September 8, 2025 • 36 mins
Welcome back to Yapping Schnauzers, the comedy podcast where we read the wildest Reddit stories and yap about them until the drama makes sense (well, sort of). Erika's still out so let's hope she gets well soon!
This week’s theme? Domestic Drama. From a sister announcing her sibling’s pregnancy in front of the whole family, to boundaries that backfire, to parents who pick sides, and even a friend who can’t follow the one house rule… these stories are messy, chaotic, and hilarious.
If you love Reddit readings, family drama, and comedic commentary, this episode will keep you hooked. Whether you’re into AITA threads, relationship meltdowns, or laugh-out-loud storytelling, we’ve got you covered.
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Links to threads read:
- AITA for announcing my sister's pregnancy after finding out my boyfriend (now ex) is the father?
- AITAH for telling my sister her "boundary" will destroy her relationship with her nephew.
- AITA for not wanting to help my mom and her fiancé with his disabled child?
- AITA for asking my dad why I should include his wife if he plans to never include my boyfriend?
- AITAH for kicking my "down on his luck" friend out of my apartment for disobeying my one rule
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Edgar (00:00):
Hello, this is Edgar, and I am one half of the
Yapping Schnauzers. We entertainyou with gap worthy stories you
found around the web. Erika isstill sick and can't speak.
Well, at least she's not able tospeak long enough to do a full
episode yet, so I'm letting herso she's resting her voice
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still. But she did find somestories that she thinks you all
like.
Today's theme is domestic drama.So the first story is titled, Am
I the asshole for announcing mysister's pregnancy after finding
out my boyfriend, now ex, is thefather. I, 19 female, was with
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my ex boyfriend, 19 male, untila couple weeks ago when I found
out he got my sister, 18 female,pregnant. And I heard him
talking about it and my sisterwas freaking out over it because
she knew I would be done withher if I found out and my ex
didn't care. So, I held it allin and waited until we were all
with our family and announcedthe news to everyone there.
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My boyfriend ran once herealized I was going to break up
with him and my sister freakedout, broke down, and started
begging me not to hate her, andsaying she made a mistake and
she would abort the baby and wewould go back to the way we
were. I do not think that'sgonna change anything. But she
had been living with me sinceApril because her and our
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parents were not getting along.I wonder why. We were supposed
to be moving somewhere bigger ina few weeks and I told her that
was not happening anymore andsince that day I've been staying
at my friend's place.
Now, she can't afford to live inan apartment without me and I
refuse to live with her again orhave a relationship with her and
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my parents won't let her moveback in either. My ex is gone
and he's refusing to haveanything to do with the mess he
is equally responsible for andso she's on her own. She was
trying to make amends so itwould be back to normal but I
didn't even acknowledge herattempts. I'm not sure where
she's staying, but one of ouraunts told me I was disgusting
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to do that to someone as youngas her, and I ruined her life.
The sister ruined her own life,but I told my aunt to pick up
the pieces and leave me alonebecause I don't care anymore.
I said she had it coming whenshe started sleeping with my ex.
My aunt said letting a guy comebetween us was nasty business
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and she asked me if I could livewith myself if she ends up
having the baby and they end upon the streets. I told her it's
nothing to do with me. Am I theasshole? I don't think so
because she is acting like outof anger, but also this is like
a deeper trail between like twopeople that she supposedly
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trusted, like really deeply,like her own sister and her ex
now, or at the time was herpartner.
And it's like, it's prettycrazy, this entire situation.
Like, it's just like, it speaksto a lack of self control with
all parties involved minus OP.And then the fact that OP's aunt
was trying to like, shame OP forhow she handled this. Like, of
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course, like, at any point intime you can handle things
better, but I think this was notthe worst thing she could have
done, to be honest. Publiclyshaming her ex and her sister,
like, is like something that Iwouldn't do myself, something
like, if you're going to sleepwith your sisters, like someone
that your friends are closewith's, like, partner, you
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should expect some sort ofbacklash from that.
I mean, OP was just acting herfeelings, and I mean, there was
never gonna be any sort ofreconciliation with the ex
boyfriend especially, with asister. I think this is like
kind of like a deep cut, and Idon't imagine them ever getting
close again, at least not fordecades or ever even. But
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definitely the aunt has afavorite. So let's read the top
comment. The top comment is, Idon't think people realize how
brutal it is to be cheated onwith a sibling.
She ruined her own life thesecond she decided to sleep with
her boyfriend and tried to hideit. She knew exactly what she
was doing and chose to gamblewith your trust. You don't owe
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her a roof, forgiveness, or arelationship. Yeah that's
actually really crazy too, likeOP sister, like, not only
betrayed, like, the deep trustand like, the familiar
relationship they had, but shedid that while also being like
under her care. So it's like,multiple layers of betrayal at
this point.
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And honestly, given like how OPSIS is acting, I don't think
she's like, she feels that badabout like the kid and what she
did with the partner. I thinkshe, there's like always that
chance that she's also acting inself preservation and wants to,
we can know like therelationship with OP, OP and her
sister. So she has a roof underher head again, and some sort of
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stability for the upcomingchild, which I think is just
very unfortunate for the childto be important in this
situation. When OP did respond,OP said, People really don't get
it as much as they should.Anyone with siblings should put
themselves in the shoes of theperson cheated on and see if
they'd still love and care abouttheir siblings.
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So yeah, definitely OP is stillfeeling pretty upset about the
situation. And I mean, it makessense to like think of it in
this way, like, don't doanything onto others that you
wouldn't want done to yourself.It's very unfortunate for OP,
but given she's like youngstill, like 19, and she still
has like her whole life ahead ofher, and I'm sure she'll find
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someone that's not gonna sleepwith her, her, relative. So
final verdict, Ophie is not theasshole, and I'm hoping she hops
back up after what I imagine wasa pretty traumatic experience.
The next story is titled, Am Ithe Asshole for Telling My
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Sister Her Boundary Will DestroyHer Relationship With Her
Nephew.
I, 30 female, recently gotmarried and had a baby.
Congrats. My sister, 24 female,does not like my husband and
would not tell me why. When Ifirst brought him home to
introduce everyone, she was abit standoffish, but in general,
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she doesn't really like people.Very few friends, never brings
anyone home to meet the family,and has never wanted to spend
time with anyone I brought home.
It sounds a little bit like meto be honest, but before my
husband and I got married, Iasked her if she had any issues
with him and she said no andthat he seemed nice. I asked her
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to be my maid of honor and thatall was well. Fast forward to
last week, my husband goes todrop off something at the family
home and came back lookingshaken. I asked him what
happened and he said he knockedand went into the kitchen and my
sister told him my parentsweren't home. He said he tried
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to give her the stuff I hadasked him to drop off and she
told him to put it in thegarage, it was food, and even
though they were in the kitchen.
