May 21, 2025 • 37 mins
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This week on Yapping Schnauzers, we’re bringing you jaw-dropping, WTF Energy Reddit stories that had us pacing the room:
💔 Brother-in-Law Crossed the Line While My Husband Is Deployed — A pregnant woman gets an unthinkablemessage from her husband’s brother while he's serving overseas. The betrayal? Off the charts. The drama? Nuclear.
🧁 Gaslighted Over Cupcakes — It’s not just baked goods on the line. When five cupcakes go missing, a boyfriend tries Jedi-level gaslighting. Is this relationship done or just frosted with red flags?
👗 AITA for Telling My Stepmom She’d Understand Love If She Had a Dad? — This stepmom thinks a dad caring for his daughter is “weird,” and the daughter isn’t having it. The clapback? Brutal. The stepfamily tension? Deliciously messy.
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Intro (00:00):
Yapping!
Erika (00:02):
Hello, this is Erika
Edgar (00:04):
and Edgar
Erika (00:05):
and we are the Yapping Schnauzers. We entertain you
with the app worthy stories wefind around the web. Today's
theme is What the F Energy.
Edgar (00:14):
So our first story is titled, My Brother-in-law
Crossed the Line While MyHusband Was Deployed. My
husband, twenty eight male, andI, 27 female, have been married
for a little over a year now. Heis currently deployed overseas
with the military and werecently found out right before
he left that I am expecting ourfirst child. It was bittersweet
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timing, but he was overjoyed andso was I. Last week I shared the
news with our families and theresponse was overwhelmingly
positive.
Everyone was excited, especiallyhis younger brother, 25 male,
who has always been a bit toofriendly but nothing I couldn't
chalk up to personality. Thatchanged this morning. I woke up
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to a message from him saying heunderstands how emotionally
draining pregnancy can be andthat sometimes intimacy becomes
rare or non existent. He thensaid, blatantly, that he is
available if I need comfort,emotionally or physically, while
my husband is away. He even madea comment about how no one has
to know.
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I am furious, disturbed, andhonestly at a loss. I have zero
interest in anyone except myhusband who is the love of my
life, but now I am stuckwondering how to handle this
without tearing a hole in theirfamily. My husband and his
brother are extremely close.They grew up together for some
tough times and have alwaysleaned on each other. His
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brother was even the best man atour wedding.
My husband would be heartbrokenand enraged if he found out what
was said. But at the same time,this is a massive betrayal. His
brother isn't just disrespectingour marriage, he's undermining
my husband's role as a fatherand partner during a time when
we were supposed to be buildingour future. I keep thinking, do
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I tell my husband now while he'sdeployed and can't really do
anything except stew and angerfrom afar? Or do I wait until he
gets home knowing that delayingmight look like I was hiding it?
If I don't say anything at all,his brother stays in his life
like nothing happened and thatmakes my skin crawl. What if he
tries this again or with someoneelse? What if he's done it
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before? My loyalty is to myhusband and our baby but no
matter what I choose, someone isgoing to be deeply hurt. There
is no clean way out of this.
I just want to do what's rightfor my marriage, my child, and
myself. How do I expose abetrayal that could wreck a
lifelong bond without causingunnecessary damage?
Erika (02:50):
Is kind of crazy.
Edgar (02:53):
Both look at each other like, bro. Yeah.
Erika (02:57):
So I would say definitely tell your husband, because I
mean, even if you don't want todestroy the family, it's
important that you have thatopen communication and he's your
husband. You're supposed to tellhim everything that's going on,
especially something as alarmingas this, even if it's his
brother. Do you agree?
Edgar (03:19):
Yeah, agree. Like I know the trainer thought that like,
oh he's far away so he can'treally do anything except be mad
at the situation from afar, butlike I feel like it's better.
Like I imagine from thehusband's perspective, he'd want
to know this like as soon aspossible and not wait like a few
months or years to find out likethis happened.
Erika (03:39):
Yeah, I would say just tell your husband. I mean, I
know he can't do anythingbecause right now he's deployed,
but you know, it's better toknow now than for her to be
like, oh, now that you're here Iwanna tell you something.
Edgar (03:50):
Yeah.
Erika (03:51):
And then he'll probably be offended or he'll feel like
she didn't feel comfortableenough to tell the situation to
him. So that would cause issueswith the relationship too. And
then they're having a baby,That's the wrong time. That
brother here is the asshole.
Edgar (04:08):
Definitely if we're trying to break up the marriage.
Well I guess not really. He justwanted just some sort of fun
while he's away and can't really
Erika (04:15):
Fling. He wanted just a fling.
Edgar (04:16):
Yeah, we're flinging with someone, I guess, close and
easy.
Erika (04:19):
That's crazy to me.
Edgar (04:20):
It is, yeah. And just such a ballsy thing, especially
since it's his own brother andOP, pregnant as well.
Erika (04:28):
Yeah, and they're close. He was the best man in the
wedding and for him to do thatjust shows who he truly is and
his intentions. I come from amilitary family, fourth
generation. You and your husbandare a team. Tell him, this isn't
your dirty secret, you didnothing wrong.
It's complete horrendous. Yourbrother-in-law put you in this
position when you are alreadyunder enough stress from the
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pregnancy and the ongoingdeployment. And then he
responded to, My husband wouldbe heartbroken and enraged if he
found out what was said, as heshould be, as you are. So sort
this out together and any otherpath going forward is going to
be betrayal to the trust youhave and need, not the asshole.
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Yeah, that's a good point.
You know, they have that trustand she shouldn't allow it to be
broken because of thebrother-in-law.
Edgar (05:18):
Exactly, yeah. I'm sure they will understand, but it's
still a sucky situation for OPto be in. Again, she seems to be
worried about how everyone willreact to the situation, but it's
not because of her that this ishappening, it's because of the
brother-in-law.
Erika (05:34):
I know, but then you're still gonna have those asshole
people saying, oh it's
Edgar (05:39):
You don't have to say anything or whatever, they just
had to make some story up tojustify the brother in law's
actions.
Erika (05:45):
Exactly. There's always a cousin, a sister, a mother.
Regardless, OP, you should justcome clean and tell your
husband. That's the best we cando, right?
Edgar (05:58):
Okay, so final verdict?
Erika (05:59):
The final verdict for me would be the brother-in-law is
the asshole.
Edgar (06:04):
Yeah, he's the only asshole in the story. An OP is
definitely not.
Erika (06:08):
No, she's definitely just trying to figure out the least
way for somebody to get hurt andthere's just no winning in this
one at all. So the next storyis, am I overreacting or did my
boyfriend just try to gaslightme over cupcakes? So last night
I made cupcakes, like actuallymade them from scratch. Frosting
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too. Not the box stuff, not thestore, but real deal.
Loving every bite cupcake. Itold my boyfriend not to touch
them because they were my littlecousin's birthday today. He
said, cool, I won't. Fastforward to this morning, five
are missing. Not one, not two.
Edgar (06:54):
That's crazy, five.
Erika (06:56):
Five.
Edgar (06:57):
Reminds me of somebody.
Erika (06:59):
Oh yeah. I ask him about it and this man looks me in the
eye and goes, are you sure youdidn't miscount? I stood there
blinking like a confused catbecause of what? Then he goes,
they're just cupcakes, you'rebeing dramatic. Excuse me?
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Dramatic over the five cupcakesI told him not to touch that he
ate in secret. So I told himit's not about the cupcakes,
it's about the disrespect andhim acting like I imagined it.
He hit me with, you're alwaysmaking a big deal out of
nothing. So now I'm sitting herewith seven cupcakes, a cousin
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expecting 12, and a boyfriendwho's trying to Jedi mind trick
me into believing I can't countbaked goods. Am I overreacting
or is this cupcake theft justthe tip of the gaslighting
iceberg Because I feel like I'mdating and walking a red flag in
a hoodie.
Edgar (07:57):
I personally think she's overreacting, but also I can
understand why she'd be so upsetat her boyfriend or husband.
Erika (08:07):
Nah, it's a boyfriend. She is not. She's under
reacting.
Edgar (08:12):
Under reacting?
Erika (08:13):
Yes, because it makes me feel like he's done this before.
Not just about the cupcakes, butabout other things, maybe more
important things. And he justgaslights her saying, I don't
know what you're talking about.
Edgar (08:26):
Maybe the boyfriend has an eating problem.
Erika (08:31):
No, he's just an asshole that literally lied to her face
and said that she's overreactingsaying that he did not eat any
five cupcakes and that she's inthe wrong. You don't do that. It
is funny, but she's underreacting. That is not okay.
