March 24, 2025 • 35 mins
This week on Yapping Schnauzers, we’re sniffing out the lies, secrets, and straight-up emotional warfare happening behind closed doors. From a mother-in-law who refuses to learn your name (for ten years), to a mom who literally stole college dreams from her own kid, we’re deep in the trenches of dysfunctional family drama.
But wait... there’s more! 💍 A fiancé gets caught catfishing other men… by pretending to be his future wife 😳. 👕 A coworker turns shirt-sniffing into a full-blown confession 😅. 🛏️✈️ And a surprise visit home leads to a woman in your bed, and a passport in your hand. Should you trust your gut 🤔 or your gaslighting partner? 🧠🚩
We’re reacting, judging (just a little), and yapping about the wildest relationship chaos Reddit has to offer. You might need a delicious bowl of popcorn for this one. 🍿
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- AITAH for letting my MIL call me the wrong name for a decade?
- My mother admitted something to me that really bothered me
- AIO for breaking of my engagement because my fiancé was catfishing other men pretending to be me?
- I found out that my coworker smells my T-shirt every day.
- AITA for leaving my boyfriend after finding a woman in our bed?
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Intro (00:00):
Yapping!
Erika (00:03):
Hello. This is Erika.
Edgar (00:05):
And Edgar.
Erika (00:06):
And we are the Yapping Snowsers. We entertain you with
the app worthy stories we findaround the web. And today's
theme is called Hidden Agendas.And I just wanted to let you
know we both are kinda sicktoday, our voice is gonna sound
a little bit different. Bearwith us.
Edgar (00:26):
The first story is titled, Am I the Asshole for
Letting My Mother-in-law Call Methe Wrong Name for a Decade? My
mother-in-law and I do not getalong. She, on multiple
occasions, has given me a listof women she wished my husband
would have married instead ofme. She told me I needed weight
loss surgery when I waspregnant. I was five pounds over
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my BMI, and she had kinkles.
Also, when I was pregnant, shetold mutual friends she had to
stay with me so I didn't screwup the baby. All fun stories for
another time. I don't care tohave a relationship with her, so
I mostly ignore her and myhusband and I make fun of her
later. Not entirely healthy, butit's how we cope. When my hubby
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and I were dating we startedgetting serious so we did the
whole meet the parents thing.
I have a very common 80s girlname, not hard to pronounce and
super easy. My husbandintroduced me to his parents and
everything was fine. A littlelater, mother-in-law calls me by
the wrong name. I politelycorrect her. It's worth noting
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here my my it's worth notinghere my mother-in-law hates to
be corrected or told she iswrong about anything.
She will literally scream andstart rage crying if you correct
her on something and insist sheis right. This is exactly what
happened. She flies into herrage and screams at me that she
knows my name. I'm shocked, wideeyed, mouth hanging open like a
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trout, and everyone else is justacting like nothing is happening
since apparently this is acommon occurrence. Years go by.
She continues to call me thewrong name. Everyone else calls
me by the correct name. When myhusband is talking to her and
uses my name, she says, who'sthat? To which my husband
replies, my wife. ThisThanksgiving, the in laws come
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for the holidays.
My five year old is learning hissafety info for school. His
address, phone number, parent'sname, etcetera. I'm quizzing my
son so we can get a reward forlearning the info. Mother-in-law
is looking behind us. We get towhat's mom's name and
mother-in-law jumps in before myson can answer and says the
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wrong name like she's beatinghim at a TV trivia show.
My son looks at me wide eyed andobviously confused, partly from
the shock of his kindergartenassignment turning into a fast
paced game of Jeopardy andpartly because he knows that
that's not my name. I have tosay something at this point so I
ignore mother-in-law completelyand tell my son, that's not
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mom's name. What is it? My sonanswers with the correct name.
Mother-in-law spends the nextcouple minutes insisting she's
right.
My husband and I tell her she'snot. Instead of exploding, she
unexpectedly sulks. Later, we goover to my parents' house. As
I'm setting the table, I see mymother-in-law cornering my
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mother in the kitchen, grillingher about my name. Apparently,
mother-in-law was convinced wewere lying to her, so she needed
to verify with my mom.
She insists, no one told her myreal name. I'd be lying if I
said I didn't enjoy Thanksgivinga little more this year knowing
that mother-in-law thought wewere running a ten year campaign
to embarrass her. My husband andI have had a lot of laughs about
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this for the past few months.But recently, I told the story
to a friend who said I was anasshole for letting her call me
the wrong name for a decade,then laughing at her behind her
back about it. Girl, please.
And so I guess my question is,am I the asshole?
Erika (03:59):
No.
Edgar (04:00):
And no. It's like nothing assholish on the OP's enemies
about not correcting her mother.
Erika (04:08):
That's funny.
Edgar (04:09):
The mother-in-law, like, obviously she didn't like her.
And obviously, feel like thefirst time he she named called
her the wrong name, I think itwas like on purpose, but I feel
like over time
Erika (04:20):
She forgot.
Edgar (04:21):
She forgot like, oh, yeah, actually don't like you
and this is like a fake name Imade for you. Yeah.
Erika (04:27):
I don't know why she would think that a ten year
thing to make her foolish wouldbe something that anybody had
effort to do. Like
Edgar (04:35):
Some people would think they're that important, I guess.
Erika (04:37):
I guess. But I mean, seriously, she tried to correct
her and she didn't take it well.Yeah. So it's not her fault. She
would be an asshole if shedidn't correct her and just let
her go and continue.
Because at least she would've,know, said I I tried to tell her
the the my real name, you know?
Edgar (04:56):
Mhmm.
Erika (04:57):
So yeah. I don't no. Not at all. She had nothing to do
Yeah. With that.
Edgar (05:02):
If anything, the friend is the asshole for trying to
imply that OP is the asshole foranything. Like, don't think
anyone here in this story wasthat asshole ish. Maybe the mom
a little bit.
Erika (05:10):
The mother-in-law definitely is. Yeah. Yes.
Edgar (05:12):
But that
Erika (05:12):
She would throw tantrums because somebody corrected her
with anything.
Edgar (05:16):
Oh, yeah. I mean, besides that, I think she's she's just
very, like, immature. She shouldbe
Erika (05:20):
an adult. Yes.
Edgar (05:21):
Yeah. Very immature. I feel like she like, messing with
the OP's name just backfired onher tremendously, like, ten
years later.
Erika (05:29):
Yeah. I mean, that's I mean, so the fact that a five
year old corrected her
Edgar (05:33):
Mhmm.
Erika (05:33):
Was funny. Yeah. Later like that. The top comment is my
mother-in-law insisted that myname was x. I told her it was
not.
Her son told her it was not. Shethrew a temper tantrum. We moved
on. For the next ten years, shecalled me by the wrong name. She
ignored everyone calling me bythe right name.
After ten years, she wasconfronted with the truth. She
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is embarrassed that she ignoredeveryone for ten years. My
mother-in-law is the assholehere, there and everywhere. So,
yeah. Basically, you just seededa whole little
Edgar (06:07):
Like summarized it?
Erika (06:08):
Yeah. They summarized it. But yeah, mean like if everybody
else was calling her the othername, did she think that she was
just the right person? Like theright one only? Like, I don't
know.
Edgar (06:18):
Alright. Yeah, so final verdict?
Erika (06:20):
No, she's not the asshole but the mother-in-law is.
Edgar (06:23):
Yeah, I say yeah. Ophie's definitely not the asshole.
Erika (06:27):
Yeah, next story is my mother admitted something to me
that really bothered me. When Iwas in high school, I applied to
a bunch of colleges. This wasback in 02/2007 when colleges
sent acceptance letters throughthe mail. My relationship with
my family has always beenproblematic as they both
preferred my older brother.Mainly because he wanted to be a
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doctor while I wanted to writeand direct movies.
