August 1, 2024 • 16 mins
Could negative thinking be the silent saboteur of your happiness? Discover how stress, overwhelming responsibilities, and self-criticism can anchor you in a negative mindset, and more importantly, learn the strategies to break free. Join Debbie and Greg as they unpack the pernicious effects of negative self-talk and emphasize the importance of focusing on your strengths and positive attributes. Drawing from Psalm 139:14, they remind us that everyone is fearfully and wonderfully made, encouraging listeners to shed the weight of past failures and embrace a hopeful future. They also discuss how world events and media can amplify negativity and offer tips to stay vigilant against these influences.
Negativity from close relationships can often shape one's outlook on life more than we realize. Debbie and Greg delve into the impact of spending time with negative people and how their attitudes can transform us. Through self-awareness and conscious effort, they show how to foster a more positive mindset and improve overall quality of life. Reflecting on Proverbs 4:23, they emphasize the importance of guarding one’s heart and nurturing positive attributes. Stay tuned to hear an exciting announcement about their upcoming vacation, and don’t miss the heartfelt gratitude they share for their listeners' unwavering support. This episode is a beacon of hope, encouragement, and a reminder that you are not alone in your journey.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello and welcome to another episode of the you Are
Not Alone podcast.
My name is Debbie Gold and I'mhere with my co-host and son,
greg, and we are so glad thatyou're here with us.
Each week on this show, we willtalk about informative issues,
issues that will make you thinkand help you grow.
It is our wish that you willfind hope, encouragement and a
(00:22):
little bit of Jesus in everyepisode.
Find hope, encouragement and alittle bit of Jesus in every
episode.
Hello, welcome to anotherepisode of the you Are Not Alone
podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
This is Debbie.
I'm Greg.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
And we are finishing up our series on healthy living,
and today we're going to betalking about negative thinking.
So it's come up in our, it'sbeen brought to our attention in
many ways recently and we'relike we need to podcast about
that.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
Yeah, they're all like talking with people in the
current state of the world justso many different things.
Right now it's like we've gotto touch on this.
Speaker 1 (00:58):
Yeah, so here we are, All right, so we're going to
get started on that in just aminute.
Just want to remind you of afew things.
We have our website up now andyou can go to that at debbie,
d-e-b-b-i-e and greggoldcom.
Also, if you have commentsabout today's show or some
(01:19):
things that you would like tohear us speak to maybe something
you're struggling with yourselfor have questions about you can
go to the show notes andthere's a little button there, a
place to click.
It says send us a text message,so you can send us a message
there.
Um, also, we're really excitedand we talked, we mentioned this
(01:41):
last week, but we are now onour.
Our podcast episodes are now on.
YouTube, and so you can find usthere as well.
So let's get started, greg.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Let's do it.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
All right.
Negative thinking yeah, how dowe get into that Negative
thinking?
Speaker 2 (02:01):
I think you put I don't know.
I think it's a combination ofthings like sometimes stress,
you know you can just thinknegative or too many things
going on in your life.
I think there's a bunch ofdifferent reasons.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
Yeah, I see that you know, when there's so much going
on in my life, or maybe my day,man, I can just go down that.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
Or when nothing seems to be like going right.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
I can be so like.
This is horrible.
I'm never going to get throughall this.
Why me?
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Oh yeah, negative self-talk, right yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
So there's a lot of that going on in my head when I
have days like that.
Yeah, so that's just thereality of it all.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
And I'm sure y'all can relate to that.
Yeah, that is true.
Um, I mean, think about it.
You're seeing, when you pointout the negative, you're
pointing out like weaknesses,failures, stuff that like wasn't
good enough, or just theopposite of the positive,
basically, and it just drags youdown.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
Yeah.
So when we look at ourselves,basically yeah.
Yeah, if we focus so much onour like you said weaknesses,
our failures are um, all that,yeah, that's not good, that's
not healthy.
Those are important things toknow about yourself, I think, uh
, and cause you want to work onthose Right, but I think we we
really need to put that emphasison good things about ourselves,
(03:25):
like you know, make a list.
If you can't name a couplethings off right now on the top
of your head, sit down and make.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
Make a list, because there are definitely positive
things also like realizing whyyou're like catching yourself
when you're saying negativethings.
You know because sometimes youcan say stuff without even
knowing it yeah so you just getcaught up in it, paying
attention to your thinking andwhat you're telling yourself the
negative self-talk.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
I think we did.
