Episode 15: The Not-So-Happy Families of Reddit

Family are the people who love you, support you, and sometimes make you wish you were adopted. This week, we bring you some of the most unhinged family drama Reddit has to offer:

🧐 A birthday dinner ambush?
🤨 A husband who thinks slapping is a reasonable way to “bring someone to their senses”?
😤 A childhood bully now engaged to dad?
🙅‍♂️ Parents who just can’t figure out why their kid wants nothing to do with them?
🤡 And a wife who’s upset that her husband keeps leveling up in attractiveness??

We're breaking down these messy relationships, handing out verdicts, and deciding once and for all—are these people justified, or are they the drama? Grab your popcorn, because it’s about to get real.

👉🏼Stream now at yappings.com or your favorite podcast streaming platform and let the yapping begin!

Join our Facebook Group AITA - Relationship and Family Drama

Links to threads read:

• AITAH for walking out of my own birthday dinner because of a “surprise guest”?
• Husband: "Don't make me SLAP you to bring you back to your senses."
• AITA for refusing to play happy family with my former bully, who is now my dad’s fiancée?
• AITA for refusing to babysit my sister's kids after she told me I was "too old" to have dreams?
• AITA for Not Wanting Anything to Do with My Parents and Family?
• AITAH for not inviting my In-laws to my triplets birthday party?
• My husband keeps getting more attractive and i don't like it.

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Episode Transcript

Intro (00:00):
Yapping!

Erika (00:02):
Hello. This is Erika

Edgar (00:03):
Edgar

Darielys (00:04):
And Dave,

Erika (00:05):
and we are the Yapping Schnauzers. We entertain you
with the up worthy stories wefind around the web. This
weekend's theme is familyissues. The first title is Emma
the asshole for walking out ofmy own birthday dinner because
of a surprise guest. So lastweekend was my birthday dinner,
and I made it clear to myfriends that I wanted a small

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intimate gathering.
Just my closest people. Nodrama. Everything was going
great until my best friendshowed up with a surprise guest,
my ex. Not just any ex, but theone who cheated on me and left
me heartbroken. Apparently, mybest friend thought it was a
time to bury the hatchet andhelp us rekindle a friendship.

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The moment I saw my ex walk in,I felt sick. Everyone looked at
me waiting for some kind ofreaction. My ex even gave me a
nervous smile like, hey. Longtime no see. I just stood up,
left cash for my meal, andwalked out.
I didn't yell. I didn't cause ascene. I just got up and left. A

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few of my friends followed mesaying they understood, but
others called me immature fornot just being civil. Now my
best friend is pissed off andsays I embarrassed them and
ruined the night.
My ex texted me later sayingthey didn't even know they were
coming, and it felt awkward too.So am I the asshole for leaving
my own birthday dinner insteadof just sucking it up?

Edgar (01:36):
No. Because why would the friend even invite him? That's
kinda messed up. It's so messedup. On her birthday?

Darielys (01:44):
Mhmm. No. You don't do that. Yeah. I would've left too.
That's,
no. I agree.
Because why would she stay?Like, I feel like if she stayed,
it would've been, like, theworst night.

Erika (01:56):
Yeah. She wouldn't be happy at all in her dinner.

Darielys (01:59):
No. That's horrible. And why would the friend even do
that? I don't get it. That's nota real friend.

Erika (02:04):
No. Exactly. If you have friends like that, you shouldn't
have enemies.

Edgar (02:09):
Yeah. Like what? I don't understand. So she just was
like, oh yeah, show up. Like,who even thinks about that?
I don't she's just trying to getmessy.

Erika (02:19):
And she wanted like a no drama small gathering. Yeah. How
she think her ex that left herheartbroken would be a good
idea. Cheated on her is yes. Andthen like, why is it up to her
for her to come in?

(02:39):
Probably her immature was

Edgar (02:41):
kind of crazy too.

Erika (02:41):
Well, some of her friends.

Darielys (02:42):
Yeah.

Edgar (02:43):
Because like what? Yeah. No. I would be so mad. I'd be
like, who invited him?
Yeah. What?

Erika (02:51):
She was really mature about it, honestly.

Edgar (02:54):
Yeah. Honestly, she handled it very well. Because I
would have I don't know what Iwould have done. But I would
have been like, why is why areyou here? I probably would have
caused the scene.
Not me. But not like a wholescene with like the whole
restaurant or whatever likefinds out probably just like the
table but like I would leave toobecause I wouldn't wanna stay

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with somebody that clearly Idon't wanna see on my birthday.
Excellent. Like, that day'ssupposed to be, like, a special
day for you and stuff.

Erika (03:22):
For special people that you wanna celebrate with, not
your ex that cheated on

Edgar (03:26):
you. That's so wrong.

Erika (03:28):
Yes. Okay. So the top comment is not the asshole.
Dude, your best friend crossed ahuge boundary by bringing your
ex, especially one who cheatedon you. You made it clear you
wanted a small intimate dinner,and they completely disregarded
that.
You didn't cause a scene. Youjust left. That's not immature.
That's setting boundaries. Yourbest friend should have
respected that and not forcedyou into an uncomfortable

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situation.
The real issue here is on themfor trying to rekindle a
friendship without even checkingif you were okay with it. Yeah.
Why would they even, like,

Edgar (04:01):
suggest, like, assume that, oh, we should no. What?
No. I feel like that's herchoice, not her friend's choice
to make.

Erika (04:07):
Yes. A %.

Darielys (04:10):
Mhmm.

Erika (04:10):
Yeah. I think it's just I think she just over overstepped,
and I don't think she would bemy best friend anymore. My
friend.

Edgar (04:18):
Yeah. Absolutely not.

Darielys (04:20):
So final verdict?

Erika (04:21):
Not that at all. Not that

Edgar (04:22):
at all.

Darielys (04:22):
Yeah. Definitely not. The next story is titled,
husband, don't make me slap youto bring you back to your
senses. My three to five yearolds are extremely picky eaters
and always make excuses or don'tfinish meals. This really irks
my husband, and he is verydemanding, forceful, and
authoritative with them, and mewhen I don't agree.

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My three year old was fussy asusual for lunch today and
saying, no. I don't wanna eat. Iset a timer for thirty minutes
and said, I'm putting the plateaway when the timer goes off, so
she'll be hungry at nap time ifshe doesn't eat. My husband kept
trying to force her to eat. Eat,take a bite, eat your food, to
which she rebelled more, startedcrying, and barely took a couple

(05:07):
of bites.
My five year old cleared most ofhis plate for lunch, but left
about a quarter because he saidhe was full. My husband demanded
he finish the food. He refusedpolitely saying, no. Thank you.
I'm full.
My husband kept getting more madand saying he had to finish it.
We don't waste food. He hadn'teaten much today, etcetera. My

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son came to me and asked if itwas okay that he was done. My
husband followed him and said,don't ask mommy.
I already told you to finish it.Go sit down and finish your
food. Again, my son said, no.Thank you. I'm full.
I don't wanna eat anymore. Sothen I told my husband to not
force him. If he was full, hecould finish the rest later. I

(05:50):
also reminded him that he neededto stop being so demanding and
forcing the kids to eat orfinish their food. It's causing
more issues and making meal timemore stressful.
It's becoming a huge headacheand having a negative effect on
their health, especially becauseit's starting to cause a feeding
disorder. And I have no and Ihave to deal with it the