He said as he was picking up thestuff back up to go, he tried
making some small talk,commenting about the weather,
and she snapped at him. Saying,don't and then a bunch of
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explicities and then talked toher and stormed out of the room.
My husband has never given mereason to worry about him being
inappropriate or anything, butthat was where my mind first
went. We lived near them and hehad been gone for less than five
minutes. I called my sister toask what happened and she hung
up on me, messaged her and sheignored me until this morning
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when I bombarded her phone withmessages because I wanted to
resolve whatever was going on.
She finally replied andbasically said she hates him,
has always hated him, and heronly boundary is that he never
talks to her. In the seven yearswe have been together, they've
spoken maybe five times and thatwas mostly him greeting her. I
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asked her why and she said shedoesn't need a reason. She just
doesn't like him and doesn'twant him around. I asked her
point blank if he had donesomething or said something to
make her feel like that and shesaid he didn't do anything and
she doesn't need a reason tofeel how she does.
Now my family is very close, myother siblings, brother 29,
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male, and I sometimes drop byunannounced to help my mom cook
dinner or just hang out. Myparents encourage this as they
say they like having us around.I told her it's going to be
weird if I can't even just greether when he comes over and she
said she was sick of me having astranger in her home. I told her
I didn't realize she felt thatway about him and said I
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wouldn't ask him to drop stuffwithout me being around anymore.
Mind you, she had seven years toget to know him and I didn't
realize she still considered hima stranger.
She then said that was not thepoint. That she didn't want him
talking to her at all, that wasthe boundary she wanted
respected. And I told her that Iwould tell him and try to keep
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them apart, but that would meanher time with my son, her
nephew, six months male, wouldbe effective because my husband
would not be comfortable withour son being around someone who
hates him. Frankly, I'm nowuncomfortable with it too
because I don't know what ideashe would try to put in his
head. Also going to affect myparents' time with him because
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if my husband can't bring himaround, it's going to affect the
amount of time he goes overthere.
I didn't tell her, but thathurts my heart because they
absolutely adore my son. He'stheir first and only grandchild,
so they love spending time withhim, always telling us to bring
him over. She said I was playingthe victim, painting her as some
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crazy lady and trying to tramplethe only boundary she has set
for herself. I'm currentlythoroughly lost and trying to
figure out the best way forward.Am I the asshole here?
And is there any way I can fixthis situation? So there's a few
edits I'll read before we go inand I give my full opinion. So
the first edit, well I read themall sequentially. I never
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expected so many applies in sucha short time, but I appreciate
the responses. To clarify a fewthings and answer some
questions, I mentioned it to myparents and they're aware of
what happened.
My mom said she'll sit my sisterdown for a conversation, but
from what I hear my sister keepsmaking reasons to avoid it.
She's busy, tired, wants moretime, etc. My dad said not to
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worry about it and it would blowover. My dad had a heart attack
recently and is currentlyrecovering so I don't want to
push it with him now and stresshim out, so I left it at that
with him and changed thesubject. My partner is amazing
and has never given me reason toworry about him being around any
females.
I admit I was worried he haddone something when he told me
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how she responded because Ican't wrap my brain around why
she would blow up over justsmall talk, but she herself said
he didn't do anything. And Iknow my brother has had partners
but he hasn't brought any home.I myself didn't bring anyone
home and so I was serious aboutthem and thought there might be
a future. I brought home a grandtotal of two guys, current
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partner and my ex from college.Regarding her mental health, she
has always had a bad temper, hassnapped at me many times with no
apology, even when she realizedlater she was wrong.
Accused me of taking her shoes,but she had actually just left
in a vehicle. There has neverbeen anything on this level
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before. I think this is likepretty strange overall. Well I
mean, this is definitely notnormal on OP's sister's part. OP
did clarify she has like temperissues, but she probably has
some like other things going onthat just makes her very low
trusting.
I don't want to like victimblame her or anything, but she
like gives introverts kind of abad name. For myself, I aim to
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be more to myself when I want toneed to because I prefer it that
way. Like of course, like Isometimes go out of my way to
talk to people that I want totalk to or just be social so
people know that I do like themaround, it's just not much of a
talker. But this example here inOpie's story kind of
demonstrates the kind ofintrovert where they're like
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violently introverted and don'twant to be around anybody. Cause
like, I mean, I can understand,like, not wanting to be around
anybody when I'm like in any ofmy moods, but at the same time,
it's not ideal to like lash out.
So most of my rant did not workfor it because I don't have any
space on my laptop. I'm justgonna take it as a sign. But
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yeah, the gist of it was OP'ssister's age was just 24 years
old. She's like, basically, likeher brain's fully developed and
how she's acting now is nevergoing to change without a
dramatic change in herpersonality and herself, which
is like just very unlikely. It'slike, it's gonna be coming from
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her and nothing OP can do canreally change it, which is
unfortunate for the parents andOP's family because I know that
grandparents really love theirfirst grandchildren a lot.
I think the love kind of diesdown as you have like a a lot
more grandchildren, but at leastthe first one is like, they're
happy and excited about that. Soit's like very unfortunate. So
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yeah, so let's go into the topcomments. Top comment is, This
is very weird. You should speakwith your mom and other brother,
see if sister has disclosedreasoning or if she has
otherwise been paranoid.
Which is a good point. I don't,I'm leaning towards that OP's
sister is paranoid, but alsoaccording to the 8,000 people
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who upvoted us, they are alsosuspicious of the partner of OP,
But Emily in sports is probablyOP's sister being paranoid,
especially considering she haslike a history of like, snapping
at her family members. Andalthough she's like, right to
not like, want to associate withanyone she deems as a stranger,
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if you don't like strangers orif you're just uncomfortable
around certain people, you haveno obligation to be in that
relationship. But for Ophie'sfamily's sake, I think OP's
sisters are being considerateand thinking, Okay, like I don't
have to like this guy and Inever have to hang out with him.
But at least during the timeswhere he has to be around or he
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does something that is like asplain and natural as just like,
oh, I'm dropping off somethingfor your parents, like an
errand.
It's not just viable to justyell at a random stranger,
especially when that stranger isyour sister's husband. So, final
verdict, yeah. I think everyonehere is not an asshole besides
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Opie's sister who she does haveto do a lot of like deep, like
introspection, but I think givenhow she's acting, I don't think
she's ever really gonna change.And how she snapped at Obi's
husband was not okay if it wasunprovoked, as it seems to be
leaning towards. So, the nextstory is titled, Am I the
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Asshole for Now Wanting to HelpMy Mom and Her Fiance with His
Disabled Child?
I, 20 male, moved out of mymom's 42 female's house a couple
of years ago when I went tocollege. Until ten months ago, I
had my own room there but herfiance, 45 female, and has two
kids, six male and four female,moved in with her. The four year
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old has a host of disabilitiesand I know they have a seizure
disorder and a condition calledosteogenesis imperfecta. I got
that on my first take by theway. But I believe there's
another one involving paralysisor spasms of the stomach or
esophagus.