Didn't we do an episode onnegative self-talk?
Speaker 2 (03:50):
we did.
Yeah, I think we did.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
Maybe that's another thing to go back and reference
for for our listeners.
Um, yeah, so I think, uh, youknow what we were saying is
putting the emphasis on goodthings.
The Bible says I love this.
In the Bible, psalm, chapter139, verse 14, says I praise you
(04:15):
because I am fearfully andwonderfully made.
Your works are wonderful, soGod's made you how you are right
, and you know he's always got aplan for us.
And so I think that we have toreally, you know, focus on where
you're at, focus on thepositive focus on what God has
(04:37):
created you to be.
And I really want to add inhere that your history does not
define who you are.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
Yeah, that's good.
I agree and God defines whoyou're going to become there you
go.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
So if you get anything from this message today
, please take that with you,because that is so important,
because we all have a past andwe all have some ugly and we all
have things that we're notproud of.
Um, but guess what?
That doesn't define who we aretoday Nobody's perfect, nobody's
perfect.
Absolutely.
We were not created that way.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
I think another thing I want to say about like
negativities, like we see it sooften in our current world.
I mean, you turn on the news.
What's it going to be about?
The war?
Uh, the border cry, the bordercrisis, just different things
like that.
It's never on the positive.
I don't even know the last timeI turned on the news network
and saw something positive.
(05:31):
Yeah, like some breaking newsor something like that.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
You've got me thinking and I'm going, oh wow.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
Mm-hmm yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Yeah, I mean today even just the Hamas leader, the
whole thing.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
Yeah, the Hamas leader and all that.
It's just they're talking aboutretaliation and the possibility
of another.
It's just like almost fearmongering.
So, yeah, just dragging youdown.
My dad always used to say thattoo.
He's like you always look atthe negative and you never look
at the positive, and that isreally true, so it's a really uh
important way to think about it.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
Yeah, I think too.
Looking at news and I don'tknow politics I suppose Media,
yeah, media, I don't know Justall of it.
It's kind of global.
It feels like there's so muchwith the election coming up in
November for a new president.
There's so much politicalbashing going on right now.
Well, I think there has been,ever since Trump came into
(06:30):
office, back you know what?
Two term, a term ago or twoterms ago, however you want to
look at it.
But, um, you know, I feel likeeveryone is just they're.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
They're at each other's yes and they're so
negative toward one anotherbecause, politics is a sensitive
topic and that's where peopleput their feelings into, and you
know it is that's where peopleput their feelings into.
It is that's where peopleattack people from both sides,
and all that.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
Right, but here's a couple things.
Both sides are guilty of this.
They accuse the other side ofdoing things that really they're
not true, or they put slants onthings.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Or labels, yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
And I know last week we talked about, you know,
respecting others' differencesand opinions.
You don't have to agree withthem, but you have to respect
them.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
As a human being.
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
So, gosh, who do we talk to?
Yeah, I would so love to seeless of that kind of stuff that
goes on in the media.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
Yeah, yeah, it's all in the negative.
Now I've noticed Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
So what else I know?
Oh gosh, a couple of things arehitting home with me right now.
Um, growing up in a negativeenvironment, there you go.
I'm not sure I would say myenvironment was negative, but I
know people that did come from anegative environment and that
(07:52):
has an effect.
I mean it.
It can't.
I mean knowing what I knowabout.
You know my social work, mysocial work background and stuff
that you know.
Our environment, you know we'rea product of what we are.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
It determines when we came.
Speaker 1 (08:08):
It has an effect on us.
It does so, but that doesn'tmean it has to define you like
we were talking about.
It means that you may have this.
Because of that, you may benegative, because that's what
you've heard in your family alot.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
That's where you came from, or whatever.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
Yeah, but you have the ability to change that.
Yes, absolutely Absolutely, andthat's why we're here to help
you, you know, think about thosethings and think about what you
might be able to do differently.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
That is so true.
Yeah, like negative people canhave such an influence.
Like, let's say, parents aresuper negative and the kids are
growing up um your kids around anegative parent the entire time
that kid's gonna grow up to bea negative nancy basically, and
just negative nancy notappreciate stuff and just look
at did you make that up?
Speaker 1 (08:51):
I've heard it before sometime, a long time ago.
