August 27, 2025 • 34 mins
Sorry for the delay! Technical, health, and time issues got in the way. This week we'll bring you 2 episodes to make up for it! (:
This week on Yapping Schnauzers, we bring Reddit stories where common sense went completely out the window. From a Harvard roommate who can’t figure out a can opener, to a gym proposal that fell flatter than a treadmill crash, to family dinners ruined by pettiness, it’s a parade of questionable choices and chaotic consequences.
We’ll yap about:
- Roommates flexing PhDs but failing at life skills 🥫
- The Avengers-level vet receptionist interview 🐶
- Germaphobe parents who think kids can stay spotless 🍼
- A mom blaming her son for a stepsister’s accident 🚲
- Family meltdowns over Korean BBQ 🍖
It’s a wild ride of No Common Sense stories you don’t want to miss. Let's hope Erika get's better soon!
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Links to threads read:
- Roommate broke my can opener, so I bought a new one that I knew I could figure out how to use.
- I applied to be a receptionist at a vet clinic and somehow got interviewed like I was joining the Avengers.
- AITA for telling my bestfriend I understood why his fiancee is so disappointed that he proposed to her at the gym ?
- AITAH for telling my girlfriend she's going to have to get over dirt if she wants kids?
- AITAH for taking my daughter out for a nice dinner and leaving everyone else to fend for themselves?
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Intro (00:00):
Yapping!
Edgar (00:01):
Hello, my name is Edgar and I am one half of the Yapping
Schnauzers. We entertain youwith yap worthy stories we find
around the web. Erica is sick,still, and can't speak, so a
link in this guide would makeher feel better. And it'll
probably be that way for likemaybe another week or so, but
yeah, that's how she gets betterand in the interim, she found
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some cool stories she thinksthat we would all like.
Today's theme is No CommonSense. Our first story is
titled, Roommate Broke My CanOpener. So I brought a new one
that I knew I could figure outhow to use. So, I rent rooms out
in my house. I generally do itwith friends or friends of
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friends.
And a couple years ago, I hadthis roommate who was the ex
husband of a friend of mine andI felt sorry for him. So I gave
him a discount on rent. He stillfell behind, but that's a
totally different maliciouscompliance story. Well, he was
the worst roommate I've ever hadfor many reasons, but for this
account, he was pretty muchliving off canned food when he
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wasn't stealing my food, and heused my can opener every day.
Well, he broke it and he came tome and told me that as a
landlord I needed to get a newcan opener.
And before I get to themalicious compliance, let me
add, he was very proud of hisHarvard PhD. He didn't use it in
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his minimum wage job, but henever avoided the opportunity to
remind me that my PhD was from astate school and his was from
Harvard. Note, I was working inthe career that I used my PhD
knowledge and the program I wentto has several Nobel laureates
and I worked with some of them.My roommate was pretty much a
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failure in life and had slippedinto leeching off others to
survive. He has no marketableskills.
Anyways, the maliciouscompliance. I bought a new can
opener, but I got one that isreally tricky to use. It
basically works like an electriccan opener, but it's manual. I
knew there was no way thisincompetent roommate would be
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able to figure out how to useit, and he couldn't. I'd find
mango cans in the garbage, andhe's not even recycling, and he
came to me and asked me how touse the can opener.
My response? A guy with aHarvard degree should certainly
be able to figure out this ontheir own, if a guy like me can.
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Having a roommate is like verydifficult for anyone who has a
roommate, which I think is likemost people these days because
like the housing market and likerent, especially in a lot of
major cities is justastronomical. A good roommate is
like a blessing and a badroommate is like kind of the
role in most cases. Especiallyif like you don't really know
them.
And like I guess the worst partabout this roommate is like,
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like I'm very against college, Ikinda like the idea of them. I
think like maybe once upon atime, like decades ago, they
like meant something, butbecause like hundreds of
thousands or like millions ofpeople like graduate every year,
it's just like, it's just verydiluted. Basically everyone has
a degree at this point, andeveryone isn't a millionaire
with a mansion, so there'sprobably something breaking in
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that system. Plus like, canlearn a lot better on your own
these days. There's a lot ofthings online that help you to
learn, whether you use Google,YouTube, or AI.
I mean, and this would be myworst nightmare kind of like
roommate, like someone thatconstantly talks about like
their Harvard degree. Do I knowany Harvard people? I think like
a few people from my old jobdid, but I don't think I ever
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came up that often. Especiallylike once you're in the real
world. A good degree from like agood school can probably get you
through the door, but like asyou get older, what you've done
with that degree or what you'vedone in general is what's gonna
carry you to like wherever youwanna go in your career.
That and plus knowing somepeople, but I didn't really like
the lather of like having toknow someone to like climb the
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ranks either. In this case, Ifeel like if he had the balls he
would just kick the roommate outat this point. Like he's not
even paying rent and like, yeahsure. If you like, if you can
survive not paying rent for likea month or two, and like there's
someone like you're close to orlike your friends with, I think
that's like, if you'recomfortable with it, you should
be able to offer. But I mean,especially like for someone
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that's like a drug like this,it's just like kick them out as
soon as you can.
Though I think like a lot oflike, depending on which city
this takes place in, there'slike a lot of tenant protection
laws, so OP might just be likestuck with him. Because of that,
things like this where he justgets a slightly more complicated
can opener. It's probably like aor in many ways just fight back
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against the roommate. Likehopefully he gets the picture.
So the top comment is, Reallyfreak him out with a P-thirty
eight.
I had one of these when I was inthe army and could open a can in
a snap. But if you didn't knowthe NAC, you were screwed. So
what's a P-thirty eight? Okay,so a P-thirty eight, so in the
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top comment I had a link to aP-thirty eight can opener in
Wikipedia. And if you're in thearmy, you can tell me more about
it.
I would like to hear yourexperience with it, because I've
never seen this thing before. Ithought it was a penny, because
the image just shows the penny,but no. The P38K opener is just
like a little credit cardlooking slab of metal, with like
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half a knife sticking out of it,guess. Like half a very short
knife sticking out of it. And Imean, can see how that works,
but I think I would end up justlike, just stabbing the can
until it opened.
I might try and get it and justto have it as an option. But
yeah, OP, you final thoughts.OP, maybe you should get the
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P38. I wonder if a Harvardgraduate would be able to get
it. So, the next story istitled, I applied to be a
receptionist at a vet clinic andsomehow got interviewed like I
was joining the Avengers.
Dang. Yeah. And these interviewsare getting crazy for no reason.
Like, I get it for like, ifyou're some sort of like tech
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company or where you're gonnaget paid like $6.07 figures, but
like even these like entry leveljobs are like asking for way too
much for no reason. So the storybegins, I walked in expecting
the usual questions.
Can you answer phones? Handlescheduling? Instead, the
interior goes straight into,what would you do if an
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aggressive dog lunged at you?How many aggressive dogs
happened? Oh, yeah, is a bitclinic, so I guess this makes
sense actually.
