that I refused to
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wear my sister in law's dress.
My sister-in-law began cryingand as my in laws began tearing
into me and comforting her. Ijust burst into tears and ran
outside. My fiance didn't evencome after me. And after crying
my eyes out on the steps forwhat felt like hours, he finally
came outside and yelled at me toget into the car. No comfort for
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her.
No mercy. I was so confused, butI got into the car just to hear
him berate me on how I had madesuch a big scene and embarrassed
him in front of his family. Hesounded so mad, and he even said
he couldn't believe he chose tomarry such a bitchy cunt, his
exact words. My fiance also saidour sister-in-law was just
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trying to be nice and that herdress was more modern compared
to my mother's dress, whichlooked like an old rag, also his
exact words. I tried to tell himhow much my mother's wedding
dress meant to me because Ipromised her that I would wear
it.
I felt like my fiance's familyplanned this and put me on the
spot thinking I wouldn't standup for myself and just agreed to
(42:15):
wear sister in law's dress. Idon't think I did anything
wrong, but a part of me thinks Ishould have just gone along with
it and then told sister-in-lawin private that I wouldn't be
wearing the dress. Anybodyasshole? Definitely no.
Erika (42:29):
Throw them all away. Throw them all away. Don't even
get married, girl. This isliterally red flag a hun like,
1000.
Edgar (42:36):
The entire family, like, they just basically ambushed her
to wear this, like, dress thatshe didn't want. I I I I am just
surprised that they were, like,so, like, angry at the the
response.
Erika (42:47):
I think it was just an it it was so unfair for her. Mhmm.
They just decided to just go belike, hey. We want you to wear
this because that's what ourfamily wants to do. And since
you're gonna be part of thefamily, you have no choice.
Edgar (43:02):
I know.
Erika (43:03):
That's ridiculous. Like, nobody decided to, you know, ask
her if she, you know, alreadyhas something and or she's
already planning on wearingsomething. It's crazy to me. And
the the fact okay. Fine.
Let's say she offered, and she,you know, said, no. You know, I
can't wear it because I'malready wearing my my mother's
dress. Okay. That should havebeen alright. There's no reason
(43:25):
for for them to basically lookat her or make her feel bad for
making her own decisions in herwedding.
Edgar (43:33):
Yeah. I think yeah. Exactly. Like, they should they
should have been, like, aprivate conversation first
between, the sister-in-law andOP. And they should just talk
about, hey.
What are you wearing for youryour wedding dress or for the
wedding and all that stuff? Andthey should have, like they
should have agreed upon thisbeforehand before I try to make
this into a big deal. Because,like, realistically, the
sister-in-law should haveexpected a yes or no at the at
(43:57):
this event. I wish you a view ofthat. Oh, I want you to take my
wedding gift.
Like like My
Erika (44:04):
wedding dress.
Edgar (44:05):
Yeah.
Erika (44:06):
I don't know. I felt like it was all planned, and it was
just really staged, so shewouldn't be able to say no.
Edgar (44:12):
Yeah. And I mean, like, what reason was was it to, like,
offer up this dress in the firstplace? Like, I feel like a lot
of people offered a weddingdress as a gift to someone else.
Yeah. It's just like I feel likeit's pretty strange.
Erika (44:24):
I think she just didn't wanna buy them anything. And she
just wanted to give them theold, old wedding dress.
Edgar (44:29):
Was it like a nice wedding? Well No. You did say it
was modern. More more modernthan
Erika (44:33):
But it doesn't matter. It's about the sentiment and
what the bride wants to do.Mhmm. Like, just because she
doesn't wear your dress doesn'tmean that she doesn't wanna be
part of your family or Yeah. Iunderstand.
Everybody should literally lookdown on her or be mad at her for
not winning the dress. Uh-huh. Imean, she has something in mind,
and it was her mom's weddingdress. People should respect
that.
Edgar (44:52):
Exactly. I I
Erika (44:53):
think it's ridiculous for them to be like, no. You have to
wear it because she offered it.And then the biggest problem
here is honestly the, fianceshowed his true color saying
that she was a, terrible namesand basically calling her, like,
such a yeah. It was he he was hewas just A
Edgar (45:14):
lot of colorful names?