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majority of the time as theprimary parent. We have to have
this conversation many, many,many times about how to handle
fooding issues and what theprotocol is for feeding
therapists and past OTs and allthe child therapists and
psychology experts in I followonline. For example, setting
timers, giving choices, allowingthem to try one bite, and having

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a backup meal, usually Greekyogurt with fruits and or a PB
and J. If they don't like themain meal, I also keep low sugar
treats they love on hand likeorganic fruit popsicles or Jell
O as an incentive.
I understand the need to havesome control over what they eat
and try to make it positive andstress free for all of us. I

(06:56):
talked to him about what feedingtherapist suggests, send him
articles to read, share videos,etcetera to improve his
approach. He always says, okay.He understands. But then he
continues to bully.
He got really mad at me todaywhen I told him our son ate
plenty and to stop forcing himif he was full. And after

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reminding him of our multipleconversations regarding feeding
techniques, I then told him, oh,son, we don't waste food, so he
will need to finish it laterduring dinner. My husband
started raising his voice at meand saying I was going behind
his back. All three of us wereliterally standing together. But
I let him do whatever he wantedand wasted food.

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Again, I said, we talked aboutthis so many times, and I'm
literally talking to you aboutthis right now. How is it behind
your back? He kept gettingaggressive with me and
gaslighting, so then itescalated, and we got into a
fight. I cursed a couple oftimes during our conversation,
not at him, but in the contextof which I was expressing. And

(08:03):
he then said I was cursing athim, and I better stop.
I said I'm not cursing at you.I'm just cursing in context
because I'm frustrated with thisalways being an issue and having
this conversation over and overagain. I told him to read up on
feeding issues and educatehimself because I was fucking
tired of having to deal withthis constantly and the

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resulting defiance in me of timebattles with the kids. He kept
accusing me of cursing at himand saying I wasn't allowed to
curse at all and that it didn'tmatter if I was cursing at him
or in the conversation. He gotmore and more aggressive, so
then I did curse at him out ofsheer frustration and
overwhelming stress.
Suddenly he threatened to slapme to bring me back to my

(08:46):
senses. I said, are you reallythreatening to be physically
abusive because I cursed? Andthen started laughing and
mockingly saying, stop it.That's not his goal of use. And
reiterated he would do it onlyto bring you to your senses.
Needless to say, I was not calmat all by this point. I did him
to go ahead and do it, and thenI called the cops on him and

(09:08):
pressed charges. It was a fullblown fight by then, and he just
kept arguing, threatening me,occasionally laughing and
mocking me, then cursed at mewhile claiming I couldn't curse
at all, just escalating thefights. I definitely blew up at
the end. I called him a fewchoice words and cursed back at
him before walking away.
I feel like complete shit rightnow. I have a headache. I've

(09:29):
been crying for an hour, and Ifeel like I'm stuck in a very
toxic relationship. If you readall this, thank you. I'm not
sure what I'm even asking forhere.
I just need it to vent, I guess.And I feel like my reaction to
him threatening to slap me backto my senses was warranted that
he was being abusive. Am Iwrong?

Erika (09:48):
There was so much going on. Oh my god.

Darielys (09:50):
I think, definitely, they need better communication,
like, prior to, like, having allthese fights in front of the
kids. Like, especially, like,having, like, both parents
saying different things whilethey're feeding, like, their
child. Like, that's gonna cause,like, a lot of friction, and
then the child's gonna, like,have preferences, or they're
gonna be confused.

Erika (10:08):
Yeah. And

Darielys (10:09):
I think it's, like, even worse if they're, like, if
they have preferences becausethen they're like, okay. Instead
of going to my dad, who's gonnabe, like, angry at me, I'm just
gonna go to my mom who's morelenient, and then there's gonna
be even more issues there.That's true.

Erika (10:24):
I can't

Edgar (10:25):
that lucky pissed me off because, like, the the
threatening part was kinda crazyto me.

Darielys (10:32):
Mhmm. I think yeah. I mean Like, what was from the
context of the story, it lookslike the OP was the one kinda
escalating it. But, yeah, like,Fred Lane just, like, took it
too far on OP's husband's end.

Edgar (10:44):
I feel like he shouldn't have, like, said that because,
like

Darielys (10:47):
I I

Edgar (10:49):
get that they were, like, frustrated and everything
because, like, of the whole foodthing. But I don't think this
argument or whatever didn't.Like, I feel like it didn't have
to, like, lead to that where hewas, like, threatening her to
stop her. I feel like that'sjust they just needed to
communicate it. Like, I I do Ithink it just escalated, like,

(11:09):
way too.
Like, it's too much. Like, thatdidn't even happen at all. I
don't know.

Erika (11:14):
I feel like he she has tried very, very hard for her
husband to be more educated ineating habits and how to help
the kids eat. Mhmm. And sherepeatedly has told them to read
articles, and she has sent themarticles, sent them videos, and
sent send them, just tell himthings that we could do for the

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kids to eat over and over andand over again. And then he
never looked up for that. And hecontinued to be authoritative
and continued to bully the kidsto eat the food, which is
causing this eating disorder andcausing them not to wanna eat.
Yep. So, honestly, he's theasshole. Why? Because he could

(11:56):
have avoided all this if he onlyread an article about it. It's
not hard to read something andapply it to your whole you know,
to your life, especially if it'ssomething so simple as, you
know, okay.
You don't wanna eat? Let let's,you know, make fun food. Involve
them in cooking. Yeah. You know,gradually introduction to just

(12:18):
little by little or even, like,hide their foods, blend them in
so they don't see it.
I mean, there's so many things.If he would have read or
bothered to read or look at thearticles, it would not have
caused this whole issue, which,once again, she has been telling
him over and over again.

Edgar (12:37):
So if you really look at

Erika (12:38):
the big picture, the husband is

Edgar (12:40):
the asshole. Yep. Mhmm. I think

Darielys (12:42):
he was his asshole at the point where he, like,
started threatening the OPbecause he just don't do that,
especially, like, when you'rearguing.

Edgar (12:49):
Yeah. But, like, even to the kids, like, he was, like,
even, like, aggressive with thekids at first, and then he was
aggressive with her. So, like,he's just aggressive with
everybody, and it's just makingeverything worse. Like, he has
to be right. Like, only his wayis the way, not, like the

Erika (13:05):
right way.

Edgar (13:05):
The way. Yeah. Like the way that the mom wants to, like,
deal with that situation witheating is, like, not working.
Like he needs, like, for them toeat and everything. I don't
know.
That's just that'll piss me off.I don't know. Oh my god. Yeah.

Darielys (13:22):
He got that anger issues.

Erika (13:24):
Definitely. Yeah. He needs therapy. They need I mean,
honestly, I don't think this isgonna I don't know if if she
should get there a coupletherapy or if she should just
leave him because, honestly,this right here is just the
beginning of physical abuse. Itfirst starts off with saying,

(13:45):
oh, you know, do you want me toslap you?
It starts off with words, withverbal abuse, and then it
escalates eventually, and thenthere's hitting involved. So,
honestly, I don't know if sheshould go to therapy or just
leave him. I mean, I know it'sreally hard and not everybody
has the resources to be, okay.I'm gonna pack my bags and go.
Mhmm.
But I think she should really,you know, consider her options

(14:08):
and what's best for her kidsbecause, obviously, I don't
think the kids growing up inthis environment is good either.