Edgar (08:47):
Now the cousin is not gonna get any cupcakes?
Erika (08:50):
Over Some kids are gonna be like
Edgar (08:52):
Cupcake less. They're gonna have to cut it in half.
Erika (08:54):
Which is not fun. And she said she, well obviously, I know
I bake cookies and I bakeeverything from scratch. Takes a
lot of It's not just a box witha box where you just put milk
and eggs. So the top comment isyou are under reacting. I was
married to someone like him.
I learned to look in the trashwhen he wasn't around after
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something disappeared and I knewhe was lying about it. He would
hear, Don't eat any of these,and then prove to me that I
don't control him by destroyingor throwing away whatever it
was. Wedding pics on oneoccasion, negatives and all. By
going way overboard in howobviously he was lying. He would
be daring me to prove it.
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And if I did, he would say,well, you can't do shit about
it. So you might as well bequiet. He was right. Unless I
left, there wasn't anything Icould do to stop him. And he
would keep doing whatever hewanted because he liked showing
me that he had all the control.
I don't think the cupcakes arethe only thing your boyfriend
has been using to put you inyour place. It sounds like he
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feels nothing but contempt foryou and is daring you to stop
him. He knows you can't and thecupcakes were one big middle
finger flipped at you. Exactly.So it's just maybe over the
surface you see a cupcake andhe's just like, oh, I ate five
because he couldn't controlhimself.
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But honestly, when a guy is likethis, it's because he does this
all the time and it's constant.And this type of relationship is
toxic and it's so much, so muchred flags in this. She should
leave this guy.
Edgar (10:32):
Crazy. If only he didn't touch the cupcakes.
Erika (10:35):
Well it's not just about the cupcakes. You're gonna
understand It's about all otherstuff he's probably done that
she doesn't realize. And thoseare serious things. The person
that literally responded overtop comment said other stuff,
which makes sense. I would saygirl, run for the hills, get out
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of there and leave him.
Edgar (10:57):
I see it, that's your final verdict, to leave?
Erika (10:59):
Yep.
Edgar (11:00):
I'd say I wouldn't leave, but yeah, I understand why she'd
be so pissed at this situation.
Erika (11:06):
He'd leave.
Edgar (11:07):
Because that's excessive, like maybe one would be cute or
whatever, but like five, that'sjust too much. And then trying
to blatantly lie on five is likecrazy.
Erika (11:18):
No, he just disrespected her, did not respect her words,
did not ignore her completelyand then lied to her face,
looked at her directly in theeyes and said, you're wrong,
you're miscounting. That's justterrible. I just can't. A man
like that is just a piece oftrash. Throw him back.
Edgar (11:38):
This next story is titled, Am I the asshole for
telling my stepmom that maybe ifshe had a dad, she wouldn't be
weirded out by mind loving me.Me, 17 female, and my dad have
always been super close. My momdied when I was young and I have
no siblings, so it's always beenjust me and my dad. But ever
since my stepmom came into thepicture, she hated how close we
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were. She says it's weird andmakes her uncomfortable.
We taught over dozens of things.We had a huge fight the other
day. Me and her were sitting inthe kitchen and my dad came home
from work. He said he had apresent for me and her face
immediately got nasty. He handedme a bag of a light purple dress
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in it.
It was like a short sundress andjust fell under the knee.
Definitely something I wouldwear at a church. But my stepmom
got mad and said it wasdisgusting how he bought me a
short tiny dress and didn't gethis wife anything. He said he
was sorry and that it was only$5 and he thought I'd look
really pretty in it. And he saidthat he didn't think it'd be
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short on me since I'm reallyshort.
But I could go try it on andshow him to see if it was too
short. Then she got even moremad and said he was disgusting
for wanting to see me in a shortdress. I got mad and told her I
was done dealing with her shit.She said, It's not her fault my
dad acts like he loves me morethan her. I said that he does
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and she asked him to choosebetween us.
My dad told her to calm down andthat I was his daughter so I
said that maybe if she actuallyhad a dad she wouldn't be
weirded out by mind loving me.She started crying, ran out and
called us both assholes. Am Ithe asshole?
Erika (13:22):
That's crazy. I don't think there is any red flags
here. No. Do you see any redflags? Is it the dad treating
her like a certain way?
Edgar (13:34):
Yeah, mean, yeah, the dad would just be normal, which
would be nice.
Erika (13:37):
Yeah, just being a dad, especially he has no siblings,
their mom died, so he kind oftook a, you know, a little bit
more nurturing role and, youknow, trying to make up for the
mom Seth. So I don't understandwhat is going on. I think the
stepmom, she just needs to go.
Edgar (13:53):
Yeah, I think the stepmom just has a lot of projection and
a lot of just insecurities abouttheir relationship. It doesn't
seem like it's anything bad oranything.
Erika (14:01):
Yeah, it honestly doesn't. I think she's really
overreacting, especially if it'sabove the knee. Wow, that's a
short dress, like that's insane.Even like uniforms are above the
knee or literally on the knee.
Edgar (14:14):
Yeah, and Plessy said that she was like short, so I
guess he was assuming it wasjust like long enough for her.
Erika (14:19):
Yeah, I think she just really got mad because he got
her something and didn't get themom or the stepmom or anything.
I think that's what triggeredher. But I mean if it was $5 and
there was no size for her, okay,sorry.
Edgar (14:32):
Yeah, did she comes back for an incident?
Erika (14:35):
No, maybe. I mean it depends on the father, if he
wants to keep trying with her,but I think the daughter's fed
up with her.
Edgar (14:41):
Yeah Yeah definitely like Opie's fed up with her, but I'm
not sure after this entireincident that she will come back
in a few days, a few hours. Ifeel like she's mad, disgusted,
she does all the negativethings, she doesn't want to
probably come back.
Erika (14:55):
They might be the villains in her side of the
story, but from our side, she'scrazy. She's the one projecting.
So there is examples that OP didgive.
Edgar (15:07):
Yeah, a few examples. So yeah, OP added, Here's some of
the things he's gotten pissyabout if that affects your
answer. She doesn't like when mydad carries tampons for me at
concerts, amusement parks, etc.When my dad knows my McDonald's
order. When my dad takes me outfor dinner.
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When he keeps hair ties in hiscar. Him saying goodnight every
night to me. Me telling my dadmy drama from my school. And my
dad and I going to the moviestogether. And there are more
things, but that's all I canreally think of at the moment.
Erika (15:45):
I don't see anything wrong with that.
Edgar (15:46):
Yeah, so I think just, she just, I think OP is a little
bit right about the stepmom nothaving a healthy, and I had a
dad in the picture to show herwhat's normal and something to
show that oh this is how a dadacts when they love their child.
Erika (16:05):
Yeah, and also maybe it's also that she feels like a third
wheel. You know, because they'vebeen on them too for a while
since the mom's death and shefeels maybe that they don't have
that type of relationship thatshe feels like she's looking
from the outside and that she'snot part of it. So maybe that's
what also is causing thefrustration. But honestly, I
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think there's nothing wrong withhow he treats her. A top comment
is, Not the asshole, but why isyour dad married to someone who
sees his child as competition?
You shouldn't have to sayanything to her. She should have
been out of the door after thefirst comment like this. The
fact that she wasn't is afailure on your dad's part.
Edgar (16:47):
It's like it's a little bit strange to have like a
partner, but a partner is like,see, yeah.
Erika (16:53):
Competing for your attention.
Edgar (16:55):
Competing for your attention or competing for your
love with your child. In someways it could be normal, like if
it's like a kid or a toddler,like, oh, wish I had more time
with him and they just send meconcessions. It looks like OP's
stepmom thinks that they're likeromantic competitors, you know?
Yeah. Which is weird.
Erika (17:14):
That is weird. Maybe she has some trauma that's obviously
not disclosed. Maybe she needsto go to therapy. I don't know,
but I honestly think thatthere's nothing wrong with the
way they treat the father anddaughter's relationship. And I
mean, if the mother is soagainst it, then she can just
see her way out.
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And I mean, about the comment, Ido get it though.
Edgar (17:39):
Yeah.
Erika (17:39):
That if he saw that this is how she was acting this whole
time, why did he continue tostay with her? You know, I guess
to be, you know, on his side,maybe he's just tired of being
alone. He wanted a partner. Ithink he needs to pick a better
person to be with.
Edgar (17:59):
Exactly, yeah.
Erika (18:00):
So, what's the final verdict?
Edgar (18:02):
Hope he wouldn't be the asshole. I think what she said
to the subpoem is messed upthough. She just goes like, you.
