Episode 19: "You Did WHAT?!” - The Most Savage Betrayals Yet - Yapping Schnauzers

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Intro (00:00):
Yapping!

Erika (00:03):
Hello, this is Erika.

Edgar (00:04):
Edgar.

Darielys (00:05):
And Dave.

Erika (00:06):
And we are the Yapping Snowsers. We entertain you with
the out worthy stories we findaround the web. So today's theme
is called The Betrayal. Thefirst story is Emma the Asshole
for calling out my husband'sfriend after he made
inappropriate comment about myson's paternity.

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I, 23 female, have been marriedto my husband, Alex, twenty
seven male, for two years and wehave a 10 old called Dylan. Alex
has a friend named Mike, twentyseven male. They've been best
friends since high school. Frommy first encounter, I did not
like Mike. He is reallychildish, likes to be the center

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of attention and has a crudesense of humor.
It's like he never got out ofhis frat boy face. All of my
husband's friends are married orin a long term relationship.
Whereas Mike has not been in along term relationship or has
brought any woman around. Healso made some weird comments
toward me that made meuncomfortable. My husband has a

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deep bond with Mike.
They often go on hunting tripsor boy nights. I've never tried
to keep my husband from hangingout with his friend, but I have
limited contact with him. Mikecame over to pick up my husband
to go golfing. I was holding ourbaby when I answered the door.
Mike greeted us at the door,asked to hold my baby and was
cooing to him.

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Then he said, hey there man,come to papa. And my husband and
Mike started laughing. A bit ofa background. I have brown hair
and blue eyes and my husband hasblack hair, brown eyes. Our
son's hair is coming in blondeand he has blue eyes.
Mike has blondish hair and blueeyes. I was a bit caught off

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guard by it, but I ignored hiscomment. Mike then said, He
looks like me, maybe he's mine.And my husband, Mike continued
to laugh. I was obviously notamused.
I told Mike to hand me my sonand then told him, not in a
million years and no woman wouldsense would want you. Neither my
husband nor Mike laughed at mycomment. And Mike just made a

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face before he and my husbandleft. Later my husband told me I
took it too far with Mike. ThatMike was just joking, but I made
it personal.
I told him those comments weredisrespectful to me as his wife
and the mother of his child.Then he said it's obviously not
true. So why am I so upset whenI know how Mike is? Am I the
asshole?

Darielys (02:33):
Oh my God. But why would he say that? That's no.
And why is the dad justlaughing? I mean, get it.
That's like his personality,guess. That are like, that's not
funny.

Erika (02:44):
It's not. It's basically saying that she's a cheater.

Darielys (02:48):
Yeah. Then just laughing about it. Yeah.

Erika (02:51):
Like it would be different if they were friends
or they were close then you knowshe could go along with the joke
but he doesn't like him.

Darielys (03:01):
Yeah it's like calling her out in a different way.

Erika (03:03):
Yeah so it's not funny. What do you think?

Edgar (03:07):
Well, think that OP is the asshole in this. I think he
he took it too far because it'sjust like a joke. And she's like
taking it seriously even thoughlike everyone but her apparently
doesn't understand that it's ajoke.

Erika (03:16):
But does she knows it's a joke, but he took it too far by
saying that joke because they'renot that close.

Edgar (03:21):
Mhmm.

Erika (03:22):
Just because the husband is close to his friend doesn't
mean that she has to be.

Edgar (03:25):
Yeah. But it's like more of an a b and she happens to be
a c.

Erika (03:28):
She's literally part of it. She's literally part of the
joke saying that she's acheater. She's she's cheating on
her husband saying that.

Edgar (03:35):
Well, not the joke though. The joke is, oh, he
looks like me and fire mine.

Erika (03:39):
No, he he could have

Darielys (03:40):
just said he looks like me. Yeah. And that's it.
Not maybe he's mine. That'slike, it turns into a yeah,

Erika (03:47):
like a whole thing behind

Edgar (03:49):
the You're too deeply into that?

Darielys (03:52):
No dude.

Edgar (03:53):
Yeah.

Erika (03:53):
It doesn't make sense. There's just no it doesn't have
to be a joke like you just jokeyou should joke with people that
you're friends with Because whenyou go and joke with a random
person, that person probablywon't find that funny or will
find it crude that you justthink it's it's funny because
just because, you you know, it'sfunny to you. Yeah. If you don't

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know that person's sense ofhumor, why are you involving
them as a in a joke or saying ajoke that they probably won't
like?

Edgar (04:22):
Well, how else will you make friends?

Erika (04:23):
The top comment is ask your husband why Mike's comfort
is more important than yours.Not the asshole. Oh. It's true.
Why is he putting his friendhigher than her feelings?
If she feels uncomfortable, shefeels uncomfortable. Does it
mean that she has to shake itoff? What is this?

Darielys (04:44):
That's true.

Erika (04:46):
Okay, I'm trying to find, I saw a comment here that was
really good and I was like, ohyeah. Okay, so you did the right
thing. Nobody should insuite youslept with anybody besides your
husband. Your husband should beoffended too.

Darielys (05:02):
Yeah. Like, I mean I get it because like like the
husband knows how like he jokesaround so that's probably why he
wasn't offended. But like, don'tsay that's a little too much.

Erika (05:13):
Yeah, I mean like I'm not saying that he shouldn't joke
around but he should haveobviously a certain limit on how
what type of jokes he says. Likeif you're not close to her then
don't say stupid jokes likethat. That'd be in the situation
that awkward. I would be like,what? I would not like that.

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Would be pissed And you wouldsee it in my face. Yeah. You
would see it dead on my face andI'll be like, that's not funny.

Darielys (05:41):
Erica and her faces are pretty funny.

Erika (05:43):
Yeah. And I literally told him that he Jake I mean,
Jake. Edgar will be saying jokesand I'm like, that's not funny.
Even with him. So I'm like, comesomebody come and tell me that.

Darielys (05:53):
Oh, girl, please. Stop.

Erika (05:56):
Yeah, so I he's definitely the asshole for not
putting his wife's feelings inconsideration. Just because he's
like that or that's hispersonality doesn't mean that
she has to like it.

