June 18, 2025 • 37 mins
In this week’s chaotic episode of Yapping Schnauzers, we dive headfirst into the Family Drama Olympics and trust us, the competition is fierce. From petty cousins who can’t stop mocking a minimalist wedding to moms who weaponize guilt like it’s a sport, these Reddit threads have it all: secret wedding sabotage, sleepover meltdowns, ghosting at your own birthday party, and a wrong-number text that turned into a green-ribbon love story.
We’re yapping about boundaries, betrayals, and those jaw-dropping confessions that make you pause and whisper, “Wait… what?” Whether it’s canceling an ex’s big day or refusing to eat dinner with one, the gold medal for messy family drama is up for grabs.
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Links to threads read:
- AITA for leaving my friend's birthday party after she didn't let me in her house?
- AITA for poking fun at my cousin’s divorce after she insulted my wedding?
- AITA for enforcing basic boundaries on my daughter's sleepover?
- He broke my daughter's heart, so I canceled his wedding.
- My mom said I was ‘punishing the family’ by not coming to dinner… after they invited my ex without telling me.
- I got a random wrong-number text at 1AM. I answered. A year later, I was in their wedding.
- What’s the most fucked up thing someone has confessed to you in confidence?
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Intro (00:00):
Yapping!
Erika (00:00):
Hello this is Erika
Edgar (00:05):
and Edgar
Erika (00:06):
and we are the Yapping Snowsers. We entertain you with
the app worthy stories we findaround the web. Today's theme is
Family Drama Olympics.
Edgar (00:17):
The first story is titled Am I the Asshole for Leaving My
Friend's Birthday Party AfterShe Didn't Let Me in Her House?
I (female 20 was invited to myfriend Sasha's (female 20
birthday party. It was for aFriday at 08:30PM. We would
start at her house to pregameand then go to the bars. I had
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worked that day from 7AM to07:30PM, but I really wanted to
go so I rushed home, ate dinner,got ready, and drove to her
place.
We were texting the whole dayabout the plans and she seemed
very excited for me to join herand her friends. I am acquainted
with her friends but notbesties. I arrived at her house
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at 08:30 on the dot. I hung upthe phone with my boyfriend and
texted her to let her know I wasthere. She said, Okay.
So I walked up and knocked onthe door. I heard music and
people talking inside so I knewthey were there. Nobody
answered. I noticed he had aRing camera so I waved in front
of it knowing Ring notifiespeople's phones. Still, nobody
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let me in.
I knocked louder and texted herthat I was at the door, but I
was neither let in nor textedback. I knocked even louder and
started shouting, Hey Sasha, I'mhere! I finally hear footsteps
coming to the front door, butinstead of letting me in, I
heard a deadbolt lock click,locking me out. I walked away
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from the door and called myboyfriend to tell him what was
going on. I told him my feelingswere hurt and that I wanted to
go home.
He convinced me to stay andknock again, rationalizing that
it was a miscommunication. Itexted her again saying, Okay,
I'm out front. Sasha immediatelyanswered, Okay, sounds good. So
I knocked again. No answer.
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I heard the music get turneddown and Sasha says, Guys, I
think she's here. So I knockedas loud as I could and said,
Yes, I'm here, it's me!Footsteps came towards the door
and again the dead wolf soundedand the door remained locked and
the footsteps walked away. Atthis point I had been knocking
for twelve minutes. I was soupset and so angry that I left
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in Texas, Asha.
So I've been knocking for overten minutes and no one let me
in, so I'm going home. Sheimmediately called me, but I
didn't answer because I wasafraid I would say something out
of anger that I would haveregretted. She texted me that
she looked through the peepholeand did not see me. I think
that's BS because she literallyhad a ring camera. I told her
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that my feelings were her and Ifelt unwelcomed.
I did not receive an answer.Anybody asked her for leaving?
What could be the reasoningbehind this? Wow. It's like
pretty confusing, to be honest.
Erika (03:08):
No, I would literally she was there too long. She was
knocking for too long. I wouldhave left within seconds, a
minute. If somebody doesn't openthe door after a minute, you're
not welcomed. I mean sure, maybethey couldn't hear the music,
but if she has her phone and shetexted her back, she has a Ring
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camera, and she didn't open thedoor, it's just foolish for her
to stay there.
Edgar (03:37):
I've stayed waiting for a little bit. Sometimes people
just are not very observant oftheir surroundings, but in this
situation it seems like theyheard her. They clearly were
talking about her and then theywalked away from the front of
the house for some reason. So Idon't get why they wanted to
have her keep knocking the doorand calling them for so long. I
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don't see the point of it.
Erika (04:01):
No. And then the boyfriend saying it's a
misunderstanding. It's completebullshit.
Edgar (04:05):
I think the boyfriend was just trying to have OP not be so
upset over the situation becauseshe clearly was very not okay
with it.
Erika (04:15):
Well, it's not a situation where anybody would be
okay. I would be upset too.
Edgar (04:21):
OP's boyfriend was just trying to console her I guess in
this way.
Erika (04:27):
But instead of consoling her he made it worse. Because if
I would give advice and she'dtell me, I would say, Then if
you want I can pick you up.It'll be okay. We can do
something. Or just continueknocking, staying there.
So she was there for fifteenminutes or whatever or less, but
over ten minutes.
Edgar (04:46):
Lot less time, yeah.
Erika (04:47):
Yeah. Because he said continue knocking. So it was
just a waste of time.
Edgar (04:53):
Exactly. I assume they're not friends anymore unless they
had a really good talking Iguess afterwards. But I don't
know, it's just a confusingsituation in general. From OP's
perspective.
Erika (05:05):
I definitely think that she's not a friend. The top
comment is actually Sasha is nota friend of yours.
Edgar (05:12):
Obviously.
Erika (05:13):
100%. She deserves better, I think. And I
understood when you were readingit maybe because you found it
confusing, but no, think it'sridiculous that she would do
that, invite her and then shuther out and lock the door.
Edgar (05:29):
I mean, at that point if you heard the door lock very
loudly and very aggressively andobviously, you just leave at
that point. Clearly they justdon't want you there.
Erika (05:41):
I mean, guarantee you somebody heard her knock the
door. I know the music is loudand everything, but still. You
could hear a knock and then themusic is down and say oh she's
here, like okay. Yeah. That's,you're cute to go and never talk
to that Sasha ever again.
Edgar (06:00):
And the entire friend group.
Erika (06:02):
Yeah, they're not your friends. You deserve better OP.
Edgar (06:05):
So, final verdict?
Erika (06:07):
I would say that she is not the asshole. She should've
left a long time ago and nowwaited twelve minutes.
Edgar (06:12):
Agreed.
Erika (06:14):
Alright, so the next story is, Am I the Asshole for
Poking Fun on My Cousin'sDivorce After She Insulted My
Wedding? I, 29 female, gotmarried at 20. My husband and I
were young, desperately in love,and super broke. I was never
once to want a big weddinganyway, so we kept it small. I
will admit, my cousin, 36female, helped a ton with the
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decorations.
I'm not one to be super intothat stuff. I was fine with it,
just looking a little plain, butshe wanted to make a day special
for me, and I appreciated it. Isang her praises the entire day,
paid her for helping me afterthe fact, and literally made a
speech the day of the weddinghow grateful I was for her. I
should also note that she gotmarried a few months before me
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in an extremely lavish,extremely expensive wedding. Her
wedding day was actually perfectand everyone still talks about
it however, she got divorcedabout four years ago.
I'm unsure what has caused this,but now, any time we are
together, she makes fun of mywedding. She mocks how small it
was. She mocks how corny themenu was. She insults my
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bridesmaids and my husband'sfamily how useless they were
that day off. I normally don'treact because honestly I don't
care about her opinion.
However, today we are at a largeFather's Day gathering with all
my family. From the second shesaw me she started raging on my
wedding and her new boyfriend.And not sure, but something in
my brain just flipped and I saidback to her, Well, at least I'm
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still married. Well, everyone inthe family is upset with me.
They said I went below the beltwith that comment.
But absolutely no one everchecks her for insulting me over
and over and over. Am I theasshole?
Edgar (07:54):
I would not say so. I mean, she basically had it
coming for her, basically pokingthe bear the entire time that
she knew her with the wedding.And then also just to have a
divorce on top of that, I wouldbe very low key afterwards. Like
yeah, know it's going to bite mein the ass soon.
Erika (08:12):
Exactly. I mean, did she help her just so she could have
something up her sleeve? Likeyou know there's people like
that that literally do good,well, do something good for you
but then later on hold itagainst you or say oh but I did
this for you and then have youever had people like that in
your life?
Edgar (08:31):
No. I'm pretty good at screening people out.