I feel like there's a line to bedrawn when it comes to family
trauma and personal things andshe definitely crossed that.
Erika (18:18):
Well, so did she, saying that it was weird that the
father was saying that shewanted to see her in a short
dress. She crossed that line tooand she just clapped it back and
she couldn't, she didn't.Because
Edgar (18:28):
she steeped to her level.
Erika (18:30):
Yeah. Well, she just gave it back and she couldn't handle
it. But yeah, I don't thinkshe's an asshole at all. I think
the stepmother needs some help.
Edgar (18:41):
Exactly.
Erika (18:42):
She needs, I don't know what she needs, but she needs to
be better. So the next story isthe convenience store clerk who
has never uttered a word in twoyears finally spoke to me
yesterday. I've been going tothe same convenience store three
to four times a month for twoyears and the man that works
there never utters a word, ever.I always say hello when I walk
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in even though I know I won'tget one in return. He stands
there like a statue behind thecounter, like a permanent scow
on his face.
It's only until I put things onthe counter he moves to scan
them in silence. If you can getpast his scary facial
expression, he's quite handsomeactually. I'm quite certain he's
Indian. He's tall, early 40s,built physique, with a short,
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neat haircut and a thickmustache. Never talks, never
smiles.
The epitome of the strong,silent type. Then yesterday on
05/15/2025, he finally had ourfirst ever conversation. I
walked in, grabbed my usualcoffee and a banana, where as he
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begins scanning my things, heara deep burly voice say, Heading
to work? My head shot up eyeingthe candy shelf. We were the
only people in the store and yetI was so surprised those words
came from him.
I replied, Yes. Wow! He gave onecourt nod with a soft grunt,
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then threw my receipt in thetrash. He knows I don't want it.
I was so in awe that finallythis man, who I have seen for
two years more often than someof my actual friends, finally
spoke to me.
I smiled, pleased that wefinally had gained some rapport
and then indeed headed off towork.
Edgar (20:36):
That's crazy. He or she had that dated 05/15/2025.
Erika (20:44):
Isn't that crazy? I thought it was a cute little
story.
Edgar (20:48):
Yeah, it's probably pretty cute. I would be a little
bit scared.
Erika (20:52):
What do you mean?
Edgar (20:54):
Like, why now? Why this day? Why this year?
Erika (20:58):
Why you just wanted to talk?
Edgar (21:01):
I kind of would have preferred the like never talking
to be honest. Because when Iwant to go to the like to get
gas or get something from thegas station, I just like want to
get my stuff and leave.
Erika (21:13):
Well, maybe she's single and she wants to mingle. Like,
there's nothing wrong with that.She says that he's good looking,
so I don't find anything wrong,but obviously if it's a guy on
guy, you don't bat that way,that's okay, you know. So the
top comment is, you melted theice man.
Edgar (21:31):
Exactly.
Erika (21:32):
And OP responded, it's been a long road, but it was
worth it.
Edgar (21:38):
I know, for that one high. It wasn't even high.
Erika (21:41):
It was, no, it was the question, heading into work?
Edgar (21:44):
Heading to work.
Erika (21:45):
And she just responded with yes. I love that. It was
just such a cute littleconversation.
Edgar (21:54):
The next story is titled, Am I Overreacting? He said I
embarrassed him for crying atthe funeral. I've been dating my
boyfriend for a year. We met incollege and honestly, I thought
he was a different kind, calm,and emotionally mature. At least
that's what I thought.
So recently one of my childhoodbest friends passed away
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suddenly. It hit me really hard.I hadn't seen her as often
lately, but she was stillsomeone I loved deeply. I went
to the funeral with my boyfriendbecause I didn't want to go
alone And he said he'd be therefor me. At the funeral, I cried
a lot.
It wasn't loud or dramatic. Ijust couldn't stop the tears. I
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was heartbroken. Afterwards inthe car, my boyfriend went
completely quiet. I asked himwhat was wrong and he said
something like, You didn't haveto make a scene like that.
People were staring. Youembarrassed yourself and me. I
was stunned. I asked him what hemeant and he said I should have
held it together like everyoneelse and not made it about me. I
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didn't scream, I didn'tcollapse, I didn't interrupt
anything.
I just cried at a funeral for myfriend. Since then I've been
cold towards him and now he'ssaying I'm overreacting and
being emotionally manipulativeby being distant. I've been
spiraling ever since. Will Ireally be in too much? I know
not everyone handles grief inthe same way, but he would at
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least comfort me, not judge mefor it.
Am I overreacting or is this ared flag? I guess it really
depends on how much crying she'sactually doing. Because I mean,
maybe from her perspective shewas just like regular crying,
but maybe from everyone else'sperspective it could have been a
totally different story.
Erika (23:38):
Yeah, but it's a funeral. You are allowed to cry.
Edgar (23:42):
I know, yeah. I mean, I can understand that she may be
not the most biased or mostreliable narrator in terms of
what's happening, but eitherway, yeah, it's okay to cry even
being all dramatic in a funeral.
Erika (23:58):
Yeah, I mean, everybody's gonna grieve differently. And
how dare he try to be like, youshould've been more considerate
of everybody else because youwere crying too much. Like, what
do you mean? It's a funeral. Shefeels sad that her friend died.
How the whole best friend died?
Edgar (24:17):
I know. It's like pretty hard.
Erika (24:20):
Yeah, especially if they have such good connection and
she feels bad for not reachingout. Just doesn't make sense
that he tries to keep her in alittle bubble and keep her like,
okay, gotta do this, you gottado control her feelings. It
doesn't make sense to me. Thetop comment is, what a jerk?
Listen, people grievedifferently and he has no right
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to try to box you in.
Drop that loser. He sounds likeone of those guys who doesn't
know how to feel emotion.They're miserable icemen. And
then OP responded, I kept tryingto justify his reaction but deep
down I knew it wasn't okay. Ishouldn't feel bad for showing
emotion especially duringsomething as painful as a
funeral.
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Exactly. There is anothercomment that says, Recently one
of my best friend's littlesister passed away suddenly. It
was devastating and heartwrenching and hard to
understand. My husband met heronce in the twenty five years
we'd been together. He went tothe funeral, supported me and my
other friends while we cried,shared memories, laughed and
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cried again.
On the way home, he never oncemade a bad comment about any of
it. Grief is personal and a veryvulnerable place to be. He was
and is my safe place to bevulnerable. You deserve someone
who will be the safe place. Yourboyfriend showed you who he is.
Believe him. You need to decideif he is going to be able to
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fulfill your needs in the wayyou need. Exactly. So that means
if he can provide that emotionalsupport or be your safe spot or
your safe house, whatever, thenhe's not it.
Edgar (25:57):
He
Erika (25:58):
needs something growing up and trying to be emotional
intelligent.
Edgar (26:05):
Wonder how old they are. Drop them. It looks like they're
in college age.
Erika (26:09):
I have no idea. It doesn't say any age at all. I
can't really speculate.
Edgar (26:17):
Yeah, same here. But I mean, either way, it's like when
someone's already really sad,then the best thing about like
that is further So
Erika (26:26):
I do remember when when we first started dating, you
lost your grandpa. I was therewith you and I supported you.
And not once did I say you'rebeing extra or you're being too
emotional because I knew howmuch that person meant to you.
So you need to find somebodythat supports you when you need
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it and when it's important. Andit doesn't matter what everybody
thinks, it's about the personyou love.
So for me she's not overreactingat all. I think she needs to
dump that dude.
Edgar (26:59):
Yeah, so she was definitely not overreacting,
especially to what her nowhopefully ex boyfriend said,
since it's pretty insensitiveand nice to see after a
Erika (27:11):
funeral. Exactly.
Edgar (27:14):
So for this last section, we're going to do something
different and we're just goingto read rapid fire style a bunch
of surreal moments we found onReddit. We will be sure to
include the link to the mainthread in this episode's
description. But yeah, we'lljust read stories and then we'll
do a quick reaction. But yeah,just thought this was pretty
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surreal and we'd love to shareit with you guys. This first
story says, I had an incredibleurge to go to my employee's
house.
It was weird and overwhelming. Icalled my mom thinking I lost my
shiz and she said to trust mygut, so I went. It felt weird.
Who wants their boss showing upafter hours? When I got to his
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house, I heard a faint, Help mecoming from inside the house.
I kicked the door and wentinside and the dude had a stroke
twenty four to forty eight hoursprior to my arrival. He was just
laying on the floor and wouldhave brought it there had I
dismissed that crazy urge. Ifeel like he should have not
gave in.
