February 24, 2025 • 56 mins
This week on Yapping Schnauzers, we’re reading the most unhinged “Excuse Me?!” moments Reddit had to offer. From a coworker getting wrecked by the boss’s wife to a roommate risking a life just to prove a point, and even a “perfect” relationship that was actually an FBI sting, these stories will have you questioning reality.
Petty drama, wild betrayals, and the kind of chaos that makes you glad you’re not involved. You don’t want to miss this one!
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- AITA for continuously triggering her trypophobia?
- AITA for staying quiet after my coworker tried to get me fired—only for my boss’s wife to find out and beat her up in the office?
- AITA for treating my coworker differently after she accused me of making her uncomfortable when I covered for her at work?
- AITA for Kicking My MIL Out of Our House After She Refused to Call Our Son by His Name?
- AITA for telling my birth siblings to fuck off and leave me alone and I don't care about their stupid fucking parents?
- AITA for telling my roommate to move out after she risked my life to prove a point?
- AITA for refusing to change my birth plan to please my MIL?
- "My Friend’s ‘Perfect’ Relationship Was a Full-On FBI Operation
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Intro (00:00):
Yapping!
Erika (00:02):
Hello. This is Erika.
Edgar (00:04):
and Edgar.
Erika (00:05):
And we are the Yapping Schnauzers. We entertain you
with Yout worthy stories we findaround the web. So today's theme
is Excuse Me.
Edgar (00:15):
Yeah. Lots of tales of audacity happening.
Erika (00:17):
Yes. Mhmm. It's gonna make you say that.
Edgar (00:20):
LOL. So I'm gonna start out with the first story titled
Am I the Asshole withContinuously Triggering Her
Trypophobia? I, 19 female, havehad acne for so long that I
honestly can't remember my skinwithout it. I used to wear a lot
of concealer to cover it up, butthat only made things worse.
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Eventually, I realized my skinwas controlling my life and
draining my bank account aswell.
So when I started at a newschool, I decided to stop
wearing makeup. My skin stillisn't great, but I'm on
medication, so I have some hopethat it will improve. Here's the
problem. There's a girl in myclass, let's call her Callie,
eighteen female, who hastrypophobia. I had no idea until
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we were put in a group together.
The moment I spoke to her, shestarted crying. Naturally, I
asked her what was wrong, andshe screamed at me that my face
was triggering her trypophobia.Her friends immediately jumped
in to comfort her while I justsat there, confused, wondering
if I was supposed to apologizefor my skin, something I
obviously didn't choose to have.When I tried to speak again, she
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told me to shut up and leavebecause I was drawing attention
to myself by talking.
Erika (01:34):
Audacity. Mhmm.
Edgar (01:36):
I asked what she expected me to do about it, and she said
I could at least wear concealer.I explained that it wasn't an
option because it's expensiveand just worsens my acne. Her
friends glared at me and calledme selfish. That was just the
first incident. Ever sinceanytime I sit near Callie or I
have to present in front ofclass, she starts dry heaving or
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crying, having a panic attack, Iguess.
It's disrupting lessons so muchthat my teacher pulled me aside
and asked if I could just wearconcealers for the sake of
keeping the peace. She admittedit wasn't fair, but said she
couldn't think of anothersolution. I already feel like
such a freak because of my skin.I know my skin is horrid, but
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why am I the one expected tocater to Cali? I didn't choose
to have some acne problems anymore than she chooses to have
trypophobia.
I can't help but feel like I'mbeing unfairly treated here, but
at the same time, I know shecan't control her reaction
either. So a mighty assholeshould I just wear the damn
concealer?
Erika (02:43):
That's so ridiculous.
Edgar (02:45):
Mhmm. Yeah.
Erika (02:46):
I can't believe they're trying to make her change when
she's not the issue here. It'snot her fault. She has
trypophobia, which, by the way,I did wanna do, like, a those
for those of you that don't knowwhat trypophobia is, it's an
aversion or discomfort triggeredby irregular patterns or
clusters of small holes, such asfound in sponges, honeycombs, or
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certain plant structures. Soit's not officially recognized
as a fovea in medical terms, butit's widely discussed as a
common visceral reaction.
Edgar (03:18):
So basically, a whole a fear of holes?
Erika (03:21):
Yeah. So because of her face, I guess.
Edgar (03:23):
It's like some messed up though. Like, I can't like, that
that's, like, the worst insultyou can give somebody. Like, you
have so much acne, it'striggering my phobias. Like, you
just, like, feel messed up.
Erika (03:32):
I mean, just don't look at her.
Edgar (03:34):
Exactly. Like, that's the one of the easiest solutions. Or
just, like, transfer to anotherclass. I just think it's, like,
ridiculous. Like, they want, OPto, like, start, like, on
concealers and all that stuff.
And she's, like, spending herown money just to please this
one lady, one little girl.
Erika (03:50):
Why do they why does OP have to come, accommodate her?
It makes no sense to me.
Edgar (03:57):
Yeah. And it's, like, not good for for Cali either
because, like, not everyone'sgonna, like, bend to a will,
like, for the rest of her life,you know?
Erika (04:03):
Yeah. In the real world, they're not gonna be like, oh,
yeah. You know? What if she goesinto an interview and the person
has really bad acne? What's shegonna do?
Cry and leave? Like, there'sjust no reason for her to be
catered to in this at all.
Edgar (04:21):
I know. It's a little messed up on the the teacher's
part.
Erika (04:24):
I mean, if you don't know a solution, find it. Search
answers. Ask somebody. I don'tknow. I mean, obviously, it
kinda makes sense that Cali isthe one that's supposed to be
getting the help.
Edgar (04:35):
Mhmm.
Erika (04:36):
So the top comment is if her mental health is fragile
enough that she reacts this waybecause someone near her has
skin that isn't smooth enough,this is a situation where she
should be seeking intensivetherapy, not pushing you to
accommodate her. She can'tcontrol the skin and makeup
habits for every single personshe might ever run into. Even if
you cave, there will always bepeople who exist out in the
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world with skin that has pimpleson it. They literally pressure
you to make a medical conditionworse instead of putting in the
work to make hers better.Absolutely not that asshole.
Do not give in here. And Iagree. It's ridiculous.
Edgar (05:14):
Yeah. It's like yeah. They're doing for LP to, like,
bend into the will of, like,Cali is gonna worsen Cali's
condition, and LP's because itshouldn't as well. But not a
good solution at all.
Erika (05:26):
Yeah. I mean, it's not even recognized in the medical
community.
Edgar (05:29):
She told everyone once that she, she has this phobia
right now. She want she's, like,playing it up, like, so hard
because, like, you don't have tocry and have try, like, try
heave in class.
Erika (05:38):
Yeah. It just it doesn't make sense. Like, I wonder if
she ever had other classes withher or if she's seen her before.
Edgar (05:44):
Like Remember, OP is a new student.
Erika (05:46):
Oh, damn. Yeah. Never mind. Yeah. So no.
But still, like, I mean, she'snot it can't be I'm sorry. When
you're a teenager or you're, youknow, obviously, your hormones
are everywhere, you you alwaysget pimples. So you're telling
me nobody has had pimples aroundher? Like, it just it doesn't
make sense that now that, the OPis there, she has an issue. Like
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Mhmm.
It is just unrealistic for forher for everybody around her to
have perfect skin.
Edgar (06:13):
Exactly. Yeah. I don't wanna victim blame, but, yeah,
definitely, like, I feel likeshe's maybe, like, like, just
playing this up.
Erika (06:19):
Yeah. I mean, maybe for the first time, I I get it, but
come on. You really need to justshe's not in your face. Mhmm.
Like, literally, she's notobstruction obstructing your
vision if she's across the room,and it's fine.
Like, I don't I don't get it.
Edgar (06:35):
Just to put your eyes.
Erika (06:37):
Yeah. Just look down. Don't look at her. Just he
listens to her. I don't know.
She's just really, really needshelp, I guess, if this is such a
big issue.
Edgar (06:45):
Yeah. Serious help. And so it's just like having her
friends bully OP.
Erika (06:48):
I know. It's so sad. It's not her fault. She already feels
I feel like she has a low selfesteem already, and this is not
helping her case at all.
Edgar (06:56):
Yeah. I agree.
Erika (06:58):
I hope her skin clears up and, you know, she has more
confidence, you know, as shegets older.
Edgar (07:04):
Mhmm. So final verdict on the story?
Erika (07:07):
Definitely not the asshole. Yeah.
Edgar (07:08):
I hope he isn't. But, Callie definitely needs therapy
at least for
Erika (07:13):
Yeah. Some
Edgar (07:13):
some sort of help.
Erika (07:14):
I don't think nobody's a asshole here. She just I think
she just needs help.
Edgar (07:19):
Yeah. I think yeah.
Erika (07:21):
If it's true, like, if she actually has it,
Edgar (07:23):
you know? Well, maybe the teacher's a little bit of an
asshole.
Erika (07:25):
A little bit. But, I mean, some teachers just don't
really care enough to try tofind a solution, which sucks.
Edgar (07:32):
Mhmm.
Erika (07:34):
Alright. So next story is, am I the asshole for staying
quiet after my coworker tried toget me fired only for my boss's
wife to find out and be her andbe her up in the office? Oh,
man. I, 33 female, happened in aprivate relationship with my
coworker, Chris, thirty fourmale, for about three years. We
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kept it quiet to avoid officegossip, but things took a turn
when Jess, twenty eight female,joined our team.
She became obsessed withfiguring out my personal life,
constantly prying, makingcomments like, you and Chris
spend a lot time together. And Iwonder if there are any secret
office couples. At first, it wasjust annoying, but then just
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escalated. She went to HRfalsely accusing me using my
relationship to get ahead. Chrisand I had to sit through an
investigation, but we werecleared.
Still, the damage was done.People started treating me
differently, and the office feltcolder. I thought it was the end
of it, but it wasn't. A fewweeks later, I noticed Jess
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getting close to her boss, Matt,forty two male. She started
going on private businesslunches with him and Sunday so
suddenly had access to thingsshe couldn't and shouldn't.
Then out of nowhere, I wascalled to HR again. Another
anonymous complaint claimed Iwas creating a hostile work
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environment. I knew Jess wasbehind it, but instead of
panicking, I started documentingeverything. When HR confronted
me, I almost exposed Jess'relationship with Matt, but I
decided to keep quiet. I figuredthings she'll slip up on her
own, and she did spectacularly.
One night, our team went to arestaurant after work.
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Consequently, Matt's wife wasthere with her friends. As she
was walking by, she overheardJess loudly joking with a
coworker about how Matt waswrapped around her finger and
how she was getting whatever shewanted at work. That got his
wife's attention. I actuallytried to warn Jess.
The next morning, I put heraside and told her she needed to
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be more careful because Matt'swife had been right there when
she made those comments. Iwasn't even trying to be petty.
I genuinely didn't want to seethis turn into a full blown
disaster, but Jess just rolledher eyes, smirked, and said,
please. She's so dumb to figureanything out. I shrugged and
walked away.
I tried. Well, Matt's wifewasn't dumb. She started
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digging, and a few days later,she stormed into her office
furious. She went straight toJess's desk, threw a stack of
printed out text onto the lap.Yes.
She had receipts. And then sheswung on her. Jess barely had
time to react before Matt's wifegrabbed her by the hair and
dragged her around, dragged herto the ground. Papers went
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flying, people screamed, and itgot ugly fast. Jess fought back
clawing at her, and withinseconds, chairs were knocked
over, a monitor crashed to thefloor, and someone had to
physically pull them apart.
Security got involved, but bythen, the damage was done. The
cops were called because Matt'swife would not let up, screaming
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about how Jess was a homewreckerand that she deserved worse. HR
immediately stepped in, and itwas chaos. Employees were
filming, people were panicking,and Matt looked like he wanted
to disappear. In the end, Mattwas fired for misconduct.
Jess was escorted out forviolating company policies, and
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his wife was taken out bysecurity, but wasn't arrested
since Jess refused to presscharges, probably to avoid more
embarrassment. As for me, I keptmy job, and the office finally
had a real scandal to talkabout. Now some coworkers say I
was being petty by not pushingharder to warn Jess, while
others think she got exactlywhat she deserved. I never
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intended for things to explodelike this, but after she tried
to ruin my career, I don'texactly feel bad. Am I the
asshole for staying quiet aftershe refused to listen?
Edgar (11:43):
No. I don't think at all. Like, she even warned her. Jess
kinda had, like, the karmacoming towards her. Right?
Saying stuff like saying this infront of the of the, the guy's
wife and being so cocky, he hasto say, oh, she's too like, the
wife is too dumb to let's see ifshe figured this out.
Erika (12:01):
Yeah. I don't understand what Jess' endgame was,
honestly. Okay. So let's sayshe's sleeping with the the wife
I mean, sleeping with the boss.And what happens next?
Edgar (12:13):
Well, I guess she was clearly trying to climb the
ladder. She was boasting abouthaving him wrapped around his
fingers, so probably wasgetting, like, some favors or
more information so she can usedance to, like, just get higher
and, like, just to get morerespect and more knowledge
around the office. But it isall, like, office politics
anyway. I feel like they're,like, way too into their jobs,
like OP and everyone involved inthis story.
Erika (12:35):
Yeah. I mean, I I don't get it. Like, I get what she was
trying to do, but people withthat mentality just, like,
doesn't get you far. Sure. Itmight get you far in certain
certain situations, but then youhave situations like this where
you get caught and then you'rescrewed.
Mhmm. And you lose everything.It's a gamble, really.
Edgar (12:57):
Yeah. I feel like it does work, though. Like, for every
just there's, like, 10 otherpeople who are, like, who get
CEO positions or executivepositions just from, like, just
some wreathling well, sleeping,wreathling, or just, like,
having just playing a game, youknow, and just being as as liked
as they can be.
