In this week's episode of Yapping Schnauzers, Erika and Edgar dive into the chaos of unseen consequences. From a wife who leaves her drunk husband at the ER (and gets roasted for it) to a funeral crasher who ends up adopted by a grieving grandma, we’re yapping through the most “how did we get here?” stories Reddit has to offer.
💥 Featuring:
- A daughter banned from her “ghetto” friends
- A tip taken back after a public server meltdown
- A man who learned his whole childhood was a lie
- Flash horror stories about strangers who still haunt people
- And a funeral mix-up that somehow turned heartwarming
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Links to threads read:
- AITAH if I left my husband at the ER overnight?
- My entire life was a lie and I'm going to confront my mother
- AITA for pulling my daughter from soccer camp and telling her that she can't see her "ghetto" friends anymore
- AITA for taking back my tip after the waitress humiliated me in front of everyone?
- I went to the wrong funeral. I stayed. Now her grandma sends me birthday cards.
- The Strangers Who Still Haunt Me – Flash Stories
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Intro (00:00):
Yapping!
Erika (00:02):
Hello, this is Erika.
Edgar (00:04):
And Edgar.
Erika (00:04):
And we are the Yapping Snowsers. We entertain you with
the app worthy stories we findaround the web. Today's theme is
Unseen Consequences.
Edgar (00:13):
Our first story is Am I the Asshole If I Left My Husband
at the ER Overnight? I, 29female, and my husband, 31 male,
were visiting his family inanother state for a cousin's
wedding. We've been married forthree years, no kids yet. My
husband likes to drink. And atthe reception, he definitely
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overdid it.
Taking shots from his cousin,ignoring the facts, I asked him
to slow down because we had todrive back to our Airbnb. Long
story short, he ended uptripping over the curb outside
the venue while we were waitingfor our Uber and cut his
forehead pretty badly. He wassuper drunk, so he didn't feel
it, but he was also belligerent,cussing at the paramedics and
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refusing stitches. At thehospital, he kept yelling at
nurses and trying to take offhis IV so security had to come
in. They eventually sedated himso they could clean him up.
At that point, it was already2AM and I was exhausted,
embarrassed, and honestly mad. Iasked the nurse if I could leave
since they aren't admitting himovernight for observation and
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she said yes. I called an Uber,went back to the Airbnb,
showered, and went to bed. Hismom and sister started blowing
up my phone around 7AM callingme heartless for leaving him
alone and saying I should havestayed in case something
happened. He's fine now and justhas a bandage on his forehead
and a big hangover, buteveryone's treating me like the
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villain.
Am I the asshole for leaving himthere overnight instead of
staying with him in thehospital?
Erika (01:47):
Yeah, I don't think she's the asshole. He completely
ignored what she said to calmdown with the drinks. And they
would have to go back to theAirbnb and he continued to
ignore her. So, the fact that hewas so drunk, he literally
couldn't stand by himself andhurt himself is just
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unacceptable.
Edgar (02:11):
Yeah, I mean, Obi's husband, or whoever he is, did
this to himself. It's not likethe damages or what he was
hospitalized for was fatal. So,I don't really see the side of
the family who say, Oh, heshould have stayed. What if
something happened? I think hewas fine on his own.
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He's a good, epic guy and hecould take care of himself. If
this was something more serious,like he had some sort of
terminal illness, maybe he itmakes sense for her to want to
stay there overnight. If it'ssomething like, oh, he's just
hungover, has like a concussionor some sort of cut, that's
something that's livable. As Andsomeone who's slept over a
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hospital, it's not really themost comfortable place. So I
wouldn't want to be there if Ididn't have to, which is what OP
indecided in this case.
Erika (03:03):
I mean, yeah, she had to deal with him and the
embarrassment she had to gothrough seeing how he treated
all the staff and the medicalstaff actually. And then on top
of that, she was exhausted, so Iwouldn't blame her for leaving
at all.
Edgar (03:17):
I know.
Erika (03:19):
And then the top comment really is just how did they find
out? Did he call them playingthe victim, not the asshole?
Edgar (03:26):
I know, exactly. He probably woke up in a daze and
he's like, Oh my gosh, where amI? And then he told him to run
down. Probably he had the shockof not having your wife next to
you during those moments, likehow you got to him. But I mean,
what did he expect from justdumb?
Erika (03:41):
He completely As a grown adult. Exactly, he messed up. I
mean, right now he has no kids,no responsibility I guess. I
mean, if he acts like this, whatmakes you think that he'll stop
once he has kids? You know whatmean?
I feel like people that are likethis, especially as adult, like
you're at 31, you're not a kidanymore. You should know your
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limits. You should know when tostop. And if you decide to have
kids with him, I don't know ifhe'll stop. So you really have
to think about it.
Edgar (04:10):
Yeah, good point. I mean, he probably didn't want someone
to be there with him, but also,like he's in a different like
state, they have like an Airbnband all that stuff and it's just
like, I don't know, I don't seehow he expects for his wife to
be like there in that exactmoment.
Erika (04:30):
Yeah, mean, don't condemn having fun and drinking.
Edgar (04:35):
I do.
Erika (04:36):
They're so funny.
Edgar (04:37):
No fun.
Erika (04:37):
Yeah, no. I think it's having a good time, but it
doesn't mean getting overlydrunk and forgetting where you
are or not able to stand up.It's not necessary. You don't
need to get that drunk to havefun.
Edgar (04:53):
I know. We don't know the psyche of this guy, I mean, to
get blackout drunk when you havesomeone that you're with who has
to take care of you, feel likeit speaks to a lack of care
about who had to be with Funkbefore.
Erika (05:11):
Yeah, and he should be the one taking care of her, not
the other way around. So, Imean, if you want to continue
taking care of him for the restof your life OP, I would say
break up with him.
Edgar (05:24):
Yeah. So you think this is a break up worthy?
Erika (05:26):
Yeah, it's so inexcusable. There's no reason
to be 31 and doing that.
Edgar (05:33):
Don't think so? I think it kind of depends how much you
like the person. But I mean,also, Oprah not being with his
husband's side when he's at thehospital overnight, it does kind
of say something about her aswell. Not that she's a bad
person, but that she doesn'tcare about him that much.
Erika (05:53):
I don't think so.
Edgar (05:54):
That or she's like a little bit too logical, it's
like, Oh, he's going be finetoo, I don't have to be there.
Erika (05:59):
I feel like it's just for him to learn his lesson, that
this was not acceptable for himto be doing this and she wanted
him to learn a lesson that she'snot gonna be tolerating this if
he continues. I think that'swhat it was. Think she didn't
care because if she didn't care,she wouldn't have taken him to
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the hospital, she wouldn't havestayed with him with all the
drama when he was making allthat fuzz. She stayed with him
when she knew that he was okayand that he was sedated.
Edgar (06:30):
So
Erika (06:32):
he should be fine.
Edgar (06:34):
Yeah, yeah, yeah. And then do you feel like the
parents are justified at all?Like from how they're acting at
the situation?
Erika (06:41):
No, they should out of the relationship. They should
butt out of the relationshipbecause it's their situation
right now. Just because shewasn't there overnight doesn't
mean that she doesn't care. Shejust wanted him to teach him a
lesson.
Edgar (06:55):
Yeah, among other things. But I mean, they are painting
her currently as the bad guy, soI imagine it's like a mixture of
just their beliefs of like, oh,you should be there by your
partner's side no matter what.But maybe also OP's husband
probably says something to makethe situation worse.
Erika (07:16):
Yeah, I mean, I don't think so. Just wouldn't tolerate
that behavior. I would not behappy with my husband. And if
they want to pamper him or makeit okay for him to continue
doing that, then that's on them,but that would not be me. It's
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just inexcusable.
Edgar (07:39):
So final verdict?
Erika (07:40):
I would say she's not the asshole. She did what she had to
do and hopefully he learned hislesson and never do that again.
She really has to think aboutit. If he does this one more
time, then I would say OP, countyour blessings and leave that
man. I mean, you don't want tobe with someone that you have to
take care of them all the restof your life like this.
It's exhausting. And it seemslike he has some type of
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aggression too. He treated themedical staff if he's overly
drunk and stuff like that. Youdon't know. Maybe it'll be her
next.
Edgar (08:16):
Yeah, agreed.
Erika (08:19):
All right, so the next story is My Entire Life Was a
Lie and I'm Going to Confront MyMother. I'm 26 now. Growing up,
I was always told my fatherabandoned me when I was five. My
mother said he wanted nothing todo with me, that he was drunk, a
bum, and that he never paid acent in my child support. Well,
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twenty one years later, Ifinally reached out to him.
Turns out, he did try to contactmy mom a few times, but could
never get through. And thebiggest shock? He actually paid
child support until I turned 18.I even verified it myself with
local child support office. Theyconfirmed he paid the entire
time.
That adds up to $60,000 that Inever saw. Meanwhile, I spent my
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childhood couch surfing with mymother while she bounced from
guy to guy for support. Shenever had a job. I paid the
bills, took care of myself, andlooked after my younger brother
too. There's so much more Icould say, but I'm honestly
overwhelmed.
I'm confronting her tomorrow,and I don't even know where to
start. I feel like half of mylife has been stolen from me,
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and I'm stuck with so many whatifs. If anyone's been through
something like this or has anyadvice, I really appreciate it.
And there's a little smallupdate. It says, I'm not worried
about getting any money.
I'm more upset that she got someeach month and never used it on
me. Plus, he was active inpaying it for thirteen years and
my mother told me that hedidn't.
Edgar (09:51):
Yeah, so obviously the mother is at a big fault with
this because it seems like shewas never responsible or even a
good mother during this periodof time. Like just couch
serving, having her childrenkind of experience and just be
there when she's just going fromguy to guy. Just get that, had
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that kind of exposure that Iimagine is damaging for both
children and psyches. And thenfinally, your original dad was a
deadbeat when he wasn't. I don'tknow what he's doing now, but
was trying to at least supportthem financially when most
people don't even care or eventry like that.