Erika (28:17):
You're terrible. I'm glad you Not because,
Edgar (28:21):
never. The only reason why is that's just some weird
thing. I would never say, Oh, Ineed to go into my boss's house,
or I need to go to mysupervisor's house. It's just a
weird thing to have. But I mean,I guess lucky for him, he saved
someone's life.
Erika (28:35):
Yeah.
Edgar (28:36):
But yeah, twenty four, forty eight hours, Yeah, he was
like, that dude was like slowlydying. Was suffering for like
one or two days, not unable tomove, unable to eat or use the
bathroom. Yeah, so lucky for allpeople involved.
Erika (28:52):
Yeah, I'm glad the mom supported it and said just trust
your gut and do it, know, justgo. If the mom would've been
like, oh, just ignore it, hewould've been like, oh, I'm just
crazy and then he would've died.
Edgar (29:02):
Yeah, the employee's lucky I wasn't the boss's mom.
Erika (29:08):
Yeah, Abba totally said go for it because I feel like
gut instinct is so, such a hugething. Like it literally tells
you like, you know how manytimes I ignored my gut and then
I regretted it because Iliterally needed whatever? I
just ignored. Like I knew it wasgonna be cold, I ignored my
jacket, I knew I felt like itwas gonna rain even though the
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weather said it was just gonnabe cloudy and it rained and I
didn't bring my umbrella, I gotsoaked. Like just little things
like that, you know, just trustyour gut and go with it.
Edgar (29:38):
So many times I listened to my gut and then I was gutted.
So I can't relate, to be honest.
Erika (29:49):
Damn yeah, I suck at his gut then. My gut's pretty good.
I don't know about yours, Iguess you need to work on that.
Alright, so the next story is,Was hiking alone in the
mountains when a sudden fogrolled in, complete whiteout
conditions. As I was trying tofigure out my bearings, I heard
bells jingling, and out of themist appeared an old man with a
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staff leading about 20 goats.
He nodded at me without saying aword, walked past, and
disappeared into the fog withhis goats. The entire encounter
lasted thirty seconds.
Edgar (30:26):
I like to imagine like, the entire car was surrounded by
goats. They all looked at himand was like,
Erika (30:33):
like throwing the That's so random, right? Then fog came
out of What does
Edgar (30:39):
this mean though? What does this mean?
Erika (30:41):
I don't know. He said that it just lasted thirty
seconds, but it was done. Thefog came with the goat and the
man. The goats and the mandisappeared.
Edgar (30:51):
I listen to a lot of conspiracy theory videos and he
probably slipped it betweenmulti verses.
Erika (30:58):
Oh yeah, that's what I
Edgar (31:00):
imagine happened. That's the first thing that came into
mind.
Erika (31:04):
Yeah, I mean, I thought that too, but I was like, that's
pretty cool though.
Edgar (31:08):
So, yeah, the next mini story was, had a really down and
out moment a few years ago, Justtotally broke. Wanted to buy
flowers and chocolates for mywife for her birthday. It was
about $80 and I only had $6 inmy account. So I sat outside on
a bench and got really sad. Itwas really windy.
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And like a movie, I was justsitting in this desert town.
Something struck me in the faceand stuck to me. It was a $100
bill.
Erika (31:41):
Aw, so what do you think you did, babe?
Edgar (31:43):
Hopefully he invested in that.
Erika (31:46):
You don't think he bought his wife flowers and chocolates?
Edgar (31:49):
Realistically, he probably bought wife chocolate
and flowers and then never sawany more money from that.
Erika (31:57):
Yeah, but that's pretty cool, right? That reminds me of
that day when I was in the storeand I was walking to the counter
and then I was like, Oh, what'sthat? And then I looked, thought
it was fake money because yousee those 100 fake dollar bills.
Edgar (32:13):
It
Erika (32:14):
was real cash. And I picked it up and I just
pretended I was tying my shoeand took it with me. Crazy,
yeah.
Edgar (32:22):
That's not going to a loss and fund.
Erika (32:24):
Yeah, okay, probably one of the employees is going to be
like, oh it's my dollar. Oh my.Yeah, they're nobody's going to
give it to charity or anythinglike that. But I thought it was
fake because there's alwaysthose $100 bills that are fake,
so.
Edgar (32:37):
I'm not too lucky when it comes to money like that. The
only time I picked up a bill, itwas like a fake one with like a
warning that I was gonna go tohell if I didn't go to church.
Erika (32:47):
Oh really?
Edgar (32:48):
Yeah, I got those kind of bills.
Erika (32:51):
I guess I'm more lucky than you in some cases.
Edgar (32:53):
Most cases. Okay,
Erika (32:57):
so the next story is neighbor old lady came over and
asked, Wanna see something?
Edgar (33:02):
Creepy.
Erika (33:02):
I said, Yeah. And she told me to grab my keys. It's
late at night already, but Ijust shrugged and got my keys
and she met me at my car. Shegave me directions to a farm
with a fence in area with about80 to 100 cows. We stand outside
of the fence and she keepslooking at her watch.
At this point I was sure I wasgoing to get murdered. But what
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happened next, I still can'texplain it. One by one, all
eighty-one hundred cows kneltdown. This stayed that way maybe
a solid minute or two and thenjust got up and started roaming
around, all normal again. Shegot back in the car and after I
picked up my jaw, I got in andwe drove home silently.
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When we pulled in, I asked herwhat the hell I just saw. She
made a motion of sipping herlips and throwing away the key.
I went back to the farm severaltimes alone and never saw
anything out of the ordinary. Ieven spoke to an employee for
the property and probably lookedlike a complete psychopath
asking the question I was. Sherefused to acknowledge anything.
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This was over twenty five yearsago and I still think about it.
Edgar (34:12):
That's crazy. Like, for what reason did he go to the
farm again? Just like to havethe cows bow to them?
Erika (34:17):
No, bow to the sky basically.
Edgar (34:20):
That's crazy. Cows are like, we've always had, this is
like a second story about cowsand them being weird. Or like
farm animals.
Erika (34:29):
Yeah. I mean she said you wanted to see something. She
said yeah, there was noexplanation behind it. But isn't
that crazy? I would be creepedout forever.
I don't know if I could recover.
Edgar (34:41):
I know. That like neighbor must have been like a
cow queen or something or hemust be feeding them something
crazy.
Erika (34:48):
But I just don't understand why she kept looking
at the clock, she was looking ather watch until she finally said
and then they kneel down for oneor two minutes. That's crazy to
me.
Edgar (35:00):
Yeah. I was wondering if she had anything to do with it
or maybe one day she was walkingpast the farm and then she just
noticed this.
Erika (35:09):
Then they do it once like a?
Edgar (35:10):
Every few hours, every like night.
Erika (35:13):
Well she said she went back and nothing happened like
that. So maybe it was just oncea year maybe type of thing.
Edgar (35:21):
I like to think the lady, the old lady had something to do
with it. Maybe. And the finalstory we have is delivering
pizzas in my twenties and Iknocked on the door. Realized
after I knocked that I was inthe wrong address. We're calling
Ninth Street Southwest insteadof Ninth Street Northwest.
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So, was exactly on the otherside of town from where I needed
to be. As the guy opened thedoor, I was about to do my oh
sorry, I didn't mean to disturbyou, have a nice day' thing I
usually do at a wrong address,but the guy then looked confused
and was holding money ready togo. Turns out he ordered pizza
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and accidentally put his addressin wrong, which means I
accidentally went to the rightplace. Had two mistakes
perfectly cancelled each otherout. To this day I wonder about
the actual odds of thathappening.
It feels like it's way more thanone in a million.
Erika (36:20):
Isn't that crazy?
Edgar (36:22):
Yeah, a little bit. Mean, like two dumb people making the
right thing happen. I feel likecrazy things have happened.
Erika (36:27):
I don't know, I really like that. Even though he said
the opposite directions, he wentthere by accident and he cut to
the right place.
Edgar (36:36):
I mean, at least the pizza wasn't cold.
Erika (36:41):
That's a plus. But yeah, I thought it was pretty cool,
the coincidence, well not acoincidence but more of a, I
guess, not a miracle but kind ofcool way to have it.
Edgar (36:50):
In the city.
Erika (36:53):
Imagine he would have to drive all the way to the other
side.
Edgar (36:56):
Yeah, if this is like New York City, it's like, yeah, the
gift from one side of the islandhorizontally to the other side
is like thirty, forty fiveminutes walking.
Erika (37:04):
Exactly. So he did the right mistake by mistake.
