July 31, 2025 • 41 mins
Welcome back to another yap-worthy ride with the Yapping Schnauzers! This week, Erika and Edgar dig into the unhinged chaos of Workplace Foolery. From a co-worker who screams for rides like it’s a carpool horror movie, to a Total Wine petty revenge that costs ten grand (but is worth every penny), to a sandwich shop employee who dyed her hair blue just to win an argument, we've got office drama, boss beefs, and passive-aggressive pettiness at its finest.
Also featuring: awkward Uber moments, and a debate over whether flaunting your hard-earned MacBook at the family dinner table makes you an A-hole.
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Links to threads read:
- Coworker Screams My Name for Rides
- Petty $10K Order Revenge at Total Wine
- Dyed Hair to Prove a Petty Point
- Cab Driver Didn’t Know I Spoke Romanian
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Intro (00:00):
Yapping!
Erika (00:02):
Hello, this is Erick.
Edgar (00:04):
And Edgar.
Erika (00:05):
And we are the Yapping Snousers. We entertain you with
the app worthy stories we findaround the web. Today's theme is
workplace foolery. The firststory is coworker and I live in
the same apartment complex.She's been approaching me at
home for a ride to work,unplanned and uninvited.
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Bro. My coworker just moved intothe same apartment complex where
I live in. She lives quite away,but still a walking distance
from me. Last week Thursday, Iwas walking to my vehicle and I
hear my name being screamed manytimes through the air. It was my
coworker from her balcony.
She was yelling something elsethat I couldn't quite hear but
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also was leaving work and didn'thave time to stop by. So she was
needing a ride to work. ThatFriday she was screaming my name
as she walking towards me fromher apartment building yelling
that she needed a ride to work.I thought that I could bring
her, but I couldn't bring herhome, and I won't be able to
bring her this week. Honestly,I'm not comfortable at all with
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her just showing up at myvehicle and expecting a ride,
nor screaming my name from afar.
It's not a proper way to act.She was getting a ride from a
other coworker, but they gotinto a tiff. Her supervisor has
offered to pick her up before.I've been thinking today that
this is going to happen againtomorrow, and I'm sorry to say,
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but even if I'm headed straightto work, I won't be giving her a
ride. I'm a loner and I likebeing by myself on the ride to
and from work.
And I'm just thankful that Idon't park anywhere near my
building because I could see herjust showing up unannounced,
screaming my name until shefound my apartment. It's just
weird to me. We're not at work.This is where I live and I would
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like my personal time and spaceto be respected. We should see
how the week goes.
Edgar (01:56):
Hopefully there's a part two. Yeah, think it's pretty
fair that he is. But yeah, Ithink it's fair for him to not
want to be at someone'schauffeur. I definitely wouldn't
want that. Because I understandthe having the me time before
and after, because work is justdraining.
Erika (02:13):
Yeah, definitely. Mean, you shouldn't just assume and
yell and be like, Hey, give me aride. At least talk to somebody,
ask permission, not across in abalcony all the way up and
yelling. I don't know, itdoesn't seem right.
Edgar (02:27):
Yeah, seems off. I mean, it would be more understandable
if they're related, but they'rejust like work acquaintances.
She's basically a stranger.
Erika (02:37):
She is. I wouldn't be comfortable with asking some
random coworker that I don'teven really know for a ride,
even if she lives or he livesthere.
Edgar (02:46):
They'd have to be like a really good friend of mine, but
even then I would still behesitant I guess.
Erika (02:51):
Yeah, mean, was, say I was having troubles with my car
or something, I'd be like,alright, I'll give you gas. You
know what mean? It doesn'tmatter. It's just one of those
things where you shouldn't justassume that they're just gonna
help you for free. I mean, itdoesn't matter if they're
related or not.
He could also tell her, hey, youknow, I don't feel comfortable.
Maybe today I can give you thatride but from now on I won't be
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able to. Or whatever, he couldgive an excuse. But just be
upfront with her too. He doesn'thave to just tiptoe around her
either.
Edgar (03:22):
Yeah, probably setting boundaries about would ride be
necessary in this case. Yeah. Iguess we'll see how the week
goes for this dude.
Erika (03:32):
But there is an update and it says, She didn't show up
at my vehicle today. She told meat work that she found a work
band company to use, which isgreat. My reasoning are below
why I didn't want to startgiving her rides every day or
why I don't want to get so closeoutside of work for those who
thought I was being rude,selfish, or mean, which we're
not gonna go into because it'sanother huge paragraph.
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Paragraphs. Yes, at least shewas able to find another way of
transportation to her job.
Edgar (04:02):
And a good thing too that they didn't try to set up an
accommodation to have him takeher to work. Because if they did
that, with the other option,they would just keep on hanging
out in that case.
Erika (04:16):
Yeah, I mean it's completely different if it's
your friend or you knowsomebody. It's a little bit much
better. But even then it getsawkward, especially if it's a
coworker that you don't reallyknow. So the top comment is you
need to be direct about this.People are so afraid to just
speak up and say no.
Instead of being passiveaggressive and tiptoeing around
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issues, now you don't mentionwhether or not you two work
within the same department orhow turning her down may impact
the workplace. Honestly, itshouldn't matter. You need to
say that you're not going togive her rides to and from work.
If she pushes once to tell areason, tell her, I have a five
year old because I said no, thenwalk away.
Edgar (04:59):
I agree.
Erika (05:00):
It is awkward and uncomfortable to be direct? Yes.
Is it better than innovativelyfeeling like a hostage in your
own apartment complex? Yes itis. Yeah, I mean, I think his
best bet was just to be directwith her in the beginning.
He might come off as an asshole,but I mean it's really his
choice. He doesn't have to giveher a ride.
Edgar (05:21):
Better an asshole than being like a doormat.
Erika (05:24):
Yeah, it's just about comfort. If he didn't feel
comfortable, then that's it.Know, she could find another
way.
Edgar (05:31):
Is he a final verdict?
Erika (05:32):
Nah, I would say he's not the asshole. I mean, it worked
out then anyways.
Edgar (05:38):
Yeah, Lucky for him, yeah, worked out. The next story
is titled Total Wine Would NotSell Me the Pacific Wine I Drove
60 Miles For Because They ClaimI Was With Someone Else Who Left
and They Need to See ID for ThatPerson. I was alone. So I made a
mobile order of 10 ks and neverpicked it up. I got mad all over
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again writing this because ofthe sheer amount of disrespect
from Total Wine Management.
I have no speak for this orderas well. There is a Pacific wine
I used to pair with food. Theclosest Total Wine that had it
was a 60 mile drive and it wasstorming out and I want it for
the holidays because most likelythis was going to be cooped up
inside. So I drive over. Thisseems to be my typical total
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wine until I move two countiesaway.
Anyways, I go in and pick up thewine and get some other stuff
for holiday parties. And I wasin there maybe an hour and it
came time to check out and thecashier asked me for my ID. So,
I give it to her and then shetells me she needs to see the ID
of the other person I was with.So, now I'm confused and say I'm
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alone. She says, Well, I have togo get my manager.
Okay, fine. So he comes out totell me that she told him I was
with someone and they need tocome back and bring their ID or
they won't sell it to me. I toldhim I wasn't with anyone. He
asked to see my ID, looked at itand says, Well, unfortunately
you look young. At this pointI'm like, Are you serious?
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And he's like, You can come backtomorrow alone. And I find it
extremely disrespectful to tellsomeone they look young while
you're holding their ID in yourhand. Not to mention, I've been
shopping at the exact locationfor about four years and have
never had a problem. So I toldhim about how I drove there and
have been shopping there foryears and that I even have a
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second form of ID and he wasjust kind of giggling and saying
no. So, I left very angry and itwas late around 9PM.
Then I had about an hour and ahalf drive back home in the
rainstorm. So, I was home pissedabout it all night and the next
day I went into the one close tomy house to get the other stuff.
Unfortunately, that one was outof line that's why I didn't
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originally go there. They werepleasant as usual, actually
beyond nice and didn't even IDme, which just goes to show the
other location was on some kindof power trip or something. Then
I got an email from them toreview my experience, which they
send every time I go there and Inever do it.
But I needed to select thelocation I had the bad
experience at and give feedbackon it. So I wrote exactly what
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happened and then the next day Igot a call from the store
manager. Turns out the guy thatnight was an assistant manager
or something. However, he wasmuch more pleasant than the
woman that called me. She wasextremely rude and condescending
and told me that she reviewedthe cameras and that someone
walked in with me at the sametime and that made us a party.
I told her I didn't own them.She said it didn't matter, so
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apparently people can't walkinto Total Wine at the same time
as you. Then she said that theemployees were watching me and
that the person left thirtyminutes before I went to check
out and they saw it. Okay so,and if that is the case and that
is your policy, why don't youjust say something when you saw
the person leave and we couldhave cleared up the whole
situation right then and thereinstead of continuing to allow
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me to shop for another thirtyminutes and waste my time to
know that when I came to checkout you were going to deny it.
So I told her, even if that isthe case, someone can't leave a
store, and she said no.
To complete the transaction theywould have to drive back with
their ID. This made me extremelyangry because even if that is
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the case and that is yourpolicy, at least you can offer
an apology for theinconvenience. Not just call me
to argue and stir the pot. I wasalready kind of over it because
it had been like two days butjust the whole attitude and
nastiness about the host thingwas really insult to injury. So
I decided to look up theirpolicy and the policy clearly
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states that this only applies toparties at checkout.
So the rule is who is with youat checkout, which that makes
sense or is at least moreunderstandable. Another policy I
read which was interesting wasthat any online order not picked
up within a week, they willissue a full refund to your
original payment method. So myfriends and I were sitting home
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drinking the stuff that I hadgot from the other location
later that day and told themwhat happened and they were all
shooked. So my friends and Iwere sitting at home drinking
the stuff I had got at the otherlocation. Later on, I told them
what happened and they were allshooked.
I know people who work at retailspecifically during COVID and I
know what an inconvenience it isto set up big curbside pickup
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orders because they take up alot of space on the order shelf.
