July 25, 2024 • 18 mins
Join us this week on the You Are Not Alone podcast as we unravel the mental benefits of embracing your imperfections. Debbie and Greg Gold share candid personal stories that highlight the significance of emotional, social, and psychological well-being. Our new feature enables you to interact with us directly via text messages and our website, fostering a community where real conversations thrive. From tackling stress and daily challenges to celebrating the power of being authentically you, we cover it all. Plus, get a sneak peek into our upcoming episode on combating negativity in today's world.
In another thought-provoking segment, we delve into the multifaceted benefits of fitness goals, emphasizing how achieving them can boost self-confidence and overall well-being. We transition to the importance of community and healthy relationships, offering practical ways to expand your social circles, from joining local groups to leveraging workplace connections. Learn about the role of mutual respect and effective communication in maintaining strong relationships. Finally, we discuss mindful decision-making and self-regulation, emphasizing the benefits of staying composed in challenging social situations. Engage with us, share your experiences, and remember—you're not alone on this journey to better mental wellness.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello and welcome to another episode of the you Are
Not Alone podcast.
My name is Debbie Gold and I'mhere with my co-host and son,
greg, and we are so glad thatyou're here with us.
Each week on this show, we willtalk about informative issues,
issues that will make you thinkand help you grow.
It is our wish that you willfind hope, encouragement and a
(00:22):
little bit of Jesus in everyepisode.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Hello listeners.
Today we're going to becontinuing our series of healthy
living, and on today's episodewe're going to be talking about
the mental benefits of living ahealthy lifestyle and all the
benefits of it.
But first we want to tell youabout a new feature that we're
offering.
We'd like to know what moreyou'd want to hear from us on
the show, so here's how you cando that.
At the top of the show notes,you will see a send us a text
(00:48):
message link.
Click on that link and it willallow you to send us a message.
It's pretty cool.
I'm excited about it.
My mom's excited about it and inthe past we really haven't had
a way to communicate with ourpeople and our followers and our
community.
And now we have that and alsoour website at Debbie and Greg
goldcom.
That is Debbie and Greg goldcom.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
Right.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
Please subscribe.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
Yeah, subscribe there , and there's a place for you to
send us messages too, if youwant us to cover a certain topic
, and we'll remind you aboutthat all later on as well.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
And then we also have all the episodes on YouTube.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
now Such a good job this week for us we did we did
it.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
We found it's been on our list for a while, yeah all
the future ones are going to beuploaded automatically when
they're dropped um, and I'mlooking forward to that because
I mean, I use youtube so muchyeah, it's one of my main things
, yeah it's a popular tool rightyeah, there are these things
called reels on youtube too,where it's kind of the short
videos, like TikTok has that andall that, basically, you just
(01:50):
scroll through the reels andthey're like 10 to 15 second
videos or whatever, and thoseare the most popular, I'm
realizing, nowadays.
Some random podcast actuallycame up on my feed the other day
and it was like a Christianpodcast and it had like 27 likes
on it and all that.
But I was just randomlyscrolling and it popped up, you
know, so I was thinking thatcould be us.
(02:10):
So we got to take clips um,edit them and then put them in
the reel.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
So Okay, well, let's talk about that, cause I'm
always up for, uh, new ideas andit sounds like it's a good one,
and so it's been working.
Yeah, it's popular, so yeah I,I've seen the reels before and
um I think facebook even hasreels they do, and instagram,
everyone does.
Yeah, it's insane.
It's evolving and it's a, it'sa fun thing.
I get it because people can seeyou right and that's.
(02:37):
That's a the draw there it'ssuper trendy too.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
It's like all the tiktok style videos and short
clips and all that so yeah, allright.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
Well, we'll be evolving, that's right we're
going to.
We're not stopping now, we'regoing full steam ahead, yeah,
but anyways, let's get totoday's episode.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
So why focus on the mental aspect?
Well, from last episode weworked on the physical benefits,
and the mental side is just asimportant, because mental health
impacts your overall wellbeingA healthy mind, a strong mind,
and it can help you in yourdaily habits, in life.
So true so let's get on to whythe mental side has just as many
benefits as the physical side.
Our overall mental health iscomprised of emotional
(03:18):
well-being, social well-beingand, lastly, psychological
well-being, which I love.
I love how you categorize those.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
Yeah, because we're little compartments that make
the whole right.
And lastly, psychologicalwell-being, which I love.
I love how you categorize those.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
Yeah, because we're little compartments that make
the whole right.
I was thinking about thismostly mentally, but you were
like what about emotionalwell-being and social and
psychological?
Speaker 1 (03:36):
And I was like I like that, so you broke it up and
yeah.
Yeah, so we got those threelittle areas we're going to look
at today and we can go aheadand start.
