July 16, 2025 • 31 mins
This week on Yapping Schnauzers, it's a showdown between self-awareness and straight-up dysfunction. We unpack Reddit stories where small acts of emotional intelligence - like walking away or setting boundaries- clash with deeply chaotic energy. A woman booby-traps her concealer for her freeloading aunt. A daughter lets her family fail an escape room out of quiet defiance. A spoiler-loving regular gets a taste of his own medicine. And someone accidentally becomes the leader of a morning running club.
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Links to threads read:
- My aunt keeps borrowing my makeup, so I let her borrow the wrong one
- AITA for telling my parents that their transportation wasn't my problem after they gave my car to my brother?
- I accidentally started an early morning running club
- A regular kept spoiling a show I was watching
- AITA for letting a family fail an escape room on purpose?
- Overheard in department store dressing room
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Intro (00:00):
Yapping!
Erika (00:02):
Hello, this is Erika.
Edgar (00:04):
And Edgar.
Erika (00:05):
And we are the Yapping Snowsers. We entertain you with
the outworthy stories we findaround the web. Today's theme is
emotional intelligence versusemotional damage. The first
story is my aunt kept borrowingmy makeup so I let her borrow
the wrong one. My aunt's beenstaying with us for a few weeks
while her place was gettingfumigated.
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She was supposed to be here justfor a weekend but you know how
that goes. Somehow it turnedinto her moving into our guest
room and treating the wholehouse like her personal shopping
mall. She's been helping herselfto my clothes, my snacks, and
most annoyingly, my makeup. Itold her nicely, more than once,
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please stop using my makeup.That stuff isn't cheap and you
don't even ask.
She'd just laugh and say, ohcome on, you have so much, you
won't even notice. Well, Inoticed. Every time. So one day
I switched out the label to anold concealer tube with one that
matched my current shade. Theold one was too light,
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borderline ghostly.
I left it sitting on top of myvanity like bait. Sure enough, I
heard her in the bathroom laterthat day, humming while doing
her face. Didn't say a word.Next week she shows up at a
family dinner wearing full glamand her under eyes are blinding,
like glow in the dark white. Inevery picture, she looked like a
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raccoon in reverse.
That's kind of funny. I canimagine the pictures. And she
pulled me aside and asked, Didyou change something in your
makeup? Mine looked weird. Ijust bounced said, Oh, maybe it
was in your shade after all, butI'm sure you won't even notice.
She stared at me for a secondlike she was trying to figure
out if I was messing with her.Then she huffed, murdered
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something on her breath aboutpeople being sneaky and stomped
off to her room. She still stayswith us now and then, but funny
enough, she hasn't touched asingle thing of mine again.
Edgar (02:04):
That's crazy, taking the snacks. That's where I mark my
Erika (02:09):
You do the vines? Of course you would care with the
snacks because you're a bigfoodie. But
Edgar (02:18):
overall, yeah, at least ask. That's the minimum you
should be doing if you're gonnabe using someone else's things
when you're a guest in theirhouse.
Erika (02:25):
Exactly. Like, for example, I would say my nephews,
your nephews are very good atasking what they want and they
ask before they grab it Justbecause they know, as a child,
you should ask. I mean, I can'timagine a grown adult not just
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grabbing whatever she wants andnot in somebody else's house.
Like, it's crazy to me.
Edgar (02:51):
Exactly, yeah.
Erika (02:52):
The top comment is, You handled that quite cleverly. In
the future, keep a bottle justfor when she visits that you can
leave for her to find and use.Keep playing that game. That's
kind of funny. But yeah, I meanI'm sure that she learned her
lesson after this.
Edgar (03:09):
Yeah, I think she was just assuming. Well I mean after
that moment she probably didn'ttrust the makeup anymore,
because I feel like she feltlike OP did something worse to
the makeup bottle, but no, shejust switched out the shade.
Erika (03:21):
Probably. It's just annoying too because just
because she has a lot of makeupit doesn't mean that, or you
have something a lot ofcollection or whatever, it means
that you won't miss one thing.It's your possessions, nobody
should be, oh, I can take it. SoI'm glad she let her lesson, and
I don't think she's the assholeon this one.
Edgar (03:42):
So you find where it goes with that.
Erika (03:43):
Yeah, she did good.
Edgar (03:46):
Yeah, think, yeah, I don't think she's like the
biggest asshole, but it's like,it's understandable given that
she's told the aunt so manytimes.
Erika (03:54):
Yeah, nicely too.
Edgar (03:56):
So, the next story is titled, Am I the Asshole for
Telling My Parents ThatTransportation Wasn't My Problem
After They Gave My Car to MyBrother. Okay so that title was
a little bit clickbaity but itwas their car that I had
maintained and paid theregistration and insurance on
for years. They have every rightto give it away. My mom doesn't
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drive and my dad had his licensetaken away after a DUI. I live a
couple of blocks away from themand I work from home.
I don't really need a car exceptfor getting groceries and
running my folks around. Mydad's car was a Jeep Grand
Cherokee that was only threeyears old when he lost his
license. It was fully paid off,so I just took overpaying for
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insurance and registration. Itwas nice to have a car for
errands and for running errandsand for running around my folks.
And it's a much nicer car thanif I would have gotten one for
myself.
My brother was over a couplemonths ago and he was pissier
than usual about me getting afree car. He was hollering about
how I'm the golden child and myparents give me everything. So
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my dad told me to give the carback so he could give it to my
brother since it would be fairbecause I got to use it for free
for four years. Like I said,it's not my car and I really
don't need one. My brother livesacross town, a good forty five
minutes away.
That's the big rest town.
Erika (05:21):
For real.
Edgar (05:21):
And I live five minutes away. My mom called me on Friday
a couple of weeks ago to remindme that she had a hearing aid
appointment. I reminded her thatI no longer had a car. She ended
up taking a cab because mybrother was at work. My dad
called me to ask me to come overand talk.
So I walked my dog Bruno over tosee them. My dad said I had four
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years to save up to buy my owncar and he wanted to know when I
was going to buy one. I told himI don't need a car. I'm happy
getting Walmart to deliver mygroceries because I'm not like
my mom and insists on inspectingevery stalk of celery before it
goes into my cart. Both of uslive on a good bus route that
takes us downtown if we need togo to the doctors or anything
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like that.
I said I wasn't planning onbuying another car. He said he
hoped that I'm not expecting himto buy me a car, just to run
errands for them. And then Isaid I don't need a car. I work
from home. My clients see me inmy home.
My salon is on the Main Floor ofmy house, and I have a nice
basement suite for me and Bruno.I order supplies that get
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delivered, I order groceriesthat get delivered, and I order
other stuff from Amazon thatgets delivered. I don't need a
car or the expenses ofmaintaining a car. I told him to
get my brother to run themaround since he has a car now.
My dad had the decency to lookembarrassed.
He said that my brother took ourmom for groceries once and acted
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like it was a huge impositionand made her cry. So they didn't
want to ask him for favors. Ipointed out that they couldn't
just ask for the car back butthat was also a non starter. I
said that I would not be gettinga car, but if he wants, I would
split the cost of a Carsharemembership. That way I can take
a bus to the nearest car and useit for a few hours when they
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need a ride.