Drunk and mad, I decided toenforce their own policies on
them and make a $10,000 orderfor the soonest possible pickup
time, which they had promisedwould be ready in three hours.
So I made sure to order thecheapest, heaviest bottles I
could think of, so it can takeup the most amount of space in
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the curbside. I made sure toorder one or two of each so they
couldn't just give me a case. Iknow when customers saw it, they
would ask for it and then theywould have to explain how
someone ordered all two thirtyeight bottles back there on
reserve.
Then they would probably getgrouchy and ask for a manager.
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But the manager would be busybecause I also made sure to
order a lot of bottles behindglass so they would have to run
around with their keysscrambling to get the order
ready. I worked in Mito and Iknow how much stuff like this
froze off of schedule and annoysthe managers. So I loaded up the
cart and stopped when I gotbored and placed the order. I
got the email confirmation whichspecified that you had to wait
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for the pickup confirmationemail and that pickup times
aren't guaranteed so I thoughtfor sure they were either going
to cancel the order or call meor something.
And something interesting thatis sent with the email is the
pickup policy that statesspecifically the recipient of
the order needs to be 21, so youcan have other people in your
cart. Not 21? Well, five hourslater I got the pickup email. It
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took them longer but I still wassurprised. Then later I got a
pickup reminder email.
Then three days later, a secondreminder email. Then seven days,
I got my final notice email. Andthen day 10 I got a phone call.
It was the manager acting like acompletely different person this
time asking when I was comingfor the order. At this point I
think she knew I was messingwith them because it had been
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ten days and she knew my namefrom the previous feedback
thing.
Because when she called, sheasked for me by name and my name
was on the order. So I told her,Yeah, I went to pick it up and
was told I looked too young. SoI just went to the other Total
Wine and picked up the samestuff there. So then she was mad
and said, Are you seriously notcoming to pick this up? And I
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said, Nah.
And she hung up. When yourhigher ups ask you why your
store had to refund someone$10,000 explain to them what you
did. They were supposed toautomatically cancel the order
at the seven day mark, butdidn't. She called me at the ten
day mark. So I called hercustomer service line to cancel
it and she told me some storeswait till the end of the month
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to do it.
I'm assuming the manager wastrying to hold out on refunding,
but I made them cancel it rightthen and there.
Erika (13:10):
I think there was so much work for a petty revenge.
Edgar (13:13):
It
Erika (13:14):
was too long. I think he just should have just never gone
back there and that's it.
Edgar (13:20):
I I think that's kind of illegal, I'm not really sure.
But it just sounds illegal.
Erika (13:26):
For what they did?
Edgar (13:27):
No, what the OP did. Oh. That basically is like some sort
of fraud. I mean, yeah, again,think it's a necessary amount of
work and effort to mess withsomebody or mess with a store,
even though the store was prettyterrible in how they treated
him.
Erika (13:45):
Yeah, mean how are going to say, Oh you came with that
person just because you walkedin at the same time?
Edgar (13:51):
I think they were trying to cover their tracks but also
they didn't want to admit theywere wrong, which they were very
obviously wrong.
Erika (13:58):
Yeah. I mean, they had a chance to fix it, I don't
understand why they didn't takeit.
Edgar (14:03):
Yeah. I mean, it was the assistant manager, so probably,
yeah, they were like half powertripping, half didn't want to
seem like they were wrong in thesituation where they clearly
were.
Erika (14:14):
Yeah, that's very unfortunate.
Edgar (14:16):
But yeah, I don't think OP's response was reasonable
though at all.
Erika (14:21):
No, it was too much. Dude, that's too much energy.
Edgar (14:24):
I know. I I can tell he or she has nothing else going on
in their life.
Erika (14:29):
Yeah. I mean, I would not waste my time doing the whole
thing. I would just let it go.
Edgar (14:35):
Exactly. Feel like this entire situation, it probably
took them at least one or twoweeks.
Erika (14:40):
Oh definitely.
Edgar (14:41):
Probably all they talked about. Like this is their entire
personality.
Erika (14:45):
For a couple weeks at least.
Edgar (14:47):
For every.
Erika (14:48):
Alright, so the top comment is Total Wine Management
always are on a power trip. Myfriend had just left the
checkout line. A shopping cartfull of fourth of July party.
Management grabbed his cartbefore he could leave and yelled
that he needed to pay. He toldthem he did pay and if they
didn't let him leave, he wasgoing to return the whole cart.
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And no, he wouldn't show themthe receipt like they asked. Had
they asked nicely for a receipt,he would have showed them. But
violently grabbing the cart wasenough for him. He returned the
whole cart while the managertried to apologize and talk him
out of it. I mean I imagine youliterally pay, you have receipt,
I mean the cashier's right thereand you're exiting and then
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somebody just stops the car likeoh you have to pay for that.
Edgar (15:34):
RIP.
Erika (15:34):
Yeah, I don't blame him for wanting to return all that.
Edgar (15:39):
Yeah, it's unfortunate because I do hear a lot of
stories that a lot of Toto winesaren't the best places to get
your stuff just because of theemployees. You only have like
everything.
Erika (15:50):
Yeah, exactly, I agree. Oh, okay, so there is another
comment with another story. Itsays, A few years ago I was at a
liquor store buying wine andliquor for a party. While I was
walking around grabbing bottlesthere was a guy following and
watching me like a hawk. I triedto ignore him because he just
wanted to get my crap and leave.
Well, as I was walking to therefrigerator that has all the
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mixers, which is located rightat the exit, the dude ran at me
and grabbed my basket. He thenstarted going on about how I am
a thief and I was obviouslytrying to make a run for it
because I was at the exit. No,dude. I'm just trying to grab
some cranberry juice. He kindapaused for a second and let me
go.
I still end up buying my winebecause I didn't feel like going
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to another store. I haven't beenthere since. And then there's
other stories that it was justlike back to back, like just
terrible situations where theyjust are blaming them for doing
nothing.
Edgar (16:54):
I mean, always get carted over there.
Erika (16:57):
You look like you're 12.
Edgar (16:59):
Exactly. I think this one time I forgot my ID and I was
like dang. And I had like apicture of my ID in my phone but
they wouldn't accept it.
Erika (17:07):
No, you need to understand.
Edgar (17:08):
Total Wine for me was like, at least when I lived,
where I used to live, was likefifteen minutes drive. So like,
obviously I didn't get anything.Yeah. Oh, and remember that
other time we went to TotalWine, but you didn't have your
ID?
Erika (17:21):
Yeah, and I went to the car and grabbed it.
Edgar (17:23):
Did I? You didn't have your ID.
Erika (17:25):
Oh, I left it in the house, yeah.
Edgar (17:27):
So yeah, I had my ID and I was carted, so obviously I
showed them my ID, you didn'thave your ID, but since you were
with me and you didn't have yourID, they couldn't sell it for
us.
Erika (17:38):
Yeah, that was so annoying, I really wanted my
wine.
Edgar (17:40):
Exactly, it wasn't like we were going crazy, we were
just gonna get one.
Erika (17:43):
We literally had two. Had two bottles. Yeah, we
Edgar (17:46):
wanted to just have a nice Friday night or whatever.
Erika (17:50):
Yeah, just low key.
Edgar (17:52):
Yeah, they wanted it in the salad dress and I'm like
bro.
Erika (17:54):
I know, I mean like I said, they didn't accept because
I had a picture of my ID andstuff, but they didn't care.
Edgar (18:00):
And it's not like where we live, the closest total wine
is like thirty minutes away.
Erika (18:04):
Thirty ish minutes, but in traffic, yeah.
Edgar (18:07):
Yeah, so.
Erika (18:07):
It was not worth it. There was no way we were
Edgar (18:09):
gonna like drive back home. And that was like an
afterthought too, but still.
Erika (18:13):
Yeah, it does suck. If they were better with customer
service they would literally bemaking more money. I feel like a
lot of people at least would goto different stores instead of
going to that one. At leastwhatever happened to OP I would
never return to that oneregardless if they had my
favorite wine or not.
Edgar (18:29):
But I think it's, Otona wine I feel like is one of the
bigger wine places, at leastwhere we live. Yeah. Just
because it has like everything,everything.
Erika (18:37):
Mhmm, that is correct.
Edgar (18:38):
So they can kind of like afford to be like dickish like
this, since there's no reallyother options
Erika (18:46):
for
Edgar (18:46):
what they have. But also, in a lot of states, in a lot of
places like in The UnitedStates, laws around liquor are
very strict.
Erika (18:56):
I know.
Edgar (18:56):
So they probably just like, they rather trust
themselves than trust thecustomer at all times.
Erika (19:00):
That's true. I mean it is tricky. I mean I think around
here there was a wine, no it wasjust like a liquor store where
they got closed because theywere selling to minors where we
Exactly.
Edgar (19:11):
I mean yeah that place, I don't even know how that even
happened. Because like for me,they always like carded me hard.
Erika (19:16):
I know, for real.
Edgar (19:17):
All the people, they didn't card at all. And then
when, yeah, so they had a teaabout this place. I won't name
it for libel reasons. They werefirst in trouble because they
were selling to minors, but thentheir business, like the person
who owned it, was banned fromrunning a liquor store because
they were trying to erase theevidence right after.
Erika (19:35):
Yeah.
Edgar (19:36):
Which I assume means that they were trying to erase
footage or all that stuff. Sonow they have to sell the entire
business.
Erika (19:41):
Yeah, it's a tricky business. Why are selling to
minors, first of all? I mean Iknow, so this is like a college
campus nearby, but you know,still, why would you want to
risk your business for that?
Edgar (19:55):
I mean that's their only customers probably, but also not
a good look.
Erika (20:00):
Yeah, definitely not.
Edgar (20:03):
So your final verdict on this story?
Erika (20:04):
I would say he just put too much effort. I think he's an
asshole, but I think he just puttoo much effort on Petty Bruin.
Edgar (20:15):
Nah, OP is an asshole. You
Erika (20:17):
think so? Yeah.