Edgar (14:17):
Mhmm. No. They're gonna, like, grow up with, like,
having, like, a little, like,like, what Edgar was saying in
the beginning, how, like,they're gonna go more towards,
like, the mom than the dad. And,like, their their relationship
with her with the dad is gonnabe, like, really bad.

Erika (14:30):
Well, he's a asshole.

Edgar (14:32):
They're not they're not gonna trust him, like,
whatsoever with anything, andthey're always gonna go to his
mom and watch. I feel like thedad would get even more mad
because they're not even goingto him for anything. Well, I

Erika (14:43):
mean, he already feels like they're ganging up on him,
and that's why I felt like healso escalated this so badly. It
was so bad that they had to,that he was like, woah. Now that
you're all going against me andyou know what I mean? Yeah. That
and that wasn't it at all.
It was that, you know, they weretrying to find different ways
for them to eat, and he justdidn't understand.

Darielys (15:04):
Them going to the mom, like, for everything isn't,
like, the bad thing on the mombecause it just shows that
she's, like, an easier parentto, like, manipulate, than the
dad.

Erika (15:13):
I don't think so. I think that

Darielys (15:15):
it was because the mother is, like it looks like
from even, like, the techniqueshe's, like, suggesting is bad.
Like, I need those bettertechniques. Like, having, like,
a backup meal is like, you'reventing too much to the child.
Like, at some point, they hadto, like, feed on whatever, that
is being cooked out of respectat the very least.

Edgar (15:31):
Yeah. Well, I mean Having

Darielys (15:32):
like, oh, if you don't like it, I have I made a a
separate meal just in case.That's, like, not a good way to
to teach the kid because thatshow that just makes them, like,
weaker and, like, or spreadspread their palate.

Erika (15:43):
Yeah. I mean, I completely get that. I
understand that. I mean, one ofthe things is don't offer
alternatives. If they refuse ameal, don't immediately offer
something else they prefer.
This tea this this can teachthem that refusing food gets
what they want. However, ensurethat they don't go hungry by
having a healthy snack later ifnecessary. I mean, you can't
either starve them either.

Darielys (16:03):
Yeah.

Erika (16:04):
I think it's important to I think having a backup is good,
but, obviously, she shouldn'toffer to them immediately
because it shows the, obviously,the opposite effect that you
wanna show them.

Darielys (16:15):
Mhmm.

Erika (16:16):
I mean, she's just prepared. And she's not giving
them the other meal either.She's just saying, I'm gonna
give you thirty minutes or elseyou're gonna be hungry in your
nap. She didn't say, oh, I havethis other food for you to eat
in any other conversation. Shejust said that she had that just
in case.

Darielys (16:32):
Yeah. Just in case. But it looks like I feel like
extrapolating, it would get tothat point. You know? Like, they
would they would wait because,oh, I'd rather not eat than if
you're gonna make me eat this.
But if they just starve

Erika (16:43):
a five year old or, like, a little kid, you know But

Darielys (16:46):
they're gonna have to eat whatever they're, like,
cooked. You know? Like, I Idon't know about their
situation, but, like, mostfamilies don't have the
resources to cook multiplemeals.

Erika (16:54):
I know. I think it's

Darielys (16:55):
pretty close. Yeah.

Erika (16:57):
I mean, I've seen parents too, like, be like, oh, they
don't wanna eat. We have thismeal for you, or you don't wanna
do this. Oh, it's okay. We havethis for you. Like, that's just
so

Darielys (17:08):
Or, like,

Erika (17:08):
they just like parenting.

Darielys (17:10):
Or they just, like, they, like, fix their meals for
them. Like, oh, I'll I'll takeout I'll take out the bones in
your food or, like, I'll takeout all the veggies
individually.

Edgar (17:18):
My parents would never do that. My parents like, this is
what I made. This is wortheating. Yeah. Like, if that was
that's how it was.
Like, you eat what's there. Andif you don't wanna eat it, then
that's on you. It's like like, Idon't know. That's how I grew
up. It's like, whatever's there,you're gonna eat.
And if you don't wanna eat that,it's like, then you're gonna
starve. That's it. Like, there'snothing else to eat.

Darielys (17:41):
And would you say that, like, you you're grateful
for that? Like, you need thatthat helped you? Like, grow up
and, like, every day

Edgar (17:47):
grow up? Up because it's like, I kinda eat everything.
Yeah. Same here. I don't know.
But, I don't know. I feel I feellike no say. Because, like, it's
like they're forced they're likeyou're like you're forcing them
to eat. But, like, it'ssomething that is this different
when, like, the parent is, like,yelling at you and telling you,

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like, oh,

Erika (18:08):
you gotta eat. You gotta finish. Like, telling

Edgar (18:10):
all this. Instead, my parents wanna do that. Parents
would be just like, okay. Youdon't wanna eat, but don't eat.
Like, they wanna force me toeat.
Be like, you gotta eat. Yougotta finish. You won't get up
that table. No. I feel likethat's more, like, traumatizing.
I don't know.

Erika (18:24):
I don't remember how much childhood was, honestly. I think
it's a good thing.

Darielys (18:29):
Yeah. But see, like, I guess, like, it worked for us.
So why, like, apply differenttechniques that, like, we we're
not totally sure it works. Weonly told that it works. Like, I
feel like more from a personal

Erika (18:38):
I'm sure the study

Darielys (18:39):
experiences we know.

Erika (18:41):
Yeah. But I'm sure the study, they're just not gonna
say, like, oh, yeah. You know,do this. It's gonna work better.
I'm sure there's studies withit.
I feel like there's

Edgar (18:48):
studies because of them. But yeah. Like if I was like a
mom in this situation and likemy kid didn't wanna eat what I
made or something, I'd be like,what am I supposed to feed you
then? Like what it would like,what do you want? So I feel like
it's hard because like if thekid doesn't want doesn't want
what you make, it's like, damn,I have to figure out what else
I'm a make because I'm not gonnaleave the poor kid without

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eating.
So it's like I feel like it'slike a hard, like, situation to
be in because it's like likelike how does she have, like, a
backup? But I feel like that'smore work for the mom

Erika (19:22):
in general. It really is. I think it's just difficult. I
think being a parent's hard.Yeah.
And I'm glad I'm that parent. Ithink it's I think it's really,
really hard. And it's just oneof those things we need to find
a balance, and it's your call.You know? Sure.
You read all the books. You readall this and that, whatever. Use

(19:44):
what worked for you when youwere a kid. But at the end of
the day, you're gonna have todecide. Yeah.
So and that's that's where itcomes where it's difficult,
where you could be a little bitrough saying you can't you know,
if you're not gonna eat, you'reyou're not gonna eat anything
afterwards. I mean, it's hard.

Edgar (20:02):
Yeah. My mom be like, no. If you don't eat this, you're
not gonna eat, like, forexample, like ice cream later.
And I'd be like, no. And I wouldeat.
So it's more like that. Like, ifI didn't eat it, like, okay, if
you don't eat dinner, you're notgonna get, like, this sweet
afterwards or, like, ice creamat night or something that has
to

Erika (20:21):
do with incentive. Yeah. Would you were you always
eating, babe, when you were akid?

