Welcome to Episode 30 of Yapping Schnauzers, where the stories are unhinged and the side-eyes are fully loaded.
This week, we’re serving up:
💼 a MIL who dubbed herself Grandma CEO in a birth plan chat,
💸 a coworker who tried to Venmo her way through a romance scam,
🍝 a software dev turning Zoom meetings into Iron Chef: Lunch Edition,
📱 and brunch pics that betrayed a “sick” employee.
We’ve also got fake food poisoning, 1-star relatives, “Yes ma’am” petty revenge, and the neighbor who really thought a running lawnmower meant free landscaping.
Yap in, y’all. It’s chaos, calories, and karmic justice.
👉🏼Stream now at yappings.com or your favorite podcast streaming platform and let the yapping begin!
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Links to threads read:
- MIL Introduces Herself as “Grandma CEO” in Birth Plan Group Chat
- Told Coworker She’s Being Romance Scammed, Now She’s Mad
- Boss Kept Scheduling Lunch Meetings—Now There’s a BBQ Smoker on Zoom
- Coworker Called in Sick, Then Posted Brunch Pics
- Relatives Demanded Family Discount, Then Left 1-Star Review
- Kept Being Called ‘Sir’ on Phone—So I Responded With ‘Ma’am’
- Coworker Tried to Steal My Presentation—Got Exposed with Timestamps
- Neighbor Asked Me to Mow Their Lawn Too
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Intro (00:00):
Yapping!
Erika (00:02):
Hello, this is Erika.
Edgar (00:05):
And Edgar.
Erika (00:06):
And we are the Yapping Schnauzers. We entertain you
with yap worthy stories we findaround the web. Today's theme is
Boundary Breakers.
Edgar (00:16):
Our first story is, Am I Overreacting for Laughing When
My Mother-in-law IntroducedHerself as Grandma CEO in the
Birthplan Group Chat. I am sevenmonths pregnant with my first
baby. My mother-in-law hasalways had a strong personality,
but lately she is taking thingsto a new level. She insists on
being part of every doctor'sappointment, virtually, texts me
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tips from motherhood daily shehad her last baby in 1989, and
recently added herself to ourprivate birth plan prep group
chat with me, my husband, and mydoula. What's a doula?
Erika (00:53):
It's like people, it's basically a coach for birth.
Edgar (00:58):
Oh, I see, I see. So, her first message
support this sacred arrival.Grandma's CEO checking in. Let's
make this birth a tentenexperience. She then listed
roles she wants (01:10):
logistics coordinator, nurse liaison, baby
name consultant, and energyprotector.
I thought it was a joke andreplied with a laughing emoji
and I said, You forgot cateringdirector. She didn't respond for
a day, then sent a long textsaying she was deeply hurt by my
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dismissive attitude and that sheexpected more respect for her
generational wisdom. My husbandthinks she's being ridiculous. I
do too. But now she's tellingthe extended family, I mocked
her role as a grandmother.
Am I overreacting by beingannoyed or was the nickname just
too much? I would think it was ajoke as well, because like,
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grandma CEO is just like aridiculous title. But apparently
she took that seriously.
Erika (02:04):
I think that's kind of cute, I think the energy
protector really would get me.Because she listed herself as
logistic coordinator, nursemaison, baby consultant, and
then energy protector. I'm like,I can't.
Edgar (02:17):
Yeah, they all sound like cute and then energy protector
just sounds mysteriously wrong.
Erika (02:23):
Yeah.
Edgar (02:23):
Does that make sense?
Erika (02:24):
Yeah. I mean, it's cute that she's trying to be
supportive and that she's tryingto be there, but I think she's a
little extra there. Wait, youthink you would be annoyed?
Edgar (02:37):
I don't think I'd be annoyed because most
grandmothers I believe like wantthe best for the next
generation. Like they typicallyhelp out and like raise like
their grandchildren and theydon't have to, know, but it's
something they love doing.
Erika (02:54):
I guess, not for everybody. Don't think every
grandmother is like that. Everybig
Edgar (02:58):
grandmother is though.
Erika (02:59):
Yeah, but I think for the most part. Then again you see
grandmothers that are likeoverbearing or their way is
their only way and that's whenthere's issues.
Edgar (03:12):
Yeah.
Erika (03:13):
So the top comment is all these fancy name roles she gave
herself is basically her way ofhijacking your experience. At
this point you're just in theincubator while she's calling
dibs on making the finaldecision for everything. Please
kick this woman out of the groupchat between you and your
husband and your doula. Onlypeople that needs to be at all
the appointments discussingnames, consulting with
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professionals, etc. Is you andyour husband.
If you don't shut this down nowthen you might as well just hand
your baby over to her the secondthey are born. I wouldn't be
surprised if she has a wholenursery set up in her house just
for the baby. She's obviouslyconfused about what a role
grandmother is because mygrandmother does not get the
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same rights as the parents,which means no decision making,
she visits when parents allowit, and she stays in her lane.
Edgar (04:02):
It's like a very slippery slope and if they continue
entertaining this, she's justgonna end up taking over
everything.
Erika (04:12):
Yeah, think it's adorable and I think it's cute that she
wants to be part of it butthere's also when it comes down
to decision making it should bethe parents decision not hers.
Edgar (04:21):
Yeah, and plus it's a private matter between the
doula, the OP and his husband.Shouldn't it be open to the
public like their grandmother?
Erika (04:32):
Yeah. I mean, I love that there's the generational wisdom
but then also you have, there'sa lot of things that has
changed. There's a lot of thingsthat have been updated
scientifically and things thatyou shouldn't do that back then
it was completely fine.
Edgar (04:50):
Like I believe it was like normal before for babies
like playing with mercury andjust like a bunch of stuff like
that.
Erika (04:56):
Yeah, exactly. But you know, it's just a lot of things
change and obviously, you know,she said the last baby she had
was 1989, imagine then.
Edgar (05:07):
That was like thirty six years ago, as of 2025.
Erika (05:11):
Yeah, I mean it's one of those things where obviously her
input is always welcome, but thefinal decision should always be
the parents.
Edgar (05:21):
Exactly, yeah. I just wonder why she's like so
invested in this.
Erika (05:25):
She's just probably excited, you know, maybe it's
her first grandchild and stufflike that.
Edgar (05:30):
So final verdict?
Erika (05:32):
I would say she is not overreacting. I would be pretty
much annoyed.
Edgar (05:44):
Yeah, I don't think the OP was overreacting. Like it's
sweet that the grandmother wantsto have like a nice part in the
birth of the child or whateverthey're trying to make.
Erika (05:56):
Yeah, I mean it's nice that she wants to be part of it,
I don't think the final decisionshould be up to her. I think
it's just one of those thingswhere she can be part of it to
an extent.
Edgar (06:07):
Exactly, yeah. And they should just watch this now, at
least just so they can temperthe expectations for their
grandma.
Erika (06:15):
Yeah, I mean, it's fine. I mean, I think it's great to
have family part of your birth,but, yeah,
Edgar (06:23):
it's
Erika (06:23):
one of those things. So the next story is, Emmy the
Asshole told my coworker thatshe's falling for a romance scam
and now she's upset. My friend,let's call her N. N and I worked
together for three or four yearsat a hair salon. N is early 30s,
of an airhead, gullible, butreally kind and nice person.
She's currently in arelationship with a guy for
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about six months. He lives inNew York. We're in the Midwest.
They talk on the phone all thetime. He's been out here a
couple of times to visit.
We've never met, but heard a lotof their relationship. This
morning, she texted me at six a.M. Asking to borrow 10 k because
her boyfriend's mom have afamily emergency and needs the
money soon. She said he'sworking on an offshore oil rig
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in Dubai for two months for twomonths and couldn't transfer the
money until he's back to TheStates.
She doesn't have the money. Soshe asked if I can ask my
relatives for the 10 ks for her.I told her that this sounds like
a romance scam and that if he'sasking her for such a big amount
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like that early, therelationship is a red flag and
she should reconsider. I toldher that since I don't know her
boyfriend that well and if heghosts her, either me or her
will be on the hook for 10 ks.Now she will answer my text or
call.
She also took a personal dayfrom work today. Am I the
asshole? Should I keep my mouthshut and mind my own business?
Edgar (07:54):
OP's friend made it OP's business when she asked her for
$10,000.
Erika (07:58):
Exactly.
Edgar (08:01):
Like it's clearly some sort of scam. I know they
Erika (08:04):
100.
Edgar (08:05):
Supposedly meant, but still yeah. What someone looks
like is different from, I guess,what they actually do and what
they do in their life.Especially since they live so
far away from each other. Theydon't know what he's doing in
New York City. I know even ifhe's in Dubai, and if he is,
he's probably vacationing withsomeone else.
Erika (08:22):
Someone else's money that he scammed.
Edgar (08:25):
And I see this one guy, he's like a, I think he was on
Tinder and he was like ascammer. And what he did was he
would get middle aged women towire him hundreds of thousands
of dollars. He would use themoney to get dates and then he
will have them in his rotationand they will just basically
fund his lifestyle and he'd betravelling all around the world
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doing that.
Erika (08:48):
That's disgusting.
Edgar (08:50):
Yeah, I think they finally caught him because he
took millions and millions ofdollars from women.
Erika (08:55):
That's crazy.
Edgar (08:57):
The delusion was high everywhere, but I don't know. I
imagine he was a very happy guyfor like a few years.
Erika (09:04):
Maybe he was good looking because some guy is not gonna
get that money unless he's agood smooth talker.
Edgar (09:10):
I forget how he looks like, but he's at least a smooth
talker. There's like a wholedocumentary about him.
Erika (09:16):
Really?
Edgar (09:16):
Mhmm. Might have been in Netflix.
Erika (09:19):
That's insane. Think it's just, online is very tricky.
It's hard to really verify orhave anybody, unless let's say
you're in the same town and youmeet up and you know then you go
on multiple dates and even thenI feel like you could barely
start scratching the surface atone year with a person. I think
(09:43):
after five years I think that'swhen you kind of get to know the
person's you know habits and youknow the person's more
characteristics and all that. Ithink it's a little bit more
deeper than just one year or sixdates or one month.
