July 20, 2024 • 29 mins
What distinguishes can-doers from can-notters? Join me, Dr. Jason Wiggins, as I unpack the profound impact of character and resilience on our lives. You’ll learn how the power of character is a unifying force across generations—whether you're Gen Z or a Baby Boomer—and discover how personal experiences, like my own childhood struggles and the guidance of a supportive coach, can be transformed into opportunities for growth. I’ll share how the perception of negative experiences is key to overcoming adversity and achieving success, making this episode a must-listen for anyone looking to turn their challenges into stepping stones.
From the pain of being bullied to the triumph of building resilience, I’ll take you on a deeply personal journey of setting goals, creating actionable plans, and harnessing the "snowball effect" to achieve financial stability and personal growth. We’ll explore the critical importance of maintaining a positive mindset and a glass-half-full outlook as you push through life's challenges. To underscore my message, I'll share how my pursuit of a doctorate exemplifies the power of determination and strategic planning, and how these principles can inspire future generations. Tune in for insights that will empower you to elevate your own legacy and legacy of those around you.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello friends, welcome to your Motivational Gen
Z and Millennial Expert Podcast.
I am your host, my name is DrJason Wiggins and I am extremely
, extremely grateful to be heretoday.
It is an amazing day in SanDiego, where I reside, and it
(00:23):
was one of those things whereyou just feel compelled to do a
podcast about something thatyou're so passionate about.
Well, this podcast is for Gen Zand Millennials and, most
importantly, this is alsoutilized with baby boomers and
(00:47):
Generation Alpha, just to name afew.
Why?
Because we all hold one verysimple truth in common, and that
truth is we all have blood thatruns through our veins.
We all have the same colorblood that runs through our
veins.
We all have the same colorblood that runs through our
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brains.
The only thing that isdifferent about each and every
one of us, from generation togeneration alike, is the
character that is behind eachand every person, and that is
what today's podcast is about.
It is about the can-dos versusthe can-nots.
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We're going to talk aboutcan-doers and the can-notters.
That is correct.
The can-notters is not a word,it is a fictitiousitious made up
.
But what is not fictitious andwhat is not made up is the key
compelling difference betweenthe two.
It is about the ones that willarise to the occasion.
(01:58):
And then it's the other onesthat sit there and look at you
and say it's your fault, no,it's your fault.
No, as they point finger downthe line, it's your fault.
But what they don't do is lookin the mirror and point that
finger right back.
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Why?
Because it's much easier topoint the blame on someone else
for our own discretions, for ourown lack of effort, for our own
lack of achievement.
That is why, as Gen Z's,millennials, generation Alphas,
baby Boomers, generation X, allof these great generations have
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something in common, and that isthe commonality of character.
Character is what makes up eachand every single one of us.
How was that character built?
What were the dynamics thatwere developed over time within
our character?
Were the dynamics that weredeveloped over time within our
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character?
Who were the key inspirationalindividuals or lack thereof?
Inspiration of key individualswithin our life?
I can share with you that,through all of my personal
trials and tribulations, thereis not one person, one
individual, that has made anegative impact on my life.
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Why is that?
Because every single personthat stands in front of you,
that has a effect on you, thathas a pulse that has affected
you in one way or the anotherhas made a key impact on your
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life, on my life and on everysingle life around here.
Yes, there could be a negativeimpact of how somebody perceives
the message, but it's how youtake that message and either
make yourself stronger or makeyourself go down to your knees
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and wallow and cry in mediocrityand say it's your fault.
It's your fault, it's yourfault, but the reality is.
The reality is that, at the endof the day, the only one that
has a control of your life, mylife, their life, is the person
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that is in the body of the onethat is experiencing life.
That is the big difference.
And how do we take thatinformation that can be negative
and utilize it in a positiveway?
It goes back to the same simpleaspect of the morality and the
character of that individual.
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So meaning, when people haveprovided negative feedback, when
they have had negativetransgressions towards you, when
you have had things go wrong inyour life, when you have had to
overcome obstacles all of thesetype of effects affect each and
every one of our lives abouthow we can move forward, and
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what's interesting is thebiggest crisis that you might
perceive in your life at onetime is only a potential crisis
that never happened, meaningsometimes we worry about things
that we have no control of, thathave no effect on our life,
that don't even happen.
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That is why, going back to theopening today, we talk about the
can-dos and the can-nots andthe factors of character that
impact on if we can do it or not, and that's why I say everybody
has had an impact in your lifeand it's the perception of you
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me, how we let that impact us.
I was talking to a young ladythe other day and I mentioned I
said there is not one person inmy life that has ever made a
negative impact, that has everhad a negative experience with
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why?
Because every person that wehave that has an impact on us or
has communicated with us in anegative connotation or a
positive direction.
It's all about how we perceivethat message and take that
message and impact our own lifeby improving our overall
well-being.
I can tell you firsthand that Iwould not possibly be where I
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am today without all the impactsin my life.
Every single person I've evermet if it's girlfriend, friend,
enemy, whatever it may have beenmy wife, my child Hunter.
