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Erin Gray (00:00):
In today's episode,
I'm introducing to you a
practice that changed everythingfor me and that I recommend
with all of my clients, and thatis money dates.
I'm going to show you how tocreate a ritual that supports
both your business and yourpersonal finances, that helps
you build trust with yourselfand with your money, and creates
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a space for clarity, forgratitude and for circulation.
Do you want to create a systemto stop avoiding your money?
Maybe you're feeling guilt andshame when it comes to your
finances.
Welcome to your Money, yourRules.
I'm Erin, a former certifiedfinancial planner and CFO, and
yet I used to avoid my money andhad fear, no matter how much we
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had.
I can't wait to teach you how Iovercame my money avoidance and
started consistently managingmy finances in a really simple
way.
It's time to get comfortablewith money.
Is your gut telling you it'stime to do money differently?
If you're craving clarity and aplan that actually feels right
for you, this is your invitationto schedule a one-on-one master
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your money coaching sessionwith me.
We will co-create a system thatfeels aligned, that is
empowering to you and built foryour unique energy.
If this feels like a full body,yes, you can head over to my
website, generatealifeallivecom,and schedule your call.
Let's make money feelsatisfying again, okay.
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So let's talk about money dates.
This is something that Iprobably well, let's.
Actually, there's two sides tothis.
It's something that I probablyavoid for a really long time.
Then I did it from a place oflike have to and like not
enoughness, and then now I'm atthe place where it's so fun and
I look forward to doing this.
So a money date is just aweekly ritual where you sit down
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and intentionally connect withyour money without shame,
without the hustle, withoutgoing through the motions,
without the dread.
It's not about gettingeverything perfect, you know, in
the beginning.
It's really about creatingsafety, security, clarity and
choice around your financiallife, right?
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So I was talking to a clientlast week and I was saying, you
know, introducing money dates toher.
And she's like, well, what do Ido?
And I'm like, okay, well, thinkabout if you were to go on a
date with you know someone thatyou were interested in, what
would you do?
And she's like, well, what do Ido?
And I'm like, okay, well, thinkabout if you were to go on a
date with you know someone thatyou were interested in, what
would you do?
And she's like, well, I wouldget dressed up and I would look
forward to it and I would have agood time.
And I was like, yes, that'sexactly what we're gonna do with
our money.
Now, maybe in the beginning foryou you may be like love, money,
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money loves us.
For some people that's too farof a jump of your nervous system
.
But like, what is it?
Maybe it is, you know, just a.
Maybe it's not a date initially, maybe it's just, you know, a
time where you get to sit and bewith your money, right, and you
can look at this of two ways.
You can either have twoseparate times or dates, you
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know, or you can combine the two, where you look at your
business and your personal money.
But it is coming from a placeof care and attention and love
ultimately.
But if you can't get to love,it's coming from a place of
neutrality and curiosity.
So the first step is what do youwant it to look like?
Like setting the space.
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So maybe it's lighting a candle, maybe it is putting on some
music, like I talk about, youknow, piano guys, and I love to
play piano guys because it feelsso soft and nurturing and
nourishing to my nervous system.
Maybe you get your favoritedrink or your.
You know I love iced tea.
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Maybe you drink hot tea.
Maybe you grab a latte.
Maybe you, you know do yourcoffee, your seltzer water,
whatever it is Like?
How do you want to set thescene and the space for you to
interact with your money andreally starting to dive into
your body of like?
How do I want to feel duringthis interaction with my money?
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So maybe in the beginning,you're doing some breaths and
you're noticing what yourbreathing is like, or you're
even maybe noticing theresistance that you're feeling
like.
Celebrate that.
Just recognize that this isabout you learning how to
reconnect your self with yourmoney and your relationship, and
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so we don't need to rush thisright.
For many women, we can only goas fast as what we feel safe to
do.
So right.
So think about what is reallynourishing to your nervous
system and what feels good foryou to support yourself to sit
down and do this exercise.
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Okay, so I'm going to break thisdown into the business side and
then also the personal side.
So, from a business check-inplace, looking at your revenue
what income came in?
Are you celebrating it Likeevery single bit, no matter
where you are in your businessjourney, if it's your first
dollar or first couple ofhundred dollars or it's, you
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know, thousands or hundreds ofthousands, millions, right what
came in and celebrating it,naming it, blessing it, like
thanking the clients thattrusted you and love to give you
their money in exchange forwhat you're providing for them.
Looking at your cashflow what'sworking, maybe, what's not
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working, what might needadjusting and then looking at
your expenses, or what I callreceipts of appreciation, you
know, are you resourcing yourbusiness intentionally?
So I had this conversation witha client last week.