Yeah, oh, negative, nelly iswhat I is that that it?
Speaker 2 (08:57):
Yeah?
Well, there you go.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
You know, just got to be an N word, Sorry if you're a
Nancy or Nelly, yeah, yeah.
I think the other thing I'veexperienced personally is I've
hung out with negative people.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
And I got negative.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
Yeah, it kind of spreads.
I got negative.
Yeah, it kinda spreads.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
I got sucked into that and that wasn't a good
thing, because I was a prettyhappy person and positive.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
And then that it just was an influence.
What was like the change thatyou started to notice?
Speaker 1 (09:34):
Well, I started complaining and griping like
they did.
It wasn't.
It was like you know, likegoing well, complaining about
little stuff.
Just like.
Well, right, so my order gotwrong.
You know my order came to mewrong.
It never works.
Let's just fix it.
You know it's not a big dealand you know going from that to
(09:54):
bashing the place because theyscrewed up.
Speaker 2 (09:57):
Yeah, oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
You know, you see that difference there.
Yeah, yeah, Like it was like.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
oh well, it goes from being understanding to putting
blame on someone to puttingblame on someone.
Yeah exactly, I can see thatyeah.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
And that's just a little example and I don't even
know if that was reallysomething I experienced, but I'm
just trying to come up withsomething to illustrate it makes
sense yeah.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
But you just, you find someone to blame or
something or you're in thatnegative environment or
headspace.
Speaker 1 (10:21):
Well, yeah, because that's where you're at.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
yeah, and then you just go there yeah but, I don't
know it's who you hang aroundwith.
Sometimes it will peopleinfluence us.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
It's like you know, I always said to kids show me
your friends and I'll show youyour future.
I mean that that doesn't justgo with friend, I mean with
young people that's for all ofus, for all yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (10:44):
So young and old.
Speaker 1 (10:45):
That is really true, Well wait, are you calling me
old?
Speaker 2 (10:49):
No, everyone that listens, anyone that wants to
listen, you got a little squirmy.
Speaker 1 (10:57):
That's funny.
Oh good Anyway.
So yeah, I don't know.
It's not healthy to be negative.
I think that's where I'mfeeling I need to think about it
just really can be a bad scene.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
Being negative throughout life can be harmful,
because it can lead to chronicstress which can adversely
affect your heart, your immunesystem, your overall well-being.
It impacts your mental healthtoo.
It builds anxiety, depressionand I don't know.
It feels like a crappy qualityof life, I guess yeah because
(11:40):
ask yourself this why would youwant to be?
Speaker 1 (11:43):
down and negative and unhappy versus being uplifting,
smiling Bright positive yes.
All those things, I mean gosh.
That's like a no-brainer, right.
So the good news is that, youknow, with God's help, or with
our focus on knowing that wehave an issue with this, we can
change it.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
Well, I mean, if you realize that you have an issue
within the first place, thenthat's great.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
Because some people are just yeah, that's like the
first step for a lot of things.
So absolutely yeah, so um alsolike relationships too.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
If you're negative all the time and you're trying
to build up relationships, it'slike not fun to be around.
So true, it's just it's neverlike fun.
It's always complaining aboutthis, complaining about that,
that it wears you out.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Very true.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
It can make it more hard for people to understand
you, I guess, or get the pointacross.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
True yeah, absolutely .
Speaker 2 (12:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
And you're right.
You don't want to be aroundpeople like that.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
Mm-mm.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
Yeah, I guess we all have a little bit of that in us,
or maybe some more than others,I don't know.
Nobody's perfect at all, so Iknow I can be negative sometimes
Me too.
Just being real.
Speaker 2 (12:52):
Yeah, me too so.
Speaker 1 (12:54):
But it's not becoming Mm.
Hmm, yeah, so Anyway, I don'tknow.
It's really interesting thatyou're talking about the whole.
You know how being negative canaffect you, because we really
have been talking about.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
It affects your life and it can affect you yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:14):
Yeah, and we have been talking about how are we
living.
You know to live healthier, andso this really truly does tie
in.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
It's the complete opposite of it.
Basically, yes, so, because ifyou're just in a negative
environment all the time,nothing good comes out of that.
So nothing at all so no,totally agree.
Speaker 1 (13:36):
Okay, so I want to.
I think I want to end with.