Edgar (20:19):
I can see him in hell. Like he's gonna go into heaven's
gates and they're gonna be like,okay, do you remember when this
happened?
Erika (20:27):
I don't know. I think he just should have just let it go.
Mhmm. But
Edgar (20:33):
also his like, his spelling and punctuation and
grammar was atrocious. It waslike so difficult to read that
whole passage.
Erika (20:40):
And it was so long. Mhmm. It was so long.
Edgar (20:43):
It could have been a small text, TVH.
Erika (20:45):
I think the title said it all, honestly.
Edgar (20:48):
Basically. I could have just read the title and then
that's it.
Erika (20:53):
Alright, so the next story is, I dyed my hair blue so
my boss will stop blaming me forhair and customers' food. I used
to work for a sandwich shop. Allthe other employees there were
Indian women with very longblack hair. Mine was short of
similar, I suppose, mediumlength and brown. But every time
a customer would complain aboutlong black hair in the food, my
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boss would immediately blame mewithout any hesitation or
investigation, despite the factthat I was the only person who
wore my hair up and netted.
So one day I dented my hairblue, with the sole purpose of
not being blamed for black hairbeing in the food. You guessed
it, it happened. And how huffyand annoyed my boss got when I
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said it couldn't be my hairbecause mine is blue was beyond
amusing.
Edgar (21:43):
Low key, Opie the genius.
Erika (21:45):
I'm not going to go into that, but I definitely, I mean,
it's ridiculous that the bosscontinued to blame her even
though she's the only one thathad her hair up and netted.
Like, how is it her hair?
Edgar (21:59):
I don't know. Definitely just like heroism or maybe their
family or something like that.
Erika (22:04):
Yeah, probably. She was probably the outsider I guess,
and always blamed her foreverything.
Edgar (22:08):
I mean, what are they gonna do now? She has blue hair,
they can't blame her.
Erika (22:12):
No, that's why the boss was mad, because they couldn't
blame her anymore.
Edgar (22:16):
You know? Now he has to actually enforce it with That's
those gross. I can imagine theydidn't care. Like there was a of
workers with the long hairprobably didn't care. They were
like, nah, just putting nastyhands and hair all over the
place.
Erika (22:31):
I don't know about you, but I can always tell when
there's something in my foodbecause I always look at my food
and I always see eyelashes orhair. This is one time I was in
Subway, because I always open upmy sandwich because I just, I
don't know, I'm always like, Ican't. So I opened up and there
was a fly in there.
Edgar (22:51):
RIP.
Erika (22:52):
So like, I seriously have like the worst luck or either or
I just am so cautious I alwaysfind crap in my food.
Edgar (23:01):
Yeah, mean, you missed out on essential proteins from
the bug.
Erika (23:05):
Ew, no! I almost, I was like, I almost barfed. I was
like, oh my god, coulda eatenthat.
Edgar (23:11):
I'm not that cautious.
Erika (23:12):
You literally eat everything!
Edgar (23:14):
When I'm hungry, I'm hungry. But I'm now on a diet. I
lost 34 pounds in the pastmonth.
Erika (23:22):
Oh man, I really don't think it needs to be on a diet,
but you know what's what makesyou happy?
Edgar (23:27):
Yes, I shove you a stick.
Erika (23:31):
You're already a stick, what do you mean?
Edgar (23:34):
You know, you know, in Bug's Life, in the movie?
Erika (23:38):
Yes, Bug's Life.
Edgar (23:39):
Remember that stick? That stick bug that made me?
Erika (23:42):
It's the one that looks like the wood.
Edgar (23:43):
Yeah. I have a picture of him in the mirror. Take a look
at him every morning.
Erika (23:49):
You're so funny.
Edgar (23:50):
But yeah, so, top comment.
Erika (23:53):
I called my bright pink hair my food safety hair.
Edgar (23:58):
Boo.
Erika (23:59):
Yeah. I don't know yet. Me either. How much? It had
6,000 likes.
Edgar (24:05):
6,000 people below IQ.
Erika (24:07):
I don't understand that.
Edgar (24:09):
It's an inside joke, we just don't get it.
Erika (24:11):
Yeah, guess not. If somebody knows, explain it in
the comments.
Edgar (24:16):
Pull forward.
Erika (24:16):
Please and thank you.
Edgar (24:18):
But, yeah, final verdict?
Erika (24:21):
I would say she's smart. I mean, it's ridiculous that she
had to do that. The boss wouldjust be an asshole. He's
definitely the asshole here.
Edgar (24:29):
Yeah. AOP is not the asshole, and give props to her
and hopefully she gets a good 6figure job after this.
Erika (24:36):
Definitely.
Edgar (24:38):
Definitely is smart enough for it. So the next story
is titled Cab Drivers Rip Me toShreds Thinking I Can't
Understand Him, but I Can't.I'll read that again. The next
story is titled Cab Driver RipsMe to Shreds Thinking I Can't
Understand Him, but I Can.Obligatory, this happened
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several years ago.
A few months after I had movedto Chicago, I had moved there
from Romania, where I had beenliving and going to school. I
love Romania. People are great.Drop what you are doing and
visit. Anyways, while I wasthere, due to my living
situation, I had to learn thelanguage fast and thoroughly.
Not many people around me spokeEnglish outside of uni. So fast
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forward to the few moments afterI arrived in Chicago, imagine my
surprise when the driver of theUber I had ordered appeared to
have a Romanian name. The areahad a lot of Eastern Europeans
so I guess it shouldn't havebeen so surprising. And I was
very excited to talk to him andmake sure I wasn't getting
rusty. Maybe make a friend.
Up pulls the guy, I get in, hegreets me, but he appears to be
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on the phone with a buddyfamilymember, so I just sit quietly in
the back, listening in a bit.The person on the other end asks
if the driver is getting offwork soon. He responded with
something like the following,No, I still have a few hours
left. Then I'll go home. Rightnow I have someone in the car.
God, I hate this country. Thewoman here is so fat and ugly.
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At least this one has a nicechest, but why can't she lose
some weight? And he goes on andon about all the problems with
me and other American women. Andnow I have always been a bit on
the chunky side and you guysbelieve the Romanians love to
comment on it, so I was used toit.
But I was a bit shocked thatthis guy was going off like
that. Anyways, am just kind ofsitting bemused in the backseat
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as we near my destination. ThenI tell him, in Romanian, with
all my might trying to pull offthe distinct accent of the
region I had been living in, canyou just pull over there on the
right? I threw out this guy'shead to the exorcist girl head
move and he turned a shade ofred. I have seen nowhere else in
nature.
He didn't say anything. Justpulled over. When I got out, I
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said, Thanks and added, You'renot attractive and you're also
fat, so maybe you shouldn't makecomments like that. I have never
again reached such a level ofself pride.
Erika (27:01):
Yeah. He deserves that. Every bit of that.
Edgar (27:04):
I mean, it's good to know a lot of languages.
Erika (27:07):
It does. And especially when think people don't think
you understand, you do isamazing.
Edgar (27:14):
Yeah, that's why I'm trying to learn Chinese,
Japanese.
Erika (27:18):
You first need to learn Spanish, okay? You I to learn
Spanish.
Edgar (27:21):
I can't understand it, I just can't speak it.
Erika (27:23):
You say you understand it, but not really.
Edgar (27:25):
Actually, I understand several languages. There's just
languages that computers canspeak. That's where all my
mental ness is going towards.
Erika (27:35):
You mean coding? Yeah. I'm I talking about
Edgar (27:39):
knew 20 languages.
Erika (27:41):
Oh my god. Yeah, but you should definitely learn Spanish
first before you start learningany other language.
Edgar (27:48):
I used to know Russian, yeah, and I had it almost as a
minor.
Erika (27:52):
Why do say almost?
Edgar (27:54):
They scrapped the Russian minor at the very last year.
Erika (27:57):
Oh, that really sucks.
Edgar (27:59):
So I took like one to three classes a year of Russian
every year because I wanted tohave it as the back burner while
I was studying, and then thevery last year they canceled it,
like almost the last semester.
Erika (28:14):
My gosh.
Edgar (28:14):
It was one by one guy. He was gay and very flamboyant and
very funny. I remember the firstday, I wasn't there because I
was late to class, my friendtold me were all waiting for the
professor to come into class,and he came in like fifteen
minutes late, and he was likeall red and stuff. He was like,
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if I die, tell my husband I lovehim. Apparently he was choking
on something from like lunch.
Erika (28:44):
Oh my god, and he went walking like that to class?
Edgar (28:47):
Yeah, and then he like ran back, and then like ten
minutes later he came back allcomposed and then he went into
his intro.
Erika (28:54):
That's crazy! But yeah,
Edgar (28:55):
the whole Russian department was ran by this one
guy, but he was alwayscomplaining at the end of every
class, like, Yeah, they make melike I'm basically doing two
jobs and getting paid part timebecause he had to run the
program, make the curriculum,and then also teach.
Erika (29:11):
Oh dang, that's a lot for one person.
Edgar (29:13):
Yeah, like he had to do all the administrative work too
since he was basically the leadof a minor, bachelor's
department.
Erika (29:19):
Oh my god, well no wonder it got canceled. Probably got
sick of it.
Edgar (29:22):
Yeah, he was very sick of it. I mean he loved the language
and he loved teaching it and wewere all pretty chill with him.
But yeah, he was definitelyunlivable, especially in New
York City.
Erika (29:31):
Oh my god, yeah.
Edgar (29:32):
I still have him on Facebook, but yeah, haven't
talked to him for a long time.
Erika (29:36):
Oh, but that's pretty cool. I like that. I think it's
amazing that people can learn upto four languages, five
languages, and it's like insane.So if anybody has that gift,
amazing. Wish.
Bilingual. I
Edgar (29:52):
mean, once I have a mansion then I'll start learning
languages again. Because Iremember in college I used to
learn a lot of languages justbecause I had the Russian and
then Russian helped me moreconfident about learning other
languages.
Erika (30:04):
Well, mean, Russia is pretty hard to learn.