I can see how OP is so messed upabout the situation.
Erika (10:36):
Yeah, definitely. And the fact that he tried to contact
her and he was denied. So it'snot that he didn't want a
relationship with her, it's justthat her mother didn't allow it.
And it's so frustrating becausemeanwhile she had to take care
of herself and her sibling whenshe just continued to sleep or
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whatever, be with other men.It's, ugh.
Like I always say, some peopleshould never be parents.
Edgar (11:03):
And then those people usually have like 10 to 20
children.
Erika (11:06):
I know, it's insane.
Edgar (11:07):
That's crazy to me. But also, it just doesn't really
make sense why, like from myperspective it just makes sense
why the mother would forbid thefather from wanting to at least
contact the children other thanjust she just doesn't like him
that much, enough to be at adetriment of her children?
Erika (11:29):
I feel like if you really look into it, my guess is that
she didn't want her childrenhaving contact with him because
they would probably tell himthat she's being with another
guy and another guy and thatthey didn't feel comfortable in
that home so he would wanna getfull custody and then all that
money he was giving will be nonexistent. So she didn't want the
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child support to stop that hewas giving for thirteen years.
So she wanted to cut thatsupport but keep the money.
Edgar (11:59):
Yeah, I mean that makes sense actually.
Erika (12:02):
Unfortunately, That's my guess. Yeah. Was, like I said,
she didn't have a job. The poordaughter had to pay the bills on
top of the money that sheapparently wasn't receiving. So
she's just such a liar.
Terrible mother. So the topcomment is, Dude, I just feel
bad. I don't know what to say.But you were strong throughout
and I know you will be stronggoing forward. So, I mean, it's
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just, it's so, that type ofchildhood where it's difficult
for you to really go through orrise above.
You need a lot of, I would saytherapy, but a lot of people
don't choose that option, but alot of inner strength to go
through something like that andbe a better version of yourself
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and not be like your mom.
Edgar (12:51):
Yeah. I mean, definitely it's like an inner strength
thing. I think the one goodthing that came out of this is
that she has the grit andtenacity to just like just
basically survive no matterwhat. Yeah. And it can only,
like for her, life can onlyreally go up unless she messes
up as bad as her mother did.
Erika (13:10):
Yeah, I mean she, depending, well, it doesn't
matter what card she was dealt,she still did the best she
could.
Edgar (13:18):
Yeah. Do you think this is like breakup poetry between
OP and her mother'srelationship?
Erika (13:26):
I mean, she will always be her mother. Now, if she wants
to have a deep relationship,it's up to her. You know,
there's always, you could alwayshave a relationship with people
that have hurt you. However, youhave the option to put a
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restriction or have, you know,okay, that's too much for me
then. This is how far ourrelationship goes.
And that's it, an invisible linewith her mom because, I mean, if
she was toxic then, I don'tthink Just stop now, yeah.
Edgar (14:01):
I wonder how she'll react to mother when she finds out
that OP knows the whole truth.
Erika (14:05):
I feel like she's gonna lie. I feel like she's gonna be
like, No, that's a lie. And thenshe's gonna show the proof and
still she will lie, saying thatthat's not true. She'll die on
the hill.
Edgar (14:16):
The most likely outcome. So if Opie was on the movie with
us now, what would you tell her,like as parting words slash what
is our final verdict?
Erika (14:25):
I would say, OP, you can always try to confront her, but
regardless of what happened inthe past, you can still continue
doing your best. Of course,those years you will never get
back, but you are who you aretoday for the hardships you
faced and that you can justcontinue being resilient. Don't
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let this stop you and yourchoice to have that relationship
with your mom is up to you.
Edgar (14:54):
And I just say forgive but never forget.
Erika (14:57):
I don't actually I had somebody tell me that the other
day, but honestly it reallyhurts you. Because if you don't,
you forgive, but you don'tforget, you're always gonna have
that in the back of your mindand it's gonna hurt you. It's
not gonna hurt the other person.So it's more beneficial for you
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to forget and forgive. So you,that person hurt you, all right?
And then forget about it.Because, I'm not saying because
you forgot, you're gonna letthat person hurt you again, but
you want your inner peace andyou want to not have that in the
back of your head or reminderwhat that person did. So just
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let it go completely becausethat way your inner self is
gonna be rid of that. And ifthat person wants to hold that
against you, then so be it. Butfor you, you're a clean slate
and you're done.
Edgar (15:54):
I would disagree because imagine I get hit by a car, I'm
gonna forgive the car, but I'mnot gonna forget how hard that
hurts. And I'm going alwaysremember that and I'm going to
take that with me. It's notgoing to be a huge weight on me,
but
Erika (16:11):
Yes, it is, because you're never going to forget it.
Edgar (16:13):
Yeah. I'm going to never forget it so I can always avoid
it. That's like a part of mypattern recognition I added to
the database that is my mind.
Erika (16:22):
That doesn't mean that you're going to allow that
person to hurt you again justbecause you're going to forget
it. You're just not going to letthat affect you because that
takes a lot of work for you toforgive and forget.
Edgar (16:33):
Not really.
Erika (16:34):
Yes, does. I'm built different. So you say, but
Edgar (16:39):
It's like a single neuron in my head to do all that
processing?
Erika (16:46):
It's not just processing intellectually, it's also
emotional.
Edgar (16:50):
So
Erika (16:51):
you just don't work about it intellectually but you also
have to work it with youremotions, which a lot of people
don't have that.
Edgar (17:00):
Yeah.
Erika (17:01):
So it's really a lot of inner work there. You can't just
be like, Oh yeah, I'm gonnaforgive but I'm never gonna
forget. It's just, you're alwaysgonna hold onto that. You're
never gonna let it go regardlessof what you're saying. It's
always gonna be there.
And if you wanna continuecarrying that on your back and
on your memory and on yourheart, then it's not gonna go
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anywhere. It's gonna continuehurting you. So that's the way I
see it.
Edgar (17:26):
So
Erika (17:28):
what's the final verdict?
Edgar (17:30):
I mean, final verdict on the story as a whole, I would
say just to keep moving forwardthen, as well as forgive and
forget.
Erika (17:41):
I would say and forget. You just want to be happy.
Edgar (17:46):
Okay. The next story is titled Am I the Asshole for
Pulling My Daughter from SoccerCamp and Telling Her That She
Can't See Her Ghetto FriendsAnymore. So, my daughter is in
soccer camp twice a week sincethe beginning of summer. She is
15. She has made two new friendsand I do not like them.
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They have been over my houseonce and they were rude, loud,
and obnoxious. So the typicalteen. They made a mess of the
house, gave me attitude when Iasked them to quiet down, one
rolled her eyes and startedarguing with me, and they were
blasting music and money wentmissing. OMG. That's crazy.
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Yes, and her evidence for hermoney going missing was that she
said I had $40 on the counterand it disappeared. So I'm not
their biggest fans of them andafter that I didn't allow them
to hang out at our house. Mydaughter was not a fan of this
but still saw them at soccercamp. The soccer camp is next to
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a plaza and they allow the kidsto get food from their fast food
places. I got a call from thecoach that my daughter and her
two friends caused issues atArby's.
Bro, Arby's of all places? Isn'tthat fitting well to this friend
group? Yeah, she recorded it onher phone. Her two friends were
heckling the fat food workersand left after causing a mess,
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dumped the drinks all over theground, and flipped off the
worker. My daughter wasrecording this and laughing
along.
To be honest, I found itdisgusting. I informed her that
she was being pulled out ofsoccer camp because she can't
behave by herself and that shewon't be seeing those friends
anymore. She was very unhappyand started an argument. She
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told me I don't like thembecause they are ghetto and I
told her, Yep, she is correct.They are too ghetto, too loud,
too rude, too respectful, toomany 'toos' and I am not am not
allowing her near them.
She hasn't talked to me since,and I shared this with my
sisters. And she basically toldme, I forgot my roots and to let
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her see the friends.
Erika (19:55):
Girl, please.
Edgar (19:56):
Bro, you gotta take out those roots. You gotta get weed
whacker. There is one more editfor this. For more context, I
grew up in a horribleneighborhood and yeah, that kind
of behavior was common where Igrew up. Yes, I do find that
behavior ghetto as hell.
Also, I am black. My daughter ismixed. She thinks it is super
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ghetto. You're the asshole?
Erika (20:21):
No, girl, you're parenting. You're doing the
right thing. Even if you grew upin that type of environment
doesn't mean that you want yourdaughter to be in that type of
environment or have friends likethat. So the sister telling her
to don't forget your roots
Edgar (20:39):
Yeah, has no some roots should be forgotten.
Erika (20:43):
Exactly. So, no. I would say you're doing the right
thing, you're not the asshole,you're parenting.
Edgar (20:52):
Exactly. And it's so easy to have your kids be in the
wrong friend group and thenstuff like this happens. And
right now it's just in Arby's,but maybe in the future it's
like a bank.
Erika (21:03):
Or shoplifting or fights or drugs or whatever it is.
Can't just let her hang out withanybody she wants because
friends actually do shape you.Friends either can make you
better or can really take you ina wrong turn.
Edgar (21:21):
Yeah. So, I remember hearing this quote where it's
like, You are the sum of thefive people you most hang out
with. So, for me, it's me and myfive mirrors. I think I'm
fitting up pretty well,actually.
Erika (21:34):
I can't. I thought you were gonna say me and other
people? You're such something.
Edgar (21:48):
You really got me on
Erika (21:50):
that one. That is hilarious.
Edgar (21:51):
Why would I lie?
Erika (21:55):
Oh my gosh.