It's terrible TBH. So, there Iam, calmly explaining how I'd
approach an angry Rottweiler,thinking, 'Wow, receptionist
here must double as petpsychologist. And she finishes
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the page of questions, looks upat me, and suddenly freezes.
Wait, you applied forreceptionist, not vet assistant?
And I said, Yeah.
And then she says, oh, wronglist. Let's start over. And just
like that, I was put throughround two, a completely
different set of receptionistquestions back to back. By the
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end of it, I felt like I'd beentested for receptionist,
assistant, and part timeadventure all in one sitting.
The longest job interview of mylife and I still don't know if I
got the job.
But hey, at least I know now howto wrestle a hypothetical dog
while answering phones. Thisisn't like exactly like the
worst kind of interview to get.Like I'm sure it's annoying to
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like do basically two interviewsback to back. It seems like it's
like a fun interview, like justasking hypotheticals about
taking care of pets, so like Iguess being a receptionist to
pet owners. I wonder what kindof question made OP think that
this was like an Avenger kind oflike question.
Yeah, my longest job interviewwas probably my interview for
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Google. So for the techinterviews, if you guys ever
heard about it, they're verynotorious for being very long
and arduous. And that was beforelike AI happened, like when I
did my interview, like when AIwas like more widely used. So, I
mean, it was like a very, not avery different dynamic, like,
it's, I feel like it's a lotharder, I'll tell you why after
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I explain how the tech interviewworks. But basically, they call
you initially, like somerecruiter, and they just are
like asking you basic questions,just to ensure that you weren't
lying on your resume, and thatyou know how to ask.
And then afterwards, you get aphone call interview where, well
not a phone call, but more likea video interview with an
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engineer, you and the engineer,and then the engineer asks you
like a simple coding question.In tech, it's called LeetCode
style questions, and they'rebasically like little coding
computer science puzzles thatyou have to discuss like
possible solutions, and thenlike make clarifying questions,
and afterwards you had to codeout the the solution, and then
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explain the solution and allthat stuff. Like, do all that
within a thirty minute like,interview time slot, and that's
like the first first, secondround. And afterwards, if you
did well enough, they bring youinto the on sites, or through
like Google Meets. And then fromthat point, they had four to
five back to back interviews inthat same style.
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And the questions were prettydifficult. And I didn't sleep
that day actually. Yeah, so forthat interview it was for
Google, I did not sleep thatday, because I was very anxious,
because I really wanted to getin. But yeah, the interview was
like four or five back to back,and it lasted like five ish to
six hours maybe. It felt like itwas forever.
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It was basically like a wholeworkday, where I was just like
talking to Google engineers, andthey were pretty cool, all the
ones I met. I never met themagain after that day, but like
they were pretty cool to talkto, and the kind of questions
they asked were basically like,things that you'd find like in a
ketoscience intro course, to behonest. It was like, graph
problems. It's been like fourish, five years, so I don't
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quite remember it exactlyanymore. So yeah, back then, it
was like a pretty longinterview, like, like the
interview itself was long, andthen also, like, in the time
between waiting, for eachrecruiter interaction or email
was like pretty long too.
Like, I think I got, I submittedmy my resume to like the Google
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careers portal at like April,May, and I started working at
December, because that's howlong it took to like go back and
forth with the recruiter and allof the people that were involved
in the interview process. Soyeah, it was like half a year
basically for me. And I was justlike basically studying and just
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trying to get better at myskills at the time. Cause I was
very entry level, like, engineerwise, like in terms of like,
definitely in terms of skill andjust like knowledge. But, yeah,
it was a good time afterwards.
I would recommend. But yeah,nowadays, however, because
everything was like online,interviews and all that stuff,
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it's very easy for people tojust use AI in another like tab
or window or like device. It'sjust to help them like through
the the interview process. Andlike obviously interviewers can
see like when you're not actinghonestly, but like it definitely
makes it easier if you're goodif you have a good poker face. I
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haven't been in the interviewloop recently, so I don't know
how drastically that affects theinterview process.
But I know like a lot ofcompanies now like trying to
have people like interview inperson, just to weed out people
who just use AI to like get themthrough the process. Which it
makes sense. Ideally, the personknows their like their basics
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and their fundamentals, likeit's the back of their hand. But
because I use AI every day, justI would say like the first few
years of your career, if you'rein like engineering or if you're
interested, I wouldn't use AI.Or I wouldn't use AI when you're
coding, just because you need tobe able to code yourself, and
you should be able to see andlike get all that skill and all
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that struggle that helps you getbetter at being an engineer.
And then you get to see a lot ofproblems, see how they're
solved, or see like Like,personally, I struggle a lot
when I'm like creating things.And it's like, I feel like every
single possible bad thing thatcan happen, or bug I can like,
run across to, I always hit itregardless of if I'm using AI or
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not in my, when I'm coding. I'malways learning it in that, in
that range, but yeah. If you'restarting out, I would not
recommend. I would recommendusing AI to like help you teach
and stuff, but like for codingtasks for you, I would just like
keep it to your own skills.
And then like after a year ortwo, once like you know how like
code is supposed to look, andyou have like, you can start
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forming opinions on like howthings should be organized, and
when you can just like basicallyunderstand like the gist of all
of that, then you can use AI tojust like, speed up the process.
But yeah, that's just to saythat like, when I I I think he
like, for him or for OP, thisinterview was probably, like,
not tough, but just like long,which is like a different kind
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of like, like difficulty, likethe endurance event. But at
least for me, to like a tankinterview, I I would kind of
prefer these kind of interviewsjust because just because, like,
you're not, like, under pressureto, like, perform, like, some
sort of, like, coding puzzle andcoding on the spot. Like, I I
know how to code, but, I feellike if I had to do it on the
spot, I would be a little bitnervous. And like these
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questions are like pretty fun,an adventure style question, or
a question that makes you feellike they're into unforgiving
adventures.
Sounds pretty intense. Oh, andthe top comment is, what would
you do if an angry customerlunged at you? And then OP
responded, turned their rattleron them. Well, I've never had an
angry customer lunged at me. AndI don't think I would ever have
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a job where someone would attackme like that.
I think how would I answer this?If I want a job, I'll say I step
out of the way. And if I don'twant a job, I would say I would
lunch at them at the same time,so we meet in the air. This
isn't really like a Am I theasshole host, but like
hopefully, Ophie gets the job.Like, I mean, basically doing
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these two interviews back toback.
I feel like he kind of deservessome, like some, at least some
other like interview, if they'restill on the fence of him. But I
still feel like this is like theway that the interviewer handled
this interview with OP is alittle bit of a red flag for the
vet clinic. Like it just showslike a lack of organization or
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something broken in the system.So maybe there's other parts of
working at this vet clinic thatwould be equally as hectic. But
I mean, we're in a tough jobmarketeconomy, so you just have
to take what you can get.