All of those things, all thoseimpacts in my life, all of my
family, my friends they have allimpacted me in a way that has
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made me who I am today.
The reason why that I get achance to talk to you on your
generation, your MotivationalGen Z and Millennial Expert
podcast, is because of thesegreat experiences that I've had,
starting with my parents, thegreat foundation they set for me
.
Yes, it was a struggle.
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Yes, we didn't have a lot offood, we didn't have a lot of
things to do.
We didn't have a lot of food,we didn't have a lot of things
to do, I didn't have a lot oftoys, but we survived.
We moved forward in the 70s andthe 80s and then I had the
opportunity to play for awonderful coach who had a great
impact on my life.
He believed that I could besomebody that could impact our
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team.
As a football player.
I was small, I was not veryfast, but guess what?
It was about the impact I couldmake on the field.
It was about the desire tonever quit.
It was about the desire to bethe best you can be.
Was I the best athlete?
The best you can be?
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Was I the best athlete?
Absolutely not.
But did I try as hard on everyplay as I could to be the very
best person I could be?
Yes, and how do you get to thatpoint?
A lot of it is internal, andthat's where the can and cannot
come.
It's about the internalmotivation.
It's about that drive.
It's about the ability toreally see I want to be better
than what I can be.
And what does that mean?
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It means, if you're not 150pounds but you want to play like
a 300 pound football player,well, physically can you do it?
No, but mentally, can you giveit your very best effort?
Absolutely, and that is why Iwould much rather have a team of
all can-doers that are willingto put maximum effort into being
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a great.
Have the ability to do as wellas they can on the field to
impact the game, and that'sabout impacting life.
Do as well as they can on thefield to impact the game, and
that's about impacting life.
And the impact of life is howcan I be the best individual?
Within my school?
By doing my schoolwork, withinmy work, within my college,
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within being a family person?
All of these things guess whatwe have complete and 100%
control of.
We have the ability.
Yes, sometimes we do havecircumstances that we have that
affect us, that there's nothingwe can do about it.
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And you know what it's about?
The perception, the mind framethat I understand this situation
is really bad, the mind framethat I understand this situation
is really bad, but I can eithermake this the best situation
possible or I can dwell on itand go.
What am I going to do?
This is my downfall.
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This is where I am weak.
Well, guess what?
The weak can survive if theyhave that strength to push them
up from the ground.
Push them up to look that fearin their eye, that weakness in
their eye, and go.
I can do this, I have theability.
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And if you're motivated bymovies, music videos,
inspirational speakers, your ownpast experiences, your ability
to take on more opportunities,well then do it.
Why?
Because that is the differencebetween can-dos and can-nots.
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There's a lot of inspirationalmovies out there.
You know I definitely like toreference sporting movies.
For Rudy, for example, it'sabout an undersized person that
has a lot of heart and ends upbeing a great not even a great
college football player Barelygetting on the field football
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player, but he played for NotreDame.
He was a walk-on for Notre Dame, got beat up every single
practice and he still got backup after every single play.
Remember, it's not about howhard you get knocked down.
It's about how many times youkeep getting up after you get
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knocked down, and that's whatlife offers.
It's about how many times youkeep getting up after you get
knocked down, and that's whatlife offers.
Life offers the ability toalways get back up and that is
why, no matter how hard you fall, it's about keep getting up,
keep moving forward, and that ishow the can-dos separate
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themselves from the can-nots.
Now I go back to the characterthat we are.
Well, guess what the characteris about?
What encompasses your mind,your body, your spirituality,
your ability to be scholarly?
All of these things will impactyou in your life, and having
key inspirational individuals inyour life definitely will help,
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but it's about making sure thatyou can focus on how to be
successful during the times thatare tough.
We're all going to countertimes where we want to just go
in a ball and sleep the wholeday and not worry about it, and
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you know what?
Sometimes that may be the bestthing to do.
Crisis is is always going tohappen.
There's always going to besituations where you may not be
able to get back up right away,but sometimes.
But the key is to get back upAll these inspirational movies
that I talk about Rudy, myAll-American.
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It's about a player who gaveeverything he could, day in and
day out, from the time he was achild to the time he played
college football and then theydiscovered a cancer tumor in his
bone.
Well, guess what?
He had to be positivethroughout all of these
transgressions and he gaveeverything he had.
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So there is a one day this isguaranteed One day we will leave
this earth, 100% guaranteed.
But when you leave this earth,did you leave it in a better
place?
Did you give everything youcould do to get where you wanted
to be?
Did you meet your goals?
Did you not get to your goalsbecause of circumstances?
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Did you not meet your goalsbecause you gave up?
Did you not meet your goalsbecause you were scared, because
you let all of these obstaclesget in front of you and not be
able to overcome them?
Well, guess what?
We all have the opportunity,the opportunity to be better, no
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matter where you live, nomatter where you're listening to
this podcast.
I'm really hoping that each andevery episode that you've
listened to, there's over 150.
I hope you've realized that Ican do something.
I can be better.
I can be.