So it's just one of those thingswhere if you want to be a risk
taker you can, but I just say becautious and if you go on an
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online date definitely tell yourfriends, share locations,
because you just never know now.
Edgar (10:14):
Exactly. I think the biggest red flag is he asked for
10,000 million dollars up frontand it's still technically at
the start of their relationship.
Erika (10:23):
Yeah, it's only been supposedly six months and he has
visited a couple times. So, youknow, maybe, but the coworker
said she never has met him soshe could be lying saying that
they didn't meet. So there is anedit. So it says, yes, she's
very naive and gullible. Shebelieves she can talk to ghosts
(10:46):
and spirits.
That's another can of worms thatI won't get into.
Edgar (10:50):
She probably believes in astrology too.
Erika (10:52):
Probably. She didn't bring her boyfriend around when
he was in town a couple times,just a bunch of excuses. There
you go, probably lied. I toldher sister about it and got an
earful about how I shouldn'tjudge a person in need like
that. I gave up.
Okay, well they're siblings fora reason.
Edgar (11:08):
She has enablers. That's why she's so naive.
Erika (11:11):
Yeah. I sent her a few articles about sweetheart and
pig butchering scams. Still noreply. I know she read it.
Edgar (11:18):
Did she though?
Erika (11:21):
Maybe she scammed through it. I think it's just one of
those things where if you haveproof, like, come on. Like, you
can't keep putting the blind eyeon. She's not the type that's
loaded. She lives with herparents in their basement and
lives paycheck by paycheck.
I hope she will realize this isa scam before she's in debt.
This would be an expensivelesson. And then edit two, she
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just texted and asked for moneyunder the guise of her sister
needing it. It was a flat no. Ifeel bad for her.
I told her other coworkers andmy boss about it so they can say
no to her and maybe she'llunderstand from a group
perspective that we're trying toprotect her. I think she is
nice. I think this coworker istrying to look out for her
because other people will belike, whatever, you know. Like
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she's gullible, I'm just gonnalet her do whatever she wants
and be in that or whatever. Getscammed.
So this is the final update. Itsays, what we, me and the
Redditors, suspected was true.She was in a romance scam. She
had never met her boyfriend inperson. They only talk online.
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She said she was lonely and wasafraid of being alone. She said
her boyfriend stopped contactingher after she couldn't get the
money and started asking simplequestions like, No internet on
the ridge, satellite phone, etc.After that she realized that he
was scamming her. She startedtelling me about how she has
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been sending small amounts ofmoney like $50 to $500 for the
past six months to help him withsome small emergencies. When he
ghosted her after she couldn'thelp him with a 10 ks, then she
realized that she had been aromance scammed.
I'm glad she saw it for what itwas.
Edgar (13:09):
Exactly, yeah. Like especially with the small
amounts, like it
Erika (13:13):
makes
us
Edgar (13:13):
It
Erika (13:13):
adds up.
Edgar (13:14):
Not only that, but it makes you feel more invested in
like Esther relationship becauseyou already put so much money
down.
Erika (13:21):
Imagine 50 to $500.
Edgar (13:24):
I imagine it was just like more to $500. So yeah, she
was like probably in debtalready. Oh my god. She was
definitely scared.
Erika (13:31):
And she lives paycheck by paycheck and she's trying to
help out a man.
Edgar (13:35):
If I live paycheck to paycheck, that'd be even more
selfish.
Erika (13:39):
Exactly. I don't understand her thinking, Oh my
gosh. I mean, I get she's kindhearted and nice, but I mean, I
think there's I feel bad. You'relonely. Feel bad because a lot
of people get scammed because ofthat reason, because they wanna
find some partner or so like tohave a good relationship or
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somebody to talk to, you know?
Edgar (14:03):
I mean If you're too desperate for it, I feel like
you don't attract good company.I know
Erika (14:09):
and then, I don't know what it is, but I feel like
girls, I talk from experience,girls can literally just tell
you're desperate. Like you don'teven have to do much, we can
just tell if you're desperate tofind somebody.
Edgar (14:20):
And
Erika (14:21):
it's just so unattractive because it just literally is
like you wanna stay away fromthat man. Because you don't want
somebody who's desperate.
Edgar (14:30):
Yeah, it's not a good look.
Erika (14:32):
No, it's not attractive at all.
Edgar (14:33):
I imagine it just makes you think that no one wants
them, like what's the issue withthem?
Erika (14:38):
I know, exactly, it's like why? Why are you so
desperate that you wanna doeverything to get me or
whatever, you just want mebecause I'm available and not
because you actually like me oris like in love with the idea of
love, you know what I mean? Orbeing in a relationship instead
of trying to find a partner.Okay, so the top comment is not
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the asshole. That's a classicscam scenario.
In any case, she shouldn't betrying to borrow such a large
sum of money from you and yourrelatives, even for herself,
much less for a total strangerwho sounds nice online. It's a
good thing you warned her. Isuppose you might have added
links to some reliable sourceson scams too if you had that
(15:24):
chance. Now you can only hopethat she comes to a sensitive
conclusion while isolatingherself from you and taking time
off work. I hope to think and doresearch.
Yeah, so I'm glad she camearound and finally realized it
was a scam.
Edgar (15:39):
Yeah, she probably felt like dumb about being scammed so
publicly, but I think OP, the coworkers, they all like helped
her out.
Erika (15:48):
Yeah, definitely. Some of them might have been out two ks,
10 ks, five ks, they're tryingto help her. I think it's just
one of those things where I'mglad that she had people that
cared for her. Yeah. Becausesome people, they always target
isolated people.
Edgar (16:05):
And
Erika (16:07):
they have nobody to really look out for them and
they have nobody to tell her noor don't do that or that's
dangerous or it's just a scam.So she was fortunate at least.
Edgar (16:21):
Very. It's a final verdict.
Erika (16:21):
Yeah, she's definitely not that asshole. I think she
did right for her coworker andshe should be thankful.
Edgar (16:28):
Yeah. The next story is titled, My Boss Kept Scheduling
Meetings During My Lunch, So IStarted Eating Lunch in Every
Meeting I used to take my lunchbreaks at the same time every
day, twelve to one. I don't eatbreakfast, just coffee, so my
lunch is essential and I justcan't skip it. My calendar was
blocked, but my boss, newlypromoted, power shipping,
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started scheduling meetingsright in the middle of it. The
first couple of times I let itslide, figured maybe it was
urgent, but then it became apattern.
I pushed back and reminded himthat it was during my break and
he said, well we all have tomake sacrifices sometimes. I bet
he doesn't make sacrifices forhis own lunch.
Erika (17:09):
Exactly, that's ridiculous.
Edgar (17:10):
Yeah so, cool, got it. Next meeting I show up with a
plate of spaghetti andmeatballs. Had my camera on and
mic unmuted, slurping andchewing, occasionally giving
thumbs up while mid bite. A fewdays later it repeated so I
brought sticky wings. Last weekon Thursday it happened again.
Glad I still had my pizza. Hefinally asked, Do you have to
(17:34):
eat during the meetings? And Ismiled and said, We all have to
make sacrifices sometimes. It'sFriday today. We didn't have any
meetings during my lunch hourthis week.
What do you think?
Erika (17:46):
I don't think he is an asshole at all. I think he stood
up for himself and there's noreason, like I don't think
there's HR, like if you were tohave this for HR it wouldn't be
possible because everybody'ssupposed to have their lunch.
Edgar (18:00):
Exactly, I mean some places they have like, there's
like no official time for lunch.Like at Google, there wasn't
official time, they just havelike hours throughout the entire
day where lunch and food wouldbe happening somewhere in one of
the cafeterias. Mhmm. But yeah,currently like, from like eleven
until like two, three, there'slike people who take lunch, so
(18:24):
like meetings slow down at thattime.
Erika (18:26):
Yeah, I mean, because Google is a little bit
different, it's more specialbecause you don't see that with
a lot of companies.
Edgar (18:31):
Yeah, but I mean, if you have like a team and all that
stuff, and people you work with,you'll know like when they
usually take their lunch.
Erika (18:38):
Usually, yes.
Edgar (18:38):
Yeah, so out of kindness and courtesy, you should
schedule around that.
Erika (18:43):
Yeah.
Edgar (18:44):
I think you should just be in a deck or like you were
saying in the beginning, shouldjust power trip in.
Erika (18:49):
Yeah, definitely. I don't think there was any need for
that. Yeah. Okay, and then thetop comment was, Working during
lunch, does that mean you couldalso leave early? And then OP
responded, I am a seniorsoftware engineer and I work
remotely.
Thankfully, they still care moreabout outcomes than the time I
spent working. Oh, and I love mywork and my team. After my day
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job, I do freelance hunting fornew clients and work on my own
software service, so my time ispretty tight already. I usually
end up working eleven to twelvehours a day, including weekends.
That's why my lunch is sacredand essential for my well-being.
I don't mix working and eatingtogether. I like to eat in peace
and then focus like hell on mywork. It's healthier and more
productive this way.
Edgar (19:34):
Yeah, get it. I imagine that's like the lunchtime he
has, this is the only time wherehe feels like he can just lay
back and just relax.
Erika (19:43):
Exactly. No, I'm glad he did that because it's not okay.
I mean, if he wanted sacrificed,in the team should be
sacrificing their lunch, notjust him every single time
either. Because it's not fair. Idon't know, people just power
trip sometimes and they justwanna show, Oh, I have the
bigger brass balls than you, youknow?
Edgar (20:03):
So, final verdict?
Erika (20:04):
Oh, so the final verdict, I would say, he definitely is
not the asshole.
Edgar (20:10):
Yeah, I wouldn't do the same, because I don't think I
want to eat in front of peoplelike that, but get where he's
coming from. So yeah, he's notthe asshole.