Edgar (21:58):
Oh yeah, exactly in this case. Currently, she's like, if
OP's daughter kept Sattas, it'snot gonna shape her out to be a
better person. It'll bedetrimental with her character
and honestly her future.
Erika (22:13):
Sorry, that was too funny. So the tough comment is,
not the asshole. You're doingwhat is called parenting. It's
what you're supposed to do. Ifyour daughter cannot control
herself around these girls, thenshe shouldn't be hanging out
with them.
Keep up the good job.
Edgar (22:32):
Yeah, agreed. I mean, currently the daughter is
probably not appreciating thisat all, but
Erika (22:37):
Of course not. She's probably pissed.
Edgar (22:39):
Pissed as hell. But hopefully in the future she
learns that this will, like,refer to better.
Erika (22:46):
Yeah.
Edgar (22:46):
Yeah. She'll probably see these, like, these chicks that
she's hanging out with, like, inten, twenty years, maybe, like,
with multiple, like, babies fromdifferent fathers or
Erika (22:55):
Jail.
Edgar (22:55):
Jail or even dead. And she'd be like, yeah,
Erika (22:58):
Okay, definitely.
Edgar (23:00):
Good thing my mom told me not to hang out with them
anymore.
Erika (23:04):
Yeah, I mean, she's not doing the wrong thing at all.
This just needs a wake up call.Maybe because it's not her
daughter, she doesn't see it,But you definitely not, I don't
think she's an asshole. She'sdoing the best she can and
that's it. I think she did good.
Edgar (23:22):
But even if it isn't your daughter, like as a nephew or
niece, you want them to besteered toward the correct
direction. And the sisters useit as like, Oh, this is just our
culture. Like, no, the cultureis bad then.
Erika (23:34):
Yeah, mean, you
Edgar (23:35):
don't want them to be going because these people are
just hoodlums. And you don'twant your family, or you don't
want people that you actuallycare about to go down that route
and just get in trouble. Becausethat worsens their life and also
worsens the family's lifebecause then that one hurt them
is a burden to the rest of them.
Erika (23:56):
Yeah, I mean, you just have to really think it through.
One, this could be just, likeyou mentioned earlier, a small
mistake but it can grow bigger.And it's better to cut it right
now than have more direconsequences in the future.
Edgar (24:11):
Exactly. Final verdict?
Erika (24:15):
I'm not the asshole, mama. You're doing the right
thing.
Edgar (24:18):
Mia agreed.
Erika (24:20):
Alright, so the next story is, Am I the asshole for
taking back my tip after thewaitress humiliated me in front
of everyone. Alright, thisoccurred a few minutes ago and I
just can't believe it happenedthe way that it did. My partner,
29 female, and I, 32 male, dinedout at this Italian restaurant.
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We've been to several times.It's not highly sophisticated,
but pleasant enough that you getto sit down, order wine, and
have a relaxed evening.
Our server, let's name herSamantha, was kind of faced
throughout. She lost my drinktwice, served the wrong starter,
and vanished for what seemedlike an eternity when it arrived
time to order dessert. It wasn'tthe end of the world. I worked
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customer service myself and Iget the hectic nights go wild.
However, service was reallypoor.
When the check came, I paid andleft a 10% cash tip. Not
excessive, but not nothingeither. I thought it was
reasonable given thecircumstances. We were just
standing up to leave whenSamantha came over, took the
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cash and said, Seriously? Thisis it?
She had said it adamantly. A fewpeople at some nearby tables
turned around and stared. I wastaken aback. I didn't even know
what's safe first. Then sheadded, You know servers can't
pay their rent because peoplelike you.
If you can't tip properly, don'tdine out. The restaurant became
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totally silent. Like a sitcomsilence, my girlfriend was
wincing. I just remained calmand said, Okay, sorry you feel
that way, and started to leave.Then, no kidding, she murdered
whatever cheapskates, but loudlyenough that it was not only for
us.
So I went back over, walked overthe table, took the tip, and
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left without another word. Mygirlfriend later informed me
that I did fine with it, but oneof my friends feels like I had
overstepped by insisting ongetting the tip back, that no
matter what, you just leave itand move on. I felt like to be
scolded and humiliated onaccount of a 10% tip, I actually
did leave is away out of bounds.So Reddit, am I the asshole for
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retrieving the tip after sheyelled at us in front of
everyone in the restaurant?
Edgar (26:36):
Not at all. That chick deserved several percent. Yeah,
she actually deserved to havepaid them for her services. So
yeah, she's just, you know,alone and basically greedy for
terrible service.
Erika (26:49):
Yeah, I mean, when we go out we always tip good. I just
think sometimes when serversliterally ignore us, don't even
ask for anything if we needanything, we would have to like
look for them, get help fromother servers. You know, that's
just negligence. I mean, ifyou're trying to do a good job
and get a good tip, gotta dogood service. I mean, I
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understand that there's a lot ofpeople or if it's full, I get
it.
But you get what you give and ifyou're not doing good with your
servings, well with serving,then you can't expect a great
tip.
Edgar (27:27):
Exactly. Latest chick gave the bare minimum and wanted
to get paid like $20.40 dollarslike a few seconds of work. So I
think yeah, server is very likejust, yeah, I wouldn't like her
at all. And for her to say that,I feel like they should fire
her.
Erika (27:43):
I would've done what he'd done. Actually, know what, I
would have not taken the tipback. I would just
Edgar (27:49):
I would've taken the tip and then would've said something
to the manager probably.
Erika (27:53):
I would have said something It's to the
Edgar (27:54):
very inappropriate.
Erika (27:56):
Yeah, I wouldn't have taken a tip, I would have said
something to the manager.
Edgar (27:59):
Yeah, because right now OP is definitely not coming back
to the restaurant, but worstcase as well, everyone else who
heard the altercation wouldn'twant to come back either. So
this employee, this waitress isa liability for that restaurant.
Erika (28:17):
Yeah, and OP could have gone to all the restaurants
commenting and saying this wouldhappen with the server and I
felt completely unfair. Couldjust, with something like that,
it could go big. A lot of peopleread, for example for us, when
we go to a new restaurant, wealways read the comments or we
always see the stars and wealways see, is this a good place
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to eat, relaxing or whatever,good service. If I see comments
like that, I'd be like, maybe weshouldn't go eat somewhere else.
You know what mean?
Edgar (28:48):
I mean, it really depends, but yeah, we have
reviews for a lot ofrestaurants. The owners and
whoever manages it tends to wantto have it as high as possible.
And they try to do right when itis low or when there's a one
star or two star review. Itreally affects them because
Erika (29:09):
A lot of people don't comment either. You see like
five comments and you have onereview, like it literally ticks
out a lot.
Edgar (29:15):
I know, yeah. It really kinks it.
Erika (29:18):
So the top comment is not the asshole. She expected and
then demanded a good tip for acrappy job. You were nice enough
to leave her something but shewanted to be ungrateful. And I
mean, I don't know, is tippingrequired here?
Edgar (29:34):
No, you don't have to tip.
Erika (29:36):
I feel like depending on the restaurant too, they already
take it out in their service.
Edgar (29:40):
Yeah, some of the restaurants we've been to, they
automatically take 20% tip,which is, I I always thought 20%
tip was way too large, but nowit's the standard. Because
growing up I definitely rememberit being 15%, because I used to
calculate it all the time for myfamily.
Erika (29:54):
That was
Edgar (29:55):
just a simple math trick.
Erika (29:57):
Yeah, I definitely think that too. But I mean, the living
cost now, it's insane, so I getit why it went to 20%.
Edgar (30:06):
Yeah, you can also get a real job.
Erika (30:09):
Well a lot of people have, when they do serving,
that's not the only job. A lotof people have three jobs or two
jobs or have the serving job asa side job. So it's not, you
know?
Edgar (30:19):
Yeah, just excuse the background noise if you can hear
it. I might have filtered itout, but yeah, it's raining.
Erika (30:24):
It's gonna be thundering too.
Edgar (30:27):
It's going be ambient, guys. At least when it's GERD
service and you have the fundsand means to do it, I do like
tipping our servers. We have afew people we always tip a lot
because we're not best friends,but when we go there that's a
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good experience and they make
Erika (30:50):
And it welcoming for they know us or they'll be like, How
you doing? It's good to see you.And it's just you have really
good people that know how to docustomer service that deserve
that tip.
Edgar (31:01):
Yeah, yeah, exactly. I wouldn't mind giving them 25%
tip.
Erika (31:04):
Exactly. So yeah, what's the final verdict?
Edgar (31:09):
Yeah, final verdict, OP was not in the wrong. This is
negative levels of customerservice, wages was of nothing
Yeah. At
Erika (31:23):
I mean, I wonder what restaurant it was, but I
honestly think that he was notin the wrong there was no need
to humiliate your customer,especially if you did a crappy
job. Like, come on.
Edgar (31:34):
Exactly. You're just telling yourself. So our next
story is I went to the wrongchenro and I stayed. And now her
grandma sends me birthday cards.I was in a new city.
On weekend I got a text from anumber I didn't recognize. Hey,
the service is at three. Wearsomething dark. She hated bright
colors. I know you didn't knowher well, but it would mean a
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lot if you came.
And I stared at it and I wasn'tsure who it was meant for, but
it felt urgent. Like maybe theyreally needed someone there and
I had nothing else to do. So Iwent. I pulled up to the church
a few minutes early, sat in theback, no one questioned me, and
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I figured maybe it was a distantcoworker or a college friend. I
kept waiting for someone to say,Wait, who are you?
But they didn't. The woman whohad passed her name was Marion,
had the kindest smile I've everseen. I learned about her love
for jazz, her cat name Newton,and how she never let anyone
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leave her house without taking acookie. And I sat through every
eulogy like I'd known herforever. Afterwards, during a
gathering her grandma approachedme.