Let's start with emotionalwell-being.
How about that?
Yeah, all right.
So this refers to the emotionalstate of an individual, and
this can be influenced.
This is not static, it's goingto change, but it can be
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influenced by things like stress, trauma, challenges or even
internal factors like ourattitude.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
Or how the day is going.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
Exactly how the day is going.
You know when you wake up andyou say, oh, it's been a Monday.
You know, when you get about 11o'clock in the morning and that
means, man, I can't, my voiceis bad today or I've got
allergies, or my words don'tcome out right when I'm on the
telephone, I mean, you know, I Ishare that with people when I'm
.
I'm going through that.
If I'm on the phone withsomebody and then they start
(04:34):
laughing and I laugh and thenthey're like, oh my gosh, that's
me too.
And you know it's kind of afunny thing, like to just share
those.
You know, don't try to hidethose imperfections, you know,
just put them out there and bereal.
We love to be real, right, yeah, um, so where I can decide so
many different factors, can youknow, affect your emotional
(04:57):
wellbeing Right.
Oh, I was going to say so in.
We have one more series, onemore episode left in this series
, because we're doing four nextweek.
Folks, we are going to betalking about being negative.
There is so much negativity inthe world, in the world, and
this has been a conversationtopic, a topic of conversation
(05:20):
in our household recently, andso you know, a lot of times you
talk about the things that youare trying to work on yourself
or need to work on.
So here we are, so we're that'sgoing to be a good one next
week, Um, anyway.
So you want to talk about how?
Speaker 2 (05:37):
yeah sure so I mean stress.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
We mentioned stress right.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
Yeah, some benefits um are reduced stress.
Um, you know, regular physicalactivities and a good, balanced
diet can help lower stresslevels by releasing endorphins,
which are the mind's naturalmood lifters.
Um, good activities to reducestress include sports, uh, arts,
nature walks just doing youknow things that are like me,
(06:03):
time, as you call them.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
Right, you know um.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
I got for me it's basketball.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
Yeah, getting out by yourself.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
So I went to have my physical and at the end of May
and and I was really feelingvery stressed and we talked
about that, the doctor and I,and she was like, are you doing
your me time?
And you know, I think, yeah, Igo to the gym, but and then I'm
on my phone and I'm checking andsomebody calls me one of you
(06:31):
guys, or the dad, or you know,and then I'm not really in me
time mode anymore.
You're not, yeah.
And so I realized that it'sreally important for me to have
me time, just me.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
You need to go, take like walks up and down the
street or something.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
Yeah, or just get out , just appreciate nature.
Yeah, because it's yeah, I'mnot going to take a walk after
this episode.
I know, and when we do that, welove that.
I mean not if we do it together, but you know when, when I do
those things for me, I love that, and we tend to forget about
them.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
Yeah, it's not too hot outside.
I can put on some music with myAirPods and I'm gonna go take a
walk after this.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
All right, that'd be nice Good.
So, yeah, awesome, all right.
So looking at ways to reducestress so we feel better
emotionally.
Yeah, all right, what else wegot.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
We got exercise and healthy eating.
Oh yeah, those were our twolast topics.
Yeah, when having a routinesuch as exercise or a good meal
plan, you establish balance,like a routine in your life,
which helps organize your day,creating a stress-free
environment healthy eating alsoregulates your blood sugar
levels, maintaining energy and agood mood throughout the day.
(07:35):
Foods like fish, fruits andvegetables are also.
They also have omega-3 fattyacids, which actually improve
brain function.
So yeah, doing some research forthis episode, I actually
learned about.
You know some certain things,and and why they're important
and why when your mom says eatyour vegetables.
She, she really means to do thatbecause there's really
something good about it, there'ssomething behind it.
(07:55):
She just doesn't mean that tonot waste the fruit yeah, waste
the food, yeah, yeah but I meanestablishing balance or like a
routine or a schedule in yourlife is important, especially
like if you're in a bad spot,you know just to like fill up
some of that empty time thatyou'd have, whereas you know
you'd be down and about rightyou know you're you're going to
the gym or you're you're walkingyour dog at 12 o'clock.
(08:17):
You're making yourself somedinner, you know?
Speaker 1 (08:19):
yeah, so establishing a plan is so good it is good,
and it's like waking up at acertain time every day you know,
during the week, or howeveryour work week looks um getting
up at you know six o'clock,don't?
Oh, I don't really have to getup, so I'm going to sleep until
7 or 8.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
What time do you get up?
I'm curious.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
I try to be up by 6.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
Really Wow.
Speaker 1 (08:38):
Get the coffee rolling, get in the shower, get
dressed, get ready for my day,get my makeup on, and then I
like to be in my office by 7, 15doing stuff.
Speaker 2 (08:49):
I usually wake up recently like seven 30, seven 40
.