Darielys (20:26):
I always fought it.

Erika (20:27):
You always fought it?

Darielys (20:29):
Yeah. Because I don't like veggies.

Edgar (20:30):
That's weird because you, like, feel like you eat, like,
the whole thing. Yeah. Well,because

Darielys (20:33):
I did I guess my parents always told me at, like,
at the end, like like, I I cavedin. I I would eat, like,
something, you know? Because Ihad to finish my plate or at
least most of my plate.

Edgar (20:43):
Yeah. One more bite. Yeah. Or something like that. I
don't know.
Yeah. That's all I remember.Well, it's mostly like ice cream
because I'm like obsessed withice cream.

Erika (20:50):
It would be like

Darielys (20:51):
If you

Edgar (20:51):
don't eat, you're not gonna get ice cream. I'm like,
oh, okay. Yeah.

Erika (20:55):
I think when it well, when I was Ecuador, I came when
I was, like, five. Mhmm. So Iwas born there. And the food is
completely different from overhere. And the food was natural.
It was delicious. I loved it.And then you came here, and
they're like, oh, you wantpizza?

Edgar (21:10):
I know.

Erika (21:11):
Oh, it was disgusting. I hated pizza. I hated fries. I
hated the burgers. I hatedeverything.
So I remember when I first camein well, at least I don't
remember. That's what they toldme. So they said that when we
were first picked up from theairport when we arrived, they
said, oh, you know, here'sMcDonald's. What do you want?
And I said rice with rice withpotato and ketchup.

Edgar (21:35):
That's so cute.

Erika (21:36):
And then they're, like, laughing at me. He's like, well,
you know, they don't sell thishere in

Edgar (21:39):
Black Dog. So you get nuggets or, like, a burger

Darielys (21:43):
or something?

Erika (21:44):
Yeah. So it's just one of those things where it's, like, a
culture shock, really. But, youknow, obviously, I love
everything now. So the topcomment is I grew up in the
house you're describing. Rip theBand Aid off and find a better
partner.
If he's anything like my dadafter the divorce, hates picky
eaters and not being in totalcontrol, he'll only be able to

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bully your kids every otherweekend and Thursdays for
dinner. They're still trying tobe cool when they're teenagers
because he's listened to thecats in the cradle one too many
times.

Darielys (22:17):
What?

Erika (22:18):
I don't know. The the top one.

Darielys (22:20):
Yeah. You're trying to find

Erika (22:21):
the last one because he listened to cats in the cradle
too many times. I'm not surewhat that would mean.

Darielys (22:26):
I don't

Edgar (22:27):
know what that means either. I just heard cats. I was
like, I tried

Darielys (22:30):
to ass comment too.

Erika (22:32):
No. But I understand. I mean, I say, yeah, divorce.

Edgar (22:35):
Yeah. It started off good, but the cat threw me off.

Darielys (22:38):
I was just not divorce on the looting things. I would
divorce on the threatening.

Erika (22:43):
Yeah. Obviously. Mhmm. Yeah.

Darielys (22:45):
It's like a yeah. Unless he, like I I I don't I
don't think he would even sheshould even go back to him even
if he apologized.

Erika (22:51):
Phrase. Yeah. It is a phrase.

Edgar (22:53):
Oh, and I was like I'm kinda slow. I was like, what? I
think

Darielys (22:56):
when I think of Cat in the Cradle, I think of the song.

Erika (22:59):
Alright. So the cat's in the cradle meaning is a father
not having enough time to spendwith his son, then the son
growing up just to be like hisfather, or basically only
realizing when the son grows upthat the roles have been
reversed and the son is now toobusy to spend time with him.

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That's what it means,apparently. But I mean yeah. I
think at this point, she shouldjust really, really, really try
to divorce.
Mhmm. I don't think it's gonnaget any better.

Darielys (23:33):
Mhmm.

Edgar (23:33):
No worries. And they're little now. Imagine when they
get older.

Erika (23:37):
Yeah. It's so sad because in cases like that, I I feel
like they would wanna protecther from the father. And you
don't want a kid to grow fastlike that. I think it's so sad.

Darielys (23:47):
Yeah.

Erika (23:49):
Alright. So what's the final verdict?

Darielys (23:50):
Your final verdict, OP is not the asshole.

Erika (23:53):
Nope. A % angry. Alright. So the next story is Emma the
asshole for refusing to playhappy family with my former
bully, who is now my dad'sfiance. I, 24 female, had a
rough time in middle school andhigh school because of a girl
named Sophie, twenty eightfemale.

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She wasn't just casually mean.She made my life miserable for
years. She spread rumors aboutme, made fun of my appearance,
and turned people against me. Ideveloped severe anxiety and
took years of therapy to rebuildmy confidence. Fast forward to
last year.
My dad, 51 male, told me he wasdating someone serious and
wanted me to meet her. I showedup to dinner and my stomach

(24:37):
dropped. It was Sophie. Atfirst, I thought she didn't
recognize me, but then shesmelled ugly and said, wow. Long
time no see.
Later that night, my dad askedme why I was so quiet. When I
told him that Sophie what Sophiedid to me growing up, he was
shocked. He said she nevermentioned knowing me. When he

(24:58):
brought it up to her, she textedme a short, hey. I'm sorry if I
was ever mean to you.
I was young and stupid. That wasit. I told my dad I wanted
nothing to do with her. He saidpeople changed and that I should
give her a chance. I refused.
So he stopped bringing heraround when I visited. That was
fine until last month when heannounced they were engaged. Now

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he's pushing me to come to thewedding saying I need to move on
and not hold a grudge overchildhood drama. Sophie hasn't
tried to have a realconversation with me. She has,
like, nothing ever happened,which may makes it much worse.
My dad thinks I should be ableto let let go since it was years
ago, but not to me. Beingbullied isn't something you just

(25:43):
get over because enough time haspassed. Some of my family
members agree with me, butothers say I'm being petty and
should at least try to be civilfor my dad's sake. So Emma the
asshole for refusing to accepther as family.

Darielys (25:57):
Oh my god. I see. So she shouldn't ever like, she
isn't supposed to or, like,she's not needed to forgive
Sophie for being a bully whenshe was younger. But OP, I think
she should go into the wedding,like, just to respect and
support her father, who knows,like, kind of a weird situation.

Edgar (26:17):
But, like, that's kinda crazy. The age difference is
kinda crazy.

Darielys (26:21):
It's like, how how it's like a 23

Edgar (26:24):
year old kid. I don't know. That's kinda crazy,
though. Does he have money?

Erika (26:29):
Is that why he wants

Edgar (26:30):
to he's gonna be her sugar daddy. That's fine.

Erika (26:32):
Well, I mean, you don't marry your sugar daddies,
though.

Darielys (26:34):
It's such a red flag for the dad.

Erika (26:36):
Oh, yeah. 100%. I think, it's so difficult though because
let's see. That is hard. I Idon't think she should be,
forced to be a participant inthe wedding or to be there.

