January 12, 2024 • 22 mins
As we shake off the quiet of our holiday respite, Debbie and I unfurl the intricate tapestry of language in our heartfelt exchange. We've all grappled with those moments where words escaped us or, worse, where they've flown out unbidden, shaping reality in their wake. Our conversation threads through the spectrum of language's impact—from the biblical to the everyday—highlighting the undeniable power that words have in molding our lives and the connections we hold dear. Through laughter and earnest reflection, we peel back the layers of family life, puncturing the facade of perfection to celebrate the genuine, albeit messy, growth that stems from heartfelt communication.
Together, we weave a narrative that underscores the majesty of gratitude and the fortitude of encouragement, sharing tales steeped in the simple yet profound gestures that fortify bonds and soothe the soul. We recount the moments where a truck's early morning rumble or the quiet understanding between friends became the cornerstone of a renewed perspective, the kind of stories that illustrate how the echoes of our language can resonate with healing and comfort. And as each chapter unfolds, we invite you to join us in harnessing the art of encouraging words, reminding ourselves that amid life's solitary battles, the right words can be a lighthouse guiding us back to shared shores.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello and welcome to another episode of the you Are
Not Alone podcast.
My name is Debbie Gold and I'mhere with my co-host and son,
greg.
We are so glad that you're herewith us.
Each week on this show, we willtalk about informative issues,
issues that will make you thinkand help you grow.
It is our wish that you willfind hope, encouragement and a
(00:22):
little visit Jesus in everyepisode.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
Welcome back to the you Are Not Alone podcast.
Greg and I are here.
We took a break over theChristmas holiday, a bit of an
extended break, but we are backand just want to say hope you
had a merry Christmas and ahappy new year.
And a happy new year.
Speaker 3 (00:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
So today we want to talk about speaking life-giving
words.
Our words, they can reallychange the course of our lives.
I wonder if you ever thoughtabout that.
Speaker 3 (00:59):
I mean, yeah, words are powerful.
I mean it's the main way wecommunicate with people.
It can have a negative orpositive effect, whatever you
say, and some words can havemore power than others.
I think yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
Yeah, I think there's a lot of power in our words and
we can do a whole lot of goodwith them when we speak positive
, encouraging words aboutourselves or to ourselves, about
our lives and to other people,because it can build us up and
it can build up the people inour lives too when we do it to
others.
Speaker 3 (01:35):
Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
Or the opposite is true we can tear others and
ourselves apart if we choose touse negative words.
I wanted to read just somescripture from the Bible.
It's James 3, chapter 3, verses4 through 5.
And it says when we put I'msorry, let me re-do that it's
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James 3, verses 4 through 5.
Or take ships as an example.
Although they are so large andare driven by strong winds, they
are steered by a very smallrudder wherever the pilot wants
to go.
Likewise, the tongue is a smallpart of the body, but it makes
great boasts.
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Consider what a great forest isset on fire by a small spark.
Speaker 3 (02:32):
Basically what I say before little things can have a
huge impact on things.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
Little things can have a huge impact.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
A little spark from the wind or nature or something
like that, it can set an entireforest ablaze.
Speaker 2 (02:50):
Yes, it can destroy a whole.
Destroy, destroy, that's a keyword.
Speaker 3 (02:55):
Likewise, tongue is a small part of the body's great
boasts.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
Yes, and it can destroy like a fire and we can
change the course like a rudderof the people in our lives by
the way we talk to them.
It can be negative or positive.
Right, so do we want to liftpeople up or we want to tear
them down.
Of course, our intentionsaren't to tear people down, but
we do say things that hurtpeople.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
We might not realize it too sometimes.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
You know it's funny.
I was thinking about the otherday and I asked if you.
I was home for lunch and Iasked if you could cook, make up
some taco meat.
And I went into the kitchen.
I was thinking, oh, I don'tknow if it's ready, and it
looked like you had cooked itand it was.
You put the sauce and all thatin there, the seasoning, and it
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looked like it was off theburner.
And it was, and I thought, well, I don't think that's long
enough.
And I put it back on the burnerand I picked up the spoon that
you were using to stir and cookand it was one of those Teflon,
you know, the black ones, yeah,and you were using a stainless
steel pan and I was like so madbecause it wasn't working in
there for me and I threw it inthe sink, the spoon.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
I grabbed a silver A liquid cup.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
Don't need to talk about it.
Damn it, damn it, damn it, damnit.
And I took, I grabbed astainless steel spoon and I go
Silver pot, silver spoon, silverspoon, oh my gosh.
But I mean one thing I have tosay.
Speaker 3 (04:33):
Oh, looking back on that, I laughed so hard too.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
I know, I think you were shocked, but also you know
I have to say when, when thingslike that happen, sometimes
there's a reason for that.
There's some buildup frombehind and and I've been sick
with an ear infection and sothere was a lot of that.
When you can't hear and yourheads clogged and oh, it makes
me so like temporary yeah sothat that was fueling that, that
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energy of emotion there.
But you know, sometimes Iwonder, are other families as
crazy as our family?
Speaker 3 (05:04):
Oh, no, yeah, yeah, 100%.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
I mean, there are times that I go.
Did that really happen in thisfamily?