Edgar (06:08):
My final verdict.

Erika (06:10):
He's not the, he's the asshole.

Edgar (06:11):
Should I say the OP is the asshole?

Erika (06:14):
No, definitely no.

Edgar (06:16):
Okay, the next story is titled, Am I the asshole for
being willing to divorce my wifebecause she's become friends
with a brother who bullied me mywhole life? I, 32 ms, have a
complicated relationship with mybrother, Dean, thirty two ms. He
is the only sibling I have andmost people assume we should be
close, but he bullied me formost of our lives. I gave him

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some chance over the years, buthe never grew or stopped. There
were people in my life whobrushed it off as teasing and
siblings getting under eachother's skin.
He'd make fun of me for notbeing athletic like him and he'd
call me a loser for it. He saysI look like a fat kid running

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and how fun it would be to tripme up. He'd start laughing at me
if I did anything like exerciseand parents had cameras and he'd
try to take pictures of me andsay he'd spend them around
school. I had some stomachissues as a kid and he'd tell
his friends I crapped my pants alot and then spend it around
school. There were a fewoccasions during school where

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he's loudly asking me why I wassitting in my crapped in pants
and why I didn't have pull upsor something.
If I ever had friends over as ateenager, Dean would bring up
how I used to crap my pants alot and to try to humiliate me
with other embarrassing stories.He did the same thing when I
brought home my first girlfriendin college. For a few years he

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taught me and said he slept withmy ex that time I brought her
home. He'd say I die a virginand no other girl could actually
have sex with me because I wastoo weird and too much of a
nerd. I wouldn't go home becauseof this stuff and I told my
parents I wasn't going to lethim treat me like that.
I see now that they never didtheir best by me either and let

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Dean get away with a lot. Theynever took sides, but that meant
saying nothing while he treat melike shit and tried to humiliate
me. Sometimes they tell me hewas maturing and stuff and I
tried but he didn't mature,still hasn't. And I gave him
another chance to meet withCindy. That brings me to my
wife.
We've been together for sixyears, married four, and we have

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two kids together. She knows myhistory with Dean and told me I
deserved better. But then shemet Dean at my parents house,
sat through him doing the sameshit which made me insist we
leave early, and then shestarted talking to him online
and became actual friends withhim. They text and make plans
and I'm so hurt by that. Shetold me I don't get to police

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her relationships and how shethinks it's good for them to
connect because he has kids withhis wife and we have two kids
and the kids deserve to knoweach other.
She also told me they have stuffin common and make good friends.
I told her given how he treatsme, I would have expected her to
stay as far from him as she canand I said it hurts that she has

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become friends with him. Shesaid when she met him it was
just different and he's an assto me, but not a bad guy
overall. I told her I didn'tlike it and we needed therapy
together to talk through all ofthis because our marriage
couldn't survive it if sheinsists on staying friends with
him. She asks if I'd reallyconsider divorcing her over her

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friendship with my brother and Isaid yes.
I told her she stabbed me in theback with that choice. She told
me I was crazy and controlling.She told her family who thinks
I'm selfish for even consideringtearing my family apart over
this. My own friends and two ofmy cousins who know the score
and agree my brother is a hugeass to me thinks my wife is
wrong and that it'sunderstandable if I can't stay

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with her because of this. But Iknow this is a huge thing and
will hurt my kids.
I also know I've questionedwhether my wife and Dean are
having an affair. I have readsome of those messages and they
don't seem floaty and most oftheir plans are online But even
if it's just a friendship, itdoes feel like betrayal to me.
Am I the asshole for consideringdivorce over this? And I say

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yes.

Erika (10:17):
What? No. I'm torn over this because honestly This
sucks. He went through so muchbecause of Dean. Mhmm.
And you see that he's beentrying to overcome all that with
I mean, basically made his lifeimpossible. All his

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relationships were ruined by himand now he is friends with his
wife. Which by the way, knew allthe back history of Dean. And
yet she wants Dean to be part oftheir lives even though he has
repeatedly told her he does notwant to have that. So she
completely dismissed hisfeelings and what he wants to do

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and all the hardship he had withDean because he's not a bad guy.
He's just an ass to him, buthe's not a bad guy. He should
hang out with his his cousins.

Darielys (11:18):
I don't know. That's that's still weird to me. Like,
why would she wanna be friendswith him in the first place?

Erika (11:25):
Exactly. I

Darielys (11:25):
don't I don't understand that part.

Erika (11:27):
Hearing all this, I would just wanna say a hundred feet
from him. Like, maybe a helloand that's it. Why would I want
my kids to have an uncle likethat?

Darielys (11:39):
What if he bullies the kids? No.

Erika (11:42):
Or insults them or say oh your dad was this or basically
humiliates him in front of hiskids because that's what he's
known for.

Darielys (11:50):
What if the wife finds that funny too? Like with him
making fun of her husband andstuff.

Erika (11:57):
Yeah, so it's not just because he has a grudge against
him. It's because he doesn'trespect them and disrespects him
in front of his family, his wifeand then eventually his kids
because that's

Darielys (12:10):
So

Erika (12:11):
that's okay to have a relationship like that with your
so called brother?

Edgar (12:17):
Well eventually they will kind of reconcile and I think
the friendship with the wife canhelp that because at least it
makes the brother like OP morehuman to his actual brother.

Erika (12:32):
He literally said he was doing the same thing he usually
does talking to my wife. How isthat seeing him more human or
changing him in any way?

Edgar (12:43):
Well, just have to because it's still going to be a
part of his family no matter ifhe tries to kick him out or
whatever. Or just try to cut asmuch connection as possible.
Something you have to likereconcile with.

Darielys (12:57):
He's getting to him through his wife.

Erika (12:59):
And also, point there, he could use his wife to get back
at him. Because he's saying thathe slept with his ex girlfriend,
right? What if he wants to dothat with his wife? Yep.

Edgar (13:11):
Mhmm.

Erika (13:12):
He has no boundaries with you. He wants to humiliate you.
So he would do whatever it takesto get you down.

Edgar (13:19):
He also the brother also has his own wife and kids.

Erika (13:23):
So? But

Darielys (13:25):
he don't care about them right now. He's like, oh my
god.