I was doing some reading umstudy stuff yesterday, I guess,
and I know we were going to betalking about this topic and I
(13:57):
came across Proverbs 4.23.
Sorry, my contacts are dry.
Okay, details, I'm not beingnegative.
And that says Proverbs.
4.23 says Above all else, guideyour heart, for everything you
do flows from it, and I reallythought that was a good
(14:17):
scripture and a great way to endthis episode.
If we have a good heart and wehave a heart that is positive.
We're happy, we don't bejudgmental.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
Full of love.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
Yeah, it's full of love, love for others.
We don't gossip, we don't doall those harmful things that
sometimes feel like they're justkind of funny and it makes you
feel good.
Stop it.
We can't do that, no more,right?
So I think that's what's reallyimportant about this verse.
You know again, above all else,guard your heart, for
everything you do flows from it,and I know that personally
(14:58):
speaking yeah, it's justchanging your heart and well,
when you're trying to be better,right so, and when you change
your heart, guess what?
your mind is changed, right?
Life starts to change too,absolutely.
Speaker 2 (15:07):
Your life starts to change too.
Speaker 1 (15:07):
Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (15:08):
Your life starts to get a little better.
You don't have these issuesthat you had before.
You build stronger connectionswith people because they realize
, oh, this guy used to be alldown every single time and now
he's up and going, he's allhappy, he's got a different
outlook on life.
Those are fun people to bearound.
Speaker 1 (15:34):
They are happy.
He's got a different outlook onlife.
Like.
Those are fun people to bearound.
They are absolutely well, superup and happy ones.
Yeah, yeah, so well said.
I love that.
Yeah, good, good example.
Setting an example that way, um, okay, well, uh, is our show
for today right, unless you guyssomething else, I think that's
all for me okay, a short andsweet today.
Yeah, um, we do appreciate youguys tuning in and we hope that
you found some value in what wetalked about today.
Uh, call of action for everyonewe're going to ask you to stay
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focused on thinking positivelyand when you find yourself being
negative, correct yourselfcatch yourself, then correct
yourself.
Yep, catch and correct.
Mm-hmm, I feel like I'm goingfishing.
Oh yeah, there you go, catchand at least catch and correct.
Anyway, we'll see you back herenext week.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1 (16:16):
Greg is taking a little vacation.
I'm taking a little vacation,so we'll be back.
Speaker 2 (16:21):
We may be talking about that, so we'll update you
for sure, so it'll be funAbsolutely.
So yeah, we'll update you forsure, so it'll be fun.
Speaker 1 (16:25):
Absolutely.
I'm excited for you.
Speaker 2 (16:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
All right, so we'll see you back here next week, and
thank you, jesus, for thisepisode and for the scripture
that you placed on my heart.
Just remember you're not alone.
Make it a great day.
We'll see you soon.
Hello and welcome to another episode of the you Are
Not Alone podcast.
My name is Debbie Gold and I'mhere with my co-host and son,
greg, and we are so glad thatyou're here with us.
Each week on this show, we willtalk about informative issues,
issues that will make you thinkand help you grow.
It is our wish that you willfind hope, encouragement and a
(00:22):
little bit of Jesus in everyepisode.
Find hope, encouragement and alittle bit of Jesus in every
episode.
Hello, welcome to anotherepisode of the you Are Not Alone
podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
This is Debbie.
I'm Greg.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
And we are finishing up our series on healthy living,
and today we're going to betalking about negative thinking.
So it's come up in our, it'sbeen brought to our attention in
many ways recently and we'relike we need to podcast about
that.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
Yeah, they're all like talking with people in the
current state of the world justso many different things.
Right now it's like we've gotto touch on this.
Speaker 1 (00:58):
Yeah, so here we are, All right, so we're going to
get started on that in just aminute.
Just want to remind you of afew things.
We have our website up now andyou can go to that at debbie,
d-e-b-b-i-e and greggoldcom.
Also, if you have commentsabout today's show or some
(01:19):
things that you would like tohear us speak to maybe something
you're struggling with yourselfor have questions about you can
go to the show notes andthere's a little button there, a
place to click.
It says send us a text message,so you can send us a message
there.
Um, also, we're really excitedand we talked, we mentioned this
(01:41):
last week, but we are now onour.
Our podcast episodes are now on.
YouTube, and so you can find usthere as well.
So let's get started, greg.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Let's do it.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
All right.