My mother took classes for overtwo months before her fiance
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moved in so she would know howto take care of his daughter and
her fiance's ex's is totally outof the picture, so Mom decided
she would need to set upcompletely, which I get. I have
been back twice since Mom'sfiance moved in with his kids.
The first time was at Christmasand I stayed with my
grandparents because my old roomwent to the four year old and
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there was no spare room for me.My mom was disappointed but I
pointed out it would stop megetting in the way of their
routines too. The second timewas late June, early July and I
was home for a few weeks andagain stayed with my
grandparents.
Mom offered to buy a pull outbed from me, but I said I was
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good with my grandparents. WhenI was home and whenever I went
to mom's, I was asked if I hadlooked into taking the same
classes mom had or if I likedthem to set me up with them. And
I said no and I asked why'd Ineed to take them. And my mom
said she had hoped I would wantto help them. She said it would
mean I could step up in anemergency and I told my mom
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she'd better find someoneprofessional for that because I
was not taking on thatresponsibility.
Her fiance asked if I'm justnever going to stay at the house
and I said Yeah. And I told themI would have zero privacy if I
slept there and it wouldn'tbenefit any of us. I pointed out
how they'd be so busy anyway,that I wouldn't have time with
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mom that much and I just get asmuch staying somewhere else and
planning ahead of time to visitwhen she's not super busy. Her
fiance then said, It soundedlike I didn't want to learn how
to take care of his daughter andplan to be limitedly involved
with him and his kids. And Isaid, I'll see them when I see
mom but I won't be signing upfor babysitting or future
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caregiver responsibilities.
Mom and I went for a walktogether after I said that and
she told me she got it but shehad hoped I'd be more willing.
She said, It's a lot to ask andI don't even live that close
anymore so it would never be allthe time, but she asked me if I
was really that unwilling toeven give them a few hours off
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when I would visit. She said, Itwould be so helpful, and I told
her I would visit and I want tospend time with her, but
babysitting her future step kidswas not in my plans, and
especially not one so medicallycomplex and in need of specific
care. She was upset but let itgo. Her fiance is holding a
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grudge against me and he broughtit up to my grandparents when
Christmas were brought up.
They said they got the feelinghe was also annoyed and they
gave me a place to stay duringmy visits because it gives me an
excuse not to get closer to hiskids and therefore be more
willing to learn how to takecare of his daughter. Am I the
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asshole? I don't think she's theasshole in this situation
because, yeah, they did ask andeven though it was more of a
roundabout kind of ask, OPultimately ended up declining
the offer, which is like in her,her right to do that. Like, know
it would be nice for her to helptake care of her step siblings
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in this case, but she does haveher own life and it's not like
she lives close to her parents.And the main reason you ever
want to visit is just to see hermom.
Like, it doesn't seem like shehas any real connection to the
stepdad or even the childrenfrom what I'm reading. And I
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mean, I can understand it, like,with step parents and all that,
like, family dynamics, I imaginethere's like a lot of, at least
me not showing it externally,there's probably like a lot of
internal competition for likethe parents' attention and all
that stuff. So I feel, I like tothink that, at least within OP,
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she probably doesn't like theidea of having to like, oh, I
need to take care of my stepsiblings and both my parents are
backing that up instead ofbacking what is best for for me
and, like all of us in general.So it's definitely a hard
position to be in and it'sdefinitely something that I
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imagine is going to be strainingon Opie and her mother's
relationship. I don't think Opiehas like any relationship really
with the stepdad, like he seemsmore than happy to throw her
under the bus for not wanting totake care of his children.
Do I think this would have gonesmoothly if they asked directly?
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Maybe a tiny bit smoothly. Thinkwhen you are more honest and
more direct, people kind ofrespect you more, rather than if
you reasonable in like any otherway and not show your true
intentions. But I thinkultimately OP is just into the
idea of taking care of likeanother child that isn't hers.
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So let's read the top comment.
Top comment is, this is a heavyask for anyone, let alone
someone who doesn't live thereand didn't sign up for it. If
they need real respite care,that's what professionals are
for. Not the college aged son ofthe fiancee, It's good you were
clear now instead of halfcommitting and then resenting it
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later. And OP actually respondedback by saying, there was no way
I was going to leave it unclearbecause that's how you get guilt
tripped into it and calls fromyour classes you never signed up
for. I wanted no part of thatdrama, and yes, it's a huge ask,
not because of all the careneeded to be in the actual
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emergency or something that I'dbe dropping everything and going
to another state to provide aton of care for a child who will
always need a lot of care.
And yeah, mean, it's a littlebit callous, but also like there
is a lot of like people who needlike that sort of care. Not for
this one child particularcondition, but in general, it
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was like, oh, people who need alot of extra care and not only
like a lot of care, a lot ofdifficult sort of care. And just
to put that on someone's plateand expecting them to comply
and, like, to actually providethat care is unfair because
because people have only so muchfinite time and resources and
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energy to do things. And and OPwas smart in just cutting it
from the bud because, like yousaid, encouraging this in any
way would just get him be maybein more deeper sort of, like,
trouble or, like, in some sortof weird obligation that they
might put on him. It's reallyjust being defensive against any
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possible thing that couldhappen.
So final verdict, OP is not theasshole. I don't think the
mother was the asshole too much.Like, of course she asked, but
it was something where I believeif I read it, she was
disappointed, but she knew thatit is a lot to ask for. But the
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stepdad was the asshole in thissituation because of, like I
said, blatantly wanting toblatantly try to use some sort
of shaming tactic to get him toagree with the arrangement. So
our next story is titled, Am Ian Asshole for Asking My Dad Why
I Should Include His Wife If HePlans to Never Include My
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Boyfriend?
I, 19 female, have been datingLeo, 19 male, for over a year
now and we've known each othersince we were six and we've been
a part of the same friend groupsince we met. My parents, mom
and dad, female and male, bothknew him from a young age and he
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was really sweet when my momdied. Dad even commented then
about how kind he was to me. Andmy dad had been with his wife
for two years now and they'vebeen married for six months.
Ever since I told my dad I wasdating Leo, he's been so
different about him.
I got shit for bringing him to afamily party in June and dad
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said it was inappropriate tobring just anyone to a family
party and I ran it by therelatives of hosting and they
were fine with it. My dad nevercomplained about friends joining
before. Dad and his wife haveshown up unannounced when Leo
and I were hanging out and theywanted to leave him out. Dad
makes a big deal if I want toinclude Leo at all. It's not
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even all the time but both ofthem were really off with Leo
when dropped by unannounced acouple weeks ago and this led to
a fight.