Erika (08:35):
I wouldn't say I had people like that, but I've heard
of people always using itagainst them or you say, Oh,
well I did this for you now. Youhave to put up with me for this.
It's just one of those thingswhere you have to really be
careful who you surroundyourself with. Eventually, as a
young person, I think you dealwith that more because you're
still figuring out who's goodand bad and you're not good at
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judgment. But as you get older,the more you realize that having
less friends is better becausethat's your true friends.
They actually care about you.Not having a bunch of, like a
group, thousands of people thatcould care less if you're okay
or not.
Edgar (09:15):
Definitely it's a younger person problem to have that kind
of thing affect you so strongly,but as you get older you just
realize that when people useshaming language on you it's
just like,
Erika (09:26):
it's It's insecurities.
Edgar (09:27):
Not insecurities only, but it's just to manipulate you
and it's not really coming fromany genuine place.
Erika (09:33):
Yeah, well, if they're insecurities, it's because they
have insecurities so they wantto make everybody feel like
they're not worthy because theydon't feel it. So the top
comment is not the asshole. Youcan only be pushed so far until
you react. She clearly isjealous of the success of your
marriage and she resortedinsulting your body to cope with
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her feelings pathetic. Stick toyour guns.
Yeah, exactly. But it wasfrustrating because the family
literally would hear her andinsult her this whole time and
did not say anything. But whenshe said something back then
she's the bad person. That'svery frustrating.
Edgar (10:10):
Yeah, I can imagine.
Erika (10:11):
Yeah, I would not be okay with that. I mean, I don't know,
think I'm very patient incertain parts but I feel like if
somebody keeps saying the samething and hitting the nail in
the same way I'm just gonna saysomething. Or am I just gonna
stay quiet? Would you, baby,would you stay quiet? Or are you
trying to deal, how would youdeal with this?
Edgar (10:34):
Like what part?
Erika (10:36):
Like how, would you just keep with her saying stuff like
that about the wedding or yoursignificant other?
Edgar (10:41):
It just probably wouldn't be in the same vicinity as them.
Erika (10:46):
So you stay away?
Edgar (10:47):
Yeah.
Erika (10:49):
Yeah, that's another way to deal with it. Alright, so
what's the final verdict?
Edgar (10:53):
I say that Ophie is not the asshole for making fun of
her cousin's divorce becauseit's like an easy target and the
cousin definitely kind ofdeserved it.
Erika (11:06):
Yeah, I mean, you would have other people be like, oh
you should be the bigger personand should just ignore because
she's
Edgar (11:13):
in would never be the bigger person.
Erika (11:16):
Well, I'm just saying what other people would say, you
I
Edgar (11:20):
don't get that though. Like, being the bigger person is
being walked all over. Like itjust doesn't make sense.
Erika (11:26):
Yeah. But it's just, you know, like I said, that's why
some people would say be thebigger person and an eye for an
eye makes the whole world blind,blah blah blah blah. But I feel
like she took up for herself andregardless of what other people
said, it is what it is. I thinkit should, you know, she
should've talked to her maybemore calmly and tried to have a
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conversation with her, you know,saying what you're saying every
single time you see me isuncomfortable and isn't fair for
you to tell me that. But, youknow, it could have been
avoided.
Edgar (11:57):
Okay. So the next story is titled Am I the asshole for
enforcing basic boundaries on mydaughter's sleepover? I, 42
male, have two kids living withme. My daughter Anya, 17 female,
and my stepson Noah, 14 male.Noah's mom passed away a few
years ago and I've had fullcustody since.
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He had a rough go all of it, buthe's a good kid with his quirks.
He's not anti social or shy, buthe does not appreciate having
his face invaded and when veryupset he can kind of shut down.
Anya is much more outgoing andhas a lot of friends. She asked
to have a sleepover this weekendwith four of them. I said yes,
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of course, but given that thefriends who were coming were
pretty loud and have a tendencyto crowd Noah, I told her to
make sure they don't go into herbrother's room.
Also to keep things down aftereleven so that the house can
sleep. In my opinion, these arenot strict rules. To my
surprise, I came upstairs tocheck up on them at around ten.
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They are seventeen, I didn'tthink I needed to check on them
every hour or something. Andthey were in Noah's room and
they looked like they'd beenthere for a while.
Two were literally sitting onhis bed with him there. One of
them was flipping through hissketchbook, another was messing
with his other stuff, and theywere all kind of giggling in
this weird way. Noah was clearlyupset. He didn't say anything or
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move, but there were tears inhis eyes and he didn't respond
when I tried to talk to him. Itold the girls to get out there
and that I was calling everysingle one of their parents.
Anya was very upset with me, butI told her that I gave them two
rules and they failedspectacularly. I did actually
call all of their parents andsent them home as soon as
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possible. Anya blew up saying Iembarrassed her. I told her to
go to her room and that we wouldspeak on this in the morning. I
spent about twenty minutes withNoah before he decided he wanted
to cool down on his own.
And I went back to my daughter,who chose not to speak to me.
It's late, both of my kids arehopefully asleep and I'm left
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not knowing if I handled thingsright. Am I the asshole? I think
it's kind of weird. He justyelled at everyone in the house
and now he's just posting onReddit immediately after.
Erika (14:18):
I'm always trying to vent.
Edgar (14:20):
I guess so, yeah. I want to go to Reddit as my first
place to vent. But yeah, what doyou think?
Erika (14:26):
I would say not the asshole.
Edgar (14:28):
Mm-mm.
Erika (14:29):
So is this the father or the mother?
Edgar (14:32):
Father.
Erika (14:32):
So I wouldn't say he's not the asshole. I think he put
some strict, I mean not evenstrict ground rules. Literally
said don't go into yourbrother's room, sleep at eleven.
Edgar (14:44):
I know. I mean there's no reason for them to even be in
the brother's room becausethey're like all 17 years old
and like their brother is like14. So basically like seniors in
high school messing with afreshman in high school. It just
doesn't make sense to me. Youcan literally do anything else
for fun.
Erika (15:01):
Exactly.
Edgar (15:02):
And then they just chose to torment some kid instead.
Erika (15:06):
Yeah. Yeah. Weird. They deserved it. They deserved it.
Think he did not overreact. Ithink what he did was right and
for him to even allow asleepover is gracious of him.
Because having strangers' kidscome into your house and have to
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be taking care of them is notalways easy. And we don't even
know how many girls are inthere. Did they say?
Edgar (15:33):
Four, yeah.
Erika (15:33):
Four of them? Okay, well including the daughter, so it's
five.
Edgar (15:36):
Yeah, it's a lot. I feel like for sleepovers, I wouldn't
ever want my child to sleep oversomeone else's house, but I
think I'd be okay with anyonesleeping over our house. But I
like witness my parents, likehow they feel about having
people sleep over their house,like with my friends or my
sister's friends. I always feltlike they were kind of
uncomfortable and they alwaysjust kind of locked himself in
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their own room. I feel like I'dprobably do something similar.
Erika (16:00):
Yeah, same.
Edgar (16:02):
So, I don't know, it'd be nice and it'd be safer, but then
I feel awkward in my own house.
Erika (16:07):
Yeah, so maybe that's how her brother felt. And you know,
he's still in teenage years. So,having five girls, including his
sister, would bully him or lookaround his stuff and blade his
face is so not okay. Yeah, and Iagree with you without having
another sleepover because younever know around this age, you
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know, it's important to haveyour child's safety.
Edgar (16:31):
Yeah.
Erika (16:33):
But yeah, so I don't think he overstepped at all and
he needs to have a conversationwith Anya. Anya, right? So, she
shouldn't be doing this. Sheshould've followed the rules if
she wanted to have fun with herfriends.
Edgar (16:46):
And like Anya's like 17 years old, she's
Erika (16:49):
grown enough
Edgar (16:51):
to know not to be like a dick about it.
Erika (16:54):
Exactly. She could've done better and she should've
said no, we could just watch amovie, we could watch scary
movies, we could do whatever.
Edgar (17:01):
Yeah, we could FaceTime calls with other friends who
came
Erika (17:04):
Yeah, you could do so much without bothering or
breaking a rule that you had,just two. So the top comment is
you handled things perfectlyokay. You set very reasonable
rules and your daughter decidedto not care and upset Noah. I'll
ground her. She doesn't care tohave embarrassed Noah, but she
in short cares that she couldn'tget her way.
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What was she expecting after shebroke the rules?
Edgar (17:28):
So, there is a reply to the top comment that also had a
lot of upvotes. So, it goes, Andthere is precedent to be set if
there were no consequences, notonly for breaking the rules, but
for continuing to violatesomeone's boundaries while they
were visibly uncomfortable. Shewill encounter all sorts of
people with different issues,trauma, and she needs to
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recognize when she's crossing aline.