Negative thinking yeah, how dowe get into that Negative
thinking?
Speaker 2 (02:01):
I think you put I don't know.
I think it's a combination ofthings like sometimes stress,
you know you can just thinknegative or too many things
going on in your life.
I think there's a bunch ofdifferent reasons.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
Yeah, I see that you know, when there's so much going
on in my life, or maybe my day,man, I can just go down that.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
Or when nothing seems to be like going right.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
I can be so like.
This is horrible.
I'm never going to get throughall this.
Why me?
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Oh yeah, negative self-talk, right yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
So there's a lot of that going on in my head when I
have days like that.
Yeah, so that's just thereality of it all.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
And I'm sure y'all can relate to that.
Yeah, that is true.
Um, I mean, think about it.
You're seeing, when you pointout the negative, you're
pointing out like weaknesses,failures, stuff that like wasn't
good enough, or just theopposite of the positive,
basically, and it just drags youdown.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
Yeah.
So when we look at ourselves,basically yeah.
Yeah, if we focus so much onour like you said weaknesses,
our failures are um, all that,yeah, that's not good, that's
not healthy.
Those are important things toknow about yourself, I think, uh
, and cause you want to work onthose Right, but I think we we
really need to put that emphasison good things about ourselves,
(03:25):
like you know, make a list.
If you can't name a couplethings off right now on the top
of your head, sit down and make.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
Make a list, because there are definitely positive
things also like realizing whyyou're like catching yourself
when you're saying negativethings.
You know because sometimes youcan say stuff without even
knowing it yeah so you just getcaught up in it, paying
attention to your thinking andwhat you're telling yourself the
negative self-talk.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
I think we did.
Didn't we do an episode onnegative self-talk?
Speaker 2 (03:50):
we did.
Yeah, I think we did.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
Maybe that's another thing to go back and reference
for for our listeners.
Um, yeah, so I think, uh, youknow what we were saying is
putting the emphasis on goodthings.
The Bible says I love this.
In the Bible, psalm, chapter139, verse 14, says I praise you
(04:15):
because I am fearfully andwonderfully made.
Your works are wonderful, soGod's made you how you are right
, and you know he's always got aplan for us.
And so I think that we have toreally, you know, focus on where
you're at, focus on thepositive focus on what God has
(04:37):
created you to be.
And I really want to add inhere that your history does not
define who you are.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
Yeah, that's good.
I agree and God defines whoyou're going to become there you
go.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
So if you get anything from this message today
, please take that with you,because that is so important,
because we all have a past andwe all have some ugly and we all
have things that we're notproud of.
Um, but guess what?
That doesn't define who we aretoday Nobody's perfect, nobody's
perfect.
Absolutely.
We were not created that way.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
I think another thing I want to say about like
negativities, like we see it sooften in our current world.
I mean, you turn on the news.
What's it going to be about?
The war?
Uh, the border cry, the bordercrisis, just different things
like that.
It's never on the positive.
I don't even know the last timeI turned on the news network
and saw something positive.
(05:31):
Yeah, like some breaking newsor something like that.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
You've got me thinking and I'm going, oh wow.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
Mm-hmm yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Yeah, I mean today even just the Hamas leader, the
whole thing.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
Yeah, the Hamas leader and all that.
It's just they're talking aboutretaliation and the possibility
of another.
It's just like almost fearmongering.
So, yeah, just dragging youdown.
My dad always used to say thattoo.
He's like you always look atthe negative and you never look
at the positive, and that isreally true, so it's a really uh
important way to think about it.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
Yeah, I think too.
Looking at news and I don'tknow politics I suppose Media,
yeah, media, I don't know Justall of it.
It's kind of global.
It feels like there's so muchwith the election coming up in
November for a new president.
There's so much politicalbashing going on right now.
Well, I think there has been,ever since Trump came into
(06:30):
office, back you know what?
Two term, a term ago or twoterms ago, however you want to
look at it.
But, um, you know, I feel likeeveryone is just they're.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
They're at each other's yes and they're so
negative toward one anotherbecause, politics is a sensitive
topic and that's where peopleput their feelings into, and you
know it is that's where peopleput their feelings into.
It is that's where peopleattack people from both sides,
and all that.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
Right, but here's a couple things.
Both sides are guilty of this.