I can make a major impact inpeople's lives and that is why
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I'm hoping if I touch just oneperson out there within the
podcast land that's listened tothis.
I grew up with nothing.
I grew up suffering.
I grew up as the smallest kid,and what did I say?
Well, you know what?
I can't be small.
Well, wait a minute, how canyou not be small?
Well, I remember going into myeighth grade year and I was the
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smallest kid in school.
I got picked on, I got beat up.
I had a smart mouth.
I was like what am I going todo different?
I cannot live my life beingfearful because of who I am, who
I want to be.
And even at that age, goinginto your eighth grade year, you
don't know what you want to be,what is going to symbolize how
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you turn out in life.
Well then I decided you knowwhat?
I'm going to go into my eighthgrade year, I'm going to start
working out, start liftingweights and make myself feel
better, look stronger and maybeI'm somebody that is not going
to be picked on anymore.
Well, guess what?
I went into my eighth gradeyear and I was, I was, I was, I
was the strongest person ineighth grade.
Why?
Because I worked out really,really hard in the weight room
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with, with, with high schoolersthat summer, and so I started
thinking about what can I dodifferent?
I have to overcome the bodythat I have.
But the only way I can overcomethe body that I have is by
demonstrating the character, thefight in me about being a can
do it, and that's why I sayanybody can do it.
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You hear that cliche.
Anybody can do it if you setyour mind to it.
Well, it's not cliche, it'strue.
Yes, there are obstacles.
Yes, there are things you haveto do to sometimes overcome that
.
You can be in financial crisisand go how am I going to
overcome this?
I've got credit cards.
I've got bills.
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Well, you know what?
How do you do it?
How do you eat an elephant?
Well, you eat an elephant, onebite at a time, and that's the
same thing that you do duringfinancial distress.
You pay one credit card off ata time, you snowball.
Everybody's heard of DavidRamsey.
Well, if you like him or not,it doesn't matter.
But the one thing he does sayit's about the snowball effect
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and that's basically, as you payoff one bill, you have more
money to pay off another andthen, all of a sudden,
eventually you paid off all yourcredit cards and now you're
being able to save, start thatrainy day fund and continue to
become more financially viable.
That is the same thing aboutbeing more mentally viable,
physically viable.
It's about taking those stepsand moving up and moving further
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, further, further.
It's always about taking onestep forward.
You look at sports teams.
They might have winning streaks, but then they take steps
backwards.
Why?
Because they take their footoff the gas.
Don't ever take your foot offthe gas.
If you take your foot off thegas, the only thing you're doing
is stopping progress.
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And again, that is thedifference between the can-dos
and the can-nots.
So, every generation if that'sGen Z, that's millennials,
generation Alpha, generation X,baby boomers even if you fall
towards the older, elderly,traditionalist well, guess what?
You can still make an impact,regardless of the age,
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regardless of where you standfinancially, physically,
mentally we could all make adifference.
And how do we do that?
We make a positive differenceby looking inside, taking that
positive nature, going back toall of those people that have
had an impact on our life andthink about how they impacted
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you, how you took that negativeand positive and made it into a
positive forward motion thatallows you to be successful.
Stop stop blaming anybody andeverybody else.
Let's go back, look in themirror and say I have control.
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I have control in my life.
There is nothing that I can'tdo, and I've always tried to
keep that mindset.
Yes, I will be very specificand very honest.
I am a glass half full type ofperson.
Why?
You either have a choice.
You can either be glass halffull and really go.
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You know what.
I can do this.
I can have a positive outlookor you can be a glass half empty
and go.
Oh, you know what.
This is going to be too tough.
This is going to be toochallenging.
I don't know if I can do this.
You know what?
Maybe I just need to take abreak.
Maybe I just need to dosomething else.
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No, you don't need to dosomething else.
No, you don't need to take abreak.
What you need to do is startsetting the guidelines, the
priorities, the aspects that youwant to achieve, and then, once
you put it on paper.
How are you going to make thoseachievements?
Those achievements do nothappen unless you write them
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down and they have a course ofaction.
And then, most importantly,between the can-dos and the
can-nots, the main difference istaking that information that
you wrote down, taking that gameplan and implementing into
action.
How do you do that?
Utilizing the resources thatyou have.
Well, if you don't have all theresources that you need to
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achieve your goal, then takeback that plan and go to achieve
your goal.
Then take back that plan and go.
Okay, this is how I'm going tocreate an avenue, a way to get
the resources that are neededfor me to get to my plan and
then overcome my plan.
I'll tell you from a personalperspective.
When I was working towards mydoctorate degree, when I was
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working towards my doctoratedegree, I wanted to quit.
So so, so many times, and Ijust kept on saying to myself if
I quit, I will regret this.
I did not surpass the goal thatI had in my life that I did not
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create an opportunity to havemy son be better by knowing that
his dad created a path ofsuccess and the ability for him
to also achieve more.
It's about setting a legacy andmoving forward.
But how do you do that?
You make an impact.
How do you make an impact?
You do it by looking atyourself and realizing I've got
to be better, I've got to create.
