Mars, Venus & the Midlife Shift: What’s Driving the Rise in Divorce | YKMS

Episode Overview

In this raw and deeply reflective episode, Aileen and Julie explore a rising trend: why so many women in their 40s and 50s are re-evaluating long-term relationships. This isn’t about drama or scandal, it’s about identity, unmet emotional needs, and the quiet inner voice that often grows louder in midlife.

They unpack how perimenopause, shifting priorities, and decades of invisible labour can create a turning point. But this isn’t an episode about leaving, it’s about getting honest. For some, that leads to deeper connection. For others, it brings clarity that change is needed.

Wherever you land, this conversation offers compassion, perspective, and permission to ask the harder questions, without shame, guilt, or judgment.

Key Discussion Points

• The quiet and calm nature of many midlife divorces
• Why perimenopause can crack open emotional truths and expose relationship imbalances
• Cultural shifts that empower women to leave what no longer fits
• The emotional labour gap and how resentment builds
• Speaking your truth vs. staying silent: how communication can shift everything or nothing
• The role of shame and grief, even when you’re the one who leaves
• Why the next generation of men may be better equipped for emotional partnership

Listener Takeaways

• Your identity may shift - your relationship must evolve with it
• You’re not alone in wanting more, even after decades of “getting through”
• Leaving isn’t always about failure, it can be about growth
• Speaking your truth is powerful, whether it leads to healing or clarity
• It’s okay to ask: “Is this still the life I want?”

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