Erika (17:52):
Exactly. She needs to learn boundaries.
Edgar (17:54):
Yeah, so I feel like a lot of parents, especially these
days, when they recommend theirchildren or just like discipline
them as they should, they feellike bad, but it helps them in
the long run because then theyknow like more important lessons
to apply later on and especiallyhaving those lessons taught by
your parents is a lot moreeasier than having to learn it
outside by yourself.
Erika (18:15):
Yeah, 100%. I think boundaries, setting boundaries
is so important and I feel likenot a lot of people learn that
in an early age. But it'simportant for your parents to
teach that.
Edgar (18:28):
Yeah. And then like the worst part is like you can tell
which people in real lifehaven't gotten like disappointed
by their parents.
Erika (18:35):
Oh my god, yes.
Edgar (18:36):
It's like so obvious.
Erika (18:37):
Yeah, it really is. You can tell when people are older.
Edgar (18:41):
Remember we went to a graduation today and right
behind us, was people honkingtheir horns. Yeah, there was a
guy and his wife, and the guywas like, oh I'm Dottie, yeah
yeah. And then the guy washonking his horn like really
loudly in the graduation and thewife's like, no stop it, it's
like too disruptive or whatever.And the guy's like, what? This
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is a graduation, I can dowhatever I want.
People honked their horns andthey honked it like, Do do do
do.
Erika (19:09):
And
Edgar (19:10):
then like everyone around was visibly like
Erika (19:15):
Annoyed.
Edgar (19:15):
Annoyed. And then the wife was feeling a little bit I
can imagine she was veryhumiliated.
Erika (19:21):
Yeah, because she felt the stares and the daggers that
everybody was giving them and hecould care less. He was like a
child, honestly. He was like anadult child that could not
handle or be mature.
Edgar (19:36):
Yeah, he didn't get beat by his wife. He didn't get beat
by his mom or dad growing
Erika (19:41):
up? Definitely. And he was like, oh, is a memo. The
fact that it really upset me waslike, this is a memo event,
everybody's gonna remember this,this is okay. You're literally
Yeah,
Edgar (19:52):
I'm gonna remember how annoying you were.
Erika (19:55):
Exactly, you're disrupting it because people
were trying to sing or peoplewere trying to say names and you
couldn't even hear anythingbecause all you could hear is
the honking. Oh my god, it wasso frustrating.
Edgar (20:06):
If I ever become president or someone with a lot
of power, I make sure that honksall over the world are banned.
Especially in graduations.Especially in anything where I
am gonna be attending.
Erika (20:19):
Oh my god. Yeah, no, I mean, I've kept covering my ears
because it was just so bad. Mymom was like, I have such a big
headache. Because she was morecloser to the guy too.
Edgar (20:31):
But yeah, so anyways, back to the main thread. The
final verdict on OP?
Erika (20:37):
I would say not the asshole. He did a good job, he
did good parenting here.
Edgar (20:43):
Definitely. She
Erika (20:44):
deserved to be embarrassed.
Edgar (20:46):
Alright,
Erika (20:49):
so the next story is he broke my daughter's heart so I
canceled his wedding. And Imean, he really hurt her deeply.
She supported him financially sohe could concentrate on college,
working her ass off at a gardencenter while I was going to
college full time, paying therent, groceries, utilities. As
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soon as graduation was over, henot only broke up with her, but
left her with everything intheir apartment to deal with
while he went to Europe's summertrip with a female friend. Vio
had to clean up his literalmesses so she could get her
deposit back.
They've been dating for fouryears and she was crushed. For
some bizarre reason, a fewmonths ago we received an invite
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to his wedding, four years aftergraduating, almost to the day,
and so did my daughter. What astringy turd. So I called up the
wedding venue last Monday, sixdays before the wedding, told
them I was the mother of thebride and canceled the venue. I
told them the entire weddingparty had COVID and would need
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to reschedule after a laterdate.
So just apply our depositforward if possible. They were
quite kind and said just give usa call when you're ready to
reschedule. The wedding wassupposed to be this past
Saturday, so I drove by andthere was no one there. I
haven't told anyone else I didthis. That'll just be our little
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secret.
Edgar (22:19):
I mean, dick move, but it's understandable. Considering
how much of a dick OP'sdaughter's ex was regarding the
entire situation. So definitelyKlomar on his end.
Erika (22:35):
Yeah, but thinking about it, I feel like it's not really
that easy to cancel wedding. Ifeel like in order to reschedule
or do anything with the venues,you need to have a certain code
or need to have, it's a littlebit more tight, like the
security for that.
Edgar (22:53):
In the GPS detector ranking right now.
Erika (22:55):
Yeah. Yeah.
Edgar (22:57):
I just feel like I mean, like a lot of these meta
stories, they're like hit ormiss. Either I generated or it's
just someone like, oh, I wish Idid this. But, yeah, mean, if
this was true, that venue needsmore security. But, yeah, I
mean, I've never been married. Iwould keep going through a whole
venue and all that stuff, so Idon't know how all that thing
goes.
Erika (23:17):
I would say, I mean, anybody could cancel your
wedding then, you know what Imean?
Edgar (23:22):
I That just don't invite anyone that you've wronged. I'm
not gonna be my mortal enemybecause he's gonna come in with
a carriage or an army and evenswap my venue.
Erika (23:33):
Yeah, I would say it might be fake, but then again,
it would be nice if I mean, Iwouldn't say, I think that's a
little bit too much. I get thatyour daughter got hurt, but I
mean.
Edgar (23:46):
Does he feel like a badass?
Erika (23:48):
I mean, he might, but I think, you know, it is what it
is, what you're gonna do, letyour daughter find somebody else
better.
Edgar (23:56):
So
Erika (23:57):
the top comment is, I don't believe it would be this
easy to cancel wedding, Which ismy exact thought.
Edgar (24:03):
Yeah, I mean some of the other comments have commented
that it depends on the venue.Some are easier than others. But
yeah, as we both suspect, it'sprobably a fake story. Yeah,
final verdict if this didhappen. I would say, the OP was
definitely an asshole, but Imean, justified?
Erika (24:23):
I would say he's definitely an asshole. I would
say I don't think he'sjustified. I just think he could
just let it go.
Edgar (24:31):
I mean, yeah, yeah. Well, funny, he ruined financially
that whole family.
Erika (24:37):
That poor girl had no
Edgar (24:38):
OP's daughter's ex family, they had nothing to do
with the situation. They're downlike a few, 20,000, $40,000.
Erika (24:48):
Yeah, depending on how much you spend.
Edgar (24:49):
R and P. So yeah, the next story is titled My Mom Said
I Was Punishing the Family byNot Coming to Dinner After They
Invited My Ex Without TellingMe. So, my mom invited me to a
family dinner, said everyonewould be there. I agreed until I
found out she had also invitedmy ex. Strange.
But yeah, we broke up a fewmonths ago. It wasn't pretty and
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my family saw the whole thing.No one got to mention he'd be
there. When I asked her why shesaid, I didn't get mad at
anymore. And when I told her Iwasn't coming, she hit me with
the, So you're punishing thewhole family because you're
still upset?
No, I'm just not showing up tobe blindsided in my own space.
Funny how peace looks likepunishment to people who benefit
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from your discomfort. So, whatare you thinking?
Erika (25:39):
Yeah, she's not the asshole. I think she should have
definitely not gone.
Edgar (25:43):
I mean, what's the reason to invite an Invite an ex. Yeah,
I think in any situation that'dbe just uncomfortable.
Erika (25:49):
It is. Like, you're the one dating him and you don't
want date him anymore. Why youkeep bringing him around?
Edgar (25:54):
He must be a pretty chill guy.
Erika (25:58):
But why should we go with him though?
Edgar (26:00):
Because he wasn't sure of her.
Erika (26:03):
Finally. Yeah, I mean, if they saw how messy it was and
then this had to bite him,that's just messed up.
Edgar (26:12):
They definitely like the X more than OP, which says a lot
about OP.
Erika (26:17):
What? What do you mean?
Edgar (26:19):
I'm just saying.
Erika (26:21):
Hear something else.
Edgar (26:23):
No. It might be with OP's family side on this one.
Erika (26:26):
No, absolutely not. The family is not being a family to
her. Poor OP.
Edgar (26:33):
Did they have to?
Erika (26:34):
Yes. Own flesh and blood, man. All right, so the top
comment for that one is, youbroke up not in an amicable way
and they're inviting them todinner. Why? Oh, right.
I mean, they're trying toprobably make them go back
together.