You were her friend from ourclass, weren't you? She asked.
And I froze. No, think I got thewrong text. She laughed.
I actually laughed. So you'rejust here? For a stranger? I
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nodded. Didn't want her to havean empty room.
And she grabbed my hand andsaid, Then you are exactly the
kind of person she would haveliked. And we sat together for
hours, talking about Marion,about grief, about weird
coincidences. And before I left,her grandma gave me a small
velvet pouch. Take this, shesaid. Mary Anne would have
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insisted you didn't leave emptyhanded.
Well, it should have been acookie. Oh, inside it was a
single sugar cookie shaped likea heart. A year later, her
grandmother still sends me abirthday card. Always with a
cookie recipe inside. And I sendher a handwritten thank you
every time.
I don't know why I went thatday, but I'm glad I did.
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Sometimes the wrong funeral isexactly where you're meant to
be. Am I the asshole?
Erika (33:53):
No, it's not! Give me something else. It is not Am I
the asshole story. It's just oneof the stories.
Edgar (34:03):
Yeah. I guess you wanted to end this section of our show
on a good note. But, yeah, Ithink it's a cute story.
Erika (34:08):
It is.
Edgar (34:09):
I wonder who sent the heck so.
Erika (34:11):
It was I think it was her, the grandmama. Yeah. But
she thought it was one of herfriends and probably got the
phone number wrong.
Edgar (34:18):
Oh, I see, I see.
Erika (34:20):
But that's so sweet. The fact that she stayed there and
listened to every single eulogyis amazing. And the little
recipe and the cookie was soheartwarming. Yeah, so I think
OP is an amazing human being.That's what pretty much the top
comment is.
Edgar (34:37):
The final verdict on this?
Erika (34:40):
I think she's a human being and people should be like
this more often.
Edgar (34:46):
Yeah, agreed. For our final section, we're gonna be
going rapid fire throughmultiple mini stories and we're
just going to read it and thengive our quick opinions and then
go to the next one. So all thesestories center around the thread
titled What's the mostterrifying, unexplainable
encounter you've had with astranger that still haunts you?
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The first story is my first timein Mexico City, I didn't realize
what a bad neighborhood my hotelwas in. I had just stepped out
of the hotel and three mennoticed me and started walking
right over to me really fast andsurrounded me on three sides.
I literally jumped into whatturned out to be a tiny
bookstore because I sensed I wasabout to get grabbed. The only
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people working in there were twoyoung girls, maybe eight and
nine. One of the guys followedme and stayed right next to me
blocking my exit. And then, asof by magic, I hadn't even
noticed in the back of the storeopened an adult male, probably
the girl's dads, emerged. Theman left the store and after
lingering a few more minutes andbuying some books out of
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gratitude for him, probablysaving my life, I went back to
the hotel.
Erika (36:00):
That was a close one, right?
Edgar (36:01):
Exactly, yeah. I like how she had to have, she or he had
to have three big guyssurrounding her or him in order
for them to be like, oh, I'm indanger.
Erika (36:12):
Yeah, mean like, you just never know. Mean, they came out
of nowhere. It's not like sheplanned it. But she had good
thinking and went into abookstore.
Edgar (36:23):
Yeah. And it's like pretty lucky that the store
owner was there when he was.
Erika (36:28):
I think when she said that he wasn't there, he only
saw two girls, maybe he had acamera, he watches his girls,
and he saw that there was thisrandom guy there.
Edgar (36:37):
Exactly. I yeah, I know it's not their fault, but they
went to a bookstore and it hadjust two children there. He put
their lives on danger too.
Erika (36:46):
Yeah, I'm sure he didn't go far. Maybe he could just step
down and use a bath orsomething, but you never know.
So, I'm glad he just came back
Edgar (36:51):
in No, no. I yeah. I mean, like, OP.
Erika (36:57):
Oh, yes. Yeah, she was definitely lucky. She was able
to go in there. I mean,definitely always follows your
instinct and your gut feeling.
Edgar (37:07):
Alright,
Erika (37:08):
so the next story is, Walking home late one night in a
large town, not a soul was out,no cars either, a hurt feet
running from directly behind me,quickly and quietly. My
instincts took over and I turnedaround and talked to the guy as
if I knew him. I giggled andtold him he scared the shit out
of me. I think I caught him offguard because he stopped running
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and looked confused. He startedchatting with me, obviously was
on drugs, and told me he was acarny in town for an affair.
I bummed a cigarette off of meand left. Pretty sure he had
something unpleasant planned forme but surprised him with my
lack of fear.
Edgar (37:47):
Yeah, that's like a good survival technique. I heard that
like when you feel like a badvibe from somebody, and they're
coming your way, usually givingthem direct eye contact kind of
humanizes you to them so thenthey just get intimidated or
they just look for someone else.Because they're hoping you don't
notice them. That they cansurprise attack you like this.
Erika (38:10):
Yeah, no definitely. Even if you get kidnapped, it's
always important to makeyourself human. You know, that's
not the main thing to do, so.
Edgar (38:17):
I should've talked though.
Erika (38:19):
What do you mean? Oh yeah, because you and your, you
will get yourself in trouble.
Edgar (38:24):
Me and my opinions. My mannerisms, which is, they would
have no sympathy.
Erika (38:32):
Yeah, you'll probably be dead within seconds.
Edgar (38:34):
My opinion. So the next story is, I was walking my dog
at 2AM after work. I walkedoutside the gated community and
this huge man covered in tattoosand only wearing jean shorts
walked up to me. I startedcrying cause I was scared but he
started apologizing for scaringme. Turns out he was walking his
dog off leash and wanted to warnme about walking alone in a gang
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area.
He lived in the same apartmentcommunity as I do. His wife and
him always made sure I made ithome because I was working
nights. So yeah, nice person,yeah, to meet.
Erika (39:08):
Yeah. But you know, she judged him by his appearance
because he was a huge man withtattoos, but instead he was
actually trying to, you know,protect her or warn her.
Edgar (39:17):
Exactly, I mean, yeah, she was very, very okay.
Erika (39:21):
Definitely. So next story is, I used to hitchhike on
occasion around city when I wasa teenager. Mostly things went
okay, but the last time I caughta ride I hardly even looked at
the guy driving and just got in,thinking about what I was going
to do when I got home. I toldhim to drive straight down the
street for a half mile, but thenhe made a turn to took us away
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from the street I lived on. Hewas going into an industrial
area and I realized this was notgood.
It occurred to me to findsomebody on the street, anybody,
and waved to them. They wouldsee me in the truck with this
guy, and it could come back tohaunt him if he did anything
bad. So I saw a teenager who wasprobably just a year or two
older than me, and I waved andsmiled and waved some more. I
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laughed and said, Oh no, thatwas my brother. Now he's gonna
be asking who I was with in thetruck.
The guy said, Made a changeimmediately. He looked deflated.
All his original cockiness wasgone. I told him to go down a
few more blocks and drop me off.So nothing happened except that
I never ever hitchhiked again.
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It wasn't until much later thatI realized how very lucky it had
been to get away with what Idid. Thankfully, I never saw him
again.
Edgar (40:34):
Yeah, very lucky in that regard. Also, hitchhiking, I
believe was very popular decadesand decades ago, but now you
just really can't trust anybody.Mean, even before then, you
couldn't trust them. And Iimagine a lot of the missing
people cases were due tohitchhiking. Yeah.
Erika (40:51):
It's just that we had less social media, less ways to
communicate everything. That'swhy people, a lot of people
didn't realize that hitchhikingwas actually not, you know, a
very popular thing people shoulddo. So, yeah.
Edgar (41:05):
Yeah. I mean, that was quick thinking, like lying on
the spot like that.
Erika (41:08):
Thank God there was a stranger there. Imagine that
like the whole street,everything was isolated and
there was nobody there. Shewould've been screwed.
Edgar (41:15):
Exactly. But adding more to the story, don't let your
kids use Uber.
Erika (41:20):
Oh, Uber? Yeah. Well, no, she was hitchhiking.
Edgar (41:25):
Well, that too.
Erika (41:26):
You should never hitchhike, but I mean, I feel
bad when, I mean, you couldbarely see any hitchhikers now,
but I see them randomly here andthere.
Edgar (41:35):
Yeah, we're
Erika (41:35):
But I would never, yeah, would never pick anybody up.
Unfortunately, it's we're not inthat type of world right now.
Edgar (41:43):
Yeah. And then the final story is, I went camping with a
few friends at a nationalseashore when there was nobody
around for miles. I had an oldColeman Dome tent that was all
mesh on top and used the rainfly for coverage and privacy. We
decided to leave it off due toit being a nice night. In the
morning, I was looking around atall the animal tracks like
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crabs, etc.
When I came across two largemen's footprints in the sand
right next to the tents on theback sides by the dunes. Like an
inch or two away, he must havebeen standing almost touching
the tent, looking down at usthrough the top while we slept.
We had no idea. Still freaks meout. Yeah, this could have been
either way, it could have justbeen a change of like what the
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hell?
And then they just saw it andwalked away. Or it could have
been like someone lingering Andthere for
Erika (42:33):
just watching you sleep. Like there's no reason for you
to be watching anybody sleep. Itdoesn't matter, you know, maybe
Not
Edgar (42:40):
just lovingly.
Erika (42:42):
No, like, okay, maybe if you thought they were dead or
something, you know, like if yousee people just laying in. But
still, like you should just stayaway from the situation, you
don't wanna be near people likethat, that's weird.
Edgar (42:55):
Also, you don't wanna sleep outside in public?
Erika (42:57):
No, I mean, remember when Chelsea wanted to do camping,
and I was always iffy becauseyou just never know.
Edgar (43:05):
Yeah, I just don't like the idea of being not in an air
conditioned and safe and bugfree bed.