Edgar (13:28):
But all of their conversations are public and
they are friendly I hope he'sable to verify that as well.

Erika (13:38):
I don't know, but that's for now. You don't know his
motive. If he's made his life ahell for all his life, you think
he's just going to stop now? Idon't think so. I think it's
just a liability right now.
Him and his wife and anyrelationship with him. And the

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fact that his parents never didanything to tell him to stop
doing that as they were younger,it's completely ridiculous to
me. Because they should neverhave a relationship like that.
They allowed this behavior andthat's why he thinks it's okay
to go out around and keephumiliating him everywhere and
with all his relationships. Justbecause he's growing or he's a

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growing teen.
Uh-uh. That is not okay. Youdon't do that. That's and then
the fact that he got away withit for so long, you think he's
just gonna stop? I don't thinkso.
I I would just stay away fromthat guy. He's for as far as I
know, he's not my brother. Mhmm.

Darielys (14:38):
Mhmm.

Erika (14:39):
So the top comment is not the asshole. Your wife is out of
line and wouldn't be surprisedif Dean is continuing this
friendship as a way to bully youmore. Your wife is a plain old
mean. Mhmm. So he OP did respondto that.
It's possible. It could also behe wants to have an affair or at
least have sex with my wife andgloat about that like he did

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about my ex, which I never knewif it was true or not, but this
would hurt worse than it were ifit was true. That's just so much
to make me think this is gettingto me screwed over. But I hate
that I found myself in thisposition. So now he feels like
he's back in the olden dayswhere he feels manipulated and

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humiliated by him.
And his wife doesn't care. Likeshe doesn't she doesn't care
about his feelings. He doesn'tcare about his trauma that he
had with his brother becausebullying and humiliating and
telling everybody that he's hispants is not funny. And going
through that it's really hard.Like mentally, his mental health

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is not okay.
It's like he's going back towhen he was young. I think it's
so sad. He doesn't need to gothrough this again. His wife is
not being supportive at all.That's not a wife.
No. If you were to tell me Idon't feel comfortable, would be
like okay babe, let's not do it.I would encourage you if you

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feel uncomfortable especially ifit hurt you so much. I don't
want you to get hurt again. Thatwould be my thing.
The way of thinking. Aw, I hateyou.

Darielys (16:17):
Edgar is like, he doesn't care. He doesn't have
feelings. He's cold hearted.

Erika (16:24):
Yeah. Well, thinks of it more logically,

Edgar (16:26):
but if

Erika (16:27):
you, I mean, I don't know. His track record isn't
good. And giving him a chanceand expecting him to change, I
don't know. I don't know if it'sgonna go well for him. That's
just my thought.
So what's the final verdict?

Edgar (16:42):
Studying OP is the asshole for threatening
divorcing over something that atleast up to now is innocent?

Erika (16:49):
I don't think he's an asshole. I think he's valid for
his feelings. I don't think youshould dismiss that altogether.
I think maybe he should work onhimself a little bit more or
trust his wife more, but I wanthis wife to be more conscious of
his feelings as well, not justdismiss it just like that. How

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about you Dave?
Same? Yeah, same thing. Allright, so next story is, am I
overreacting for exposing mymom's affair at the dinner
table? I wasn't trying to snoop,but while my mom's phone was on
the counter, a message popped upfrom a man I didn't recognize.

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Curiosity got the best of me andwhen I opened it, I discovered
months of messages, hotelbookings and event pictures.
My stomach dropped. I neverimagined she'd do something like
this. At first, I didn't knowhow to handle it. I thought
about staying quiet, but themore I considered my dad who has

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always been kind, loyal andcompletely unaware, I couldn't
just pretend I didn't know. Soduring a family dinner, when my
mom was sitting there likenothing was wrong, I lost it.
I pulled up the messages, readsome of them out loud and told
my dad the truth. Everythingfell apart instantly. My dad

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went pale, my mom burst intotears and my younger siblings
sat there in shock. She accusedme of betraying her trust and
destroying the family while mydad just looked heartbroken.
Despite everything, he laterthanked me for being honest with
him.
Am I the asshole?

Edgar (18:37):
No, not at all and I don't think he's the asshole
either because it's likesomething like it's affecting
the entire family and likeNafala needs to know.

Erika (18:46):
The audacity of the mom saying oh you ruined her trust.

Darielys (18:51):
I was about to say that and then she was just like
destroying the family. Girl youdestroyed it.

Erika (18:58):
The betrayal here.

Darielys (19:00):
Yeah, it just came out. Please. She knew what she
was doing.

Erika (19:06):
Girl, yeah, exactly. She better like manipulate her be
like,

Darielys (19:09):
no, it's your fault that this this this not happen.
Blah blah blah.

Erika (19:12):
No. No. No. No. No.
No. There's no way. Youdestroyed this family, ma'am.
You destroyed it by cheating onyour husband and not thinking
about your family.

Darielys (19:23):
And he's she described him like so sweet.

Erika (19:26):
Yeah. He did not deserve that.

Darielys (19:30):
Hotel bookings is kinda crazy.

Erika (19:32):
Well, you know, there's work trips.

Darielys (19:35):
I would never believe a work trip. Like, come look at
work trip. What job does tripslike that?

Erika (19:42):
No. There's some jobs but yeah, it's just But it was like
rare. I that was like no. No. Idon't know.

Darielys (19:49):
And I feel like it's like a good paid like job. No.
I'm not that stupid.

Erika (19:56):
No. I think it's sad. I mean, I mean, even if she could
try to handle it differently,like maybe talk to her mom
directly. Yeah. Her come cleanwould be a little better.
However, I don't think the momwas gonna try to come clean at
all. No. She's gonna hide Yeah.I don't I mean, she's been
hiding it for so long. Andthat's all that she saw there.

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Who knows if she had an affairbefore, like, longer affair
before that. So I just, yeah, Ithink man, it's kind of messy
though.

Darielys (20:31):
It is messy.

Erika (20:32):
It was a little bit In

Edgar (20:34):
front of the siblings as well?

Darielys (20:36):
Know. I I don't know how old.

