August 16, 2025 • 36 mins
This week on Yapping Schnauzers, Edgar (Erika is taking a sick day) is diving headfirst into the corporate jungle, where coworkers don’t just spill tea, they pour it straight into HR’s inbox. From office sabotage and fake write-ups to toxic friendships that spill outside the workplace, these Reddit tales will have you shaking your head, laughing in disbelief, and maybe clutching your employee handbook. Whether it’s petty politics or jaw-dropping backstabs, consider this your all-access pass to the messiest corners of professional life.
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Links to threads read:
- My coworker tried to make the entire staff hate me… now they’re all trying to get her fired
- Coworker tried to throw me under the bus right before I went on parental leave
- When a new hire tried to get me fired by spreading lies, because she couldn't handle not being the center of attention
- Coworker tried to prank me with fake write-up… and accidentally got themselves written up instead
- AITA for losing my mind after my wife's friend made her drink alcohol and tried to hook her up with another man
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Intro (00:00):
Yapping!
Edgar (00:02):
Hello, this is Edgar and I am one half of the Yapping
Schnausers. We entertain youwith yap worthy stories we find
around the web. Erica's sick andcan't speak, probably for the
next week or so. Like andsubscribe to make her feel
better, and because she can'tspeak, I will be the only one
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reading all the stories andreacting to everything.
Erika did find some stories thatshe thinks that you all will
like that I haven't read yet, sothis is going be blind reactions
for me and you guys. So today'stheme is HR Headaches. The first
story is titled, My coworkertried to make the entire staff
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hate me. Now they're all tryingto get her fired. My 23 female
coworker and 30 female I had aclose relationship when I first
started.
We bonded over similar medicalissues and family drama and we
became super close, superquickly. Not just in work, but
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outside work too. Well, that's,that's your first mistake. So
yeah, she and her boyfriendsplit up in September and he
immediately tried to make a passat me. To which I at first
brushed it off as a joke, thenwhen I realized he was serious,
expressed my disinterest.
And he proceeded to turn aroundand tell her that I was coming
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onto him. She believed it andspent the next seven months
telling everyone who wouldlisten about how I did something
with her boyfriend and I lied toher, how I used my knowledge of
her medical history against her,and how I was lying about a
specific diagnosis I had justgotten. She went out of her way
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to corner my friends and berateme to them, so badly that two
people quit. Well, I can'timagine being that annoying. But
eventually word got out tomanagement about how awful she
was being because I have to letit go.
I didn't care to make it into abig deal, We're a grown woman
and that says more about herthan it does about me. And they
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pulled her in for a performancereview, where they proceeded to
tell her one more word about mewould result in her immediate
termination. Now every singleone of my coworkers hang on to
her every word and anytime it'ssomething even remotely nasty
about anyone, it gets reportedto management. I didn't have to
do a thing. The universe tookcare of that one for me and I
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honestly feel bad for her.
She barely has any friends,everyone at her job hates her,
and I know she doesn't havefamily, but she made her bed, I
guess. So, am I the asshole? Ido not think you're the asshole,
you just had some random guy,well not random guy, but your
best friend at the time X comeon to you and just, instead of
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acting like a normal, rationalhuman being, your friend or your
ex friend now just crashed out.But, yeah, mean, at that point,
more advice to your friend, shemight have, well your ex friend,
she should probably just get anew job, just start a whole new
life, because there's nothingfor her over there right now,
like no one trusts her, she'sgetting reported over any slight
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against anyone, so if I was inthat position I probably would
leave immediately, even if Ineeded the money. But, yeah, so
the top comment is, Why wouldyou feel bad for her?
She got everything she deserved.And yep, seems like everyone is
agreeing with that. Yeah, shefeels bad because she's a decent
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human being. Oh, okay. So Iguess it's like kind of half and
half in the comments, but, Imean yeah, I guess because they
had that closeness that just skyruined over a guy, yeah, it just
like kind of sucks, know,because they were good friends,
they opened up about a lot ofthings, but for whatever reason,
just because of some random,well, this ex that just happened
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to write his mouth and lie abouta bunch of issues, now it ruined
her OP's friend's life and notreally much OP's life, but it's
like a negative on it overall.
But yes, I guess I can see howOP would feel a tiny bit bad,
but I mean, at the end of theday, OP's friend, like, just did
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what she did and you can'treally, sympathize too much of
it, because it's like hermistake, her craziness that got
her into where she is right now.So, final verdict, OP is not the
asshole, and OP's friend wasdefinitely in, the asshole in
that position. The next story istitled, Coworker tried to throw
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me under the bus right before Iwent to parental leave. Dang. So
the story starts, I worked withAbby for a couple of years.
We were hired around the sametime, but I've always had more
technical knowledge and I evenhelped train her. Most would
consider me senior as I'mtypically the go to guy and I
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let my words speak for itself.She tends to leave me out of
emails and critical topics inMicrosoft Teams, only escalating
to me when she can't clean upthe mess herself. And I chalked
this up to pure communication,but now I realize she only does
this to make herself look betterthan me when she takes all the
workload herself. Before mypaternity leave, I made sure she
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was trained on my task and evenoffered to be available for
questions.
And a week before I left, myboss emails me saying there are
allegations that I waswithholding information and
sabotaging Abby, which isexactly what she's done to me
for years, it's crazy to switchup, but likely she did this at
her first chance to startputting dirt on me, especially
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because I can't deny theallegations being away from work
for a month. So the allegationsinclude blocking her from
receiving messages in iPhonechat groups, don't even know if
this is possible, not lettingher take part in solving
critical issues. For example,our suppliers had issues all day
which were only escalated toAbby. I only discovered this at
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end of shift, which I deduced tobe an internal IT issue, and
only then could we work on asolution. Telling other people
that she sucks at her job, soshe thinks I talk lowly of her
because people come to meinstead of her for work related
issues.
So yeah, there's like a lot ofshe says, she says at this
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point. So I asked for a meeting,boss said no, so I threatened to
take it to HR. Suddenly ameeting happens, magically,
coincidentally, but it wasbasically Abby and our boss
against me. She plays a victimwith a sob story and nothing
comes of it, but I documentedeverything with HR anyway. Now I
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keep things strictly business.
I rarely cover her mistakes now.For my co worker and management,
her screw ups are a lot morevisible now. Bottom line is, no
matter how good a person you areor how good you are at your job,
there will always be terriblepeople. You other fellow young
20s career focused people, don'tlet anyone take advantage of
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you. Let them fall if theychoose to fall.
And I agree with all thesesentiments. The careerjob
climate currently is like prettyterrible, to say the least. Like
there's just layoffs all overthe place, people kind of
throwing each other under thebus, people scared about like,
am I gonna have a job a weekfrom now, a few days from now, a
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few months from now? There'sjust like no stability and I
guess anything anyone is able todo to get one over the other,
they're like willing to pullout. So I mean, I would say
corporate's like a pretty badplace to be like overall too,
because as I said a few episodesago, even if you win in a rat
race, you're still a rat.