Erika (13:13):
Yeah. I mean, a lot of people play dirty to get
wherever they are. And it sucksbecause not a lot of people are,
you know, there because theydeserve it.
Edgar (13:21):
Mhmm.
Erika (13:21):
But because they did the right things, and that didn't
include stepping over somebodyor cheating on something.
Edgar (13:28):
Yeah. That's why, like, I don't really care about titles
too much because you never like,you you have to see from, like,
firsthand, like, how theiractual skills and actual
productivity is.
Erika (13:39):
Yeah. I agree with that. But, yeah, I don't really
believe that OP was, an assholeat all. I think she tried to
warn her, but she refused tolisten, and she got what she
deserved. And for those peoplesaying that she should have
worked harder to warn her, yeah.
Mhmm. Yeah. No.
Edgar (13:58):
Do you think OP was trying to, like, climb the
ladder by having a relationshipwith her, coworker or her boss.
I don't know who exactly Chriswas.
Erika (14:06):
She doesn't really specify about the relationship
or he's, like, higher positionthan her or anything like that,
but, I mean
Edgar (14:12):
They seem to be about the same age. But, I mean, yeah,
it's a little bit fishy that shedidn't disclose their
relationship.
Erika (14:17):
Yeah. I mean, it doesn't seem like she got a better, like
well, at least she didn'tmention it. This is a lot of,
like, backstory that she not shedid not say.
Edgar (14:27):
Mhmm.
Erika (14:28):
But, I mean, if she did, she probably didn't say it.
Edgar (14:32):
Yeah. Exactly. I mean, it's probably, like, not that
bad anyway because they're thesame age. They like, like, even
though it had, like, a scandal,like, I'm anyone over HR, like,
they were able to hide it wellenough, and they were able to,
like Yeah. For it all to blowover without anyone getting
fired.
Erika (14:47):
Yeah. I'm sure if they had some kind of misconduct, HR
will figure it out. I mean,unless they hide it really well,
but that's kinda impossible. SoI don't know. I I don't think
they did anything terrible atleast.
But, I mean, if you go from 42and, she's 28, you know, that's
a huge age cap. Obviously Mhmm.It was just for benefits. It
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wasn't really for, you know,because she liked them,
especially if she knew he wasmarried.
Edgar (15:16):
It's a whole mess.
Erika (15:17):
It really is. I think it's easy to find a a way to get
higher and faster Mhmm. In ahigher position. But at the end
of the day, I guess it dependshow you want other people to
perceive you and to view you.
Edgar (15:32):
Well, people can perceive you, like, terribly, but if I'm
in a mansion, I won't care.
Erika (15:37):
I mean, yeah. I mean, if you wanna live that way, it's
it's up to you.
Edgar (15:40):
Exactly. So your final verdict on this?
Erika (15:43):
Not the asshole.
Edgar (15:44):
Yeah. Hopefully, definitely not the asshole. Jess
and her whole fling thing. Yeah.Assholes.
Erika (15:50):
Oh, yeah. The husband I mean, the boss too. Why are you
sleeping with somebody or goingon business, trips or, I don't
know, like, business meetingswith, Jess. Yeah. Makes sense.
Edgar (16:04):
Chris's lunches in a romantic restaurant.
Erika (16:06):
Yeah.
Edgar (16:07):
Bro. Okay. This next story is titled, am I the
asshole who are treating mycoworker differently after she
accused me of making heruncomfortable when I covered for
her at work? I, 30 male, work inan office with a small team. A
few months ago, my coworker,Samantha, twenty eight female,
had an emergency and had toleave work early.
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She was supposed to finish areport that was due the next
morning, so she asked if I couldhelp her cover for her. I had
some extra time, so I finishedup a report and sent it under
both of our names to make sureshe got credit. The next day,
she thanked me, but seemed kindof off. A couple of days later,
I was called into HR. Turns out,Samantha had filed a complaint
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saying that my taking over herwork without explicit permission
made her uncomfortable and thatit felt like I was trying to
undermine her.
I was completely confusedbecause, one, she had asked for
help, and two, I didn't takecredit away from her. HR did an
investigation, and after a week,they cleared me. But the whole
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thing shook me. I never expectedthat helping a coworker would
land me in trouble. After that,I kept things strictly
professional with Samantha.
I still say hello and work withher when needed, but I don't
chat with her casually, offer tohelp, or include her in group
outings anymore. She noticed andconfronted me about it, saying
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I'm treating her unfairly andbeing cold. She explained that
she was just setting a boundaryand didn't mean for HR to
investigate so seriously. I toldher I understood, but I need to
protect myself too. So I'm justbeing more cautious now.
She said I was being dramaticand should move on. Am I the
asshole for keeping my distance?And, no, I think he's in the
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right to protect himselfbecause, like, he he he helped
her, and he said, okay. I'mgonna make sure you get credit.
I'm gonna I'm gonna get creditas well because this is time off
for me to help you.
But, and doing all of this, I Istill got in trouble. So that's,
like, I would protect myself tooif I was a nepotism.
Erika (18:13):
Exactly. I mean, what did she expect for her to just say
that she did it all?
Edgar (18:19):
I think yeah. I feel like that that's what she wanted.
Like, oh, you do the work andjust say it was all under me.
And, like, I don't know. It's,like, very, like, very dirty
trick to do.
Erika (18:28):
Yeah. Absolutely not. Like, what do you mean? That's
why she got salty and mad thatshe didn't do that, just that.
It's ridiculous.
She should get credit if she puther work in there. And the fact
that she put her name was niceof her.
Edgar (18:45):
Nice of him or her? Yeah. I don't know if he's a
Erika (18:48):
Yeah. Whatever. It was nice of
Edgar (18:49):
of he.
Erika (18:51):
And the fact that she said, oh, well, I told HR, but I
didn't think they were gonnatake it serious is ridiculous.
Edgar (18:57):
I know. Once you, like, contact HR, like, you kinda,
like, you don't say it's justto, like, it's just to say it'd
be, like, oh, keep an eye lookeye for him. It's it's more
like, oh, investigate thisperson or, like, I want this
person to be, like, in troubleor something.
Erika (19:10):
Yeah. I I don't get she's just trying to downplay whatever
she did and calling her dramaticbecause she knows demonstrate
that what she did was not notright. Mm-mm. Yeah. I just feel
like she was just gaslightingher too.
And she has the completely rightto say, I'm not gonna hang out
with her. There's you could do adraw line. So when you have a
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you go into a job and you havecoworkers, you can have them be
coworkers, or you can have thembe coworkers and then friends.
Edgar (19:43):
Yeah.
Erika (19:43):
You don't have to have coworkers be your friends. You
don't have to hang out with themafter work.
Edgar (19:48):
Yeah. Because if if OP is gonna get in trouble for
helping, this chick out,imagine, like, they're out in,
like, in a public outing. And,like, what else can she, like,
flag him for?
Erika (20:00):
Yeah. That she she's gonna use things that she knows
about her to get her in troubleor do so to manipulate her.
Yeah.
Edgar (20:06):
You you can't trust that anymore.
Erika (20:07):
No. So she's whatever. She's gonna keep her distance
for her own benefit and for herown safety regarding her job.
Because she's yeah. I don't Ithink she's being smart by doing
that, actually.
Edgar (20:20):
Yeah.
Erika (20:21):
So the top comment is not the asshole. She thought you
were gonna cover her workanonymously, and she would get
full credit. She was then tryingto protect herself by saying you
overstepped when making thecomplaint to HR. Continue
keeping your distance. Mhmm.
Exactly. I agree.
Edgar (20:38):
I know. But OP is more than nice enough to, like, have
done that for her.
Erika (20:42):
Yeah.
Edgar (20:42):
Like, if I would ask, like, a coworker to, like, help
me do this, like, I would be,like, really grateful that
they're able to do that becauseI know everyone's busy at work.
Everyone doesn't have time to,like, take a little bit of their
time off to do any editing forme.
Erika (20:56):
Exactly. And the fact that she asked help and she
said, yeah. I can help you. It'scrazy to me. She stayed after
work to help her.
Edgar (21:02):
Mhmm.
Erika (21:03):
Like, come on. It's completely unreasonable. So a
final verdict.
Edgar (21:09):
Yeah. OP is not the asshole, and the coworker is
definitely the asshole.
Erika (21:13):
Yeah. She keeps she should keep her distance 100%.
Edgar (21:17):
Very.
Erika (21:18):
So next story is Emma, the asshole for kicking my
mother-in-law out of our houseafter she refused to call her
son by his name. My husband,thirty four male, and I, 31
female, recently had our firstchild, a son we named Elijah. We
put a lot of thought into thisname. We love the meaning. It
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was just felt right.
My mother-in-law, 62 female, hadno strong opinions about it at
first. She didn't gush over it,but she also didn't object or so
we thought. The first time shemet Elijah at the hospital, she
looked at him and said, oh,little David, you're so perfect.
I thought I misheard her, so Iignored it. But then when she
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said it again, I asked her,who's David?
And she just smiled and said,oh, it's just Susan better. I
was too exhausted from labor toargue. But over the next few
weeks, she kept calling himDavid, texting me things like,
how's my little David doing? Orgive David a kiss for me. I told
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her firmly that his name isElijah.
And she laughed and said, oh, Iknow, but I think he just feels
like a David. Neither my husbandnor I nor anyone called David.
It's not a family name. There'sno sentimental reason behind it.
It's just completely a randomname.
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She decided to call my childdespite telling us despite us
telling her not to. At first, wetried to let it go, hoping she'd
stop if we ignored it, but itonly got worse. When we
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FaceTimed her, she'd coo at himsaying, grandma loves you,
David. She even started knittinga baby blanket with the name
David embroidered on it. Oh mygod.
She is taking it too far. Thefinal straw was when she came
over for a family dinner andkept referring him as David in
front of everyone. Mysister-in-law asked, wait. Why
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do you keep calling him David?And mother-in-law laughed and
said, because that's his name tome.
That's when I lost it. I said,no. His name is Elijah. If you
can't respect that, you don'tneed to be here. She rolled her
eyes and tried to wave me off,but I wasn't having it.
I told her to leave. She lookedshocked, but she left without
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much of a fight. Now my husbandis upset with me. He agrees that
his mom was being weird anddisrespectful, but he thinks
kicking her out was too extreme,and I should have just let it
go. My mother-in-law is nowplaying the victim, telling
everyone that I keeping hergrandson from her over a
harmless nickname.
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Some family members think Ioverreacted. Others agree that
her behavior was bizarre. Idon't know. Was I really in the
wrong for putting my foot down?Am I the asshole?
Edgar (24:22):
I think it's like yeah. It is weird that OP's
mother-in-law isn't, like, isgiving him her a weird name.
Like, I I don't think it's anickname even, like, to her. I
think she's just, like, for somereason, woke up one day and
said, you know what? I'm justgonna call this baby David now.
Erika (24:39):
I just don't get it because usually nicknames are
part of your name unless it's,like, a complete different,
like, endearment.
Edgar (24:45):
Mhmm.
Erika (24:45):
And everybody knows and everybody agrees. Like, for
example, for Elijah, it shouldbe Eli. You know, like a
nickname, not David. Like,where's David coming from? I I
don't understand.
Edgar (24:56):
I just wanna know, like, her thinking process. Like, the
mother in law's, like, whyDavid? Because that's just,
like, a big mystery that thisthat's gonna be haunting the
family from now on.
Erika (25:04):
Like Where she got it? I I don't understand where why
she's doing this. Like, yeah, Idon't get it.
Edgar (25:13):
Yeah. I wish we got more background on, like, at least
the mother-in-law because itjust seems very, like, strange
and out of left field. I mean,if this is just like a nickname,
I don't really mind it too much.You know?
Erika (25:23):
No. I wouldn't like that.
Edgar (25:25):
Mhmm.
Erika (25:27):
Honestly, I wouldn't like that just because he the baby is
has a name. So for example,let's say the child's growing up
and everybody calls him Elijahand then he answers by Elijah.
And then out of nowhere, thegrandma's like, David, come
here. Like and that's when your,you know, your child's learning
it, learning his name. How areyou gonna call him David and
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then Elijah?
Like, completely differentnames.
Edgar (25:50):
You know, in other cultures, people have multiple,
like, nicknames that, like like,in Russia, it's like your name
can be, like, Ivan and you have,like, 20 different, like, names
that are just variations ofIvan. Like, I've been asking,
Erika (26:03):
like variations of of that name.
Edgar (26:05):
Same name. And so, like, I I can't go deeper into it
because I don't know all thenames that have to have in my
head, but also, like, I feellike nicknames. Like, for me,
like, remember how I give allyour, like, nephews and nieces,
like, weird nicknames?
Erika (26:16):
Oh, because you under you misunderstood. So my nephew has,
a name, and we have twonicknames. Well, actually, just
one. JJ and then his name isJaden. But Edgar here calls him
Julian.
Edgar (26:29):
Yeah. Julian.
Erika (26:30):
Mhmm. Because apparently, for a whole year, he he kept
hearing us call him Julian
Edgar (26:35):
Mhmm.
Erika (26:36):
Which I don't know where he got it from because we did
not call him Julian.
Edgar (26:41):
Guys call him Julian, and then I call him Julian. And then
one day, I think it was, JJ'ssister, Jean. He said, why are
you calling Julian?
Erika (26:51):
Who's Julian?
Edgar (26:52):
Yeah. And then they're like, Julian?
Erika (26:55):
No. I've never called him Julian. I don't know. Maybe you
misheard, but regardless Well, I
Edgar (26:59):
mean, it didn't it didn't confuse him. Like, whenever I
accidentally call, JJ Julian,he's like, who
Erika (27:03):
is that? Why you calling me dad? But it's fine because
there's some type of connectionwith that. You know, there's
this there's a j or JJ, but,like, you come from Elijah to
David, there's just nocorrelation there. There's just
no connecting that dots.