You know I I was asking her I'dlooked at her P and L for the
last three months and I saidthere were a couple of things
that were the bookkeeper had notallocated properly, and so we
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were reviewing some things andshe was like, oh, wow, I didn't
recognize that I was stillpaying for that, and so it's
just an opportunity to sit downand be with your money and to
look at it and like, what arethe new subscriptions that are
coming due, what you know newthings in your business do you
want to invest in and are theystill in alignment?
Sometimes the answer is yes andsometimes it's not, and that's
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okay.
It's just taking a look andseeing where you are obviously
paying yourself first.
You know, if you're justgetting started, just starting
with something so that you getin the habit, and obviously if
it's something that is, you knowthat you this is your primary
source of income of making surethat you have a tax account
allocated, that you are puttingaside money for taxes depending
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on how you are taxed for federaland for self-employment tax and
just building up that habit ofpaying yourself first.
Now you can look at I alwayssuggest tithing because I think
it is such a beautiful way toshow the universe or God that we
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are an abundant right.
Like giving to some people.
If you go to church, thenyou're tithing there.
But if you are don't go tochurch like I do, I do not go to
church.
But like tithing to the peoplethat have given you spiritual
food, giving back and and um,circulating your money right.
So is there somewhere orsomeone that you want to support
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?
And I really think, getting inthe habit of doing this?
Um, because I know that a lotof us think, oh, when we make X,
y, z, we're going to give, butthat starts right now, today, no
matter what income amount youare generating.
So, from a personal check-in,looking at your total income,
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like I count my husband's incomeand I count my business income
and I count our investmentincome, and I just look at all
of our income and, like I said,in the business, one right,
blessing it, showing gratitude,celebrating how it's increasing,
just being in that space ofhaving.
And then I take a look at ourspending, like where did our
money go this week?
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Is it in alignment with ourvalues?
Do we enjoy, did we enjoy itLike actually being in the
celebration of spending ourmoney?
Taking a look at, I mean, thecelebration of spending our
money.
Taking a look at I mean I dothis more so from a before I
take out my credit card.
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But if you aren't at that placeyet, where you are in an
awareness, taking an emotionalinventory after the fact cause
that is how awareness starts iswere you spending from an
aligned place?
Were you spending fromavoidance or trying to feel
better?
You know, sometimes some womenwill say, you know, I went
shopping because I was feelingso like really getting into your
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body and asking yourself, likeall of these choices that I made
, would I make them again?
Or was I making it from areactionary place or from a very
intentional place?
Taking a look at your goals,you know, and are your money
moves matching what your desiresare?
And I always look at all ofthis right.
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How are we circulating ourmoney?
So, looking at when you sitdown, who is the woman who feels
so calm and so peaceful withher money and feels so grateful
for the amount of money that shehas and how it's growing and
how she's circulating it?
So what you can also do is takesome time to journal and embody
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this, integrate.
This is like what are thepatterns that you are noticing,
like you can take some time tolook at.
Okay, when I saw that moneydate on my calendar, how did I
feel in my body?
Was I excited?
Was I looking forward to it orwas I feeling like, oh, I have
to do this right?
Taking a look at what are yougrateful for, really getting
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intentional, not just like checkoff the box and if you are
listening to this obviouslybecause you are, but you know
when you are listening to thisand you are thinking about, well
, aaron said I should do this.
That's not the place that Iwant you to come from.
I want you to come from and getto the place of why do I want
to take care of my money, why doI want to sit down with my
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money?
And you formulate your reasonswhy you would want to do this.
So asking yourself and gettingreally clear on like, what am I
so grateful for?
And then what, moving forward,what small step would feel
supportive to me and my nervoussystem next week?
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So simple and easy, you know,taking it a look at is, first
and foremost, of like gettingprepped from a nervous system
regulation and also a 3dperspective of like where do I
want to sit down and set thespace to be with my money?
And then looking at it from abusiness check-in place and then
also a personal check-in.
And then also, you know, havingconversations with your spouse.
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Does your, does your spouse dothe personal and you do your
business, or what does that looklike?
And having conversations.
If you want, that's a bonus Ifyou want to have a conversation
with your spouse and thenembodying this right, bringing
this into your body so that youare a person that feels calm and
feels peaceful and feelssufficient and abundant with
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your money.
So if you're tired of pushingthrough the financial stress
that you might be feeling andyou are craving a clear, aligned
plan.
I want you to know that this isyour opportunity to respond to
something that feels good inyour body.
In our master your moneycoaching session, we're going to
simplify your finances andalign your strategy with your
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energy and create real momentumtoward what lights you up.
To schedule this call, you canhead over to my website,
generatealifewelllivecom andbook your session today.
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