Edgar (20:40):
Yeah. I like to think they're like four or five or
six.

Darielys (20:43):
Younger. No, don't think so. Nah, they're probably
like, I would say like middleschool.

Erika (20:48):
Yeah. At least. Yeah. I mean But then you know, I feel
like also if you lied to them itwould just also affect them as
well. I don't think they neededto be present for that but I

Edgar (21:01):
I think it would affect them either way. Maybe as

Darielys (21:04):
soon as

Edgar (21:04):
they find out the truth. Which, I mean, I feel like
potentially this could have goneon for a lot longer but it had
to come to light soon.

Darielys (21:13):
Yeah, it could have gotten worse too.

Edgar (21:15):
What's worse than hotel bookings?

Darielys (21:18):
Nah, like for a longer time and like the dad would I
feel like it would have suckedmore if it's been happening for
like years and he knew nothingabout it.

Edgar (21:31):
How was the dad out of

Darielys (21:32):
Because like, He's been like What did he say?

Erika (21:36):
He would get a paternity test if he was the dad.

Edgar (21:38):
For all three of them? Stop. That's All four siblings?

Erika (21:42):
There's only two there. All five. Yeah. What do you
mean? What?
Yeah. I it's crazy to me. Atleast

Darielys (21:53):
he knows now. Yeah. That's Yeah. Holidays come

Edgar (21:56):
at the end.

Darielys (21:57):
Like, it's better. Longer time. I feel like he
would have like, it would havehit him even harder. Mhmm.
Because it's like, I don't seelike he's been getting played
for like years that's that thatsucks.
I know.

Erika (22:10):
I feel like once you're a cheater you hit it's always a
cheater like maybe that's hersecond cheat you know I mean?

Darielys (22:16):
We only know that guy, who knows if there's more.

Erika (22:20):
Oh my god.

Darielys (22:21):
That's the, oh I know.

Erika (22:22):
Listen, he deserves better.

Darielys (22:25):
Yeah that is sad.

Erika (22:26):
And the kids do too. The top comment is She accused me of
betraying her trust anddestroying the family. Yeah,
you're the problem here. I'mbeing sarcastic obviously. Tell
your mom you have done thatyourself.
Yeah, I just, yeah. All around Ifeel bad. I think she did not
overreact. No. She deserved it.

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Yeah, she did the right thing.

Edgar (22:51):
Clip on a verdict?

Erika (22:52):
No, I think she did good.

Edgar (22:54):
Yeah, she

Erika (22:55):
exposed the truth.

Edgar (22:56):
Hope he's a good guy or girl. Okay, so the next story is
titled, Would I be the assholefor kicking my cousin out if she
shows up to my weddinguninvited? My wedding is in a
few days and I needed an outsideperspective before things
potentially burrow up. A littlebackground, my cousin, Lisa,
used to date my fiance Jakeyears ago. They met in college.

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They were in the same friendgroup and ended up dating for a
couple of years. It was seriousfor a while, but things fell
apart due to bad timing anddifferences in what they wanted
for the future. It was amicable.Jake and I met later through the
same mutual friends. Lisa and Iwere close so at first it seemed
like a weird coincidence, butshe was supportive of our

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relationship.
It was over long before I evenmet him and I never really
thought of it as an issue. Lisaand I have always been close and
I never felt weird about thefact that she and Jake had
history until now. A few weeksago I found out from Lisa, not
Jake, that she met up with himbehind my back. Apparently she
needed closure before he gotmarried and told him she still

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thinks about him sometimes andwonders if they made a mistake
breaking up. Jake assured methat he shut her down
immediately and told her he'smarrying me, but the fact that
he kept it a secret from mereally hurt.
After a long argument, I toldJake that Lisa was no longer
invited to the wedding. She'scompletely overstepped and I

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honestly don't want to bestanding at the altar knowing
she's sitting right in theaudience wondering what if. Jake
wasn't thrilled about uninvitingher, but he agreed. I also made
it clear to Lisa that she wouldnot be welcomed, but now I'm
hearing from family members thatLisa still plans to come. She's

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telling people that since she'sfamily, she deserves to be there
and that it's unfair for me toexclude her over a
misunderstanding.
Here is where I might be theasshole. If Lisa shows up, I
will have her kicked out. Mymaid of honor promised to handle
it and kick Lisa out if sheshowed up. I don't care if it
causes a scene and I don't careif it makes things

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uncomfortable. She wasexplicitly told not to come, and
if she tries to ignore that, sheis the one ruining the day, not
me.
But, some of my relatives thinkI'm being petty. Part of me
wonders if I should just let itgo and ignore her if she does
show up. Would making her leavejust escalate the situation
unnecessarily? Should I justsuck it up and keep the peace

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for one day? I say OP would notbe also kicking her out if the
cousin comes uninvited, but itlooks like she's willing to suck
it up.
But I think she shouldn't reallysuck it up because it's like her
wedding day.

Erika (25:50):
Yeah. I

Edgar (25:52):
think ideally she sucks it up, but I mean also it's like
I agree that it's like weird tothink that someone in the crowd
is like actively thinking That'sjust like awkward. Just

Darielys (26:04):
like knowing that she's gonna like if she just
shows up and she's just therewatching you. Like, what if she,
like, out of nowhere, like,makes, a whole scene in front of
I object. Vows. Yeah.

Edgar (26:15):
I know.

Darielys (26:15):
Yeah. I'll be like, no. No. No. She she be the type
to do that.

Edgar (26:21):
I can see that, yeah.

Darielys (26:23):
She can get kicked out.

Edgar (26:25):
Yeah because then afterwards the wedding is not
gonna be remembered for like, ohit's a happy day. It'll be
remembered for, oh remember whenthe cousin tried to break it up.
Yeah, exactly. That's the onlymemory people are gonna have of
that.

Darielys (26:38):
Yeah, no, they always remember the bad things.

Edgar (26:42):
He's not overstepping. LP is not overstepping.

Darielys (26:44):
It's gonna become the cousin's day instead of her day.
She makes a scene on her weddingday.

Erika (26:50):
It's her wedding, she decides what she wants

Darielys (26:52):
to do.