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And I guess like the worst partabout this, like having like a
situation like this where youhave like some, like if you have
like someone who's like actingmalicious, HR and like the
entire corporate structure kindof protects those kind of
people, and now as a result ofthis, you have like this one
employee who can't even do theirown job, and now you're having
the senior who once cared, notcare anymore, and now just
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letting things happen as theyshould happen without their
oversight and without their carefor how the company is supposed
to be working at. But yeah, thetop comment is, well, being a
jerk really backfired on her.You handled this professionally
and in the end you will shinejust for being you. Well done.
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And to shine even more, OP, youshould probably walk away from
this job.
Like, they honestly do notrespect you, they don't care
about your input over anything,they're willing to take some
other person's word that hasn'tproved themselves or hasn't
like, who has shown to be likemore manipulative about
situations and like backstabbingthan you. I mean like everyone
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in corporate has like a littlebit of backstabbing in them,
like they have the capacity ifthey haven't already. But yeah,
I think at this point you justshould just leave for some, for
better pastures somewhere else.And I would like to say there's
two top comments, because thesecond top comment has the same
amount of likes as well, so Iwill also read this comment. So
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the second top comment is, Thefact that your boss refused the
initial meeting request showsthey've been buying Abby's BSRE
wholesale and is backing them.
Good job getting HR involved bymaking it a legal risk issue,
but while you are away, HR mightlose the records, so cover your
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butt if you want to come back tothis job later when everything
is on fire. Edit Oh and makesure you have written records,
witness statements from yourtrusted work colleagues of what
Abby does. And OP actuallyresponded and says, These people
were over twice my age and I hadto be the adult. My manager is a
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very non confrontational, commonmanager, but these allegations
were very serious. Abby is thetype to buy favors.
She brings snacks and giftspeople don't ask for, and
subconsciously makes them feellike they owe her something. And
she plays the nice old lady thatmost people just fall for. So, I
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mean yeah, this is even crazier,I assumed all these people were
like 20 year olds, like veryearly in their career with like
a few people in their 30s, inHR, like in upper management,
but apparently these are alllike geriatric folks, like
people who should be retired.This is just for evidence that
like corporations and just likehaving like a job in which
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you're dealing with people likethis is just an extension of
high school. Like people havestopped developing beyond that
and have that same like, kind ofgossip y mindset, like the
cliche and all that stuff, andjust I have very strong feelings
about it.
I think in general, it's likeall propped up by BSRE and it's
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like just not real at all. Imean, yeah, it pays the bills,
but at the end of the day, theycan replace you but no one can
replace you at the dinner table,so don't like, kill yourself
over, these kind of jobs. Soyeah, have I ever had an issue
like this before? No, notreally. At Google, everyone's
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pretty nice, but I mean, yeah,there's like still a lot of
politics, like in thebackground, from what I heard
from managers and like some ofthe older like folks that I
would talk to.
Like there's like a lot ofpeople just trying to get as
much visibility as possible andeveryone's like a little bit
territory about like the kind ofwork they have and like how it
like kind of fits into theoverall picture. And I guess
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like I was pretty lucky that Ididn't have to like be so
directly involved in all ofthat. I think it would have made
me dislike my job even more.Like I thought it was like
boring after a while, which iswhy I left, and like I didn't
really have the heart for it,like the last year that I was at
Google. But now I'm working onsomething I like a lot more, and
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I'm applying to VCs like YCombinator, Z Fellows, like
those kind of like programs.
And what I'm working on iscalled Unveo actually. Unveo is
an AI and game engine, since Ilove playing video games and I
love how AI just makes things alot more like easier to do.
Like, it's just like, if you'rereal- if you're good at
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something, it makes you amazing,and if you're- don't know
anything about it, it makes youat least- like, the thing with
AI is like, it can bring youfrom zero to one pretty fast,
and that's like kind of like thehard part when you start any
pro- like any game or anyproject, like just starting,
because you get just overwhelmedabout like the extent of things
that have to be like done, andthen you just like kind of
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procrastinate, or you just like,you just get intimidated. So
unveil, which I built from theground up and has taken me many
long nights over the pastsummer, actually, so a few
months. I'm gonna make my dreamgames on it, but I'm also hoping
that someone will make the dreamgame and it'll be fun because
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there'll be more games to playon game night.
So yeah, I'm excited for that. Ihave like a few friends I'm
talking to about it, like towork on it, and some people want
to invest in it already, so it'sbeen an exciting time. And yeah,
hopefully I hear back fromwinecombedators soon, and if
that happens, this show willstill happen, we just have to
record everything in advancebecause I'll be gone for like
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three or so months to SanFrancisco, which I've never been
to. So any of our subscriberswho are from San Francisco,
comment, get a hold of ussomehow and just tell us like
your favorite food places,because that's what I'm excited
for. That, working and fishing,TBH, because San Francisco is
like in the is a harbor Ibelieve, so it's like surrounded
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by water, so I'm pumped forthat.
But yeah, to the story about theco worker who threw under the
bus the OP right before herparental leave, a high verdict
on that. OP, you are not theasshole, you should leave. You
should start your own businessor just go anywhere else that is
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much more healthier for yourmental being. And Abby, or
whoever the co worker's namewas, please kiss ass at your job
miserably for the rest of yourlife. So, the next story is
titled, When a New Hire Tried toGet Me Fired by Spreading Lies
because she couldn't handle notbeing the center of attention.
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I, 32 female, have been bustingmy butt at this tank company for
five years. Dang five years at atank company. I'm one of the top
performers, respected by most ofthe team and I always try to
help new people settle in. Butthen came Lisa, the brand new
developer who decided thatinstead of earning respect, she
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just tried to sabotage me. Butright from day one, she was a
nightmare, interrupting me inmeetings, twisting my ideas like
some petty playground bully, andconstantly whispering poison to
the manager.
Soon enough, I was hearingrumors that I was not a team
player, withholding information,and even sabotaging her work.
Spoiler alert (15:47):
none of that was true. But Lisa doubled down,
throwing me under the bus likeit was a game, and I had to
spend weeks documenting everyinteraction, screenshotting
emails, and basically actinglike a detective just to defend
myself. If you need to be adetective to defend your own
job, the job is more likely thannot worth it. I reported her
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toxic behavior to HR and thankgod they actually took it
seriously.
After interviews and digging, HRfound Lisa was lying through her
teeth. Okay I guess Lisa wasjust too obvious then. Bad
sabotage attempt. She's now on aperformance improvement plan,
which honestly should have beena pink slip. Yeah I mean the pip
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is more to cover the company'sbutt than anything, it's just
the whole process.
But this whole experience wasexhausting and honestly made me
question why I bought her in aplace where backstabbing newbies
get away with trying to ruincareers. So TLDR, new hire,
tried to get me fired with fliesbecause she couldn't handle not
being the star. HR caught her,she's now on thin ice, and I'm
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done playing nice. That soundsAI generated, that last
sentence. But yeah, yeah I meanif your workplace is susceptible
to backstabbing like this soeasily, like, like HR was able
to like, easily tell that thiswas a lie, if this, if your
workplace is able to be like,just thrown amok just based on
like, that are very easilydisproven, I don't think it's
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like the kind of workplace you'dwant to work at, no matter how
good the food or pay is.