Speaker 1 (08:52):
And then yeah.
So, so yeah, but it's.
I have more time but havingthat routine and sticking with
that and, like I, I go to thegym.
You know, leave at 10 30, go tothe gym work out come back home
, I can eat lunch at home, whichis healthier than eating out,
and um then I have my afternoonroutine.
So, but I think it's reallyimportant because it's really
(09:16):
easy to get lax if you don'thave that.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
I agree, yeah, when I wake up late sometimes they're
like 10 o'clock I see your purseis on the couch, your keys are
there, your water's there, I'mlike oh, she's going to the the
gym, so you have a routine timewhen you go yeah, so it's very
important good point.
Um, next up, enhanced cognitivefunction.
Regular physical activitieshave been known to increase
(09:41):
brain function, including memoryand concentration.
Uh, I think that's reallyimportant.
I mean, obviously it's reallyimportant.
Um, I mean, think about youknow, know memory, or you know
concentration, you knowconcentrating on a certain, you
know activity.
Speaker 1 (09:56):
I mean, we all have to do that, whether it's our
work or job, it's school, it'swhatever.
We have to be able to focus andconcentrate.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
I agree.
Yeah, Next up betterself-esteem.
When you achieve a fitness goallike maintaining a healthy
lifestyle, it can boost yourself-confidence like crazy.
Speaker 1 (10:13):
Right, which in turn makes you feel better about
yourself.
Right.
Speaker 2 (10:16):
For me it was like hitting a new weight on the, or,
you know, hitting a newpersonal record in the gym or
something like that, or hittinga new low weight on the scale or
something like that or settinggoals with friends and then
making or hitting the goals withyour friends.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
Right, it's a great feeling, right.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
You feel better and you can say I did this yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
I did it Like.
For me it was that where I lostwhat?
12 pounds or?
Speaker 2 (10:39):
so over the last six months or seven, whatever it was
12,.
Yeah, but.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
God, it feels so good , I can walk in my closet and
put any of my clothes on and Idon't have to worry about, oh,
this is too tight or uh, I lookfat, you know, but I love that
before I'd be like, oh God, thisis way too tight, I can't wear
this.
Let me try something else.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
And just the way you feel, too, about yourself and
about life Overall.
Speaker 1 (11:04):
I have more energy.
I feel lighter on my feet,bouncing around like a
basketball there you go Allright.
Well, that's great, so okay,that's emotional and we got
social, we have socialwell-being.
So what we're talking abouthere, people is community.
Community is such a big wordand it's a big buzzword I hear
(11:25):
so much right now, but this isyour ability to build and
maintain healthy relationships,healthy relationships, right.
So ask yourself, who are thepeople in my life Friends, peers
, teachers, professors, who else, what else?
Family, family, obviously, ourcolleagues.
(11:46):
If we work, that's another area.
And if you're looking to addpeople, I mean sometimes you
know, there was a lifetime in mylife where I had like a friend,
you know, and I wasn't sure howto go about expanding that and
so.
But here's some ideas.
If you are looking to addpeople to your community, you
(12:10):
can look at churches I mean wedo Bible-based churches where
it's not really, you know,baptist or Presbyterian or
Catholic, it's just aBible-based, and what that means
is that they preach out of theBible.
Like you're going to learnabout what's in the Bible when
you go to a sermon at a Biblechurch, and that's what I love
about it, because I like tolearn and that just works for me
(12:31):
.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
We got student organizations too.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
Yep Student organizations If you're in
college or high school.
Speaker 2 (12:37):
Workplace sometimes.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
Yeah, workplace, you can be a little careful.
Don't date the boss, maybe, butyou know, don't go out, yeah,
but there's, you know peoplethere.
You've got friends of friends.
I mean, how many times do youmeet somebody and you become
good friends?
Well then, you're connected totheir network as well, because
of that, and vice versa.
Yeah, and then my favorite onethat you said Get a dog and go
to a dog park.
(13:00):
And hey, if you can't get a dogbecause you can't have one in
your apartment or you don't havethe money to take care of a dog
, you can always borrow a dogand take it to the park.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
Just ask your neighbor.
Ask your neighbor, yeah.
Ask your friend.
Can I take a dog to the dogpark?
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
They won't say, no, give them a break, right, oh
yeah.
But they may say, I want to gowith you and you get another
friend Can.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
I get a dog into the street lately.
Oh my gosh.
It'd be like a.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
That'd be a crazy day at the park.
It'd be a yeah, dog issomething else, dog's got some
energy, anyway, but that's agreat.
I mean people, what's going onthere?
is you're finding someone withthe same common, a common A
commonality, yeah, common,something in common that you
have with somebody else.
(13:45):
You know you're at a dog park.