My older brother never had thegrades of attitude to be
anything, let alone a doctor. Healways stood tantrums when
things didn't go his way and hebuilt a reputation in school of
being a crybaby mama's boy.Imagine that. I never got
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accepted anywhere and ended upgetting thrown out by my dad who
called me an idiot. I spent ayear sleeping on a friend's
couch before I got a stable jobin line painting.
I had to break up with my highschool sweetheart as well as the
stress got to me and she gotinto college and we grew apart.
Now it's been eighteen yearssince all of that and I own a
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line painting company andasphalt repair company. It
wasn't easy and I did get her abunch of times on the job. So
now I have a shoulder issues andlower back issues. My mother
reached out to me recently andwe met up to talk.
My dad was there too. I haven'tseen them in years. She revealed
that my brother still lives athome and flunked out of college
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and refuses to get a job. Hespends all day sleeping. He also
got in trouble in the past forassaulting his barber.
My brother is bald by the way.Crazy. She then tells me that I
actually had gotten acceptedinto a bunch of different
colleges and shows me a stack ofold male back from 02/2007. It
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turns out that both she and mybrother were intercepting the
acceptance letters from themailbox because she didn't want
me to succeed at somethingbefore my brother did. They both
said they were sorry foreverything and want to start
over with me.
I've forgotten the terrible waythey made me feel in the past
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and now I'm not entirely surewhat to do. This one's like an
advice one. What do you think?What what advice would you give
OP?
Edgar (08:46):
I would just keep the parents at arm's length, but,
like, never be, like, too closejust because, like, it all
worked out in the end for OP.Like, he has, like, his company.
He has, like, money. He has hisown success. But I can see why
he'd be so upset because thattime of his life where, like,
college and, like, hissweetheart from high school or,
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like, just everything at thattime, everything seemed more
important than it was now.
But like through all thatstruggle, he like was able to
make a name for himself. Butyeah, sitting it's like messed
up in the first place to likemanipulate the situation to make
it seem like his brother wasmore successful than OP.
Erika (09:25):
Honestly, I would just break off Complete Contact. What
they did to OP was so messed up.They literally destroyed the
future of OP because he couldhave gone to college could have
done something else. Maybe whathe wanted to do wasn't obviously
it wasn't line or asphalt repaircompany it was to be a right and
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a director. So he had to give upon his dream give up on his
sweetheart child sweetheartbecause he didn't go to college
and the fact that they didn'twant OP to succeed because the
brother wasn't you knowsucceeding at that time was
insane to me.
They chose the favoritism andmade the other brother to
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suffer. So the fact that heturned out okay I don't think
so.
Edgar (10:17):
I think I actually think he turned out okay because the
alternative was he would go intocollege for four years and be in
on the average of $40,000 indebt. And go to some profession
that honestly wouldn't have paidas well as He's getting paid
right now. So I think indirectlythe parents kind of helped him
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even though they did not mean tohelp him.
Erika (10:42):
I don't know but he didn't get to do what he wanted
and then he has hurt his backand He in his shoulder on the
job, so he has issues with thatSo I don't know. I still don't
think They still didn't give hima chance. You don't know what he
what could have happened when hewas in college. He just took
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away his his dream and whateverhe wanted to do, directed him to
a different path. So no.
I think the fact that it was aridiculous reason why they even
removed or did not allow OP toreceive those letters is just
unbelievable. This is just it'sfor me. It's not it's
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unexcusable. I would just rightthere and there just walk out
and be like, yeah. Have a goodlife and just leave.
I don't think forgiving themwill give me any good if they're
able to do that at that time.But what what can they do for me
now? So I don't need them in mylife. They weren't there in my
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life for years. What's the pointof keeping them now?
Especially after you finding outhow terrible they treated you
when you were younger. Let meremind you that her father
kicked her out of the housesaying that or he or she
whatever OP out of the housesaying that they were that he
was what stupid and kicked himout even though the mother and
the brother knew or maybe thefather didn't know that she did
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get accepted. OP got kicked outall of that and had to sleep in
somebody else's couch and tryand really you know struggle
throughout his life and it'sokay I don't think so no I'm
glad he you know at leastwhatever he wants to do he wants
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to forgive them good for him butI personally I would just right
there cut ties. The top commentis start over before you even
had a chance to process thebetrayal. Highly dysfunctional
family dynamics were in playhere, meaning generational
trauma.
You don't really need to havethem in your life when they
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treat you so terribly. I agreewith that comment. Yeah, I mean
they weren't her parents, theOP's parents at all. No child
should be treated that way.
Edgar (13:06):
What's the final verdict on that?
Erika (13:08):
I would say personally I would just stay away from them
cut ties. I don't think you needpeople like that in your life.
But obviously everybody hastheir own choice and he thinks
he could keep them around andtry to have a relationship then
good for him. Yeah
Edgar (13:24):
And then I say OP himself is a knee asshole, but OP's
parents is. And my advice to himis, like, if you want them
around, because they obviouslycame back because they have a
deep regret, but just give theman arm's length because, like,
even though they because theythey weren't there for him when
he needed them.
Erika (13:42):
I think the only reason they have some regret is because
the brother did nothing in hislife. And the one that he they
favored literally is a failure.
Edgar (13:52):
Mhmm. The next story is titled, Am I overreacting for
breaking off my engagementbecause my fiance was catfishing
other men pretending to be me.Me and my fiance have been
together for four years. We havebeen living together for two. We
got engaged last year and I wasso excited to spend the rest of
my life with him.
I even booked a wedding venuebefore he even proposed. The
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wedding venue, photographer,videographer, and all other
expenses were put on my creditcards. Bro. Earlier this year, I
came home to find my boyfriend'slaptop open. My fiance has a
MacBook and a text messagepopped up and I thought, what
the heck, why not look?
When I opened the messages, itwas someone sounding as if they
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were in a romantic relationshipwith my fiance. After going
through the message threads, Irealized that it was a man that
he was talking to. I continuedto scroll through the old
messages and came across piecesof conversation that sounded as
if my fiance was posing as awoman. After continuing to
scroll, I came across picturesof myself that I shared with my
partner. Yes, these wereintimate photos of myself.
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I came to the conclusion that myfiance was catfishing other men
posing as me and using my nudephotos. After going through more
messages I discovered that hewas conversing with multiple men
posing to be me. I never foundany messages of him soliciting
them for anything so I'm unsurewhy he was doing this. I
immediately broke off theengagement. Two of my friends
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are telling me that maybe Ioverreacted and just sit down
and try to figure out why he didthis to me.
Especially because I amstruggling to get some of my
money back from the weddingdeposit. I have still not told
my parents why I broke off theengagement because it would be
very weird to tell my parentsthat my photos are in strangers
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phones now. Am I overacting forbreaking off my engagement from
my fiance because he wascatfishing men opposing to be
me? And no, don't think he'soveracting.
Erika (15:53):
Absolutely not.
Edgar (15:54):
Yeah. I was a little bit confused when I was reading it,
but yeah. Think yeah. It's likemessed up. Like weird.
Like, why? There's nothing youcan possibly get from that.
Erika (16:03):
The only thing that came up with was like maybe he's
trying to send pictures so hecould be like getting money from
the suitors. But she said shedidn't find anything.
Edgar (16:13):
Yeah, it's definitely weird. And I'm pretty sure it's
illegal He's sharing someoneelse's photos, like, else's nude
photos without their permission.
Erika (16:22):
It's so messed up. Mhmm. Imagine. Like, I can't even I
don't even know how I wouldfeel. It's completely shock.
Like
Edgar (16:31):
I'd be so weirded out, but yeah. I don't think she's
overreacting. But I think it'slike a stupid decision on her
part that puts so much likemoney for like a future wedding
on like credit cards becauselike that's gonna like and
especially like in credit cards.Like it's just it's like a very
terrible place to be at themoment. Know.
Financially she's like screwedfor like at least years. Yeah,
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years and years.