He agreed, but he thinks Ishould pay the whole thing. I
reiterated that I don't need acar, and that if he keeps it up,
I won't even split the cost ofhim. He thinks I'm being
ungrateful and childish becauseI had an almost new car for free
for four years, and I justrubbed my eyes down.
Erika (07:31):
I mean, I think the dasher thought a little bit more
strongly about what the decisionof giving the car to the other
brother and what the drawbackswere. Like he didn't really
think it through, he just waslike feeling the moment and felt
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bad that he was like the goldenchild or whatever, or that they
were like favoritism orsomething like that. But in the
whole chance, he lost his way oftransporting him and his wife.
Edgar (08:06):
Yeah, he clearly didn't think about the whole situation.
The other son just basicallyguilt tripped him for a free car
and now doesn't even have thedecency to help them out. After
getting such a big gift. Becausea car is a very big expense for
most people. I think thebrother, either out of malice or
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because he didn't know the fullstory, just assumed his brother
OP had the car for free.
Like he said, he thought wasgetting favoritism, but the
actual situation was that OP wasthe chauffeur for the parents.
Erika (08:46):
Yeah, I mean, the only reason he was the chauffeur is
because he's literally fiveminutes away from them, so it's
not much of an inconvenience forhim to help them out or be like,
okay, I'll take you to thedoctors, and especially if he
works from home. I guess it'scompletely different. It's more,
you know, they could go aroundthe schedule or their
appointments and help them out.He lives, the other brother
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lives forty five minutes away soit is a hassle for him to drive
forty five minutes, drive themaround and then go back home.
Like obviously, sure heshouldn't have treated his
mother that way, made her cryand all that, but I mean there's
a different situation for them.
He also works, he doesn't workfrom home. So it's like if he
has his own job, I'm sure he hashis own car, right? Because how
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is he going back and forthanywhere, especially who lives
forty five minutes away?Exactly,
Edgar (09:37):
the brother probably has his own car, so they just gave
him another car.
Erika (09:41):
Yeah, ridiculous. Well, I mean, he didn't think it through
and now he just has to go withthe consequences. And I think
it's unreasonable for him to belike, you should have gotten a
new car.
Edgar (09:52):
I know, yeah. Especially he since OP has no, like he
didn't need a car.
Erika (09:58):
I mean,
Edgar (10:00):
of course it's nice to have it, but in his situation he
knows his way around, he cantake care of himself, and he
works from home so he doesn'treally require all that work.
Erika (10:09):
I I wouldn't say it's nice to have a car. I think it's
necessity depending where youlive. Like for example, if you
live here or wherever we live,you probably need a car if
you're trying to get somewhere,anywhere. I mean we do have
buses but they don't take youeverywhere. And it's also in
case of emergencies.
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Know, when you go to thehospital, something happens we
take the car and go. We don'thave to wait for an Uber, we
don't have to wait for a taxi orwhatever it is. You know, it's
in case of emergency. It's notalways just nice to have, it's
sometimes a necessity, honestly,depending on where you live.
Edgar (10:45):
I mean, this person's case, it doesn't seem like he
really needs it. Like everythingthat he needs is in walking
distance or a short bus ride. Soin his case specifically, he
doesn't really need it. And thenit depends on the city. Where we
live, you do need to drivearound, but it's just because of
how Connecticut is.
Everything you need to drive, atleast a town or two over if you
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want to get like Walmart orsomething like that. But in some
other places, each town wouldhave something that would have
everything you need. So itreally depends on how everything
is structured.
Erika (11:17):
I'm really just talking about emergencies. That's all
I'm thinking. Like what if hismom falls? What if they call the
ambulance or what if somethinghappens that's not as urgent
that you would call an ambulancefor but you need to take her
somewhere. You're gonna have towait for her over or something
like that.
That's when I would think youwould need a car, like
necessity. But, yeah, I mean,for regular living life with
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him, he doesn't need it.
Edgar (11:43):
Mm-mm.
Erika (11:44):
So the top comment is not the asshole. You running them
around and doing errands waspayments for the use of the car.
The fact that your dadidiotically gave the car to your
brother without thinking therepercussions is on him and only
him.
Edgar (11:58):
Exactly. Yeah. They lost everything. Well, OP's parents
lost everything, like their wayto get around.
Erika (12:05):
Yeah, now he has to invest for half of the payment
of a car because OP's not gonnapay for all that. Because he
doesn't really need a car.
Edgar (12:14):
Exactly. Like a car, even used cars nowadays are a lot
more expensive. They're like onaverage, at least around here,
like $7,000 for a used car.
Erika (12:23):
For a used car, 7,000?
Edgar (12:25):
Yeah, that's the average.
Erika (12:26):
Oh, that's crazy. I wouldn't even recommend used
cars because it's not for thelong run. If you want a used car
and you want it to last two,three years, okay, go ahead.
Edgar (12:40):
Most of the time people just get used cars either
because it's their first car asa team driver or because they
need a way to transport aroundcheaply. For them, 7,000 is not
more doable than a full pricecar.
Erika (12:54):
Yeah, that's true. I mean it is hard to own a car. That's
why you get loans and you payit, you know. But then again you
have a lot of people that just,what do you call it when they
just, like they have a lease.They have a lease and so you
have it for two years and thenyou get a new lease and you keep
paying.
But then you keep paying everysingle time for the same car,
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for different cars and it'snever yours. So I mean it's good
and bad. Mean it depends on whattype of car you're gonna get to.
Edgar (13:24):
I'm not a car person.
Erika (13:26):
You're not. But I mean, I own my car and I finally
finished paying it off, and thatwas a long time. But it's, I
mean, now I just pay my taxesand that's it, and I don't pay
monthly, so.
Edgar (13:39):
My car is older than most people.
Erika (13:41):
Yeah, your car is old and you need to fix it.
Edgar (13:45):
Maybe someday.
Erika (13:46):
Someday, you need to fix it because you'll be using my
car and they need it.
Edgar (13:51):
So your final verdict on OP?
Erika (13:53):
I would say, I mean, he's doing the best he can to help
his parents. And the fact thathe was on beck and call for them
and they didn't appreciate itand gave away the cars, it's
crazy to me.
Edgar (14:09):
OP isn't even being petty. I'm pretty sure he's
upset about the situation,because for him a car was nice
to have, but now he doesn't havemuch obligation to do anything
else.
Erika (14:21):
To get another car, but he's being still a nice son and
being, you know, okay, I'll geta car if you pay half because
it's fair.
Edgar (14:30):
Yeah, he's trying to help where he can, but not just like,
Oh, you made a mistake and now Ihave to pay for it fully.
Erika (14:37):
Yeah, no, the father should have thought more
thoroughly about his decision.
Edgar (14:41):
All
Erika (14:41):
right, so the next story is, I accidentally started an
early morning running club. SoI've been trying to get my life
together a bit and started goingfor early morning runs. I'm not
some fitness freak like I justneeded something to clear my
head before work. I usuallyleave around 06:30AM with my
headphones in and a simplehoodie. Anyways, a couple weeks
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ago or so this guy from mybuilding saw me heading out and
asked if I was going for a run.
I said, Yeah. And he was like,Cool, maybe I'll join sometime.
I didn't think he meant it, tobe completely honest. But the
next day he was out therewaiting for me like at 06:35 or
something. So I was like, okay,sure, let's go.
Now it's been two weeks andsomehow we're up to five people.