Erika (20:19):
Yeah, no. So the next story is, coworker tried a fake
food poisoning to get out ofwork. Forgot she posted brunch
pics on Instagram. So mycoworker Tina calls in violently
ill on Monday morning, claimsshe has some bad sushi and can't
even stand up without gettingdizzy. Cool.
Hope you feel better. A fewhours later, some of her team
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casually checks her Instagram.And guess who posted a photo
dump of Bottomless Mimosabrunch. Time stamped that
morning. We're talking selfies,avocado toast, when life gives
you lemons, add vodka captions,a video where she's literally
cheering with friends in thebackground.
Oh my gosh. The best part, sheforgot we follow her. One of the
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managers even commented, gladyou're feeling better. She came
in the next day acting likenothing happened, HR had a chat
with her, now she keeps heraccount on private and suddenly
gets really sick only after 5PM.What do you think?
Edgar (21:23):
Like, this is like idiotic, to be honest.
Erika (21:28):
How you forget you have your boss or people that you
work with in Instagram. Like, Iknow some people, like I've met
people that have like againstadding anybody they work with in
any social medias and nothing.
Edgar (21:43):
Yeah.
Erika (21:44):
Which I understand why, but I mean, other people just
don't care. Because if you havenothing to hide, you're just
gonna add people.
Edgar (21:52):
Yeah, I usually add anybody who add me back, like I
know now at least. Because Idon't really have to hide
anything.
Erika (22:00):
Exactly, so I think she should've just done better and
not get Yeah, that
Edgar (22:08):
must've been an embarrassing call with her HR.
Erika (22:10):
Yeah, it's embarrassing, oh my god, imagine going in
there and saying, so, you youcalled out sick and we have
proof that you went on
Edgar (22:19):
a crunch
Erika (22:20):
with mimosas.
Edgar (22:21):
When life gives you lemons, add vodka.
Erika (22:25):
That's even worse. That was so funny.
Edgar (22:29):
Her greed destroyed her.
Erika (22:33):
Okay, so the top comment is when I post things it's
always days or weeks late, whichis also good, know, when you
post too much and post it at animmediate time, I feel like your
life is in danger. You neverknow if you have a stalker or
you have somebody there, likeit's just weird. You should
never post when you're actuallythere, you should post like an
hour or whatever when you leave.
Edgar (22:53):
I do that like often as well just because like I like
enjoying the moment and Iusually forget to post things
until like months or weekslater.
Erika (23:01):
Yeah, definitely. I think it's just one of those things
where it's important to keep inmind your safety.
Edgar (23:08):
Yeah, some people are just that chronically online.
Erika (23:11):
I know, I cannot. I am not. I rarely post anything in
my, at least my privateaccounts.
Edgar (23:18):
Yeah, how much Red Arrow posts a lot now, just because I
have to do that for networkingand
Erika (23:22):
stuff like Yeah, no, it's important, definitely
networking, so you gotta beonline more. All right, and then
it says, I don't know why peoplecan't just mind their business.
If she has a pattern, she willeventually get fired. I simply
do not care what any of mycoworkers do or what excuse they
use or don't use. We can get allfired over minimal things.
Clock in and do your job andclock out.
Edgar (23:44):
Yeah, I mean also I imagine whichever one of the co
workers like gratted her out islike an asshole to be honest.
Yeah. Like if I saw that, like Isaw one of my co workers was
like, Oh, I'm gonna die, I havelike, I don't know, I'm just
very sick. And then I see themon LinkedIn or like on Instagram
and they're like, add vodka orwhatever in their caption. I
(24:07):
just wouldn't like, I wouldn'tsay anything.
I joke about it like one on onewith them and like with any
close friends we have, but Iwouldn't be talking about it
with HR.
Erika (24:16):
Yeah, that's just messed up. But then again, I think it
was one of the, think one of the
Edgar (24:20):
The managers?
Erika (24:21):
Yeah, saw it and said, oh, one of the managers even
commented, glad you're feelingbetter. So, yeah, I mean, if the
managers sorry, it's kind ofhard not to say anything, you
know what I mean?
Edgar (24:33):
I don't know how
Erika (24:34):
the manager
Edgar (24:34):
I feel like if you're a manager, your job is to make
sure your reports do the job,but if they had to have some fun
days off, just let them, youknow?
Erika (24:44):
Yeah, I mean, I don't know. It's a slippery slide
there too because then you'll belike, oh, she lets her have a
day off and go out and drinkpotcups and say anything, then I
can do that too. So everybody'sgoing be doing that.
Edgar (24:59):
I know, then they'll let the manager do that too.
Everyone's on an equal footing,everyone has that level of
trust.
Erika (25:06):
I don't know, it's
Edgar (25:11):
I just think whoever ratted her out, would say is the
most asshole issue in the story.
Erika (25:17):
Yeah, I mean, if I saw somebody do that I wouldn't say
anything. I would just be like,yo, I would text the person, I
would be nice.
Edgar (25:26):
I would
Erika (25:26):
be like, yo, you posted this and the manager can see
this, take it out, aren't yousupposed to be sick? I would
text her or message herpersonally. I wouldn't send it
to HR or tell HR, that's just myup.
Edgar (25:37):
Yeah, think that's probably the best thing to do. I
wouldn't do that just because Idon't care enough. Yeah, the
nice thing to do would be like,Hey, by the way, everyone can
see this. Almost everyone cansee this.
Erika (25:47):
Yeah. I mean, at least if you post something, block the
people.
Edgar (25:50):
Yeah, block Like have it, I guess, be targeted?
Erika (25:54):
Yeah, you could post it, yeah, you could put it to
everyone but those people, youknow, maybe the people that you
work with, so.
Edgar (26:01):
Pro tips.
Erika (26:03):
What? I've never done this, but I'm just saying that's
what you can do. So,
Edgar (26:10):
final verdict?
Erika (26:11):
Nah, I would say the one that ratted her out is the
asshole.
Edgar (26:16):
Exactly, yeah. I think OP's coworker has an invaluable
lesson, at the end of the day, Ifeel like no one should have
been reported for this. It'slike, it's just such a dumb
thing.
Erika (26:28):
I
Edgar (26:28):
know. It's so unserious.
Erika (26:31):
Mean, if you have sick
Edgar (26:32):
should have a nice laugh about it though.
Erika (26:35):
I don't know, not everybody sees it that way
because, you know, when you havea sick day, you have people
covering for you because you'resick. Not because you're out
there having some fun. But thenagain, you know, it's up to
everybody. Some people arebetter liars than others.
Edgar (26:51):
Exactly, yeah. The next story is titled, My Relative
Demanded a Family Discount at MyFood Stall, then left a one star
review. Bro. I opened a smallstreet food stall after
graduating culinary school. It'ssomething I've been working
towards for years, testingrecipes, saving up, and finally
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getting permits and a spot.
First week a few cousins and anaunt showed up. I was actually
happy at first. Though came to,not they came to support. They
ordered a ton, like enough offive people when they were only
three of them. And when I gavethem the bill, they laughed.
Literally laughed. My cousingoes, Wait, you're charging us?
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We're family. I try to explainthat this is my actual job now
and everything I make goes backinto keeping the stall running.
My aunt scoffed and said, Well,I guess success went to your
head.
That we were closer than that.They paid, but with so much
attitude it ruined my whole vibethat day. Two days later I
noticed someone left a one starreview on Google and said,
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Overpriced and rude service. Ichecked the account. It was one
of my cousin's emails.
Now I just smile when relativessay they want to swing by for a
bite. Sure. Full price.
Erika (28:06):
That's insane.
Edgar (28:07):
That's like so petty. Like they expected to get like,
I guess free food, and not evenenough for them. They probably
bought it for the whole family,and they were gonna bring it all
back home.
Erika (28:21):
That's so ridiculous.
Edgar (28:23):
And they expected it all free, like this is crazy, this
is hijab. I don't know what youwere thinking.
Erika (28:29):
For any small business, even family owned small you
wanna support them, you go visitthem, you pay for the meal.
Edgar (28:36):
Come on.
Erika (28:36):
It's just common courtesy. Especially if you care
about them or you want them tosucceed or help them out, it's
because you don't go there andexpect something free. Like,
Edgar (28:49):
no. Yeah, you'd want them, like especially like, you
wanna have them keep going withtheir stall if you really like
the food, I guess they were justso petty and so upset that they
just gave a one star review,which is basically nuking them.
Erika (29:04):
I know.
Edgar (29:05):
Like people were gonna look at it and be like, oh yeah,
they're probably mean and thefood's probably not that good.
Erika (29:09):
Yeah, especially if they're starting off. How
selfish and asshole ish can yoube that you expect the meal to
be free when they're literallyjust starting out?
Edgar (29:19):
Exactly.
Erika (29:22):
So- I
Edgar (29:22):
feel like that's probably the end of his career.
Erika (29:24):
Oh I hope that.
Edgar (29:26):
Because like she worked for years to get like the stall
open and get the skillsnecessary to make good food and
now she has a one star review.
Erika (29:34):
And not to mention the permits, Like getting a food
thing, a food vendor orwhatever, it's really difficult.
They make you run for hoopsbecause not only do you have to
talk to Sony and whatever, youhave to go to the health
institution or whatever to getall those and you have to apply
for those, have them inspected,and then if there's something
(29:56):
wrong they have to go back inthere and inspect it again and
then continue and so on. Andit's just one of those things
where it's not easy to do. Sothe fact that all her hard work
was destroyed because supposedfamily that went there to
support her but instead wantedfree food is such annoying and
(30:16):
ridiculous situation because howdo you call yourself family if
you do that to your own cousin?Like your own cousin said, use
the email to say, I mean, dothey think that she's not smart
enough to check who posted thatreview?
Edgar (30:36):
Probably don't care.
Erika (30:38):
Maybe, but it's just ridiculous. I would blacklist
them.
Edgar (30:42):
Exactly.
Erika (30:43):
You're done. So the top comment is make sure to respond
to that review if you can.Explain to the public it was
your douchebag family and peoplethat love you will happily pay
full price and tip well tosupport you.
