April 10, 2025 • 27 mins
Transformation is calling—are you listening? Dr. BethAnne Kapansky-Wright guides us through the sacred art of metamorphosis, revealing why change isn't just inevitable but necessary for our souls' evolution.
Why do we resist changing shapes when our hearts desperately want to expand? Dr. BethAnne uncovers the sneaky ways resistance manifests—not just in our obvious desires to maintain the status quo, but in the harsh self-judgment we inflict when we don't "adapt properly" to life's transitions. This internal criticism creates invisible barriers to the very transformations trying to unfold within us.
Drawing wisdom from her book "Small Pearl's Big Wisdom," she reminds us that "a person could live in a square hole their entire life and never realize they were meant to be round." Our questions aren't failures—they're invitations. Our discontent isn't wrong—it's an opportunity to discover who we're becoming.
Key talking points include:
• Understanding that our resistance to change often manifests as harsh self-judgment or criticism
• Viewing our questions and discontent as invitations for growth rather than problems to solve
• Learning to "change shapes" rather than forcing ourselves to stay in old patterns
• Approaching transformation with curiosity and compassion instead of fear
• Finding anchors in our core values while trusting the unknown aspects of our journey
• Remembering that our future self is already reaching back to us with compassion
With gentle wisdom and poetic insights, Dr. BethAnne invites you to keep your heart open to change rather than closing down in fear. The stardust running through your veins contains all the wisdom you need—you just need to trust the process and allow yourself to become the new shape your soul is calling you toward.
Join us next week for an all-new episode of Your Heart Magic and more psychology, spirituality, storytelling, and heart wisdom.
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Dr. BethAnne Kapansky Wright is a Licensed Psychologist, Spiritual Educator, and Akashic Records Reader. She is the author of Small Pearls Big Wisdom, the Award-Winning Lamentations of the Sea, its sequels, and several books of poetry. A psychologist with a mystic mind, she weaves perspectives from both worlds to offer holistic wisdom.
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Intro/Outro Music (00:13):
Aloha and welcome to your Heart Magic, an
illuminating space wherepsychology, spirituality and
heart wisdom meet.
Here's your host, dr BethannKapansky-Wright.
Author, psychologist andspiritual educator.
Dr. BethAnne Kapansky Wri (00:33):
Aloha everybody.
Welcome to your Heart Magic.
This is Dr BethannKapansky-Wright, and happy
middle of April to everybody.
Today we are talking about theconcept of metamorphosis and
personal transformation andprinciples for embracing change.
This is a favorite topic ofmine to talk about and I tend to
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revisit it in many, many formson this podcast because it's so
relevant to who we are as humanbeings and spiritual beings.
In our human development, we areconstantly growing.
We are in this world that ischanging around us.
We know that change is the onlyconstant and, from a soul
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perspective, we are here tolearn and grow and evolve our
souls, and so that signifieschange too, and I've always
found it interesting that changeis such a fundamental principle
to our existence onmulti-dimensional levels.
And it's also so hard for us.
Our mind can be resistant to it, and resistance can come in
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different ways.
I think when we think aboutbeing resistant to change,
oftentimes what is thesuperficial level of that or I
guess the surface level isfeeling like well, I don't want
to change, I want to keep thingsthe same, and certainly that
comes up a lot for us, where wefeel just really resistant and
keep trying to go back to howsomething used to be, or put
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something back in a box, or wemiss or yearn for how things
used to be.
But on a deeper level,resistance can pop up in other
ways and I often thinkresistance to change comes out
when we really go through theseperiods where we are changing
and we have a lot of self-doubtand we question ourself and we
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don't trust our process and wethink there's something wrong
with us or that we're notreacting to the change going on
in our life in an adaptive wayand we can be very harsh or
judgmental or non-compassionatewith ourselves and I think that
creates resistance too.
These are very human things tofeel, but at the same time, the
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more energy we spend on doubtingourselves and questioning
ourselves and feeling like we'resomehow doing it wrong, the
more we are not leaning into thechange and we're not open to
the change.
We're really close to itbecause we have fear there and I
want to emphasize this is verynormal, it's very human.
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We all go through it.
So there's nothing wrong withthis.
We're not not being spiritualor good human beings, whatever
that means.
We're not being psychologicallymaladaptive when we feel that
way.
It's a really normal emotion.
But I think that we can learnto continue to stay open to
change by noticing those timesthat we are going through a
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change process in our life andwe're starting to be really hard
on ourselves because we thinkwe should be adapting better and
doing it better somehow.
So those are the kinds ofthings that I want to talk about
today and take a topic that wetalk about a lot and put a
little bit of a new twist on itand identify some of the
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sneakier ways that we resistchange or doubt change in our
own life, and how can we stayopen and trust more.
So with that, I want to share apassage from Small Pearl's Big
Wisdom, and it is called Shapes.
We sometimes forget that part ofour personal growth and
evolution is not just ourability to metamorphosis and
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change shapes, but our need forthose things.