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One guy brought a friend and awoman from the second floor
joined as well. Someone evenmade a group chat and I just got
added to it like I'm theorganizer. Someone called it a
club yesterday. It's hilariousbecause two months ago I was
still in my robe most mornings,like sipping sad coffee, messing
around and rolling riches,trying to chase a dopamine hit
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before work.
And look at me now, LOL. I'm notlike a crazy freak when it comes
to running, but like now I feellike I have a responsibility and
I have to show up because Istarted all of this. Life is
crazy. Isn't that wholesome?
Edgar (15:58):
Yeah, mean, it's pretty cool. And especially when you
have a bunch of people runningor just doing things together,
it pushes you to actually do thething.
Erika (16:06):
Yeah.
Edgar (16:06):
Because when you're alone, you often like, yeah, if
you have only the selfdiscipline for it, you can go a
while, but if you don't, youjust maybe try for a few weeks
or even a few days and then it'snot a habit anymore.
Erika (16:18):
Yeah, definitely. I think he just woke up one day and
like, let me just just run. Andit changed his life and other
people trying to be fit. So Ithink it's just maybe take that
morning run that you think youwant to do. You never know if
good things will happen or ifyou meet somebody or you meet
friends.
Of course be aware of yoursurroundings and stuff, but it's
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better to be in a group or withsomebody else, but definitely
running. Runners high isamazing. Should definitely,
running is amazing, you shouldgo for it. Just go for that run.
Edgar (16:54):
Tip your age, if someone said, Hey, I want to join you in
your morning run, I'd be like,Sure. And then they'll be
waiting for me at 06:30, I'djust like wait another hour.
Wait for them for that so we'renot running together. Because I
like doing things alone when itcomes to that sort of thing. So
if I was in that situation, thatwould have started.
Erika (17:15):
I like people. I mean, it depends. If I get a good buy
from you and I'm like, Alright,you want a bruntime? Sure, why
not? I mean, if we vibetogether, we're good.
But if we don't, be like, nah,he seems kinda creepy, I'm just
gonna stay in my apartment,Especially you
Edgar (17:30):
like before a morning run, just like that sort of
thing. I'd rather be alone.
Erika (17:35):
So the top comment was, I just felt like running. And he
made the whole situation happenof a running club. I think
that's amazing. It's a good wayto get out your comfort zone, I
would say.
Edgar (17:53):
I can think of other ways, but yeah.
Erika (17:57):
Yes, you're anti social, I get it. I mean, I'm pretty
much, I don't wanna say I'm likea social butterfly, but I, you
know, here and there.
Edgar (18:06):
So, the next story is titled A Regular Cast Spoiling a
Show I Was Watching. I used towork in a comic shop and we had
a lot of regulars who would comein every week who I only got to
know fairly well. There was oneguy who had mentioned he liked
Stargate. So one week he came inand I mentioned to him that I
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started rewatching Stargate fromthe very beginning. I also
mentioned that I'd never seenthe last three seasons or any of
the spin offs, so I was excitedto see them.
The first thing he says to meis, Oh so you don't know about
detailed description ofsomething that happened in the
final season? And I was like,well no spoilers. Which should
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have been enough, but it wasn't.Every week he'd come back in and
spoil it for me even more. Andevery week I would tell him to
please not spoil it for me.
This went on for about twomonths. Between the regularity
of it and the smirk he'd get onhis face every time I asked him
not to tell me spoilers, I knewhe was doing it on purpose. So
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one week he came in and bought abig pile of comics he'd ordered.
And I waited for him to pay andthen instead of bagging them up,
I fanned them all out on thecounter. You see, I read a lot
of comics, especially back then.
I read every new comic that waspublished by Marvel and DC and
then some as they came out. Soit just so happened that I had
read every comic he had justpurchased. I proceeded to point
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to each comic and spoil everysingle one of them. He didn't
talk to me about Stargate afterthat. So it reminds me of an
episode of Big Bang Fury, TVH.
Like just a bunch of nerdsnerding out and trying to
outnurt each other.
Erika (19:49):
Yeah, I started watching it again, what, the seventh, no,
I would say seventh time, morelike fourth, fifth time.
Edgar (19:55):
It's been a while. I haven't watched it fully
through, but I kind ofunderstand how the story goes.
Erika (20:02):
Yeah, because you always hear it or you listen a little
bit here and there when I'mwatching it.
Edgar (20:06):
Yeah, I get it.
Erika (20:08):
It's really funny.
Edgar (20:09):
Yeah, it's like a lot of good comforts characters and
stuff like that. It's one But ofmy you favorite should watch How
I Met Your Mother.
Erika (20:15):
I did watch it. I started watching it and then I stopped
watching it. What's When, name,Barney?
Edgar (20:23):
Yeah.
Erika (20:24):
When they broke up or something. Yeah, because they
keep breaking up again by sayingthey're breaking up again, and
it got annoying.
Edgar (20:31):
Yeah, yeah. I know what you're talking about, but I
think in general it's like afunny show. Like it's just
Erika (20:35):
Oh yeah, it's funny. But I think Big Bang Theory is much
better.
Edgar (20:39):
Yeah, I yeah, I put them around the same caliber, I
guess.
Erika (20:43):
My top show is always Friends, That's my number one.
Edgar (20:46):
Yeah, Friends is okay. Has to be in the mood for that.
Erika (20:49):
No, I love Friends, and then Big Bang Derek comes after.
Edgar (20:52):
Big Bang.
Erika (20:54):
Big Bang.
Edgar (20:55):
But yeah, this is what it reminds me of. I don't like
people who, well I don't reallycare actually.
Erika (21:00):
Me either.
Edgar (21:00):
I'm honest. Yeah, people who spoil it for me, don't
really mind. Whenever a newmovie comes out, I always look
around on TikTok and I searchspecifically for spoilers. I'm
like, wanna know what happens inthis part. I
Erika (21:13):
don't really care. I mean, sometimes depending if I'm
really into a movie, like forexample Jurassic Park, I
wouldn't wanna see any spoilers,I wouldn't want nobody to tell
me, because I love Jurassic Parkand other movies.
Edgar (21:26):
Nah, love spoilers.
Erika (21:28):
But some stuff that I don't really care about, like,
you know, I'll be like, yeah,it's fine, you can tell me.
Edgar (21:34):
But yeah, even though I love spoilers, I would never be
the one to spoil it for otherpeople, if I could try. Like, or
say it's something accidentally,like it's an accident, but I
don't go out of my way to belike, oh, this is what happens
in the end.
Erika (21:44):
Oh yeah, definitely, I'm not like that. I think that's
just, that's not okay.
Edgar (21:48):
Because I know a lot of people really care about that
sort of stuff.
Erika (21:51):
Yeah, and even if they don't, just be a decent human
being, don't tell them aspoiler. The top comment is,
This is the epitome of what Icome for this sub for.
Edgar (22:02):
Yeah. The sub that this story is from is called
rPettyRevenge, and yeah, this ispretty petty. I would also say
it sounds a little fake too, butthen again, I'm not in the comic
book culture thing, so I don'tknow how people interact with
each other.
Erika (22:17):
Yeah, I mean, I don't know.
Edgar (22:19):
Do you think what Opie did was right, though, to of
throw back at him?