Speaker 3 (05:09):
No, I've talked to my buddies about it and stuff
before and even when I've beenover at their house and stuff I
hear yeah the little brothersscreaming from the he's upstairs
on his pound.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
Don't shout out.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
Dad's yelling outside .
I'm like, oh, okay.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
This is a mirror of our family.
Speaker 3 (05:27):
We're not just like this.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
It's just, it's just kind of crazy.
Well, you know, I was eatingtalk.
I think maybe the family likethe cleaver family way back in
the day that the cleaver showthe.
Cleveland beaver cleaver.
Oh, you might even know thatthat was the show when I was
young was in black and white ontv, and it was mrs Cleaver and
she was the stay-at-homehousewife that wore the dress
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with the apron and everything intheir family was just perfect
and and I think that's justreally rare and so anyway, if
you ever get a chance to googlethat or look that up on your
phone, it was beaver cleaver.
I forget exactly what the showwas called, but that was the,
the young boy in the show, andhe had an older brother, ward,
and then there was a A Ward'sfriend, eddie haskell, and eddie
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was sort of this kid that wassort of mischievous and he would
kind of do things that weren'tAlways ethical and that he was
opposite of the, the whole ofthe whole family.
Speaker 3 (06:26):
Yeah, the whole family.
So it was like the bad.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
Yeah, he was sort of the protagonist, or yeah, but um
, anyway, yeah, I mean.
So we do have to watch ourwords, because I'm not sure how
that affected you, but itprobably wasn't good, oh no, it
was funny.
Speaker 3 (06:42):
At the time I was like whoa, that's unexpected,
and then I'm eating tacos in myroom and I just started laughing
on I know where.
I'm like that was ridiculous.
That was so funny.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
All right Well.
I do think we're not we're notunusual, but I you know we need
to watch those things, right?
So Okay, that was a diversion.
What, um?
Where are?
We yeah so let's just talkabout so every day.
Um, oh yeah, I wanted to startwith this because it's so
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important and I do this everyday when.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
I pray talking about this a little for a while now,
and I really like it so like,yeah, I've mentioned it before,
yeah, just saying every day, saywhat you're thankful for.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
It can be if you have a really hard time coming up
with something, like today whenI was saying thank you for the
medicine that the doctor gave meto help clear my infection, you
know, just those kind of things.
If you can't think of anything,and if you because sometimes
you can get in a space where youdon't feel thankful you can say
I got hot water to take ashower, I have a road to drive
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my car on, or I have a sidewalkto walk to school on, or your
sunshine out there.
Speaker 3 (07:51):
You give me a thank you this morning when I started
my truck just to wake you up.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
You know yeah.
Yeah, you're like, I needed toget out of bed so yeah, I heard
great take off and I was like,oh, I got to get out of bed and
it was a because, yeah, I heardyou were in the gym and I was
like I was coming back from thefood truck because I got tacos
this morning Super early and Isee you coming out and I was
like oh crap.
Jim, I gotta go and he can.
He committed to me last nighthe would go with me.
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Yeah so I call him.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
You're like you coming.
Speaker 1 (08:20):
Turn your butt around .
Speaker 2 (08:23):
So he did, he kept his word, mm-hmm.
Speaker 3 (08:25):
Yeah.
But yeah, so it just makes youfeel so much gratitude.
Yeah makes you feel thankfulfor everything.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
So mm-hmm, and it helps us Focus on what we have
and well, instead of what wedon't have true and like look at
the big picture too.
Speaker 3 (08:40):
It's like so many people don't have, you know,
good beds to sleep on at night.
There are a lot of homelesspeople, you know.
Some countries don't have themoney or the food to feed
everyone.
It's like we are really blessedwhen we think about it.
Speaker 2 (08:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (08:56):
We can be thankful for so much because we have a
lot of things that a lot ofpeople don't have.
So right counter blessings.
So I was like to say that.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
Counter blessings.
Yeah, I found a quote fromWillie Nelson.
It said when I started countingmy blessings, my whole life
turned around there you go.
Speaker 3 (09:13):
Yeah, I think that's true, he's a smart man, so he's
smart, he's successful and hecame.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
He was Adopted by his grandparents.
Do you remember?
We talked about that in thefirst episode, that's right,
willie, yeah, yeah yeah, yeah,yeah.
So, and he's from Texas in the.
Speaker 1 (09:29):
Austin area.
Speaker 2 (09:30):
Yeah, well, he lives here now.
I'm not.
I don't remember where he'sfrom, but he's Texas.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
He's always around.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
Yeah for sure.
So just let's be grateful,let's think about that and try
to keep that in our lives.
Next, encourage and buildothers up, like that's really
important to do.
And and why is that important?
Because they're powerful.
We talked about that in thebeginning.
They can actually make peoplefeel better, physically and
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emotionally.
And I want to give an example.
I was Going back and thinkingabout this and when we were in
over the Silver Thanksgiving andwe were in Virginia Beach with
Dad's family, his brother Alan,we we got to the house and we
kind of settled in and he hesays to me goes tab, you look
(10:21):
great.
He was.
Your hair color looks awesome,you're looking healthy, it looks
like you lost some weight.