This is a need we don't alwaysunderstand, particularly if we
believe our life path is meantto be fixed and that we should
have ourselves figured out orhave things more well-ordered,
organized and tidy.
Sometimes we get scared when webegin to question our path, and
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yet if we don't allow ourselvesthe space to question, how can
we discover more about ourselvesand learn to listen to our
intuition and soul's urgings forgrowth.
A person could live in a squarehole their entire life and
never realize they were meant tobe round, expansive and growing
upwards in gentle spirals oflight, even as they do the inner
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work of spiraling downwardsinto self-discovery, healing
inner wounds and old patternsthat no longer serve who they
are becoming.
Our questions are clues.
Our discontent is an invitationto sit with ourselves and
reflect.
Our urgings and yearnings areopportunities to seek new
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meaning and engage with the selfwith curiosity.
We are meant for change, builtfor change, constantly changing,
so we best learn how to betterembrace change and work with our
growth with constructivedetermination and curiosity.
When we feel stuck, rigid ortrapped in our lives, we can
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take a deep breath and allow forthe possibility that we are
trying to change forms and knowourselves in a new way.
We can seek support from thosewho have walked the path before
and allow space for ourquestions to flow.
We can try to trust thatthrough our process of living,
we will gradually find theanswers to ourselves and a
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non-linear, imperfect doodle ofgeometry, heart and alchemy.
We too will eventually evolveinto new shapes.
The Akashic Record said thatthis entire year the year 2025,
was the year of remapping peace,and remapping peace in the
sense of I imagine that that ishappening on a larger scale,
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collective scale whether or notthings look like that on the
surface right now, there'sobviously a lot that's being
shooken up but remapping peacewithin ourselves, within our
understanding of how we arelooking at the world, how we are
working with the energies inour life, how we are
understanding and expressingourself and interacting with
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what's around us.
It's a year of change and it'sa year of rewiring neural
networks and finding newpathways for doing things.
It is a year where we thoughtwe were going in one direction
and we find ourselves in acompletely other, different
direction or somewhere verydifferent than what we would
have imagined for ourselves afew years back.
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And how do we make peace withthat?
How do we renegotiate ourequilibrium and our sense of
well-being and our sense ofbalance?
How do we remap peace inside ofourselves?
And that's the invitation thatSpirit has from us this year.
According to the Akashic Recordsand the wisdom there, and for
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this quarter specifically, oneof the things that the records
talked about was keeping ourhearts open to our change.
Keeping our hearts open to thisremapping and rewiring process
and to allowing ourselves to bedifferent and experience
ourselves differently.
And I think this is exactlywhat we're talking about when we
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think about the topic ofembracing personal
transformation, embracingmetamorphosis and being opening
to questioning our experienceitself, without resisting that
experience and doubting thatexperience and fearing that
we're doing it wrong andshutting it down and getting
afraid and closing the door ofour hearts on ourself and on
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witnessing ourself.
Sometimes we try and shoveourselves back into an old mold
because it's really comfortableand it's easy and it feels so
scary, I think, to step into theterritory of new.
That can be really hard for ourminds because it's unfamiliar
and it's foreign and it can behighly uncomfortable.
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But we are allowed to changeshapes, and that is what that
passage was talking about andthat sounds like such a basic
thing to say that we're allowedto change shapes.
I think that general wisdompeople would say well, of course
we're allowed to change.
Change is nature's way, it'slife's way.
Of course we're allowed tochange.
I've often found that knowingthat on a mind level, knowing
that as a general aphorism orguideline to live by, versus
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truly immersing ourselves in itand experiencing it and allowing
ourselves to be in the change.
Those are two completelydifferent things, and so this
idea that we are allowed tochange shapes.
I think we need a lot ofreminders of it, because we do
keep changing over our lifespanand for many of us, I think, the
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change can feel very constant.
I know for myself, it feelslike there's just been one cycle
after another, after anotherfor the past few years, and
maybe this is part of aging,maybe this is part of just where
the world is at right now,where I think it feels like time
is speeding up in the sense ofthe velocity of events going on
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and also our access to theinflux of information.
So we're dialed into the amountof things going on around us.
If we choose to tune into thosethings, all of that feels like
change is happening at thisrapid fire rate, and when I look
back and think about beingyounger, change was going on,
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but it felt like it was morespaced out or spread out or
something like that.
So I think it's probably afactor of all those things from
some external, bigger cosmicenergies, world energies, and
then also just my personalexperience of being at this
current junction in my life, butI don't think that is unique to
me.
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I think that many of us areexperiencing this almost
constant state of change andjust when we think things settle
down or are getting comfortableagain, it's like more change
hits and it's like, oh, nowwe're adapting to this and oh,
now we're adapting to this.
And sometimes we haven't fullyadapted to something before the
next thing's coming along.
And more and more we have thisinvitation just to stay open to
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our experience and to stayreally curious and to make peace
with the fact that we're notgoing back to how things used to
be.
We're being asked to moveforward in energetic ways and
ways and in our outer landscapeof what's going on in the world,
but also in our understandingof how do we make peace with
where we're at right now in ourlives and in the greater
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collective.