Erika (43:13):
I just think about the safety, because it's not very
safety at all. No safe outcomes,you never know, you just take it
to chance.
Edgar (43:21):
Yeah.
Erika (43:22):
Alright, so that's all the stories we have today. Thank
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stories for us all to judge. Wemay even read a few posts in one
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Erika (43:53):
Thank you. Bye!
Yapping!
Erika (00:02):
Hello, this is Erika.
Edgar (00:04):
And Edgar.
Erika (00:04):
And we are the Yapping Snowsers. We entertain you with
the app worthy stories we findaround the web. Today's theme is
Unseen Consequences.
Edgar (00:13):
Our first story is Am I the Asshole If I Left My Husband
at the ER Overnight? I, 29female, and my husband, 31 male,
were visiting his family inanother state for a cousin's
wedding. We've been married forthree years, no kids yet. My
husband likes to drink. And atthe reception, he definitely
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overdid it.
Taking shots from his cousin,ignoring the facts, I asked him
to slow down because we had todrive back to our Airbnb. Long
story short, he ended uptripping over the curb outside
the venue while we were waitingfor our Uber and cut his
forehead pretty badly. He wassuper drunk, so he didn't feel
it, but he was also belligerent,cussing at the paramedics and
(00:56):
refusing stitches. At thehospital, he kept yelling at
nurses and trying to take offhis IV so security had to come
in. They eventually sedated himso they could clean him up.
At that point, it was already2AM and I was exhausted,
embarrassed, and honestly mad. Iasked the nurse if I could leave
since they aren't admitting himovernight for observation and
(01:19):
she said yes. I called an Uber,went back to the Airbnb,
showered, and went to bed. Hismom and sister started blowing
up my phone around 7AM callingme heartless for leaving him
alone and saying I should havestayed in case something
happened. He's fine now and justhas a bandage on his forehead
and a big hangover, buteveryone's treating me like the
(01:41):
villain.
Am I the asshole for leaving himthere overnight instead of
staying with him in thehospital?
Erika (01:47):
Yeah, I don't think she's the asshole. He completely
ignored what she said to calmdown with the drinks. And they
would have to go back to theAirbnb and he continued to
ignore her. So, the fact that hewas so drunk, he literally
couldn't stand by himself andhurt himself is just
(02:10):
unacceptable.
Edgar (02:11):
Yeah, I mean, Obi's husband, or whoever he is, did
this to himself. It's not likethe damages or what he was
hospitalized for was fatal. So,I don't really see the side of
the family who say, Oh, heshould have stayed. What if
something happened? I think hewas fine on his own.
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He's a good, epic guy and hecould take care of himself. If
this was something more serious,like he had some sort of
terminal illness, maybe he itmakes sense for her to want to
stay there overnight. If it'ssomething like, oh, he's just
hungover, has like a concussionor some sort of cut, that's
something that's livable. As Andsomeone who's slept over a
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hospital, it's not really themost comfortable place. So I
wouldn't want to be there if Ididn't have to, which is what OP
indecided in this case.
Erika (03:03):
I mean, yeah, she had to deal with him and the
embarrassment she had to gothrough seeing how he treated
all the staff and the medicalstaff actually. And then on top
of that, she was exhausted, so Iwouldn't blame her for leaving
at all.
Edgar (03:17):
I know.
Erika (03:19):
And then the top comment really is just how did they find
out? Did he call them playingthe victim, not the asshole?
Edgar (03:26):
I know, exactly. He probably woke up in a daze and
he's like, Oh my gosh, where amI? And then he told him to run
down. Probably he had the shockof not having your wife next to
you during those moments, likehow you got to him. But I mean,
what did he expect from justdumb?
Erika (03:41):
He completely As a grown adult. Exactly, he messed up. I
mean, right now he has no kids,no responsibility I guess. I
mean, if he acts like this, whatmakes you think that he'll stop
once he has kids? You know whatmean?
I feel like people that are likethis, especially as adult, like
you're at 31, you're not a kidanymore. You should know your
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limits. You should know when tostop. And if you decide to have
kids with him, I don't know ifhe'll stop. So you really have
to think about it.
Edgar (04:10):
Yeah, good point. I mean, he probably didn't want someone
to be there with him, but also,like he's in a different like
state, they have like an Airbnband all that stuff and it's just
like, I don't know, I don't seehow he expects for his wife to
be like there in that exactmoment.
Erika (04:30):
Yeah, mean, don't condemn having fun and drinking.
Edgar (04:35):
I do.
Erika (04:36):
They're so funny.
Edgar (04:37):
No fun.
Erika (04:37):
Yeah, no. I think it's having a good time, but it
doesn't mean getting overlydrunk and forgetting where you
are or not able to stand up.It's not necessary. You don't
need to get that drunk to havefun.
Edgar (04:53):
I know. We don't know the psyche of this guy, I mean, to
get blackout drunk when you havesomeone that you're with who has
to take care of you, feel likeit speaks to a lack of care
about who had to be with Funkbefore.
Erika (05:11):
Yeah, and he should be the one taking care of her, not
the other way around. So, Imean, if you want to continue
taking care of him for the restof your life OP, I would say
break up with him.
Edgar (05:24):
Yeah. So you think this is a break up worthy?
Erika (05:26):
Yeah, it's so inexcusable. There's no reason
to be 31 and doing that.
Edgar (05:33):
Don't think so? I think it kind of depends how much you
like the person. But I mean,also, Oprah not being with his
husband's side when he's at thehospital overnight, it does kind
of say something about her aswell. Not that she's a bad
person, but that she doesn'tcare about him that much.
Erika (05:53):
I don't think so.
Edgar (05:54):
That or she's like a little bit too logical, it's
like, Oh, he's going be finetoo, I don't have to be there.
Erika (05:59):
I feel like it's just for him to learn his lesson, that
this was not acceptable for himto be doing this and she wanted
him to learn a lesson that she'snot gonna be tolerating this if
he continues. I think that'swhat it was. Think she didn't
care because if she didn't care,she wouldn't have taken him to
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the hospital, she wouldn't havestayed with him with all the
drama when he was making allthat fuzz. She stayed with him
when she knew that he was okayand that he was sedated.
Edgar (06:30):
So
Erika (06:32):
he should be fine.
Edgar (06:34):
Yeah, yeah, yeah. And then do you feel like the
parents are justified at all?Like from how they're acting at
the situation?
Erika (06:41):
No, they should out of the relationship. They should
butt out of the relationshipbecause it's their situation
right now. Just because shewasn't there overnight doesn't
mean that she doesn't care. Shejust wanted him to teach him a
lesson.
Edgar (06:55):
Yeah, among other things. But I mean, they are painting
her currently as the bad guy, soI imagine it's like a mixture of
just their beliefs of like, oh,you should be there by your
partner's side no matter what.But maybe also OP's husband
probably says something to makethe situation worse.
Erika (07:16):
Yeah, I mean, I don't think so. Just wouldn't tolerate
that behavior. I would not behappy with my husband. And if
they want to pamper him or makeit okay for him to continue
doing that, then that's on them,but that would not be me. It's
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just inexcusable.
Edgar (07:39):
So final verdict?
Erika (07:40):
I would say she's not the asshole. She did what she had to
do and hopefully he learned hislesson and never do that again.
She really has to think aboutit. If he does this one more
time, then I would say OP, countyour blessings and leave that
man. I mean, you don't want tobe with someone that you have to
take care of them all the restof your life like this.
It's exhausting. And it seemslike he has some type of
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aggression too. He treated themedical staff if he's overly
drunk and stuff like that. Youdon't know. Maybe it'll be her
next.
Edgar (08:16):
Yeah, agreed.
Erika (08:19):
All right, so the next story is My Entire Life Was a
Lie and I'm Going to Confront MyMother. I'm 26 now. Growing up,
I was always told my fatherabandoned me when I was five. My
mother said he wanted nothing todo with me, that he was drunk, a
bum, and that he never paid acent in my child support. Well,
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twenty one years later, Ifinally reached out to him.
Turns out, he did try to contactmy mom a few times, but could
never get through. And thebiggest shock? He actually paid
child support until I turned 18.I even verified it myself with
local child support office. Theyconfirmed he paid the entire
time.
That adds up to $60,000 that Inever saw. Meanwhile, I spent my
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childhood couch surfing with mymother while she bounced from
guy to guy for support. Shenever had a job. I paid the
bills, took care of myself, andlooked after my younger brother
too. There's so much more Icould say, but I'm honestly
overwhelmed.
I'm confronting her tomorrow,and I don't even know where to
start. I feel like half of mylife has been stolen from me,
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and I'm stuck with so many whatifs. If anyone's been through
something like this or has anyadvice, I really appreciate it.
And there's a little smallupdate. It says, I'm not worried
about getting any money.
I'm more upset that she got someeach month and never used it on
me. Plus, he was active inpaying it for thirteen years and
my mother told me that hedidn't.
Edgar (09:51):
Yeah, so obviously the mother is at a big fault with
this because it seems like shewas never responsible or even a
good mother during this periodof time. Like just couch
serving, having her childrenkind of experience and just be
there when she's just going fromguy to guy. Just get that, had
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that kind of exposure that Iimagine is damaging for both
children and psyches. And thenfinally, your original dad was a
deadbeat when he wasn't. I don'tknow what he's doing now, but
was trying to at least supportthem financially when most
people don't even care or eventry like that.
I can see how OP is so messed upabout the situation.
Erika (10:36):
Yeah, definitely. And the fact that he tried to contact
her and he was denied. So it'snot that he didn't want a
relationship with her, it's justthat her mother didn't allow it.
And it's so frustrating becausemeanwhile she had to take care
of herself and her sibling whenshe just continued to sleep or
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whatever, be with other men.It's, ugh.
Like I always say, some peopleshould never be parents.