And I just went oh, thank you,and I, I, I knew I'd lost some
weight, I felt I was lookinghealthy.
But to hear him say that andactually you, I know it's not
(10:43):
confirmed, but just toacknowledge it and say that to
me.
Speaker 3 (10:47):
It's like you notice.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
He noticed, yes and it really made me feel good and
it changed our relationshipcrazy, but it really did.
It was like I felt really a lotmore connected to him and I
still do, in fact.
We had a conversation a fewweeks ago about some stuff going
on in my life and I reached outto him.
(11:10):
It was crazy.
I would never thought I wouldhave done that yeah and that's
awesome yeahso I do feel he's pretty cool
dude yeah, I really got to knowbetter.
Yeah yeah, so it's changed ourrelationship.
Yeah, and that's what words cando.
Speaker 3 (11:27):
Yeah, they're extremely powerful.
Yeah, I mean, I have an exampletoo.
Speaker 2 (11:37):
Yeah, what's that?
Speaker 3 (11:38):
Our dog Niko.
So we, yeah, bless his soul.
We had to put him down aboutwhat was it.
It was January 6th, so aboutfive days ago.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
Yeah, five days ago he went over the rainbow bridge.
Speaker 3 (11:53):
so, yeah, but it was extremely tough.
It's the hardest thing I'veever had to do and, you know, my
good buddy came out the day ofand he's lost a couple dogs too,
so he was relating to me andhelping me through the trauma or
not the trauma, just the painof everything and he just kept
me distracted through it andjust kept my mind off it, and he
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brought like a more positiveway of thinking about it too,
which was really helpful.
Speaker 2 (12:23):
Do you recall what he said.
Speaker 3 (12:26):
I mean, sometimes we're caught up in the emotion
we don't remember.
I mean, you know, like he's notin pain anymore and stuff,
because I mean his back legswere weak and stuff like that.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
Yeah right, it's really bad he did.
He was in a lot of painmedicine.
Speaker 3 (12:37):
He was in a lot of pain medicine so it's like he's
not in pain anymore.
He's flying high.
So and he lived 13 years, sothat's a pretty good run.
So, yeah, for labs they live, Ithink, like 11 years usually,
so he was like a lab mix so but13 years was a really good run.
So, yeah, he helped me throughthat and our neighbors and
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everyone you know.
They sent out a group chatletting our neighbors know and
everyone just like, sent theircondolences and stuff and it was
super, super helpful to heareveryone talk about that.
So, and then you know how,linda gave us a card the other
day and stuff that was supersweet so.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (13:20):
Everyone's really being really sweet about it, so
Right, it's really helpful, sono one other people there for
you, so yeah it.
Speaker 2 (13:31):
It changed.
Well, I'm sure it changed yourrelationship with Nathaniel yeah
, good friend, and Getting acard from from Linda and Tim and
Kayla, you know really, yeah,it made me feel like they really
cared about us and that theirhearts were hurting for us and
they were.
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They were wanting us to.
Speaker 3 (13:53):
She's such a dog lady to.
Speaker 2 (13:55):
That's true.
Yeah, they are dog people, soyou know other other Ways to
lift up other people and justsometimes saying simple things
like you know, hey, be good toyourself, don't be hard on
yourself, or you know, I knowyou, probably you know.
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Just thanks for being availableto help yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 3 (14:22):
You know you're always good about expressing
your thanks and you gotta letpeople know that you know you
value them, because time isvaluable and stuff.
So, especially in rough times.
Yeah, so.
Speaker 2 (14:35):
I Know, sometimes, when people are discouraged or
feeling a little hopeless, youknow I'll say things like hey,
this is tough, but you'retougher.
Right yeah you know, Give it ashot.
What?
What do you got to lose?
Speaker 3 (14:46):
right Exactly, just encourage them be encouraging to
people or two words ofencouragement are so powerful.
Speaker 2 (14:51):
So they can do a lot for people.
You can move purse peopleacross the line.
You know you can by your words.
You can push them in into aplace that he may not have gone
right, yeah and they could havemissed out on an opportunity
it's so, so important soimportant words can be so
powerful, like we said.
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Yeah, did you want to tell the?
You were telling me about you.
You and Chase called grandma.
Speaker 3 (15:20):
Oh, that's right, yeah, so another good example.
Yeah, the other day my dadtexted me, chase, and he was
like hey guys, you know howgrandma sent a Check for
Christmas and stuff and you knowyou should wish her a Merry
Christmas and stuff and thankyou for the checks and stuff.
So chase comes in my room andwe both sit down and we call
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grandma.
She doesn't pick up.
At first when we were about toleave a voicemail and then all
of a sudden she calls back rightaway.
We're like grandma how you doingand stuff, and she was in like
the process of moving, I think,or something like that.
Speaker 2 (15:52):
Yeah, I got her moved in.
Yeah, and she's like fiveminutes now from Ellen and Linda
.
Oh yeah, that's awesome 20minutes awesome.
Speaker 3 (15:59):
So she was like this box is everywhere and it's just
been chaotic, and just giving mea little update on her life,
and she, um, we were justthanking her for the cards,
catching up, we talked aboutlike what were you doing with
school wise and job wise andwhat are we doing, you know,
just hanging.