Erika (16:55):
Yeah, I just feel bad. I feel like they I mean I guess
she really trusted her fiance inthinking that, you know, they're
gonna get married and build alife together. So I guess where
she was coming from, maybe sheshouldn't have used her credit
cards, but yeah, she's reallygot screwed over. And the fact
that the friends are saying thatshe's overreacting, it's
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ridiculous. Yeah.
You need new friends, OP.
Edgar (17:20):
Yeah. Those are not good friends to have. No. Like anyone
like, I feel like they just haveno empathy because if put
yourself in that situation, I'dbe just as weirded out.
Erika (17:30):
Yeah. Like, I don't even know how it would feel. I really
would like I would feel creepedout too.
Edgar (17:36):
Yeah, because yeah, there's just like so much wrong
with that.
Erika (17:39):
You would never expect your significant other to do
that, you know what mean? Shareyour nudes and then pretend that
to be To be you. I, oh, that'sjust gross. The top comment is
Nevermind the catfishing. He wassending your nudes to other
people.
You need to get better friends.I'm sorry this happened to you.
Edgar (18:00):
Yeah, I agree.
Erika (18:02):
Yeah, she needs better friends and she needs to get out
of that. There's just noexplanation that is worthy to
give him a chance. You know whatmean? Like this is the this is
it. No matter what he tries toexplain.
Edgar (18:16):
Yeah. He was a weird guy.
Erika (18:17):
Yeah. It's just there's just no excuse. There's no
reason that would be valid forme.
Edgar (18:21):
He can't control himself, bro. Yeah.
Erika (18:25):
So OP, get rid of him.
Edgar (18:27):
Mhmm. Agreed.
Erika (18:29):
That's the final verdict for me. Okay. Next story is I
have lied about my entire lifeto everyone I know. I have lied
about every single aspect of mylife to everyone I know. My
closest friends, my boyfriend ofthree years, my family.
No one knows the real me. Aversion of myself they know is
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completely fabricated. I told myfriends I go to Brown
University, but the truth is Igo to a community college
because my dad blew all mycollege funds on alcohol and
gambling. I couldn't afford togo anywhere else, but I was too
ashamed to admit that. So Ibuilt this lie about being at a
prestigious school pretending Ihave this bright successful
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future ahead of me.
My life is empty and miserable.I'm a functioning alcoholic and
drink alone whenever I'm notwith my boyfriend or friends. I
cannot drink around them becauseI lose control and drink too
much. I drink until all thealcohol is gone or I block out.
I have no off switch.
I've almost died from alcoholpoisoning several times but no
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one except my family knows. Myfriends have no idea and I've
never told my boyfriend eventhough we've been together for
three years. I've been arrestedmultiple times because of my
drinking and been in a severeaccident. I wrecked my car,
walked away injured, and Ialways lied my way out. When I
crashed my car, I told myfriends a ridiculous story about
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a reckless driver.
I lie about my family too. Itell my friends my dad is the
vice president of a successfulcompany, which was true years
ago before he got fired becauseof his alcoholism. Now he's
barely hanging on, drinkinghimself to death, but no one
knows. My parents have beensplit up for years, but if you
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ask my friends, they would tellyou I come from my happy
successful family. I even lieabout my brother.
I tell my friends we're closeand I make up stories about
things we've done together. Butin reality, my brother hates me.
He has caught all contact withme. I don't even know what's
going on in his life anymore butI still pretend like I do. It's
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easier than admit it why hewants nothing to do with me.
On top of all of this my mentalhealth is a mess. I have bipolar
disorder, struggled withanorexia and have other mental
issues, but I hide it all. Noone knows. I've kept everything
hidden from my friends and myboyfriend. I lie about even the
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smallest, most meaninglessthings.
If I spill something on myshirt, I say somebody bumped
into me. If I wake up at 2PM,I'll tell everyone I was up
early in the gym. I fabricatefake social events, fake
friendships and fakeaccomplishments to go to extreme
lengths to keep my liesconsistent. I don't know how to
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stop. I've lied for so long, Idon't even know who I am without
it.
If anyone found out the truth Iwould lose everything. So what
do you think about the story?It's not an Emma the Asshole
story it's just somebodyconfessing basically.
Edgar (21:38):
Yeah I guess she's just kind of coping with everything
but she's like living a lie orat least telling everyone that
she's living a lie at themoment.
Erika (21:46):
I think it's really sad. Honestly, the fact that she
feels like she needs to lie toeverybody because she doesn't
feel like she's accomplishedanything and that she's a
failure. It just saddens me. Shehas a dysfunctional family and
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she didn't have anybody to runto or have anybody to trust so
she thinks lying is the only wayto keep this facade going. But,
you know, I think at some pointshe needs to come clean because
the alcoholism and all theblackouts and the accidents and
the lying is just not going togo anywhere good.
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It's not going to end good for
Edgar (22:29):
her. Think she's just saying all this because this is
like the life she wants to have.Like she wished that she had
like a happy family with like adad she could be proud of. She
wished she had her own likesuccesses by going to like a
prestigious university. Like shewas having like an over a happy
life.
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It's just her trying to convincenot only everyone else but
herself that she's living thatlife.
Erika (22:55):
Yeah, I think she just likes what she wish she had and
it's just really sad really. Ithink for the people that we
have family that we are blessedwith and siblings that you know
love us whatever it's somethingthat not many people always
have. But I think if somebodywas to lie with so many aspects
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of their life I feel like thepeople around them would notice
but maybe they're just waitingfor her to come clean.
Edgar (23:22):
Probably yeah they probably So
Erika (23:25):
the top comment is want to know a secret? They probably
kinda already know you're lying.They have probably seen through
the stories, heard theinconsistencies, and have talked
about this issue behind yourback. They've seen the effect
and suspicion of drinking arethere too. I don't know if this
helps but you're not that goodat it as you think.
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So you can start by tellinglittle truths rather than the
little lies and move up to thebig ones or you can wait, get
caught and lose it all.
Edgar (23:54):
Yeah, mean it's a a good strategy. Just like because she
needs to, like, come back, andshe has people who are around
her, like, currently. Like, theymaybe they don't know
everything, but I can imaginethey are suspicious about her
life. And since they are ready,they probably would be a little
bit more open to helping herout. Yeah.
But I think it'll be a hardkinda, like, transition because
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then she has to, like, come toterms of how life actually is.
And I imagine her boyfriendwon't be too happy if she finds
out that she was lying for likethree years.
Erika (24:26):
I mean, I'm sure he knows. I'm sure he knows certain
things.
Edgar (24:30):
Mhmm. Like, has he not met the parents yet? I don't
know. Not.
Erika (24:36):
Yeah, I think at this point she just should just start
with the little lies like oh youknow like she's meeting her
brother or something you sayyeah actually my brother and I
are really not that close youknow. Something little to help
her you know just start off andyou know let the snow fall and
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may create you know a effect. SoI honestly think she should come
clean before she loses it alllike the common sense.
Edgar (25:05):
So any final advice for her?
Erika (25:08):
I would say just come clean girl. I'm sure they'll
understand for the people thatreally care about you and just
want the best for you. So
Edgar (25:20):
the next story is titled I found out that my coworker
smells my t shirt everyday. Heyeveryone, I'm a guy, 18 years
old. This is a 17 year old girlat my work. She's really nice
and we have a lot in common.Lately we've been talking more
and ending up on the same shiftstogether.
Today was one of those days.Everything was going as usual.
We joked around a lot and hadfun. But today, the locker room
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door lock broke. I walk in, notexpecting anyone to be there,
and saw her standing there,holding my t shirt.
She was smelling it. I openedthe door pretty fast, so she
didn't have time to react. Ijust froze, completely shocked,
not knowing what to say. And shequickly threw the t shirt back
in my locker and walked outwithout saying a word. For the
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rest of our shit, we barelytalked.
I used to like her, but now Ihave no idea what to think. I
need advice. Why would she dothat? I wonder why. What does
this mean?
Erika (26:16):
Okay. So what do you think?