The next story is titled, Am Ithe Asshole for Telling My Best
Friend I Understood Why HisFiance is so Disappointed that
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He Proposed to Her at the Gym. Iguess if they're like a fitness
couple or whatever, this wouldmake sense, but I do not know a
lot of people who'd want to bewillingly proposed to at a gym.
So yeah, I, 27f, was excitedwhen my best friend, 27 male,
told me he had proposed to hisgirlfriend, 29 female. He said
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he had the proposal on video. Iwas so confused when the video
started out in a woman's gymwhen I saw his girlfriend on an
exercise machine in the video.
I had a bad feeling. Yeah, metoo. And I'm not even seeing it.
But yet she looked so shockedand she said yes. She only
looked happy for like twominutes and the rest of the time
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she gave an insincere smile.
My best friend expressedfrustration that his fiance had
confessed she wasn't happy withthe proposal after he asked her
why she looked so sad. He wasventing to me and asked me how
I'd feel if a guy proposed to mewhile I was in the gym. I guess
he really expected me to agreewith him, but I said I would
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hate it. I said I don't want tobe proposed to when I'm sweaty
and stinky at the gym. And Ibasically explained to him that
I understood why she wasdisappointed.
My best friend called me shallowand a bad friend. Am I the
asshole? I would not say you'rean asshole for giving your
opinion. It's pretty odd likethere has to be some sort of
like like inside joke betweenOP's friend and his fiancee, but
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I mean, given that the videoshows that she clearly wasn't
that happy about the proposal, Isee Indus guy's future, like,
having to re propose, like,somewhere better. Like, at least
some sort of, nice restaurantsor or like a nice park.
Like what you do to propose, Iguess doesn't really matter too
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much, because it's just like asingle moment and like in the
rest of the time that you'retogether with somebody. And
there's plenty of more times,plenty more like situations and
moments that you can make theother person feel more special.
Despite all that, I would notwant to propose to someone at a
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gym. I don't see much manypeople being happy about the
idea of being proposed to at agym. And the worst part is he
got this on film for whateverreason, just to like, I guess to
memorialize how disappointingthis proposal was.
Yeah, when I proposed to Erica,it was pretty I I put it out
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pretty well. I had like a fewmonths to set it up and we
actually got we I actually didthe proposal at New York City in
the QC Spa. And yeah, I justmessaged him like months in
advance if we can do this, andwe just, we're back and forth.
The main contact at QC Spa, andthey were very professional, and
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it was a nice place. I had likea mini vision about how it would
look like, and I had aphotographer and all that stuff,
and I wanted everyone to, of ourfamilies to be at the place, or
both our families or as many ofour families to be at the spa as
possible.
And QC Spa at the time allowedus, because like it's a spa, so
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there there's no childrenallowed, and everyone has to be
like in in their like theirrobes or like their bathing
suits. But for like a wee fiveminute window, they allowed us
to do the proposal like in infull dress in the on premise.
And yeah, and they're veryprofessional about everything,
and they're equally as excitedwhen we went as well. I would
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recommend it. Oh, and funnything too, I felt like the
entire day was like verystressful.
So, I drank a little bit toomuch, and I didn't eat that day
either. So, the drinks hit me alot harder. But yeah, like maybe
like after three or four likecocktails in, I was like
definitely like beyond buzzed.And I was dropping off Erica to
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like a massage, like appointmentwithin the spa. So I and she
would be there for like an houror so.
And that would give me time tojust like Well, ideally that
would give me time to get thephotographer and one ready, and
also for me to like sober up alittle, and as soon as I dropped
her off, I went to the elevatorin QC Spa, and then I went like
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to the ground level. And whenthe elevator door opened, I just
see like a tall guy, formallydressed, and he said, Are you
Edgar? And I was like and then Ihad to step up quickly because I
was the manager and had toexplain to him, I guess,
basically the entire plan.Because I was the manager for
that night, for that shift, andso I had to explain to him as
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clearly as possible withoutslurring my words. But still, it
went smoothly.
See, I'm not trying to yeah, butI'm not trying to mock the guy
for proposing at a gym. I thinkas long as the place is special
to you and whoever you'reproposing to, I mean, that's all
that really matters when itcomes to the proposal. And I
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mean, even though she didn'tlike being proposed to at the
gym, she still said yes. So youstill have like that closeness
and that bond to elicit thatyes. So now, the top comment is,
don't ask questions you aren'tready to hear the answer to.
I mean I agree with you and Jimis an odd place to propose
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unless it is a very specificreason for it. Like that's where
you met and you loved that storyor that's how you bonded or
whatever. He's just upset thathe disappointed his fiancee and
he needs to come to terms withthat. I do agree with this. I
think maybe OP's friend had areason to do this, but I mean,
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ultimately like he knows that helike messed up.
He knows that his fiancee islike not on board with like how
it was done. And as I saidearlier, I see a re proposal in
his future. Somewhere nice,somewhere with a photographer
maybe, or I guess you gotta makeup for the mistake by making it
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a little bit bigger when you dore propose to her. Hopefully to
have like a nice long wedding.Nice long happy wedding.
Nice long happy marriage. Sofinal verdict OP, the one who
said that this plan was dogshit, that this plan was
terrible. You are not theasshole for just basically just
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being honest to your friend. Thepro- like OP's friend who
proposed, I wouldn't say he's anasshole for this. He's an
asshole for how he treated OP,for giving her opinion, but I
don't think he was the assholefor proposing in this way.
Because I'm sure he thought thatthis was like a good proposal.
So, the next story is titled,'Am I the asshole for telling my
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girlfriend she's going to haveto get over dirt if she wants
kids. I, 25 female, and mygirlfriend, Amy, 27 female, is a
wonderful person. She's verysmart and she works in a clean
room with computer chips and allthat stuff, but she's also
something of a germaphobe to thepoint that she keeps her
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toothbrush in the hallwayoutside the bathroom in a
ziplock bag. Her apartment isalways spotless.
She showers thrice a day, Evenher car somehow never has any
dirt on the floor. And she handwashes all of her clothes as
soon as she's done wearing them.And it's both impressive and
intimidating. I'm not themessiest person on the planet by
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any means. I don't have massivepiles of unwashed dishes or a
leaning tower of used pizzaboxes or anything.
But I'm not as clean as she isand I'm not against making some
adjustments, but we've beentalking more about the future
now that we've been gettingserious and I've come across a
problem. Amy wants kids,desperately wants kids. And I
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like kids too, but she's neverbeen around babies or little
kids before in her life and sheseems to think she'll be able to
keep the house just as clean asit is now and keep the baby
spotless too. I'm the oldest offour and the oldest cousin of
nine and I grew up around kids.I've been babysitting since I
was 10.