Edgar (37:09):
So
Erika (37:11):
that's all the stories we have today. Thank you for tuning
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Erika (37:48):
Thank you. Bye.
Yapping!
Erika (00:02):
Hello, this is Erika
Edgar (00:04):
and Edgar
Erika (00:05):
and we are the Yapping Schnauzers. We entertain you
with the app worthy stories wefind around the web. Today's
theme is What the F Energy.
Edgar (00:14):
So our first story is titled, My Brother-in-law
Crossed the Line While MyHusband Was Deployed. My
husband, twenty eight male, andI, 27 female, have been married
for a little over a year now. Heis currently deployed overseas
with the military and werecently found out right before
he left that I am expecting ourfirst child. It was bittersweet
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timing, but he was overjoyed andso was I. Last week I shared the
news with our families and theresponse was overwhelmingly
positive.
Everyone was excited, especiallyhis younger brother, 25 male,
who has always been a bit toofriendly but nothing I couldn't
chalk up to personality. Thatchanged this morning. I woke up
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to a message from him saying heunderstands how emotionally
draining pregnancy can be andthat sometimes intimacy becomes
rare or non existent. He thensaid, blatantly, that he is
available if I need comfort,emotionally or physically, while
my husband is away. He even madea comment about how no one has
to know.
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I am furious, disturbed, andhonestly at a loss. I have zero
interest in anyone except myhusband who is the love of my
life, but now I am stuckwondering how to handle this
without tearing a hole in theirfamily. My husband and his
brother are extremely close.They grew up together for some
tough times and have alwaysleaned on each other. His
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brother was even the best man atour wedding.
My husband would be heartbrokenand enraged if he found out what
was said. But at the same time,this is a massive betrayal. His
brother isn't just disrespectingour marriage, he's undermining
my husband's role as a fatherand partner during a time when
we were supposed to be buildingour future. I keep thinking, do
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I tell my husband now while he'sdeployed and can't really do
anything except stew and angerfrom afar? Or do I wait until he
gets home knowing that delayingmight look like I was hiding it?
If I don't say anything at all,his brother stays in his life
like nothing happened and thatmakes my skin crawl. What if he
tries this again or with someoneelse? What if he's done it
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before? My loyalty is to myhusband and our baby but no
matter what I choose, someone isgoing to be deeply hurt. There
is no clean way out of this.
I just want to do what's rightfor my marriage, my child, and
myself. How do I expose abetrayal that could wreck a
lifelong bond without causingunnecessary damage?
Erika (02:50):
Is kind of crazy.
Edgar (02:53):
Both look at each other like, bro. Yeah.
Erika (02:57):
So I would say definitely tell your husband, because I
mean, even if you don't want todestroy the family, it's
important that you have thatopen communication and he's your
husband. You're supposed to tellhim everything that's going on,
especially something as alarmingas this, even if it's his
brother. Do you agree?
Edgar (03:19):
Yeah, agree. Like I know the trainer thought that like,
oh he's far away so he can'treally do anything except be mad
at the situation from afar, butlike I feel like it's better.
Like I imagine from thehusband's perspective, he'd want
to know this like as soon aspossible and not wait like a few
months or years to find out likethis happened.
Erika (03:39):
Yeah, I would say just tell your husband. I mean, I
know he can't do anythingbecause right now he's deployed,
but you know, it's better toknow now than for her to be
like, oh, now that you're here Iwanna tell you something.
Edgar (03:50):
Yeah.
Erika (03:51):
And then he'll probably be offended or he'll feel like
she didn't feel comfortableenough to tell the situation to
him. So that would cause issueswith the relationship too. And
then they're having a baby,That's the wrong time. That
brother here is the asshole.
Edgar (04:08):
Definitely if we're trying to break up the marriage.
Well I guess not really. He justwanted just some sort of fun
while he's away and can't really
Erika (04:15):
Fling. He wanted just a fling.
Edgar (04:16):
Yeah, we're flinging with someone, I guess, close and
easy.
Erika (04:19):
That's crazy to me.
Edgar (04:20):
It is, yeah. And just such a ballsy thing, especially
since it's his own brother andOP, pregnant as well.
Erika (04:28):
Yeah, and they're close. He was the best man in the
wedding and for him to do thatjust shows who he truly is and
his intentions. I come from amilitary family, fourth
generation. You and your husbandare a team. Tell him, this isn't
your dirty secret, you didnothing wrong.
It's complete horrendous. Yourbrother-in-law put you in this
position when you are alreadyunder enough stress from the
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pregnancy and the ongoingdeployment. And then he
responded to, My husband wouldbe heartbroken and enraged if he
found out what was said, as heshould be, as you are. So sort
this out together and any otherpath going forward is going to
be betrayal to the trust youhave and need, not the asshole.
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Yeah, that's a good point.
You know, they have that trustand she shouldn't allow it to be
broken because of thebrother-in-law.
Edgar (05:18):
Exactly, yeah. I'm sure they will understand, but it's
still a sucky situation for OPto be in. Again, she seems to be
worried about how everyone willreact to the situation, but it's
not because of her that this ishappening, it's because of the
brother-in-law.
Erika (05:34):
I know, but then you're still gonna have those asshole
people saying, oh it's
Edgar (05:39):
You don't have to say anything or whatever, they just
had to make some story up tojustify the brother in law's
actions.
Erika (05:45):
Exactly. There's always a cousin, a sister, a mother.
Regardless, OP, you should justcome clean and tell your
husband. That's the best we cando, right?
Edgar (05:58):
Okay, so final verdict?
Erika (05:59):
The final verdict for me would be the brother-in-law is
the asshole.
Edgar (06:04):
Yeah, he's the only asshole in the story. An OP is
definitely not.
Erika (06:08):
No, she's definitely just trying to figure out the least
way for somebody to get hurt andthere's just no winning in this
one at all. So the next storyis, am I overreacting or did my
boyfriend just try to gaslightme over cupcakes? So last night
I made cupcakes, like actuallymade them from scratch. Frosting
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too. Not the box stuff, not thestore, but real deal.
Loving every bite cupcake. Itold my boyfriend not to touch
them because they were my littlecousin's birthday today. He
said, cool, I won't. Fastforward to this morning, five
are missing. Not one, not two.
Edgar (06:54):
That's crazy, five.
Erika (06:56):
Five.
Edgar (06:57):
Reminds me of somebody.
Erika (06:59):
Oh yeah. I ask him about it and this man looks me in the
eye and goes, are you sure youdidn't miscount? I stood there
blinking like a confused catbecause of what? Then he goes,
they're just cupcakes, you'rebeing dramatic. Excuse me?
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Dramatic over the five cupcakesI told him not to touch that he
ate in secret. So I told himit's not about the cupcakes,
it's about the disrespect andhim acting like I imagined it.
He hit me with, you're alwaysmaking a big deal out of
nothing. So now I'm sitting herewith seven cupcakes, a cousin
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expecting 12, and a boyfriendwho's trying to Jedi mind trick
me into believing I can't countbaked goods. Am I overreacting
or is this cupcake theft justthe tip of the gaslighting
iceberg Because I feel like I'mdating and walking a red flag in
a hoodie.
Edgar (07:57):
I personally think she's overreacting, but also I can
understand why she'd be so upsetat her boyfriend or husband.
Erika (08:07):
Nah, it's a boyfriend. She is not. She's under
reacting.
Edgar (08:12):
Under reacting?
Erika (08:13):
Yes, because it makes me feel like he's done this before.
Not just about the cupcakes, butabout other things, maybe more
important things. And he justgaslights her saying, I don't
know what you're talking about.
Edgar (08:26):
Maybe the boyfriend has an eating problem.
Erika (08:31):
No, he's just an asshole that literally lied to her face
and said that she's overreactingsaying that he did not eat any
five cupcakes and that she's inthe wrong. You don't do that. It
is funny, but she's underreacting. That is not okay.
Edgar (08:47):
Now the cousin is not gonna get any cupcakes?
Erika (08:50):
Over Some kids are gonna be like
Edgar (08:52):
Cupcake less. They're gonna have to cut it in half.
Erika (08:54):
Which is not fun. And she said she, well obviously, I know
I bake cookies and I bakeeverything from scratch. Takes a
lot of It's not just a box witha box where you just put milk
and eggs. So the top comment isyou are under reacting. I was
married to someone like him.
I learned to look in the trashwhen he wasn't around after
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something disappeared and I knewhe was lying about it. He would
hear, Don't eat any of these,and then prove to me that I
don't control him by destroyingor throwing away whatever it
was. Wedding pics on oneoccasion, negatives and all. By
going way overboard in howobviously he was lying. He would
be daring me to prove it.