Edgar (30:06):
Yeah, how you learn languages is depending on what
you know already. If you knowEnglish, like other Roman
languages, like Spanish and theother Roman languages or love
languages whatever, I forget theexact term, you can pick it up a
lot easier. But Russian is aSlavic or like it's just like
basically a total different kindof like branch of languages, so
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it's a lot different, thegrammar and the spelling and
stuff like that.
Erika (30:34):
Yeah, definitely.
Edgar (30:35):
You get to learn a whole different alphabet.
Erika (30:37):
Yeah, mean French and even Italian, it's a little bit
similar to Spanish, so you couldhave some words there that you
could understand. But yeah,Russian is a whole different
page. I love other languages, soI love hearing people with
different accents speak. I thinkit's amazing.
Edgar (30:53):
I know you wanna learn Korean.
Erika (30:56):
Yeah, I know a little bit of words, just because I watch
my Korean dramas.
Edgar (31:00):
All
Erika (31:00):
every day. All day, day, every day, No, I have them in
the background. I usually haveevery something in the
background while I'm doingsomething, cleaning, doing
something. All right, so the topcomment is, I live for this
brand of revenge. Peopleshouldn't assume they're safe to
talk crap just because it's notin English.
Edgar (31:21):
Exactly.
Erika (31:21):
Yeah. I mean, if you're, if you're even, it doesn't
matter. It doesn't matter ifyou're good looking or if you're
not, you shouldn't be judginganybody else's appearance. It
doesn't matter. Because if youpoint a finger, six, seven
people are pointing at you, sojust let it be.
Edgar (31:40):
So final thoughts?
Erika (31:41):
No, he got what he deserved 100.
Edgar (31:44):
Yeah OP is definitely not the asshole. Massage, what's it
called again? The pedicureladies? They're next on the
Erika (31:51):
list. My gosh, I've seen so many videos where you have a
random person that knowsMandarin or whatever and they're
like, What are you talking to meabout? Like, it's just crazy. I
think it's well deserved whenthey get talked like that
because there's no need forthat. All right, so the last
story is, Am I the asshole forletting my daughter flaunt her
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expensive items?
I, 50 female, and my husband, 48male, have a daughter, Danica.
One.
Edgar (32:23):
We name her.
Erika (32:26):
I'm just gonna add D. Is that okay?
Edgar (32:28):
Yeah, sure.
Erika (32:29):
Who has been
Edgar (32:30):
No, no, say Danica.
Erika (32:32):
Danica? Yeah. I don't know, it doesn't roll off the
tongue for some reason.
Edgar (32:37):
It sounds funny.
Erika (32:38):
It does. I mean that's a pretty cool unique name but I
don't know.
Edgar (32:42):
I know if she was a boy they'd call her Danica. I'm
pretty sure they wanted a boyand they had that name all set
up, Danica, and then it came outas a girl.
Erika (32:54):
I mean it does sound better with Danica, not Danica.
Edgar (32:56):
Danica, yeah Danica. Remember how I said if we have
children, if it's a guy, I wantit to be named Edgar. But if
it's a girl, Edgar or a?
Erika (33:06):
Absolutely not.
Edgar (33:08):
Same vibes.
Erika (33:08):
It's not gonna happen. Okay, back to the story. Danica,
a 21 female, who has beenextremely independent her whole
life. Danica began working whenshe was 15, and now she works
part time in a large corporationwhile pursuing her studies. We
are extremely proud of her andhow hard she has worked.
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We generally allow her to manageher own finances and she insists
on contributing monthly tofamily expenses with the money
she earns. Danica occasionallylikes to make pricier purchases,
which I do not have any concernover, as I think they are
sensible financial choices. Likelast year she decided to
purchase the newest MacBook asher old laptop was on the last
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leg, and she wanted somethingreliable and long lasting or
when she bought a Marc Jacobsbag for work in university. We
recently went on a family tripwith my brother and his family
who have two kids of their own,Tammy, 20 female, and Nick, 23
male. Mind you, they're in theirtwenties.
His kids and Danica aren'texactly close, but they get
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along fine for the most part. Iknow that Tammy and Nick do not
have any source of incomebesides my brother and have not
worked a day in their life.During the trip, Danica would
occasionally pay for three ofthem for small things like
drinks or food. When we wereshopping, Danica brought a few
items for herself and picked upgifts she wanted to bring for
her friends. During dinner thatnight, my sister-in-law,
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brother's wife, told my husbandand me that we were spoiling
Danica too much with herpurchases.
We explained that Danica earnedher own money and every cent
came from her job. Sister-in-lawthen proceeded to point and tell
Danica that if that was thecase, she shouldn't be flaunting
her purchases and items in frontof her cousins who don't have
cushy little office job andparents who spoiled her into
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this person she is. Danicaapologized politely in saying
that she didn't mean to flaunther things, but I could tell
that she was upset andembarrassed. My husband stood up
and shut back saying that Danicashouldn't have to apologize for
her own hard work. I alsopointed out that Danica had been
financially independent sinceshe was 15 and that we've only
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done our best not to spoil her.
Sister-in-law then proceeded totell us that we weren't teaching
her how to manage her financescorrectly and that all this
money had turned her into alittle brat. Danica excused
herself to the bathroom andtexted that she had gone back to
the hotel. We had a tense backand forth for the rest of the
dinner, and we came back tofinding Danica crying in her
(35:42):
hotel room. I called my brotherhoping that he is able to talk
to his wife, but he explainedthat for the past few days,
Tammy had been crying to herparents about not having what
Danica had. She had been whiningto her mom that she wanted the
newest MacBook as well, but sherefused to get it for her.
(36:05):
Myself, Danica, and my husbandhave been getting calls from the
rest of the family, some callingus assholes and some who were
willing to hear us out andunderstand where we were coming
from. So, am I the asshole?
Edgar (36:20):
No, not at all. Like at first I was under the impression
that Danica would be a littlebit of an asshole, it looks like
she just likes nice stuff andnot like she was showing it off.
I can't imagine her doing that,it just seemed like she always
buys nice things every once in awhile and she's on a vacation so
of course she wants to getsomething nice for herself and
for friends as well. But it doessay a lot about like the
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brother, I guess OP's brother,and like their family situation.
Seems like they, I don't wantsay they were always not right,
but they haven't like launchedoff as Zydnegret had.
Erika (36:56):
Yeah, I mean, she's
Edgar (36:57):
a more And efficient now they just have a lot of envy.
Danica being financiallyindependent at 15 is pretty nice
for anyone. You'd be prettyproud if your own 15 year old
was like that.
Erika (37:09):
Yeah, of course. I mean, in order to get that job or get
a good office job, you need towork hard. It's not just handed
to you. So the fact that she'sable to buy her expensive stuff
and even help around withexpenses in the house is
amazing. And she's responsible,so who is she to tell her what
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she should be doing with herhard earned work money?
Especially if the sister-in-lawdoesn't even work, only her
brother or the brother does.
Edgar (37:39):
So
Erika (37:40):
why is she talking about flaunting what she doesn't have?
Then you should work too if youfeel like you don't have enough
money. You know what mean? It'sjust crazy to me. And if she's
not working, I would understand,for me it would be like okay,
maybe the kids are young, butthey're in their 20s.
Edgar (37:56):
Yeah, mean, 20, 23 is college age, just out of
college, so I can still see ifthey're not making the amount of
money Danica is making. Butstill, Danica was also paying
for their meals apparently inthat vacation, so it seems like
she was just trying to be niceand stuff.
Erika (38:14):
Yeah, definitely.
Edgar (38:14):
It's just a case of envy.
Erika (38:17):
Yeah, definitely When
Edgar (38:18):
you should just be more inspired or at least just
consider Thankful. Yeah,thankful at the very least, but
also consider that you can alsobe well off if you put the work
into it.
Erika (38:30):
Exactly.
Edgar (38:31):
But instead they just chose to throw them all under
the bus.
Erika (38:34):
Yeah, berate her for what? For having nice things and
having a good job? That's nother fault.
Edgar (38:40):
Yeah,
Erika (38:42):
it was completely unreasonable. And the fact that
the kids are whining and saying,I want a new MacBook, they seem
like they're the ones that arespoiled and not Danica. And then
also I went to just Adalus. Theysaid Danica so many times that I
was just like, and they saidDanica one more time in the
story. It was crazy.
(39:04):
Okay, so the top comment is, sotwo grown adults complain to
their parents about what a thirdgrown adult has bought with
their own money, do they notrealize how pathetic that
sounds? Not the asshole. Yourdaughter has done nothing wrong.
Edgar (39:20):
Yeah, basically that's how you boil down the story.
Erika (39:23):
Exactly. There was just no reason for that. If they want
to get something, buy it forthemselves.
Edgar (39:29):
Yeah. It's like a little bit unfortunate, but not every
family, not every person in lifeor in this planet is going be
successful like that. Or they'renot going be able to wanna put
the effort to have nice thingslike that?
Erika (39:46):
Yeah, definitely.
Edgar (39:48):
They'd rather just complain.
Erika (39:49):
Yeah, and then make themselves victims. I think it's
unfortunate, but I mean, youchoose your own path regardless
if you're born rich or if you'renot. You could, you know, if you
even broke hard work you canmake anything happen.
Edgar (40:03):
Yeah, hard work or high risk? Yeah. For your final
verdict?
Erika (40:08):
I would say no, you are not that asshole. She did not do
anything wrong. And she didn'tflaunt anything, she was just
doing her own thing.
Edgar (40:19):
Yeah, maybe that just looks like flaunting to to them.
Erika (40:23):
I guess. I mean, I would be like, oh you go, I don't
know. I guess because I'm verysupportive. If I would see
someone like that, I'd be like,oh girl, that's good. I would be
happy for that person, notjealous.
Edgar (40:33):
I don't know. I'm not really one to notice all that
stuff.
Erika (40:37):
Yeah.
Edgar (40:39):
Like if someone showed up with a jacket made out of tiger,
I wouldn't even notice.