There's no such thing as cleantoddlers, not for longer than
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ten minutes at the very most.And she thinks if we just work
at it, we have a spotless houseand a spotless kid. And I told
her gently of course that that'sjust not possible. And I asked
how she plans on handlingdiapers, vomit, frogs smuggled
into the house, jam goingeverywhere, soup bowls tipped
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over for fun, spilled grapejuice, nail polish on the wall
and the like. And she insistedthat the kids who do that are
just poorly trained and don'thave good boundaries.
She kind of has a point therebut I told her that their kids
without fine motor skills orimpulse regulation and accidents
will always happen. And if shewants to have kids, she's going
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to have to accept that they'regoing to get messy and her house
will get messy. Amy accused meof not being supportive and
trying to find excuses to nothave kids with her and trying to
guilt her into being sloppier.This is dissolving into an
actual fight instead of adiscussion and I'm starting to
second guess myself. Maybe myfamily was just excessively
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messy because we were rural andpoor and maybe my standards are
too low and we really haven'ttried hard enough.
It's very frustrating and I wantsome outside perspective.
Parental perspective especially.So yeah, I'm not a parent but I
do take care of a lot of cousinsand nephews and nieces. And
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yeah, I would agree with this. Imean, it depends on the child,
honestly.
It's a mixture of like how theirpersonalities are and how they
were raised. But yeah, for themost part, kids are pretty
messy, like they like we havelike our nephews over pretty
often, and we've had likeErica's little sister over when
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she used to like live here. Theentire like apartment, entire
like room would always get messyafter like a whole night of
having them over. And I'm noteven sure what happens. We're
just like playing games or we'rejust like on our iPads or
whatever.
But yeah, somehow the entireapartment is flipped over and
then we have to slowly pick upall the pieces again. But yeah,
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it's just like something toaccept. Like even if they're
like well trained, like Obisays, they don't have fine motor
skills or impulse regulations,so they're just like more prone
to like having more accidents ormaking a mess of the place. OP
and OP's fiance girlfriendshould probably have like more
honest discussion about this.Like whatever OP just said in
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the spread, he should tell hisgirlfriend because this isn't
coming from a place, oh, I don'twanna have kids or I want us to
be more messier.
Maybe a little bit of that, tobe honest, but it's just OP just
wants to give his girlfriendlike a heads up. This is just
like the reality. And not tofreak out when the other child
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like just ends up flipping theroom whenever they're at. But
yeah, the top comment is justwhen you think you've cleaned up
all the poop and mess you find acasual pile of vomit behind a
pillow. And I think thatbasically sums it up.
I just, especially like babies.I've heard like a lot of horror
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stories and then I've heard likesome like stories, like other
stories like you're, you're thefirst like year or two with a
baby, they're either likeperfect angels or you're not
sleeping for like the entireperiod of time. Especially for
babies, just, they vomit andpoop because that's, they're
getting used to like eating andall that stuff that people had
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to get used to. But youhopefully have an honest
conversation about this becauselike this isn't like kind of
like a relationship ending kindof argument. It's like something
they can just set boundaries orjust set like proper
expectations about like whathaving a baby means.
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Because that's you raising aperson to like a full adult and
like making sure they're likeall prepared for life and stuff.
The messiness is only a part oflike what being a parent is.
Like I'm not a parent, but Iimagine like it's pretty
difficult, but also equallyrewarding when done well. Final
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verdict. OP and her girlfriendare not the assholes in the
story.
It's just like kind of not seeneye to eye, but it's like
nothing like a five, ten minuteconversation can't fix. The next
story is titled, Am I theasshole for taking my daughter
out for a nice dinner andleaving everyone else to fend
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for themselves. So my daughter,16 female, and I, 43 female,
love eating at authentic Asianrestaurants. We had to pick my
son, 12 male, up at a Koreanbarbecue about forty minutes
from my house. It was a partywith another family and I
suggested to my husband, 44 maleof twenty five years, that he
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and the two other kids can havewhatever they want for dinner
and my daughter and I would getKorean barbecue at this
restaurant.
And he said, no, we should allgo as a family. And I reminded
him that he and the other kidsaren't big fans of Korean
barbecue and it would be cheaperto eat separately. Yeah, never
makes sense. And he insisted oneveryone going. When we get to
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the restaurant and he sees themenu, he complains he doesn't
know what to order and complainabout the price.
The other kids followed suit. Isuggested they go eat in another
restaurant in the plaza anddaughter and I would get the
Korean food. It smells soamazing by the way. And we
waited twenty minutes for ourtable and he continued to make
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comments about the price. Eventhough you better not order
anything fancy.
Even told me you better notorder anything fancy. And that
was the last straw. I got up andI went to the van. Everyone
followed. I said I was takingeveryone home and my daughter
and I would go on our own to alocal Korean barbecue.
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We did exactly that. Everyoneelse had McDonald's and played
Roblox and I get home and he isfuming saying that I owe
everyone an apology. I refused.I said I had zero remorse and it
seemed like everyone was happybut him and went to bed. I slept
perfectly fine and he's stillmad.
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So, am I an asshole for takingmy daughter out for dinner and
leaving everyone else to dotheir own thing? Probably like
an asshole to her husband, but Imean, she did warn the husband
that he and like the childrenthat like that followed like and
some of the other children, arenot fans of like Asian food or
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Korean barbecue. And if that'sthe case, like it's totally okay
to just like eat something elsebecause Korean barbecue is very
expensive. I think around herewas like $40.45 dollars per
person depending on like whatyou get. Like around here we
have a place called Hot Pot.
They have like different pricesfor if you want like the hot pot
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which is just like the soupwhere you can put a bunch of,
you can put like a, likewhatever soup base kind of
noodle, and like any kind ofmeat or like vegetable in there,
and then you boil it, and thenyou make your own soup that way.
They also have like, favar, tolike get like more ingredients,
and condiments, and peppers andspices. Yeah, so they have that
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for the hot pot, then they havethe Korean barbecue part of it,
which is like, you have a grillin the middle of your table, and
you just order a bunch of rawmeat and whatever you want to
like eat, and it's all reallyseasoned for you, so all you
gotta do is just put all thatfood into the grill in the
middle, and you make your ownfood in that way. And it sounds
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like a lot of extra work, mostof the time it feels a little
bit more extra, but like thefood is just like amazing. And
it's like, it's buffet, so it'slike all you can eat.
Depending on, yeah, one or theother or both, the prices are
like, ranges from like 30 to$40. And yeah, that's pretty,
per person, and yeah, that getsvery expensive really fast. So
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to have like a whole familywhere like more than half of the
family doesn't like Koreanbarbecue just doesn't make
sense, because it's just soexpensive. No one's gonna be
enjoying the food. And I thinkideally the husband would have
listened at the start becausethen he would have had pizza
instead of McDonald's infrustration.