And she was like I don't knowif you guys know this, but this
phone call it means it's, it'slike it means the world to me.
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So it's made my week, it's mademy day and it's like I wish we
could be closer because thedistance thing is hard, because
she's in, you know, virginiaBeach and we're in Texas, so you
know it's a decent amount.
So mm-hmm, but yeah, it reallymeant a lot to her and it just
made me and Chase really happyand so thankful for her because
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she's an amazing grandma.
Speaker 2 (16:47):
So yeah, I know she's .
It's hard for her not to beclose to you guys and she feels
Like you know, she misses out onbeing your grandma doing the
grandma thing right right so itsucks.
Oh, but it is life and a lot ofthat's how a lot of people live
these days, right.
Speaker 3 (17:08):
Yeah, I just want to get to see her more often.
So Because I feel, I feel badthat she can't be around.
So yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:22):
Yeah, um, I don't know.
I thought this sort tied intoTo speak like life-giving words
and this kind of focuses on us.
It's speaking the truth.
If so, if we're committed totruth, at some point we need to
give up our weaknesses, and I'mreferring to ourselves, speaking
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the truth to ourselves.
You know, we can go along inlife and just Ignore those
little issues that are a problemfor us, or those little Um
Parts of us, you know, I guessor what am I looking for the
word Things that we do thataren't probably good for us
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right in our lives.
And um, you know, we can'treally change anything until we
admit.
Speaker 3 (18:08):
Maybe our vices, maybe vices, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:11):
Yeah, john.
In the Bible John, chapter 8,verse 32, says then you will
know the truth, and the truthwill set you free.
Speaker 3 (18:22):
Heard that many times yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:24):
So when we're committed to the truth, at some
point, like I said earlier, weneed to admit our weaknesses.
So you know, if we say whatcould be an example of that,
greg, trying to think of one offthe top of my head?
Speaker 3 (18:39):
Um, well, well, if we Talking negatively about
yourself when you make a littlemistake, like you don't mean it,
you know, like, oh, you're like, let's say, you drop a vase or
something, oh, I'm so stupid,you know, yeah, um, I want to
quote Bruce Lee here because heonce said don't speak negatively
about yourself, even as a joke.
Your body doesn't know thedifference.
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Words are energy and castspells.
That's why it's called spellingChange the way you speak about
yourself and then you can changeyour life.
So I mean, even as a joke andstuff, you got to be honest with
yourself and you know you'renot stupid just because you
dropped a vase, you made a youknow a little silly mistake and
stuff, but you just got to betruthful about yourself.
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Um, and just be honest withyourself because, like he said,
your brain and your body doesn'tknow the difference.
Speaker 1 (19:28):
So, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (19:30):
So, and being honest with yourself, I mean, yeah, the
truth sets you free, just likeJohn said.
So.
Speaker 2 (19:36):
Yeah, I think that, um, you know, I kind of go go
back to, um, doing things thataren't healthy for me, like when
I was playing Candy Crush a lotor I could you know, I never it
took me to the point of reallyrealizing how much I was doing
and that I could say this isn'tgood for me.
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Um, it's taking a lot of mytime and I'm putting my
resources into this game versusbeing productive uh, building
the podcast, publishing the bookI've written, you know, doing
all those things that are reallyimportant, doing the things
that I feel God has called us todo, almost like a wake up call
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for like yeah giving yourselfthe hard reality or the truth.
I guess, so, so and it set mefree.
I am so glad I gave that up.
I've never looked back and thatwas that was because of I think
it was because of a detoxsermon at the church back in um.
August.
I think it was August.
It was before Dad and I went onthat road trip, yeah, so you
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gotta play Candy Crush again,though.
Speaker 3 (20:43):
No, I don't, yes, you do.
Nope, don't want to, no come onno.
Speaker 2 (20:46):
I'm good.
I'd rather read a book.
You know, do things like that,okay.
So, yeah, I'm okay.
Okay, but it did set me freeand I feel happier.
Speaker 3 (20:57):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:58):
It's just, it's really John 832.
Then you will know the truthand the truth will set you free.
Yeah, we go.
So don't be afraid to look atwhat may not be working for you
in your life and, um, that's oneway that you can be speaking
life-giving words to yourself.
Speaker 3 (21:15):
Awesome, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:16):
All right.
Well, that's all I have today.
Do you have anything you wantto add?
Speaker 3 (21:22):
Um, today, I mean, just speak the truth, you know
yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:26):
Um, speak the truth.
So maybe our call to actionwill be um, think about, okay,
so think about the people thatyou're when you hear this
message.
Think about the people thatyou're gonna, um that you're
gonna be coming into contactwith in your life that day, and
do, but do this every day andthink about, start thinking
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about encouraging words that youcan say to them.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
You know.
Speaker 2 (21:49):
You know people are going on.
You know, have stuff going on,or maybe you've got a co-worker
or a friend that might be goingthrough something, or not, even
that you can just give acompliment, like you know.
You are always so bubbly, Ilove that about you.
Or you know, I want to.
I'd like to be like that more.
Speaker 1 (22:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (22:08):
And just be encouraging to people.
So be thinking about that Planahead, on on it.