Edgar (26:53):
Yeah, that makes sense. He's either very chill or very
rich Either way, yeah. It seemslike they're just trying to set
them back up together. I
Erika (27:04):
just don't get it. I don't get why the family thinks
that they know better. Like, ifsomebody doesn't want to be with
somebody, that's it. Don't forceanything.
Edgar (27:12):
Wait, so final verdict.
Erika (27:14):
I would say the family is being an asshole here.
Edgar (27:18):
I am suspicious of OP, but I'll just take her aside for
this time.
Erika (27:27):
No, I mean come on, their breakup wasn't good, why you
wanna keep him around, I don'tget it. The next story is I got
a random wrong number text at1AM. I answered, A year later, I
was at their wedding.
Edgar (27:42):
Bro.
Erika (27:43):
A little over a year ago, I got a text at 01:04AM. Is the
green one better or the goldone? Please answer fast. No
name, no context, just that. Iwas half asleep but something
about it made me laugh.
I replied, green. Always go withthe green one. And that's what
you always say too, always gowith green.
Edgar (28:04):
Keep it green.
Erika (28:05):
Exactly. Two minutes later, Okay, thank you. I'm
freaking out. I think I lovehim, but I don't know if this is
a date. It's like a maybe date.
And I didn't have the heart tosay wrong numbers, so I just
said, Then wear the green, lookgood, feel better, and maybe
date the hell out of it. Shetexted back, You're literally a
stranger, but I love you, thankyou. And that was it, or so I
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thought. Because a week latershe texted again, green was the
right call. It was a date.
His name is Eli, he smelled likecedar and stress. What? How do
you smell like stress? Okay, andI, some random dude who never
said she had the wrong numbertexted back and we just kept
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texting. Every few days, thenevery day for months.
She never asked who I was. Inever told her. It became this
anonymous thread of support.When things went well, she'd
send me updates. When thingswent badly, I hype her up like I
was her invisible best friend inthe walls.
Eventually, she named me TexGoblin. Then one night in
November, she sent this. Okay,Goblin. I told him I loved him.
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And he said it back.
I'm so scared. I felt like myheart is too big and soft for
this world. I texted backsomething dumb like, He's lucky
to have you, and Green was stillthe right choice. And I didn't
hear from her for two months. Ithought it was over until
January.
I found out who you are. Ifroze. You used your real
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Spotify once. That's how I foundyour playlist and your profile.
My heart dropped.
I'm not mad. I actually have aquestion. Will you come to my
wedding? Asked my tax goblin.And that's how I ended up flying
to Arizona last month, standingin a room full of strangers,
watching a woman I've never metwalk down the aisle wearing a
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green ribbon in her hair andwinking at me from across the
crowd.
We hugged after, she whisperedthank you for picking green and
I said it was always green. I dototally apologize because I
forgot her real name because Iwas so mesmerized by chaotic
possible chances in the wholeworld. Still saved my phone as
possibly chaos. Life is weirdbut sometimes weird is kind.
Edgar (30:19):
Did it make that into a Hallmark movie?
Erika (30:22):
Right?
Edgar (30:23):
Yeah.
Erika (30:24):
It's kind of cute, right? I thought it was adorable. I
mean, I'm
Edgar (30:29):
glad it worked out for Lady in Green, I don't know who
she was. I guess they neverfound out her name.
Erika (30:36):
Oh, she forgot, yeah. But yeah, I think it's so cute, you
know, with strangers and theyended up getting married. And
him being there, or OP beingthere. So that top comment is
this is so unbelievably sweet.It is, it's a cute story.
Edgar (30:54):
Random chance encounters.
Erika (30:56):
Yeah, who would've thought, random text message.
Edgar (30:59):
I mean, back in the old days they had like pen pals. I
think I had a pen pal from whenI was in elementary school with
someone in Europe, I forgotwhich country.
Erika (31:07):
That's cute. So they never responded, do you remember
anything they said, no?
Edgar (31:11):
Not really, just talked about myself.
Erika (31:16):
You're so funny.
Edgar (31:19):
I'm the most interesting five year old, six year old
ever.
Erika (31:22):
That's so cute. I can imagine you writing your
terrible handwriting. Maybe
Edgar (31:28):
it's just they never responded because they couldn't
read
Erika (31:30):
it. Probably.
Edgar (31:32):
They're like, what the hell is this?
Erika (31:34):
Oh my gosh, yeah.
Edgar (31:35):
They told me it was an American, not an Egyptian.
Erika (31:38):
Well, mean, I can't even imagine how your small
handwriting, like, when you werefive, now your handwriting is
hard to read sometimes.
Edgar (31:45):
Well, before you said write reflect my fist, Liz.
Erika (31:48):
Oh, shoot, yeah. That must have been difficult to
read. No, it
Edgar (31:52):
is comfortable.
Erika (31:54):
No, it's not, how is that comfortable?
Edgar (31:56):
How powerful.
Erika (31:58):
You're so funny. Fun fact, in Ecuador, so my dad used
to be a teacher and then he'd aprincipal, so they teach you
really early in Ecuador how towrite in cursive. So before I
came here I was obviously fiveand then turned six. But I knew
already how to write cursivefluently, and how to write
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normally in perfect writing.Because in Ecuador everything is
so strict that if you had anydents, any smudges, you would
have to redo the whole thingagain, any assignments.
It had to be perfect or else youwould be screwed. So, yeah, I
know how to handwrite neatly ata young age, or else, really.
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Alright. Final verdicts on that,asshole. I would say no, this is
super cute.
I don't think this is an Am Ithe asshole story, this is just
a story. I found out was reallycute.
Edgar (32:57):
I think like yeah, Miracle in the text messages.
Erika (33:00):
Yeah, definitely.
Edgar (33:00):
Miracle in the DMs. So yeah, our next section of our
show is we're going to go rapidfire through multiple short
stories, and we'll just give ourquick responses to it. Oh and
all of these stories are underthe credit read titled What's
the most effed up thing someonehas ever confessed to you in
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confidence? The first commentis, I used to have two
neighbors, 92 and 86. They kepttelling me how sad they were
when their cat died, but theywere too old to adopt another
one.
So I walked my cat over for playdates at their house. Did they
ever get his name right? Not atall, but they love to see him
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and pet him. I move away andthink about them a lot.
Erika (33:52):
I like you. That's just a confession.
Edgar (33:57):
What was he confessing? He
Erika (33:59):
was just confessing, I don't know, that was just one of
the comments, I thought it wascute.
Edgar (34:04):
Cute but not a confession. If someone was dying
and this is what they told me,I'd be like, okay, just die
faster.
Erika (34:12):
Here's something else. I'd be like, this is so cute.
What's your cat's name? Oh mygod, you're something else.
Anyways, the next story is, Iwas in my early twenties sitting
on a bus station in Portland,Oregon, when a woman next to me,
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out of nowhere, mid cigaretteturned and asked, Do you know
what brains smell like?
I just about shit my pants. Iwas too young and too polite to
get up and walk away, so Istayed frozen while she calmly
told me how she got beaten byher boyfriend and apparently
took a pipe to his head,spilling his brains all over the
floor. Then she looked surprisedand said, Don't tell anybody.
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Yeah, that's one etched in mybrain forever.
Edgar (35:02):
So what do brains felt like then?
Erika (35:07):
Like death? I don't
Edgar (35:09):
know. Because the only way felt like this was like a
punchline being set up and nowI'm satisfied.
Erika (35:16):
Well, I don't know. You can
Edgar (35:18):
have to Google this or ask ChaoGBT.
Erika (35:21):
Well, mean, the only time you should be able to smell
brain is because either you're aneurosurgeon or you're dead. So,
I would say death.
Edgar (35:32):
At that point, yeah, I'd just be like I'd just make sure
I get the answer so I can atleast tell a better story than
this dude.
Erika (35:39):
Dude, that's creepy. I wouldn't even have asked
anything to that person. I wouldbe in shock. I would be scared
to even look her
Edgar (35:45):
in the eyes. You gotta power play those kind of people.
You gotta outcreep them
Erika (35:51):
out. Okay.
Edgar (35:52):
Outcrazy them. Now that story is my ex mother-in-law
telling me a childhood storyabout him when he bit a chunk
out of a neighbor kid's chestbecause he was mad. She laughed
like it was some Kodak momentmemory. It told me all I needed
to know. I mean, that's justcrazy.
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Exactly. I painted someone'schest cleanly off, LOL.
Erika (36:19):
That's insane.
Edgar (36:21):
I would never look at someone the same way again after
that.
Erika (36:23):
Absolutely not. I would buy, literally this is why it's
her ex mother-in-law, she left.
Edgar (36:31):
There's some sort of like human sacrifice thing. I wonder
if it's like a, no I can saythat.