Edgar (30:57):
I think yeah, that's the only thing she really can do is
to clarify, Hey, I'm sorry thatI came off as rude but I do not
give free food.
Erika (31:04):
To family.
Edgar (31:05):
Not even to family.
Erika (31:07):
Exactly. So yeah, the cousins and the aunts were
assholes.
Edgar (31:14):
Yeah, It's just gonna be pretty bad for her business
because having a one star isgonna make you not show up in
the searches.
Erika (31:23):
Well yeah, I mean, I would ask my other family to
come by and you know, whatevertry
Edgar (31:28):
to have her one that paper price?
Erika (31:30):
Yeah, or just, you know, other people that you would
trust. I'm sure she has friendsand connections and have them,
you know, do a review so thatway it could help her.
Edgar (31:42):
So final verdict?
Erika (31:44):
I would say the cousin and the aunt are assholes. They
need hit the road.
Edgar (31:50):
Huge ones.
Erika (31:50):
Yeah. So the next story is, Kept calling me sir on the
phone so I gave him a taste ofhis own medicine. I'm a female,
but I'm often mistaken for a manwhen speaking on the phone. One
day I called my insurancecompany for support and the
representative kept addressingme as sir. I politely corrected
him, letting him know that I ama woman.
(32:13):
But he continued to say, Yes,sir. So I decided to turn the
tables. As the conversation wenton, I started responding to him
with, Yes, ma'am. After a fewtimes, he finally stopped and
said, I'm not a woman. I am aman.
But I just kept saying, Yesma'am. Eventually he got so
frustrated that he hung up. Tillthis day, I still laugh hard
(32:35):
whenever I think about thatconversation. Yeah, I mean, come
on. If you're talking on thephone and you're doing customer
service, if somebody tells youyou're a woman then address them
as so.
Don't keep calling them sir.Like it's just common sense.
Edgar (32:54):
Exactly, as a customer service rep you just have to
like, even if it was like anasshole, or if she said it
rudely, you still have to actcordial because your only job is
that you're just taking the calland you're trying to be as
pleasant as possible.
Erika (33:09):
And then a lot of calls are recorded, why do you wanna
be recorded with you callingthem sir?
Edgar (33:16):
Yeah, why do wanna be recorded and kinda act like
that?
Erika (33:19):
No, it's not worth it, like why do you wanna be
reprimanded for something likethat? Exactly. But I love that
she clapped back. So if QualityInsurance was listening to that
call, that lady's going to getreprimanded for sure. So
exactly.
I think it's just one of thosethings where you have to, you
know, just, it's not worth it.Just treat people with respect
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or especially if you're sellingsomething or you're trying to
get something done, you don'twant a bad review.
Edgar (33:47):
Exactly. Yeah. Definitely got a bad review. Definitely,
probably got at least like somesort of smack on the wrist.
Erika (33:55):
Yeah, I mean, I don't know about certain people how
you answer the phone. Usuallywhen you answer the phone you
say, Hi, my name is blah blahblah, my ID number is this, or
depending if you call insuranceor whatever, then they could
literally call and make acomplaint and use your ID number
and your name. Because peopledon't forget. People just think
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that you're not going to comeback and say something. I mean,
maybe if you care enough youwould, but some people just
think they're not going donothing about it.
Edgar (34:25):
Yeah. As a final verdict?
Erika (34:30):
I would say he just got what he deserved.
Edgar (34:33):
Yeah, was like, I don't know what else he expected from
that situation.
Erika (34:37):
I know. And he's the one that hung up too.
Edgar (34:40):
Yeah. All that just to be the most angry one in that
situation.
Erika (34:44):
I know, like, he was the victim.
Edgar (34:49):
The next story is titled, A Coworker Tried to Take Credit
from My Project and Got Wrecked.I've been busting my butt on
this big presentation for weeks,tons of late nights. My coworker
Chad does nothing but smoothwith the boss. The day of the
meeting Chad stands up andstarts pitching my slides like
he made them. I am sittingthere, fuming, when our manager
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goes, Nice work Chad.
How did you pull this off? Chad,smug as hell, says, Just burned
the midnight oil, you know? Bro.I couldn't stay quiet. I pull up
my laptop, show the team myoriginal files with timestamps,
and say, Funny Chad, yourmidnight oil looks a lot like my
(35:31):
2AM drafts.
Room in silent. Manager's face?Priceless. Chad's stuttering, I
meant we collaborated. Nah dude,you didn't.
Now Chad's on to be nice and I'mgetting props for calling him
out.
Erika (35:47):
Good. That's just one of the things where I just get so
frustrated when people takecredit when it's not supposed to
be, you know, theirs.
Edgar (35:58):
Yeah, it's like, feel like this story is a little bit
like fictional. Like it'sprobably something he wished he
did, but anyways, think it'slike the best thing you probably
could have done. Like, I thinkbecause Chad and the manager are
so close, they probably couldjust team up against OP and just
have him get in trouble. But ifthis was like in front of more
(36:19):
higher ups, they probablyscrewed the manager and Chad.
Erika (36:24):
I mean- because
Edgar (36:24):
the managers probably like talked him up, like Chad
up, and was like, oh he's likethe best person I have. Then now
in front of everyone that'simportant in your company, you
just found out to be like afraud.
Erika (36:36):
Yeah, I mean, yeah, I mean it's one of those things
where this is the best outcomethat could happen, but it's not
always the case. It's justreally about connections. It's
who you know and who you have agood relationship with.
Edgar (36:53):
Exactly. But it's like kind of dumb because eventually,
because I feel like a lot ofpeople have this mentality where
they're like, oh it's all aboutwho you know. But if everyone
knows each other, knows how todo the actual thing that needs
to be done?
Erika (37:06):
They know people that do.
Edgar (37:08):
Yeah but I feel like all the way up there no one knows
how to do anything. They justknow people who know how to do
stuff.
Erika (37:15):
Exactly, so if you're doing less work you have people
doing your job.
Edgar (37:19):
But after a certain point all you have is like, oh, I know
someone down the line somewherethat can maybe do it, but they
don't know anyone exactly whowould know how to do it.
Erika (37:29):
That's why you have connections. That's why you
have, like for example, I thinkit's important, like, you know,
obviously networking. Yeah.Because if you want something to
grow, need to talk to people,you need to have connections,
you need to do all the usualthings. And it gets to a point
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where you get into, depending onwhat job you have or job title,
then you could have people doyour job for you or help you or
back and forth or use aconnection or do a contract or
whatever.
So it's just one of those thingswhere that's what happens when
you're too busy running acompany, a multi millionaire
(38:13):
company or whatever, then youneed to know people. And then
the top comment really is justthat that manager's name is
Albert Einstein.
Edgar (38:22):
What the hell? And that guy signed on to it, I forgot?
Erika (38:24):
Yeah, I don't know. Did Albert Einstein take credit for
somebody else? And his boss wasAbraham Lincoln?
Edgar (38:33):
Oh, think I know what's happening. I think they all are
in agreement that the story wasfake. Like if you see it, it's
like, oh yeah, the manager'sname is Albert Einstein, and his
boss, Abraham Lincoln, and theco founder was like,
Erika (38:49):
Oh, okay, okay, I got you.
Edgar (38:51):
And they're just dumping on him. RIP. I mean, that's what
I figured. At the very least, orat the very most, is probably
what he wished he did.
Erika (39:02):
Yeah, maybe he just got just took
Edgar (39:05):
a risk. He's just writing fan fiction right now.
Erika (39:08):
Oh yeah.
Edgar (39:09):
On his own life.
Erika (39:14):
Alright, what's
Edgar (39:15):
the next? Oh, what's the final verdict I guess on that
story?
Erika (39:17):
It's not really like am I an asshole story, but I would
say Chad would be the asshole.Definitely. The final story is
neighbor asked me to mow theirlawn too since I already have
the mower out. Was mowing mylawn Saturday afternoon,
sweating like hell and justtrying to get it done before I
hit 90 degrees. Neighbor acrossthe street wakes me down and
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goes, Hey, since you alreadyhave the mower out, mind doing
mine too?
I laughed a little, thought shewas joking. She wasn't. Added,
It's like not even big. Just dothe front part. I said, Sure, no
problem.
You hiring me now? She looked atme like I was the rude one and
(40:00):
just walked away back inside.That was like three days ago,
grass still looking feral. Guessthe mower being out wasn't quite
convenient enough. Isn't thatcrazy?
Edgar (40:11):
No, yeah, it's pretty crazy. But when I think about
neighbors that like how abouteach other like that, think of
my dad. Like he always does likeeveryone's snow and sometimes
our lawn, just because it's likea nice thing to do. All our
neighbors are like older people.
Erika (40:28):
Yeah, no, I completely get it if they were older and
they have struggling and it'sharder for them. But if it's
like a 30 year old and you'relike do my lawn, like no.
Edgar (40:40):
Yeah, do my lawn. Yeah, it just screams entitlement.
Erika (40:43):
Yeah, and then it's like, you have it out already, why
can't you do mine? Like, excuseme?
Edgar (40:47):
I know.
Erika (40:48):
Like, who are you? Yeah, it's just the entitlement is
crazy. The top comment is, if myneighbor was elderly or
otherwise in a situation thatmade it difficult for them to
mow their lawn, I'll likelyconsider it. Guessing in this
case, she's just lazy.
Edgar (41:06):
Very lazy.
Erika (41:08):
Exactly. But I think that's so sweet that your dad
does that. My dad recentlystarted hiring somebody to mow
the lawn because he's a littlebit older and he has really bad
allergies. And I think it's agood thing.
Edgar (41:23):
Yeah, been a blessing. He gets to spend time doing other
things that he wants to do.
Erika (41:28):
Exactly. And I think, you know, my dad, once you get older
I feel like you want to conserveor be better with your health.
And we have, I wouldn't say wehave a huge backyard, but I
would say it's a decent size.
Edgar (41:41):
Yeah, it's like good enough for the dogs to run
around happily.