And if you can't come up withanything, just ask.
Ask God to you know, pray, askHim to put encouraging words on
your heart.
Speaker 3 (22:22):
Amen to that.
Speaker 2 (22:23):
Yeah, amen, all right .
Well, I guess that's ourepisode for today.
I guess so, and uh, we hope youenjoy it and then it's been
helpful, and just remember thatyou are not alone.
All right, thank you, have agood day.
Hello and welcome to another episode of the you Are
Not Alone podcast.
My name is Debbie Gold and I'mhere with my co-host and son,
greg.
We are so glad that you're herewith us.
Each week on this show, we willtalk about informative issues,
issues that will make you thinkand help you grow.
It is our wish that you willfind hope, encouragement and a
(00:22):
little visit Jesus in everyepisode.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
Welcome back to the you Are Not Alone podcast.
Greg and I are here.
We took a break over theChristmas holiday, a bit of an
extended break, but we are backand just want to say hope you
had a merry Christmas and ahappy new year.
And a happy new year.
Speaker 3 (00:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
So today we want to talk about speaking life-giving
words.
Our words, they can reallychange the course of our lives.
I wonder if you ever thoughtabout that.
Speaker 3 (00:59):
I mean, yeah, words are powerful.
I mean it's the main way wecommunicate with people.
It can have a negative orpositive effect, whatever you
say, and some words can havemore power than others.
I think yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
Yeah, I think there's a lot of power in our words and
we can do a whole lot of goodwith them when we speak positive
, encouraging words aboutourselves or to ourselves, about
our lives and to other people,because it can build us up and
it can build up the people inour lives too when we do it to
others.
Speaker 3 (01:35):
Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
Or the opposite is true we can tear others and
ourselves apart if we choose touse negative words.
I wanted to read just somescripture from the Bible.
It's James 3, chapter 3, verses4 through 5.
And it says when we put I'msorry, let me re-do that it's
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James 3, verses 4 through 5.
Or take ships as an example.
Although they are so large andare driven by strong winds, they
are steered by a very smallrudder wherever the pilot wants
to go.
Likewise, the tongue is a smallpart of the body, but it makes
great boasts.
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Consider what a great forest isset on fire by a small spark.
Speaker 3 (02:32):
Basically what I say before little things can have a
huge impact on things.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
Little things can have a huge impact.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
A little spark from the wind or nature or something
like that, it can set an entireforest ablaze.
Speaker 2 (02:50):
Yes, it can destroy a whole.
Destroy, destroy, that's a keyword.
Speaker 3 (02:55):
Likewise, tongue is a small part of the body's great
boasts.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
Yes, and it can destroy like a fire and we can
change the course like a rudderof the people in our lives by
the way we talk to them.
It can be negative or positive.
Right, so do we want to liftpeople up or we want to tear
them down.
Of course, our intentionsaren't to tear people down, but
we do say things that hurtpeople.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
We might not realize it too sometimes.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
You know it's funny.
I was thinking about the otherday and I asked if you.
I was home for lunch and Iasked if you could cook, make up
some taco meat.
And I went into the kitchen.
I was thinking, oh, I don'tknow if it's ready, and it
looked like you had cooked itand it was.
You put the sauce and all thatin there, the seasoning, and it
(03:48):
looked like it was off theburner.
And it was, and I thought, well, I don't think that's long
enough.
And I put it back on the burnerand I picked up the spoon that
you were using to stir and cookand it was one of those Teflon,
you know, the black ones, yeah,and you were using a stainless
steel pan and I was like so madbecause it wasn't working in
there for me and I threw it inthe sink, the spoon.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
I grabbed a silver A liquid cup.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
Don't need to talk about it.
Damn it, damn it, damn it, damnit.
And I took, I grabbed astainless steel spoon and I go
Silver pot, silver spoon, silverspoon, oh my gosh.
But I mean one thing I have tosay.
Speaker 3 (04:33):
Oh, looking back on that, I laughed so hard too.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
I know, I think you were shocked, but also you know
I have to say when, when thingslike that happen, sometimes
there's a reason for that.
There's some buildup frombehind and and I've been sick
with an ear infection and sothere was a lot of that.
When you can't hear and yourheads clogged and oh, it makes
me so like temporary yeah sothat that was fueling that, that
(04:57):
energy of emotion there.
But you know, sometimes Iwonder, are other families as
crazy as our family?
Speaker 3 (05:04):
Oh, no, yeah, yeah, 100%.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
I mean, there are times that I go.
Did that really happen in thisfamily?
Speaker 3 (05:09):
No, I've talked to my buddies about it and stuff
before and even when I've beenover at their house and stuff I
hear yeah the little brothersscreaming from the he's upstairs
on his pound.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
Don't shout out.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
Dad's yelling outside .
I'm like, oh, okay.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
This is a mirror of our family.
Speaker 3 (05:27):
We're not just like this.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
It's just, it's just kind of crazy.
Well, you know, I was eatingtalk.
I think maybe the family likethe cleaver family way back in
the day that the cleaver showthe.
Cleveland beaver cleaver.