Erika (22:24):
I wouldn't say it's right because eye for eye is never
good, but I mean, it's harmless,it's not like he's hurting
anybody.
Edgar (22:31):
What if he like spy on the other guy? Because he just
bought like hundreds andhundreds of dollars worth of
comic books, and now he can'tread them and enjoy them anymore
because they were all spoiledfor him.
Erika (22:41):
Well he did the same thing, so he knew exactly what
he was getting back.
Edgar (22:46):
That was the car book?
Erika (22:47):
Yeah, I mean, you mess with somebody, can't expect
anything, nothing to happen mostof the time,
Edgar (22:53):
you know? That's crazy. So final verdict?
Erika (22:56):
I mean, I wouldn't say he's the asshole completely, I
would just say he just got whathe gave.
Edgar (23:05):
Yeah, mean, it's an asshole ish thing to do, but I
feel like it's super harmless.
Erika (23:11):
Yeah, I don't think it's bad, bad.
Edgar (23:13):
Alright,
Erika (23:15):
so the next story is, Am I the Asshole for letting a
family fill an escape room onpurpose?
Edgar (23:21):
Okay.
Erika (23:21):
I, male 24, work on an escape for a second job. And
throughout the weekend, I'musually by myself as there
aren't a lot of bookings forrooms. One of these times, I had
a booking for a group of seven.The group gets here and it's a
mother, four daughters, and twoboyfriends of the daughters. All
of them appear to be at least 20or older except for the youngest
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daughter who at the oldest orderwas around 13.
I take the family back to theroom and explain everything,
then let them start the room.The second I sit down in the
control to watch them I noticeonly the boyfriends who have
never done an escape room andthe mom seem excited to look
around. The daughters arelooking around eventually and
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even find one of the puzzles forthe room. They start working on
it and not even two minutes goby the mom swoops in and takes
the puzzle. And makes them golook elsewhere as she worked on
it.
That was how the rest of theroom went. The kids would find
the stuff and the mom would takeover and make them leave. The
youngest, getting fed up withthis, decides to just sit down
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and wait for the first part ofthe room. This escape room has
four separate rooms for them togo through. After the group sets
to the third room, the momstorms into the first room and
tells the little girl to stophoarding and come join them.
Then before she can respond, themother tells her, You're ruining
this experience for everyone. Iwish I didn't bring you. I was
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flabbergasted. How could anyonespeak to their daughter that
way? Eventually, they're nearingthe end, and all they need is to
find the key fob to open thedoor and escape.
In their haste, they miss it,and the mom keeps asking if I
can give them a clue to where itis. Here's where I might have
been an asshole. They hadalready used all three of their
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clues and I was feeling petty.So I told them that
unfortunately I wasn't allowedto tell them any clues on this
location, even though I totallycould, and my boss would have
preferred I told them. But I wasalone, so I decided I wasn't
going to help.
Thirty seconds left and thelittle girl who had been yelled
at by her mother found the keyfob they needed, smiled, put it
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back where she found it, andwalked away without a word to
her family. The timer goes off.I came back to the room saying
they did a good job butunfortunately weren't able to
escape. The mom was pissed andstarted blaming the kids but
eventually calmed down. Thankedme for all the help and left.
The kid slowly followed and thelast one to leave was the
youngest daughter. I asked herwhy she didn't show them the key
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she found and she smiled andsaid, well, my mom already said
I ruined the experience for herfor I made sure she couldn't
win. After they left, I thoughtabout it and kind of felt like
an asshole. So I came on here toask if I was an asshole.
Edgar (26:12):
No, that's the rules. No more clues.
Erika (26:17):
The mother needs help.
Edgar (26:19):
Yeah, mean, it's just the games, it's not supposed to be
serious, but yeah.
Erika (26:24):
Some weird dynamic though. I mean, when you go into
the escape rooms or when you doactivities in general, you want
the kids to figure out theactivity or want them to do it
individually or want them toshow their skills and figure out
by themselves, that's why you'rethere, but work together as a
team. But she was just like, oh,you found a clue, I'm gonna do
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it, I'm gonna figure it out.Like, that's not how it works.
Know, you should try to involvethe kids more.
Edgar (26:53):
Yeah, it's probably just she has a very me centric way of
seeing things. Like even thekids are kind of fed up with it.
Erika (27:00):
Yeah, that's what the youngest daughter was like. She
didn't like the experience, why?Because the mother didn't allow
her to put her opinion and tryto figure out together. Sure,
find clues, the fun of the gameis finding clues and then
putting it together
Edgar (27:15):
As a team.
Erika (27:15):
As a team. Yeah. I don't think she was an asshole or he
was. The daughter could havesaid something, but I mean, she
was fed up too, so. Latakam isnot the asshole and the kid is
brilliant.
She obviously is used to dealingwith her mom.
Edgar (27:34):
Exactly, yeah. I mean, it is technically disrespectful to
do that, like the little sisterright over the little kid, but
it seems like she's had a lot ofexperience with the mother and
her acting up like that. So thisis probably one of her little
ways just to get back.
Erika (27:49):
Yeah, I mean, the mother needs more parenting books or
something, or she needs help.With, know, no I wouldn't say, I
think nobody's perfect being aparent. I mean, I'm not a
parent, so I But can't I thinkit's always good to grow. As you
have kids, you can't expect tobe a better parent and not do
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your work, your own self growth,and be a good mom or whatever,
or a good dad. I think it'simportant to grow as your kids
grow, too.
So I think she needs somegrowing room there.
Edgar (28:23):
Yeah. And now, I wouldn't say a truly awful experience,
but having that escape from thatbe fun, like the kids got
nothing out of it and theyprobably wouldn't go back to
another one.
Erika (28:33):
Yeah, I mean yeah, definitely not. I would never go
in there. Even if let's say Iwas older and then my friends,
I'm like yeah, I would justalways remember the experience
and the sour taste I left in mymouth. I wouldn't go back in
there either.
Edgar (28:46):
Yeah, a lot of what parents do with their kids
growing up just influences thelives of their children and how
they see things.
Erika (28:54):
Yeah, definitely.
Edgar (28:57):
So your final verdict?
Erika (28:58):
I wouldn't say you're the asshole. I mean, the daughter
decided not to say anything eventhough she found it was her
decision.
Edgar (29:08):
Yeah, Yelpie was, yeah not even a little bit of an
asshole. And the final story isOverheard in the department
store dressing room. I was in aNordstrom dressing room when a,
what I presume was, a woman andher daughter entered the one
next to me. The mom said, Beforewe try on clothes, I want you to
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give yourself a compliment. Andthe girl, inaudible as if she
was very quiet, making me thinkshe was shy and or didn't have a
lot of confidence.
And then the mom said, It'simportant that we feel good
about ourselves. Now, let's seewhat you picked out. As the mom
of a 16 year old, I very muchappreciate this.
Erika (29:49):
That was a good note to end. I think it's important to
have a good positive image ofyour body and regardless of what
society tells you, what yourbody shape is or what isn't,
that you should still have yourconfidence. Cause what you have,
your scale number doesn't makeyou or break you. I thought it
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was really nice to hear,especially with younger kids,
such a heavy burden they carryabout being extra large or being
this and that, just trying tokeep up with images from the
internet or social media. Thetop comment is just, now that's
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good parenting.