All of that continues to evolve.
And so it's this constantinvitation to continue to
embrace change and, as thepassage said, we best learn how
to embrace change and work withour growth with constructive
determination and curiosity.
And that's the piece that's kindof the kicker for many of us,
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because going through a changeprocess can feel really messy
and part of change sometimes isdestructive.
It is the dismantling of things.
It's something that comes to anending or a completion, within
ourselves or within our externalworld.
It is something that sometimeswill be disorderly or unruly or
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chaotic.
It can feel chaotic.
There's so many ways thatchange shows up in our life, and
so those kinds of energiesoften feel like big tower energy
from the tarot deck.
This very destructive lightninghit and things are falling
apart.
It's not always that dramatic,sometimes it is much more subtle
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than that, but there issomething about the energy of
change that requires somethingto end so something new can
begin.
That is the dance and therhythm of life Something dies,
something else is reborn, andthis plays out in millions of
forms, over and over and overagain, both literally and
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energetically and metaphorically.
And so how do we stayconstructive and curious with
that, when part of the nature ofchange is this disordering,
this dismantling of things inorder to create a new order?
And I think curiosity has a lotto do with it.
I think keeping an attitude ofplay and openness has a lot to
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do with it.
I think any time that we startto identify that we're falling
into a fearful place, and fearcan look like self-judgment, it
can look like condemnation ofself.
It can look like feeling reallyfrozen and paralyzed and like
we can't move because we areoverwhelmed.
It can look like grippingsomething really tightly and
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holding it in our hands andsaying I don't want to let this
go, I can't let this go, and wedo not have to rush these
processes of letting go or ourfeelings or some of the things
that are coming up.
When we talk about how do wehandle change constructively and
how do we identify resistanceand fear and work with that in a
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constructive way.
It's not about eradicating it.
And when we see that inourselves, saying that's wrong
and bad, you're in fear.
It's not about judgment.
That is the antithesis of whatwe want to do.
We want to introduce compassion, we want to introduce breath,
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we want to introduce space intothat place.
We want to step into the roleof being the observer of our
process.
Part of curiosity is being agood observer of our process and
so if we notice a place that wehave a lot of fear or doubt or
big feelings coming up aroundsomething, it's being able to
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move into the role of thewatcher and it's being able to
access our wiser self so we cansay, wow, look at those big
feelings there.
Look at that big fear, look atthat big self-doubt or I'm
really judging myself harshlytoday, I'm being really critical
of myself or really critical ofother people, and how does that
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feel to me and how do I feel inmy body and how do I feel
emotionally and being able toinvestigate and ask ourselves
questions, and it's really hardto remove that self-judgment
piece.
But that is really the alchemy,I think, of embracing change,
if we can take out that voice ofcriticism, because that's
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what's really destructive.
It's that voice of beingself-critical and being
judgmental and being reallyfearful and, in our fear, being
very condemning of ourselves.
And when we do that, that'susually when we're inflicting
self-injury and we start to beatup on ourselves or trash on
ourselves or feel really badabout how we're reacting to
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something, and that's not veryuseful for overly long.
It's maybe useful if we observethat we're starting to go down
that road.
Maybe in our observation itallows us to ask the question
like, wow, I'm hearing a lot ofnegative self-talk coming out
today and is this really how Iwant to spend my time?
Is this really a good use ofhow I want to direct my energy
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today, and is there a differentway to think about this?
Is there a different way toframe this?
Is there a different way tostay curious?
If nothing else, if we reallycan't snap out of it and that's
valid, sometimes we can't at thevery least, maybe we can
connect with the desire and say,right now, this is really hard
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and I acknowledge these bigfeelings and how difficult these
feelings feel and I'd like tobelieve differently.
Please help me, universe.
I'm not even sure how to shiftthis.
I don't know if I can shiftthis right now.
This feels so overwhelming, butthere's enough of me that would
like to that I invite spiritinto the mix, or invite higher
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perspective into the mix, or Iinvite some form of higher
energy into this and please liftme up above the fray.
If we can connect with any ofthat, it's often enough to put
breath into that space andinvite grace into that space.
And grace is this softeningenergy.
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It's the great equalizer.
Grace just takes overeverything and covers it all and
smooths it out and brings morepeace and harmony into the mix.
Grace takes something grittyand ugly and softens it.
Grace is like this goldenenergy, like this layer of gold
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magic that covers everything andit just makes it a little bit
more gentle.
Sometimes, when I'm working withmy own life and I'm doing some
visualization work and I'mworking with something in my
life that might be a hardsituation or something that
feels challenging, and I thinkabout, like what do I need in
this, what could I use right now?
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Grace is often something on mylist and since I'm big on
visualization and I'm a reallyvisual person, the way that I
sometimes picture that is, Iwill think about the week ahead.
Let's say I've got a big weekand I'm going to need a lot of
grace to do all the things thatI need to do and to show up and
show up in the world the waythat I want to and to meet the
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challenges that I see coming.