Erika (40:47):
Yes, because you're a guy, but for me, like I said, I
wouldn't even, I don't wanna bejealous, I would just be happy
for that person. Especially ifthey're family, there's no need
to have envy. Well that's allthe stories we have today. Thank
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Edgar (41:18):
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Erika (41:33):
Thank you. Bye.
Yapping!
Erika (00:02):
Hello, this is Erick.
Edgar (00:04):
And Edgar.
Erika (00:05):
And we are the Yapping Snousers. We entertain you with
the app worthy stories we findaround the web. Today's theme is
workplace foolery. The firststory is coworker and I live in
the same apartment complex.She's been approaching me at
home for a ride to work,unplanned and uninvited.
(00:26):
Bro. My coworker just moved intothe same apartment complex where
I live in. She lives quite away,but still a walking distance
from me. Last week Thursday, Iwas walking to my vehicle and I
hear my name being screamed manytimes through the air. It was my
coworker from her balcony.
She was yelling something elsethat I couldn't quite hear but
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also was leaving work and didn'thave time to stop by. So she was
needing a ride to work. ThatFriday she was screaming my name
as she walking towards me fromher apartment building yelling
that she needed a ride to work.I thought that I could bring
her, but I couldn't bring herhome, and I won't be able to
bring her this week. Honestly,I'm not comfortable at all with
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her just showing up at myvehicle and expecting a ride,
nor screaming my name from afar.
It's not a proper way to act.She was getting a ride from a
other coworker, but they gotinto a tiff. Her supervisor has
offered to pick her up before.I've been thinking today that
this is going to happen againtomorrow, and I'm sorry to say,
(01:29):
but even if I'm headed straightto work, I won't be giving her a
ride. I'm a loner and I likebeing by myself on the ride to
and from work.
And I'm just thankful that Idon't park anywhere near my
building because I could see herjust showing up unannounced,
screaming my name until shefound my apartment. It's just
weird to me. We're not at work.This is where I live and I would
(01:50):
like my personal time and spaceto be respected. We should see
how the week goes.
Edgar (01:56):
Hopefully there's a part two. Yeah, think it's pretty
fair that he is. But yeah, Ithink it's fair for him to not
want to be at someone'schauffeur. I definitely wouldn't
want that. Because I understandthe having the me time before
and after, because work is justdraining.
Erika (02:13):
Yeah, definitely. Mean, you shouldn't just assume and
yell and be like, Hey, give me aride. At least talk to somebody,
ask permission, not across in abalcony all the way up and
yelling. I don't know, itdoesn't seem right.
Edgar (02:27):
Yeah, seems off. I mean, it would be more understandable
if they're related, but they'rejust like work acquaintances.
She's basically a stranger.
Erika (02:37):
She is. I wouldn't be comfortable with asking some
random coworker that I don'teven really know for a ride,
even if she lives or he livesthere.
Edgar (02:46):
They'd have to be like a really good friend of mine, but
even then I would still behesitant I guess.
Erika (02:51):
Yeah, mean, was, say I was having troubles with my car
or something, I'd be like,alright, I'll give you gas. You
know what mean? It doesn'tmatter. It's just one of those
things where you shouldn't justassume that they're just gonna
help you for free. I mean, itdoesn't matter if they're
related or not.
He could also tell her, hey, youknow, I don't feel comfortable.
Maybe today I can give you thatride but from now on I won't be
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able to. Or whatever, he couldgive an excuse. But just be
upfront with her too. He doesn'thave to just tiptoe around her
either.
Edgar (03:22):
Yeah, probably setting boundaries about would ride be
necessary in this case. Yeah. Iguess we'll see how the week
goes for this dude.
Erika (03:32):
But there is an update and it says, She didn't show up
at my vehicle today. She told meat work that she found a work
band company to use, which isgreat. My reasoning are below
why I didn't want to startgiving her rides every day or
why I don't want to get so closeoutside of work for those who
thought I was being rude,selfish, or mean, which we're
not gonna go into because it'sanother huge paragraph.
(03:54):
Paragraphs. Yes, at least shewas able to find another way of
transportation to her job.
Edgar (04:02):
And a good thing too that they didn't try to set up an
accommodation to have him takeher to work. Because if they did
that, with the other option,they would just keep on hanging
out in that case.
Erika (04:16):
Yeah, I mean it's completely different if it's
your friend or you knowsomebody. It's a little bit much
better. But even then it getsawkward, especially if it's a
coworker that you don't reallyknow. So the top comment is you
need to be direct about this.People are so afraid to just
speak up and say no.
Instead of being passiveaggressive and tiptoeing around
(04:39):
issues, now you don't mentionwhether or not you two work
within the same department orhow turning her down may impact
the workplace. Honestly, itshouldn't matter. You need to
say that you're not going togive her rides to and from work.
If she pushes once to tell areason, tell her, I have a five
year old because I said no, thenwalk away.
Edgar (04:59):
I agree.
Erika (05:00):
It is awkward and uncomfortable to be direct? Yes.
Is it better than innovativelyfeeling like a hostage in your
own apartment complex? Yes itis. Yeah, I mean, I think his
best bet was just to be directwith her in the beginning.
He might come off as an asshole,but I mean it's really his
choice. He doesn't have to giveher a ride.
Edgar (05:21):
Better an asshole than being like a doormat.
Erika (05:24):
Yeah, it's just about comfort. If he didn't feel
comfortable, then that's it.Know, she could find another
way.
Edgar (05:31):
Is he a final verdict?
Erika (05:32):
Nah, I would say he's not the asshole. I mean, it worked
out then anyways.
Edgar (05:38):
Yeah, Lucky for him, yeah, worked out. The next story
is titled Total Wine Would NotSell Me the Pacific Wine I Drove
60 Miles For Because They ClaimI Was With Someone Else Who Left
and They Need to See ID for ThatPerson. I was alone. So I made a
mobile order of 10 ks and neverpicked it up. I got mad all over
(06:00):
again writing this because ofthe sheer amount of disrespect
from Total Wine Management.
I have no speak for this orderas well. There is a Pacific wine
I used to pair with food. Theclosest Total Wine that had it
was a 60 mile drive and it wasstorming out and I want it for
the holidays because most likelythis was going to be cooped up
inside. So I drive over. Thisseems to be my typical total
(06:28):
wine until I move two countiesaway.
Anyways, I go in and pick up thewine and get some other stuff
for holiday parties. And I wasin there maybe an hour and it
came time to check out and thecashier asked me for my ID. So,
I give it to her and then shetells me she needs to see the ID
of the other person I was with.So, now I'm confused and say I'm
(06:52):
alone. She says, Well, I have togo get my manager.
Okay, fine. So he comes out totell me that she told him I was
with someone and they need tocome back and bring their ID or
they won't sell it to me. I toldhim I wasn't with anyone. He
asked to see my ID, looked at itand says, Well, unfortunately
you look young. At this pointI'm like, Are you serious?
(07:13):
And he's like, You can come backtomorrow alone. And I find it
extremely disrespectful to tellsomeone they look young while
you're holding their ID in yourhand. Not to mention, I've been
shopping at the exact locationfor about four years and have
never had a problem. So I toldhim about how I drove there and
have been shopping there foryears and that I even have a
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second form of ID and he wasjust kind of giggling and saying
no. So, I left very angry and itwas late around 9PM.
Then I had about an hour and ahalf drive back home in the
rainstorm. So, I was home pissedabout it all night and the next
day I went into the one close tomy house to get the other stuff.
Unfortunately, that one was outof line that's why I didn't
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originally go there. They werepleasant as usual, actually
beyond nice and didn't even IDme, which just goes to show the
other location was on some kindof power trip or something. Then
I got an email from them toreview my experience, which they
send every time I go there and Inever do it.
But I needed to select thelocation I had the bad
experience at and give feedbackon it. So I wrote exactly what
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happened and then the next day Igot a call from the store
manager. Turns out the guy thatnight was an assistant manager
or something. However, he wasmuch more pleasant than the
woman that called me. She wasextremely rude and condescending
and told me that she reviewedthe cameras and that someone
walked in with me at the sametime and that made us a party.
I told her I didn't own them.She said it didn't matter, so
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apparently people can't walkinto Total Wine at the same time
as you. Then she said that theemployees were watching me and
that the person left thirtyminutes before I went to check
out and they saw it. Okay so,and if that is the case and that
is your policy, why don't youjust say something when you saw
the person leave and we couldhave cleared up the whole
situation right then and thereinstead of continuing to allow
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me to shop for another thirtyminutes and waste my time to
know that when I came to checkout you were going to deny it.
So I told her, even if that isthe case, someone can't leave a
store, and she said no.
To complete the transaction theywould have to drive back with
their ID. This made me extremelyangry because even if that is
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the case and that is yourpolicy, at least you can offer
an apology for theinconvenience. Not just call me
to argue and stir the pot. I wasalready kind of over it because
it had been like two days butjust the whole attitude and
nastiness about the host thingwas really insult to injury. So
I decided to look up theirpolicy and the policy clearly
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states that this only applies toparties at checkout.
So the rule is who is with youat checkout, which that makes
sense or is at least moreunderstandable. Another policy I
read which was interesting wasthat any online order not picked
up within a week, they willissue a full refund to your
original payment method. So myfriends and I were sitting home
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drinking the stuff that I hadgot from the other location
later that day and told themwhat happened and they were all
shooked. So my friends and Iwere sitting at home drinking
the stuff I had got at the otherlocation. Later on, I told them
what happened and they were allshooked.
I know people who work at retailspecifically during COVID and I
know what an inconvenience it isto set up big curbside pickup
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orders because they take up alot of space on the order shelf.
Drunk and mad, I decided toenforce their own policies on
them and make a $10,000 orderfor the soonest possible pickup
time, which they had promisedwould be ready in three hours.
So I made sure to order thecheapest, heaviest bottles I
could think of, so it can takeup the most amount of space in
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the curbside. I made sure toorder one or two of each so they
couldn't just give me a case. Iknow when customers saw it, they
would ask for it and then theywould have to explain how
someone ordered all two thirtyeight bottles back there on
reserve.
