March 10, 2025 • 53 mins
Jealousy is a hell of a drug, and this week's stories prove it! From a fiancé who's weirded out by a sibling smooch to a stepdaughter who took "spicing things up" way too literally, we’re discussing some of the messiest AITA threads yet.
- 😬 "I kissed my brother, and now my fiancé wants to leave me" - harmless or horrifying?
- 🌶🚽 Stepdaughter dumps expensive spices down the toilet… but is the punishment worse?
- 🎥💔 A Wife kills her husband's ex-wife twice… literally.
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Links to threads read:
- I kissed my brother and now my fiancé wants to break up with me since he finds it weird. AITAH?
- AITA for telling my SIL that she's not on the same level as my wife?
- AITA for telling my SIL that she is not on the same level as my wife? UPDATE
- AITA for how I punished my stepdaughter for flushing her sister's spices down the toilet?
- AITA for ignoring my wife for throwing away my late wife video tapes?
- AITA if I want to break up with my girl because I am tired of her testing me all the time?
- This week's Instagram Post
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Intro (00:00):
Yapping!
Erika (00:02):
Hello. This is Erika.
Edgar (00:04):
And Edgar.
Erika (00:05):
And we are the Yapping Schnauzers We entertain you with
the up worthy stories we findaround the web. Today's theme is
jealousy.
Edgar (00:16):
So the first story is titled, I kissed my brother, and
now my fiance wants to break upwith me since he finds it weird.
Am I the asshole? Probablybecause I find this embarrassing
to post, But my head is a messright now, and I need some
assurance that I'm normal. Me,25 female, and my brother, 17
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male, have been close sincechildhood. It wouldn't be a lie
to say that our main lovelanguage is physical touch.
I see him as my baby. He'sadorable and such a sweet kid.
We hug, cuddles, and he alsorelies on me emotionally a lot.
Now comes my fiance, twenty ninemale. We've been together for
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three years now, and he knowsthat I'm close with my brother.
I moved in with my fiance lastyear, so I don't even get to
meet my brother that often. Soevery time I meet and hug him,
my fiance had always made somepassing remark like, well there,
or you guys are sure close. Ijust rolled my eyes since I
thought he was just joking backthen. But five days back, it was
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my mom's birthday. It's beenfour months since I saw my
family in real life aside fromvideo calls as we live in
different cities.
It was a small party withrelatives, and I was happy to be
there. We were planning to stayfor the night and leave the next
morning. At night, my fiance andI were up watching a movie, and
when my brother and Austin cameinside, and he asked if we could
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talk, my fiance gave me a sideeye, but I got up and followed
him. I asked him what was wrong.He said he missed me and that
he's been having a hard time atschool since he's struggling
with his studies.
He's a smart kid. He's at thetop of his school, unlike me,
and I know he always had stressissues. He also mentioned how
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his friends are being very rudeto him and in one way or the
other, and this made him crywhile talking about it. So,
obviously, I was consoling him.We talked for around one hour
before I hugged him sayingeverything will be fine.
And this is when my fiancewalked in and asked, are you
guys done? He sounded upset, andhe could have phased that
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brother. But after a few moreminutes, I got up, gave my
brother a kiss on the cheek, andtold him we could continue to
talk tomorrow. But once I gotinside the room with my fiance,
I think hell broke loose. Hestarted telling me how gross I
was for kissing my own brother.
He said he was already upsetthat I have hugged, cuddled, and
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had my brother lay on my lapbefore on other occasions, but
now the kissing was the finalnail in the coffin. He said that
I prioritize my brother morethan I do for him, which is not
true at all. I hardly see mybrother ever since I moved out.
He also said that I'm not seeingmy brother as my family and that
our relationship is not normal.He literally told me, you guys
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are in love and is having anaffair, and that he hates how we
touch each other since it comesoff as sexual.
I'm aware a lot of siblingsdon't do physical touch, but it
doesn't say anywhere doing it iswrong. I don't understand what
is sexual about this. Pleasehelp me understand. These made
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me feel so awful, so I told himthat my then father, separated
now, was really abusive to mymom. Me and my brother has kids,
which often makes me feel like Ishould protect him, and that's
all there is to it.
But he didn't even let meexplain before he just left the
room. The next day, he calledhis mom and said he wanted to
break off with me. I talked toher myself, and she said I
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should stay away from my brotherif the marriage has to happen
since it could affect my fiancementally as he is a single
child. So he wouldn't understandhow siblings feel. She said it's
better for the both of us.
Now I'm conflicted because Idon't understand what I did
wrong. I never felt like I didanything to warrant a breakup. I
love my brother, and I love myfiance too. I knew my fiance
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always made backhanded remarksabout my brother before, but it
never crossed my mind he took itso seriously as her that day.
Please.
Am I the asshole? Am I reallyacting weirdly with my brother?
If I am, please tell me what Ican do to not be like this that
wouldn't hurt my brother in theprocess too. Well, the story was
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a lot wasn't as bad as that Iwas gonna be.
Erika (04:36):
Exactly. I am just flabbergasted here. The the way
they're both gaslighting her isinsane.
Edgar (04:47):
Wait. Who's both? The mother and
Erika (04:49):
The mother and the, what, boyfriend, fiance?
Edgar (04:51):
Yeah. The fiance.
Erika (04:53):
I can't even I'm just shook. How is it inappropriate
to hug or kiss your brother inthe cheek?
Edgar (05:07):
I don't know. I think what what set it up for me was
that he's, like, a single child.He's an only child. Yeah. So he
probably just yeah.
I think his mom's correct insaying that he just doesn't
understand, but I think it'salso another another thing could
be that he's just, like, alittle bit insecure about the,
like, the relationship.
Erika (05:26):
I don't think he's insecure. I think he's
controlling.
Edgar (05:29):
You think so?
Erika (05:30):
A hundred percent. I think he just wants her
attention on him, and that's it.He doesn't want any other person
to be in her life, and that tome is controlling. I think
there's a million red flagshere, including his family,
because who wants to be a partof a family that literally tells
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you it's the best for both ofyou to stay away from your
brother? No.
No, ma'am. It's best for him,not for her. What do you mean
letting go of the relationshipof your brother just for your
fiance? I I don't think so. Ithink they also have a trauma
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bond where, you know, they feelclose to that who they've gone
through that with, you know,when they were younger.
Edgar (06:21):
Yeah.
Erika (06:22):
So I I think also they rely on each other a lot for
emotional support, which you seea lot with trauma bonds.
Edgar (06:29):
Mhmm. And
Erika (06:29):
the fact that they don't understand that and they want
her to stay away from herbrother is crazy to me. He is
definitely a complete asshole,and he just needs to get over
himself. And I would honestlybreak up with him. There's just
no excuse for it at all.
Edgar (06:48):
Hope he hasn't seen his his family in, like, four
months.
Erika (06:52):
Yeah. That's another red flag too because it looks like
since she's moved out, it's beenall about him, all the doting on
him, all the time on him thatshe hasn't even been able to see
his her family. And so rightthere, once again, that's
controlling. So the top commentis, as much as it hurts, be
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thankful that your fiance isshowing his true colors before
you got married. What if you hada child and he wants to dictate
your interactions there too?
Forget him and forget his mom.They are gaslighting you because
he's an insecure mama's boy.Dump that prick and live
happily. Not the asshole.
Edgar (07:31):
Mhmm. Yeah. I agree. Because, like, the relationship
that OP has with brother, like,from the title, it seemed like
it was gonna be a lot worse, butit seems like a simple like, it
just look like they're closeand, OP worded it weirdly when
it said that their love languageis physical touch. I think it's
just more like it is, like, justbeing close to each other.
It's just covered in each other.Yeah. Covered in each other.
Erika (07:51):
Yeah. And I think also it has to do with culture. I think
that's a big part of their lovelanguage, I guess, or their, you
know, their emotional and andphysical touch. I don't think
it's nothing wrong with huggingyour brother or kissing him the
cheek. I think at least for, youknow, Hispanic culture, when you
see somebody you kiss you kissthem on the on the cheek, or you
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hug them or you do a side cheekto cheek.
You know, it's normal. Or it'snot nothing about sexual or
anything like that. It's justhow you say hi to somebody.
Edgar (08:21):
Mhmm.
Erika (08:22):
It could also be that, but I still think he's a
controlling asshole, and sheneeds to break up with him. It's
crazy that he accused her ofhaving an affair with his
brother.
Edgar (08:33):
Yeah. That's even weird. Like, it just I think that voice
the truth isn't, like, kindamessed up.
Erika (08:38):
Yeah. I don't I don't get it. Like, I think he's just
looking at it under a microscopeand and seeing something that
there's not. He has definitelywent too far. And the fact that
she's doubting herself sayingthat, am I in the wrong here?
Shows how much he has put stuffin her head saying that
something is wrong with you whenthere wasn't. Mhmm. So, yeah,
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final verdict.
Edgar (09:04):
Yeah. OP isn't the asshole.
Erika (09:06):
Yeah. Not the asshole.
Edgar (09:08):
Yeah. Definitely, OP's fiance and his mother to a
certain extent. I think themother is just, like, kind of
Erika (09:15):
The mother is asshole too.
Edgar (09:16):
I say she's just one-sided because, of course,
she's always gonna side with herkid. You know?
Erika (09:20):
She's What
Edgar (09:21):
what parent went to side with their kid?
Erika (09:24):
Sometimes, but very, very rarely you see that happen.
Still, she's an asshole. Mhmm.Okay. So next story is, am I the
asshole for telling mysister-in-law that she is not on
the same level as my wife?
Throw away because my wife andher sister have my mane. My
wife, Ava, fake name, femaletwenty eight, and I'm, male
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thirty, just had our first setof kids in a pair of twin boys.
We had met and dated throughoutcollege and after graduation.
Got married in a simpleceremony. My wife is a nurse,
and now I'm an engineer.
My wife is a quiet type,especially in large social
gatherings. And I'm very petite.I think that will be important
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later. Honestly, I'm not muchdifferent, and that's how we hit
it off because our friend groupsdragged us to a party we didn't
really want to be at. That said,one on one or in a patient, she
is very, very warm and allsmiles.
We tried for over a year to getpregnant, and my swimmers
weren't doing their job.
Edgar (10:28):
Yeah. So
Erika (10:31):
we were thrilled to become parents, and finding out
it was twins was even better. Mywife's sister, female twenty
five, on the other hand, is apiece of work. She relies on
guys to fund her lifestyle. Shejumps from guy to guy or scams
them online. If I had proof ofthe catfishing or scams, I will
report it.
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She has no education past highschool. She's trying to become
an Instagram influencer, butonly has a hundred followers.
She is constantly
Edgar (11:00):
ugly dude. I feel like it's I feel like for female
Instagram influencers, it's justvery easy for them to get, like,
hundreds of thousands offollowers. So It
Erika (11:08):
really is.
Edgar (11:08):
They only get a hundred?
Erika (11:10):
Well, I mean, you also have to keep in mind how you get
a hundred. I mean, the thousandsof followers by showing what.
Edgar (11:18):
You're just putting no effort.
Erika (11:21):
Yeah. Okay.
Edgar (11:21):
Low effort at a low effort career.
Erika (11:27):
Anyways, she is constantly trying to make it
rich quick and still lives withher parents. No hate on this
part, but it's just to show howfinancially irresponsible she
is. She buys the centereverything and eats out all the
time. We waited until the boysfor a few weeks before we let
anyone come over. My wife had torecover, and she wanted to bond
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with our boys not interrupted.
Anything for her. I had to beatmy my this is funny. I had to
beat my mom back with a stick,not literally, but it was worth
the piece. I wanted only one setof family at a time, so we
didn't get overwhelmed andsuggested her parents first. Her
parents brought her sister.
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Now up to this point, her sisterhad been super interested in the
pregnancy and helped throw thebaby shower. She would drop off
my wife's snacks and things shementioned a craving. Overall, it
seemed like a turning point forthem because before the
pregnancy, their relationshiphad been strained. Childhood
competition, fighting over whodated who first, etcetera. I
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went to the kitchen to makelunch while they sat and
chatted.
Her sister came in to help well,that's what I thought. She set
up plates and things and startedasking about the labor, the last
couple of weeks, etcetera. Ithought she was trying to let me
vent or find some ways to behelpful, but I told her
everything was going prettysmoothly. She made the comment,
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too bad. She's ruined now.
I heard she ripped from her b toher a and won't be pleasing to
look at.
Edgar (12:59):
Bro, that's gross.