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And if I did, he would say,well, you can't do shit about
it. So you might as well bequiet. He was right. Unless I
left, there wasn't anything Icould do to stop him. And he
would keep doing whatever hewanted because he liked showing
me that he had all the control.
I don't think the cupcakes arethe only thing your boyfriend
has been using to put you inyour place. It sounds like he
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feels nothing but contempt foryou and is daring you to stop
him. He knows you can't and thecupcakes were one big middle
finger flipped at you. Exactly.So it's just maybe over the
surface you see a cupcake andhe's just like, oh, I ate five
because he couldn't controlhimself.
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But honestly, when a guy is likethis, it's because he does this
all the time and it's constant.And this type of relationship is
toxic and it's so much, so muchred flags in this. She should
leave this guy.
Edgar (10:32):
Crazy. If only he didn't touch the cupcakes.
Erika (10:35):
Well it's not just about the cupcakes. You're gonna
understand It's about all otherstuff he's probably done that
she doesn't realize. And thoseare serious things. The person
that literally responded overtop comment said other stuff,
which makes sense. I would saygirl, run for the hills, get out
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of there and leave him.
Edgar (10:57):
I see it, that's your final verdict, to leave?
Erika (10:59):
Yep.
Edgar (11:00):
I'd say I wouldn't leave, but yeah, I understand why she'd
be so pissed at this situation.
Erika (11:06):
He'd leave.
Edgar (11:07):
Because that's excessive, like maybe one would be cute or
whatever, but like five, that'sjust too much. And then trying
to blatantly lie on five is likecrazy.
Erika (11:18):
No, he just disrespected her, did not respect her words,
did not ignore her completelyand then lied to her face,
looked at her directly in theeyes and said, you're wrong,
you're miscounting. That's justterrible. I just can't. A man
like that is just a piece oftrash. Throw him back.
Edgar (11:38):
This next story is titled, Am I the asshole for
telling my stepmom that maybe ifshe had a dad, she wouldn't be
weirded out by mind loving me.Me, 17 female, and my dad have
always been super close. My momdied when I was young and I have
no siblings, so it's always beenjust me and my dad. But ever
since my stepmom came into thepicture, she hated how close we
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were. She says it's weird andmakes her uncomfortable.
We taught over dozens of things.We had a huge fight the other
day. Me and her were sitting inthe kitchen and my dad came home
from work. He said he had apresent for me and her face
immediately got nasty. He handedme a bag of a light purple dress
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in it.
It was like a short sundress andjust fell under the knee.
Definitely something I wouldwear at a church. But my stepmom
got mad and said it wasdisgusting how he bought me a
short tiny dress and didn't gethis wife anything. He said he
was sorry and that it was only$5 and he thought I'd look
really pretty in it. And he saidthat he didn't think it'd be
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short on me since I'm reallyshort.
But I could go try it on andshow him to see if it was too
short. Then she got even moremad and said he was disgusting
for wanting to see me in a shortdress. I got mad and told her I
was done dealing with her shit.She said, It's not her fault my
dad acts like he loves me morethan her. I said that he does
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and she asked him to choosebetween us.
My dad told her to calm down andthat I was his daughter so I
said that maybe if she actuallyhad a dad she wouldn't be
weirded out by mind loving me.She started crying, ran out and
called us both assholes. Am Ithe asshole?
Erika (13:22):
That's crazy. I don't think there is any red flags
here. No. Do you see any redflags? Is it the dad treating
her like a certain way?
Edgar (13:34):
Yeah, mean, yeah, the dad would just be normal, which
would be nice.
Erika (13:37):
Yeah, just being a dad, especially he has no siblings,
their mom died, so he kind oftook a, you know, a little bit
more nurturing role and, youknow, trying to make up for the
mom Seth. So I don't understandwhat is going on. I think the
stepmom, she just needs to go.
Edgar (13:53):
Yeah, I think the stepmom just has a lot of projection and
a lot of just insecurities abouttheir relationship. It doesn't
seem like it's anything bad oranything.
Erika (14:01):
Yeah, it honestly doesn't. I think she's really
overreacting, especially if it'sabove the knee. Wow, that's a
short dress, like that's insane.Even like uniforms are above the
knee or literally on the knee.
Edgar (14:14):
Yeah, and Plessy said that she was like short, so I
guess he was assuming it wasjust like long enough for her.
Erika (14:19):
Yeah, I think she just really got mad because he got
her something and didn't get themom or the stepmom or anything.
I think that's what triggeredher. But I mean if it was $5 and
there was no size for her, okay,sorry.
Edgar (14:32):
Yeah, did she comes back for an incident?
Erika (14:35):
No, maybe. I mean it depends on the father, if he
wants to keep trying with her,but I think the daughter's fed
up with her.
Edgar (14:41):
Yeah Yeah definitely like Opie's fed up with her, but I'm
not sure after this entireincident that she will come back
in a few days, a few hours. Ifeel like she's mad, disgusted,
she does all the negativethings, she doesn't want to
probably come back.
Erika (14:55):
They might be the villains in her side of the
story, but from our side, she'scrazy. She's the one projecting.
So there is examples that OP didgive.
Edgar (15:07):
Yeah, a few examples. So yeah, OP added, Here's some of
the things he's gotten pissyabout if that affects your
answer. She doesn't like when mydad carries tampons for me at
concerts, amusement parks, etc.When my dad knows my McDonald's
order. When my dad takes me outfor dinner.
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When he keeps hair ties in hiscar. Him saying goodnight every
night to me. Me telling my dadmy drama from my school. And my
dad and I going to the moviestogether. And there are more
things, but that's all I canreally think of at the moment.
Erika (15:45):
I don't see anything wrong with that.
Edgar (15:46):
Yeah, so I think just, she just, I think OP is a little
bit right about the stepmom nothaving a healthy, and I had a
dad in the picture to show herwhat's normal and something to
show that oh this is how a dadacts when they love their child.
Erika (16:05):
Yeah, and also maybe it's also that she feels like a third
wheel. You know, because they'vebeen on them too for a while
since the mom's death and shefeels maybe that they don't have
that type of relationship thatshe feels like she's looking
from the outside and that she'snot part of it. So maybe that's
what also is causing thefrustration. But honestly, I
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think there's nothing wrong withhow he treats her. A top comment
is, Not the asshole, but why isyour dad married to someone who
sees his child as competition?
You shouldn't have to sayanything to her. She should have
been out of the door after thefirst comment like this. The
fact that she wasn't is afailure on your dad's part.
Edgar (16:47):
It's like it's a little bit strange to have like a
partner, but a partner is like,see, yeah.
Erika (16:53):
Competing for your attention.
Edgar (16:55):
Competing for your attention or competing for your
love with your child. In someways it could be normal, like if
it's like a kid or a toddler,like, oh, wish I had more time
with him and they just send meconcessions. It looks like OP's
stepmom thinks that they're likeromantic competitors, you know?
Yeah. Which is weird.
Erika (17:14):
That is weird. Maybe she has some trauma that's obviously
not disclosed. Maybe she needsto go to therapy. I don't know,
but I honestly think thatthere's nothing wrong with the
way they treat the father anddaughter's relationship. And I
mean, if the mother is soagainst it, then she can just
see her way out.
(17:35):
And I mean, about the comment, Ido get it though.
Edgar (17:39):
Yeah.
Erika (17:39):
That if he saw that this is how she was acting this whole
time, why did he continue tostay with her? You know, I guess
to be, you know, on his side,maybe he's just tired of being
alone. He wanted a partner. Ithink he needs to pick a better
person to be with.
Edgar (17:59):
Exactly, yeah.
Erika (18:00):
So, what's the final verdict?
Edgar (18:02):
Hope he wouldn't be the asshole. I think what she said
to the subpoem is messed upthough. She just goes like, you.
I feel like there's a line to bedrawn when it comes to family
trauma and personal things andshe definitely crossed that.
Erika (18:18):
Well, so did she, saying that it was weird that the
father was saying that shewanted to see her in a short
dress. She crossed that line tooand she just clapped it back and
she couldn't, she didn't.Because
Edgar (18:28):
she steeped to her level.
Erika (18:30):
Yeah. Well, she just gave it back and she couldn't handle
it. But yeah, I don't thinkshe's an asshole at all. I think
the stepmother needs some help.
Edgar (18:41):
Exactly.