Edgar (26:19):
Mummy?
Erika (26:20):
Yeah, why do think that she is smelling the t shirt?
Edgar (26:25):
Obviously, she dropped some food earlier and she just
smelling it again because it wasso good.
Erika (26:31):
Yeah, no.
Edgar (26:32):
No, I think yeah, she likes him. It's very obvious. I
think it's, like, weird, but Imean, people do pretty crazy
stuff when they like someoneelse. So obviously not the
weirdest thing, but it's prettyup there. Yeah.
I can understand why he would bestressed out about it, but I
think he's 18. She's 17. Yeah. Imean
Erika (26:53):
yeah. It's They're pretty young.
Edgar (26:54):
They're pretty young.
Erika (26:57):
I honestly wouldn't know what to think. I I mean, I would
be kind a little bit flatteredbecause, know, maybe I smell
good. But then I'll be like,okay. What do you
Edgar (27:10):
That's like if you wanna have like a like a obsessed
person with you. Like Somepeople are into that.
Erika (27:18):
Well, I don't know. I mean, smelling somebody's t
shirt, like, and then the lockbroke apparently. What if she
broke the lock? Do you knowthat? So, I don't know, it's a
little bit
Edgar (27:28):
She's pharaoh for him.
Erika (27:30):
That's crazy. So the top comment is the biggest line
between something being sexy orcreepy depends on how into the
other person is. Exactly whatyou said so yeah. Let's see. But
there is an edit which you cango ahead and read.
Edgar (27:47):
Mhmm. Yeah. Agree with that too because if you're
attractive and you do that,like, people say, oh, okay. So
you're just very into me. But ifit's not attractive, people are
gonna say, oh, that's like like,creepy.
Like, imagine, like, thehomeless guy that lives behind
the Paley dollar sniffing youryour clothes. Like, I I called
the cops at that point. But ifit's, like, like, we'll still be
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crushed, like Sabrina Carpenteror something like that. I'd be
like, oh, okay. She likes methat much.
Erika (28:17):
Yeah. I guess it also depends on attractiveness of the
person. And then also the agegap. Like, if it was like an old
man and he was 17 or like an oldwoman, know, something like that
would be weird.
Edgar (28:27):
Mhmm. That's true. But I mean, there's some attractive
old people, I guess.
Erika (28:31):
You're into it, I guess. Like something, it depends on
the preference of the person.
Edgar (28:35):
Attractiveness. So there's an edit. The edit says,
Okay guys, I did not expect thestory to blow up like this.
First of all, thank you all foryour responses and for taking
the time to weigh in. I thoughtI'd get like one or two replies
and move on, but I need to comeclean.
I can't lie to so many kindhearted people. The truth is,
I'm the girl in the story. So OPis the girl.
Erika (28:58):
For
Edgar (28:58):
clarifications. Everything I've heard is true,
but I described it from hisperspective to see how people
would react and how he mightperceive the whole thing.
Basically, I wanted to get anidea of what he would think of
me. I was going to just leave itat that, but I have some good
news. I did exactly what youguys suggested, just in reverse.
I texted him and asked if hecould talk. He was busy and
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couldn't meet up, so we ended updiscussing it over chat. I
apologized like a million timesand tried to explain myself, but
he said it was all good, That heactually found it more funny
than creepy. See? So he she'sprobably attractive.
And we haven't really talkedmuch since, but at least we're
still on good terms. Oh, and inthree hours, I have another
shift with him. Stay tuned forupdates. And then there's one
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final update. Okay, guys.
The ending is probably a bitmore boring than you expected. I
literally just changed after myshift, and now I'm waiting for
him so we can walk hometogether. We live in the same
general direction. We barelytalked all day and when we did
it was just normal, noawkwardness or anything. But
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here's the thing, he could'vegone home earlier, yet he stayed
to help me with orders and evenstuck around for a bit, just
waiting for me, like we used todo before all of this.
I feel like if he were actuallycreeped up on me, he would've
just left early when he had thechance. I don't know, I don't
want to get my hopes up aftereverything that happened. I
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think in his eyes, I'm stilljust his nice coworker. Just a
bit weirder now. Looks likethat's the end of the story.
So I think he is attracted toher as well, but it's like kinda
like
Erika (30:36):
He's still kinda debating, I guess, how
Edgar (30:38):
he More like he's trying to like see like the most
Erika (30:43):
How crazy she is.
Edgar (30:44):
Yeah. But also how to transition from just being co
workers to being like in arelationship because like it's
had like, he's definitely not,like, repulsed enough to, like,
wanna quit or, like, leave atthe earliest convenience. So I
think he's, like especially withhim lingering, he's trying to
figure out, like, how to make amove, I guess.
Erika (31:00):
Yeah. So I think she should be okay.
Edgar (31:02):
Mhmm. Like, probably all his bros were like, yeah, she's
definitely into you guys.
Erika (31:06):
Well, obviously, if she's not your t shirt. But see, like,
she completely did a littletwist in there and the update.
Edgar (31:12):
Mhmm.
Erika (31:14):
Yeah. I think she should just let, you know, if something
happens happens so I don't thinkhe's really he's not attracted
to her either.
Edgar (31:22):
OP you're into clear because you're attractive.
Erika (31:27):
Alright so last story is Emma the Asshole for leaving my
boyfriend after finding a womanin our bed.
Edgar (31:36):
Bro.
Erika (31:37):
So I26female is going on a trip to London with my sister
today. I've been staying withher since yesterday because she
lives close to the airport. Irealized I forgot my passport at
my apartment where my boyfriend,27 male, and I live together.
And I had time to go back andget it, so I did. I texted him
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this morning to let him know Iwas coming back to get my
passport, but he didn't respond.
When I got there he lookedreally antsy and suspicious. I
went into our bedroom and founda woman I don't recognize lying
in our bed fully clothed. I justwent on autopilot, grabbed my
passport, told him we were overand left. Now my boyfriend's
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blowing up my phone saying thatthe woman is his long time
friend and that she's a lesbianwho just needed a place to crash
for the night. I don't believehim because he never mentioned
anything about her staying overwhile I was gone and the whole
situation feels off.
He's saying I'm making a hugemistake and that he's telling
the truth, but honestly, I'mjust really hurt and confused.
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He's begging for me to hear himout and is apologizing but this
whole situation is not right. Soam I the asshole for leaving
him? Should I believe hisexplanation or is it my gut
telling me the truth? We werejust signed a lease for two
months ago and I'm literallyleaving the country today.
So it's a horrible and stressfulsituation. What do think, she's
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an asshole?
Edgar (33:06):
Yeah she isn't the asshole in this situation
because it's like a big surpriseto see like an unfamiliar person
in your house like especially ifit's like the opposite gender of
your partner. I think there's achance that he's telling the
truth and that he didn't want tolike tell OP like, oh my lesbian
friend's coming over, don'tworry, because like it's like
weird.
Erika (33:26):
I really don't believe him. I think maybe the 1% chance
of he's telling the truth butreally I think she should follow
her gut and if she feels thathe's lying then she should not
give him a chance But I stillfind it weird that he didn't
want to say anything because itwas just last minute no. I think
as soon as that would havehappened she should have said
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something. And he just decidedto just go behind her back. Nah,
I think he's lying and goodthing that she forgot her
passport so she can see thatthere's a woman in his bed.
And plus, okay, let's say shewas over, why does she have to
be on the bed? Why couldn't shebe in the couch in the living
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room with common areas? Why Whydoes she have to be laying on
the bed? You know, it's just itdoesn't make sense to me. It's
just I don't know.
And why was he nervous and allthat? Yeah. I don't trust that.
So the top comment is not theasshole. Your boyfriend never
mentioned her before and it'sconvenient for him to use that
as an excuse when there's aperson in the office lying in
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his bed.
If she needed a place to crash,what his bed not the couch. He
knows he has a girlfriend andit's okay for someone else to
share a bed with him withoutgiving you a heads up first.