Erika (13:01):
It's very common, actually, which it's because
usually when, you know, the babyis pushed out, yeah, you have
the elbows, tucked into the bodyand sometimes the babies have
them out which causes rips a lotof pretty often. So it's a
common thing. So back to story.Now it is true that there was
some tearing, but consideringher size and the size of the
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boys, I don't think it's toouncommon. I just looked at her
and asked why she would saysomething so disrespectful about
her sister.
She told me it's just the truth,and I would realize ugly scars
down there would be the totalturn off. She then leaned across
the table and did that thingsgirls do to make their boobs
look bigger by crossing her armsunder them and squeezing. She
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then leaned across the table anddid that thing girls do to make
their boobs look bigger bycrossing their arms under them
and squeezing and said, I knowyou only really wanted her as a
mother because of her nursingthing, and went on about how
much happier I would be withsomeone more my level. I told
her in no uncertain terms thatshe wasn't anywhere near my
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level, and she could forget everreaching my wife's level either.
I told her that being a swindlerand not and not respecting
herself online until guys didn'tmake her this hot attractive
thing she thinks she is.
It's actually sad to watchbecause everyone knows she can
do so much better and would begreat at whatever she put
herself to, but she choosesdeadbeats who would pay for her
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photos instead. I told her mywife worked until eight months
while pregnant with twins, howshe does volunteer work for the
animal shelter, how she stillfusses over me even though we
now have the boys, and how justamazing I really think she is. I
told her she could never evenscratch at the level my wife is
on, so take her weirdness out ofmy house. And I just walked her
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out. I pulled the parents asideand explained what happened,
then sent them the kitchen videoof it because we have indoor
cameras in the common areas forsecurity, kitchen facing the
back door, living room facingthe front door, hallway, and
stairs.
They were livid, but at me.
Edgar (15:15):
Okay.
Erika (15:15):
They stormed out for disrespecting their younger
daughter in a way that made hercry. After showing my wife, she
thought I was a little harsh inshutting her down, but was so
thankful that I made her leaveand stood up to her. My
sister-in-law and her parentsare demanding an apology. I'm
not going to apologize. Am I theasshole?
Edgar (15:35):
No. Clearly not. Like, the sister was trying to make a
move on him, and she she clearlyfailed, and she just got put in
her place.
Erika (15:43):
Exactly. I wouldn't have said it better. She just thought
she was gonna shoot her shot andmake it go in, and she didn't.
It was a fail. Yeah.
And that's just gross. Like, why
Edgar (15:57):
Like, her sister just had a baby, and now you're gonna
just swoop in and take his man.Like
Erika (16:02):
That's insane. That you know, why have a family ever or
enemies? She is your enemy. Sheshould stay away from her.
Edgar (16:09):
She got the spirit of Jezebel in there.
Erika (16:11):
Oh my god.
Edgar (16:12):
For real. Like, I think the sister's, like, such a mess.
I got for but for some reason,when I'm imagining the story,
I'm just thinking the sister is,like, you know, like like, a
cute, pretty, and petite, andher her little sister is just
like a devil version of her.
Erika (16:27):
I don't know. I I think it's she I think she has really
low self esteem because anywoman that does this or tries to
get with a man that has a wifeor is in a relationship has low
self esteem because they don'trespect themselves enough to
know that they deserve betterand that they should be with
somebody that's not in arelationship.
Edgar (16:47):
Mhmm.
Erika (16:47):
I think it's it's just she's sad. Like, I I it
frustrated me a little bit, butthen when you really think about
it, I think she really needsmore self assurance and higher
self esteem.
Edgar (17:01):
I'm not giving any mercy for her. She's just being lazy.
That's why instead of going forher potential, she's just trying
to get any sugary diabetes youcan that she can have interested
in her for the the upcomingweek. She's got flavors of the
week, maybe flavors of the daysconsidering her attention span.
Erika (17:16):
I don't know. I think, you know, maybe she got hurt at
some point.
Edgar (17:22):
She's only hurting herself.
Erika (17:23):
Well, that's the thing. She is hurting herself. She
needs help.
Edgar (17:27):
She's like, I need help because I'm hurt. Who hurt you?
Myself.
Erika (17:30):
Oh my gosh. I think she needs to to, talk about her
feelings, and I think she needsshe needs a therapy. She needs
therapy, honestly. Mhmm. Sheneeds a little bit, more self
care, girl.
You can do better.
Edgar (17:47):
Yeah. Whatever. But, yeah, she's not getting I
apologize, though.
Erika (17:50):
Oh, no. I fail no. She could do better, but, no, she he
she does not deserve no apology.And the parents, excuse me, I
think this is they're part ofthe reason why she is how she is
because, clearly, she can do nowrong. They literally saw a
video of her trying to hit ontheir daughter's husband and
said he should apologize.
Edgar (18:09):
I know. It's just like I've seen the video. It should
be more than enough to, like,shut she down the sister, but
instead to just take her side.
Erika (18:16):
Yeah. It makes no sense. They they also need therapy.
King. Everybody needs therapy.
Edgar (18:22):
Like, what?
Erika (18:24):
No. I I think everybody needs therapy.
Edgar (18:26):
No mercy.
Erika (18:27):
And it's just crazy to me. But there is an update.
Edgar (18:31):
Oh, really?
Erika (18:32):
Yes. It's a little bit long, so bear with me. After
they left, I took a couple hoursbefore posting because I felt I
made my wife upset, and I hatedoing that. Apparently, at that
time, my wife and I were blockedfrom my sister in law's social
media, and I was blocked by herparents. By the time I posted, I
missed 40 some calls, messages.
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I assume it was her parentsstill bugging about the apology
or or her texting me, calling menames. I went downstairs to find
my wife in tears because someonehad the nerve to be screaming
down the phone at her. It washer uncle. I took the phone,
shouted him down until heexplained what he heard.
Apparently, sister-in-lawimmediately went around claiming
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I was a disgusting pig whotouched her inappropriately and
said all terrible things she hadsaid.
And he was pissed at my wife fordefending me.
Edgar (19:26):
I'm telling you, she deserves no nothing. Just no
mercy at all.
Erika (19:30):
No. I'm done. I'm second guessing you.
Edgar (19:32):
There's no redemption for her. Just in a pit just in a pit
of hell.
Erika (19:36):
I am second guessing the funny well, not the funny urge.
Just saying that she needstherapy. Okay. I caught the call
and sent the video to him. Itried to check her accounts and
found that I was blocked.
My wife tried and found she wasblocked. I checked my phone and
all the ignored noise wasvarious family members on her
side. I didn't bother callingthem. I just sent the video to
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each and every one of them, thenposted it in all my accounts and
tagged her and her parents. Iused my wife's phone to post it
to her parents' account with herpermission.
I sat down with my wife to askwhat she wanted to do, but she
just started crying. Eventually,she said she hated them and
started to cry even more. I justfeel so bad for OP, well, for
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his wife. Mhmm. She literallyjust gave birth to twins, and
all she wanted was to have apeaceful, you know, recovery
time, especially with babyblues.
And it's twins is insane. Mhmm.Clearly, she wasn't in the
headspace to make decisions thataffected anything long term. So
I suggested we just go to nocontact temporarily. And after
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some time, discussed if weshould make it permanent or not.
She agreed. He suggestedtherapy. Thank you, everyone,
because I would not have thoughtabout this myself. She was
hesitant, but after a bigpushing, she agreed. I didn't
bully her, just pointed out thatthis was all terrible, that she
went through so much and thatwhile I can listen and snuggle
her, I am not unbiased, and Idon't have all the tools a
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therapist would.
She doesn't seem depressed, butall their crying is getting to
me. I hate seeing her like this.I asked that we should change
the locks and add a few morecameras outside. She agreed. I
asked if she wanted to tell myparents they can't have a key or
need to wait a few more days tovisit, but she said they can
come and they can have a key.
My mom and wife don't always seeeye to eye, but tend to team up
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against me. The noise the noisedied down by dinner time, but
there was almost no noapologies. A few cousins
apologize to my wife and heraunt. I told her friends what
happened. They brought over mywife's favorite dinner and my
favorite snacks.
Her BFF stayed the night. My onefriend suggested getting a
lawyer involved for the attemptto ask slander. He knows a guy,
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and I now have a meeting withhim. I didn't tell my wife. I
just want to see what theoptions are.
She needs some rest before wereally do anything. My parents
are over now, and I slept awayfor an update. My mother offered
to stay for a few days to cookand clean. I think my wife might
accept it. She showed us how toswallow the boys and gave us all
these warnings against juice inbottles at bedtime when they are
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older because it could rot theirteeth.
I started a whole conversationabout no serum milk bottles
because of choking hazard andother things. I think the baby
talk has taken her mind offthings. Her best friend has been
playing a weird mix of guard dogand mama bear to my wife, and
I'm glad she has the support.The BFF checks and screens the
calls and messages beforeletting my wife see anything. If
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it's terrible, she haspermission to send the video,
and this is all on my wife'srequest.
She doesn't wanna face hate fromher family right now. I managed
to get screenshots of the postfrom friends. I had those same
friends creep their profilesthis morning, and the post have
been removed. Apparently, itturns to a bloodbath in the
comments going from support tooutrage of being lied to. We got
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a few more apologies, and theysound sincere and damn it.
They were too ashamed to talk tous yesterday be after the video
was sent. I still banned therest of her family from visiting
until further notice. Info diettime for them as well until we
know who won't feed pictures orinfo to those three terrible
people. My wife locked hersister this morning from her
phone, but I'm leaving themunblocked. So if they try
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anything, I have proof.
I think that's it. Unpleasant. Iknew they favored sister-in-law,
but I didn't realize it was thatmuch. I'm going to help my wife
find therapist in the next fewdays. Any questions, I will try
to answer.
Edgar (23:32):
Yes. As I was saying, no mercy.
Erika (23:34):
Isn't that crazy update? I did not think it was gonna
turn to, like, in that whole,like, lies and Uh-huh. Oh.
Edgar (23:43):
Yeah. All that. But the I think the lawyer is not the best
idea if he's list if he's evergonna watch this just because
what does the sister-in-law haveto, like, to lose? Nothing. If
she if he wants a case, what onedo you do is he gonna get?
Like I
Erika (23:57):
guess from the parents.
Edgar (24:00):
I just don't think that would be worth it. But other
than that, yeah, it's a goodthing that she has, like, the
video proof because otherwise,OP's reputation would just be
ruined because the sister-in-lawlike, they would take her to
work saying, oh, he's, like, asexual predator.
Erika (24:14):
So, yeah, it took a turn for the worst. I honestly think
that there's just so much goingon with her sister and the
parents that it's insane. Ican't believe they decided to
just attack their daughter andsister like this, especially
after giving birth. I honestlythink they should just caught
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contact. Their toxicity isinsane.
Edgar (24:41):
Yeah. It looks like they're so they're in no contact
with the parents and thesister-in-law. And I feel like
the sister-in-law yeah. It'spretty safe to say that they
they shouldn't have her in theirlife as at all. But the parents,
like, they feel kind of bad,but, like, they took Yeah.
My sister-in-law aside. So
Erika (24:56):
Yeah. And and they shouldn't have. I I I don't
know. I I at this point, I thinkshe just should have prioritized
her health and the babies, andnobody else matters because
that's what's more importantright now.
Edgar (25:10):
Yeah.
Erika (25:10):
So I would definitely say he is not that asshole
Edgar (25:14):
Mhmm.
Erika (25:14):
And the sister-in-law and the parent are.
Edgar (25:17):
Yeah. Definitely.
Erika (25:18):
100%. And, also, the verdict was that he is not the
asshole for the story.
Edgar (25:26):
So the next story is titled am I the asshole for how
I punish my stepdaughter forflushing her sister's spices
down the toilet? I, 42 male,married my current wife when my
daughter, 16, was four and mystepdaughter, 14, was two. They
grew up as if they were bloodsiblings with occasional
disagreements and jealousyissues, mostly from my
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stepdaughter. Two days ago wasmy daughter's dog's their deaf
anniversary. Usually at thistime, she'd rather be alone to
write poems or look at picturesof her beloved dog.
This year, she asked me to gowith her to visit his grave,
which is located in hergrandparents' farm. My wife
appreciates my daughter's needto have time alone. My
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stepdaughter wanted to come withus, though she wasn't close to
the dog. My daughter refused tolet her come and only wanted me
to go. My stepdaughter fit andassisted on coming.
I sat her down to explain hersister's need for space that
day. She stopped after that. Weleft, and fifteen minutes later,
my wife texted me that mystepdaughter had a breakdown and
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didn't stop crying, then flushedall her sister's spices that
were in separate containers downthe toilet. They were a gift for
my daughter's Asian friend's momsince my daughter is into Asian
food and cooks meals every week.I was stunned.