Then they would probably getgrouchy and ask for a manager.
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But the manager would be busybecause I also made sure to
order a lot of bottles behindglass so they would have to run
around with their keysscrambling to get the order
ready. I worked in Mito and Iknow how much stuff like this
froze off of schedule and annoysthe managers. So I loaded up the
cart and stopped when I gotbored and placed the order. I
got the email confirmation whichspecified that you had to wait
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for the pickup confirmationemail and that pickup times
aren't guaranteed so I thoughtfor sure they were either going
to cancel the order or call meor something.
And something interesting thatis sent with the email is the
pickup policy that statesspecifically the recipient of
the order needs to be 21, so youcan have other people in your
cart. Not 21? Well, five hourslater I got the pickup email. It
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took them longer but I still wassurprised. Then later I got a
pickup reminder email.
Then three days later, a secondreminder email. Then seven days,
I got my final notice email. Andthen day 10 I got a phone call.
It was the manager acting like acompletely different person this
time asking when I was comingfor the order. At this point I
think she knew I was messingwith them because it had been
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ten days and she knew my namefrom the previous feedback
thing.
Because when she called, sheasked for me by name and my name
was on the order. So I told her,Yeah, I went to pick it up and
was told I looked too young. SoI just went to the other Total
Wine and picked up the samestuff there. So then she was mad
and said, Are you seriously notcoming to pick this up? And I
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said, Nah.
And she hung up. When yourhigher ups ask you why your
store had to refund someone$10,000 explain to them what you
did. They were supposed toautomatically cancel the order
at the seven day mark, butdidn't. She called me at the ten
day mark. So I called hercustomer service line to cancel
it and she told me some storeswait till the end of the month
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to do it.
I'm assuming the manager wastrying to hold out on refunding,
but I made them cancel it rightthen and there.
Erika (13:10):
I think there was so much work for a petty revenge.
Edgar (13:13):
It
Erika (13:14):
was too long. I think he just should have just never gone
back there and that's it.
Edgar (13:20):
I I think that's kind of illegal, I'm not really sure.
But it just sounds illegal.
Erika (13:26):
For what they did?
Edgar (13:27):
No, what the OP did. Oh. That basically is like some sort
of fraud. I mean, yeah, again,think it's a necessary amount of
work and effort to mess withsomebody or mess with a store,
even though the store was prettyterrible in how they treated
him.
Erika (13:45):
Yeah, mean how are going to say, Oh you came with that
person just because you walkedin at the same time?
Edgar (13:51):
I think they were trying to cover their tracks but also
they didn't want to admit theywere wrong, which they were very
obviously wrong.
Erika (13:58):
Yeah. I mean, they had a chance to fix it, I don't
understand why they didn't takeit.
Edgar (14:03):
Yeah. I mean, it was the assistant manager, so probably,
yeah, they were like half powertripping, half didn't want to
seem like they were wrong in thesituation where they clearly
were.
Erika (14:14):
Yeah, that's very unfortunate.
Edgar (14:16):
But yeah, I don't think OP's response was reasonable
though at all.
Erika (14:21):
No, it was too much. Dude, that's too much energy.
Edgar (14:24):
I know. I I can tell he or she has nothing else going on
in their life.
Erika (14:29):
Yeah. I mean, I would not waste my time doing the whole
thing. I would just let it go.
Edgar (14:35):
Exactly. Feel like this entire situation, it probably
took them at least one or twoweeks.
Erika (14:40):
Oh definitely.
Edgar (14:41):
Probably all they talked about. Like this is their entire
personality.
Erika (14:45):
For a couple weeks at least.
Edgar (14:47):
For every.
Erika (14:48):
Alright, so the top comment is Total Wine Management
always are on a power trip. Myfriend had just left the
checkout line. A shopping cartfull of fourth of July party.
Management grabbed his cartbefore he could leave and yelled
that he needed to pay. He toldthem he did pay and if they
didn't let him leave, he wasgoing to return the whole cart.
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And no, he wouldn't show themthe receipt like they asked. Had
they asked nicely for a receipt,he would have showed them. But
violently grabbing the cart wasenough for him. He returned the
whole cart while the managertried to apologize and talk him
out of it. I mean I imagine youliterally pay, you have receipt,
I mean the cashier's right thereand you're exiting and then
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somebody just stops the car likeoh you have to pay for that.
Edgar (15:34):
RIP.
Erika (15:34):
Yeah, I don't blame him for wanting to return all that.
Edgar (15:39):
Yeah, it's unfortunate because I do hear a lot of
stories that a lot of Toto winesaren't the best places to get
your stuff just because of theemployees. You only have like
everything.
Erika (15:50):
Yeah, exactly, I agree. Oh, okay, so there is another
comment with another story. Itsays, A few years ago I was at a
liquor store buying wine andliquor for a party. While I was
walking around grabbing bottlesthere was a guy following and
watching me like a hawk. I triedto ignore him because he just
wanted to get my crap and leave.
Well, as I was walking to therefrigerator that has all the
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mixers, which is located rightat the exit, the dude ran at me
and grabbed my basket. He thenstarted going on about how I am
a thief and I was obviouslytrying to make a run for it
because I was at the exit. No,dude. I'm just trying to grab
some cranberry juice. He kindapaused for a second and let me
go.
I still end up buying my winebecause I didn't feel like going
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to another store. I haven't beenthere since. And then there's
other stories that it was justlike back to back, like just
terrible situations where theyjust are blaming them for doing
nothing.
Edgar (16:54):
I mean, always get carted over there.
Erika (16:57):
You look like you're 12.
Edgar (16:59):
Exactly. I think this one time I forgot my ID and I was
like dang. And I had like apicture of my ID in my phone but
they wouldn't accept it.
Erika (17:07):
No, you need to understand.
Edgar (17:08):
Total Wine for me was like, at least when I lived,
where I used to live, was likefifteen minutes drive. So like,
obviously I didn't get anything.Yeah. Oh, and remember that
other time we went to TotalWine, but you didn't have your
ID?
Erika (17:21):
Yeah, and I went to the car and grabbed it.
Edgar (17:23):
Did I? You didn't have your ID.
Erika (17:25):
Oh, I left it in the house, yeah.
Edgar (17:27):
So yeah, I had my ID and I was carted, so obviously I
showed them my ID, you didn'thave your ID, but since you were
with me and you didn't have yourID, they couldn't sell it for
us.
Erika (17:38):
Yeah, that was so annoying, I really wanted my
wine.
Edgar (17:40):
Exactly, it wasn't like we were going crazy, we were
just gonna get one.
Erika (17:43):
We literally had two. Had two bottles. Yeah, we
Edgar (17:46):
wanted to just have a nice Friday night or whatever.
Erika (17:50):
Yeah, just low key.
Edgar (17:52):
Yeah, they wanted it in the salad dress and I'm like
bro.
Erika (17:54):
I know, I mean like I said, they didn't accept because
I had a picture of my ID andstuff, but they didn't care.
Edgar (18:00):
And it's not like where we live, the closest total wine
is like thirty minutes away.
Erika (18:04):
Thirty ish minutes, but in traffic, yeah.
Edgar (18:07):
Yeah, so.
Erika (18:07):
It was not worth it. There was no way we were
Edgar (18:09):
gonna like drive back home. And that was like an
afterthought too, but still.
Erika (18:13):
Yeah, it does suck. If they were better with customer
service they would literally bemaking more money. I feel like a
lot of people at least would goto different stores instead of
going to that one. At leastwhatever happened to OP I would
never return to that oneregardless if they had my
favorite wine or not.
Edgar (18:29):
But I think it's, Otona wine I feel like is one of the
bigger wine places, at leastwhere we live. Yeah. Just
because it has like everything,everything.
Erika (18:37):
Mhmm, that is correct.
Edgar (18:38):
So they can kind of like afford to be like dickish like
this, since there's no reallyother options
Erika (18:46):
for
Edgar (18:46):
what they have. But also, in a lot of states, in a lot of
places like in The UnitedStates, laws around liquor are
very strict.
Erika (18:56):
I know.
Edgar (18:56):
So they probably just like, they rather trust
themselves than trust thecustomer at all times.
Erika (19:00):
That's true. I mean it is tricky. I mean I think around
here there was a wine, no it wasjust like a liquor store where
they got closed because theywere selling to minors where we
Exactly.
Edgar (19:11):
I mean yeah that place, I don't even know how that even
happened. Because like for me,they always like carded me hard.
Erika (19:16):
I know, for real.
Edgar (19:17):
All the people, they didn't card at all. And then
when, yeah, so they had a teaabout this place. I won't name
it for libel reasons. They werefirst in trouble because they
were selling to minors, but thentheir business, like the person
who owned it, was banned fromrunning a liquor store because
they were trying to erase theevidence right after.
Erika (19:35):
Yeah.
Edgar (19:36):
Which I assume means that they were trying to erase
footage or all that stuff. Sonow they have to sell the entire
business.
Erika (19:41):
Yeah, it's a tricky business. Why are selling to
minors, first of all? I mean Iknow, so this is like a college
campus nearby, but you know,still, why would you want to
risk your business for that?
Edgar (19:55):
I mean that's their only customers probably, but also not
a good look.
Erika (20:00):
Yeah, definitely not.
Edgar (20:03):
So your final verdict on this story?
Erika (20:04):
I would say he just put too much effort. I think he's an
asshole, but I think he just puttoo much effort on Petty Bruin.
Edgar (20:15):
Nah, OP is an asshole. You
Erika (20:17):
think so? Yeah.
Edgar (20:19):
I can see him in hell. Like he's gonna go into heaven's
gates and they're gonna be like,okay, do you remember when this
happened?
Erika (20:27):
I don't know. I think he just should have just let it go.
Mhmm. But
Edgar (20:33):
also his like, his spelling and punctuation and
grammar was atrocious. It waslike so difficult to read that
whole passage.
Erika (20:40):
And it was so long. Mhmm. It was so long.