The top comment is, Not theasshole. You told him what your
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plan was and he and you bothknew he and the other kids
didn't like Korean barbecue.There is nothing wrong with
doing things separatelyoccasionally. And yeah, I agree
because even though it's idealfor everyone to like eat as a
family or like eat all together,sometimes people just don't like
the food that's being served.It's like only so many places
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that have like just chickentenders or fries or some sort of
side you can like nip on, butlike it all just comes down to
compromise, which both OP andher husband failed to do.
So final verdict, I think bothOP and her husband were assholes
in this situation. The husbandbecause he was stubborn and then
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OP because even though like shewas in the race, she kind of
like rubbed it into, thehusband's face instead of trying
to like remedy it. It seemedlike she just put more fire into
it. So that is all the storiesthat we have today. Thank you
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Hello, my name is Edgar and I am one half of the Yapping
Schnauzers. We entertain youwith yap worthy stories we find
around the web. Erica is sick,still, and can't speak, so a
link in this guide would makeher feel better. And it'll
probably be that way for likemaybe another week or so, but
yeah, that's how she gets betterand in the interim, she found
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some cool stories she thinksthat we would all like.
Today's theme is No CommonSense. Our first story is
titled, Roommate Broke My CanOpener. So I brought a new one
that I knew I could figure outhow to use. So, I rent rooms out
in my house. I generally do itwith friends or friends of
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friends.
And a couple years ago, I hadthis roommate who was the ex
husband of a friend of mine andI felt sorry for him. So I gave
him a discount on rent. He stillfell behind, but that's a
totally different maliciouscompliance story. Well, he was
the worst roommate I've ever hadfor many reasons, but for this
account, he was pretty muchliving off canned food when he
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wasn't stealing my food, and heused my can opener every day.
Well, he broke it and he came tome and told me that as a
landlord I needed to get a newcan opener.
And before I get to themalicious compliance, let me
add, he was very proud of hisHarvard PhD. He didn't use it in
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his minimum wage job, but henever avoided the opportunity to
remind me that my PhD was from astate school and his was from
Harvard. Note, I was working inthe career that I used my PhD
knowledge and the program I wentto has several Nobel laureates
and I worked with some of them.My roommate was pretty much a
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failure in life and had slippedinto leeching off others to
survive. He has no marketableskills.
Anyways, the maliciouscompliance. I bought a new can
opener, but I got one that isreally tricky to use. It
basically works like an electriccan opener, but it's manual. I
knew there was no way thisincompetent roommate would be
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able to figure out how to useit, and he couldn't. I'd find
mango cans in the garbage, andhe's not even recycling, and he
came to me and asked me how touse the can opener.
My response? A guy with aHarvard degree should certainly
be able to figure out this ontheir own, if a guy like me can.
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Having a roommate is like verydifficult for anyone who has a
roommate, which I think is likemost people these days because
like the housing market and likerent, especially in a lot of
major cities is justastronomical. A good roommate is
like a blessing and a badroommate is like kind of the
role in most cases. Especiallyif like you don't really know
them.
And like I guess the worst partabout this roommate is like,
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like I'm very against college, Ikinda like the idea of them. I
think like maybe once upon atime, like decades ago, they
like meant something, butbecause like hundreds of
thousands or like millions ofpeople like graduate every year,
it's just like, it's just verydiluted. Basically everyone has
a degree at this point, andeveryone isn't a millionaire
with a mansion, so there'sprobably something breaking in
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that system. Plus like, canlearn a lot better on your own
these days. There's a lot ofthings online that help you to
learn, whether you use Google,YouTube, or AI.
I mean, and this would be myworst nightmare kind of like
roommate, like someone thatconstantly talks about like
their Harvard degree. Do I knowany Harvard people? I think like
a few people from my old jobdid, but I don't think I ever
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came up that often. Especiallylike once you're in the real
world. A good degree from like agood school can probably get you
through the door, but like asyou get older, what you've done
with that degree or what you'vedone in general is what's gonna
carry you to like wherever youwanna go in your career.
That and plus knowing somepeople, but I didn't really like
the lather of like having toknow someone to like climb the
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ranks either. In this case, Ifeel like if he had the balls he
would just kick the roommate outat this point. Like he's not
even paying rent and like, yeahsure. If you like, if you can
survive not paying rent for likea month or two, and like there's
someone like you're close to orlike your friends with, I think
that's like, if you'recomfortable with it, you should
be able to offer. But I mean,especially like for someone
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that's like a drug like this,it's just like kick them out as
soon as you can.
Though I think like a lot oflike, depending on which city
this takes place in, there'slike a lot of tenant protection
laws, so OP might just be likestuck with him. Because of that,
things like this where he justgets a slightly more complicated
can opener. It's probably like aor in many ways just fight back
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against the roommate. Likehopefully he gets the picture.
So the top comment is, Reallyfreak him out with a P-thirty
eight.
I had one of these when I was inthe army and could open a can in
a snap. But if you didn't knowthe NAC, you were screwed. So
what's a P-thirty eight? Okay,so a P-thirty eight, so in the
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top comment I had a link to aP-thirty eight can opener in
Wikipedia. And if you're in thearmy, you can tell me more about
it.
I would like to hear yourexperience with it, because I've
never seen this thing before. Ithought it was a penny, because
the image just shows the penny,but no. The P38K opener is just
like a little credit cardlooking slab of metal, with like
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half a knife sticking out of it,guess. Like half a very short
knife sticking out of it. And Imean, can see how that works,
but I think I would end up justlike, just stabbing the can
until it opened.
I might try and get it and justto have it as an option. But
yeah, OP, you final thoughts.OP, maybe you should get the
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P38. I wonder if a Harvardgraduate would be able to get
it. So, the next story istitled, I applied to be a
receptionist at a vet clinic andsomehow got interviewed like I
was joining the Avengers.
Dang. Yeah. And these interviewsare getting crazy for no reason.
Like, I get it for like, ifyou're some sort of like tech
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company or where you're gonnaget paid like $6.07 figures, but
like even these like entry leveljobs are like asking for way too
much for no reason. So the storybegins, I walked in expecting
the usual questions.
Can you answer phones? Handlescheduling? Instead, the
interior goes straight into,what would you do if an
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aggressive dog lunged at you?How many aggressive dogs
happened? Oh, yeah, is a bitclinic, so I guess this makes
sense actually.
It's terrible TBH. So, there Iam, calmly explaining how I'd
approach an angry Rottweiler,thinking, 'Wow, receptionist
here must double as petpsychologist. And she finishes
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the page of questions, looks upat me, and suddenly freezes.
Wait, you applied forreceptionist, not vet assistant?
And I said, Yeah.
And then she says, oh, wronglist. Let's start over. And just
like that, I was put throughround two, a completely
different set of receptionistquestions back to back. By the
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end of it, I felt like I'd beentested for receptionist,
assistant, and part timeadventure all in one sitting.
The longest job interview of mylife and I still don't know if I
got the job.