Erika (36:36):
But yeah, I mean the fact that she thought it was funny or
a Kodak moment is kind of insaneto me. Like, it was just another
thing that Like,
Edgar (36:44):
oh yeah,
Erika (36:45):
just He just bit off some flesh, but you know, it's okay.
Edgar (36:49):
Just kids being kids, he
Erika (36:52):
No, like I would be freaked out too. I'd be like,
bye. That's all the stories wehave today. Thank you for tuning
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Erika (37:31):
Thank you. Bye.
Yapping!
Erika (00:00):
Hello this is Erika
Edgar (00:05):
and Edgar
Erika (00:06):
and we are the Yapping Snowsers. We entertain you with
the app worthy stories we findaround the web. Today's theme is
Family Drama Olympics.
Edgar (00:17):
The first story is titled Am I the Asshole for Leaving My
Friend's Birthday Party AfterShe Didn't Let Me in Her House?
I (female 20 was invited to myfriend Sasha's (female 20
birthday party. It was for aFriday at 08:30PM. We would
start at her house to pregameand then go to the bars. I had
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worked that day from 7AM to07:30PM, but I really wanted to
go so I rushed home, ate dinner,got ready, and drove to her
place.
We were texting the whole dayabout the plans and she seemed
very excited for me to join herand her friends. I am acquainted
with her friends but notbesties. I arrived at her house
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at 08:30 on the dot. I hung upthe phone with my boyfriend and
texted her to let her know I wasthere. She said, Okay.
So I walked up and knocked onthe door. I heard music and
people talking inside so I knewthey were there. Nobody
answered. I noticed he had aRing camera so I waved in front
of it knowing Ring notifiespeople's phones. Still, nobody
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let me in.
I knocked louder and texted herthat I was at the door, but I
was neither let in nor textedback. I knocked even louder and
started shouting, Hey Sasha, I'mhere! I finally hear footsteps
coming to the front door, butinstead of letting me in, I
heard a deadbolt lock click,locking me out. I walked away
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from the door and called myboyfriend to tell him what was
going on. I told him my feelingswere hurt and that I wanted to
go home.
He convinced me to stay andknock again, rationalizing that
it was a miscommunication. Itexted her again saying, Okay,
I'm out front. Sasha immediatelyanswered, Okay, sounds good. So
I knocked again. No answer.
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I heard the music get turneddown and Sasha says, Guys, I
think she's here. So I knockedas loud as I could and said,
Yes, I'm here, it's me!Footsteps came towards the door
and again the dead wolf soundedand the door remained locked and
the footsteps walked away. Atthis point I had been knocking
for twelve minutes. I was soupset and so angry that I left
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in Texas, Asha.
So I've been knocking for overten minutes and no one let me
in, so I'm going home. Sheimmediately called me, but I
didn't answer because I wasafraid I would say something out
of anger that I would haveregretted. She texted me that
she looked through the peepholeand did not see me. I think
that's BS because she literallyhad a ring camera. I told her
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that my feelings were her and Ifelt unwelcomed.
I did not receive an answer.Anybody asked her for leaving?
What could be the reasoningbehind this? Wow. It's like
pretty confusing, to be honest.
Erika (03:08):
No, I would literally she was there too long. She was
knocking for too long. I wouldhave left within seconds, a
minute. If somebody doesn't openthe door after a minute, you're
not welcomed. I mean sure, maybethey couldn't hear the music,
but if she has her phone and shetexted her back, she has a Ring
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camera, and she didn't open thedoor, it's just foolish for her
to stay there.
Edgar (03:37):
I've stayed waiting for a little bit. Sometimes people
just are not very observant oftheir surroundings, but in this
situation it seems like theyheard her. They clearly were
talking about her and then theywalked away from the front of
the house for some reason. So Idon't get why they wanted to
have her keep knocking the doorand calling them for so long. I
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don't see the point of it.
Erika (04:01):
No. And then the boyfriend saying it's a
misunderstanding. It's completebullshit.
Edgar (04:05):
I think the boyfriend was just trying to have OP not be so
upset over the situation becauseshe clearly was very not okay
with it.
Erika (04:15):
Well, it's not a situation where anybody would be
okay. I would be upset too.
Edgar (04:21):
OP's boyfriend was just trying to console her I guess in
this way.
Erika (04:27):
But instead of consoling her he made it worse. Because if
I would give advice and she'dtell me, I would say, Then if
you want I can pick you up.It'll be okay. We can do
something. Or just continueknocking, staying there.
So she was there for fifteenminutes or whatever or less, but
over ten minutes.
Edgar (04:46):
Lot less time, yeah.
Erika (04:47):
Yeah. Because he said continue knocking. So it was
just a waste of time.
Edgar (04:53):
Exactly. I assume they're not friends anymore unless they
had a really good talking Iguess afterwards. But I don't
know, it's just a confusingsituation in general. From OP's
perspective.
Erika (05:05):
I definitely think that she's not a friend. The top
comment is actually Sasha is nota friend of yours.
Edgar (05:12):
Obviously.
Erika (05:13):
100%. She deserves better, I think. And I
understood when you were readingit maybe because you found it
confusing, but no, think it'sridiculous that she would do
that, invite her and then shuther out and lock the door.
Edgar (05:29):
I mean, at that point if you heard the door lock very
loudly and very aggressively andobviously, you just leave at
that point. Clearly they justdon't want you there.
Erika (05:41):
I mean, guarantee you somebody heard her knock the
door. I know the music is loudand everything, but still. You
could hear a knock and then themusic is down and say oh she's
here, like okay. Yeah. That's,you're cute to go and never talk
to that Sasha ever again.
Edgar (06:00):
And the entire friend group.
Erika (06:02):
Yeah, they're not your friends. You deserve better OP.
Edgar (06:05):
So, final verdict?
Erika (06:07):
I would say that she is not the asshole. She should've
left a long time ago and nowwaited twelve minutes.
Edgar (06:12):
Agreed.
Erika (06:14):
Alright, so the next story is, Am I the Asshole for
Poking Fun on My Cousin'sDivorce After She Insulted My
Wedding? I, 29 female, gotmarried at 20. My husband and I
were young, desperately in love,and super broke. I was never
once to want a big weddinganyway, so we kept it small. I
will admit, my cousin, 36female, helped a ton with the
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decorations.
I'm not one to be super intothat stuff. I was fine with it,
just looking a little plain, butshe wanted to make a day special
for me, and I appreciated it. Isang her praises the entire day,
paid her for helping me afterthe fact, and literally made a
speech the day of the weddinghow grateful I was for her. I
should also note that she gotmarried a few months before me
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in an extremely lavish,extremely expensive wedding. Her
wedding day was actually perfectand everyone still talks about
it however, she got divorcedabout four years ago.
I'm unsure what has caused this,but now, any time we are
together, she makes fun of mywedding. She mocks how small it
was. She mocks how corny themenu was. She insults my
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bridesmaids and my husband'sfamily how useless they were
that day off. I normally don'treact because honestly I don't
care about her opinion.
However, today we are at a largeFather's Day gathering with all
my family. From the second shesaw me she started raging on my
wedding and her new boyfriend.And not sure, but something in
my brain just flipped and I saidback to her, Well, at least I'm
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still married. Well, everyone inthe family is upset with me.
They said I went below the beltwith that comment.
But absolutely no one everchecks her for insulting me over
and over and over. Am I theasshole?
Edgar (07:54):
I would not say so. I mean, she basically had it
coming for her, basically pokingthe bear the entire time that
she knew her with the wedding.And then also just to have a
divorce on top of that, I wouldbe very low key afterwards. Like
yeah, know it's going to bite mein the ass soon.
Erika (08:12):
Exactly. I mean, did she help her just so she could have
something up her sleeve? Likeyou know there's people like
that that literally do good,well, do something good for you
but then later on hold itagainst you or say oh but I did
this for you and then have youever had people like that in
your life?
Edgar (08:31):
No. I'm pretty good at screening people out.
Erika (08:35):
I wouldn't say I had people like that, but I've heard
of people always using itagainst them or you say, Oh,
well I did this for you now. Youhave to put up with me for this.
It's just one of those thingswhere you have to really be
careful who you surroundyourself with. Eventually, as a
young person, I think you dealwith that more because you're
still figuring out who's goodand bad and you're not good at
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judgment. But as you get older,the more you realize that having
less friends is better becausethat's your true friends.
They actually care about you.Not having a bunch of, like a
group, thousands of people thatcould care less if you're okay
or not.
Edgar (09:15):
Definitely it's a younger person problem to have that kind
of thing affect you so strongly,but as you get older you just
realize that when people useshaming language on you it's
just like,
Erika (09:26):
it's It's insecurities.
Edgar (09:27):
Not insecurities only, but it's just to manipulate you
and it's not really coming fromany genuine place.