Because imagine that, you haveto do your own work, you have to
train your backstabber, and thenon top of all that, you have to
document every interaction, justso you can keep your job,
because if you didn't documentsomething properly, you have
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like one less evidenceprotecting you to keep your own
job. Like that's just like,you're doing multiple jobs that
was not in the job description.I guess things would get better
when Lisa is finally like gone,because like for performance
improvement plans, they don'treally expect people to get out
of that. They, it's likebasically the preamble to of
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hiring, or at least the personvoluntarily leaving the
position. But yeah, maybe afterthat things would get better,
but I would just, this is justmore proof for yourself, OP,
that this is just like a job andyou shouldn't really take
seriously.
Like I know you already spentfive years of your life in here,
roughly like 15% of your life inthis company, but there are
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better things out there. So thetop comment, and it's not even
close, the second comment haslike nothing on it. I really
hate workplace politics. I justwant to work and do a good job
and go home. Work can bestressful enough and no one
needs the extra BS some peoplebring with them.
If you got a bad attitude, learnto leave it at the door and at
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least pretend to be a decentperson at work. It's very hard
to pretend, apparently. So yeah,OP responded, Totally feel you.
Works hard enough withoutdealing with people bringing in
personal drama every day. Justbe professional and respectful
and that's all everyone shouldask for.
Yeah, I mean, in a perfectworld, people would just go to
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work and they'd be friendly withtheir co workers, maybe be like
close friends to a few of them,and then just go back home and
just live your life. Butunfortunately, the climate of
things, work is like basicallypeople's like only lives and
whatever energy they have leftis just left for their family or
like whatever they have going onat home, which is like, I feel
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like it's pretty dystopian to behonest. I think we all deserve
to live a little bit more betterthan that. For so long, like
decades and decades, people, wehave been like just trained and
taught that this was like allthat there is, and like almost
like all of us believe in this.I mean like nowadays less and
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less people believe in this, butlike the majority, like I would
say like 99% of people believethat this is the epitome of what
life is, like just work, go toyour family tired and exhausted
and sleep and then do it allover again, but I swear to you,
there is a lot more to life thanthat.
And you don't even have totravel all over the world to
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like see that, like even like aone mile radius from your entire
home is like, that's more thanenough life and beauty and
things to do to be happy, butyou just need the energy and I
guess like the resources toactually enjoy it. But yeah, so
at least I'm hoping for likesome sort of shift in like
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mentality about like how work issupposed to be, like, how work
at home is supposed to integrateinto your life. Because
currently we are not even at acrossroads, we're at the point
where work is majority of whatpeople do. And it's like, I
would be okay with that beingthe case, like, I mean, I work,
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like, from the moment I wake upuntil around when I'm about to
fall asleep, and I usually thinkabout what I'm, like, gonna be
doing the next day or what I'vedone already the past day, but
like, the thing that just getsme about all this is like the
work that is being done now,it's like, that people will
spend their entire lifestressing over, it just doesn't
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matter really.
Like a lot of it, it's justlike, have you ever been into a
corporate job and you feel likeyou are not doing anything
really? Like I've had some jobsthat are like that where I was
just, for the most part, I hadto act busy somehow, or I would
be doing something tedious. Thatcould be automated pretty easily
by someone who is a tiny bitsmart about the system, but
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people spend their whole livesdoing that and then like, that's
what gets people into feelinglike a little bit more depressed
about the job, because they knowlike, yeah I'm not really needed
here, I'm not really likeimportant or doing anything
important, and I feel likethat's a very toxic mindset to
have when you're, whenespecially if like that's like
your work life and your worklife is the majority of your
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life, like to think that whatyou're doing is not important.
People need purpose, whetherit's like doing something like
artsy that they like or find fortheir family in some way or
doing something that they feelis like beneficial to what they
find important. That is like, itcould be a part of the family or
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even beyond it.
Like a lot of jobs like paperpushing at like some office or
like doing any sort of likecustomer service, like a lot of
that's like very soul draining.It's just like a, we're at a
very depressing time in history,given like all our, like, modern
technological miracles. Butyeah, to get back from that
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tangent, remember the story wasabout, like, a new hire trying
to get OP fired. I mean, it'sjust what happens, like when
people are bored and peopledon't have something to strive
for, they just do petty politicslike this. It's just, like
instead of doing somethingimportant, they're just bored
and then they just stir up thepart, the pot, because that's
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just the only way to like getsome sort of life out of the
life that's happening, thatthey're living it currently.
So maybe that's what the newhire is kind of doing. Or maybe
the new hire is just an ass,but, yeah, OP, final verdict,
yeah, OP, you are in the right.I think you should leave your
job. You'll always leave yourjob for something better.
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Remember, your job is not yourfamily, no matter how much they
tell you that.
And to the new hire, as much asyou cause pain to to OP, I hope
you are better next time, andyou realize that this is not the
kind of life you want to live,like the rest of your life, like
having to like back side people,because like, I'm pretty sure
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that's a sin. I'm pretty surepeople go to hell over that, but
also I like to think that youare better and there are things
that you want to do that aremore important than this. So the
next story is titled, CoworkerTried to Prank Me with Fake
Write Ups and Accidentally GotThemselves Written Up Instead.
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What kind of prank is that?Like, oh, I'm gonna get you
fired.
Like, so stupid. But yeah, thestory starts, I work at a mid
sized retail chain. Our storehas this inside joke culture,
and while some of it is fun, itgets exhausting when it crosses
lines. There are a lot morelines than OP realizes, but
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yeah. One of my coworkers, Ryan,a male in his early twenties,
self proclaimed officepranksters, oh this guy is
probably annoying as hell, butthought it'd be hilarious to
fake a final warning write upfrom me and leave it on my
locker.
The write up said it's beenreported for hostile body
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language and making the copierfeel unsafe. It was clearly a
joke, but it had our realmanager's signature, forged
almost perfectly. Oh, I guess Ican see the issue. If this was
just like a simple like jokewrite up, like yeah, you can get
like a maybe a small hi, like,like being able This guy is has
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a skill, has a very valuableskill, and he's showing his
hands at the dumbest timepossible. But yeah, so, well,
tell us, continue the story.
Well, our manager didn't find itfunny. At all. I guess Ryan had
taken an old form from the backroom and tried to copy the
signature from a document lefton the desk. He got called into
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the office, and I kid you not,got written up for real for
document tampering, and he alsowent to jail for like ten years.
Okay.
Apparently forging anysignature, joke or not, is
considered grounds for HRinvolvement. Bruh. He tried to
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defend himself with, It was justa joke, but a man- but our
manager said, Do you know howserious this could have been if
you pranked the wrong person?Ryan's been soaking ever since
and hasn't tried another jokesince. The fate of another
office prankster.