You all have dogs, yeah, soit's so easy to strike up a
conversation.
You start with the dog how oldis your dog?
Your dog is so adorable, um,you know what kind of dog is
that?
I mean you, can, so go there, Iknow.
Yeah, can I get your phonenumber?
You want to hang out?
Speaker 2 (14:04):
for coffee.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
You can do so many things with that yeah, I love
that, so that's an easy one yeahyou just gotta get the dog yeah
, that's the hard part, yeah.
So, to have healthyrelationships, we need to be
able to communicate, we need tobe able to navigate conflicts,
set boundaries and we have tohave mutual respect regardless
(14:28):
of our differences.
And I think that is soimportant and I want to say that
again mutual respect regardlessof our differences important
and I want to say that againmutual respect regardless of our
differences.
I don't see that in ourpolitics these days.
You know, in the big world andsome you know political parties
here.
Yeah, that's what I meant thepolitical parties here, it's
(14:53):
just a constant.
Okay, you know you're wrong ifyou believe that and it
shouldn't be that way.
Yeah, so try to remember thatwhen you're dealing with people,
everyone's got their ownopinion and how they feel about
different things, and try torespect that.
You might learn something aboutthat.
Maybe you can't, don't want tobe their best friend because of
that, but that's okay, you know,you can still be nice and
respectable.
Yeah, so anyway, oh, and here'sthe other thing.
(15:18):
If you want to learn more aboutsome of these ideas, or you're
going to communication, what arethey talking about?
Like, do I communicate?
Well, I don't know, how do I,how do I swallow when someone
doesn't agree with me?
If you want to hear about, youknow us talk about some of these
topics hear about you, know ustalk about some of these topics
please message us, reach out tous.
Speaker 2 (15:37):
We want to hear from y'all.
We really do.
So.
The more interaction we get,the better we feel, and we're
trying to.
We're trying to.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
We're trying to help you.
That's what we're here for.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
We're trying to evolve and grow this and yeah.
Speaker 1 (15:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
Reach out to us, um, leave a message, anything you
know, right, go to the website.
Speaker 1 (15:50):
You can leave a message.
You can leave a message.
You can leave a message at thetop of the show notes on every
single episode.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
Um totally have ways, yeah, yeah, so it'd be
appreciated, much appreciated um, okay.
Speaker 1 (16:02):
And then lastly, we have our psychological
well-being, and I think this issort of like, if you kind of
look at it, like, uh, a ratingof your happiness overall,
overall picture, right.
And then some you know.
Some things that you can kindof look at to answer that
question are, yeah, yourself-acceptance.
Do you really have a positiveattitude about yourself, you
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know?
Do you love yourself?
Do you like who you are?
Another thing is positiverelationships with others, you
know.
Do you have meaningfulrelationships with people?
If not, do you have meaningfulrelationships with people?
If not, maybe you're not happy.
Maybe you want to expand that,do you?
What about personal growth?
Do you continue here's myspeaker, I apologize Do you
(16:51):
continue to develop?
Do you welcome new experiences?
Are you looking?
Are you willing to improve inyour behaviors and your yourself
as a whole?
You know, sometimes when I, I'm, someone points something out
to me, um, you know, then I go,you know what I think they're
right, I'll think about that.
They're right and I, I do wantto improve that.
I want to be, I want to bebetter in that area.
Speaker 2 (17:13):
So, looking at um, take some feedback and realize
feedback and self-reflection.
Yeah, yeah, I trust it.
Speaker 1 (17:22):
Yeah, and then a purpose in life.
Do you set goals for your life,you know?
Are you intentionable,intentional about meeting those
goals?
I think that um a lot of peopledon't know how to set goals.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
I don't think so.
Speaker 1 (17:34):
Yeah, and I know we talked about that in one of our
episodes.
So if you're one of thosepeople that say I don't set
goals and I don't know how orwhere to begin, you might check
back on a previous episode forthat or message us and we'll
come up with some more materialon it, exactly.
And then autonomy Are youindependent and can you regulate
(17:56):
your behavior despite socialpressures?
I'm really good at that.
I think you are.
Yeah, I'm really proud of youfor that, thank you.
Yeah, you have your own mindabout what's right or wrong.
Speaker 2 (18:06):
And regulating my behavior despite social
pressures, you know.
If I don't agree with something, I'm just not going to disagree
or agree with it.
You know, if I don't agree withsomething, I'm just not going
to disagree or agree with it.
Speaker 1 (18:14):
Yeah, just to go along, but I'm going to regulate
my behavior.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
You know I'm not going to freak out over it, make
a big scene and all that.
Speaker 1 (18:20):
Right.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
So yeah.
Speaker 1 (18:23):
Yeah, so anyway, overall, you know, there's just
many different benefits totaking care of yourself mentally
and many things to consider asyou look at this, this topic,
for yourself.