Leo went on a grocery run and Iconfronted my dad. I asked dad
why he was being like this andhow did he expect me to want him
to visit if he be that way. Andhis wife said, they don't like
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seeing me be in such a seriousrelationship and the fact I'm
bringing him to things isstrange when he's not family and
he's just a partner and I shouldlisten to them. And I asked her
who she was to say that. Thatsaid, she's right and she's his
wife and our family.
I told him he would never havelet me treat her that way before
they were married either. Heclaimed it was still different
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and I should be willing to spendtime with them without I have by
the way. I have visited on myown and met for lunch without
Leo and he's not always there,but we go to the same college
and we're living together withsome friends for the summer and
we'll be full time moving intogether in a couple of weeks.
But anyways, dad said Leo isn'tfamily and some stuff should
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just be for the family, and so Iasked why his wife was always
there. I asked, Why should Iinclude her if he won't ever
include Leo?
She's not my family after all.Why it was any of White's
business when she's got no sayon my life. Dad said she's
family, they're married, and Iasked again would I need to
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marry Leo for things to changeagain? And he said that things
are just different. And his wifesaid I had no business
invalidating her and she'd bethe future grandmother of my
children and I told her goodluck with that.
She's not my mother and shewould never be their grandmother
and since we're excludingpartners, that's all she'll ever
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be, married or not, since that'swhat dad says he would do. Dad
told me that was enough and henever said that. I told him he
kept saying it's different andnot that marriage would change
anything, so I see no reason toinclude his wife. I then made
them leave which they did not doeasily, and they wanted to keep
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the fight going but I told themI was done. There now angry, I
invalidated his wife by askingabout including her and saying
she won't be the futuregrandmother, but I stand by it.
My kids might not know grandmaif he's a dick to the dad and
wants to act like he doesn'texist. Am I the asshole? I think
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this is a totally unreasonablereaction on OP's stepmom,
because, like, yeah, maybe youdon't like the guy, or maybe
you're not as comfortable withhim, or maybe you just want to
hang out with OP, but still,like, just have some sort of
respect for the guy because thisis clearly someone that's
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important to OP, that's veryclearly going to be in the
family, at least in the, insome, in some near future, or in
some, like, large capacitygiven, like, their history. But,
yeah. And I would also lump inObi's dad's incidents because I
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feel like she's just letting hisown wife like lead this like bad
behavior because this is likeclearly like a double standard,
which is not only annoying butit's like very detrimental for
the family.
Like right now OP doesn't wantto like definitely doesn't want
to have anything to do with astepmother and I imagine she's
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also considering cutting off herown like father and this which
is unfortunate. So the topcomment is, They don't like
seeing you in a seriousrelationship. What the actual f?
Would they prefer you screwingaround and changing boyfriends
at the same rate as you changedyour undies? And OP responded, I
guess they either want me singleor dating a bunch of people and
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not having a stable partner.
Never mind the fact that Leo andI have known each other for a
long time and we're happytogether and we're good
together. The rest of my familysupports us. But not dad. Then
another commenter responded, Iwould tell them too to stop
showing up unannounced now thatyou will be living with Leo. And
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he does have a say in that sinceI assume he will be paying rent
with you.
And then OP finally responded,Yeah, all of us living together
will be paying rent. And I madeit clear to dad there will be no
more unannounced visits and novisits period if it was going to
be a dick to Leo. I can imagineeither OP's dad or her stepmom
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or even both just don't likeLeo. Maybe for whatever reason,
they think he's rude or he islike not up to standards to what
they want for their, theirchild. I think that's like the
root cause with us.
Not that, they expect OP to belike going from one boyfriend to
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another. I just think they wantsomeone more worthy of their
daughter or, I mean, which is ashocky thing because you can't
really choose who your childrenend up with. You can help they
pick someone that is halfwaydecent, but it's mostly up to
your child's choice. Even inlike the worst case where
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they're, I mean, as long as, soyeah, the worst case is they end
up with someone abusive. In thatcase, I think he would be
justifiable for OP's dad andstepmom to like, wanna kick Leo
out.
But there isn't any mention oranything of that, that Leo is
anything but just like a regularguy. And in those cases, even if
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you don't like the, like yourchild's partner that much, you
should at least be somewhatcourteous. They're gonna be a
big part of your life anyway andif it's at the cost of like
losing your own child becauseyou wanna be stubborn and a
little bit childish about it,And I don't think that that's,
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like, worth the risk of losingthat relationship with your own
kid. So, The final verdict, OPand Leo are not that bad at all.
I mean, not bad at all.
And OP's parents and the stepparents, I would say, I think
it's probably like the step momis more of the asshole than the
dad, but the dad backing up awoman that he hasn't known as
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long as, like, as he knows, likehis own daughter and like her
partner and her daughter'spartner, it does reflect
negatively on him. And now ourfinal story is titled, Am I the
asshole for kicking my down onhis luck friend out of my
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apartment for disobeying my oneworld? A friend of mine, 22
male, has been down on his luckrecently and wanted a fresh
start in a different state. Hereached out to me, 30 mil, to
crash on my couch for a bituntil he gets his life together
and I agreed, which is nice ofhim. And I had been buying him
groceries and putting gas in hiscar until he finally finds his
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footing.
So yeah, he's, yeah, that's verysuper, that's like super nice.
Like the cash alone was a nicecash trip, like also paying for
some of his bills and his livingarrangements is like, yeah. A1
friend, never break any of theirrules please. But yeah, I, and I
only had one rule. He can'tbring any girls over to stay
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tonight.
Oh my gosh, this is like theeasiest rule too. Like you have
nothing to offer. You only havea couch, like, why would you
okay. Let me just finish thestory before I jump into any
conclusions. So, it's been threeweeks, and he has done it twice
now.
Okay, so, yep, he failed mealready. So yeah, the first time
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he said he was drunk and it wasan accident, the second time he
just basically said, the secondtime he just blatantly said, I'm
sorry, I needed to get one out,and I told him, It's fine, she
can stay the night, but he hasto leave with her in the
morning. It wasn't me beingjealous, it's just a matter of
respect, which I agree. Like, Ijust don't get why you would do
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that. Like, you're in a Iimagine this guy who's crashing
in the couch is like in a livingroom or in a non private place.
I'm sure he has some sort ofshame. Well, I guess he has no
shame if he's able to, if he'swilling to do this. And so
blatantly, too. But, I mean,yeah, when you're down on your
luck like this, I guess there'sa reason why he's down on his
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luck if he's still actingdegenerate and not really trying
to get on any good footing. Butyeah, it looks like he will be
kicked out very soon.
Oh, yeah, so he got kicked outthat night, I guess. So the top
comment is, if he's got money tobe out getting drunk and picking
up girls, then why does he needyou to pay to buy his groceries
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and put his gas in his car? He'staking advantage of you. And
yeah, basically, like I mean,I'm sure he is in financial ruin
to a degree, but also, he, OP isdoing so much already, like the
very least he can do is justfollow the one super rule, which
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is just not bring over somerandom chick. But yeah, I mean,
it's good that they hope youkick them out sooner rather than
later.