Erika (18:42):
She needs, I don't know what she needs, but she needs to
be better. So the next story isthe convenience store clerk who
has never uttered a word in twoyears finally spoke to me
yesterday. I've been going tothe same convenience store three
to four times a month for twoyears and the man that works
there never utters a word, ever.I always say hello when I walk
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in even though I know I won'tget one in return. He stands
there like a statue behind thecounter, like a permanent scow
on his face.
It's only until I put things onthe counter he moves to scan
them in silence. If you can getpast his scary facial
expression, he's quite handsomeactually. I'm quite certain he's
Indian. He's tall, early 40s,built physique, with a short,
(19:29):
neat haircut and a thickmustache. Never talks, never
smiles.
The epitome of the strong,silent type. Then yesterday on
05/15/2025, he finally had ourfirst ever conversation. I
walked in, grabbed my usualcoffee and a banana, where as he
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begins scanning my things, heara deep burly voice say, Heading
to work? My head shot up eyeingthe candy shelf. We were the
only people in the store and yetI was so surprised those words
came from him.
I replied, Yes. Wow! He gave onecourt nod with a soft grunt,
(20:16):
then threw my receipt in thetrash. He knows I don't want it.
I was so in awe that finallythis man, who I have seen for
two years more often than someof my actual friends, finally
spoke to me.
I smiled, pleased that wefinally had gained some rapport
and then indeed headed off towork.
Edgar (20:36):
That's crazy. He or she had that dated 05/15/2025.
Erika (20:44):
Isn't that crazy? I thought it was a cute little
story.
Edgar (20:48):
Yeah, it's probably pretty cute. I would be a little
bit scared.
Erika (20:52):
What do you mean?
Edgar (20:54):
Like, why now? Why this day? Why this year?
Erika (20:58):
Why you just wanted to talk?
Edgar (21:01):
I kind of would have preferred the like never talking
to be honest. Because when Iwant to go to the like to get
gas or get something from thegas station, I just like want to
get my stuff and leave.
Erika (21:13):
Well, maybe she's single and she wants to mingle. Like,
there's nothing wrong with that.She says that he's good looking,
so I don't find anything wrong,but obviously if it's a guy on
guy, you don't bat that way,that's okay, you know. So the
top comment is, you melted theice man.
Edgar (21:31):
Exactly.
Erika (21:32):
And OP responded, it's been a long road, but it was
worth it.
Edgar (21:38):
I know, for that one high. It wasn't even high.
Erika (21:41):
It was, no, it was the question, heading into work?
Edgar (21:44):
Heading to work.
Erika (21:45):
And she just responded with yes. I love that. It was
just such a cute littleconversation.
Edgar (21:54):
The next story is titled, Am I Overreacting? He said I
embarrassed him for crying atthe funeral. I've been dating my
boyfriend for a year. We met incollege and honestly, I thought
he was a different kind, calm,and emotionally mature. At least
that's what I thought.
So recently one of my childhoodbest friends passed away
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suddenly. It hit me really hard.I hadn't seen her as often
lately, but she was stillsomeone I loved deeply. I went
to the funeral with my boyfriendbecause I didn't want to go
alone And he said he'd be therefor me. At the funeral, I cried
a lot.
It wasn't loud or dramatic. Ijust couldn't stop the tears. I
(22:34):
was heartbroken. Afterwards inthe car, my boyfriend went
completely quiet. I asked himwhat was wrong and he said
something like, You didn't haveto make a scene like that.
People were staring. Youembarrassed yourself and me. I
was stunned. I asked him what hemeant and he said I should have
held it together like everyoneelse and not made it about me. I
(22:56):
didn't scream, I didn'tcollapse, I didn't interrupt
anything.
I just cried at a funeral for myfriend. Since then I've been
cold towards him and now he'ssaying I'm overreacting and
being emotionally manipulativeby being distant. I've been
spiraling ever since. Will Ireally be in too much? I know
not everyone handles grief inthe same way, but he would at
(23:19):
least comfort me, not judge mefor it.
Am I overreacting or is this ared flag? I guess it really
depends on how much crying she'sactually doing. Because I mean,
maybe from her perspective shewas just like regular crying,
but maybe from everyone else'sperspective it could have been a
totally different story.
Erika (23:38):
Yeah, but it's a funeral. You are allowed to cry.
Edgar (23:42):
I know, yeah. I mean, I can understand that she may be
not the most biased or mostreliable narrator in terms of
what's happening, but eitherway, yeah, it's okay to cry even
being all dramatic in a funeral.
Erika (23:58):
Yeah, I mean, everybody's gonna grieve differently. And
how dare he try to be like, youshould've been more considerate
of everybody else because youwere crying too much. Like, what
do you mean? It's a funeral. Shefeels sad that her friend died.
How the whole best friend died?
Edgar (24:17):
I know. It's like pretty hard.
Erika (24:20):
Yeah, especially if they have such good connection and
she feels bad for not reachingout. Just doesn't make sense
that he tries to keep her in alittle bubble and keep her like,
okay, gotta do this, you gottado control her feelings. It
doesn't make sense to me. Thetop comment is, what a jerk?
Listen, people grievedifferently and he has no right
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to try to box you in.
Drop that loser. He sounds likeone of those guys who doesn't
know how to feel emotion.They're miserable icemen. And
then OP responded, I kept tryingto justify his reaction but deep
down I knew it wasn't okay. Ishouldn't feel bad for showing
emotion especially duringsomething as painful as a
funeral.
(25:02):
Exactly. There is anothercomment that says, Recently one
of my best friend's littlesister passed away suddenly. It
was devastating and heartwrenching and hard to
understand. My husband met heronce in the twenty five years
we'd been together. He went tothe funeral, supported me and my
other friends while we cried,shared memories, laughed and
(25:23):
cried again.
On the way home, he never oncemade a bad comment about any of
it. Grief is personal and a veryvulnerable place to be. He was
and is my safe place to bevulnerable. You deserve someone
who will be the safe place. Yourboyfriend showed you who he is.
Believe him. You need to decideif he is going to be able to
(25:43):
fulfill your needs in the wayyou need. Exactly. So that means
if he can provide that emotionalsupport or be your safe spot or
your safe house, whatever, thenhe's not it.
Edgar (25:57):
He
Erika (25:58):
needs something growing up and trying to be emotional
intelligent.
Edgar (26:05):
Wonder how old they are. Drop them. It looks like they're
in college age.
Erika (26:09):
I have no idea. It doesn't say any age at all. I
can't really speculate.
Edgar (26:17):
Yeah, same here. But I mean, either way, it's like when
someone's already really sad,then the best thing about like
that is further So
Erika (26:26):
I do remember when when we first started dating, you
lost your grandpa. I was therewith you and I supported you.
And not once did I say you'rebeing extra or you're being too
emotional because I knew howmuch that person meant to you.
So you need to find somebodythat supports you when you need
(26:47):
it and when it's important. Andit doesn't matter what everybody
thinks, it's about the personyou love.
So for me she's not overreactingat all. I think she needs to
dump that dude.
Edgar (26:59):
Yeah, so she was definitely not overreacting,
especially to what her nowhopefully ex boyfriend said,
since it's pretty insensitiveand nice to see after a
Erika (27:11):
funeral. Exactly.
Edgar (27:14):
So for this last section, we're going to do something
different and we're just goingto read rapid fire style a bunch
of surreal moments we found onReddit. We will be sure to
include the link to the mainthread in this episode's
description. But yeah, we'lljust read stories and then we'll
do a quick reaction. But yeah,just thought this was pretty
(27:36):
surreal and we'd love to shareit with you guys. This first
story says, I had an incredibleurge to go to my employee's
house.
It was weird and overwhelming. Icalled my mom thinking I lost my
shiz and she said to trust mygut, so I went. It felt weird.
Who wants their boss showing upafter hours? When I got to his
(27:57):
house, I heard a faint, Help mecoming from inside the house.
I kicked the door and wentinside and the dude had a stroke
twenty four to forty eight hoursprior to my arrival. He was just
laying on the floor and wouldhave brought it there had I
dismissed that crazy urge. Ifeel like he should have not
gave in.
Erika (28:17):
You're terrible. I'm glad you Not because,
Edgar (28:21):
never. The only reason why is that's just some weird
thing. I would never say, Oh, Ineed to go into my boss's house,
or I need to go to mysupervisor's house. It's just a
weird thing to have. But I mean,I guess lucky for him, he saved
someone's life.
Erika (28:35):
Yeah.