Edgar (20:43):
It could have been a small text, TVH.
Erika (20:45):
I think the title said it all, honestly.
Edgar (20:48):
Basically. I could have just read the title and then
that's it.
Erika (20:53):
Alright, so the next story is, I dyed my hair blue so
my boss will stop blaming me forhair and customers' food. I used
to work for a sandwich shop. Allthe other employees there were
Indian women with very longblack hair. Mine was short of
similar, I suppose, mediumlength and brown. But every time
a customer would complain aboutlong black hair in the food, my
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boss would immediately blame mewithout any hesitation or
investigation, despite the factthat I was the only person who
wore my hair up and netted.
So one day I dented my hairblue, with the sole purpose of
not being blamed for black hairbeing in the food. You guessed
it, it happened. And how huffyand annoyed my boss got when I
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said it couldn't be my hairbecause mine is blue was beyond
amusing.
Edgar (21:43):
Low key, Opie the genius.
Erika (21:45):
I'm not going to go into that, but I definitely, I mean,
it's ridiculous that the bosscontinued to blame her even
though she's the only one thathad her hair up and netted.
Like, how is it her hair?
Edgar (21:59):
I don't know. Definitely just like heroism or maybe their
family or something like that.
Erika (22:04):
Yeah, probably. She was probably the outsider I guess,
and always blamed her foreverything.
Edgar (22:08):
I mean, what are they gonna do now? She has blue hair,
they can't blame her.
Erika (22:12):
No, that's why the boss was mad, because they couldn't
blame her anymore.
Edgar (22:16):
You know? Now he has to actually enforce it with That's
those gross. I can imagine theydidn't care. Like there was a of
workers with the long hairprobably didn't care. They were
like, nah, just putting nastyhands and hair all over the
place.
Erika (22:31):
I don't know about you, but I can always tell when
there's something in my foodbecause I always look at my food
and I always see eyelashes orhair. This is one time I was in
Subway, because I always open upmy sandwich because I just, I
don't know, I'm always like, Ican't. So I opened up and there
was a fly in there.
Edgar (22:51):
RIP.
Erika (22:52):
So like, I seriously have like the worst luck or either or
I just am so cautious I alwaysfind crap in my food.
Edgar (23:01):
Yeah, mean, you missed out on essential proteins from
the bug.
Erika (23:05):
Ew, no! I almost, I was like, I almost barfed. I was
like, oh my god, coulda eatenthat.
Edgar (23:11):
I'm not that cautious.
Erika (23:12):
You literally eat everything!
Edgar (23:14):
When I'm hungry, I'm hungry. But I'm now on a diet. I
lost 34 pounds in the pastmonth.
Erika (23:22):
Oh man, I really don't think it needs to be on a diet,
but you know what's what makesyou happy?
Edgar (23:27):
Yes, I shove you a stick.
Erika (23:31):
You're already a stick, what do you mean?
Edgar (23:34):
You know, you know, in Bug's Life, in the movie?
Erika (23:38):
Yes, Bug's Life.
Edgar (23:39):
Remember that stick? That stick bug that made me?
Erika (23:42):
It's the one that looks like the wood.
Edgar (23:43):
Yeah. I have a picture of him in the mirror. Take a look
at him every morning.
Erika (23:49):
You're so funny.
Edgar (23:50):
But yeah, so, top comment.
Erika (23:53):
I called my bright pink hair my food safety hair.
Edgar (23:58):
Boo.
Erika (23:59):
Yeah. I don't know yet. Me either. How much? It had
6,000 likes.
Edgar (24:05):
6,000 people below IQ.
Erika (24:07):
I don't understand that.
Edgar (24:09):
It's an inside joke, we just don't get it.
Erika (24:11):
Yeah, guess not. If somebody knows, explain it in
the comments.
Edgar (24:16):
Pull forward.
Erika (24:16):
Please and thank you.
Edgar (24:18):
But, yeah, final verdict?
Erika (24:21):
I would say she's smart. I mean, it's ridiculous that she
had to do that. The boss wouldjust be an asshole. He's
definitely the asshole here.
Edgar (24:29):
Yeah. AOP is not the asshole, and give props to her
and hopefully she gets a good 6figure job after this.
Erika (24:36):
Definitely.
Edgar (24:38):
Definitely is smart enough for it. So the next story
is titled Cab Drivers Rip Me toShreds Thinking I Can't
Understand Him, but I Can't.I'll read that again. The next
story is titled Cab Driver RipsMe to Shreds Thinking I Can't
Understand Him, but I Can.Obligatory, this happened
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several years ago.
A few months after I had movedto Chicago, I had moved there
from Romania, where I had beenliving and going to school. I
love Romania. People are great.Drop what you are doing and
visit. Anyways, while I wasthere, due to my living
situation, I had to learn thelanguage fast and thoroughly.
Not many people around me spokeEnglish outside of uni. So fast
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forward to the few moments afterI arrived in Chicago, imagine my
surprise when the driver of theUber I had ordered appeared to
have a Romanian name. The areahad a lot of Eastern Europeans
so I guess it shouldn't havebeen so surprising. And I was
very excited to talk to him andmake sure I wasn't getting
rusty. Maybe make a friend.
Up pulls the guy, I get in, hegreets me, but he appears to be
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on the phone with a buddyfamilymember, so I just sit quietly in
the back, listening in a bit.The person on the other end asks
if the driver is getting offwork soon. He responded with
something like the following,No, I still have a few hours
left. Then I'll go home. Rightnow I have someone in the car.
God, I hate this country. Thewoman here is so fat and ugly.
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At least this one has a nicechest, but why can't she lose
some weight? And he goes on andon about all the problems with
me and other American women. Andnow I have always been a bit on
the chunky side and you guysbelieve the Romanians love to
comment on it, so I was used toit.
But I was a bit shocked thatthis guy was going off like
that. Anyways, am just kind ofsitting bemused in the backseat
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as we near my destination. ThenI tell him, in Romanian, with
all my might trying to pull offthe distinct accent of the
region I had been living in, canyou just pull over there on the
right? I threw out this guy'shead to the exorcist girl head
move and he turned a shade ofred. I have seen nowhere else in
nature.
He didn't say anything. Justpulled over. When I got out, I
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said, Thanks and added, You'renot attractive and you're also
fat, so maybe you shouldn't makecomments like that. I have never
again reached such a level ofself pride.
Erika (27:01):
Yeah. He deserves that. Every bit of that.
Edgar (27:04):
I mean, it's good to know a lot of languages.
Erika (27:07):
It does. And especially when think people don't think
you understand, you do isamazing.
Edgar (27:14):
Yeah, that's why I'm trying to learn Chinese,
Japanese.
Erika (27:18):
You first need to learn Spanish, okay? You I to learn
Spanish.
Edgar (27:21):
I can't understand it, I just can't speak it.
Erika (27:23):
You say you understand it, but not really.
Edgar (27:25):
Actually, I understand several languages. There's just
languages that computers canspeak. That's where all my
mental ness is going towards.
Erika (27:35):
You mean coding? Yeah. I'm I talking about
Edgar (27:39):
knew 20 languages.
Erika (27:41):
Oh my god. Yeah, but you should definitely learn Spanish
first before you start learningany other language.
Edgar (27:48):
I used to know Russian, yeah, and I had it almost as a
minor.
Erika (27:52):
Why do say almost?
Edgar (27:54):
They scrapped the Russian minor at the very last year.
Erika (27:57):
Oh, that really sucks.
Edgar (27:59):
So I took like one to three classes a year of Russian
every year because I wanted tohave it as the back burner while
I was studying, and then thevery last year they canceled it,
like almost the last semester.
Erika (28:14):
My gosh.
Edgar (28:14):
It was one by one guy. He was gay and very flamboyant and
very funny. I remember the firstday, I wasn't there because I
was late to class, my friendtold me were all waiting for the
professor to come into class,and he came in like fifteen
minutes late, and he was likeall red and stuff. He was like,
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if I die, tell my husband I lovehim. Apparently he was choking
on something from like lunch.
Erika (28:44):
Oh my god, and he went walking like that to class?
Edgar (28:47):
Yeah, and then he like ran back, and then like ten
minutes later he came back allcomposed and then he went into
his intro.
Erika (28:54):
That's crazy! But yeah,
Edgar (28:55):
the whole Russian department was ran by this one
guy, but he was alwayscomplaining at the end of every
class, like, Yeah, they make melike I'm basically doing two
jobs and getting paid part timebecause he had to run the
program, make the curriculum,and then also teach.
Erika (29:11):
Oh dang, that's a lot for one person.
Edgar (29:13):
Yeah, like he had to do all the administrative work too
since he was basically the leadof a minor, bachelor's
department.
Erika (29:19):
Oh my god, well no wonder it got canceled. Probably got
sick of it.
Edgar (29:22):
Yeah, he was very sick of it. I mean he loved the language
and he loved teaching it and wewere all pretty chill with him.
But yeah, he was definitelyunlivable, especially in New
York City.
Erika (29:31):
Oh my god, yeah.
Edgar (29:32):
I still have him on Facebook, but yeah, haven't
talked to him for a long time.
Erika (29:36):
Oh, but that's pretty cool. I like that. I think it's
amazing that people can learn upto four languages, five
languages, and it's like insane.So if anybody has that gift,
amazing. Wish.
Bilingual. I
Edgar (29:52):
mean, once I have a mansion then I'll start learning
languages again. Because Iremember in college I used to
learn a lot of languages justbecause I had the Russian and
then Russian helped me moreconfident about learning other
languages.
Erika (30:04):
Well, mean, Russia is pretty hard to learn.
Edgar (30:06):
Yeah, how you learn languages is depending on what
you know already. If you knowEnglish, like other Roman
languages, like Spanish and theother Roman languages or love
languages whatever, I forget theexact term, you can pick it up a
lot easier. But Russian is aSlavic or like it's just like
basically a total different kindof like branch of languages, so
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it's a lot different, thegrammar and the spelling and
stuff like that.