Erika (41:44):
Yeah, exactly. But yes, I would say she is definitely an
asshole and she just needs tohire somebody. Let's say she
said, Hey, can you do my lawn?I'll pay you. Yeah.
Completely different reaction,completely different thing. You
know, just don't expect it to befree.
Edgar (42:02):
Exactly, yeah. Or at least say nicer. Yeah. Like if
they were joking, just like jokealong with them. That way you
possibly still get it free, likethe OP's neighbor.
Erika (42:15):
Exactly. It could have been a whole different reaction,
whole different outcome if shewas in such entitlement. Yeah.
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Bye!
Yapping!
Erika (00:02):
Hello, this is Erika.
Edgar (00:05):
And Edgar.
Erika (00:06):
And we are the Yapping Schnauzers. We entertain you
with yap worthy stories we findaround the web. Today's theme is
Boundary Breakers.
Edgar (00:16):
Our first story is, Am I Overreacting for Laughing When
My Mother-in-law IntroducedHerself as Grandma CEO in the
Birthplan Group Chat. I am sevenmonths pregnant with my first
baby. My mother-in-law hasalways had a strong personality,
but lately she is taking thingsto a new level. She insists on
being part of every doctor'sappointment, virtually, texts me
(00:40):
tips from motherhood daily shehad her last baby in 1989, and
recently added herself to ourprivate birth plan prep group
chat with me, my husband, and mydoula. What's a doula?
Erika (00:53):
It's like people, it's basically a coach for birth.
Edgar (00:58):
Oh, I see, I see. So, her first message
support this sacred arrival.Grandma's CEO checking in. Let's
make this birth a tentenexperience. She then listed
roles she wants (01:10):
logistics coordinator, nurse liaison, baby
name consultant, and energyprotector.
I thought it was a joke andreplied with a laughing emoji
and I said, You forgot cateringdirector. She didn't respond for
a day, then sent a long textsaying she was deeply hurt by my
(01:34):
dismissive attitude and that sheexpected more respect for her
generational wisdom. My husbandthinks she's being ridiculous. I
do too. But now she's tellingthe extended family, I mocked
her role as a grandmother.
Am I overreacting by beingannoyed or was the nickname just
too much? I would think it was ajoke as well, because like,
(01:59):
grandma CEO is just like aridiculous title. But apparently
she took that seriously.
Erika (02:04):
I think that's kind of cute, I think the energy
protector really would get me.Because she listed herself as
logistic coordinator, nursemaison, baby consultant, and
then energy protector. I'm like,I can't.
Edgar (02:17):
Yeah, they all sound like cute and then energy protector
just sounds mysteriously wrong.
Erika (02:23):
Yeah.
Edgar (02:23):
Does that make sense?
Erika (02:24):
Yeah. I mean, it's cute that she's trying to be
supportive and that she's tryingto be there, but I think she's a
little extra there. Wait, youthink you would be annoyed?
Edgar (02:37):
I don't think I'd be annoyed because most
grandmothers I believe like wantthe best for the next
generation. Like they typicallyhelp out and like raise like
their grandchildren and theydon't have to, know, but it's
something they love doing.
Erika (02:54):
I guess, not for everybody. Don't think every
grandmother is like that. Everybig
Edgar (02:58):
grandmother is though.
Erika (02:59):
Yeah, but I think for the most part. Then again you see
grandmothers that are likeoverbearing or their way is
their only way and that's whenthere's issues.
Edgar (03:12):
Yeah.
Erika (03:13):
So the top comment is all these fancy name roles she gave
herself is basically her way ofhijacking your experience. At
this point you're just in theincubator while she's calling
dibs on making the finaldecision for everything. Please
kick this woman out of the groupchat between you and your
husband and your doula. Onlypeople that needs to be at all
the appointments discussingnames, consulting with
(03:34):
professionals, etc. Is you andyour husband.
If you don't shut this down nowthen you might as well just hand
your baby over to her the secondthey are born. I wouldn't be
surprised if she has a wholenursery set up in her house just
for the baby. She's obviouslyconfused about what a role
grandmother is because mygrandmother does not get the
(03:56):
same rights as the parents,which means no decision making,
she visits when parents allowit, and she stays in her lane.
Edgar (04:02):
It's like a very slippery slope and if they continue
entertaining this, she's justgonna end up taking over
everything.
Erika (04:12):
Yeah, think it's adorable and I think it's cute that she
wants to be part of it butthere's also when it comes down
to decision making it should bethe parents decision not hers.
Edgar (04:21):
Yeah, and plus it's a private matter between the
doula, the OP and his husband.Shouldn't it be open to the
public like their grandmother?
Erika (04:32):
Yeah. I mean, I love that there's the generational wisdom
but then also you have, there'sa lot of things that has
changed. There's a lot of thingsthat have been updated
scientifically and things thatyou shouldn't do that back then
it was completely fine.
Edgar (04:50):
Like I believe it was like normal before for babies
like playing with mercury andjust like a bunch of stuff like
that.
Erika (04:56):
Yeah, exactly. But you know, it's just a lot of things
change and obviously, you know,she said the last baby she had
was 1989, imagine then.
Edgar (05:07):
That was like thirty six years ago, as of 2025.
Erika (05:11):
Yeah, I mean it's one of those things where obviously her
input is always welcome, but thefinal decision should always be
the parents.
Edgar (05:21):
Exactly, yeah. I just wonder why she's like so
invested in this.
Erika (05:25):
She's just probably excited, you know, maybe it's
her first grandchild and stufflike that.
Edgar (05:30):
So final verdict?
Erika (05:32):
I would say she is not overreacting. I would be pretty
much annoyed.
Edgar (05:44):
Yeah, I don't think the OP was overreacting. Like it's
sweet that the grandmother wantsto have like a nice part in the
birth of the child or whateverthey're trying to make.
Erika (05:56):
Yeah, I mean it's nice that she wants to be part of it,
I don't think the final decisionshould be up to her. I think
it's just one of those thingswhere she can be part of it to
an extent.
Edgar (06:07):
Exactly, yeah. And they should just watch this now, at
least just so they can temperthe expectations for their
grandma.
Erika (06:15):
Yeah, I mean, it's fine. I mean, I think it's great to
have family part of your birth,but, yeah,
Edgar (06:23):
it's
Erika (06:23):
one of those things. So the next story is, Emmy the
Asshole told my coworker thatshe's falling for a romance scam
and now she's upset. My friend,let's call her N. N and I worked
together for three or four yearsat a hair salon. N is early 30s,
of an airhead, gullible, butreally kind and nice person.
She's currently in arelationship with a guy for
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about six months. He lives inNew York. We're in the Midwest.
They talk on the phone all thetime. He's been out here a
couple of times to visit.
We've never met, but heard a lotof their relationship. This
morning, she texted me at six a.M. Asking to borrow 10 k because
her boyfriend's mom have afamily emergency and needs the
money soon. She said he'sworking on an offshore oil rig
(07:08):
in Dubai for two months for twomonths and couldn't transfer the
money until he's back to TheStates.
She doesn't have the money. Soshe asked if I can ask my
relatives for the 10 ks for her.I told her that this sounds like
a romance scam and that if he'sasking her for such a big amount
(07:29):
like that early, therelationship is a red flag and
she should reconsider. I toldher that since I don't know her
boyfriend that well and if heghosts her, either me or her
will be on the hook for 10 ks.Now she will answer my text or
call.
She also took a personal dayfrom work today. Am I the
asshole? Should I keep my mouthshut and mind my own business?
Edgar (07:54):
OP's friend made it OP's business when she asked her for
$10,000.
Erika (07:58):
Exactly.
Edgar (08:01):
Like it's clearly some sort of scam. I know they
Erika (08:04):
100.
Edgar (08:05):
Supposedly meant, but still yeah. What someone looks
like is different from, I guess,what they actually do and what
they do in their life.Especially since they live so
far away from each other. Theydon't know what he's doing in
New York City. I know even ifhe's in Dubai, and if he is,
he's probably vacationing withsomeone else.
Erika (08:22):
Someone else's money that he scammed.
Edgar (08:25):
And I see this one guy, he's like a, I think he was on
Tinder and he was like ascammer. And what he did was he
would get middle aged women towire him hundreds of thousands
of dollars. He would use themoney to get dates and then he
will have them in his rotationand they will just basically
fund his lifestyle and he'd betravelling all around the world
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doing that.
Erika (08:48):
That's disgusting.
Edgar (08:50):
Yeah, I think they finally caught him because he
took millions and millions ofdollars from women.
Erika (08:55):
That's crazy.
Edgar (08:57):
The delusion was high everywhere, but I don't know. I
imagine he was a very happy guyfor like a few years.
Erika (09:04):
Maybe he was good looking because some guy is not gonna
get that money unless he's agood smooth talker.
Edgar (09:10):
I forget how he looks like, but he's at least a smooth
talker. There's like a wholedocumentary about him.
Erika (09:16):
Really?
Edgar (09:16):
Mhmm. Might have been in Netflix.
Erika (09:19):
That's insane. Think it's just, online is very tricky.
It's hard to really verify orhave anybody, unless let's say
you're in the same town and youmeet up and you know then you go
on multiple dates and even thenI feel like you could barely
start scratching the surface atone year with a person. I think
(09:43):
after five years I think that'swhen you kind of get to know the
person's you know habits and youknow the person's more
characteristics and all that. Ithink it's a little bit more
deeper than just one year or sixdates or one month.
So it's just one of those thingswhere if you want to be a risk
taker you can, but I just say becautious and if you go on an
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online date definitely tell yourfriends, share locations,
because you just never know now.
Edgar (10:14):
Exactly. I think the biggest red flag is he asked for
10,000 million dollars up frontand it's still technically at
the start of their relationship.
Erika (10:23):
Yeah, it's only been supposedly six months and he has
visited a couple times. So, youknow, maybe, but the coworker
said she never has met him soshe could be lying saying that
they didn't meet. So there is anedit. So it says, yes, she's
very naive and gullible. Shebelieves she can talk to ghosts
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and spirits.