Erika (26:52):
I don't think there's no issue here and that the fact
that the husband, soon to behusband agrees is a good sign
too.

Darielys (27:01):
Yeah. And why is the family always like, I feel like
every time we read a story thefamily is like against the
person. Like that's telling theIt's so funny.

Erika (27:11):
I just wanna keep the peace.

Edgar (27:14):
You, because like, the family is like big enough that
there's always gonna be likediffering opinions on the same
issue.

Erika (27:20):
Yeah, I think I get that you want to keep the peace, I
guess. But like if it's ruiningyour day, sorry not sorry, we're
going to kick you out. That's assimple as that. There's no
peacekeeping here.

Darielys (27:33):
It should have been like, we're keeping the peace if
she doesn't show up. That'speace for one date.

Erika (27:39):
But the fact that they've been very close and that she
went behind her back said, Ohyeah, I still have feelings for
you basically, or I still

Darielys (27:49):
think about Yeah, yeah.

Erika (27:50):
That's just messed up. That's really messed up. Yeah.
Nobody needs a cousin like that.Bye.
The top comment is, The reasondoesn't even matter. It's your
wedding and if you've told hernot to come, she shouldn't come,
period. Everyone should respect

Darielys (28:05):
that. Yes,

Erika (28:07):
a %. So would she be overreacting? No. No. You're
doing the right thing girl.

Edgar (28:13):
Yeah, that's about right.

Darielys (28:14):
Get her

Erika (28:14):
out of there. Next story is my fiance left me over a
message. So this happened twoweeks ago. I female twenty six
and my fiance male twenty fivehave been dating for five years,
engaged for two due to planningand financial situations. We

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were a stoppable couple.
Everyone always said that we hadthe perfect relationship and
that our love makes them sick.We never had any big fights or
arguments besides the usualdebates about who is right.
Like, they kind of answer youGoogle to see who was actually
right. Zebras are white withblack stripes kind of debate. We
were perfect.

(28:55):
He washed the dishes. I cookedwhatever his heart desired. We
looked after each other andprotected each other. I know I
can be a very difficult personto deal with. I have bipolar
one, the kind where you havesuper strength at two in the
morning.
I am a bit picky about certainthings like where my crafting
supplies go and how my food isprepared and how I feel my

(29:17):
emotions. I don't laugh, Iscatter with glow. I don't know
what that means. I don't cry, Ibreak. But besides all of this,
I am able to regulate andcontrol my emotions very well.
And it's never been a problem. Iam still able to have a normal

(29:37):
calm conversation. We have beenplanning our wedding for around
one point eight years and wehave recently been financially
stable enough to start lookingfor a house or apartment
together. I have a smallbusiness and he works remotely
full time. About two months agobefore the event is what I would

(29:57):
call the breakup, I noticed afew things here and there that
were weird but nothing alarming.
He would say this shoulder hurtwhen we cuddled. He cut and
changed his hair and routines.Conversations were sometimes met
with weirdness. Oh, red flags.Two weeks before the event, we

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went on vacation with somefriends.
Everything seemed perfectly fineand normal. We had a great time.
One week before the event,Valentine's Day. He couldn't be
with me on Valentine's Day dueto work. Another red flag.
But he took me out for brunchthe next day. Nice place, good
food. He even bought mechocolates and was all lovey

(30:39):
dovey as usual. The day after Iwas recovering bed, I had three
wisdom teeth pulled. He wantedto speak to my parents about the
dogs we both have together, Lunaand Rex.
They are my world. And the dayof the event, the morning off, I
decided to do my hair and mymakeup. I wanted to move my
apartment around and deep cleanand have everything ready for

(31:02):
when he came that evening. Theapartment is next to my parents'
place in the backyard. I senthim a good morning and have a
great day.
I love you kind of message.Later that morning, received a
notification from a couriercompany saying my package is on
its way from my fiance. Ithought it was a mistake and I
tried calling him. No answer. Hesent me a message about an hour

(31:24):
later saying that he is breakingup with me.
Thanks for our time together.You can keep the dogs. No
reason, no explanation, nothing.Just that. Also was removed from
all social media, nothing more.
So what the hell? Do we ever

Darielys (31:46):
find out? Oh, did we find out the reason?

Erika (31:49):
Nope. So there's, there is a little bit of updates, but
it doesn't really tell you much.So just so for extra context, I
think it's capable of apical,especially for those saying that
he might be manipulated. Hisolder sister never liked me. She

(32:12):
didn't even like the othersibling's partner, even after
they married and took intogether a long time.
She doesn't like anyone, to behonest. And I'm not being
dramatic. And on the courieraddress, I saw that it was their
address and not his. Heapparently moved in there. I
went to visit my bestie for awhile around nature, biggest
supporter besides my mom and mysister.

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Everyone and I informed aftereverything said they were
absolutely shell shocked aboutthe news. It was extremely
sudden and no one reallysuspected a thing. My mom did
say the thing about the dogs wasextremely strange and not okay.
So yeah, nope, there's nothing.There's no update.
He doesn't know what happened,why he broke up with her. It was

(33:00):
just like, bye.

Darielys (33:04):
Do we ever know what the package was?

Erika (33:06):
Oh yeah, we do. It was his ring.

Darielys (33:11):
Oh, okay.

Erika (33:12):
It was a bag of my gate remote, his ring, the dog's
vaccination vet cards, mymedical emergency card and an
old nose ring. That's threeyears ago. What? That is so
weird. You

Edgar (33:27):
guys just faked his death.

Darielys (33:29):
Or why do have to leave a package? Honestly just
leave. I don't know.

Erika (33:34):
Yeah. That's uncalled

Darielys (33:35):
for. Just just leave. Pack a package so he can, like,
remind her of him or something.Nah. Forget the package.

Erika (33:43):
I do wanna say though, I feel like he kind of has a he
found a girl. He found somebodyelse. The fact that he cut his
hair, he changed his routine, hecouldn't spend Valentine's Day
with her.

Darielys (33:55):
No, Valentine's Day is crazy.

Erika (33:57):
Yeah. Think That's kinda crazy. I think he found somebody
else and wanted to leave That

Edgar (34:02):
or he just didn't like her anymore. It just looks like
a like a regular breakup to me.