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Now let's keep in mind that allthe times I wanted to quit and
trust me, there were so many Ijust kept on saying you have to
persevere.
You are almost over the hump andthen, when you get over, you
get to the top of the hill.
You have to go down.
Well, when you're going down,you're riding that wave, you're
going that down.
So, when you're taking yoursteps, you're doing your
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research, you're doing yourdocumentation, your literature
review, all of these things thatit takes to have a successful
dissertation.
By adding new foundations, newresearch that has not existed,
you're adding scholarly aspectsto the academy.
You're doing all of thoseimportant things.
But it's about the journey,it's about getting there, it's
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about the results, and that'swhy I like to always say we can
do anything.
We can do anything if weimplement the plan of action.
So, as you're listening to thistoday and you're just maybe
shaking your head going, youknow what this guy's?
Just a bunch of baloney.
He speaks baloney.
Well, I can tell you I don'teven like baloney.
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You know what it may be baloney, but I can tell you, the only
thing I can share is myexperiences, and the only thing
that I can do to help others isby sharing my experiences,
sharing my desire to want tohelp others be better.
I enjoy teaching, I enjoy beinga leader, I enjoy setting the
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foundation of success for others.
I recently taken on adissertation individual that's
working towards his doctoraldegree and I took this
individual on because I want tosee him succeed.
But guess what?
He will only succeed if he putsin the work you have to put in
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the work to get where you wantto be, and that's very, very low
compensation.
So I'm not doing it for thecompensation.
It's about seeing somebodyreach their maximum potential
and that's what I believe.
Each and every person that islistening to this podcast has,
that ability.
That's why the character thatyou have, that you've created,
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this whole body of work that'sbeen created over time because
of all the people that have hadan impact in your life Friends,
family, foes, teachers,administrators, work colleagues,
work bosses, books, videos,podcasts, you name it.
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All of that is now what hasmade you who you are and what
can make you who you want tobecome?
Who do you want to become?
Ask yourself that right now.
Who do you want to come become?
If it's financially successful,is it spiritual success?
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Is it family success?
Is it career success?
Whatever that answer is, it'snot going to happen by luck.
Yes, there are some aspects inlife that are lucky.
You can also get struck bylightning.
You can win the lottery.
All of these can happen, butthe one thing that is almost
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guaranteed to happen ishappiness.
Happiness when you reach yourgoals.
And then, when you reach thosegoals, take what you've learned,
pass it on and help others,because when you leave this
earth, the only thing you haveis the impact that you can make
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on other people.
How can you make their lifebetter, how can you be an
important role model and make animpact?
Because once you're gone, thenit's about the makeup of the
individual, from all theexperiences where you might have
been a pivotal piece withinthat makeup.
But I would encourage each andevery one of you to be a
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positive, pivot, pivotal aspectof each individual.
So let's go back to, let's talkabout what was the focus of
today's podcast.
It was the difference betweenthe can's do's and the can not.
It was the difference betweenthe can's do's and the can not.
I hope that every single personlistening to this, if you are a
can doer, then keep movingforward.
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Keep moving forward when youget knocked down.
It's not about how hard you getknocked down, it's about how
many times you keep getting backup and moving forward.
Now, if you're a can not andyou're listening to this, then I
really, really inspire you towant to change, to want to take
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the step forward.
That step forward is about youmaking changes.
Changes are tough, changes arehard.
You could be changing thepeople within your inner circle.
You could be changing yourfinancial habits.
You could be changing yourcareer goals.
You could be changing all thoseimportant negative things that
are keeping you from reachingyour goal.
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I'm inspired to help.
I'm inspired to motivate.
I'm inspired to make.
I'm inspired to motivate.
I'm inspired to make adifference.
Why?
Because there's nothing elsethat's more important when we
leave this earth than the impactthat we made, why we were here.
So, again, I hope everybody hasbeen inspired.
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I hope everybody is going totake this information and say
I'm going to be better, I'mgoing to make these changes.
I'm going to do it.
Because?
Why?
Because I want to do it.
I want to be somebody that hasa successful life, that is happy
and that, right there is, thenumber one focus that you should
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have is being happy.
If you're not happy, thenwhat's going to get you to the
place where you can be happy?
If success is your happy point,then let's get there together.
If it's family, if it's friends, then make those amends to get
where you want to be.
It's not about financialsuccess.
It's about being happy.
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Some of the most miserablepeople in this world are those
that have so much financial gainbut they're not happy.
So, again, I want to thankeverybody for your listenership.
Listen to the 150 plus episodes, because a lot of them are
about making each and everyperson experience and about
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moving forward and beingsuccessful in life.
It's about learning, aboutbeing better as Gen Z and
millennials, but these alsoimpact all the other generations
Generation Alpha, Generation X,baby Boomers.
We all have blood red runningthrough our veins, so let's be
kind, let's be helpful and let'smove forward.
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So I want to thank everybodytoday.
Thank you for listenership.