But, I mean, the manager wasjust butt hurt that someone,
like forged a name. But I mean,I mean, that is a pretty serious
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event, but at the same time,looking, I feel like people in
the office, they're all likebuddy buddy and like happy and
like, they all can take jokesinto a certain extent. OP says
like, there's like, it'sexhausting for her when the
lines are crossed, but the thingabout like having this sort of
like, this joke culture in theworkplace is like everyone has
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their own like versions of linesthat can't be crossed. And a lot
of times what is a line for oneperson is not the same as
another. And even though like, Iguess OP and like his friend
probably didn't care about thesignature thing, it crossed the
line with the wrong people,which happens to be the manager.
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The manager is the wrong personin this case. Sucks to have
pulled the greatest joke. Notthe greatest joke, I mean,
could've, when's a good time todo, to forge someone's
signature? I can't imagine atime where that would be
beneficial without getting HRright up, TBH. Like, I maybe,
this is the only time hecould've ever have done it and
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not have gone like straight upfired.
The top comment. Oh, there's twotop comments. So yeah, the first
top comment is playing with firewith fake documents and fake
signatures. All he had to do washave the note look extremely
fake. I mean, he also could notdo it as well, but those types
don't usually go to go thatroute.
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I mean, yeah, I mean, he's theoffice prankster, the self
proclaimed office prankster. SoI doubt he had much, like,
faculty in his mind about like,where this was all going, TBH.
But I mean, the dedicationthough, like forging your
manager's signature is like,good job with that. Truly big
ideas are going through thatsmall, that mid sized retail
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company. And then, yeah, thesecond top comment is, I'm glad
it worked out, but that justsounds entirely too exhausting.
It must be awful having toconstantly look over your
shoulder for the next prank. AndI agree with that, like, I think
light pranks are okay, but I'mnot, I mean, I like to think I
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have a sense of humor, like Ican like take most people's
like, jokes or whatever, becauselike, it's just jokes and no one
should be offended by jokes. Butthe thing is, when you're at
work, I expect to work. I don'twant to like, be disturbed by
something that's going to takelike a few, like, even like a
few moments of my time, becauseI just want to get in and get
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out and like, do my best. So Iimagine, like, having to, like,
look over your shoulders, like,oh, or have, like, your time
disrupted, like, almost everynot every it doesn't seem like
he does it often, but I guesswhen he does it, he does it big.
Yeah, that kind of like culturewould be like pretty exhausting
to be in. Like I would dreadgoing to work. I would just
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politely resign, to be honest.So yeah, final verdict, OP and
even though I didn't like the,what's his name again, Ryan, the
office prankster, I don't thinkeither you were like the asshole
in this situation, because youboth knew what this was, like it
was just a prank. Like yeah,dumb prank, but like a prank
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nonetheless.
But the manager and HR, yeah,they're the assholes. But I
mean, that's like just kind oflike how it is, like that's just
the job description that youhave to keep some sort of order
in, in the workplace. Our finalstory is titled, Am I the
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Asshole for Losing My Mind AfterMy Wife's Friend Made Her Drink
Alcohol and Tried to Hook Her UpWith Another Man. My wife went
out with her friends for dinnerand when her friends came over,
she told us that it would justbe her, my wife, and her other
friend and they will be back intwo hours or so And my wife
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didn't really want to go but Iencouraged her to have fun. I
was at home looking after ourdaughters but my wife after an
hour suddenly texted me back topick her up and that she's drunk
and there's a man next to herand she feels uncomfortable.
Even if she wasn'tuncomfortable, I would have went
anyway. I was confused becauseit was supposed to be girls only
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night, so why is a man involved?Oh, I asked my sister-in-law to
look after my daughter and thenI went to pick up my wife. I was
angry but I didn't want toembarrass my wife in front of
everyone, so I said, now my wifeis drunk and she's never had
alcohol and our daughter iscalling for her and I took her
home. My wife told me that shewas shocked to see a man joining
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them on dinner and he was beingoverly friendly with her and he
grabbed her hand and kepttouching her shoulders and she
didn't want to drink, buteveryone kept pressuring her.
Bro. I told my wife it's not herfault and she shouldn't blame
herself, but I wantedclarification. I called her
friend and asked her as to whywould she make my wife drink
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alcohol and why is a maninvolved and we weren't
informed. And she doubles downand said she doesn't need to
inform me and my wife should beable to handle alcohol and she
should be okay with being aroundmen. I called her a b word and
she's no true friend of my wife,and told her to stay away from
both of us.
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I ended up telling everyonetheir actual group about what
she did and most of the womencut her off. And she's, as
expected, pissed, and she saidthat I didn't need to be so
dramatic and she's lost some ofher friends because of me, and a
few from their group says thesame thing. It's so stressful to
go back and forth for thesepeople and I just want to cut
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them off out of my life. And Ijust want to cut them out of my
life. They are cancer.
Choice words, but yeah, I agree.And the good ones can stay
friends with my wife, but thesepeople, I want them ruined. You
Ariaso, I do not think you arethe asshole. Like, they
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basically try to date R word,your wife, by sending her up
with some strange man from, Ipresume, work, some random guy
that happens to have a thing forher, and who could only interact
with her when she's super drunkand can't control herself. But
luckily for Ofie's wife, shehad, like, at least enough,
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like, sense to, like, quicklytext her husband to, like, help
her out from this situation,because it could have gone
really bad really quickly.
This is, like, not a good friendgroup to be a part of. Like,
these people are all terrible,to like just goad her into like
almost being blackout drunk, andgoing away with some strange
guy. Like it's just, it's verylike, manipulatives isn't even a
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word for it, like it's evenworse than that. So, the top
comment is, The fact that yourwife was uncomfortable and
texted you for help means thatyou are 100% not the asshole.
Sounds like your wife justweeded out a shitty friend,
Goodbye and good riddance.
So OP responded to this bysaying, My wife was
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uncomfortable and she made amistake, which she regrets and I
am glad that my wife called meand I can't possibly blame her.
A lot of commentators here arecalling me controlling and the
other half is blaming my wifefor not saying no, and I know
she did and my wife knows thatif she's in distress that she
can rely on me, and she knowsthat if she's in trouble, I
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would give up everything andhelp her. So yeah, I think yeah,
I don't get the comments thatare trying to spin this and say
that OP is like the asshole orlike her wife should have just
said no. Like, it looks like shetried to get away from the
situation and because, I guessthe man was pressing, or, like,
the friends just kept givingher, like, more and more drinks,
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she probably felt like she was,like, backed into a corner, and
even despite her saying no. Soyeah, very, very scary situation
for her.
But yeah, and then someoneresponded to Opie's comment, You
did everything right. People sayotherwise are idiots. She called
you for help and you came andhelped as a good husband should.
Good for you and yeah, get ridof that friend for doing what
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she did. Basically like a trashfriend group, like I don't know
what kind of friendship theyhad, like OP's wife and this
chick beforehand, but I imaginethis was all like some sort of
pretense to get this guy to getclose to Opie's wife, which is
like just disturbing in a lot ofways.
