A Thoughtful Gesture or Subtle Manipulation? | Sanity Check No. 34

Episode Overview

Ever had someone offer you a “favour” that felt more like a clever way to get what they wanted? In this week’s Sanity Check, we unpack those interactions that seem generous on the surface but leave you feeling off - and possibly manipulated.

We get honest about how people sometimes frame their own needs as if they’re doing you a kindness… and how easy it is to fall into the habit of saying thank you, even when you’re the one doing the heavy lifting.

This episode is a little slice of catharsis if you’ve ever:
– Felt guilted into saying yes
– Gone along with someone’s plan out of politeness
– Swallowed your frustration to “keep the peace”

We're naming the pattern, ditching the people-pleasing, and reminding you: It’s okay to say no. You’re not mean. You’re not selfish. You’re just finally setting the record straight.

Listener Takeaway:

If you’ve ever walked away from a situation thinking, Hang on, I didn’t even want to do that, you’re not alone. This is your permission slip to stop over-apologising, stop over-thanking, and stop twisting yourself into a pretzel to accommodate someone else’s plan. You’re allowed to pause, say no, and name what’s really going on.

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Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.