I could I ask you to check outmy website, gen z and millennial
expertcom and you know, provideany feedback that you would
like and I'm happy to continuemaking podcasts to inspire and
cultivate your continued success.
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Again, my name is Dr JasonWiggins.
I am your motivational and GenZ and Millennial Expert.
Take care, talk to you soon andkeep moving forward.
Take care, talk to you soon andkeep moving forward.
Bye-bye.
Hello friends, welcome to your Motivational Gen
Z and Millennial Expert Podcast.
I am your host, my name is DrJason Wiggins and I am extremely
, extremely grateful to be heretoday.
It is an amazing day in SanDiego, where I reside, and it
(00:23):
was one of those things whereyou just feel compelled to do a
podcast about something thatyou're so passionate about.
Well, this podcast is for Gen Zand Millennials and, most
importantly, this is alsoutilized with baby boomers and
(00:47):
Generation Alpha, just to name afew.
Why?
Because we all hold one verysimple truth in common, and that
truth is we all have blood thatruns through our veins.
We all have the same colorblood that runs through our
veins.
We all have the same colorblood that runs through our
(01:09):
brains.
The only thing that isdifferent about each and every
one of us, from generation togeneration alike, is the
character that is behind eachand every person, and that is
what today's podcast is about.
It is about the can-dos versusthe can-nots.
(01:33):
We're going to talk aboutcan-doers and the can-notters.
That is correct.
The can-notters is not a word,it is a fictitiousitious made up
.
But what is not fictitious andwhat is not made up is the key
compelling difference betweenthe two.
It is about the ones that willarise to the occasion.
(01:58):
And then it's the other onesthat sit there and look at you
and say it's your fault, no,it's your fault.
No, as they point finger downthe line, it's your fault.
But what they don't do is lookin the mirror and point that
finger right back.
(02:18):
Why?
Because it's much easier topoint the blame on someone else
for our own discretions, for ourown lack of effort, for our own
lack of achievement.
That is why, as Gen Z's,millennials, generation Alphas,
baby Boomers, generation X, allof these great generations have
(02:45):
something in common, and that isthe commonality of character.
Character is what makes up eachand every single one of us.
How was that character built?
What were the dynamics thatwere developed over time within
our character?
Were the dynamics that weredeveloped over time within our
(03:07):
character?
Who were the key inspirationalindividuals or lack thereof?
Inspiration of key individualswithin our life?
I can share with you that,through all of my personal
trials and tribulations, thereis not one person, one
individual, that has made anegative impact on my life.
(03:34):
Why is that?
Because every single personthat stands in front of you,
that has a effect on you, thathas a pulse that has affected
you in one way or the anotherhas made a key impact on your
(03:54):
life, on my life and on everysingle life around here.
Yes, there could be a negativeimpact of how somebody perceives
the message, but it's how youtake that message and either
make yourself stronger or makeyourself go down to your knees
(04:14):
and wallow and cry in mediocrityand say it's your fault.
It's your fault, it's yourfault, but the reality is.
The reality is that, at the endof the day, the only one that
has a control of your life, mylife, their life, is the person
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that is in the body of the onethat is experiencing life.
That is the big difference.
And how do we take thatinformation that can be negative
and utilize it in a positiveway?
It goes back to the same simpleaspect of the morality and the
character of that individual.
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So meaning, when people haveprovided negative feedback, when
they have had negativetransgressions towards you, when
you have had things go wrong inyour life, when you have had to
overcome obstacles all of thesetype of effects affect each and
every one of our lives abouthow we can move forward, and
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what's interesting is thebiggest crisis that you might
perceive in your life at onetime is only a potential crisis
that never happened, meaningsometimes we worry about things
that we have no control of, thathave no effect on our life,
that don't even happen.
(05:50):
That is why, going back to theopening today, we talk about the
can-dos and the can-nots andthe factors of character that
impact on if we can do it or not, and that's why I say everybody
has had an impact in your lifeand it's the perception of you
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me, how we let that impact us.
I was talking to a young ladythe other day and I mentioned I
said there is not one person inmy life that has ever made a
negative impact, that has everhad a negative experience with
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why?
Because every person that wehave that has an impact on us or
has communicated with us in anegative connotation or a
positive direction.
It's all about how we perceivethat message and take that
message and impact our own lifeby improving our overall
well-being.
I can tell you firsthand that Iwould not possibly be where I
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am today without all the impactsin my life.
Every single person I've evermet if it's girlfriend, friend,
enemy, whatever it may have beenmy wife, my child Hunter.
All of those things, all thoseimpacts in my life, all of my
family, my friends they have allimpacted me in a way that has
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made me who I am today.
The reason why that I get achance to talk to you on your
generation, your MotivationalGen Z and Millennial Expert
podcast, is because of thesegreat experiences that I've had,
starting with my parents, thegreat foundation they set for me
.
Yes, it was a struggle.
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Yes, we didn't have a lot offood, we didn't have a lot of
things to do.
We didn't have a lot of food,we didn't have a lot of things
to do, I didn't have a lot oftoys, but we survived.