(26:57):
Honestly, because if somebodytreats you that way for years,
it makes you literally she tookyears of therapy to get over and
get confidence for how much shebullied her. And then her dad
expected her to be like, oh, youknow, it's fine. It's it's
happened. It's in the past. Youshould get over it.
But it's ridiculous to me. Ithink he's very unsensitive and

(27:17):
insensitive and that he shouldshe doesn't have to do whatever
she doesn't want to do. No.

Edgar (27:23):
The no.

Erika (27:24):
I don't respect my ass.

Edgar (27:26):
They get me. What?

Erika (27:28):
No. I don't know. I just I really think that it's it's
really insensitive of him forforcing her to be in the wedding
and even going with it. Like,why would you wanna marry
somebody that was a bully? Yeah.
I feel like Especially to yourdaughter.

Edgar (27:44):
What if, like, the the girl, like, the one that was
bullying her was like just to belike that person would just like
marry her dad to be closest toher and just keep bullying her
for like the rest of her life.Oh my god. No. Dude. That's how
I think about it.
Like what? Just to like just tobe annoying, I guess, for her.

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Like I know.

Erika (28:06):
He just blatantly ignored her feelings and how she He was
on her side.

Edgar (28:10):
He did not care about the daughter.

Erika (28:12):
No. He didn't care. He'd rather get, you know Yeah.
Instead of her her daughter,which sucks. So the top comment
is, oh, hell no.
I've I'd be going no contactwith your dad. I can't believe
he even continued to date herafter you informed him she was
your bully, not the asshole. ButI don't know. I think it's it's

(28:35):
hard. It's a hard thing toreally decide.
I I don't know. I don't knowwhat I would do in this
situation, honestly.

Edgar (28:40):
Me neither. Because, like, you wanna be happy for
your dad, but, like, that's,like, literally your bully.
Like, what what are you supposedto do? Like

Erika (28:47):
Maybe you could be happy for your dad, but from afar.

Edgar (28:51):
Yeah.

Erika (28:52):
I think that's the best choice, honestly. Yep. Oh, final
verdict? I don't think she'sasshole at all. The dad is,
though.
Yeah.

Darielys (29:00):
I think, yeah, ultimately, the dad is the
asshole. Sophie, like, the thedad's fiancee, I don't wanna say
she's too much of an assholenow. I mean, I think she, like

Edgar (29:10):
That was, like, at first.

Darielys (29:12):
I think in total, like, I don't think she, like
she it's probably, like, a sucha small portion of her life,
like, the bullying thathappened, like, from her end.

Erika (29:19):
It's like Maybe she bullied other kids too.

Darielys (29:21):
Yeah. She probably doesn't, like, even think of it
as, like, something big deal.She bullied a lot

Erika (29:25):
of people.

Edgar (29:25):
That's messed up.

Darielys (29:26):
She should the entire school.

Erika (29:29):
I don't know. I think she should have like, especially if
she's gonna be, like, thestepmom. She should have had a
conversation

Edgar (29:34):
with her. That's crazy.

Darielys (29:36):
When you probably becomes your stepmom. Like, the
absolute worst worst scenario.

Edgar (29:40):
Age sick. I don't wanna what? My age?

Erika (29:45):
That's wrong.

Edgar (29:45):
That's weird.

Erika (29:46):
Your dad is your dad needs help. He shouldn't be
dating people. That could beyour daughter. That's so wrong.
Ew.

Darielys (29:53):
I could know your daughter. Ew.

Erika (29:55):
It's just weird and then you expect her to to act to be
okay to be for her to be yourstepmom? Nah. I'm doing that.
You're wrong.

Edgar (30:03):
Like fully as your stepmom that's insane. That's
actually insane. Yeah.

Darielys (30:07):
Or FP to OP. But, yeah, so, yeah, find a very big

Edgar (30:09):
bad. Asshole.

Darielys (30:11):
No. OP isn't the asshole. The next story is
titled, am I the asshole forrefusing to babysit my sister's
kids after she told me I was tooold to have dreams? I, 28
female, have always wanted to bea professional dancer. It's been
my passion since I was a littlegirl, and I've trained hard over
the years.
I understand that it's a toughfield with no guaranteed

(30:33):
success, but I've managed toland some gigs here and there.
I'm not famous, but I'm proud ofwhat I've accomplished, and I
continue to work towards mygoals. My sister, 34 female, has
two kids, ages five and seven.She is a great mom, and I admire
how dedicated she is to herchildren. That being said, she
often asked me to babysit some,especially when she has events

(30:56):
to attend or needs some time forherself.
I usually don't mind helpingout, but I do have my own
commitments, and sometimes Ijust can't. Recently, she asked
me to babysit for a wholeweekend while she goes to a
music festival. I told her thatI couldn't because I have an
important audition coming up,and I need to focus on that. She
got really upset and accused meof prioritizing my stupid dreams

(31:19):
over my family. That's when shesaid I was too old to have
dreams and that I should justgive up on dancing and help her
instead.
That hurt a lot. I tried toexplain to her that I'm not too
old and that people can achievetheir dreams at any age, but she
wasn't having it. She called meselfish for not wanting to
babysit and put her kids in myplace, saying that I should be

(31:43):
ashamed of myself. Now I love myniece and nephew, but I also
think that they should learn torespect other people's
boundaries. Now she's tellingour parents that I'm a bad aunt,
and I might ruin therelationship with her kids if I
keep refusing to babysit.
My parents are somewhatsupportive of my dancing career,
but I can tell that they think Ishould help my sister more. Am I

(32:04):
the asshole for standing up formy dreams and not wanting to
babysit? So, yeah, obviouslynot.

Erika (32:10):
No. What a manipulative sister. She's such a terrible
person.

Darielys (32:15):
Yeah. She just wants a free babysitter. Yeah. And she's
willing to throw away herrelationship with her, sister
for that.

Erika (32:22):
Why? So she could go to a music festival on the weekend?

Darielys (32:25):
I know.

Erika (32:25):
Girl, please. Where are your priorities? It's not the

Edgar (32:29):
sister's fault that she had kids.

Darielys (32:31):
Exactly.

Erika (32:32):
And it's not her responsibility either.

Edgar (32:36):
I'd be mad. I mean, like, yeah, once in a while, whatever.
But, like, because she wantssome time for herself. I mean, I
get it. Everybody needs hertime, but, like It's not her
responsibility.
Yeah. Like, I don't know. I feellike if you as a model, you
would want to be around yourkids. I don't know. I mean, you
have kids for a reason.
I mean, why are you why do youhave kids? I don't know. I know.

Erika (32:59):
I think she should have not made it such a big deal. I
think this would have nothappened if she would have said,
okay. That's fine. You know? Iwon't go to a music festival.
That simple. And the rest, shewould have been fine. Mhmm. I
mean, she doesn't have tosacrifice what she's doing just
because she has to take care ofher kids because she wants to do
something.

Edgar (33:19):
Yeah. Or at least find somebody else to, like, babysit
them if she really wants to go.

Darielys (33:23):
Ask the parents. Ask the babysitter them.

Edgar (33:25):
Depend on the sister, like, oh, you

Darielys (33:27):
know, right?

Erika (33:27):
Why can't the parents babysit?

Darielys (33:29):
Yeah. So it's just one one weekend. But, yeah, it's
it's ridiculous.