Oh, you might even know thatthat was the show when I was
young was in black and white ontv, and it was mrs Cleaver and
she was the stay-at-homehousewife that wore the dress
(05:50):
with the apron and everything intheir family was just perfect
and and I think that's justreally rare and so anyway, if
you ever get a chance to googlethat or look that up on your
phone, it was beaver cleaver.
I forget exactly what the showwas called, but that was the,
the young boy in the show, andhe had an older brother, ward,
and then there was a A Ward'sfriend, eddie haskell, and eddie
(06:16):
was sort of this kid that wassort of mischievous and he would
kind of do things that weren'tAlways ethical and that he was
opposite of the, the whole ofthe whole family.
Speaker 3 (06:26):
Yeah, the whole family.
So it was like the bad.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
Yeah, he was sort of the protagonist, or yeah, but um
, anyway, yeah, I mean.
So we do have to watch ourwords, because I'm not sure how
that affected you, but itprobably wasn't good, oh no, it
was funny.
Speaker 3 (06:42):
At the time I was like whoa, that's unexpected,
and then I'm eating tacos in myroom and I just started laughing
on I know where.
I'm like that was ridiculous.
That was so funny.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
All right Well.
I do think we're not we're notunusual, but I you know we need
to watch those things, right?
So Okay, that was a diversion.
What, um?
Where are?
We yeah so let's just talkabout so every day.
Um, oh yeah, I wanted to startwith this because it's so
(07:12):
important and I do this everyday when.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
I pray talking about this a little for a while now,
and I really like it so like,yeah, I've mentioned it before,
yeah, just saying every day, saywhat you're thankful for.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
It can be if you have a really hard time coming up
with something, like today whenI was saying thank you for the
medicine that the doctor gave meto help clear my infection, you
know, just those kind of things.
If you can't think of anything,and if you because sometimes
you can get in a space where youdon't feel thankful you can say
I got hot water to take ashower, I have a road to drive
(07:46):
my car on, or I have a sidewalkto walk to school on, or your
sunshine out there.
Speaker 3 (07:51):
You give me a thank you this morning when I started
my truck just to wake you up.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
You know yeah.
Yeah, you're like, I needed toget out of bed so yeah, I heard
great take off and I was like,oh, I got to get out of bed and
it was a because, yeah, I heardyou were in the gym and I was
like I was coming back from thefood truck because I got tacos
this morning Super early and Isee you coming out and I was
like oh crap.
Jim, I gotta go and he can.
He committed to me last nighthe would go with me.
(08:16):
Yeah so I call him.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
You're like you coming.
Speaker 1 (08:20):
Turn your butt around .
Speaker 2 (08:23):
So he did, he kept his word, mm-hmm.
Speaker 3 (08:25):
Yeah.
But yeah, so it just makes youfeel so much gratitude.
Yeah makes you feel thankfulfor everything.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
So mm-hmm, and it helps us Focus on what we have
and well, instead of what wedon't have true and like look at
the big picture too.
Speaker 3 (08:40):
It's like so many people don't have, you know,
good beds to sleep on at night.
There are a lot of homelesspeople, you know.
Some countries don't have themoney or the food to feed
everyone.
It's like we are really blessedwhen we think about it.
Speaker 2 (08:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (08:56):
We can be thankful for so much because we have a
lot of things that a lot ofpeople don't have.
So right counter blessings.
So I was like to say that.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
Counter blessings.
Yeah, I found a quote fromWillie Nelson.
It said when I started countingmy blessings, my whole life
turned around there you go.
Speaker 3 (09:13):
Yeah, I think that's true, he's a smart man, so he's
smart, he's successful and hecame.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
He was Adopted by his grandparents.
Do you remember?
We talked about that in thefirst episode, that's right,
willie, yeah, yeah yeah, yeah,yeah.
So, and he's from Texas in the.
Speaker 1 (09:29):
Austin area.
Speaker 2 (09:30):
Yeah, well, he lives here now.
I'm not.
I don't remember where he'sfrom, but he's Texas.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
He's always around.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
Yeah for sure.
So just let's be grateful,let's think about that and try
to keep that in our lives.
Next, encourage and buildothers up, like that's really
important to do.
And and why is that important?
Because they're powerful.
We talked about that in thebeginning.
They can actually make peoplefeel better, physically and
(10:00):
emotionally.
And I want to give an example.
I was Going back and thinkingabout this and when we were in
over the Silver Thanksgiving andwe were in Virginia Beach with
Dad's family, his brother Alan,we we got to the house and we
kind of settled in and he hesays to me goes tab, you look
(10:21):
great.
He was.
Your hair color looks awesome,you're looking healthy, it looks
like you lost some weight.
And I just went oh, thank you,and I, I, I knew I'd lost some
weight, I felt I was lookinghealthy.
But to hear him say that andactually you, I know it's not
(10:43):
confirmed, but just toacknowledge it and say that to
me.
Speaker 3 (10:47):
It's like you notice.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
He noticed, yes and it really made me feel good and
it changed our relationshipcrazy, but it really did.
It was like I felt really a lotmore connected to him and I
still do, in fact.
We had a conversation a fewweeks ago about some stuff going
on in my life and I reached outto him.
(11:10):
It was crazy.