Edgar (28:36):
But yeah, twenty four, forty eight hours, Yeah, he was
like, that dude was like slowlydying. Was suffering for like
one or two days, not unable tomove, unable to eat or use the
bathroom. Yeah, so lucky for allpeople involved.
Erika (28:52):
Yeah, I'm glad the mom supported it and said just trust
your gut and do it, know, justgo. If the mom would've been
like, oh, just ignore it, hewould've been like, oh, I'm just
crazy and then he would've died.
Edgar (29:02):
Yeah, the employee's lucky I wasn't the boss's mom.
Erika (29:08):
Yeah, Abba totally said go for it because I feel like
gut instinct is so, such a hugething. Like it literally tells
you like, you know how manytimes I ignored my gut and then
I regretted it because Iliterally needed whatever? I
just ignored. Like I knew it wasgonna be cold, I ignored my
jacket, I knew I felt like itwas gonna rain even though the
(29:29):
weather said it was just gonnabe cloudy and it rained and I
didn't bring my umbrella, I gotsoaked. Like just little things
like that, you know, just trustyour gut and go with it.
Edgar (29:38):
So many times I listened to my gut and then I was gutted.
So I can't relate, to be honest.
Erika (29:49):
Damn yeah, I suck at his gut then. My gut's pretty good.
I don't know about yours, Iguess you need to work on that.
Alright, so the next story is,Was hiking alone in the
mountains when a sudden fogrolled in, complete whiteout
conditions. As I was trying tofigure out my bearings, I heard
bells jingling, and out of themist appeared an old man with a
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staff leading about 20 goats.
He nodded at me without saying aword, walked past, and
disappeared into the fog withhis goats. The entire encounter
lasted thirty seconds.
Edgar (30:26):
I like to imagine like, the entire car was surrounded by
goats. They all looked at himand was like,
Erika (30:33):
like throwing the That's so random, right? Then fog came
out of What does
Edgar (30:39):
this mean though? What does this mean?
Erika (30:41):
I don't know. He said that it just lasted thirty
seconds, but it was done. Thefog came with the goat and the
man. The goats and the mandisappeared.
Edgar (30:51):
I listen to a lot of conspiracy theory videos and he
probably slipped it betweenmulti verses.
Erika (30:58):
Oh yeah, that's what I
Edgar (31:00):
imagine happened. That's the first thing that came into
mind.
Erika (31:04):
Yeah, I mean, I thought that too, but I was like, that's
pretty cool though.
Edgar (31:08):
So, yeah, the next mini story was, had a really down and
out moment a few years ago, Justtotally broke. Wanted to buy
flowers and chocolates for mywife for her birthday. It was
about $80 and I only had $6 inmy account. So I sat outside on
a bench and got really sad. Itwas really windy.
(31:30):
And like a movie, I was justsitting in this desert town.
Something struck me in the faceand stuck to me. It was a $100
bill.
Erika (31:41):
Aw, so what do you think you did, babe?
Edgar (31:43):
Hopefully he invested in that.
Erika (31:46):
You don't think he bought his wife flowers and chocolates?
Edgar (31:49):
Realistically, he probably bought wife chocolate
and flowers and then never sawany more money from that.
Erika (31:57):
Yeah, but that's pretty cool, right? That reminds me of
that day when I was in the storeand I was walking to the counter
and then I was like, Oh, what'sthat? And then I looked, thought
it was fake money because yousee those 100 fake dollar bills.
Edgar (32:13):
It
Erika (32:14):
was real cash. And I picked it up and I just
pretended I was tying my shoeand took it with me. Crazy,
yeah.
Edgar (32:22):
That's not going to a loss and fund.
Erika (32:24):
Yeah, okay, probably one of the employees is going to be
like, oh it's my dollar. Oh my.Yeah, they're nobody's going to
give it to charity or anythinglike that. But I thought it was
fake because there's alwaysthose $100 bills that are fake,
so.
Edgar (32:37):
I'm not too lucky when it comes to money like that. The
only time I picked up a bill, itwas like a fake one with like a
warning that I was gonna go tohell if I didn't go to church.
Erika (32:47):
Oh really?
Edgar (32:48):
Yeah, I got those kind of bills.
Erika (32:51):
I guess I'm more lucky than you in some cases.
Edgar (32:53):
Most cases. Okay,
Erika (32:57):
so the next story is neighbor old lady came over and
asked, Wanna see something?
Edgar (33:02):
Creepy.
Erika (33:02):
I said, Yeah. And she told me to grab my keys. It's
late at night already, but Ijust shrugged and got my keys
and she met me at my car. Shegave me directions to a farm
with a fence in area with about80 to 100 cows. We stand outside
of the fence and she keepslooking at her watch.
At this point I was sure I wasgoing to get murdered. But what
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happened next, I still can'texplain it. One by one, all
eighty-one hundred cows kneltdown. This stayed that way maybe
a solid minute or two and thenjust got up and started roaming
around, all normal again. Shegot back in the car and after I
picked up my jaw, I got in andwe drove home silently.
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When we pulled in, I asked herwhat the hell I just saw. She
made a motion of sipping herlips and throwing away the key.
I went back to the farm severaltimes alone and never saw
anything out of the ordinary. Ieven spoke to an employee for
the property and probably lookedlike a complete psychopath
asking the question I was. Sherefused to acknowledge anything.
(34:08):
This was over twenty five yearsago and I still think about it.
Edgar (34:12):
That's crazy. Like, for what reason did he go to the
farm again? Just like to havethe cows bow to them?
Erika (34:17):
No, bow to the sky basically.
Edgar (34:20):
That's crazy. Cows are like, we've always had, this is
like a second story about cowsand them being weird. Or like
farm animals.
Erika (34:29):
Yeah. I mean she said you wanted to see something. She
said yeah, there was noexplanation behind it. But isn't
that crazy? I would be creepedout forever.
I don't know if I could recover.
Edgar (34:41):
I know. That like neighbor must have been like a
cow queen or something or hemust be feeding them something
crazy.
Erika (34:48):
But I just don't understand why she kept looking
at the clock, she was looking ather watch until she finally said
and then they kneel down for oneor two minutes. That's crazy to
me.
Edgar (35:00):
Yeah. I was wondering if she had anything to do with it
or maybe one day she was walkingpast the farm and then she just
noticed this.
Erika (35:09):
Then they do it once like a?
Edgar (35:10):
Every few hours, every like night.
Erika (35:13):
Well she said she went back and nothing happened like
that. So maybe it was just oncea year maybe type of thing.
Edgar (35:21):
I like to think the lady, the old lady had something to do
with it. Maybe. And the finalstory we have is delivering
pizzas in my twenties and Iknocked on the door. Realized
after I knocked that I was inthe wrong address. We're calling
Ninth Street Southwest insteadof Ninth Street Northwest.
(35:44):
So, was exactly on the otherside of town from where I needed
to be. As the guy opened thedoor, I was about to do my oh
sorry, I didn't mean to disturbyou, have a nice day' thing I
usually do at a wrong address,but the guy then looked confused
and was holding money ready togo. Turns out he ordered pizza
(36:05):
and accidentally put his addressin wrong, which means I
accidentally went to the rightplace. Had two mistakes
perfectly cancelled each otherout. To this day I wonder about
the actual odds of thathappening.
It feels like it's way more thanone in a million.
Erika (36:20):
Isn't that crazy?
Edgar (36:22):
Yeah, a little bit. Mean, like two dumb people making the
right thing happen. I feel likecrazy things have happened.
Erika (36:27):
I don't know, I really like that. Even though he said
the opposite directions, he wentthere by accident and he cut to
the right place.
Edgar (36:36):
I mean, at least the pizza wasn't cold.
Erika (36:41):
That's a plus. But yeah, I thought it was pretty cool,
the coincidence, well not acoincidence but more of a, I
guess, not a miracle but kind ofcool way to have it.
Edgar (36:50):
In the city.
Erika (36:53):
Imagine he would have to drive all the way to the other
side.
Edgar (36:56):
Yeah, if this is like New York City, it's like, yeah, the
gift from one side of the islandhorizontally to the other side
is like thirty, forty fiveminutes walking.
Erika (37:04):
Exactly. So he did the right mistake by mistake.
Edgar (37:09):
So
Erika (37:11):
that's all the stories we have today. Thank you for tuning
into this week episode. Checkout our website,
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your support.
Edgar (37:33):
Also, we have a Facebook group called AITA Relationship
and Family Drama linked in thedescription. Join so you can
share Am I the asshole posts youlike or share your own stories
for us all to judge. We may evenread a few posts in one of our
episodes if you're lucky.
Erika (37:48):
Thank you. Bye.
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