Erika (30:34):
Yeah, definitely.
Edgar (30:35):
You get to learn a whole different alphabet.
Erika (30:37):
Yeah, mean French and even Italian, it's a little bit
similar to Spanish, so you couldhave some words there that you
could understand. But yeah,Russian is a whole different
page. I love other languages, soI love hearing people with
different accents speak. I thinkit's amazing.
Edgar (30:53):
I know you wanna learn Korean.
Erika (30:56):
Yeah, I know a little bit of words, just because I watch
my Korean dramas.
Edgar (31:00):
All
Erika (31:00):
every day. All day, day, every day, No, I have them in
the background. I usually haveevery something in the
background while I'm doingsomething, cleaning, doing
something. All right, so the topcomment is, I live for this
brand of revenge. Peopleshouldn't assume they're safe to
talk crap just because it's notin English.
Edgar (31:21):
Exactly.
Erika (31:21):
Yeah. I mean, if you're, if you're even, it doesn't
matter. It doesn't matter ifyou're good looking or if you're
not, you shouldn't be judginganybody else's appearance. It
doesn't matter. Because if youpoint a finger, six, seven
people are pointing at you, sojust let it be.
Edgar (31:40):
So final thoughts?
Erika (31:41):
No, he got what he deserved 100.
Edgar (31:44):
Yeah OP is definitely not the asshole. Massage, what's it
called again? The pedicureladies? They're next on the
Erika (31:51):
list. My gosh, I've seen so many videos where you have a
random person that knowsMandarin or whatever and they're
like, What are you talking to meabout? Like, it's just crazy. I
think it's well deserved whenthey get talked like that
because there's no need forthat. All right, so the last
story is, Am I the asshole forletting my daughter flaunt her
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expensive items?
I, 50 female, and my husband, 48male, have a daughter, Danica.
One.
Edgar (32:23):
We name her.
Erika (32:26):
I'm just gonna add D. Is that okay?
Edgar (32:28):
Yeah, sure.
Erika (32:29):
Who has been
Edgar (32:30):
No, no, say Danica.
Erika (32:32):
Danica? Yeah. I don't know, it doesn't roll off the
tongue for some reason.
Edgar (32:37):
It sounds funny.
Erika (32:38):
It does. I mean that's a pretty cool unique name but I
don't know.
Edgar (32:42):
I know if she was a boy they'd call her Danica. I'm
pretty sure they wanted a boyand they had that name all set
up, Danica, and then it came outas a girl.
Erika (32:54):
I mean it does sound better with Danica, not Danica.
Edgar (32:56):
Danica, yeah Danica. Remember how I said if we have
children, if it's a guy, I wantit to be named Edgar. But if
it's a girl, Edgar or a?
Erika (33:06):
Absolutely not.
Edgar (33:08):
Same vibes.
Erika (33:08):
It's not gonna happen. Okay, back to the story. Danica,
a 21 female, who has beenextremely independent her whole
life. Danica began working whenshe was 15, and now she works
part time in a large corporationwhile pursuing her studies. We
are extremely proud of her andhow hard she has worked.
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We generally allow her to manageher own finances and she insists
on contributing monthly tofamily expenses with the money
she earns. Danica occasionallylikes to make pricier purchases,
which I do not have any concernover, as I think they are
sensible financial choices. Likelast year she decided to
purchase the newest MacBook asher old laptop was on the last
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leg, and she wanted somethingreliable and long lasting or
when she bought a Marc Jacobsbag for work in university. We
recently went on a family tripwith my brother and his family
who have two kids of their own,Tammy, 20 female, and Nick, 23
male. Mind you, they're in theirtwenties.
His kids and Danica aren'texactly close, but they get
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along fine for the most part. Iknow that Tammy and Nick do not
have any source of incomebesides my brother and have not
worked a day in their life.During the trip, Danica would
occasionally pay for three ofthem for small things like
drinks or food. When we wereshopping, Danica brought a few
items for herself and picked upgifts she wanted to bring for
her friends. During dinner thatnight, my sister-in-law,
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brother's wife, told my husbandand me that we were spoiling
Danica too much with herpurchases.
We explained that Danica earnedher own money and every cent
came from her job. Sister-in-lawthen proceeded to point and tell
Danica that if that was thecase, she shouldn't be flaunting
her purchases and items in frontof her cousins who don't have
cushy little office job andparents who spoiled her into
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this person she is. Danicaapologized politely in saying
that she didn't mean to flaunther things, but I could tell
that she was upset andembarrassed. My husband stood up
and shut back saying that Danicashouldn't have to apologize for
her own hard work. I alsopointed out that Danica had been
financially independent sinceshe was 15 and that we've only
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done our best not to spoil her.
Sister-in-law then proceeded totell us that we weren't teaching
her how to manage her financescorrectly and that all this
money had turned her into alittle brat. Danica excused
herself to the bathroom andtexted that she had gone back to
the hotel. We had a tense backand forth for the rest of the
dinner, and we came back tofinding Danica crying in her
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hotel room. I called my brotherhoping that he is able to talk
to his wife, but he explainedthat for the past few days,
Tammy had been crying to herparents about not having what
Danica had. She had been whiningto her mom that she wanted the
newest MacBook as well, but sherefused to get it for her.
(36:05):
Myself, Danica, and my husbandhave been getting calls from the
rest of the family, some callingus assholes and some who were
willing to hear us out andunderstand where we were coming
from. So, am I the asshole?
Edgar (36:20):
No, not at all. Like at first I was under the impression
that Danica would be a littlebit of an asshole, it looks like
she just likes nice stuff andnot like she was showing it off.
I can't imagine her doing that,it just seemed like she always
buys nice things every once in awhile and she's on a vacation so
of course she wants to getsomething nice for herself and
for friends as well. But it doessay a lot about like the
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brother, I guess OP's brother,and like their family situation.
Seems like they, I don't wantsay they were always not right,
but they haven't like launchedoff as Zydnegret had.
Erika (36:56):
Yeah, I mean, she's
Edgar (36:57):
a more And efficient now they just have a lot of envy.
Danica being financiallyindependent at 15 is pretty nice
for anyone. You'd be prettyproud if your own 15 year old
was like that.
Erika (37:09):
Yeah, of course. I mean, in order to get that job or get
a good office job, you need towork hard. It's not just handed
to you. So the fact that she'sable to buy her expensive stuff
and even help around withexpenses in the house is
amazing. And she's responsible,so who is she to tell her what
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she should be doing with herhard earned work money?
Especially if the sister-in-lawdoesn't even work, only her
brother or the brother does.
Edgar (37:39):
So
Erika (37:40):
why is she talking about flaunting what she doesn't have?
Then you should work too if youfeel like you don't have enough
money. You know what mean? It'sjust crazy to me. And if she's
not working, I would understand,for me it would be like okay,
maybe the kids are young, butthey're in their 20s.
Edgar (37:56):
Yeah, mean, 20, 23 is college age, just out of
college, so I can still see ifthey're not making the amount of
money Danica is making. Butstill, Danica was also paying
for their meals apparently inthat vacation, so it seems like
she was just trying to be niceand stuff.
Erika (38:14):
Yeah, definitely.
Edgar (38:14):
It's just a case of envy.
Erika (38:17):
Yeah, definitely When
Edgar (38:18):
you should just be more inspired or at least just
consider Thankful. Yeah,thankful at the very least, but
also consider that you can alsobe well off if you put the work
into it.
Erika (38:30):
Exactly.
Edgar (38:31):
But instead they just chose to throw them all under
the bus.
Erika (38:34):
Yeah, berate her for what? For having nice things and
having a good job? That's nother fault.
Edgar (38:40):
Yeah,
Erika (38:42):
it was completely unreasonable. And the fact that
the kids are whining and saying,I want a new MacBook, they seem
like they're the ones that arespoiled and not Danica. And then
also I went to just Adalus. Theysaid Danica so many times that I
was just like, and they saidDanica one more time in the
story. It was crazy.
(39:04):
Okay, so the top comment is, sotwo grown adults complain to
their parents about what a thirdgrown adult has bought with
their own money, do they notrealize how pathetic that
sounds? Not the asshole. Yourdaughter has done nothing wrong.
Edgar (39:20):
Yeah, basically that's how you boil down the story.
Erika (39:23):
Exactly. There was just no reason for that. If they want
to get something, buy it forthemselves.
Edgar (39:29):
Yeah. It's like a little bit unfortunate, but not every
family, not every person in lifeor in this planet is going be
successful like that. Or they'renot going be able to wanna put
the effort to have nice thingslike that?
Erika (39:46):
Yeah, definitely.
Edgar (39:48):
They'd rather just complain.
Erika (39:49):
Yeah, and then make themselves victims. I think it's
unfortunate, but I mean, youchoose your own path regardless
if you're born rich or if you'renot. You could, you know, if you
even broke hard work you canmake anything happen.
Edgar (40:03):
Yeah, hard work or high risk? Yeah. For your final
verdict?
Erika (40:08):
I would say no, you are not that asshole. She did not do
anything wrong. And she didn'tflaunt anything, she was just
doing her own thing.
Edgar (40:19):
Yeah, maybe that just looks like flaunting to to them.
Erika (40:23):
I guess. I mean, I would be like, oh you go, I don't
know. I guess because I'm verysupportive. If I would see
someone like that, I'd be like,oh girl, that's good. I would be
happy for that person, notjealous.
Edgar (40:33):
I don't know. I'm not really one to notice all that
stuff.
Erika (40:37):
Yeah.
Edgar (40:39):
Like if someone showed up with a jacket made out of tiger,
I wouldn't even notice.
Erika (40:47):
Yes, because you're a guy, but for me, like I said, I
wouldn't even, I don't wanna bejealous, I would just be happy
for that person. Especially ifthey're family, there's no need
to have envy. Well that's allthe stories we have today. Thank
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Edgar (41:18):
Also, we have a Facebook group called AITA Relationship
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share Am I the Asshole posts youlike or share your own stories
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episodes.
Erika (41:33):
Thank you. Bye.
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