I would never thought I wouldhave done that yeah and that's
awesome yeahso I do feel he's pretty cool
dude yeah, I really got to knowbetter.
Yeah yeah, so it's changed ourrelationship.
Yeah, and that's what words cando.
Speaker 3 (11:27):
Yeah, they're extremely powerful.
Yeah, I mean, I have an exampletoo.
Speaker 2 (11:37):
Yeah, what's that?
Speaker 3 (11:38):
Our dog Niko.
So we, yeah, bless his soul.
We had to put him down aboutwhat was it.
It was January 6th, so aboutfive days ago.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
Yeah, five days ago he went over the rainbow bridge.
Speaker 3 (11:53):
so, yeah, but it was extremely tough.
It's the hardest thing I'veever had to do and, you know, my
good buddy came out the day ofand he's lost a couple dogs too,
so he was relating to me andhelping me through the trauma or
not the trauma, just the painof everything and he just kept
me distracted through it andjust kept my mind off it, and he
(12:17):
brought like a more positiveway of thinking about it too,
which was really helpful.
Speaker 2 (12:23):
Do you recall what he said.
Speaker 3 (12:26):
I mean, sometimes we're caught up in the emotion
we don't remember.
I mean, you know, like he's notin pain anymore and stuff,
because I mean his back legswere weak and stuff like that.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
Yeah right, it's really bad he did.
He was in a lot of painmedicine.
Speaker 3 (12:37):
He was in a lot of pain medicine so it's like he's
not in pain anymore.
He's flying high.
So and he lived 13 years, sothat's a pretty good run.
So, yeah, for labs they live, Ithink, like 11 years usually,
so he was like a lab mix so but13 years was a really good run.
So, yeah, he helped me throughthat and our neighbors and
(13:02):
everyone you know.
They sent out a group chatletting our neighbors know and
everyone just like, sent theircondolences and stuff and it was
super, super helpful to heareveryone talk about that.
So, and then you know how,linda gave us a card the other
day and stuff that was supersweet so.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (13:20):
Everyone's really being really sweet about it, so
Right, it's really helpful, sono one other people there for
you, so yeah it.
Speaker 2 (13:31):
It changed.
Well, I'm sure it changed yourrelationship with Nathaniel yeah
, good friend, and Getting acard from from Linda and Tim and
Kayla, you know really, yeah,it made me feel like they really
cared about us and that theirhearts were hurting for us and
they were.
(13:51):
They were wanting us to.
Speaker 3 (13:53):
She's such a dog lady to.
Speaker 2 (13:55):
That's true.
Yeah, they are dog people, soyou know other other Ways to
lift up other people and justsometimes saying simple things
like you know, hey, be good toyourself, don't be hard on
yourself, or you know, I knowyou, probably you know.
(14:17):
Just thanks for being availableto help yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 3 (14:22):
You know you're always good about expressing
your thanks and you gotta letpeople know that you know you
value them, because time isvaluable and stuff.
So, especially in rough times.
Yeah, so.
Speaker 2 (14:35):
I Know, sometimes, when people are discouraged or
feeling a little hopeless, youknow I'll say things like hey,
this is tough, but you'retougher.
Right yeah you know, Give it ashot.
What?
What do you got to lose?
Speaker 3 (14:46):
right Exactly, just encourage them be encouraging to
people or two words ofencouragement are so powerful.
Speaker 2 (14:51):
So they can do a lot for people.
You can move purse peopleacross the line.
You know you can by your words.
You can push them in into aplace that he may not have gone
right, yeah and they could havemissed out on an opportunity
it's so, so important soimportant words can be so
powerful, like we said.
(15:12):
Yeah, did you want to tell the?
You were telling me about you.
You and Chase called grandma.
Speaker 3 (15:20):
Oh, that's right, yeah, so another good example.
Yeah, the other day my dadtexted me, chase, and he was
like hey guys, you know howgrandma sent a Check for
Christmas and stuff and you knowyou should wish her a Merry
Christmas and stuff and thankyou for the checks and stuff.
So chase comes in my room andwe both sit down and we call
(15:41):
grandma.
She doesn't pick up.
At first when we were about toleave a voicemail and then all
of a sudden she calls back rightaway.
We're like grandma how you doingand stuff, and she was in like
the process of moving, I think,or something like that.
Speaker 2 (15:52):
Yeah, I got her moved in.
Yeah, and she's like fiveminutes now from Ellen and Linda
.
Oh yeah, that's awesome 20minutes awesome.
Speaker 3 (15:59):
So she was like this box is everywhere and it's just
been chaotic, and just giving mea little update on her life,
and she, um, we were justthanking her for the cards,
catching up, we talked aboutlike what were you doing with
school wise and job wise andwhat are we doing, you know,
just hanging.
And she was like I don't knowif you guys know this, but this
phone call it means it's, it'slike it means the world to me.
(16:22):
So it's made my week, it's mademy day and it's like I wish we
could be closer because thedistance thing is hard, because
she's in, you know, virginiaBeach and we're in Texas, so you
know it's a decent amount.
So mm-hmm, but yeah, it reallymeant a lot to her and it just
made me and Chase really happyand so thankful for her because
(16:45):
she's an amazing grandma.
Speaker 2 (16:47):
So yeah, I know she's .
