We’re halfway through what teachers and parents know to be “the thousand days of May”, a month of end-of-year celebrations, sports tournaments, field trips, dance recitals, and…the burnout that comes along with it.
Amid their hectic schedules, Ashley, Chantal, and Betsy found time this week to sit down and interview their family members: Ashley’s daughter, who just turned five; Chantal’s nine-year-old son and 11 and 14-year-old daughters; and Betsy’s husband. This is an exercise close to Ashley’s heart; she’s been on a year-long journey to sit down and record conversations with her immediate and extended family. In fact, she’s even starting a company based on this very concept (more to come on that soon!).
While Chantal and Betsy were initially hesitant to set aside the time (see above, re: the thousand days of May), they were both pleasantly surprised by how easy and impactful it ended up being. In the midst of to-do lists and daily tasks, we rarely sit down solely with the intention of learning something new about our loved ones.
Ashley has always believed in the power of preserving stories, and a recent experience only reaffirmed her conviction. A few weeks ago, Ashley’s father suffered from a stroke. While he’s now out of the hospital and recovering, there were a few hours where Ashley wasn’t sure if she’d ever speak to him again. In addition to her feelings of shock and grief, she felt a deep peace that she could only attribute to the fact that nothing has been left unsaid between the two of them.
So, if you’ve been waiting for a sign to sit down and interview your loved ones, it’s here. We’ve even got a few starter questions ready for you:
What is your favorite book?
How would you describe yourself?
What was the best gift you ever received?
What was the best gift you’ve ever given someone else?
Describe a perfect day. Where would you go, who would be there,what would you do?
What is the best quality in a friend?
What is important to you right now? (or who is important to you right now)
What do you think you are good at?
What is one of your favorite memories of us together?
How do you think we are alike? How are we different?
Is there a question you want to ask me?
What do you wish I understood? (And maybe…what do you wish I understood better about you?)
If you had a crystal ball that could tell you anything about your future, what would you want to
know?
Thanks as always for listening. Good luck with the final 500 days of May :)
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