And I will picture, like thesestreams of golden light going
out before me and just weavinginto my week and leaving these
little Easter eggs, thesedeposits of softness or kindness
or support or whatever I'mgoing to need in that moment,
and just kind of leaving themahead like a drop off point for
whatever I will need to accessin that moment, and just kind of
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leaving them ahead like adrop-off point for whatever I
will need to access in thatmoment and I just see this
golden light just smoothingeverything over, and often for
me what I'll feel like is that Imight not have all the answers,
I'm not even sure I know thequestions to some of the things
that I'm working through.
But when I allow grace and workwith the energy of grace and
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invite grace in and allow forits presence and that energetic
support and that divine lovingalchemy to infuse itself in my
life, somehow everything justeases, it feels more peaceful.
It feels like I'm remappingpeace in my week and I'm looking
at a week that might beslightly chaotic and I'm already
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inviting those energies in sothat I'm able to get through it
in the most peaceful, easefulway possible.
So I think having grace for ourchange process and working with
grace and working with theenergy of grace and creative
ways is such an integral part ofembracing change.
And one of the last pieces thatI wanted to talk about today is
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that we cannot rush the processof change.
We truly do just have to trust.
And that self-trust piece to meis part of the nuts and bolts
of how do we keep our heartsopen to change, like, how do we
do what the Akashic Records said, where they just talked about
keeping our hearts open to thechange process going on inside
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of us right now, not hiding away, not judging ourselves, not
feeling like we have to fixthings or make it better or sort
ourselves out, but just stayingopen and staying curious.
I think trust is a veryintegral part of that and it's
something that many of us arechallenged to do, because we
don't know where things aregoing and so it can feel like
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this blind trust, this leap offaith into something unknown,
and we don't know how things aregoing to look when we come out
the other side.
I can think of a lot of times inlife where I felt like I'm
standing at a crossroads tosolve and sometimes there's a
big dramatic decision to make,like leaving a relationship,
leaving one place and moving toanother, leaving something
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career-wise and making a bigchange.
Sometimes the crossroads issomething that's more internal,
where I can feel somethingshifting in me or I'm realigning
values or going throughsomething inside of myself,
where I'm shedding an oldidentity and I'm actively
choosing to open to somethingnew.
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So this energy has shown up inmany ways and many forms and I
can think so vividly of how manytimes I've felt this sense of I
really don't know how I'm goingto look when I come out the
other side of this and I don'thave control over that.
I've been through enough changeprocesses in my life that I've
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allowed for that evolution ofself, that I know enough to know
what I don't know.
And what I don't know is howit's going to look.
I know that in a change processwe can keep coming back to our
core values and recenteringourselves and coming back into
our hearts and listening towhatever wisdom is there.
I do think it helps to havesomething to anchor ourselves to
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so we don't feel totally lost.
So sometimes anchoring is justcoming back into our values For
me, reminding myself that Itrust my heart, I trust my soul,
I trust the direction.
My life path is unfolding.
It hasn't let me down so far,so I'm just going to keep
sticking with it and hope thatit all works out.
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I trust my spiritual connection.
That connection has been testedand tried and tested again many
, many times over and I do trustthat there's spiritual support
there.
I trust my relationship withnature and that nature always
feels supporting and alwaysfeels uplifting, and nature can
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sometimes have some harshconditions within itself, but
its wisdom is steady and itswisdom is consistent.
And so there's these thingsthat I trust.
And then there's these corevalues, these things that are
kind of the essence of Beth Annand they're just aspects of
myself.
But I always come back to aplace that I have an innate
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whimsy about me.
I like to laugh at life, I loveto wear usually bright colors,
I am given to creativity, I loveto dance.
Elements of me that might looklike their personality, but they
feel more like these weavingsand the alchemy of who I am that
have changed form but alwaysstayed the same at the same time
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over the years.
And so I'll just come back tothose things, things that light
me up, things that I value, anyattitudes and beliefs that have
stayed consistent for me.
So that acts as an anchor.
But the rest of it, we justhave to trust and we have to let
go, and we have to trust oursoul, trust our heart, trust our
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future self, trust ourspiritual connection, trust life
, find something to trust and towork with that energy of trust.
And when we are able to dipinto the energy of trust, I
think it allows us to betterembrace change and to better
embrace ourselves and trustourselves.
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I love the concept that I cantrust my future self to figure
it out, Because who I am now wasmy future self five years ago.
Six years ago, when I wasprobably sitting at a crossroads
of change and thinking I don'tknow what's going to happen.
Can I trust this?
And if I could travel back intime, there's some words of
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wisdom I would have for myyounger self.
I think many of us would, butprobably one of the things that
we would say is I love you,you're going to be okay, you
will figure this out, you are asurvivor, you're a thriver, you
are transformative, you aremagic.
We would give ourselvessomething that helped us connect
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with self-belief and self-trust, and so I love the idea that
future Bethann, six months fromnow, one year from now, five
years from now, is in the realmof multiverses, traveling back
to me right now, in this moment,and saying stay with yourself,
just trust.