But hey, at least I know now howto wrestle a hypothetical dog
while answering phones. Thisisn't like exactly like the
worst kind of interview to get.Like I'm sure it's annoying to
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like do basically two interviewsback to back. It seems like it's
like a fun interview, like justasking hypotheticals about
taking care of pets, so like Iguess being a receptionist to
pet owners. I wonder what kindof question made OP think that
this was like an Avenger kind oflike question.
Yeah, my longest job interviewwas probably my interview for
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Google. So for the techinterviews, if you guys ever
heard about it, they're verynotorious for being very long
and arduous. And that was beforelike AI happened, like when I
did my interview, like when AIwas like more widely used. So, I
mean, it was like a very, not avery different dynamic, like,
it's, I feel like it's a lotharder, I'll tell you why after
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I explain how the tech interviewworks. But basically, they call
you initially, like somerecruiter, and they just are
like asking you basic questions,just to ensure that you weren't
lying on your resume, and thatyou know how to ask.
And then afterwards, you get aphone call interview where, well
not a phone call, but more likea video interview with an
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engineer, you and the engineer,and then the engineer asks you
like a simple coding question.In tech, it's called LeetCode
style questions, and they'rebasically like little coding
computer science puzzles thatyou have to discuss like
possible solutions, and thenlike make clarifying questions,
and afterwards you had to codeout the the solution, and then
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explain the solution and allthat stuff. Like, do all that
within a thirty minute like,interview time slot, and that's
like the first first, secondround. And afterwards, if you
did well enough, they bring youinto the on sites, or through
like Google Meets. And then fromthat point, they had four to
five back to back interviews inthat same style.
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And the questions were prettydifficult. And I didn't sleep
that day actually. Yeah, so forthat interview it was for
Google, I did not sleep thatday, because I was very anxious,
because I really wanted to getin. But yeah, the interview was
like four or five back to back,and it lasted like five ish to
six hours maybe. It felt like itwas forever.
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It was basically like a wholeworkday, where I was just like
talking to Google engineers, andthey were pretty cool, all the
ones I met. I never met themagain after that day, but like
they were pretty cool to talkto, and the kind of questions
they asked were basically like,things that you'd find like in a
ketoscience intro course, to behonest. It was like, graph
problems. It's been like fourish, five years, so I don't
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quite remember it exactlyanymore. So yeah, back then, it
was like a pretty longinterview, like, like the
interview itself was long, andthen also, like, in the time
between waiting, for eachrecruiter interaction or email
was like pretty long too.
Like, I think I got, I submittedmy my resume to like the Google
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careers portal at like April,May, and I started working at
December, because that's howlong it took to like go back and
forth with the recruiter and allof the people that were involved
in the interview process. Soyeah, it was like half a year
basically for me. And I was justlike basically studying and just
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trying to get better at myskills at the time. Cause I was
very entry level, like, engineerwise, like in terms of like,
definitely in terms of skill andjust like knowledge. But, yeah,
it was a good time afterwards.
I would recommend. But yeah,nowadays, however, because
everything was like online,interviews and all that stuff,
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it's very easy for people tojust use AI in another like tab
or window or like device. It'sjust to help them like through
the the interview process. Andlike obviously interviewers can
see like when you're not actinghonestly, but like it definitely
makes it easier if you're goodif you have a good poker face. I
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haven't been in the interviewloop recently, so I don't know
how drastically that affects theinterview process.
But I know like a lot ofcompanies now like trying to
have people like interview inperson, just to weed out people
who just use AI to like get themthrough the process. Which it
makes sense. Ideally, the personknows their like their basics
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and their fundamentals, likeit's the back of their hand. But
because I use AI every day, justI would say like the first few
years of your career, if you'rein like engineering or if you're
interested, I wouldn't use AI.Or I wouldn't use AI when you're
coding, just because you need tobe able to code yourself, and
you should be able to see andlike get all that skill and all
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that struggle that helps you getbetter at being an engineer.
And then you get to see a lot ofproblems, see how they're
solved, or see like Like,personally, I struggle a lot
when I'm like creating things.And it's like, I feel like every
single possible bad thing thatcan happen, or bug I can like,
run across to, I always hit itregardless of if I'm using AI or
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not in my, when I'm coding. I'malways learning it in that, in
that range, but yeah. If you'restarting out, I would not
recommend. I would recommendusing AI to like help you teach
and stuff, but like for codingtasks for you, I would just like
keep it to your own skills.
And then like after a year ortwo, once like you know how like
code is supposed to look, andyou have like, you can start
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forming opinions on like howthings should be organized, and
when you can just like basicallyunderstand like the gist of all
of that, then you can use AI tojust like, speed up the process.
But yeah, that's just to saythat like, when I I I think he
like, for him or for OP, thisinterview was probably, like,
not tough, but just like long,which is like a different kind
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of like, like difficulty, likethe endurance event. But at
least for me, to like a tankinterview, I I would kind of
prefer these kind of interviewsjust because just because, like,
you're not, like, under pressureto, like, perform, like, some
sort of, like, coding puzzle andcoding on the spot. Like, I I
know how to code, but, I feellike if I had to do it on the
spot, I would be a little bitnervous. And like these
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questions are like pretty fun,an adventure style question, or
a question that makes you feellike they're into unforgiving
adventures.
Sounds pretty intense. Oh, andthe top comment is, what would
you do if an angry customerlunged at you? And then OP
responded, turned their rattleron them. Well, I've never had an
angry customer lunged at me. AndI don't think I would ever have
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a job where someone would attackme like that.
I think how would I answer this?If I want a job, I'll say I step
out of the way. And if I don'twant a job, I would say I would
lunch at them at the same time,so we meet in the air. This
isn't really like a Am I theasshole host, but like
hopefully, Ophie gets the job.Like, I mean, basically doing
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these two interviews back toback.
I feel like he kind of deservessome, like some, at least some
other like interview, if they'restill on the fence of him. But I
still feel like this is like theway that the interviewer handled
this interview with OP is alittle bit of a red flag for the
vet clinic. Like it just showslike a lack of organization or
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something broken in the system.So maybe there's other parts of
working at this vet clinic thatwould be equally as hectic. But
I mean, we're in a tough jobmarketeconomy, so you just have
to take what you can get.
The next story is titled, Am Ithe Asshole for Telling My Best
Friend I Understood Why HisFiance is so Disappointed that
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He Proposed to Her at the Gym. Iguess if they're like a fitness
couple or whatever, this wouldmake sense, but I do not know a
lot of people who'd want to bewillingly proposed to at a gym.
So yeah, I, 27f, was excitedwhen my best friend, 27 male,
told me he had proposed to hisgirlfriend, 29 female. He said
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he had the proposal on video. Iwas so confused when the video
started out in a woman's gymwhen I saw his girlfriend on an
exercise machine in the video.
I had a bad feeling. Yeah, metoo. And I'm not even seeing it.