So I I think it's just I don'thonestly, if she named the baby
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Elijah, she should respect that.That's it. And if she tells you
that's uncomfortable and pleasedon't call him that multiple
times, and she continues todisregard her Mhmm. You know,
her, not command, but more of,like, you know, please don't do
that.
Edgar (27:42):
Yeah. Hit boundary.
Erika (27:44):
Yeah. Then she is definitely at fault here.
Edgar (27:47):
Yeah. Because, like, I think as a nickname, it's fine,
but, like, when, like, theparents say, no. I don't want
you calling my child this, thenyou have to reflect it.
Erika (27:55):
Yes. I agree 100%. Mhmm.
Edgar (27:57):
Like, it'll be hard for the mother-in-law, but
eventually, she has to get overbecause, like, this is not
something that's okay by theparents at the very least.
Erika (28:04):
I honestly don't think it's hard for her. I think she's
just being an asshole here.
Edgar (28:08):
Well, I mean, the mother-in-law, like, how long
because is is it a birthday?Yeah. It's been, like, a year or
so that she's been callingElijah David. So it would be
like a like, by that point, it'slike a habit. But
Erika (28:19):
that's weird. Like like, it's her like, they she didn't
say that the her behavior isbizarre. Why is she doing this?
I don't understand.
Edgar (28:27):
Yeah. Yeah.
Erika (28:28):
Does she have, like, a, you know how people have, like,
weird behaviors out ofcharacter? Sometimes that means
that you have a tumor, like abrain tumor. Yeah.
Edgar (28:38):
I was thinking too. Yeah. When I first heard that, like,
is she does she is she, like howold is she? Because this is,
like, definitely some sort of,like, old people thing going on
in her life.
Erika (28:46):
62 female.
Edgar (28:48):
Like, maybe early, like, some sort of dementia.
Erika (28:51):
I don't know. But I don't think so because, I mean, if you
tell everybody calls him Elijah.I mean, you can't just have the
dementia just for a name. Like
Edgar (29:00):
She's bay barely moves in, like, from from how I'm
hearing the story.
Erika (29:04):
I don't know. I think either if she needs, to check
out her health and or she needsto just stop being an asshole
and call call the baby byElijah.
Edgar (29:14):
Yeah. Or at least explain her her reasoning behind David.
Like, that's just so weird.
Erika (29:18):
I mean, even if she explains, I mean, honestly, it's
just Yeah.
Edgar (29:22):
Even if she does claims, I don't expect them to, like,
accept the name, but just, like,I just wanna know why.
Erika (29:26):
Yeah. Just curiosity. Yeah. It's fine. Random.
Yeah. So the top comment is notthe asshole. This is hella weird
behavior, and your feelings arevalid. I also find it odd that
your husband thinks youoverreacted, but you literally
just told her to use the correctname or leave or to leave. It
sounds like he made her choice,and now she's upset with you.
Exactly. So the husband shouldhave backed her up. I mean, I
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think she just fed up, honestly.I would be fed up too. I just
wouldn't kick my mother-in-lawout of the house.
I think that's a little bit toomuch, but I would literally tell
her in front of everybody toplease stop doing that.
Edgar (30:04):
Mhmm.
Erika (30:05):
So actually, OPI had responded to that, and she said,
it really is, and I'm stillwondering who David is or why
she chose that name. As for myhusband, he's always had a hard
time going against his mom inanything. So, yeah, that could
definitely cause issues. Heneeds to put his foot down too.
Edgar (30:23):
Mhmm.
Erika (30:23):
I think he's just lets her get away with a lot of
stuff, which eventually willbite him in the ass. Yeah. But
yeah. So what's the finalverdict?
Edgar (30:33):
I don't I think she's, like, a little bit of an asshole
for kicking her mother-in-lawout because that just causes
more drama for the entirefamily. But I don't think she's
an asshole for, like, fortelling mother-in-law to respect
the actual name of the child,Elijah.
Erika (30:48):
Yeah. Like, I think it would have been an issue if,
like I said, the nickname wasEli or something correlated with
the actual name, not David.
Edgar (30:58):
Maybe just mix up both of the names. Delijah.
Erika (31:01):
Ew. That's terrible. Do. No. That's terrible.
Edgar (31:06):
Can you imagine? No. Like, an embroidered baby. An
embroidered blanket that justsays d I l, do.
Erika (31:13):
Great thing. Mhmm. But, no, I really think that, she I
don't think she's an asshole atall, honestly. She shoulda she
should have, not messed with thebull.
Edgar (31:24):
Oh, wow.
Erika (31:25):
Because she woulda got she got the horns. But I just I
really think that she's not theasshole here. She's the survey.
So what's the next story?
Edgar (31:36):
Yeah. The next story is titled, am I the asshole for
telling my birth siblings tofuck off and leave me alone and
I don't care about their stupidfucking parents? I, in my
twenties, male, was adopted asan infant. Actually, I was found
in an alley by the dumpster, andwhen my bare family didn't come
forward to claim me and nobodyknew who I was, I was adopted.
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But I was an infant at the time,thankfully, so no long foster
care experience.
I was placed without anything tokeep me warm in a low visibility
area, and there was no signs Iwas lovingly placed. I basically
looked like I was thrown awaylike trash. I've seen some old
newspaper clippings about it.The story was told to me
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gradually throughout mychildhood. My parents were
always open about my adoption,though.
I never felt othered. My family,parents, siblings, and extended
family were my family even if Iwas the only non bio kid in the
family. I was loved. I wastreasured even and had a great
life, but the circumstancessurrounding my adoption meant
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some stuff was unclear, medicalhistory being the biggest thing.
I never really cared, but I gotengaged a few months ago, and my
fiance and I want children.
And seeing the health stuff inmy family has made me realize I
have no idea if I could passanything on to my future kids.
After thinking it over, I did a23 and me genetic testing, but I
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did it wrong, and I alsomistakenly added myself to be
found. I realized quickly aftermy results came in, but by then,
it was too late, and two birthsiblings found me. They're
older. My birth parents had fivekids before me.
They all know about me and wantand want to know me. The birth
siblings started off somewhatreasonable, but when I made it
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clear I didn't I didn't want tohear my birth parents' story,
they flipped a switch. They saidhow much their parents regretted
giving me away and how theywould have come forward, but
they didn't want to get intotrouble for abandoning like they
did. They believed I owed theirparents and them the chance to
get it all out there and tobuild a relationship. I stood my
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ground, and I blocked them, butthey followed me to social media
and they insisted we are afamily and I should be kinder to
them and their parents.
I was told it's not like I'mjust a half sibling and, the
baby who was missing. They sentme messages that were trying to
make me feel bad for theparents, specifically their mom,
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and it pissed me off. Afteralmost three months of dealing
with them, finding ways aroundmy blocking them, I told them to
fuck off and to leave me aloneand how I don't care about their
stupid fucking parents. I had todelete my account because it was
just random accounts afterrandom account, and I couldn't
block them fast enough in theiroutrage ever over what I did,
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over what I said. They told metheir parents didn't deserve
that.
Anybody asshole?
Erika (34:35):
Absolutely not. I'm sorry. She said they regretted
giving her away or OP away. Theythrew OP away. They literally
put her put OP in the garbage.
Edgar (34:50):
I know. They're, like, kinda insane. They literally put
them in the garbage.
Erika (34:52):
And say giving away no. No. Absolutely not.
Edgar (34:56):
I think yeah. This could've all been, like, a
wholesome, like, get together,like, reuniting a family
experience, but OP is, like,real parents. They want to not
get in trouble for, like, forbeing thrown away because, like,
that's, like, legal. Like,that's, like, you get arrested
for that. So I feel like ifthey, like, if they really meant
that they wanna, like, gettogether and, like, have
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everything be, like like, right,they should, like, come forward
and say, yeah.
We did this and, like, servewhatever sentence I need to.
Erika (35:24):
I guess to get, you know, to go ahead and do the to pay
for what they did, I guess. But,I mean, OP doesn't it seems like
he doesn't wanna wanna forgivethem, and that's up to OP. Yeah.
I mean, if he I mean, he rightnow has had a good life, and he
had a good parents, good, youknow, growing good experiences
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growing up. And, I mean, for themost part, he was okay with his
siblings Mhmm.
Original siblings, but when theystarted saying that he should
forgive them, that's somethingthat they shouldn't be pushing
on him at all
Edgar (35:59):
or her. That's, like, a a lot to, like, take in. Like, at
the very least, like, OP's realsiblings could have just said,
hey. It's just, like, like, justbuild up to, like, a actual
relationship. Just not, like
Erika (36:09):
Yeah.
Edgar (36:10):
Don't expect the relationships just exist and,
like, just blossom out ofnowhere.
Erika (36:15):
Yeah. I don't get that.
Edgar (36:17):
From just meeting for a few for just meeting online.
Erika (36:21):
Yeah. I think they overstepped. And good for OP to
tell them, no. That's not what Iwanna do. And that's it.
I don't think there was noreason for them to really try to
pressure him and flip a switchand making OP to forgive them. I
mean, it's not like youexperienced what he experienced.
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Like, literally, he saw paperclips paper clippings on
newspaper saying it was next tothe guard. Like, really? Oh, he
should be, you know, forgived.
He should forgive them.
Edgar (36:53):
Yeah. Imagine all the bullying he got from that, like,
as a child, like, in school.
Erika (36:57):
It's just sad because I think psychologically, it's
something that really, you know,affects you. But I'm glad he had
a good family that was able toreally, you know, show him love
and care. Mhmm. So the topcomment is send them all the
newspaper clippings of a babyleft to die in that alley. Did
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you at least get medical infoout of them?
So because remember, the reasonwhy he actually wanted to get
that information was to see, youknow, if he had any
Edgar (37:27):
Any medical
Erika (37:28):
issues. Yeah. So OP responded to that and said, I
didn't get it from them, but thegenetic testing did give me a
decent picture of everything.I'm glad I didn't ask the birth
siblings for direct medicalhistory because they would
likely be used to try to bargainfor what they want. Mhmm.
Exactly. I think he dodged amassive bullet, and that's just
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people like that were literallyred flags.
Edgar (37:53):
I don't know. That's, like, kinda messed up. Like, I
would wish that, like, Obi,would have, like, more caring,
real siblings and real, like,parents, but it looks like they
have their own agendas and theyown things that they want from
their relationship with the withthe baby and the family, which
is okay.
Erika (38:07):
Yeah. I I don't understand. I just me, for my
curiosity, I would wanna knowwhy they did that. Like, what
made them so desperate to throwme in the garbage? I know.
It's I mean, I get, you know,maybe too many children, too
many, you know, issues andwhatever, but I don't think if,
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if you're not able to, you couldjust give the baby for adoption.
Edgar (38:33):
Mhmm.
Erika (38:33):
Like, there's just no reason for you to be throwing
the baby in the garbage. That'sjust ridiculous.
Edgar (38:37):
Yeah. And
Erika (38:39):
it shows you what type of people they truly are. Mhmm. So
what's the final verdict?
Edgar (38:43):
The final verdict. Oh, he is that the asshole?
Erika (38:45):
No. I think he had he made his choice and they should
respect it. Yeah. So the nextstory, this is something with I
believe we had a story beforewhere they were trying to see if
somebody was stealing food. Thiswas a different story, but it's
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I think it's kinda I don't know.
This was borderline kinda crazy.Okay. So the next story's title
is Emma the asshole for tellingmy roommate to move out after
she risked my life to prove apoint. I, 25, female, have two
roommates called Jenny and Abby.Jenny started noticing her food
going missing and blamed us bothand didn't eat any of her food,
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and I wasn't super worried.
Yesterday, Jenny called theroommate meeting. And when we
were off work, she sat down andtold Abby she wanted to be paid
back for the food that's gonemissing. Abby started saying
that it wasn't her. It wasprobably me. That's when Jenny
said it couldn't have been mebecause she was putting nuts in
her food and in her stuff.
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Like, that food doesn't evenmake sense to have nuts in it
because I'm severely allergic tothem. She said I couldn't have
done it because I'd be dead. Shesaid it all proud like she got
Abby, but I literally felt sick.I could have died. Also, it's
really expensive to replacethem.
Like, for $30 of food, she waswilling to risk my life. She and
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I argued, and she knew it wasn'tme. So that's why she did it,
but I don't believe her. It's myname on the apartment. I'm sir
fairly certain I'm justified inkicking her out, but I'm double
checking.
It feels absolutely insane thatI could lose a friendship of
four years to something thatwasn't even my fault. Abby's
pissed at me and says I'moverreacting, but she also
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doesn't want me to want to moveout, so she's at least somewhat
on my side. Jenny is angry notspeaking to me. I told her she
has thirty days to get out. Am Ithe asshole?
Edgar (40:47):
Definitely not. Like, I feel like, we've seen, like, a
lot of stories where people,like, take food from, like, a
coworker or from, like, a aroommate, but they've always,
like, tried to do somethingobvious or something that, like,
was not life threatening. Inthis case, this is, like,
something that is lifethreatening. Like, if Jenny was
wrong about who was stealing herfood, she could have killed OP.
Erika (41:11):
Yeah. She's severely allergic.
Edgar (41:12):
Mhmm.
Erika (41:13):
Like, what do you mean? What if she ate something and
nobody was home? She could'veliterally they they would've
come back to the apartment andshe would be dead.
Edgar (41:23):
That's crazy. Like, imagine like, in our situation,
like, I it's like like, imagineI put, like, razors on, like,
all the food that we have.
Erika (41:32):
Razors? Yeah. No. But thank you.