Erika (34:07):
A regular break

Darielys (34:10):
No, because she doesn't have like any
explanation. I'd be mad.Sometimes a

Edgar (34:16):
lot of people don't get it.

Erika (34:17):
Like at

Darielys (34:17):
least if you're gonna break up with somebody at least
tell them the reason. If there'sanother girl, tell them that
there's another girl. Like, Iwould

Edgar (34:24):
have reason.

Darielys (34:25):
Nah. I would wanna know the reason.

Erika (34:26):
There has to be a reason. You just you just don't wake up
when they be like, I wanna breakup with you.

Darielys (34:30):
What? No. I want another reason. Like, because if
they just, like, walk out out ofnowhere, I mean, what it is what
it is. But then you're gonna beleft with that thought, like,
why?
Like, what's the reason? So I'drather know the reason. It could
be the worst reason ever, but Iknow

Edgar (34:46):
matters, actually.

Darielys (34:48):
No, I think the reason matters.

Edgar (34:50):
%. It's like the because it's like over it doesn't matter
like what the reason is, it'sover.

Darielys (34:54):
No, didn't know. I would want to know.

Erika (34:56):
I just think he shouldn't have been a coward. He was a
whole coward. He knew that hewas gonna break up with her, he
should have said, okay. I justdon't think this is working.
Let's just break up.
And so I just told her inperson.

Darielys (35:13):
Yeah.

Erika (35:14):
Why just a text and blocked her from everything?
Come on, be an adult here.That's childish.

Edgar (35:19):
I think probably from the context clues and how the post
was written, it does seem likeshe was a little bit aggressive
or at least like I think shejust didn't want to deal with
the fallout of whatever of thebreakup.

Erika (35:32):
There's also an edit that says, By the way, for everyone
who keeps blaming bipolar, hehad very intense impulsive ADHD.
I didn't mention it beforebecause I didn't think it was
necessary, but I believe thisadds to even more context into
the mental health perspective.

Edgar (35:48):
And she's probably violent as well.

Erika (35:52):
Damn. I can't with you.

Darielys (35:54):
That's that's

Erika (35:55):
insane. I get on. You're crazy. Yeah. I I it's just not
right.
He should have treated thisbetter or at least told her. I
don't know. It was just for her.Like, I see it sudden too. Like,
from way how the how she wasdescribing it, I didn't think he

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was gonna break up with her.
I thought he was gonna cheat onher, honestly. That's my first
thought when I was startedreading. I didn't think he was
gonna break up with her out ofnowhere. Like, what?

Edgar (36:27):
I thought he was gonna break up with you.

Erika (36:29):
Really? Mhmm. Oh, I guess. Because you're a guy.

Darielys (36:31):
I thought she was gonna, find out about, like, the

Erika (36:33):
other girl or something. Me too. Alright. So the top
comment is he found someone elseand was too much of a coward to
come clean and handle thingslike a mature adult. Yeah.
Exactly. Alright. So what's thefinal verdict?

Edgar (36:49):
I guess no one really is the asshole in this. No. Like,
they just broke up. Yes.

Erika (36:53):
He is the asshole. What do mean?

Edgar (36:55):
Add it to my head. No. No. I cannot. Have been split so

Erika (37:03):
You've been like opposite from me and Dave. Excuse me.

Darielys (37:05):
Yeah, no.

Erika (37:06):
You're wrong. People, please tell us who is wronging
right here.

Edgar (37:10):
I don't need to I don't need anyone to agree with me.

Erika (37:13):
Oh, okay. Whatever. Okay. I want to yes. I wanna know what
everybody thinks.
You're wrong. Okay.

Edgar (37:22):
The next story is titled, Am I the Asshole for Ending My
five Year Relationship AfterFinding Out My Girlfriend Has
Been Sending and ReceivingFlowers and Other Gifts from Her
Ex. My girlfriend and I weretogether for five years.
Everything has been great. Wemoved in, we've been living
happily together for about threeyears, and even talked about
marriage. There were no redflags, no secrets, and nothing

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that made me doubt ourrelationship.
For my birthday, she got me asmartwatch, a thoughtful gift,
and I did my best to make herspecial. Got all the stuff she
liked, a fancy dinner, a trip,and a necklace she had been
looking at. Everything seemedperfect, but a few weeks later
while organizing our closet Ifound a hidden card with a note.

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Thank you for always thinking ofme. It means more than you know,
love.
Love, Jake. Alongside it was aflower delivery receipt, dated
right before his birthday. Jakewas her ex, the one she always
said was in the past. Of course,I was mad. When I confronted
her, she admitted she had beensending him flowers every year

(38:31):
since we got together and he'salso been sending her gifts on
her birthday and some otheroccasions.
She insisted it was just afriendly gesture and only hid it
because she knew I wouldn't likeit. But if it was so innocent,
why keep it a secret? She calledme insecure and said I was
overreacting, but to me thisfelt like emotional betrayal.

(38:52):
Betrayal? Eventually I packed mystuff and left and ended our
five year relationship.
And of course, I'm still beingcaught insecure and all that,
but to me it was the secrecy. Imean, who knows what else had
been going on that I don't knowabout. So, am I the asshole for
any get over this? And I don'tthink so.

Erika (39:11):
I actually agree with you with this one. Yeah, she was a
complete asshole for this. Shedid not. The fact that she had
to hide it literally knew thatshe was doing something wrong.

Darielys (39:22):
Come on. Yeah. I know. It was the

Edgar (39:23):
hiding Yeah, they're hiding and then they both were
exchanging gifts on like Yeah.

Erika (39:28):
Oh, patience.

Edgar (39:29):
Like, in the on birthdays and other occasions.

Erika (39:32):
What occasions are like that? Mhmm.

Darielys (39:33):
The fact that she's doing it back is is like no.
Yeah.

Edgar (39:37):
That's like

Darielys (39:37):
In the past.

Edgar (39:39):
It's not in the past.

Erika (39:40):
It's It's

Edgar (39:40):
in the present.

Erika (39:41):
Yeah. For five years, they've been doing this for a
while. That's insane. No, that'snot right. Yeah.