Erika (09:33):
Yeah, well, if they're insecurities, it's because they
have insecurities so they wantto make everybody feel like
they're not worthy because theydon't feel it. So the top
comment is not the asshole. Youcan only be pushed so far until
you react. She clearly isjealous of the success of your
marriage and she resortedinsulting your body to cope with
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her feelings pathetic. Stick toyour guns.
Yeah, exactly. But it wasfrustrating because the family
literally would hear her andinsult her this whole time and
did not say anything. But whenshe said something back then
she's the bad person. That'svery frustrating.
Edgar (10:10):
Yeah, I can imagine.
Erika (10:11):
Yeah, I would not be okay with that. I mean, I don't know,
think I'm very patient incertain parts but I feel like if
somebody keeps saying the samething and hitting the nail in
the same way I'm just gonna saysomething. Or am I just gonna
stay quiet? Would you, baby,would you stay quiet? Or are you
trying to deal, how would youdeal with this?
Edgar (10:34):
Like what part?
Erika (10:36):
Like how, would you just keep with her saying stuff like
that about the wedding or yoursignificant other?
Edgar (10:41):
It just probably wouldn't be in the same vicinity as them.
Erika (10:46):
So you stay away?
Edgar (10:47):
Yeah.
Erika (10:49):
Yeah, that's another way to deal with it. Alright, so
what's the final verdict?
Edgar (10:53):
I say that Ophie is not the asshole for making fun of
her cousin's divorce becauseit's like an easy target and the
cousin definitely kind ofdeserved it.
Erika (11:06):
Yeah, I mean, you would have other people be like, oh
you should be the bigger personand should just ignore because
she's
Edgar (11:13):
in would never be the bigger person.
Erika (11:16):
Well, I'm just saying what other people would say, you
I
Edgar (11:20):
don't get that though. Like, being the bigger person is
being walked all over. Like itjust doesn't make sense.
Erika (11:26):
Yeah. But it's just, you know, like I said, that's why
some people would say be thebigger person and an eye for an
eye makes the whole world blind,blah blah blah blah. But I feel
like she took up for herself andregardless of what other people
said, it is what it is. I thinkit should, you know, she
should've talked to her maybemore calmly and tried to have a
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conversation with her, you know,saying what you're saying every
single time you see me isuncomfortable and isn't fair for
you to tell me that. But, youknow, it could have been
avoided.
Edgar (11:57):
Okay. So the next story is titled Am I the asshole for
enforcing basic boundaries on mydaughter's sleepover? I, 42
male, have two kids living withme. My daughter Anya, 17 female,
and my stepson Noah, 14 male.Noah's mom passed away a few
years ago and I've had fullcustody since.
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He had a rough go all of it, buthe's a good kid with his quirks.
He's not anti social or shy, buthe does not appreciate having
his face invaded and when veryupset he can kind of shut down.
Anya is much more outgoing andhas a lot of friends. She asked
to have a sleepover this weekendwith four of them. I said yes,
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of course, but given that thefriends who were coming were
pretty loud and have a tendencyto crowd Noah, I told her to
make sure they don't go into herbrother's room.
Also to keep things down aftereleven so that the house can
sleep. In my opinion, these arenot strict rules. To my
surprise, I came upstairs tocheck up on them at around ten.
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They are seventeen, I didn'tthink I needed to check on them
every hour or something. Andthey were in Noah's room and
they looked like they'd beenthere for a while.
Two were literally sitting onhis bed with him there. One of
them was flipping through hissketchbook, another was messing
with his other stuff, and theywere all kind of giggling in
this weird way. Noah was clearlyupset. He didn't say anything or
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move, but there were tears inhis eyes and he didn't respond
when I tried to talk to him. Itold the girls to get out there
and that I was calling everysingle one of their parents.
Anya was very upset with me, butI told her that I gave them two
rules and they failedspectacularly. I did actually
call all of their parents andsent them home as soon as
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possible. Anya blew up saying Iembarrassed her. I told her to
go to her room and that we wouldspeak on this in the morning. I
spent about twenty minutes withNoah before he decided he wanted
to cool down on his own.
And I went back to my daughter,who chose not to speak to me.
It's late, both of my kids arehopefully asleep and I'm left
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not knowing if I handled thingsright. Am I the asshole? I think
it's kind of weird. He justyelled at everyone in the house
and now he's just posting onReddit immediately after.
Erika (14:18):
I'm always trying to vent.
Edgar (14:20):
I guess so, yeah. I want to go to Reddit as my first
place to vent. But yeah, what doyou think?
Erika (14:26):
I would say not the asshole.
Edgar (14:28):
Mm-mm.
Erika (14:29):
So is this the father or the mother?
Edgar (14:32):
Father.
Erika (14:32):
So I wouldn't say he's not the asshole. I think he put
some strict, I mean not evenstrict ground rules. Literally
said don't go into yourbrother's room, sleep at eleven.
Edgar (14:44):
I know. I mean there's no reason for them to even be in
the brother's room becausethey're like all 17 years old
and like their brother is like14. So basically like seniors in
high school messing with afreshman in high school. It just
doesn't make sense to me. Youcan literally do anything else
for fun.
Erika (15:01):
Exactly.
Edgar (15:02):
And then they just chose to torment some kid instead.
Erika (15:06):
Yeah. Yeah. Weird. They deserved it. They deserved it.
Think he did not overreact. Ithink what he did was right and
for him to even allow asleepover is gracious of him.
Because having strangers' kidscome into your house and have to
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be taking care of them is notalways easy. And we don't even
know how many girls are inthere. Did they say?
Edgar (15:33):
Four, yeah.
Erika (15:33):
Four of them? Okay, well including the daughter, so it's
five.
Edgar (15:36):
Yeah, it's a lot. I feel like for sleepovers, I wouldn't
ever want my child to sleep oversomeone else's house, but I
think I'd be okay with anyonesleeping over our house. But I
like witness my parents, likehow they feel about having
people sleep over their house,like with my friends or my
sister's friends. I always feltlike they were kind of
uncomfortable and they alwaysjust kind of locked himself in
(15:57):
their own room. I feel like I'dprobably do something similar.
Erika (16:00):
Yeah, same.
Edgar (16:02):
So, I don't know, it'd be nice and it'd be safer, but then
I feel awkward in my own house.
Erika (16:07):
Yeah, so maybe that's how her brother felt. And you know,
he's still in teenage years. So,having five girls, including his
sister, would bully him or lookaround his stuff and blade his
face is so not okay. Yeah, and Iagree with you without having
another sleepover because younever know around this age, you
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know, it's important to haveyour child's safety.
Edgar (16:31):
Yeah.
Erika (16:33):
But yeah, so I don't think he overstepped at all and
he needs to have a conversationwith Anya. Anya, right? So, she
shouldn't be doing this. Sheshould've followed the rules if
she wanted to have fun with herfriends.
Edgar (16:46):
And like Anya's like 17 years old, she's
Erika (16:49):
grown enough
Edgar (16:51):
to know not to be like a dick about it.
Erika (16:54):
Exactly. She could've done better and she should've
said no, we could just watch amovie, we could watch scary
movies, we could do whatever.
Edgar (17:01):
Yeah, we could FaceTime calls with other friends who
came
Erika (17:04):
Yeah, you could do so much without bothering or
breaking a rule that you had,just two. So the top comment is
you handled things perfectlyokay. You set very reasonable
rules and your daughter decidedto not care and upset Noah. I'll
ground her. She doesn't care tohave embarrassed Noah, but she
in short cares that she couldn'tget her way.
(17:25):
What was she expecting after shebroke the rules?
Edgar (17:28):
So, there is a reply to the top comment that also had a
lot of upvotes. So, it goes, Andthere is precedent to be set if
there were no consequences, notonly for breaking the rules, but
for continuing to violatesomeone's boundaries while they
were visibly uncomfortable. Shewill encounter all sorts of
people with different issues,trauma, and she needs to
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recognize when she's crossing aline.
Erika (17:52):
Exactly. She needs to learn boundaries.
Edgar (17:54):
Yeah, so I feel like a lot of parents, especially these
days, when they recommend theirchildren or just like discipline
them as they should, they feellike bad, but it helps them in
the long run because then theyknow like more important lessons
to apply later on and especiallyhaving those lessons taught by
your parents is a lot moreeasier than having to learn it
outside by yourself.
Erika (18:15):
Yeah, 100%. I think boundaries, setting boundaries
is so important and I feel likenot a lot of people learn that
in an early age. But it'simportant for your parents to
teach that.
Edgar (18:28):
Yeah. And then like the worst part is like you can tell
which people in real lifehaven't gotten like disappointed
by their parents.
Erika (18:35):
Oh my god, yes.
