Self-Compassion: The Grace We Struggle to Give Ourselves | YKMS

 Episode Overview

In this episode of You Keep Me Sane, Aileen and Julie respond to a heartfelt listener letter asking a powerful question: Why is self-compassion so hard, even when we know it's important?

They explore how deeply ingrained beliefs—from childhood conditioning to societal pressure—can make kindness toward ourselves feel indulgent or even weak. But what if self-compassion is actually the bravest, most radical thing we can offer ourselves?

With honesty, vulnerability, and plenty of relatable moments, they break down the difference between self-compassion and self-indulgence, share personal stories of spirals, shame, and small acts of grace—and offer tangible ways to start flipping the script.

💬 Key Discussion Points

• Why self-compassion is often harder than showing compassion to others
• The voice in our heads: learning to interrupt self-criticism
• How compassion is not indulgence—but strength and support
• Real-life examples of freezing, spiralling, and finding grace
• The difference between pushing through and pausing
• Practical tools for practising self-compassion in daily life

🌱 Listener Takeaways

• Self-compassion isn’t a reward—it’s a lifeline when you're struggling
• You don’t have to earn your worth; it’s already yours
• Small shifts (like noticing your inner critic or putting a hand on your heart) can create big change
• Asking yourself “What would I say to a friend?” can help reframe harsh self-talk
• True compassion empowers us—it helps us move forward, not fall apart

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What’s one way you could show yourself more compassion this week?

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Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy

Editor: Allia Lenit Galos

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