Yeah. Exactly. So I don't reallythink there's really a chance
that he's he was so he he was sountruth.
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So that so what's the final burgfor you? You think she's an
asshole, though?
Edgar (34:57):
No.
Erika (34:58):
I don't think so either. I think she should follow her
gut. That's all the stories wehave today. Thank you for tuning
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Erika (35:34):
Thank you for joining us. Bye!
Yapping!
Erika (00:03):
Hello. This is Erika.
Edgar (00:05):
And Edgar.
Erika (00:06):
And we are the Yapping Snowsers. We entertain you with
the app worthy stories we findaround the web. And today's
theme is called Hidden Agendas.And I just wanted to let you
know we both are kinda sicktoday, our voice is gonna sound
a little bit different. Bearwith us.
Edgar (00:26):
The first story is titled, Am I the Asshole for
Letting My Mother-in-law Call Methe Wrong Name for a Decade? My
mother-in-law and I do not getalong. She, on multiple
occasions, has given me a listof women she wished my husband
would have married instead ofme. She told me I needed weight
loss surgery when I waspregnant. I was five pounds over
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my BMI, and she had kinkles.
Also, when I was pregnant, shetold mutual friends she had to
stay with me so I didn't screwup the baby. All fun stories for
another time. I don't care tohave a relationship with her, so
I mostly ignore her and myhusband and I make fun of her
later. Not entirely healthy, butit's how we cope. When my hubby
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and I were dating we startedgetting serious so we did the
whole meet the parents thing.
I have a very common 80s girlname, not hard to pronounce and
super easy. My husbandintroduced me to his parents and
everything was fine. A littlelater, mother-in-law calls me by
the wrong name. I politelycorrect her. It's worth noting
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here my my it's worth notinghere my mother-in-law hates to
be corrected or told she iswrong about anything.
She will literally scream andstart rage crying if you correct
her on something and insist sheis right. This is exactly what
happened. She flies into herrage and screams at me that she
knows my name. I'm shocked, wideeyed, mouth hanging open like a
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trout, and everyone else is justacting like nothing is happening
since apparently this is acommon occurrence. Years go by.
She continues to call me thewrong name. Everyone else calls
me by the correct name. When myhusband is talking to her and
uses my name, she says, who'sthat? To which my husband
replies, my wife. ThisThanksgiving, the in laws come
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for the holidays.
My five year old is learning hissafety info for school. His
address, phone number, parent'sname, etcetera. I'm quizzing my
son so we can get a reward forlearning the info. Mother-in-law
is looking behind us. We get towhat's mom's name and
mother-in-law jumps in before myson can answer and says the
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wrong name like she's beatinghim at a TV trivia show.
My son looks at me wide eyed andobviously confused, partly from
the shock of his kindergartenassignment turning into a fast
paced game of Jeopardy andpartly because he knows that
that's not my name. I have tosay something at this point so I
ignore mother-in-law completelyand tell my son, that's not
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mom's name. What is it? My sonanswers with the correct name.
Mother-in-law spends the nextcouple minutes insisting she's
right.
My husband and I tell her she'snot. Instead of exploding, she
unexpectedly sulks. Later, we goover to my parents' house. As
I'm setting the table, I see mymother-in-law cornering my
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mother in the kitchen, grillingher about my name. Apparently,
mother-in-law was convinced wewere lying to her, so she needed
to verify with my mom.
She insists, no one told her myreal name. I'd be lying if I
said I didn't enjoy Thanksgivinga little more this year knowing
that mother-in-law thought wewere running a ten year campaign
to embarrass her. My husband andI have had a lot of laughs about
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this for the past few months.But recently, I told the story
to a friend who said I was anasshole for letting her call me
the wrong name for a decade,then laughing at her behind her
back about it. Girl, please.
And so I guess my question is,am I the asshole?
Erika (03:59):
No.
Edgar (04:00):
And no. It's like nothing assholish on the OP's enemies
about not correcting her mother.
Erika (04:08):
That's funny.
Edgar (04:09):
The mother-in-law, like, obviously she didn't like her.
And obviously, feel like thefirst time he she named called
her the wrong name, I think itwas like on purpose, but I feel
like over time
Erika (04:20):
She forgot.
Edgar (04:21):
She forgot like, oh, yeah, actually don't like you
and this is like a fake name Imade for you. Yeah.
Erika (04:27):
I don't know why she would think that a ten year
thing to make her foolish wouldbe something that anybody had
effort to do. Like
Edgar (04:35):
Some people would think they're that important, I guess.
Erika (04:37):
I guess. But I mean, seriously, she tried to correct
her and she didn't take it well.Yeah. So it's not her fault. She
would be an asshole if shedidn't correct her and just let
her go and continue.
Because at least she would've,know, said I I tried to tell her
the the my real name, you know?
Edgar (04:56):
Mhmm.
Erika (04:57):
So yeah. I don't no. Not at all. She had nothing to do
Yeah. With that.
Edgar (05:02):
If anything, the friend is the asshole for trying to
imply that OP is the asshole foranything. Like, don't think
anyone here in this story wasthat asshole ish. Maybe the mom
a little bit.
Erika (05:10):
The mother-in-law definitely is. Yeah. Yes.
Edgar (05:12):
But that
Erika (05:12):
She would throw tantrums because somebody corrected her
with anything.
Edgar (05:16):
Oh, yeah. I mean, besides that, I think she's she's just
very, like, immature. She shouldbe
Erika (05:20):
an adult. Yes.
Edgar (05:21):
Yeah. Very immature. I feel like she like, messing with
the OP's name just backfired onher tremendously, like, ten
years later.
Erika (05:29):
Yeah. I mean, that's I mean, so the fact that a five
year old corrected her
Edgar (05:33):
Mhmm.
Erika (05:33):
Was funny. Yeah. Later like that. The top comment is my
mother-in-law insisted that myname was x. I told her it was
not.
Her son told her it was not. Shethrew a temper tantrum. We moved
on. For the next ten years, shecalled me by the wrong name. She
ignored everyone calling me bythe right name.
After ten years, she wasconfronted with the truth. She
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is embarrassed that she ignoredeveryone for ten years. My
mother-in-law is the assholehere, there and everywhere. So,
yeah. Basically, you just seededa whole little
Edgar (06:07):
Like summarized it?
Erika (06:08):
Yeah. They summarized it. But yeah, mean like if everybody
else was calling her the othername, did she think that she was
just the right person? Like theright one only? Like, I don't
know.
Edgar (06:18):
Alright. Yeah, so final verdict?
Erika (06:20):
No, she's not the asshole but the mother-in-law is.
Edgar (06:23):
Yeah, I say yeah. Ophie's definitely not the asshole.
Erika (06:27):
Yeah, next story is my mother admitted something to me
that really bothered me. When Iwas in high school, I applied to
a bunch of colleges. This wasback in 02/2007 when colleges
sent acceptance letters throughthe mail. My relationship with
my family has always beenproblematic as they both
preferred my older brother.Mainly because he wanted to be a
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doctor while I wanted to writeand direct movies.
My older brother never had thegrades of attitude to be
anything, let alone a doctor. Healways stood tantrums when
things didn't go his way and hebuilt a reputation in school of
being a crybaby mama's boy.Imagine that. I never got
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accepted anywhere and ended upgetting thrown out by my dad who
called me an idiot. I spent ayear sleeping on a friend's
couch before I got a stable jobin line painting.
I had to break up with my highschool sweetheart as well as the
stress got to me and she gotinto college and we grew apart.
Now it's been eighteen yearssince all of that and I own a
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line painting company andasphalt repair company. It
wasn't easy and I did get her abunch of times on the job. So
now I have a shoulder issues andlower back issues. My mother
reached out to me recently andwe met up to talk.
My dad was there too. I haven'tseen them in years. She revealed
that my brother still lives athome and flunked out of college
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and refuses to get a job. Hespends all day sleeping. He also
got in trouble in the past forassaulting his barber.