Erika (33:34):
Yeah. I think it's yeah. She didn't need to use the
manipulation and then involvethe parents saying, oh, she's a
bad aunt. Yeah. Like, what doyou mean?

Darielys (33:45):
It's like, so what? Like, if, the sister doesn't,
like like, appreciate or, like,respect OP doing her, like,
dancing career. Like That's so

Edgar (33:53):
messed up.

Darielys (33:53):
I mean, like, that's, like, something that she does in
her free time. Like, that's,like, her hobby. Mhmm. It's
something she, like, finds joyin. So, like, let her enjoy
that.

Erika (34:01):
Yeah. I don't think if you wanna dream, you just dream.
You're never too old for that.How dare she tell her, no.
You're stupid dreams.
Like, come on. Just becauseshe's able to actually help you
out and she can't help you outnow, now it's stupid dreams.
Like, come on. It's ridiculous.So it's to her, whatever is good

(34:21):
for her day, and that's it.
The top comment is your goalsand dreams have nothing to do
with your sister's life or kids.Her kids are her responsibility.
If she chooses to be pissed offin your choice not to babysit,
that's her problem. Not theasshole. You can have a dream
and a great relationship withyour sister's kids.
Both things are possible. Whatis not possible is your sister

(34:44):
telling you what you can do orcannot do with your own life.

Edgar (34:50):
Yeah. That's not her choice to make.

Erika (34:52):
Yeah. She still set boundaries because

Darielys (34:54):
Mhmm.

Erika (34:54):
At this point, her sister is going overboard. And at this
point, she's gonna be tellingher, oh, yeah. You can't do
this. You can't do that becauseyou're taking care of my kids.
That's not fair.
Yeah. Ridiculous.

Darielys (35:10):
Yeah. It's a final verdict.

Edgar (35:12):
Not the asshole.

Erika (35:13):
Yeah. And the parents are assholes too for not sticking up
to her.

Edgar (35:15):
I feel like the parents always go with, like

Erika (35:17):
The ones that have kids?

Edgar (35:19):
Yeah. Like, from every other story that, like, we've
read, it's always, like, theparents going, like, with the
like, not the OP, like the otherperson.

Darielys (35:28):
Yeah. With the kids. Yeah.

Erika (35:29):
But it's it's not the responsibility. If you wanna
help out family, sure. Family isfamily. But if you're not able
to, then find another solution.It's not your responsibility.
Simple as that.

Darielys (35:41):
Yes. So find a verdict?

Erika (35:42):
Not that.

Edgar (35:43):
Yeah. Not that.

Darielys (35:43):
The hassle.

Erika (35:44):
Okay. So next story is, am I the hassle for not wanting
anything to do with my parentsand family? I, 27 male, have
decided to completely contactwith my parents and siblings.
And now my whole extended familyis calling me heartless. I don't
think I am, but I need someoutside opinion.
Growing up, my parents were notgreat. They weren't physically

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abusive, but emotionally,absolutely. They had my older
brother, 30 male, and my youngersister, 25 female. And for some
reason, I I was always thescapegoat. My brother was the
golden child.
He could do no wrong. My sisterwas the baby, so she was
spoiled. And me, I was the oneblamed for everything. If

(36:28):
something went wrong or missing,it was my fault. If my siblings
were in a bad mood, I must havedone something.
If I ever tried to stand up formyself, I was being
disrespectful or too sensitive.I never got the same support
they did. When I turned 18, myparents pretty much shoved me
out the door. No help withcollege, no advice for about

(36:49):
life, nothing. Meanwhile, mybrother got his tuition fully
paid for, and my sister stilllives at home rent free.
The the only reason I even madeit on my own was because I
worked my ass off at a crappyjob and eventually built my life
for myself. Fast forward to now,I have a stable job, a decent

(37:10):
apartment. Honestly, life hasbeen so much better without
them. I haven't spoke to them inalmost two years. Then out of
the blue, my mom reaches out notto apologize, not to check-in on
me, but to ask for money.
Turns out my dad lost a bunch ofmoney in a bad business deal,
and now they're struggling. Shehit me with the whole we're

(37:31):
family and family helps eachother speech. I told her no. I
don't owe them anything afterthe way they treated me. She got
angry and said I was being crueland that I needed to let go of
the past and be a good son.
And then my brother recalledbasically saying the same thing,
but with more insults thrown in.He told me I was selfish and

(37:52):
bitter and I needed to grow up.My sister texted me saying she
understands why I'm upset, butthat I should still help because
they're still our parents. Iblocked them all. And now my
aunts, uncles, and even somecousins are blowing up my phone
telling me I'm an asshole forabandoning my family in their
time of need.
Some of them even said I wasbeing vindictive and immature.

(38:15):
So read it. Am I the asshole forrefusing to help and wanting
nothing to do with them?

Edgar (38:20):
No. I hate how the rest of the family gets involved in
this situation. So, like, I feellike these should just be
between, like, the family, notaunts and uncles. Like, why are
they always involved in thesesituations? I'm like, I don't
understand.
It's like, they probably likespend it. Oh, my son didn't
wanna do this. And then yeah.Like, what? That's it.

(38:42):
Like, that's should be, like,private. I don't know. And I
don't blame him for not wantingto give money because if they're
treating him like that. No,that's just not okay.

Erika (38:51):
They kicked them out 18 and didn't help him at all. The
other one was fully paid and theother ones lives at home rent
free.

Edgar (38:57):
Why can't the other kids pay? Yeah.

Erika (39:00):
The other one they pay full tuition. Why he can't help
you out? Yeah. What what he hasin debt for? What what does he
pay?

Edgar (39:08):
That's not fair.

Erika (39:10):
Yeah. I think I think it's ridiculous for them to
expect anything. I honestlythink you'll get what you give.
Mhmm. And if you the way youtreated him, you think he should
be like, oh, yeah.
Let me help you out. Let me giveyou as much money as you see.
No.

Edgar (39:25):
Yeah. Like, there was nothing. Yeah. No. It's not
okay.

Erika (39:31):
Yeah. So I was it the top comment is you don't owe
anything to the people who onlysee US family when they need
something to protect your peace.Keep moving forward. Yes.
Exactly.
They use family as aconvenience, and that's it.
You're only family because theyneed you, not because they loved
you. The re the and it'sridiculous that she went and

(39:52):
just called them because sheneeded money. That's it. Didn't
ask him how he was doing, if hewas okay.
Was he eating? Nothing. Yep.After two years of not talking
to your son, the first thing yousay, oh, I need money. I'd be so

Edgar (40:08):
mad. I cannot.

Erika (40:10):
Block them all. Block everybody.

Edgar (40:12):
Yes. Your aunts and uncles too because why are they
in your business? Like, get out.I feel so annoyed. Yeah.
Like, why are you telling thewhole family? They don't that's
not I don't know. They don'tneed to know all that
information.

Erika (40:26):
Yeah. Mhmm. Yeah. So final verdict is she he is not
the asshole at all.

Edgar (40:31):
Mm-mm.