But yet she looked so shockedand she said yes. She only
looked happy for like twominutes and the rest of the time
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she gave an insincere smile.
My best friend expressedfrustration that his fiance had
confessed she wasn't happy withthe proposal after he asked her
why she looked so sad. He wasventing to me and asked me how
I'd feel if a guy proposed to mewhile I was in the gym. I guess
he really expected me to agreewith him, but I said I would
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hate it. I said I don't want tobe proposed to when I'm sweaty
and stinky at the gym. And Ibasically explained to him that
I understood why she wasdisappointed.
My best friend called me shallowand a bad friend. Am I the
asshole? I would not say you'rean asshole for giving your
opinion. It's pretty odd likethere has to be some sort of
like like inside joke betweenOP's friend and his fiancee, but
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I mean, given that the videoshows that she clearly wasn't
that happy about the proposal, Isee Indus guy's future, like,
having to re propose, like,somewhere better. Like, at least
some sort of, nice restaurantsor or like a nice park.
Like what you do to propose, Iguess doesn't really matter too
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much, because it's just like asingle moment and like in the
rest of the time that you'retogether with somebody. And
there's plenty of more times,plenty more like situations and
moments that you can make theother person feel more special.
Despite all that, I would notwant to propose to someone at a
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gym. I don't see much manypeople being happy about the
idea of being proposed to at agym. And the worst part is he
got this on film for whateverreason, just to like, I guess to
memorialize how disappointingthis proposal was.
Yeah, when I proposed to Erica,it was pretty I I put it out
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pretty well. I had like a fewmonths to set it up and we
actually got we I actually didthe proposal at New York City in
the QC Spa. And yeah, I justmessaged him like months in
advance if we can do this, andwe just, we're back and forth.
The main contact at QC Spa, andthey were very professional, and
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it was a nice place. I had likea mini vision about how it would
look like, and I had aphotographer and all that stuff,
and I wanted everyone to, of ourfamilies to be at the place, or
both our families or as many ofour families to be at the spa as
possible.
And QC Spa at the time allowedus, because like it's a spa, so
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there there's no childrenallowed, and everyone has to be
like in in their like theirrobes or like their bathing
suits. But for like a wee fiveminute window, they allowed us
to do the proposal like in infull dress in the on premise.
And yeah, and they're veryprofessional about everything,
and they're equally as excitedwhen we went as well. I would
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recommend it. Oh, and funnything too, I felt like the
entire day was like verystressful.
So, I drank a little bit toomuch, and I didn't eat that day
either. So, the drinks hit me alot harder. But yeah, like maybe
like after three or four likecocktails in, I was like
definitely like beyond buzzed.And I was dropping off Erica to
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like a massage, like appointmentwithin the spa. So I and she
would be there for like an houror so.
And that would give me time tojust like Well, ideally that
would give me time to get thephotographer and one ready, and
also for me to like sober up alittle, and as soon as I dropped
her off, I went to the elevatorin QC Spa, and then I went like
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to the ground level. And whenthe elevator door opened, I just
see like a tall guy, formallydressed, and he said, Are you
Edgar? And I was like and then Ihad to step up quickly because I
was the manager and had toexplain to him, I guess,
basically the entire plan.Because I was the manager for
that night, for that shift, andso I had to explain to him as
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clearly as possible withoutslurring my words. But still, it
went smoothly.
See, I'm not trying to yeah, butI'm not trying to mock the guy
for proposing at a gym. I thinkas long as the place is special
to you and whoever you'reproposing to, I mean, that's all
that really matters when itcomes to the proposal. And I
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mean, even though she didn'tlike being proposed to at the
gym, she still said yes. So youstill have like that closeness
and that bond to elicit thatyes. So now, the top comment is,
don't ask questions you aren'tready to hear the answer to.
I mean I agree with you and Jimis an odd place to propose
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unless it is a very specificreason for it. Like that's where
you met and you loved that storyor that's how you bonded or
whatever. He's just upset thathe disappointed his fiancee and
he needs to come to terms withthat. I do agree with this. I
think maybe OP's friend had areason to do this, but I mean,
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ultimately like he knows that helike messed up.
He knows that his fiancee islike not on board with like how
it was done. And as I saidearlier, I see a re proposal in
his future. Somewhere nice,somewhere with a photographer
maybe, or I guess you gotta makeup for the mistake by making it
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a little bit bigger when you dore propose to her. Hopefully to
have like a nice long wedding.Nice long happy wedding.
Nice long happy marriage. Sofinal verdict OP, the one who
said that this plan was dogshit, that this plan was
terrible. You are not theasshole for just basically just
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being honest to your friend. Thepro- like OP's friend who
proposed, I wouldn't say he's anasshole for this. He's an
asshole for how he treated OP,for giving her opinion, but I
don't think he was the assholefor proposing in this way.
Because I'm sure he thought thatthis was like a good proposal.
So, the next story is titled,'Am I the asshole for telling my
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girlfriend she's going to haveto get over dirt if she wants
kids. I, 25 female, and mygirlfriend, Amy, 27 female, is a
wonderful person. She's verysmart and she works in a clean
room with computer chips and allthat stuff, but she's also
something of a germaphobe to thepoint that she keeps her
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toothbrush in the hallwayoutside the bathroom in a
ziplock bag. Her apartment isalways spotless.
She showers thrice a day, Evenher car somehow never has any
dirt on the floor. And she handwashes all of her clothes as
soon as she's done wearing them.And it's both impressive and
intimidating. I'm not themessiest person on the planet by
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any means. I don't have massivepiles of unwashed dishes or a
leaning tower of used pizzaboxes or anything.
But I'm not as clean as she isand I'm not against making some
adjustments, but we've beentalking more about the future
now that we've been gettingserious and I've come across a
problem. Amy wants kids,desperately wants kids. And I
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like kids too, but she's neverbeen around babies or little
kids before in her life and sheseems to think she'll be able to
keep the house just as clean asit is now and keep the baby
spotless too. I'm the oldest offour and the oldest cousin of
nine and I grew up around kids.I've been babysitting since I
was 10.
There's no such thing as cleantoddlers, not for longer than
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ten minutes at the very most.And she thinks if we just work
at it, we have a spotless houseand a spotless kid. And I told
her gently of course that that'sjust not possible. And I asked
how she plans on handlingdiapers, vomit, frogs smuggled
into the house, jam goingeverywhere, soup bowls tipped
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over for fun, spilled grapejuice, nail polish on the wall
and the like. And she insistedthat the kids who do that are
just poorly trained and don'thave good boundaries.
She kind of has a point therebut I told her that their kids
without fine motor skills orimpulse regulation and accidents
will always happen. And if shewants to have kids, she's going
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to have to accept that they'regoing to get messy and her house
will get messy. Amy accused meof not being supportive and
trying to find excuses to nothave kids with her and trying to
guilt her into being sloppier.This is dissolving into an
actual fight instead of adiscussion and I'm starting to
second guess myself. Maybe myfamily was just excessively
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messy because we were rural andpoor and maybe my standards are
too low and we really haven'ttried hard enough.