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But thank goodness they havethat relationship, Opie's wife
and Opie, that like, they'reable to like confine each other,
like, Opie, even though like hewas rightfully like like upset
over the situation, he was ableto channel that into the people
who actually deserve it, not hiswife. And then good on OP's wife
for trusting on his husband toprotect her when she needed
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protection. So yeah, finalverdict. OP, you are a saint
among men. OP's wife get betterat finding friends, and OP's ex
friend be thankful that you arenot charged with any sort of
like, essay or anything relatedwith alcohol, like, or any other
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charges because like, this islike heinous.
This is like the Jezebel spiritcoming out of you to ruin like a
whole marriage, and family even.So yeah, that's all the stories
we have today. Thank you fortuning into this week's episode.
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Hello, this is Edgar and I am one half of the Yapping
Schnausers. We entertain youwith yap worthy stories we find
around the web. Erica's sick andcan't speak, probably for the
next week or so. Like andsubscribe to make her feel
better, and because she can'tspeak, I will be the only one
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reading all the stories andreacting to everything.
Erika did find some stories thatshe thinks that you all will
like that I haven't read yet, sothis is going be blind reactions
for me and you guys. So today'stheme is HR Headaches. The first
story is titled, My coworkertried to make the entire staff
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hate me. Now they're all tryingto get her fired. My 23 female
coworker and 30 female I had aclose relationship when I first
started.
We bonded over similar medicalissues and family drama and we
became super close, superquickly. Not just in work, but
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outside work too. Well, that's,that's your first mistake. So
yeah, she and her boyfriendsplit up in September and he
immediately tried to make a passat me. To which I at first
brushed it off as a joke, thenwhen I realized he was serious,
expressed my disinterest.
And he proceeded to turn aroundand tell her that I was coming
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onto him. She believed it andspent the next seven months
telling everyone who wouldlisten about how I did something
with her boyfriend and I lied toher, how I used my knowledge of
her medical history against her,and how I was lying about a
specific diagnosis I had justgotten. She went out of her way
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to corner my friends and berateme to them, so badly that two
people quit. Well, I can'timagine being that annoying. But
eventually word got out tomanagement about how awful she
was being because I have to letit go.
I didn't care to make it into abig deal, We're a grown woman
and that says more about herthan it does about me. And they
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pulled her in for a performancereview, where they proceeded to
tell her one more word about mewould result in her immediate
termination. Now every singleone of my coworkers hang on to
her every word and anytime it'ssomething even remotely nasty
about anyone, it gets reportedto management. I didn't have to
do a thing. The universe tookcare of that one for me and I
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honestly feel bad for her.
She barely has any friends,everyone at her job hates her,
and I know she doesn't havefamily, but she made her bed, I
guess. So, am I the asshole? Ido not think you're the asshole,
you just had some random guy,well not random guy, but your
best friend at the time X comeon to you and just, instead of
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acting like a normal, rationalhuman being, your friend or your
ex friend now just crashed out.But, yeah, mean, at that point,
more advice to your friend, shemight have, well your ex friend,
she should probably just get anew job, just start a whole new
life, because there's nothingfor her over there right now,
like no one trusts her, she'sgetting reported over any slight
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against anyone, so if I was inthat position I probably would
leave immediately, even if Ineeded the money. But, yeah, so
the top comment is, Why wouldyou feel bad for her?
She got everything she deserved.And yep, seems like everyone is
agreeing with that. Yeah, shefeels bad because she's a decent
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human being. Oh, okay. So Iguess it's like kind of half and
half in the comments, but, Imean yeah, I guess because they
had that closeness that just skyruined over a guy, yeah, it just
like kind of sucks, know,because they were good friends,
they opened up about a lot ofthings, but for whatever reason,
just because of some random,well, this ex that just happened
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to write his mouth and lie abouta bunch of issues, now it ruined
her OP's friend's life and notreally much OP's life, but it's
like a negative on it overall.
But yes, I guess I can see howOP would feel a tiny bit bad,
but I mean, at the end of theday, OP's friend, like, just did
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what she did and you can'treally, sympathize too much of
it, because it's like hermistake, her craziness that got
her into where she is right now.So, final verdict, OP is not the
asshole, and OP's friend wasdefinitely in, the asshole in
that position. The next story istitled, Coworker tried to throw
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me under the bus right before Iwent to parental leave. Dang. So
the story starts, I worked withAbby for a couple of years.
We were hired around the sametime, but I've always had more
technical knowledge and I evenhelped train her. Most would
consider me senior as I'mtypically the go to guy and I
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let my words speak for itself.She tends to leave me out of
emails and critical topics inMicrosoft Teams, only escalating
to me when she can't clean upthe mess herself. And I chalked
this up to pure communication,but now I realize she only does
this to make herself look betterthan me when she takes all the
workload herself. Before mypaternity leave, I made sure she
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was trained on my task and evenoffered to be available for
questions.
And a week before I left, myboss emails me saying there are
allegations that I waswithholding information and
sabotaging Abby, which isexactly what she's done to me
for years, it's crazy to switchup, but likely she did this at
her first chance to startputting dirt on me, especially
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because I can't deny theallegations being away from work
for a month. So the allegationsinclude blocking her from
receiving messages in iPhonechat groups, don't even know if
this is possible, not lettingher take part in solving
critical issues. For example,our suppliers had issues all day
which were only escalated toAbby. I only discovered this at
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end of shift, which I deduced tobe an internal IT issue, and
only then could we work on asolution. Telling other people
that she sucks at her job, soshe thinks I talk lowly of her
because people come to meinstead of her for work related
issues.
So yeah, there's like a lot ofshe says, she says at this
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point. So I asked for a meeting,boss said no, so I threatened to
take it to HR. Suddenly ameeting happens, magically,
coincidentally, but it wasbasically Abby and our boss
against me. She plays a victimwith a sob story and nothing
comes of it, but I documentedeverything with HR anyway. Now I
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keep things strictly business.
I rarely cover her mistakes now.For my co worker and management,
her screw ups are a lot morevisible now. Bottom line is, no
matter how good a person you areor how good you are at your job,
there will always be terriblepeople. You other fellow young
20s career focused people, don'tlet anyone take advantage of
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you. Let them fall if theychoose to fall.
And I agree with all thesesentiments. The careerjob
climate currently is like prettyterrible, to say the least. Like
there's just layoffs all overthe place, people kind of
throwing each other under thebus, people scared about like,
am I gonna have a job a weekfrom now, a few days from now, a
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few months from now? There'sjust like no stability and I
guess anything anyone is able todo to get one over the other,
they're like willing to pullout. So I mean, I would say
corporate's like a pretty badplace to be like overall too,
because as I said a few episodesago, even if you win in a rat
race, you're still a rat.
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And I guess like the worst partabout this, like having like a
situation like this where youhave like some, like if you have
like someone who's like actingmalicious, HR and like the
entire corporate structure kindof protects those kind of
people, and now as a result ofthis, you have like this one
employee who can't even do theirown job, and now you're having
the senior who once cared, notcare anymore, and now just
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letting things happen as theyshould happen without their
oversight and without their carefor how the company is supposed
to be working at. But yeah, thetop comment is, well, being a
jerk really backfired on her.You handled this professionally
and in the end you will shinejust for being you. Well done.
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And to shine even more, OP, youshould probably walk away from
this job.