I called my wife but got noresponse. My daughter asked
what's wrong, but I just droppedher off at her grandparents'
farm then went back home. Mystepdaughter refused to come out
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of a room yelling that mydaughter deserved it for
excluding her like that. I waspissed. I told her I'd punish
her for wasting spices that wereimportant to her sister that she
shouldn't even touch by takingfrom her savings to pay for the
damages, but my wife thought I'donly take away privileges, not
money my stepdaughter saved.
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She said she's so kid and shewon't let me touch your savings
but will pay herself. If my wifepaid, then my stepdaughter would
think her behavior is okay. Shealso said my daughter is to
blame too for not letting herstep sister come with her. She
acted as if she never goes tothe farm, though I take them
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there twice a month. I arguethat this was, in my opinion,
the right punishment to get thisresolved.
My wife said I was only makingmy stepdaughter resent me
because she wants the money fora new bicycle. We kept
disagreeing on this, and all Iwas thinking was my daughter's
reaction when I told her. Shewas devastated, but I assured
her I was taking steps to helpher replace all the spices she
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lost. My wife called me cruel.Anybody asshole?
Erika (28:01):
Absolutely not.
Edgar (28:02):
Yeah. I mean, it's a little bit ridiculous,
stepdaughter's, like, reactionto that.
Erika (28:08):
I believe he's doing the right thing there here because,
honestly, if she wanted to buythat bike that she was staying
off for, then she shouldn't haveflushed down her sister's food
and spices. Like, that's insaneto me. And then the fact that
the mom did not pick up thephone call and manipulate the
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situation so he could drop offher doll his daughter, and he
didn't get to spend that timewith her to grief her dog and
leave her there and then go backto deal with her daughter is
literally manipulation rightthere. She's being completely
biased, and she's jealous of therelationship he has with his
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daughter. I don't think he didanything wrong with just going
his daughter and him to the farm
Edgar (28:58):
Yeah.
Erika (28:58):
Since it's not her dog. I mean, I guess they could have,
like, a little bit more of asentimental thing and could have
taken her with her, but there'snothing there because she
doesn't really care about thedog. So she's there for what?
Edgar (29:11):
I guess she has to be there.
Erika (29:13):
Yeah. But the the you know, it's it's like a private
moment between her and her
Edgar (29:17):
dad. Yeah.
Erika (29:18):
So the fact that she couldn't respect that and did
all that and threw all the stuffin the in the bathroom and
flushed it, it was sodisrespectful and resentful. And
honestly, jealousy. That was alljealous in saying that she
deserved it was uncalled for.Were you done the same thing?
What would you be yourpunishment if your daughter did
that?
Edgar (29:38):
Grounded and painting back the damages because that's,
like, an important lessonanyway. Like, if if you do
damage any, like, actualproperty, like, outside of your
home, you're gonna have to payfor it, like, either in, like,
jail time or in fines.
Erika (29:49):
Exactly.
Edgar (29:49):
So this is just basically, like, a small version
of a fine, but that's just,like, something she shouldn't.
Like, I I don't think I don'tagree with the other parents'
excuse that it's cruel to havethe stepdaughter's, money go
into that instead of her bikebecause that's just like it's a
it's like your punishment.
Erika (30:08):
Exactly. And the fact that she wants to pay you for
it, she's not learning anything.
Edgar (30:12):
She's gonna just think it's fine. And at least, like,
for now, like, of course, thestepdaughter is gonna be upset
about this, but when she growsup and she, like, looks back at
all the less learned, I thinkshe will appreciate it a little
bit more.
Erika (30:24):
Exactly. Because right now, if her mom is to pay for
it, she'd be like, okay. My if Ido anything wrong, my mom's
gonna be there to fix it, andthere's no consequences, which
is the wrong thing to teach yourchild.
Edgar (30:35):
Yeah.
Erika (30:36):
So the top comment is the consequences you came up with is
absolutely fair since when doconsequences need to be adapted
and tailored to the kid'spreferences? You also shouldn't
be afraid to insist on aconsequence just because she's
your stepdaughter. You've raisedher most of her life. Moreover,
what she did was wrong. So shewanted to save up for her new
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bicycle?
Well, her sister wanted to savethose spices for cooking a meal.
She owes her sister monetarycompensation. The whole point is
to show her that it is not worthdoing something like this again.
If your third daughter is sad,upset about this consequence,
that means it's working, notthat asshole.
Edgar (31:16):
Agreed.
Erika (31:16):
100%. I think he's being fair, and the stepmother is
being an asshole because she'snot allowing her daughter to get
the consequences of her actions.
Edgar (31:26):
Yeah. Do you find this to be, like, a divorce both hands?
Erika (31:29):
No. I wouldn't say divorce. I would just say you
and I would need to talk. If Iwas the husband, I'd be like, we
need to talk, sit down aboutwhat needs to be done. And even
though we're not seeing eye toeye, maybe we need a third
person.
And this is where you wouldthink therapy is not really
worth it, but I feel like thisis great here because then
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you'll see a different view andwill give you an input that
maybe you two are not looking atand will help you decide. So I
think family therapy would begreat at this point. And I know
a lot of people can't reallyafford it or don't have, you
know, interest in that, but Ithink family therapy would be
amazing for this. Or as I don'tknow, where are they gonna get
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their third person that's notbiased for the situation?
Edgar (32:16):
Well, you need to be a little bit biased about this
because, like, it's about thekids. And I feel like this is
something between those twoindividuals, OPA and his fiancee
or his wife.
Erika (32:26):
But they're not seeing eye to eye. All they've been
doing is disagreeing.
Edgar (32:29):
Yeah. But the part but the important thing about, like,
disagreements and arguments isthat you guys had to see eye to
eye, like, somehow. Like, youhad to come to terms with that.
You don't need, like, a thirdperson, like, helping you or,
like, inserting themselves intothe situation. Because then it's
like, oh, it's not us twosolving the problem.
It's, like, us three, figuringout, some issue or some
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solution.
Erika (32:51):
Well, that's because they provide you tools to solve for
next time.
Edgar (32:54):
I could just use chat.
Erika (32:57):
Okay.
Edgar (32:57):
Or YouTube.
Erika (32:58):
Still, it's I think it's an amazing option if, you know,
they are able to do that.
Edgar (33:04):
The therapist is just like a clutch because they can
just figure it out themselvesand just, like, grow, like,
their communication and, like,their attachment and, like, cue
like, their style of seeing eachother for seeing each other eye
to eye.
Erika (33:18):
The I I don't think you understand what therapy is. I
think for you, therapy is like aunnecessary third person. But
for me, it that's not the case.A a therapist is someone that
helps you get to a conclusionand doesn't, you know,
necessarily tell you what to do,but helps you get to where you
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need to be in a relationship.And it's helping to see each
other for who they are andtrying to figure out how they
could communicate with eachother because everybody has a
different way of showing, youknow, either affection or a
different way of communication.
And this a therapist helps youunderstand each other. It's not
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just, oh, you know, do this, dothat. That's that's not how it
works. Obviously, trying to finda good therapist is hard. That's
why you you can't just be like,the first therapist I go to,
that's the person I'm staying ifyou don't click with that
person.
And then that doesn't mean goingto a therapist so they can tell
you what you wanna hear. Itmeans that you you can vibe with
that person.
Edgar (34:23):
I vibe with no one.
Erika (34:26):
Oh my god. You and whatever.
Edgar (34:29):
I go into the the therapy session and bring in all my
negative energy.
Erika (34:32):
Oh my god.
Edgar (34:33):
Just to harm them.
Erika (34:35):
You're so dumb. I think therapist and therapy as
eventually, as if you need it,and and a relationship would be
great. I think it's helpful.However, not everybody has to
agree, but I think that's a goodoption.
Edgar (34:53):
I'll find a verdict on this.
Erika (34:55):
He is not the asshole. He's doing a good job in
parenting. The wife needs somehelp there.
Edgar (35:02):
Yeah. I agree. Hope he's not the asshole.
Erika (35:07):
Okay. And the next story is, am I the asshole for
ignoring my wife for throwingaway my late wife videotapes?
I'm writing this because I don'tknow what to do. I have a
daughter with my late wife, andher name is Eleanor. Her
birthday is coming up in twoweeks, and she's turning 18.
Background. Me and my late wife,Chloe, have been dating since
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college. We got older and endedup getting married. And after
our wedding, she shared news tome that she was pregnant, and I
was excited that we wereexpecting our first child. Since
it was our first child, webought a video camera and made
little tapes and snippets of herwhole pregnancy.
Wholesome things such as just usjoking around or having lunch or
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talking to our unborn childthrough the camera. We made a
promise to only show Eleanor thetapes until her eighteenth
birthday. Fast forward two yearsafter her birth, Chloe passed
away due to a drunk drivercrashing into her car as she was
coming home from her mother'shouse. I I was devastated of her
passing and went into a deepdepression and having to raise
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our two year old daughter bymyself. My friends tried to get
me out again and start backdating, but every time I did, I
felt like I was betraying her.
Years later, when Eleanor was13, I met Wendy. We met at a
gathering for my sister'sbirthday, and we instantly hit
it off. She didn't mind that Ihad a daughter because she had
two kids herself and just wentthrough a divorce. Three years
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after we got married, now backto the present, Eleanor,
eighteen, birthday is coming up.And I kept all the tapes for me
to show her.
Mind you, her mother died whenshe was just two, so Eleanor
doesn't remember her touch orher voice. I was excited to show
her the tapes a week ago. I wastalking to Wendy about it, and I
noticed her expression going tohappy to looking a bit
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uncomfortable. Wendy wouldalways get uncomfortable when I
talk about my late wife. I don'tsay things like, why can't you
be more like Khloe?
Or Khloe was only supposed to bemy first love. But I talk about
her in a way to give my daughtera mental picture of what her
mother was like. Wendy hasalways talked to me about Khloe
and how it made her sad that shecan never be like her. Khloe was
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a model then started working onher fashion career. And don't
get me wrong, she was a reallybeautiful woman, but Wendy had
two kids in college and not inthe best shape due to her words.
I love both women how they are,and I've never had a preference,
but I feel like Wendy is gainingsome jealousy towards Khloe. I
told Wendy that I love her justthe way she was, and she broke
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down crying. The next day afterthat incident, she came up to me
and apologized for the way sheacted last night. I told her it
was okay and it was good thatshe felt comfortable to share
her feelings, and I gave her atight hug and a kiss on her
forehead. She asked to see wherethe tapes were at, and I showed
her the box of videotapes of mylate wife in my closet.
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Things were going fine untilyesterday morning. I was looking
for the tapes because I wantedto put them in a prettier box
for my daughter. And when I wentto go find them, the box wasn't
in my closet. I lookedeverywhere to the point I walked
downstairs to see my wife layingon the couch watching TV. I
asked her about the box, and shetold me she threw it away with a
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neutral expression.
Edgar (38:19):
Heartless?
Erika (38:20):
My heart dropped. And I asked her, what did she mean?
She told me that I talked abouther too much, and I need to move
on with my life, so she threwthem away as a head start. Ugh.
I was fuming with anger becausenot only did she throw away what
I had left of her, she threwaway my daughter's big surprise.
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We quickly got into an argument,and she noticed how angry I was,
so she started apologizing. Igot to the point I started
crying and locked myself in ourbedroom. It's the morning, and
I'm writing this in my office,going through my computer,
finding old files of any type ofvideo of my late wife to give it
to my daughter because sometimesmy daughter still cries that she
never got to meet her mother,and I really thought it would
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bring her closer to her. I'vebeen ignoring my wife for the
past day, and she's been textingme nonstop about how sorry she
is, but I really just can't lookat her right now. She's getting
to the point our mutual friendsare texting me to accept her
apology and get over it sinceKhloe died over ten years ago.
But I'm trying to ignore themall because they never had
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someone so close to them die. Iam working on finding these
files, but in the meantime, I'llupdate you guys when something
happens. Am I the asshole?
Edgar (39:36):
No. I don't think she's the asshole in this situation.
Erika (39:39):
Oh my gosh.
Edgar (39:40):
It's, like, pretty, yeah, heart wrenching. And then the
wife, she said, coldly, yeah. Ijust wrote it up. Like, it was a
Erika (39:47):
big deal. Mhmm. Oh my
Edgar (39:49):
It's just, like, someone's memory and, like, she
just destroyed it for whatreason? Because she's, like,
she's jealous.
Erika (39:54):
Yeah. And it's not only his memory. It's his daughter's.
Mhmm. Like, she died when shewas two years old, and she had
no memory of her.
And not only was the surpriseruined, but also the only
memories she would have had ofher mom, her, like, mom. I think
she needs to work on herself.She needs to really dig deep in
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there because what she did wasso wrong. And the fact that she
was so nonchalant watching TVafter what she did is crazy to
me. It just shows you that shedidn't care.