Yeah, so I think with somethingsuch heartwarming like this,
it's a good thing to show yourdaughters or even your sons that
it's okay. You should beconfident. So that's all the
stories we have today. Thank youfor tuning into this week's
episode. Check out our website,www.yappings.com, and join our
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Edgar (31:04):
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Erika (31:18):
Thank you. Bye!
Yapping!
Erika (00:02):
Hello, this is Erika.
Edgar (00:04):
And Edgar.
Erika (00:05):
And we are the Yapping Snowsers. We entertain you with
the outworthy stories we findaround the web. Today's theme is
emotional intelligence versusemotional damage. The first
story is my aunt kept borrowingmy makeup so I let her borrow
the wrong one. My aunt's beenstaying with us for a few weeks
while her place was gettingfumigated.
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She was supposed to be here justfor a weekend but you know how
that goes. Somehow it turnedinto her moving into our guest
room and treating the wholehouse like her personal shopping
mall. She's been helping herselfto my clothes, my snacks, and
most annoyingly, my makeup. Itold her nicely, more than once,
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please stop using my makeup.That stuff isn't cheap and you
don't even ask.
She'd just laugh and say, ohcome on, you have so much, you
won't even notice. Well, Inoticed. Every time. So one day
I switched out the label to anold concealer tube with one that
matched my current shade. Theold one was too light,
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borderline ghostly.
I left it sitting on top of myvanity like bait. Sure enough, I
heard her in the bathroom laterthat day, humming while doing
her face. Didn't say a word.Next week she shows up at a
family dinner wearing full glamand her under eyes are blinding,
like glow in the dark white. Inevery picture, she looked like a
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raccoon in reverse.
That's kind of funny. I canimagine the pictures. And she
pulled me aside and asked, Didyou change something in your
makeup? Mine looked weird. Ijust bounced said, Oh, maybe it
was in your shade after all, butI'm sure you won't even notice.
She stared at me for a secondlike she was trying to figure
out if I was messing with her.Then she huffed, murdered
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something on her breath aboutpeople being sneaky and stomped
off to her room. She still stayswith us now and then, but funny
enough, she hasn't touched asingle thing of mine again.
Edgar (02:04):
That's crazy, taking the snacks. That's where I mark my
Erika (02:09):
You do the vines? Of course you would care with the
snacks because you're a bigfoodie. But
Edgar (02:18):
overall, yeah, at least ask. That's the minimum you
should be doing if you're gonnabe using someone else's things
when you're a guest in theirhouse.
Erika (02:25):
Exactly. Like, for example, I would say my nephews,
your nephews are very good atasking what they want and they
ask before they grab it Justbecause they know, as a child,
you should ask. I mean, I can'timagine a grown adult not just
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grabbing whatever she wants andnot in somebody else's house.
Like, it's crazy to me.
Edgar (02:51):
Exactly, yeah.
Erika (02:52):
The top comment is, You handled that quite cleverly. In
the future, keep a bottle justfor when she visits that you can
leave for her to find and use.Keep playing that game. That's
kind of funny. But yeah, I meanI'm sure that she learned her
lesson after this.
Edgar (03:09):
Yeah, I think she was just assuming. Well I mean after
that moment she probably didn'ttrust the makeup anymore,
because I feel like she feltlike OP did something worse to
the makeup bottle, but no, shejust switched out the shade.
Erika (03:21):
Probably. It's just annoying too because just
because she has a lot of makeupit doesn't mean that, or you
have something a lot ofcollection or whatever, it means
that you won't miss one thing.It's your possessions, nobody
should be, oh, I can take it. SoI'm glad she let her lesson, and
I don't think she's the assholeon this one.
Edgar (03:42):
So you find where it goes with that.
Erika (03:43):
Yeah, she did good.
Edgar (03:46):
Yeah, think, yeah, I don't think she's like the
biggest asshole, but it's like,it's understandable given that
she's told the aunt so manytimes.
Erika (03:54):
Yeah, nicely too.
Edgar (03:56):
So, the next story is titled, Am I the Asshole for
Telling My Parents ThatTransportation Wasn't My Problem
After They Gave My Car to MyBrother. Okay so that title was
a little bit clickbaity but itwas their car that I had
maintained and paid theregistration and insurance on
for years. They have every rightto give it away. My mom doesn't
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drive and my dad had his licensetaken away after a DUI. I live a
couple of blocks away from themand I work from home.
I don't really need a car exceptfor getting groceries and
running my folks around. Mydad's car was a Jeep Grand
Cherokee that was only threeyears old when he lost his
license. It was fully paid off,so I just took overpaying for
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insurance and registration. Itwas nice to have a car for
errands and for running errandsand for running around my folks.
And it's a much nicer car thanif I would have gotten one for
myself.
My brother was over a couplemonths ago and he was pissier
than usual about me getting afree car. He was hollering about
how I'm the golden child and myparents give me everything. So
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my dad told me to give the carback so he could give it to my
brother since it would be fairbecause I got to use it for free
for four years. Like I said,it's not my car and I really
don't need one. My brother livesacross town, a good forty five
minutes away.
That's the big rest town.
Erika (05:21):
For real.
Edgar (05:21):
And I live five minutes away. My mom called me on Friday
a couple of weeks ago to remindme that she had a hearing aid
appointment. I reminded her thatI no longer had a car. She ended
up taking a cab because mybrother was at work. My dad
called me to ask me to come overand talk.
So I walked my dog Bruno over tosee them. My dad said I had four
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years to save up to buy my owncar and he wanted to know when I
was going to buy one. I told himI don't need a car. I'm happy
getting Walmart to deliver mygroceries because I'm not like
my mom and insists on inspectingevery stalk of celery before it
goes into my cart. Both of uslive on a good bus route that
takes us downtown if we need togo to the doctors or anything
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like that.
I said I wasn't planning onbuying another car. He said he
hoped that I'm not expecting himto buy me a car, just to run
errands for them. And then Isaid I don't need a car. I work
from home. My clients see me inmy home.
My salon is on the Main Floor ofmy house, and I have a nice
basement suite for me and Bruno.I order supplies that get
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delivered, I order groceriesthat get delivered, and I order
other stuff from Amazon thatgets delivered. I don't need a
car or the expenses ofmaintaining a car. I told him to
get my brother to run themaround since he has a car now.
My dad had the decency to lookembarrassed.
He said that my brother took ourmom for groceries once and acted
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like it was a huge impositionand made her cry. So they didn't
want to ask him for favors. Ipointed out that they couldn't
just ask for the car back butthat was also a non starter. I
said that I would not be gettinga car, but if he wants, I would
split the cost of a Carsharemembership. That way I can take
a bus to the nearest car and useit for a few hours when they
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need a ride.
He agreed, but he thinks Ishould pay the whole thing. I
reiterated that I don't need acar, and that if he keeps it up,
I won't even split the cost ofhim. He thinks I'm being
ungrateful and childish becauseI had an almost new car for free
for four years, and I justrubbed my eyes down.
Erika (07:31):
I mean, I think the dasher thought a little bit more
strongly about what the decisionof giving the car to the other
brother and what the drawbackswere. Like he didn't really
think it through, he just waslike feeling the moment and felt
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bad that he was like the goldenchild or whatever, or that they
were like favoritism orsomething like that. But in the
whole chance, he lost his way oftransporting him and his wife.