We moved forward in the 70s andthe 80s and then I had the
opportunity to play for awonderful coach who had a great
impact on my life.
He believed that I could besomebody that could impact our
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team.
As a football player.
I was small, I was not veryfast, but guess what?
It was about the impact I couldmake on the field.
It was about the desire tonever quit.
It was about the desire to bethe best you can be.
Was I the best athlete?
The best you can be?
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Was I the best athlete?
Absolutely not.
But did I try as hard on everyplay as I could to be the very
best person I could be?
Yes, and how do you get to thatpoint?
A lot of it is internal, andthat's where the can and cannot
come.
It's about the internalmotivation.
It's about that drive.
It's about the ability toreally see I want to be better
than what I can be.
And what does that mean?
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It means, if you're not 150pounds but you want to play like
a 300 pound football player,well, physically can you do it?
No, but mentally, can you giveit your very best effort?
Absolutely, and that is why Iwould much rather have a team of
all can-doers that are willingto put maximum effort into being
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a great.
Have the ability to do as wellas they can on the field to
impact the game, and that'sabout impacting life.
Do as well as they can on thefield to impact the game, and
that's about impacting life.
And the impact of life is howcan I be the best individual?
Within my school?
By doing my schoolwork, withinmy work, within my college,
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within being a family person?
All of these things guess whatwe have complete and 100%
control of.
We have the ability.
Yes, sometimes we do havecircumstances that we have that
affect us, that there's nothingwe can do about it.
(10:01):
And you know what it's about?
The perception, the mind framethat I understand this situation
is really bad, the mind framethat I understand this situation
is really bad, but I can eithermake this the best situation
possible or I can dwell on itand go.
What am I going to do?
This is my downfall.
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This is where I am weak.
Well, guess what?
The weak can survive if theyhave that strength to push them
up from the ground.
Push them up to look that fearin their eye, that weakness in
their eye, and go.
I can do this, I have theability.
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And if you're motivated bymovies, music videos,
inspirational speakers, your ownpast experiences, your ability
to take on more opportunities,well then do it.
Why?
Because that is the differencebetween can-dos and can-nots.
(11:02):
There's a lot of inspirationalmovies out there.
You know I definitely like toreference sporting movies.
For Rudy, for example, it'sabout an undersized person that
has a lot of heart and ends upbeing a great not even a great
college football player Barelygetting on the field football
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player, but he played for NotreDame.
He was a walk-on for Notre Dame, got beat up every single
practice and he still got backup after every single play.
Remember, it's not about howhard you get knocked down.
It's about how many times youkeep getting up after you get
(11:48):
knocked down, and that's whatlife offers.
It's about how many times youkeep getting up after you get
knocked down, and that's whatlife offers.
Life offers the ability toalways get back up and that is
why, no matter how hard you fall, it's about keep getting up,
keep moving forward, and that ishow the can-dos separate
(12:12):
themselves from the can-nots.
Now I go back to the characterthat we are.
Well, guess what the characteris about?
What encompasses your mind,your body, your spirituality,
your ability to be scholarly?
All of these things will impactyou in your life, and having
key inspirational individuals inyour life definitely will help,
(12:34):
but it's about making sure thatyou can focus on how to be
successful during the times thatare tough.
We're all going to countertimes where we want to just go
in a ball and sleep the wholeday and not worry about it, and
(12:56):
you know what?
Sometimes that may be the bestthing to do.
Crisis is is always going tohappen.
There's always going to besituations where you may not be
able to get back up right away,but sometimes.
But the key is to get back upAll these inspirational movies
that I talk about Rudy, myAll-American.
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It's about a player who gaveeverything he could, day in and
day out, from the time he was achild to the time he played
college football and then theydiscovered a cancer tumor in his
bone.
Well, guess what?
He had to be positivethroughout all of these
transgressions and he gaveeverything he had.
(13:40):
So there is a one day this isguaranteed One day we will leave
this earth, 100% guaranteed.
But when you leave this earth,did you leave it in a better
place?
Did you give everything youcould do to get where you wanted
to be?
Did you meet your goals?
Did you not get to your goalsbecause of circumstances?
(14:02):
Did you not meet your goalsbecause you gave up?
Did you not meet your goalsbecause you were scared, because
you let all of these obstaclesget in front of you and not be
able to overcome them?
Well, guess what?
We all have the opportunity,the opportunity to be better, no
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matter where you live, nomatter where you're listening to
this podcast.
I'm really hoping that each andevery episode that you've
listened to, there's over 150.
I hope you've realized that Ican do something.
I can be better.
I can be.
I can make a major impact inpeople's lives and that is why
(14:44):
I'm hoping if I touch just oneperson out there within the
podcast land that's listened tothis.
I grew up with nothing.
I grew up suffering.
I grew up as the smallest kid,and what did I say?
Well, you know what?
I can't be small.
Well, wait a minute, how canyou not be small?
Well, I remember going into myeighth grade year and I was the
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smallest kid in school.
I got picked on, I got beat up.
I had a smart mouth.
I was like what am I going todo different?