They accuse the other side ofdoing things that really they're
not true, or they put slants onthings.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Or labels, yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
And I know last week we talked about, you know,
respecting others' differencesand opinions.
You don't have to agree withthem, but you have to respect
them.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
As a human being.
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
So, gosh, who do we talk to?
Yeah, I would so love to seeless of that kind of stuff that
goes on in the media.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
Yeah, yeah, it's all in the negative.
Now I've noticed Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
So what else I know?
Oh gosh, a couple of things arehitting home with me right now.
Um, growing up in a negativeenvironment, there you go.
I'm not sure I would say myenvironment was negative, but I
know people that did come from anegative environment and that
(07:52):
has an effect.
I mean it.
It can't.
I mean knowing what I knowabout.
You know my social work, mysocial work background and stuff
that you know.
Our environment, you know we'rea product of what we are.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
It determines when we came.
Speaker 1 (08:08):
It has an effect on us.
It does so, but that doesn'tmean it has to define you like
we were talking about.
It means that you may have this.
Because of that, you may benegative, because that's what
you've heard in your family alot.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
That's where you came from, or whatever.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
Yeah, but you have the ability to change that.
Yes, absolutely Absolutely, andthat's why we're here to help
you, you know, think about thosethings and think about what you
might be able to do differently.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
That is so true.
Yeah, like negative people canhave such an influence.
Like, let's say, parents aresuper negative and the kids are
growing up um your kids around anegative parent the entire time
that kid's gonna grow up to bea negative nancy basically, and
just negative nancy notappreciate stuff and just look
at did you make that up?
Speaker 1 (08:51):
I've heard it before sometime, a long time ago.
Yeah, oh, negative, nelly iswhat I is that that it?
Speaker 2 (08:57):
Yeah?
Well, there you go.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
You know, just got to be an N word, Sorry if you're a
Nancy or Nelly, yeah, yeah.
I think the other thing I'veexperienced personally is I've
hung out with negative people.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
And I got negative.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
Yeah, it kind of spreads.
I got negative.
Yeah, it kinda spreads.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
I got sucked into that and that wasn't a good
thing, because I was a prettyhappy person and positive.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
And then that it just was an influence.
What was like the change thatyou started to notice?
Speaker 1 (09:34):
Well, I started complaining and griping like
they did.
It wasn't.
It was like you know, likegoing well, complaining about
little stuff.
Just like.
Well, right, so my order gotwrong.
You know my order came to mewrong.
It never works.
Let's just fix it.
You know it's not a big dealand you know going from that to
(09:54):
bashing the place because theyscrewed up.
Speaker 2 (09:57):
Yeah, oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
You know, you see that difference there.
Yeah, yeah, Like it was like.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
oh well, it goes from being understanding to putting
blame on someone to puttingblame on someone.
Yeah exactly, I can see thatyeah.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
And that's just a little example and I don't even
know if that was reallysomething I experienced, but I'm
just trying to come up withsomething to illustrate it makes
sense yeah.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
But you just, you find someone to blame or
something or you're in thatnegative environment or
headspace.
Speaker 1 (10:21):
Well, yeah, because that's where you're at.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
yeah, and then you just go there yeah but, I don't
know it's who you hang aroundwith.
Sometimes it will peopleinfluence us.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
It's like you know, I always said to kids show me
your friends and I'll show youyour future.
I mean that that doesn't justgo with friend, I mean with
young people that's for all ofus, for all yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (10:44):
So young and old.
Speaker 1 (10:45):
That is really true, Well wait, are you calling me
old?
Speaker 2 (10:49):
No, everyone that listens, anyone that wants to
listen, you got a little squirmy.
Speaker 1 (10:57):
That's funny.
Oh good Anyway.
So yeah, I don't know.
It's not healthy to be negative.
I think that's where I'mfeeling I need to think about it
just really can be a bad scene.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
Being negative throughout life can be harmful,
because it can lead to chronicstress which can adversely
affect your heart, your immunesystem, your overall well-being.
It impacts your mental healthtoo.
It builds anxiety, depressionand I don't know.
It feels like a crappy qualityof life, I guess yeah because
(11:40):
ask yourself this why would youwant to be?
Speaker 1 (11:43):
down and negative and unhappy versus being uplifting,
smiling Bright positive yes.
All those things, I mean gosh.
That's like a no-brainer, right.