So I think that's our show fortoday.
I think so.
Appreciate y'all listening.
Speaker 2 (18:39):
We do appreciate you tuning in.
Uh, we hope you found somethingof value.
Uh, we'll see you back herenext week when we talk about
more ways to live a healthylifestyle.
Thank you, Jesus, for thisepisode.
Speaker 1 (18:50):
And remember you are not alone.
Speaker 2 (18:53):
Make it a great day and we'll see you next week.
Hello and welcome to another episode of the you Are
Not Alone podcast.
My name is Debbie Gold and I'mhere with my co-host and son,
greg, and we are so glad thatyou're here with us.
Each week on this show, we willtalk about informative issues,
issues that will make you thinkand help you grow.
It is our wish that you willfind hope, encouragement and a
(00:22):
little bit of Jesus in everyepisode.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Hello listeners.
Today we're going to becontinuing our series of healthy
living, and on today's episodewe're going to be talking about
the mental benefits of living ahealthy lifestyle and all the
benefits of it.
But first we want to tell youabout a new feature that we're
offering.
We'd like to know what moreyou'd want to hear from us on
the show, so here's how you cando that.
At the top of the show notes,you will see a send us a text
(00:48):
message link.
Click on that link and it willallow you to send us a message.
It's pretty cool.
I'm excited about it.
My mom's excited about it and inthe past we really haven't had
a way to communicate with ourpeople and our followers and our
community.
And now we have that and alsoour website at Debbie and Greg
goldcom.
That is Debbie and Greg goldcom.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
Right.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
Please subscribe.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
Yeah, subscribe there , and there's a place for you to
send us messages too, if youwant us to cover a certain topic
, and we'll remind you aboutthat all later on as well.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
And then we also have all the episodes on YouTube.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
now Such a good job this week for us we did we did
it.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
We found it's been on our list for a while, yeah all
the future ones are going to beuploaded automatically when
they're dropped um, and I'mlooking forward to that because
I mean, I use youtube so muchyeah, it's one of my main things
, yeah it's a popular tool rightyeah, there are these things
called reels on youtube too,where it's kind of the short
videos, like TikTok has that andall that, basically, you just
(01:50):
scroll through the reels andthey're like 10 to 15 second
videos or whatever, and thoseare the most popular, I'm
realizing, nowadays.
Some random podcast actuallycame up on my feed the other day
and it was like a Christianpodcast and it had like 27 likes
on it and all that.
But I was just randomlyscrolling and it popped up, you
know, so I was thinking thatcould be us.
(02:10):
So we got to take clips um,edit them and then put them in
the reel.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
So Okay, well, let's talk about that, cause I'm
always up for, uh, new ideas andit sounds like it's a good one,
and so it's been working.
Yeah, it's popular, so yeah I,I've seen the reels before and
um I think facebook even hasreels they do, and instagram,
everyone does.
Yeah, it's insane.
It's evolving and it's a, it'sa fun thing.
I get it because people can seeyou right and that's.
(02:37):
That's a the draw there it'ssuper trendy too.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
It's like all the tiktok style videos and short
clips and all that so yeah, allright.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
Well, we'll be evolving, that's right we're
going to.
We're not stopping now, we'regoing full steam ahead, yeah,
but anyways, let's get totoday's episode.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
So why focus on the mental aspect?
Well, from last episode weworked on the physical benefits,
and the mental side is just asimportant, because mental health
impacts your overall wellbeingA healthy mind, a strong mind,
and it can help you in yourdaily habits, in life.
So true so let's get on to whythe mental side has just as many
benefits as the physical side.
Our overall mental health iscomprised of emotional
(03:18):
well-being, social well-beingand, lastly, psychological
well-being, which I love.
I love how you categorize those.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
Yeah, because we're little compartments that make
the whole right.
And lastly, psychologicalwell-being, which I love.
I love how you categorize those.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
Yeah, because we're little compartments that make
the whole right.
I was thinking about thismostly mentally, but you were
like what about emotionalwell-being and social and
psychological?
Speaker 1 (03:36):
And I was like I like that, so you broke it up and
yeah.
Yeah, so we got those threelittle areas we're going to look
at today and we can go aheadand start.
Let's start with emotionalwell-being.
How about that?
Yeah, all right.
So this refers to the emotionalstate of an individual, and
this can be influenced.
This is not static, it's goingto change, but it can be
(04:00):
influenced by things like stress, trauma, challenges or even
internal factors like ourattitude.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
Or how the day is going.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
Exactly how the day is going.
You know when you wake up andyou say, oh, it's been a Monday.
You know, when you get about 11o'clock in the morning and that
means, man, I can't, my voiceis bad today or I've got
allergies, or my words don'tcome out right when I'm on the
telephone, I mean, you know, I Ishare that with people when I'm
.