I mean, I feel like I would havekicked them out the first time
just because would just be souncomfortable in my own, like,
house and that's probably notthe kind of environment I want
to come home to or be around,considering I work from home
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now. But yeah, final verdict forthis, Ophie is not the asshole
for kicking down his down on hisluck friend, since the friend is
doing that to himself by makingall these terrible decisions,
Ophie's friend is like a hugeasshole for just blatantly
disrespecting, like, the spacethat was so generously gifted to
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Hello, this is Edgar, and I am one half of the
Yapping Schnauzers. We entertainyou with gap worthy stories you
found around the web. Erika isstill sick and can't speak.
Well, at least she's not able tospeak long enough to do a full
episode yet, so I'm letting herso she's resting her voice
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still. But she did find somestories that she thinks you all
like.
Today's theme is domestic drama.So the first story is titled, Am
I the asshole for announcing mysister's pregnancy after finding
out my boyfriend, now ex, is thefather. I, 19 female, was with
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my ex boyfriend, 19 male, untila couple weeks ago when I found
out he got my sister, 18 female,pregnant. And I heard him
talking about it and my sisterwas freaking out over it because
she knew I would be done withher if I found out and my ex
didn't care. So, I held it allin and waited until we were all
with our family and announcedthe news to everyone there.
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My boyfriend ran once herealized I was going to break up
with him and my sister freakedout, broke down, and started
begging me not to hate her, andsaying she made a mistake and
she would abort the baby and wewould go back to the way we
were. I do not think that'sgonna change anything. But she
had been living with me sinceApril because her and our
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parents were not getting along.I wonder why. We were supposed
to be moving somewhere bigger ina few weeks and I told her that
was not happening anymore andsince that day I've been staying
at my friend's place.
Now, she can't afford to live inan apartment without me and I
refuse to live with her again orhave a relationship with her and
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my parents won't let her moveback in either. My ex is gone
and he's refusing to haveanything to do with the mess he
is equally responsible for andso she's on her own. She was
trying to make amends so itwould be back to normal but I
didn't even acknowledge herattempts. I'm not sure where
she's staying, but one of ouraunts told me I was disgusting
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to do that to someone as youngas her, and I ruined her life.
The sister ruined her own life,but I told my aunt to pick up
the pieces and leave me alonebecause I don't care anymore.
I said she had it coming whenshe started sleeping with my ex.
My aunt said letting a guy comebetween us was nasty business
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and she asked me if I could livewith myself if she ends up
having the baby and they end upon the streets. I told her it's
nothing to do with me. Am I theasshole? I don't think so
because she is acting like outof anger, but also this is like
a deeper trail between like twopeople that she supposedly
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trusted, like really deeply,like her own sister and her ex
now, or at the time was herpartner.
And it's like, it's prettycrazy, this entire situation.
Like, it's just like, it speaksto a lack of self control with
all parties involved minus OP.And then the fact that OP's aunt
was trying to like, shame OP forhow she handled this. Like, of
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course, like, at any point intime you can handle things
better, but I think this was notthe worst thing she could have
done, to be honest. Publiclyshaming her ex and her sister,
like, is like something that Iwouldn't do myself, something
like, if you're going to sleepwith your sisters, like someone
that your friends are closewith's, like, partner, you
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should expect some sort ofbacklash from that.
I mean, OP was just acting herfeelings, and I mean, there was
never gonna be any sort ofreconciliation with the ex
boyfriend especially, with asister. I think this is like
kind of like a deep cut, and Idon't imagine them ever getting
close again, at least not fordecades or ever even. But
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definitely the aunt has afavorite. So let's read the top
comment. The top comment is, Idon't think people realize how
brutal it is to be cheated onwith a sibling.
She ruined her own life thesecond she decided to sleep with
her boyfriend and tried to hideit. She knew exactly what she
was doing and chose to gamblewith your trust. You don't owe
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her a roof, forgiveness, or arelationship. Yeah that's
actually really crazy too, likeOP sister, like, not only
betrayed, like, the deep trustand like, the familiar
relationship they had, but shedid that while also being like
under her care. So it's like,multiple layers of betrayal at
this point.
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And honestly, given like how OPSIS is acting, I don't think
she's like, she feels that badabout like the kid and what she
did with the partner. I thinkshe, there's like always that
chance that she's also acting inself preservation and wants to,
we can know like therelationship with OP, OP and her
sister. So she has a roof underher head again, and some sort of
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stability for the upcomingchild, which I think is just
very unfortunate for the childto be important in this
situation. When OP did respond,OP said, People really don't get
it as much as they should.Anyone with siblings should put
themselves in the shoes of theperson cheated on and see if
they'd still love and care abouttheir siblings.
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So yeah, definitely OP is stillfeeling pretty upset about the
situation. And I mean, it makessense to like think of it in
this way, like, don't doanything onto others that you
wouldn't want done to yourself.It's very unfortunate for OP,
but given she's like youngstill, like 19, and she still
has like her whole life ahead ofher, and I'm sure she'll find
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someone that's not gonna sleepwith her, her, relative. So
final verdict, Ophie is not theasshole, and I'm hoping she hops
back up after what I imagine wasa pretty traumatic experience.
The next story is titled, Am Ithe Asshole for Telling My
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Sister Her Boundary Will DestroyHer Relationship With Her
Nephew.
I, 30 female, recently gotmarried and had a baby.
Congrats. My sister, 24 female,does not like my husband and
would not tell me why. When Ifirst brought him home to
introduce everyone, she was abit standoffish, but in general,
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she doesn't really like people.Very few friends, never brings
anyone home to meet the family,and has never wanted to spend
time with anyone I brought home.
It sounds a little bit like meto be honest, but before my
husband and I got married, Iasked her if she had any issues
with him and she said no andthat he seemed nice. I asked her
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to be my maid of honor and thatall was well. Fast forward to
last week, my husband goes todrop off something at the family
home and came back lookingshaken. I asked him what
happened and he said he knockedand went into the kitchen and my
sister told him my parentsweren't home. He said he tried
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to give her the stuff I hadasked him to drop off and she
told him to put it in thegarage, it was food, and even
though they were in the kitchen.
He said as he was picking up thestuff back up to go, he tried
making some small talk,commenting about the weather,
and she snapped at him. Saying,don't and then a bunch of
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explicities and then talked toher and stormed out of the room.
My husband has never given mereason to worry about him being
inappropriate or anything, butthat was where my mind first
went. We lived near them and hehad been gone for less than five
minutes. I called my sister toask what happened and she hung
up on me, messaged her and sheignored me until this morning
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when I bombarded her phone withmessages because I wanted to
resolve whatever was going on.