Darielys (40:33):
Yeah. So the next story is titled inviting my in
laws to my triplets birthdayparty. My 28 female husband, 20
nine male, and I welcomed a setof triplet boys that were born
so prematurely, we were told tonot expect them to survive. My
sister-in-law was also pregnantat this time and carried her son

(40:54):
to full term. Anyway, after avery, very long NICU stay in
many appointments, all threeboys are home and doing very
well.
My parents have been veryinvolved with the triplets care.
And if it weren't for them, Iwould have probably lost my mind
a while back ago. My in laws,however, have not been. During

(41:16):
the lengthy NICU stay, they wereconstantly there and making
promises that since we hadtriplets and obviously needed
more help, that they were goingto be there as soon as I sent a
text. After about two months ofall the boys being home, my in
laws completely stopped helpingwhatsoever.
They don't call or text tocheck-in on the boys or my

(41:37):
husband and I. It's like wedon't even exist unless they
need a new a new photo to poston Facebook to seem like super
grandparents to four kids bornaround the same time. Now my
father has vision issues, and mymother is wheelchair bound, but
they are texting me every singleday asking about me, my husband,
the boys, how they can help,trying to schedule date nights

(42:00):
for my husband and I toreconnect, showing up to
appointments with me when myhusband has to work so I don't
have to bring in all three kidssolo. I am very thankful. My
mother-in-law is retired, and myfather-in-law works in a big
company.
I understand that myfather-in-law works a lot and
has a busy job, and I don'texpect them to take the boys

(42:22):
every day. They claim that it'stoo hard to watch all three kids
solo, so they can't be involved.Now my nephew was born full term
and is your normal one year old,and my in laws are very much
involved with him. They havepictures of him all over the
house. He has his own privateroom at the home.
They even have multiple photoalbums of just him in each room

(42:45):
of the house. My father-in-lawhas taken off work before just
to spend some time with mynephew plenty of times. I pulled
my in laws to the side a fewtimes to discuss favoritism, and
they swear up and down thatthat's not it. It's just easier
to deal with just one kid. Ivery much understand that, and I
would like to clarify.

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I don't expect anyone to watchmy children because they're my
responsibility. But I don'tthink it's fair to be there for
one child and not the rest. Weall live within five minutes of
each other, so travel isn't anissue either. I was told that
they can't help out with themunless it's one baby at a time.
They did that one time for eachkid five months ago, and it's

(43:27):
been radio silent since.
My boys turned two this April,and we are currently planning to
party. I told my husband that Idon't think they deserve to be
invited to the birthday partythis year. My husband is on
board, but we know if we gothrough with this, it'll be a
blow up so big, there will be noturning back from this at all.
So you mighty asshole. Oh mygod.

Erika (43:52):
This one's hard.

Darielys (43:52):
I mean, definitely, like, there's favoritism with
the, the mother andfather-in-law, but I don't I
think it would be asshole as tonot invite them into the
birthday.

Edgar (44:02):
Like Yeah.

Darielys (44:03):
He should they should still be, like the OP should
still, like, offer, like, oh,you can come see them whenever
you want or, like, whenever weinvite you. And it's up to the
father-in-law and themother-in-law to, like, to
reject it. You know? Which theyhave been rejecting, like, the
the casual visits, but, like, inoccasions like a birthday party,
they should still be offered, aninvitation.

Edgar (44:24):
Yeah. I just don't like the fact that he has, like, his
own little, like, private roomor whatever. Like, that makes no
sense to me.

Erika (44:34):
That's my one. Right there.

Edgar (44:36):
That's clearly yeah. Like, in pictures all over the
house.

Erika (44:42):
Yeah. Because they don't spend time with the other kids
and just him. It's really sad.

Darielys (44:46):
And at least she just admitted.

Erika (44:48):
Yeah. I think it's really good that they keep denying it.
And, obviously, there's so muchevidence behind that

Darielys (44:54):
Mhmm.

Erika (44:55):
That it's clearly favoritism. Okay. Let's just say
there is favoritism, but atleast I I don't think I would
not invite them. I I think Iwould invite them Mhmm. Just
because it's not fair for yourkids either to just have, like,
cut ties with their grandparentsjust because, you know, they
weren't there for them when theywere babies.

(45:15):
I think it's a choice that theyshould be able to make when
they're older. Yeah. And invitethem and, you know, just deal
with them there. I mean, I'msure they're not gonna stick
around long either, but, youknow, at least it's not you
making that decision for yourkids either.

Edgar (45:32):
Mhmm. Mhmm.

Erika (45:34):
So the top comment is invite them, but have a photo
book printed up of the kids overthe last year. Shitter around
during the party. Make surethere's lots of pictures of your
parents and none of your inlaws. They'll be mad when they
notice, and they'll have no oneto blame but themselves.

Darielys (45:50):
I think they would still blame OP. But, yeah, I
mean, that's, like, a funny,petty thing to do.

Erika (45:54):
I love that. That's a great idea, actually.

Edgar (45:57):
Yeah. I give everybody pictures. Mhmm.

Erika (46:00):
I think this is a perfect way to show everybody that
there's favoritism and that theyhaven't been around and they're
not the great great grandparentsthat they keep saying.

Darielys (46:11):
K.

Erika (46:11):
Oh, final verdict. Not the asshole.

Edgar (46:14):
Yeah. No.

Erika (46:15):
But I I would still invite the grandparents. Yeah. I
would too.

Darielys (46:18):
Would they be assholes if they didn't invite their
grand their parents?

Erika (46:22):
Mhmm. I think she has a free pass for me.

Darielys (46:25):
I'd say if he if OP did that, then I would consider
her the asshole.

Edgar (46:30):
Not me. But I feel like like, if she invites them and
everything and the parents don'tshow up, that's kinda, like,
that's like the big picture.Like, damn. Like, they really do
not care about them.

Darielys (46:41):
Yeah. They don't.

Erika (46:42):
Yeah. At the point, I wouldn't invite them again,
though. No.

Edgar (46:44):
I wouldn't. No. If they if they didn't show up, I
wouldn't invite them again.Yeah.

Darielys (46:48):
Yeah. Afterwards, they have to do that now.

Erika (46:50):
That would be over and it wouldn't be your fault for
having a relationship and thenit would be them yep okay so
next story is my husband keepsgetting more attractive and I
don't like it Yeah. So me, 32female, and my husband, thirty
two male, have been together foreight years. Married five. I am

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not ashamed to say I was thepretty one in our relationship
when we were dating. Before wegot married, he was about two
hundred and eighty pounds andfive eleven.
Didn't know how to chooseclothes for himself. He hates
shopping and had a bald head. Ifell in love with him with Say
it again. I love how shedescribe that. I fell in love

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with him and who he was as aperson.
Even though I never cared forhis looks, I was strictly
assured that he wouldn't cheaton me. I was cheating on every
single one of our relationshipsuntil he came along. It's the
second year of our marriage. Hissister had to lose ton of weight
due to heart issues, and hestarted to go into the gym with
her five times a week to supporther. I was very supportive of

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him and start to startexercising.
And though it was very sweet ofhim to support his sister like
that, with two point five yearsof hard work, they both lost ton
of weight. He especially lost ahundred pounds, and turns out he
has very blessed genes. I'mtalking about full on abs and
everything. Never knew a man cangrow jaw lines by losing weight.

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I was very proud of him and waspleasantly surprised by this.
Then soon after he got apromotion at work, he became
head of his department, and hisformer boss advised he should
look more presentable as arepresentation of their
department. My husband took hiswords to heart and turned for me
to help. We went on a shoppingspree and started to let his
hair grow out. Well, again,turns out he has beautiful hair.