Like, they honestly do notrespect you, they don't care
about your input over anything,they're willing to take some
other person's word that hasn'tproved themselves or hasn't
like, who has shown to be likemore manipulative about
situations and like backstabbingthan you. I mean like everyone
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in corporate has like a littlebit of backstabbing in them,
like they have the capacity ifthey haven't already. But yeah,
I think at this point you justshould just leave for some, for
better pastures somewhere else.And I would like to say there's
two top comments, because thesecond top comment has the same
amount of likes as well, so Iwill also read this comment. So
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the second top comment is, Thefact that your boss refused the
initial meeting request showsthey've been buying Abby's BSRE
wholesale and is backing them.
Good job getting HR involved bymaking it a legal risk issue,
but while you are away, HR mightlose the records, so cover your
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butt if you want to come back tothis job later when everything
is on fire. Edit Oh and makesure you have written records,
witness statements from yourtrusted work colleagues of what
Abby does. And OP actuallyresponded and says, These people
were over twice my age and I hadto be the adult. My manager is a
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very non confrontational, commonmanager, but these allegations
were very serious. Abby is thetype to buy favors.
She brings snacks and giftspeople don't ask for, and
subconsciously makes them feellike they owe her something. And
she plays the nice old lady thatmost people just fall for. So, I
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mean yeah, this is even crazier,I assumed all these people were
like 20 year olds, like veryearly in their career with like
a few people in their 30s, inHR, like in upper management,
but apparently these are alllike geriatric folks, like
people who should be retired.This is just for evidence that
like corporations and just likehaving like a job in which
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you're dealing with people likethis is just an extension of
high school. Like people havestopped developing beyond that
and have that same like, kind ofgossip y mindset, like the
cliche and all that stuff, andjust I have very strong feelings
about it.
I think in general, it's likeall propped up by BSRE and it's
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like just not real at all. Imean, yeah, it pays the bills,
but at the end of the day, theycan replace you but no one can
replace you at the dinner table,so don't like, kill yourself
over, these kind of jobs. Soyeah, have I ever had an issue
like this before? No, notreally. At Google, everyone's
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pretty nice, but I mean, yeah,there's like still a lot of
politics, like in thebackground, from what I heard
from managers and like some ofthe older like folks that I
would talk to.
Like there's like a lot ofpeople just trying to get as
much visibility as possible andeveryone's like a little bit
territory about like the kind ofwork they have and like how it
like kind of fits into theoverall picture. And I guess
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like I was pretty lucky that Ididn't have to like be so
directly involved in all ofthat. I think it would have made
me dislike my job even more.Like I thought it was like
boring after a while, which iswhy I left, and like I didn't
really have the heart for it,like the last year that I was at
Google. But now I'm working onsomething I like a lot more, and
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I'm applying to VCs like YCombinator, Z Fellows, like
those kind of like programs.
And what I'm working on iscalled Unveo actually. Unveo is
an AI and game engine, since Ilove playing video games and I
love how AI just makes things alot more like easier to do.
Like, it's just like, if you'rereal- if you're good at
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something, it makes you amazing,and if you're- don't know
anything about it, it makes youat least- like, the thing with
AI is like, it can bring youfrom zero to one pretty fast,
and that's like kind of like thehard part when you start any
pro- like any game or anyproject, like just starting,
because you get just overwhelmedabout like the extent of things
that have to be like done, andthen you just like kind of
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procrastinate, or you just like,you just get intimidated. So
unveil, which I built from theground up and has taken me many
long nights over the pastsummer, actually, so a few
months. I'm gonna make my dreamgames on it, but I'm also hoping
that someone will make the dreamgame and it'll be fun because
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there'll be more games to playon game night.
So yeah, I'm excited for that. Ihave like a few friends I'm
talking to about it, like towork on it, and some people want
to invest in it already, so it'sbeen an exciting time. And yeah,
hopefully I hear back fromwinecombedators soon, and if
that happens, this show willstill happen, we just have to
record everything in advancebecause I'll be gone for like
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three or so months to SanFrancisco, which I've never been
to. So any of our subscriberswho are from San Francisco,
comment, get a hold of ussomehow and just tell us like
your favorite food places,because that's what I'm excited
for. That, working and fishing,TBH, because San Francisco is
like in the is a harbor Ibelieve, so it's like surrounded
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by water, so I'm pumped forthat.
But yeah, to the story about theco worker who threw under the
bus the OP right before herparental leave, a high verdict
on that. OP, you are not theasshole, you should leave. You
should start your own businessor just go anywhere else that is
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much more healthier for yourmental being. And Abby, or
whoever the co worker's namewas, please kiss ass at your job
miserably for the rest of yourlife. So, the next story is
titled, When a New Hire Tried toGet Me Fired by Spreading Lies
because she couldn't handle notbeing the center of attention.
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I, 32 female, have been bustingmy butt at this tank company for
five years. Dang five years at atank company. I'm one of the top
performers, respected by most ofthe team and I always try to
help new people settle in. Butthen came Lisa, the brand new
developer who decided thatinstead of earning respect, she
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just tried to sabotage me. Butright from day one, she was a
nightmare, interrupting me inmeetings, twisting my ideas like
some petty playground bully, andconstantly whispering poison to
the manager.
Soon enough, I was hearingrumors that I was not a team
player, withholding information,and even sabotaging her work.
Spoiler alert (15:47):
none of that was true. But Lisa doubled down,
throwing me under the bus likeit was a game, and I had to
spend weeks documenting everyinteraction, screenshotting
emails, and basically actinglike a detective just to defend
myself. If you need to be adetective to defend your own
job, the job is more likely thannot worth it. I reported her
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toxic behavior to HR and thankgod they actually took it
seriously.
After interviews and digging, HRfound Lisa was lying through her
teeth. Okay I guess Lisa wasjust too obvious then. Bad
sabotage attempt. She's now on aperformance improvement plan,
which honestly should have beena pink slip. Yeah I mean the pip
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is more to cover the company'sbutt than anything, it's just
the whole process.
But this whole experience wasexhausting and honestly made me
question why I bought her in aplace where backstabbing newbies
get away with trying to ruincareers. So TLDR, new hire,
tried to get me fired with fliesbecause she couldn't handle not
being the star. HR caught her,she's now on thin ice, and I'm
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done playing nice. That soundsAI generated, that last
sentence. But yeah, yeah I meanif your workplace is susceptible
to backstabbing like this soeasily, like, like HR was able
to like, easily tell that thiswas a lie, if this, if your
workplace is able to be like,just thrown amok just based on
like, that are very easilydisproven, I don't think it's
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like the kind of workplace you'dwant to work at, no matter how
good the food or pay is.
Because imagine that, you haveto do your own work, you have to
train your backstabber, and thenon top of all that, you have to
document every interaction, justso you can keep your job,
because if you didn't documentsomething properly, you have
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like one less evidenceprotecting you to keep your own
job. Like that's just like,you're doing multiple jobs that
was not in the job description.I guess things would get better
when Lisa is finally like gone,because like for performance
improvement plans, they don'treally expect people to get out
of that. They, it's likebasically the preamble to of
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hiring, or at least the personvoluntarily leaving the
position. But yeah, maybe afterthat things would get better,
but I would just, this is justmore proof for yourself, OP,
that this is just like a job andyou shouldn't really take
seriously.