So the good news is that, youknow, with God's help, or with
our focus on knowing that wehave an issue with this, we can
change it.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
Well, I mean, if you realize that you have an issue
within the first place, thenthat's great.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
Because some people are just yeah, that's like the
first step for a lot of things.
So absolutely yeah, so um alsolike relationships too.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
If you're negative all the time and you're trying
to build up relationships, it'slike not fun to be around.
So true, it's just it's neverlike fun.
It's always complaining aboutthis, complaining about that,
that it wears you out.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Very true.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
It can make it more hard for people to understand
you, I guess, or get the pointacross.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
True yeah, absolutely .
Speaker 2 (12:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
And you're right.
You don't want to be aroundpeople like that.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
Mm-mm.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
Yeah, I guess we all have a little bit of that in us,
or maybe some more than others,I don't know.
Nobody's perfect at all, so Iknow I can be negative sometimes
Me too.
Just being real.
Speaker 2 (12:52):
Yeah, me too so.
Speaker 1 (12:54):
But it's not becoming Mm.
Hmm, yeah, so Anyway, I don'tknow.
It's really interesting thatyou're talking about the whole.
You know how being negative canaffect you, because we really
have been talking about.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
It affects your life and it can affect you yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:14):
Yeah, and we have been talking about how are we
living.
You know to live healthier, andso this really truly does tie
in.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
It's the complete opposite of it.
Basically, yes, so, because ifyou're just in a negative
environment all the time,nothing good comes out of that.
So nothing at all so no,totally agree.
Speaker 1 (13:36):
Okay, so I want to.
I think I want to end with.
I was doing some reading umstudy stuff yesterday, I guess,
and I know we were going to betalking about this topic and I
(13:57):
came across Proverbs 4.23.
Sorry, my contacts are dry.
Okay, details, I'm not beingnegative.
And that says Proverbs.
4.23 says Above all else, guideyour heart, for everything you
do flows from it, and I reallythought that was a good
(14:17):
scripture and a great way to endthis episode.
If we have a good heart and wehave a heart that is positive.
We're happy, we don't bejudgmental.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
Full of love.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
Yeah, it's full of love, love for others.
We don't gossip, we don't doall those harmful things that
sometimes feel like they're justkind of funny and it makes you
feel good.
Stop it.
We can't do that, no more,right?
So I think that's what's reallyimportant about this verse.
You know again, above all else,guard your heart, for
everything you do flows from it,and I know that personally
(14:58):
speaking yeah, it's justchanging your heart and well,
when you're trying to be better,right so, and when you change
your heart, guess what?
your mind is changed, right?
Life starts to change too,absolutely.
Speaker 2 (15:07):
Your life starts to change too.
Speaker 1 (15:07):
Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (15:08):
Your life starts to get a little better.
You don't have these issuesthat you had before.
You build stronger connectionswith people because they realize
, oh, this guy used to be alldown every single time and now
he's up and going, he's allhappy, he's got a different
outlook on life.
Those are fun people to bearound.
Speaker 1 (15:34):
They are happy.
He's got a different outlook onlife.
Like.
Those are fun people to bearound.
They are absolutely well, superup and happy ones.
Yeah, yeah, so well said.
I love that.
Yeah, good, good example.
Setting an example that way, um, okay, well, uh, is our show
for today right, unless you guyssomething else, I think that's
all for me okay, a short andsweet today.
Yeah, um, we do appreciate youguys tuning in and we hope that
you found some value in what wetalked about today.
Uh, call of action for everyonewe're going to ask you to stay
(15:57):
focused on thinking positivelyand when you find yourself being
negative, correct yourselfcatch yourself, then correct
yourself.
Yep, catch and correct.
Mm-hmm, I feel like I'm goingfishing.
Oh yeah, there you go, catchand at least catch and correct.
Anyway, we'll see you back herenext week.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1 (16:16):
Greg is taking a little vacation.
I'm taking a little vacation,so we'll be back.
Speaker 2 (16:21):
We may be talking about that, so we'll update you
for sure, so it'll be funAbsolutely.
So yeah, we'll update you forsure, so it'll be fun.
Speaker 1 (16:25):
Absolutely.
I'm excited for you.
Speaker 2 (16:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
All right, so we'll see you back here next week, and
thank you, jesus, for thisepisode and for the scripture
that you placed on my heart.
Just remember you're not alone.
Make it a great day.
We'll see you soon.
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