Edgar (41:34):
Like, shaving razors be, like, if anyone ate it, they
would have died. And that's howI know who died. Took my food.
We did see.
Erika (41:41):
Crazy to me.
Edgar (41:41):
No. Because they died.
Erika (41:43):
No. But you could see that. I mean, you know, like,
people that put powder, like,for make you use the bathroom.
Mhmm. Like, that's fine.
Like, why? You just get a littlebit, you know, diarrhea and
stuff. Like, you know?
Edgar (41:55):
Become like a faucet. Yeah. But
Erika (41:58):
But it's not, like, threatening. It's not you're
gonna die because you'repooping.
Edgar (42:02):
That's uncomfortable. But yeah.
Erika (42:03):
Yeah. But I think this is a line where it was definitely
crossed.
Edgar (42:08):
Yeah. Because he was out of her right or someone died.
Erika (42:12):
I mean, we shouldn't be laughing, but it's just crazy.
Like, what is her well, reallyher envy?
Edgar (42:18):
That's so homicidal. Like, like, I could imagine
Abby, like, the one who actuallysort of food would be like, I
stole food, but what you didwhat you did was worse. It's
civility.
Erika (42:30):
No. It was crazy to me. I mean, like, OP said, she
could've literally replaced the$30 food, and it would've been
fine. Yeah. But, like, killingher, you can't replace her.
Like, what you gotta do? You'regonna go jail? Because you
literally poisoned her. No.Well, I mean, technically, she
didn't know, but still Mhmm.
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She should have not done that.She could have put, like I said,
like, something to make her poopor have diarrhea. That's it.
Then she would have found outwho it was.
Edgar (42:59):
Or put a camera. Why and I feel like a lot of people
could easily just put a camerain the place that they're, like,
the kitchen place.
Erika (43:05):
Yeah. That's good. I mean, that's a good option too.
Edgar (43:08):
Like, no one gets hurt. No one, like, becomes a faucet.
And then to her, like, no onedies. It's a little bit it's
Erika (43:12):
a little bit nice revenge there. But, I mean, yeah, still,
that's that's a good way tothink about it. But still, I
think she definitely was anasshole with this. There was no
need for her to almost kill her.
Edgar (43:24):
And imagine if OP, like, accidentally ate the wrong food.
Erika (43:27):
Yeah. That could also be that. And then if she's severely
allergic, what if, like, alittle bit of peanut butter
touched her food or somethinglike that? She could have
literally gone into shock
Edgar (43:37):
as well. Yeah. Having all that in the fridge, like, it
probably contaminated, like, abunch of the other items there.
Erika (43:44):
Yeah. No. I think she wasn't really thinking it
through. She just was happy thatshe figured out it was Abby.
She's so ridiculous.
Yeah.
Edgar (43:52):
She probably read too much anybody asked for stories
and, like, yes. I know what todo.
Erika (43:56):
Ridiculous. Right. So the top comment is I would also kick
Abby out for blaming you forsomething she knew she did.
Yeah. They both should getkicked out.
Edgar (44:07):
Both of them? Yeah. Yeah. You don't want you don't want a
murderer and you don't wanna
Erika (44:11):
A liar.
Edgar (44:12):
Stealer. A liar. Yeah.
Erika (44:13):
Yes. And somebody that steals. A liar and somebody that
steals. No. Kick them all out.
Edgar (44:18):
And a murderer. Yeah. Difficult for that.
Erika (44:21):
No. Both should be kicked out Mhmm. And cut ties
completely. You don't wantpeople like that in your life.
Forget that.
Edgar (44:29):
I'm curious. But, final verdict?
Erika (44:33):
Not the asshole.
Edgar (44:34):
Yeah. Not the asshole. Just just get out of that
situation.
Erika (44:37):
Yeah. Kick them out. Yeah. You
Edgar (44:39):
don't wanna get, like, poisoned before you leave. So
the next story is titled, am Ithe asshole for refusing to
change my birth plan to pleasemy mother-in-law? Some babies
were approaching the horizon. Ihad dreamed of having,
unmedicated home birth. My momwent unmedicated as well as my
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grandma and my great grandma,who was also a traditional
midwife and birth keeper.
So growing up, birth was spokehighly about. No fear was ever
instilled in us around birth orpregnancy, although I obviously
am aware of complications thatcan happen. As soon as the test
turned positive, I contacted amidwife and became the steps to
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midwifery care and a planningour and I also went into
planning our home birth. When mymother-in-law found this out,
she flipped out. She called meirresponsible, irrational, and
downfire negligence, asking if Ihad any idea of the
complications and interventionsthat could be needed, etcetera.
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And she said she refused for meto do this. I wanna make it
clear. My husband supports thisdecision a %. And all I did was
mention home birth as an option,and he did the research. He
educated himself, and he tooktime to learn about it before
agreeing.
And she doesn't believe this, asif I am demanding we go this
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route against my husband. Everyday, since multiple times a day,
she sends me links of videostalking about traumatic birth
stories and situations, infantobituaries, and asks me every
day what hospital I have chosen.
Erika (46:18):
Crazy. Mhmm.
Edgar (46:20):
I don't plan on changing my birth plans at all. My
husband has tried to step in andtells her to stop, but she
refuses to let it go, and sheturns herself into a victim.
It's like going around incircles. I don't know what to
do. I finally just responded andsaid I would unblock her once
the baby is born, but now she isblowing up my husband's phone,
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crying, complaining.
I'm going to keep my baby awayfrom her. I said I wouldn't
block her. I don't want to cutcontact with my business family.
What should I do besides changemy boyfriend? A muddy asshole.
Erika (46:55):
Oh my god. Absolutely not. She's really the
mother-in-law is taking it toofar. Just because she doesn't
agree doesn't mean she's gonnaliterally make her feel guilty
for wanting to do that.
Edgar (47:09):
I know. And, like, I I don't get the mother in law's
reasoning because, like, oh,you're manipulating my son to do
like, to have the birth the wayyou want it, so I'm just gonna
manipulate you to have the birthbe as I want it.
Erika (47:23):
Yeah. I mean, it's a choice that they both made Mhmm.
That they want to followthrough. And at the end of the
day, it's their baby. And ifthey decide to do that, it's
their choice.
Sure. The mother-in-law can givethem a certain, you know, this
is my reasoning, but it theydon't have to follow through.
Edgar (47:43):
Yeah. I mean, I can understand if the mother-in-law
is, like, concerned about, like,a home birth, like, she probably
just doesn't know about how thatworks and, like, the precautions
they would take. But if she wasso worried and she knows that OP
doesn't wanna change, she canjust, like, just support her,
like, best she can, like like,in this, in this endeavor.
Erika (48:05):
Yeah. I don't understand. She's taken it too far by
sending her video links oftraumatic birth stories and
situations Yeah. Yeah. Infantobituaries.
Edgar (48:15):
I know. That's, like, messed up. Like, I that means
she deliberately went intoGoogle, looked up obituaries for
babies, and, like, that that's,like, her evidence. Like, that's
just, like, too much like,that's for her on her end, it's
manipulation.
Erika (48:28):
Yeah. And she's taking it too far. I think she just needs
to be acceptive, accept thatthey're gonna do this and just
be there for them if necessary.
Edgar (48:40):
Yeah. Be there. Yeah. Just provide the support, like,
as much as you can. And then,hopefully, she comes around.
I don't think she will by thetime, like, the baby is born.
But yeah.
Erika (48:50):
Yeah. I looked up, the birth rates. It looks like they
actually has gone up andincreased twenty two percent,
from 2019. So it looks like it'srising.
Edgar (49:01):
Yeah. Like the popularity of of home birth?
Erika (49:04):
Yeah. Which, I mean, I can understand. But, I mean, it
it doesn't mean that she has to,you know, do whatever she wants
to do. I think it's it's greatthat they made a decision, and
it seems like it's somethingthat they've been doing for a
long time, her family. And soshe feels comfortable in doing a
home birth.
So she, the mother-in-law shouldrespect that and shouldn't be
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trying to change her mind. Thetop comment is not the asshole,
But please make sure you have alicensed RN for a midwife and
not an unlicensed doula. And ifthere's a complication, make
sure you don't wait to go to thehospital. I know someone who
stuck to her home birth plan toolong and almost died on
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hemorrhaging. And then certifiednurses, midwife, and RN or CNMs
are nurse practitioners who havethe least master's degree.
I agree. So, yeah, I thinkthat's a a good option. I mean,
just like I said, if you decideto do this, you should be able,
you know, well well,
Edgar (50:10):
Research?
Erika (50:10):
Yeah. Definitely.
Edgar (50:12):
Mhmm.
Erika (50:13):
Because you don't wanna risk the baby's life or yours.
Edgar (50:16):
Yeah. But I believe, though, Pete probably like, she
has, like, a whole family, wholeancestry of experience with
this. So she probably knows,like, the best course for
action, and she probably knows,like, what to do in the modern
times, like, with getting RN andjust getting medical
Erika (50:30):
help. Yeah. I mean, I think at this point, she's
prepared. I mean, if years andyears of experience, it should
help her out. So Mhmm.
I think the mother-in-law inthis case is really the asshole.
Edgar (50:43):
Yeah. So but a verdict then.
Erika (50:46):
Not the asshole.
Edgar (50:47):
Yeah. Obi's not the asshole. But yeah.
Mother-in-law, asshole. Changeyour weight, please.
Erika (50:52):
Yeah. I mean and then at this point, if you need to have
low contact with her on afterthe birth, you should because,
you know, at this point, sheshouldn't be stressed or
anything like that. Mhmm.Especially if she, you know,
she's trying to have a homebirth.
Edgar (51:07):
Yeah. I imagine all those baby obituaries is very
stressful.
Erika (51:11):
Oh my god. I think she that's crazy to me. She really,
really crossed the line. Sheneeds help.
Edgar (51:17):
Yeah. So messed up.
Erika (51:19):
Okay. So next story is my friend's perfect relationship
was full on FBI operation. Soheads up on this story. I
believe it's fake, but I thoughtit was a cute read and funny.
Mhmm.
I wish it was real, though. Soit starts so my best friend,
Matt, has always been a hopelessromantic. The kind of guy who
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believes in soulmates. Sincegood morning text unironically
and probably watched TheNotebook too many times. A few
months ago, he met his thisgirl, Lisa, on a dating app.
She was perfect. Too perfect.Gorgeous, funny, into some weird
indie bands as him, and getthis. She actually laughed at
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his terrible puns. Within weeks,they were inseparable.
Lisa was always around, butsomething fell off. She never
let him take pictures of her.She never talked about her job,
just said she was in governmentwork. She always paid in cash.
One night, we were at the barand Matt stepped away to take a
call.
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Lisa left alone with me, leanedin and said, you seem like a
good friend. Make sure Mattstays out of trouble. What? Then
two days later, she justvanished. Poof.
Phone disconnected. Apartmentemptied out. Matt was
devastated. Though she ghostedhim, he spiraled hard. Then
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about a month later, we werewatching the news, and there she
was, Lisa.
Except her real name was specialagent Lauren Carter, and she was
testifying at some hugeundercover sting involving a
money laundering ring. And I hadbeen dating an FBI agent working
a case. And the best part, hewasn't even the target. She was
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just using him as a cover story.To this day crazy.
He refuses to use dating apps.
Edgar (53:12):
Yeah. I can tell why you think it'd be fake. Like,
special agent Lauren Carter is,like, such a fake name.
Erika (53:19):
Yeah.
Edgar (53:19):
But maybe that's the point. Like, she has to have a
fake name even, like, when sheis not on the cover.
Erika (53:24):
Special protection, I guess. But still, I I thought it
would be nice if it was true,but yeah. I think it's it's
funny.
Edgar (53:32):
I think yeah. Like Poor guy. He finally got the the
chick that he he always wanted,and it turns out, it was all
fake. It was all just a coverstory. Man is down tremendous at
the moment.
You're so funny. I I I haveheard he's still aspiring to his
day.
Erika (53:50):
Well, he's staying away from dating apps, so there you
go. Mhmm.
Edgar (53:54):
I wish we can get, like if this is real, I want I wish
there was, like, links
Erika (53:57):
An update or something?
Edgar (53:59):
I just links to, like, the news story that just broke
out in.
Erika (54:02):
Yeah. That would be kinda cool. Mhmm. I think, nobody's
the asshole here. I mean, shewas doing her job.
There was not really any, reallyanybody at fault here.
Edgar (54:18):
Mhmm.
Erika (54:19):
There was a link there.
Edgar (54:22):
Oh, an update? Oh, so that's the actual story?
Erika (54:24):
Yeah. It looks like I don't know if it's true, though.
It says, oh, it says fbi.gov.
Edgar (54:30):
I would have to look into it, but, I mean, it looks okay
enough. So we'll put this in in
Erika (54:37):
we'll put
Edgar (54:37):
this in the description, I guess, for everyone to
research. But, yeah, it lookslike there is some
Erika (54:41):
A picture, and it tells a little bit about them.
Edgar (54:44):
Yeah. Some information about Lauren Carter, the dream
fake girlfriend
Erika (54:48):
Yeah. Of
Edgar (54:48):
your of your dreams.
Erika (54:50):
I mean, she is pretty. Mhmm. Okay. You said but I think
she's pretty. It's pretty cool.
Yeah. So we'll link it into thedescription of this story or,
yeah. And you guys can take alook.
Edgar (55:06):
Okay. So, yeah, so final verdict on the story?
Erika (55:08):
Not the asshole.
Edgar (55:09):
Yeah. Not the asshole. Now I don't even think the
dispatcher agent was an asshole.
Erika (55:12):
Oh, she was doing her she's trying to protect herself.
Edgar (55:14):
Yeah. She was just doing her job. Yeah. So Don't worry,
buddy. It was just business.