That's another can of worms thatI won't get into.
Edgar (10:50):
She probably believes in astrology too.
Erika (10:52):
Probably. She didn't bring her boyfriend around when
he was in town a couple times,just a bunch of excuses. There
you go, probably lied. I toldher sister about it and got an
earful about how I shouldn'tjudge a person in need like
that. I gave up.
Okay, well they're siblings fora reason.
Edgar (11:08):
She has enablers. That's why she's so naive.
Erika (11:11):
Yeah. I sent her a few articles about sweetheart and
pig butchering scams. Still noreply. I know she read it.
Edgar (11:18):
Did she though?
Erika (11:21):
Maybe she scammed through it. I think it's just one of
those things where if you haveproof, like, come on. Like, you
can't keep putting the blind eyeon. She's not the type that's
loaded. She lives with herparents in their basement and
lives paycheck by paycheck.
I hope she will realize this isa scam before she's in debt.
This would be an expensivelesson. And then edit two, she
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just texted and asked for moneyunder the guise of her sister
needing it. It was a flat no. Ifeel bad for her.
I told her other coworkers andmy boss about it so they can say
no to her and maybe she'llunderstand from a group
perspective that we're trying toprotect her. I think she is
nice. I think this coworker istrying to look out for her
because other people will belike, whatever, you know. Like
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she's gullible, I'm just gonnalet her do whatever she wants
and be in that or whatever. Getscammed.
So this is the final update. Itsays, what we, me and the
Redditors, suspected was true.She was in a romance scam. She
had never met her boyfriend inperson. They only talk online.
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She said she was lonely and wasafraid of being alone. She said
her boyfriend stopped contactingher after she couldn't get the
money and started asking simplequestions like, No internet on
the ridge, satellite phone, etc.After that she realized that he
was scamming her. She startedtelling me about how she has
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been sending small amounts ofmoney like $50 to $500 for the
past six months to help him withsome small emergencies. When he
ghosted her after she couldn'thelp him with a 10 ks, then she
realized that she had been aromance scammed.
I'm glad she saw it for what itwas.
Edgar (13:09):
Exactly, yeah. Like especially with the small
amounts, like it
Erika (13:13):
makes
us
Edgar (13:13):
It
Erika (13:13):
adds up.
Edgar (13:14):
Not only that, but it makes you feel more invested in
like Esther relationship becauseyou already put so much money
down.
Erika (13:21):
Imagine 50 to $500.
Edgar (13:24):
I imagine it was just like more to $500. So yeah, she
was like probably in debtalready. Oh my god. She was
definitely scared.
Erika (13:31):
And she lives paycheck by paycheck and she's trying to
help out a man.
Edgar (13:35):
If I live paycheck to paycheck, that'd be even more
selfish.
Erika (13:39):
Exactly. I don't understand her thinking, Oh my
gosh. I mean, I get she's kindhearted and nice, but I mean, I
think there's I feel bad. You'relonely. Feel bad because a lot
of people get scammed because ofthat reason, because they wanna
find some partner or so like tohave a good relationship or
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somebody to talk to, you know?
Edgar (14:03):
I mean If you're too desperate for it, I feel like
you don't attract good company.I know
Erika (14:09):
and then, I don't know what it is, but I feel like
girls, I talk from experience,girls can literally just tell
you're desperate. Like you don'teven have to do much, we can
just tell if you're desperate tofind somebody.
Edgar (14:20):
And
Erika (14:21):
it's just so unattractive because it just literally is
like you wanna stay away fromthat man. Because you don't want
somebody who's desperate.
Edgar (14:30):
Yeah, it's not a good look.
Erika (14:32):
No, it's not attractive at all.
Edgar (14:33):
I imagine it just makes you think that no one wants
them, like what's the issue withthem?
Erika (14:38):
I know, exactly, it's like why? Why are you so
desperate that you wanna doeverything to get me or
whatever, you just want mebecause I'm available and not
because you actually like me oris like in love with the idea of
love, you know what I mean? Orbeing in a relationship instead
of trying to find a partner.Okay, so the top comment is not
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the asshole. That's a classicscam scenario.
In any case, she shouldn't betrying to borrow such a large
sum of money from you and yourrelatives, even for herself,
much less for a total strangerwho sounds nice online. It's a
good thing you warned her. Isuppose you might have added
links to some reliable sourceson scams too if you had that
(15:24):
chance. Now you can only hopethat she comes to a sensitive
conclusion while isolatingherself from you and taking time
off work. I hope to think and doresearch.
Yeah, so I'm glad she camearound and finally realized it
was a scam.
Edgar (15:39):
Yeah, she probably felt like dumb about being scammed so
publicly, but I think OP, the coworkers, they all like helped
her out.
Erika (15:48):
Yeah, definitely. Some of them might have been out two ks,
10 ks, five ks, they're tryingto help her. I think it's just
one of those things where I'mglad that she had people that
cared for her. Yeah. Becausesome people, they always target
isolated people.
Edgar (16:05):
And
Erika (16:07):
they have nobody to really look out for them and
they have nobody to tell her noor don't do that or that's
dangerous or it's just a scam.So she was fortunate at least.
Edgar (16:21):
Very. It's a final verdict.
Erika (16:21):
Yeah, she's definitely not that asshole. I think she
did right for her coworker andshe should be thankful.
Edgar (16:28):
Yeah. The next story is titled, My Boss Kept Scheduling
Meetings During My Lunch, So IStarted Eating Lunch in Every
Meeting I used to take my lunchbreaks at the same time every
day, twelve to one. I don't eatbreakfast, just coffee, so my
lunch is essential and I justcan't skip it. My calendar was
blocked, but my boss, newlypromoted, power shipping,
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started scheduling meetingsright in the middle of it. The
first couple of times I let itslide, figured maybe it was
urgent, but then it became apattern.
I pushed back and reminded himthat it was during my break and
he said, well we all have tomake sacrifices sometimes. I bet
he doesn't make sacrifices forhis own lunch.
Erika (17:09):
Exactly, that's ridiculous.
Edgar (17:10):
Yeah so, cool, got it. Next meeting I show up with a
plate of spaghetti andmeatballs. Had my camera on and
mic unmuted, slurping andchewing, occasionally giving
thumbs up while mid bite. A fewdays later it repeated so I
brought sticky wings. Last weekon Thursday it happened again.
Glad I still had my pizza. Hefinally asked, Do you have to
(17:34):
eat during the meetings? And Ismiled and said, We all have to
make sacrifices sometimes. It'sFriday today. We didn't have any
meetings during my lunch hourthis week.
What do you think?
Erika (17:46):
I don't think he is an asshole at all. I think he stood
up for himself and there's noreason, like I don't think
there's HR, like if you were tohave this for HR it wouldn't be
possible because everybody'ssupposed to have their lunch.
Edgar (18:00):
Exactly, I mean some places they have like, there's
like no official time for lunch.Like at Google, there wasn't
official time, they just havelike hours throughout the entire
day where lunch and food wouldbe happening somewhere in one of
the cafeterias. Mhmm. But yeah,currently like, from like eleven
until like two, three, there'slike people who take lunch, so
(18:24):
like meetings slow down at thattime.
Erika (18:26):
Yeah, I mean, because Google is a little bit
different, it's more specialbecause you don't see that with
a lot of companies.
Edgar (18:31):
Yeah, but I mean, if you have like a team and all that
stuff, and people you work with,you'll know like when they
usually take their lunch.
Erika (18:38):
Usually, yes.
Edgar (18:38):
Yeah, so out of kindness and courtesy, you should
schedule around that.
Erika (18:43):
Yeah.
Edgar (18:44):
I think you should just be in a deck or like you were
saying in the beginning, shouldjust power trip in.
Erika (18:49):
Yeah, definitely. I don't think there was any need for
that. Yeah. Okay, and then thetop comment was, Working during
lunch, does that mean you couldalso leave early? And then OP
responded, I am a seniorsoftware engineer and I work
remotely.
Thankfully, they still care moreabout outcomes than the time I
spent working. Oh, and I love mywork and my team. After my day
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job, I do freelance hunting fornew clients and work on my own
software service, so my time ispretty tight already. I usually
end up working eleven to twelvehours a day, including weekends.
That's why my lunch is sacredand essential for my well-being.
I don't mix working and eatingtogether. I like to eat in peace
and then focus like hell on mywork. It's healthier and more
productive this way.
Edgar (19:34):
Yeah, get it. I imagine that's like the lunchtime he
has, this is the only time wherehe feels like he can just lay
back and just relax.
Erika (19:43):
Exactly. No, I'm glad he did that because it's not okay.
I mean, if he wanted sacrificed,in the team should be
sacrificing their lunch, notjust him every single time
either. Because it's not fair. Idon't know, people just power
trip sometimes and they justwanna show, Oh, I have the
bigger brass balls than you, youknow?
Edgar (20:03):
So, final verdict?
Erika (20:04):
Oh, so the final verdict, I would say, he definitely is
not the asshole.
Edgar (20:10):
Yeah, I wouldn't do the same, because I don't think I
want to eat in front of peoplelike that, but get where he's
coming from. So yeah, he's notthe asshole.
Erika (20:19):
Yeah, no. So the next story is, coworker tried a fake
food poisoning to get out ofwork. Forgot she posted brunch
pics on Instagram. So mycoworker Tina calls in violently
ill on Monday morning, claimsshe has some bad sushi and can't
even stand up without gettingdizzy. Cool.
Hope you feel better. A fewhours later, some of her team
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casually checks her Instagram.And guess who posted a photo
dump of Bottomless Mimosabrunch. Time stamped that
morning. We're talking selfies,avocado toast, when life gives
you lemons, add vodka captions,a video where she's literally
cheering with friends in thebackground.
Oh my gosh. The best part, sheforgot we follow her. One of the
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managers even commented, gladyou're feeling better. She came
in the next day acting likenothing happened, HR had a chat
with her, now she keeps heraccount on private and suddenly
gets really sick only after 5PM.What do you think?