It's hard for her not to beclose to you guys and she feels
Like you know, she misses out onbeing your grandma doing the
grandma thing right right so itsucks.
Oh, but it is life and a lot ofthat's how a lot of people live
these days, right.
Speaker 3 (17:08):
Yeah, I just want to get to see her more often.
So Because I feel, I feel badthat she can't be around.
So yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:22):
Yeah, um, I don't know.
I thought this sort tied intoTo speak like life-giving words
and this kind of focuses on us.
It's speaking the truth.
If so, if we're committed totruth, at some point we need to
give up our weaknesses, and I'mreferring to ourselves, speaking
(17:43):
the truth to ourselves.
You know, we can go along inlife and just Ignore those
little issues that are a problemfor us, or those little Um
Parts of us, you know, I guessor what am I looking for the
word Things that we do thataren't probably good for us
(18:03):
right in our lives.
And um, you know, we can'treally change anything until we
admit.
Speaker 3 (18:08):
Maybe our vices, maybe vices, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:11):
Yeah, john.
In the Bible John, chapter 8,verse 32, says then you will
know the truth, and the truthwill set you free.
Speaker 3 (18:22):
Heard that many times yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:24):
So when we're committed to the truth, at some
point, like I said earlier, weneed to admit our weaknesses.
So you know, if we say whatcould be an example of that,
greg, trying to think of one offthe top of my head?
Speaker 3 (18:39):
Um, well, well, if we Talking negatively about
yourself when you make a littlemistake, like you don't mean it,
you know, like, oh, you're like, let's say, you drop a vase or
something, oh, I'm so stupid,you know, yeah, um, I want to
quote Bruce Lee here because heonce said don't speak negatively
about yourself, even as a joke.
Your body doesn't know thedifference.
(19:00):
Words are energy and castspells.
That's why it's called spellingChange the way you speak about
yourself and then you can changeyour life.
So I mean, even as a joke andstuff, you got to be honest with
yourself and you know you'renot stupid just because you
dropped a vase, you made a youknow a little silly mistake and
stuff, but you just got to betruthful about yourself.
(19:21):
Um, and just be honest withyourself because, like he said,
your brain and your body doesn'tknow the difference.
Speaker 1 (19:28):
So, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (19:30):
So, and being honest with yourself, I mean, yeah, the
truth sets you free, just likeJohn said.
So.
Speaker 2 (19:36):
Yeah, I think that, um, you know, I kind of go go
back to, um, doing things thataren't healthy for me, like when
I was playing Candy Crush a lotor I could you know, I never it
took me to the point of reallyrealizing how much I was doing
and that I could say this isn'tgood for me.
(19:58):
Um, it's taking a lot of mytime and I'm putting my
resources into this game versusbeing productive uh, building
the podcast, publishing the bookI've written, you know, doing
all those things that are reallyimportant, doing the things
that I feel God has called us todo, almost like a wake up call
(20:19):
for like yeah giving yourselfthe hard reality or the truth.
I guess, so, so and it set mefree.
I am so glad I gave that up.
I've never looked back and thatwas that was because of I think
it was because of a detoxsermon at the church back in um.
August.
I think it was August.
It was before Dad and I went onthat road trip, yeah, so you
(20:42):
gotta play Candy Crush again,though.
Speaker 3 (20:43):
No, I don't, yes, you do.
Nope, don't want to, no come onno.
Speaker 2 (20:46):
I'm good.
I'd rather read a book.
You know, do things like that,okay.
So, yeah, I'm okay.
Okay, but it did set me freeand I feel happier.
Speaker 3 (20:57):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:58):
It's just, it's really John 832.
Then you will know the truthand the truth will set you free.
Yeah, we go.
So don't be afraid to look atwhat may not be working for you
in your life and, um, that's oneway that you can be speaking
life-giving words to yourself.
Speaker 3 (21:15):
Awesome, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:16):
All right.
Well, that's all I have today.
Do you have anything you wantto add?
Speaker 3 (21:22):
Um, today, I mean, just speak the truth, you know
yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:26):
Um, speak the truth.
So maybe our call to actionwill be um, think about, okay,
so think about the people thatyou're when you hear this
message.
Think about the people thatyou're gonna, um that you're
gonna be coming into contactwith in your life that day, and
do, but do this every day andthink about, start thinking
(21:46):
about encouraging words that youcan say to them.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
You know.
Speaker 2 (21:49):
You know people are going on.
You know, have stuff going on,or maybe you've got a co-worker
or a friend that might be goingthrough something, or not, even
that you can just give acompliment, like you know.
You are always so bubbly, Ilove that about you.
Or you know, I want to.
I'd like to be like that more.
Speaker 1 (22:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (22:08):
And just be encouraging to people.
So be thinking about that Planahead, on on it.
And if you can't come up withanything, just ask.
Ask God to you know, pray, askHim to put encouraging words on
your heart.
Speaker 3 (22:22):
Amen to that.
Speaker 2 (22:23):
Yeah, amen, all right .
Well, I guess that's ourepisode for today.
I guess so, and uh, we hope youenjoy it and then it's been
helpful, and just remember thatyou are not alone.
All right, thank you, have agood day.
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