We dive into the Trauma Bond: how it forms, why it's so hard to leave, and what recovery really looks like. This isn't just about red flags or textbook definitions. This is about the lived experience—the confusion, the craving for relief, the grief that shows up even when you finally leave.
I walk through the invisible hooks that keep survivors attached: intermittent reinforcement, emotional manipulation disguised as love, and the powerful conditioning that teaches us to find safety in what's familiar—even when it hurts. I also share pieces of my own story, including what it felt like to be silenced, blamed, and slowly erased in a relationship that mirrored old wounds I hadn’t yet healed.
You’ll hear about:
- The difference between love and emotional captivity
- How trauma bonds are wired into your nervous system
- Why you still miss them even after they hurt you
- What gaslighting does to your sense of self
- How to begin un-gaslighting yourself and rebuild your truth
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