Erika (55:22):
You're so funny.
Edgar (55:23):
So yeah. So no one's the asshole.
Erika (55:24):
Yeah. So that's all of the stories we have today. Thank
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Erika (56:04):
Thank you.
Edgar (56:05):
For, watching.
Erika (56:07):
And listening to us. We appreciate it. See you next
week. Bye.
Yapping!
Erika (00:02):
Hello. This is Erika.
Edgar (00:04):
and Edgar.
Erika (00:05):
And we are the Yapping Schnauzers. We entertain you
with Yout worthy stories we findaround the web. So today's theme
is Excuse Me.
Edgar (00:15):
Yeah. Lots of tales of audacity happening.
Erika (00:17):
Yes. Mhmm. It's gonna make you say that.
Edgar (00:20):
LOL. So I'm gonna start out with the first story titled
Am I the Asshole withContinuously Triggering Her
Trypophobia? I, 19 female, havehad acne for so long that I
honestly can't remember my skinwithout it. I used to wear a lot
of concealer to cover it up, butthat only made things worse.
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Eventually, I realized my skinwas controlling my life and
draining my bank account aswell.
So when I started at a newschool, I decided to stop
wearing makeup. My skin stillisn't great, but I'm on
medication, so I have some hopethat it will improve. Here's the
problem. There's a girl in myclass, let's call her Callie,
eighteen female, who hastrypophobia. I had no idea until
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we were put in a group together.
The moment I spoke to her, shestarted crying. Naturally, I
asked her what was wrong, andshe screamed at me that my face
was triggering her trypophobia.Her friends immediately jumped
in to comfort her while I justsat there, confused, wondering
if I was supposed to apologizefor my skin, something I
obviously didn't choose to have.When I tried to speak again, she
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told me to shut up and leavebecause I was drawing attention
to myself by talking.
Erika (01:34):
Audacity. Mhmm.
Edgar (01:36):
I asked what she expected me to do about it, and she said
I could at least wear concealer.I explained that it wasn't an
option because it's expensiveand just worsens my acne. Her
friends glared at me and calledme selfish. That was just the
first incident. Ever sinceanytime I sit near Callie or I
have to present in front ofclass, she starts dry heaving or
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crying, having a panic attack, Iguess.
It's disrupting lessons so muchthat my teacher pulled me aside
and asked if I could just wearconcealers for the sake of
keeping the peace. She admittedit wasn't fair, but said she
couldn't think of anothersolution. I already feel like
such a freak because of my skin.I know my skin is horrid, but
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why am I the one expected tocater to Cali? I didn't choose
to have some acne problems anymore than she chooses to have
trypophobia.
I can't help but feel like I'mbeing unfairly treated here, but
at the same time, I know shecan't control her reaction
either. So a mighty assholeshould I just wear the damn
concealer?
Erika (02:43):
That's so ridiculous.
Edgar (02:45):
Mhmm. Yeah.
Erika (02:46):
I can't believe they're trying to make her change when
she's not the issue here. It'snot her fault. She has
trypophobia, which, by the way,I did wanna do, like, a those
for those of you that don't knowwhat trypophobia is, it's an
aversion or discomfort triggeredby irregular patterns or
clusters of small holes, such asfound in sponges, honeycombs, or
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certain plant structures. Soit's not officially recognized
as a fovea in medical terms, butit's widely discussed as a
common visceral reaction.
Edgar (03:18):
So basically, a whole a fear of holes?
Erika (03:21):
Yeah. So because of her face, I guess.
Edgar (03:23):
It's like some messed up though. Like, I can't like, that
that's, like, the worst insultyou can give somebody. Like, you
have so much acne, it'striggering my phobias. Like, you
just, like, feel messed up.
Erika (03:32):
I mean, just don't look at her.
Edgar (03:34):
Exactly. Like, that's the one of the easiest solutions. Or
just, like, transfer to anotherclass. I just think it's, like,
ridiculous. Like, they want, OPto, like, start, like, on
concealers and all that stuff.
And she's, like, spending herown money just to please this
one lady, one little girl.
Erika (03:50):
Why do they why does OP have to come, accommodate her?
It makes no sense to me.
Edgar (03:57):
Yeah. And it's, like, not good for for Cali either
because, like, not everyone'sgonna, like, bend to a will,
like, for the rest of her life,you know?
Erika (04:03):
Yeah. In the real world, they're not gonna be like, oh,
yeah. You know? What if she goesinto an interview and the person
has really bad acne? What's shegonna do?
Cry and leave? Like, there'sjust no reason for her to be
catered to in this at all.
Edgar (04:21):
I know. It's a little messed up on the the teacher's
part.
Erika (04:24):
I mean, if you don't know a solution, find it. Search
answers. Ask somebody. I don'tknow. I mean, obviously, it
kinda makes sense that Cali isthe one that's supposed to be
getting the help.
Edgar (04:35):
Mhmm.
Erika (04:36):
So the top comment is if her mental health is fragile
enough that she reacts this waybecause someone near her has
skin that isn't smooth enough,this is a situation where she
should be seeking intensivetherapy, not pushing you to
accommodate her. She can'tcontrol the skin and makeup
habits for every single personshe might ever run into. Even if
you cave, there will always bepeople who exist out in the
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world with skin that has pimpleson it. They literally pressure
you to make a medical conditionworse instead of putting in the
work to make hers better.Absolutely not that asshole.
Do not give in here. And Iagree. It's ridiculous.
Edgar (05:14):
Yeah. It's like yeah. They're doing for LP to, like,
bend into the will of, like,Cali is gonna worsen Cali's
condition, and LP's because itshouldn't as well. But not a
good solution at all.
Erika (05:26):
Yeah. I mean, it's not even recognized in the medical
community.
Edgar (05:29):
She told everyone once that she, she has this phobia
right now. She want she's, like,playing it up, like, so hard
because, like, you don't have tocry and have try, like, try
heave in class.
Erika (05:38):
Yeah. It just it doesn't make sense. Like, I wonder if
she ever had other classes withher or if she's seen her before.
Edgar (05:44):
Like Remember, OP is a new student.
Erika (05:46):
Oh, damn. Yeah. Never mind. Yeah. So no.
But still, like, I mean, she'snot it can't be I'm sorry. When
you're a teenager or you're, youknow, obviously, your hormones
are everywhere, you you alwaysget pimples. So you're telling
me nobody has had pimples aroundher? Like, it just it doesn't
make sense that now that, the OPis there, she has an issue. Like
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Mhmm.
It is just unrealistic for forher for everybody around her to
have perfect skin.
Edgar (06:13):
Exactly. Yeah. I don't wanna victim blame, but, yeah,
definitely, like, I feel likeshe's maybe, like, like, just
playing this up.
Erika (06:19):
Yeah. I mean, maybe for the first time, I I get it, but
come on. You really need to justshe's not in your face. Mhmm.
Like, literally, she's notobstruction obstructing your
vision if she's across the room,and it's fine.
Like, I don't I don't get it.
Edgar (06:35):
Just to put your eyes.
Erika (06:37):
Yeah. Just look down. Don't look at her. Just he
listens to her. I don't know.
She's just really, really needshelp, I guess, if this is such a
big issue.
Edgar (06:45):
Yeah. Serious help. And so it's just like having her
friends bully OP.
Erika (06:48):
I know. It's so sad. It's not her fault. She already feels
I feel like she has a low selfesteem already, and this is not
helping her case at all.
Edgar (06:56):
Yeah. I agree.
Erika (06:58):
I hope her skin clears up and, you know, she has more
confidence, you know, as shegets older.
Edgar (07:04):
Mhmm. So final verdict on the story?
Erika (07:07):
Definitely not the asshole. Yeah.
Edgar (07:08):
I hope he isn't. But, Callie definitely needs therapy
at least for
Erika (07:13):
Yeah. Some
Edgar (07:13):
some sort of help.
Erika (07:14):
I don't think nobody's a asshole here. She just I think
she just needs help.
Edgar (07:19):
Yeah. I think yeah.
Erika (07:21):
If it's true, like, if she actually has it,
Edgar (07:23):
you know? Well, maybe the teacher's a little bit of an
asshole.
Erika (07:25):
A little bit. But, I mean, some teachers just don't
really care enough to try tofind a solution, which sucks.
Edgar (07:32):
Mhmm.
Erika (07:34):
Alright. So next story is, am I the asshole for staying
quiet after my coworker tried toget me fired only for my boss's
wife to find out and be her andbe her up in the office? Oh,
man. I, 33 female, happened in aprivate relationship with my
coworker, Chris, thirty fourmale, for about three years. We
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kept it quiet to avoid officegossip, but things took a turn
when Jess, twenty eight female,joined our team.
She became obsessed withfiguring out my personal life,
constantly prying, makingcomments like, you and Chris
spend a lot time together. And Iwonder if there are any secret
office couples. At first, it wasjust annoying, but then just
(08:19):
escalated. She went to HRfalsely accusing me using my
relationship to get ahead. Chrisand I had to sit through an
investigation, but we werecleared.
Still, the damage was done.People started treating me
differently, and the office feltcolder. I thought it was the end
of it, but it wasn't. A fewweeks later, I noticed Jess
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getting close to her boss, Matt,forty two male. She started
going on private businesslunches with him and Sunday so
suddenly had access to thingsshe couldn't and shouldn't.
Then out of nowhere, I wascalled to HR again. Another
anonymous complaint claimed Iwas creating a hostile work
(09:03):
environment. I knew Jess wasbehind it, but instead of
panicking, I started documentingeverything. When HR confronted
me, I almost exposed Jess'relationship with Matt, but I
decided to keep quiet. I figuredthings she'll slip up on her
own, and she did spectacularly.
One night, our team went to arestaurant after work.
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Consequently, Matt's wife wasthere with her friends. As she
was walking by, she overheardJess loudly joking with a
coworker about how Matt waswrapped around her finger and
how she was getting whatever shewanted at work. That got his
wife's attention. I actuallytried to warn Jess.
The next morning, I put heraside and told her she needed to
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be more careful because Matt'swife had been right there when
she made those comments. Iwasn't even trying to be petty.
I genuinely didn't want to seethis turn into a full blown
disaster, but Jess just rolledher eyes, smirked, and said,
please. She's so dumb to figureanything out. I shrugged and
walked away.
I tried. Well, Matt's wifewasn't dumb. She started
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digging, and a few days later,she stormed into her office
furious. She went straight toJess's desk, threw a stack of
printed out text onto the lap.Yes.
She had receipts. And then sheswung on her. Jess barely had
time to react before Matt's wifegrabbed her by the hair and
dragged her around, dragged herto the ground. Papers went
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flying, people screamed, and itgot ugly fast. Jess fought back
clawing at her, and withinseconds, chairs were knocked
over, a monitor crashed to thefloor, and someone had to
physically pull them apart.
Security got involved, but bythen, the damage was done. The
cops were called because Matt'swife would not let up, screaming
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about how Jess was a homewreckerand that she deserved worse. HR
immediately stepped in, and itwas chaos. Employees were
filming, people were panicking,and Matt looked like he wanted
to disappear. In the end, Mattwas fired for misconduct.
Jess was escorted out forviolating company policies, and
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his wife was taken out bysecurity, but wasn't arrested
since Jess refused to presscharges, probably to avoid more
embarrassment. As for me, I keptmy job, and the office finally
had a real scandal to talkabout. Now some coworkers say I
was being petty by not pushingharder to warn Jess, while
others think she got exactlywhat she deserved. I never
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intended for things to explodelike this, but after she tried
to ruin my career, I don'texactly feel bad. Am I the
asshole for staying quiet aftershe refused to listen?
Edgar (11:43):
No. I don't think at all. Like, she even warned her. Jess
kinda had, like, the karmacoming towards her. Right?
Saying stuff like saying this infront of the of the, the guy's
wife and being so cocky, he hasto say, oh, she's too like, the
wife is too dumb to let's see ifshe figured this out.
Erika (12:01):
Yeah. I don't understand what Jess' endgame was,
honestly. Okay. So let's sayshe's sleeping with the the wife
I mean, sleeping with the boss.And what happens next?
Edgar (12:13):
Well, I guess she was clearly trying to climb the
ladder. She was boasting abouthaving him wrapped around his
fingers, so probably wasgetting, like, some favors or
more information so she can usedance to, like, just get higher
and, like, just to get morerespect and more knowledge
around the office. But it isall, like, office politics
anyway. I feel like they're,like, way too into their jobs,
like OP and everyone involved inthis story.
Erika (12:35):
Yeah. I mean, I I don't get it. Like, I get what she was
trying to do, but people withthat mentality just, like,
doesn't get you far. Sure. Itmight get you far in certain
certain situations, but then youhave situations like this where
you get caught and then you'rescrewed.
Mhmm. And you lose everything.It's a gamble, really.
Edgar (12:57):
Yeah. I feel like it does work, though. Like, for every
just there's, like, 10 otherpeople who are, like, who get
CEO positions or executivepositions just from, like, just
some wreathling well, sleeping,wreathling, or just, like,
having just playing a game, youknow, and just being as as liked
as they can be.
Erika (13:13):
Yeah. I mean, a lot of people play dirty to get
wherever they are. And it sucksbecause not a lot of people are,
you know, there because theydeserve it.
Edgar (13:21):
Mhmm.
Erika (13:21):
But because they did the right things, and that didn't
include stepping over somebodyor cheating on something.
Edgar (13:28):
Yeah. That's why, like, I don't really care about titles
too much because you never like,you you have to see from, like,
firsthand, like, how theiractual skills and actual
productivity is.
Erika (13:39):
Yeah. I agree with that. But, yeah, I don't really
believe that OP was, an assholeat all. I think she tried to
warn her, but she refused tolisten, and she got what she
deserved. And for those peoplesaying that she should have
worked harder to warn her, yeah.