My brother is bald by the way.Crazy. She then tells me that I
actually had gotten acceptedinto a bunch of different
colleges and shows me a stack ofold male back from 02/2007. It
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turns out that both she and mybrother were intercepting the
acceptance letters from themailbox because she didn't want
me to succeed at somethingbefore my brother did. They both
said they were sorry foreverything and want to start
over with me.
I've forgotten the terrible waythey made me feel in the past
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and now I'm not entirely surewhat to do. This one's like an
advice one. What do you think?What what advice would you give
OP?
Edgar (08:46):
I would just keep the parents at arm's length, but,
like, never be, like, too closejust because, like, it all
worked out in the end for OP.Like, he has, like, his company.
He has, like, money. He has hisown success. But I can see why
he'd be so upset because thattime of his life where, like,
college and, like, hissweetheart from high school or,
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like, just everything at thattime, everything seemed more
important than it was now.
But like through all thatstruggle, he like was able to
make a name for himself. Butyeah, sitting it's like messed
up in the first place to likemanipulate the situation to make
it seem like his brother wasmore successful than OP.
Erika (09:25):
Honestly, I would just break off Complete Contact. What
they did to OP was so messed up.They literally destroyed the
future of OP because he couldhave gone to college could have
done something else. Maybe whathe wanted to do wasn't obviously
it wasn't line or asphalt repaircompany it was to be a right and
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a director. So he had to give upon his dream give up on his
sweetheart child sweetheartbecause he didn't go to college
and the fact that they didn'twant OP to succeed because the
brother wasn't you knowsucceeding at that time was
insane to me.
They chose the favoritism andmade the other brother to
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suffer. So the fact that heturned out okay I don't think
so.
Edgar (10:17):
I think I actually think he turned out okay because the
alternative was he would go intocollege for four years and be in
on the average of $40,000 indebt. And go to some profession
that honestly wouldn't have paidas well as He's getting paid
right now. So I think indirectlythe parents kind of helped him
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even though they did not mean tohelp him.
Erika (10:42):
I don't know but he didn't get to do what he wanted
and then he has hurt his backand He in his shoulder on the
job, so he has issues with thatSo I don't know. I still don't
think They still didn't give hima chance. You don't know what he
what could have happened when hewas in college. He just took
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away his his dream and whateverhe wanted to do, directed him to
a different path. So no.
I think the fact that it was aridiculous reason why they even
removed or did not allow OP toreceive those letters is just
unbelievable. This is just it'sfor me. It's not it's
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unexcusable. I would just rightthere and there just walk out
and be like, yeah. Have a goodlife and just leave.
I don't think forgiving themwill give me any good if they're
able to do that at that time.But what what can they do for me
now? So I don't need them in mylife. They weren't there in my
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life for years. What's the pointof keeping them now?
Especially after you finding outhow terrible they treated you
when you were younger. Let meremind you that her father
kicked her out of the housesaying that or he or she
whatever OP out of the housesaying that they were that he
was what stupid and kicked himout even though the mother and
the brother knew or maybe thefather didn't know that she did
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get accepted. OP got kicked outall of that and had to sleep in
somebody else's couch and tryand really you know struggle
throughout his life and it'sokay I don't think so no I'm
glad he you know at leastwhatever he wants to do he wants
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to forgive them good for him butI personally I would just right
there cut ties. The top commentis start over before you even
had a chance to process thebetrayal. Highly dysfunctional
family dynamics were in playhere, meaning generational
trauma.
You don't really need to havethem in your life when they
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treat you so terribly. I agreewith that comment. Yeah, I mean
they weren't her parents, theOP's parents at all. No child
should be treated that way.
Edgar (13:06):
What's the final verdict on that?
Erika (13:08):
I would say personally I would just stay away from them
cut ties. I don't think you needpeople like that in your life.
But obviously everybody hastheir own choice and he thinks
he could keep them around andtry to have a relationship then
good for him. Yeah
Edgar (13:24):
And then I say OP himself is a knee asshole, but OP's
parents is. And my advice to himis, like, if you want them
around, because they obviouslycame back because they have a
deep regret, but just give theman arm's length because, like,
even though they because theythey weren't there for him when
he needed them.
Erika (13:42):
I think the only reason they have some regret is because
the brother did nothing in hislife. And the one that he they
favored literally is a failure.
Edgar (13:52):
Mhmm. The next story is titled, Am I overreacting for
breaking off my engagementbecause my fiance was catfishing
other men pretending to be me.Me and my fiance have been
together for four years. We havebeen living together for two. We
got engaged last year and I wasso excited to spend the rest of
my life with him.
I even booked a wedding venuebefore he even proposed. The
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wedding venue, photographer,videographer, and all other
expenses were put on my creditcards. Bro. Earlier this year, I
came home to find my boyfriend'slaptop open. My fiance has a
MacBook and a text messagepopped up and I thought, what
the heck, why not look?
When I opened the messages, itwas someone sounding as if they
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were in a romantic relationshipwith my fiance. After going
through the message threads, Irealized that it was a man that
he was talking to. I continuedto scroll through the old
messages and came across piecesof conversation that sounded as
if my fiance was posing as awoman. After continuing to
scroll, I came across picturesof myself that I shared with my
partner. Yes, these wereintimate photos of myself.
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I came to the conclusion that myfiance was catfishing other men
posing as me and using my nudephotos. After going through more
messages I discovered that hewas conversing with multiple men
posing to be me. I never foundany messages of him soliciting
them for anything so I'm unsurewhy he was doing this. I
immediately broke off theengagement. Two of my friends
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are telling me that maybe Ioverreacted and just sit down
and try to figure out why he didthis to me.
Especially because I amstruggling to get some of my
money back from the weddingdeposit. I have still not told
my parents why I broke off theengagement because it would be
very weird to tell my parentsthat my photos are in strangers
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phones now. Am I overacting forbreaking off my engagement from
my fiance because he wascatfishing men opposing to be
me? And no, don't think he'soveracting.
Erika (15:53):
Absolutely not.
Edgar (15:54):
Yeah. I was a little bit confused when I was reading it,
but yeah. Think yeah. It's likemessed up. Like weird.
Like, why? There's nothing youcan possibly get from that.
Erika (16:03):
The only thing that came up with was like maybe he's
trying to send pictures so hecould be like getting money from
the suitors. But she said shedidn't find anything.
Edgar (16:13):
Yeah, it's definitely weird. And I'm pretty sure it's
illegal He's sharing someoneelse's photos, like, else's nude
photos without their permission.
Erika (16:22):
It's so messed up. Mhmm. Imagine. Like, I can't even I
don't even know how I wouldfeel. It's completely shock.
Like
Edgar (16:31):
I'd be so weirded out, but yeah. I don't think she's
overreacting. But I think it'slike a stupid decision on her
part that puts so much likemoney for like a future wedding
on like credit cards becauselike that's gonna like and
especially like in credit cards.Like it's just it's like a very
terrible place to be at themoment. Know.
Financially she's like screwedfor like at least years. Yeah,
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years and years.
Erika (16:55):
Yeah, I just feel bad. I feel like they I mean I guess
she really trusted her fiance inthinking that, you know, they're
gonna get married and build alife together. So I guess where
she was coming from, maybe sheshouldn't have used her credit
cards, but yeah, she's reallygot screwed over. And the fact
that the friends are saying thatshe's overreacting, it's
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ridiculous. Yeah.
You need new friends, OP.
Edgar (17:20):
Yeah. Those are not good friends to have. No. Like anyone
like, I feel like they just haveno empathy because if put
yourself in that situation, I'dbe just as weirded out.
Erika (17:30):
Yeah. Like, I don't even know how it would feel. I really
would like I would feel creepedout too.
Edgar (17:36):
Yeah, because yeah, there's just like so much wrong
with that.