Edgar (11:03):
And then those people usually have like 10 to 20
children.
Erika (11:06):
I know, it's insane.
Edgar (11:07):
That's crazy to me. But also, it just doesn't really
make sense why, like from myperspective it just makes sense
why the mother would forbid thefather from wanting to at least
contact the children other thanjust she just doesn't like him
that much, enough to be at adetriment of her children?
Erika (11:29):
I feel like if you really look into it, my guess is that
she didn't want her childrenhaving contact with him because
they would probably tell himthat she's being with another
guy and another guy and thatthey didn't feel comfortable in
that home so he would wanna getfull custody and then all that
money he was giving will be nonexistent. So she didn't want the
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child support to stop that hewas giving for thirteen years.
So she wanted to cut thatsupport but keep the money.
Edgar (11:59):
Yeah, I mean that makes sense actually.
Erika (12:02):
Unfortunately, That's my guess. Yeah. Was, like I said,
she didn't have a job. The poordaughter had to pay the bills on
top of the money that sheapparently wasn't receiving. So
she's just such a liar.
Terrible mother. So the topcomment is, Dude, I just feel
bad. I don't know what to say.But you were strong throughout
and I know you will be stronggoing forward. So, I mean, it's
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just, it's so, that type ofchildhood where it's difficult
for you to really go through orrise above.
You need a lot of, I would saytherapy, but a lot of people
don't choose that option, but alot of inner strength to go
through something like that andbe a better version of yourself
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and not be like your mom.
Edgar (12:51):
Yeah. I mean, definitely it's like an inner strength
thing. I think the one goodthing that came out of this is
that she has the grit andtenacity to just like just
basically survive no matterwhat. Yeah. And it can only,
like for her, life can onlyreally go up unless she messes
up as bad as her mother did.
Erika (13:10):
Yeah, I mean she, depending, well, it doesn't
matter what card she was dealt,she still did the best she
could.
Edgar (13:18):
Yeah. Do you think this is like breakup poetry between
OP and her mother'srelationship?
Erika (13:26):
I mean, she will always be her mother. Now, if she wants
to have a deep relationship,it's up to her. You know,
there's always, you could alwayshave a relationship with people
that have hurt you. However, youhave the option to put a
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restriction or have, you know,okay, that's too much for me
then. This is how far ourrelationship goes.
And that's it, an invisible linewith her mom because, I mean, if
she was toxic then, I don'tthink Just stop now, yeah.
Edgar (14:01):
I wonder how she'll react to mother when she finds out
that OP knows the whole truth.
Erika (14:05):
I feel like she's gonna lie. I feel like she's gonna be
like, No, that's a lie. And thenshe's gonna show the proof and
still she will lie, saying thatthat's not true. She'll die on
the hill.
Edgar (14:16):
The most likely outcome. So if Opie was on the movie with
us now, what would you tell her,like as parting words slash what
is our final verdict?
Erika (14:25):
I would say, OP, you can always try to confront her, but
regardless of what happened inthe past, you can still continue
doing your best. Of course,those years you will never get
back, but you are who you aretoday for the hardships you
faced and that you can justcontinue being resilient. Don't
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let this stop you and yourchoice to have that relationship
with your mom is up to you.
Edgar (14:54):
And I just say forgive but never forget.
Erika (14:57):
I don't actually I had somebody tell me that the other
day, but honestly it reallyhurts you. Because if you don't,
you forgive, but you don'tforget, you're always gonna have
that in the back of your mindand it's gonna hurt you. It's
not gonna hurt the other person.So it's more beneficial for you
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to forget and forgive. So you,that person hurt you, all right?
And then forget about it.Because, I'm not saying because
you forgot, you're gonna letthat person hurt you again, but
you want your inner peace andyou want to not have that in the
back of your head or reminderwhat that person did. So just
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let it go completely becausethat way your inner self is
gonna be rid of that. And ifthat person wants to hold that
against you, then so be it. Butfor you, you're a clean slate
and you're done.
Edgar (15:54):
I would disagree because imagine I get hit by a car, I'm
gonna forgive the car, but I'mnot gonna forget how hard that
hurts. And I'm going alwaysremember that and I'm going to
take that with me. It's notgoing to be a huge weight on me,
but
Erika (16:11):
Yes, it is, because you're never going to forget it.
Edgar (16:13):
Yeah. I'm going to never forget it so I can always avoid
it. That's like a part of mypattern recognition I added to
the database that is my mind.
Erika (16:22):
That doesn't mean that you're going to allow that
person to hurt you again justbecause you're going to forget
it. You're just not going to letthat affect you because that
takes a lot of work for you toforgive and forget.
Edgar (16:33):
Not really.
Erika (16:34):
Yes, does. I'm built different. So you say, but
Edgar (16:39):
It's like a single neuron in my head to do all that
processing?
Erika (16:46):
It's not just processing intellectually, it's also
emotional.
Edgar (16:50):
So
Erika (16:51):
you just don't work about it intellectually but you also
have to work it with youremotions, which a lot of people
don't have that.
Edgar (17:00):
Yeah.
Erika (17:01):
So it's really a lot of inner work there. You can't just
be like, Oh yeah, I'm gonnaforgive but I'm never gonna
forget. It's just, you're alwaysgonna hold onto that. You're
never gonna let it go regardlessof what you're saying. It's
always gonna be there.
And if you wanna continuecarrying that on your back and
on your memory and on yourheart, then it's not gonna go
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anywhere. It's gonna continuehurting you. So that's the way I
see it.
Edgar (17:26):
So
Erika (17:28):
what's the final verdict?
Edgar (17:30):
I mean, final verdict on the story as a whole, I would
say just to keep moving forwardthen, as well as forgive and
forget.
Erika (17:41):
I would say and forget. You just want to be happy.
Edgar (17:46):
Okay. The next story is titled Am I the Asshole for
Pulling My Daughter from SoccerCamp and Telling Her That She
Can't See Her Ghetto FriendsAnymore. So, my daughter is in
soccer camp twice a week sincethe beginning of summer. She is
15. She has made two new friendsand I do not like them.
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They have been over my houseonce and they were rude, loud,
and obnoxious. So the typicalteen. They made a mess of the
house, gave me attitude when Iasked them to quiet down, one
rolled her eyes and startedarguing with me, and they were
blasting music and money wentmissing. OMG. That's crazy.
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Yes, and her evidence for hermoney going missing was that she
said I had $40 on the counterand it disappeared. So I'm not
their biggest fans of them andafter that I didn't allow them
to hang out at our house. Mydaughter was not a fan of this
but still saw them at soccercamp. The soccer camp is next to
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a plaza and they allow the kidsto get food from their fast food
places. I got a call from thecoach that my daughter and her
two friends caused issues atArby's.
Bro, Arby's of all places? Isn'tthat fitting well to this friend
group? Yeah, she recorded it onher phone. Her two friends were
heckling the fat food workersand left after causing a mess,
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dumped the drinks all over theground, and flipped off the
worker. My daughter wasrecording this and laughing
along.
To be honest, I found itdisgusting. I informed her that
she was being pulled out ofsoccer camp because she can't
behave by herself and that shewon't be seeing those friends
anymore. She was very unhappyand started an argument. She
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told me I don't like thembecause they are ghetto and I
told her, Yep, she is correct.They are too ghetto, too loud,
too rude, too respectful, toomany 'toos' and I am not am not
allowing her near them.
She hasn't talked to me since,and I shared this with my
sisters. And she basically toldme, I forgot my roots and to let
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her see the friends.
Erika (19:55):
Girl, please.
Edgar (19:56):
Bro, you gotta take out those roots. You gotta get weed
whacker. There is one more editfor this. For more context, I
grew up in a horribleneighborhood and yeah, that kind
of behavior was common where Igrew up. Yes, I do find that
behavior ghetto as hell.
Also, I am black. My daughter ismixed. She thinks it is super
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ghetto. You're the asshole?
Erika (20:21):
No, girl, you're parenting. You're doing the
right thing. Even if you grew upin that type of environment
doesn't mean that you want yourdaughter to be in that type of
environment or have friends likethat. So the sister telling her
to don't forget your roots
Edgar (20:39):
Yeah, has no some roots should be forgotten.
Erika (20:43):
Exactly. So, no. I would say you're doing the right
thing, you're not the asshole,you're parenting.
Edgar (20:52):
Exactly. And it's so easy to have your kids be in the
wrong friend group and thenstuff like this happens. And
right now it's just in Arby's,but maybe in the future it's
like a bank.
Erika (21:03):
Or shoplifting or fights or drugs or whatever it is.
Can't just let her hang out withanybody she wants because
friends actually do shape you.Friends either can make you
better or can really take you ina wrong turn.
Edgar (21:21):
Yeah. So, I remember hearing this quote where it's
like, You are the sum of thefive people you most hang out
with. So, for me, it's me and myfive mirrors. I think I'm
fitting up pretty well,actually.
Erika (21:34):
I can't. I thought you were gonna say me and other
people? You're such something.
Edgar (21:48):
You really got me on
Erika (21:50):
that one. That is hilarious.
Edgar (21:51):
Why would I lie?
Erika (21:55):
Oh my gosh.
Edgar (21:58):
Oh yeah, exactly in this case. Currently, she's like, if
OP's daughter kept Sattas, it'snot gonna shape her out to be a
better person. It'll bedetrimental with her character
and honestly her future.
Erika (22:13):
Sorry, that was too funny. So the tough comment is,
not the asshole. You're doingwhat is called parenting. It's
what you're supposed to do. Ifyour daughter cannot control
herself around these girls, thenshe shouldn't be hanging out
with them.
Keep up the good job.
Edgar (22:32):
Yeah, agreed. I mean, currently the daughter is
probably not appreciating thisat all, but
Erika (22:37):
Of course not. She's probably pissed.