It was, like, good riddance.It's so sad. Yeah. It's so sad.
So the top comment is, dearlord, I'm honestly not one to
advocate for divorce.
Edgar (40:38):
I'm gonna say I thought you were gonna say violence. Me
too
Erika (40:41):
for a second, for divorce. But I do not think I
could continue a relationshipwith someone who did something
so wildly despicable. That isn'tjealousy. That's a mental
disorder.
Edgar (40:53):
You guys cooking
Erika (40:56):
her. She stole the only vestige of your wife that your
daughter will have. This is notsomething you come back from or
she can apologize for. This is aline in the sand.
Edgar (41:08):
Yeah. I think this is like a divorceable offense.
Yeah. Like, destroying anyproperty is, like, pretty bad,
but, like, destroying somethingthat's, like, that's
sentimental, from your own,like, husband or, like, your own
partner is, like, not messthat's pretty messed up. Like,
it's like you're crossing allthe boundaries there.
You're like, I wouldn't be safe.Like, I wouldn't feel like my
stuff is safe. I feel like firstthing I do
Erika (41:29):
You mean you're not safe?
Edgar (41:31):
Yeah. I wouldn't feel
Erika (41:32):
She throw you away too?
Edgar (41:33):
Yeah. Like, one day one morning, I wake up and, like,
oh, where am I? And then thegarbage can be like, oh, someone
put you in the garbage.
Erika (41:39):
Oh my gosh. No.
Edgar (41:40):
Yeah. And I I I would feel safe, but, I mean, like, I
wouldn't feel like any of mystuff is safe, and my stuff is
the most important thing to me.
Erika (41:47):
You're so funny. Yeah. I honestly feel like she not only
did she throw away the lastmemory, it's like throwing it's
like killing his wife all overagain. Like, if you because
that's the only thing she hadMhmm. And he had of the wife.
So now they have nothing. Whatare they gonna do? Absolutely.
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It's gone.
Edgar (42:10):
That's why you gotta make everything digital?
Erika (42:12):
Well, I mean, he said he tried looking for that. But, you
know, back then, those tapes,you can't really
Edgar (42:16):
Mhmm. It's like an annoying process of
Erika (42:18):
Yeah. And I think she needs mental health. She needs a
therapist.
Edgar (42:23):
A mental therapist?
Erika (42:24):
Oh, now now you agree with me?
Edgar (42:26):
Like, the kind of therapist that they that talks
to you when you have, like, whenyou're in in a straight jacket.
Erika (42:31):
Oh my god. Well, I don't know.
Edgar (42:34):
Like a different kind of Wicked.
Erika (42:37):
Yeah. I mean I mean, honestly, I I had, like, a
little inkling when she waslike, oh, where is the tapes? I
was a little bit, like,suspicious then because when he
mentioned it, she didn't lookhappy at all.
Edgar (42:48):
Yeah. I'd be like, it's in the cloud. Not here. Not
anywhere.
Erika (42:52):
Well, I think you're in the cloud in the iPhone, so you
couldn't do anything. Imagineshe goes into the iCloud and
erases everything. That would becrazy.
Edgar (43:00):
You gotta have backups to do backups.
Erika (43:03):
Right? But, yeah, I I just found this suspicious all
over. Like, I would have nottold her where it was. Mm-mm. I
I just feel really bad for OPand his daughter.
There's another comment thatsays, I believe this was
premeditated given her askingwhere the box was. She, in
essence, just killed herdaughter's mother a second time.
That's what I said. Okay. Trulynasty, and she needs cereal.
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Cereal? Truly nasty, and sheneeds serious mental health.
Agreed.
Edgar (43:32):
Yeah. No. 100%. No one liked what she did.
Erika (43:35):
Yeah. I mean, honestly, if you can't trust her with
anything like that, what? Shegonna throw away everything she
don't like
Edgar (43:41):
Mhmm.
Erika (43:42):
And say you need to start all over again? No. Divorce.
Edgar (43:46):
Yeah. It's just like a different kind of controlling
behavior. But, yeah, well, it's
Erika (43:49):
basically toxic. This is way toxic. This is the most
toxic story that we read today.
Edgar (43:54):
Perhaps the most evil person ever.
Erika (43:57):
I don't know about that. I think people have done worse.
But
Edgar (44:00):
For your final verdict on this?
Erika (44:04):
I don't know. I I mean, obviously, he's not the asshole.
Edgar (44:07):
No. He's the asshole.
Erika (44:07):
But I like, what would you do in this situation?
Edgar (44:12):
Get a priest. What? I need to excite the evil in his
house.
Erika (44:18):
Fuck you all. That's nice. I get to see that. Oh my
gosh. But seriously, like
Edgar (44:33):
That's what I do. But yeah. So, yeah, I'll be in that,
affluent situation. Oh my god.
Erika (44:40):
I I have
Edgar (44:41):
a ex fiancee right now. Her ex wife is the fiancee, but
that's the one that died. Sheshe
Erika (44:46):
Obviously, what'd you do?
Edgar (44:48):
She didn't have him.
Erika (44:49):
Oh my god. I God bless her. Oh my I would honestly
Edgar (44:57):
I
Erika (44:57):
would divorce. Yeah. This is that's really scary. That is
so like, it's just a differentlevel of controlling. I mean,
what other things has she donethat he doesn't even know?
Like, that he doesn't even like,how toxic she is that she
thought this was gonna be a walkin the park by throwing it away.
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I think he needs to reallyreflect in, like, just divorce,
honestly.
Edgar (45:21):
Mhmm. So, yeah, the next story is titled, am I the
asshole if I wanna break up withmy girl because I am tired of
her testing me all the time.I've been with my girlfriend for
a year now, and she is alwayslooking through my phone to see
if I am doing anything againstour relationship. She goes
through my phone at least twicea week in my computer once a
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week. When I see her with myphone or on my computer, I ask
her what she's doing, and sheoutright says, just checking if
you're cheating.
Two days ago, I went to pick herup at her best friend's house
only to learn that she wasn'tthere. Instead, her best friend
answers the door in in arevealing outfit and trying to
seduce me. I noped my way out ofthere as quickly as my car can
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get out of the driveway. Andwhen I got home, my girl was
there. I sat her down and toldher what happened.
She laughed and said, that wasjust a test, and I passed. I am
so angry right now because Ihave never done anything to say
this type of mistrust. And Iknow she just does this because
her ex used to cheat on her. Iam to my wit's end, and I love
this girl, but I don't thinkthis is healthy. Would I be the
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asshole if I feel like I wannabreak up with her?
And he is not the asshole whowanted to break up with her.
That seems exhausting. Iwouldn't wanna do that every
day.
Erika (46:36):
Oh my god. It's like monitoring you at your every
move. If you blink twice, you'relike, why who do you think about
why are you blinking twice?Exactly. I that's insane.
Edgar (46:47):
That's just like messing with him for, like, no reason.
Like
Erika (46:50):
Poor guy.
Edgar (46:52):
I just found yeah. I didn't think that would just be,
like, a pain to have to dealwith, especially, like, the with
the trap thing.
Erika (46:57):
Yeah. I think it was uncalled for, especially if he
didn't give her any grounds thathe's a cheater. You know, he
shouldn't be treated like acheater because he's not.
Edgar (47:06):
Uh-huh.
Erika (47:08):
The top comment is that's an awful situation. Here's a
plan. Tell her you will break upbecause you don't think she
loves you enough to trust you.Then after she goes crazy, she
will go crazy. Just tell her,oh, honey.
It was just a test. Sorry. Youfailed it. Oh, I like that. But
then also the other top commentis not the asshole.
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That sounds exhausting, whichwhat you said too.
Edgar (47:31):
Yeah. Yeah. Everyone's exhausted by that story.
Erika (47:35):
No. Yes. Absolutely not. I would definitely break up with
her. There's no reason for herto be like that.
Edgar (47:41):
Mhmm.
Erika (47:42):
Being tested twenty four seven to make sure you're not
cheating is crazy to me.
Edgar (47:45):
That's a pop quiz every day.
Erika (47:47):
I think you just oh my god. I think if you're not ready
to trust somebody, you shouldn'tbe in a relationship until you
are able to trust somebody.
Edgar (47:54):
Mhmm. So So you find a little verdict in that.
Erika (47:57):
Not the asshole.
Edgar (47:58):
Nope. Definitely not.
Erika (47:59):
Run. Run while you can.
Edgar (48:01):
Run fast.
Erika (48:02):
Don't look back. So our last story is actually from the
Instagram post, but we can'treally play it because of the
copyright music. I'll read thestory right now. When I was in
high school, my long distanceboyfriends invited me to come on
a summer vacation with them.After begging my mom to let me
go, I learned that we would bestaying on the tiniest cabin for
a week.
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This is the most I've ever beenaround a boy in my entire life.
We had the best time and ate allthe best food. And around the
day three, my stomach started tohurt. I realized I had to fart.
But but knew everyone else wouldhear me in the tiny cabin, so I
held it in.
And I continued eating all thefood all week, and my stomach
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ache was needing to fart becamea stomach ache that I had to
poop. But boys think girls don'tpoop, so I just held it in all
week. No big deal. I got homeand realized after holding it in
for a week, plus, I couldn'tfart or poop. Nothing.
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Afraid to tell my mom I went tobed. I woke up to the most
intense stomach pain. I crawleddown the stairs and got to the
kitchen. I was screaming,crying, and gasping. My mom woke
up, thought I was dying, andrushed me to the ER.
They rushed me back, did bloodwork, CAT scan, my appendix, my
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ovaries, everything. I wassweating, throwing up. My mom
was actually praying. Finally,they came back and said, when
was the last time you passed gasand pooped? My mom stared at me,
and I said, about ten days.
The doctor said, yeah. Well,you're all impacted. We're gonna
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send someone in and give you anenema, and this should clear
itself up. Wait here.
Edgar (49:59):
Did you give her the mochi treatment?
Erika (50:02):
Oh my god. Yeah. We'll explain that later. Then it
comes the hottest male nurseI've ever seen. He tells me to
roll over on my set and slaps onsome gloves.
My mom is laughing her ass off.I'm crying. He starts making
small talk, and I'm humiliated.After he's done, he asked, so
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what has you stopped up? My momsays she didn't wanna poop in
front of her boyfriend.
She thinks boys think girlsdon't poop. The hot nurse pats
the back of my shoulder with mybare, just enema's ass hanging
out and says, we know you poop,and winks, slips his gloves off,
and tosses into the trash andswaggers out. As soon as we got
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back from the hospital, my momcalled my boyfriend's mom to
tell her I was at the hospitaland I'm doing okay. I go to bed.
I wake up to flowers at my doorand my boyfriend says, everybody
poops.
Oh my god. That's soembarrassing.
Edgar (51:07):
That is very embarrassing.
Erika (51:08):
Those stories are the best.
Edgar (51:10):
I know. Yeah. It was funny. It's a good thing we have
it in the description. But,yeah, it's just like when you
gotta go, you gotta go.
Erika (51:17):
Yes. Don't hold it in. Ten days is crazy. Oh my gosh.
Alright.
Edgar (51:23):
That seems painful.
Erika (51:24):
Yeah. No. Oh, and then the mochi story.
Edgar (51:26):
Oh, yeah. Yeah.
Erika (51:27):
My sister Chelsea's friend, found a cat, and Chelsea
faked saying that she found thecat instead. So my mom let her
bring in the kitten that wasabout two weeks old. Yeah. And
since we were, bottle feedinghim and the baby formula made
him clogged up up there, And wehad to take him, what, twice or
three times?
Edgar (51:47):
Yeah. Three times to the vet.
Erika (51:48):
To get him enema?
Edgar (51:50):
Enema. Yeah.
Erika (51:51):
Yeah. And it was just bad. Well, now he's fine. He's,
what, two years old now? Three?
Edgar (51:57):
Yeah. Two years old. Yeah. But he during the first
few, like, days, he had, like, aa swollen belly.
Erika (52:02):
Oh my god. Yes. It was really hard. Poor baby.
Edgar (52:05):
Mhmm.
Erika (52:05):
I think the first time he pooped by himself, my whole
family was cheering, and we wereso happy.
Edgar (52:11):
I wasn't there, but I heard He wasn't? I heard it was
a show.
Erika (52:14):
Yeah. He has, like, little litter box and then it
was the the litter was open andeverybody was just gathering
around the litter box and wewere like, oh my god. I think
he's pooping. And everybody wasaround him and we we, like,
cheered and clapped when he did.It was just yeah.
It was such a struggle. He washe was so cute. We'll probably
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put post a picture there.