You can trust me, trust us,trust your soul.
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We've got this.
So with that, I'm going toclose today with a little poem
from Things of this Nature,words for the Mystic Heart, and
it is called you Are theUniverse, and I think it sums up
what we've been talking abouttoday.
I know this is a hard one.
It's hard for me too, butsometimes we have to trust in
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our own higher plan for self.
You are part of this universe,are you not?
An equal participant in thistime and this space?
You help speak your life intobeing.
Each day, the lights of onetrillion orbs of stardust are
running through your veins.
You are here, you have purpose,you are powerful, you matter,
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my dear one.
From time to time, everybodyloses their way, but though we
can't always see the mysteries,we can choose to believe in the
power of self and keep learningto be the light that we seek.
Thank you so much for joiningme on the podcast today.
I will be back next week with anew your Heart Magic on
psychology, creativity,spirituality, heart wisdom and
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storytelling.
In the meantime, as always, bewell, be love, be you and be
magic.
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Aloha everybody.
Welcome to your Heart Magic.
This is Dr BethannKapansky-Wright, and happy
middle of April to everybody.
Today we are talking about theconcept of metamorphosis and
personal transformation andprinciples for embracing change.
This is a favorite topic ofmine to talk about and I tend to
(00:57):
revisit it in many, many formson this podcast because it's so
relevant to who we are as humanbeings and spiritual beings.
In our human development, we areconstantly growing.
We are in this world that ischanging around us.
We know that change is the onlyconstant and, from a soul
(01:18):
perspective, we are here tolearn and grow and evolve our
souls, and so that signifieschange too, and I've always
found it interesting that changeis such a fundamental principle
to our existence onmulti-dimensional levels.
And it's also so hard for us.
Our mind can be resistant to it, and resistance can come in
(01:43):
different ways.
I think when we think aboutbeing resistant to change,
oftentimes what is thesuperficial level of that or I
guess the surface level isfeeling like well, I don't want
to change, I want to keep thingsthe same, and certainly that
comes up a lot for us, where wefeel just really resistant and
keep trying to go back to howsomething used to be, or put
(02:06):
something back in a box, or wemiss or yearn for how things
used to be.
But on a deeper level,resistance can pop up in other
ways and I often thinkresistance to change comes out
when we really go through theseperiods where we are changing
and we have a lot of self-doubtand we question ourself and we
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don't trust our process and wethink there's something wrong
with us or that we're notreacting to the change going on
in our life in an adaptive wayand we can be very harsh or
judgmental or non-compassionatewith ourselves and I think that
creates resistance too.
These are very human things tofeel, but at the same time, the
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more energy we spend on doubtingourselves and questioning
ourselves and feeling like we'resomehow doing it wrong, the
more we are not leaning into thechange and we're not open to
the change.
We're really close to itbecause we have fear there and I
want to emphasize this is verynormal, it's very human.
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We all go through it.
So there's nothing wrong withthis.
We're not not being spiritualor good human beings, whatever
that means.
We're not being psychologicallymaladaptive when we feel that
way.
It's a really normal emotion.
But I think that we can learnto continue to stay open to
change by noticing those timesthat we are going through a
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change process in our life andwe're starting to be really hard
on ourselves because we thinkwe should be adapting better and
doing it better somehow.
So those are the kinds ofthings that I want to talk about
today and take a topic that wetalk about a lot and put a
little bit of a new twist on itand identify some of the
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sneakier ways that we resistchange or doubt change in our
own life, and how can we stayopen and trust more.
So with that, I want to share apassage from Small Pearl's Big
Wisdom, and it is called Shapes.
We sometimes forget that part ofour personal growth and
evolution is not just ourability to metamorphosis and
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change shapes, but our need forthose things.
This is a need we don't alwaysunderstand, particularly if we
believe our life path is meantto be fixed and that we should
have ourselves figured out orhave things more well-ordered,
organized and tidy.
Sometimes we get scared when webegin to question our path, and
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yet if we don't allow ourselvesthe space to question, how can
we discover more about ourselvesand learn to listen to our
intuition and soul's urgings forgrowth.
A person could live in a squarehole their entire life and
never realize they were meant tobe round, expansive and growing
upwards in gentle spirals oflight, even as they do the inner
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work of spiraling downwardsinto self-discovery, healing
inner wounds and old patternsthat no longer serve who they
are becoming.
Our questions are clues.
Our discontent is an invitationto sit with ourselves and
reflect.
Our urgings and yearnings areopportunities to seek new
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meaning and engage with the selfwith curiosity.
We are meant for change, builtfor change, constantly changing,
so we best learn how to betterembrace change and work with our
growth with constructivedetermination and curiosity.
When we feel stuck, rigid ortrapped in our lives, we can
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take a deep breath and allow forthe possibility that we are
trying to change forms and knowourselves in a new way.
We can seek support from thosewho have walked the path before
and allow space for ourquestions to flow.