She finally replied andbasically said she hates him,
has always hated him, and heronly boundary is that he never
talks to her. In the seven yearswe have been together, they've
spoken maybe five times and thatwas mostly him greeting her. I
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asked her why and she said shedoesn't need a reason. She just
doesn't like him and doesn'twant him around. I asked her
point blank if he had donesomething or said something to
make her feel like that and shesaid he didn't do anything and
she doesn't need a reason tofeel how she does.
Now my family is very close, myother siblings, brother 29,
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male, and I sometimes drop byunannounced to help my mom cook
dinner or just hang out. Myparents encourage this as they
say they like having us around.I told her it's going to be
weird if I can't even just greether when he comes over and she
said she was sick of me having astranger in her home. I told her
I didn't realize she felt thatway about him and said I
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wouldn't ask him to drop stuffwithout me being around anymore.
Mind you, she had seven years toget to know him and I didn't
realize she still considered hima stranger.
She then said that was not thepoint. That she didn't want him
talking to her at all, that wasthe boundary she wanted
respected. And I told her that Iwould tell him and try to keep
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them apart, but that would meanher time with my son, her
nephew, six months male, wouldbe effective because my husband
would not be comfortable withour son being around someone who
hates him. Frankly, I'm nowuncomfortable with it too
because I don't know what ideashe would try to put in his
head. Also going to affect myparents' time with him because
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if my husband can't bring himaround, it's going to affect the
amount of time he goes overthere.
I didn't tell her, but thathurts my heart because they
absolutely adore my son. He'stheir first and only grandchild,
so they love spending time withhim, always telling us to bring
him over. She said I was playingthe victim, painting her as some
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crazy lady and trying to tramplethe only boundary she has set
for herself. I'm currentlythoroughly lost and trying to
figure out the best way forward.Am I the asshole here?
And is there any way I can fixthis situation? So there's a few
edits I'll read before we go inand I give my full opinion. So
the first edit, well I read themall sequentially. I never
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expected so many applies in sucha short time, but I appreciate
the responses. To clarify a fewthings and answer some
questions, I mentioned it to myparents and they're aware of
what happened.
My mom said she'll sit my sisterdown for a conversation, but
from what I hear my sister keepsmaking reasons to avoid it.
She's busy, tired, wants moretime, etc. My dad said not to
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worry about it and it would blowover. My dad had a heart attack
recently and is currentlyrecovering so I don't want to
push it with him now and stresshim out, so I left it at that
with him and changed thesubject. My partner is amazing
and has never given me reason toworry about him being around any
females.
I admit I was worried he haddone something when he told me
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how she responded because Ican't wrap my brain around why
she would blow up over justsmall talk, but she herself said
he didn't do anything. And Iknow my brother has had partners
but he hasn't brought any home.I myself didn't bring anyone
home and so I was serious aboutthem and thought there might be
a future. I brought home a grandtotal of two guys, current
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partner and my ex from college.Regarding her mental health, she
has always had a bad temper, hassnapped at me many times with no
apology, even when she realizedlater she was wrong.
Accused me of taking her shoes,but she had actually just left
in a vehicle. There has neverbeen anything on this level
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before. I think this is likepretty strange overall. Well I
mean, this is definitely notnormal on OP's sister's part. OP
did clarify she has like temperissues, but she probably has
some like other things going onthat just makes her very low
trusting.
I don't want to like victimblame her or anything, but she
like gives introverts kind of abad name. For myself, I aim to
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be more to myself when I want toneed to because I prefer it that
way. Like of course, like Isometimes go out of my way to
talk to people that I want totalk to or just be social so
people know that I do like themaround, it's just not much of a
talker. But this example here inOpie's story kind of
demonstrates the kind ofintrovert where they're like
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violently introverted and don'twant to be around anybody. Cause
like, I mean, I can understand,like, not wanting to be around
anybody when I'm like in any ofmy moods, but at the same time,
it's not ideal to like lash out.
So most of my rant did not workfor it because I don't have any
space on my laptop. I'm justgonna take it as a sign. But
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yeah, the gist of it was OP'ssister's age was just 24 years
old. She's like, basically, likeher brain's fully developed and
how she's acting now is nevergoing to change without a
dramatic change in herpersonality and herself, which
is like just very unlikely. It'slike, it's gonna be coming from
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her and nothing OP can do canreally change it, which is
unfortunate for the parents andOP's family because I know that
grandparents really love theirfirst grandchildren a lot.
I think the love kind of diesdown as you have like a a lot
more grandchildren, but at leastthe first one is like, they're
happy and excited about that. Soit's like very unfortunate. So
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yeah, so let's go into the topcomments. Top comment is, This
is very weird. You should speakwith your mom and other brother,
see if sister has disclosedreasoning or if she has
otherwise been paranoid.
Which is a good point. I don't,I'm leaning towards that OP's
sister is paranoid, but alsoaccording to the 8,000 people
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who upvoted us, they are alsosuspicious of the partner of OP,
But Emily in sports is probablyOP's sister being paranoid,
especially considering she haslike a history of like, snapping
at her family members. Andalthough she's like, right to
not like, want to associate withanyone she deems as a stranger,
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if you don't like strangers orif you're just uncomfortable
around certain people, you haveno obligation to be in that
relationship. But for Ophie'sfamily's sake, I think OP's
sisters are being considerateand thinking, Okay, like I don't
have to like this guy and Inever have to hang out with him.
But at least during the timeswhere he has to be around or he
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does something that is like asplain and natural as just like,
oh, I'm dropping off somethingfor your parents, like an
errand.
It's not just viable to justyell at a random stranger,
especially when that stranger isyour sister's husband. So, final
verdict, yeah. I think everyonehere is not an asshole besides
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Opie's sister who she does haveto do a lot of like deep, like
introspection, but I think givenhow she's acting, I don't think
she's ever really gonna change.And how she snapped at Obi's
husband was not okay if it wasunprovoked, as it seems to be
leaning towards. So, the nextstory is titled, Am I the
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Asshole for Now Wanting to HelpMy Mom and Her Fiance with His
Disabled Child?
I, 20 male, moved out of mymom's 42 female's house a couple
of years ago when I went tocollege. Until ten months ago, I
had my own room there but herfiance, 45 female, and has two
kids, six male and four female,moved in with her. The four year
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old has a host of disabilitiesand I know they have a seizure
disorder and a condition calledosteogenesis imperfecta. I got
that on my first take by theway. But I believe there's
another one involving paralysisor spasms of the stomach or
esophagus.
My mother took classes for overtwo months before her fiance
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moved in so she would know howto take care of his daughter and
her fiance's ex's is totally outof the picture, so Mom decided
she would need to set upcompletely, which I get. I have
been back twice since Mom'sfiance moved in with his kids.
The first time was at Christmasand I stayed with my
grandparents because my old roomwent to the four year old and
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there was no spare room for me.My mom was disappointed but I
pointed out it would stop megetting in the way of their
routines too. The second timewas late June, early July and I
was home for a few weeks andagain stayed with my
grandparents.