Mhmm. Yeah. No.
Edgar (13:58):
Do you think OP was trying to, like, climb the
ladder by having a relationshipwith her, coworker or her boss.
I don't know who exactly Chriswas.
Erika (14:06):
She doesn't really specify about the relationship
or he's, like, higher positionthan her or anything like that,
but, I mean
Edgar (14:12):
They seem to be about the same age. But, I mean, yeah,
it's a little bit fishy that shedidn't disclose their
relationship.
Erika (14:17):
Yeah. I mean, it doesn't seem like she got a better, like
well, at least she didn'tmention it. This is a lot of,
like, backstory that she not shedid not say.
Edgar (14:27):
Mhmm.
Erika (14:28):
But, I mean, if she did, she probably didn't say it.
Edgar (14:32):
Yeah. Exactly. I mean, it's probably, like, not that
bad anyway because they're thesame age. They like, like, even
though it had, like, a scandal,like, I'm anyone over HR, like,
they were able to hide it wellenough, and they were able to,
like Yeah. For it all to blowover without anyone getting
fired.
Erika (14:47):
Yeah. I'm sure if they had some kind of misconduct, HR
will figure it out. I mean,unless they hide it really well,
but that's kinda impossible. SoI don't know. I I don't think
they did anything terrible atleast.
But, I mean, if you go from 42and, she's 28, you know, that's
a huge age cap. Obviously Mhmm.It was just for benefits. It
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wasn't really for, you know,because she liked them,
especially if she knew he wasmarried.
Edgar (15:16):
It's a whole mess.
Erika (15:17):
It really is. I think it's easy to find a a way to get
higher and faster Mhmm. In ahigher position. But at the end
of the day, I guess it dependshow you want other people to
perceive you and to view you.
Edgar (15:32):
Well, people can perceive you, like, terribly, but if I'm
in a mansion, I won't care.
Erika (15:37):
I mean, yeah. I mean, if you wanna live that way, it's
it's up to you.
Edgar (15:40):
Exactly. So your final verdict on this?
Erika (15:43):
Not the asshole.
Edgar (15:44):
Yeah. Hopefully, definitely not the asshole. Jess
and her whole fling thing. Yeah.Assholes.
Erika (15:50):
Oh, yeah. The husband I mean, the boss too. Why are you
sleeping with somebody or goingon business, trips or, I don't
know, like, business meetingswith, Jess. Yeah. Makes sense.
Edgar (16:04):
Chris's lunches in a romantic restaurant.
Erika (16:06):
Yeah.
Edgar (16:07):
Bro. Okay. This next story is titled, am I the
asshole who are treating mycoworker differently after she
accused me of making heruncomfortable when I covered for
her at work? I, 30 male, work inan office with a small team. A
few months ago, my coworker,Samantha, twenty eight female,
had an emergency and had toleave work early.
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She was supposed to finish areport that was due the next
morning, so she asked if I couldhelp her cover for her. I had
some extra time, so I finishedup a report and sent it under
both of our names to make sureshe got credit. The next day,
she thanked me, but seemed kindof off. A couple of days later,
I was called into HR. Turns out,Samantha had filed a complaint
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saying that my taking over herwork without explicit permission
made her uncomfortable and thatit felt like I was trying to
undermine her.
I was completely confusedbecause, one, she had asked for
help, and two, I didn't takecredit away from her. HR did an
investigation, and after a week,they cleared me. But the whole
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thing shook me. I never expectedthat helping a coworker would
land me in trouble. After that,I kept things strictly
professional with Samantha.
I still say hello and work withher when needed, but I don't
chat with her casually, offer tohelp, or include her in group
outings anymore. She noticed andconfronted me about it, saying
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I'm treating her unfairly andbeing cold. She explained that
she was just setting a boundaryand didn't mean for HR to
investigate so seriously. I toldher I understood, but I need to
protect myself too. So I'm justbeing more cautious now.
She said I was being dramaticand should move on. Am I the
asshole for keeping my distance?And, no, I think he's in the
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right to protect himselfbecause, like, he he he helped
her, and he said, okay. I'mgonna make sure you get credit.
I'm gonna I'm gonna get creditas well because this is time off
for me to help you.
But, and doing all of this, I Istill got in trouble. So that's,
like, I would protect myself tooif I was a nepotism.
Erika (18:13):
Exactly. I mean, what did she expect for her to just say
that she did it all?
Edgar (18:19):
I think yeah. I feel like that that's what she wanted.
Like, oh, you do the work andjust say it was all under me.
And, like, I don't know. It's,like, very, like, very dirty
trick to do.
Erika (18:28):
Yeah. Absolutely not. Like, what do you mean? That's
why she got salty and mad thatshe didn't do that, just that.
It's ridiculous.
She should get credit if she puther work in there. And the fact
that she put her name was niceof her.
Edgar (18:45):
Nice of him or her? Yeah. I don't know if he's a
Erika (18:48):
Yeah. Whatever. It was nice of
Edgar (18:49):
of he.
Erika (18:51):
And the fact that she said, oh, well, I told HR, but I
didn't think they were gonnatake it serious is ridiculous.
Edgar (18:57):
I know. Once you, like, contact HR, like, you kinda,
like, you don't say it's justto, like, it's just to say it'd
be, like, oh, keep an eye lookeye for him. It's it's more
like, oh, investigate thisperson or, like, I want this
person to be, like, in troubleor something.
Erika (19:10):
Yeah. I I don't get she's just trying to downplay whatever
she did and calling her dramaticbecause she knows demonstrate
that what she did was not notright. Mm-mm. Yeah. I just feel
like she was just gaslightingher too.
And she has the completely rightto say, I'm not gonna hang out
with her. There's you could do adraw line. So when you have a
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you go into a job and you havecoworkers, you can have them be
coworkers, or you can have thembe coworkers and then friends.
Edgar (19:43):
Yeah.
Erika (19:43):
You don't have to have coworkers be your friends. You
don't have to hang out with themafter work.
Edgar (19:48):
Yeah. Because if if OP is gonna get in trouble for
helping, this chick out,imagine, like, they're out in,
like, in a public outing. And,like, what else can she, like,
flag him for?
Erika (20:00):
Yeah. That she she's gonna use things that she knows
about her to get her in troubleor do so to manipulate her.
Yeah.
Edgar (20:06):
You you can't trust that anymore.
Erika (20:07):
No. So she's whatever. She's gonna keep her distance
for her own benefit and for herown safety regarding her job.
Because she's yeah. I don't Ithink she's being smart by doing
that, actually.
Edgar (20:20):
Yeah.
Erika (20:21):
So the top comment is not the asshole. She thought you
were gonna cover her workanonymously, and she would get
full credit. She was then tryingto protect herself by saying you
overstepped when making thecomplaint to HR. Continue
keeping your distance. Mhmm.
Exactly. I agree.
Edgar (20:38):
I know. But OP is more than nice enough to, like, have
done that for her.
Erika (20:42):
Yeah.
Edgar (20:42):
Like, if I would ask, like, a coworker to, like, help
me do this, like, I would be,like, really grateful that
they're able to do that becauseI know everyone's busy at work.
Everyone doesn't have time to,like, take a little bit of their
time off to do any editing forme.
Erika (20:56):
Exactly. And the fact that she asked help and she
said, yeah. I can help you. It'scrazy to me. She stayed after
work to help her.
Edgar (21:02):
Mhmm.
Erika (21:03):
Like, come on. It's completely unreasonable. So a
final verdict.
Edgar (21:09):
Yeah. OP is not the asshole, and the coworker is
definitely the asshole.
Erika (21:13):
Yeah. She keeps she should keep her distance 100%.
Edgar (21:17):
Very.
Erika (21:18):
So next story is Emma, the asshole for kicking my
mother-in-law out of our houseafter she refused to call her
son by his name. My husband,thirty four male, and I, 31
female, recently had our firstchild, a son we named Elijah. We
put a lot of thought into thisname. We love the meaning. It
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was just felt right.
My mother-in-law, 62 female, hadno strong opinions about it at
first. She didn't gush over it,but she also didn't object or so
we thought. The first time shemet Elijah at the hospital, she
looked at him and said, oh,little David, you're so perfect.
I thought I misheard her, so Iignored it. But then when she
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said it again, I asked her,who's David?
And she just smiled and said,oh, it's just Susan better. I
was too exhausted from labor toargue. But over the next few
weeks, she kept calling himDavid, texting me things like,
how's my little David doing? Orgive David a kiss for me. I told
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her firmly that his name isElijah.
And she laughed and said, oh, Iknow, but I think he just feels
like a David. Neither my husbandnor I nor anyone called David.
It's not a family name. There'sno sentimental reason behind it.
It's just completely a randomname.
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She decided to call my childdespite telling us despite us
telling her not to. At first, wetried to let it go, hoping she'd
stop if we ignored it, but itonly got worse. When we
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FaceTimed her, she'd coo at himsaying, grandma loves you,
David. She even started knittinga baby blanket with the name
David embroidered on it. Oh mygod.
She is taking it too far. Thefinal straw was when she came
over for a family dinner andkept referring him as David in
front of everyone. Mysister-in-law asked, wait. Why
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do you keep calling him David?And mother-in-law laughed and
said, because that's his name tome.
That's when I lost it. I said,no. His name is Elijah. If you
can't respect that, you don'tneed to be here. She rolled her
eyes and tried to wave me off,but I wasn't having it.
I told her to leave. She lookedshocked, but she left without
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much of a fight. Now my husbandis upset with me. He agrees that
his mom was being weird anddisrespectful, but he thinks
kicking her out was too extreme,and I should have just let it
go. My mother-in-law is nowplaying the victim, telling
everyone that I keeping hergrandson from her over a
harmless nickname.
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Some family members think Ioverreacted. Others agree that
her behavior was bizarre. Idon't know. Was I really in the
wrong for putting my foot down?Am I the asshole?
Edgar (24:22):
I think it's like yeah. It is weird that OP's
mother-in-law isn't, like, isgiving him her a weird name.
Like, I I don't think it's anickname even, like, to her. I
think she's just, like, for somereason, woke up one day and
said, you know what? I'm justgonna call this baby David now.
Erika (24:39):
I just don't get it because usually nicknames are
part of your name unless it's,like, a complete different,
like, endearment.
Edgar (24:45):
Mhmm.
Erika (24:45):
And everybody knows and everybody agrees. Like, for
example, for Elijah, it shouldbe Eli. You know, like a
nickname, not David. Like,where's David coming from? I I
don't understand.
Edgar (24:56):
I just wanna know, like, her thinking process. Like, the
mother in law's, like, whyDavid? Because that's just,
like, a big mystery that thisthat's gonna be haunting the
family from now on.
Erika (25:04):
Like Where she got it? I I don't understand where why
she's doing this. Like, yeah, Idon't get it.
Edgar (25:13):
Yeah. I wish we got more background on, like, at least
the mother-in-law because itjust seems very, like, strange
and out of left field. I mean,if this is just like a nickname,
I don't really mind it too much.You know?
Erika (25:23):
No. I wouldn't like that.
Edgar (25:25):
Mhmm.
Erika (25:27):
Honestly, I wouldn't like that just because he the baby is
has a name. So for example,let's say the child's growing up
and everybody calls him Elijahand then he answers by Elijah.
And then out of nowhere, thegrandma's like, David, come
here. Like and that's when your,you know, your child's learning
it, learning his name. How areyou gonna call him David and
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then Elijah?
Like, completely differentnames.
Edgar (25:50):
You know, in other cultures, people have multiple,
like, nicknames that, like like,in Russia, it's like your name
can be, like, Ivan and you have,like, 20 different, like, names
that are just variations ofIvan. Like, I've been asking,
Erika (26:03):
like variations of of that name.
Edgar (26:05):
Same name. And so, like, I I can't go deeper into it
because I don't know all thenames that have to have in my
head, but also, like, I feellike nicknames. Like, for me,
like, remember how I give allyour, like, nephews and nieces,
like, weird nicknames?
Erika (26:16):
Oh, because you under you misunderstood. So my nephew has,
a name, and we have twonicknames. Well, actually, just
one. JJ and then his name isJaden. But Edgar here calls him
Julian.
Edgar (26:29):
Yeah. Julian.
Erika (26:30):
Mhmm. Because apparently, for a whole year, he he kept
hearing us call him Julian
Edgar (26:35):
Mhmm.
Erika (26:36):
Which I don't know where he got it from because we did
not call him Julian.
Edgar (26:41):
Guys call him Julian, and then I call him Julian. And then
one day, I think it was, JJ'ssister, Jean. He said, why are
you calling Julian?
Erika (26:51):
Who's Julian?
Edgar (26:52):
Yeah. And then they're like, Julian?
Erika (26:55):
No. I've never called him Julian. I don't know. Maybe you
misheard, but regardless Well, I
Edgar (26:59):
mean, it didn't it didn't confuse him. Like, whenever I
accidentally call, JJ Julian,he's like, who
Erika (27:03):
is that? Why you calling me dad? But it's fine because
there's some type of connectionwith that. You know, there's
this there's a j or JJ, but,like, you come from Elijah to
David, there's just nocorrelation there. There's just
no connecting that dots.
So I I think it's just I don'thonestly, if she named the baby
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Elijah, she should respect that.That's it. And if she tells you
that's uncomfortable and pleasedon't call him that multiple
times, and she continues todisregard her Mhmm. You know,
her, not command, but more of,like, you know, please don't do
that.
Edgar (27:42):
Yeah. Hit boundary.
Erika (27:44):
Yeah. Then she is definitely at fault here.
Edgar (27:47):
Yeah. Because, like, I think as a nickname, it's fine,
but, like, when, like, theparents say, no. I don't want
you calling my child this, thenyou have to reflect it.