Edgar (08:06):
Yeah, he clearly didn't think about the whole situation.
The other son just basicallyguilt tripped him for a free car
and now doesn't even have thedecency to help them out. After
getting such a big gift. Becausea car is a very big expense for
most people. I think thebrother, either out of malice or
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because he didn't know the fullstory, just assumed his brother
OP had the car for free.
Like he said, he thought wasgetting favoritism, but the
actual situation was that OP wasthe chauffeur for the parents.
Erika (08:46):
Yeah, I mean, the only reason he was the chauffeur is
because he's literally fiveminutes away from them, so it's
not much of an inconvenience forhim to help them out or be like,
okay, I'll take you to thedoctors, and especially if he
works from home. I guess it'scompletely different. It's more,
you know, they could go aroundthe schedule or their
appointments and help them out.He lives, the other brother
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lives forty five minutes away soit is a hassle for him to drive
forty five minutes, drive themaround and then go back home.
Like obviously, sure heshouldn't have treated his
mother that way, made her cryand all that, but I mean there's
a different situation for them.
He also works, he doesn't workfrom home. So it's like if he
has his own job, I'm sure he hashis own car, right? Because how
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is he going back and forthanywhere, especially who lives
forty five minutes away?Exactly,
Edgar (09:37):
the brother probably has his own car, so they just gave
him another car.
Erika (09:41):
Yeah, ridiculous. Well, I mean, he didn't think it through
and now he just has to go withthe consequences. And I think
it's unreasonable for him to belike, you should have gotten a
new car.
Edgar (09:52):
I know, yeah. Especially he since OP has no, like he
didn't need a car.
Erika (09:58):
I mean,
Edgar (10:00):
of course it's nice to have it, but in his situation he
knows his way around, he cantake care of himself, and he
works from home so he doesn'treally require all that work.
Erika (10:09):
I I wouldn't say it's nice to have a car. I think it's
necessity depending where youlive. Like for example, if you
live here or wherever we live,you probably need a car if
you're trying to get somewhere,anywhere. I mean we do have
buses but they don't take youeverywhere. And it's also in
case of emergencies.
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Know, when you go to thehospital, something happens we
take the car and go. We don'thave to wait for an Uber, we
don't have to wait for a taxi orwhatever it is. You know, it's
in case of emergency. It's notalways just nice to have, it's
sometimes a necessity, honestly,depending on where you live.
Edgar (10:45):
I mean, this person's case, it doesn't seem like he
really needs it. Like everythingthat he needs is in walking
distance or a short bus ride. Soin his case specifically, he
doesn't really need it. And thenit depends on the city. Where we
live, you do need to drivearound, but it's just because of
how Connecticut is.
Everything you need to drive, atleast a town or two over if you
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want to get like Walmart orsomething like that. But in some
other places, each town wouldhave something that would have
everything you need. So itreally depends on how everything
is structured.
Erika (11:17):
I'm really just talking about emergencies. That's all
I'm thinking. Like what if hismom falls? What if they call the
ambulance or what if somethinghappens that's not as urgent
that you would call an ambulancefor but you need to take her
somewhere. You're gonna have towait for her over or something
like that.
That's when I would think youwould need a car, like
necessity. But, yeah, I mean,for regular living life with
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him, he doesn't need it.
Edgar (11:43):
Mm-mm.
Erika (11:44):
So the top comment is not the asshole. You running them
around and doing errands waspayments for the use of the car.
The fact that your dadidiotically gave the car to your
brother without thinking therepercussions is on him and only
him.
Edgar (11:58):
Exactly. Yeah. They lost everything. Well, OP's parents
lost everything, like their wayto get around.
Erika (12:05):
Yeah, now he has to invest for half of the payment
of a car because OP's not gonnapay for all that. Because he
doesn't really need a car.
Edgar (12:14):
Exactly. Like a car, even used cars nowadays are a lot
more expensive. They're like onaverage, at least around here,
like $7,000 for a used car.
Erika (12:23):
For a used car, 7,000?
Edgar (12:25):
Yeah, that's the average.
Erika (12:26):
Oh, that's crazy. I wouldn't even recommend used
cars because it's not for thelong run. If you want a used car
and you want it to last two,three years, okay, go ahead.
Edgar (12:40):
Most of the time people just get used cars either
because it's their first car asa team driver or because they
need a way to transport aroundcheaply. For them, 7,000 is not
more doable than a full pricecar.
Erika (12:54):
Yeah, that's true. I mean it is hard to own a car. That's
why you get loans and you payit, you know. But then again you
have a lot of people that just,what do you call it when they
just, like they have a lease.They have a lease and so you
have it for two years and thenyou get a new lease and you keep
paying.
But then you keep paying everysingle time for the same car,
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for different cars and it'snever yours. So I mean it's good
and bad. Mean it depends on whattype of car you're gonna get to.
Edgar (13:24):
I'm not a car person.
Erika (13:26):
You're not. But I mean, I own my car and I finally
finished paying it off, and thatwas a long time. But it's, I
mean, now I just pay my taxesand that's it, and I don't pay
monthly, so.
Edgar (13:39):
My car is older than most people.
Erika (13:41):
Yeah, your car is old and you need to fix it.
Edgar (13:45):
Maybe someday.
Erika (13:46):
Someday, you need to fix it because you'll be using my
car and they need it.
Edgar (13:51):
So your final verdict on OP?
Erika (13:53):
I would say, I mean, he's doing the best he can to help
his parents. And the fact thathe was on beck and call for them
and they didn't appreciate itand gave away the cars, it's
crazy to me.
Edgar (14:09):
OP isn't even being petty. I'm pretty sure he's
upset about the situation,because for him a car was nice
to have, but now he doesn't havemuch obligation to do anything
else.
Erika (14:21):
To get another car, but he's being still a nice son and
being, you know, okay, I'll geta car if you pay half because
it's fair.
Edgar (14:30):
Yeah, he's trying to help where he can, but not just like,
Oh, you made a mistake and now Ihave to pay for it fully.
Erika (14:37):
Yeah, no, the father should have thought more
thoroughly about his decision.
Edgar (14:41):
All
Erika (14:41):
right, so the next story is, I accidentally started an
early morning running club. SoI've been trying to get my life
together a bit and started goingfor early morning runs. I'm not
some fitness freak like I justneeded something to clear my
head before work. I usuallyleave around 06:30AM with my
headphones in and a simplehoodie. Anyways, a couple weeks
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ago or so this guy from mybuilding saw me heading out and
asked if I was going for a run.
I said, Yeah. And he was like,Cool, maybe I'll join sometime.
I didn't think he meant it, tobe completely honest. But the
next day he was out therewaiting for me like at 06:35 or
something. So I was like, okay,sure, let's go.
Now it's been two weeks andsomehow we're up to five people.
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One guy brought a friend and awoman from the second floor
joined as well. Someone evenmade a group chat and I just got
added to it like I'm theorganizer. Someone called it a
club yesterday. It's hilariousbecause two months ago I was
still in my robe most mornings,like sipping sad coffee, messing
around and rolling riches,trying to chase a dopamine hit
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before work.
And look at me now, LOL. I'm notlike a crazy freak when it comes
to running, but like now I feellike I have a responsibility and
I have to show up because Istarted all of this. Life is
crazy. Isn't that wholesome?