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By this time, my husband is avery attractive man.
Then a month, we went to acompany's anniversary party with
his coworkers. I noticed thatwomen at the party was just
sooning over my husband, andeven worse, he just didn't
realize it. I learned from hiscoworker that most single women,
even some of the married ones,are actively throwing themselves

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at him at his workplace. Therewas one girl who gave him a kiss
on the cheek while he wassitting next to me. I talked to
him about it, and he said, well,she is French.
I thought French people like arelike that. I guess I'll try to
keep my distance from her.Honestly, it was dumb response,
but it's just so like him. Idon't like how much attention

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he's getting. I feel like assoon as we get into a rough
patch, if we get into it,there's ton of women waiting to
pray on him.
I am scared some of those womenwill affect him as he is pretty
naive as a person. Know thathe's everything I could ask for
in a marriage, and he has beengreat, if not perfect, husband
for me over the years. I feellike I've been such an asshole

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wishing he stays physically thesame. Am I the asshole?

Darielys (49:54):
I would go

Edgar (49:54):
to sleep. Because she's just she's kinda just, like,
upset that he's just gettingHe's good looking. Good looks,
like, now. Yeah.

Darielys (50:02):
Yeah. I

Edgar (50:03):
mean, I I would be, like, happy. No say. Like, I feel
like, okay. Like, he's getting,like, better. He's, like, doing
things with, like, his healthtoo because, like, you don't
know.
Like, he's working on himself.He's I don't know. Like, I'd be
happy, but, like, the fact that,like, the the coworker thing,
that's that kinda pisses me off.But, like, other than that, I I

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don't know.

Erika (50:25):
It's not his fault. He doesn't even know he's
attractive because he he was notlike that. You know what I mean?

Edgar (50:30):
Yeah. I feel like

Erika (50:31):
when you physically change, your mentality doesn't
change automatically either. Ittakes years to think of yourself
as attractive, especially if hewas, like, overweight and have
hair. Like, you know what Imean? If he wasn't
conventionally attractive Yeah.It takes a bit for your mind or
your mindset to get to thatpoint as well and find yourself
attractive.
So

Edgar (50:51):
Like, she's like,

Darielys (50:52):
I don't

Edgar (50:52):
know if she's like a little insecure. She is
definitely not

Erika (50:56):
a little girl. That shit a lot insecure.

Edgar (50:59):
Oh, yeah. Because like, I don't know. She's just mad at
the fact that he's just gettingmore

Erika (51:04):
attention.

Edgar (51:05):
Yeah. I don't know. See. Like, girl, he's still yours. I
don't think

Erika (51:09):
Yeah. I don't think he's flirting. He don't even
understand. Like, he's so naiveright now. Yeah.
Which is kinda dangerous becausehe doesn't know the He

Edgar (51:18):
doesn't understand it. Yeah.

Erika (51:19):
Yeah. He doesn't know the when, like, a girl's flirting
with you or when, like, it's,like, a little bit too much for
a girl to do or a woman to doand he just be like, oh, you
know, it's normal or whatever.Like, he doesn't it's hard. I
think it's hard.

Edgar (51:35):
Yeah. I just feel like she something's gonna hap I feel
like she thinks that something'sgonna happen because, like, you
know

Erika (51:39):
Without him realizing it. Yeah.

Edgar (51:41):
They're all over him. Yeah. I I don't know. She needs
to, like, work on herself, Iguess, a bit. Or trust him.

Erika (51:48):
I think if you've been married that long, you should
trust your your husband as well.

Edgar (51:51):
I feel like if he did something to, like, change that
mindset of, like, oh, he's gonnado something or whatever, then I
would get it because it's like,there's a reason for that, but I
don't she didn't mention areason. So I feel like it's just
like

Erika (52:05):
It's just for past relationships. Yeah. Yeah. This
is a trauma, I guess. Yeah.
So the top comment is, I thinkyou need to get some therapy for
your relationship trauma. Also,the idea that someone overweight
won't cheat because you set anattractiveness scale and they
fall below the scale is quitefrankly ridiculous. You have

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eight years of experience inunderstanding with this guy, and
that should be what drives youto your mindset, not some
surface looks bullshit. Fromwhat you've said, he seems to
only have eyes for you. He'sonly interested in you and wants
to be with you.
Like I said, go get some therapybecause I don't think he's the
problem here, but your attitudetowards him could well become

(52:50):
one.

Edgar (52:51):
Yeah. I agree with her or him. I don't know, but that's
the

Darielys (52:57):
yeah.

Erika (52:58):
Yeah. I think she's honestly the toxic one either.

Edgar (53:01):
Yeah. I don't know about, like, if she's I don't know.

Erika (53:05):
This is crazy.

Edgar (53:06):
This one is like, nah. He's not in the wrong. He's just

Erika (53:09):
he's just doing him. He's just an innocent guy.

Edgar (53:11):
He's just he's just a guy that lost weight and she's like

Erika (53:14):
And he's good looking now.

Edgar (53:15):
Yeah. Just because of that? So what? He wasn't good
looking before?

Erika (53:19):
Clearly, she didn't think so. And I think that's why she
stayed with him was because hewasn't good looking.

Edgar (53:24):
So I know he was gonna steal him from her? Yeah.

Erika (53:27):
Like, he wasn't gonna cheat. She I think she needs a
better mentality.

Edgar (53:30):
I feel like anybody would cheat. Like Doesn't matter. It's
not only

Erika (53:33):
Oh, failed.

Edgar (53:34):
Attractive men. What? That makes no sense to me. Yeah.
I think

Erika (53:39):
she really needs to work on therapy.

Edgar (53:42):
I just imagine her face being like looking at everybody
wrong and, like, all the girls,like, were all over him. Oh my
god. That that's so messy.

Erika (53:51):
Yeah. I think she just needs she needs therapy. Yeah.
She just She needs help. Finalverdict, She is the asshole.

Darielys (53:59):
Yeah.

Erika (53:59):
Yeah. That's

Edgar (54:00):
crazy because I feel like it's the first time I actually
really, like, yeah. It it's you,girly. You're not changing my
mind. It's you. You just saideverything that literally leads
to you being the asshole.

Erika (54:12):
Yeah. I

Edgar (54:12):
don't think anything about him is like asshole that
like asshole type asshole.

Erika (54:17):
Yeah. He he did nothing wrong here.

Edgar (54:20):
He was just supporting his sister. He went to the gym
with her and then he just got.

Erika (54:24):
He grow his hair. Oh. He got some abs. Good for him. Yes.
I would if I were her, I'll belike, you know, I would be so
proud of him because two and ahalf years of hard dedication.
Yeah. That's that's a lot. It'shard. Mhmm.
Like, in for her not to be proudof him and be happy for him that
you have like eye candy next toyou. Come on, girl. Yeah. It's

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crazy to me. Her mentality isreally messed up and I and
honestly, I can see where she'scoming from because she's been
cheated on a lot.

Edgar (54:55):
Mhmm.

Erika (54:55):
And I think she's just trying to project all that on
him, which I don't think he'sthat type of person, I hope. So
I think she really needs to workon herself, and she is the
asshole at this point. Mhmm.That's all the stories we have
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