Edgar (18:36):
It's like so obvious.
Erika (18:37):
Yeah, it really is. You can tell when people are older.
Edgar (18:41):
Remember we went to a graduation today and right
behind us, was people honkingtheir horns. Yeah, there was a
guy and his wife, and the guywas like, oh I'm Dottie, yeah
yeah. And then the guy washonking his horn like really
loudly in the graduation and thewife's like, no stop it, it's
like too disruptive or whatever.And the guy's like, what? This
(19:04):
is a graduation, I can dowhatever I want.
People honked their horns andthey honked it like, Do do do
do.
Erika (19:09):
And
Edgar (19:10):
then like everyone around was visibly like
Erika (19:15):
Annoyed.
Edgar (19:15):
Annoyed. And then the wife was feeling a little bit I
can imagine she was veryhumiliated.
Erika (19:21):
Yeah, because she felt the stares and the daggers that
everybody was giving them and hecould care less. He was like a
child, honestly. He was like anadult child that could not
handle or be mature.
Edgar (19:36):
Yeah, he didn't get beat by his wife. He didn't get beat
by his mom or dad growing
Erika (19:41):
up? Definitely. And he was like, oh, is a memo. The
fact that it really upset me waslike, this is a memo event,
everybody's gonna remember this,this is okay. You're literally
Yeah,
Edgar (19:52):
I'm gonna remember how annoying you were.
Erika (19:55):
Exactly, you're disrupting it because people
were trying to sing or peoplewere trying to say names and you
couldn't even hear anythingbecause all you could hear is
the honking. Oh my god, it wasso frustrating.
Edgar (20:06):
If I ever become president or someone with a lot
of power, I make sure that honksall over the world are banned.
Especially in graduations.Especially in anything where I
am gonna be attending.
Erika (20:19):
Oh my god. Yeah, no, I mean, I've kept covering my ears
because it was just so bad. Mymom was like, I have such a big
headache. Because she was morecloser to the guy too.
Edgar (20:31):
But yeah, so anyways, back to the main thread. The
final verdict on OP?
Erika (20:37):
I would say not the asshole. He did a good job, he
did good parenting here.
Edgar (20:43):
Definitely. She
Erika (20:44):
deserved to be embarrassed.
Edgar (20:46):
Alright,
Erika (20:49):
so the next story is he broke my daughter's heart so I
canceled his wedding. And Imean, he really hurt her deeply.
She supported him financially sohe could concentrate on college,
working her ass off at a gardencenter while I was going to
college full time, paying therent, groceries, utilities. As
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soon as graduation was over, henot only broke up with her, but
left her with everything intheir apartment to deal with
while he went to Europe's summertrip with a female friend. Vio
had to clean up his literalmesses so she could get her
deposit back.
They've been dating for fouryears and she was crushed. For
some bizarre reason, a fewmonths ago we received an invite
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to his wedding, four years aftergraduating, almost to the day,
and so did my daughter. What astringy turd. So I called up the
wedding venue last Monday, sixdays before the wedding, told
them I was the mother of thebride and canceled the venue. I
told them the entire weddingparty had COVID and would need
(21:54):
to reschedule after a laterdate.
So just apply our depositforward if possible. They were
quite kind and said just give usa call when you're ready to
reschedule. The wedding wassupposed to be this past
Saturday, so I drove by andthere was no one there. I
haven't told anyone else I didthis. That'll just be our little
(22:17):
secret.
Edgar (22:19):
I mean, dick move, but it's understandable. Considering
how much of a dick OP'sdaughter's ex was regarding the
entire situation. So definitelyKlomar on his end.
Erika (22:35):
Yeah, but thinking about it, I feel like it's not really
that easy to cancel wedding. Ifeel like in order to reschedule
or do anything with the venues,you need to have a certain code
or need to have, it's a littlebit more tight, like the
security for that.
Edgar (22:53):
In the GPS detector ranking right now.
Erika (22:55):
Yeah. Yeah.
Edgar (22:57):
I just feel like I mean, like a lot of these meta
stories, they're like hit ormiss. Either I generated or it's
just someone like, oh, I wish Idid this. But, yeah, mean, if
this was true, that venue needsmore security. But, yeah, I
mean, I've never been married. Iwould keep going through a whole
venue and all that stuff, so Idon't know how all that thing
goes.
Erika (23:17):
I would say, I mean, anybody could cancel your
wedding then, you know what Imean?
Edgar (23:22):
I That just don't invite anyone that you've wronged. I'm
not gonna be my mortal enemybecause he's gonna come in with
a carriage or an army and evenswap my venue.
Erika (23:33):
Yeah, I would say it might be fake, but then again,
it would be nice if I mean, Iwouldn't say, I think that's a
little bit too much. I get thatyour daughter got hurt, but I
mean.
Edgar (23:46):
Does he feel like a badass?
Erika (23:48):
I mean, he might, but I think, you know, it is what it
is, what you're gonna do, letyour daughter find somebody else
better.
Edgar (23:56):
So
Erika (23:57):
the top comment is, I don't believe it would be this
easy to cancel wedding, Which ismy exact thought.
Edgar (24:03):
Yeah, I mean some of the other comments have commented
that it depends on the venue.Some are easier than others. But
yeah, as we both suspect, it'sprobably a fake story. Yeah,
final verdict if this didhappen. I would say, the OP was
definitely an asshole, but Imean, justified?
Erika (24:23):
I would say he's definitely an asshole. I would
say I don't think he'sjustified. I just think he could
just let it go.
Edgar (24:31):
I mean, yeah, yeah. Well, funny, he ruined financially
that whole family.
Erika (24:37):
That poor girl had no
Edgar (24:38):
OP's daughter's ex family, they had nothing to do
with the situation. They're downlike a few, 20,000, $40,000.
Erika (24:48):
Yeah, depending on how much you spend.
Edgar (24:49):
R and P. So yeah, the next story is titled My Mom Said
I Was Punishing the Family byNot Coming to Dinner After They
Invited My Ex Without TellingMe. So, my mom invited me to a
family dinner, said everyonewould be there. I agreed until I
found out she had also invitedmy ex. Strange.
But yeah, we broke up a fewmonths ago. It wasn't pretty and
(25:12):
my family saw the whole thing.No one got to mention he'd be
there. When I asked her why shesaid, I didn't get mad at
anymore. And when I told her Iwasn't coming, she hit me with
the, So you're punishing thewhole family because you're
still upset?
No, I'm just not showing up tobe blindsided in my own space.
Funny how peace looks likepunishment to people who benefit
(25:34):
from your discomfort. So, whatare you thinking?
Erika (25:39):
Yeah, she's not the asshole. I think she should have
definitely not gone.
Edgar (25:43):
I mean, what's the reason to invite an Invite an ex. Yeah,
I think in any situation that'dbe just uncomfortable.
Erika (25:49):
It is. Like, you're the one dating him and you don't
want date him anymore. Why youkeep bringing him around?
Edgar (25:54):
He must be a pretty chill guy.
Erika (25:58):
But why should we go with him though?
Edgar (26:00):
Because he wasn't sure of her.
Erika (26:03):
Finally. Yeah, I mean, if they saw how messy it was and
then this had to bite him,that's just messed up.
Edgar (26:12):
They definitely like the X more than OP, which says a lot
about OP.
Erika (26:17):
What? What do you mean?
Edgar (26:19):
I'm just saying.
Erika (26:21):
Hear something else.
Edgar (26:23):
No. It might be with OP's family side on this one.
Erika (26:26):
No, absolutely not. The family is not being a family to
her. Poor OP.
Edgar (26:33):
Did they have to?
Erika (26:34):
Yes. Own flesh and blood, man. All right, so the top
comment for that one is, youbroke up not in an amicable way
and they're inviting them todinner. Why? Oh, right.
I mean, they're trying toprobably make them go back
together.
Edgar (26:53):
Yeah, that makes sense. He's either very chill or very
rich Either way, yeah. It seemslike they're just trying to set
them back up together. I
Erika (27:04):
just don't get it. I don't get why the family thinks
that they know better. Like, ifsomebody doesn't want to be with
somebody, that's it. Don't forceanything.
Edgar (27:12):
Wait, so final verdict.
Erika (27:14):
I would say the family is being an asshole here.
Edgar (27:18):
I am suspicious of OP, but I'll just take her aside for
this time.
Erika (27:27):
No, I mean come on, their breakup wasn't good, why you
wanna keep him around, I don'tget it. The next story is I got
a random wrong number text at1AM. I answered, A year later, I
was at their wedding.
Edgar (27:42):
Bro.
Erika (27:43):
A little over a year ago, I got a text at 01:04AM. Is the
green one better or the goldone? Please answer fast. No
name, no context, just that. Iwas half asleep but something
about it made me laugh.