We can try to trust thatthrough our process of living,
we will gradually find theanswers to ourselves and a
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non-linear, imperfect doodle ofgeometry, heart and alchemy.
We too will eventually evolveinto new shapes.
The Akashic Record said thatthis entire year the year 2025,
was the year of remapping peace,and remapping peace in the
sense of I imagine that that ishappening on a larger scale,
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collective scale whether or notthings look like that on the
surface right now, there'sobviously a lot that's being
shooken up but remapping peacewithin ourselves, within our
understanding of how we arelooking at the world, how we are
working with the energies inour life, how we are
understanding and expressingourself and interacting with
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what's around us.
It's a year of change and it'sa year of rewiring neural
networks and finding newpathways for doing things.
It is a year where we thoughtwe were going in one direction
and we find ourselves in acompletely other, different
direction or somewhere verydifferent than what we would
have imagined for ourselves afew years back.
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And how do we make peace withthat?
How do we renegotiate ourequilibrium and our sense of
well-being and our sense ofbalance?
How do we remap peace inside ofourselves?
And that's the invitation thatSpirit has from us this year.
According to the Akashic Recordsand the wisdom there, and for
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this quarter specifically, oneof the things that the records
talked about was keeping ourhearts open to our change.
Keeping our hearts open to thisremapping and rewiring process
and to allowing ourselves to bedifferent and experience
ourselves differently.
And I think this is exactlywhat we're talking about when we
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think about the topic ofembracing personal
transformation, embracingmetamorphosis and being opening
to questioning our experienceitself, without resisting that
experience and doubting thatexperience and fearing that
we're doing it wrong andshutting it down and getting
afraid and closing the door ofour hearts on ourself and on
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witnessing ourself.
Sometimes we try and shoveourselves back into an old mold
because it's really comfortableand it's easy and it feels so
scary, I think, to step into theterritory of new.
That can be really hard for ourminds because it's unfamiliar
and it's foreign and it can behighly uncomfortable.
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But we are allowed to changeshapes, and that is what that
passage was talking about andthat sounds like such a basic
thing to say that we're allowedto change shapes.
I think that general wisdompeople would say well, of course
we're allowed to change.
Change is nature's way, it'slife's way.
Of course we're allowed tochange.
I've often found that knowingthat on a mind level, knowing
that as a general aphorism orguideline to live by, versus
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truly immersing ourselves in itand experiencing it and allowing
ourselves to be in the change.
Those are two completelydifferent things, and so this
idea that we are allowed tochange shapes.
I think we need a lot ofreminders of it, because we do
keep changing over our lifespanand for many of us, I think, the
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change can feel very constant.
I know for myself, it feelslike there's just been one cycle
after another, after anotherfor the past few years, and
maybe this is part of aging,maybe this is part of just where
the world is at right now,where I think it feels like time
is speeding up in the sense ofthe velocity of events going on
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and also our access to theinflux of information.
So we're dialed into the amountof things going on around us.
If we choose to tune into thosethings, all of that feels like
change is happening at thisrapid fire rate, and when I look
back and think about beingyounger, change was going on,
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but it felt like it was morespaced out or spread out or
something like that.
So I think it's probably afactor of all those things from
some external, bigger cosmicenergies, world energies, and
then also just my personalexperience of being at this
current junction in my life, butI don't think that is unique to
me.
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I think that many of us areexperiencing this almost
constant state of change andjust when we think things settle
down or are getting comfortableagain, it's like more change
hits and it's like, oh, nowwe're adapting to this and oh,
now we're adapting to this.
And sometimes we haven't fullyadapted to something before the
next thing's coming along.
And more and more we have thisinvitation just to stay open to
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our experience and to stayreally curious and to make peace
with the fact that we're notgoing back to how things used to
be.
We're being asked to moveforward in energetic ways and
ways and in our outer landscapeof what's going on in the world,
but also in our understandingof how do we make peace with
where we're at right now in ourlives and in the greater
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collective.
All of that continues to evolve.
And so it's this constantinvitation to continue to
embrace change and, as thepassage said, we best learn how
to embrace change and work withour growth with constructive
determination and curiosity.
And that's the piece that's kindof the kicker for many of us,
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because going through a changeprocess can feel really messy
and part of change sometimes isdestructive.
It is the dismantling of things.
It's something that comes to anending or a completion, within
ourselves or within our externalworld.
It is something that sometimeswill be disorderly or unruly or
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chaotic.
It can feel chaotic.
There's so many ways thatchange shows up in our life, and
so those kinds of energiesoften feel like big tower energy
from the tarot deck.
This very destructive lightninghit and things are falling
apart.
It's not always that dramatic,sometimes it is much more subtle
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than that, but there issomething about the energy of
change that requires somethingto end so something new can
begin.
That is the dance and therhythm of life Something dies,
something else is reborn, andthis plays out in millions of
forms, over and over and overagain, both literally and
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energetically and metaphorically.
And so how do we stayconstructive and curious with
that, when part of the nature ofchange is this disordering,
this dismantling of things inorder to create a new order?