Edgar (52:36):
Yeah. What are these days?
Erika (52:37):
He's so cute. Mhmm. So On
Edgar (52:39):
Insta or Facebook?
Erika (52:40):
Yes. He is adorable. So that's all the stories we have
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Yapping!
Erika (00:02):
Hello. This is Erika.
Edgar (00:04):
And Edgar.
Erika (00:05):
And we are the Yapping Schnauzers We entertain you with
the up worthy stories we findaround the web. Today's theme is
jealousy.
Edgar (00:16):
So the first story is titled, I kissed my brother, and
now my fiance wants to break upwith me since he finds it weird.
Am I the asshole? Probablybecause I find this embarrassing
to post, But my head is a messright now, and I need some
assurance that I'm normal. Me,25 female, and my brother, 17
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male, have been close sincechildhood. It wouldn't be a lie
to say that our main lovelanguage is physical touch.
I see him as my baby. He'sadorable and such a sweet kid.
We hug, cuddles, and he alsorelies on me emotionally a lot.
Now comes my fiance, twenty ninemale. We've been together for
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three years now, and he knowsthat I'm close with my brother.
I moved in with my fiance lastyear, so I don't even get to
meet my brother that often. Soevery time I meet and hug him,
my fiance had always made somepassing remark like, well there,
or you guys are sure close. Ijust rolled my eyes since I
thought he was just joking backthen. But five days back, it was
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my mom's birthday. It's beenfour months since I saw my
family in real life aside fromvideo calls as we live in
different cities.
It was a small party withrelatives, and I was happy to be
there. We were planning to stayfor the night and leave the next
morning. At night, my fiance andI were up watching a movie, and
when my brother and Austin cameinside, and he asked if we could
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talk, my fiance gave me a sideeye, but I got up and followed
him. I asked him what was wrong.He said he missed me and that
he's been having a hard time atschool since he's struggling
with his studies.
He's a smart kid. He's at thetop of his school, unlike me,
and I know he always had stressissues. He also mentioned how
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his friends are being very rudeto him and in one way or the
other, and this made him crywhile talking about it. So,
obviously, I was consoling him.We talked for around one hour
before I hugged him sayingeverything will be fine.
And this is when my fiancewalked in and asked, are you
guys done? He sounded upset, andhe could have phased that
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brother. But after a few moreminutes, I got up, gave my
brother a kiss on the cheek, andtold him we could continue to
talk tomorrow. But once I gotinside the room with my fiance,
I think hell broke loose. Hestarted telling me how gross I
was for kissing my own brother.
He said he was already upsetthat I have hugged, cuddled, and
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had my brother lay on my lapbefore on other occasions, but
now the kissing was the finalnail in the coffin. He said that
I prioritize my brother morethan I do for him, which is not
true at all. I hardly see mybrother ever since I moved out.
He also said that I'm not seeingmy brother as my family and that
our relationship is not normal.He literally told me, you guys
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are in love and is having anaffair, and that he hates how we
touch each other since it comesoff as sexual.
I'm aware a lot of siblingsdon't do physical touch, but it
doesn't say anywhere doing it iswrong. I don't understand what
is sexual about this. Pleasehelp me understand. These made
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me feel so awful, so I told himthat my then father, separated
now, was really abusive to mymom. Me and my brother has kids,
which often makes me feel like Ishould protect him, and that's
all there is to it.
But he didn't even let meexplain before he just left the
room. The next day, he calledhis mom and said he wanted to
break off with me. I talked toher myself, and she said I
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should stay away from my brotherif the marriage has to happen
since it could affect my fiancementally as he is a single
child. So he wouldn't understandhow siblings feel. She said it's
better for the both of us.
Now I'm conflicted because Idon't understand what I did
wrong. I never felt like I didanything to warrant a breakup. I
love my brother, and I love myfiance too. I knew my fiance
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always made backhanded remarksabout my brother before, but it
never crossed my mind he took itso seriously as her that day.
Please.
Am I the asshole? Am I reallyacting weirdly with my brother?
If I am, please tell me what Ican do to not be like this that
wouldn't hurt my brother in theprocess too. Well, the story was
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a lot wasn't as bad as that Iwas gonna be.
Erika (04:36):
Exactly. I am just flabbergasted here. The the way
they're both gaslighting her isinsane.
Edgar (04:47):
Wait. Who's both? The mother and
Erika (04:49):
The mother and the, what, boyfriend, fiance?
Edgar (04:51):
Yeah. The fiance.
Erika (04:53):
I can't even I'm just shook. How is it inappropriate
to hug or kiss your brother inthe cheek?
Edgar (05:07):
I don't know. I think what what set it up for me was
that he's, like, a single child.He's an only child. Yeah. So he
probably just yeah.
I think his mom's correct insaying that he just doesn't
understand, but I think it'salso another another thing could
be that he's just, like, alittle bit insecure about the,
like, the relationship.
Erika (05:26):
I don't think he's insecure. I think he's
controlling.
Edgar (05:29):
You think so?
Erika (05:30):
A hundred percent. I think he just wants her
attention on him, and that's it.He doesn't want any other person
to be in her life, and that tome is controlling. I think
there's a million red flagshere, including his family,
because who wants to be a partof a family that literally tells
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you it's the best for both ofyou to stay away from your
brother? No.
No, ma'am. It's best for him,not for her. What do you mean
letting go of the relationshipof your brother just for your
fiance? I I don't think so. Ithink they also have a trauma
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bond where, you know, they feelclose to that who they've gone
through that with, you know,when they were younger.
Edgar (06:21):
Yeah.
Erika (06:22):
So I I think also they rely on each other a lot for
emotional support, which you seea lot with trauma bonds.
Edgar (06:29):
Mhmm. And
Erika (06:29):
the fact that they don't understand that and they want
her to stay away from herbrother is crazy to me. He is
definitely a complete asshole,and he just needs to get over
himself. And I would honestlybreak up with him. There's just
no excuse for it at all.
Edgar (06:48):
Hope he hasn't seen his his family in, like, four
months.
Erika (06:52):
Yeah. That's another red flag too because it looks like
since she's moved out, it's beenall about him, all the doting on
him, all the time on him thatshe hasn't even been able to see
his her family. And so rightthere, once again, that's
controlling. So the top commentis, as much as it hurts, be
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thankful that your fiance isshowing his true colors before
you got married. What if you hada child and he wants to dictate
your interactions there too?
Forget him and forget his mom.They are gaslighting you because
he's an insecure mama's boy.Dump that prick and live
happily. Not the asshole.
Edgar (07:31):
Mhmm. Yeah. I agree. Because, like, the relationship
that OP has with brother, like,from the title, it seemed like
it was gonna be a lot worse, butit seems like a simple like, it
just look like they're closeand, OP worded it weirdly when
it said that their love languageis physical touch. I think it's
just more like it is, like, justbeing close to each other.
It's just covered in each other.Yeah. Covered in each other.
Erika (07:51):
Yeah. And I think also it has to do with culture. I think
that's a big part of their lovelanguage, I guess, or their, you
know, their emotional and andphysical touch. I don't think
it's nothing wrong with huggingyour brother or kissing him the
cheek. I think at least for, youknow, Hispanic culture, when you
see somebody you kiss you kissthem on the on the cheek, or you
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hug them or you do a side cheekto cheek.
You know, it's normal. Or it'snot nothing about sexual or
anything like that. It's justhow you say hi to somebody.
Edgar (08:21):
Mhmm.
Erika (08:22):
It could also be that, but I still think he's a
controlling asshole, and sheneeds to break up with him. It's
crazy that he accused her ofhaving an affair with his
brother.
Edgar (08:33):
Yeah. That's even weird. Like, it just I think that voice
the truth isn't, like, kindamessed up.
Erika (08:38):
Yeah. I don't I don't get it. Like, I think he's just
looking at it under a microscopeand and seeing something that
there's not. He has definitelywent too far. And the fact that
she's doubting herself sayingthat, am I in the wrong here?
Shows how much he has put stuffin her head saying that
something is wrong with you whenthere wasn't. Mhmm. So, yeah,
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final verdict.
Edgar (09:04):
Yeah. OP isn't the asshole.
Erika (09:06):
Yeah. Not the asshole.
Edgar (09:08):
Yeah. Definitely, OP's fiance and his mother to a
certain extent. I think themother is just, like, kind of
Erika (09:15):
The mother is asshole too.
Edgar (09:16):
I say she's just one-sided because, of course,
she's always gonna side with herkid. You know?
Erika (09:20):
She's What
Edgar (09:21):
what parent went to side with their kid?
Erika (09:24):
Sometimes, but very, very rarely you see that happen.
Still, she's an asshole. Mhmm.Okay. So next story is, am I the
asshole for telling mysister-in-law that she is not on
the same level as my wife?
Throw away because my wife andher sister have my mane. My
wife, Ava, fake name, femaletwenty eight, and I'm, male
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thirty, just had our first setof kids in a pair of twin boys.
We had met and dated throughoutcollege and after graduation.
Got married in a simpleceremony. My wife is a nurse,
and now I'm an engineer.
My wife is a quiet type,especially in large social
gatherings. And I'm very petite.I think that will be important
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later. Honestly, I'm not muchdifferent, and that's how we hit
it off because our friend groupsdragged us to a party we didn't
really want to be at. That said,one on one or in a patient, she
is very, very warm and allsmiles.
We tried for over a year to getpregnant, and my swimmers
weren't doing their job.
Edgar (10:28):
Yeah. So
Erika (10:31):
we were thrilled to become parents, and finding out
it was twins was even better. Mywife's sister, female twenty
five, on the other hand, is apiece of work. She relies on
guys to fund her lifestyle. Shejumps from guy to guy or scams
them online. If I had proof ofthe catfishing or scams, I will
report it.
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She has no education past highschool. She's trying to become
an Instagram influencer, butonly has a hundred followers.
She is constantly
Edgar (11:00):
ugly dude. I feel like it's I feel like for female
Instagram influencers, it's justvery easy for them to get, like,
hundreds of thousands offollowers. So It
Erika (11:08):
really is.
Edgar (11:08):
They only get a hundred?
Erika (11:10):
Well, I mean, you also have to keep in mind how you get
a hundred. I mean, the thousandsof followers by showing what.
Edgar (11:18):
You're just putting no effort.
Erika (11:21):
Yeah. Okay.
Edgar (11:21):
Low effort at a low effort career.
Erika (11:27):
Anyways, she is constantly trying to make it
rich quick and still lives withher parents. No hate on this
part, but it's just to show howfinancially irresponsible she
is. She buys the centereverything and eats out all the
time. We waited until the boysfor a few weeks before we let
anyone come over. My wife had torecover, and she wanted to bond
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with our boys not interrupted.
Anything for her. I had to beatmy my this is funny. I had to
beat my mom back with a stick,not literally, but it was worth
the piece. I wanted only one setof family at a time, so we
didn't get overwhelmed andsuggested her parents first. Her
parents brought her sister.
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Now up to this point, her sisterhad been super interested in the
pregnancy and helped throw thebaby shower. She would drop off
my wife's snacks and things shementioned a craving. Overall, it
seemed like a turning point forthem because before the
pregnancy, their relationshiphad been strained. Childhood
competition, fighting over whodated who first, etcetera. I
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went to the kitchen to makelunch while they sat and
chatted.
Her sister came in to help well,that's what I thought. She set
up plates and things and startedasking about the labor, the last
couple of weeks, etcetera. Ithought she was trying to let me
vent or find some ways to behelpful, but I told her
everything was going prettysmoothly. She made the comment,
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too bad. She's ruined now.
I heard she ripped from her b toher a and won't be pleasing to
look at.
Edgar (12:59):
Bro, that's gross.
Erika (13:01):
It's very common, actually, which it's because
usually when, you know, the babyis pushed out, yeah, you have
the elbows, tucked into the bodyand sometimes the babies have
them out which causes rips a lotof pretty often. So it's a
common thing. So back to story.Now it is true that there was
some tearing, but consideringher size and the size of the
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boys, I don't think it's toouncommon. I just looked at her
and asked why she would saysomething so disrespectful about
her sister.
She told me it's just the truth,and I would realize ugly scars
down there would be the totalturn off. She then leaned across
the table and did that thingsgirls do to make their boobs
look bigger by crossing her armsunder them and squeezing. She
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then leaned across the table anddid that thing girls do to make
their boobs look bigger bycrossing their arms under them
and squeezing and said, I knowyou only really wanted her as a
mother because of her nursingthing, and went on about how
much happier I would be withsomeone more my level. I told
her in no uncertain terms thatshe wasn't anywhere near my
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level, and she could forget everreaching my wife's level either.