Mom offered to buy a pull outbed from me, but I said I was
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good with my grandparents. WhenI was home and whenever I went
to mom's, I was asked if I hadlooked into taking the same
classes mom had or if I likedthem to set me up with them. And
I said no and I asked why'd Ineed to take them. And my mom
said she had hoped I would wantto help them. She said it would
mean I could step up in anemergency and I told my mom
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she'd better find someoneprofessional for that because I
was not taking on thatresponsibility.
Her fiance asked if I'm justnever going to stay at the house
and I said Yeah. And I told themI would have zero privacy if I
slept there and it wouldn'tbenefit any of us. I pointed out
how they'd be so busy anyway,that I wouldn't have time with
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mom that much and I just get asmuch staying somewhere else and
planning ahead of time to visitwhen she's not super busy. Her
fiance then said, It soundedlike I didn't want to learn how
to take care of his daughter andplan to be limitedly involved
with him and his kids. And Isaid, I'll see them when I see
mom but I won't be signing upfor babysitting or future
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caregiver responsibilities.
Mom and I went for a walktogether after I said that and
she told me she got it but shehad hoped I'd be more willing.
She said, It's a lot to ask andI don't even live that close
anymore so it would never be allthe time, but she asked me if I
was really that unwilling toeven give them a few hours off
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when I would visit. She said, Itwould be so helpful, and I told
her I would visit and I want tospend time with her, but
babysitting her future step kidswas not in my plans, and
especially not one so medicallycomplex and in need of specific
care. She was upset but let itgo. Her fiance is holding a
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grudge against me and he broughtit up to my grandparents when
Christmas were brought up.
They said they got the feelinghe was also annoyed and they
gave me a place to stay duringmy visits because it gives me an
excuse not to get closer to hiskids and therefore be more
willing to learn how to takecare of his daughter. Am I the
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asshole? I don't think she's theasshole in this situation
because, yeah, they did ask andeven though it was more of a
roundabout kind of ask, OPultimately ended up declining
the offer, which is like in her,her right to do that. Like, know
it would be nice for her to helptake care of her step siblings
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in this case, but she does haveher own life and it's not like
she lives close to her parents.And the main reason you ever
want to visit is just to see hermom.
Like, it doesn't seem like shehas any real connection to the
stepdad or even the childrenfrom what I'm reading. And I
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mean, I can understand it, like,with step parents and all that,
like, family dynamics, I imaginethere's like a lot of, at least
me not showing it externally,there's probably like a lot of
internal competition for likethe parents' attention and all
that stuff. So I feel, I like tothink that, at least within OP,
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she probably doesn't like theidea of having to like, oh, I
need to take care of my stepsiblings and both my parents are
backing that up instead ofbacking what is best for for me
and, like all of us in general.So it's definitely a hard
position to be in and it'sdefinitely something that I
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imagine is going to be strainingon Opie and her mother's
relationship. I don't think Opiehas like any relationship really
with the stepdad, like he seemsmore than happy to throw her
under the bus for not wanting totake care of his children.
Do I think this would have gonesmoothly if they asked directly?
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Maybe a tiny bit smoothly. Thinkwhen you are more honest and
more direct, people kind ofrespect you more, rather than if
you reasonable in like any otherway and not show your true
intentions. But I thinkultimately OP is just into the
idea of taking care of likeanother child that isn't hers.
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So let's read the top comment.
Top comment is, this is a heavyask for anyone, let alone
someone who doesn't live thereand didn't sign up for it. If
they need real respite care,that's what professionals are
for. Not the college aged son ofthe fiancee, It's good you were
clear now instead of halfcommitting and then resenting it
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later. And OP actually respondedback by saying, there was no way
I was going to leave it unclearbecause that's how you get guilt
tripped into it and calls fromyour classes you never signed up
for. I wanted no part of thatdrama, and yes, it's a huge ask,
not because of all the careneeded to be in the actual
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emergency or something that I'dbe dropping everything and going
to another state to provide aton of care for a child who will
always need a lot of care.
And yeah, mean, it's a littlebit callous, but also like there
is a lot of like people who needlike that sort of care. Not for
this one child particularcondition, but in general, it
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was like, oh, people who need alot of extra care and not only
like a lot of care, a lot ofdifficult sort of care. And just
to put that on someone's plateand expecting them to comply
and, like, to actually providethat care is unfair because
because people have only so muchfinite time and resources and
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energy to do things. And and OPwas smart in just cutting it
from the bud because, like yousaid, encouraging this in any
way would just get him be maybein more deeper sort of, like,
trouble or, like, in some sortof weird obligation that they
might put on him. It's reallyjust being defensive against any
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possible thing that couldhappen.
So final verdict, OP is not theasshole. I don't think the
mother was the asshole too much.Like, of course she asked, but
it was something where I believeif I read it, she was
disappointed, but she knew thatit is a lot to ask for. But the
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stepdad was the asshole in thissituation because of, like I
said, blatantly wanting toblatantly try to use some sort
of shaming tactic to get him toagree with the arrangement. So
our next story is titled, Am Ian Asshole for Asking My Dad Why
I Should Include His Wife If HePlans to Never Include My
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Boyfriend?
I, 19 female, have been datingLeo, 19 male, for over a year
now and we've known each othersince we were six and we've been
a part of the same friend groupsince we met. My parents, mom
and dad, female and male, bothknew him from a young age and he
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was really sweet when my momdied. Dad even commented then
about how kind he was to me. Andmy dad had been with his wife
for two years now and they'vebeen married for six months.
Ever since I told my dad I wasdating Leo, he's been so
different about him.
I got shit for bringing him to afamily party in June and dad
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said it was inappropriate tobring just anyone to a family
party and I ran it by therelatives of hosting and they
were fine with it. My dad nevercomplained about friends joining
before. Dad and his wife haveshown up unannounced when Leo
and I were hanging out and theywanted to leave him out. Dad
makes a big deal if I want toinclude Leo at all. It's not
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even all the time but both ofthem were really off with Leo
when dropped by unannounced acouple weeks ago and this led to
a fight.
Leo went on a grocery run and Iconfronted my dad. I asked dad
why he was being like this andhow did he expect me to want him
to visit if he be that way. Andhis wife said, they don't like
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seeing me be in such a seriousrelationship and the fact I'm
bringing him to things isstrange when he's not family and
he's just a partner and I shouldlisten to them. And I asked her
who she was to say that. Thatsaid, she's right and she's his
wife and our family.
I told him he would never havelet me treat her that way before
they were married either. Heclaimed it was still different
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and I should be willing to spendtime with them without I have by
the way. I have visited on myown and met for lunch without
Leo and he's not always there,but we go to the same college
and we're living together withsome friends for the summer and
we'll be full time moving intogether in a couple of weeks.