I cannot live my life beingfearful because of who I am, who
I want to be.
And even at that age, goinginto your eighth grade year, you
don't know what you want to be,what is going to symbolize how
(15:25):
you turn out in life.
Well then I decided you knowwhat?
I'm going to go into my eighthgrade year, I'm going to start
working out, start liftingweights and make myself feel
better, look stronger and maybeI'm somebody that is not going
to be picked on anymore.
Well, guess what?
I went into my eighth gradeyear and I was, I was, I was, I
was the strongest person ineighth grade.
Why?
Because I worked out really,really hard in the weight room
(15:48):
with, with, with high schoolersthat summer, and so I started
thinking about what can I dodifferent?
I have to overcome the bodythat I have.
But the only way I can overcomethe body that I have is by
demonstrating the character, thefight in me about being a can
do it, and that's why I sayanybody can do it.
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You hear that cliche.
Anybody can do it if you setyour mind to it.
Well, it's not cliche, it'strue.
Yes, there are obstacles.
Yes, there are things you haveto do to sometimes overcome that
.
You can be in financial crisisand go how am I going to
overcome this?
I've got credit cards.
I've got bills.
(16:30):
Well, you know what?
How do you do it?
How do you eat an elephant?
Well, you eat an elephant, onebite at a time, and that's the
same thing that you do duringfinancial distress.
You pay one credit card off ata time, you snowball.
Everybody's heard of DavidRamsey.
Well, if you like him or not,it doesn't matter.
But the one thing he does sayit's about the snowball effect
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and that's basically, as you payoff one bill, you have more
money to pay off another andthen, all of a sudden,
eventually you paid off all yourcredit cards and now you're
being able to save, start thatrainy day fund and continue to
become more financially viable.
That is the same thing aboutbeing more mentally viable,
physically viable.
It's about taking those stepsand moving up and moving further
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, further, further.
It's always about taking onestep forward.
You look at sports teams.
They might have winning streaks, but then they take steps
backwards.
Why?
Because they take their footoff the gas.
Don't ever take your foot offthe gas.
If you take your foot off thegas, the only thing you're doing
is stopping progress.
(17:35):
And again, that is thedifference between the can-dos
and the can-nots.
So, every generation if that'sGen Z, that's millennials,
generation Alpha, generation X,baby boomers even if you fall
towards the older, elderly,traditionalist well, guess what?
You can still make an impact,regardless of the age,
(17:56):
regardless of where you standfinancially, physically,
mentally we could all make adifference.
And how do we do that?
We make a positive differenceby looking inside, taking that
positive nature, going back toall of those people that have
had an impact on our life andthink about how they impacted
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you, how you took that negativeand positive and made it into a
positive forward motion thatallows you to be successful.
Stop stop blaming anybody andeverybody else.
Let's go back, look in themirror and say I have control.
(18:38):
I have control in my life.
There is nothing that I can'tdo, and I've always tried to
keep that mindset.
Yes, I will be very specificand very honest.
I am a glass half full type ofperson.
Why?
You either have a choice.
You can either be glass halffull and really go.
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You know what.
I can do this.
I can have a positive outlookor you can be a glass half empty
and go.
Oh, you know what.
This is going to be too tough.
This is going to be toochallenging.
I don't know if I can do this.
You know what?
Maybe I just need to take abreak.
Maybe I just need to dosomething else.
(19:24):
No, you don't need to dosomething else.
No, you don't need to take abreak.
What you need to do is startsetting the guidelines, the
priorities, the aspects that youwant to achieve, and then, once
you put it on paper.
How are you going to make thoseachievements?
Those achievements do nothappen unless you write them
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down and they have a course ofaction.
And then, most importantly,between the can-dos and the
can-nots, the main difference istaking that information that
you wrote down, taking that gameplan and implementing into
action.
How do you do that?
Utilizing the resources thatyou have.
Well, if you don't have all theresources that you need to
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achieve your goal, then takeback that plan and go to achieve
your goal.
Then take back that plan and go.
Okay, this is how I'm going tocreate an avenue, a way to get
the resources that are neededfor me to get to my plan and
then overcome my plan.
I'll tell you from a personalperspective.
When I was working towards mydoctorate degree, when I was
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working towards my doctoratedegree, I wanted to quit.
So so, so many times, and Ijust kept on saying to myself if
I quit, I will regret this.
I did not surpass the goal thatI had in my life that I did not
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create an opportunity to havemy son be better by knowing that
his dad created a path ofsuccess and the ability for him
to also achieve more.
It's about setting a legacy andmoving forward.
But how do you do that?
You make an impact.
How do you make an impact?
You do it by looking atyourself and realizing I've got
to be better, I've got to create.
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Now let's keep in mind that allthe times I wanted to quit and
trust me, there were so many Ijust kept on saying you have to
persevere.
You are almost over the hump andthen, when you get over, you
get to the top of the hill.
You have to go down.
Well, when you're going down,you're riding that wave, you're
going that down.
So, when you're taking yoursteps, you're doing your
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research, you're doing yourdocumentation, your literature
review, all of these things thatit takes to have a successful
dissertation.