I'm going through that.
If I'm on the phone withsomebody and then they start
(04:34):
laughing and I laugh and thenthey're like, oh my gosh, that's
me too.
And you know it's kind of afunny thing, like to just share
those.
You know, don't try to hidethose imperfections, you know,
just put them out there and bereal.
We love to be real, right, yeah, um, so where I can decide so
many different factors, can youknow, affect your emotional
(04:57):
wellbeing Right.
Oh, I was going to say so in.
We have one more series, onemore episode left in this series
, because we're doing four nextweek.
Folks, we are going to betalking about being negative.
There is so much negativity inthe world, in the world, and
this has been a conversationtopic, a topic of conversation
(05:20):
in our household recently, andso you know, a lot of times you
talk about the things that youare trying to work on yourself
or need to work on.
So here we are, so we're that'sgoing to be a good one next
week, Um, anyway.
So you want to talk about how?
Speaker 2 (05:37):
yeah sure so I mean stress.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
We mentioned stress right.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
Yeah, some benefits um are reduced stress.
Um, you know, regular physicalactivities and a good, balanced
diet can help lower stresslevels by releasing endorphins,
which are the mind's naturalmood lifters.
Um, good activities to reducestress include sports, uh, arts,
nature walks just doing youknow things that are like me,
(06:03):
time, as you call them.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
Right, you know um.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
I got for me it's basketball.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
Yeah, getting out by yourself.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
So I went to have my physical and at the end of May
and and I was really feelingvery stressed and we talked
about that, the doctor and I,and she was like, are you doing
your me time?
And you know, I think, yeah, Igo to the gym, but and then I'm
on my phone and I'm checking andsomebody calls me one of you
(06:31):
guys, or the dad, or you know,and then I'm not really in me
time mode anymore.
You're not, yeah.
And so I realized that it'sreally important for me to have
me time, just me.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
You need to go, take like walks up and down the
street or something.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
Yeah, or just get out , just appreciate nature.
Yeah, because it's yeah, I'mnot going to take a walk after
this episode.
I know, and when we do that, welove that.
I mean not if we do it together, but you know when, when I do
those things for me, I love that, and we tend to forget about
them.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
Yeah, it's not too hot outside.
I can put on some music with myAirPods and I'm gonna go take a
walk after this.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
All right, that'd be nice Good.
So, yeah, awesome, all right.
So looking at ways to reducestress so we feel better
emotionally.
Yeah, all right, what else wegot.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
We got exercise and healthy eating.
Oh yeah, those were our twolast topics.
Yeah, when having a routinesuch as exercise or a good meal
plan, you establish balance,like a routine in your life,
which helps organize your day,creating a stress-free
environment healthy eating alsoregulates your blood sugar
levels, maintaining energy and agood mood throughout the day.
(07:35):
Foods like fish, fruits andvegetables are also.
They also have omega-3 fattyacids, which actually improve
brain function.
So yeah, doing some research forthis episode, I actually
learned about.
You know some certain things,and and why they're important
and why when your mom says eatyour vegetables.
She, she really means to do thatbecause there's really
something good about it, there'ssomething behind it.
(07:55):
She just doesn't mean that tonot waste the fruit yeah, waste
the food, yeah, yeah but I meanestablishing balance or like a
routine or a schedule in yourlife is important, especially
like if you're in a bad spot,you know just to like fill up
some of that empty time thatyou'd have, whereas you know
you'd be down and about rightyou know you're you're going to
the gym or you're you're walkingyour dog at 12 o'clock.
(08:17):
You're making yourself somedinner, you know?
Speaker 1 (08:19):
yeah, so establishing a plan is so good it is good,
and it's like waking up at acertain time every day you know,
during the week, or howeveryour work week looks um getting
up at you know six o'clock,don't?
Oh, I don't really have to getup, so I'm going to sleep until
7 or 8.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
What time do you get up?
I'm curious.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
I try to be up by 6.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
Really Wow.
Speaker 1 (08:38):
Get the coffee rolling, get in the shower, get
dressed, get ready for my day,get my makeup on, and then I
like to be in my office by 7, 15doing stuff.
Speaker 2 (08:49):
I usually wake up recently like seven 30, seven 40
.
Speaker 1 (08:52):
And then yeah.
So, so yeah, but it's.
I have more time but havingthat routine and sticking with
that and, like I, I go to thegym.
You know, leave at 10 30, go tothe gym work out come back home
, I can eat lunch at home, whichis healthier than eating out,
and um then I have my afternoonroutine.
So, but I think it's reallyimportant because it's really
(09:16):
easy to get lax if you don'thave that.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
I agree, yeah, when I wake up late sometimes they're
like 10 o'clock I see your purseis on the couch, your keys are
there, your water's there, I'mlike oh, she's going to the the
gym, so you have a routine timewhen you go yeah, so it's very
important good point.