Erika (17:39):
You would never expect your significant other to do
that, you know what mean? Shareyour nudes and then pretend that
to be To be you. I, oh, that'sjust gross. The top comment is
Nevermind the catfishing. He wassending your nudes to other
people.
You need to get better friends.I'm sorry this happened to you.
Edgar (18:00):
Yeah, I agree.
Erika (18:02):
Yeah, she needs better friends and she needs to get out
of that. There's just noexplanation that is worthy to
give him a chance. You know whatmean? Like this is the this is
it. No matter what he tries toexplain.
Edgar (18:16):
Yeah. He was a weird guy.
Erika (18:17):
Yeah. It's just there's just no excuse. There's no
reason that would be valid forme.
Edgar (18:21):
He can't control himself, bro. Yeah.
Erika (18:25):
So OP, get rid of him.
Edgar (18:27):
Mhmm. Agreed.
Erika (18:29):
That's the final verdict for me. Okay. Next story is I
have lied about my entire lifeto everyone I know. I have lied
about every single aspect of mylife to everyone I know. My
closest friends, my boyfriend ofthree years, my family.
No one knows the real me. Aversion of myself they know is
(18:50):
completely fabricated. I told myfriends I go to Brown
University, but the truth is Igo to a community college
because my dad blew all mycollege funds on alcohol and
gambling. I couldn't afford togo anywhere else, but I was too
ashamed to admit that. So Ibuilt this lie about being at a
prestigious school pretending Ihave this bright successful
(19:14):
future ahead of me.
My life is empty and miserable.I'm a functioning alcoholic and
drink alone whenever I'm notwith my boyfriend or friends. I
cannot drink around them becauseI lose control and drink too
much. I drink until all thealcohol is gone or I block out.
I have no off switch.
I've almost died from alcoholpoisoning several times but no
(19:37):
one except my family knows. Myfriends have no idea and I've
never told my boyfriend eventhough we've been together for
three years. I've been arrestedmultiple times because of my
drinking and been in a severeaccident. I wrecked my car,
walked away injured, and Ialways lied my way out. When I
crashed my car, I told myfriends a ridiculous story about
(19:59):
a reckless driver.
I lie about my family too. Itell my friends my dad is the
vice president of a successfulcompany, which was true years
ago before he got fired becauseof his alcoholism. Now he's
barely hanging on, drinkinghimself to death, but no one
knows. My parents have beensplit up for years, but if you
(20:20):
ask my friends, they would tellyou I come from my happy
successful family. I even lieabout my brother.
I tell my friends we're closeand I make up stories about
things we've done together. Butin reality, my brother hates me.
He has caught all contact withme. I don't even know what's
going on in his life anymore butI still pretend like I do. It's
(20:41):
easier than admit it why hewants nothing to do with me.
On top of all of this my mentalhealth is a mess. I have bipolar
disorder, struggled withanorexia and have other mental
issues, but I hide it all. Noone knows. I've kept everything
hidden from my friends and myboyfriend. I lie about even the
(21:02):
smallest, most meaninglessthings.
If I spill something on myshirt, I say somebody bumped
into me. If I wake up at 2PM,I'll tell everyone I was up
early in the gym. I fabricatefake social events, fake
friendships and fakeaccomplishments to go to extreme
lengths to keep my liesconsistent. I don't know how to
(21:23):
stop. I've lied for so long, Idon't even know who I am without
it.
If anyone found out the truth Iwould lose everything. So what
do you think about the story?It's not an Emma the Asshole
story it's just somebodyconfessing basically.
Edgar (21:38):
Yeah I guess she's just kind of coping with everything
but she's like living a lie orat least telling everyone that
she's living a lie at themoment.
Erika (21:46):
I think it's really sad. Honestly, the fact that she
feels like she needs to lie toeverybody because she doesn't
feel like she's accomplishedanything and that she's a
failure. It just saddens me. Shehas a dysfunctional family and
(22:07):
she didn't have anybody to runto or have anybody to trust so
she thinks lying is the only wayto keep this facade going. But,
you know, I think at some pointshe needs to come clean because
the alcoholism and all theblackouts and the accidents and
the lying is just not going togo anywhere good.
(22:28):
It's not going to end good for
Edgar (22:29):
her. Think she's just saying all this because this is
like the life she wants to have.Like she wished that she had
like a happy family with like adad she could be proud of. She
wished she had her own likesuccesses by going to like a
prestigious university. Like shewas having like an over a happy
life.
(22:50):
It's just her trying to convincenot only everyone else but
herself that she's living thatlife.
Erika (22:55):
Yeah, I think she just likes what she wish she had and
it's just really sad really. Ithink for the people that we
have family that we are blessedwith and siblings that you know
love us whatever it's somethingthat not many people always
have. But I think if somebodywas to lie with so many aspects
(23:16):
of their life I feel like thepeople around them would notice
but maybe they're just waitingfor her to come clean.
Edgar (23:22):
Probably yeah they probably So
Erika (23:25):
the top comment is want to know a secret? They probably
kinda already know you're lying.They have probably seen through
the stories, heard theinconsistencies, and have talked
about this issue behind yourback. They've seen the effect
and suspicion of drinking arethere too. I don't know if this
helps but you're not that goodat it as you think.
(23:45):
So you can start by tellinglittle truths rather than the
little lies and move up to thebig ones or you can wait, get
caught and lose it all.
Edgar (23:54):
Yeah, mean it's a a good strategy. Just like because she
needs to, like, come back, andshe has people who are around
her, like, currently. Like, theymaybe they don't know
everything, but I can imaginethey are suspicious about her
life. And since they are ready,they probably would be a little
bit more open to helping herout. Yeah.
But I think it'll be a hardkinda, like, transition because
(24:16):
then she has to, like, come toterms of how life actually is.
And I imagine her boyfriendwon't be too happy if she finds
out that she was lying for likethree years.
Erika (24:26):
I mean, I'm sure he knows. I'm sure he knows certain
things.
Edgar (24:30):
Mhmm. Like, has he not met the parents yet? I don't
know. Not.
Erika (24:36):
Yeah, I think at this point she just should just start
with the little lies like oh youknow like she's meeting her
brother or something you sayyeah actually my brother and I
are really not that close youknow. Something little to help
her you know just start off andyou know let the snow fall and
(24:57):
may create you know a effect. SoI honestly think she should come
clean before she loses it alllike the common sense.
Edgar (25:05):
So any final advice for her?
Erika (25:08):
I would say just come clean girl. I'm sure they'll
understand for the people thatreally care about you and just
want the best for you. So
Edgar (25:20):
the next story is titled I found out that my coworker
smells my t shirt everyday. Heyeveryone, I'm a guy, 18 years
old. This is a 17 year old girlat my work. She's really nice
and we have a lot in common.Lately we've been talking more
and ending up on the same shiftstogether.
Today was one of those days.Everything was going as usual.
We joked around a lot and hadfun. But today, the locker room
(25:43):
door lock broke. I walk in, notexpecting anyone to be there,
and saw her standing there,holding my t shirt.
She was smelling it. I openedthe door pretty fast, so she
didn't have time to react. Ijust froze, completely shocked,
not knowing what to say. And shequickly threw the t shirt back
in my locker and walked outwithout saying a word. For the
(26:05):
rest of our shit, we barelytalked.
I used to like her, but now Ihave no idea what to think. I
need advice. Why would she dothat? I wonder why. What does
this mean?
Erika (26:16):
Okay. So what do you think?
Edgar (26:19):
Mummy?
Erika (26:20):
Yeah, why do think that she is smelling the t shirt?
Edgar (26:25):
Obviously, she dropped some food earlier and she just
smelling it again because it wasso good.
Erika (26:31):
Yeah, no.
Edgar (26:32):
No, I think yeah, she likes him. It's very obvious. I
think it's, like, weird, but Imean, people do pretty crazy
stuff when they like someoneelse. So obviously not the
weirdest thing, but it's prettyup there. Yeah.
I can understand why he would bestressed out about it, but I
think he's 18. She's 17. Yeah. Imean
Erika (26:53):
yeah. It's They're pretty young.