Erika (27:55):
Yes. I agree 100%. Mhmm.
Edgar (27:57):
Like, it'll be hard for the mother-in-law, but
eventually, she has to get overbecause, like, this is not
something that's okay by theparents at the very least.
Erika (28:04):
I honestly don't think it's hard for her. I think she's
just being an asshole here.
Edgar (28:08):
Well, I mean, the mother-in-law, like, how long
because is is it a birthday?Yeah. It's been, like, a year or
so that she's been callingElijah David. So it would be
like a like, by that point, it'slike a habit. But
Erika (28:19):
that's weird. Like like, it's her like, they she didn't
say that the her behavior isbizarre. Why is she doing this?
I don't understand.
Edgar (28:27):
Yeah. Yeah.
Erika (28:28):
Does she have, like, a, you know how people have, like,
weird behaviors out ofcharacter? Sometimes that means
that you have a tumor, like abrain tumor. Yeah.
Edgar (28:38):
I was thinking too. Yeah. When I first heard that, like,
is she does she is she, like howold is she? Because this is,
like, definitely some sort of,like, old people thing going on
in her life.
Erika (28:46):
62 female.
Edgar (28:48):
Like, maybe early, like, some sort of dementia.
Erika (28:51):
I don't know. But I don't think so because, I mean, if you
tell everybody calls him Elijah.I mean, you can't just have the
dementia just for a name. Like
Edgar (29:00):
She's bay barely moves in, like, from from how I'm
hearing the story.
Erika (29:04):
I don't know. I think either if she needs, to check
out her health and or she needsto just stop being an asshole
and call call the baby byElijah.
Edgar (29:14):
Yeah. Or at least explain her her reasoning behind David.
Like, that's just so weird.
Erika (29:18):
I mean, even if she explains, I mean, honestly, it's
just Yeah.
Edgar (29:22):
Even if she does claims, I don't expect them to, like,
accept the name, but just, like,I just wanna know why.
Erika (29:26):
Yeah. Just curiosity. Yeah. It's fine. Random.
Yeah. So the top comment is notthe asshole. This is hella weird
behavior, and your feelings arevalid. I also find it odd that
your husband thinks youoverreacted, but you literally
just told her to use the correctname or leave or to leave. It
sounds like he made her choice,and now she's upset with you.
Exactly. So the husband shouldhave backed her up. I mean, I
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think she just fed up, honestly.I would be fed up too. I just
wouldn't kick my mother-in-lawout of the house.
I think that's a little bit toomuch, but I would literally tell
her in front of everybody toplease stop doing that.
Edgar (30:04):
Mhmm.
Erika (30:05):
So actually, OPI had responded to that, and she said,
it really is, and I'm stillwondering who David is or why
she chose that name. As for myhusband, he's always had a hard
time going against his mom inanything. So, yeah, that could
definitely cause issues. Heneeds to put his foot down too.
Edgar (30:23):
Mhmm.
Erika (30:23):
I think he's just lets her get away with a lot of
stuff, which eventually willbite him in the ass. Yeah. But
yeah. So what's the finalverdict?
Edgar (30:33):
I don't I think she's, like, a little bit of an asshole
for kicking her mother-in-lawout because that just causes
more drama for the entirefamily. But I don't think she's
an asshole for, like, fortelling mother-in-law to respect
the actual name of the child,Elijah.
Erika (30:48):
Yeah. Like, I think it would have been an issue if,
like I said, the nickname wasEli or something correlated with
the actual name, not David.
Edgar (30:58):
Maybe just mix up both of the names. Delijah.
Erika (31:01):
Ew. That's terrible. Do. No. That's terrible.
Edgar (31:06):
Can you imagine? No. Like, an embroidered baby. An
embroidered blanket that justsays d I l, do.
Erika (31:13):
Great thing. Mhmm. But, no, I really think that, she I
don't think she's an asshole atall, honestly. She shoulda she
should have, not messed with thebull.
Edgar (31:24):
Oh, wow.
Erika (31:25):
Because she woulda got she got the horns. But I just I
really think that she's not theasshole here. She's the survey.
So what's the next story?
Edgar (31:36):
Yeah. The next story is titled, am I the asshole for
telling my birth siblings tofuck off and leave me alone and
I don't care about their stupidfucking parents? I, in my
twenties, male, was adopted asan infant. Actually, I was found
in an alley by the dumpster, andwhen my bare family didn't come
forward to claim me and nobodyknew who I was, I was adopted.
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But I was an infant at the time,thankfully, so no long foster
care experience.
I was placed without anything tokeep me warm in a low visibility
area, and there was no signs Iwas lovingly placed. I basically
looked like I was thrown awaylike trash. I've seen some old
newspaper clippings about it.The story was told to me
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gradually throughout mychildhood. My parents were
always open about my adoption,though.
I never felt othered. My family,parents, siblings, and extended
family were my family even if Iwas the only non bio kid in the
family. I was loved. I wastreasured even and had a great
life, but the circumstancessurrounding my adoption meant
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some stuff was unclear, medicalhistory being the biggest thing.
I never really cared, but I gotengaged a few months ago, and my
fiance and I want children.
And seeing the health stuff inmy family has made me realize I
have no idea if I could passanything on to my future kids.
After thinking it over, I did a23 and me genetic testing, but I
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did it wrong, and I alsomistakenly added myself to be
found. I realized quickly aftermy results came in, but by then,
it was too late, and two birthsiblings found me. They're
older. My birth parents had fivekids before me.
They all know about me and wantand want to know me. The birth
siblings started off somewhatreasonable, but when I made it
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clear I didn't I didn't want tohear my birth parents' story,
they flipped a switch. They saidhow much their parents regretted
giving me away and how theywould have come forward, but
they didn't want to get intotrouble for abandoning like they
did. They believed I owed theirparents and them the chance to
get it all out there and tobuild a relationship. I stood my
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ground, and I blocked them, butthey followed me to social media
and they insisted we are afamily and I should be kinder to
them and their parents.
I was told it's not like I'mjust a half sibling and, the
baby who was missing. They sentme messages that were trying to
make me feel bad for theparents, specifically their mom,
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and it pissed me off. Afteralmost three months of dealing
with them, finding ways aroundmy blocking them, I told them to
fuck off and to leave me aloneand how I don't care about their
stupid fucking parents. I had todelete my account because it was
just random accounts afterrandom account, and I couldn't
block them fast enough in theiroutrage ever over what I did,
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over what I said. They told metheir parents didn't deserve
that.
Anybody asshole?
Erika (34:35):
Absolutely not. I'm sorry. She said they regretted
giving her away or OP away. Theythrew OP away. They literally
put her put OP in the garbage.
Edgar (34:50):
I know. They're, like, kinda insane. They literally put
them in the garbage.
Erika (34:52):
And say giving away no. No. Absolutely not.
Edgar (34:56):
I think yeah. This could've all been, like, a
wholesome, like, get together,like, reuniting a family
experience, but OP is, like,real parents. They want to not
get in trouble for, like, forbeing thrown away because, like,
that's, like, legal. Like,that's, like, you get arrested
for that. So I feel like ifthey, like, if they really meant
that they wanna, like, gettogether and, like, have
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everything be, like like, right,they should, like, come forward
and say, yeah.
We did this and, like, servewhatever sentence I need to.
Erika (35:24):
I guess to get, you know, to go ahead and do the to pay
for what they did, I guess. But,I mean, OP doesn't it seems like
he doesn't wanna wanna forgivethem, and that's up to OP. Yeah.
I mean, if he I mean, he rightnow has had a good life, and he
had a good parents, good, youknow, growing good experiences
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growing up. And, I mean, for themost part, he was okay with his
siblings Mhmm.
Original siblings, but when theystarted saying that he should
forgive them, that's somethingthat they shouldn't be pushing
on him at all
Edgar (35:59):
or her. That's, like, a a lot to, like, take in. Like, at
the very least, like, OP's realsiblings could have just said,
hey. It's just, like, like, justbuild up to, like, a actual
relationship. Just not, like
Erika (36:09):
Yeah.
Edgar (36:10):
Don't expect the relationships just exist and,
like, just blossom out ofnowhere.
Erika (36:15):
Yeah. I don't get that.
Edgar (36:17):
From just meeting for a few for just meeting online.
Erika (36:21):
Yeah. I think they overstepped. And good for OP to
tell them, no. That's not what Iwanna do. And that's it.
I don't think there was noreason for them to really try to
pressure him and flip a switchand making OP to forgive them. I
mean, it's not like youexperienced what he experienced.
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Like, literally, he saw paperclips paper clippings on
newspaper saying it was next tothe guard. Like, really? Oh, he
should be, you know, forgived.
He should forgive them.
Edgar (36:53):
Yeah. Imagine all the bullying he got from that, like,
as a child, like, in school.
Erika (36:57):
It's just sad because I think psychologically, it's
something that really, you know,affects you. But I'm glad he had
a good family that was able toreally, you know, show him love
and care. Mhmm. So the topcomment is send them all the
newspaper clippings of a babyleft to die in that alley. Did
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you at least get medical infoout of them?
So because remember, the reasonwhy he actually wanted to get
that information was to see, youknow, if he had any
Edgar (37:27):
Any medical
Erika (37:28):
issues. Yeah. So OP responded to that and said, I
didn't get it from them, but thegenetic testing did give me a
decent picture of everything.I'm glad I didn't ask the birth
siblings for direct medicalhistory because they would
likely be used to try to bargainfor what they want. Mhmm.
Exactly. I think he dodged amassive bullet, and that's just
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people like that were literallyred flags.
Edgar (37:53):
I don't know. That's, like, kinda messed up. Like, I
would wish that, like, Obi,would have, like, more caring,
real siblings and real, like,parents, but it looks like they
have their own agendas and theyown things that they want from
their relationship with the withthe baby and the family, which
is okay.
Erika (38:07):
Yeah. I I don't understand. I just me, for my
curiosity, I would wanna knowwhy they did that. Like, what
made them so desperate to throwme in the garbage? I know.
It's I mean, I get, you know,maybe too many children, too
many, you know, issues andwhatever, but I don't think if,
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if you're not able to, you couldjust give the baby for adoption.
Edgar (38:33):
Mhmm.
Erika (38:33):
Like, there's just no reason for you to be throwing
the baby in the garbage. That'sjust ridiculous.
Edgar (38:37):
Yeah. And
Erika (38:39):
it shows you what type of people they truly are. Mhmm. So
what's the final verdict?
Edgar (38:43):
The final verdict. Oh, he is that the asshole?
Erika (38:45):
No. I think he had he made his choice and they should
respect it. Yeah. So the nextstory, this is something with I
believe we had a story beforewhere they were trying to see if
somebody was stealing food. Thiswas a different story, but it's
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I think it's kinda I don't know.
This was borderline kinda crazy.Okay. So the next story's title
is Emma the asshole for tellingmy roommate to move out after
she risked my life to prove apoint. I, 25, female, have two
roommates called Jenny and Abby.Jenny started noticing her food
going missing and blamed us bothand didn't eat any of her food,
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and I wasn't super worried.
Yesterday, Jenny called theroommate meeting. And when we
were off work, she sat down andtold Abby she wanted to be paid
back for the food that's gonemissing. Abby started saying
that it wasn't her. It wasprobably me. That's when Jenny
said it couldn't have been mebecause she was putting nuts in
her food and in her stuff.
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Like, that food doesn't evenmake sense to have nuts in it
because I'm severely allergic tothem. She said I couldn't have
done it because I'd be dead. Shesaid it all proud like she got
Abby, but I literally felt sick.I could have died. Also, it's
really expensive to replacethem.
Like, for $30 of food, she waswilling to risk my life. She and
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I argued, and she knew it wasn'tme. So that's why she did it,
but I don't believe her. It's myname on the apartment. I'm sir
fairly certain I'm justified inkicking her out, but I'm double
checking.
It feels absolutely insane thatI could lose a friendship of
four years to something thatwasn't even my fault. Abby's
pissed at me and says I'moverreacting, but she also
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doesn't want me to want to moveout, so she's at least somewhat
on my side. Jenny is angry notspeaking to me. I told her she
has thirty days to get out. Am Ithe asshole?
Edgar (40:47):
Definitely not. Like, I feel like, we've seen, like, a
lot of stories where people,like, take food from, like, a
coworker or from, like, a aroommate, but they've always,
like, tried to do somethingobvious or something that, like,
was not life threatening. Inthis case, this is, like,
something that is lifethreatening. Like, if Jenny was
wrong about who was stealing herfood, she could have killed OP.
Erika (41:11):
Yeah. She's severely allergic.
Edgar (41:12):
Mhmm.
Erika (41:13):
Like, what do you mean? What if she ate something and
nobody was home? She could'veliterally they they would've
come back to the apartment andshe would be dead.
Edgar (41:23):
That's crazy. Like, imagine like, in our situation,
like, I it's like like, imagineI put, like, razors on, like,
all the food that we have.
Erika (41:32):
Razors? Yeah. No. But thank you.
Edgar (41:34):
Like, shaving razors be, like, if anyone ate it, they
would have died. And that's howI know who died. Took my food.
We did see.
Erika (41:41):
Crazy to me.
Edgar (41:41):
No. Because they died.
Erika (41:43):
No. But you could see that. I mean, you know, like,
people that put powder, like,for make you use the bathroom.
Mhmm. Like, that's fine.
Like, why? You just get a littlebit, you know, diarrhea and
stuff. Like, you know?
Edgar (41:55):
Become like a faucet. Yeah. But
Erika (41:58):
But it's not, like, threatening. It's not you're
gonna die because you'repooping.
Edgar (42:02):
That's uncomfortable. But yeah.
Erika (42:03):
Yeah. But I think this is a line where it was definitely
crossed.