Um, next up, enhanced cognitivefunction.
Regular physical activitieshave been known to increase
(09:41):
brain function, including memoryand concentration.
Uh, I think that's reallyimportant.
I mean, obviously it's reallyimportant.
Um, I mean, think about youknow, know memory, or you know
concentration, you knowconcentrating on a certain, you
know activity.
Speaker 1 (09:56):
I mean, we all have to do that, whether it's our
work or job, it's school, it'swhatever.
We have to be able to focus andconcentrate.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
I agree.
Yeah, Next up betterself-esteem.
When you achieve a fitness goallike maintaining a healthy
lifestyle, it can boost yourself-confidence like crazy.
Speaker 1 (10:13):
Right, which in turn makes you feel better about
yourself.
Right.
Speaker 2 (10:16):
For me it was like hitting a new weight on the, or,
you know, hitting a newpersonal record in the gym or
something like that, or hittinga new low weight on the scale or
something like that or settinggoals with friends and then
making or hitting the goals withyour friends.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
Right, it's a great feeling, right.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
You feel better and you can say I did this yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
I did it Like.
For me it was that where I lostwhat?
12 pounds or?
Speaker 2 (10:39):
so over the last six months or seven, whatever it was
12,.
Yeah, but.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
God, it feels so good , I can walk in my closet and
put any of my clothes on and Idon't have to worry about, oh,
this is too tight or uh, I lookfat, you know, but I love that
before I'd be like, oh God, thisis way too tight, I can't wear
this.
Let me try something else.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
And just the way you feel, too, about yourself and
about life Overall.
Speaker 1 (11:04):
I have more energy.
I feel lighter on my feet,bouncing around like a
basketball there you go Allright.
Well, that's great, so okay,that's emotional and we got
social, we have socialwell-being.
So what we're talking abouthere, people is community.
Community is such a big wordand it's a big buzzword I hear
(11:25):
so much right now, but this isyour ability to build and
maintain healthy relationships,healthy relationships, right.
So ask yourself, who are thepeople in my life Friends, peers
, teachers, professors, who else, what else?
Family, family, obviously, ourcolleagues.
(11:46):
If we work, that's another area.
And if you're looking to addpeople, I mean sometimes you
know, there was a lifetime in mylife where I had like a friend,
you know, and I wasn't sure howto go about expanding that and
so.
But here's some ideas.
If you are looking to addpeople to your community, you
(12:10):
can look at churches I mean wedo Bible-based churches where
it's not really, you know,baptist or Presbyterian or
Catholic, it's just aBible-based, and what that means
is that they preach out of theBible.
Like you're going to learnabout what's in the Bible when
you go to a sermon at a Biblechurch, and that's what I love
about it, because I like tolearn and that just works for me
(12:31):
.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
We got student organizations too.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
Yep Student organizations If you're in
college or high school.
Speaker 2 (12:37):
Workplace sometimes.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
Yeah, workplace, you can be a little careful.
Don't date the boss, maybe, butyou know, don't go out, yeah,
but there's, you know peoplethere.
You've got friends of friends.
I mean, how many times do youmeet somebody and you become
good friends?
Well then, you're connected totheir network as well, because
of that, and vice versa.
Yeah, and then my favorite onethat you said Get a dog and go
to a dog park.
(13:00):
And hey, if you can't get a dogbecause you can't have one in
your apartment or you don't havethe money to take care of a dog
, you can always borrow a dogand take it to the park.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
Just ask your neighbor.
Ask your neighbor, yeah.
Ask your friend.
Can I take a dog to the dogpark?
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
They won't say, no, give them a break, right, oh
yeah.
But they may say, I want to gowith you and you get another
friend Can.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
I get a dog into the street lately.
Oh my gosh.
It'd be like a.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
That'd be a crazy day at the park.
It'd be a yeah, dog issomething else, dog's got some
energy, anyway, but that's agreat.
I mean people, what's going onthere?
is you're finding someone withthe same common, a common A
commonality, yeah, common,something in common that you
have with somebody else.
(13:45):
You know you're at a dog park.
You all have dogs, yeah, soit's so easy to strike up a
conversation.
You start with the dog how oldis your dog?
Your dog is so adorable, um,you know what kind of dog is
that?
I mean you, can, so go there, Iknow.
Yeah, can I get your phonenumber?
You want to hang out?
Speaker 2 (14:04):
for coffee.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
You can do so many things with that yeah, I love
that, so that's an easy one yeahyou just gotta get the dog yeah
, that's the hard part, yeah.
