When the Past Calls, Don’t Answer: Embracing Who You Are Now | YKMS

Episode Overview

Have you ever noticed how certain people or places make you feel like you're stepping back in time—right into an old version of yourself? Maybe it's when you're visiting family, reconnecting with old friends, or stepping into familiar social dynamics that no longer feel aligned with who you are today.

In this episode, we explore why it can be so difficult to let go of outdated versions of ourselves, how to navigate relationships where others still see us as who we were, and the courage it takes to fully embrace who we are now. Inspired by a powerful listener letter, we dive into personal experiences, shifting identities, and the discomfort of change—offering practical ways to update the narrative and live in alignment with your authentic self.

Key Discussion Points

• A listener’s letter about feeling like they revert to an old version of themselves when visiting home
• Why we unconsciously shrink around certain people and fall back into outdated habits
• The challenge of being seen as the old you by family and friends who haven’t changed
• The roles we unconsciously play in social dynamics—and how to step out of them
• How labels from childhood and past experiences shape our self-image
• Gossip as a default social behaviour and why breaking free from it can feel awkward
• Practical steps to update your self-image and step into the person you are now

Listener Takeaways

• Recognize outdated self-beliefs – What’s something you’ve always thought about yourself that might not be true anymore?
• Give yourself permission to change – You are allowed to evolve and become a different person than you once were.
• Define who you are today – It’s not just about letting go of the past but stepping fully into your present self.
• Be conscious of your social dynamics – Notice when you’re slipping into old roles that no longer serve you.
• Own your growth – Even if others still see you as the person

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Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a li