Edgar (42:08):
Yeah. Because he was out of her right or someone died.
Erika (42:12):
I mean, we shouldn't be laughing, but it's just crazy.
Like, what is her well, reallyher envy?
Edgar (42:18):
That's so homicidal. Like, like, I could imagine
Abby, like, the one who actuallysort of food would be like, I
stole food, but what you didwhat you did was worse. It's
civility.
Erika (42:30):
No. It was crazy to me. I mean, like, OP said, she
could've literally replaced the$30 food, and it would've been
fine. Yeah. But, like, killingher, you can't replace her.
Like, what you gotta do? You'regonna go jail? Because you
literally poisoned her. No.Well, I mean, technically, she
didn't know, but still Mhmm.
(42:51):
She should have not done that.She could have put, like I said,
like, something to make her poopor have diarrhea. That's it.
Then she would have found outwho it was.
Edgar (42:59):
Or put a camera. Why and I feel like a lot of people
could easily just put a camerain the place that they're, like,
the kitchen place.
Erika (43:05):
Yeah. That's good. I mean, that's a good option too.
Edgar (43:08):
Like, no one gets hurt. No one, like, becomes a faucet.
And then to her, like, no onedies. It's a little bit it's
Erika (43:12):
a little bit nice revenge there. But, I mean, yeah, still,
that's that's a good way tothink about it. But still, I
think she definitely was anasshole with this. There was no
need for her to almost kill her.
Edgar (43:24):
And imagine if OP, like, accidentally ate the wrong food.
Erika (43:27):
Yeah. That could also be that. And then if she's severely
allergic, what if, like, alittle bit of peanut butter
touched her food or somethinglike that? She could have
literally gone into shock
Edgar (43:37):
as well. Yeah. Having all that in the fridge, like, it
probably contaminated, like, abunch of the other items there.
Erika (43:44):
Yeah. No. I think she wasn't really thinking it
through. She just was happy thatshe figured out it was Abby.
She's so ridiculous.
Yeah.
Edgar (43:52):
She probably read too much anybody asked for stories
and, like, yes. I know what todo.
Erika (43:56):
Ridiculous. Right. So the top comment is I would also kick
Abby out for blaming you forsomething she knew she did.
Yeah. They both should getkicked out.
Edgar (44:07):
Both of them? Yeah. Yeah. You don't want you don't want a
murderer and you don't wanna
Erika (44:11):
A liar.
Edgar (44:12):
Stealer. A liar. Yeah.
Erika (44:13):
Yes. And somebody that steals. A liar and somebody that
steals. No. Kick them all out.
Edgar (44:18):
And a murderer. Yeah. Difficult for that.
Erika (44:21):
No. Both should be kicked out Mhmm. And cut ties
completely. You don't wantpeople like that in your life.
Forget that.
Edgar (44:29):
I'm curious. But, final verdict?
Erika (44:33):
Not the asshole.
Edgar (44:34):
Yeah. Not the asshole. Just just get out of that
situation.
Erika (44:37):
Yeah. Kick them out. Yeah. You
Edgar (44:39):
don't wanna get, like, poisoned before you leave. So
the next story is titled, am Ithe asshole for refusing to
change my birth plan to pleasemy mother-in-law? Some babies
were approaching the horizon. Ihad dreamed of having,
unmedicated home birth. My momwent unmedicated as well as my
(45:01):
grandma and my great grandma,who was also a traditional
midwife and birth keeper.
So growing up, birth was spokehighly about. No fear was ever
instilled in us around birth orpregnancy, although I obviously
am aware of complications thatcan happen. As soon as the test
turned positive, I contacted amidwife and became the steps to
(45:22):
midwifery care and a planningour and I also went into
planning our home birth. When mymother-in-law found this out,
she flipped out. She called meirresponsible, irrational, and
downfire negligence, asking if Ihad any idea of the
complications and interventionsthat could be needed, etcetera.
(45:44):
And she said she refused for meto do this. I wanna make it
clear. My husband supports thisdecision a %. And all I did was
mention home birth as an option,and he did the research. He
educated himself, and he tooktime to learn about it before
agreeing.
And she doesn't believe this, asif I am demanding we go this
(46:04):
route against my husband. Everyday, since multiple times a day,
she sends me links of videostalking about traumatic birth
stories and situations, infantobituaries, and asks me every
day what hospital I have chosen.
Erika (46:18):
Crazy. Mhmm.
Edgar (46:20):
I don't plan on changing my birth plans at all. My
husband has tried to step in andtells her to stop, but she
refuses to let it go, and sheturns herself into a victim.
It's like going around incircles. I don't know what to
do. I finally just responded andsaid I would unblock her once
the baby is born, but now she isblowing up my husband's phone,
(46:41):
crying, complaining.
I'm going to keep my baby awayfrom her. I said I wouldn't
block her. I don't want to cutcontact with my business family.
What should I do besides changemy boyfriend? A muddy asshole.
Erika (46:55):
Oh my god. Absolutely not. She's really the
mother-in-law is taking it toofar. Just because she doesn't
agree doesn't mean she's gonnaliterally make her feel guilty
for wanting to do that.
Edgar (47:09):
I know. And, like, I I don't get the mother in law's
reasoning because, like, oh,you're manipulating my son to do
like, to have the birth the wayyou want it, so I'm just gonna
manipulate you to have the birthbe as I want it.
Erika (47:23):
Yeah. I mean, it's a choice that they both made Mhmm.
That they want to followthrough. And at the end of the
day, it's their baby. And ifthey decide to do that, it's
their choice.
Sure. The mother-in-law can givethem a certain, you know, this
is my reasoning, but it theydon't have to follow through.
Edgar (47:43):
Yeah. I mean, I can understand if the mother-in-law
is, like, concerned about, like,a home birth, like, she probably
just doesn't know about how thatworks and, like, the precautions
they would take. But if she wasso worried and she knows that OP
doesn't wanna change, she canjust, like, just support her,
like, best she can, like like,in this, in this endeavor.
Erika (48:05):
Yeah. I don't understand. She's taken it too far by
sending her video links oftraumatic birth stories and
situations Yeah. Yeah. Infantobituaries.
Edgar (48:15):
I know. That's, like, messed up. Like, I that means
she deliberately went intoGoogle, looked up obituaries for
babies, and, like, that that's,like, her evidence. Like, that's
just, like, too much like,that's for her on her end, it's
manipulation.
Erika (48:28):
Yeah. And she's taking it too far. I think she just needs
to be acceptive, accept thatthey're gonna do this and just
be there for them if necessary.
Edgar (48:40):
Yeah. Be there. Yeah. Just provide the support, like,
as much as you can. And then,hopefully, she comes around.
I don't think she will by thetime, like, the baby is born.
But yeah.
Erika (48:50):
Yeah. I looked up, the birth rates. It looks like they
actually has gone up andincreased twenty two percent,
from 2019. So it looks like it'srising.
Edgar (49:01):
Yeah. Like the popularity of of home birth?
Erika (49:04):
Yeah. Which, I mean, I can understand. But, I mean, it
it doesn't mean that she has to,you know, do whatever she wants
to do. I think it's it's greatthat they made a decision, and
it seems like it's somethingthat they've been doing for a
long time, her family. And soshe feels comfortable in doing a
home birth.
So she, the mother-in-law shouldrespect that and shouldn't be
(49:28):
trying to change her mind. Thetop comment is not the asshole,
But please make sure you have alicensed RN for a midwife and
not an unlicensed doula. And ifthere's a complication, make
sure you don't wait to go to thehospital. I know someone who
stuck to her home birth plan toolong and almost died on
(49:51):
hemorrhaging. And then certifiednurses, midwife, and RN or CNMs
are nurse practitioners who havethe least master's degree.
I agree. So, yeah, I thinkthat's a a good option. I mean,
just like I said, if you decideto do this, you should be able,
you know, well well,
Edgar (50:10):
Research?
Erika (50:10):
Yeah. Definitely.
Edgar (50:12):
Mhmm.
Erika (50:13):
Because you don't wanna risk the baby's life or yours.
Edgar (50:16):
Yeah. But I believe, though, Pete probably like, she
has, like, a whole family, wholeancestry of experience with
this. So she probably knows,like, the best course for
action, and she probably knows,like, what to do in the modern
times, like, with getting RN andjust getting medical
Erika (50:30):
help. Yeah. I mean, I think at this point, she's
prepared. I mean, if years andyears of experience, it should
help her out. So Mhmm.
I think the mother-in-law inthis case is really the asshole.
Edgar (50:43):
Yeah. So but a verdict then.
Erika (50:46):
Not the asshole.
Edgar (50:47):
Yeah. Obi's not the asshole. But yeah.
Mother-in-law, asshole. Changeyour weight, please.
Erika (50:52):
Yeah. I mean and then at this point, if you need to have
low contact with her on afterthe birth, you should because,
you know, at this point, sheshouldn't be stressed or
anything like that. Mhmm.Especially if she, you know,
she's trying to have a homebirth.
Edgar (51:07):
Yeah. I imagine all those baby obituaries is very
stressful.
Erika (51:11):
Oh my god. I think she that's crazy to me. She really,
really crossed the line. Sheneeds help.
Edgar (51:17):
Yeah. So messed up.
Erika (51:19):
Okay. So next story is my friend's perfect relationship
was full on FBI operation. Soheads up on this story. I
believe it's fake, but I thoughtit was a cute read and funny.
Mhmm.
I wish it was real, though. Soit starts so my best friend,
Matt, has always been a hopelessromantic. The kind of guy who
(51:39):
believes in soulmates. Sincegood morning text unironically
and probably watched TheNotebook too many times. A few
months ago, he met his thisgirl, Lisa, on a dating app.
She was perfect. Too perfect.Gorgeous, funny, into some weird
indie bands as him, and getthis. She actually laughed at
(52:00):
his terrible puns. Within weeks,they were inseparable.
Lisa was always around, butsomething fell off. She never
let him take pictures of her.She never talked about her job,
just said she was in governmentwork. She always paid in cash.
One night, we were at the barand Matt stepped away to take a
call.
(52:20):
Lisa left alone with me, leanedin and said, you seem like a
good friend. Make sure Mattstays out of trouble. What? Then
two days later, she justvanished. Poof.
Phone disconnected. Apartmentemptied out. Matt was
devastated. Though she ghostedhim, he spiraled hard. Then
(52:43):
about a month later, we werewatching the news, and there she
was, Lisa.
Except her real name was specialagent Lauren Carter, and she was
testifying at some hugeundercover sting involving a
money laundering ring. And I hadbeen dating an FBI agent working
a case. And the best part, hewasn't even the target. She was
(53:04):
just using him as a cover story.To this day crazy.
He refuses to use dating apps.
Edgar (53:12):
Yeah. I can tell why you think it'd be fake. Like,
special agent Lauren Carter is,like, such a fake name.
Erika (53:19):
Yeah.
Edgar (53:19):
But maybe that's the point. Like, she has to have a
fake name even, like, when sheis not on the cover.
Erika (53:24):
Special protection, I guess. But still, I I thought it
would be nice if it was true,but yeah. I think it's it's
funny.
Edgar (53:32):
I think yeah. Like Poor guy. He finally got the the
chick that he he always wanted,and it turns out, it was all
fake. It was all just a coverstory. Man is down tremendous at
the moment.
You're so funny. I I I haveheard he's still aspiring to his
day.
Erika (53:50):
Well, he's staying away from dating apps, so there you
go. Mhmm.
Edgar (53:54):
I wish we can get, like if this is real, I want I wish
there was, like, links
Erika (53:57):
An update or something?
Edgar (53:59):
I just links to, like, the news story that just broke
out in.
Erika (54:02):
Yeah. That would be kinda cool. Mhmm. I think, nobody's
the asshole here. I mean, shewas doing her job.
There was not really any, reallyanybody at fault here.
Edgar (54:18):
Mhmm.
Erika (54:19):
There was a link there.
Edgar (54:22):
Oh, an update? Oh, so that's the actual story?
Erika (54:24):
Yeah. It looks like I don't know if it's true, though.
It says, oh, it says fbi.gov.
Edgar (54:30):
I would have to look into it, but, I mean, it looks okay
enough. So we'll put this in in
Erika (54:37):
we'll put
Edgar (54:37):
this in the description, I guess, for everyone to
research. But, yeah, it lookslike there is some
Erika (54:41):
A picture, and it tells a little bit about them.
Edgar (54:44):
Yeah. Some information about Lauren Carter, the dream
fake girlfriend
Erika (54:48):
Yeah. Of
Edgar (54:48):
your of your dreams.
Erika (54:50):
I mean, she is pretty. Mhmm. Okay. You said but I think
she's pretty. It's pretty cool.
Yeah. So we'll link it into thedescription of this story or,
yeah. And you guys can take alook.
Edgar (55:06):
Okay. So, yeah, so final verdict on the story?
Erika (55:08):
Not the asshole.
Edgar (55:09):
Yeah. Not the asshole. Now I don't even think the
dispatcher agent was an asshole.
Erika (55:12):
Oh, she was doing her she's trying to protect herself.
Edgar (55:14):
Yeah. She was just doing her job. Yeah. So Don't worry,
buddy. It was just business.
Erika (55:22):
You're so funny.
Edgar (55:23):
So yeah. So no one's the asshole.
Erika (55:24):
Yeah. So that's all of the stories we have today. Thank
you for tuning into this week'sepisode. Check out our website,
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We would love and appreciate itso much.
Edgar (55:45):
Also, we started a new Facebook group called Am I The
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like or share your own storiesfor us all to judge. We may even
read a few posts in one of ourepisodes if you're lucky.
Erika (56:04):
Thank you.
Edgar (56:05):
For, watching.
Erika (56:07):
And listening to us. We appreciate it. See you next
week. Bye.
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