I told her that being a swindlerand not and not respecting
herself online until guys didn'tmake her this hot attractive
thing she thinks she is.
It's actually sad to watchbecause everyone knows she can
do so much better and would begreat at whatever she put
herself to, but she choosesdeadbeats who would pay for her
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photos instead. I told her mywife worked until eight months
while pregnant with twins, howshe does volunteer work for the
animal shelter, how she stillfusses over me even though we
now have the boys, and how justamazing I really think she is. I
told her she could never evenscratch at the level my wife is
on, so take her weirdness out ofmy house. And I just walked her
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out. I pulled the parents asideand explained what happened,
then sent them the kitchen videoof it because we have indoor
cameras in the common areas forsecurity, kitchen facing the
back door, living room facingthe front door, hallway, and
stairs.
They were livid, but at me.
Edgar (15:15):
Okay.
Erika (15:15):
They stormed out for disrespecting their younger
daughter in a way that made hercry. After showing my wife, she
thought I was a little harsh inshutting her down, but was so
thankful that I made her leaveand stood up to her. My
sister-in-law and her parentsare demanding an apology. I'm
not going to apologize. Am I theasshole?
Edgar (15:35):
No. Clearly not. Like, the sister was trying to make a
move on him, and she she clearlyfailed, and she just got put in
her place.
Erika (15:43):
Exactly. I wouldn't have said it better. She just thought
she was gonna shoot her shot andmake it go in, and she didn't.
It was a fail. Yeah.
And that's just gross. Like, why
Edgar (15:57):
Like, her sister just had a baby, and now you're gonna
just swoop in and take his man.Like
Erika (16:02):
That's insane. That you know, why have a family ever or
enemies? She is your enemy. Sheshould stay away from her.
Edgar (16:09):
She got the spirit of Jezebel in there.
Erika (16:11):
Oh my god.
Edgar (16:12):
For real. Like, I think the sister's, like, such a mess.
I got for but for some reason,when I'm imagining the story,
I'm just thinking the sister is,like, you know, like like, a
cute, pretty, and petite, andher her little sister is just
like a devil version of her.
Erika (16:27):
I don't know. I I think it's she I think she has really
low self esteem because anywoman that does this or tries to
get with a man that has a wifeor is in a relationship has low
self esteem because they don'trespect themselves enough to
know that they deserve betterand that they should be with
somebody that's not in arelationship.
Edgar (16:47):
Mhmm.
Erika (16:47):
I think it's it's just she's sad. Like, I I it
frustrated me a little bit, butthen when you really think about
it, I think she really needsmore self assurance and higher
self esteem.
Edgar (17:01):
I'm not giving any mercy for her. She's just being lazy.
That's why instead of going forher potential, she's just trying
to get any sugary diabetes youcan that she can have interested
in her for the the upcomingweek. She's got flavors of the
week, maybe flavors of the daysconsidering her attention span.
Erika (17:16):
I don't know. I think, you know, maybe she got hurt at
some point.
Edgar (17:22):
She's only hurting herself.
Erika (17:23):
Well, that's the thing. She is hurting herself. She
needs help.
Edgar (17:27):
She's like, I need help because I'm hurt. Who hurt you?
Myself.
Erika (17:30):
Oh my gosh. I think she needs to to, talk about her
feelings, and I think she needsshe needs a therapy. She needs
therapy, honestly. Mhmm. Sheneeds a little bit, more self
care, girl.
You can do better.
Edgar (17:47):
Yeah. Whatever. But, yeah, she's not getting I
apologize, though.
Erika (17:50):
Oh, no. I fail no. She could do better, but, no, she he
she does not deserve no apology.And the parents, excuse me, I
think this is they're part ofthe reason why she is how she is
because, clearly, she can do nowrong. They literally saw a
video of her trying to hit ontheir daughter's husband and
said he should apologize.
Edgar (18:09):
I know. It's just like I've seen the video. It should
be more than enough to, like,shut she down the sister, but
instead to just take her side.
Erika (18:16):
Yeah. It makes no sense. They they also need therapy.
King. Everybody needs therapy.
Edgar (18:22):
Like, what?
Erika (18:24):
No. I I think everybody needs therapy.
Edgar (18:26):
No mercy.
Erika (18:27):
And it's just crazy to me. But there is an update.
Edgar (18:31):
Oh, really?
Erika (18:32):
Yes. It's a little bit long, so bear with me. After
they left, I took a couple hoursbefore posting because I felt I
made my wife upset, and I hatedoing that. Apparently, at that
time, my wife and I were blockedfrom my sister in law's social
media, and I was blocked by herparents. By the time I posted, I
missed 40 some calls, messages.
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I assume it was her parentsstill bugging about the apology
or or her texting me, calling menames. I went downstairs to find
my wife in tears because someonehad the nerve to be screaming
down the phone at her. It washer uncle. I took the phone,
shouted him down until heexplained what he heard.
Apparently, sister-in-lawimmediately went around claiming
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I was a disgusting pig whotouched her inappropriately and
said all terrible things she hadsaid.
And he was pissed at my wife fordefending me.
Edgar (19:26):
I'm telling you, she deserves no nothing. Just no
mercy at all.
Erika (19:30):
No. I'm done. I'm second guessing you.
Edgar (19:32):
There's no redemption for her. Just in a pit just in a pit
of hell.
Erika (19:36):
I am second guessing the funny well, not the funny urge.
Just saying that she needstherapy. Okay. I caught the call
and sent the video to him. Itried to check her accounts and
found that I was blocked.
My wife tried and found she wasblocked. I checked my phone and
all the ignored noise wasvarious family members on her
side. I didn't bother callingthem. I just sent the video to
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each and every one of them, thenposted it in all my accounts and
tagged her and her parents. Iused my wife's phone to post it
to her parents' account with herpermission.
I sat down with my wife to askwhat she wanted to do, but she
just started crying. Eventually,she said she hated them and
started to cry even more. I justfeel so bad for OP, well, for
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his wife. Mhmm. She literallyjust gave birth to twins, and
all she wanted was to have apeaceful, you know, recovery
time, especially with babyblues.
And it's twins is insane. Mhmm.Clearly, she wasn't in the
headspace to make decisions thataffected anything long term. So
I suggested we just go to nocontact temporarily. And after
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some time, discussed if weshould make it permanent or not.
She agreed. He suggestedtherapy. Thank you, everyone,
because I would not have thoughtabout this myself. She was
hesitant, but after a bigpushing, she agreed. I didn't
bully her, just pointed out thatthis was all terrible, that she
went through so much and thatwhile I can listen and snuggle
her, I am not unbiased, and Idon't have all the tools a
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therapist would.
She doesn't seem depressed, butall their crying is getting to
me. I hate seeing her like this.I asked that we should change
the locks and add a few morecameras outside. She agreed. I
asked if she wanted to tell myparents they can't have a key or
need to wait a few more days tovisit, but she said they can
come and they can have a key.
My mom and wife don't always seeeye to eye, but tend to team up
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against me. The noise the noisedied down by dinner time, but
there was almost no noapologies. A few cousins
apologize to my wife and heraunt. I told her friends what
happened. They brought over mywife's favorite dinner and my
favorite snacks.
Her BFF stayed the night. My onefriend suggested getting a
lawyer involved for the attemptto ask slander. He knows a guy,
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and I now have a meeting withhim. I didn't tell my wife. I
just want to see what theoptions are.
She needs some rest before wereally do anything. My parents
are over now, and I slept awayfor an update. My mother offered
to stay for a few days to cookand clean. I think my wife might
accept it. She showed us how toswallow the boys and gave us all
these warnings against juice inbottles at bedtime when they are
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older because it could rot theirteeth.
I started a whole conversationabout no serum milk bottles
because of choking hazard andother things. I think the baby
talk has taken her mind offthings. Her best friend has been
playing a weird mix of guard dogand mama bear to my wife, and
I'm glad she has the support.The BFF checks and screens the
calls and messages beforeletting my wife see anything. If
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it's terrible, she haspermission to send the video,
and this is all on my wife'srequest.
She doesn't wanna face hate fromher family right now. I managed
to get screenshots of the postfrom friends. I had those same
friends creep their profilesthis morning, and the post have
been removed. Apparently, itturns to a bloodbath in the
comments going from support tooutrage of being lied to. We got
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a few more apologies, and theysound sincere and damn it.
They were too ashamed to talk tous yesterday be after the video
was sent. I still banned therest of her family from visiting
until further notice. Info diettime for them as well until we
know who won't feed pictures orinfo to those three terrible
people. My wife locked hersister this morning from her
phone, but I'm leaving themunblocked. So if they try
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anything, I have proof.
I think that's it. Unpleasant. Iknew they favored sister-in-law,
but I didn't realize it was thatmuch. I'm going to help my wife
find therapist in the next fewdays. Any questions, I will try
to answer.
Edgar (23:32):
Yes. As I was saying, no mercy.
Erika (23:34):
Isn't that crazy update? I did not think it was gonna
turn to, like, in that whole,like, lies and Uh-huh. Oh.
Edgar (23:43):
Yeah. All that. But the I think the lawyer is not the best
idea if he's list if he's evergonna watch this just because
what does the sister-in-law haveto, like, to lose? Nothing. If
she if he wants a case, what onedo you do is he gonna get?
Like I
Erika (23:57):
guess from the parents.
Edgar (24:00):
I just don't think that would be worth it. But other
than that, yeah, it's a goodthing that she has, like, the
video proof because otherwise,OP's reputation would just be
ruined because the sister-in-lawlike, they would take her to
work saying, oh, he's, like, asexual predator.
Erika (24:14):
So, yeah, it took a turn for the worst. I honestly think
that there's just so much goingon with her sister and the
parents that it's insane. Ican't believe they decided to
just attack their daughter andsister like this, especially
after giving birth. I honestlythink they should just caught
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contact. Their toxicity isinsane.
Edgar (24:41):
Yeah. It looks like they're so they're in no contact
with the parents and thesister-in-law. And I feel like
the sister-in-law yeah. It'spretty safe to say that they
they shouldn't have her in theirlife as at all. But the parents,
like, they feel kind of bad,but, like, they took Yeah.
My sister-in-law aside. So
Erika (24:56):
Yeah. And and they shouldn't have. I I I don't
know. I I at this point, I thinkshe just should have prioritized
her health and the babies, andnobody else matters because
that's what's more importantright now.
Edgar (25:10):
Yeah.
Erika (25:10):
So I would definitely say he is not that asshole
Edgar (25:14):
Mhmm.
Erika (25:14):
And the sister-in-law and the parent are.
Edgar (25:17):
Yeah. Definitely.
Erika (25:18):
100%. And, also, the verdict was that he is not the
asshole for the story.
Edgar (25:26):
So the next story is titled am I the asshole for how
I punish my stepdaughter forflushing her sister's spices
down the toilet? I, 42 male,married my current wife when my
daughter, 16, was four and mystepdaughter, 14, was two. They
grew up as if they were bloodsiblings with occasional
disagreements and jealousyissues, mostly from my
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stepdaughter. Two days ago wasmy daughter's dog's their deaf
anniversary. Usually at thistime, she'd rather be alone to
write poems or look at picturesof her beloved dog.
This year, she asked me to gowith her to visit his grave,
which is located in hergrandparents' farm. My wife
appreciates my daughter's needto have time alone. My
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stepdaughter wanted to come withus, though she wasn't close to
the dog. My daughter refused tolet her come and only wanted me
to go. My stepdaughter fit andassisted on coming.
I sat her down to explain hersister's need for space that
day. She stopped after that. Weleft, and fifteen minutes later,
my wife texted me that mystepdaughter had a breakdown and
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didn't stop crying, then flushedall her sister's spices that
were in separate containers downthe toilet. They were a gift for
my daughter's Asian friend's momsince my daughter is into Asian
food and cooks meals every week.I was stunned.
I called my wife but got noresponse. My daughter asked
what's wrong, but I just droppedher off at her grandparents'
farm then went back home. Mystepdaughter refused to come out
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of a room yelling that mydaughter deserved it for
excluding her like that. I waspissed. I told her I'd punish
her for wasting spices that wereimportant to her sister that she
shouldn't even touch by takingfrom her savings to pay for the
damages, but my wife thought I'donly take away privileges, not
money my stepdaughter saved.
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She said she's so kid and shewon't let me touch your savings
but will pay herself. If my wifepaid, then my stepdaughter would
think her behavior is okay. Shealso said my daughter is to
blame too for not letting herstep sister come with her. She
acted as if she never goes tothe farm, though I take them
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there twice a month. I arguethat this was, in my opinion,
the right punishment to get thisresolved.