Edgar (26:54):
They're pretty young.
Erika (26:57):
I honestly wouldn't know what to think. I I mean, I would
be kind a little bit flatteredbecause, know, maybe I smell
good. But then I'll be like,okay. What do you
Edgar (27:10):
That's like if you wanna have like a like a obsessed
person with you. Like Somepeople are into that.
Erika (27:18):
Well, I don't know. I mean, smelling somebody's t
shirt, like, and then the lockbroke apparently. What if she
broke the lock? Do you knowthat? So, I don't know, it's a
little bit
Edgar (27:28):
She's pharaoh for him.
Erika (27:30):
That's crazy. So the top comment is the biggest line
between something being sexy orcreepy depends on how into the
other person is. Exactly whatyou said so yeah. Let's see. But
there is an edit which you cango ahead and read.
Edgar (27:47):
Mhmm. Yeah. Agree with that too because if you're
attractive and you do that,like, people say, oh, okay. So
you're just very into me. But ifit's not attractive, people are
gonna say, oh, that's like like,creepy.
Like, imagine, like, thehomeless guy that lives behind
the Paley dollar sniffing youryour clothes. Like, I I called
the cops at that point. But ifit's, like, like, we'll still be
(28:11):
crushed, like Sabrina Carpenteror something like that. I'd be
like, oh, okay. She likes methat much.
Erika (28:17):
Yeah. I guess it also depends on attractiveness of the
person. And then also the agegap. Like, if it was like an old
man and he was 17 or like an oldwoman, know, something like that
would be weird.
Edgar (28:27):
Mhmm. That's true. But I mean, there's some attractive
old people, I guess.
Erika (28:31):
You're into it, I guess. Like something, it depends on
the preference of the person.
Edgar (28:35):
Attractiveness. So there's an edit. The edit says,
Okay guys, I did not expect thestory to blow up like this.
First of all, thank you all foryour responses and for taking
the time to weigh in. I thoughtI'd get like one or two replies
and move on, but I need to comeclean.
I can't lie to so many kindhearted people. The truth is,
I'm the girl in the story. So OPis the girl.
Erika (28:58):
For
Edgar (28:58):
clarifications. Everything I've heard is true,
but I described it from hisperspective to see how people
would react and how he mightperceive the whole thing.
Basically, I wanted to get anidea of what he would think of
me. I was going to just leave itat that, but I have some good
news. I did exactly what youguys suggested, just in reverse.
I texted him and asked if hecould talk. He was busy and
(29:20):
couldn't meet up, so we ended updiscussing it over chat. I
apologized like a million timesand tried to explain myself, but
he said it was all good, That heactually found it more funny
than creepy. See? So he she'sprobably attractive.
And we haven't really talkedmuch since, but at least we're
still on good terms. Oh, and inthree hours, I have another
shift with him. Stay tuned forupdates. And then there's one
(29:41):
final update. Okay, guys.
The ending is probably a bitmore boring than you expected. I
literally just changed after myshift, and now I'm waiting for
him so we can walk hometogether. We live in the same
general direction. We barelytalked all day and when we did
it was just normal, noawkwardness or anything. But
(30:02):
here's the thing, he could'vegone home earlier, yet he stayed
to help me with orders and evenstuck around for a bit, just
waiting for me, like we used todo before all of this.
I feel like if he were actuallycreeped up on me, he would've
just left early when he had thechance. I don't know, I don't
want to get my hopes up aftereverything that happened. I
(30:23):
think in his eyes, I'm stilljust his nice coworker. Just a
bit weirder now. Looks likethat's the end of the story.
So I think he is attracted toher as well, but it's like kinda
like
Erika (30:36):
He's still kinda debating, I guess, how
Edgar (30:38):
he More like he's trying to like see like the most
Erika (30:43):
How crazy she is.
Edgar (30:44):
Yeah. But also how to transition from just being co
workers to being like in arelationship because like it's
had like, he's definitely not,like, repulsed enough to, like,
wanna quit or, like, leave atthe earliest convenience. So I
think he's, like especially withhim lingering, he's trying to
figure out, like, how to make amove, I guess.
Erika (31:00):
Yeah. So I think she should be okay.
Edgar (31:02):
Mhmm. Like, probably all his bros were like, yeah, she's
definitely into you guys.
Erika (31:06):
Well, obviously, if she's not your t shirt. But see, like,
she completely did a littletwist in there and the update.
Edgar (31:12):
Mhmm.
Erika (31:14):
Yeah. I think she should just let, you know, if something
happens happens so I don't thinkhe's really he's not attracted
to her either.
Edgar (31:22):
OP you're into clear because you're attractive.
Erika (31:27):
Alright so last story is Emma the Asshole for leaving my
boyfriend after finding a womanin our bed.
Edgar (31:36):
Bro.
Erika (31:37):
So I26female is going on a trip to London with my sister
today. I've been staying withher since yesterday because she
lives close to the airport. Irealized I forgot my passport at
my apartment where my boyfriend,27 male, and I live together.
And I had time to go back andget it, so I did. I texted him
(31:57):
this morning to let him know Iwas coming back to get my
passport, but he didn't respond.
When I got there he lookedreally antsy and suspicious. I
went into our bedroom and founda woman I don't recognize lying
in our bed fully clothed. I justwent on autopilot, grabbed my
passport, told him we were overand left. Now my boyfriend's
(32:20):
blowing up my phone saying thatthe woman is his long time
friend and that she's a lesbianwho just needed a place to crash
for the night. I don't believehim because he never mentioned
anything about her staying overwhile I was gone and the whole
situation feels off.
He's saying I'm making a hugemistake and that he's telling
the truth, but honestly, I'mjust really hurt and confused.
(32:43):
He's begging for me to hear himout and is apologizing but this
whole situation is not right. Soam I the asshole for leaving
him? Should I believe hisexplanation or is it my gut
telling me the truth? We werejust signed a lease for two
months ago and I'm literallyleaving the country today.
So it's a horrible and stressfulsituation. What do think, she's
(33:05):
an asshole?
Edgar (33:06):
Yeah she isn't the asshole in this situation
because it's like a big surpriseto see like an unfamiliar person
in your house like especially ifit's like the opposite gender of
your partner. I think there's achance that he's telling the
truth and that he didn't want tolike tell OP like, oh my lesbian
friend's coming over, don'tworry, because like it's like
weird.
Erika (33:26):
I really don't believe him. I think maybe the 1% chance
of he's telling the truth butreally I think she should follow
her gut and if she feels thathe's lying then she should not
give him a chance But I stillfind it weird that he didn't
want to say anything because itwas just last minute no. I think
as soon as that would havehappened she should have said
(33:48):
something. And he just decidedto just go behind her back. Nah,
I think he's lying and goodthing that she forgot her
passport so she can see thatthere's a woman in his bed.
And plus, okay, let's say shewas over, why does she have to
be on the bed? Why couldn't shebe in the couch in the living
(34:08):
room with common areas? Why Whydoes she have to be laying on
the bed? You know, it's just itdoesn't make sense to me. It's
just I don't know.
And why was he nervous and allthat? Yeah. I don't trust that.
So the top comment is not theasshole. Your boyfriend never
mentioned her before and it'sconvenient for him to use that
as an excuse when there's aperson in the office lying in
(34:31):
his bed.
If she needed a place to crash,what his bed not the couch. He
knows he has a girlfriend andit's okay for someone else to
share a bed with him withoutgiving you a heads up first.
Yeah. Exactly. So I don't reallythink there's really a chance
that he's he was so he he was sountruth.
(34:53):
So that so what's the final burgfor you? You think she's an
asshole, though?
Edgar (34:57):
No.
Erika (34:58):
I don't think so either. I think she should follow her
gut. That's all the stories wehave today. Thank you for tuning
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Edgar (35:18):
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Erika (35:34):
Thank you for joining us. Bye!
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