So, to have healthyrelationships, we need to be
able to communicate, we need tobe able to navigate conflicts,
set boundaries and we have tohave mutual respect regardless
(14:28):
of our differences.
And I think that is soimportant and I want to say that
again mutual respect regardlessof our differences important
and I want to say that againmutual respect regardless of our
differences.
I don't see that in ourpolitics these days.
You know, in the big world andsome you know political parties
here.
Yeah, that's what I meant thepolitical parties here, it's
(14:53):
just a constant.
Okay, you know you're wrong ifyou believe that and it
shouldn't be that way.
Yeah, so try to remember thatwhen you're dealing with people,
everyone's got their ownopinion and how they feel about
different things, and try torespect that.
You might learn something aboutthat.
Maybe you can't, don't want tobe their best friend because of
that, but that's okay, you know,you can still be nice and
respectable.
Yeah, so anyway, oh, and here'sthe other thing.
(15:18):
If you want to learn more aboutsome of these ideas, or you're
going to communication, what arethey talking about?
Like, do I communicate?
Well, I don't know, how do I,how do I swallow when someone
doesn't agree with me?
If you want to hear about, youknow us talk about some of these
topics hear about you, know ustalk about some of these topics
please message us, reach out tous.
Speaker 2 (15:37):
We want to hear from y'all.
We really do.
So.
The more interaction we get,the better we feel, and we're
trying to.
We're trying to.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
We're trying to help you.
That's what we're here for.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
We're trying to evolve and grow this and yeah.
Speaker 1 (15:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
Reach out to us, um, leave a message, anything you
know, right, go to the website.
Speaker 1 (15:50):
You can leave a message.
You can leave a message.
You can leave a message at thetop of the show notes on every
single episode.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
Um totally have ways, yeah, yeah, so it'd be
appreciated, much appreciated um, okay.
Speaker 1 (16:02):
And then lastly, we have our psychological
well-being, and I think this issort of like, if you kind of
look at it, like, uh, a ratingof your happiness overall,
overall picture, right.
And then some you know.
Some things that you can kindof look at to answer that
question are, yeah, yourself-acceptance.
Do you really have a positiveattitude about yourself, you
(16:23):
know?
Do you love yourself?
Do you like who you are?
Another thing is positiverelationships with others, you
know.
Do you have meaningfulrelationships with people?
If not, do you have meaningfulrelationships with people?
If not, maybe you're not happy.
Maybe you want to expand that,do you?
What about personal growth?
Do you continue here's myspeaker, I apologize Do you
(16:51):
continue to develop?
Do you welcome new experiences?
Are you looking?
Are you willing to improve inyour behaviors and your yourself
as a whole?
You know, sometimes when I, I'm, someone points something out
to me, um, you know, then I go,you know what I think they're
right, I'll think about that.
They're right and I, I do wantto improve that.
I want to be, I want to bebetter in that area.
Speaker 2 (17:13):
So, looking at um, take some feedback and realize
feedback and self-reflection.
Yeah, yeah, I trust it.
Speaker 1 (17:22):
Yeah, and then a purpose in life.
Do you set goals for your life,you know?
Are you intentionable,intentional about meeting those
goals?
I think that um a lot of peopledon't know how to set goals.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
I don't think so.
Speaker 1 (17:34):
Yeah, and I know we talked about that in one of our
episodes.
So if you're one of thosepeople that say I don't set
goals and I don't know how orwhere to begin, you might check
back on a previous episode forthat or message us and we'll
come up with some more materialon it, exactly.
And then autonomy Are youindependent and can you regulate
(17:56):
your behavior despite socialpressures?
I'm really good at that.
I think you are.
Yeah, I'm really proud of youfor that, thank you.
Yeah, you have your own mindabout what's right or wrong.
Speaker 2 (18:06):
And regulating my behavior despite social
pressures, you know.
If I don't agree with something, I'm just not going to disagree
or agree with it.
You know, if I don't agree withsomething, I'm just not going
to disagree or agree with it.
Speaker 1 (18:14):
Yeah, just to go along, but I'm going to regulate
my behavior.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
You know I'm not going to freak out over it, make
a big scene and all that.
Speaker 1 (18:20):
Right.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
So yeah.
Speaker 1 (18:23):
Yeah, so anyway, overall, you know, there's just
many different benefits totaking care of yourself mentally
and many things to consider asyou look at this, this topic,
for yourself.
So I think that's our show fortoday.
I think so.
Appreciate y'all listening.
Speaker 2 (18:39):
We do appreciate you tuning in.
Uh, we hope you found somethingof value.
Uh, we'll see you back herenext week when we talk about
more ways to live a healthylifestyle.
Thank you, Jesus, for thisepisode.
Speaker 1 (18:50):
And remember you are not alone.
Speaker 2 (18:53):
Make it a great day and we'll see you next week.
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