My wife said I was only makingmy stepdaughter resent me
because she wants the money fora new bicycle. We kept
disagreeing on this, and all Iwas thinking was my daughter's
reaction when I told her. Shewas devastated, but I assured
her I was taking steps to helpher replace all the spices she
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lost. My wife called me cruel.Anybody asshole?
Erika (28:01):
Absolutely not.
Edgar (28:02):
Yeah. I mean, it's a little bit ridiculous,
stepdaughter's, like, reactionto that.
Erika (28:08):
I believe he's doing the right thing there here because,
honestly, if she wanted to buythat bike that she was staying
off for, then she shouldn't haveflushed down her sister's food
and spices. Like, that's insaneto me. And then the fact that
the mom did not pick up thephone call and manipulate the
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situation so he could drop offher doll his daughter, and he
didn't get to spend that timewith her to grief her dog and
leave her there and then go backto deal with her daughter is
literally manipulation rightthere. She's being completely
biased, and she's jealous of therelationship he has with his
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daughter. I don't think he didanything wrong with just going
his daughter and him to the farm
Edgar (28:58):
Yeah.
Erika (28:58):
Since it's not her dog. I mean, I guess they could have,
like, a little bit more of asentimental thing and could have
taken her with her, but there'snothing there because she
doesn't really care about thedog. So she's there for what?
Edgar (29:11):
I guess she has to be there.
Erika (29:13):
Yeah. But the the you know, it's it's like a private
moment between her and her
Edgar (29:17):
dad. Yeah.
Erika (29:18):
So the fact that she couldn't respect that and did
all that and threw all the stuffin the in the bathroom and
flushed it, it was sodisrespectful and resentful. And
honestly, jealousy. That was alljealous in saying that she
deserved it was uncalled for.Were you done the same thing?
What would you be yourpunishment if your daughter did
that?
Edgar (29:38):
Grounded and painting back the damages because that's,
like, an important lessonanyway. Like, if if you do
damage any, like, actualproperty, like, outside of your
home, you're gonna have to payfor it, like, either in, like,
jail time or in fines.
Erika (29:49):
Exactly.
Edgar (29:49):
So this is just basically, like, a small version
of a fine, but that's just,like, something she shouldn't.
Like, I I don't think I don'tagree with the other parents'
excuse that it's cruel to havethe stepdaughter's, money go
into that instead of her bikebecause that's just like it's a
it's like your punishment.
Erika (30:08):
Exactly. And the fact that she wants to pay you for
it, she's not learning anything.
Edgar (30:12):
She's gonna just think it's fine. And at least, like,
for now, like, of course, thestepdaughter is gonna be upset
about this, but when she growsup and she, like, looks back at
all the less learned, I thinkshe will appreciate it a little
bit more.
Erika (30:24):
Exactly. Because right now, if her mom is to pay for
it, she'd be like, okay. My if Ido anything wrong, my mom's
gonna be there to fix it, andthere's no consequences, which
is the wrong thing to teach yourchild.
Edgar (30:35):
Yeah.
Erika (30:36):
So the top comment is the consequences you came up with is
absolutely fair since when doconsequences need to be adapted
and tailored to the kid'spreferences? You also shouldn't
be afraid to insist on aconsequence just because she's
your stepdaughter. You've raisedher most of her life. Moreover,
what she did was wrong. So shewanted to save up for her new
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bicycle?
Well, her sister wanted to savethose spices for cooking a meal.
She owes her sister monetarycompensation. The whole point is
to show her that it is not worthdoing something like this again.
If your third daughter is sad,upset about this consequence,
that means it's working, notthat asshole.
Edgar (31:16):
Agreed.
Erika (31:16):
100%. I think he's being fair, and the stepmother is
being an asshole because she'snot allowing her daughter to get
the consequences of her actions.
Edgar (31:26):
Yeah. Do you find this to be, like, a divorce both hands?
Erika (31:29):
No. I wouldn't say divorce. I would just say you
and I would need to talk. If Iwas the husband, I'd be like, we
need to talk, sit down aboutwhat needs to be done. And even
though we're not seeing eye toeye, maybe we need a third
person.
And this is where you wouldthink therapy is not really
worth it, but I feel like thisis great here because then
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you'll see a different view andwill give you an input that
maybe you two are not looking atand will help you decide. So I
think family therapy would begreat at this point. And I know
a lot of people can't reallyafford it or don't have, you
know, interest in that, but Ithink family therapy would be
amazing for this. Or as I don'tknow, where are they gonna get
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their third person that's notbiased for the situation?
Edgar (32:16):
Well, you need to be a little bit biased about this
because, like, it's about thekids. And I feel like this is
something between those twoindividuals, OPA and his fiancee
or his wife.
Erika (32:26):
But they're not seeing eye to eye. All they've been
doing is disagreeing.
Edgar (32:29):
Yeah. But the part but the important thing about, like,
disagreements and arguments isthat you guys had to see eye to
eye, like, somehow. Like, youhad to come to terms with that.
You don't need, like, a thirdperson, like, helping you or,
like, inserting themselves intothe situation. Because then it's
like, oh, it's not us twosolving the problem.
It's, like, us three, figuringout, some issue or some
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solution.
Erika (32:51):
Well, that's because they provide you tools to solve for
next time.
Edgar (32:54):
I could just use chat.
Erika (32:57):
Okay.
Edgar (32:57):
Or YouTube.
Erika (32:58):
Still, it's I think it's an amazing option if, you know,
they are able to do that.
Edgar (33:04):
The therapist is just like a clutch because they can
just figure it out themselvesand just, like, grow, like,
their communication and, like,their attachment and, like, cue
like, their style of seeing eachother for seeing each other eye
to eye.
Erika (33:18):
The I I don't think you understand what therapy is. I
think for you, therapy is like aunnecessary third person. But
for me, it that's not the case.A a therapist is someone that
helps you get to a conclusionand doesn't, you know,
necessarily tell you what to do,but helps you get to where you
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need to be in a relationship.And it's helping to see each
other for who they are andtrying to figure out how they
could communicate with eachother because everybody has a
different way of showing, youknow, either affection or a
different way of communication.
And this a therapist helps youunderstand each other. It's not
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just, oh, you know, do this, dothat. That's that's not how it
works. Obviously, trying to finda good therapist is hard. That's
why you you can't just be like,the first therapist I go to,
that's the person I'm staying ifyou don't click with that
person.
And then that doesn't mean goingto a therapist so they can tell
you what you wanna hear. Itmeans that you you can vibe with
that person.
Edgar (34:23):
I vibe with no one.
Erika (34:26):
Oh my god. You and whatever.
Edgar (34:29):
I go into the the therapy session and bring in all my
negative energy.
Erika (34:32):
Oh my god.
Edgar (34:33):
Just to harm them.
Erika (34:35):
You're so dumb. I think therapist and therapy as
eventually, as if you need it,and and a relationship would be
great. I think it's helpful.However, not everybody has to
agree, but I think that's a goodoption.
Edgar (34:53):
I'll find a verdict on this.
Erika (34:55):
He is not the asshole. He's doing a good job in
parenting. The wife needs somehelp there.
Edgar (35:02):
Yeah. I agree. Hope he's not the asshole.
Erika (35:07):
Okay. And the next story is, am I the asshole for
ignoring my wife for throwingaway my late wife videotapes?
I'm writing this because I don'tknow what to do. I have a
daughter with my late wife, andher name is Eleanor. Her
birthday is coming up in twoweeks, and she's turning 18.
Background. Me and my late wife,Chloe, have been dating since
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college. We got older and endedup getting married. And after
our wedding, she shared news tome that she was pregnant, and I
was excited that we wereexpecting our first child. Since
it was our first child, webought a video camera and made
little tapes and snippets of herwhole pregnancy.
Wholesome things such as just usjoking around or having lunch or
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talking to our unborn childthrough the camera. We made a
promise to only show Eleanor thetapes until her eighteenth
birthday. Fast forward two yearsafter her birth, Chloe passed
away due to a drunk drivercrashing into her car as she was
coming home from her mother'shouse. I I was devastated of her
passing and went into a deepdepression and having to raise
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our two year old daughter bymyself. My friends tried to get
me out again and start backdating, but every time I did, I
felt like I was betraying her.
Years later, when Eleanor was13, I met Wendy. We met at a
gathering for my sister'sbirthday, and we instantly hit
it off. She didn't mind that Ihad a daughter because she had
two kids herself and just wentthrough a divorce. Three years
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after we got married, now backto the present, Eleanor,
eighteen, birthday is coming up.And I kept all the tapes for me
to show her.
Mind you, her mother died whenshe was just two, so Eleanor
doesn't remember her touch orher voice. I was excited to show
her the tapes a week ago. I wastalking to Wendy about it, and I
noticed her expression going tohappy to looking a bit
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uncomfortable. Wendy wouldalways get uncomfortable when I
talk about my late wife. I don'tsay things like, why can't you
be more like Khloe?
Or Khloe was only supposed to bemy first love. But I talk about
her in a way to give my daughtera mental picture of what her
mother was like. Wendy hasalways talked to me about Khloe
and how it made her sad that shecan never be like her. Khloe was
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a model then started working onher fashion career. And don't
get me wrong, she was a reallybeautiful woman, but Wendy had
two kids in college and not inthe best shape due to her words.
I love both women how they are,and I've never had a preference,
but I feel like Wendy is gainingsome jealousy towards Khloe. I
told Wendy that I love her justthe way she was, and she broke
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down crying. The next day afterthat incident, she came up to me
and apologized for the way sheacted last night. I told her it
was okay and it was good thatshe felt comfortable to share
her feelings, and I gave her atight hug and a kiss on her
forehead. She asked to see wherethe tapes were at, and I showed
her the box of videotapes of mylate wife in my closet.
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Things were going fine untilyesterday morning. I was looking
for the tapes because I wantedto put them in a prettier box
for my daughter. And when I wentto go find them, the box wasn't
in my closet. I lookedeverywhere to the point I walked
downstairs to see my wife layingon the couch watching TV. I
asked her about the box, and shetold me she threw it away with a
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neutral expression.
Edgar (38:19):
Heartless?
Erika (38:20):
My heart dropped. And I asked her, what did she mean?
She told me that I talked abouther too much, and I need to move
on with my life, so she threwthem away as a head start. Ugh.
I was fuming with anger becausenot only did she throw away what
I had left of her, she threwaway my daughter's big surprise.
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We quickly got into an argument,and she noticed how angry I was,
so she started apologizing. Igot to the point I started
crying and locked myself in ourbedroom. It's the morning, and
I'm writing this in my office,going through my computer,
finding old files of any type ofvideo of my late wife to give it
to my daughter because sometimesmy daughter still cries that she
never got to meet her mother,and I really thought it would
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bring her closer to her. I'vebeen ignoring my wife for the
past day, and she's been textingme nonstop about how sorry she
is, but I really just can't lookat her right now. She's getting
to the point our mutual friendsare texting me to accept her
apology and get over it sinceKhloe died over ten years ago.
But I'm trying to ignore themall because they never had
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someone so close to them die. Iam working on finding these
files, but in the meantime, I'llupdate you guys when something
happens. Am I the asshole?
Edgar (39:36):
No. I don't think she's the asshole in this situation.
Erika (39:39):
Oh my gosh.
Edgar (39:40):
It's, like, pretty, yeah, heart wrenching. And then the
wife, she said, coldly, yeah. Ijust wrote it up. Like, it was a
Erika (39:47):
big deal. Mhmm. Oh my
Edgar (39:49):
It's just, like, someone's memory and, like, she
just destroyed it for whatreason? Because she's, like,
she's jealous.
Erika (39:54):
Yeah. And it's not only his memory. It's his daughter's.
Mhmm. Like, she died when shewas two years old, and she had
no memory of her.
And not only was the surpriseruined, but also the only
memories she would have had ofher mom, her, like, mom. I think
she needs to work on herself.She needs to really dig deep in
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there because what she did wasso wrong. And the fact that she
was so nonchalant watching TVafter what she did is crazy to
me. It just shows you that shedidn't care.
It was, like, good riddance.It's so sad. Yeah. It's so sad.
So the top comment is, dearlord, I'm honestly not one to
advocate for divorce.
Edgar (40:38):
I'm gonna say I thought you were gonna say violence. Me
too
Erika (40:41):
for a second, for divorce. But I do not think I
could continue a relationshipwith someone who did something
so wildly despicable. That isn'tjealousy. That's a mental
disorder.
Edgar (40:53):
You guys cooking
Erika (40:56):
her. She stole the only vestige of your wife that your
daughter will have. This is notsomething you come back from or
she can apologize for. This is aline in the sand.
Edgar (41:08):
Yeah. I think this is like a divorceable offense.