And I think curiosity has a lotto do with it.
I think keeping an attitude ofplay and openness has a lot to
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do with it.
I think any time that we startto identify that we're falling
into a fearful place, and fearcan look like self-judgment, it
can look like condemnation ofself.
It can look like feeling reallyfrozen and paralyzed and like
we can't move because we areoverwhelmed.
It can look like grippingsomething really tightly and
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holding it in our hands andsaying I don't want to let this
go, I can't let this go, and wedo not have to rush these
processes of letting go or ourfeelings or some of the things
that are coming up.
When we talk about how do wehandle change constructively and
how do we identify resistanceand fear and work with that in a
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constructive way.
It's not about eradicating it.
And when we see that inourselves, saying that's wrong
and bad, you're in fear.
It's not about judgment.
That is the antithesis of whatwe want to do.
We want to introduce compassion, we want to introduce breath,
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we want to introduce space intothat place.
We want to step into the roleof being the observer of our
process.
Part of curiosity is being agood observer of our process and
so if we notice a place that wehave a lot of fear or doubt or
big feelings coming up aroundsomething, it's being able to
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move into the role of thewatcher and it's being able to
access our wiser self so we cansay, wow, look at those big
feelings there.
Look at that big fear, look atthat big self-doubt or I'm
really judging myself harshlytoday, I'm being really critical
of myself or really critical ofother people, and how does that
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feel to me and how do I feel inmy body and how do I feel
emotionally and being able toinvestigate and ask ourselves
questions, and it's really hardto remove that self-judgment
piece.
But that is really the alchemy,I think, of embracing change,
if we can take out that voice ofcriticism, because that's
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what's really destructive.
It's that voice of beingself-critical and being
judgmental and being reallyfearful and, in our fear, being
very condemning of ourselves.
And when we do that, that'susually when we're inflicting
self-injury and we start to beatup on ourselves or trash on
ourselves or feel really badabout how we're reacting to
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something, and that's not veryuseful for overly long.
It's maybe useful if we observethat we're starting to go down
that road.
Maybe in our observation itallows us to ask the question
like, wow, I'm hearing a lot ofnegative self-talk coming out
today and is this really how Iwant to spend my time?
Is this really a good use ofhow I want to direct my energy
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today, and is there a differentway to think about this?
Is there a different way toframe this?
Is there a different way tostay curious?
If nothing else, if we reallycan't snap out of it and that's
valid, sometimes we can't at thevery least, maybe we can
connect with the desire and say,right now, this is really hard
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and I acknowledge these bigfeelings and how difficult these
feelings feel and I'd like tobelieve differently.
Please help me, universe.
I'm not even sure how to shiftthis.
I don't know if I can shiftthis right now.
This feels so overwhelming, butthere's enough of me that would
like to that I invite spiritinto the mix, or invite higher
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perspective into the mix, or Iinvite some form of higher
energy into this and please liftme up above the fray.
If we can connect with any ofthat, it's often enough to put
breath into that space andinvite grace into that space.
And grace is this softeningenergy.
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It's the great equalizer.
Grace just takes overeverything and covers it all and
smooths it out and brings morepeace and harmony into the mix.
Grace takes something grittyand ugly and softens it.
Grace is like this goldenenergy, like this layer of gold
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magic that covers everything andit just makes it a little bit
more gentle.
Sometimes, when I'm working withmy own life and I'm doing some
visualization work and I'mworking with something in my
life that might be a hardsituation or something that
feels challenging, and I thinkabout, like what do I need in
this, what could I use right now?
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Grace is often something on mylist and since I'm big on
visualization and I'm a reallyvisual person, the way that I
sometimes picture that is, Iwill think about the week ahead.
Let's say I've got a big weekand I'm going to need a lot of
grace to do all the things thatI need to do and to show up and
show up in the world the waythat I want to and to meet the
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challenges that I see coming.
And I will picture, like thesestreams of golden light going
out before me and just weavinginto my week and leaving these
little Easter eggs, thesedeposits of softness or kindness
or support or whatever I'mgoing to need in that moment,
and just kind of leaving themahead like a drop off point for
whatever I will need to accessin that moment, and just kind of
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leaving them ahead like adrop-off point for whatever I
will need to access in thatmoment and I just see this
golden light just smoothingeverything over, and often for
me what I'll feel like is that Imight not have all the answers,
I'm not even sure I know thequestions to some of the things
that I'm working through.
But when I allow grace and workwith the energy of grace and
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invite grace in and allow forits presence and that energetic
support and that divine lovingalchemy to infuse itself in my
life, somehow everything justeases, it feels more peaceful.
It feels like I'm remappingpeace in my week and I'm looking
at a week that might beslightly chaotic and I'm already
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inviting those energies in sothat I'm able to get through it
in the most peaceful, easefulway possible.
So I think having grace for ourchange process and working with
grace and working with theenergy of grace and creative
ways is such an integral part ofembracing change.