It's very frustrating and I wantsome outside perspective.
Parental perspective especially.So yeah, I'm not a parent but I
do take care of a lot of cousinsand nephews and nieces. And
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yeah, I would agree with this. Imean, it depends on the child,
honestly.
It's a mixture of like how theirpersonalities are and how they
were raised. But yeah, for themost part, kids are pretty
messy, like they like we havelike our nephews over pretty
often, and we've had likeErica's little sister over when
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she used to like live here. Theentire like apartment, entire
like room would always get messyafter like a whole night of
having them over. And I'm noteven sure what happens. We're
just like playing games or we'rejust like on our iPads or
whatever.
But yeah, somehow the entireapartment is flipped over and
then we have to slowly pick upall the pieces again. But yeah,
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it's just like something toaccept. Like even if they're
like well trained, like Obisays, they don't have fine motor
skills or impulse regulations,so they're just like more prone
to like having more accidents ormaking a mess of the place. OP
and OP's fiance girlfriendshould probably have like more
honest discussion about this.Like whatever OP just said in
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the spread, he should tell hisgirlfriend because this isn't
coming from a place, oh, I don'twanna have kids or I want us to
be more messier.
Maybe a little bit of that, tobe honest, but it's just OP just
wants to give his girlfriendlike a heads up. This is just
like the reality. And not tofreak out when the other child
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like just ends up flipping theroom whenever they're at. But
yeah, the top comment is justwhen you think you've cleaned up
all the poop and mess you find acasual pile of vomit behind a
pillow. And I think thatbasically sums it up.
I just, especially like babies.I've heard like a lot of horror
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stories and then I've heard likesome like stories, like other
stories like you're, you're thefirst like year or two with a
baby, they're either likeperfect angels or you're not
sleeping for like the entireperiod of time. Especially for
babies, just, they vomit andpoop because that's, they're
getting used to like eating andall that stuff that people had
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to get used to. But youhopefully have an honest
conversation about this becauselike this isn't like kind of
like a relationship ending kindof argument. It's like something
they can just set boundaries orjust set like proper
expectations about like whathaving a baby means.
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Because that's you raising aperson to like a full adult and
like making sure they're likeall prepared for life and stuff.
The messiness is only a part oflike what being a parent is.
Like I'm not a parent, but Iimagine like it's pretty
difficult, but also equallyrewarding when done well. Final
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verdict. OP and her girlfriendare not the assholes in the
story.
It's just like kind of not seeneye to eye, but it's like
nothing like a five, ten minuteconversation can't fix. The next
story is titled, Am I theasshole for taking my daughter
out for a nice dinner andleaving everyone else to fend
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for themselves. So my daughter,16 female, and I, 43 female,
love eating at authentic Asianrestaurants. We had to pick my
son, 12 male, up at a Koreanbarbecue about forty minutes
from my house. It was a partywith another family and I
suggested to my husband, 44 maleof twenty five years, that he
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and the two other kids can havewhatever they want for dinner
and my daughter and I would getKorean barbecue at this
restaurant.
And he said, no, we should allgo as a family. And I reminded
him that he and the other kidsaren't big fans of Korean
barbecue and it would be cheaperto eat separately. Yeah, never
makes sense. And he insisted oneveryone going. When we get to
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the restaurant and he sees themenu, he complains he doesn't
know what to order and complainabout the price.
The other kids followed suit. Isuggested they go eat in another
restaurant in the plaza anddaughter and I would get the
Korean food. It smells soamazing by the way. And we
waited twenty minutes for ourtable and he continued to make
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comments about the price. Eventhough you better not order
anything fancy.
Even told me you better notorder anything fancy. And that
was the last straw. I got up andI went to the van. Everyone
followed. I said I was takingeveryone home and my daughter
and I would go on our own to alocal Korean barbecue.
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We did exactly that. Everyoneelse had McDonald's and played
Roblox and I get home and he isfuming saying that I owe
everyone an apology. I refused.I said I had zero remorse and it
seemed like everyone was happybut him and went to bed. I slept
perfectly fine and he's stillmad.
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So, am I an asshole for takingmy daughter out for dinner and
leaving everyone else to dotheir own thing? Probably like
an asshole to her husband, but Imean, she did warn the husband
that he and like the childrenthat like that followed like and
some of the other children, arenot fans of like Asian food or
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Korean barbecue. And if that'sthe case, like it's totally okay
to just like eat something elsebecause Korean barbecue is very
expensive. I think around herewas like $40.45 dollars per
person depending on like whatyou get. Like around here we
have a place called Hot Pot.
They have like different pricesfor if you want like the hot pot
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which is just like the soupwhere you can put a bunch of,
you can put like a, likewhatever soup base kind of
noodle, and like any kind ofmeat or like vegetable in there,
and then you boil it, and thenyou make your own soup that way.
They also have like, favar, tolike get like more ingredients,
and condiments, and peppers andspices. Yeah, so they have that
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for the hot pot, then they havethe Korean barbecue part of it,
which is like, you have a grillin the middle of your table, and
you just order a bunch of rawmeat and whatever you want to
like eat, and it's all reallyseasoned for you, so all you
gotta do is just put all thatfood into the grill in the
middle, and you make your ownfood in that way. And it sounds
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like a lot of extra work, mostof the time it feels a little
bit more extra, but like thefood is just like amazing. And
it's like, it's buffet, so it'slike all you can eat.
Depending on, yeah, one or theother or both, the prices are
like, ranges from like 30 to$40. And yeah, that's pretty,
per person, and yeah, that getsvery expensive really fast. So
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to have like a whole familywhere like more than half of the
family doesn't like Koreanbarbecue just doesn't make
sense, because it's just soexpensive. No one's gonna be
enjoying the food. And I thinkideally the husband would have
listened at the start becausethen he would have had pizza
instead of McDonald's infrustration.
The top comment is, Not theasshole. You told him what your
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plan was and he and you bothknew he and the other kids
didn't like Korean barbecue.There is nothing wrong with
doing things separatelyoccasionally. And yeah, I agree
because even though it's idealfor everyone to like eat as a
family or like eat all together,sometimes people just don't like
the food that's being served.It's like only so many places
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that have like just chickentenders or fries or some sort of
side you can like nip on, butlike it all just comes down to
compromise, which both OP andher husband failed to do.
So final verdict, I think bothOP and her husband were assholes
in this situation. The husbandbecause he was stubborn and then
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OP because even though like shewas in the race, she kind of
like rubbed it into, thehusband's face instead of trying
to like remedy it. It seemedlike she just put more fire into
it. So that is all the storiesthat we have today. Thank you
for tuning in to this week'sepisode.
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