Like I know you already spentfive years of your life in here,
roughly like 15% of your life inthis company, but there are
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better things out there. So thetop comment, and it's not even
close, the second comment haslike nothing on it. I really
hate workplace politics. I justwant to work and do a good job
and go home. Work can bestressful enough and no one
needs the extra BS some peoplebring with them.
If you got a bad attitude, learnto leave it at the door and at
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least pretend to be a decentperson at work. It's very hard
to pretend, apparently. So yeah,OP responded, Totally feel you.
Works hard enough withoutdealing with people bringing in
personal drama every day. Justbe professional and respectful
and that's all everyone shouldask for.
Yeah, I mean, in a perfectworld, people would just go to
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work and they'd be friendly withtheir co workers, maybe be like
close friends to a few of them,and then just go back home and
just live your life. Butunfortunately, the climate of
things, work is like basicallypeople's like only lives and
whatever energy they have leftis just left for their family or
like whatever they have going onat home, which is like, I feel
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like it's pretty dystopian to behonest. I think we all deserve
to live a little bit more betterthan that. For so long, like
decades and decades, people, wehave been like just trained and
taught that this was like allthat there is, and like almost
like all of us believe in this.I mean like nowadays less and
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less people believe in this, butlike the majority, like I would
say like 99% of people believethat this is the epitome of what
life is, like just work, go toyour family tired and exhausted
and sleep and then do it allover again, but I swear to you,
there is a lot more to life thanthat.
And you don't even have totravel all over the world to
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like see that, like even like aone mile radius from your entire
home is like, that's more thanenough life and beauty and
things to do to be happy, butyou just need the energy and I
guess like the resources toactually enjoy it. But yeah, so
at least I'm hoping for likesome sort of shift in like
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mentality about like how work issupposed to be, like, how work
at home is supposed to integrateinto your life. Because
currently we are not even at acrossroads, we're at the point
where work is majority of whatpeople do. And it's like, I
would be okay with that beingthe case, like, I mean, I work,
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like, from the moment I wake upuntil around when I'm about to
fall asleep, and I usually thinkabout what I'm, like, gonna be
doing the next day or what I'vedone already the past day, but
like, the thing that just getsme about all this is like the
work that is being done now,it's like, that people will
spend their entire lifestressing over, it just doesn't
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matter really.
Like a lot of it, it's justlike, have you ever been into a
corporate job and you feel likeyou are not doing anything
really? Like I've had some jobsthat are like that where I was
just, for the most part, I hadto act busy somehow, or I would
be doing something tedious. Thatcould be automated pretty easily
by someone who is a tiny bitsmart about the system, but
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people spend their whole livesdoing that and then like, that's
what gets people into feelinglike a little bit more depressed
about the job, because they knowlike, yeah I'm not really needed
here, I'm not really likeimportant or doing anything
important, and I feel likethat's a very toxic mindset to
have when you're, whenespecially if like that's like
your work life and your worklife is the majority of your
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life, like to think that whatyou're doing is not important.
People need purpose, whetherit's like doing something like
artsy that they like or find fortheir family in some way or
doing something that they feelis like beneficial to what they
find important. That is like, itcould be a part of the family or
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even beyond it.
Like a lot of jobs like paperpushing at like some office or
like doing any sort of likecustomer service, like a lot of
that's like very soul draining.It's just like a, we're at a
very depressing time in history,given like all our, like, modern
technological miracles. Butyeah, to get back from that
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tangent, remember the story wasabout, like, a new hire trying
to get OP fired. I mean, it'sjust what happens, like when
people are bored and peopledon't have something to strive
for, they just do petty politicslike this. It's just, like
instead of doing somethingimportant, they're just bored
and then they just stir up thepart, the pot, because that's
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just the only way to like getsome sort of life out of the
life that's happening, thatthey're living it currently.
So maybe that's what the newhire is kind of doing. Or maybe
the new hire is just an ass,but, yeah, OP, final verdict,
yeah, OP, you are in the right.I think you should leave your
job. You'll always leave yourjob for something better.
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Remember, your job is not yourfamily, no matter how much they
tell you that.
And to the new hire, as much asyou cause pain to to OP, I hope
you are better next time, andyou realize that this is not the
kind of life you want to live,like the rest of your life, like
having to like back side people,because like, I'm pretty sure
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that's a sin. I'm pretty surepeople go to hell over that, but
also I like to think that youare better and there are things
that you want to do that aremore important than this. So the
next story is titled, CoworkerTried to Prank Me with Fake
Write Ups and Accidentally GotThemselves Written Up Instead.
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What kind of prank is that?Like, oh, I'm gonna get you
fired.
Like, so stupid. But yeah, thestory starts, I work at a mid
sized retail chain. Our storehas this inside joke culture,
and while some of it is fun, itgets exhausting when it crosses
lines. There are a lot morelines than OP realizes, but
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yeah. One of my coworkers, Ryan,a male in his early twenties,
self proclaimed officepranksters, oh this guy is
probably annoying as hell, butthought it'd be hilarious to
fake a final warning write upfrom me and leave it on my
locker.
The write up said it's beenreported for hostile body
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language and making the copierfeel unsafe. It was clearly a
joke, but it had our realmanager's signature, forged
almost perfectly. Oh, I guess Ican see the issue. If this was
just like a simple like jokewrite up, like yeah, you can get
like a maybe a small hi, like,like being able This guy is has
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a skill, has a very valuableskill, and he's showing his
hands at the dumbest timepossible. But yeah, so, well,
tell us, continue the story.
Well, our manager didn't find itfunny. At all. I guess Ryan had
taken an old form from the backroom and tried to copy the
signature from a document lefton the desk. He got called into
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the office, and I kid you not,got written up for real for
document tampering, and he alsowent to jail for like ten years.
Okay.
Apparently forging anysignature, joke or not, is
considered grounds for HRinvolvement. Bruh. He tried to
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defend himself with, It was justa joke, but a man- but our
manager said, Do you know howserious this could have been if
you pranked the wrong person?Ryan's been soaking ever since
and hasn't tried another jokesince. The fate of another
office prankster.
But, I mean, the manager wasjust butt hurt that someone,
like forged a name. But I mean,I mean, that is a pretty serious
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event, but at the same time,looking, I feel like people in
the office, they're all likebuddy buddy and like happy and
like, they all can take jokesinto a certain extent. OP says
like, there's like, it'sexhausting for her when the
lines are crossed, but the thingabout like having this sort of
like, this joke culture in theworkplace is like everyone has
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their own like versions of linesthat can't be crossed. And a lot
of times what is a line for oneperson is not the same as
another. And even though like, Iguess OP and like his friend
probably didn't care about thesignature thing, it crossed the
line with the wrong people,which happens to be the manager.