By adding new foundations, newresearch that has not existed,
you're adding scholarly aspectsto the academy.
You're doing all of thoseimportant things.
But it's about the journey,it's about getting there, it's
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about the results, and that'swhy I like to always say we can
do anything.
We can do anything if weimplement the plan of action.
So, as you're listening to thistoday and you're just maybe
shaking your head going, youknow what this guy's?
Just a bunch of baloney.
He speaks baloney.
Well, I can tell you I don'teven like baloney.
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You know what it may be baloney, but I can tell you, the only
thing I can share is myexperiences, and the only thing
that I can do to help others isby sharing my experiences,
sharing my desire to want tohelp others be better.
I enjoy teaching, I enjoy beinga leader, I enjoy setting the
(22:55):
foundation of success for others.
I recently taken on adissertation individual that's
working towards his doctoraldegree and I took this
individual on because I want tosee him succeed.
But guess what?
He will only succeed if he putsin the work you have to put in
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the work to get where you wantto be, and that's very, very low
compensation.
So I'm not doing it for thecompensation.
It's about seeing somebodyreach their maximum potential
and that's what I believe.
Each and every person that islistening to this podcast has,
that ability.
That's why the character thatyou have, that you've created,
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this whole body of work that'sbeen created over time because
of all the people that have hadan impact in your life Friends,
family, foes, teachers,administrators, work colleagues,
work bosses, books, videos,podcasts, you name it.
(24:01):
All of that is now what hasmade you who you are and what
can make you who you want tobecome?
Who do you want to become?
Ask yourself that right now.
Who do you want to come become?
If it's financially successful,is it spiritual success?
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Is it family success?
Is it career success?
Whatever that answer is, it'snot going to happen by luck.
Yes, there are some aspects inlife that are lucky.
You can also get struck bylightning.
You can win the lottery.
All of these can happen, butthe one thing that is almost
(24:44):
guaranteed to happen ishappiness.
Happiness when you reach yourgoals.
And then, when you reach thosegoals, take what you've learned,
pass it on and help others,because when you leave this
earth, the only thing you haveis the impact that you can make
(25:05):
on other people.
How can you make their lifebetter, how can you be an
important role model and make animpact?
Because once you're gone, thenit's about the makeup of the
individual, from all theexperiences where you might have
been a pivotal piece withinthat makeup.
But I would encourage each andevery one of you to be a
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positive, pivot, pivotal aspectof each individual.
So let's go back to, let's talkabout what was the focus of
today's podcast.
It was the difference betweenthe can's do's and the can not.
It was the difference betweenthe can's do's and the can not.
I hope that every single personlistening to this, if you are a
can doer, then keep movingforward.
(25:51):
Keep moving forward when youget knocked down.
It's not about how hard you getknocked down, it's about how
many times you keep getting backup and moving forward.
Now, if you're a can not andyou're listening to this, then I
really, really inspire you towant to change, to want to take
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the step forward.
That step forward is about youmaking changes.
Changes are tough, changes arehard.
You could be changing thepeople within your inner circle.
You could be changing yourfinancial habits.
You could be changing yourcareer goals.
You could be changing all thoseimportant negative things that
are keeping you from reachingyour goal.
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I'm inspired to help.
I'm inspired to motivate.
I'm inspired to make.
I'm inspired to motivate.
I'm inspired to make adifference.
Why?
Because there's nothing elsethat's more important when we
leave this earth than the impactthat we made, why we were here.
So, again, I hope everybody hasbeen inspired.
(26:57):
I hope everybody is going totake this information and say
I'm going to be better, I'mgoing to make these changes.
I'm going to do it.
Because?
Why?
Because I want to do it.
I want to be somebody that hasa successful life, that is happy
and that, right there is, thenumber one focus that you should
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have is being happy.
If you're not happy, thenwhat's going to get you to the
place where you can be happy?
If success is your happy point,then let's get there together.
If it's family, if it's friends, then make those amends to get
where you want to be.
It's not about financialsuccess.
It's about being happy.
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Some of the most miserablepeople in this world are those
that have so much financial gainbut they're not happy.
So, again, I want to thankeverybody for your listenership.
Listen to the 150 plus episodes, because a lot of them are
about making each and everyperson experience and about
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moving forward and beingsuccessful in life.
It's about learning, aboutbeing better as Gen Z and
millennials, but these alsoimpact all the other generations
Generation Alpha, Generation X,baby Boomers.
We all have blood red runningthrough our veins, so let's be
kind, let's be helpful and let'smove forward.
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So I want to thank everybodytoday.
Thank you for listenership.
I could I ask you to check outmy website, gen z and millennial
expertcom and you know, provideany feedback that you would
like and I'm happy to continuemaking podcasts to inspire and
cultivate your continued success.
(28:51):
Again, my name is Dr JasonWiggins.
I am your motivational and GenZ and Millennial Expert.
Take care, talk to you soon andkeep moving forward.
Take care, talk to you soon andkeep moving forward.
Bye-bye.
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