Erika (45:15):
Yeah. Very colorful names, and it was just
ridiculous. I think she shouldreally think about if she really
wants to be part of this family
Edgar (45:23):
Mhmm.
Erika (45:24):
Because this is how all her life is gonna be if she
decides to be with them.
Edgar (45:30):
Yeah. Like yeah. In this family, she has, like, no one in
this like, on her side.
Erika (45:34):
No. Yeah. And that's the scary part. And on top of that,
to not have your, you know, yourfiancee not on your side either,
like, what are you gonna do? Whoare you gonna go to?
You're gonna be it's gonna be alonely road for her if she
decides to marry this man. Andhe shouldn't because any man
that causes somebody people likethat does not respect you, and
(45:55):
you shouldn't be with a man likethat. The top comment is, ma'am,
you need to leave that wholefamily behind you, including
your fiance, not the asshole.You just had a peek into your
future if you carry on with thisrelationship. And then o p, do
not waste your mama's weddingdress on this man.
He doesn't deserve it.
Edgar (46:15):
That's crazy. And and this also this the top comment
has 21000 upvotes. There's 21000people who have not blessed this
wedding. So she she's gottaleave.
Erika (46:26):
Yeah. I hope so. I mean, there's no up there or anything.
This was posted two hundred andseven days ago. So, hopefully,
she never married that man.
Edgar (46:34):
I wonder if there's a follow-up, but
Erika (46:36):
There isn't. There's no update, unfortunately.
Edgar (46:38):
Alright, Katie. But it's okay. Hopefully, the best for
her. I hope she at least got thehusband on her side.
Erika (46:45):
Wait. There is an update, and I just literally found it.
Oh my god. Okay.
Edgar (46:55):
What is the update?
Erika (46:56):
Says update. Yes. I am leaving him for sure now. I
really don't appreciate the callcomments calling me bad names
for staying. I never intended tostay, and the only reason I
thought we needed a conversationwas because his this behavior
was recent, and I wanted tounderstand what was going on.
I haven't told him that it'sover officially, though it
(47:18):
should be obvious. Yeah. Mainlybecause I'm scared he might do
something violent as manycomments said. I need a I need a
few days to figure out things,and I'm gonna tell my brother to
pick up to pick me up so I canstay there for a few days. I'm
logging off now, and I'll updateif anything happens.
Edgar (47:38):
So I guess yeah. There there are happy endings.
Erika (47:42):
Oh my god. I'm so glad she didn't marry him.
Edgar (47:45):
I know.
Erika (47:46):
That would have been such a
Edgar (47:51):
Yeah. So we got on her for for, figuring out the true
colors before signing all thepaperwork and going through the
ceremony. Yeah.
Erika (47:59):
Marrying the asshole family. Oh my god. Thank god.
Edgar (48:02):
That would have been a nightmare for her.
Erika (48:04):
It would have. I think she was lucky enough to realize
that that man was no good.Mm-mm. So yeah.
Edgar (48:13):
Kind of verdict?
Erika (48:13):
It is she's not the asshole, obviously. How about
you?
Edgar (48:17):
Yeah. Definitely not the asshole at all in this
situation. The entire family,though. Yeah.
Erika (48:22):
Yeah. All the family.
Edgar (48:24):
They gotta put a big a in their forehead.
Erika (48:27):
You mean l?
Edgar (48:28):
A. Or asshole.
Erika (48:29):
As in losers. Yeah. Yeah. Well, I'm glad. At least that
was a happy ending.
I was, like, wondering.
Edgar (48:37):
Mhmm.
Erika (48:39):
But, yes, I hope you guys enjoyed the stories. Thank you
for joining us on the part two.
Edgar (48:45):
On our website, yappings.com, at the very
bottom, you can subscribe to ourmailing list, and you'll be the
first to get anything that wehave, as soon as we we make it.
We were thinking about starting,like, a Patreon or, like, some
sort of place for all of our,like, members, like, core or
less.
Erika (49:03):
Yes. So if you want more content, let us know, and I hope
you enjoy, and see you nextweek. Bye.
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