Edgar (22:39):
Pissed as hell. But hopefully in the future she
learns that this will, like,refer to better.
Erika (22:46):
Yeah.
Edgar (22:46):
Yeah. She'll probably see these, like, these chicks that
she's hanging out with, like, inten, twenty years, maybe, like,
with multiple, like, babies fromdifferent fathers or
Erika (22:55):
Jail.
Edgar (22:55):
Jail or even dead. And she'd be like, yeah,
Erika (22:58):
Okay, definitely.
Edgar (23:00):
Good thing my mom told me not to hang out with them
anymore.
Erika (23:04):
Yeah, I mean, she's not doing the wrong thing at all.
This just needs a wake up call.Maybe because it's not her
daughter, she doesn't see it,But you definitely not, I don't
think she's an asshole. She'sdoing the best she can and
that's it. I think she did good.
Edgar (23:22):
But even if it isn't your daughter, like as a nephew or
niece, you want them to besteered toward the correct
direction. And the sisters useit as like, Oh, this is just our
culture. Like, no, the cultureis bad then.
Erika (23:34):
Yeah, mean, you
Edgar (23:35):
don't want them to be going because these people are
just hoodlums. And you don'twant your family, or you don't
want people that you actuallycare about to go down that route
and just get in trouble. Becausethat worsens their life and also
worsens the family's lifebecause then that one hurt them
is a burden to the rest of them.
Erika (23:56):
Yeah, I mean, you just have to really think it through.
One, this could be just, likeyou mentioned earlier, a small
mistake but it can grow bigger.And it's better to cut it right
now than have more direconsequences in the future.
Edgar (24:11):
Exactly. Final verdict?
Erika (24:15):
I'm not the asshole, mama. You're doing the right
thing.
Edgar (24:18):
Mia agreed.
Erika (24:20):
Alright, so the next story is, Am I the asshole for
taking back my tip after thewaitress humiliated me in front
of everyone. Alright, thisoccurred a few minutes ago and I
just can't believe it happenedthe way that it did. My partner,
29 female, and I, 32 male, dinedout at this Italian restaurant.
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We've been to several times.It's not highly sophisticated,
but pleasant enough that you getto sit down, order wine, and
have a relaxed evening.
Our server, let's name herSamantha, was kind of faced
throughout. She lost my drinktwice, served the wrong starter,
and vanished for what seemedlike an eternity when it arrived
time to order dessert. It wasn'tthe end of the world. I worked
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customer service myself and Iget the hectic nights go wild.
However, service was reallypoor.
When the check came, I paid andleft a 10% cash tip. Not
excessive, but not nothingeither. I thought it was
reasonable given thecircumstances. We were just
standing up to leave whenSamantha came over, took the
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cash and said, Seriously? Thisis it?
She had said it adamantly. A fewpeople at some nearby tables
turned around and stared. I wastaken aback. I didn't even know
what's safe first. Then sheadded, You know servers can't
pay their rent because peoplelike you.
If you can't tip properly, don'tdine out. The restaurant became
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totally silent. Like a sitcomsilence, my girlfriend was
wincing. I just remained calmand said, Okay, sorry you feel
that way, and started to leave.Then, no kidding, she murdered
whatever cheapskates, but loudlyenough that it was not only for
us.
So I went back over, walked overthe table, took the tip, and
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left without another word. Mygirlfriend later informed me
that I did fine with it, but oneof my friends feels like I had
overstepped by insisting ongetting the tip back, that no
matter what, you just leave itand move on. I felt like to be
scolded and humiliated onaccount of a 10% tip, I actually
did leave is away out of bounds.So Reddit, am I the asshole for
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retrieving the tip after sheyelled at us in front of
everyone in the restaurant?
Edgar (26:36):
Not at all. That chick deserved several percent. Yeah,
she actually deserved to havepaid them for her services. So
yeah, she's just, you know,alone and basically greedy for
terrible service.
Erika (26:49):
Yeah, I mean, when we go out we always tip good. I just
think sometimes when serversliterally ignore us, don't even
ask for anything if we needanything, we would have to like
look for them, get help fromother servers. You know, that's
just negligence. I mean, ifyou're trying to do a good job
and get a good tip, gotta dogood service. I mean, I
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understand that there's a lot ofpeople or if it's full, I get
it.
But you get what you give and ifyou're not doing good with your
servings, well with serving,then you can't expect a great
tip.
Edgar (27:27):
Exactly. Latest chick gave the bare minimum and wanted
to get paid like $20.40 dollarslike a few seconds of work. So I
think yeah, server is very likejust, yeah, I wouldn't like her
at all. And for her to say that,I feel like they should fire
her.
Erika (27:43):
I would've done what he'd done. Actually, know what, I
would have not taken the tipback. I would just
Edgar (27:49):
I would've taken the tip and then would've said something
to the manager probably.
Erika (27:53):
I would have said something It's to the
Edgar (27:54):
very inappropriate.
Erika (27:56):
Yeah, I wouldn't have taken a tip, I would have said
something to the manager.
Edgar (27:59):
Yeah, because right now OP is definitely not coming back
to the restaurant, but worstcase as well, everyone else who
heard the altercation wouldn'twant to come back either. So
this employee, this waitress isa liability for that restaurant.
Erika (28:17):
Yeah, and OP could have gone to all the restaurants
commenting and saying this wouldhappen with the server and I
felt completely unfair. Couldjust, with something like that,
it could go big. A lot of peopleread, for example for us, when
we go to a new restaurant, wealways read the comments or we
always see the stars and wealways see, is this a good place
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to eat, relaxing or whatever,good service. If I see comments
like that, I'd be like, maybe weshouldn't go eat somewhere else.
You know what mean?
Edgar (28:48):
I mean, it really depends, but yeah, we have
reviews for a lot ofrestaurants. The owners and
whoever manages it tends to wantto have it as high as possible.
And they try to do right when itis low or when there's a one
star or two star review. Itreally affects them because
Erika (29:09):
A lot of people don't comment either. You see like
five comments and you have onereview, like it literally ticks
out a lot.
Edgar (29:15):
I know, yeah. It really kinks it.
Erika (29:18):
So the top comment is not the asshole. She expected and
then demanded a good tip for acrappy job. You were nice enough
to leave her something but shewanted to be ungrateful. And I
mean, I don't know, is tippingrequired here?
Edgar (29:34):
No, you don't have to tip.
Erika (29:36):
I feel like depending on the restaurant too, they already
take it out in their service.
Edgar (29:40):
Yeah, some of the restaurants we've been to, they
automatically take 20% tip,which is, I I always thought 20%
tip was way too large, but nowit's the standard. Because
growing up I definitely rememberit being 15%, because I used to
calculate it all the time for myfamily.
Erika (29:54):
That was
Edgar (29:55):
just a simple math trick.
Erika (29:57):
Yeah, I definitely think that too. But I mean, the living
cost now, it's insane, so I getit why it went to 20%.
Edgar (30:06):
Yeah, you can also get a real job.
Erika (30:09):
Well a lot of people have, when they do serving,
that's not the only job. A lotof people have three jobs or two
jobs or have the serving job asa side job. So it's not, you
know?
Edgar (30:19):
Yeah, just excuse the background noise if you can hear
it. I might have filtered itout, but yeah, it's raining.
Erika (30:24):
It's gonna be thundering too.
Edgar (30:27):
It's going be ambient, guys. At least when it's GERD
service and you have the fundsand means to do it, I do like
tipping our servers. We have afew people we always tip a lot
because we're not best friends,but when we go there that's a
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good experience and they make
Erika (30:50):
And it welcoming for they know us or they'll be like, How
you doing? It's good to see you.And it's just you have really
good people that know how to docustomer service that deserve
that tip.
Edgar (31:01):
Yeah, yeah, exactly. I wouldn't mind giving them 25%
tip.
Erika (31:04):
Exactly. So yeah, what's the final verdict?
Edgar (31:09):
Yeah, final verdict, OP was not in the wrong. This is
negative levels of customerservice, wages was of nothing
Yeah. At
Erika (31:23):
I mean, I wonder what restaurant it was, but I
honestly think that he was notin the wrong there was no need
to humiliate your customer,especially if you did a crappy
job. Like, come on.
Edgar (31:34):
Exactly. You're just telling yourself. So our next
story is I went to the wrongchenro and I stayed. And now her
grandma sends me birthday cards.I was in a new city.
On weekend I got a text from anumber I didn't recognize. Hey,
the service is at three. Wearsomething dark. She hated bright
colors. I know you didn't knowher well, but it would mean a
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lot if you came.
And I stared at it and I wasn'tsure who it was meant for, but
it felt urgent. Like maybe theyreally needed someone there and
I had nothing else to do. So Iwent. I pulled up to the church
a few minutes early, sat in theback, no one questioned me, and
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I figured maybe it was a distantcoworker or a college friend. I
kept waiting for someone to say,Wait, who are you?
But they didn't. The woman whohad passed her name was Marion,
had the kindest smile I've everseen. I learned about her love
for jazz, her cat name Newton,and how she never let anyone
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leave her house without taking acookie. And I sat through every
eulogy like I'd known herforever. Afterwards, during a
gathering her grandma approachedme.
You were her friend from ourclass, weren't you? She asked.
And I froze. No, think I got thewrong text. She laughed.
I actually laughed. So you'rejust here? For a stranger? I
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nodded. Didn't want her to havean empty room.
And she grabbed my hand andsaid, Then you are exactly the
kind of person she would haveliked. And we sat together for
hours, talking about Marion,about grief, about weird
coincidences. And before I left,her grandma gave me a small
velvet pouch. Take this, shesaid. Mary Anne would have
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insisted you didn't leave emptyhanded.
Well, it should have been acookie. Oh, inside it was a
single sugar cookie shaped likea heart. A year later, her
grandmother still sends me abirthday card. Always with a
cookie recipe inside. And I sendher a handwritten thank you
every time.
