The Comparison Trap: Why We Feel It & How to Break Free | YKMS

Episode Overview:

Comparison creeps in when we least expect it—whether through social media, a friend’s success, or watching others seemingly have it all. It can leave us feeling like we’re falling short, and when it turns into jealousy, it’s even harder to navigate.

In this episode, we unpack the roots of comparison and jealousy, how they shape our self-worth, and what we can do to break free. We share personal experiences, explore how social media fuels these feelings, and discuss how redefining success and practicing gratitude can shift our perspective.

Key Discussion Points:

• The Difference Between Comparison & Jealousy – Understanding how comparison highlights what we feel we lack, while jealousy often stems from desire.
• Personal Stories of Comparison – From childhood insecurities to career shifts, we share real-life examples of when comparison and jealousy have shown up in our lives.
• Social Media & The Highlight Reel Effect – How constant exposure to curated versions of people’s lives can trigger comparison
• Why We Compare Up, Not Down – We tend to focus on people who have more rather than those who have less.
• The Role of Self-Worth – Why building self-worth is the key to breaking free.
• Practical Strategies to Overcome Comparison & Jealousy – From reframing our perspective to grounding ourselves in gratitude.

Listener Takeaways:

• Recognize the difference between comparison and jealousy—awareness is the first step in understanding how these emotions impact you.
• Reframe your perspective—when you feel comparison creeping in, ask yourself: What is this really about? What does this tell me about my values
• Practice gratitude—shifting focus to what you already have can help lessen the weight of comparison.
• Celebrate others rather than compare—cheering for someone else’s success doesn’t take away from your own.
• Remember: Social media isn’t r

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