I replied, green. Always go withthe green one. And that's what
you always say too, always gowith green.
Edgar (28:04):
Keep it green.
Erika (28:05):
Exactly. Two minutes later, Okay, thank you. I'm
freaking out. I think I lovehim, but I don't know if this is
a date. It's like a maybe date.
And I didn't have the heart tosay wrong numbers, so I just
said, Then wear the green, lookgood, feel better, and maybe
date the hell out of it. Shetexted back, You're literally a
stranger, but I love you, thankyou. And that was it, or so I
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thought. Because a week latershe texted again, green was the
right call. It was a date.
His name is Eli, he smelled likecedar and stress. What? How do
you smell like stress? Okay, andI, some random dude who never
said she had the wrong numbertexted back and we just kept
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texting. Every few days, thenevery day for months.
She never asked who I was. Inever told her. It became this
anonymous thread of support.When things went well, she'd
send me updates. When thingswent badly, I hype her up like I
was her invisible best friend inthe walls.
Eventually, she named me TexGoblin. Then one night in
November, she sent this. Okay,Goblin. I told him I loved him.
(29:13):
And he said it back.
I'm so scared. I felt like myheart is too big and soft for
this world. I texted backsomething dumb like, He's lucky
to have you, and Green was stillthe right choice. And I didn't
hear from her for two months. Ithought it was over until
January.
I found out who you are. Ifroze. You used your real
(29:34):
Spotify once. That's how I foundyour playlist and your profile.
My heart dropped.
I'm not mad. I actually have aquestion. Will you come to my
wedding? Asked my tax goblin.And that's how I ended up flying
to Arizona last month, standingin a room full of strangers,
watching a woman I've never metwalk down the aisle wearing a
(29:55):
green ribbon in her hair andwinking at me from across the
crowd.
We hugged after, she whisperedthank you for picking green and
I said it was always green. I dototally apologize because I
forgot her real name because Iwas so mesmerized by chaotic
possible chances in the wholeworld. Still saved my phone as
possibly chaos. Life is weirdbut sometimes weird is kind.
Edgar (30:19):
Did it make that into a Hallmark movie?
Erika (30:22):
Right?
Edgar (30:23):
Yeah.
Erika (30:24):
It's kind of cute, right? I thought it was adorable. I
mean, I'm
Edgar (30:29):
glad it worked out for Lady in Green, I don't know who
she was. I guess they neverfound out her name.
Erika (30:36):
Oh, she forgot, yeah. But yeah, I think it's so cute, you
know, with strangers and theyended up getting married. And
him being there, or OP beingthere. So that top comment is
this is so unbelievably sweet.It is, it's a cute story.
Edgar (30:54):
Random chance encounters.
Erika (30:56):
Yeah, who would've thought, random text message.
Edgar (30:59):
I mean, back in the old days they had like pen pals. I
think I had a pen pal from whenI was in elementary school with
someone in Europe, I forgotwhich country.
Erika (31:07):
That's cute. So they never responded, do you remember
anything they said, no?
Edgar (31:11):
Not really, just talked about myself.
Erika (31:16):
You're so funny.
Edgar (31:19):
I'm the most interesting five year old, six year old
ever.
Erika (31:22):
That's so cute. I can imagine you writing your
terrible handwriting. Maybe
Edgar (31:28):
it's just they never responded because they couldn't
read
Erika (31:30):
it. Probably.
Edgar (31:32):
They're like, what the hell is this?
Erika (31:34):
Oh my gosh, yeah.
Edgar (31:35):
They told me it was an American, not an Egyptian.
Erika (31:38):
Well, mean, I can't even imagine how your small
handwriting, like, when you werefive, now your handwriting is
hard to read sometimes.
Edgar (31:45):
Well, before you said write reflect my fist, Liz.
Erika (31:48):
Oh, shoot, yeah. That must have been difficult to
read. No, it
Edgar (31:52):
is comfortable.
Erika (31:54):
No, it's not, how is that comfortable?
Edgar (31:56):
How powerful.
Erika (31:58):
You're so funny. Fun fact, in Ecuador, so my dad used
to be a teacher and then he'd aprincipal, so they teach you
really early in Ecuador how towrite in cursive. So before I
came here I was obviously fiveand then turned six. But I knew
already how to write cursivefluently, and how to write
(32:22):
normally in perfect writing.Because in Ecuador everything is
so strict that if you had anydents, any smudges, you would
have to redo the whole thingagain, any assignments.
It had to be perfect or else youwould be screwed. So, yeah, I
know how to handwrite neatly ata young age, or else, really.
(32:47):
Alright. Final verdicts on that,asshole. I would say no, this is
super cute.
I don't think this is an Am Ithe asshole story, this is just
a story. I found out was reallycute.
Edgar (32:57):
I think like yeah, Miracle in the text messages.
Erika (33:00):
Yeah, definitely.
Edgar (33:00):
Miracle in the DMs. So yeah, our next section of our
show is we're going to go rapidfire through multiple short
stories, and we'll just give ourquick responses to it. Oh and
all of these stories are underthe credit read titled What's
the most effed up thing someonehas ever confessed to you in
(33:22):
confidence? The first commentis, I used to have two
neighbors, 92 and 86. They kepttelling me how sad they were
when their cat died, but theywere too old to adopt another
one.
So I walked my cat over for playdates at their house. Did they
ever get his name right? Not atall, but they love to see him
(33:45):
and pet him. I move away andthink about them a lot.
Erika (33:52):
I like you. That's just a confession.
Edgar (33:57):
What was he confessing? He
Erika (33:59):
was just confessing, I don't know, that was just one of
the comments, I thought it wascute.
Edgar (34:04):
Cute but not a confession. If someone was dying
and this is what they told me,I'd be like, okay, just die
faster.
Erika (34:12):
Here's something else. I'd be like, this is so cute.
What's your cat's name? Oh mygod, you're something else.
Anyways, the next story is, Iwas in my early twenties sitting
on a bus station in Portland,Oregon, when a woman next to me,
(34:34):
out of nowhere, mid cigaretteturned and asked, Do you know
what brains smell like?
I just about shit my pants. Iwas too young and too polite to
get up and walk away, so Istayed frozen while she calmly
told me how she got beaten byher boyfriend and apparently
took a pipe to his head,spilling his brains all over the
floor. Then she looked surprisedand said, Don't tell anybody.
(34:57):
Yeah, that's one etched in mybrain forever.
Edgar (35:02):
So what do brains felt like then?
Erika (35:07):
Like death? I don't
Edgar (35:09):
know. Because the only way felt like this was like a
punchline being set up and nowI'm satisfied.
Erika (35:16):
Well, I don't know. You can
Edgar (35:18):
have to Google this or ask ChaoGBT.
Erika (35:21):
Well, mean, the only time you should be able to smell
brain is because either you're aneurosurgeon or you're dead. So,
I would say death.
Edgar (35:32):
At that point, yeah, I'd just be like I'd just make sure
I get the answer so I can atleast tell a better story than
this dude.
Erika (35:39):
Dude, that's creepy. I wouldn't even have asked
anything to that person. I wouldbe in shock. I would be scared
to even look her
Edgar (35:45):
in the eyes. You gotta power play those kind of people.
You gotta outcreep them
Erika (35:51):
out. Okay.
Edgar (35:52):
Outcrazy them. Now that story is my ex mother-in-law
telling me a childhood storyabout him when he bit a chunk
out of a neighbor kid's chestbecause he was mad. She laughed
like it was some Kodak momentmemory. It told me all I needed
to know. I mean, that's justcrazy.
(36:15):
Exactly. I painted someone'schest cleanly off, LOL.
Erika (36:19):
That's insane.
Edgar (36:21):
I would never look at someone the same way again after
that.
Erika (36:23):
Absolutely not. I would buy, literally this is why it's
her ex mother-in-law, she left.
Edgar (36:31):
There's some sort of like human sacrifice thing. I wonder
if it's like a, no I can saythat.
Erika (36:36):
But yeah, I mean the fact that she thought it was funny or
a Kodak moment is kind of insaneto me. Like, it was just another
thing that Like,
Edgar (36:44):
oh yeah,
Erika (36:45):
just He just bit off some flesh, but you know, it's okay.
Edgar (36:49):
Just kids being kids, he
Erika (36:52):
No, like I would be freaked out too. I'd be like,
bye. That's all the stories wehave today. Thank you for tuning
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Edgar (37:15):
Also, have a Facebook group called AITA Relationship
and Family Drama linked in thedescription. Join so you can
share Am I the A$$ posts youlike or share your own stories
for us all to judge. We may evenread a few posts in one of our
episodes if you're lucky.
Erika (37:31):
Thank you. Bye.
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