I don't know why I went thatday, but I'm glad I did.
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Sometimes the wrong funeral isexactly where you're meant to
be. Am I the asshole?
Erika (33:53):
No, it's not! Give me something else. It is not Am I
the asshole story. It's just oneof the stories.
Edgar (34:03):
Yeah. I guess you wanted to end this section of our show
on a good note. But, yeah, Ithink it's a cute story.
Erika (34:08):
It is.
Edgar (34:09):
I wonder who sent the heck so.
Erika (34:11):
It was I think it was her, the grandmama. Yeah. But
she thought it was one of herfriends and probably got the
phone number wrong.
Edgar (34:18):
Oh, I see, I see.
Erika (34:20):
But that's so sweet. The fact that she stayed there and
listened to every single eulogyis amazing. And the little
recipe and the cookie was soheartwarming. Yeah, so I think
OP is an amazing human being.That's what pretty much the top
comment is.
Edgar (34:37):
The final verdict on this?
Erika (34:40):
I think she's a human being and people should be like
this more often.
Edgar (34:46):
Yeah, agreed. For our final section, we're gonna be
going rapid fire throughmultiple mini stories and we're
just going to read it and thengive our quick opinions and then
go to the next one. So all thesestories center around the thread
titled What's the mostterrifying, unexplainable
encounter you've had with astranger that still haunts you?
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The first story is my first timein Mexico City, I didn't realize
what a bad neighborhood my hotelwas in. I had just stepped out
of the hotel and three mennoticed me and started walking
right over to me really fast andsurrounded me on three sides.
I literally jumped into whatturned out to be a tiny
bookstore because I sensed I wasabout to get grabbed. The only
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people working in there were twoyoung girls, maybe eight and
nine. One of the guys followedme and stayed right next to me
blocking my exit. And then, asof by magic, I hadn't even
noticed in the back of the storeopened an adult male, probably
the girl's dads, emerged. Theman left the store and after
lingering a few more minutes andbuying some books out of
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gratitude for him, probablysaving my life, I went back to
the hotel.
Erika (36:00):
That was a close one, right?
Edgar (36:01):
Exactly, yeah. I like how she had to have, she or he had
to have three big guyssurrounding her or him in order
for them to be like, oh, I'm indanger.
Erika (36:12):
Yeah, mean like, you just never know. Mean, they came out
of nowhere. It's not like sheplanned it. But she had good
thinking and went into abookstore.
Edgar (36:23):
Yeah. And it's like pretty lucky that the store
owner was there when he was.
Erika (36:28):
I think when she said that he wasn't there, he only
saw two girls, maybe he had acamera, he watches his girls,
and he saw that there was thisrandom guy there.
Edgar (36:37):
Exactly. I yeah, I know it's not their fault, but they
went to a bookstore and it hadjust two children there. He put
their lives on danger too.
Erika (36:46):
Yeah, I'm sure he didn't go far. Maybe he could just step
down and use a bath orsomething, but you never know.
So, I'm glad he just came back
Edgar (36:51):
in No, no. I yeah. I mean, like, OP.
Erika (36:57):
Oh, yes. Yeah, she was definitely lucky. She was able
to go in there. I mean,definitely always follows your
instinct and your gut feeling.
Edgar (37:07):
Alright,
Erika (37:08):
so the next story is, Walking home late one night in a
large town, not a soul was out,no cars either, a hurt feet
running from directly behind me,quickly and quietly. My
instincts took over and I turnedaround and talked to the guy as
if I knew him. I giggled andtold him he scared the shit out
of me. I think I caught him offguard because he stopped running
(37:30):
and looked confused. He startedchatting with me, obviously was
on drugs, and told me he was acarny in town for an affair.
I bummed a cigarette off of meand left. Pretty sure he had
something unpleasant planned forme but surprised him with my
lack of fear.
Edgar (37:47):
Yeah, that's like a good survival technique. I heard that
like when you feel like a badvibe from somebody, and they're
coming your way, usually givingthem direct eye contact kind of
humanizes you to them so thenthey just get intimidated or
they just look for someone else.Because they're hoping you don't
notice them. That they cansurprise attack you like this.
Erika (38:10):
Yeah, no definitely. Even if you get kidnapped, it's
always important to makeyourself human. You know, that's
not the main thing to do, so.
Edgar (38:17):
I should've talked though.
Erika (38:19):
What do you mean? Oh yeah, because you and your, you
will get yourself in trouble.
Edgar (38:24):
Me and my opinions. My mannerisms, which is, they would
have no sympathy.
Erika (38:32):
Yeah, you'll probably be dead within seconds.
Edgar (38:34):
My opinion. So the next story is, I was walking my dog
at 2AM after work. I walkedoutside the gated community and
this huge man covered in tattoosand only wearing jean shorts
walked up to me. I startedcrying cause I was scared but he
started apologizing for scaringme. Turns out he was walking his
dog off leash and wanted to warnme about walking alone in a gang
(38:57):
area.
He lived in the same apartmentcommunity as I do. His wife and
him always made sure I made ithome because I was working
nights. So yeah, nice person,yeah, to meet.
Erika (39:08):
Yeah. But you know, she judged him by his appearance
because he was a huge man withtattoos, but instead he was
actually trying to, you know,protect her or warn her.
Edgar (39:17):
Exactly, I mean, yeah, she was very, very okay.
Erika (39:21):
Definitely. So next story is, I used to hitchhike on
occasion around city when I wasa teenager. Mostly things went
okay, but the last time I caughta ride I hardly even looked at
the guy driving and just got in,thinking about what I was going
to do when I got home. I toldhim to drive straight down the
street for a half mile, but thenhe made a turn to took us away
(39:41):
from the street I lived on. Hewas going into an industrial
area and I realized this was notgood.
It occurred to me to findsomebody on the street, anybody,
and waved to them. They wouldsee me in the truck with this
guy, and it could come back tohaunt him if he did anything
bad. So I saw a teenager who wasprobably just a year or two
older than me, and I waved andsmiled and waved some more. I
(40:05):
laughed and said, Oh no, thatwas my brother. Now he's gonna
be asking who I was with in thetruck.
The guy said, Made a changeimmediately. He looked deflated.
All his original cockiness wasgone. I told him to go down a
few more blocks and drop me off.So nothing happened except that
I never ever hitchhiked again.
(40:25):
It wasn't until much later thatI realized how very lucky it had
been to get away with what Idid. Thankfully, I never saw him
again.
Edgar (40:34):
Yeah, very lucky in that regard. Also, hitchhiking, I
believe was very popular decadesand decades ago, but now you
just really can't trust anybody.Mean, even before then, you
couldn't trust them. And Iimagine a lot of the missing
people cases were due tohitchhiking. Yeah.
Erika (40:51):
It's just that we had less social media, less ways to
communicate everything. That'swhy people, a lot of people
didn't realize that hitchhikingwas actually not, you know, a
very popular thing people shoulddo. So, yeah.
Edgar (41:05):
Yeah. I mean, that was quick thinking, like lying on
the spot like that.
Erika (41:08):
Thank God there was a stranger there. Imagine that
like the whole street,everything was isolated and
there was nobody there. Shewould've been screwed.
Edgar (41:15):
Exactly. But adding more to the story, don't let your
kids use Uber.
Erika (41:20):
Oh, Uber? Yeah. Well, no, she was hitchhiking.
Edgar (41:25):
Well, that too.
Erika (41:26):
You should never hitchhike, but I mean, I feel
bad when, I mean, you couldbarely see any hitchhikers now,
but I see them randomly here andthere.
Edgar (41:35):
Yeah, we're
Erika (41:35):
But I would never, yeah, would never pick anybody up.
Unfortunately, it's we're not inthat type of world right now.
Edgar (41:43):
Yeah. And then the final story is, I went camping with a
few friends at a nationalseashore when there was nobody
around for miles. I had an oldColeman Dome tent that was all
mesh on top and used the rainfly for coverage and privacy. We
decided to leave it off due toit being a nice night. In the
morning, I was looking around atall the animal tracks like
(42:05):
crabs, etc.
When I came across two largemen's footprints in the sand
right next to the tents on theback sides by the dunes. Like an
inch or two away, he must havebeen standing almost touching
the tent, looking down at usthrough the top while we slept.
We had no idea. Still freaks meout. Yeah, this could have been
either way, it could have justbeen a change of like what the
(42:27):
hell?
And then they just saw it andwalked away. Or it could have
been like someone lingering Andthere for
Erika (42:33):
just watching you sleep. Like there's no reason for you
to be watching anybody sleep. Itdoesn't matter, you know, maybe
Not
Edgar (42:40):
just lovingly.
Erika (42:42):
No, like, okay, maybe if you thought they were dead or
something, you know, like if yousee people just laying in. But
still, like you should just stayaway from the situation, you
don't wanna be near people likethat, that's weird.
Edgar (42:55):
Also, you don't wanna sleep outside in public?
Erika (42:57):
No, I mean, remember when Chelsea wanted to do camping,
and I was always iffy becauseyou just never know.
Edgar (43:05):
Yeah, I just don't like the idea of being not in an air
conditioned and safe and bugfree bed.
Erika (43:13):
I just think about the safety, because it's not very
safety at all. No safe outcomes,you never know, you just take it
to chance.
Edgar (43:21):
Yeah.
Erika (43:22):
Alright, so that's all the stories we have today. Thank
you for tuning in to this week'sepisode. Check out our website,
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Edgar (43:38):
Also, we have a Facebook group called AITA Relationship
and Family Drama linked in thedescription. Join us so you can
share and might ask for a postyou like or share your own
stories for us all to judge. Wemay even read a few posts in one
of our episodes.
Erika (43:53):
Thank you. Bye!
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