Edgar (21:23):
Like, this is like idiotic, to be honest.
Erika (21:28):
How you forget you have your boss or people that you
work with in Instagram. Like, Iknow some people, like I've met
people that have like againstadding anybody they work with in
any social medias and nothing.
Edgar (21:43):
Yeah.
Erika (21:44):
Which I understand why, but I mean, other people just
don't care. Because if you havenothing to hide, you're just
gonna add people.
Edgar (21:52):
Yeah, I usually add anybody who add me back, like I
know now at least. Because Idon't really have to hide
anything.
Erika (22:00):
Exactly, so I think she should've just done better and
not get Yeah, that
Edgar (22:08):
must've been an embarrassing call with her HR.
Erika (22:10):
Yeah, it's embarrassing, oh my god, imagine going in
there and saying, so, you youcalled out sick and we have
proof that you went on
Edgar (22:19):
a crunch
Erika (22:20):
with mimosas.
Edgar (22:21):
When life gives you lemons, add vodka.
Erika (22:25):
That's even worse. That was so funny.
Edgar (22:29):
Her greed destroyed her.
Erika (22:33):
Okay, so the top comment is when I post things it's
always days or weeks late, whichis also good, know, when you
post too much and post it at animmediate time, I feel like your
life is in danger. You neverknow if you have a stalker or
you have somebody there, likeit's just weird. You should
never post when you're actuallythere, you should post like an
hour or whatever when you leave.
Edgar (22:53):
I do that like often as well just because like I like
enjoying the moment and Iusually forget to post things
until like months or weekslater.
Erika (23:01):
Yeah, definitely. I think it's just one of those things
where it's important to keep inmind your safety.
Edgar (23:08):
Yeah, some people are just that chronically online.
Erika (23:11):
I know, I cannot. I am not. I rarely post anything in
my, at least my privateaccounts.
Edgar (23:18):
Yeah, how much Red Arrow posts a lot now, just because I
have to do that for networkingand
Erika (23:22):
stuff like Yeah, no, it's important, definitely
networking, so you gotta beonline more. All right, and then
it says, I don't know why peoplecan't just mind their business.
If she has a pattern, she willeventually get fired. I simply
do not care what any of mycoworkers do or what excuse they
use or don't use. We can get allfired over minimal things.
Clock in and do your job andclock out.
Edgar (23:44):
Yeah, I mean also I imagine whichever one of the co
workers like gratted her out islike an asshole to be honest.
Yeah. Like if I saw that, like Isaw one of my co workers was
like, Oh, I'm gonna die, I havelike, I don't know, I'm just
very sick. And then I see themon LinkedIn or like on Instagram
and they're like, add vodka orwhatever in their caption. I
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just wouldn't like, I wouldn'tsay anything.
I joke about it like one on onewith them and like with any
close friends we have, but Iwouldn't be talking about it
with HR.
Erika (24:16):
Yeah, that's just messed up. But then again, I think it
was one of the, think one of the
Edgar (24:20):
The managers?
Erika (24:21):
Yeah, saw it and said, oh, one of the managers even
commented, glad you're feelingbetter. So, yeah, I mean, if the
managers sorry, it's kind ofhard not to say anything, you
know what I mean?
Edgar (24:33):
I don't know how
Erika (24:34):
the manager
Edgar (24:34):
I feel like if you're a manager, your job is to make
sure your reports do the job,but if they had to have some fun
days off, just let them, youknow?
Erika (24:44):
Yeah, I mean, I don't know. It's a slippery slide
there too because then you'll belike, oh, she lets her have a
day off and go out and drinkpotcups and say anything, then I
can do that too. So everybody'sgoing be doing that.
Edgar (24:59):
I know, then they'll let the manager do that too.
Everyone's on an equal footing,everyone has that level of
trust.
Erika (25:06):
I don't know, it's
Edgar (25:11):
I just think whoever ratted her out, would say is the
most asshole issue in the story.
Erika (25:17):
Yeah, I mean, if I saw somebody do that I wouldn't say
anything. I would just be like,yo, I would text the person, I
would be nice.
Edgar (25:26):
I would
Erika (25:26):
be like, yo, you posted this and the manager can see
this, take it out, aren't yousupposed to be sick? I would
text her or message herpersonally. I wouldn't send it
to HR or tell HR, that's just myup.
Edgar (25:37):
Yeah, think that's probably the best thing to do. I
wouldn't do that just because Idon't care enough. Yeah, the
nice thing to do would be like,Hey, by the way, everyone can
see this. Almost everyone cansee this.
Erika (25:47):
Yeah. I mean, at least if you post something, block the
people.
Edgar (25:50):
Yeah, block Like have it, I guess, be targeted?
Erika (25:54):
Yeah, you could post it, yeah, you could put it to
everyone but those people, youknow, maybe the people that you
work with, so.
Edgar (26:01):
Pro tips.
Erika (26:03):
What? I've never done this, but I'm just saying that's
what you can do. So,
Edgar (26:10):
final verdict?
Erika (26:11):
Nah, I would say the one that ratted her out is the
asshole.
Edgar (26:16):
Exactly, yeah. I think OP's coworker has an invaluable
lesson, at the end of the day, Ifeel like no one should have
been reported for this. It'slike, it's just such a dumb
thing.
Erika (26:28):
I
Edgar (26:28):
know. It's so unserious.
Erika (26:31):
Mean, if you have sick
Edgar (26:32):
should have a nice laugh about it though.
Erika (26:35):
I don't know, not everybody sees it that way
because, you know, when you havea sick day, you have people
covering for you because you'resick. Not because you're out
there having some fun. But thenagain, you know, it's up to
everybody. Some people arebetter liars than others.
Edgar (26:51):
Exactly, yeah. The next story is titled, My Relative
Demanded a Family Discount at MyFood Stall, then left a one star
review. Bro. I opened a smallstreet food stall after
graduating culinary school. It'ssomething I've been working
towards for years, testingrecipes, saving up, and finally
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getting permits and a spot.
First week a few cousins and anaunt showed up. I was actually
happy at first. Though came to,not they came to support. They
ordered a ton, like enough offive people when they were only
three of them. And when I gavethem the bill, they laughed.
Literally laughed. My cousingoes, Wait, you're charging us?
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We're family. I try to explainthat this is my actual job now
and everything I make goes backinto keeping the stall running.
My aunt scoffed and said, Well,I guess success went to your
head.
That we were closer than that.They paid, but with so much
attitude it ruined my whole vibethat day. Two days later I
noticed someone left a one starreview on Google and said,
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Overpriced and rude service. Ichecked the account. It was one
of my cousin's emails.
Now I just smile when relativessay they want to swing by for a
bite. Sure. Full price.
Erika (28:06):
That's insane.
Edgar (28:07):
That's like so petty. Like they expected to get like,
I guess free food, and not evenenough for them. They probably
bought it for the whole family,and they were gonna bring it all
back home.
Erika (28:21):
That's so ridiculous.
Edgar (28:23):
And they expected it all free, like this is crazy, this
is hijab. I don't know what youwere thinking.
Erika (28:29):
For any small business, even family owned small you
wanna support them, you go visitthem, you pay for the meal.
Edgar (28:36):
Come on.
Erika (28:36):
It's just common courtesy. Especially if you care
about them or you want them tosucceed or help them out, it's
because you don't go there andexpect something free. Like,
Edgar (28:49):
no. Yeah, you'd want them, like especially like, you
wanna have them keep going withtheir stall if you really like
the food, I guess they were justso petty and so upset that they
just gave a one star review,which is basically nuking them.
Erika (29:04):
I know.
Edgar (29:05):
Like people were gonna look at it and be like, oh yeah,
they're probably mean and thefood's probably not that good.
Erika (29:09):
Yeah, especially if they're starting off. How
selfish and asshole ish can yoube that you expect the meal to
be free when they're literallyjust starting out?
Edgar (29:19):
Exactly.
Erika (29:22):
So- I
Edgar (29:22):
feel like that's probably the end of his career.
Erika (29:24):
Oh I hope that.
Edgar (29:26):
Because like she worked for years to get like the stall
open and get the skillsnecessary to make good food and
now she has a one star review.
Erika (29:34):
And not to mention the permits, Like getting a food
thing, a food vendor orwhatever, it's really difficult.
They make you run for hoopsbecause not only do you have to
talk to Sony and whatever, youhave to go to the health
institution or whatever to getall those and you have to apply
for those, have them inspected,and then if there's something
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wrong they have to go back inthere and inspect it again and
then continue and so on. Andit's just one of those things
where it's not easy to do. Sothe fact that all her hard work
was destroyed because supposedfamily that went there to
support her but instead wantedfree food is such annoying and
(30:16):
ridiculous situation because howdo you call yourself family if
you do that to your own cousin?Like your own cousin said, use
the email to say, I mean, dothey think that she's not smart
enough to check who posted thatreview?
Edgar (30:36):
Probably don't care.
Erika (30:38):
Maybe, but it's just ridiculous. I would blacklist
them.
Edgar (30:42):
Exactly.
Erika (30:43):
You're done. So the top comment is make sure to respond
to that review if you can.Explain to the public it was
your douchebag family and peoplethat love you will happily pay
full price and tip well tosupport you.
Edgar (30:57):
I think yeah, that's the only thing she really can do is
to clarify, Hey, I'm sorry thatI came off as rude but I do not
give free food.
Erika (31:04):
To family.
Edgar (31:05):
Not even to family.
Erika (31:07):
Exactly. So yeah, the cousins and the aunts were
assholes.
Edgar (31:14):
Yeah, It's just gonna be pretty bad for her business
because having a one star isgonna make you not show up in
the searches.
Erika (31:23):
Well yeah, I mean, I would ask my other family to
come by and you know, whatevertry
Edgar (31:28):
to have her one that paper price?
Erika (31:30):
Yeah, or just, you know, other people that you would
trust. I'm sure she has friendsand connections and have them,
you know, do a review so thatway it could help her.