Darielys (39:50):
Damn. She hiding it that good then.

Erika (39:52):
Yeah, the only reason.

Darielys (39:53):
What do you mean? For you're not noticing that for
five years?

Edgar (39:57):
Is crazy.

Darielys (39:58):
She hides that really good.

Erika (40:00):
That's crazy.

Edgar (40:01):
I mean, just find it funny that he found it in the
closet. Maybe because he nevercleansed.

Erika (40:08):
Doesn't clean.

Edgar (40:09):
Like, she didn't really hide it that good. I don't think
she, like, tried. To be honest,but it's

Erika (40:13):
so probably never looks. And then it's she's like, she
kinda probably got used to itand she got, you know,
overconfident and be like it'sbeen five years, he's not gonna
ever find out.

Darielys (40:23):
We're lazy. Yeah, can almost say not yet.

Erika (40:25):
I think she just got overconfident and she got
caught.

Edgar (40:28):
At this point, Sophie's ex should just get back to her
ex.

Erika (40:33):
I don't know, I think

Edgar (40:34):
they seem be They all have a for each other. I don't
think anyone would go out withOP's ex's ex, you know? If they
knew about this going on aswell.

Erika (40:42):
Yeah, mean like imagine he's dating somebody and then he
gets flowers or something. It'slike, oh, who's that? Oh, it's
just my ex?

Edgar (40:49):
Yeah. What? I also said stuff to her too.

Erika (40:51):
Oh. No. No one's gonna have At

Darielys (40:55):
that point, be together. They would.

Erika (40:56):
This is yeah. This is betrayal.

Darielys (40:58):
Yeah. It's

Erika (40:58):
Emotional betrayal at the best. Mhmm. Would say he did the
right thing. He definitely needsto break up with her.

Darielys (41:05):
Yeah.

Erika (41:06):
No. No. He deserves better. The top comment is it's
not being an asshole to besmart. You're you're be stupid
to stick around with her.
Have a great life. Mhmm. Yeah,agreed. He deserves better.

Edgar (41:22):
Stefano verdict?

Erika (41:23):
Not the asshole.

Edgar (41:24):
Nope. Not the asshole.

Erika (41:25):
Good job OP. You deserve better. The next story is
finally found out why my friendsdon't want me going on a date
tonight. Pretty annoyed. Forcontext, I'm 35 male and my date
is 43 female.
We actually met because she's ina hobby group with my mom. Oh,
that's a little bit

Darielys (41:46):
awkward. Come okay, mom. Yep.

Erika (41:50):
A hobby group with my mom and she encouraged us to go out
together. Two of my friends andtheir girlfriend didn't approve
when they found out. At first itwas because she was a few years
older than me and because she'smy friend's mom. But after
pointing out that our eightyears is not a big gap and that

(42:11):
my mom was supportive, theycalled it weird and creepy to
date her. Eventually aftereveryone else I asked seemed
confused about the problem.
Eventually after everyone else Iasked seemed confused about the
problem. I admitted that theyhad been talking to my ex and
left me a year ago and she hadbeen missing me. My ex is

(42:34):
friends with the twodisapproving girlfriends and
they all have been planning totry to get us back together like
some kind of trashy romanceplot. My ex left me after we
were together for a year becauseshe didn't feel right about our
relationship. Hurt like hell atthe time, but I've moved on.
I've run into her a few timesand been polite, but I have no

(42:57):
interest in a relationship oreven a friendship with her.
She's not part of my lifeanymore and I'm keeping it that
way. My friends made me feellike I was crazy and weird for
not wanting to go on a date witha woman I get along with. We've
hung out a lot in othersettings, just not on a date
yet. I get along with all sothey could try and force my ex

(43:18):
back into my life.
Ex texted me this morning askingme if we could meet up and talk,
and I told her that I wasn'tinterested in anything she'd
have to say and that I like tokeep my distance from her. I'm
also putting some distancebetween my two friends who were
playing along with mygirlfriend's stupid game. On the
plus side, I'm really lookingforward to our date tonight,

(43:39):
dinner, drinks and a walkthrough the town to enjoy nice
weather we're getting. So thereis an update. Just got home.
Did not expect this muchsupport. Figured to let anyone
finding this late or checkingback in now. Date went very
well. Haven't had a first dategoal that will, I think, ever,
to be honest. Second date hasalready been planned.

(44:02):
I'll be cooking dinner and willbe watching a few terrible
movies people share a love for.As for my crappy ex friends,
I've already told them we'redone being friends. Luckily,
they are part of a separatesocial circle and my main group
of friends, So it's very easy tobreak up process there. X tried
calling me. I went ahead andblocked her everywhere I could

(44:23):
think of.
Not letting those idiots ruin anotherwise amazing night. Oh my
god. I don't know. It's kinda alittle bit weird though. It's
friends of her moms and Yeah.
Know. And it's like mean, eightyear difference is not too bad.
I mean It's not bad.

Darielys (44:42):
But like the fact that it's your friend's mom is crazy.

Erika (44:44):
And she encouraged this like Mhmm. To like I don't know.
It's weird. Like, imagine likemy mom would be like, yeah,
Erica. Wait.
But like

Darielys (44:55):
How old is friend's mom? That she's friends with, I
ain't no say this, oh this iskinda weird.

Edgar (45:02):
It's probably the young one in her friend group.

Darielys (45:04):
In the group right? Yeah. If it's the mom and he's
35, she's like, The young one.But it's just like 60?

Erika (45:12):
Yeah. 50. 50, 60.

Edgar (45:15):
At least

Darielys (45:17):
around there.

Edgar (45:18):
Gonna see that the mom had him like OP when she was at
least 18. So Like 53? Yeah.

Darielys (45:26):
Yeah, like around there. Oh my god. Oh, that's
still weird to me. Yeah.

Erika (45:30):
I don't know. I mean, maybe the mom could have a good
eye and she sees that it couldhave a comment. I'm trying to be
devil's advocate But I I I stillfind it weird. Yeah. Yeah.
No.

Darielys (45:40):
How long have they like, his mom and the the girl
been friends? Because, like,that's weird if, like, you saw
him grow up. Like, what? Oh,that's even weird.