And one of the last pieces thatI wanted to talk about today is
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that we cannot rush the processof change.
We truly do just have to trust.
And that self-trust piece to meis part of the nuts and bolts
of how do we keep our heartsopen to change, like, how do we
do what the Akashic Records said, where they just talked about
keeping our hearts open to thechange process going on inside
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of us right now, not hiding away, not judging ourselves, not
feeling like we have to fixthings or make it better or sort
ourselves out, but just stayingopen and staying curious.
I think trust is a veryintegral part of that and it's
something that many of us arechallenged to do, because we
don't know where things aregoing and so it can feel like
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this blind trust, this leap offaith into something unknown,
and we don't know how things aregoing to look when we come out
the other side.
I can think of a lot of times inlife where I felt like I'm
standing at a crossroads tosolve and sometimes there's a
big dramatic decision to make,like leaving a relationship,
leaving one place and moving toanother, leaving something
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career-wise and making a bigchange.
Sometimes the crossroads issomething that's more internal,
where I can feel somethingshifting in me or I'm realigning
values or going throughsomething inside of myself,
where I'm shedding an oldidentity and I'm actively
choosing to open to somethingnew.
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So this energy has shown up inmany ways and many forms and I
can think so vividly of how manytimes I've felt this sense of I
really don't know how I'm goingto look when I come out the
other side of this and I don'thave control over that.
I've been through enough changeprocesses in my life that I've
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allowed for that evolution ofself, that I know enough to know
what I don't know.
And what I don't know is howit's going to look.
I know that in a change processwe can keep coming back to our
core values and recenteringourselves and coming back into
our hearts and listening towhatever wisdom is there.
I do think it helps to havesomething to anchor ourselves to
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so we don't feel totally lost.
So sometimes anchoring is justcoming back into our values For
me, reminding myself that Itrust my heart, I trust my soul,
I trust the direction.
My life path is unfolding.
It hasn't let me down so far,so I'm just going to keep
sticking with it and hope thatit all works out.
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I trust my spiritual connection.
That connection has been testedand tried and tested again many
, many times over and I do trustthat there's spiritual support
there.
I trust my relationship withnature and that nature always
feels supporting and alwaysfeels uplifting, and nature can
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sometimes have some harshconditions within itself, but
its wisdom is steady and itswisdom is consistent.
And so there's these thingsthat I trust.
And then there's these corevalues, these things that are
kind of the essence of Beth Annand they're just aspects of
myself.
But I always come back to aplace that I have an innate
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whimsy about me.
I like to laugh at life, I loveto wear usually bright colors,
I am given to creativity, I loveto dance.
Elements of me that might looklike their personality, but they
feel more like these weavingsand the alchemy of who I am that
have changed form but alwaysstayed the same at the same time
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over the years.
And so I'll just come back tothose things, things that light
me up, things that I value, anyattitudes and beliefs that have
stayed consistent for me.
So that acts as an anchor.
But the rest of it, we justhave to trust and we have to let
go, and we have to trust oursoul, trust our heart, trust our
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future self, trust ourspiritual connection, trust life
, find something to trust and towork with that energy of trust.
And when we are able to dipinto the energy of trust, I
think it allows us to betterembrace change and to better
embrace ourselves and trustourselves.
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I love the concept that I cantrust my future self to figure
it out, Because who I am now wasmy future self five years ago.
Six years ago, when I wasprobably sitting at a crossroads
of change and thinking I don'tknow what's going to happen.
Can I trust this?
And if I could travel back intime, there's some words of
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wisdom I would have for myyounger self.
I think many of us would, butprobably one of the things that
we would say is I love you,you're going to be okay, you
will figure this out, you are asurvivor, you're a thriver, you
are transformative, you aremagic.
We would give ourselvessomething that helped us connect
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with self-belief and self-trust, and so I love the idea that
future Bethann, six months fromnow, one year from now, five
years from now, is in the realmof multiverses, traveling back
to me right now, in this moment,and saying stay with yourself,
just trust.
You can trust me, trust us,trust your soul.
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We've got this.
So with that, I'm going toclose today with a little poem
from Things of this Nature,words for the Mystic Heart, and
it is called you Are theUniverse, and I think it sums up
what we've been talking abouttoday.
I know this is a hard one.
It's hard for me too, butsometimes we have to trust in
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our own higher plan for self.
You are part of this universe,are you not?
An equal participant in thistime and this space?
You help speak your life intobeing.
Each day, the lights of onetrillion orbs of stardust are
running through your veins.
You are here, you have purpose,you are powerful, you matter,
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my dear one.
From time to time, everybodyloses their way, but though we
can't always see the mysteries,we can choose to believe in the
power of self and keep learningto be the light that we seek.
Thank you so much for joiningme on the podcast today.
I will be back next week with anew your Heart Magic on
psychology, creativity,spirituality, heart wisdom and
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storytelling.
In the meantime, as always, bewell, be love, be you and be
magic.
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with Dr Bethann Kapansky-Wright.
Tune in next week for a newepisode to support and empower
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