Edgar (31:42):
So final verdict?
Erika (31:44):
I would say the cousin and the aunt are assholes. They
need hit the road.
Edgar (31:50):
Huge ones.
Erika (31:50):
Yeah. So the next story is, Kept calling me sir on the
phone so I gave him a taste ofhis own medicine. I'm a female,
but I'm often mistaken for a manwhen speaking on the phone. One
day I called my insurancecompany for support and the
representative kept addressingme as sir. I politely corrected
him, letting him know that I ama woman.
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But he continued to say, Yes,sir. So I decided to turn the
tables. As the conversation wenton, I started responding to him
with, Yes, ma'am. After a fewtimes, he finally stopped and
said, I'm not a woman. I am aman.
But I just kept saying, Yesma'am. Eventually he got so
frustrated that he hung up. Tillthis day, I still laugh hard
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whenever I think about thatconversation. Yeah, I mean, come
on. If you're talking on thephone and you're doing customer
service, if somebody tells youyou're a woman then address them
as so.
Don't keep calling them sir.Like it's just common sense.
Edgar (32:54):
Exactly, as a customer service rep you just have to
like, even if it was like anasshole, or if she said it
rudely, you still have to actcordial because your only job is
that you're just taking the calland you're trying to be as
pleasant as possible.
Erika (33:09):
And then a lot of calls are recorded, why do you wanna
be recorded with you callingthem sir?
Edgar (33:16):
Yeah, why do wanna be recorded and kinda act like
that?
Erika (33:19):
No, it's not worth it, like why do you wanna be
reprimanded for something likethat? Exactly. But I love that
she clapped back. So if QualityInsurance was listening to that
call, that lady's going to getreprimanded for sure. So
exactly.
I think it's just one of thosethings where you have to, you
know, just, it's not worth it.Just treat people with respect
(33:41):
or especially if you're sellingsomething or you're trying to
get something done, you don'twant a bad review.
Edgar (33:47):
Exactly. Yeah. Definitely got a bad review. Definitely,
probably got at least like somesort of smack on the wrist.
Erika (33:55):
Yeah, I mean, I don't know about certain people how
you answer the phone. Usuallywhen you answer the phone you
say, Hi, my name is blah blahblah, my ID number is this, or
depending if you call insuranceor whatever, then they could
literally call and make acomplaint and use your ID number
and your name. Because peopledon't forget. People just think
(34:15):
that you're not going to comeback and say something. I mean,
maybe if you care enough youwould, but some people just
think they're not going donothing about it.
Edgar (34:25):
Yeah. As a final verdict?
Erika (34:30):
I would say he just got what he deserved.
Edgar (34:33):
Yeah, was like, I don't know what else he expected from
that situation.
Erika (34:37):
I know. And he's the one that hung up too.
Edgar (34:40):
Yeah. All that just to be the most angry one in that
situation.
Erika (34:44):
I know, like, he was the victim.
Edgar (34:49):
The next story is titled, A Coworker Tried to Take Credit
from My Project and Got Wrecked.I've been busting my butt on
this big presentation for weeks,tons of late nights. My coworker
Chad does nothing but smoothwith the boss. The day of the
meeting Chad stands up andstarts pitching my slides like
he made them. I am sittingthere, fuming, when our manager
(35:11):
goes, Nice work Chad.
How did you pull this off? Chad,smug as hell, says, Just burned
the midnight oil, you know? Bro.I couldn't stay quiet. I pull up
my laptop, show the team myoriginal files with timestamps,
and say, Funny Chad, yourmidnight oil looks a lot like my
(35:31):
2AM drafts.
Room in silent. Manager's face?Priceless. Chad's stuttering, I
meant we collaborated. Nah dude,you didn't.
Now Chad's on to be nice and I'mgetting props for calling him
out.
Erika (35:47):
Good. That's just one of the things where I just get so
frustrated when people takecredit when it's not supposed to
be, you know, theirs.
Edgar (35:58):
Yeah, it's like, feel like this story is a little bit
like fictional. Like it'sprobably something he wished he
did, but anyways, think it'slike the best thing you probably
could have done. Like, I thinkbecause Chad and the manager are
so close, they probably couldjust team up against OP and just
have him get in trouble. But ifthis was like in front of more
(36:19):
higher ups, they probablyscrewed the manager and Chad.
Erika (36:24):
I mean- because
Edgar (36:24):
the managers probably like talked him up, like Chad
up, and was like, oh he's likethe best person I have. Then now
in front of everyone that'simportant in your company, you
just found out to be like afraud.
Erika (36:36):
Yeah, I mean, yeah, I mean it's one of those things
where this is the best outcomethat could happen, but it's not
always the case. It's justreally about connections. It's
who you know and who you have agood relationship with.
Edgar (36:53):
Exactly. But it's like kind of dumb because eventually,
because I feel like a lot ofpeople have this mentality where
they're like, oh it's all aboutwho you know. But if everyone
knows each other, knows how todo the actual thing that needs
to be done?
Erika (37:06):
They know people that do.
Edgar (37:08):
Yeah but I feel like all the way up there no one knows
how to do anything. They justknow people who know how to do
stuff.
Erika (37:15):
Exactly, so if you're doing less work you have people
doing your job.
Edgar (37:19):
But after a certain point all you have is like, oh, I know
someone down the line somewherethat can maybe do it, but they
don't know anyone exactly whowould know how to do it.
Erika (37:29):
That's why you have connections. That's why you
have, like for example, I thinkit's important, like, you know,
obviously networking. Yeah.Because if you want something to
grow, need to talk to people,you need to have connections,
you need to do all the usualthings. And it gets to a point
(37:50):
where you get into, depending onwhat job you have or job title,
then you could have people doyour job for you or help you or
back and forth or use aconnection or do a contract or
whatever.
So it's just one of those thingswhere that's what happens when
you're too busy running acompany, a multi millionaire
(38:13):
company or whatever, then youneed to know people. And then
the top comment really is justthat that manager's name is
Albert Einstein.
Edgar (38:22):
What the hell? And that guy signed on to it, I forgot?
Erika (38:24):
Yeah, I don't know. Did Albert Einstein take credit for
somebody else? And his boss wasAbraham Lincoln?
Edgar (38:33):
Oh, think I know what's happening. I think they all are
in agreement that the story wasfake. Like if you see it, it's
like, oh yeah, the manager'sname is Albert Einstein, and his
boss, Abraham Lincoln, and theco founder was like,
Erika (38:49):
Oh, okay, okay, I got you.
Edgar (38:51):
And they're just dumping on him. RIP. I mean, that's what
I figured. At the very least, orat the very most, is probably
what he wished he did.
Erika (39:02):
Yeah, maybe he just got just took
Edgar (39:05):
a risk. He's just writing fan fiction right now.
Erika (39:08):
Oh yeah.
Edgar (39:09):
On his own life.
Erika (39:14):
Alright, what's
Edgar (39:15):
the next? Oh, what's the final verdict I guess on that
story?
Erika (39:17):
It's not really like am I an asshole story, but I would
say Chad would be the asshole.Definitely. The final story is
neighbor asked me to mow theirlawn too since I already have
the mower out. Was mowing mylawn Saturday afternoon,
sweating like hell and justtrying to get it done before I
hit 90 degrees. Neighbor acrossthe street wakes me down and
(39:39):
goes, Hey, since you alreadyhave the mower out, mind doing
mine too?
I laughed a little, thought shewas joking. She wasn't. Added,
It's like not even big. Just dothe front part. I said, Sure, no
problem.
You hiring me now? She looked atme like I was the rude one and
(40:00):
just walked away back inside.That was like three days ago,
grass still looking feral. Guessthe mower being out wasn't quite
convenient enough. Isn't thatcrazy?
Edgar (40:11):
No, yeah, it's pretty crazy. But when I think about
neighbors that like how abouteach other like that, think of
my dad. Like he always does likeeveryone's snow and sometimes
our lawn, just because it's likea nice thing to do. All our
neighbors are like older people.
Erika (40:28):
Yeah, no, I completely get it if they were older and
they have struggling and it'sharder for them. But if it's
like a 30 year old and you'relike do my lawn, like no.
Edgar (40:40):
Yeah, do my lawn. Yeah, it just screams entitlement.
Erika (40:43):
Yeah, and then it's like, you have it out already, why
can't you do mine? Like, excuseme?
Edgar (40:47):
I know.
Erika (40:48):
Like, who are you? Yeah, it's just the entitlement is
crazy. The top comment is, if myneighbor was elderly or
otherwise in a situation thatmade it difficult for them to
mow their lawn, I'll likelyconsider it. Guessing in this
case, she's just lazy.
Edgar (41:06):
Very lazy.
Erika (41:08):
Exactly. But I think that's so sweet that your dad
does that. My dad recentlystarted hiring somebody to mow
the lawn because he's a littlebit older and he has really bad
allergies. And I think it's agood thing.
Edgar (41:23):
Yeah, been a blessing. He gets to spend time doing other
things that he wants to do.
Erika (41:28):
Exactly. And I think, you know, my dad, once you get older
I feel like you want to conserveor be better with your health.
And we have, I wouldn't say wehave a huge backyard, but I
would say it's a decent size.
Edgar (41:41):
Yeah, it's like good enough for the dogs to run
around happily.
Erika (41:44):
Yeah, exactly. But yes, I would say she is definitely an
asshole and she just needs tohire somebody. Let's say she
said, Hey, can you do my lawn?I'll pay you. Yeah.
Completely different reaction,completely different thing. You
know, just don't expect it to befree.
Edgar (42:02):
Exactly, yeah. Or at least say nicer. Yeah. Like if
they were joking, just like jokealong with them. That way you
possibly still get it free, likethe OP's neighbor.
Erika (42:15):
Exactly. It could have been a whole different reaction,
whole different outcome if shewas in such entitlement. Yeah.
So that's all the stories wehave today. Thank you for tuning
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would appreciate it so much.
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Also, we have a Facebook group called AITA Relationship
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Erika (43:00):
Bye!
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