Yeah. Like, destroying anyproperty is, like, pretty bad,
but, like, destroying somethingthat's, like, that's
sentimental, from your own,like, husband or, like, your own
partner is, like, not messthat's pretty messed up. Like,
it's like you're crossing allthe boundaries there.
You're like, I wouldn't be safe.Like, I wouldn't feel like my
stuff is safe. I feel like firstthing I do
Erika (41:29):
You mean you're not safe?
Edgar (41:31):
Yeah. I wouldn't feel
Erika (41:32):
She throw you away too?
Edgar (41:33):
Yeah. Like, one day one morning, I wake up and, like,
oh, where am I? And then thegarbage can be like, oh, someone
put you in the garbage.
Erika (41:39):
Oh my gosh. No.
Edgar (41:40):
Yeah. And I I I would feel safe, but, I mean, like, I
wouldn't feel like any of mystuff is safe, and my stuff is
the most important thing to me.
Erika (41:47):
You're so funny. Yeah. I honestly feel like she not only
did she throw away the lastmemory, it's like throwing it's
like killing his wife all overagain. Like, if you because
that's the only thing she hadMhmm. And he had of the wife.
So now they have nothing. Whatare they gonna do? Absolutely.
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It's gone.
Edgar (42:10):
That's why you gotta make everything digital?
Erika (42:12):
Well, I mean, he said he tried looking for that. But, you
know, back then, those tapes,you can't really
Edgar (42:16):
Mhmm. It's like an annoying process of
Erika (42:18):
Yeah. And I think she needs mental health. She needs a
therapist.
Edgar (42:23):
A mental therapist?
Erika (42:24):
Oh, now now you agree with me?
Edgar (42:26):
Like, the kind of therapist that they that talks
to you when you have, like, whenyou're in in a straight jacket.
Erika (42:31):
Oh my god. Well, I don't know.
Edgar (42:34):
Like a different kind of Wicked.
Erika (42:37):
Yeah. I mean I mean, honestly, I I had, like, a
little inkling when she waslike, oh, where is the tapes? I
was a little bit, like,suspicious then because when he
mentioned it, she didn't lookhappy at all.
Edgar (42:48):
Yeah. I'd be like, it's in the cloud. Not here. Not
anywhere.
Erika (42:52):
Well, I think you're in the cloud in the iPhone, so you
couldn't do anything. Imagineshe goes into the iCloud and
erases everything. That would becrazy.
Edgar (43:00):
You gotta have backups to do backups.
Erika (43:03):
Right? But, yeah, I I just found this suspicious all
over. Like, I would have nottold her where it was. Mm-mm. I
I just feel really bad for OPand his daughter.
There's another comment thatsays, I believe this was
premeditated given her askingwhere the box was. She, in
essence, just killed herdaughter's mother a second time.
That's what I said. Okay. Trulynasty, and she needs cereal.
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Cereal? Truly nasty, and sheneeds serious mental health.
Agreed.
Edgar (43:32):
Yeah. No. 100%. No one liked what she did.
Erika (43:35):
Yeah. I mean, honestly, if you can't trust her with
anything like that, what? Shegonna throw away everything she
don't like
Edgar (43:41):
Mhmm.
Erika (43:42):
And say you need to start all over again? No. Divorce.
Edgar (43:46):
Yeah. It's just like a different kind of controlling
behavior. But, yeah, well, it's
Erika (43:49):
basically toxic. This is way toxic. This is the most
toxic story that we read today.
Edgar (43:54):
Perhaps the most evil person ever.
Erika (43:57):
I don't know about that. I think people have done worse.
But
Edgar (44:00):
For your final verdict on this?
Erika (44:04):
I don't know. I I mean, obviously, he's not the asshole.
Edgar (44:07):
No. He's the asshole.
Erika (44:07):
But I like, what would you do in this situation?
Edgar (44:12):
Get a priest. What? I need to excite the evil in his
house.
Erika (44:18):
Fuck you all. That's nice. I get to see that. Oh my
gosh. But seriously, like
Edgar (44:33):
That's what I do. But yeah. So, yeah, I'll be in that,
affluent situation. Oh my god.
Erika (44:40):
I I have
Edgar (44:41):
a ex fiancee right now. Her ex wife is the fiancee, but
that's the one that died. Sheshe
Erika (44:46):
Obviously, what'd you do?
Edgar (44:48):
She didn't have him.
Erika (44:49):
Oh my god. I God bless her. Oh my I would honestly
Edgar (44:57):
I
Erika (44:57):
would divorce. Yeah. This is that's really scary. That is
so like, it's just a differentlevel of controlling. I mean,
what other things has she donethat he doesn't even know?
Like, that he doesn't even like,how toxic she is that she
thought this was gonna be a walkin the park by throwing it away.
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I think he needs to reallyreflect in, like, just divorce,
honestly.
Edgar (45:21):
Mhmm. So, yeah, the next story is titled, am I the
asshole if I wanna break up withmy girl because I am tired of
her testing me all the time.I've been with my girlfriend for
a year now, and she is alwayslooking through my phone to see
if I am doing anything againstour relationship. She goes
through my phone at least twicea week in my computer once a
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week. When I see her with myphone or on my computer, I ask
her what she's doing, and sheoutright says, just checking if
you're cheating.
Two days ago, I went to pick herup at her best friend's house
only to learn that she wasn'tthere. Instead, her best friend
answers the door in in arevealing outfit and trying to
seduce me. I noped my way out ofthere as quickly as my car can
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get out of the driveway. Andwhen I got home, my girl was
there. I sat her down and toldher what happened.
She laughed and said, that wasjust a test, and I passed. I am
so angry right now because Ihave never done anything to say
this type of mistrust. And Iknow she just does this because
her ex used to cheat on her. Iam to my wit's end, and I love
this girl, but I don't thinkthis is healthy. Would I be the
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asshole if I feel like I wannabreak up with her?
And he is not the asshole whowanted to break up with her.
That seems exhausting. Iwouldn't wanna do that every
day.
Erika (46:36):
Oh my god. It's like monitoring you at your every
move. If you blink twice, you'relike, why who do you think about
why are you blinking twice?Exactly. I that's insane.
Edgar (46:47):
That's just like messing with him for, like, no reason.
Like
Erika (46:50):
Poor guy.
Edgar (46:52):
I just found yeah. I didn't think that would just be,
like, a pain to have to dealwith, especially, like, the with
the trap thing.
Erika (46:57):
Yeah. I think it was uncalled for, especially if he
didn't give her any grounds thathe's a cheater. You know, he
shouldn't be treated like acheater because he's not.
Edgar (47:06):
Uh-huh.
Erika (47:08):
The top comment is that's an awful situation. Here's a
plan. Tell her you will break upbecause you don't think she
loves you enough to trust you.Then after she goes crazy, she
will go crazy. Just tell her,oh, honey.
It was just a test. Sorry. Youfailed it. Oh, I like that. But
then also the other top commentis not the asshole.
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That sounds exhausting, whichwhat you said too.
Edgar (47:31):
Yeah. Yeah. Everyone's exhausted by that story.
Erika (47:35):
No. Yes. Absolutely not. I would definitely break up with
her. There's no reason for herto be like that.
Edgar (47:41):
Mhmm.
Erika (47:42):
Being tested twenty four seven to make sure you're not
cheating is crazy to me.
Edgar (47:45):
That's a pop quiz every day.
Erika (47:47):
I think you just oh my god. I think if you're not ready
to trust somebody, you shouldn'tbe in a relationship until you
are able to trust somebody.
Edgar (47:54):
Mhmm. So So you find a little verdict in that.
Erika (47:57):
Not the asshole.
Edgar (47:58):
Nope. Definitely not.
Erika (47:59):
Run. Run while you can.
Edgar (48:01):
Run fast.
Erika (48:02):
Don't look back. So our last story is actually from the
Instagram post, but we can'treally play it because of the
copyright music. I'll read thestory right now. When I was in
high school, my long distanceboyfriends invited me to come on
a summer vacation with them.After begging my mom to let me
go, I learned that we would bestaying on the tiniest cabin for
a week.
(48:23):
This is the most I've ever beenaround a boy in my entire life.
We had the best time and ate allthe best food. And around the
day three, my stomach started tohurt. I realized I had to fart.
But but knew everyone else wouldhear me in the tiny cabin, so I
held it in.
And I continued eating all thefood all week, and my stomach
(48:45):
ache was needing to fart becamea stomach ache that I had to
poop. But boys think girls don'tpoop, so I just held it in all
week. No big deal. I got homeand realized after holding it in
for a week, plus, I couldn'tfart or poop. Nothing.
(49:06):
Afraid to tell my mom I went tobed. I woke up to the most
intense stomach pain. I crawleddown the stairs and got to the
kitchen. I was screaming,crying, and gasping. My mom woke
up, thought I was dying, andrushed me to the ER.
They rushed me back, did bloodwork, CAT scan, my appendix, my
(49:28):
ovaries, everything. I wassweating, throwing up. My mom
was actually praying. Finally,they came back and said, when
was the last time you passed gasand pooped? My mom stared at me,
and I said, about ten days.
The doctor said, yeah. Well,you're all impacted. We're gonna
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send someone in and give you anenema, and this should clear
itself up. Wait here.
Edgar (49:59):
Did you give her the mochi treatment?
Erika (50:02):
Oh my god. Yeah. We'll explain that later. Then it
comes the hottest male nurseI've ever seen. He tells me to
roll over on my set and slaps onsome gloves.
My mom is laughing her ass off.I'm crying. He starts making
small talk, and I'm humiliated.After he's done, he asked, so
(50:26):
what has you stopped up? My momsays she didn't wanna poop in
front of her boyfriend.
She thinks boys think girlsdon't poop. The hot nurse pats
the back of my shoulder with mybare, just enema's ass hanging
out and says, we know you poop,and winks, slips his gloves off,
and tosses into the trash andswaggers out. As soon as we got
(50:50):
back from the hospital, my momcalled my boyfriend's mom to
tell her I was at the hospitaland I'm doing okay. I go to bed.
I wake up to flowers at my doorand my boyfriend says, everybody
poops.
Oh my god. That's soembarrassing.
Edgar (51:07):
That is very embarrassing.
Erika (51:08):
Those stories are the best.
Edgar (51:10):
I know. Yeah. It was funny. It's a good thing we have
it in the description. But,yeah, it's just like when you
gotta go, you gotta go.
Erika (51:17):
Yes. Don't hold it in. Ten days is crazy. Oh my gosh.
Alright.
Edgar (51:23):
That seems painful.
Erika (51:24):
Yeah. No. Oh, and then the mochi story.
Edgar (51:26):
Oh, yeah. Yeah.
Erika (51:27):
My sister Chelsea's friend, found a cat, and Chelsea
faked saying that she found thecat instead. So my mom let her
bring in the kitten that wasabout two weeks old. Yeah. And
since we were, bottle feedinghim and the baby formula made
him clogged up up there, And wehad to take him, what, twice or
three times?
Edgar (51:47):
Yeah. Three times to the vet.
Erika (51:48):
To get him enema?
Edgar (51:50):
Enema. Yeah.
Erika (51:51):
Yeah. And it was just bad. Well, now he's fine. He's,
what, two years old now? Three?
Edgar (51:57):
Yeah. Two years old. Yeah. But he during the first
few, like, days, he had, like, aa swollen belly.
Erika (52:02):
Oh my god. Yes. It was really hard. Poor baby.
Edgar (52:05):
Mhmm.
Erika (52:05):
I think the first time he pooped by himself, my whole
family was cheering, and we wereso happy.
Edgar (52:11):
I wasn't there, but I heard He wasn't? I heard it was
a show.
Erika (52:14):
Yeah. He has, like, little litter box and then it
was the the litter was open andeverybody was just gathering
around the litter box and wewere like, oh my god. I think
he's pooping. And everybody wasaround him and we we, like,
cheered and clapped when he did.It was just yeah.
It was such a struggle. He washe was so cute. We'll probably
(52:34):
put post a picture there.
Edgar (52:36):
Yeah. What are these days?
Erika (52:37):
He's so cute. Mhmm. So On
Edgar (52:39):
Insta or Facebook?
Erika (52:40):
Yes. He is adorable. So that's all the stories we have
today. Thank you for tuning into this week's episode. Check
out our website,wwwyappings.com, and join our
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If you love our podcast and wantto support us, subscribe and
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appreciate your support.
Edgar (53:03):
Also, we started a new Facebook group called a I t a
dash relationship and familydrama. Linked in description.
Join so you can share anybodyasshole posts you like or share
your own stories for us all tojudge. We may even read a few
posts in one of our episodes.
Erika (53:20):
Thank you. Bye.
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