Edgar (15:58):
Yeah, mean, it's pretty cool. And especially when you
have a bunch of people runningor just doing things together,
it pushes you to actually do thething.
Erika (16:06):
Yeah.
Edgar (16:06):
Because when you're alone, you often like, yeah, if
you have only the selfdiscipline for it, you can go a
while, but if you don't, youjust maybe try for a few weeks
or even a few days and then it'snot a habit anymore.
Erika (16:18):
Yeah, definitely. I think he just woke up one day and
like, let me just just run. Andit changed his life and other
people trying to be fit. So Ithink it's just maybe take that
morning run that you think youwant to do. You never know if
good things will happen or ifyou meet somebody or you meet
friends.
Of course be aware of yoursurroundings and stuff, but it's
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better to be in a group or withsomebody else, but definitely
running. Runners high isamazing. Should definitely,
running is amazing, you shouldgo for it. Just go for that run.
Edgar (16:54):
Tip your age, if someone said, Hey, I want to join you in
your morning run, I'd be like,Sure. And then they'll be
waiting for me at 06:30, I'djust like wait another hour.
Wait for them for that so we'renot running together. Because I
like doing things alone when itcomes to that sort of thing. So
if I was in that situation, thatwould have started.
Erika (17:15):
I like people. I mean, it depends. If I get a good buy
from you and I'm like, Alright,you want a bruntime? Sure, why
not? I mean, if we vibetogether, we're good.
But if we don't, be like, nah,he seems kinda creepy, I'm just
gonna stay in my apartment,Especially you
Edgar (17:30):
like before a morning run, just like that sort of
thing. I'd rather be alone.
Erika (17:35):
So the top comment was, I just felt like running. And he
made the whole situation happenof a running club. I think
that's amazing. It's a good wayto get out your comfort zone, I
would say.
Edgar (17:53):
I can think of other ways, but yeah.
Erika (17:57):
Yes, you're anti social, I get it. I mean, I'm pretty
much, I don't wanna say I'm likea social butterfly, but I, you
know, here and there.
Edgar (18:06):
So, the next story is titled A Regular Cast Spoiling a
Show I Was Watching. I used towork in a comic shop and we had
a lot of regulars who would comein every week who I only got to
know fairly well. There was oneguy who had mentioned he liked
Stargate. So one week he came inand I mentioned to him that I
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started rewatching Stargate fromthe very beginning. I also
mentioned that I'd never seenthe last three seasons or any of
the spin offs, so I was excitedto see them.
The first thing he says to meis, Oh so you don't know about
detailed description ofsomething that happened in the
final season? And I was like,well no spoilers. Which should
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have been enough, but it wasn't.Every week he'd come back in and
spoil it for me even more. Andevery week I would tell him to
please not spoil it for me.
This went on for about twomonths. Between the regularity
of it and the smirk he'd get onhis face every time I asked him
not to tell me spoilers, I knewhe was doing it on purpose. So
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one week he came in and bought abig pile of comics he'd ordered.
And I waited for him to pay andthen instead of bagging them up,
I fanned them all out on thecounter. You see, I read a lot
of comics, especially back then.
I read every new comic that waspublished by Marvel and DC and
then some as they came out. Soit just so happened that I had
read every comic he had justpurchased. I proceeded to point
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to each comic and spoil everysingle one of them. He didn't
talk to me about Stargate afterthat. So it reminds me of an
episode of Big Bang Fury, TVH.
Like just a bunch of nerdsnerding out and trying to
outnurt each other.
Erika (19:49):
Yeah, I started watching it again, what, the seventh, no,
I would say seventh time, morelike fourth, fifth time.
Edgar (19:55):
It's been a while. I haven't watched it fully
through, but I kind ofunderstand how the story goes.
Erika (20:02):
Yeah, because you always hear it or you listen a little
bit here and there when I'mwatching it.
Edgar (20:06):
Yeah, I get it.
Erika (20:08):
It's really funny.
Edgar (20:09):
Yeah, it's like a lot of good comforts characters and
stuff like that. It's one But ofmy you favorite should watch How
I Met Your Mother.
Erika (20:15):
I did watch it. I started watching it and then I stopped
watching it. What's When, name,Barney?
Edgar (20:23):
Yeah.
Erika (20:24):
When they broke up or something. Yeah, because they
keep breaking up again by sayingthey're breaking up again, and
it got annoying.
Edgar (20:31):
Yeah, yeah. I know what you're talking about, but I
think in general it's like afunny show. Like it's just
Erika (20:35):
Oh yeah, it's funny. But I think Big Bang Theory is much
better.
Edgar (20:39):
Yeah, I yeah, I put them around the same caliber, I
guess.
Erika (20:43):
My top show is always Friends, That's my number one.
Edgar (20:46):
Yeah, Friends is okay. Has to be in the mood for that.
Erika (20:49):
No, I love Friends, and then Big Bang Derek comes after.
Edgar (20:52):
Big Bang.
Erika (20:54):
Big Bang.
Edgar (20:55):
But yeah, this is what it reminds me of. I don't like
people who, well I don't reallycare actually.
Erika (21:00):
Me either.
Edgar (21:00):
I'm honest. Yeah, people who spoil it for me, don't
really mind. Whenever a newmovie comes out, I always look
around on TikTok and I searchspecifically for spoilers. I'm
like, wanna know what happens inthis part. I
Erika (21:13):
don't really care. I mean, sometimes depending if I'm
really into a movie, like forexample Jurassic Park, I
wouldn't wanna see any spoilers,I wouldn't want nobody to tell
me, because I love Jurassic Parkand other movies.
Edgar (21:26):
Nah, love spoilers.
Erika (21:28):
But some stuff that I don't really care about, like,
you know, I'll be like, yeah,it's fine, you can tell me.
Edgar (21:34):
But yeah, even though I love spoilers, I would never be
the one to spoil it for otherpeople, if I could try. Like, or
say it's something accidentally,like it's an accident, but I
don't go out of my way to belike, oh, this is what happens
in the end.
Erika (21:44):
Oh yeah, definitely, I'm not like that. I think that's
just, that's not okay.
Edgar (21:48):
Because I know a lot of people really care about that
sort of stuff.
Erika (21:51):
Yeah, and even if they don't, just be a decent human
being, don't tell them aspoiler. The top comment is,
This is the epitome of what Icome for this sub for.
Edgar (22:02):
Yeah. The sub that this story is from is called
rPettyRevenge, and yeah, this ispretty petty. I would also say
it sounds a little fake too, butthen again, I'm not in the comic
book culture thing, so I don'tknow how people interact with
each other.
Erika (22:17):
Yeah, I mean, I don't know.
Edgar (22:19):
Do you think what Opie did was right, though, to of
throw back at him?
Erika (22:24):
I wouldn't say it's right because eye for eye is never
good, but I mean, it's harmless,it's not like he's hurting
anybody.
Edgar (22:31):
What if he like spy on the other guy? Because he just
bought like hundreds andhundreds of dollars worth of
comic books, and now he can'tread them and enjoy them anymore
because they were all spoiledfor him.
Erika (22:41):
Well he did the same thing, so he knew exactly what
he was getting back.
Edgar (22:46):
That was the car book?