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The manager is the wrong personin this case. Sucks to have
pulled the greatest joke. Notthe greatest joke, I mean,
could've, when's a good time todo, to forge someone's
signature? I can't imagine atime where that would be
beneficial without getting HRright up, TBH. Like, I maybe,
this is the only time hecould've ever have done it and
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not have gone like straight upfired.
The top comment. Oh, there's twotop comments. So yeah, the first
top comment is playing with firewith fake documents and fake
signatures. All he had to do washave the note look extremely
fake. I mean, he also could notdo it as well, but those types
don't usually go to go thatroute.
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I mean, yeah, I mean, he's theoffice prankster, the self
proclaimed office prankster. SoI doubt he had much, like,
faculty in his mind about like,where this was all going, TBH.
But I mean, the dedicationthough, like forging your
manager's signature is like,good job with that. Truly big
ideas are going through thatsmall, that mid sized retail
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company. And then, yeah, thesecond top comment is, I'm glad
it worked out, but that justsounds entirely too exhausting.
It must be awful having toconstantly look over your
shoulder for the next prank. AndI agree with that, like, I think
light pranks are okay, but I'mnot, I mean, I like to think I
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have a sense of humor, like Ican like take most people's
like, jokes or whatever, becauselike, it's just jokes and no one
should be offended by jokes. Butthe thing is, when you're at
work, I expect to work. I don'twant to like, be disturbed by
something that's going to takelike a few, like, even like a
few moments of my time, becauseI just want to get in and get
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out and like, do my best. So Iimagine, like, having to, like,
look over your shoulders, like,oh, or have, like, your time
disrupted, like, almost everynot every it doesn't seem like
he does it often, but I guesswhen he does it, he does it big.
Yeah, that kind of like culturewould be like pretty exhausting
to be in. Like I would dreadgoing to work. I would just
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politely resign, to be honest.So yeah, final verdict, OP and
even though I didn't like the,what's his name again, Ryan, the
office prankster, I don't thinkeither you were like the asshole
in this situation, because youboth knew what this was, like it
was just a prank. Like yeah,dumb prank, but like a prank
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nonetheless.
But the manager and HR, yeah,they're the assholes. But I
mean, that's like just kind oflike how it is, like that's just
the job description that youhave to keep some sort of order
in, in the workplace. Our finalstory is titled, Am I the
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Asshole for Losing My Mind AfterMy Wife's Friend Made Her Drink
Alcohol and Tried to Hook Her UpWith Another Man. My wife went
out with her friends for dinnerand when her friends came over,
she told us that it would justbe her, my wife, and her other
friend and they will be back intwo hours or so And my wife
(30:27):
didn't really want to go but Iencouraged her to have fun. I
was at home looking after ourdaughters but my wife after an
hour suddenly texted me back topick her up and that she's drunk
and there's a man next to herand she feels uncomfortable.
Even if she wasn'tuncomfortable, I would have went
anyway. I was confused becauseit was supposed to be girls only
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night, so why is a man involved?Oh, I asked my sister-in-law to
look after my daughter and thenI went to pick up my wife. I was
angry but I didn't want toembarrass my wife in front of
everyone, so I said, now my wifeis drunk and she's never had
alcohol and our daughter iscalling for her and I took her
home. My wife told me that shewas shocked to see a man joining
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them on dinner and he was beingoverly friendly with her and he
grabbed her hand and kepttouching her shoulders and she
didn't want to drink, buteveryone kept pressuring her.
Bro. I told my wife it's not herfault and she shouldn't blame
herself, but I wantedclarification. I called her
friend and asked her as to whywould she make my wife drink
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alcohol and why is a maninvolved and we weren't
informed. And she doubles downand said she doesn't need to
inform me and my wife should beable to handle alcohol and she
should be okay with being aroundmen. I called her a b word and
she's no true friend of my wife,and told her to stay away from
both of us.
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I ended up telling everyonetheir actual group about what
she did and most of the womencut her off. And she's, as
expected, pissed, and she saidthat I didn't need to be so
dramatic and she's lost some ofher friends because of me, and a
few from their group says thesame thing. It's so stressful to
go back and forth for thesepeople and I just want to cut
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them off out of my life. And Ijust want to cut them out of my
life. They are cancer.
Choice words, but yeah, I agree.And the good ones can stay
friends with my wife, but thesepeople, I want them ruined. You
Ariaso, I do not think you arethe asshole. Like, they
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basically try to date R word,your wife, by sending her up
with some strange man from, Ipresume, work, some random guy
that happens to have a thing forher, and who could only interact
with her when she's super drunkand can't control herself. But
luckily for Ofie's wife, shehad, like, at least enough,
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like, sense to, like, quicklytext her husband to, like, help
her out from this situation,because it could have gone
really bad really quickly.
This is, like, not a good friendgroup to be a part of. Like,
these people are all terrible,to like just goad her into like
almost being blackout drunk, andgoing away with some strange
guy. Like it's just, it's verylike, manipulatives isn't even a
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word for it, like it's evenworse than that. So, the top
comment is, The fact that yourwife was uncomfortable and
texted you for help means thatyou are 100% not the asshole.
Sounds like your wife justweeded out a shitty friend,
Goodbye and good riddance.
So OP responded to this bysaying, My wife was
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uncomfortable and she made amistake, which she regrets and I
am glad that my wife called meand I can't possibly blame her.
A lot of commentators here arecalling me controlling and the
other half is blaming my wifefor not saying no, and I know
she did and my wife knows thatif she's in distress that she
can rely on me, and she knowsthat if she's in trouble, I
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would give up everything andhelp her. So yeah, I think yeah,
I don't get the comments thatare trying to spin this and say
that OP is like the asshole orlike her wife should have just
said no. Like, it looks like shetried to get away from the
situation and because, I guessthe man was pressing, or, like,
the friends just kept givingher, like, more and more drinks,
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she probably felt like she was,like, backed into a corner, and
even despite her saying no. Soyeah, very, very scary situation
for her.
But yeah, and then someoneresponded to Opie's comment, You
did everything right. People sayotherwise are idiots. She called
you for help and you came andhelped as a good husband should.
Good for you and yeah, get ridof that friend for doing what
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she did. Basically like a trashfriend group, like I don't know
what kind of friendship theyhad, like OP's wife and this
chick beforehand, but I imaginethis was all like some sort of
pretense to get this guy to getclose to Opie's wife, which is
like just disturbing in a lot ofways.
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But thank goodness they havethat relationship, Opie's wife
and Opie, that like, they'reable to like confine each other,
like, Opie, even though like hewas rightfully like like upset
over the situation, he was ableto channel that into the people
who actually deserve it, not hiswife. And then good on OP's wife
for trusting on his husband toprotect her when she needed
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protection. So yeah, finalverdict. OP, you are a saint
among men. OP's wife get betterat finding friends, and OP's ex
friend be thankful that you arenot charged with any sort of
like, essay or anything relatedwith alcohol, like, or any other
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charges because like, this islike heinous.
This is like the Jezebel spiritcoming out of you to ruin like a
whole marriage, and family even.So yeah, that's all the stories
we have today. Thank you fortuning into this week's episode.
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