But anyways, dad said Leo isn'tfamily and some stuff should
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just be for the family, and so Iasked why his wife was always
there. I asked, Why should Iinclude her if he won't ever
include Leo?
She's not my family after all.Why it was any of White's
business when she's got no sayon my life. Dad said she's
family, they're married, and Iasked again would I need to
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marry Leo for things to changeagain? And he said that things
are just different. And his wifesaid I had no business
invalidating her and she'd bethe future grandmother of my
children and I told her goodluck with that.
She's not my mother and shewould never be their grandmother
and since we're excludingpartners, that's all she'll ever
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be, married or not, since that'swhat dad says he would do. Dad
told me that was enough and henever said that. I told him he
kept saying it's different andnot that marriage would change
anything, so I see no reason toinclude his wife. I then made
them leave which they did not doeasily, and they wanted to keep
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the fight going but I told themI was done. There now angry, I
invalidated his wife by askingabout including her and saying
she won't be the futuregrandmother, but I stand by it.
My kids might not know grandmaif he's a dick to the dad and
wants to act like he doesn'texist. Am I the asshole? I think
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this is a totally unreasonablereaction on OP's stepmom,
because, like, yeah, maybe youdon't like the guy, or maybe
you're not as comfortable withhim, or maybe you just want to
hang out with OP, but still,like, just have some sort of
respect for the guy because thisis clearly someone that's
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important to OP, that's veryclearly going to be in the
family, at least in the, insome, in some near future, or in
some, like, large capacitygiven, like, their history. But,
yeah. And I would also lump inObi's dad's incidents because I
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feel like she's just letting hisown wife like lead this like bad
behavior because this is likeclearly like a double standard,
which is not only annoying butit's like very detrimental for
the family.
Like right now OP doesn't wantto like definitely doesn't want
to have anything to do with astepmother and I imagine she's
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also considering cutting off herown like father and this which
is unfortunate. So the topcomment is, They don't like
seeing you in a seriousrelationship. What the actual f?
Would they prefer you screwingaround and changing boyfriends
at the same rate as you changedyour undies? And OP responded, I
guess they either want me singleor dating a bunch of people and
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not having a stable partner.
Never mind the fact that Leo andI have known each other for a
long time and we're happytogether and we're good
together. The rest of my familysupports us. But not dad. Then
another commenter responded, Iwould tell them too to stop
showing up unannounced now thatyou will be living with Leo. And
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he does have a say in that sinceI assume he will be paying rent
with you.
And then OP finally responded,Yeah, all of us living together
will be paying rent. And I madeit clear to dad there will be no
more unannounced visits and novisits period if it was going to
be a dick to Leo. I can imagineeither OP's dad or her stepmom
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or even both just don't likeLeo. Maybe for whatever reason,
they think he's rude or he islike not up to standards to what
they want for their, theirchild. I think that's like the
root cause with us.
Not that, they expect OP to belike going from one boyfriend to
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another. I just think they wantsomeone more worthy of their
daughter or, I mean, which is ashocky thing because you can't
really choose who your childrenend up with. You can help they
pick someone that is halfwaydecent, but it's mostly up to
your child's choice. Even inlike the worst case where
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they're, I mean, as long as, soyeah, the worst case is they end
up with someone abusive. In thatcase, I think he would be
justifiable for OP's dad andstepmom to like, wanna kick Leo
out.
But there isn't any mention oranything of that, that Leo is
anything but just like a regularguy. And in those cases, even if
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you don't like the, like yourchild's partner that much, you
should at least be somewhatcourteous. They're gonna be a
big part of your life anyway andif it's at the cost of like
losing your own child becauseyou wanna be stubborn and a
little bit childish about it,And I don't think that that's,
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like, worth the risk of losingthat relationship with your own
kid. So, The final verdict, OPand Leo are not that bad at all.
I mean, not bad at all.
And OP's parents and the stepparents, I would say, I think
it's probably like the step momis more of the asshole than the
dad, but the dad backing up awoman that he hasn't known as
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long as, like, as he knows, likehis own daughter and like her
partner and her daughter'spartner, it does reflect
negatively on him. And now ourfinal story is titled, Am I the
asshole for kicking my down onhis luck friend out of my
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apartment for disobeying my oneworld? A friend of mine, 22
male, has been down on his luckrecently and wanted a fresh
start in a different state. Hereached out to me, 30 mil, to
crash on my couch for a bituntil he gets his life together
and I agreed, which is nice ofhim. And I had been buying him
groceries and putting gas in hiscar until he finally finds his
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footing.
So yeah, he's, yeah, that's verysuper, that's like super nice.
Like the cash alone was a nicecash trip, like also paying for
some of his bills and his livingarrangements is like, yeah. A1
friend, never break any of theirrules please. But yeah, I, and I
only had one rule. He can'tbring any girls over to stay
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tonight.
Oh my gosh, this is like theeasiest rule too. Like you have
nothing to offer. You only havea couch, like, why would you
okay. Let me just finish thestory before I jump into any
conclusions. So, it's been threeweeks, and he has done it twice
now.
Okay, so, yep, he failed mealready. So yeah, the first time
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he said he was drunk and it wasan accident, the second time he
just basically said, the secondtime he just blatantly said, I'm
sorry, I needed to get one out,and I told him, It's fine, she
can stay the night, but he hasto leave with her in the
morning. It wasn't me beingjealous, it's just a matter of
respect, which I agree. Like, Ijust don't get why you would do
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that. Like, you're in a Iimagine this guy who's crashing
in the couch is like in a livingroom or in a non private place.
I'm sure he has some sort ofshame. Well, I guess he has no
shame if he's able to, if he'swilling to do this. And so
blatantly, too. But, I mean,yeah, when you're down on your
luck like this, I guess there'sa reason why he's down on his
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luck if he's still actingdegenerate and not really trying
to get on any good footing. Butyeah, it looks like he will be
kicked out very soon.
Oh, yeah, so he got kicked outthat night, I guess. So the top
comment is, if he's got money tobe out getting drunk and picking
up girls, then why does he needyou to pay to buy his groceries
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and put his gas in his car? He'staking advantage of you. And
yeah, basically, like I mean,I'm sure he is in financial ruin
to a degree, but also, he, OP isdoing so much already, like the
very least he can do is justfollow the one super rule, which
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is just not bring over somerandom chick. But yeah, I mean,
it's good that they hope youkick them out sooner rather than
later.
I mean, I feel like I would havekicked them out the first time
just because would just be souncomfortable in my own, like,
house and that's probably notthe kind of environment I want
to come home to or be around,considering I work from home
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now. But yeah, final verdict forthis, Ophie is not the asshole
for kicking down his down on hisluck friend, since the friend is
doing that to himself by makingall these terrible decisions,
Ophie's friend is like a hugeasshole for just blatantly
disrespecting, like, the spacethat was so generously gifted to
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