Erika (22:47):
Yeah, I mean, you mess with somebody, can't expect
anything, nothing to happen mostof the time,
Edgar (22:53):
you know? That's crazy. So final verdict?
Erika (22:56):
I mean, I wouldn't say he's the asshole completely, I
would just say he just got whathe gave.
Edgar (23:05):
Yeah, mean, it's an asshole ish thing to do, but I
feel like it's super harmless.
Erika (23:11):
Yeah, I don't think it's bad, bad.
Edgar (23:13):
Alright,
Erika (23:15):
so the next story is, Am I the Asshole for letting a
family fill an escape room onpurpose?
Edgar (23:21):
Okay.
Erika (23:21):
I, male 24, work on an escape for a second job. And
throughout the weekend, I'musually by myself as there
aren't a lot of bookings forrooms. One of these times, I had
a booking for a group of seven.The group gets here and it's a
mother, four daughters, and twoboyfriends of the daughters. All
of them appear to be at least 20or older except for the youngest
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daughter who at the oldest orderwas around 13.
I take the family back to theroom and explain everything,
then let them start the room.The second I sit down in the
control to watch them I noticeonly the boyfriends who have
never done an escape room andthe mom seem excited to look
around. The daughters arelooking around eventually and
(24:07):
even find one of the puzzles forthe room. They start working on
it and not even two minutes goby the mom swoops in and takes
the puzzle. And makes them golook elsewhere as she worked on
it.
That was how the rest of theroom went. The kids would find
the stuff and the mom would takeover and make them leave. The
youngest, getting fed up withthis, decides to just sit down
(24:30):
and wait for the first part ofthe room. This escape room has
four separate rooms for them togo through. After the group sets
to the third room, the momstorms into the first room and
tells the little girl to stophoarding and come join them.
Then before she can respond, themother tells her, You're ruining
this experience for everyone. Iwish I didn't bring you. I was
(24:53):
flabbergasted. How could anyonespeak to their daughter that
way? Eventually, they're nearingthe end, and all they need is to
find the key fob to open thedoor and escape.
In their haste, they miss it,and the mom keeps asking if I
can give them a clue to where itis. Here's where I might have
been an asshole. They hadalready used all three of their
(25:14):
clues and I was feeling petty.So I told them that
unfortunately I wasn't allowedto tell them any clues on this
location, even though I totallycould, and my boss would have
preferred I told them. But I wasalone, so I decided I wasn't
going to help.
Thirty seconds left and thelittle girl who had been yelled
at by her mother found the keyfob they needed, smiled, put it
(25:35):
back where she found it, andwalked away without a word to
her family. The timer goes off.I came back to the room saying
they did a good job butunfortunately weren't able to
escape. The mom was pissed andstarted blaming the kids but
eventually calmed down. Thankedme for all the help and left.
The kid slowly followed and thelast one to leave was the
youngest daughter. I asked herwhy she didn't show them the key
(25:58):
she found and she smiled andsaid, well, my mom already said
I ruined the experience for herfor I made sure she couldn't
win. After they left, I thoughtabout it and kind of felt like
an asshole. So I came on here toask if I was an asshole.
Edgar (26:12):
No, that's the rules. No more clues.
Erika (26:17):
The mother needs help.
Edgar (26:19):
Yeah, mean, it's just the games, it's not supposed to be
serious, but yeah.
Erika (26:24):
Some weird dynamic though. I mean, when you go into
the escape rooms or when you doactivities in general, you want
the kids to figure out theactivity or want them to do it
individually or want them toshow their skills and figure out
by themselves, that's why you'rethere, but work together as a
team. But she was just like, oh,you found a clue, I'm gonna do
(26:45):
it, I'm gonna figure it out.Like, that's not how it works.
Know, you should try to involvethe kids more.
Edgar (26:53):
Yeah, it's probably just she has a very me centric way of
seeing things. Like even thekids are kind of fed up with it.
Erika (27:00):
Yeah, that's what the youngest daughter was like. She
didn't like the experience, why?Because the mother didn't allow
her to put her opinion and tryto figure out together. Sure,
find clues, the fun of the gameis finding clues and then
putting it together
Edgar (27:15):
As a team.
Erika (27:15):
As a team. Yeah. I don't think she was an asshole or he
was. The daughter could havesaid something, but I mean, she
was fed up too, so. Latakam isnot the asshole and the kid is
brilliant.
She obviously is used to dealingwith her mom.
Edgar (27:34):
Exactly, yeah. I mean, it is technically disrespectful to
do that, like the little sisterright over the little kid, but
it seems like she's had a lot ofexperience with the mother and
her acting up like that. So thisis probably one of her little
ways just to get back.
Erika (27:49):
Yeah, I mean, the mother needs more parenting books or
something, or she needs help.With, know, no I wouldn't say, I
think nobody's perfect being aparent. I mean, I'm not a
parent, so I But can't I thinkit's always good to grow. As you
have kids, you can't expect tobe a better parent and not do
(28:11):
your work, your own self growth,and be a good mom or whatever,
or a good dad. I think it'simportant to grow as your kids
grow, too.
So I think she needs somegrowing room there.
Edgar (28:23):
Yeah. And now, I wouldn't say a truly awful experience,
but having that escape from thatbe fun, like the kids got
nothing out of it and theyprobably wouldn't go back to
another one.
Erika (28:33):
Yeah, I mean yeah, definitely not. I would never go
in there. Even if let's say Iwas older and then my friends,
I'm like yeah, I would justalways remember the experience
and the sour taste I left in mymouth. I wouldn't go back in
there either.
Edgar (28:46):
Yeah, a lot of what parents do with their kids
growing up just influences thelives of their children and how
they see things.
Erika (28:54):
Yeah, definitely.
Edgar (28:57):
So your final verdict?
Erika (28:58):
I wouldn't say you're the asshole. I mean, the daughter
decided not to say anything eventhough she found it was her
decision.
Edgar (29:08):
Yeah, Yelpie was, yeah not even a little bit of an
asshole. And the final story isOverheard in the department
store dressing room. I was in aNordstrom dressing room when a,
what I presume was, a woman andher daughter entered the one
next to me. The mom said, Beforewe try on clothes, I want you to
(29:29):
give yourself a compliment. Andthe girl, inaudible as if she
was very quiet, making me thinkshe was shy and or didn't have a
lot of confidence.
And then the mom said, It'simportant that we feel good
about ourselves. Now, let's seewhat you picked out. As the mom
of a 16 year old, I very muchappreciate this.
Erika (29:49):
That was a good note to end. I think it's important to
have a good positive image ofyour body and regardless of what
society tells you, what yourbody shape is or what isn't,
that you should still have yourconfidence. Cause what you have,
your scale number doesn't makeyou or break you. I thought it
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was really nice to hear,especially with younger kids,
such a heavy burden they carryabout being extra large or being
this and that, just trying tokeep up with images from the
internet or social media. Thetop comment is just, now that's
(30:32):
good parenting.
Yeah, so I think with somethingsuch heartwarming like this,
it's a good thing to show yourdaughters or even your sons that
it's okay. You should beconfident. So that's all the
stories we have today. Thank youfor tuning into this week's
episode. Check out our website,www.yappings.com, and join our
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If you love our podcast and wantto support us, subscribe and
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Edgar (31:04):
Also, we have a Facebook group called Am I the
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Erika (31:18):
Thank you. Bye!
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