Erika (45:50):
I know.

Edgar (45:52):
In general, this is just weird. Like, imagine, like, oh,
I like, okay, we have, kids andall this stuff, and then you
have, like, friends and, like,hey, you would definitely love
my child. Ew. And you justanywhere you slice it, it's,
like, really bad.

Erika (46:05):
That's so

Darielys (46:06):
interesting. I was like,

Erika (46:09):
it's like for example, we had children and they were like,
oh, you should always take Dave.Like, like, what you do? Yeah.
Like that, that's weird. Yeah,there's just no happy medium
there.
Yeah. It is weird and creepy.

Darielys (46:26):
Yeah. She definitely watched them grow up. So I

Erika (46:28):
don't know

Darielys (46:28):
if the friends

Erika (46:29):
oh gosh. No way. I don't know if the friends, like, are
assholes here because it's it isweird and creepy. I think they
should have got it a better wayand not go try to get the ex
girlfriend, maybe find a newgirl to date that's around his
But yeah, I don't know. And thefact that

Darielys (46:52):
the date went pretty well is kinda suspicious too.

Erika (46:55):
Maybe their mom helped her.

Darielys (46:56):
Yeah. Because hello, they know each other.

Erika (46:59):
Yes. So they were

Darielys (47:00):
like, no wonder it went so well. Hello.

Erika (47:03):
Like, said he doesn't like this, don't do this.

Edgar (47:06):
This is his favorite movie by the way. It's bad, but
just pretend to like it.

Erika (47:12):
This is so weird.

Edgar (47:14):
Okay. Hello. The Walking Owl.

Darielys (47:16):
Yeah. Yeah.

Erika (47:18):
Yeah. So the top comment is trying to manipulate you into
canceling a date because theycare more about the feelings of
the girl that dumped you doesn'treally sound like someone real
friends would do. Yeah, like Isaid, they should have gotten it
that way. They should have founda new person. OP actually
responded to this and said,yeah, I was pretty disappointed

(47:39):
that we're willing to play alongwith all of this.
They are my closest friends, soI'm strongly considering just
moving on from them completely.But yeah, that's still weird.
Sorry OP.

Darielys (47:50):
Yeah.

Erika (47:51):
I mean, if you're happy, you're happy but like this, I
don't know.

Edgar (47:57):
Mental illness.

Darielys (48:02):
I don't

Erika (48:02):
know I don't think

Edgar (48:03):
I'm doing Jesus didn't die for this.

Erika (48:05):
What? What did say?

Darielys (48:08):
I heard Jesus.

Edgar (48:09):
I said Jesus didn't die for us.

Darielys (48:11):
Oh no

Erika (48:14):
no no.

Darielys (48:15):
This is too much. I did not expect that.

Erika (48:19):
I didn't either. So we have one more story and it's one
of those videos where you see onTikTok or IG. So it starts off
that one time I was on aromantic day with a guy and
decided to let out a very smalltoot, thinking nothing of it. I

(48:44):
shift in my seat and realize itfelt a little warm down there. I
do the sniff test and realize Ihave my pants.
I say aloud, I just my pants andthe guy laughs thinking I was
joking and says, no, you didn't.I said, no. I really just my
pants. Mind you, I'm wearing oneof those one piece camo

(49:07):
jumpsuits. Oh, no.
That is trapped at the bottom ofthe jumpsuit.

Darielys (49:15):
Ew. I

Erika (49:19):
then jump out of the car.

Darielys (49:22):
The car? Oh, hell no. Hold up.

Erika (49:26):
I then jumped out of the car and ripped the jumpsuit off
my body, all way down to myskivvies.

Darielys (49:33):
Skivvies? That's crazy.

Erika (49:34):
I started freaking out and can't stop saying I just my
pants because I'm in suchdisbelief. I wrapped myself in a
blanket and I was cry laughingbecause I didn't really know how
to feel. The guy was trying tohold it in together and being
super respectful, but couldn'tstart laughing with me. He said

(49:56):
it wasn't a big deal, but likeit was. Yeah.
We raced back to my home and Ijump in the shower only to hop
out in on the shower mat. Icould not stop pooping and was
so concerned because I feltcompletely fine. To this day, I

(50:19):
don't really get why I couldn'tstop pooping. But said, Guy and
I are now engaged andcelebrating six years this
month. What?
I mean, if you're able to lookpast that. Was that the first
date? Yeah. I think that was

Darielys (50:37):
the first date. I feel like there's nothing that could
be that.

Erika (50:42):
That's like, at that point,

Darielys (50:44):
you know. At that point, y'all are just meant to
be.

Erika (50:47):
Because

Darielys (50:47):
what? That's so embarrassing.

Erika (50:52):
I wouldn't even know much I would be so embarrassed. Yeah.

Darielys (50:59):
I'd be like, you're either stuck with me or we'll
never speak again. That's it.

Erika (51:05):
Is so crazy. But the fact that he stuck around, I mean

Darielys (51:09):
He's a real one.

Erika (51:10):
Yeah, he is. I thought that was I want I wanted to have
one story without a betrayal,even though how bad it was.

Darielys (51:17):
That was pretty This

Edgar (51:18):
is a story where betrayal wouldn't be necessary.

Erika (51:21):
Oh, no. Oh, he did it. So there you go. But, yes, I mean,
I mean, it's kinda awkward forboth parties,

Darielys (51:30):
like Yeah. You kinda I'm sorry,

Erika (51:33):
but that's so No. No.

Darielys (51:37):
His car probably has, a stain on it now.

Edgar (51:40):
Forever. Yeah.

Darielys (51:41):
That's like a memory to look back on. Oh,

Erika (51:44):
remember this time? Remember that time when you
pooped your pants? Oh, Alright.So that is all the stories we
have today. Thank you for tuningin this week's episode.
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(52:08):
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We would appreciate that somuch.

Edgar (52:14):
Also, we started a new Facebook group called AITA
Relationship and Family Drama,Link in the description. Join so
you can share Am I The Assholeposts you like or share your own
stories for us all to judge. Wemay even read a few posts in one
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Erika (52:32):
Thank you, see you next time. Bye!

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